Let's Talk About It Tuesday (Recorded LIVE on 8-26-25)

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Speaker 1 (00:07):
S s.

Speaker 2 (01:00):
Mmh, Hey, what's up?

Speaker 3 (01:53):
Everybody?

Speaker 4 (01:54):
Just be cold young with this merry podcast and this
is my cold the Lovely Lady G. I dook thought
on how you doing?

Speaker 1 (02:06):
What's up everybody?

Speaker 4 (02:09):
How's everybody doing tonight? I hope everybody is having a
wonderful evening. And thanks suspending it with us. What happened?
So what's so funny?

Speaker 1 (02:24):
No, I said, ain't nobody going, Oh yeah, nobody?

Speaker 4 (02:28):
Well we have we have a chat room if y'all
want to hop into the chat room and say what
you want to say, discuss what you want to discuss.
We have a lot of a lot of shit to
talk about tonight. First and foremost, I want to ask
I looked thought on how she been, how you doing?
How's everything going good?

Speaker 1 (02:51):
Just got back back from you know, a little break,
worked a little bit, but I'm back back in to
the swing of things.

Speaker 4 (03:04):
All right, Yeah, man, how you doing? How you doing?

Speaker 3 (03:12):
Man?

Speaker 4 (03:13):
Everything's good? Hope everything is good? So so yeah, I mean,
as far as I'm concerned, and everything's cool, everything's things
all right, you know what I'm saying. Live, We're alive,
you know what I mean. So that's that's that's something.

Speaker 1 (03:34):
Yeah, it's always something to be happy about.

Speaker 4 (03:36):
Yeah, always, definitely. So we have a couple of topics
at hand that we're going to talk about discuss tonight.
We also want to throw it to the chat room
as well. If there's something you guys want to hear
us discuss something you have and you know something you
want to talk about, throw it right at us. You

(03:58):
know what I'm saying. We'll be more than have be
to you know, discuss whatever it is the fans want
to hear you know what I'm saying. So first of all,
we're going to start off with a situation. One of
the fans the show wrote in and asked a question
and he wants, I guess some kind of advice or

(04:23):
something on his situation. So he has his situation. He
owes back child support, right, he owes back child support,
and he owes a substantial amount of money. Now, the

(04:44):
problem is that he has two kids. The one kid
he doesn't pay child support for anymore because he's he's
out of school and you know, he's over eight, he's
like twenty seven or whatever. But now his other child,

(05:05):
the problem is that legally, if the child graduates high
school and doesn't continue schooling. I'm assuming the child support
should stop.

Speaker 1 (05:20):
Right In the state of New Jersey, kids get child
support until the age of till their nineteenth birthday.

Speaker 4 (05:31):
Nineteen h so it's nine eighteen, it's nineteen.

Speaker 1 (05:33):
Unless they go to it's nineteen their nineteenth birthday. Because
so when they hit their nineteenth birthday, that's in the
state of New Jersey, that's when childhood stopped, or child
support stops. If they decide to go to a trade school,
any kind of secondary education, as long as they're taking

(05:55):
twelve credits or going full time, support can contain you
until the age of twenty three.

Speaker 4 (06:04):
Okay, So his situation is like this, His kid graduated
high school, didn't go back, didn't go back to school
at all, child support was still being deducted, and then
what ended up happening was, he says the child the

(06:28):
kid moved to Florida with fiance, boyfriend or something and
now lives in Florida, but the child support is still
being deducted where the mom lives in some other states
somewhere else.

Speaker 1 (06:45):
So right, so, basically New Jersey contacted the mother asked
if you know informing her that child support would stop
at nineteen unless she requested an extension and could prove
that the child was attending some kind of secondary education.

(07:12):
So before it cuts off, about six months before, everyone
receives a notification and a request to submit if they
would like to ask for an extension. So somebody asked
for an extension, and that's why it's still collecting, because
nobody has filed to have it terminated.

Speaker 4 (07:32):
Oh so you have to file get terminated. This does
automatically stop.

Speaker 1 (07:36):
No, it should, but she may have filled out the
application to have it continue. But it was his responsibility
as the person paying. It was his responsibility to file
to make sure that the childhood that child support was terminated. Mhm,

(08:04):
I see something in the chat going on right there.
Oh yeah, and he has to pay. He has to pay,
thanks Melissa. He has to pay his arrears. So that's
probably also why it's still coming out. So the child support,
the active child support may have finished, but he still
owes all those years of arrears. That doesn't stop collecting

(08:27):
just because.

Speaker 4 (08:29):
Yeah that that that I that I know. As long
as he as long as he continues to owe whatever it.

Speaker 1 (08:36):
Is he owes, that case is going to stay open.

Speaker 4 (08:38):
It's going to stay open. Yeah. Yeah, that's that's that's
that's wild. It's it's it's just that what he's what
he's trying to say is why why is it Why
is it still adding on to what he owes if
the child is not in school or doesn't even live
where the mother lives, and she's out of state, and

(09:00):
why is it still Well, it.

Speaker 1 (09:02):
Doesn't matter if she's out of state or not. What
he owes he owes no matter where she goes. And
I'm not so sure that it is, uh still collecting.
It could just be the arrears. Uh. Some states actually
tackle on interest really Yeah, Like New York they tack

(09:24):
on interest. Uh wow, Maryland they tack on interest.

Speaker 3 (09:32):
Oh shit really yeah wow.

Speaker 4 (09:38):
So so if you if you owe, if if the
child support has stopped and you owe and you haven't,
if you have yet to pay the arrears, money gets
tacked on in New York and Maryland.

Speaker 1 (09:52):
Yeah, it's if it's there, if it's their orders. Yeah,
as long as you owe money, there's going to be
interest charged.

Speaker 4 (10:01):
Oh I didn't know that.

Speaker 1 (10:04):
Yeah, because see, every state is every state has its
own governing laws. Even internationally, every country has its own
governing laws like, for instance, in the state of Pennsylvania,
the age of majority is eighteen. It stops at eighteen

(10:26):
unless the child is in high school. State of New
Jersey is nineteenth birthday or if they continue to go
on to school up to twenty three. Other states stop
at eighteen, and other states, you know, continue on and
if the child is disabled they can get it for lifetime.

Speaker 3 (10:49):
Really, yeah, you.

Speaker 4 (10:51):
Are dropping some knowledge just how to do that? Not
loud enough, but all right, Yeah, I didn't I didn't
know that. I had no no clue that that's how.
That's how. And I thought I thought it was eighteen.
I didn't know in the state this state it was nineteen.

Speaker 1 (11:11):
So even it hasn't been that way for a very
long time, there used to be a point where New
Jersey didn't have a state of majority, a state of emancipation,
I mean age of emancipation, but they did. I don't
know how many years it's been, but yeah, it's stayed
nineteenth birthday.

Speaker 4 (11:32):
So to the dude that rode in and asked the question,
your answer, bro, And the crazy, the crazy part about
it is, so the state the state that let me
see if he has it in here, the state that

(11:55):
the the family moved to after leaving New Jersey was
actually Maryland. HM.

Speaker 1 (12:05):
Well, see, you also have to understand something. It doesn't
matter what state somebody moves to. What matters is the
state that the core order, the support order was created in.
So there's something called there's something called CEJ which is
the control the state with the controlling order. Right, So

(12:29):
even though they moved to five million states, right, it
doesn't matter. As long as they register that core order
in their state, it's still going to collect, but it
will always follow the state that created the order. It
will always follow their state rules. So no matter what state,

(12:51):
if it's a New Jersey order, if the order was
created in the state of New Jersey, New Jersey is
the one that controls the order. No other state can
modify or change that order unless they register it for modification.
But New Jersey will still always own that core order.

(13:12):
So they move to Maryland, that's fine, but it doesn't
matter what Maryland's law is because it's a New Jersey
core order, so that the age of emancipation will always
be nineteen and if they go to school, it will
be twenty three. Where somebody who lives in the state

(13:34):
of New Jersey. But their support order is from Pennsylvania.
It doesn't matter that they live in New Jersey. It
doesn't go by New Jersey law because it's a Pennsylvania order.
So once that child hits the age of eighteen or
finishes high school, it's going to automatically be terminate, even
in the state of New Jersey because it's not a

(13:55):
New Jersey order, it's Pennsylvania's order. And so some people try,
some people try to be slick uh, and they'll close
or they let the Pennsylvania order like execute, like finish,
and then and then they'll try to apply in New

(14:16):
Jersey so they can get those extra couple of years.
But it doesn't. But it doesn't work that way. The
judge will tell you no, because once an order for
a child is terminated, you can't get extra you know,
extra time on that mm hmm.

Speaker 4 (14:37):
Okay. Knowledge, yeah, love learning things.

Speaker 1 (14:44):
And I'll always be the one to teach you.

Speaker 5 (14:47):
Yeah, oh yeah.

Speaker 1 (14:58):
But even even further than that, even further than the laws,
the rules, the regulations is the whole idea of and
and it happens a lot the back and forth about
you know, some people feeling like it's not fair that.
And the funny thing is the law not the laws,
but the tides are changing. It's not as prevalent as

(15:20):
it used to be. Where back in the day when
people were still like stay at home moms most of
the time things like that, the men really didn't have
too much that they could work with. It was, you know,
the judges and the courts were really in mom's side,

(15:41):
right because she's the one doing all the raising and
things like that. But culture has shifted where more men
are taking care of the kids, having custody of their
kids and things like that, and judges really are trying
to create that joint custody. So men are not owing

(16:04):
as much as they used to. But the thing is,
whether it's a man a woman, it doesn't matter. Yes,
we still have a lot of work to do in
the system. However, it's improving. It's better than it used
to be. But the thing is, the point blank is

(16:27):
two people got together once upon a time, chose one another,
had a child or children. Right, that does not that
responsibility does not change just because you're not together anymore.
You don't stop being a parent just because your relationship

(16:53):
has ended. And what's happening is you know, men and women.
I know people don't be because it's a majority of
men because that's what they do. But it's women too.
There are women who owe thousands of dollars in arrears
in child support. The thing is, everybody's always saying, oh, well,

(17:21):
you know, she should let that go, or he should
let that go, or why do I have to pay
this much or that much? Because your child is still
your responsibility and not everyone in this world was brought
up to believe that being a good parent involves contributing

(17:46):
half of what the child needs or children need. So
when people break up, it's all like, well, I don't
have to pay for this anymore, and I don't have
to pay for that because we're not living together or
we're not married anymore, and that's just not true. You know,
all the states have a formulary where they compare how

(18:10):
much time the children spend with both parents, what are
the incomes of both parents, and that's how they determine,
you know, the amount of child support that is paid.
But a lot of people and it's funny because it
has unfortunately more to women. You know, where the guys

(18:34):
talk them into dropping the child support or dismissing the arrears.
And you know, if they do that that, I mean,
that's their choice. That's their choice. But you also see
a lot of people who come back again, especially women,

(18:54):
who come back and want to reinstate that. And you know,
because they'll say, well, he promised that I dropped the case,
that he would pay me so much a month. I
don't care who you are if you believe that there's
something wrong, because nobody, I mean, even though you're on probation.

