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September 22, 2025 32 mins
What is rough kink or BDSM pain play? What makes that different from other kinds of rough sex?  Why does a Femdom enjoy delivering pain? This episode explores pleasure and pain to answer listener questions about BDSM.

Topics include:

What is rough kink in the framework of BDSM pain play?
How rough does it need to be to be considered BDSM?
Who gets to define it?
What are some of the items used in rough kink?
Does someone need a spanking or CBT to be considered pain play?

How do you know you’re ready to explore rough kink?

How do you communicate with your partner?
The role of BDSM negotiation in safe scenes.
What is a safe word and how does it apply in BDSM?
How does a Mistress gauge when to push your boundaries?
What sorts of questions should a Dominatrix ask you before pain play?

BDSM terms:

SSC: safe, sane and consensual
RACK: risk-aware consensual kink
PRICK:  personal responsibility, informed, consensual kink or personally responsible in consensual kink.
AndThe 4 C’s:  caring, communication consent and caution.

The importance of aftercare for the submissive and the Mistress.


Personal stories, behind the scenes of Distance Domination, and more. You never know what you’ll hear and we appreciate you enjoying the podcast!


Mistress Olivia’s blog: Experienced Mistress


Mistress Erika’s blog: Intelligent Phone Fantasy


DISCORD:  LDWOlivia and LDWErika
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