Why Not Wednesday (Recorded LIVE on 2-12-25)

Lets talk about what's really going on in these relationships. Story time...So lets break it down! Ummm Yeah someone's feeling just Might Hurt after this.

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Episode Transcript

Speaker 1 (00:09):
S S S S.

Speaker 2 (00:40):
S say, Hey, what's up? Everybody is big called on

(01:36):
with this might her podcast coming to you live from Like, oh,
I don't know where the fuck you wanted to come
live from. That's where we're live from, mainly somewhere in Jersey.
I'm not gonna tell you where, but somewhere in Jersey,
you know what I mean. You aren't bringing my co host,

(01:57):
Lady g.

Speaker 3 (01:59):
How you I'm great? How are you?

Speaker 2 (02:02):
I'm good? I'm good. How's everything been?

Speaker 3 (02:06):
Everything's great as usual?

Speaker 2 (02:08):
Yeah, you're always always always you know what I.

Speaker 3 (02:10):
Mean, It's always great.

Speaker 2 (02:13):
That's good. That's good. How was your your last two weeks?

Speaker 4 (02:17):
They've been pretty good. Had some hand surgery, you know what,
just the regular stuff.

Speaker 2 (02:24):
Going on, you know, just just just regular dunk thought
that shit, right?

Speaker 4 (02:28):
Yeah?

Speaker 2 (02:29):
Yeah, wow, hand surgery, Yeah, oh what happened?

Speaker 4 (02:36):
No, just carpal tunnel, you know, finally getting things.

Speaker 3 (02:41):
Taken care of.

Speaker 4 (02:42):
See, that's what happens when you get older. If you
don't take care of things when you're young, you know,
you get to a point in your life where it's
like enough is enough. So I'm trying to be here
for my kids, for my grandkids, so just making sure
I get the bumps, the bruises, the scrapes, the pain,
getting them all.

Speaker 2 (03:00):
Fixed, you know, right right, I get it. Yeah, I understand.

Speaker 3 (03:06):
So just taking care of myself, that's.

Speaker 2 (03:08):
All that that that's that's the best thing you could do,
you know what I mean, take care of you at
some point. You know, some.

Speaker 4 (03:16):
People just st ain't there. They keep ended up in
the hospital and not taking care of themselves.

Speaker 2 (03:23):
And you know, yeah, I wonder who you're talking about.

Speaker 3 (03:28):
I don't know.

Speaker 2 (03:30):
M hmm, I don't know. Maybe somebody I.

Speaker 3 (03:32):
Know, possibly, possibly.

Speaker 2 (03:37):
Well, hopefully TG is is out there. She's having some
technical difficulties and can't make it tonight. Dubbs is Actually

(03:58):
he'll be late. He'll be late as usual. But I
can tell you what he I can tell you exactly
what he's doing right now. He's having an argument, not
an argument, but there's uh uh hectic, crazy debate exactly,
That's exactly what it is. It's a debate with highest tolerance.
Remember highest tolerance. They're they're going they're going at it

(04:21):
over Philadelphia super Bowl, and I means being a Jets
fan and you know, highest tolerance being a Philly fan
and They're just going at it back and forth, and
I have him on a on a thread, a text thread,
and it just keeps buzzing and buzzing and buzzing and buzzing.
And every time I look at them arguing with each other. Wow, yeah,

(04:44):
I gotta tell the when he when he shows up,
we just gotta gotta make sure, you know. But since
he's gonna be late, I don't wanna. I don't wanna,
you know.

Speaker 5 (04:55):
What I mean.

Speaker 2 (04:56):
Let me talk about what's going on with me. Last
's two weeks. Everything has been cool. Everything, everything's been,
you know, pretty good, not too bad. Life has been
sunshines and rainbows good. You know. I'm pretty I'm pretty

(05:20):
sure that uh, you know, the the Philly fans are
grateful for the Super Bowl. They beat They beat the
living shadow of the Kansas City.

Speaker 1 (05:31):
Man.

Speaker 2 (05:31):
I mean, I'm not going to deny that. I mean,
they they beat the living crap out of them, you
know what I mean. And I wasn't too happy with it.
But what I'm not out because Philly beat my team
to get to the super Bowl.

Speaker 4 (05:49):
Oh well, they sucky played so yeah, well you know,
they did not play a good game.

Speaker 2 (05:57):
I'm sorry. Yeah, Washington did not play a good game.
You're right, You're right. I'm just proud of it. I'm
probably I'm proud of them. I'm proud that they got
as far as they did. I to be honest, I
wasn't expecting much of them this year with a rookie quarterback.
But they did great. You know, they did really well.
I'm just happy that they got where they went. So

(06:21):
it is what it is, you know. I'm glad that
they got that far, and I'm to look forward to
some more you know, seasons. You know. So with that
being said, let's let's move on. I was just still
doing whatever he's doing, so okay, here when he gets here,

(06:42):
I will say this. I will say that we have
the best fans. We have the best fans.

Speaker 4 (06:52):
Why because they don't fall off a polls.

Speaker 2 (06:55):
No, I don't mean, I don't mean. I'm talking about
our fans.

Speaker 4 (07:01):
Oh, okay, our fans on the show.

Speaker 2 (07:04):
Yeah, not only fans, our fans of the show. We
have the greatest fans. So I get I get an
email from, of course, the fan of the show, and
it goes it's it starts off with the first email.

(07:26):
It said, Dear Big C, I was wondering if the
show has a mailing address. I was wondering if I
can mail you something? Sorry, right back, I'm like, well,
we don't have like a PO box or anything. But
you know, why do you want the address? What are

(07:48):
you gonna send? I mean, I don't know if it's
a bomb or a fucking anthrax and shit like that.
I mean, I don't know who the fuck these people are,
you know what I mean? So I don't know what
it is there sendence, so you know, I get a
second I get a second email after asking those questions
like what is it?

Speaker 4 (08:05):
Oh?

Speaker 2 (08:05):
Look who decided to show up at the arguing with
highest tolerance? Hold on? Yo? All right, I was I
was just telling. I was just telling Lady g we're
discussing a fan that we got the greatest fans. A

(08:27):
fan of the show emailed, and I'm just discussing what
it is. The fans said, so be patient and just listen.
All right, you good? Where you going?

Speaker 6 (08:40):
And I'll move my car man?

Speaker 2 (08:42):
Oh all right? So all right. So after after the
fans of the show wanted the address, I was like,
you know, what do you want it for? What are
you gonna send? Stuff like that.

Speaker 5 (08:53):
So.

Speaker 2 (08:58):
I get I get a second email after all those
questions and fans said, truth be told. I'm a fairly
new fan. I just happened to find I just happened
to find your podcast in my search. See. I was

(09:19):
in a very very dark place and was suffering in
silence with depression. My life was yeah, my life was
crumbling right under my feet. I felt as if I
was in quicksand and losing everything, including myself. Then I

(09:41):
found this Might Hurt podcast. I didn't realize this was
a live show for a little while, but I started
listening and bounced around and bounced around a bit. That's
when I discovered you guys do a live show. I
started watching on YouTube. At first, I just listened. Not

(10:07):
long after, I kept coming back to listen and found
myself smirking, then smiling, and I surprised myself when I
started laughing. I was in such a lonely place. I
didn't remember what I was, what it was like to laugh.

(10:27):
Big C, Lady, G Dubs, the Dawn, and TG you
all made me laugh again. I started chatting with you
guys during the live shows, and now I feel part
of it. Now I feel like I'm part of the crew.
Just kidding. I just hope you know what I mean.

(10:51):
So this is the this is the funny part now,
So so this is what this is all right, hold
on grab it. So I'm sending this calendar with stickers

(11:15):
so you can mark your good days. And I brought
one for myself too. To start to I brought one
for myself too. The story on the show about the
calendar was more about a couple of rewarding with stickers

(11:36):
and stuff. Maybe I should reward myself too by giving
myself a sticker for good days. Why not send the
show a calendar too. In previous episodes, Big C shared
his affinity for Marvel movies, and that's why I sent

(11:58):
a Marvel calendar. You guys are the best, well except
for doves. That goes on and on and sometimes I
don't know about what. But in all seriousness, from the
bottom of my heart, thank you for bringing the laughter

(12:19):
back into my life. Love your fan. Guess which one midnight?

Speaker 5 (12:29):
That's something. But what I do to you?

Speaker 7 (12:36):
Why yeah, I see and you know.

Speaker 2 (12:48):
Now you know, I I just I just want to
say that, you know, I really greatly appreciate the calendar
and the fucking and you gotta see the stickers. The
stickers have have smiley faces. I saw an the other
ones have comic book bang.

Speaker 1 (13:06):
I guess.

Speaker 2 (13:08):
The knockouts like these are the bad days and ship.

Speaker 4 (13:12):
Cordon got a special fan because he gets the calendar
and the stickers.

Speaker 2 (13:20):
So so.

Speaker 3 (13:26):
Thank you, you know, min, that's awesome.

Speaker 2 (13:31):
Yeah, we appreciated.

Speaker 5 (13:32):
I'll have to say thank you. But you said, it's like, why.

Speaker 6 (13:38):
What they said?

Speaker 2 (13:41):
She said and over you know, she she was trying
to because I ended up. I ended up saying I
wanted the address, so I so, and then she ended
up the midnight was I'm not gonna I'm not gonna
say her name, but she's actually from your Negative Woods lady.

(14:02):
G oh, yeah, she's down that way and.

Speaker 5 (14:11):
You know she.

Speaker 2 (14:13):
South Jersey, Yeah, all the way down there. I'm not
I'm not gonna put an information out there, but thank
you very much. And I want to say, you know,
thank you to the fans, because this isn't the first
time you know that that we've actually you know, received
praise from fans, you know, and and just for just

(14:37):
for that, like like I said, I told her, I
told her to give me an address because I am
going to send her this might hurt podcast T shirt.

Speaker 4 (14:49):
You are so lucky, Midnight, because I haven't gotten anything
yet and I'm actually on the show.

Speaker 2 (14:57):
I gotta I gotta order more T shirts because there's
another there's another fan. There's another fan that's actually I
didn't know that the that the fan page on Facebook
has this, but there's a top fan badge that's given
to the to the most active fan on the fan page.

Speaker 1 (15:15):
Okay, so.

Speaker 2 (15:18):
I want to give a shout out to Christina Christina
Andrea for being a top fan on the fan page.
You are also gonna get a T shirt. Just hit us,
hit up the show with your address and stuff, and

(15:40):
we'll get that out to you.