(19:20):
By doing that the truth is the only fair way
to do it is to go through the system because
it keeps it keeps the checks and balances for both sides.
It ensures that it ensures that the custodial parent gets
the support that they need to raise the child. And

(19:41):
then it also ensures for the non custodial parent that
they're doing their part. So it's like and they can,
you know, have their checks and balances. And you know,
like happens to some people when you get older and
the kids start talking about you ain't never done nothing
for me. And you know, because people are talking in

(20:01):
their ear and you know, influencing them. You know, he
can pull out his little sheet and be like, yeah,
I did I pay child support for eighteen nineteen, twenty
three years. And here's my proof, you know, here's my
here's my receipts.

Speaker 4 (20:16):
Yes, but see, the thing the thing about about child
support to me is that I think it's not just
about a financial obligation to the child. You know what
I'm saying. I mean, it shouldn't I get I get
the whole having to pay the child support thing. I mean,

(20:36):
I've been doing it. Oh, I have done it. I
started when I was like sixteen seventeen years old, you
know what I'm saying. And I paid all the way through.
My oldest was twenty three, like you said, you know,
And but it's more, it's more than just a financial obligation.

Speaker 1 (21:03):
Definitely, definitely. But yeah, Amanda, I and I and I
agree with you, Amanda. I see this on a daily basis.
So many men working under the table so that they
don't have their wages garnished, you know, so many men
who don't put things in their names so that they

(21:26):
don't have their their pay taken away and stuff like that.
But like you're saying, Corleon, it's more about the sense
of principle, right, you can't make someone be a good parent.
That's the unfortunate thing. And there are just people out
there that are so wrapped up in themselves, so selfish

(21:50):
in a new relationship or whatever that it's not that
they don't care about their kids, but they don't care
about their kids there they don't. But also some of
them just weren't taught. They don't have the skills to
understand that you are responsible for the things in this
life that you create, not just kids, but any situation

(22:12):
you create, you need to be responsible and accountable for it.
But everybody does not want to take that responsibility, you know,
like it's not a bad thing, it's not a good thing.

Speaker 6 (22:25):
But like my ex husband, he's he he's consistent with
the payments, but what good I mean the payments helped
to keep the children alive and fed, you know, keep
us with a roof over our head, But at the

(22:47):
end of the day, what type of time does he
spend with them?

Speaker 3 (22:52):
What?

Speaker 1 (22:53):
You know? You know, so it's great he's consistent with
the financial but it's not just about the financial. You know.
People are fighting. Yeah, people are fighting each other just
for the sake of getting back at one another. And
the only people that suffer in that situation are the
children because they're losing time, they're losing love, they're losing

(23:19):
you know, knowledge, like the things that they can be
taught because one adult is mad at another adult and
acting like children, you know, and they make the situations
about how they can one up the other one, or
because they're angry, how can I get back at them,
how can I make them pay? And then even women,

(23:41):
let me tell you, I get so disgusted with some
of our women, you know that use the child as
a pawn. Well, you don't pay child support, so you
can't see your kids. I'm sorry, I'm sorry. Guys. One
has nothing to do with the other. Just because he's
a deadbeat in the finances doesn't mean that he loses

(24:05):
parental rights to see his children, you know. And that's
a little unfair, you know. It's like I'm holding our
kid hostage because you won't step up to the plate. No,
how about you do everything that you need to do
as a parent and be responsible. Let the child, because
it's about your child. Let the child see their other parents,

(24:28):
Let them spend time, because, believe it or not, that
person is going to show their children who they really are.
So you know, so what, they don't pay the child support,
then keep going after them, keep petitioning to the state
to enforce the child support. But you're being very immature

(24:49):
and childish when just because someone's not paying their support
that now you're going to withhold the children from seeing
their other parents.

Speaker 3 (24:58):
You're going to.

Speaker 1 (24:58):
Break the kid's part just because you don't have money
in your pocket. You know. Yeah, I mean, and it sucks.
It sucks, But we're not We're not punishing the other parent.
We're punishing our kids. Yeah, punishing our children, and they
become resentful after a while, you know, right, But there's

(25:20):
there's just I've just seen so many people use the
children as a way to get back at the other parent.
And it might work for a little bit, but that
don't last long because in the end, the kids are
the ones that have the animosity and they lose.

Speaker 4 (25:39):
Let me, let me bring in doves.

Speaker 3 (25:41):
Hold up, mm hmm, you hey, yo, what's up? Hold on, lady, G.

Speaker 4 (25:51):
Was on a roll.

Speaker 1 (25:54):
I was done, my thought I was done.

Speaker 7 (25:56):
My thoughts continue continue because you know, I mean, like, like,
you know what, it's so ironic, how like.

Speaker 1 (26:02):
If any questions now not like it's ironic because like
you're explaining the exact same thing that.

Speaker 3 (26:12):
I went through.

Speaker 7 (26:13):
Now, you know what I mean, let me let me
row the windows for this one, because you know what,
as a man, right, I'm not gonna you know, I'm
not gonna sit here and play victim or whatever, because
you know what, some of the things were self inflicted.
You know, I was in my twenties, you know what
I'm saying, like like, you know, like if I would

(26:34):
have learned how to swallow my pride and like you know,
push my ego to the side, you know, like I
would have a better relationship with with my both my
kids moms, right, but yeah I didn't.

Speaker 3 (26:45):
So you know, like my daughter, like my.

Speaker 7 (26:51):
Oldest daughter's mom, she really, like you said, use my
child against me, you know, And I'm still trying to
clean that up as speak in Today's a birthday, Happy.

Speaker 3 (27:02):
Birthday, Mama, Dad loves you still.

Speaker 7 (27:06):
You know, she's twenty one today, so you know, like today,
you know, like you know, like our relationship is like yeah,
like here and there, but I texted, you know, like
I texted her most you know, and you know she
you know, like she don't respond, like you know, like
three fourths at the time. But I expect that, you know,

(27:26):
because like there was a huge thirteen year gap which
I wasn't in her life because.

Speaker 1 (27:33):
Right, okay, so can I ask about that, dubs? Yeah,
well so I hear that a lot too. You know,
like I didn't do something because of the other parents.
So when you think back on that, despite what she
was doing, right, what do you think you could have

(27:54):
done to at least still show your daughter.

Speaker 3 (27:58):
You were abroad? So swallow my product. That's that yo.
You know what. It's not like I didn't want to
see her, because I did.

Speaker 7 (28:06):
But you know, the truth is, like I guess I
hurt my daughter's mom so much to the point where
she hated my guts that she did what she did
because you know, to take away to take away your
child from the father's life.

Speaker 3 (28:19):
I mean, that's hatred right there, and that I deserve it.

Speaker 7 (28:24):
I mean at some point, I mean, like, yeah, I
kind of did, but like not to this extent, And
that's possible.

Speaker 1 (28:31):
That's possible people do take it to the unteened degree.

Speaker 7 (28:36):
You know, like like you know, like not to this
extent where you know what I mean, like where like
my relationship with my daughter is like kind of like
you know, it's like very like Frosty, and.

Speaker 3 (28:50):
You know, like I don't. I don't talk to my
daughter about her mom.

Speaker 7 (28:55):
You know what I'm saying, because I'm always going to
be the villain of someone's story, you know, stay what
I'm saying. I'm always going to be the villain. So
in this story, I'm the villain, right And I told
my daughters. I told my daughter that. I was like, yo,
you know what, in everyone's story on your side of
the family, everybody's story, I'm the villain, you know which,
you know, Like I was like, I'm not proud of it.

(29:17):
I was like, you know, whatever they said, half of
it is probably true and half of it is now right,
you know. I was like, you know, like I'm not
I'm not gonna, you know, like sit here and play victim,
like who won't this me?

Speaker 3 (29:30):
No, I don't you know, I'm not gonna do that.

Speaker 1 (29:33):
But to you know, so yes, it influenced. It influenced
how you how you acted and reacted. But that's the
thing too, like I don't care this other parent does.
There's nothing you can do that is going to stop

(29:57):
me from showing up even when like, even when it's
difficult to do so, right, I'm gonna try to exhaust.

Speaker 7 (30:06):
You know what when when we went to court, right,
like you know, like my daughter's mom lied lied on
me to the point where it's like, you know, like
the judge was like believing it, you know, right right right,
So I got burned, you know what I'm saying, Like
she said I was a gang member. She said once
she said that, you know, once upon time there was

(30:28):
guns in the house. And I'm my mind, I'm like,
what when was this?

Speaker 3 (30:33):
You know? Like see my averagance in court also made.

Speaker 7 (30:37):
It believable that worked against you because because you know,
when she was telling her story, I got up. I
started clapping, mind you, this is this is new work.
Two twelve Washington Street, Esse's County. I hate that building
as well. I hate that building much as I hate
five ninety. You know what I'm saying, they both equally.

Speaker 3 (30:56):
You know what I'm saying. I can't wait.

Speaker 7 (30:57):
I can't wait till they employe those buildings. Right, So
my arrogant you know what I'm saying, I died of
because I knew she was lying. I started clapping my hands.
I was like that's an Oscar worthy. That's an Oscar worthy.
You know what I'm saying performance right there, right, and
after that, you know, like it just went downhill fast,

(31:22):
right where I had to go to like I had
to report the east Oorring to you know, do these
domestic violence classes and whatever. And I was doing them.
But then like, you know, like, but see the thing
is right. I told them, I said, yo, I work
those days. Is there a weekend? They're like, nope, it's
just it's just Wednesday night, right, And I work Wednesday
nights at the time, So I had to do doubles

(31:43):
on Thursdays just to do those. Just do those classes
on Mondays on Wednesdays, right, And then like my supervisors,
you know what I'm saying, Like on supervisor, my boss says,
I can't be doing that no more. I'm like, yo,
I got something going on, you know what I'm saying.
I just got like two more months left. They're like, yeah,
we can't do it, you know, because like they're coming
down on us and this, thatand the third. So then
like I try to tell them and mind you you

(32:05):
know what I'm saying, These DV classes they cost thirty
five dollars.

