July 9, 2025 • 16 mins
Online dating has completely transformed the way people meet, connect, and fall in love — but is it making relationships better or worse? In this episode, we explore whether dating apps like Tinder, Bumble, and Hinge are a powerful tool for finding love or a trap that’s eroding genuine human connection. From the rise of ghosting and hookup culture to algorithm-driven attraction and option overload, we examine how online dating is shaping modern romance. What we discuss:
- The pros and cons of swipe culture
- How dating apps affect self-esteem and expectations
- Why men and women often experience these platforms differently
- Whether meaningful relationships can still thrive in a digital-first world
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Speaker 1 (00:12):
Online dating? Do you see it as a blessing or
a curse? Meaning good or bad thing? Let me go,
let me, let me go down a couple pros and
cons of online dating again, chat you know, y'all, Let
me know what y'all think. We can discuss later because
I know you'll usually going to be wrong. What are
(00:33):
some blessings of online dating? Okay, I'm a busy person.
So if I have a full time job, I have children,
have a family that I'm raising, even if I don't
have kids. Okay, so you know, I have a full
time job and I don't frequent bars and stuff like that.
(00:56):
I don't go to clubs. Maybe a festival here and there,
activity around town, but like bars and clubs, no, So
where am I supposed to meet people? Gone are the
days of meeting someone in Walmart, meeting someone in Target,
talking to someone in Barnes and Nobles, just because everyone's
so dad going scary nowadays, whether that's right or wrong,
(01:19):
people are just scary. People don't have game to engage
people in conversation. Everyone is says they're looking for somebody,
but then when that person walks up to you because
they don't look like Ronaldo or you know, Brad Pitt,
You're not interested, Like, let me just tell you that
those people aren't coming to search you out, so you
(01:43):
have to bring it down just a little bit. I'm busy,
so I don't have time to go to these places.
People are scary. I can't you know, approach women anymore,
just because so now, what the applications allow me to
do is sit in the comfort of my own home
(02:03):
and look through profiles supposedly that people are real, people
have created. People are telling me that they're looking for
short term, long term casual fun. I can set the
parameters as close to my home as I want to,
you know, one hundred miles two hundred miles global if
(02:24):
I want to do that, and so I can. I
can sit in the comfort of my own home watching TV,
reading which doesn't happen, and I can swipe, I can
hit the X, I can hit the heart whatever it is.
You know, we got all of these applications out there nowadays,
since none of them sponsoring me, I'm not going to
(02:44):
I'm not going to speak on one specifically, but you
know I can I can choose who I want in
the privacy of my own home that is something that
you know, I'm not going to just randomly meet Susan.
I don't know if I'm going to me Susan randomly
in a store or pumping gas or something like that.
So I come across our profile and I'm able to
(03:06):
swipe it like, hey, you're pretty, You're interesting, I can
swipe hopefully we match you. We get to know each other, right,
we can converse before meeting in person. We can video
chat before meeting in person, and maybe that makes the
first meeting, the initial meeting, the first date that much better. Okay,
(03:28):
So it's convenience with it being a matter of convenience.
Like I said, I can set my parameters to how
far I want to go. So if I'm interested in
Italian women, Mexican women, Russian women, right, I can passport
mode and put my profile in those countries and I'll
(03:52):
you know, be seeing people in those areas. Now, I
definitely know that I wouldn't randomly run into, you know,
a check that lives in Russia on my daily activities.
