When The Silence Gets Loud : Dealing With Loneliness (Recorded Live On 11-12-25)

In this raw and unfiltered episode of The This Might Hurt Podcast, Big Corleone, T.G. Love, Simon Phoenix, and Lady G dive deep into the heavy weight of loneliness, the kind that creeps in even when you’re surrounded by people. They peel back the layers of silence, heartbreak, and survival that come with feeling unseen in a world obsessed with connection. From late-night thoughts that hit too hard to the battles we fight behind fake smiles, the crew doesn’t hold back. This one’s not for the faint of heart, it’s real talk about pain, pride, and finding your way back to yourself. Because sometimes the loudest noise in your life… is the Silence!!

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Episode Transcript

Speaker 1 (00:18):
Yeah, Hey, what's up everybody? There's big coldion of this

(01:38):
my every podcast. Ye coming to you live once again
like we always do. How's everybody doing tonight? How's everybody's
Why was everybody's weak? I hope everybody? Yo, what's up?
What's up? Heather? How you doing? M hm? Hope all

(02:00):
as well? Let's get this chatroom popping off. I just
hope everybody had a good week. I'm saying, I hope everybody. Hey, Christina,
what's up? Aho be in the building. You know how
we do, always repping, always repping hard, and you know

(02:21):
how we do. Hey, Jill, how you doing? I hope
all as well? Hello, how's everybody doings been a crazy

(02:41):
few weeks? Yeah, I bet he's been all right? All right, Teresa,
it's been a good week. It's been a good week
here also, you know, all right, Joe doing pretty awesome.
I'm glad. I'm glad you're doing pretty awesome. You know

(03:02):
what I'm saying. I'm glad you're doing well. You know,
as far as I'm concerned, I'm I'm loving it. You
know what I'm saying. I mean, I'm I'm good. I'm
doing real good, you know, taking care of business here
with you guys. You know, let me let me do

(03:22):
a couple of things here really quick. You guys, got
the banner down on the bottom. Read it, you know
what I'm saying. And if anybody feels they're in that
position or want to do something, let me know and
we'll definitely get it going. Definitely get it going. Hold
on one second, I want to bring in my lovely

(03:45):
co host, Lady G. We can have you know, get
things going here. Oh, let me let me hold on
one second. All right, see how everything's going. Everything's good,
Lady G. How wire you?

Speaker 2 (04:02):
Hey, I'm great as usual.

Speaker 1 (04:06):
Great as usual.

Speaker 2 (04:07):
That ever a bad day for me on this side
of the ground.

Speaker 1 (04:10):
That's right, That's how it is. That's how it should be. Actually,
you know, yeah, grateful for all I have. Yeah, yeah,
that's good. That's good. All right? So how was how
was your weekend as a whole? How how's everything been?

(04:31):
Because we didn't get to see you last week, so yeah,
I was.

Speaker 2 (04:35):
Yeah, I had some prior pror things last week. But hey,
I show up most of the time, so sometimes sometimes
I need to step away as well, you know, as
some people do. Yeah, ourselves and you know, self care
is always important, Yes it is.

Speaker 1 (04:55):
Self care is always important.

Speaker 2 (04:56):
Yeah, but everything's good. It's always good, you know. Like
I said, very appreciative for all that I learn every day,
all the you know, the life that I get to
have opportunities.

Speaker 1 (05:09):
That's awesome. Yeah, that's great. Yeah, we should be We should
be hearing from the other co host real soon. You
know how it is. You know that they're gon straggling in.
You know, it is so tonight's theme, so to speak.

(05:31):
You know, whatever he's going to be talking about is
mainly about dealing with loneliness. You know what I'm saying.
So loneliness HiT's different, you know what I'm saying when
you realize it's not the lack of people around you,
it's the lack of honesty within you. What do you
think of that?

Speaker 2 (05:53):
No, you're talking to me. Yeah, well, I guess that
would also depend on what the lack of honesty is.
I honestly do believe that if you don't, if you're
not honest with yourself, if you're not self aware. You know,

(06:14):
it's kind of the same stuff I say. Most of
the time, loneliness exists, you know, and and it's true
you could have a million people with you and still
lonely and feeling alone and uncared for, unseen invisible. You know,

(06:39):
like definitely loneliness exists. I personally believe though it is
what do we use, uh that fills us as individuals
two to kind of work with that loneliness?

Speaker 3 (06:59):
You know?

Speaker 2 (07:00):
What helps us to combat that? What do we believe?
What do we think? What do we do to help ourselves?

Speaker 1 (07:09):
And we are going to get into all of that
ship tonight, all of that stuff we just said, we're
going to get into because this is going to be
a distance is gonna be this is gonna be good.
I'm going to bring in our other co host, TG Love.
What's good with the kittie on the screen?

Speaker 3 (07:26):
Hello?

Speaker 1 (07:28):
How are you?

Speaker 3 (07:30):
I'm just better, but I'm good.

Speaker 4 (07:33):
I was trying to like set it up where I
can have this thing with my camera, but I can't
get a good angle. It's not pretty.

Speaker 1 (07:43):
It's all about angles, isn't it?

Speaker 3 (07:45):
It really is? But I can't.

Speaker 2 (07:47):
It does not sound well, tg Oh, I.

Speaker 4 (07:51):
Mean just in pain having them.

Speaker 1 (07:56):
Oh that's not good. That is not good. So so
like you could be to me, you could be in
a in a room full of people and still feel
disconnection from everybody. The real fear, I think the real
fear really isn't the feeling of being alone, but I

(08:20):
think it's I think it's more of being alone in
your own thoughts as well. If you if you sit
there and you you you you marinate, and you think
too much about your your shortcomings, or your your issues

(08:40):
or whatever it is you got going on in your life,
that makes the feeling even more powerful, you know. So
tonight we'll be diving into the gritty reality of loneliness,
you know what I'm saying. So I think that it's
it's it's gonna be interesting to see what the what

(09:03):
what the chatroom has to say about feeling lonely at
times that I know, every once in a while, somebody
has to feel something that they don't they don't like,
and they don't they don't approve, they don't approve a feeling,
you know. So, I think one of the one of
the misconceptions of loneliness is people think it makes you

(09:26):
weak if you feel if you say to your to
your friends, all you know, I'm feeling lonely, I'm not
feeling I feel kind of fucked up. You know what
I'm saying, I'm not really feeling myself. You know, some
of them might think to themselves, like, what the fuck?
You know what I'm saying. I mean, you you, you
shouldn't feel that way. You know what I'm saying. You

(09:48):
shouldn't feel that way because you have all these friends
or you have you know, all all this this this
this good ship going on for yourself. You know, I
think loneliness doesn't make you weak. I think it makes
you human. Yeah, you know what I mean. Everyone, everyone,
it's that wall sooner or later, you know where they

(10:10):
feel that way. The strongest people often are the ones
who keep smiling and fighting to feel that connection with
other people, you know what I mean. That's just my
opinion on it. So anybody else has a thought on that, No.

Speaker 4 (10:31):
Okay, yeah, of course I don't know. I was just
trying to figure out because the view looks different, like, well,
it's like I don't know how to make it where
it's just us and not.

Speaker 3 (10:49):
Okay. It was like some vertical preview that was on.

Speaker 1 (10:53):
Oh yeah, yeah, on the side you have to turn
that off.

Speaker 3 (10:56):
Horrible.