Speaker 3 (15:42):
A s a p oh here look, oh you're so
sweet Midnight.

Speaker 2 (15:53):
So that's that's what that's what we're gonna do. We're
gonna get some get get the get the merch out
we're gonna send. I got I got stickers, land, I
got all types of merchant ship we're going to send
out to you guys, and thank you, thank you for
being fans. I mean, we we do this for the fans.
You know what I'm saying. We do this because yeah, knows.

Speaker 4 (16:15):
We don't get paid for it, all.

Speaker 2 (16:17):
Right, very true, But we do it for the love
of the pan. We do it for the love. You
know what I'm saying. I mean, it's that. That's what
it's about to me, you know what I'm saying. I
mean just being able to help, being able to have
you know, people come in and listen and saying that,

(16:37):
you know, we we we help them smile, we help
them laugh. It makes us feel good, you know what
I'm saying. It's it's a good thing.

Speaker 8 (16:43):
And it helps us too. Of course, we're human, you know.

Speaker 4 (16:46):
We sometimes we gotta let it out too.

Speaker 2 (16:50):
You're absolutely right, You're absolutely right.

Speaker 4 (16:53):
And people don't listen to me in real life.

Speaker 2 (16:59):
Oh man. So yeah, man, that's that's that's great, you know.
I I'm just glad that I'm gonna so if this
is a good show, I'll put a smiley face on
the calendar for today, and if it's if it's a
bad show, I put one of the Zach bamboom, one
of those things on the on the calendar. And you

(17:22):
know that that's what it is. So with that being said,
let's move on. So, So, mister Phoenix, how was your
last two weeks.

Speaker 9 (17:35):
It was I you know what I'm saying, Like I
had to move my car for no reason because I'm
parked on Kennedy Like like you know what means, it's
kind of like raining and whatever. But like, you know what,
there's no parking, you know what I'm saying, Like like

(17:57):
some parking authority person called me.

Speaker 2 (17:59):
Oh they called you.

Speaker 9 (18:02):
Yeah, you know what I'm saying. The red of my ship,
my table would have actually called, like you have to
go in your car. I'm like, where park is somewhere?

Speaker 2 (18:12):
Why don't do it like that?

Speaker 5 (18:14):
Yeah, Like the problem is there's no freaking parking anywhere. See.

Speaker 2 (18:18):
I hate you know, I hate this. I hate this place.

Speaker 3 (18:19):
Bro.

Speaker 5 (18:21):
Yeah, don't get me, don't get me started. Man, I
don't get about the park thing.

Speaker 1 (18:27):
Man.

Speaker 9 (18:27):
Other than that, I mean, I mean, you know last
two's supposed tood you know what I'm saying, Like, like
you know that Kencha Lamar halftime show was banging.

Speaker 5 (18:35):
That's the only thing I'm talking about when.

Speaker 4 (18:38):
When not even when not even touch it because you
know we're off the radar, manly.

Speaker 5 (18:45):
That's his back up, his back up thing, Yeah, my
back of stuff. Let me know. And like you know,
like some you know, saying something some jackass decide like
you know, the double park, like too close to my car.

Speaker 2 (19:00):
Mm hmmm, that made that that Yeah, that's cause for
a being So I have. I've gotten other emails one yep,
one asking we're gon we're gonna do We're gonna do
a little bit of storytime. But that's a little later.
But I got two other emails and there they're one

(19:22):
one is one is pretty interesting. Well, they're both interesting,
but this one's pretty damn interesting.

Speaker 3 (19:29):
Interesting.

Speaker 2 (19:29):
Yeah, I know they're Yeah, I understand that this this
one's not not well, you know, well whatever, I'll read it.
I never I never felt the need for sex. I
never felt the need or feeling for sex. But it's
very important to my boyfriend, which I understand. How do

(19:53):
I navigate this. We've had many conversations, but I don't
know how to at it through to him that I
have never felt the feeling. I have never found a
want for sex in my life or get turned on.
I dated a guy when I was sixteen for two

(20:16):
years and he never had and we never had sex.
He didn't because of his religious background. I was I
was totally fine with that. I went to college, had
guys over, but never felt the need to hook up,
the hookup feeling. When I was nineteen, I had a

(20:36):
boyfriend for two years and we had sex. Oh, we
had we had sex. It was my first time, but
I never hold on. I can't even see that shit. See,
that's why I was gonna get old. I never had
the feeling of being horny. I started dating my current

(20:59):
boyfriend that I've been friends with for years, and he's amazing.
I have to force myself to want to because I
know it's very important to him. We've talked about this
many times, but I don't know how to explain clearly
that it's not him. I just never feel the need

(21:22):
for any sexual activity, and I don't want to have
I don't want to have very hard time bringing this
up to him all the time. Hold On, I've never
fantasized about I've never hold on, bro, I've never fantasized
about other men or women. I get anxious when we

(21:44):
cuddle or kiss for too long because I expect it
to lead to asking for sex, and when I say no,
nine times out of ten, it disappoints him. For obvious reasons.
I'm not considering breaking up with him? Am I a

(22:05):
sexual or something?

Speaker 5 (22:07):
Do I have?

Speaker 2 (22:09):
Do I navigate my extreme lack of sex drive while
how do I? How do I navigate my extreme lack
of sex drive while being with the man I truly love?
Doc thought, I Yeah, what's up?

Speaker 10 (22:25):
So?

Speaker 4 (22:26):
Yeah, that is what they call a form of a sexuality.
It's when people just they don't have the interest or
are not really physically attracted to sex or for sure
what they call him aces yeah, asexual. So and that's

(22:48):
not necessarily anybody's fault. I mean, there are definitely ways
to navigate it, one of them being, you know, clear
communication because as adults especially, we have to make our
own choices. And although it's not something that you choose
or do on your own, it is it is a thing.

(23:13):
So I mean, it is a conversation that you have
to have and then coming to maybe to a compromise,
you know, what would be acceptable for you as a
possible asexual human being, and what's okay for them as
far as you know the amount they're willing to handle
not getting it, you know. So it's about a communication.

(23:36):
Because we're different, We're not going to find people just
like us. The thing is we have to find that
people who are willing to love us in spite of that,
but also be willing to come to that middle ground,
because it's not fair for him to go without constantly,
and it's not fair for you to have to feel

(23:57):
like every time you guys have this emotional bond or
this kiss or something, that it's always going to lead
to that physical sexual action. So definitely has to have
you know, have to have a talk. And as much
as it might hurt, sometimes these things hurt, you've got to. Yeah,

(24:19):
you've got to accept because that for some people, and
I think I've mentioned it on the show before. You know,
I was seeing someone who for them a must for them,
something that was like they could not go without. It
was having provocative photographs every day. And for me, that's

(24:42):
something that is against my comfort level. That's something that flow. Yeah,
Like for me, that was it was really challenging my
moral aptitude, my moral feelings, and I was feeling very
unsafe and so as an much as I like this person,

(25:02):
I had to basically say, you know what, because I
respect you, and because I respect your needs and your wants,
and you're telling me that for you, this is a need,
then I'm just gonna have to say that I can't
be the one to fulfill that because that's not a
need to me. And actually it causes me. I can't
say it makes me, because nobody can make me feel anything,

(25:25):
but it causes me to feel uncomfortable and unsafe. And
no one should have to feel unsafe in any kind
of a relationship, whether it's platonic, monogamous, non monogamous, whatever.
And we just have to be able. And I think
that's where we've gone wrong. We don't accept people for

(25:46):
where they are. And even more recently, you know, you
can love people and not be with them because it's
not good for you. Yeah, well you can't say toxic
because what's.

Speaker 9 (26:02):
You know what you know what like I'm only speaking,
I'm speaking from my experience, you know, like the toxic people,
you know, like as much as.

Speaker 5 (26:09):
You want to love them, but you know what I'm saying,
but you can't be with them you love them from afar. Yeah, yeah,
that is true, and leave it there, you know, because like, yeah,
but there are a lot.

Speaker 3 (26:18):
Of different type of relationships.

Speaker 5 (26:21):
Yeah true, not just like damn, but but damn, you
know what being you know, like being a sexual is like,
it's like it's that like some type of like.

Speaker 3 (26:33):
It's an orientation.

Speaker 9 (26:35):
Is it an orientation or is it like does that
something to do with the mental or something like I'm
actually asking the question. I'm not, you know, trying to
throw nothing out there, none out of curiosity. Is it
like it's like a hormonal like misbalance or like like.

Speaker 4 (26:52):
Nobody really knows what causes a sexuality, but it's someone's
sexual orientation. Some people are just not born with the
ability to sexually be attracted to anyone or want to
be in a sexual relationship.

Speaker 2 (27:09):
So so is is that kind of along the lines
as well as a sapio sexual?

Speaker 3 (27:15):
Do you know what?

Speaker 4 (27:16):
Do you know what a sapio sexual?

Speaker 9 (27:17):
Isy's somebody who's attracted to.

Speaker 2 (27:22):
Intellect.

Speaker 4 (27:23):
Intellect, Yeah, yeah, I mean everybody has their preferences, so
that that is an orientation too.

Speaker 3 (27:30):
I currently have never met anyone in my field of work.

Speaker 4 (27:35):
I've currently not met anyone who identifies as a sapio
sexual as an orientation per se. Oh TG's here.

Speaker 2 (27:45):
Wow, what's up?

Speaker 4 (27:49):
You know that that's just been more of that's just
been more of an attraction and not necessarily an orientation.

Speaker 9 (28:00):
Save your sexual like like like you know what I'm
saying from my understanding, Yeah, you know, like it's like
you know what it's like, it's like you're trying to
see what a woman's that intellectually or vice versa, and
you know you get attracted by you know what I'm saying,
just how their mind works, right, you know, like how
like their thorough process everything, right.

Speaker 4 (28:22):
Yeah, So something that it's something that i've actually yeah.

Speaker 5 (28:27):
Look at the cat.

Speaker 2 (28:34):
Speaking.

Speaker 5 (28:34):
I'm sorry, I'm sorry, lady, sorry about that.

Speaker 4 (28:39):
So something that I actually just recently found out about
myself is you know, I am something that is considered
uh of the population have this uh I don't know
what you would call it, this thing where it's called HSP,

(29:03):
which is highly sensitive personality, highly sensitive person right. And
so although it doesn't lead to any type of orientation
or any of that per se, it's about people having
their own their own gifts, their own.

Speaker 3 (29:25):
Struggles, their own things. Right.