I definitely wouldn't do that. So it gives me access
to women I would not meet before, or to even
(04:15):
kind of see who else is on the application. Who
else uses this type of media to meet people and
you never know. You never know you can match with
someone from there, get to know them, have a conversation,
everything flows naturally, and then you can coordinate to meet
at a later date or time, which if you didn't
have that ability to use the application, those types of
(04:38):
meetings wouldn't happen. Okay, So you have access. Those are
really good things you can learn about those other cultures
and dating in other countries. One of the things I
like about travel is that you get to go to
other countries and learn how they live, learn what's right,
what's accepted, what's different there. So I know, we like
(05:01):
to say in relationships, there's no good men, there's no
good women here because the way you think or they you,
the way you may want to handle your relationship. Maybe
it's a cultural thing. Maybe the person who is for
you lives in a different country because they have different
customs and courtesies and carry relationships a different ways. As
(05:24):
wild as that seems, it's not wild at all. I mean,
it happens. We like to believe because we're born in
a certain country that we inherently believe all of those
customs and courtesies of that country. We have a lot
of you know, we have a lot of I don't
(05:46):
want to use the word immigrants, but we have a
lot of people coming from different countries you know, years
ago that grew up here and vice versa. We have
a lot of expats that live in different countries. So
there has been a spread of culture from country to country.
It's just not Americans in America, Mexicans and Mexico, El
Salvadorians and El Salvador. We're all over the place now,
(06:10):
so naturally you're gonna get those mixes of cultures because
you know, we have black, white, we have Hispanic, all
of us are intertwining now. So yes, it's possible that
you may like the customs and courtesies the way they
do things of another country, and you would not be
(06:32):
able to do that if you weren't able to set
your applications in passport mode to meet people in different countries.
As well as learning you can teach. There may be
a woman in another country, Like I said, that is
searching for someone who believes what I believe. As far
(06:55):
as you know how men are supposed to be in
a relationship and how women are supposed to be in
a relationship, and so I could connect with her and
then show her that yes, you aren't weird. You aren't
you know, out of your mind. There's people that think
like you that they may not be in your immediate area.
(07:17):
So yeah, I mean, you can definitely teach others as
well as learn those new cultures, those new you know,
ways of being a relationship. What men are supposed to do,
what women are supposed to do, according to where you are.
And again, I think it can't be understated that you
can meet people from everywhere, from everywhere, any country. And
(07:48):
it's twenty four hours a day. So it's not like
the apps close down at one am, like the bar,
like the club does. Barnes and Noble closes at nine
you know. So I didn't get to meet anyone today
at the bookstore. It's twenty four hours a day, seven
days a week, and it is a continuous conversation. Again,
(08:10):
they have the means to video, regular phone calls to
get to know each other. So I think those are
really good things. I think that's a blessing. I think
those are blessings. Let's get to the curses. One of
the curses that exists with these applications, is there's more options.
(08:31):
There's more options. So when we talk about old school
love and people fighting through these relationships and fighting to
keep it going and compromising and not accepting the bs
of a relationship. If I'm if I'm from Tripod, Texas
and that's all I know is this small town, of course,
(08:54):
I'm gonna accept more because there's not even many more options.
Susan that I went to school with has been my
high school sweetheart. She's the only one that I've ever known,
and so there could be a little fear about going
and starting over. So I'm gonna, you know, kind of
stick with that a little bit more, gonna accept some
things and compromise more. When I have an application that
(09:18):
I can literally just log on and meet someone in Brazil,
why would I accept that? Like, why do I have
to do that? Why do I have to fight through anything?
So it being open to anybody, you can meet anyone anywhere.
That's both a gift and a curse because now people
can see that they have options. And I always say,
(09:41):
you know, men are visuals, so women like women on
the applications, y'all get a lot of likes y'all get
a lot of swipes, y'all get a lot of people
that you could potentially match with. And so if you
know there is no more accepting Kletus's you know, wondering
ways or him not showing you the attention that you want,
(10:02):
you can always go on the application, swipe with someone
Enrique in Costa Rica and have a conversation. Right, So
it's both a good a good thing and a bad
thing that we have access to all these people because
now you're not gonna fight, You're not gonna the average
person could possibly not fight the way that they normally
(10:25):
would if they didn't have any other option when your
back is against the wall. Right, we know that we
have an application. Now I can just download, I'm good
to go. Like you tripping up in here, you can
be you know, replaced immediately. What else, as far as
you know, now, there's a lot of fake profiles on there,
there's a lot of fakeness. There's a lot of robots,
(10:47):
a lot of bots. It's it's a what started out
as a as a application to like meet people and
to again see what's out there. Now it's become a
cash grab because, as they know, human beings are programmed
to want to be with one person, be in a relationship,
(11:08):
so they take advantage of that. Now you have to
pay for the applications. That's one of the things too.