Speaker 4 (10:56):
I was just trying to figure this out, like see.

Speaker 3 (11:00):
Ship, so.

Speaker 4 (11:05):
Use alone loneliness is part of being human. But I think,
but there's a line there too, right, because one side
of loneliness that can be signs of depression, you know. Ah,

(11:31):
But I think it's unfair for people to think that, oh,
you have a lot of good things, you should be grateful,
you have people, blah blah blah. When you're depressed, where
you're in a hole. You feel like you're in a
hole deep underground and like there might be people up

(11:52):
top talking to you, but you I feel like you
just feel like you, r uh, what's the word I'm
looking for? Like you put you could be a burden
on someone because you know, this is my problem, my deal.

(12:12):
You know what, what am I going to do? Put
that on someone else. I feel like a lot of
people tend to stay closed off and not talk because
because you know, like you're drowning thinking. And I think

(12:32):
we talked about this last week or the week before,
how we tend to be our worst critics and get
deep into this thought this this thought process of negativity,
and you can truly like make yourself believe that you

(12:56):
have no one when you do have people, because chances
are that there are people around you that do want
to be there for you.

Speaker 3 (13:05):
Not everybody, but because we know.

Speaker 4 (13:07):
That people talk shit too, and I'm here for you
if you need it, But then you need that shit
and where are they? So I feel like we, hopefully
all of us have like at least that one friend
that you can go to and be like, grow, I'm upset,
like shit ain't going right, because, like we talked about before,

(13:30):
like getting in your head is probably one of the
worst places to be, so absolutely talking it out and
having someone to talk talk to at least, you know,
if it's not a therapist, at least a friend, just just.

Speaker 3 (13:49):
Someone that you can say what's on your.

Speaker 4 (13:54):
Mind and hopefully the other person doesn't try and fix it,
but just tries to listen and be there for you.

Speaker 1 (14:02):
I think. I also think that when people sit there
and they say, well, you have to be alone to
feel lonely, you know, some of the some of the
loneliest people are surrounded by people every day.

Speaker 3 (14:15):
Yeah you know what I'm you can you can, you.

Speaker 1 (14:18):
Can laugh, you know what I'm saying. Can you can work, party, chill,
do whatever it is you you do. You can even
you can even be sleeping next to someone and still
have that cold, you know, silent feeling inside of you,
you know what I mean.

Speaker 3 (14:33):
Yeah, it sucks, yeah, Like, but.

Speaker 2 (14:40):
Loneliness is not just about you know, like being depressed
or feeling alone. I mean, even if you have a
great life, you know, good job. We as human beings
were not created to be alone. We were created to
share with others, you know, to be a part of
of other people's lives, to have them a part of us.

(15:02):
And loneliness is not even just about relationships. It's about friendships,
it's about family, you know. Loneliness is a feeling. It's
something that happens to everybody at some point, you know,
So it's not even you know, a lot of people
think it's just depressed people or just no everything.

Speaker 1 (15:21):
Or or people sometimes even think it's just a phase
that you go through.

Speaker 3 (15:25):
Yeah.

Speaker 2 (15:25):
No, I mean people have great lives and still feel lonely.

Speaker 4 (15:32):
Well, yeah, people, that has to do with being content
in your life and other things like that. But I
think there is a line to know when it's depression.
And relationships to me could be any kind familiar friends,
just having like you said, we can't be on our own,

(15:55):
where creatures meant to be around others, we're meant to socialize,
we're meant to get feedback, and I think that when
we don't get those things, you know, if those things
aren't being fulfilled, that's when one can feel alone or
lonely or you know, there are people who do everything

(16:19):
on their list of things that they wanted to accomplish
and do, and they still feel, you know, like lonely,
like they didn't do, like they're missing something, you know.

Speaker 1 (16:33):
We know. It was kind of crazy too. I was
thinking about this whole social media shit, how social media
it does keep people connected. But the lie is where
you think to yourself, you know, especially if you're feeling lonely,
you think that that social media is going to keep

(16:53):
you connected with people, when in fact, connections aren't meant
to be digital. They're meant to be you know, face
to face. You know, real bonds, Real bonds don't need
Wi Fi, you know what I'm saying. I mean, you
really don't need to deal with with someone who who's
just across the world and they're talking to you. Then

(17:17):
they're they're harding your ship and they're liking your pictures,
and those aren't connections, you know what I'm saying. Those
aren't the kinds of connections you you you want to
build upon. The physical connections are the kinds of connections
you need, I think, to be able to to build upon,

(17:38):
you know, because social media got it all fucked up.
You know, just because you know, you know somebody who
lives in fucking Japan or some shit, doesn't mean that
it's a connection, you know, worth worth going crazy over.
You know what I'm trying to say, Like, it's not,
it's not it's not that's not how it is. That's
not what building a connection is. Especially, Yeah, no, in

(18:02):
this in this day and age where everything is digit
is digital, and everything is over the internet.

Speaker 4 (18:07):
I mean, you could totally make emotional connections you get
the internet, Like that's not impossible, But is it, Like,
I mean it's hard. I think that the Internet has
allowed more people to be in touch, but at the
same time, you're limited, Like it's not. I mean, I

(18:36):
like that you can video chat, so if you haven't
seen someone's face in a while, you can talk to
them that way, you know. And and I'm just talking
about friendships, like people that I've known since school and
I don't talk to them as often because everybody's got

(19:01):
shit going on a family. You know, you'll parents always
too busy, so the rest of us have to like
get busy with our cats. So I feel like, you know,
like I have the best friend that I've known since

(19:23):
freshman year, I think for eighth grade. I can't remember
which one, and like she needs my Cuban link my
sister like that, you know, and if I need something,
I can just go like message her, you know, if
she needs to talk about something, she needs advice, she
needs to vent, she knows it's reciprocated, right, So I

(19:48):
don't feel as connected as i'd got to be because
I would rather be spending quality time with her and
her family, but like distance doesn't allow for that. So
I feel in that case, you know, like even you
and I we're friends, so like keeping in touch and

(20:12):
Facebook messenger has become like the way that I communicate
with everybody, unfortunately, and like that's just how.

Speaker 3 (20:22):
Or I mean.

Speaker 4 (20:23):
Texting with the sort of text but you know, it's
just easier to send funny stuff to the d m.

Speaker 1 (20:33):
HM. So all right, yeah, I think I think the
whole you know, Facebook messagers shit is But I do
need to see your faith from time to time, right,
stop bullshitting.

Speaker 4 (20:48):
Okats, So I know I'm just I'm lead in bed
right now. You look, I'm here right now, okay with
a horrible heads all.

Speaker 1 (21:00):
But do you think, yeah, we got to fix that.
Do you think that loneliness can eat at a person,
like make them feel a lot worse than what.

Speaker 4 (21:14):
Of course, because not everybody has a friend like you
or I or you know what I'm saying. Not everybody
has that. And these generations that grew up through internet
and talking text versus actually communicating, like, they're all fucked up.

(21:35):
I mean, do you like, can we blame them? Like
they don't They don't know how to socialize, They don't
know how to really interact with people. And I think
the older you get, and we've talked about this, like
the older you get, the harder it is to make friends.
Yeah you know, so like yeah, it's this is why

(21:55):
I think this is important, Like when you're a child,
when you're a teenager, that you're socializing, that you're meeting
people that you're unfortunately going through some ship you know,
arguments whatever, like these are the experiences we need as
humans so that we also learn like what we like

(22:16):
and don't like about people, what we need, who we
are right now.