Speaker 3 (32:08):
A piece at the time, right, but it's good you know.
Also yo yo, also yo, what I mean, So I
also have to go to.

Speaker 7 (32:18):
Like a at the time for my you know, for
my daughter's mom, and I'm like what you know, like then,
but then again, I mean it made sense later on
in life right and anger management, and I'm paying and
I'm coming out of pocket with these classes. But like
I'm doing, I may doing all this and then like
all of a sudden, like you know, like I got
a letter in my house talking about, yeah, she's moving.

(32:42):
I don't want to sign that, leading until I was
like forced to go back to court to sign and letting.

Speaker 4 (32:49):
So so real, so real quick, so real quick. So
that's that's what I was trying. That's what I was
trying to say before. Like sometimes like when when a
dude wants to be there and wants to do what
he wants to do to support the child emotionally and
wants to support the child, you know what I'm saying,

(33:11):
in other ways other than financial, they get, they get
they get some of this stuff, you know what I'm saying.

Speaker 1 (33:19):
But yo, well also because but that's but part of
that is because whether we like it or not. You
can support your children emotionally physically, but that doesn't feed them,
that doesn't clothe them. So why does one parent have
to be responsible for all of the financial, right and

(33:42):
emotional and you only get to be there for the emotional.

Speaker 3 (33:45):
Oh wait wait, we can also bring us in real quick, right.

Speaker 7 (33:48):
So for thirteen years I was playing you know what,
I was paying for a child that was mine but
non existent. You see what I'm saying for thirteen years
because because she decided to up and leave to Maryland.
You know, So for thirteen years and your mind you
I didn't even know where my daughter was. That the
only thing I knew was that she knew to move

(34:09):
to Maryland. I did not know, you know, like what
part of Maryland? It was just Maryland. I knew she was.

Speaker 1 (34:13):
But did you? But did you? But did you do
anything about it?

Speaker 3 (34:18):
Ye'all? I was trying to fight it. You know what
I'm saying.

Speaker 7 (34:19):
Every time I try to fight it, yo, listen once
once that you know what I'm saying. See, this is
why this is where you know, like I put my
foot in my mouth was from the first time that
first apparents in court, it did me dirty for the
rest of the times, you know, because like I'm like, yo,
hold on, you know what I'm saying, I'm almost done.
It's just that you know, oh yeah, oh yeah, you

(34:40):
haven't been in class two weeks. I say, I'm trying
to rearrange that because of my schedule, you know. You
know what I'm saying, Like I like, yo, you know what,
I kept off trying and everything. Everything that I tried
to do, it just backfired and she ended up, you know,
like taking me to court saying I won't sign the papers.
You know what I'm saying for her to move, and like,
you know, she has a better job and chance down
there or whatever.

Speaker 1 (35:00):
So well, because she was providing to the she was
providing to the judge that you weren't providing.

Speaker 3 (35:08):
And if I was.

Speaker 1 (35:11):
Child support, yeah, but you can so you could be yes,
but you can be on child support and still be
missing things.

Speaker 3 (35:20):
Right.

Speaker 1 (35:21):
And then if your mother or father, it doesn't matter
who can prove that moving, hold on, that moving would
benefit the child more than staying, then more than likely
the judge is going to rule in their favor if
the other parent doesn't agree.

Speaker 7 (35:40):
But see, now, hold on though, you know, like what
she you know, you know that what she did and
how she did it. I mean it was like, yo,
you know what it was slick. I felt for the bait.
I was stupid at the time. No, like you know,
like I'm not gonna you know, disclosed, you know, disclose
what she did right right, but you know, like let's

(36:03):
just say, you know, like it was it was proofing
of putting for the judge ce you know. And that's
and that's where the anger management class and the DV
class came from, you know, like, and I'm like DV.
I'm like, yo, So pushing her out the way is
domestic violence? When I'm trying to jump out the window
because she wouldn't let me out the door?

Speaker 1 (36:22):
Mm hmm yeah, did you call the cops on someone
without permission? Is violation?

Speaker 3 (36:32):
But all right, you know what I'm saying.

Speaker 7 (36:33):
But also, you know what when someone's trying to leave
out the door and you and you right in front
of it, you know what I'm saying, like holding me
hostage or whatever.

Speaker 3 (36:39):
You know what I'm saying for an argument, But.

Speaker 1 (36:43):
I'm fortunate, right yeah, you know, like like.

Speaker 7 (36:47):
Like yo, you know what, and I'm trying to push
you out the way so I can get out, you
know what I'm saying. And yet you know, like I
have I have to be forced to jump I'm saying,
jump out the first floor window. Thank God's the first floor,
you know, but I had to jump out the window.

Speaker 3 (37:00):
You know.

Speaker 7 (37:00):
So it was like, you know, like everything, like I'm
telling you everything just like you know, and everything that
could have gone wrong that day went wrong. And every
time I went to two twelve Washington Street and North,
it was just wrong.

Speaker 3 (37:14):
You know, like same thing with found ninety five North.
You know what I mean. Like it was just such
a dread. You know.

Speaker 7 (37:20):
So it's like, you know, my kids are adults now,
you know, like like I said, my daughter just turned
twenty one today. You know, I wish that happy birthday
and whatnot. You know, like and like you know, we
had a little talk that made me feel better. You know,
it really made my day, you know, because like I'm
still like, you know, like I have to rebuild a

(37:40):
relationship where it yeah right, And it's like everything that
I missed out on, you know, like like it hurts,
you know what I'm saying, Like it hurts, but.

Speaker 3 (37:51):
God gave me another opportunity.

Speaker 1 (37:52):
So I mean, which is good because sometimes we don't
as human beings, we don't always think, you know, Like
people call me an overthinker, but being an overthinker is
what helps me to stay out of those type of
situations because, yeah, because you think it over and over,

(38:13):
you've thought of everything, so that when we make decisions,
When overthinkers make decisions, basically you can be guaranteed that
whatever decision they made was is the decision that they've
made because they've thought about all the millions of ways
it could go wrong. So you can be sure that

(38:34):
when an overthinker makes a choice, that that's really their choice,
you know, because we've already thought about how it would
go wrong, how it could go right, and we're sure
that that's the decision that we want to make. But
sometimes we do we do.

Speaker 7 (38:49):
You know what, like when I start overthinking right, you know,
like not to be funny, but like if anyone ever
seen what's it call it advengags defenity that that part
with doctor strangers, like trying to figure out ways to
you know, to be thanals. Like that's me, you know
what I'm saying, Like like when it comes to a situation,
I'm thinking of everything. They're trying to get every place

(39:10):
covered or whatever, you know, like you know, and like, yeah,
you know what, Like sometimes my girl will be getting
pissed off.

Speaker 3 (39:18):
She's like, yo, why are you overthinking for I'm like,
because you know what I'm saying.

Speaker 1 (39:22):
Because it's how people some people function. See that gets
me because it's like all of us, every single one
of us, have different experiences, different upbringings, different environments, different everything, right,
and none of us we're brought up the same way.
None of us value the same things. So the way

(39:44):
we the way we act and react to things is
going to be different. But we walk around expecting everyone
to think, feel, and act like us, and so we
get mad and start judging people because they don't think
or act like us. You know, where to one person

(40:07):
it means one thing, but to somebody else that means
something totally different. You know. It's just it's just amazing
how we get caught up in our emotions and we react.
That's the human nature. We react due to emotion.

Speaker 7 (40:26):
But no, that's true because because you know what, I'm
gonna tell you something funny. So like when my son
called me that they told me that he was going
to be a dad. I started laughing, Like that was
like my first reaction, started laughing, right, I say, I
think I'll call you back. So I ain't calling back
like for like a half an hour, and he calls
me back again. He was like that, I'm here. I'm here,

(40:50):
still laughing. I'm like, I'm like, bro, you know because
you know what, like you know, to hear that you're
going to be a grandfather, I mean, like you know
what I'm saying, like or grandparents in general, you know
what I mean, Just like like.

Speaker 4 (41:03):
You guys, yo, I got I gotta, I gotta I
gotta do. I'll be right back, hold on, just keep talking,
keep talking.

Speaker 7 (41:09):
So so like so like you know what, like my
reaction to certain news is laughter, you know, and and
and like you know what, like I don't mean for
it to you know what I'm saying, Like like I
don't mean for it to be offensive to nobody or
like you know, like just be like yo, you know,
but it's just stop.

Speaker 3 (41:27):
It's how I react.

Speaker 1 (41:28):
So what was what was the feeling that caused you
to react that way?

Speaker 3 (41:36):
Because you know what, I've seen him.

Speaker 7 (41:38):
I've seen him like you know, like days before, right,
and like you know, like you come to this house,
see his little sister or whatever. Right, But then like
you know, like he stopped like you know, like coming
around like frequenting, and I'm like hmmm. I was like,
all right, you know what, I already know he has
a girlfriend and stuff. Right, So, like like he passed
by one day, I'm here looking at him and I'm
like I'm like.

Speaker 3 (41:57):
This right, like out of aye, like this right.

Speaker 7 (41:59):
I'm like listen, you know, I said, oh, everything's good
with you going? Yeah, all right, listen young to be
a grandfather. And he looks at me like this, He's
like yeah, yeah, I know that.

Speaker 3 (42:08):
I know. All right, just letting you know.

Speaker 7 (42:11):
And then he stopped coming around, right, And then like
you know, like I'm trying to figure out why, you
know what I'm saying, like like oh, you know what,
he's probably busy and working and whatever. And then like
you know that they calls me up and and like
you know, like what's called Like you know, I'm home
and whatnot, you know, and he's a dad, you're sitting down.

(42:34):
I was like, you know what I'm saying. I was like, oh,
hell yeah, you know, I said, what's something?

Speaker 1 (42:38):
Man?