Speaker 4 (29:28):
So just like we have to choose about this whole
asexual thing, it's like you have to respect somebody and
where they are. So just learning pretty much something that
I probably should have loaned years and years ago. You know,
having been in the field I was in, you know,

(29:48):
I'm just now finding this. And it came by someone
saying that I was emotionally intense, right, So I was
like really, and and they're like, yeah, yeah, you're just
so emotionally intense, Like it doesn't bother me. But I
could see how some people wouldn't want to put in

(30:11):
the energy it takes, you know, to kind of be
a part of your life. And and so I really
had to research that for myself.

Speaker 2 (30:20):
I had to.

Speaker 4 (30:23):
I had to do some research, you know, And so
I did that, and I'm telling you, it was like
reading my own story understanding understanding highly highly sensitive personality.
So it's a lot of empathic people are part of that,
but it's literally twenty percent of the population where they

(30:46):
have this heightened sensitivity emotionally to things. So just like
the eighty percent of the world, they have happy moments,
they have sad moments, they you know, you have all
those different emotions. But for me, it was almost like
being ultrasensitive to those things. So like, my happies are joyous,

(31:09):
my sads are horrible. The fact that I actually cry
when I'm angry, you know, like, yeah, moments in my
life that I'm like, why am I like this? What
am I doing wrong? Only to find out I'm not
doing anything wrong because that's all Yeah, this is something
that is me, Like it's my makeup. It's not something

(31:31):
I'm choosing. And so like with that person and the asexuality,
it's not something that you can just turn off. It
is literally a part of your inner workings, your inner
person you're born with. Yeah, and it's something that you
don't have to beat yourself up about, but you definitely

(31:52):
have to create boundaries and create what works for you
and then finding and then finding that other person in
your life that's willing to do that work with you
and maybe it helps them in some way to be
more self controlling, you know. Of theirs.

Speaker 9 (32:10):
I have a question when when let's just say, you know,
you're you're You're in a room with crowded people, right,
and there's that one person that's giving off a bad vibe,
and does that change your whole mood?

Speaker 5 (32:22):
Like you know, like like you know, like like let's
just say, you know, like for instance, right, like we're all.

Speaker 10 (32:28):
Having a good time and just walks in the room.
That's what I want to say.

Speaker 9 (32:34):
What happens now, Like you know, like first, right, like
you could be on the train or whatever, right, you
just be walking by. Then all of a sudden, there's
that one person that you know, like you know, you
just glanced at it. You just glass at this person
and all of a sudden, like you feel their vibe
and it just changes your mood, you know, like all
of a sudden.

Speaker 5 (32:52):
You know, like like you know, like you're like hm hm,
you know, like like that does that happen to you?

Speaker 1 (32:59):
Yeah?

Speaker 4 (33:00):
But the thing is, if you know, like it's about
knowing what triggers you what doesn't. My thing is it
comes with a high sense of integrity. Right, So for instance,
I'll give you a perfect example about the train. So
when I'm on the train. We all know that on
the trains there's no smoking, no drinking, you know, none

(33:21):
of that nonsense. So someone who has hsp when someone
gets on the train with a lit cigarette or you
know they're smoking their bud, or one guy even got
on the train and he popped open, you know, can
of beer. Right, there's something in me that bothers me.

(33:44):
It makes me not angry, but disappointed in the situation,
and it just it bugs me. It bugs me because
and again people are like, you need to loosen up, right,
And I've had so many people on my life saying
you need to loosen up, you need to take it easy.
But and I'm thinking, but I am easy, like I feel,

(34:06):
I don't feel stressed. I don't you know, I'm very cool,
calm and collected people's I guess I'm one of those
that other people's moods. I feel vibes, like I can
feel people's moods, but it doesn't affect my mood because
I have control over my stuff, you know, Like you know,

(34:28):
if TG comes on and she's like extra laughy and
you know, a little extra bubbly, that might be contagious
for me. But if Corleon comes on and he's just annoyed,
his annoyance doesn't it doesn't cause me to be annoyed.
But I can pick up that feeling. I feel what

(34:51):
he feels or what he's expressing. So I do pick
up people's feelings. But I'm at a place because of
my profession that I I've learned to be in a
little bit of control.

Speaker 3 (35:03):
Of what I do about it.

Speaker 4 (35:06):
But again there's that that yeah, but there is that
high sense of integrity.

Speaker 5 (35:10):
So it's like that's what makes you good for your job.

Speaker 4 (35:14):
See, like, yeah, my job is great, but when I
come home, my job is not going to love me.
My job is not going to marry me.

Speaker 2 (35:25):
Because we love you.

Speaker 5 (35:26):
Yeah, we love you, but as far as marriage not
you know, but we love you anyways.

Speaker 4 (35:31):
Wow.

Speaker 5 (35:32):
Wow, And and.

Speaker 10 (35:39):
You know what, I can marry you.

Speaker 5 (35:41):
And I just you know what, I just want to
say this, you know, thank god, lady g it's not
Batman or Bruce.

Speaker 9 (35:47):
But he doesn't have Bruce Wayne money or she's like
Batman or not because that same person that's smoking that
popped up in that cann of beer when he gets off,
when he gets off, you know what I'm saying, she
would have turned the dark Knight just as a servant breakers.
You know what I'm saying, Like, thank God, thank God,
thank god you don't have Bruce Layne money.

Speaker 10 (36:07):
Well, I'm glad you share that because some of the
things that you brought up. Actually, I am an EmPATH myself,
and I don't know, I'll look into it more. I
don't think I'm that sensitive though, but but I do.
I'm very emotional and I get very when I'm angry,

(36:30):
I get very upset, like and I'm crying, and like
if I can't control that, there's just I think it's
just there's just a lot coming out, Like when there
is anger, it's like very hard feelings, whether it's extremely
happy I cry or very angry cry. So I think
it's it is possibly even just a reaction of the body.

(36:55):
It's just letting go, because like if you don't and
you hold that in, you might just fucking explode.

Speaker 1 (37:02):
Low.

Speaker 3 (37:02):
Yeah, You're gonna blow up.

Speaker 10 (37:04):
Or have a freaking heart attack. Literally, So it's like
you This is why I think it's important to kill
this stigma around mental health. Why it's important for us
to keep having these conversations about different personalities, different people,
different you know, mental illnesses and what they look like,
and you know what what's available to help people, and uh,

(37:28):
you know that there there are resources, there are people
who care, there is support out there, there's medications. If
there isn't medications, there are people. Uh, there's a lot
of things available to people. And men need to stop
this bullshit of feeling less than or weak if they

(37:51):
show emotion. It's bullshit, Like you're a human fucking being.
And human beings have real emotions. People get angry, people
get upset, people get depressed. Doesn't mean they have depression.
But these things happen, like there are things that weren't
in life that bring us to our knees. Okay, like

(38:12):
it happens. All of us have stories for days because
we've lived life, we've struggled. We know what it's like
to hit rock bottom and what it feels like though
to get the best back up and do what you
gotta fucking do. And it does help to have a friend,

(38:34):
and it does help. Even if it's somebody that you
message on messenger, it is still a conversation that is
being had on being heard in some way, Like talk
to your friends, Like I feel like I'm nervous for
the younger generation, I don't know, like I feel like

(38:55):
the internet has ruined things, so like all these iber
bullying and stuff like that. But like talk to your
friends or someone you love, like someone you know you
can trust. There are people out there who love you
and care about you, and and it's okay, but we
should go back to that asexual thing because it's really

(39:18):
interesting to me.

Speaker 5 (39:19):
But go ahead, does real quick? You know what you said,
rock just hitting the rock bottom. All of us hit
the rock bottom. Yes, but have you ever hit the
rock bottom of someone else?

Speaker 10 (39:31):
Will you stop? No?

Speaker 5 (39:33):
I'm serious, I'm serious, I'm serious. I was there. I
was there, Yo, I was there, you know Yo. It
was so disrespectful. It was funny. I felt bad for
the girl, but it was funny. We were young.

Speaker 9 (39:50):
We were young, just wanted, you know, because because you
know what, all of her was rock bottom. I was like, yeah,
you know, always hit rock bottom, but none of us
ever hit the rock bottom. Oh he hit the rock bottom.

Speaker 3 (40:01):
You know.

Speaker 5 (40:01):
He told some girl to lift her hands up and
he was like, for what and he does the rocket.
She's like, but what saved her?

Speaker 1 (40:12):
Right?

Speaker 5 (40:13):
What saved her? Pretty much? It wasn't like on the ground,
you know what I'm saying. It was on top of
like snow. But you know, yeah, problems, that's what she
was like.

Speaker 3 (40:27):
She was like my.

Speaker 2 (40:31):
I was like, I was like, yo, what are you doing?

Speaker 1 (40:35):
Oh my lord?

Speaker 10 (40:37):
But you know what that's drugs and alcohol do to people.

Speaker 9 (40:41):
But but but you know what that the whole sexual
thing is pretty you know what I'm saying, it's it's
pretty interesting, you.

Speaker 2 (40:48):
Know, like like you know, like not how do you
how do you maneuver that?

Speaker 10 (40:52):
Sexual orientation?

Speaker 1 (40:54):
Is fun?

Speaker 10 (40:56):
It's it's so interesting, it's so fluid. There is oh man,
there's so much fun stuff. But listen, a sexual person like,
they don't have that want that kind of intimacy. Intimacy
for them is different, and it's different for each person.

(41:19):
Some people don't like to be touched at all, and
they actually are in a relationship with someone who may
be asexual as well. Obviously that's going to work. The
best is a relationship where both are the same sexual orientation. Right,
So I'm curious if this person is open to possibly

(41:44):
having an open relationship because you are not going to
fulfill that need for him, and you shouldn't have to
because that's kind of just going against how you are
and how you feel and who you are as a person.

Speaker 2 (42:00):
So why put yourself in that type of scenario if.

Speaker 10 (42:04):
You can help who you love? Because can we be real,
you can't help who you love, Like there are some
people out there, I feel like I have multiple soulmates.
You understand this, okay, Like, look, yeah, it's not like
I don't know, it's more like an emotional level or

(42:27):
an intellectual level. There are people who meet certain needs
of mind, like we all have specific needs in relationships,
and we get that. I'm a married woman, but I'm
in an open relationship and this is unique and different.
I'm not going to go into details about it but
my situation. But what I'm saying is, if you love

(42:50):
this person this much and they are willing to accept
you as you are and be okay with not having
sex with you or not being intimate in those ways
with you, would you be willing to allow him to
have that with someone else? Now there's boundaries and rules

(43:11):
around that. How No, no, bro, what are you talking about?
The guy is getting girls, yo?