Speaker 1 (22:23):
You're you're actually absolutely correct. I mean sometimes I think
in some people when they get to that to that
point where they're feeling like really lonely, like it's the
mind starts to drift. And you know, if you're if
you feel lonely for so long, I think it kind

(22:44):
of like rewires your brain a little bit, you.

Speaker 4 (22:48):
Know exactly to those into the depression component, right.

Speaker 1 (22:54):
It rewires the brain a little bit. It makes you
start feeling you know, all often. You know, maybe you
can even start feeling a little paranoid, like you know,
you put walls up and everything because you know, you
don't know what's going on with yourself and how are
you dealing with certain things.

Speaker 3 (23:12):
Yeah, this is why I think emotional connection is important.

Speaker 1 (23:17):
Emotional connection, Yeah, yeah, I think I think that that's
very important. You know, emotional connections are very important because
I mean.

Speaker 4 (23:30):
Because it's more than surface bullshit comments and conversations. You
know what I'm saying, Like, it's not the hey, how's
it going, and people are like I'm good, Oh, I'm
good too, and a conversation ends, you know, or somebody
post something and then there's like a comment, big comment

(23:50):
or something like. To me, anybody can comment on my social.

Speaker 3 (23:56):
Media, it's more about who's.

Speaker 4 (23:58):
Actually reaching out to me and talking to me congres
like you share something that's important to you. I would
hope that people your actual friends are reaching out to
you directly to congratulate you and not just show faith

(24:19):
on social media. You get what I'm saying, Like, because
to me, that superficial relationship versus actual friendships that actually
have that emotional connection. And when I say emotional connection,

(24:39):
I mean like I know this person. They make you know,
we laugh, We can make each other laugh, We've cried together,
you know, like there's been actual real conversations had. So Like,
if you don't have friendships like that, I feel like

(25:02):
if I'd be easier to get in your head and
feel if you are feeling lonely, Like that's just not
a good pose either.

Speaker 1 (25:13):
Right, Yeah, I mean and and and it gets it
gets everybody. It's not it's it's not just older people,
it's not just younger people. It's everybody. Everybody at some
point in their life feels you know, shitty. You know,
I mean even if you're out there scrolling three four
o'clock in the morning. You know what I'm saying to

(25:35):
Grandma sitting outside City Hall steps. You know what I'm saying,
hanging out with the bes and the Beheatheras and ship everybody.
You can look at people and and and see that
you know, they're out there saying they enjoy themselves, But
who's really really enjoying themselves?

Speaker 4 (25:54):
I think we all could put a face up, you
know what I'm saying, Like, no work, we do it right,
We put a different face on for work. Everybody does it.
Like the minute you're walking through those doors, you have
to be a representative of where you're working or who
you're working for. So like you're not just walking into

(26:17):
a place like whatever. You know, you have to be
dressed apart and acting the part.

Speaker 1 (26:26):
Yeah, I get, I completely understand. And the ship is too.
Is that to me me personally? My my you know,
my my personal opinion on this is a screen isn't
gonna Is it gonna save you? Can't sex, screen can't
save you. You know what I mean? You know, when

(26:51):
when we chase, when we chase connections through the screen
and through the Internet, and you know, through likes and
views and hearts, and all the digital all the digital hits,
everything you get through the internet. You know, I really
think that real connection needs to be present.

Speaker 4 (27:13):
You know, well, yeah, I mean look at people all
like they're celebrities, people who have money, people who have families.

Speaker 3 (27:24):
You would think they have it all that they're happy.

Speaker 4 (27:27):
Look at Robin Williams, Like, to me, that's the prime
example of not even just him. There are a few
celebrities that committed suicide that where or died by suicide.
Sorry that basically like we're shocking because whatever they showed

(27:49):
face or whatever, they they seem so happy. They seem
like life was good, their family loved them. It wasn't
even you know, like, yeah, did.

Speaker 1 (28:01):
You see the video that's out there that they it
was you know how you know how the dude the
dude he has that that he drives a car with
celebrities and they they talk, ship, they sing, they do
a whole bunch of different things in the car while
they're driving and recording. Yeah, yeah, I think it's the
British dude. I don't know who he is.

Speaker 4 (28:20):
Yeah, I don't hear karaoke.

Speaker 1 (28:22):
Yeah he did the one with Lincoln Park. Did you
see that one?

Speaker 3 (28:26):
No.

Speaker 1 (28:27):
Twenty four to forty eight hours before Chester Bennington took
his own life. They recorded it, right, and they did
that karaoke carpool thing, yeah.

Speaker 4 (28:39):
Which is a fun, happy.

Speaker 1 (28:42):
Right, and they were singing, they were laughing, having a
good time. And then a day or two later, like
I was that that was terrible. Yeah, it's terrible. I mean,
it just it just goes. It just goes to show
to the point that you just said, you know, it's

(29:04):
it's it's fucked up. Man.

Speaker 4 (29:06):
Oh man, I just learned about like someone with faith
for work or whatever, there's through families. There is a husband,
he lives on some charity bike thing for motorcycles and

(29:28):
you know, raising money for kids or some shit like that.
Something really great gets killed in a car, a truck
hits him or something car accident. Right, he dies, His
wife commits suicide and she fights out after she finds
out that he said it everything, she picks her own bike.

Speaker 1 (29:51):
Wow.

Speaker 4 (29:53):
So you know what the mind.

Speaker 3 (30:00):
Can suck you up?

Speaker 1 (30:02):
Oh? Absolutely yeah. It can be your best friend or
your worst fucking enemy.

Speaker 4 (30:09):
Man. And if you have like mental illnesses to deal
with on top of that already, it's so difficult. Like
my husband never understands like why I'm so tired all
the time, and I'm just like I don't know either.
I'm trying to find out, but it's really like this

(30:32):
is part of the symptoms of my mental illnesses is
I'm tired. My mind is going all the time. And
when I'm at work, even if I'm I'm not at
work for an eight hour day, like it's it's a lot.
It's a lot for me and and my body like everything,

(30:52):
my brain is like I'm done, I'm done, right, And
it's crazy because I remember for a time where that
wasn't the case for me. But the I don't know
if it's that I'm getting older. I mean, I'm going
to be getting bloodwork done just to check, you know,
stuff out.

Speaker 3 (31:13):
But like.

Speaker 4 (31:16):
That, there's there are symptoms that come with having certain things, uh,
you know, especially when it's trifecta of depression, anxiety, and ADHD,
because those are all like create like things that are

(31:41):
like interacting and fucking with each other. Depression is is
the down not wanting. Anxiety is a constant, NonStop type
of thing, right, and then the ADHD is like who's
focusing on what that's not happening, you know, like this

(32:05):
is not you know, and and unfortunately, like there's medications
that don't really work, they're too the ones that do
are too expensive. Insurance doesn't cover all of it. God
God knows now what's going to happen with our insurances.
But like these are the things that we're going to

(32:26):
be dealing with moving forward, which scares me, Like there
are so many medications that people rely on to stay sane. Yeah,
Like I I'm on meant to make sure that I

(32:47):
don't fall into a depressive episode because I have manic
the impressive disorder. Like if I don't take my medication,
like I get like suicidal ideation, Like it's it's not

(33:08):
like I'm sad sometimes type of things. For me, I
have an actual disorder, you know, along with all the
other things that that fall into it. And and then
like with hormones, I have PCOS. So then like I

(33:28):
have all these issues with my hormones, I produce too
much tystoscroone. I you know, have to deal with hair
on my fucking chin and like a mustache and shit
if I don't take care of it, like you know,
some women wear that shit proudly. I don't want no,
thank you, I don't want that shit. Ut me, I don't.