Speaker 7 (42:38):
What you said, what you got into And he was like, yeah,
you're going to be a grandfather. I was like like yeah,
I said yeah, stop lying, man, you played too much.

Speaker 1 (42:52):
I'm like, look, man, but what what was the feeling?
I mean, were you disappointed? Were you angry?

Speaker 3 (42:58):
Now? I was in shock? Right, Okay? Now, well one
of them.

Speaker 1 (43:02):
I'm sure one of the reasons he started coming around
was because you already made it clear to him that
that's not.

Speaker 7 (43:08):
Exactly Yeah, now you know what it was to you know,
like because me having a child like like around his age,
right and not being ready for it. You know what
I'm saying, Like I didn't want him to go through that,
you know, like where like where like everything starts moving
like faster, faster than what you're used to, right, So

(43:32):
I don't want him to go through that, you know
where it's like you know what I'm saying, Like everything
like you know, like like thinks like you know, like
like like those changes are hard, you know what I'm saying,
Like it's hard to adapt to you know, like yeah.

Speaker 1 (43:45):
But human nature is I have to learn and fall
on my face on my.

Speaker 7 (43:50):
Own exactly, you know, Like, and I don't want him
to go through that unless he was ready.

Speaker 3 (43:56):
I was like, yeah, you're sure you're ready for this?

Speaker 1 (43:57):
Man, He's like, well I have to be now, Yeah,
there's no choice.

Speaker 7 (44:01):
I would say, well, you're in love because you know,
like I'm going through the same thing right now. So
I'm gonna go, you know, like I'm gonna guide you
along the way, you know. Like so, like I just
told like so I told my sons, said, Yo, first
things first, you know, she starts, you know, like we're her.

Speaker 3 (44:19):
You know what I'm saying, where her homemones acting up?
Feed her? Feed her? She could be yelling at you like, yo,
you want McDonald's.

Speaker 1 (44:30):
Oh my godness, how about I'm just loving her. Why
is it going to be feed?

Speaker 3 (44:36):
Feed her? Feed her first? I love him? I told them.
I told them that. You know what I'm saying.

Speaker 7 (44:40):
I say, once she's calm, you know, because I say
because like women when they're pregnant and they have like
this hormonal changes, it's like it's like, you know, like
you're dealing with somebody that you never saw before, you know,
like a different side. So you know, like what is
a good place to start?

Speaker 4 (45:03):
Oh man, all right, okay.

Speaker 3 (45:05):
No, Like but other than that.

Speaker 7 (45:07):
I mean like that was like that was my nerves,
like you know, like like you know, I was like, wow,
you know, I'm you know, I'm gonna be a grandfather.
I was like, Yo, my daughter's gonna be an honest,
she's only.

Speaker 3 (45:16):
Two years old. Wow, you know what I mean, Like yeah.

Speaker 7 (45:22):
I'm like so, I'm like so like, I'm like, yo,
there's gonna be a huge conflict adventuress you know, because
I could just hear right now, Daddy there was like yo,
leaving me salon or like back and forth. You know,
like it's gonna be a huge conflict adventures man.

Speaker 1 (45:40):
Because but that was your fault because then nobody tell
you to be old as dirt having more babies.

Speaker 3 (45:46):
Yeah. But you know what though, I mean I have plans.
God had plans. Yeah, you know, if you want to
make God laugh, go ahead, make plans.

Speaker 1 (45:55):
Yeah. But the thing is, don't ask for something if
you're not willing to take what comes with it.

Speaker 3 (46:00):
But I'm taking what's coming with it. So I'm enjoying it.

Speaker 1 (46:03):
Oh you are now. But you're saying you're sitting here
thinking about them fighting and and all that kind of stuff.

Speaker 7 (46:09):
I mean, I mean, yo, you know what, it's gonna
be cute because but then it's gonna be but but
you know what, it's gonna be a huge conflict adventures.
So so you know what, I already got a planned
out and I'm like, yo, listen, come here, both you
that's somebody to grow up with.

Speaker 3 (46:24):
Yeah you know I'm gonna like, yo, get yours over here.

Speaker 7 (46:29):
Yeah, you know what you gotta I'm like, you guys
can't be fighting each other.

Speaker 3 (46:32):
You guys gotta protect each other and watch each other's back.

Speaker 4 (46:36):
Yeah, yep, that's true. That's very true.

Speaker 3 (46:40):
The whole started it, all right.

Speaker 7 (46:42):
I don't even care who starts to make up, you
know what I'm saying, whether they what apologize. Now, please
let me watch the Jets losing. Please thank you?

Speaker 3 (46:57):
All right?

Speaker 4 (46:58):
So so so pepe, so peepe. All right, So I
got I got two emails here, and we're gonna go
over them right quick, because I'm sure the one that
the ones that I notified, the ones that wrote the
men that were going to be discussing them a little bit.

(47:19):
So I have one here. One says no man has
ever loved me. I'm a thirty nine year old woman.
I've had a number of long term relationships. Three significant
ones that were that were that I was in love

(47:42):
with my oh where I was in love with my partners.
I recently came to the realization that none of my
partners has ever been in love with me, although I
had been in love with them, and that's got me
feeling absolutely worthless and unlovable. I'm not even sure. I'm

(48:02):
not even sure what the question is here. I guess
just I guess. I just want to know if others
have been through, what others have been through, and if
anything at all helped them. I feel like either I'm
completely unlovable or men aren't capable of love. This is

(48:24):
causing issues in my life. I've gotten to the point
where I can't trust anyone, not even my best friend.
I just feel like no one truly likes me at all.
I feel like disappearing forever, And when I think about it,
I realize I literally not one single person would care

(48:45):
if I disappeared forever.

Speaker 3 (48:46):
We care. We don't want you to go nowhere.

Speaker 4 (48:49):
Hold on, hold on.

Speaker 3 (48:52):
I don't know.

Speaker 4 (48:52):
I don't know what it is about it, but I
don't know what it is. But if you need this,
if you read or if you read, if you read
this much, or really thank you? Yeah, that was that.
So I don't how can how can somebody think they're unlovable?

Speaker 1 (49:10):
Because when enough people betray you and lie to you
and make you feel less than and that's just been
the pattern of your life, it's very easy to feel
that way.

Speaker 7 (49:27):
No, that is true, because you know what I mean
that way before I'm like, yo, yo, you know what
I used to like like yo, you know what, Like
I was, I used to be so depressed right and
thought that nobody loved me, you know what I'm saying,
Like to the point where I'm like, hey, no, woman
loves it more than the Hennessy does. And yo, you
know what, And I would drink you know what I'm saying,
like I'll cry in my bottle, you know, like I

(49:48):
was bad drinking, you know.

Speaker 3 (49:50):
Like I would like you know, but that's how I felt.

Speaker 7 (49:52):
I felt worthless at a time, you know, like shit,
you know what, Sometimes I feel worthless right now because
you know of my current situation where I'm I'm not
working right now because you know.

Speaker 3 (50:02):
Of what happened four years ago, right, But.

Speaker 4 (50:06):
That that that that doesn't that makes you feel unlovable.

Speaker 7 (50:09):
But yo, you know what something yo, you know what
like like yo, you know what? The mind is of
very fragile the brain. The human brain is a very
fragile muscle. Because like once, like you know, like like
I like I can't speak for everyone else, but like
like my thoughts, you know what I'm saying, Like once,
like a negative starts, you know what I'm saying, A
negative thoughts starts like brewing in my head and I

(50:31):
start thinking about it.

Speaker 3 (50:32):
It's like the jumping on from X men. It doesn't stop,
you know.

Speaker 7 (50:37):
So it's like it's like, you know, like I have
to constantly remind myself that yo, I'm here for a reason,
you know, like the same way she this person has
to constantly remind themselves that they're here for a reason, you.

Speaker 3 (50:47):
Know, right, like right, like you know, like what's your
what's what?

Speaker 1 (50:51):
All?

Speaker 4 (50:51):
Right? So you you need to feel like you have purpose, right.

Speaker 3 (50:59):
Of course, that's what it is.

Speaker 2 (51:02):
And value.

Speaker 1 (51:05):
Okay, So for instance, right when you have a whole
bunch of people telling you hold on, I see. Yes,
you have to learn and love yourself first, but not
just even just loving yourself first, but believing in yourself
believing in all the work, believing in all the work

(51:26):
that you have done for yourself, all the things you
have accomplished, and giving that value. Right. So, the funny
thing is when you're always like there's this saying, always
the bridesmaid, never the bride.

Speaker 3 (51:44):
Right, So when.

Speaker 1 (51:46):
People keep telling you how nice, oh gosh, how nice
you are, how pretty you are, you know, how sweet
you are? You know, you get all these things about
you're likable, you're lovable. Okay, then if that's so true,
then why am I not likable or lovable enough for you?

Speaker 7 (52:09):
You got to look at the world and how it is.
You know what I'm saying, like like like you know what.
First off, you know what I'm saying, like social media,
for example, social media may made this world such a
vain place, you know. Like, so it's like and then
like you know, like you're looking at you know, couples

(52:31):
quote unquote right, you're looking at you know what I'm saying,
most people looking at their lives or whatever.

Speaker 3 (52:37):
It was.

Speaker 1 (52:38):
They're looking at faith, they're looking at the picture Facebook page, example.

Speaker 3 (52:45):
Know, like like like like.

Speaker 7 (52:47):
You know what, and you know what example right, Like
you see some couples there you know what I'm saying,
like wearing pajamas together, you know, and they're like, yeah,
they're so happy.

Speaker 3 (52:55):
Three you know, like three days later you know, like
the wife is that because the husband shot him? Yeah?
So it's like so so it's like what are you
really looking at? You know?

Speaker 1 (53:06):
Like you also got to remember when you see those
things and they're so beautiful, so wonderful, you have to
ask yourself what price are they paying to get to
that perfect picture? Right?

Speaker 4 (53:22):
Let's see, let's see, hold on, let's see. Amazon has
matching pajamas for about fifteen ninety ninety's right, yes, so
so then fifteen ninety ninety so that says thirty two
and then yeah, about about forty fifty bucks if you
count if they have prime or not with shipping it
all depend you stop.

Speaker 8 (53:42):
Your funny But okay, so say say it's the wife,
the wife who wants to have those pictures taken, right right?

Speaker 1 (53:55):
What does she have to sacrifice or promise to get
the husband to agree to that?