Speaker 5 (43:25):
But still you know what she's a No, she's not.

Speaker 1 (43:29):
She would be.

Speaker 5 (43:32):
In this.

Speaker 10 (43:33):
This is what an open relationship is.

Speaker 5 (43:43):
Oh my lord, you know what I'm playing.

Speaker 10 (43:47):
You better be playing. I'm about to drive far to
put a foot up an ass. Okay, still broken?

Speaker 6 (43:55):
Hush?

Speaker 10 (44:00):
Oh yeah, that's what I This is what I say
to that person. I wonder if you would be open
to something like that, because you are very it's very
capable or a capability to have love for just one
person and just have sex with other people. Because because

(44:28):
because men are more capable of doing this than women.
But you guys can cut off emotional connections with sex
because sometimes it is a need that's being fulfilled for
both parties that that happens.

Speaker 9 (44:41):
So from a personal standpoint of course, like what, I
don't think I'll be able to do something but my
age now, you know, I'm saying where I'm at right now,
I don't think i'll be able to to Like you know.

Speaker 10 (44:57):
You can't handle one woman, Okay, you don't need another.
We're not talking about you.

Speaker 5 (45:03):
I'm not not I'm saying. I'm saying, like you know, well,
I mean back then.

Speaker 10 (45:07):
I mean, I'm talking about a healthy, mature relationship. I
am not talking about someone who's in a relationship and
is cheating. I'm talking about someone that you may think
this is crazy mutual understanding. And my husband and I
talk to each other about our dates or people that

(45:28):
we're seeing or whatever. And I've met some of them
and he's met some of my mind some yeah some Okay,
I mean my story is even crazier. So but we're
not going to get into that because that's another show.

Speaker 4 (45:46):
It's this whole thing we listen and we don't judge,
that's right, because I feel that I have I feel
that he and I have enough trust and respect any
each other.

Speaker 10 (46:01):
We understand our relationship and what it is and and
he and likes and as long as we are honest
with the other person, because I never lie. I always
put it out there. And if a person is uncomfortable

(46:24):
with that and it's happened, then they say, because some
people don't understand it, like you two are going what?
Because it is not a norm that people, let me
tell you over here out here in PA a lot
of polly life, that's not that's a big thing. Like polygamy.

Speaker 8 (46:45):
Is a thing.

Speaker 10 (46:46):
And I mean, I don't know if you want to
divulge in this, but it's fucking interesting too, man, Like
it is very capable. There are people out there. I
think I'm one of those people who's very capable of
loving more than one person.

Speaker 5 (47:00):
Hmm.

Speaker 2 (47:01):
Can I ask you a question?

Speaker 6 (47:04):
How?

Speaker 2 (47:05):
How how do you? How do you find yourself loving
more than one person? Are you? Are you right now
in love with two people?

Speaker 5 (47:14):
Yes?

Speaker 2 (47:17):
How do you? How do you maneuver that?

Speaker 4 (47:20):
But I imagine that they both serve different purposes in
your life?

Speaker 1 (47:25):
Bingo?

Speaker 10 (47:28):
They fulfill different needs in my life.

Speaker 2 (47:31):
So you love one because of this and you love
the other because of that.

Speaker 5 (47:36):
All right, now, I have a question. I have a question.

Speaker 9 (47:39):
You know what I'm saying, serious ship, Is it possible
that you just love one and lust the other?

Speaker 3 (47:45):
Nope?

Speaker 9 (47:45):
Because you know what, lest sometimes because I'm not I'm
just saying because I know, I know the difference love
and lust.

Speaker 10 (47:52):
I know when I'm wanting and I just want to
get you know what, when I.

Speaker 9 (47:57):
Love someone, I'm just asking because like because like you
know what, in this day and age, like a lot
of a lot of people not I'm not saying us,
but a lot of people confuse you know what I'm
saying lust for love like you know, like like you know,
like like for instance, like a lot of like like
men out here, maybe the end their dick dictate their heart,
you see what I mean.

Speaker 4 (48:19):
When but if they can ask themselves the question what
would I do without this person? Or what can I
not do without this person? That's going to tell them
is this love or lust?

Speaker 10 (48:30):
You know?

Speaker 3 (48:30):
Like?

Speaker 4 (48:32):
Yeah, So then that's that's them being immature and not
being able to think deeper about the things that people fulfill,
you know, especially women. We have we have very complex
uh things about our emotions and about our physical and
about our needs and sometimes and it is totally possible. Again,

(48:57):
almost twenty years I was a marriage and family therapist,
and so I've not only seen it, but even you know,
have experienced some of these things myself. You know, I
personally am a monogamous person. I don't I don't practice
polygamy or any of that kind of stuff, but I
can definitely see how and why people do live their

(49:22):
lives that way. And each of us as individuals have
to do what works for us, what makes us happy,
what makes our partners happy, and not everybody can do
what TG does. You know, some people try, but they're
not good at it, you know, because I just don't
think they truly totally understand what that entails, you know,

(49:45):
And it's about expectations and the honesty, you know, Like
people don't understand that when you're truly honest with somebody
about something, you can hurt for a moment and be fine,
where when you continue to live the is perpetual lie
after lie after lie. You can be monogamous with somebody,
but if they're lying to you, if they're lying to

(50:09):
you that is home so much more damaging than actually
loving two people who are totally honest between the three
of them. You know, like, it's just about to what
extent are you willing to go to understand each person's
wants versus their needs, your own goals for life. It's

(50:32):
just a lot deeper of a question.

Speaker 10 (50:35):
I'm like, what's happening?

Speaker 4 (50:37):
Because stuff went.

Speaker 3 (50:37):
Out and then came back in.

Speaker 4 (50:42):
Yeah. And the funny thing is this is part of
what came up with me finding out about my HSP.
Was like people could not understand how I could have
these deep seated conversations with people. I'm horrible at small
talk makes me uncomfortable. I don't know how to do it.

(51:03):
It's just basic. So it's like all of these little things,
especially with the stuff that TG's bringing up, that had
me looking into and being evaluated for this stuff. You know, like,
what does that mean to be a highly sensitive person?
And no, it doesn't mean that I cry at the
drop of the hat. It's so much deeper than that.
It's the fact that you know, I come on here

(51:25):
and sometimes when you guys are all laughing and keep
kicking in and everything, I don't get it, you know.

Speaker 3 (51:32):
And it's not because I don't want to. It's just
not in me.

Speaker 4 (51:36):
Some of the things that we talk about, which is
I think what makes the four of us so good
together is that each one of us has our place,
our perspectives, our roles. You know, me and TG are women,
but we're two different women and two different professions, with

(51:56):
two different life experiences. But on on on most things,
you know, we're in agreement. Uh. And then we bring
light to the things that the other may not know about.
And the same thing with Corleone and Dubs. You know,
all four of us bring perspectives that are good to
be heard out for the for the people that we

(52:19):
talk to, you know, for for our audience, you know,
and to I come on here and I'm real about it,
you know, I'm not afraid to say this is me. Uh,
this is what I do, this is how I feel.
I never feel bad that I'm not laughing at the
stuff you guys laugh at sometimes, because that's just not me.

(52:40):
It's it's and it's not that I don't think it's funny.
Some of the stuff I think it's hilarious. I just
it doesn't touch me the way it touches everybody else.

Speaker 10 (52:48):
I don't want to, yeah, but at the same time, I.

Speaker 4 (52:55):
Know that nobody would want to live like to, you know,
being transparent, and I know a lot of people won't
understand it, but I live a daily life of perpetual sadness.
I'm not depressed. It's just my heart hurts every single
day for one thing or another. And I know it's

(53:17):
hard to explain. It was hard for me to even understand.
And for a long time, I was like, what is
wrong with me? Why do I fear this? I felt
like I was in utter despair right and couldn't understand why.
You know, it's actually part of what led me to
church and all those different things. But the truth is,
it is a thing, and it's twenty percent of the population.

(53:40):
And that made me feel Hello, Heather, that made me
feel a little bit safer to know that I'm not
I'm not by myself. You know, it was painful to
find out that, you know, eighty percent of the world's
not going to get me, it's not going to understand me,
and it definitely saw us down the pool of eligible

(54:02):
bachelors for me. But you know, I'm a very hopeful
you know, positive person, you know. But I I honestly
live every single day in my life in physical heartache.
And and that's not something I know that other people
want to deal with, you know. But I also I

(54:22):
celebrate who I am and and that I feel this
way because I tell you this, It's guaranteed. If I
ever told you I loved you, you would never you
would never doubt it, you know.

Speaker 5 (54:35):
Mm hmmm.

Speaker 10 (54:37):
So I know that who I am.

Speaker 4 (54:39):
Yeah, I know who that I am. That who I
am is special, definitely unique. But I also have to
learn to navigate the world like everybody else. I know.

Speaker 10 (54:51):
I'm telling you, we're gonna do it a bachelor at
for you on this So is that happen eventually? I
think it needs to happen.

Speaker 4 (55:00):
I'm gonna go find me a help group I need
to join. I need to join a support group.

Speaker 6 (55:07):
Wow.

Speaker 4 (55:09):
Too overwhelmed by that one.

Speaker 3 (55:12):
Oh boy, I can only handle one of me.

Speaker 4 (55:19):
My daughter says it. She just turned eighteen. Congratulates to her, Yeah, congrats. Yeah. No,
And she says to me, Mom, sometimes you are just
so extra. I'm like, all right, so go get you
another mother. She's like, no, I'll keep you.

Speaker 1 (55:38):
I'll keep you.

Speaker 5 (55:42):
To you.

Speaker 10 (55:44):
Wow, but I have to say, like I like when
you were saying that we each bring something like I do.
Doubs drives me crazy obviously, but I kind of do
like when he says the things he says because there
are people in the population who feel that way, and
I guess for me, it gives me an opportunity to

(56:05):
set them straight. So I I think, yeah, I'm talking
to everyone, I'm not really talking to them.

Speaker 5 (56:13):
Yeah, First, I think, you know.

Speaker 6 (56:17):
First of all, real quick, you know, I purposely say
the things that I say. You know, you know what,
you know what?