Speaker 3 (33:53):
And you know, like I feel like I.

Speaker 4 (33:58):
Feel like the the oddor whoever that was plucking the
mom's hair in my big fact Greek wedding and she's like,
oh god, hold, let me get you on.

Speaker 3 (34:09):
And it's like that's how I feel every day. I'm
like plucking hair.

Speaker 4 (34:12):
Even though I shouldn't be doing that. I really need
like hair removal. If anybody got some suggestions for that,
I will be grateful because I do need some of that.

Speaker 3 (34:26):
Oh I thought I bought it.

Speaker 2 (34:29):
I've bought a machine. Uh and it does wonders.

Speaker 4 (34:33):
Yeah, okay, we'll have to talk on about the man.

Speaker 1 (34:39):
Or.

Speaker 3 (34:39):
I'm also like, there have been some creams. See this
is how then as get me.

Speaker 4 (34:45):
Social media, but like I want, like there's a cream
that's a hair removal. I would prefer that. Listen, you're
in the minority. So this is like what's gonna happen.
The conversations just going to go places. Sometimes us women
were networking here try to figure it out. But yeah, regardless,

(35:09):
like a lot of the shit is hormonal, a lot
like all these things plan into the brain. The hormones,
the just our organs. Everything happen because right because like
all these things have a purpose, but they also all
interfere with our brain, how we think, how we cope,

(35:36):
how we process, like and if we're not out there
getting the help that we need, that's a problem, Like
there you need to get the help that like I can't.
It bothers me to know people that suffer from things

(35:56):
I have issues but refuse to go to therapy, refuse
to get on medication or something to help them to
make it better, and just continually be pissed and still
blaming people and shit, It's like, no own your shit,
you know, Like there are certain things that we need
to own in our life. There are certain things that

(36:19):
we need to do in order to move on from
certain trauma from our past. There are certain conversations sometimes
that need to be had with certain people or whatever
the case may be of writing a letter, fucking just
there are things that people should be doing to break

(36:45):
that cycle that we our generation are. We are the
cycle breakers, like we're supposed to be the cycle breakers.
So we want, because we want our children, your grandchildren
to have better to not do the same shit that

(37:08):
got us in the positions that we got ourselves in.
This is why this continues to happen. Like, you know,
we kept telling people don't be hitting you're kids so
god damn much that don't help them, and you know
we're seeing more and more the effects of that, Like

(37:28):
you can't continue this. This is not like, well this
my dad did this to me, so I'm gonna no,
that's stupid. First of all, when your dad did that
to you, you were very upset. It made you fear
your father. You also now don't speak to this like
you want nothing to do with this person because they
mistreated you. They shouldn't have done the things they did

(37:51):
to you. Like that's the other thing is like owning
up and like I said before, like sometimes you need
that therapist, that person on the outside to say, like, yeah,
you're right to feel this way because so and so
was wrong. You don't deserve that. Nobody deserves that. You know, Like,

(38:17):
you can't heal unless you do work. Like I feel
like people want quick fixes for everything, and it doesn't
work like that. You can like hide a lot of
things easily, like people will like this fits into exactly

(38:40):
what you're saying. People acting happy and all this shit.
They're doing this, they're impickable. They're they're going here, there is,
they're part of a charity, they're all this stuff, but
they're fucking lonely as fuck and hurting inside when they
go home, Like and they're not talking about because there's

(39:02):
that hole that's not being fulfilled, a need that's not
being fulfilled. Something isn't being supported or something isn't being
spoken about. And we have this stupid societal and cultural
thing around people being like self aware and open about

(39:26):
what they're feeling, which is so weird. Like that's not
a weakness to be open about what's wrong. It's not
a weakness to cry when you're hurt or something hurts you.
That's a real human emotion. Like that's like the crying

(39:50):
it's almost a is the word atomic, not automatic response,
but like a natural response. The body needs to let
out the frustration, the whatever it is. That's what tears
are like. It's it's a real emotion, Like when you're

(40:11):
fucking dying, laughing and almost pissing your pants, that's an
emotion that like you're not controlling. This is just like
what you're feeling.

Speaker 1 (40:20):
In that moments you can't control.

Speaker 4 (40:24):
Yeah, you know, so okay, Like I don't know if
it happens for the females and veil, but like.

Speaker 3 (40:33):
My whole life, if I like, you've never laughed so hard.

Speaker 4 (40:38):
And you peed, like, like laugh so hard, you pissed yourself. No, no,
I have, definitely I have. And I don't be like
full on this myself, you know, but just like some
pe I was like I was an adult that did

(41:00):
that happen to my whole life. I'm just saying, like,
as an adult, I remember this happening, like crying, laughing,
and like to the point that you see, I didn't
see videos of it, so you just you just don't though.

(41:20):
I guess as a as a male, I'm gonna look
at the comments and not get myself kicked out of here.

Speaker 3 (41:31):
Even though I was such a love But so all right,
so let's.

Speaker 4 (41:38):
See the funniest people is the most lusty tumented people
through Yeah yeah, oh sorry, if I put off with
wakes affect, definitely sounds like that. Maria's about very difficult going.

Speaker 1 (42:00):
To you're going through going through the messages. You can
see it on the screen.

Speaker 3 (42:04):
No, bro, I've got small eyes and it's on my phone.
I don't have a beautiful big laptop in part of me.

Speaker 4 (42:10):
Like you, it's very difficult to get a diagnosis, especially
as a woman. Oh yeah, you could have a whole
fucking conversation on that one. Women also tend to go
undiagnosed a lot of mental health problems. Uh be asking
if atrials's machine that you're using, and then we're talking

(42:35):
about perrymenopause. I know because I'm probably.

Speaker 3 (42:39):
In that a paraly for perrymenopause.

Speaker 4 (42:44):
It's like a test I think that you have to
take and it's not even something that they just do,
like you have to ask for it. It's just such bullshit.
And I don't think that it's because probably insurance doesn't
cover it, because they're.

Speaker 3 (42:57):
About the sumbags.

Speaker 4 (42:59):
I remember asking you for the doctor marin therapist in
high school. My dance answer was no, daughter of mine
going to a shrink.

Speaker 3 (43:07):
People will think they're crazy.

Speaker 4 (43:09):
Yeah, I mean, yep, that's what it was.

Speaker 3 (43:11):
Oh I did it. I didn't get myself kicked off.

Speaker 1 (43:16):
Oh nice.

Speaker 3 (43:17):
I'm proud of myself.

Speaker 4 (43:19):
But yeah, I think, like, holy shit.

Speaker 3 (43:22):
It's just it's crazy. It's crazy.

Speaker 4 (43:26):
Yes, I don't know how it is for men, you're
gonna have to speak for the man experience, but for women,
I do feel that it is difficult to get diagnosed
with things. I didn't get diagnosed with my PCOS until
I was in my late thirties, as well as depression.

(43:49):
The other things actually came closer to for my forties.
I think whenever I was living down the shore, that's
when I got die diagnosed.

