The Pre-Thanksgiving Shenanigans Episode Of 2024 (Recorded LIVE on 11-27-24)

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Speaker 1 (00:12):
The US says.

Speaker 2 (01:00):
Yes, Hey, except everybody. It's a big holdly on of

(02:21):
this my HERD podcast, not everything. Adjust a minute, what's up?
How's everybody doing. We're coming to you live from use
your imagination. You know how it is, you know how
we do it. I want to do a sound check
real quick. I don't have any of my co hosts

(02:44):
here yet. So anybody who's listening or watching the show
right now, can you confirm that you hear me? Can
anybody confirm that they hear me? Anybody? Can you hear me?

(03:08):
I mean, I'm assuming you can hear me. I'm just
gonna assume you can hear me. Hi, mannight, can you
hear me? I'm not sure yet, all right, so I'm

(03:39):
just trying to make sure I could. All right, Thank
you very much. I appreciate it. Thanks. So with that
being said, this is the twenty twenty four This Might
her Podcast pre Thanksgiving Shenanigan's episode, and none of my

(04:04):
co say yeah yet. So I guess for now it's
it's all about me, just about me right now. Okay,
so let's let's start off with some some bullshit, I

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guess you know. Let's see we have so all right,
So what what is everyone grateful for? What is it about,

(04:50):
you know, the holidays that makes you feel the way
you feel? Do you feel sad around the holidays? Do
you feel happy and giddy? Do you feel pissed off?
Like what the fuck? I hate the fucking holidays? Or
do you love the holidays? You know? Whatever? But what
is it that has you feeling the way you feel

(05:13):
about hollidays? Let's start off with thanksgiving? What do you
what are you thankful for? What are you grateful for?
What is it about? What is it going on in
your life that has you feeling grateful and thankful? Well,
as far as I'm concerned, I'm I'm grateful. I'm thankful

(05:39):
for my children. You know, I'm very thankful for my children.
I have great kids. The kids, the kids are just
fucking amazing. There's there's nothing, there's nothing that that I
There's nothing, there's nothing I can complain about. I got

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great kids, I got great grandkids, you know what I mean. Like,
it's it's just it's it's a it's a great feeling
to know that, you know, I I had a hand
in and helping them become, you know, the adults that

(06:20):
they are today, you know what I'm saying. Not only that,
but they love me once they're not to love you
know what I mean? What if they're not to love
about about me? You know? I think, I think that
I'm a I'm a great father, i think I'm a
great granddad, And I'm grateful and thankful for having them

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all in my lives in my life, you know, because
I don't know where I would be and what I
would be doing with myself if I didn't have, you know,
my kids as a part of my life, you know,
I mean, it's it's an amazing thing to be a parent,

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you know, two, to watch them grow and become the
adults that they are now, and knowing that you know
you you did your best to stick by them and

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make sure that they stood on the right path. And
it could be bumpy being a parent. The road can
be bumpy at times, but don't ever let that change
the fact that you still are a parent. You know,
it's it can be. It can be difficult knowing that

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you know your kids are struggling and your relationship with
them is struggling, But to be real about it, as
long as you continue to communicate with them and show
them that you care and that you love, you love them,
and you know you're you're you'll always be there for
them regardless. You know, they'll they'll always love you. You know,

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they'll always you know, look for you. And I want
to spend time with you. And you know, that's just
that's just how it is, you know, And that's that's
part of the that's part of that's part of life
and part of being a parent, you know. And I

(08:38):
never I'll never want to I'll never want to change
that about my life, you know. So with that being said,
none of my co hosts say here yet. Still I'm surprised,
But the show must go on, right, the show must

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go on. So let's talk about relationships. I want to
talk about a little bit about some relationships. I actually
have a fan advice question, but I'm gonna wait until
later on a little bit later on to discuss that.
But I want to I want to say something about

(09:23):
some relationships. You know, sometimes sometimes sometimes in relationships, you
find yourself struggling to you find yourself struggling internally, you know,

(09:44):
you find yourself going through things that you wish people understood,
especially your partner, you know, And sometimes you struggle, you know,
knowing that or feeling you're not knowing not us that's wrong,
Feeling that you know your your your partner doesn't have

(10:09):
your back, or feeling like your partner doesn't understand and
you know, you you find yourself struggling with that notion.
You know, but in all realness and in all actuality,
if you don't communicate that to your partner, how is

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your partner even gonna know that you're struggling with all
these things. That's why communication is actually pretty damn important
in a relationship. You know, if you can't, if you
can't communicate, what's the purpose of being with someone who

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who you you say you love and care for. You
gotta be you gotta you gotta have some kind of community.
You gotta have some kind of of a feel that
you know, you can trust in your partner enough to

(11:14):
know that they'll have your back, you know. And and
also another thing too, Stop stop the competing in relationships.
Competition in relationships, and it doesn't it Sometimes competition happens
when you don't even realize it's happening, you know what
I mean? Because competition in relationships, I mean, your woman's

(11:36):
success is your success, all right, and your success is
her success. You know what I mean? Like, why the
fuck are you guys competing with one another?

Speaker 3 (11:50):
Oh?

Speaker 2 (11:50):
I make more money than you do? Or you know,
I cook more than you do, or I do more
laundry than you do, or I sweep the floor more
than you do. I don't give a fuck what you do.
You know what I'm saying. Yeah, I could do all
that shit too, but we should be doing it together,
not competing against one another to figure out who's doing
more of what. You know what I mean? Stop competing

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because it's it's relationships. Aren't that complicated. They're not that
fucking complicated, you know what I mean. I mean, think
about it. Two people can lift the couch together, you
get it. Two people together can lift up a couch.
One person doing it alone might not be able to,

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but together.

Speaker 4 (12:43):
You can.

Speaker 2 (12:45):
So stop the fucking bullshit, stop the competing. Work together,
and maybe you should have worked the fuck out, you
know what I mean. You gotta work together, you know,
because if you if you don't work together in the relationship,

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she's just not gonna work out. You just might as
well fucking pack your bags and keep it moving. Seriously,
pack your fucking bags and keep it moving. If it's
not working, if you can't communicate, and if you can't
work together, keep it moving. You know what I mean,

(13:32):
that's actually a pretty dope passtag. Thank you for the
comment teamwork makes dreams work. That's dope. I get that.
I get that. I'm I'm, I'm I thank you. I
appreciate the comment. Yeah, it's true, teamwork makes dream work.

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That that that's that's that right there is actually what
it's all about. Team work and if you want your
dream to work, you need to have teamwork. That's so
fucking I gotta remember that hashtag. I'm gonna write that
ship down, pure it up. I'm gonna write that ship down.
That's actually a pretty dope hashtag. Thank you very much,

(14:17):
Thank you very much for that, for that. I appreciate that,
you know, And that's how it should be. You shouldn't.
You shouldn't, you should not. You really shouldn't feel that
you're alone in this ship, you know what I mean?
You really shouldn't be in a relationship if you feel alone,

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what's what's the purpose?

Speaker 4 (14:41):
Then?

Speaker 2 (14:42):
At that point, what actually happens to a person that
feels there alone? When they're not. I mean, I don't understand.
I don't understand what people are doing these days, you know,

(15:04):
and kind of think about it. I want to ask
you a question. I'm gonna ask the fans of whoever's listening,
whoever's watching, I'm gonna ask you a question. What's the
biggest what's your biggest reason? Okay, what's your biggest reason

(15:27):
for let's see no, let me let me, let me,
let me, let me. Let me rephrase that, let me
rephrase that. I'm sorry, I'll not forget. Let's not let's
not go there. I don't want to go there. But
I'm gonna I'm gonna tell you that. What's this? Okay,

(15:53):
I got in the comment here. Most people today don't
know how to work together. It's to fight again. It's
all the outside ship. I've been there, done that, and
get tired of fighting. So you settle at times. All right,
I see, I see where you're going with that. And

(16:16):
the problem. The problem is, all right, So the problem
is that when the outside world see what you gotta
do is in your in your relationship. This is this
is how I feel. It is my opinion. Now I'm
gonna I'm gonna be honest. I'm gonna bena be straightforward
with you. This is my opinion. When you're in a

(16:38):
relationship with someone, you know what I'm saying, and it's
and it's you and your and your dude, or you're
you and your lady or whatever it is, you have
to form a two handed circle a too, a two
handed two person circle. What that means is you and

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your partner are your own circle. You can't let the
outside ship fuck with your circle. You can't allow people
to come in to your into your circle and fuck
it up. If you can't have that that bond, you

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know what I'm saying, You can't. If you can't form
that circle without all the outside nonsense, it's never gonna work,
you know what I'm saying. I mean and another thing too,
You should never you should never settle, especially if they're
red flags. If they're fucking flags all over the place.

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You know what I'm saying, You gotta you gotta, you gotta,
you gotta nip that ship in the bud. You know
what I'm saying. Nip that ship in the butt and
be like, listen, you know you have the two in
your red flags. I can't I can't allow this ship
to continue, you know what I'm saying. I mean, it's
it's hard enough building a foundation with someone. It's hard

(18:05):
enough to understand what someone else is going through at times.
But you can't lose yourself in that process. You always
have to stay who you are. So what you do
is you get your partner sit down, like, listen, listen

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to me. If this is going to work, we have
to form a bond with one another. We have to
form a circle within ourselves and don't allow all the
outside nonsense to come to fuck in and fuck your
whole program up, especially when you love someone. When you

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love someone and you care about someone enough, you know,
you can't allow the outside nonsense to come in and
disrupt what you have. And you can't go out there
telling people your business too, because that allows them into
your circle. You understand I'm trying to say, Like, once

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you start, once you start telling people, listen, oh I
got a problem with this dude, or you know this,
or my lady or my or you know whatever, and
this is what we're going through. And you're allowing someone in.
You're opening the door for someone to come into your circle.

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You know what I mean, so whenever, whenever you you're
out there with your with with with your person, you
know understand that what you guys go through, you have
to go through it together, work on it together. And
if and if the other your partner isn't willing to
work at it, your partner isn't willing to to diminish

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some of the bullshit that you're going through, then it's
it's time. Is you can't settle, You can't settle for
less than what you feel your worth, Know your worth,
know your worst in the relationship, you know what I mean.
Don't sit there and and and and look at the

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red flags and like, don't don't don't sit there like
this it's a red flag. Don't sit there like that.
Don't sit there and say to yourself, up, just another
red flag. I'll deal with it. I'll fucking you know,
just let it ride. No, you can't fight for your relationship,

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you know what I mean. I mean, it's not it's
not difficult and it's not hard to fight for what
you feel you deserve. It's not that complicated to fight
for what you deserve right or wrong. Right, if you
feel you deserve a partner, that's gonna you know, build

(21:08):
that foundation with you, you know, build something that that
it's for use two two to build upon together. You know,
because the foundation, the foundation has been has been put down.
Now it's up to you and your partner to discard

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what it is you don't want in the in in
your on your foundation and add to the foundation. You
know what I mean?

Speaker 4 (21:47):
Hold on.