Speaker 4 (54:02):
And I could think of a few things, but that's
just in my head.

Speaker 1 (54:08):
No, no, even even I'm talking real stuff, Corleon. I'm
talking real stuff, like I'm trying to think.

Speaker 3 (54:19):
What strings does she have to pull?

Speaker 1 (54:24):
You? Yeah, like did you have to promise to wash
his draws every day? Like like what what is it?
What price did she have to pay for that? Or
vice versa for the man, you know, for him to
get his wife to do something or uh do something

(54:45):
he likes? Right, what price? What price does he have
to pay or sacrifice just to get her to do
that and make it look perfect laundry?

Speaker 7 (54:58):
You know, like I shot the you know, like look,
you know what what like one thing like since I'm
older now, right, and I keep saying this because it's
the truth. Since I'm older now, you know what, Like
those some quote unquote sacrifices to me is not really sacrifices.

Speaker 3 (55:15):
Man.

Speaker 1 (55:16):
Yeah, but not everybody is like that, Like what's good? Yeah,
what looks good on the outside doesn't. Like there could
be a woman who you know, is with someone because
their stability, financial, you know, all these things. But in
order for her to be able to have that that

(55:37):
feeling of safety financial, you know, stability, he's got to
beat her butt every day, you know, or she has
to do some crazy messed up whatever. Like it's not
always something as simple as cooking and cleaning. It could

(55:57):
be something really really horrible like chili.

Speaker 4 (56:03):
Yeah, like you know what, my chili is good man,
my chili's banging.

Speaker 7 (56:07):
Bro not true true, true that there's no there's no
lies on spoken about that part.

Speaker 4 (56:15):
Well, maybe he wants you want you, all right, Maybe
he wants you to sit down with him during football
Sunday and football is not her thing.

Speaker 1 (56:23):
Yeah, I mean that, and that can be that can
be difficult. Yeah, but you know, like, let me put
it this, In order to have my ex husband dance
with me, I had to sit for hours and watch
him play video games.

Speaker 3 (56:42):
Like, but why not do it together?

Speaker 1 (56:47):
Huh?

Speaker 4 (56:47):
Why not do it together? That would have been fun.

Speaker 1 (56:50):
No, I hate playing video games. Oh all right, Like
I I I tried. I tried. I really did. Because
my thing is, you know again, I was a therapist,
So my thing is I have to practice what I preach.
And sometimes you have to do just because your partner
loves it, likes it or whatever. Sometimes you have to,

(57:11):
you know, sacrifice a little bit to do it for them,
not because you like it, but just to be a
part of it.

Speaker 3 (57:18):
Right right.

Speaker 1 (57:19):
But when that, when that becomes the norm, then you
start to get reseampful, like, yo, why do I got
to be doing this all the time? And you know
you don't do what I want you you know what
I want to do, you know, And then it just
becomes a tip for tat back and forth. You know, well,

(57:42):
I'm not doing this if you don't do.

Speaker 7 (57:44):
That, But it becomes probably you know what, you know
what though, like for like this person that wrote the
letter to sound like you know, like that she's not loved.
I mean, like that's crazy to me, you know, but
I understand it. Though it's crazy to me, but I
understand it because you know what, I've been in those

(58:05):
shoes before, you know, like like you know, like like
you know, like and it's a horrible feeling, like you know,
to feel like you know that you know, like you
have it in your mind that you're worthless, you know,
like you're backtracking on everything, like, oh everything failed around me,
I'm worthless and this that and the third.

Speaker 1 (58:22):
So it's like I'm not even not even just feeling worthless.
But when you're still alone, it's like, you know, like
you're trying to prove yourself wrong. But my proof is
here I am and I'm still alone, ye know.

Speaker 7 (58:36):
But yeah, but but see you know what though, like
patience is always a virtue, you know, like yeah, you
gotta be patient, you know, like like like you know what,
like right right before my relationship, right like I came
to terms where I'm like, yo, you know what, I'm
all right if I die alone, you know, because like
I actually you know, I'm making changes in my life,

(58:59):
like I'm starting to like love myself again.

Speaker 3 (59:01):
Like but like I'm also like, you know, like cleaning
up my act.

Speaker 7 (59:04):
Like I stopped drinking, you know, like you know, like
everything started like you know, moving in the right direction,
and the next thing, you know, you know, I have
a girlfriend now, you know.

Speaker 3 (59:19):
You know, like I wasn't looking for it. And that's
the funny part.

Speaker 4 (59:23):
Maybe that's what it was. You weren't looking for it.

Speaker 3 (59:25):
Yoah yo, you know.

Speaker 1 (59:26):
What I mean, you focusing on you?

Speaker 3 (59:31):
Yeah? Waitit excuse let me scratch that. You know what
I'm saying, girlfriend, you know, like I have as soon
to be wife at the house.

Speaker 4 (59:37):
You know what are you saying it soon to be
ex wife? What?

Speaker 3 (59:40):
Nah?

Speaker 7 (59:41):
You know what I'm saying, I have a future ex
wife now at the house, you know, soon to be
wife at the house right. You know, I wasn't looking
for it, you know, like that was the last thing
on my mind. You know, like like me, I was
like me, you know, like I was say, yo, you
know what I'm doing. You know, I'm doing this that
and the third I'm actually doing things right, you know,
Like I started, like you know, reading the Bible, you know,

(01:00:01):
going back to church, right, like everything's moving, you know.

Speaker 3 (01:00:05):
What I'm saying. Everything is moving.

Speaker 7 (01:00:07):
But like see the thing is, I wasn't even thinking
about it, you know, like I was just doing it.
You know, I called you uncle, tell you know, like
when I hit my rock bottom part, you know, like
when I got my duy to me, that was my
rock bottom, you know what I'm saying, because like I mean,
it could have been worse, right, yeah, Like I always say,
you know, like one thing I do remember is sitting

(01:00:29):
in the precinct right and when the when the coke
and the and the perk and and I started sobering up,
when all that you know left my body, like you know,
the feeling left. I was like, bro, i am forty
something years old and I'm still doing ship like this.

Speaker 3 (01:00:49):
I'm like, yo, I gotta get that terrible feeling right
like like like I'm.

Speaker 7 (01:00:53):
Like, yo, for thirty years, you know, like like yo,
you know what, I began to rest since I was thirteen,
you know, like for thirty years I've been doing this ship.
I'm like, Yo, something's gotta you know, something's gotta stop,
you know, and like I like and then yo, you
know what. I actually sat there right and I was like, Yo,
you know what, A change gotta come, you know, like

(01:01:14):
I'm like read on some Sam Cook stuff.

Speaker 3 (01:01:16):
A change gotta come, right, yeah, But.

Speaker 1 (01:01:18):
If you don't make the change, the change ain't coming.

Speaker 3 (01:01:21):
Exactly, you know. So like so like.

Speaker 7 (01:01:25):
And and like you know what it was like the
first time. I remember it was the first time I
felt the shame that I was like in handcuffs, you know,
because other times I just didn't care. I'm like, yeah, whatever,
you know what I'm saying, like like you know what,
I didn't plan things through. You know, I did what
I did whatever whatever, right, But you know that was

(01:01:47):
like the first time I felt the shame. And you
know what, And I'm gonna say it right here, like
I said all the time, I could have called a
drug charge too, because I had pills in my pocket
that they that they didn't frisk me, right, So I
ended up going to the bathroom right, act like I
was washing my face or whatever, and I swallowed those
pills again.

Speaker 3 (01:02:05):
You know, I was like my last ones. Right.

Speaker 7 (01:02:08):
The irony of that is the same pills I swallowed
that I was taking for fun. I actually now need
it for chronic back pain. I'm probably gonna need it
for the rest of my life. But that's either hearing it, right.

Speaker 4 (01:02:20):
So I got a question for you. I got a
question for.

Speaker 7 (01:02:22):
You then, so you know what, like I sobered up though,
you know, and all, you know, all this happened like
like like, look, you know what what.

Speaker 3 (01:02:32):
I'm trying to say, is this right? Whet that question?

Speaker 4 (01:02:39):
Isn't it funny?

Speaker 3 (01:02:41):
No? No? You know what?

Speaker 7 (01:02:42):
Real quick, when you stop yelling, you know what, when
you start like, you know, like trying to you know,
like like making changes and look at the positive of
what you could do, write everything else the so called failures,
you feel like you know, it doesn't it doesn't matter.
You know it doesn't matter, because hell, you know what
I feel. Plenty of times I keep failing, and you

(01:03:04):
know what, it doesn't matter. You want to why people
fail forward. Take that failure added and you know your life.
I'm move forward, bro, exactly.

Speaker 3 (01:03:13):
You know, like what choice do we have?

Speaker 4 (01:03:16):
Yeah? So let me let me ask you a question.
So at this point in your life, you feel like
you love yourself? Yeah, feeling do you feel you have purpose?

Speaker 3 (01:03:26):
Now?

Speaker 7 (01:03:27):
I feel I have purpose? But right now, you know,
I'm gonna be honest. Right now, I've been feeling kind
of down because right now I'm feeling like less of
a man. Right now, I'm sitting on the sidelines.

Speaker 1 (01:03:40):
It's great.

Speaker 7 (01:03:42):
No, no, no, exactly, it is you know, like and
and you know what, and I'm gonna miss something real quick.

Speaker 3 (01:03:48):
This is you know, I gotta put a ladd on
for this one. Right.

Speaker 7 (01:03:52):
So, my pride in my ego would not It still
doesn't allow me to accept the fact that I'm injured permanently,
right it doesn't, you know. And I'm here looking at
my girl, you know, my girl go to work, come home, right,

(01:04:14):
and I'm saying to myself, I was like, yo, you
know what, it shouldn't be this way, right, and like
that's when the negative thoughts start, you know, rumbling, and
then like you know, like I'm going through like you know,
like stuff right now. And you know, I'm not going
to say on here, but that's one of them, you know, Like,

(01:04:36):
but I do know it's my pride in my ego,
you know, I know that, you know, like I want
to be I want to be in the fields working,
you know, like the way way wait, Paul scratched that.

Speaker 3 (01:04:47):
I mean I want to be out there working.

Speaker 4 (01:04:49):
I really do that. That sounds kind of crazy what
he just said.