You have to pay for these things, and you don't
know whether the person on the other side is real
or not. You know, until you know you've paid your
money and you've met a certain match. You may think
Enrique is awesome. I may think Susan from Nicaragua is great,
(11:34):
and then I started talking and it's a robot, it's
a fake person. So there's a lot of fakeness on there.
So you really don't know who's real and who's not.
And that's not to say that there's people in other countries.
It could be you know, people in your same city.
They're just fake profiles. So while you think that you
have access to a whole bunch of people, I mean,
(11:57):
sixty percent of them are fake. Sixty percent of them
are you know, put there and automated to like your
profile to get you to continue to stay on it,
to pay for it because you think that you're matching
with someone. So that's a curse, you know, that's a curse.
It being a lot of fakeness on there. One of
(12:22):
the other curses is is, like I just said, right,
if I think I'm supposed to be with someone like
Shakira or Jennifer Lopez, right, I'm trying to find you
know that dime women think they're supposed to be Ronaldo
or you know who else? Who else is a Brad
(12:44):
Pitt type guy. Right, they're looking for those single men
who are absolutely handsome on a yacht. I'm looking for
you know, the beautiful women in the bathing suits on
the beach. One are probably fake. In two, it's probably
out of your league. And i'ma be honest with you.
(13:06):
I'm gonna be honest with you. We have again, we
have access to people in different countries, people that look
a different way, act a different way. And again we
could be getting a bunch of matches that aren't really
leading to anything. But the fact that I believe these
(13:26):
people are real and they like me could feed my
ego a little bit more to where I start to
expect things that are out of my league, things that
are really feasible. One, because there's a level of I
(13:50):
want a relationship now on there, so people kind of
accept a lot of things they may not accept in person.
And again, these bots are liking your profile, getting you
roll riled up thinking that hey, I'm the man because
I got all these likes, when absolutely they're fake people.
(14:11):
That's a curse. Gives you a false sense of value
if you will so do I believe online dating is
a blessing or a curse. At the end of the day,
I believe it's a blessing, right, That is my That's
the way I feel about it. I think anytime that
(14:33):
you can get more options for anything, it's better creatures
you don't have to settle. The only problem is we
have to know when to kind of limit that because
we're always looking for, Ah, this, you know, this chick
is good, she's right there, but I think I can
find better When that might be the one for me,
(14:53):
but I'm going to overlook her because I keep looking
for a little bit more, a little bit more, a
little bit more. I'm looking to get close to that
as c to that hundred percent as I can get.
We all know that we can't get to one hundred percent,
but that doesn't stop us from trying, and so sometimes
we may overlook kind of what we need to have
(15:15):
versus what we want to have. I do think it's
a blessing. I think it's an It's opened up the
world to everybody to have those conversations about, hey, how
is a relationship supposed to be a run? You know,
what are what are your thoughts and what are your
your your your deal breakers? Oh you know I went
(15:40):
here in this country and you know this is how
they carried it. I like that. I can I can
adapt that into my life. So I think it's a
real blessing. I think anytime we get more knowledge and
more experience, that is a blessing. It's always going to
be a blessing in my book. We just have to
understand too much of anything is a bad thing, and
(16:03):
so that's what it becomes a curse. So for me,
is online dating a blessing or a curse? I see
it as a blessing. And yeah, the world is bigger
than Tripod Texas, So definitely don't be don't think that
you know just in your city. The person for you
has to live in your city and nowhere else. They
(16:24):
could be thousands of miles away and they're looking to
connect just like you're looking to connect. So that's my
you know, that's my thoughts on that. Thank y'all for
watching today's video on online dating being a blessing or
a curse and uh I will see y'all in the
next one.
Online dating? Do you see it as a blessing or
a curse? Meaning good or bad thing? Let me go,
let me, let me go down a couple pros and
cons of online dating again, chat you know, y'all, Let
me know what y'all think. We can discuss later because
I know you'll usually going to be wrong. What are
(00:33):
some blessings of online dating? Okay, I'm a busy person.