Speaker 2 (21:49):
I agree this relationship I'm in is very low key.
Photos here and there, but no one can be in
my business. I agree, your worth is real. Took me
a long time to love me. I will never settle
it again. I'm glad I caught this live. You're amazing.
I appreciate, thank you, thank you. I appreciate, I appreciate,

(22:15):
I appreciate the comment. You know what I'm saying. I
appreciate the fact that you're listening. You know what I'm saying.
We love our fans, We love we we love everybody.
You know what I'm saying. I really appreciate, we appreciate you.
You know what I mean. We appreciate, we appreciate the
love and support from all the fans. And you know

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we would we wouldn't be here, we wouldn't do what
we'd be doing. What we've been doing without you, guys,
So thank you, you know, appreciate it. So, like I
was saying, the foundation has been put down, so it's
up to you and your partner to be able to

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discard what you don't want on it. Don't well you
don't want to be built on it, what you want
built on it, you know. So you got to take
the time and and you take the time and the
effort to put in to build this foundation, you know
what I'm saying. And I gotta tell you, I gotta

(23:18):
tell you, I'll be honest with you. I don't know
where the fuck my cold, sir. I hope everybody's all right,
because I just hope everybody's good because I'm I'm I'm
really shocked that there's no one here but me right now.
But that's that. That's cool. That's cool. Y'all get to
hear me run my mouth and talk my ship. You know,

(23:40):
you just just not wash me, hold my hand and
laugh and ship most of the time. But anyway, that's
neither that. That's neither here nor that. So now I'm
going to get to I'm want to get to the
fan advice question. So hold on another question here, Okay,

(24:03):
so what do you do when the communication doesn't work?
You've expressed your needs and it feels like you're not
being heard. Okay, So as far as as what do
you do when the communication doesn't work, Sometimes people don't.

(24:31):
They don't they don't know how to communicate. Because if
they're not, if they don't know how to communicate with you,
there's some kind of you know, wall, some kind of obstruction,
you know what I'm saying. And when there's when there's

(24:52):
a lack of communication in a relationship, you know, there
needs to be some kind of conversation. You know, you
the person who who is the communicator, has to be
able to first of all, understand your partner. Understand that

(25:16):
if if they're not if the communication isn't working, get
them to a point where the communication. Get your partner
to a point where they understand what you're trying to say,

(25:37):
because understanding and communication go hand in hand, you know
what I'm saying, Because in order to in order to
to communicate certain things, your partner needs to understand what
you're trying to say. If they have no if they
have no understanding about what what what it is you're
trying to communicate. Then there there's that's definitely a red

(26:02):
flag that tells me that either that tells me that
either your partner or whoever it is, hold the hold on,
hold up, hold the hold up. Words don't mean all right,

(26:25):
Words don't mean shit. Actions speak loud. Nine ninety people
in a relationship. All they do is talk and lie.

Speaker 4 (26:31):
No.

Speaker 2 (26:31):
Actions don't tell me, show me that's You're absolutely right,
you're absolutely right. But I mean, if you want someone
to show you something, you know what I'm saying. I mean,
I'm pretty sure. Uh, I mean you you you want

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to know what's going on. You definitely want to know
what's going on. I can tell you, you know what
I'm saying, what I'm about to do. I can tell
you and show you what I'm about to do. You
know what I'm saying. But if it's if it's not,
if it's not known you know what what is about
to happen, then you could be you can be simply
be caught off guard. It all depends, It all depends.

(27:16):
There are people out there that that that that feel
that words don't mean ship, which is true. A lot
of words don't mean shit. I can fucking sit here
and I can say to you I care about you.
I can say that ship from here to to to
till the end of time. But if I don't take
the time to show you that I care about you,

(27:38):
what fucking good is it? You're absolutely correct, You're right.
And if you're if if you're sitting there listening to
someone blab away, you know what I'm saying, trying trying
to to get you to understand that communication needs to
be had, communication needs to be understood, and you're not

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understanding where they're coming from, You're not understanding what it
is they're trying to say. What's the fucking use? At
some point understanding needs to be part of what you're communicating.
And also, as far as J. L. Garcia is concerned,
don't tell me, show me. And that makes a lot

(28:25):
of sense too, because when you're trying to communicate with
someone and you want them to understand, you know what
I mean, show them, show them what you're getting at,
show them what it is you're trying to accomplish in
this relationship, you know what I mean. It's not that
it's not that complicated. Showing somebody something and telling somebody

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something are definitely two different things. But you need to
do both with some people. Some people just don't understand
what the fuck it is you're trying to get at,
you know, And and that's that's just that I'm I'm really,
I'm really, I'm really caught off guard here because I'm

(29:12):
I'm just called a little bit off guard. I'm just
I'm just saying, I'm I love I love all the
all the all the chat in the chat room I got,
I love it. Keep bringing it on, keep bringing it.
Let me get to this, let me get to this
fan advice. So we gotta, we gotta. We got an email.

(29:34):
I'm a fan of the show, and it reads this.
My handwriting is fucking chicken scratch. I didn't get to
print the fucking thing out, so I had to fucking
scribble it out right. We went on a double date
and she got drunk and she started running her mouth.
She started running her mouth about our sex issues to

(29:59):
our friend that we were on a double date with.
How should I handle the situation and how should I
let her know that it was fucked up what she did?

Speaker 3 (30:12):
All right?

Speaker 2 (30:14):
So all right, hold on, I gotta the most people
don't realize that we don't take the opportunity to do
a personal inventory about themselves. Do a personal inventory about themselves.
Most people don't realize that we don't take the opportunity
to do a personal inventory about themselves. Okay, yeah, you're right,

(30:38):
a personal personal inventory should be done. Hell you, everyone's
to know why. You gotta get that mental roller deck
is going. You gotta get that you got. You gotta
do an inventory about shit. You know what I'm saying.
The voices, the voices in my head, the voices in
my head, they do an inventory all the time. The
voices in my head, they always do an inventor and

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they always let me know how many fucks to give
I have left. Sometimes I don't have any, Sometimes I
have a few, sometimes I don't have any at all,
and sometimes I have one or two. So if they
don't do the inventory and how many fucks I have
to give, it's up to you to fuck around and

(31:22):
find out there you have it. But anyway, back to this,
back to this. So, so you go on a double
date and your lady starts drinking and gets sloppy and
starts running her mouth about your sex life. That is
pretty fucked up. Like I said, you know, you first

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of all, when you have when you have that bond
that you know two handed or handed circle, what the
fuck it is to two couples four hands a circle?
Whatever you know, you have your thing. You should never
gossip about your person. Never ever gossip about your person ever.

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If you really feel like you need to gossip about
your partner to your friends and to your family and
to whoever the fuck else, always remember that once you
push shit out there like that about them, once you
start running your mouth about them, it's out there. That's it.
It's out there, especially if you're talking about your sex

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life with your friends. First of all, shit like that
should not be told or spoken about ever to anyone,
because that's allowing the nonsense to come into your life,
to come into your relationship. Not your life, well your
life too, but come into your relationship. You don't want

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that shit. You don't ever want fucking anyone to know
what your what your sexual issues are. It's like if
you it's like, you go ahead and your lady was drinking, right,
what the fuck was she drinking? She must have been
really fucked up. If she's talking to another couple about
your sexual issues. I mean, I don't know what the fuck.

(33:21):
You know, she could have possibly be saying, but it
sounds to me like you're pretty upset about it. I'm
not gonna. I didn't write everything down that that you
wrote because I kind of I kind of understood where
you were going. But you should never you should never
run your mouth about your partner.

Speaker 4 (33:35):
Man.

Speaker 2 (33:36):
It's fucking terrible. It's terrible. Never run your mouth about
your partner, especially when it comes to intimate shit. Okay,
especially when it comes to intimacy. You should never take
that shit to therapy. You know what I'm saying, Take
that shit to therapy. You know what I'm saying, take

(33:59):
that shit to fuck can forget it. I already know
who the fuck this is. You know what I'm saying.
It's terrible that you could sit there and comment, but
you can't sit there and handle your business. Right, I'm
not gonna. I'm even gonna. I'm not even gonna put
your comment on the screen. Be you got some fucking
nerve anyway, anyway, Yeah, never talk Never talk shit about

(34:29):
your partner.

Speaker 5 (34:30):
Man.

Speaker 2 (34:30):
That's not only the disrespectful, but it's respectful. It's disrespectful
to your fucking relationship. All right, hold on I'm gonna
bring in lady g now, doc doorter.

Speaker 4 (34:45):
Hello, Hi, Sorry, I'm late.

Speaker 6 (34:54):
I was dealing with some teenage angst.

Speaker 2 (34:59):
Okay, okay, so how how are you good?

Speaker 6 (35:05):
I heard you cursing? What's going on?

Speaker 2 (35:08):
I mean it's it's it's popping here tonight?

Speaker 6 (35:11):
Here? Where is everybody else?

Speaker 2 (35:15):
Gg? Love was stopping for Thanksgiving stuff? Should be here
in a bit. And and Doves is I don't know
what's up with Dubs. He's not I guess he's not
feeling well or whatever.

Speaker 6 (35:25):
Okay, well I ain't. You ain't gotta worry about me
shopping for no Thanksgiving stuff?

Speaker 2 (35:29):
Uh?

Speaker 6 (35:30):
Why is that just me and myself?

Speaker 2 (35:33):
And I a word?

Speaker 5 (35:35):
Yeah?

Speaker 2 (35:37):
Damn? Oh hold on, we got some here. This might
be an unpopular opinion, but okay, actually let me let
me just give you what.

Speaker 6 (35:49):
You were doing. Yeah, I'm sorry.

Speaker 2 (35:51):
Guys, it's cool. No, because there was a we got
a comment like an email and the guy fan he
wanted he wanted to ice. He said him and his
lady went out on a double date. She got his
drunk and started running her mouth about their sexual issues.

(36:11):
Oh so he wanted some kind of advice on how
to how to handle that. So well, I hold on,
just really quick, let me do this.

Speaker 6 (36:33):
Oh there's there's.

Speaker 3 (36:37):
Oh man, sick as a dog right now?

Speaker 6 (36:40):
Then why are you here dying?

Speaker 3 (36:43):
Because you know what, if I'm gonna die, I'd rather
die with you guys than die.

Speaker 2 (36:48):
But you know, all right, so so so all right,
so whatever yeah right, yeah, mute, m yeah, think whenever
you're gonna throw up or something. So he wanted some
advice on how to handle this. You, so I was
what I was saying was it's not it's not cool.

(37:09):
All right, hold on, we got the unpopular opinion. But
you should be a man. You should be mad enough
to handle the situation appropriately, meaning you should be able
to handle the conversation, change the conversation and speak to
your partner privately.

Speaker 6 (37:25):
I'm with you midnight because number one, first of all,
and only, I really hate to say that, I'm familiar
with this type of a situation. The thing is, if
she's saying something, it's because there's an issue.

Speaker 4 (37:43):
There's a problem.