Speaker 3 (44:00):
With a lot of this stuff.

Speaker 4 (44:02):
So, yeah, it's sad and it shouldn't be that way.
And now I've heard as well, it's very difficult to
diagnose young women with H on the autism spectrum. Auctions
and disorder spectrum. That's also another thing. And the more

(44:25):
tests that they have, the more people that are realizing
that they're neurodivergent and may have these I prefer thank you, okay, neurospicy.

Speaker 1 (44:42):
Whatever that means.

Speaker 3 (44:44):
You don't you don't know.

Speaker 1 (44:47):
I don't even know. I don't mean what she said,
but it just sounded funny.

Speaker 3 (44:50):
Well, neuro divergent is the word she calls it, neuro spicy,
but neuro diverse it is meaning like it is a
scope now where it's before.

Speaker 4 (45:05):
Only autistic people were considered neurodivergent, but it turns out
that it's also people with adhd Uh. It's right, like
what once was aspergers now isn't any morse now, just
as on the spectrum. So they changed it because there

(45:29):
it literally is a spectrum, so you can be within
that spectrum in different ways. So they call that the neurodiversion.

Speaker 1 (45:40):
Sounds like a movie I know, like.

Speaker 3 (45:44):
Remember like Minority Poor stuff like that kind of stuff.

Speaker 4 (45:49):
It's just reminds me of like all those sci fi
movies we watched. That was like, you know, they're going
to take all your information. Everything's going to be like
your phone or your skin or your eye or whatever.

Speaker 1 (46:03):
You know, like.

Speaker 3 (46:08):
You're happening girl. It's just not cool.

Speaker 1 (46:13):
The ship the ship.

Speaker 3 (46:13):
About wait, I bro stop with.

Speaker 1 (46:18):
The ship about Minority report was that you can walk
in he was walking in the mall and the cameras
will get in your eye.

Speaker 3 (46:26):
Looking at your information.

Speaker 4 (46:31):
You can't h like they had like I told you
with your d NA ship your fuck that boy. Now
they got you gave us the DNA.

Speaker 3 (46:43):
That's the sober Oh my god, it's just crazy.

Speaker 1 (46:48):
Yeah, it's wild because and and and the ship about
that film too, it was. It wasn't it about locking
somebody up before they committed the crime.

Speaker 4 (46:58):
Yes, yeah, it was all about pre It was the three.

Speaker 2 (47:04):
Yeah, it was about these three neuro divergent people who
could sense telepathy or telepathically that someone they could tell
kind of the pature, they could tell if somebody was
going to commit a crime.

Speaker 3 (47:18):
Yeah, damn, it's amazing. But me digressed.

Speaker 4 (47:25):
The point was that, yes, unfortunately, like I'm sure that mengo,
I'm diagnosed, because men don't even like go to the doctor.

Speaker 1 (47:36):
So the thing the thing about the thing about dudes is,
and I'm gonna speak on it because I'm a dude,
is that.

Speaker 2 (47:45):
You know, it's it's your pride, your ego.

Speaker 1 (47:49):
Thank you, doctor, I appreciate that. No, it's true, it's pride, ego.
You know what I'm saying. It's they don't a lot
of men don't. I'm I'm not. I'm not that dude,
but a lot of men they don't. They don't want
to they don't want to deal with that ship. It's like, no,

(48:09):
that's not me, man, I'm not. I ain't got ship
wrong with me. Man, I'm good. Now, you're not good, bro?
You know what I'm saying you're not good. You're definitely
not good. Why the fuck do you think you're good.
You're out there fucking doing ship you shouldn't be doing,
you know what I mean.

Speaker 4 (48:26):
It's my biggest thing, Like wouldn't you want to know, Like,
wouldn't you want to know if something is up with you?

Speaker 3 (48:33):
And that's why they don't.

Speaker 2 (48:36):
To deal with anything that makes it look like they
are weak or need assistance.

Speaker 4 (48:42):
Now, listen, you're the biggest babies when you get sick
at the end of the world.

Speaker 1 (48:51):
Nah, man, don't even don't even go there. Listen, listen
to me. I'm I wanted them. I'm wanted them dudes
that if I feel if if I feel a sniffle,
I'm going to the doctor, I'm not gonna come. I'm
not gonna sit there and be like yo when I'm
not gonna wait till I'm half dead in my bed.

(49:14):
I can't get out of bed.

Speaker 2 (49:15):
And oh but most of the men that I know
that I've treated all that, yeah, they're like, no.

Speaker 1 (49:23):
I'm proactive. I'm like once that, once my mind, my
fingernail hurt, I'm like, doc, let me tell you something.
I got this little sting in my fingernail. I don't
know what it is, you know what I mean? Like,
I'm not I'm proactive, man, I don't.

Speaker 4 (49:37):
I feel like one people hit forty five, they actually
really start going to the doctor, and then you don't stop.
You literally start adding doctors to your fucking resume. It's like,
all right, what specialists do I need to see? Dow
And it's like, how do I pronounce that? Did I
spell that?

Speaker 3 (49:55):
Right? I don't think so, you know, like, no.

Speaker 1 (50:00):
The ship about the mental health thing, right, it comes
to men in mental health, like I think, I think
they look at it as you know, they don't. They
don't want to be labeled. They don't want to be judged.
They don't want to be seen, you know what I'm saying,
Like most dudes. Most dudes don't want to deal with that.

(50:21):
They don't want to be labeled, you know, whether it
be depressed or whether it be you know, suicidal, homicidal,
any kind of sidle. You know what I'm saying. They
don't want to be labeled as any of that. Ships,
So they.

Speaker 4 (50:36):
Tell you we need to know if they're hole, you.

Speaker 1 (50:43):
Know what I mean. Nah, But as far as far
as you know, I always I always preach, you know,
go go get help. You know what I'm saying, don't
don't hide behind you know those those tears of a clown.
You gotta go out there and you gotta do what
you gotta do to me. Make sure you're good, because
you're not gonna be good to anybody if you're not

(51:04):
good to yourself. You know, you're not gonna be any
good to anyone if you're not good to yourself. You know,
if you don't, if you don't, if you don't care
enough about yourself to go get the help you need.
What makes you think you're gonna be good to Dora?
You know what I'm saying, Like, you can't, you can't
be good to anybody if if if you're not, if
you're not taking care of you, you know what I'm saying,

(51:25):
nobody's nobody's gonna want to nobody's gonna want to deal
with you, especially if you're if you're out there, Oh
my god, it's terrible, man, It's terrible what goes on
out there these days, you know. And this the ship
that the ship that that pisces me off most is
that if you're speaking to someone and talking to someone

(51:47):
and they say to you, so tell me a little
bit about yourself. All right, here's a little bit about me. Okay, boom,
we're talking about you know, yeah, we're talking about a
whole bunch of different shit. I'm telling you about me.
I'm telling you about you know, my smiles and the

(52:10):
good ship. But then you say to me, then you
ask me, let's go a little bit deeper. Let's take
a little bit deeper. Tell me more about you, about
who you are. Well, if that's the route you want
to go, all right, let's let's do that. Well. My
name is Big holy On. Okay, I suffer from bipolar

(52:32):
to I'm manic depressive, all right. I have PTSD, borderline
personality disorder and ADHD. You know what I hear after
that fucking cricket, not even the crickets. The crickets done
left the conversation, you hear, yo, Like the crickets are

(52:58):
even gone. You don't hear. You don't have ship. What
you're here is hello, like where everybody go? You know
what I'm saying, It's just it's just crazy how people
people They say that society is becoming more stigma free.
That's bullshit. It's bullshit because there there's there's nothing stigma

(53:23):
free about society these days. Nothing.