Speaker 7 (01:04:52):
Yeah, I want to be in the field working, you know,
like and I gotta hi, Rob, let me scratch that,
you know, like no, you know what I'm saying, like
like yo, no that say, ain't going with me. But
I mean, like, yo, you know what, I want to
be out there working again, but due to you.

Speaker 4 (01:05:10):
Know, circumstances beyond your control.

Speaker 7 (01:05:13):
Yeah, yeah, you know, do the circumstances beyond my control
right now? You know, like I have to wait and
playing this long game is like it's draining, you know,
like and that's that's nothing that gets me too. You know,
it's draining and that's what makes me feel like less

(01:05:34):
of right now.

Speaker 3 (01:05:36):
But but you know.

Speaker 7 (01:05:37):
Like with my situation, we're in the fourth quarter, you know,
we're two minutes left. So I mean, I know something
that's gonna come from it. It's all about how long
can I withstand? And like sometimes like I just don't
have the I don't I don't think. I don't think

(01:05:58):
I have enough fighting me for it no more, man,
you know, because like but however, I still got to
keep pushing because you know what I got, you know,
I have a you know what I'm saying, A beautiful
for you.

Speaker 3 (01:06:14):
Yeah, no, don't say that.

Speaker 7 (01:06:15):
Don't say that, you know right now, you know my
name ain't good right now, I don't say that.

Speaker 3 (01:06:20):
But but but.

Speaker 7 (01:06:24):
It's just that, yo, you know what Like sometimes you know,
like like I wake up and I'll be like, you know,
like I'm miss the.

Speaker 3 (01:06:31):
Mom, you know, like you no, no, mister mom.

Speaker 7 (01:06:36):
Now but now now but hold on listen though, But
and then like you know, I'm onto my girl, you know,
you know, wake up at you know, six o'clock, you know,
be out by seven, come on at three tired, right,
And like I'm like, yo, you know what you're missing?
You know, like she's I feel bad because she's missing

(01:06:57):
the most important part of motherhood and I'm here watching it.

Speaker 4 (01:07:02):
You know, the most important part of fatherhood.

Speaker 3 (01:07:06):
Bro. Yeah, true, you.

Speaker 7 (01:07:08):
Know, but like but like you know what, it bothers
me because you know what I wish we could Like
I wish.

Speaker 3 (01:07:13):
I could be out there working and helping, right, you know, like.

Speaker 1 (01:07:18):
But what realizes you are helping?

Speaker 7 (01:07:21):
I am, But like you know what though like like
like you know, like that part, you know when it
comes to bills and all that stuff, you know, to
watch my girls stress, you know, like and I could
barely do much because.

Speaker 3 (01:07:30):
Workers compigence, you know, worker's COMPI and shit.

Speaker 7 (01:07:33):
You know, like I kind of like, you know, I
am kind of lucky that you know, I get a
veterans check, but I ain't. That ain't enough either, you know,
like it's like you know, like the bills are stepping
up and I still.

Speaker 3 (01:07:47):
Have to play the sideline.

Speaker 7 (01:07:49):
And it's like that's what my though, my private ego
kick sendo on that part because you know what, if
it was up to me, if it was up to me,
my girl will be staying home. If you want to work,
you go ahead and work, you know, like mhm. But
if I can, if I could handle it, I'll handle it.

Speaker 1 (01:08:09):
In this economy, can't nobody.

Speaker 7 (01:08:11):
No exactly exactly but like but like you know, like
if I could, like if it was up to me,
you know, like you know, and and you know what,
and it's not on something like yo, you know, like
oh you don't want your girl work.

Speaker 3 (01:08:23):
No, No, it's not that.

Speaker 7 (01:08:24):
It's that, you know, like I'd rather you know, like
carry the brunt of and you handle you know what
you need to handle. And if you do, you know,
like I guess, you know what, I guess some type
of my cheese or stuff or whatever. You know, like
but I grew up, but you know what, I grew
up watching my father back you know, you know, like

(01:08:45):
my father was taking care of the whole family at
one point in time because my mom wasn't working. You know,
like when I was young, I remember like you know,
like you know, like we were good, you know, and
I learned that from my and my dad, you know.
And it's like this something I want to do. And

(01:09:07):
because talking to you be oh I can't read. Oh
it's just dubs, just think what you.

Speaker 3 (01:09:16):
Absolutely no, no, and you know what it's gonna work out.
You know. It's just that, you know, it's just that
you know, like right now, you know, like you know, like.

Speaker 7 (01:09:27):
Exactly and you know what though, and it's my pride
in my ego that use those thoughts. You know, no
one you know, no one don't knowing damn true and
well that you know I'm sidelined for a reason, you know,
like you know, knowing damn true and well that I'm
sidelined for a reason. But yet you know, like I

(01:09:48):
want to be out there, but I have to wait,
you know, like I played a long time, long enough,
like so you know, but other than that, I mean,
I still love myself though, you know, yeah, yeah, yeah, lord,
I'm mercing, you know, like like like you know what,

(01:10:09):
I still love myself. What I'm trying to say to
the person that wrote that man, like the person I
wrote that, man like you gotta love yourself first, you know,
love yourself and believe in yourself, you know, and stop
looking at that you know, nobody loves me part, you
know what I'm saying, because like the person in the
mirrorand that's who you should be concerned about the most

(01:10:32):
that you know what I'm saying. If you love that
person in the mirror, done anything else, you know what
I'm saying, everything else would really you know what I'm saying,
like it really wouldn't matter, you know, because that person
in the mirror dictates you know what I'm saying, everything
about you. It all starts with you and it spreads out.

Speaker 4 (01:10:50):
Yeah. Man, you you know like you radiate that ship,
you know what I mean. You know, like, damn I
just cursed again. Damn it.

Speaker 7 (01:11:00):
You know what another thing too, And and Doc thought that.
I mean, you could you could either disagree with me
or agree with me.

Speaker 3 (01:11:08):
Call le owned.

Speaker 7 (01:11:08):
You could either disagree with me or agree with me.
But like, but like you know, like you are energy,
you know what I'm saying. That's why you know, like
when that's why when you go to certain places you
catch a bad vibe.

Speaker 3 (01:11:22):
Is the energy that's you know, seeing permeating from other people.
You know.

Speaker 7 (01:11:25):
So the energy you put out right, whether it be
on social media or whether it be in person, it's
you know, you're gonna attract the same people, you know,
whether whether you like it or not.

Speaker 3 (01:11:37):
You know, like laws of attraction.

Speaker 7 (01:11:39):
So I mean, perfect example, right, I was getting in
trouble up here in high school, so my parents sent
me down to Miami to go love with my brother.
May God bless his soul right to finish high school
down there, right, I felt some type of way. I
feel like I was abandoned, you know, like you just
ship me off or whatever. I didn't look at the
long game part. You know what I'm saying now that

(01:12:01):
I'm now that I'm older, I totally understand, right, Like,
you know, they'll hope for a change of scene to me,
will change things, right, but all the day because you
know what, I wasn't willing to change.

Speaker 3 (01:12:12):
I attracted the same people that that was up.

Speaker 4 (01:12:15):
Here, you and your mother friends brot, yo, you know what.

Speaker 7 (01:12:24):
But but but the truth is like it's like, yo,
you know what, I attracted the same exactly.

Speaker 3 (01:12:34):
You know what, though I tracked the same people.

Speaker 7 (01:12:39):
I tried to the same people with with just different
face with different faces.

Speaker 3 (01:12:43):
That's it, you know.

Speaker 7 (01:12:45):
But it's the energy you put out there though, And
like it took me a long time to figure that
one out too.

Speaker 3 (01:12:51):
Yeah alright, So so so it's like, you know what,
this person really has to start believing in herself, right,
absolutely love herself.

Speaker 7 (01:13:02):
Because you know what, if she does that, you know,
everything around here will change, you know, like the view
like you know what her views will change.

Speaker 1 (01:13:13):
Is the more we the more we value ourselves, the
more we care about ourselves. The funny thing is, the
less we give a crap about what other people think
and feel about us, we don't put up The funny
thing is when we don't put up with people's junk,
when we value who we are as a person, you know, absolutely,

(01:13:37):
because then you're not afraid to lose anybody because you
know that, despite other people's ability to see your value,
it doesn't change. And so once you can realize that
and feel that, and it does take a while to
get there, you have to do a lot of self awareness,
you know, self retrospection and you know, look really taking

(01:13:59):
people look at.

Speaker 3 (01:14:00):
It's a big worry retrospection.

Speaker 1 (01:14:01):
It's the fifty word. You really, you really do get
tired of putting up with other people's stuff, and it
becomes so much easier to just live it alone.

Speaker 3 (01:14:15):
Yeah, so real quick, hold up, hold up, lady G
real quick, lady J real quick.

Speaker 4 (01:14:20):
Right.

Speaker 7 (01:14:20):
I'm pretty sure back then you was like, you know,
when the person wanted to leave right, back then, before
you know, you discovered you know, your self love, right,
I'm pretty sure you was like, you know, when the
person wanted to leave you begger than the state.

Speaker 3 (01:14:33):
Now.

Speaker 7 (01:14:34):
You know, if a person wants to leave in your life,
you're be like, all right, I hold the door before you.

Speaker 3 (01:14:38):
Yeah, because it's not their season exactly, double double.

Speaker 4 (01:14:47):
Yeah, but real quick, yeh, finish your thought on my back,
gam and finish your thought.

Speaker 3 (01:14:54):
It was all good, bro, it was all good.

Speaker 7 (01:14:56):
It's like you know what, like like you know what,
like you know what, once upon a time it's to
be like, yo, don't leave whatever, because I was scared
to be alone, like if my girl, if my girl
was to leave right now, you know, as as hurtful
as it will be, right, because I'm not going to
say that, you know, you know.

Speaker 1 (01:15:11):
Like you know, nobody's saying. It's not gonna hear.

Speaker 7 (01:15:15):
As herful as it would be, right, Like, if that's
what you want to do, I'm not gonna stop you.

Speaker 3 (01:15:21):
Yeah, you know, like because we.

Speaker 4 (01:15:24):
Are on our grown people ship, you know, we.

Speaker 1 (01:15:27):
Know our worth and that doesn't change just because somebody
walks out right, So real.

Speaker 4 (01:15:33):
Quick, to all the fans listening and watching the show
right now, we got a contest going on. Go over
to the Facebook fan page, look for the for the
for the link that says I don't know what the
fuck it says?