Speaker 6 (37:45):
So number one, are you handling the business at hand?
Number two, Yeah, you should be able to have this
conversation with your partner. And I mean, if she's not
receptive to that, then you need to be thinking about
why she definitely needs a talking to. Not only is

(38:10):
it disrespectful, but it's also self damaging. Every couple needs
a healthy and safe space to express themselves in a
comfortable space. True. True, Yeah, So I mean it also
depends on what kind of relationship you have, you know,

(38:32):
time and place, definitely. Yeah. But also at the same time,
people are different, right, and so what one person feels
is inappropriate, somebody else might actually be okay with. So
it all depends Hey, tgy, So it all depends on

(38:52):
your relationship. I mean, and that's the thing. We can
give whatever advice we like to, but we don't know
the relationship. We don't know if that's something that's always
been that way. Yeah, but that's where community midnight, that's
where communication comes in again. Some some couples are good

(39:13):
with that. Some couples are like, yeah, I don't care,
it doesn't bother me. Other people are like, no, keep
everything that we do private and confidential. But also if
you're communicating with one another, that wouldn't even be an.

Speaker 2 (39:27):
Issue, right, absolutely, absolutely, Yeah, So I'm gonna be honest
with you. I'm gonna be honest with all, for all
three of y'all. I was. I started, I did, I did.
The first half hour, I was fucking drowning. I was

(39:50):
fucking drowning. I was like, oh my god. I was like, Yo,
where is everybody? I was like help in my head,
I was screaming. The voices in my head will like.

Speaker 5 (40:00):
YO, where the fuck is everybody?

Speaker 2 (40:01):
Oh my god, you better say something quick. I was.
I was. I did a pretty good.

Speaker 3 (40:06):
Job, though, I just I just have to go on
YouTube and I shot to a message to let you know,
you know what I'm saying that let's call it. I'm not,
you know, like I'm not. I'm out of it right now.
But I'm here, all right.

Speaker 2 (40:26):
So so what I what I wanted, what I wanted
to do was actually I wanted to I wanted to
start the show bye bye. I did it myself, actually,
but I wanted to go around the room and and
ask everybody what it is, you know, Thanksgiving being tomorrow,
what it is they're thankful for? You know what I'm saying.

(40:47):
So I'm gonna start. I could, I could. I can
see that that TG wants to get in on the
conversation so badly, so what do you think before and
let's let's keep it non political.

Speaker 4 (41:06):
Easy. Oh my god. First I was going to say
black men, definitely, thankful for them. Uh, I don't know.

(41:27):
There's a lot of things to be thankful for. I
guess I'm just thankful to be alive at this point.
That's That's where I'll leave it. I'm alive, thankful, alive, here,
still here.

Speaker 2 (41:47):
So yeah, all right, I got cool. That's cool. That's cool.
Lady G. What are you thankful for?

Speaker 6 (41:57):
Well, I'm actually thankful for my life. H No matter
how bad I think or feel things are, I know
they could be so much worse. I'm thankful for my children,
my granddaughter. I am thankful for everything that's ever happened

(42:19):
in my life, good, bad, or indifferent, because at the
end of the day, it's all made me the person
that I am. So I'm just, you know, kind of
like TG, I'm thankful I get to see another thanksgiving.
You know, there's a lot going on in this world
right now. Yeah, I'm just I'm just thankful for the day.

Speaker 2 (42:44):
Nice. Nice Simon Phoenix, what about you.

Speaker 3 (42:50):
I'm thankful for Walmart sales. I'm thankful for the PS
five I'm just playing. I'm just playing. Yeah yeah, but yeah,
before I am thankful that we want to Walmart today
because yo, we got the mister Racial doll for the baby.
It was the last one two hours to get it.

(43:10):
Now we snatched it or whatever, like, yo, not because
because because you know what, we went there for food
and stuff, right, so that you know what I'm saying.
I was like, yo, you walk around real quick, and
I saw it was Rachel doll. That was the last one,
and I'm like, I ain't coming for that. But then
I was like, my daughter loves miss Rachel. We're taking it.

(43:31):
Snatched it, right. But besides that, I mean, no, honestly,
I'm thankful that that, Like my family and friends are good,
you know, everything positive and negative, you know what I'm saying.
I'm even thankful for the negative stuff because it ships
ship stuff there. I'm thankful for the negative because how
would you know what positive it is? We'd been through
nothing negative? Like it's like having people, you know, how

(43:54):
why would you know what piece is? We didn't if
you didn't never experienced war.

Speaker 5 (43:58):
Mm hmmm.

Speaker 3 (44:00):
All right, So I'm thankful for that, and you know,
I pray for my people that locked to some tolerance. Tomorrow,
Tomorrow's the day, you know what I'm saying, take your pills.
It's a small it's a small price to pay for salvation,
but you will pay, yes, you will. And I'm thankful
for my toilet because my toilet is going to be

(44:21):
on fire tomorrow, right.

Speaker 4 (44:25):
Guy, Seriously, take some medicine.

Speaker 3 (44:30):
You know, like I'm thankful for ice cream, small price
to paper for salvation. You know, after tomorrow it's gonna
be a twenty four hour poopa thon bro bro Bro.
You know, by the time I'm done. If anyone's seen

(44:51):
the Game of Thrones, the iron throwne is going to
be the toilet.

Speaker 2 (45:00):
I'm just I'm just gonna really quick go over what
I said, because I did this in the beginning of
the show. I'm grateful and thankful for my children, for
my grandchildren. I'm I'm I'm I'm so grateful, thankful and
proud of the kids, the grandkids, the fact that I'm

(45:24):
a part of their lives, the fact that they're a
part of mine, you know. And I'm just I'm grateful
for for every everything I have. Right now, you know
what I'm saying, and you guys especially you know what
I'm saying, especially for coming through at the right time,
because I was I was like, yo, I got I

(45:47):
was like, I have I have I have ship that
that that we're going to talk about and discuss. But
I started to I was like, yo, I gotta slow
it down. I gotta slow it down. I gotta I
gotta fill up this time because they're not here with
me right now. Oh my god. But I did a
good job. You guys would be proud. So with that,
with that, with that being said, this is this is

(46:09):
this is something else that I wanted to talk about
right quick, right besides besides that is it, this is
my This is my question. Is it controlling okay to
have standards for yourself in a relationship?

Speaker 6 (46:31):
No, because your standards are what you are and are
not willing to put up with. Basically, that's again communication.
I'm gonna say that every day you have to have
standards because if you don't have standards, then people are
just going to.

Speaker 4 (46:50):
Be crossing all over you everywhere.

Speaker 6 (46:55):
What is that teaching? Oh no, no, we aren't talking
about Yeah, like, you have to have standards. Now, how
strict your standards are is up to you, there has
to be compromise. But the thing is, that's that's what
relationships are about. It's about two people who fit together.

Speaker 2 (47:16):
All right. So so say, for instance, you decide you're
going to be exclusive, like say, for instance, if you're
going to be in an exclusive relationship, right, So is it
is it controlling to have expectations? Especially?

Speaker 1 (47:40):
No?

Speaker 2 (47:41):
No, let me finished, let me finish boy, all right?
So all right, so it's not especially if you if
you're going to prioritize a person in multiple ways. It's
not you're saying that, it's not. It's not controlling.

Speaker 6 (48:03):
No, Because again, each of us has to be self
aware enough I see U TG. Each one of us
has to be self aware enough about ourselves to be
able to communicate and put out on the table what
our expectations are, and the same for the other person.

(48:24):
It's when you put those things on the table, only
you can decide whether you're willing to live with the
other person's expectations. If not, then that's possibly that person
is not compatible with you. Because everybody has their own values,
their own priorities. Like for me, consistency is a big

(48:47):
deal for some people, it's not so for me. That
is an expectation that I put down on the table
because it's really an important value to me. Now, if
somebody can't meet I'm not trying to be controlling. It
has nothing to do with being controlling. It's about what
I need, what I want, what I prefer. If that

(49:08):
person can't meet that need, that's up to them to
decide that this relationship wouldn't be for them, and vice versa.

Speaker 2 (49:19):
TG I don't know.

Speaker 4 (49:22):
I just think the question is weird. I don't understand it, honestly,
Like it doesn't make sense to me, like controlling in
what way there has to be a specific thing that
you're asking to think something is controlling because everybody has
boundaries and everybody has, like she said, expectations or standards

(49:46):
or whatever you want to call it. A the other
person that you're with. Can you have too many?

Speaker 5 (49:52):
Yes?

Speaker 4 (49:53):
Can some of them be ridiculous? Surely? Are there women
out there that have ridiculous expectations? Yes? And a lot
of really good men get overlooked because they see they
don't see past certain things that they may want specifically.
And I think that, like relationships of any kind, even friendships,

(50:17):
take work, like the communication runs both ways. If you're
not talking to each other, then are you really friends?
You know what I'm saying, Like there there has to
be a level of uh, I guess understanding to know

(50:37):
if you're compatible with somebody in that sense, like if
like I don't think someone even if you're exclusive, if
you need to be checking in what someone constantly, like
regardless or even if I'm married and I have to
be checking in with someone constantly, that to me's a
red flag, Like there's are in things I don't know,

(51:01):
Like that's why I'm asking, Like what are you asking specifically,
because that's such a broad question, like controlling can be
like what does that mean to you? Like I need
to know more, I guess to be able to truly
answer the question.

Speaker 2 (51:22):
Right, Okay.

Speaker 3 (51:25):
Expectations like expectations, man, like they I think that they
think they kind of like you know what I'm saying,
put a lot of pressure. That's why, like you know, like,
like you know what I'm saying, Like I don't expect
from nothing. You know what I'm saying, Surprise me, you
know what I'm saying.

Speaker 6 (51:44):
Are you serious? You're lying?

Speaker 4 (51:46):
Though everyone has expectations of some God, you you have
expectations that the person is either going to be affection
or not if you're having or not.

Speaker 6 (52:00):
Night so many things.

Speaker 3 (52:02):
Yeah, that's surprising me, that's all. You know what I'm saying.

Speaker 4 (52:06):
No cool, He's basically just but sure you would saying
nonsense of like she has to be like this, looking
like this, doing this, have.

Speaker 3 (52:24):
A car, that's all that's always to get. But like
you know what I'm saying, But like but like yo,
you know what man, Like that's all some superficial ship though,
you know what I'm saying, Like that's just for optics,
you know what I mean, Like that's just like, oh, I
want to have a trophy walking out of my arm
in the street and ship, you know what I mean?
Like that don't even mean that, don't mean nothing today,
you know what I'm saying, Because like, you can look

(52:45):
good all you want, but twenty years from now, you
know what I'm saying, You're gonna look like dog shit
like everybody else.

Speaker 6 (52:51):
You know what. I hear a lot of guys say
that that, you know, even like the Tiktoks and on
the we All book and all that stuff. I hear
all these guys talking about how I hate men you know,
men should you know, value these certain types of women
and all this kind of stuff. But that's not necessarily.