Speaker 9 (56:26):
First off? You know what I speak my mind because
like like you know what, this is who I am.
Like you know what, there's certain things that I don't understand.
That's why I listen. And then there's certain things that
I think, like come on, man, this is so bro
you know, like like I'm sorry, you know what I mean,
Like like you know, like like you know, like it's
like you know, like it's just certain things that it's

(56:49):
like come on, man, yeah, you know what I'm saying,
Like you're making a dishard when it give be this
simple why you know what I'm saying? Like why why
why do we feel the need to make things complicated?
Like one plus one is two, is not eleven, But
why do we have to Like you know what I'm saying.

Speaker 2 (57:08):
One one plus one equals one.

Speaker 4 (57:10):
Bro, that's a new man. But you're gonna understand something, Dubs.
You've been in your little corner of the world for
however long, right, And what's easy to you might not
be easy for other people, and what's hard to you

(57:30):
might not be hard to other people. Like I've had
plenty of people say to me, why do you have
to make it so hard? And I'm like, what are
you talking about? You haven't even seen the stuff that
I'm not saying, Like you think this is so hard
just to say I'm sorry to me that comes second nature,
you know, or or something like a man cry please

(57:52):
that's simp, Like every time you call somebody a simp
And I'm like, yeah.

Speaker 6 (57:57):
Yes, no, you know what, that's the cry. But like
it's like what you're what I'm saying?

Speaker 3 (58:03):
Period?

Speaker 1 (58:04):
Yeah?

Speaker 6 (58:04):
Last week?

Speaker 3 (58:05):
Period?

Speaker 10 (58:05):
Yeah?

Speaker 6 (58:05):
Last week? You know I did you want to why
you want to?

Speaker 10 (58:09):
Why?

Speaker 9 (58:09):
Because like, yo, you know what you know, Like if
you're noticing some ship, you know what I'm saying of
that caliber, and you and you and you. You know
what I'm saying. You're here like asking why, like bro,
like like make a move, do something. Man, don't don't
why you even writing up while you were writing a
fucking letter.

Speaker 10 (58:27):
They don't know the answer. That's why someone writes here.
They want to hear other persons people, and now they
have they can be in an open relationship.

Speaker 6 (58:38):
So they're like like like, Yo, you know what, I
understand you. I'm saying how the hard works. You know
what I'm saying. But at some point, you know, I
mean like like, yo, you know what, you gotta put
your mind before ya.

Speaker 2 (58:47):
You know.

Speaker 9 (58:48):
See, that's the situation where you put your mind before
the heart.

Speaker 6 (58:52):
Period.

Speaker 9 (58:53):
You know what I'm saying, period man, because like because
it's like, Yo, you know what at that point, you
know what I'm saying. You're saying, Yo, I was this
woman one that I love myself. I'm like, oh my god,
here we go, man, Like yo.

Speaker 6 (59:03):
Learn yo, love yourself first. Bro. That's you know, that's
the reason why I called it. That's the reason why
I said.

Speaker 4 (59:09):
That's some simp ship I understand, but.

Speaker 9 (59:11):
That's the reason why I said, Yo, That's the reason
why I said some simp ship because no, you know what,
if you're not loving yourself, how to fuck you know
what love is if you expect you know what I'm saying.

Speaker 4 (59:20):
If you do, you know, get there? Though, How did
you get to loving yourself? You were not born that way,
you were not.

Speaker 9 (59:29):
Yourself a straight jacket. Maybe forced me to hug myself
and that's some ship that person.

Speaker 4 (59:34):
Got into their straight jacket.

Speaker 9 (59:36):
Yet, Okay, yo, no, I'm serious, you know what, And
that's the first time I embraced myself because I was
forced to.

Speaker 6 (59:42):
But other than that, but you know what I'm saying.

Speaker 9 (59:44):
But other than that, other than that, you know what,
After Yo, after numerous attempts of suicide, I decided that, Yo,
you know what, maybe I should love myself.

Speaker 4 (59:53):
Yeah. That's to say to you that, like what if
somebody called you a quitter, I'm still here?

Speaker 6 (01:00:00):
Who quit?

Speaker 3 (01:00:01):
Apparently?

Speaker 10 (01:00:02):
You know?

Speaker 4 (01:00:03):
No, I didn't say that you did. But you're calling
somebody else assent based on their emotions and the way
they expressed them. You're very open, You're very hold on.
You are very open about the amount of times that
you have attempted suicide, and thank you Lord, that you
have not completed God. However, that might lead other men

(01:00:26):
or other people to believe that you're a quitter and
that you like to take the easy way out. Now
you and I both know to make that decision is
not easy, all right, It is not easy. No, I
think all of us have at least thought about it,
if not attempted, at least once in our lives.

Speaker 3 (01:00:46):
So yes, we totally understand that.

Speaker 4 (01:00:48):
But there are others who haven't gotten to that precipice
who are calling you know who.

Speaker 1 (01:00:53):
Who I've right this town right now, dollars.

Speaker 11 (01:01:04):
Work are exactly.

Speaker 2 (01:01:14):
We got, we got we gotta laughing.

Speaker 6 (01:01:17):
Yeah, yeah, right, look at she does, looking at.

Speaker 4 (01:01:23):
I laugh. It's just unfortunately, it's that high integrity thing
that I never understood that now I'm better understanding. It's
like where the people that we would tell on ourselves
if we stole something, we would be the ones bringing
it back talking about I'm sorry I took it like,

(01:01:45):
but it's just it's something.

Speaker 6 (01:01:49):
Like what I said, if it's free, it's for me.

Speaker 4 (01:01:59):
If it's but I'm not going to steal.

Speaker 9 (01:02:02):
Behold, behold, this three hundred dollars jacket doesn't have a
tag if it's for me.

Speaker 4 (01:02:10):
So that's what I'm saying, like only the population. So
it's not that I don't want to. I just don't
really have that ability, you know, you know, I'm I'm
you know, maybe that's why, you know my career started
out in law enforcement. I don't know, you know, like

(01:02:33):
I don't know that's some thirty years ago, because that's
what that's what My undergraduate was, criminal justice.

Speaker 6 (01:02:42):
Thirty years ago. Yeah, Nico came out thirty years ago.

Speaker 1 (01:02:46):
What was that.

Speaker 2 (01:02:49):
He was talking about. He's talking about an album.

Speaker 6 (01:02:52):
Yeah, I'm saying, you know what I'm saying, you know what?

Speaker 9 (01:02:55):
The you know what the fact that you know what
I'm saying, you told about thirty years ago and I
was and I was getting kicked out, and like my
second high school says a lot.

Speaker 6 (01:03:04):
You start law enforcement, you start my parents. My parents
got tired of my ship, was signing me down in
Miami at the time. Memories, memories, I still, I still.

Speaker 2 (01:03:20):
I still have one more email. I can, I can.
I can read to you guys. If you want to
hear it, go for this. One says I told my
boyfriend I loved him right after we had sex. How
badly did I mess up?

Speaker 1 (01:03:39):
Big?

Speaker 10 (01:03:41):
I never told somebody you loved them in that And
now guys are so weird about that.

Speaker 3 (01:03:47):
It's so stupid.

Speaker 10 (01:03:48):
But yees don't just don't do that.

Speaker 2 (01:03:51):
Yeah, she told so. To paraphrase, she said that they
were hanging out over to his crib. They've been together
for a little while, and they had sex. They had
a great time. They would enjoying each other and all
this other ship. And then after she also she also
put in parentheses that they climax together mm hmmm. And

(01:04:16):
after that and after that they just laid there and
she said, oh baby, I love you.

Speaker 10 (01:04:23):
And then yeah, that moment, that was the moment. Though,
guys do ship like that too, so it should be forgiven,
like people say, stupid ship when they come.

Speaker 2 (01:04:36):
So, she she said. After after everything was done, and
then she got you know, they hung out for a while.
She left. She pulled over to the side of her
own and said, what the fuck did I just do?

Speaker 6 (01:04:48):
That happened.

Speaker 5 (01:04:50):
Like every movie.

Speaker 9 (01:04:52):
Yeah, we all say stupid shid like you know what
I'm saying. Moms would be like congratulations your single mother,
you know, just like I'm just around, just like I
was just playing now like like like you know what
I mean?

Speaker 6 (01:05:12):
Yo? Yo, you know what? It's worse right when or
like you know what I'm saying, Like there was.

Speaker 2 (01:05:19):
A question she goes, she wants to know did she
not mean it? I mean if she's having regrets over
saying I don't think she did.

Speaker 10 (01:05:28):
No, you know what?

Speaker 6 (01:05:30):
Now you know what?

Speaker 10 (01:05:31):
You know what?

Speaker 6 (01:05:32):
And she pulled over like, yo, what the what the
fuck did I just say?

Speaker 9 (01:05:36):
And you're thinking about it all the way and that's
the only thing you're thinking about, you know what I'm saying, yo,
Just more regrets about what the.

Speaker 4 (01:05:42):
Guy is thinking. Yeah, it's like she could have meant it.
But then she's like, oh, crap, did I just mess
it up? Because he ain't yet.

Speaker 2 (01:05:49):
Oh no, by the way, he didn't say it back.

Speaker 4 (01:05:52):
Right, Okay, I'm sure he didn't.

Speaker 2 (01:05:54):
He didn't say it back, and that's why.

Speaker 4 (01:05:56):
He's second guessing it. Yeah, he didn't say it.

Speaker 2 (01:05:59):
Back, correct, she wrote that.

Speaker 9 (01:06:01):
Yeah, But like but but like yo, you know what,
but like yo, you know what? When one you know
what I'm saying, Like when have you ever you know
what I'm saying? So that's something you know what I'm saying?
Says something like that, you know, like I mean me,
you know what I'm saying, Like it took me a
while to be like, yo, the fuck like you know
what I'm saying. Then and and then yo, you know
what I'm thinking about that ship?

Speaker 6 (01:06:20):
I'm like, do I do?

Speaker 1 (01:06:21):
I not?

Speaker 9 (01:06:22):
You see what I mean? So it takes it takes
us a while, you know what i mean, Like not
all of even you know what I'm saying to even
like you know what I'm saying, trying to express that
you know what I'm saying that you know what I'm saying.
It takes us a while, like you know what I'm saying,
compute everything. It's like you know what because like you
know what, like you said, lady G like you know
what I'm saying. Yo, women are complex, Yes, you guys are,

(01:06:44):
but you're vocal. We're complex too, But like we've seemed simple.
You know what I'm saying, Like, for instance, you know
what I'm saying, the simplicity of of us men be
like what you want for dinner?

Speaker 6 (01:06:56):
I make a sandwich? Who cares? You know what I'm saying.
We're not asking for like a t bone steak.