So if I have a full time job, I have children,
have a family that I'm raising, even if I don't
have kids. Okay, so you know, I have a full
time job and I don't frequent bars and stuff like that.
(00:56):
I don't go to clubs. Maybe a festival here and there,
activity around town, but like bars and clubs, no, So
where am I supposed to meet people? Gone are the
days of meeting someone in Walmart, meeting someone in Target,
talking to someone in Barnes and Nobles, just because everyone's
so dad going scary nowadays, whether that's right or wrong,
(01:19):
people are just scary. People don't have game to engage
people in conversation. Everyone is says they're looking for somebody,
but then when that person walks up to you because
they don't look like Ronaldo or you know, Brad Pitt,
You're not interested, Like, let me just tell you that
those people aren't coming to search you out, so you
(01:43):
have to bring it down just a little bit. I'm busy,
so I don't have time to go to these places.
People are scary. I can't you know, approach women anymore,
just because so now, what the applications allow me to
do is sit in the comfort of my own home
(02:03):
and look through profiles supposedly that people are real, people
have created. People are telling me that they're looking for
short term, long term casual fun. I can set the
parameters as close to my home as I want to,
you know, one hundred miles two hundred miles global if
(02:24):
I want to do that, and so I can. I
can sit in the comfort of my own home watching TV,
reading which doesn't happen, and I can swipe, I can
hit the X, I can hit the heart whatever it is.
You know, we got all of these applications out there nowadays,
since none of them sponsoring me, I'm not going to
(02:44):
I'm not going to speak on one specifically, but you
know I can I can choose who I want in
the privacy of my own home that is something that
you know, I'm not going to just randomly meet Susan.
I don't know if I'm going to me Susan randomly
in a store or pumping gas or something like that.
So I come across our profile and I'm able to
(03:06):
swipe it like, hey, you're pretty, You're interesting, I can
swipe hopefully we match you. We get to know each other, right,
we can converse before meeting in person. We can video
chat before meeting in person, and maybe that makes the
first meeting, the initial meeting, the first date that much better. Okay,
(03:28):
So it's convenience with it being a matter of convenience.
Like I said, I can set my parameters to how
far I want to go. So if I'm interested in
Italian women, Mexican women, Russian women, right, I can passport
mode and put my profile in those countries and I'll
(03:52):
you know, be seeing people in those areas. Now, I
definitely know that I wouldn't randomly run into, you know,
a check that lives in Russia on my daily activities.
I definitely wouldn't do that. So it gives me access
to women I would not meet before, or to even
(04:15):
kind of see who else is on the application. Who
else uses this type of media to meet people and
you never know. You never know you can match with
someone from there, get to know them, have a conversation,
everything flows naturally, and then you can coordinate to meet
at a later date or time, which if you didn't
have that ability to use the application, those types of
(04:38):
meetings wouldn't happen. Okay, So you have access. Those are
really good things you can learn about those other cultures
and dating in other countries. One of the things I
like about travel is that you get to go to
other countries and learn how they live, learn what's right,
what's accepted, what's different there. So I know, we like
(05:01):
to say in relationships, there's no good men, there's no
good women here because the way you think or they you,
the way you may want to handle your relationship. Maybe
it's a cultural thing. Maybe the person who is for
you lives in a different country because they have different
customs and courtesies and carry relationships a different ways. As
(05:24):
wild as that seems, it's not wild at all. I mean,
it happens. We like to believe because we're born in
a certain country that we inherently believe all of those
customs and courtesies of that country. We have a lot
of you know, we have a lot of I don't
(05:46):
want to use the word immigrants, but we have a
lot of people coming from different countries you know, years
ago that grew up here and vice versa. We have
a lot of expats that live in different countries. So
there has been a spread of culture from country to country.