Speaker 3 (53:15):
About the Red Hill community. So what you know, there's
a yes, there was a community called the Red Hill community,
right that you know what I'm saying that that they
faked it to they make it trying to talk like
the alpha males, but like if you really got to
call yourself out all the time, you're more like a
beta male to me, you know what I'm saying, Like
like you know, like you're more like you know, like

(53:37):
like you're talking this alpha stuff, but you're a bitch.
You know what I'm saying, Like I see right through you.
You know what I'm saying, just by the minute, just
by the way you talk, like you know, like these
are guys I think they think they're the smartest ones
in the room when they're not. You know what I'm
saying is that you know, like they split like this.
You had a rhetoric about you know what I'm saying,

(53:58):
how to be a better man, how to be alpha male?
You know what I'm saying, how you know, high value bullshit.

Speaker 2 (54:03):
Blah blah blah blah blah.

Speaker 3 (54:05):
Right, and yet they turned around. You know what I'm saying,
They know they you know what, they call each other slims,
they call people slims. Somewhat I would just to turn
around and pregnate you know what I'm saying, only fan,
only fan, you know what I'm saying, women? You know,
so like who's something there? You know, like so like yeah,

(54:28):
that that's what you probably heard it from. But like
but like you know what, like like you know, like
like see, like what messes things up today is that
it's everyone Like most people are vain, you know what
I mean, Like they just look at beauty from what
it is at the outside, like, yeah, that's a beautiful house,

(54:50):
but inside of all the prepity mm hmm. I think
of that plenty of times. With that.

Speaker 2 (54:56):
So so with that, with that, with that being said,
you know what I'm saying, with that, feeding off of that,
what do you think is the biggest reason for the
failures in relationships? I mean lack of.

Speaker 6 (55:09):
Communication and people are not committing, they're not doing the work.
When it gets hard, they run away. Okay, they're not
willing to do a real relationship.

Speaker 3 (55:25):
Does not does it not? All leads down to a
lack of communication, though yeah, but.

Speaker 2 (55:29):
I think I think personally that's a lack of effort too.
I think I don't think. I don't think it's cheating.
Cheating that that's one thing. Finances that's another thing. Even
even a death or something can can cause issues. And

(55:50):
communication is definitely a problem. But uncommunicated expectations.

Speaker 6 (55:57):
Yes, are even bigger, are even bigger. Instance, somebody might
have like, like I said, like I was talking about
the consistency my expectation. I'm not saying you need to
talk to me every five minutes, but I need you
to be consistent if you if we're gonna talk on
a daily basis, then we need to keep up that
daily basis. It could be five minutes, it could be

(56:19):
an hour, it doesn't matter. But all of a sudden,
you're gonna go days without speaking to me. First of all,
if you say you like me or you're in love
with me or whatever, and you can go days.

Speaker 2 (56:30):
Without talking to me, your season, honey.

Speaker 6 (56:34):
Yes, yeah, my season is done seasoning. Yeah, my season's over.

Speaker 3 (56:42):
I have a question. What happens if he's lost in
a pine balance?

Speaker 2 (56:46):
Right?

Speaker 3 (56:46):
You know what I'm saying, He's being chased by two mobsters, right.

Speaker 6 (56:49):
You know what, let me tell you something. I could
tell you stories of people, like the stories people have
told me that I literally have to sit back and
be like, really, are are you absolutely that?

Speaker 4 (57:07):
Like?

Speaker 6 (57:07):
Are you that unlucky that your life is just life?
In like that?

Speaker 1 (57:11):
Like?

Speaker 5 (57:13):
Yo, you know what?

Speaker 3 (57:15):
Please please share some I want to laugh.

Speaker 2 (57:19):
We'll do we'll do a storytime in a bit. But
I want to talk about these uncommunicated expectations.

Speaker 4 (57:26):
Yes, all right, I think.

Speaker 2 (57:29):
You need to be specific.

Speaker 6 (57:31):
Yeah, you have to say I expect you know whatever
it might be, So it could be uh, your level
of affection.

Speaker 4 (57:39):
For me.

Speaker 6 (57:40):
I feel like I have a lot of good qualities,
but one that I truly truly struggle with is oh
thank you Valerie. Uh one that I true truly truly
struggle with. And I think it has a lot to
do with my inattentive ADHD is I am messy. I

(58:05):
I as much as I try, as much as I
put things into place, as many tools as I use,
I am disorganized. Right, So the expectation that could really
mess up a relationship because my expectation is if that

(58:25):
is something that's truly important to you, I'm gonna still
give my effort. But I'm also hoping and expecting that
if that's a number one thing for you, that you're
gonna help me to maintain that that I'm not gonna
be doing that all by myself. But also, like I
had talked about when I was married, I cook and

(58:48):
clean whatever I clean. I do whatever I do out
of love, affection, care. Right, But once it becomes someone's expectation,
that is difficult for me, you know, because it's like
I like to be led in a relationship. I like
the man to.

Speaker 2 (59:06):
To lead lead you to the kitchen. Right.

Speaker 6 (59:09):
No, you know what, don't even start. That's the first
time I have ever heard you say that.

Speaker 4 (59:15):
That's a thing to say. He threw us off completely, Wow.

Speaker 6 (59:27):
Because you didn't let me spinis.

Speaker 2 (59:28):
You set yourself up.

Speaker 4 (59:34):
I didn't.

Speaker 3 (59:38):
That was that was to shad.

Speaker 2 (59:51):
All right right around? All right?

Speaker 5 (01:00:00):
Oh my god?

Speaker 6 (01:00:02):
But leading, Yes, No, feel free to continue your conversation.

Speaker 2 (01:00:14):
It's a Ananigans show. We have to have some kind of.

Speaker 6 (01:00:19):
Shenana against We have shenanigans all the time.

Speaker 2 (01:00:26):
The show.

Speaker 4 (01:00:27):
From so, I'm very quiet because I'm trying to be
nice to let people speak. Okay, I'm a nice person.
What's funny is I say that in the background? My look?
My husband laughs, that's what's funny. I know, He's like, yeah, right,

(01:00:49):
bitch uh I feel yes, I already don't even know
what we were talking about because of the laughing stuff.

Speaker 3 (01:01:01):
And I have.

Speaker 4 (01:01:02):
ADHD too, so oh it was the messy and being
there for the person. So piggying back off of that
actually is like love languages, right, Like everybody has a
specific love language, and I think it's important for your
partner to know what your love language is because if

(01:01:24):
you are someone who expects gifts, if you are someone
who expects affection or being thought of or whatever they are,
because there's a few, right, like, your partner should be
able to know that. And also what does it look

(01:01:45):
like to help me? Like I suffer from you know,
depression and PTSD and anxiety and a bunch of stuff,
and that one is crazy, so it's too crazy as
living together that doesn't help, But it's having a partner

(01:02:09):
who knows what support looks like what does it mean
for me to be able to support you when you're
crying and you're upset? Do I come to you, do
I hold you? Or maybe you're somebody who wants space,
you want to like go through it on your own,

(01:02:31):
and when you're ready, you come to me and talk
about it. So I think those are things that people
don't talk about enough. And also sex, people don't talk
about what they want in bed, and that's why I
let people cheat too, because you're only talking about how
nasty you want it in the bedroom, And the truth is,

(01:02:51):
like you should your partner should be that sexual partner
for you too. Like I never understand people who are
with somebody and like they want certain things in the bedroom,
but like I guess their partner doesn't, and yet they

(01:03:15):
go out and look for it from someone else because
their partner doesn't want to do it. And I'm like, why,
looks like you got that bitch though, because it doesn't
make sense to me that you will be with somebody
who doesn't want to fulfill the needs that you have
in these different ways. Emotionally, supporting and sexually, those are

(01:03:39):
very important in an intimate relationship and having intimacy outside
of sex. These are all things I think that are
like really important when we're talking about having a meaningful
relationship with somebody, if it's gonna be a committed relationship,
then you're going to continue to work on Then both

(01:04:00):
people need to understand what that looks like. And if
one person has these crazy ass expectations any other person's
like but like, oh, I didn't know that, Like I'm
not okay with that, you know, Like these are conversations.
I'm like, yeah, maybe you he's really cute and you

(01:04:20):
know you like the way you look when you're with him,
or certain things about him and in bed, But outside
of that, what I saw that bed, No, I was
I wander, my eyes wander. I am not looking at
anyone specifically, don't be like lie. So I just think

(01:04:48):
it's important, Like I think these are things like also,
these these are the mistakes that I've made in the past.
So it's like now going forward, it's like, I know
what I want in my partner. You know, I need
a partner who's understanding, a partner who gets that.

Speaker 5 (01:05:05):
You know.

Speaker 4 (01:05:06):
I'm not lazy. I just I have moments and and
things are hard for me. Like sometimes I can't admit
that to myself, Like this ship is a lot harder
for me than I thought it was going to be.
Like keeping what does that say? Not you? But yeah,

(01:05:34):
I don't know like, I don't get how people have
this expectation of having this long lasting, loving relationship when
they both are not willing to put in what each
partner needs in that relationship. And can finances kill a relationship, yes,
because that's a big part of having a life together,

(01:05:59):
so well obviously that's important too, like being on the
same page with shit, If you're both spenders and nobody
saves money, y'all fucked, so.

Speaker 2 (01:06:10):
Like you know, what, what's your name? What's your credit score?

Speaker 5 (01:06:15):
Right?

Speaker 4 (01:06:16):
Like, but that also shouldn't be like the reason why
you shouldn't be with somebody if somebody has like a
low credit score and they have a job at like
some mediocre place or whatever, Like, who gives a fuck?
This person is working, they're doing something, they are trying.
If you talk to this person and this person talks

(01:06:37):
ambitiously like they have plans or they actually want to
do things, that's the person I want to keep talking
to because it's telling me that they are not happy
and content where their life is now. So that to
me says like, oh they want more, so that that
would make me in turn happy, Like, well, shit, well

(01:06:58):
they want more. They know that I want more. Let's
keep digging in and seeing where this goes. I feel
like people don't do that enough. But T but TG.

Speaker 6 (01:07:08):
At the same time, there are some people who talk
that game but don't really mean it, like like a
lot of like.

Speaker 4 (01:07:15):
I agree with, okay, but the communication has to be honest.

Speaker 6 (01:07:19):
Yes, honesty, that's the thing, because I've heard plenty of
people talk about ambition and then it's like they spend
the next six months sitting on a sofa.

Speaker 4 (01:07:29):
Action speak louder than words. Right, Oh yeah, so we
say I say this unfortunately I'm bringing it up. But
even with Trump, he's showing you who he is. People
are showing they show you who you they are. We
choose to ignore it. There's so many unfortunate people out there.

(01:07:51):
We got like these women that are with these guys
that are severe red flags or women with severe red flags,
and it's like, what are you doing? Like this isn't good.
And I know because I've done it myself, Like I've
gotten scammed not once but twice and it's not even
something I talk about because it really fucked me up.

(01:08:14):
So it's like it's important to communicate, and you know,
also be careful of people who love bomb.

Speaker 3 (01:08:23):
There are people out.