Speaker 4 (53:27):
I mean, I think got both as women or men,
that that's just to be baggage to somebody, you know
what I'm saying. Like I've had people like if I
told them things about me, they haven't been like oh okay,
and they don't want to.

Speaker 3 (53:44):
Deal with that.

Speaker 4 (53:45):
So it's like, fine, but your way out the door.
I'd rather go then stick around. Like if they can't
even stick around to find out more about you and
see what you're doing about those things, then that's on them.

Speaker 2 (54:01):
Yeah, but he also came up with a lot. He
didn't just come up with, Oh I'm bipolar or oh
I'm borderline personality.

Speaker 3 (54:08):
He's got no friends exactly.

Speaker 4 (54:13):
He has like half of the whole what is it
called the DSM or whatever, Yeah, the DSM five.

Speaker 2 (54:20):
But it's funny because it's it's the same thing like
when I guys told you a while back about a
guy that I was talking to who had placed on
his profile that he was disabled, And so when I
ask about disabled, what does that mean to you? What
does that look like for you? You know, He's like, well,
I have diabetes and that's all it gave me. And

(54:44):
then down the road, not even like a month or two,
I'm like, dude, you don't just have diabetes. You're forty
five years old, and you, because of your diabetes, have
both your legs, like both your feet amputated with your
toes uh not even a quadruple bypass, but a quintuple
bypass uh, blood poisoning. And you still because of your ego,

(55:12):
when I tell you I know that you need to
eat because your breath you know, has a distinct smell,
you deny it and then you end up shitting in
my car, Like what the heck? So it's it's not
just about being honest, it's about being transparent. What does
all of that involve? But at the same time, accepting

(55:33):
that this is your situation? Did you allow yourself to
be put in this situation? Did you put yourself in
that situation? And and like TG said, what are you
doing about it? You know? Because I can. I can.
One of the things that that is I can't say
wrong with me, But one of my struggles with like
the dating and meeting new people is I am very understanding,

(55:57):
I am very accepting, I am very old and honest,
and you know, try to accept people as they are,
but it's like when you're not because there are those
superficial people out there that you know, depending on how
old they are or whatever, it's like they don't want
to deal with that much baggage. But at the same token,

(56:19):
if you're not giving all that information, if you're not
even secure in your own stuff and what part of
it you caused and what part of it is out
of your control, then how do you expect somebody else
to be okay with that?

Speaker 3 (56:32):
Right?

Speaker 2 (56:33):
So you know, sometimes the reality is not that they're
not accepting, but that you're not even accepting yourself, And
so it's causing that feeling of non acceptance. Because let
me tell you something, whatever issues I got going on,
I own them, whether I like it or not, they

(56:53):
don't define me. I do do stuff like I am
treating it. So my thing is this is the life
the cards that I was dealt. I did what I
could with them, and so be it. So this is
my whole enchilada. And I give the enchilada and they're like, whoa, hey,
I'd rather give it all to you up front. Let

(57:13):
you know what you're in for and let you make
that decision, then keep giving you meal piece and then
eventually getting to this place where you feel like you've
been lying to because I tell you, I felt like
I had been lied to. Because yeah, because when you
hide those things from somebody you're hoping to make a

(57:35):
life with with, and they're only giving it to you
little tiny bits by little tiny bits, And then you're
giving it to them where it's like they have no
choice but to notice because you just shit on their stuff.
Like what, what do you expect them to say? Do
you expect to that you know? So it's like you

(57:56):
can't even trust me to be vulnerable enough to share
this with me when you know all you have to
do is just own it because it is your life,
and whether people accept it or not, that's on them.
But would you rather hide it and be with somebody
with a lie or give them all the information and
let them walk away in the beginning, because they're saving

(58:18):
you the problem, they're saving you the heartache. But you
have to care and love you first. You have to
accept who you have to accept who you are and
be okay with the fact that most of this were
eighty percent of this world is superficial and they're not
going to stick around. But the truth is you don't
want them sticking around anyway.

Speaker 1 (58:41):
Yeah, you're absolutely right, you don't want you to fucking
stick around any God damn weight.

Speaker 2 (58:50):
That was my five cents.

Speaker 1 (58:51):
Go kick fucking rocks.

Speaker 3 (58:54):
I don't want no fake ass bitches.

Speaker 1 (58:58):
Word if you if you you know, if you can't,
if you can't handle it, man, you know, I mean, it's.

Speaker 2 (59:07):
Abody, get out of my kitchen.

Speaker 1 (59:11):
Well how big is the kitchen? Because look at it anyway.

Speaker 2 (59:17):
But look at it this way, corneil, And I want
you to think about it. How many times or can
you think of a time when you've had someone in
your life that accepted you for all of that but
because you didn't believe enough in yourself or because you
know you for whatever reason let that person slip through

(59:40):
your fingers or left them hanging on and they accepted
you for all that came with you, but you didn't
do what you needed to do.

Speaker 1 (59:52):
M Let me think I've probably I've probably have had
have come across a couple maybe one, one, maybe two. Yeah,
that were that were really about that life, you know
what I'm saying.

Speaker 2 (01:00:12):
And so we can't generalize.

Speaker 1 (01:00:15):
No, noah, noah, just yeah maybe and and oh ship,
I'm going to drive.

Speaker 2 (01:00:28):
On and there is yet another reason why I'm still
single because people don't like to be seen.

Speaker 3 (01:00:43):
Right, yeah, oh ship, that a good much for that.

Speaker 1 (01:00:54):
But yeah, I think, but I think, see, I I
just I just personally think, me me, I think that
some sometimes it's it's hard. It's not, it's not hard,
but sometimes at some at some point, I was dealing

(01:01:20):
with a lot of ship. I'm not gonna front at
some point I was dealing with a lot of ship.
I'm not dealing with a lot of ship, now what
I'm saying. But at some point I was dealing with
a lot of ship, and.

Speaker 2 (01:01:30):
I was.

Speaker 1 (01:01:32):
More worried about and I'm gonna be honest, I was
more worried about whether or not I was gonna wake
up the next day, you know.

Speaker 4 (01:01:41):
And I had.

Speaker 1 (01:01:45):
A lot, I mean a lot of ship popping off
and going on in my life that I shouldn't I
shouldn't have been having to deal with m hm.

Speaker 3 (01:01:56):
And and.

Speaker 1 (01:02:01):
Yeah, I I I think the fact that I think
the fact that I let someone you know, good you know,

(01:02:23):
thick rocks and it's it's not. It's not because I
didn't I didn't want it. It was just because I
wasn't prepared myself to to to be in that kind
of situation because I think, I think, I think, I'm

(01:02:45):
I think I'm look I love. Now now I can
honestly say I love, I love me some meat. You
know what I mean? I love me some meat. And
and I and I and I'm that dude. You know
what I'm saying, Like I love, I love, I love myself, you.

Speaker 3 (01:03:02):
Know what I mean. Like beautiful, so beautiful to be that.

Speaker 4 (01:03:10):
I have a devil's advocates for you, though? What Because
here's my thing. If someone is willing and wanting to accept.