Speaker 9 (01:07:01):
You know what I'm saying, or a freaking you know
what I'm saying, freaking you know, like a thors You
know what I'm saying, thors hammer, you know what I mean.
And Thorst hammers that big ass stick that's like sixty pounds.
This ship that you have throat. You know that you're
not asking for that, you know what I mean? Like,
it's basically not at a ten times?

Speaker 6 (01:07:18):
What do you want for ye? Where you off with dinner?
What do you feel like making? You know what I'm saying?
Like shit, you know what I'm saying. I'm good enough
for the comedy man.

Speaker 4 (01:07:27):
But when somebody asked you a question is because they
actually want to know, not because they want to hear
you say, well, what do you feel like making?

Speaker 2 (01:07:35):
Now?

Speaker 4 (01:07:37):
But I felt like making I wouldn't even ask you.
I just make it and say eat it right now?

Speaker 1 (01:07:42):
Not now?

Speaker 6 (01:07:42):
See you know what? Now hold on, let me finish,
Let me finish. You know what I'm saying. The simplicity
of men and the outside will be something like what
do you want to? Yeah, what do you want? Robin Nudas?

Speaker 9 (01:07:53):
Who cares? You know what I'm saying, Like, we don't
care about that? You know what I'm saying, like, but
when it comes to the heart, you know what I'm saying.
You know what some what I'm saying, but like most
of us don't.

Speaker 6 (01:08:03):
How do you know that, bro?

Speaker 10 (01:08:06):
You know you speak from Bubb's point of view, right,
I know a lot of men who expect a dinner
when they come home, or that would prepare her to
have a home cooked meal, or would want to go
out there. There are people out there still want cook food,

(01:08:27):
cooked food or ordering you together.

Speaker 6 (01:08:30):
Oh yeah, you know what I'm saying. Oh yeah, Susan,
Brenda beal Brenda pot roast. You know I'm saying. I
take off my shirt and show your wife, beat, I'll
show you what a white beer is. Like, nah, man, Like, why.

Speaker 10 (01:08:42):
Does that have to be fifties for someone to cook
a meal at home, especially for their family? Like that's
actually a way to save money? Is so expensive? Right now?
Have you conquers?

Speaker 6 (01:08:55):
And that's why I said, you know, and that's why
I said, yo, make some morom and noudles. I don't.
I don't care.

Speaker 10 (01:09:00):
But it might be cheaper to go to fucking McDonald's
to eat, honestly, at some points, than it is to
buy certain ingredients to make food at home McDonald's. Yeah,
I could get a five dollar meal there, But what
did that say? Because I couldn't read it. A lot
of men want.

Speaker 4 (01:09:21):
Yes, because yes, because we want to make our man happy.
We don't want to hear I don't care or whatever,
just saying and that's right.

Speaker 10 (01:09:28):
It's the same thing like they're like, oh, babe, what
do you where do you want to go to eat?
And she and turn goes on, I don't know what
do you want to eat? You know, like like make
a decision, make a choice. I hate when people do that.

Speaker 11 (01:09:41):
So look at that however, yo, but yo, you know
what I mean. People love it, Yo, But hold on.
You know what I'm saying, like like, yo, you know
I'm getting. You know what I'm getting.

Speaker 6 (01:09:52):
You know what I'm saying.

Speaker 9 (01:09:53):
If I'm in saying though, like like I'm just saying,
like example, you know what I'm saying, all right, some
men you know what I'm saying, since you know.

Speaker 6 (01:09:59):
I have to like you know, whatever's right from you
speak for some you know what I'm saying.

Speaker 1 (01:10:04):
You know what?

Speaker 6 (01:10:05):
Some men you know what I mean? They rather you
know what I'm saying, like they don't care what what
to eat. You know what I'm saying.

Speaker 9 (01:10:11):
But when it comes to like things that happen to
do with the heart, you know what I'm saying, there's
like a million of more questions, the wrong through the.

Speaker 6 (01:10:18):
Head or whatever I have to hear. I love you
exactly because yo, you know what that's you. You know
what I'm saying. That's the eternalized part. That's the complex
part about it. You know, like that's just you know what, No, no.

Speaker 9 (01:10:40):
Like you No, no, Yo, you know what we're talking about.
When it comes to like, you know what I'm saying,
that I love you part, we keep it inside. You
ain't talking about the food no more.

Speaker 10 (01:10:50):
We're talking about the same I love you And.

Speaker 9 (01:10:54):
The only reason I broke that saying because the food,
but because they know the only reason why I bought
the food part, because the food parts are like a
lot more simple when it comes to that I love
you part, You know what I'm saying.

Speaker 4 (01:11:07):
For us, it only took once for you to get
hurt for you to be more careful with that. Right
With women, we have to go through it over and
over and over again and pick ourselves back up and
put our pieces back in different ways shape.

Speaker 6 (01:11:26):
And that's what makes you guys better than us.

Speaker 4 (01:11:29):
But apparently, but apparently being better than you guys doesn't
help us at all.

Speaker 9 (01:11:36):
When it comes when you know what, Now here's the
thing that I said it before, I say it again
because like, like you know what I understand from myself
and and I'm kind of seeing that a lot of
people too, you know what I'm saying. Like, the minute
a man gets hurt, you know what I'm saying, not
only does his heart is broken, his ego is broken too.
And like, for some reason, our ego means a lot,

(01:11:57):
you know what I'm saying. Our ego means a lot
some fucking reason, I don't know.

Speaker 6 (01:12:02):
You know what I'm saying.

Speaker 9 (01:12:03):
I'll try to you know what I'm saying, pridate ego,
you know what I'm saying, follows that heard that hard ship.

Speaker 6 (01:12:08):
So it's like, you know what, when it comes to
that emotional women have to continue to go hold on.

Speaker 9 (01:12:12):
Don't cannot finish, y y'all cannot finish though, like like
like when it comes to yo, you know what, yo?

Speaker 1 (01:12:18):
You know what?

Speaker 9 (01:12:19):
When it comes to that though, when it comes to
that part though, it comes to that part though, it's
like you know what I'm saying, Like we don't you
know what I'm saying, Like we don't know how to
communicate that part. You know, you see what I'm saying,
Like we really don't know you know what I'm saying,
because like it's like an emotion that you know that
we barely try to touch on, like unlike unlike women,
you know what I'm saying. That's why I said, you

(01:12:40):
guys are better than us. You guys touch on every angle,
every aspect of the emotional feel like we don't.

Speaker 10 (01:12:47):
I don't know who say I love you the second
time they've met you. I've met men who uh love
bomb and use love as a.

Speaker 6 (01:12:59):
Means to get in what they will and use as
a means.

Speaker 10 (01:13:05):
Yeah, but that's what I'm saying. So it does get
thrown around a lot sometimes and for the wrongs. So
it can't be like, oh, we don't really say it.
There are a lot of guys out there who do
and they don't mean it. So I think that and
it can be used as a tool, which is disgusting
really because like you want to fuck, then just say

(01:13:29):
that and you don't need to tell someone you love them.

Speaker 4 (01:13:32):
They don't realize that sometimes if you just say what
you want and let us make our choice, things will
be so much easier than if you go through all
of this rigmarole about trying to say this.

Speaker 10 (01:13:47):
Rigam role.

Speaker 6 (01:13:50):
I thought. I thought. I was like, what, that's what
I was like? Number hold on though, seriously, that's like
my first time. Hey, new word of the day for me?

(01:14:12):
What does that mean?

Speaker 10 (01:14:16):
After someone dies? And thers?

Speaker 6 (01:14:20):
I know that part? What the hell one?

Speaker 4 (01:14:26):
And on, etceterac.

Speaker 10 (01:14:28):
Yeah, it's another one of those words.

Speaker 6 (01:14:31):
Yeah, it is, because you're rid of the day.

Speaker 4 (01:14:34):
I have experienced men jump through and I don't understand
jump through hoops after hoop after hoop talking about women
are difficult jumping through hoops just to get in the panties.
And I'm like, dude, if you would have just said
that's what you wanted from the door, what would have

(01:14:54):
been the problem.

Speaker 6 (01:14:55):
I ain't gonna lie read that to a woman saying.

Speaker 4 (01:14:59):
I just want to I'm asking because if that's what
men just want, they should just say that. But if
a woman said that, then.

Speaker 10 (01:15:05):
What, oh, then you're a hoe? Obviously, Why do I
want to even waste time with that? But I will
say this, Okay. I'm in a group for women. It's
a private group. There are things that get shared in there,
and I see the things that meant say on dating apps,
and a lot of them it's just sex. And they

(01:15:28):
just put it out there and say it. But you
know what, I would rather you do that because then
I know straight up what this is about. And then
because if I'm searching for someone, I'm not gonna waste
time with you. So I know these women get annoyed
and upset about it, but I'm like, dude, let it be,
because let them be honest, let them put it out

(01:15:52):
there and make fools of themselves. And it may work
for some people, but it won't work for the majority
because that's what a lot of people are not looking for.

Speaker 4 (01:16:02):
That. So wait, But see that you saved so much time, right,
because I'm one of those that if that's what you're
looking for, you can keep swiping because I ain't the one, right,
but somebody tell me right from the door that's what
I want, so that I can say yes or no
now so you can move on to the next. Right,

(01:16:22):
I don't have time to be wasting because I'm actually
looking I'm actually looking for a partner, okay, Somebody that
I oh, my goodness, Somebody that I can build with,
Somebody I can depend on, that I can trust, that
I can feel safe. That's what I'm looking for. If

(01:16:43):
that's going to hold on, just say it the door
so that I can go ahead and tell you thank you,
but no thank you, and we can keep it moving.
You don't waste your time. I don't waste mine because
I'm not getting any younger and I don't have time
to be sitting here going through the moments with you
if you have no Bob Marley said it best. Coward

(01:17:05):
is a man that awakens the fire in a woman's
heart with no intention of loving her. Okay. And so
my thing is stop being a coward and just say
what it is so that I can say it's not
what I want, or yes, it is what I want,
and we could keep it moving.

Speaker 6 (01:17:22):
Yep, And that's said it best. I don't want to
make you mad, no, no, no, yes, yes, yes.

Speaker 4 (01:17:33):
The back.

Speaker 6 (01:17:35):
I just I'm just king you know what I mean?

Speaker 4 (01:17:39):
What do you mean, Jessica, don't you have to test
the waters before you know which one's best for you?
What do you mean sexually?

Speaker 10 (01:17:46):
Now?

Speaker 4 (01:17:47):
Are we talking to other things?