Speaker 4 (01:08:25):
There who love to tell you that, oh you're the one.
Ooh you're you know, you're special, You're you know. I
can see us being like, way too soon, you telling
me you loved me a couple of days after we met.
I'm like, calm down, like what, Like, we don't even
know each other. So it's important to communicate and be

(01:08:46):
honest with the communication. Obviously, you can't be talking shit
and then not do anything about it. You have to
come through in some way. And like you said before
with the cleaning, and I get it. I mess as hell.
My husband's room looks like a crime scene. Like no,
like dexter like clean, you know what I'm saying, Like

(01:09:08):
everything has its Please, if there was like something on
the floor, you could see it from a mile away
because it shouldn't be there, you know. And my room
is a shit show. So it's and it's tough because
it affects me too. It affects you seeing your masking it.
And it gets overwhelming, right, And that's the issue is

(01:09:31):
the cycle, Right, it gets overwhelming and then and then
I could, I could, I could be like, bitch, you
did this, but she didn't.

Speaker 3 (01:09:39):
She didn't do it.

Speaker 4 (01:09:41):
I'm self aware and I take ownership of my bad stuff,
and that's one of the things, is my mess. And
I have good intentions, I really do, just like you do.
Like you were saying, good intentions to do more, and
I'm doing it little by little. It's not happening as
fast as I wanted to happen, but I'm getting there.
And then when I do do the things, I remind

(01:10:03):
myself like, see how good this feels? Like this does
feel better. So it's like I think, too, we have
crazy expectations for ourselves, Like I have this expectation that
in one weekend, miraculously I'm going to clean my whole
room and all my boxes are going to be gone.
Like no, this is like years of shit. So it's

(01:10:24):
it's like, no, you have to just take it a
day at a time and just try something. I feel
I'm a big believer that if you're trying something a
little bit every day, just something anything, getting up, showering, whatever,
it is, as long as you're getting up and trying
to do the things that matters, you know. See, I

(01:10:47):
shut up, and now I've talked.

Speaker 3 (01:10:49):
There you go, yeah, GG spoke, Yes.

Speaker 4 (01:10:57):
I didn't even read any of the comments, and then
I'm afraid to go read them and then somehow leave
because I've done that too many times when I'm on
the phone. And then I told that I didn't pay
my bills, and I'm like, well, maybe I didn't, maybe
I did it this time.

Speaker 5 (01:11:15):
I don't know if I paid my bills this time.

Speaker 2 (01:11:19):
Oh man, all right, So that that that that was
very clear, very precise.

Speaker 1 (01:11:26):
And.

Speaker 4 (01:11:28):
Yeah, it's I think it's important with the controlling. It's
knowing the red flags. Though, what what does controlling look
like to you?

Speaker 6 (01:11:36):
You know, like like we were saying, yeah, and that's
the purpose of the communication and putting those expectations out there.
I have an example though, and I think I talked
about it before someone that I had met, and.

Speaker 4 (01:11:51):
You know, like we really didn't talk.

Speaker 6 (01:11:56):
Yeah, expectations do fluctuate, you know, somebody that I was
talking to, and we really didn't have the opportunity to
have an expectation conversation only because he worked in a
whole other state and would only come back home once
every couple of months or whatever. But expectations are what

(01:12:21):
each individual needs once and you know requires So he
one of his expectations, and of course we eventually got
there because he kept asking he wanted daily pictures, you know,
so like for him, that was an expectation, and it

(01:12:44):
was like, you know, they start to become provocative and
things like that, And for me, that's a no go.

Speaker 4 (01:12:51):
That's that's a.

Speaker 6 (01:12:53):
I'm not putting any any body parts or nothing out
there on the internet, sending them via text or none
of that kind of stuff.

Speaker 4 (01:13:03):
Yeah, I don't have a red flag. I'm going to
roll that through. When I hear any red flag ship,
I'm gonna be like yeah.

Speaker 6 (01:13:17):
And and so you know, for him, he's like, well
that that is what I require of a relationship. Is
because I work in another state and don't see you know,
whoever I'm talking.

Speaker 4 (01:13:30):
To, you don't have trust me, because that's literally what
he's saying.

Speaker 6 (01:13:37):
No, he's saying that he wants provocative pictures of me
more than once a day so he can take care
of whatever he needs to take care of. The issue
is I have issues taking provocative pictures and sending them
the people. For me, that's a no go. That's not
like that's a hard line for me. That's that's that

(01:14:00):
borderline abusive to me, and he could not, and there
was no compromise.

Speaker 4 (01:14:08):
You know, I don't care who lives o the country.
Yeah you were not.

Speaker 6 (01:14:13):
You can store, we could, we can even be married.
I'm not sending you pictures of my boobs, my butt,
none of that stuff, because anything can happen at any
time and those pictures find their way onto the world
wide web of the dark whatever.

Speaker 4 (01:14:33):
Crazy and not even not with my job.

Speaker 6 (01:14:36):
Heck no, So anyway, you know, So he got to
a point where like, well, that's what I need, That's
what I require in a committed relationship. And I was like, well,
as much as I like you, if that is something
that you like, if that's one of your requirements to
have a relationship with somebody, then I am not the

(01:14:58):
person for you, because I will disappoint you on a
daily basis. Because for me, my requirement is that someone
has to respect my sexual boundaries. That's and that's what He.

Speaker 3 (01:15:14):
Might be a masochist because like hear me out real
quick right for you to be sunning, you know, saying
sexual photos or whatever. He wants to self mutilate himself
in the bathroom. He wants to beat his show that
as in money, you know what I'm saying, So you
know what you probably you know what I'm saying. That
is the bugger dad, you know, like I'm sorry I.

Speaker 6 (01:15:35):
Did because he was a self professed professed narcissist.

Speaker 4 (01:15:38):
I was like, oh he boom, there is m It
is a control thing.

Speaker 6 (01:15:45):
Yeah, definitely not me. Well, like I was saying before,
I cook and do all these things out of love,
out of care. But I draw the line like my
expectation is I do it because I want to. And
if I'm not able or maybe a day I don't
feel like it that if you're hungry, you're gonna help

(01:16:07):
pick up the slack. But the first time you come
home and you're like, where's my food will be the
last time I do it for you, because then it
goes what.

Speaker 3 (01:16:20):
He's gonna be. He's gonna be like what the fuck?
You know what I'm saying, So like like like.

Speaker 6 (01:16:26):
That's why it's important to communicate the expectations because I'm
a human being who has a job too.

Speaker 3 (01:16:35):
No absolutely like like like like you know what, like
there's days where my girl cooks, and then there's days
where I cook. Yes, I know how to cook.

Speaker 4 (01:16:46):
I was gonna say, and then the next day everyone
has diarrhea.

Speaker 3 (01:16:52):
High blood pressure either one of the two. But it
goes good and going down you know now. But like
you know, like like you know what I'm saying it
like then then there are days there's days where I'm like, yo,
I'm going to cook. But then like like whether tonight's
fucking me up right now, like they didn't coming with
her that be about to get it's like really like
you know, like I feel like my nerves ting on

(01:17:13):
my spine right now. Right there's things like today where
I'm like, I cooking ship matter of.

Speaker 2 (01:17:20):
Fact, under those shades tgs roll my eyes. She don't
get three. Yeah, she's.

Speaker 1 (01:17:28):
She's looking like.

Speaker 3 (01:17:31):
Under the shade she's doing the undertaking. She's like die,
die died.

Speaker 2 (01:17:35):
Oh my god, you don't have to take this.

Speaker 3 (01:17:41):
Oh my goodness, but like noah, but like you know,
like like you know what like and honestly, you know
what I'm saying, Like you know, I'm you know, listen,
I may come off as a show ministic pig or whatever,
but I'm far from that.

Speaker 4 (01:17:52):
Like you know, you're playing a part.

Speaker 3 (01:17:57):
Someone has someone has to be a villain, and I'm
good for it, you know, what I'm saying, like like
like you know what, as long as Coleel knows me
and every story that he heard about me coming from
some female, I was the villain, right And you'd be like, yo, doves,
did you do it? I'm like, of course not. Now
he's smiling and he's like, man, you fucked up.

Speaker 4 (01:18:16):
Bro.

Speaker 3 (01:18:16):
I'm like, I'm like bro like, but but all jokes.
You know what I'm saying, Like, oh, that was back then.
You know what I'm saying, Like like like like back then,
you know, like I truly believe that you know that
you know what I'm saying. I get what I want
to and that was it. You know what I'm saying.
It's all about me, me, me, me me. You know

(01:18:37):
what I'm saying. What about my feelings? I used to
tell you know what I'm saying, You'll put a condom
money harder fucking feelings. You know what I'm saying, Like
now you know what I'm saying. Like now, it's like,
you know, it's a lot different because you know what
I saw. You know what I'm saying. I've seen the
damage that I've done, but I've also received the damage
that I inflicted. You know, so like when so like

(01:18:58):
you know what, whoever's whoevers like up in our age
bragg and still trying to do the same thing that
they were doing fifteen twenty years ago. You know what
I'm saying, You haven't learned your lesson. You know what
I'm saying, because like when it hits you, you know
what I'm saying, When it hits you, it's going to
hit you hard. Like like you know, like when you're

(01:19:18):
twenty in, when you're single, you're having a good time.
When you're thirty in your single, you're a bachelor. When
you're in your forties and your single, nigga, you lonely.

Speaker 4 (01:19:27):
Hey hey hey there are people out there who are
forty and single. Don't be different.

Speaker 3 (01:19:32):
No, okay, hold up, but you but you're still hold
still doing.

Speaker 4 (01:19:40):
The same things and having I get that.

Speaker 3 (01:19:44):
I mean, but that's different.

Speaker 4 (01:19:45):
I mean you'll get what you get then if it's
like that, because if you're not going to grow as
a person, then you're not going to have the opportunity
to have those relationships.

Speaker 3 (01:20:00):
You know, like like yo, you know what, Like I
had to like you know, really really like you know
what I'm saying, Like like really take like a like
a like a flashback mind trip of all that. You
know what I'm saying, all the foulship that I've done
but done also, you know what I'm saying, in return,
I also have to look at all the foulship that

(01:20:20):
was done to me. And I looked at you know
what I'm saying. I looked at it. I'm like, yeah,
it evens out. You know what I'm saying, Like I
had it coming. You know, I can admit that. Most
dudes can, you know, like they won't. They won't have
no man out here will probably ever admit that. Yo,
I had that one coming, you know what I'm saying,
because you know what, their pride and their ego won't

(01:20:43):
let them do that, you know what I'm saying. That's
why they're still bitter. That's why they're still you know,
walking around like you know, yo, it's all about the benches,
blah blah blah, Like Yo, it should be all about you.
You know what I'm saying, you're freaking your icy hot bro.
You're too old for this ship.

Speaker 4 (01:20:58):
Bro.

Speaker 3 (01:20:59):
You know what I'm saying, Like chill out, you know,
like pridate, ego and a man usually destroys everything besides
that probably always comes before the fall, you know, and
like and and you know what from all the ship
that I'll be talking, you know what I'm saying outside
to side, you know, like the kingdom is what it is,

(01:21:19):
but with doctor Queen, the whole kingdom falls. So you know,
like I realized that like a long time ago, I
just needed to write. You know what I'm saying, queens
to be on the chessboard.