It's just not Americans in America, Mexicans and Mexico, El
Salvadorians and El Salvador. We're all over the place now,
(06:10):
so naturally you're gonna get those mixes of cultures because
you know, we have black, white, we have Hispanic, all
of us are intertwining now. So yes, it's possible that
you may like the customs and courtesies the way they
do things of another country, and you would not be
(06:32):
able to do that if you weren't able to set
your applications in passport mode to meet people in different countries.
As well as learning you can teach. There may be
a woman in another country, Like I said, that is
searching for someone who believes what I believe. As far
(06:55):
as you know how men are supposed to be in
a relationship and how women are supposed to be in
a relationship, and so I could connect with her and
then show her that yes, you aren't weird. You aren't
you know, out of your mind. There's people that think
like you that they may not be in your immediate area.
(07:17):
So yeah, I mean, you can definitely teach others as
well as learn those new cultures, those new you know,
ways of being a relationship. What men are supposed to do,
what women are supposed to do, according to where you are.
And again, I think it can't be understated that you
can meet people from everywhere, from everywhere, any country. And
(07:48):
it's twenty four hours a day. So it's not like
the apps close down at one am, like the bar,
like the club does. Barnes and Noble closes at nine
you know. So I didn't get to meet anyone today
at the bookstore. It's twenty four hours a day, seven
days a week, and it is a continuous conversation. Again,
(08:10):
they have the means to video, regular phone calls to
get to know each other. So I think those are
really good things. I think that's a blessing. I think
those are blessings. Let's get to the curses. One of
the curses that exists with these applications, is there's more options.
(08:31):
There's more options. So when we talk about old school
love and people fighting through these relationships and fighting to
keep it going and compromising and not accepting the bs
of a relationship. If I'm if I'm from Tripod, Texas
and that's all I know is this small town, of course,
(08:54):
I'm gonna accept more because there's not even many more options.
Susan that I went to school with has been my
high school sweetheart. She's the only one that I've ever known,
and so there could be a little fear about going
and starting over. So I'm gonna, you know, kind of
stick with that a little bit more, gonna accept some
things and compromise more. When I have an application that
(09:18):
I can literally just log on and meet someone in Brazil,
why would I accept that? Like, why do I have
to do that? Why do I have to fight through anything?
So it being open to anybody, you can meet anyone anywhere.
That's both a gift and a curse because now people
can see that they have options. And I always say,
(09:41):
you know, men are visuals, so women like women on
the applications, y'all get a lot of likes y'all get
a lot of swipes, y'all get a lot of people
that you could potentially match with. And so if you
know there is no more accepting Kletus's you know, wondering
ways or him not showing you the attention that you want,
(10:02):
you can always go on the application, swipe with someone
Enrique in Costa Rica and have a conversation. Right, So
it's both a good a good thing and a bad
thing that we have access to all these people because
now you're not gonna fight, You're not gonna the average
person could possibly not fight the way that they normally
(10:25):
would if they didn't have any other option when your
back is against the wall. Right, we know that we
have an application. Now I can just download, I'm good
to go. Like you tripping up in here, you can
be you know, replaced immediately. What else, as far as
you know, now, there's a lot of fake profiles on there,
there's a lot of fakeness. There's a lot of robots,
(10:47):
a lot of bots. It's it's a what started out
as a as a application to like meet people and
to again see what's out there. Now it's become a
cash grab because, as they know, human beings are programmed
to want to be with one person, be in a relationship,
(11:08):
so they take advantage of that. Now you have to
pay for the applications. That's one of the things too.
You have to pay for these things, and you don't
know whether the person on the other side is real
or not. You know, until you know you've paid your
money and you've met a certain match. You may think
Enrique is awesome. I may think Susan from Nicaragua is great,
(11:34):
and then I started talking and it's a robot, it's
a fake person. So there's a lot of fakeness on there.
So you really don't know who's real and who's not.
And that's not to say that there's people in other countries.
It could be you know, people in your same city.
They're just fake profiles. So while you think that you
have access to a whole bunch of people, I mean,
(11:57):
sixty percent of them are fake. Sixty percent of them
are you know, put there and automated to like your
profile to get you to continue to stay on it,
to pay for it because you think that you're matching
with someone. So that's a curse, you know, that's a curse.