Speaker 10 (01:17:48):
Like, I think that if me for you, for you specifically,
if you are looking for a partner, then yeah, I
would think I would hope that at some point, if
the relationship got serious, that you were going to be
trying this on before moving forward. I'm just or maybe

(01:18:12):
I'm asking that question. Is that something that you would do?
Are you talking to me?

Speaker 1 (01:18:19):
Yes, I am.

Speaker 10 (01:18:20):
I'm asking you that if you were dating someone, If
you were dating someone, seriously, are you going to test
the waters? Because would it do you? Like, wouldn't you

(01:18:40):
want to know if they are compatible to you in
that way?

Speaker 4 (01:18:45):
Well it's kind of hard, okay, because again I'm pulled
in so many different ways.

Speaker 3 (01:18:59):
I'm an overthinker.

Speaker 4 (01:19:00):
So my thing is the one person without getting to
know others. Oh yeah, I mean unless i'm like legitimately
not like exclusive with somebody I'm dating whoever, and I
make that known. See, that's my thing. I'm a communicator.
I tell people that unto until I.

Speaker 2 (01:19:18):
See that that See that's the bullshit right there, man,
because see with like like me, see this is the
thing I wasn't gonna I.

Speaker 1 (01:19:26):
Was I was question I know, I was listening.

Speaker 2 (01:19:30):
I was listening and this, look, man, I I don't
have what I don't I don't have the the mental
capacity to sit there and deal with multiple women.

Speaker 10 (01:19:50):
Okay, that's okay, say deal?

Speaker 3 (01:19:53):
What do you mean?

Speaker 2 (01:19:54):
Like like when when when people talk about dating dating?
I can't stand the fucking word dating because to me,
dating means you're just gonna try ship on. You're just
gonna try and see who works best for you and
at the end pick the one that's best for you.
What happens to everybody else that you you were seeing?
What if someone what if what if one of them

(01:20:15):
were feeling you and you're not feeling them, then you
gotta let them go. What's the purpose of dealing with
multiple people when at some point this might hurt. But
at some point you're gonna have to let everybody else
go and stay with the one that you. Somebody gets
hurt in that in that situation.

Speaker 4 (01:20:32):
But that's gonna happen even if you just deal with
Even if I'm just dealing with one person, if him
and I don't click, we don't click, whether I'm.

Speaker 2 (01:20:42):
With just him, then you keep that at that point,
you keep it moving. But why deal with? Why? Why?
Why sit there? And put so many people through a
fucking application process.

Speaker 4 (01:20:54):
You gotta I'm not I'm not Barbie, So I'm not
going like she.

Speaker 10 (01:21:02):
Got a fucking binds.

Speaker 6 (01:21:08):
All right, I'm choosing him at the d hired.

Speaker 5 (01:21:17):
Until all.

Speaker 4 (01:21:21):
You have to get to know people first, right If
I like and it depends on each person, So me personally,
when I'm dating, that means i'm gonna I'm not I'm
not exclusive with one person. If I'm just dating, you know,
so if someone else happens to ask me out, I'm
not gonna say no. But at the same token, if

(01:21:42):
I feel that something is moving in a specific thank
you midnight. If I feel like something is moving in
a closer thing, then I'm going to try to lessen
the other interactions more. Right again, I'm a very transparent person.
I'm a very honest and open Like, if I feel
something's not working, I'm going to say this is not

(01:22:04):
working for me. It's the way things flow.

Speaker 3 (01:22:09):
Not every situation is the same.

Speaker 4 (01:22:11):
Like, okay, so if it was you were dubs, right,
I've known you guys for you or I'm going to
say you two TG, I'm not going to discriminate. I've
known you I've known you. I've known you guys for
you know, a long period of time. Right, So if
if one of us says, you know what, I would

(01:22:34):
like to date you, we've known each other, so I
may not so that our connection is going to be
a little bit deeper than if I just met you
for a date. Right, So I'm probably not going to
be talking to other people because you've known me long
enough that if you actually, you know, put your foot
forward and say you know what, I'm interested in you,
because we already went through that get to know you stage,

(01:22:55):
So it might be before we become exclusive.

Speaker 2 (01:22:58):
School need to fucking TG's ply program over there.

Speaker 10 (01:23:07):
Oh my god, Polly program.

Speaker 4 (01:23:16):
That's a different situation. But when you're just meeting people,
all right, And I'm talking this because you know, I've
been on these dating sites. I'm on these dating sites,
not really actively, but I'm on them. The thing is,
these are total strangers.

Speaker 3 (01:23:33):
Right.

Speaker 4 (01:23:34):
If I'm just limiting to one person and then I
never see them again after the first date, I pretty.

Speaker 10 (01:23:40):
Much you know, Yeah, you don't put.

Speaker 4 (01:23:48):
You can't because again, no matter what, somebody is always
going to get hurt. But it's again the communication.

Speaker 10 (01:23:57):
I don't think they have to if there is community cation. No,
I think that when dating means like talking to people
and getting to know that.

Speaker 4 (01:24:08):
Jessica, I have been out with some of those people
and it's it's I'm talking to somebody. I'm sure somebody
has pissed in the dating pool.

Speaker 6 (01:24:18):
It was like twenty if any if anybody from plenty
of fish. You know what I'm talking about, twenty of
fish man like like, yo, you know what?

Speaker 4 (01:24:31):
H five years? In my five years since my divorce,
I have experienced plenty of fish, cheese spot uh tender
match up?

Speaker 1 (01:24:45):
What is it?

Speaker 5 (01:24:46):
Upward?

Speaker 4 (01:24:47):
Christian mingle?

Speaker 6 (01:24:48):
E harm oh, Christian mingle? Did you did you see
my screen ning? Not even Jesus in the streets? Is
in the sheets?

Speaker 5 (01:25:00):
I saw that.

Speaker 4 (01:25:09):
I don't know. I don't know what made me think
that being on a Christian site because I'm looking for
a Christian man. I don't know what in the world
made me think that they were going to be any
different than any other.

Speaker 1 (01:25:21):
I believe it.

Speaker 10 (01:25:22):
I believe it.

Speaker 6 (01:25:24):
You know what you know what yo and not about?

Speaker 4 (01:25:27):
Then let me let me say something real funny. I
even uh matched with my own biological brother. It was
like and was like, who the heck put him on
a Christian website?

Speaker 12 (01:25:41):
Oh my god, I'm like something, please, oh my Lord,
forgive us, father for.

Speaker 2 (01:26:01):
I was.

Speaker 4 (01:26:05):
The sentence match.

Speaker 5 (01:26:15):
Can't be.

Speaker 10 (01:26:17):
No stop, that's crazy.

Speaker 6 (01:26:20):
That's I hope you're making this spot up man, because this.

Speaker 10 (01:26:32):
My profile.

Speaker 1 (01:26:35):
You should.

Speaker 6 (01:26:38):
Your brother the father. Why have you forsaken by.

Speaker 1 (01:26:44):
Yo?

Speaker 6 (01:26:45):
That's insane.

Speaker 10 (01:26:46):
Bro.

Speaker 9 (01:26:49):
I'm not I'm not trying to laugh at your pain,
but like like, yes, yo, yo, but imagine, imagine you
know what I'm saying.

Speaker 6 (01:26:57):
You like you forget you know what I'm saying, matching
up and you're like, wow, this is great. You're like
wait what.

Speaker 1 (01:27:09):
Bro?

Speaker 6 (01:27:09):
That is like so heartbreakingly funny. I know that, yo.
The I can see what yo? Yo? What is the
match on that though?

Speaker 3 (01:27:23):
What do you mean?

Speaker 1 (01:27:25):
Yes?

Speaker 6 (01:27:26):
I mean my bad? The percentage of that to your brother?
You know what I mean? Like the percentage on that
that That's what I'm saying.

Speaker 4 (01:27:32):
Oh, I don't know, but we were a sixty percent
match and he popped up and him and I are
so different, oh lord. But my thing that made it
funny was finding him on a Christian app. I'm like, yeah,
you have got to be kidding me. I honestly, I

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don't know that. I well not really catfished.

Speaker 3 (01:27:55):
I mean I have.

Speaker 4 (01:27:58):
Because I usually because of this HSP, I actually think,
thank you midnight. I'm glad I can be friend you.
I have a tendency to be able to pick up
when people are being disingenuine, so I tend to catch

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them pretty quickly. I have never personally been catfished as
far as like when I go out on the date
one because I'm not one to quickly go out with somebody.
I don't quickly give my phone number, I don't quickly
do anything because one for.

Speaker 3 (01:28:37):
That, for that very reason, right.

Speaker 4 (01:28:40):
And also, there are a lot, I mean, there are
a lot of fake profiles, a lot, a lot, a lot.
But if you're telling me that you are the one
in the military, yeah, yeah, But if you're telling me
that you're a Latino and and you know you speak

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perfect English and you've only been here for you know,
a couple of months, and and no, no, if you're
speaking perfect English and you've only been here a couple
of months, you're either using a translator. Or if you
tell me that you're a white, a white guy with
blond hair, blue eyes, and you don't.

Speaker 1 (01:29:21):
Know how to spell.

Speaker 4 (01:29:22):
That's a red flag.

Speaker 1 (01:29:25):
Just a lot of things.

Speaker 2 (01:29:27):
Some people don't know how to spell.

Speaker 4 (01:29:29):
Yeah, it's not that but but but you know what
I mean, degree and you can't.

Speaker 12 (01:29:37):
There there you know?

Speaker 9 (01:29:39):
And and all right, that's spell the thing, right, And
this day and age of auto check autocorrect, you still
a lot of spell.

Speaker 10 (01:29:48):
Yeah, right, It's just it's usually just that right, yeah.

Speaker 4 (01:29:54):
Like So, I mean, I've been pretty lucky with the
catfishing thing. And again, because of my line of work,
I have a tendency to be suspicious of people. So
I tend to do my due diligence, background checks and
all that good stuff.

Speaker 10 (01:30:12):
So where were you like four years ago? In my life?
Holy shit, I've been.

Speaker 4 (01:30:23):
I've been blessed in that way that my you know,
my my work and my personality. I guess I tend
to do because I know what I want for my future,
and so I I don't take people at their word.
Actions speak louder than words. So but I also do

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my due diligence and I do some checks and I so, yes,
I know how much you owe your baby's mama.

Speaker 3 (01:30:50):
Yeah, I know how many charges.

Speaker 4 (01:30:52):
You've got on your record. I know what your mother's
and father's name is, I know where you grew up,
so I know all that. Most of the times before
I agree to go out with somebody, I know all
of that before I even meet them.