Speaker 2 (01:21:33):
So is she standing next to you with the shotgun?
It has had to make sure you just want you
just wanted to make sure you said it.

Speaker 3 (01:21:45):
Yeah, you know what I'm saying like like like you know,
she's giving me that look you say, one more stay,
one more slick ship. You know what I'm saying. And
I'm gonna smack you upside the head of But like
feminism rules real quick, is you know, like you know,
and it's not it's not that it's not that one

(01:22:06):
of those Amazon it's those like cast Iron that's the.

Speaker 4 (01:22:13):
Season ones.

Speaker 3 (01:22:15):
Yeah you know, like like you know the one like
you know, like.

Speaker 2 (01:22:21):
You know, yeah, you don't want to say something too
slick standing there right there?

Speaker 3 (01:22:27):
All right, all right, I won't say that, Okay, I'm sorry,
Well she said for me to say that she's the
bestest thing ever. No, no, no, I'm sorry, I'm playing.

Speaker 2 (01:22:42):
Yeah, But like so it's all about it's all about
telling your partners specifically what it is you you you
want and you expect.

Speaker 6 (01:22:50):
Yeah, and being and being honestly genuine about that. Like,
I just don't get it why people spend uh, you know,
I don't want to just say guys, because I know
there are women who do it too, But people spend
so much time and energy lying and trying to fool
the other person into getting things. It's like, why put

(01:23:13):
so much energy into that when you can just tell
them straight up what it is you're looking for so
that they can tell you yes or no, and then
you keep it moving forward. Why why? Because tell me?

Speaker 3 (01:23:27):
Because you know what they want to specifically from you.
You know what I'm saying, So like they're testing the
waters to see how you know what I'm saying. See
what when maneuvers and averages they're gonna take to.

Speaker 4 (01:23:38):
Getting Why go because their assholes except that their assholes.
An asshole is going to do some ship like that
string somebody along, play with their feelings, get caught let's

(01:24:00):
let somebody get caught up in you and then like
disappear or whatever.

Speaker 3 (01:24:04):
Like see, they're trying to play with your feelings so
they can play with other things.

Speaker 4 (01:24:07):
Right, It's just it's it's hard because some people lie to.

Speaker 5 (01:24:14):
Run and.

Speaker 3 (01:24:17):
Speaks.

Speaker 6 (01:24:20):
I'm one of those men.

Speaker 4 (01:24:23):
Mm hmm.

Speaker 6 (01:24:24):
I've always said that my father is the type of
man that I fear most in my life because he's
one of those. As soon as he opens his mouth,
whatever he's saying, somebody is ready to believe it. And
he he looks you dead in your face with all
the emotion and what we call ga with everything in

(01:24:48):
him and and and it's just lying to your face.

Speaker 5 (01:24:53):
You know.

Speaker 4 (01:24:54):
Yeah, some people are just pathological liars.

Speaker 3 (01:24:56):
Like that's some people just got you know what. You know,
I call that line you know, back in the day,
used to call it. Damn, that's some game ship right there.
But not I really wasn't, you know what I'm saying
games like saying the truth? Like yo, listen, I'm you
know what I'm saying. I want to do this standard
therapy done. You're not. You're not. That's it, you know

(01:25:17):
what I'm saying, No hard feelings, you know we got
fun tonight or whatever. What does fund mean? Whatever happens
happens for both adults.

Speaker 6 (01:25:27):
You know what, but that's bs. Just because you're an
adult doesn't mean.

Speaker 3 (01:25:31):
But you know what, we used to say that we're grown.

Speaker 6 (01:25:35):
I'm sorry, Yes I am grown, but that doesn't mean
I'm going around given every time Dick and Harry what
I've got to offer.

Speaker 3 (01:25:43):
And you know, because a woman like you, a woman
like you, a woman like you get more respect, I
believe it, or not a lot.

Speaker 4 (01:25:51):
More myself, even though I've been the biggest slut in
the world.

Speaker 2 (01:25:56):
Oh, I'm not saying.

Speaker 3 (01:26:01):
Yea, you know what, like like I ain't shame with nobody,
you know what I'm saying, But like I'm saying from
a man's perspective, like you know, like if like like
like yo, you know what I mean. You know what
I'm saying. You can help me out on this one
because back then, you know what I'm saying, Like if
we got with a girl, you know what I'm saying,

(01:26:21):
we had You know what I'm saying, legs up like
a freaking feel little post you know, within the like
past like three hours or whatever you do you have,
it's like because I'm an extreme person, That's what I'm saying,
you know, Like like like yo, you know what, I
like to be the villain on here a little bit.

(01:26:42):
You know this is it's too much, So I'm sorry,
but yo, you know what, like all right, what's what's
just if you know what? Yoh, you know what like
like like in three hours or whatever, right, like you
know what I'm saying, Like it's like, you know, recreational use.
You know what I'm saying.

Speaker 4 (01:27:01):
I mean, but they're they're back in the day too,
Like it just depends where you were in your life
and stuff. And if if it's as long as it's consensual,
then fine, but it's not then the problem I'm saying.

Speaker 3 (01:27:17):
But but see, now here's the thing though, like like
you know what I'm saying, like contracts when mm the
p Diddy contracts. But but like yo, all jokes aside though,
I mean, you know, like it shows like you know
what I'm saying, like where you're at mentally and spiritual,
like you said, you know what I'm saying, like you're

(01:27:37):
going to attract what's you know what I'm saying, what
what you're feeling at that moment? But you know what
I'm saying, the type of mood you're in in that moment.
You know what I'm saying, Like if you're going through
you know what I'm saying, Like like, let me give
you a perfect example, Right, I was getting in trouble
up here, so my mom's shut me down the floorid right,
and I'm at the same people down there that I
was hanging out with up here, because you know what
your spirit attracts what you know what.

Speaker 4 (01:27:59):
I'm saying, wherever you are and what it is that
you want that, yeah, exactly, and you're gonna go with
what you know, like what's comfortable too, Like if that's
what means you're comfortable and this is what you then
that's what you're.

Speaker 3 (01:28:13):
Gonna look for, you know. And like, yo, you know
what most people don't you know what I'm saying. Most
people don't understand. It's like you know, like from that
from that point, you know what I mean, Like, you
are who you attract at that moment. You know what
I'm saying. Thing. You know what I'm saying. You could
change you know what I'm saying. You could change that.
You know what I'm saying. Within the next five ten minutes.
What I'm saying, you gotta do switching mind set. Yeah,

(01:28:34):
do something different, like exactly, do something different, think different,
you know what I'm saying, or like yo, like like
I said, but.

Speaker 6 (01:28:41):
See, I don't know that I can agree with that
because like, and I've tried this so many times. My
personality I'm loving, caring, you know, spiritual, religious, whatever you
want to call it.

Speaker 3 (01:28:56):
You're intimidated to most dudes.

Speaker 6 (01:29:00):
Am I intimidating?

Speaker 3 (01:29:02):
Because oh you know what? First off, you know what
I'm saying. You talk with like this type of command
that you know what I'm saying in a good way,
In a good way, I'm you know I'm saying like
I'm not. You know, that's good to know exactly you
know what I'm saying.

Speaker 6 (01:29:21):
So but then why why do I attract the broken
and emotionally unavailable?

Speaker 4 (01:29:29):
I think partially is because it fulfills a need, you know,
Like I realized this recently with a friendship I have.
Is like it's nice to be needed in certain ways
when you could fulfill the need. This This makes sense,
am I? Because like we can say, look, we can't

(01:29:54):
speak for other people what they're thinking and what they're doing.
But I feel like this could be maybe you don't
love you enough in certain ways that's allowing you to
continually go for something. Like I stopped myself completely and

(01:30:21):
became more open instead of going to what I was
attracted to necessarily in the beginning, it was more about
like giving people a chance and seeing where things went,
and if I wasn't attracted and there was no chemistry
or whatever, then you move forward. But I think sometimes
we kind of get stuck in our ways of what

(01:30:43):
we like or what we think we're attracted to, and
then we kind of like don't give others a chance
that maybe it could be something. However, I will say
online dating is really hard, and with everything that we've
talked about with the whole like just people not being

(01:31:04):
honest and shit like that, it is hard to find
honest people. But when you find someone who is, I
feel and then there's a good connection there because it's
like the people they attract each other in that way.

Speaker 6 (01:31:19):
Yeah, And I'm great with the boundary think because once
I start to see that there are those red flags
that insecurity stuff, yeah, I know, uh, those insecurities and
all that, I'm like, I'm sorry, I'm.

Speaker 2 (01:31:32):
Not for you, like, but it's it's what do you
What do you mean though? Like what insecurities?

Speaker 4 (01:31:40):
Okay, we all have insecurities. I don't feel like anyone
should put their insecurities out on blast. But I'm just saying,
like we all at some point think we're not good
enough for whatever, even for ourselves. We're our worst critics.
We never speak to ourselves the way would talk to

(01:32:00):
someone we love.

Speaker 6 (01:32:02):
Yeah, we're compassionate.

Speaker 4 (01:32:04):
One of the things, like somebody wrote a comment and
I was like, that could be a whole show. Honestly,
just mindfulness and the way you talk to yourself, because
it is one of those things I learned years ago
that like, it completely changes your perspective and that's also
what allows you to see and be more open to things.

(01:32:25):
So I don't know, it's just it's so crazy to
me how simple yet not certain things are. But we
just get so fucking used to doing the same thing
over and over again, and it becomes what we know,
and it's scary sometimes and hard to get out and

(01:32:47):
do something different or you know, try instead of saying
like I suck or whatever. It's like, all right, this
didn't work out, But I love the fact that I
actually tried, you know what I'm saying. So it's it's
all about language, how you speak to yourself and the

(01:33:11):
way you you start looking at things, and then it
becomes easier to start seeing more positive ship, to start
looking at things a little more differently to get you
to a better place mentally and.

Speaker 3 (01:33:25):
Be there, lady ge, I was going to say, you
know what, maybe you're a tracting dudes who think they're alphas, right,
but they're really beata, you know what I'm saying, So
like you so.

Speaker 6 (01:33:39):
So so, so you know what, when I start calling,
they approach.

Speaker 3 (01:33:46):
You, they approach you on some like you know, like
some big dog stuff, right, but like you still see
the puppy in them.

Speaker 4 (01:33:53):
Yeah, So I mean you know, and that's like that
nurturing side of you too, and that I do know
that that you know.

Speaker 6 (01:34:03):
You attract people that your spirit speaks to. So because
I am loving and caring, I do understand that I'm
going to attract a more caring or vulnerable type of dude.
But then, like also, like Dov's was saying, you know
the guy who comes off as you know, I'm an alpha,
I'm strong, I do this I'm a man. I do

(01:34:25):
all that. Yeah, it through YouTube, you know, like it's
because deep down inside, they don't love themselves and they
don't think that they're worthy. And when they come to me,
you know, I'm like, listen, I know who I am,
I know what I want. And when I start calling
them out on the discrepancies between their words and their actions,

(01:34:50):
then you know, things fall apart because it's like I
need the genuine I need the real you know, come
at me with the real stuff. We can work it,
but come at me with that fake. You know, I'm
a man. I do all this.