Speaker 3 (01:15:49):
You crushed again?

Speaker 4 (01:15:50):
Ship?

Speaker 3 (01:15:51):
Oh damn? Yeah, yeah, we.

Speaker 1 (01:15:57):
Will be so rich if we charged him every time,
he said.

Speaker 4 (01:16:03):
Yeah, So go go over to the Facebook fan page.
Vote enter the contest. The instructions are there. What you
gotta do to win something. There's four prizes and yeah,
so you get a prize and all this other stuff
and and and and shipp and everything and just just

(01:16:24):
I can't help it.

Speaker 7 (01:16:25):
I can't help it.

Speaker 4 (01:16:29):
Yeah, so just go to the Facebook fan page. Man
over there, go over there, do what you gotta do
to g win yourself a prize. Just follow the instructions
and you'll know, you know, you'll you'll get your win something.
So anyway, so now the last, the last email of
the night. How do I approach my fiance about accusations

(01:16:53):
made by an anonymous account? All right, so, hello, I
just need a little bit of advice. My fiance and
I have been together for five years and gazed just
over two. We've had some ups and downs, mostly due
to his jealousy, but we've been doing very well recently,

(01:17:16):
or so I thought. Or so I thought. So. He
was out a couple of nights ago, having drinks to
some colleagues and came around and came home around two
o'clock in the morning drunk. Not unusual. He always comes
home very drunk after a night out. Everything seemed okay
until the day after when I received a message from

(01:17:40):
an anonymous profile on Facebook saying he had been trying
to go home with some nineteen year old girl. They
mentioned behaviors that definitely sound like him, but they won't
give me any names as to who they are nor
who the girl is. I have a bad feeling about
out this, but I know if I do ask him

(01:18:02):
about it, it will turn into a massive argument and
he will then accuse me of cheating on him, so
things will go south, even if the claims the anonymous
profile made are untrue. Any suggestions on how to bring
this up to my partner without it blowing.

Speaker 3 (01:18:20):
Up, Well, first off, you know what I'm saying.

Speaker 7 (01:18:24):
I don't understand how you know what I'm saying, Like,
why you would engaged to like like three red flags
in a row jealous Yeah, Like.

Speaker 1 (01:18:33):
But jealousy can be healthy, so don't go there.

Speaker 7 (01:18:37):
Yeah, listen, you know what, but that type of jealousy though,
where like you argue that's not healthy.

Speaker 1 (01:18:44):
No, that's not like jealous what can be healthy?

Speaker 7 (01:18:48):
Yes, you're right, you know what I'm saying, Like like
for instance, like my girl knows how to bake chicken.

Speaker 3 (01:18:52):
I try baking chicken. You know what I'm saying, and
you burned it.

Speaker 7 (01:18:57):
Yeah, absolutely, you know what I'm saying, because like you know,
I mean, I try to blame.

Speaker 3 (01:19:02):
I'll try to blame. I try to blame my daughter.
You know she did this.

Speaker 7 (01:19:07):
You know what I'm saying, But it's actually my fault.
I mean, like whatever, So I'm saying, so.

Speaker 4 (01:19:11):
What do you think what's the other red flag besides
of jealousy? The you said three that yo?

Speaker 7 (01:19:18):
You know what, like you know, they know the fact
that you know, like my man, like you know, you know,
go listen, you know what.

Speaker 4 (01:19:24):
I'm three o'clock and two o'clock in the morning.

Speaker 7 (01:19:27):
Yeah, you know. And then like you know, the third
one is the fact that you know this anonymous you
know whatever whatever, anonymous whatever, anonymous stuff that you know,
whatever the case may be, like whether it's a letter
or Facebook post or no Facebook post or like was
it an email or.

Speaker 3 (01:19:48):
Facebook a message to Facebook? All right? Anonymously right, So.

Speaker 7 (01:19:54):
And the fact that you know they you know, it
details his behavior patterns when you drinking.

Speaker 3 (01:20:02):
Yeah, all right, you know what that right there? You
know what I'm saying.

Speaker 7 (01:20:10):
She needs to take that with a grain assault, like, yo,
that was actually him, because you know what, there is
no way right now that you know what I'm saying,
a post anonymously comes, you know, detailing everything.

Speaker 3 (01:20:24):
You know what I'm saying, like behavioral patterns, behavior habits, you.

Speaker 7 (01:20:27):
Know, and besides that, you know what, as far as
that person is concerned, it's probably someone close to him exactly.

Speaker 4 (01:20:33):
I was just thinking that. I was just thinking that.

Speaker 7 (01:20:36):
That's like, yo, you know what. You know what I'm saying, like,
oh man, you know what, like he's doing this girl.

Speaker 3 (01:20:40):
You know what I'm saying.

Speaker 7 (01:20:41):
She says, a nice girl doing him two dirt like
you know it got soft heart and whatever.

Speaker 4 (01:20:45):
It's like, Yo, you know what heart he wants to
get in her pants himself.

Speaker 7 (01:20:49):
Or that too, you know what I'm saying, one of
the two, you know, Like, but yeah, you know what,
and now if he turns around start put you know
what I'm saying, if she knows how he is, and
he's gonna try to like you know, like gasline and
self project.

Speaker 3 (01:21:05):
You know, onto you then you already know the answer.

Speaker 4 (01:21:09):
Yeah, what do you think really g.

Speaker 1 (01:21:14):
Well, well, like I said, I think some level of
jealousy is you know, it's healthy. You definitely have to
approach it one with respect, but also with concern yeah,

(01:21:37):
and reiterating uh yeah, reiterating that you know, you guys
are a team. You know, no blaming, no, you know,
accusing until you have facts, because a lot of people
do that. They speak out of their feelings, They speak
out of anger and fear. Sometimes it is what they

(01:22:02):
think it is, and sometimes it's not. One thing I
have learned is a woman's sixth sense hardly ever lies
it hardly ever, hold hold up, hold up, I said hardly.
I didn't say.

Speaker 3 (01:22:18):
Wait, hold on real quick.

Speaker 7 (01:22:21):
I also want to point out, you know, like, yes,
you know what I'm saying, your sixth sense all the
other lie but like like.

Speaker 3 (01:22:27):
We get that gut feeling too, you know, Okay.

Speaker 1 (01:22:31):
So it hardly it hardly ever.

Speaker 4 (01:22:33):
Let me tell you something. Let me tell you something
I can't not that I can't stand it, but what
drives me up the fucking wall sometimes is when a
woman says a woman's intuition is never wrong.

Speaker 1 (01:22:48):
Right, I didn't say that.

Speaker 4 (01:22:51):
I didn't say I don't E didn't say that. But
sometimes it drives me up the wall when some women
sometimes say my woman's intuition is never wrong. Okay, all right.

Speaker 3 (01:23:00):
So if you can.

Speaker 4 (01:23:01):
Sense that your man is doing something wrong to you,
or has something scheming, or something's going on, then why
can't you sense when your man is hurting? I know,
but it keeps It drives me. It drives me up
the freaking wall when that shit happens.

Speaker 1 (01:23:20):
People, we're not mind readers, but we are.

Speaker 4 (01:23:23):
But you claim to be. You claim to have this
this sixth sense.

Speaker 1 (01:23:27):
Yes, because a sixth sense, a sixth sense is based
on some type of red flag.

Speaker 4 (01:23:34):
Then sense when you're a man is struggling.

Speaker 1 (01:23:39):
If you don't tell me you're struggling, I don't know
that you're struggling, Especially when you ask the man all
the time, are you okay? Are you okay? Are you okay?
And their ego gets in the way and they're like, yeah,
I'm fine, Yeah, I'm fine, Yeah, I'm fine.

Speaker 3 (01:23:54):
Yeah.

Speaker 7 (01:23:54):
You know what, I gotta agree. I gotta agree on
that one because I used to do that recently until
you know, you know, like like you know what, And
I kind of still do that in a way, but
I have to take my time to like you know,
like like you know, like express it out. You understand
I'm saying because like sometimes like you know, like recently,

(01:24:14):
like yo, like I've been like lost words. I'm like, yo,
you know everything, you know, like everything's like I feel
like everything's collapsing around me and I'm lost to words.

Speaker 1 (01:24:22):
You're not gonna let nobody know that?

Speaker 7 (01:24:25):
No, Well, you know, I let my girl know that,
because you know what, that's good, she asked. She was like, yo,
you know what She's like. She's like, you know, like
I could tell, like you know, like you're looking at
me and you're looking past me. I'm like no, I
like you know, like she's like tone in your voice.
She's like, but I'm I'm gonna let you be.

Speaker 3 (01:24:44):
Until you're ready, you know. So mm hmm.

Speaker 7 (01:24:47):
You know, like you know, like I told her what
it was or whatever, and like, you know, like she
knows she knows what something's wrong, like the same way
I know what something's wrong with her. Yeah, you learn
each other, Yeah, you know, like like you know, like
body language, and you know, behavioral patterns, and.

Speaker 1 (01:25:06):
Sometimes people gets hard at guessing. You know.

Speaker 7 (01:25:10):
I'm like, yeah, you know what, you know what I
gotta tell us. Hey, when you when you're ready, just
say it, said no, because you're gonna get upset. I'm like,
I'm like, yoh, listen, I'm not even gonna get upset.

Speaker 1 (01:25:19):
You know.

Speaker 7 (01:25:19):
If it's something I'm doing, then say it, you know, like,
just say it. If I do get upset, so be it.
Say get it off your chest.

Speaker 3 (01:25:29):
You know.

Speaker 7 (01:25:30):
And sometimes you know, like the way she feels because
of me, you know what I'm saying, of what I'm
not doing, I'll get mad about it, right, and then
like you know, I'll tell her. I'm like, all right, yo,
you know what I'm you know what I'm saying. I'm
gonna try my hardest to like, you know, do more,
you know, like but then like you know, like if

(01:25:51):
it's something like physical, right, and she gets upset at
me for it, she's again she's like she's like, but
but sometimes I have to remember that, you know, you
have your days where like you're like fucked up, you know,
because like another thing too, is that I have I
really have my mornings when I.

Speaker 3 (01:26:12):
Wake up, and I really can't, you know what I'm saying.

Speaker 7 (01:26:13):
It's like it's mission impossible to get off the bed,
but i have to because of my daughter, you know.

Speaker 3 (01:26:19):
And I'm in pain all day, Like I'm miserable, you know.