It being a lot of fakeness on there. One of
(12:22):
the other curses is is, like I just said, right,
if I think I'm supposed to be with someone like
Shakira or Jennifer Lopez, right, I'm trying to find you
know that dime women think they're supposed to be Ronaldo
or you know who else? Who else is a Brad
(12:44):
Pitt type guy. Right, they're looking for those single men
who are absolutely handsome on a yacht. I'm looking for
you know, the beautiful women in the bathing suits on
the beach. One are probably fake. In two, it's probably
out of your league. And i'ma be honest with you.
(13:06):
I'm gonna be honest with you. We have again, we
have access to people in different countries, people that look
a different way, act a different way. And again we
could be getting a bunch of matches that aren't really
leading to anything. But the fact that I believe these
(13:26):
people are real and they like me could feed my
ego a little bit more to where I start to
expect things that are out of my league, things that
are really feasible. One, because there's a level of I
(13:50):
want a relationship now on there, so people kind of
accept a lot of things they may not accept in person.
And again, these bots are liking your profile, getting you
roll riled up thinking that hey, I'm the man because
I got all these likes, when absolutely they're fake people.
(14:11):
That's a curse. Gives you a false sense of value
if you will so do I believe online dating is
a blessing or a curse. At the end of the day,
I believe it's a blessing, right, That is my That's
the way I feel about it. I think anytime that
(14:33):
you can get more options for anything, it's better creatures
you don't have to settle. The only problem is we
have to know when to kind of limit that because
we're always looking for, Ah, this, you know, this chick
is good, she's right there, but I think I can
find better When that might be the one for me,
(14:53):
but I'm going to overlook her because I keep looking
for a little bit more, a little bit more, a
little bit more. I'm looking to get close to that
as c to that hundred percent as I can get.
We all know that we can't get to one hundred percent,
but that doesn't stop us from trying, and so sometimes
we may overlook kind of what we need to have
(15:15):
versus what we want to have. I do think it's
a blessing. I think it's an It's opened up the
world to everybody to have those conversations about, hey, how
is a relationship supposed to be a run? You know,
what are what are your thoughts and what are your
your your your deal breakers? Oh you know I went
(15:40):
here in this country and you know this is how
they carried it. I like that. I can I can
adapt that into my life. So I think it's a
real blessing. I think anytime we get more knowledge and
more experience, that is a blessing. It's always going to
be a blessing in my book. We just have to
understand too much of anything is a bad thing, and
(16:03):
so that's what it becomes a curse. So for me,
is online dating a blessing or a curse? I see
it as a blessing. And yeah, the world is bigger
than Tripod Texas, So definitely don't be don't think that
you know just in your city. The person for you
has to live in your city and nowhere else. They
(16:24):
could be thousands of miles away and they're looking to
connect just like you're looking to connect. So that's my
you know, that's my thoughts on that. Thank y'all for
watching today's video on online dating being a blessing or
a curse and uh I will see y'all in the
next one.
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Does hearing about a true crime case always leave you scouring the internet for the truth behind the story? Dive into your next mystery with Crime Junkie. Every Monday, join your host Ashley Flowers as she unravels all the details of infamous and underreported true crime cases with her best friend Brit Prawat. From cold cases to missing persons and heroes in our community who seek justice, Crime Junkie is your destination for theories and stories you won’t hear anywhere else. Whether you're a seasoned true crime enthusiast or new to the genre, you'll find yourself on the edge of your seat awaiting a new episode every Monday. If you can never get enough true crime... Congratulations, you’ve found your people. Follow to join a community of Crime Junkies! Crime Junkie is presented by audiochuck Media Company.
NFL Daily with Gregg Rosenthal
Gregg Rosenthal and a rotating crew of elite NFL Media co-hosts, including Patrick Claybon, Colleen Wolfe, Steve Wyche, Nick Shook and Jourdan Rodrigue of The Athletic get you caught up daily on all the NFL news and analysis you need to be smarter and funnier than your friends.