Speaker 4 (01:35:07):
And then not be that. I get bored quickly. But
that's okay. So then you need somebody who's gonna you know, yeah, guy, look,
I don't know. I feel like you and I need
to talk on the side. But that's another thing I need.

Speaker 6 (01:35:31):
Somebody can handle putting people in their place without hurting them.

Speaker 4 (01:35:35):
Yeah exactly.

Speaker 3 (01:35:39):
I mean, how do you do that? Put people in
your place without hurting them.

Speaker 6 (01:35:45):
Oh there's a way. Well, verbally, it could be verbally,
it could be physically, it could be just a.

Speaker 3 (01:35:52):
Look you know what, you know what, in a way
that's impossible because you know, what physically gonna end up her.
The words hurt more though, you know, words of weapons
of master struc.

Speaker 4 (01:36:05):
You can't take back.

Speaker 6 (01:36:07):
Yeah, but I don't mean when I say putting somebody
in there. First of all, when you're putting someone in
their place, it's because they're too big for their bridges.
I need somebody who's not going to be afraid of me,
who's not going to be intimidated by me, and say, listen, honey,
I hear what you're saying, but I need you to
take it down because it's.

Speaker 4 (01:36:27):
Not that serious, right, you know, meeting your match.

Speaker 6 (01:36:34):
Yeah, not somebody like yo, b you better, you better
knock it down before I knock you now, Yeah, like.

Speaker 5 (01:36:42):
Thank you?

Speaker 3 (01:36:43):
Oh so, so you're saying that you should have been
in the Olympics, by the way, you just jumped the conclusion,
get it, I get that, all right? All right?

Speaker 4 (01:36:53):
Oh my yeah, it's crazy. It's rough out there, and
uh please dot it.

Speaker 6 (01:36:59):
Literally they peed in the pool. This this dating pool
is dirty.

Speaker 3 (01:37:04):
It's successful, especially especially you know what I'm saying. You
know what it is. I mean, don't take offense to
what I'm about to say. You know what I'm saying.

Speaker 4 (01:37:15):
Already.

Speaker 3 (01:37:15):
Yeah sore, so be it. You know what I'm saying.
I'm like, yo, you know what, I'm not going to
bite my tongue, right. You have a lot of like
in this day and age, like a lot of people
from thirty five to forty five, they're either you know

(01:37:36):
what I'm saying, they got you know what I'm saying, divorced.
You know what I'm saying, they have like a little
you know what I mean, They either have like little
trust issues or like they're trying to like navigate their
way back into the you know what I'm saying, into
the dating scene. And it's not the same as how
it was, like you know when it was back then
with us especially you know what I'm saying, with how

(01:37:56):
social media took took everything over, Like like yo, back then,
you know what I'm saying, Like before the social medium
is all this YouTube or whatever. You know what I'm saying.
Like when we met people who met people in the bar,
we talked to them like face to face, and I
was like, you know now, like you know what I'm saying,
you only see them. Yeah, you know what I'm saying,
you see them.

Speaker 4 (01:38:16):
Those are the best One night stands by the way.

Speaker 6 (01:38:19):
Yeah, oh my god, what the bar or the pictures.

Speaker 4 (01:38:26):
On the bar at the bar, the bars.

Speaker 3 (01:38:31):
Down the shore, it didn't even happen like that. So
no down the shore, you know what I mean, like
side and wild Wood.

Speaker 4 (01:38:38):
No, no, that's just dirty mess down there.

Speaker 3 (01:38:41):
No, no, no sea side, sea side in the nighties. Nah,
it was dirty TV. Nah yo yo, that's when MTV
Beach Hops was down there. What are you talking about?
You know what I'm saying, like.

Speaker 4 (01:38:56):
Jersey Girl and Jersey beaches are nasty to me, except.

Speaker 3 (01:39:02):
What except for anything? From why would the cap is okay?

Speaker 4 (01:39:07):
Yeah, because it's all the way down here in fucking
Delaware and ship so.

Speaker 3 (01:39:12):
And not only that, not only that, you know what
I'm saying. The beach is free? You know what I'm saying.

Speaker 4 (01:39:19):
That actually it is not during the summer. Nothing.

Speaker 2 (01:39:24):
Why free?

Speaker 3 (01:39:25):
Why would it free? Why would.

Speaker 2 (01:39:29):
Wow?

Speaker 3 (01:39:30):
Well?

Speaker 4 (01:39:30):
Yeah, what does take forever? So that I think they
got into account?

Speaker 3 (01:39:36):
You know what, who cares? Who cares? I'd rather walk
the two miles. I'm not paying thirteen dollars. You know
what I'm saying. That going you know what I'm saying,
get better by crabs. You know what I'm saying, The
damn they're drawn the seaside. Nah that never again, never again.

Speaker 4 (01:39:51):
You know, but there is a time where there were
needles on that beach.

Speaker 3 (01:39:55):
Okay, say island far off? Why don't go never Jones Beach?
Jones Beach is that bad? Though?

Speaker 4 (01:40:08):
I never really went to New York beaches or if
I did, I was a kid and I don't remember not.

Speaker 3 (01:40:14):
Yo, you know what, Like I went to Jones Beach
one time and I was like, Yo, what is different?
Because I'm a Long Island That's why, you know what
I'm saying, Like Long Island water is like a lot
clean than them. You know, water is off like you know,
Queens of Brooklyn and stuff like, it's a lot you know,
it's like further out, you know. So I mean but like, yeah, man, beaches, Man,

(01:40:37):
why are we talking.

Speaker 5 (01:40:38):
About the beach?

Speaker 4 (01:40:39):
Like how did we get here? I don't even remember.

Speaker 3 (01:40:41):
I'm going to tell you how we got here because
we got here from like one night Stands And I
was like, yeah, you know what, Jerseys the Jersey Show
was my spot the next thing.

Speaker 4 (01:40:50):
Because everybody was like a visitor there, you know, was it?
Like I mean, you like you messed with a towny,
I guess then you're messed.

Speaker 3 (01:40:58):
Uh nah know what? Man like like like yo, you
know what, you know, Like the running joke was like yo,
you know what, we probably got kids running around down
there or something like that.

Speaker 4 (01:41:06):
Oh lord you probably do God help us all like you.

Speaker 3 (01:41:10):
Know like that, like like that's the running joke, you know,
like because it just happened, you know what I'm saying.
It was just almost guarantee that some ship will always
go down, you know what I'm saying. It was almost guaranteed,
you know what I mean. But other than that, I
mean like.

Speaker 4 (01:41:26):
Like not getting my Target order tonight because they closed
it eleven.

Speaker 2 (01:41:32):
So wait a minute, So you ordered your ship from Target?

Speaker 4 (01:41:38):
No, I only ordered two things from Target. I went
to Aldi. I had to Walmart. Target they ran.

Speaker 3 (01:41:45):
Out of firstal how no, no, no, no, no, hold
on you, it's TJ.

Speaker 4 (01:41:57):
He said. Sorry. Yes, I always do the drive up
at charge for like whatever. I don't go in there
anymore because I spend more money when I go in there,
So I always I always shop and do my orders
and pick them up for there because they don't charge

(01:42:20):
you extra anything like that. And they don't have a limit.
You could literally go there, drive up and get a
pack of condoms and they will bring it out to you.
I'm not even kidding. There's no minimum or limit, okay,
like this, like you can't say you're embarrassed to buy
things because they'll bring it out for you and nobody

(01:42:42):
will even know. It's not like they're gonna tell anybody.
So it's insane. Walmart has a minimum that you have
to do. Other places too, aldi if you do stuff
on like, the prices are different, it's not the same.
Like it's so weird to me. I'm like, why if
I'm shopping at your store, then if the price is

(01:43:02):
what it is there, why am I paying more money
for you to put it together for me? If it's free,
it's not free then so whatever. I just want to
hand it because I can't get my dam order.

Speaker 3 (01:43:16):
Now you got something. Of course, my girl gets mad
at me when I refuse to go to Walmart, right,
so she asked me, so she expectations, like, yeah, what's
the problem if you're going for the baby. I'm like,
because I get lost on purpose.

Speaker 2 (01:43:32):
She's like, what does that mean?

Speaker 3 (01:43:34):
I'm like, I end up on I end up. You
know what I'm saying. Where the TVs are at, there's
place to be with ADHD. I'm like, I'm like, yo,
you know what I'm like. Do you not understand? You
know what I'm saying. This is our new tours of
russ You know what I'm saying. Yeah, remember that? So good,
so good as a matter of fact, as a matter

(01:43:56):
of fact, this all over here American Dream got to
towards us in the with a poll and everything. I'm
gonna go back and slide on that pause. But I
had to say that pause, like that great little segue. Yeah,
you know, like but but but but like yo, you
know what Walmart? Walmart is like toys arrested me because

(01:44:19):
I'm looking at the TVs right. They do have a
lot of stuff.

Speaker 4 (01:44:23):
Yes, that's everything, like literally everything there under one roof,
which makes it very convenient. And I get why people
go there, but I hate that place.

Speaker 3 (01:44:33):
I don't go there, you know what. So so so
so I'm going there and I'm looking at the seventy
five minute screen four k TV, right, and I'm like,
this is today and I'm like, yo, you know what
you got to waiting for that? You know what I'm
saying my passed, what was I have to pay what
I was?

Speaker 5 (01:44:48):
Right?

Speaker 3 (01:44:48):
So you know, like I text her right because you know,
like we actually went in together and stuff and like
my stomach was hurting, but the story and she was like,
we ain't got the money. I'm like, yo, you know one.
I'm like, you know, next year, right, I don't want
to hear ship like what I had like a south
put space when we got back in the car or whatever, right,
put the baby in whatever. And she was like, why
are you mad? I'm like, yo, you know what, I

(01:45:10):
don't want to hear ship. Come next year. She's like,
all right, I said, I'm getting what I want. You know,
if there's a pet line in the in the fucking house,
don't ask me questions, don't ask how it got there.
I got it and that's it. Just for the time
you told me no, fuck.

Speaker 4 (01:45:28):
No, it's something like ridiculous. It'd be like, well, now
we have a cheetah, so.

Speaker 5 (01:45:40):
Like you didn't want me to buy TV.

Speaker 4 (01:45:42):
So now we have a jungle in our house.

Speaker 2 (01:45:46):
You know, an.

Speaker 4 (01:45:53):
Your daughter is gonna be singing that song.

Speaker 3 (01:45:56):
So so on that note, Yeah, what are you guys
cooking that's what I want to find out.

Speaker 4 (01:46:05):
Uh steak, I'm not cooking someone else's cooking, so you
got job. Not not not tomorrow we heavy Let's see
turkey breasts, steak, scalloped potatoes, baked macaroni and cheese, collared greens,

(01:46:34):
and some roasted vegetables.

Speaker 2 (01:46:36):
You are not Spanish, I know.