Speaker 3 (01:03:23):
Someone as they are hell of a match, as they
are right right, and they know.

Speaker 4 (01:03:32):
This person needs work, You know you need work, why
can't you still have that?

Speaker 3 (01:03:40):
And why can't why? What is the expectation on your end.

Speaker 4 (01:03:48):
That you think that you can't meet to just have
someone in your vice in some way that is supportive
and loving?

Speaker 1 (01:04:03):
What is question?

Speaker 4 (01:04:08):
I really forgot it. You should have wrote it down.

Speaker 1 (01:04:12):
What is the question?

Speaker 3 (01:04:17):
All right?

Speaker 4 (01:04:18):
I guess what I'm saying is what is what is
your expectation? Like, what is it that you think you
need to do or be in order to accept the
love of someone else, Because you have someone who's saying
that they're accepting you for who you are, who bees

(01:04:41):
the future, who wants to build a path, let's say, okay,
and the honest truth is you're afraid. But besides that,
you having things going on in your life? Does that
ever really stop? Like, let's be real, you.

Speaker 3 (01:05:00):
Can hold on, hold on a minute, yeah, hold up.

Speaker 4 (01:05:07):
I'm just I've tried to cause right now, I'm going
through to think that I'm trying to understand that whole
level of.

Speaker 3 (01:05:18):
Like what what is what is it on your end
as a man?

Speaker 1 (01:05:22):
As a man?

Speaker 3 (01:05:23):
Why are you saying like I couldn't I can't with
you now damn.

Speaker 1 (01:05:31):
Hold on?

Speaker 3 (01:05:33):
Yes, killing.

Speaker 1 (01:05:37):
Yeah right, no, so like I said, now so then yes,
just that then I had I was, I was, I
was coming out, oh every I was dealing with a
whole lot of ship. I was dealing with with with
with with work issues, I was dealing with issues, I

(01:06:00):
was dealing with relationship issues. I was like like I
was in with all kinds of shit, like shit that
I should not have been dealing with.

Speaker 2 (01:06:12):
Right but that person seemed to be on board with
all that.

Speaker 3 (01:06:16):
Right, This is my point. This is what I'm saying,
Like I feel like maybe you were being one hundred
percent honest and I think that like.

Speaker 4 (01:06:31):
I want to understand, like for real, I'm trying to understand.

Speaker 3 (01:06:34):
The man you here of all right, Yeah, Like I
don't get it. Like that's the part I don't get.

Speaker 4 (01:06:47):
You find yourself someone who is willing and patient or
whatever saying I'm here, and you don't allow them in
to support you and the way that you need. Instead,
you say, well, I'm not ready because I got all
this going on.

Speaker 3 (01:07:06):
My thing is.

Speaker 1 (01:07:08):
Right.

Speaker 4 (01:07:10):
What if you just said fuck it, I'm gonna see
where this goes. Then you get to be real transparent.
This person gets to see the worst of you, and
if they still want to be with you, that says
even more.

Speaker 1 (01:07:25):
That's what I and I think, that's what That's what
most men are afraid of. That right there, the fact
that you.

Speaker 3 (01:07:33):
Can walking away and you can give them that, you can.

Speaker 1 (01:07:38):
Give them your worst like like who you who you
are inside? It can be like the worst the worst person.
And then they turn around and say.

Speaker 4 (01:07:50):
They if they be right, if they think then that's
that's what it is, that they couldn't handle you. But
now saying you would have done that and that person
would have stuck through right and been there and then
you were still healing and they understood that and they

(01:08:12):
were reading.

Speaker 1 (01:08:14):
But how many lives do it take to get to
the center of tati opop?

Speaker 3 (01:08:19):
I don't know. You told me it's different, It's.

Speaker 1 (01:08:23):
Different for everybody. That's that's what that's what I'm trying
to say. Like it's it's if if somebody feels that
they're if somebody comes to.

Speaker 2 (01:08:32):
Be putting themselves out there, then well, you're right, you're
absolutely right.

Speaker 1 (01:08:37):
But what I'm what I'm what I'm saying, what I'm
saying is is that when a person, when a person
isn't secure within themselves, when they're not secure with who
they are, despite the situation, despite the problem, despite the bullshit,
they're never going to be prepared and never going to
be ready. There's always going to be there's always going

(01:08:58):
to be a problem. And and you are and you're
absolutly you're absolutely right. I'm not saying.

Speaker 2 (01:09:06):
If they're not for sale, well I'm.

Speaker 1 (01:09:08):
Not advertising no goods. My goods is the goods, and
I'm not gonna be advertising no goods. What I'm saying
is but what I'm saying, what I'm trying to say,
is that it's it's more, it's more about his insecurities
than it is anything else.

Speaker 2 (01:09:31):
Then you can't say that there's nobody out there that's
willing to deal with you.

Speaker 3 (01:09:36):
No, well I'm talking about I'm talking about a little
more general. But yeah, I'm not.

Speaker 1 (01:09:43):
I'm, like I said, at this point in my life,
Like I said, I love some of me. What I'm saying,
I'm I'm in. I'm at a point in my life
where I'm about it. I'm about that life. You know
what I mean. I'm not I'm not about I'm not
about not being transparent. I'm not about not being communicative.

(01:10:03):
I'm not. I'm not. I'm all about communications, transparency, honesty, loyalty, respect,
and all the other good ship I'm running out of fingers.
But about self care, I care for ship. I take
care of myself just because I eat a key line
pie once. You know why, don't mean I don't care

(01:10:24):
for myself.

Speaker 3 (01:10:26):
That's part of self care. You know what I mean yourself?

Speaker 2 (01:10:31):
You know I mean taking care of your ailments and
not feeding them.

Speaker 1 (01:10:38):
How am I not taking care of my ailments?

Speaker 2 (01:10:40):
I mean self control, discipline.

Speaker 1 (01:10:44):
Hey, I like pizza.

Speaker 2 (01:10:48):
And I like men with big muscles, but that doesn't
mean I'm gonna get it because we're being exactly easier
to get.

Speaker 3 (01:10:59):
There's a pizza area right now, is open?

Speaker 2 (01:11:02):
Mm hmmm. All right, then let me put it this way.
I like I like Dominicans, but that don't mean I
want to date them. Okay, okay, because it's not new
for my health. Yes, it's about self control and disappointed.

Speaker 3 (01:11:24):
Are you saying it's too much?

Speaker 1 (01:11:27):
No?

Speaker 2 (01:11:27):
No, plot, I can't eat the platinum. I just it's
not not the Dominican plat because you know it's not
good for me.

Speaker 3 (01:11:36):
I eat your God damn, what are we anyway?

Speaker 2 (01:11:46):
Man?

Speaker 1 (01:11:46):
How do we get here?

Speaker 3 (01:11:47):
All right? So?

Speaker 1 (01:11:48):
Anyway, like I was saying, like I was saying.

Speaker 2 (01:11:50):
You know, you're the head of the show, Corleon, so
talk I'm.

Speaker 1 (01:11:54):
Holding I'm holding together. Don't worry about it. It's good.
I got this now.

Speaker 4 (01:12:01):
I think I got the answer, which was the insecurity part,
the understanding of the if I don't think I'm good
enough for you?

Speaker 1 (01:12:14):
No, I mean it's not it's not really about whether
or not I think I'm good enough for you, you
know what I'm saying, Like he could be thinking, it's
not about whether or not I think I'm good enough
for you. I think I'm good enough for a whole
lot of people.