Speaker 7 (01:26:23):
So it's like it's just it's just you know, but
like what she understands that part, you know, because of
what I'm going to you know, but like back to
this person right here, you know, like there's three flaps
as is, you know, like and if and if it's
her intuition that's kicking in, you know, then she already

(01:26:47):
knows the answer, right, you know, but to be clear,
way for everything to play out, you know, and we
starts projecting and whatever, you know, Like you gotta listen
to the tone of his voice, you know what I'm saying,
Like if he starts projecting like angrily out of nowhere about.

Speaker 3 (01:27:06):
It, then you know it's true.

Speaker 7 (01:27:09):
And I'm only saying and and and you know what,
it may sound like I'm snitching or whatever, but hey,
you know what I used to do. I used to
do that, you know, I used to project, Yes, back then,
I used to do that, you know, Am I projecting now? No,
you know, because I ain't bro.

Speaker 3 (01:27:28):
I don't do nothing your bro.

Speaker 7 (01:27:31):
Yeah, of course, you know, like like like like Collon
like Collon knows, you know, like I'll go pick them
up whatever, right, and then like you know, like we're
riding around or whatever, right, and like every like probably
like you know, like every like half an hour, I'm
calling my girl to see the baby's okay. See she's
all right, she needs anything since I'm outside, right, she says, no,

(01:27:54):
I'm like great, you know, And then on the way
back to get the phone call, can you go to Walmart?

Speaker 3 (01:27:59):
Like I thought? I was all right anyways? You know, but.

Speaker 7 (01:28:05):
It's basically, you know, like you learn, you know what
I'm saying, like learning who you're with, you know, like
you gotta learn who you with, you know, like like
you know, just don't be with them to be with them,
you know what I'm saying. Sex may be great, Hey,
that's good. You know, like, oh, they do this, and
you know they have a you know, jealousy problem. You know,
like like oh, Lady G said sometimes you know, jealous

(01:28:27):
Like you know what when this person said jealousy problem,
I stought to myself, Yeah, you know what, you know,
what like for for those who be jealous. You know
what I'm saying, Like, it's kind of a rough flag
for me personally, because you know what.

Speaker 4 (01:28:41):
That means.

Speaker 7 (01:28:42):
You're either hiding something, right, because that's what because that's
what it is. I'm saying, you either hiding something or
that person doesn't have the self esteem that he thinks
he has.

Speaker 4 (01:28:54):
Wait, man, what do you mean hiding something?

Speaker 3 (01:28:56):
Though?

Speaker 1 (01:28:58):
When people get defense says about things, it's because they
have something that they're hiding or that they too.

Speaker 4 (01:29:06):
No, but he's but he said he said about the jealousy,
about the jealousy, he's hiding something.

Speaker 7 (01:29:12):
Yeah, you want to know why because he probably got
away with things before and.

Speaker 3 (01:29:19):
He's projecting you see what I'm saying, that's the reason
why he's jealous.

Speaker 7 (01:29:23):
Like example, if he got away with something and you know,
and and let's just say some of the dudes like
you know, you know, like just like you know, like
their friends or whatever, he's gonna you know what I'm saying,
be jealous about it because he's gonna be thinking you know,
like yo, you know what I need her from? You
know what I'm saying. For me, that's it, you know,
Like I don't want that karma coming back to me.
You see what the jealousy kicks in, you know what

(01:29:44):
I'm saying, because of his conscience, his conscious is not cleaning,
so his jealousy will.

Speaker 4 (01:29:49):
Kicking right, okay, all right, and.

Speaker 7 (01:29:55):
I'm speaking I'm speaking that from experience right right right,
you know, okay, because you know what I've done. I've
done foul things like that, you know, and I'm not
proud of.

Speaker 4 (01:30:07):
It, but I've done it right Okay.

Speaker 7 (01:30:11):
You know I don't do it no more by the way,
you know, because like because like yo, you know what
first things?

Speaker 3 (01:30:19):
First is what my heart is.

Speaker 7 (01:30:20):
A Secondly, I'm too old for that, like living double
Like who that's time for that? Especially in social media,
you get caught quick, you know, Like social media made
it easy to see, it made it easier to get caught.

Speaker 3 (01:30:32):
String shots exist.

Speaker 7 (01:30:35):
Nah man, Nah, you know, like there's way I got
way too much you know what I'm saying, too much
good on my plate.

Speaker 3 (01:30:43):
For me to just throw it in the garbage right right.

Speaker 7 (01:30:45):
Like like yo, you know what, I got lobster and
shrimp on my plate. Why would I want to go
get a happy meal?

Speaker 4 (01:30:53):
Lobster and shrimp. I'm alergic to shellfish.

Speaker 3 (01:30:56):
Bro, just say yeah, bad, my bad. You know what?
All right? You know but I got steaking ribs.

Speaker 4 (01:31:03):
Now we're talking.

Speaker 3 (01:31:06):
Mill maybe yeah yeah.

Speaker 7 (01:31:07):
Yeah, right, So why would I want to go get
You know what I'm saying, A biggie bad for Monday's
You know what I'm saying.

Speaker 4 (01:31:16):
Like not for but those biggie bags be slamming bro.

Speaker 3 (01:31:20):
Yeah, but yo, you know what away from them?

Speaker 7 (01:31:25):
You know what, You're right, you're right, but like what's
more for feeling? You know what I'm saying This the
steak in the ribs.

Speaker 4 (01:31:31):
Or making the ribs? Bro, steaking the ribs man?

Speaker 3 (01:31:36):
You know? So?

Speaker 7 (01:31:37):
But but this, you know what I'm saying This this
woman right here, you know.

Speaker 4 (01:31:41):
I think I think she needs to sit back and
let it play out. I would let it play out
because I would need more information than just somebody like
you know what I'm saying, like, let's see what happens
the next time he goes out. You know what I'm saying,
I see if because if it happen is the next
time he goes out, is somebody close to him, bron,

(01:32:04):
then then you gotta look at and then you gotta
look at it surrounding surrounding who he keeps it in
his pocket, you know what I'm saying, like his boys, like.

Speaker 7 (01:32:13):
Or or you know what, or it's probably someone that
she knows that saw him. Yeah, tell him, but doesn't
know how to tell her because she is someone loved
and if she says something, she's gonna feel like, you know,
like she's being in the wedge within the relationship all

(01:32:33):
of a sudden, and they're going to have a fallen
out because you know, like like you know what, lady, happens.

Speaker 3 (01:32:39):
That happens, no offense.

Speaker 7 (01:32:41):
But like when women are in love, like really in
love with their man, you know what I'm saying, they
believe anything and everything he says, like like you know,
and they will defend that, you know, like like I've
seen it.

Speaker 3 (01:32:52):
I've seen it.

Speaker 7 (01:32:54):
So it's like they're gonna defend, you know what I'm saying, defended, like,
you know, to the ends of the earth.

Speaker 3 (01:32:58):
Like this dude could be like, Yo, the sky is
a purple hue.

Speaker 7 (01:33:03):
And she was like, yes it is, baby, No, damn well,
there's no purple hues in the sky. So it's like
that's the reason that's probably the reason why the the
post the message came anonymously.

Speaker 3 (01:33:17):
Right, you know.

Speaker 7 (01:33:19):
Right, So it's like so so either which way, you know,
like she got a warning shot, right, either which way,
she got a warning shot, So you know she better
be on the p's and q's.

Speaker 4 (01:33:34):
Yeah, well there it goes. That's what it is. With
that being said. Yeah, man, yeah, it's crazy.

Speaker 3 (01:33:48):
By the way, how's everybody summer so far? Some's coming
to an.

Speaker 4 (01:33:52):
I'm glad it's coming to it, and I can't wait
for next week football season.

Speaker 3 (01:33:56):
It's next week already, Yeah.

Speaker 4 (01:34:00):
Amanda says, But how is she gonna trust him the
next time he goes out with his colleagues?

Speaker 3 (01:34:07):
Well, you know what, wait real quick.

Speaker 7 (01:34:10):
I mean again, I'm not putting women down or nothing,
but women are great actors, actresses.

Speaker 3 (01:34:16):
They could play it off, you know.

Speaker 7 (01:34:17):
Like like you know, like like always like like for instance, right,
all she has to do is stroke his ego, right,
and he will leave like there's nothing wrong. That So
you have to do is stroke, just stroke to do
his ego. He will leave like there's nothing wrong or whatever.
But yeah, you know what, just keep you know what
I'm saying, keep an eye on it.

Speaker 3 (01:34:35):
You know what I'm saying. She has to yo, you
know what, she has to play the.

Speaker 7 (01:34:38):
Part, you know, right, Yo, you know what if you yo,
if you gotta catch you know what I'm saying, to
catch a wolf, you gotta be a wolf, you know,
like you gotta pay yo.

Speaker 3 (01:34:49):
You know what.

Speaker 7 (01:34:50):
Sometimes you gotta play the part. Yeah, as much as
it bothers you. But you know what, if you want
the truth, you gotta play the part. You gotta act.

Speaker 4 (01:34:59):
H Yep, yep. Absolutely well. With that being said. Once again,
with that being said, we're gonna close it out. I
want to thank all the fans of the show. Go
over to the to the fan page on Facebook. Man vote,

(01:35:20):
do what you gotta do to get that get those prizes.
You know what I'm saying. Thanks for coming by for
the night, hanging out with us for a little while.
You know how we do it here. You know, that's
dubs of Don Simon Phoenix. That's Lady g the glorious doctor.

Speaker 9 (01:35:40):
Doctor, doctor Doctor, I'm oh man, doctor Hank smash him
at your service.

Speaker 4 (01:35:59):
It's been another episode. This has been another episode of
This Might Her podcast, and Amanda says, you guys, have
a good night. Thank you Amanda, you.

Speaker 3 (01:36:11):
Know you have a good night as well.

Speaker 4 (01:36:13):
So with that being said, once again, I'm big holy On.
That's Lady G that's Simon Phoenix loves a down. And
you know how we do every single week. We're gonna
start doing it every single week. We're try and start
doing it every single.

Speaker 1 (01:36:25):
Week until we fall off again.

Speaker 4 (01:36:27):
Until we fall off again. Yeah, and then you know,
but anyway, I always remember that at some point this
might hurt. See, good night, everybody, good night, all right,
good night everybody. Night.

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