Speaker 4 (01:46:39):
Well, No, Thanksgiving is a white holiday, okay, and with
white people on the half side of the family. And
we went to dry turkey and I hated it all
the time because my poor aunt, love her to death,
but she could not cook a turkey is dry.

Speaker 6 (01:46:59):
We don't do that.

Speaker 4 (01:47:00):
That was the point of the side. Our day is
That's it?

Speaker 6 (01:47:06):
That him up to me?

Speaker 4 (01:47:15):
How dare he?

Speaker 3 (01:47:16):
I was like, I was about to say, yo, her wife,
how tare you? Yeah?

Speaker 4 (01:47:24):
They cut me up way before. They're like, fun, this
bitch done your holidays.

Speaker 6 (01:47:32):
I have left over pizza.

Speaker 5 (01:47:34):
There you go.

Speaker 3 (01:47:36):
That's not cool.

Speaker 4 (01:47:38):
It literally this is another day.

Speaker 6 (01:47:41):
That's what happens when you're divorced and it's his year
to get the baby. Oh you have no family and
no partner. You find yourself in front of a TV
with leftover pizza.

Speaker 4 (01:47:53):
Nah, you ain't got no friends having a party. I
didn't invite. I don't know anybody. You know, mack of cheese.

Speaker 3 (01:48:00):
I'm in no. You know what we changing that next
year for you?

Speaker 4 (01:48:05):
Yeah, we should do it. Y'all are coming to PA.
Get ready, bring your sleeping bags because I don't have
enough beds for everybody. So well, today you are the
funny guy. By the way, Bassie, you were the funny

(01:48:25):
guy today. He came like ready, He's like, oh, y'all
are going to leave me alone for a half hour. Okay,
I got you, I got you.

Speaker 3 (01:48:34):
Oh that man needed this.

Speaker 4 (01:48:43):
That's how you could age.

Speaker 5 (01:48:44):
Us real quick.

Speaker 4 (01:48:49):
Wait, there was a meme that said, my my actual
age and my back age are two different things.

Speaker 5 (01:48:56):
Yo.

Speaker 2 (01:48:57):
Facts. Yo, you know what.

Speaker 3 (01:48:58):
You should send that to me because that is true.
I think I have that is true.

Speaker 2 (01:49:07):
That's hilarious.

Speaker 3 (01:49:10):
What are you cooking?

Speaker 5 (01:49:13):
Big?

Speaker 2 (01:49:13):
Are you listen? Listen?

Speaker 5 (01:49:16):
Say for you?

Speaker 4 (01:49:17):
Are the kids coming? Talk to us?

Speaker 2 (01:49:19):
It's a big to do.

Speaker 3 (01:49:22):
Be me.

Speaker 6 (01:49:26):
Stuff you're not supposed to be eating. I got him,
get another phone call. Let's cancel the show in the hospitals.

Speaker 4 (01:49:41):
He's like, but I enjoyed it in the toilet And
this is gonna be in the hospital just because they
wanted to enjoy their food.

Speaker 6 (01:49:51):
This is mena, this is.

Speaker 5 (01:49:55):
Yeah, you know.

Speaker 3 (01:50:00):
I'm getting that preparation. H ready, do you have.

Speaker 4 (01:50:04):
Are your kids coming to your house or anything.

Speaker 2 (01:50:07):
We're doing one whole one. It's one whole thing good
but check it out, but check it out, but check
it out. Yes, with that being said, With that being said,
what's your final thought TG for the night, for tomorrow?
Whatever you want to say that to the fans of

(01:50:27):
the show.

Speaker 1 (01:50:29):
Uh.

Speaker 4 (01:50:30):
I hope that everyone just has a good and safe day.
I don't really fall it, like I don't really celebrate Thanksgiving,
like it isn't about Pilgrims and and like Indians and
chips thank you, and like it's really about jenocide and colonization.

(01:50:52):
But we're not going to get into that. Basically, what
I'm saying is like, don't don't feel bad if you
don't have anyone to spend time with tomorrow, because it's
fucking just Thursday, and thankfully and thankfully some of us
have off of work. And I think though it is

(01:51:14):
a good day to reflect of the things that you
are thankful for. And I do appreciate when people do
share that because I think it's important that we remember
to be grateful and thankful for those simple things that
we have in our lives and that we live to
see another day. So enjoy and eat stuff your face,

(01:51:36):
but please like eat breakfast and don't like not eat
or saved up to eat. Okay, that's not good. It's
not good, all right, And don't also overeat that's like
binging in one day and it's not good.

Speaker 2 (01:51:52):
Guys.

Speaker 4 (01:51:53):
Okay, okay, mom, just eat till you're happy and it's
just one day. You can have leftovers.

Speaker 2 (01:52:00):
This dumb.

Speaker 3 (01:52:03):
He shout out to Jeffrey Amherst who teach Jeffrey Amherst
he made this day possible?

Speaker 4 (01:52:10):
Did they right?

Speaker 5 (01:52:12):
Yeah?

Speaker 3 (01:52:13):
He kind of did anyways, ok yeah, yeah, yeah, you
know what, we'll talk about that, right. What's you call it?
Everything that TG said? Yes, you know what I'm saying,
except that you know the mothering part of you know.

Speaker 5 (01:52:29):
Eat, eat eat.

Speaker 3 (01:52:30):
You know what I'm saying.

Speaker 4 (01:52:30):
Eat in the morning.

Speaker 3 (01:52:31):
Now you know what I'm saying. Just you know what
I'm saying. If you wake up tomorrow, I appreciate that day.
Every day should be every every day should be Thanksgiving
because you know what you're waking up. You know what
I'm saying. I know we're not supposed to talk about
religion and all that stuff, but God allowed you to
wake up that day. You know what I'm saying. You
got twenty four hours in the day. Make the best

(01:52:51):
of it. You know now, you know what you're gonna if.
If you're going to be you know what I'm saying,
family's house and you're drinking a little bit, man, take
a uber? Do you.

Speaker 2 (01:53:03):
Please?

Speaker 3 (01:53:03):
Take a uber? Do you? Odds are expensive, And what's
even more expensive is if you get to an accident
and you know you don't see the following day, or
he takes someone's life and then you're seeing it today.
You know what I'm saying, So don't be brave. Don't
you know what I'm saying, don't do that ship, Please
sober exactly what I'm saying. Drive carefully drops soben. You

(01:53:28):
know what I'm saying. Enjoy you know what I'm saying.
Enjoy the day. You know what I'm saying. But when
the Cowboys and Giants play tomorrow, Just when the Cowboys
and the Giants play tomorrow, man, just take a nap.
You know what I'm saying that's gonna be a snooze.

Speaker 4 (01:53:47):
That's the equivalent of the coming.

Speaker 3 (01:53:53):
Wrap that ship up, wrap it up, box.

Speaker 2 (01:54:03):
It's on you.

Speaker 6 (01:54:06):
Basically, my thought is, if you are spending this day
with with people you care about, uh, you know, cherish
the moment, Try not to be dramatic, put the put
the anger away. Just take advantage of the time you have.
Because times the one thing we can't get back. So

(01:54:29):
just enjoy yourself when you're when when you uh get
fed up, then it's time to go, uh leave the
anger outside.

Speaker 4 (01:54:40):
Yeah, unless your family is a Trump supporter, then I
give you permission to give on the people's elbow. Damn,
Tomorrow is going to be a crazy day for some
people who are going to be with their family. So

(01:55:01):
shout out to those you have liquor or some people
need to lay off the liquor or blunt or something.
I mean, just yeah, stay away. When we're talking about boundaries,
just don't talk about shy.

Speaker 5 (01:55:17):
You know what.

Speaker 3 (01:55:19):
You know what, a lot of uncles are going to
get hurt tomorrow. You know I'm gonna tell you why,
because you know what they come on uncle's complete some football. Yeah,
I got it, you know what I'm saying.

Speaker 2 (01:55:32):
You know I used to do this.

Speaker 3 (01:55:33):
I ran for four touchdowns one day. I played for Polkot.

Speaker 5 (01:55:37):
You know what I'm saying, Like that will not be you,
That's all I know.

Speaker 3 (01:55:41):
We do don't know that you were.

Speaker 4 (01:55:44):
Playing for your grandkids and somehow in the hospital because
you got.

Speaker 3 (01:55:48):
No imagine me trying to do with.

Speaker 4 (01:55:53):
My c O.

Speaker 2 (01:55:54):
No, I'm good man man anyway, anyway, that would be
sucking me d That was my fu. Look but.

Speaker 6 (01:56:09):
Twenty two because you keep selling all your sneakers.

Speaker 3 (01:56:12):
Twenty ready down.

Speaker 4 (01:56:18):
And he's on the floor.

Speaker 3 (01:56:20):
Yeah, ran three steps, slipping flo like falling and you
can't get up. He got the light, he got.

Speaker 2 (01:56:38):
Here on the ground. I'm in the park and I'm
falling on.

Speaker 3 (01:56:43):
The ground, screaming out text sport. Yeah, looking like a

(01:57:07):
homicide victim on the ground.

Speaker 5 (01:57:09):
The body.

Speaker 4 (01:57:13):
There. Grandpa fell. He always made me cry with the
way you made me laugh when ship sometimes.

Speaker 2 (01:57:37):
Grandpa fell.

Speaker 6 (01:57:41):
They're gonna they're gonna put up one of those white
crosses made out of pipe, and they're gonna go visit
every Thanksgiving.

Speaker 2 (01:57:56):
This is way, but what's god damn it?

Speaker 3 (01:58:00):
All right?

Speaker 5 (01:58:10):
Oh god, oh man, alright, So everybody. Lady, what was
your last thought?

Speaker 4 (01:58:24):
You didn't you don't have any.

Speaker 2 (01:58:26):
Then I started laughing and you just just went with
a laugh.

Speaker 3 (01:58:29):
That was it.

Speaker 2 (01:58:35):
Have a good day tomorrow, your food without your lady,
g try to have a good day tomorrow.

Speaker 4 (01:58:48):
I have a good day.

Speaker 6 (01:58:50):
It's gonna be a b day.

Speaker 4 (01:58:51):
Did you hear she's eating pizza. That's delicious.

Speaker 2 (01:58:55):
Do enjoy the fan everything. I'm gonna do what I
gotta do. Happy Thanksgiving and Happy Thursday?

Speaker 3 (01:59:08):
Can we give? Can we see a prayer for my
toilet because you know, you know than.

Speaker 4 (01:59:20):
I am sorry your thoughts and prayers to dumb toilet
tomorrow yo.

Speaker 3 (01:59:32):
Yo yo, I'm gonna be. I'm gonna be on the
toilet scream with text support.

Speaker 5 (01:59:38):
All right.

Speaker 2 (01:59:39):
So that with that, with that being said, giving happy
Thursday and everybody, and thanks for for coming by and
sticking with us this whole time. Thanks for listening to
my bullshit for the first half hour. I appreciate it.
Thanks for all y'all. I'm grateful and thankful for all
three of y'all and and what we have here. Yeah,

(02:00:00):
and and well we'll be together soon and enjoy the day.
Always remember that at some point, this, my later yeah

Speaker 3 (02:00:16):
Yeah

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