Speaker 3 (01:12:27):
But what I what?

Speaker 2 (01:12:28):
What?

Speaker 3 (01:12:28):
What it is?

Speaker 1 (01:12:29):
If I have insecurities about myself and and and yourself. Yeah,
if I'm insecure about me and about what's we're talking about, well,
you guys are talking were asking me if I feel
insecure about me and about what I had, well what
I can and can't offer, then that's a problem.

Speaker 2 (01:12:51):
Yes, Because wasn't it Bob Marley that said, no woman,
no crime. No howard is a man that ignites a
woman's fire with no intention of keeping it burning something
like that.

Speaker 1 (01:13:06):
No, I said that yesterday.

Speaker 2 (01:13:08):
Got because that's the thing. It's like people know that
they're not ready, but then they hook other people by
putting themselves out there and they're still not ready. So
it's like you just basically wasted not just your time,

(01:13:29):
but somebody else's time, somebody else's emotions, you know. But
we don't think about that. We just let it all,
let the let the flag fly and go with the flow,
you know, and people get hurt.

Speaker 1 (01:13:43):
The flow, No, go with the wind is blowing in
that direction for the flag, so we have to go
in that direction. Flowing is more like water. Flag is
flying with the wind, you know. All right, now, I
get though. I mean people, people should not be putting

(01:14:08):
themselves out there if they're not prepared. That's the bottom line.
If they're not there, don't wish.

Speaker 2 (01:14:13):
Don't wish for a goal that you're not willing to
deal with what comes with it.

Speaker 1 (01:14:19):
Yeah, yeah, you're absolutely right. You are absolutely right. No,
there's no there's no there's no excuse for putting yourself
out there. Somebody comes along that is exactly what it
is you feel you're looking for, and you run away.

(01:14:45):
You know what I'm saying. I mean, it shouldn't. It
shouldn't be that way, you know.

Speaker 3 (01:14:53):
Okay, It's like, yeah, I had an act.

Speaker 1 (01:15:00):
We had Actually I had a contest I wanted to
do for a T shirt.

Speaker 2 (01:15:08):
You can't do no darn contest for a T shirt
until you give your staff their darn shirts.

Speaker 3 (01:15:15):
That's I mean, all right, So.

Speaker 1 (01:15:20):
I won't I want, I won't once Once you guys
get your shirts once you got Yeah, look I wear mine.

Speaker 2 (01:15:33):
Well that's because you keep everything to yourself. You're greedy.

Speaker 1 (01:15:40):
Yeah, unbelievable.

Speaker 2 (01:15:41):
We've been holding this down with you for years now
and we're still that's right.

Speaker 1 (01:15:50):
Oh my god, we're rich with life, that's rich. So yeah.
So yeah, that's yeah, that's what it is.

Speaker 3 (01:16:13):
They hurt.

Speaker 1 (01:16:14):
That's exactly what it is.

Speaker 2 (01:16:20):
That. I don't think Corleone expected that his podcast might
hurt him.

Speaker 4 (01:16:26):
Ain't ain't sure hurting me, therapist, like we did a
quick sush, some peace came up.

Speaker 3 (01:16:39):
A little bigger.

Speaker 2 (01:16:41):
My d came to keep with me when he tells
people that this might hurt.

Speaker 1 (01:16:53):
All the time all the time. Yeah, I have a
I have I have a great sense of human So
none of that good. Yeah all right. So with that
being said, what are where are we? All? Right?

Speaker 4 (01:17:13):
Well, did you have anything else to set the because
you talk the hell out of whatever we're talking about.

Speaker 1 (01:17:21):
Yeah, I mean, that's that's that's that's pretty much what
I wanted to say. What I wanted to discuss, just
the fact that loneliness is real. You know that people
really do get lonely. It's not it's not it doesn't
make you weak. It doesn't, you know, make you any
less of a person by feeling lonely, you know what

(01:17:44):
I mean? You know, And I just think that people
need to communicate more and be more present one another.

Speaker 2 (01:17:56):
And and get in their cars and drive, know what
I mean?

Speaker 1 (01:18:00):
Yeah, t G you know, gotta bring me like that lastop.

Speaker 3 (01:18:07):
So I can fix it for you, all right, All right,
this conversation took that, sue.

Speaker 1 (01:18:19):
Yeah, you're right.

Speaker 2 (01:18:20):
Well he's got to get in the car too, because
he's supposed to be visiting people too.

Speaker 3 (01:18:24):
Oh yeah, I'll just talk about me and whatever I did.

Speaker 2 (01:18:29):
It. Weren't we supposed to be planning a friends giving
last year and that never happened.

Speaker 3 (01:18:34):
Yeah, yeah, looks.

Speaker 1 (01:18:41):
Ship. Yeah, you're right, you're absolutely right, absolutely right. So no,
I don't know.

Speaker 2 (01:18:53):
I'm getting fired together.

Speaker 1 (01:18:57):
Nobody's got No one is getting fired, all right. So
with that being said, anybody got a final thought? Anybody else?
Anybody want to keep up partying? A partying thought?

Speaker 4 (01:19:17):
What's going on right now? Well, yesterday was veterans today,
So happy to lead a veteran. Thank you for your
service to those who have served.

Speaker 3 (01:19:27):
For us and our customers. Thank you, Thank you, what
else is going on before we leave again?

Speaker 4 (01:19:36):
What it's like two weeks so Thanksgiving more?

Speaker 3 (01:19:40):
Yeah, I'm gonna throw up here. So that's happened.

Speaker 2 (01:19:46):
Mm hmm, that's happening.

Speaker 3 (01:19:51):
Oh yeah, this time is just going back too fast.
Please just go down a little bit. And this darkness,
Lord of my I can't. It's dark too early.

Speaker 4 (01:20:04):
I think, like that's the least favorite thing. I really
wish they would get rid of this daylight saving time
things like they had mentioned that they were going to
and nothing ever happened, And I'm like, please get forge
it because this is crazy. It's like four thirty and

(01:20:26):
the sun is set. Yeah, yeah, it's five thirty and
it's feel like it's nine.

Speaker 3 (01:20:34):
It's like, what the hell, it's weird.

Speaker 1 (01:20:39):
What about you, lady G I thought, I any final thought?

Speaker 2 (01:20:44):
Oh not really, not really, Okay, I have one.

Speaker 1 (01:20:52):
Okay, yeah, I actually had to write it out because
it took me. It took me an hour to write it.

Speaker 3 (01:20:58):
But wow, yeah, all right.

Speaker 1 (01:21:00):
My final thought is this loneliness is loud in the
world that pretends it's connected, and most of us are
not too scared to admit we feel it. But the
truth is Loneliness isn't a weakness. It's a signal, a
reminder that we are human and built for real connection,

(01:21:21):
not just digital echoes. The facts don't lie. Loneliness hits
harder than people think, and the misconceptions around it keep
too many of us suffering in silence. So if you're
feeling it, you're not broken, You're awake, and the first
step out isn't pretending you're fine, it's admitting you're not

(01:21:45):
and choosing not to sit in that silence alone. That
is my final thought for the evening. I like that,
thank you, And with that being said, I'm big Holdion,
that's t G Love, that's Lady G. We are this

(01:22:08):
is my Herd podcast and always remember that at some point,
and we found that out tonight, that this my good night, everybody,
good night show.