Speaker 10 (01:31:08):
That kind of feels like cheating.

Speaker 9 (01:31:10):
Yeah, no, it ain't cheating, you know what I'm saying,
because you know what not everyone.

Speaker 10 (01:31:19):
As to find.

Speaker 4 (01:31:21):
But I don't even use my work resources.

Speaker 10 (01:31:26):
I don't know. I like, this is why I don't
like the Internet, but I do at the same time
because yes, for safety reasons, I can understand that now,
But at the same time, it just kind of feels
fucked up because judgment is being made without knowing a story.
So well, that's where I'm coming from.

Speaker 4 (01:31:46):
I could see that. But at the same token, if
the person who's doing that is being oh whoa, I mean, Damna, Jessica, Okay,
you have to read well.

Speaker 10 (01:31:58):
I think I can read it now.

Speaker 4 (01:31:59):
I met a guy on Facebook his picks. He looked good,
but I did notice he wasn't smiling, so I went
for it. And dude's teeth were bigger than chick lits
and he had a.

Speaker 10 (01:32:08):
Real little head with a huge built body.

Speaker 4 (01:32:15):
For the date. But when he spoke, he spoke like
Mike Tyson, Oh no, the bill because he only had
three beers. I'm glad I had money. Laughed my eyes off.
So the next day he called me and said he
only did that with the bill because I told him,
I W I don't know what happened, went, how dare

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you facebook?

Speaker 1 (01:32:40):
You know what?

Speaker 4 (01:32:42):
In that case, I would have to I don't call
that cat fishing, But yes, I have been fooled because.

Speaker 5 (01:32:49):
I had a think for half fishing.

Speaker 10 (01:32:52):
Yeah, because yeah, like I know people they'll share old
pictures of themselves and they're not like showing you new ship.
And then you see them and you're like that looks.

Speaker 4 (01:33:03):
Like you like, ain't about the smiling thing?

Speaker 10 (01:33:08):
Right?

Speaker 4 (01:33:08):
So I did meet someone who actually I've met a
few people like this. I have a thing about oral hygiene.
People's breath, you know, their teeth, like your teeth don't
your teeth don't have to be straight, they don't, you know,
they like they don't have to be straight. They don't
have you know, but you have to have all of

(01:33:30):
them dragons, Yeah, like you have to have all your seas.
They have to at least be healthy, right. So I
have met people who had half their mouth missing, people
whose teeth have been so rotten. Like, I was like,
what the guy opened his mouth and they were all black.

Speaker 10 (01:33:52):
I was like, oh no, And of course I was.

Speaker 4 (01:34:04):
Trying to be you know, I was trying to be
nice about it, but I was like, I'm sorry, this
is so bad. Wow, actually had no teeth at all.

Speaker 2 (01:34:19):
He trying to gummy.

Speaker 10 (01:34:25):
Gumb you know what, though he probably eats really well.

Speaker 5 (01:34:32):
Gums. Oh wow, to go on a date with me,
have to get a baby food.

Speaker 10 (01:34:46):
Apple?

Speaker 5 (01:34:48):
Can you paraise this?

Speaker 10 (01:34:55):
Blend that ship?

Speaker 1 (01:34:58):
That's crazy?

Speaker 5 (01:35:00):
What do you want to eat?

Speaker 4 (01:35:03):
You? Guys are so long.

Speaker 10 (01:35:05):
So I love when guys portray themselves as tall, but
they're not.

Speaker 5 (01:35:16):
Hold on, hold on, what do you consider short?

Speaker 4 (01:35:20):
I anything shorter than me?

Speaker 1 (01:35:22):
Yeah?

Speaker 10 (01:35:22):
I got five six.

Speaker 4 (01:35:25):
He's got to be at least five six.

Speaker 5 (01:35:26):
And how tall you?

Speaker 4 (01:35:27):
Five four yo?

Speaker 5 (01:35:29):
Yo? First off, any male that's five to six is
nothing more than a petite woman.

Speaker 2 (01:35:33):
To me.

Speaker 10 (01:35:41):
Five seven. And both my guys are five to six.

Speaker 5 (01:35:45):
So yo.

Speaker 10 (01:35:50):
And a half technically, and they're you know.

Speaker 5 (01:35:52):
What, You might as well just get us some uggs
and call it a day apple bottom.

Speaker 10 (01:35:56):
Boots with women should not be wearing heels to begin with.
They're so bad for your feet. It's not pretty. They
got them, they got them healed things for shoes to
lift you up? May you a little taller? Kevin Hart
uses them?

Speaker 5 (01:36:14):
I mean, so what, Kevin?

Speaker 1 (01:36:18):
But I don't.

Speaker 10 (01:36:19):
I kind of don't like that people discriminate with height
because I just don't feel like that should be such
a big thing, the preferences and having preferences. But society
does push that, like the man should be taller than

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the woman, and if we see the opposite happen, we
are like, oh, that looks weird. I'm both. I'm not
against it, is what I'm saying. I think that I'm
saying they should any more. There are some great short
guys out there that are not getting love because everybody

(01:37:01):
wants some tall, beautiful man.

Speaker 4 (01:37:04):
Let me tell you something, he sucks. Bring a short
man to my house that treats me the way I
deserve to be treated, and I will entertain it.

Speaker 10 (01:37:11):
I got my list going here.

Speaker 5 (01:37:15):
So all right, lady g fair enough. You know what
I'm saying. Do you want me to son you?

Speaker 1 (01:37:19):
Oh?

Speaker 5 (01:37:20):
Damn, you need a boo. See, you know what I'm
saying to put him in the I could not look down.

Speaker 10 (01:37:28):
It's terrible. Why I love what I'm looking down and
he's taking care of things.

Speaker 8 (01:37:42):
He's like, no, I mean I've got stories.

Speaker 4 (01:37:55):
I've got.

Speaker 2 (01:38:01):
Oh oh damn.

Speaker 10 (01:38:05):
It's the stupidest ship.

Speaker 1 (01:38:07):
But it's so funny.

Speaker 10 (01:38:09):
Oh boy, but man, he talks about lit of shit.

Speaker 1 (01:38:14):
Man, you know what? Man like, you never.

Speaker 10 (01:38:17):
Finished some stuff. But that's okay. I would let it go.

Speaker 1 (01:38:22):
You had a question.

Speaker 4 (01:38:24):
Yes, they'd never let me finish that, right.

Speaker 10 (01:38:27):
I'm curious to know that if you would allow Like
if that is, I don't know what your boundaries are,
So I'm just curious. Okay.

Speaker 4 (01:38:37):
So my history says yes, I would drive a test
drive the car. My desire is no. I don't want
to test drive the car because I'm a pretty good teacher. Hey,
who's better to teach somebody what I because then I
don't have to tell him to unlearned something.

Speaker 6 (01:39:00):
You know.

Speaker 4 (01:39:02):
So my heart, my life, my spirit, my religion tells
me I need to wait until they put a ring
on it. And as much as I want to, I
don't know. I don't know if I could I don't know.
My desire is not to test drive because again I
can teach them what I need them to know.

Speaker 3 (01:39:22):
That's teachable, you know.

Speaker 4 (01:39:25):
And if it's not up to size part, that's why
they create toys and extensions and so that stuff is fixable.
All of that is fixable to an extent, Yes, to
an extent, because if it doesn't thing I could do

(01:39:47):
about that.

Speaker 10 (01:39:47):
Yeah, because if you have somebody who is like incredibly
horny and needs it all the time and that's not you,
then you know what I'm saying.

Speaker 4 (01:39:56):
Or yeah, definitely, But again that's about conversation. Those are communications,
that's true.

Speaker 10 (01:40:03):
These are all conversations that should be had, that really
be had.

Speaker 4 (01:40:07):
Yes, But I am not quick to be driving a
car before I know if he even likes the brand,
you know, so because.

Speaker 10 (01:40:17):
I think I would. I would want you to make
sure that he really likes the band and has intention
yes to go something.

Speaker 4 (01:40:23):
Because being totally honest here on you know what, shut up,
I got to know that somebody can you know that
somebody can actually drive, you know, before they start testing
out the cars.

Speaker 10 (01:40:48):
Oh my gosh, I learned how to drive stick actually,
but I don't know. I'm bad. I'm bad at it,
so I'll fuck up the clutch.

Speaker 1 (01:41:00):
Don't let me.

Speaker 4 (01:41:02):
My thing is my past, my past person who I
was when I was younger. You know, like all of us,
we all have our stories when we were younger. I
I didn't maybe I didn't love myself enough.

Speaker 8 (01:41:20):
I don't know.

Speaker 4 (01:41:22):
I had abandonment issues. My mom died when I was
you know, practically a teenager, so nobody was teaching me
nothing right, you know, low self esteem, looking for love
in all the wrong places. And I realized that I
was giving pieces of myself to people that I cannot
get back. And so as I get older, as I

(01:41:43):
learned to love myself more. You know, the truth is,
if it happens, it's not happening for a while, because
I need to know that that you're really in this.
We definitely have to be exclusive, you know. If it
doesn't work, it doesn't work. If they're unteachable, you turn
it back.

Speaker 5 (01:42:04):
Oh yeah, we're going to.

Speaker 4 (01:42:11):
Be a lot younger than me.

Speaker 10 (01:42:12):
But I.

Speaker 4 (01:42:14):
Could take it to leave it.

Speaker 8 (01:42:16):
You know, I got got me through this far.

Speaker 4 (01:42:20):
I just keep that up. But if he can love me,
that to me is more important to me. Right now
in my life than the physical stuff. If he can
love me and treat me the way I deserve, the
way I need, the way I want. You know what,
if I got to give it up somewhere, I'll give
it up there all right, I'm closer to the fifty mark,

(01:42:44):
so yo.

Speaker 10 (01:42:47):
Over there.

Speaker 5 (01:42:47):
Yo. The fact that she said, Joe, what do you
do we turn it back here? The first thing I thought.
I was, like, you don't say her bringing the nigga
to the store, like with the receipt here, it doesn't work.

Speaker 6 (01:42:59):
Ain't working out at that point.

Speaker 4 (01:43:08):
Look, if he's feeding my heart at that point, I
might have to go talk to TG and let her
talk to me about this whole policy.

Speaker 10 (01:43:16):
Open, Yeah, I got you.

Speaker 1 (01:43:18):
Don't worry.

Speaker 10 (01:43:18):
I'll teach you how it's done. Honestly, I feel that
if people have real conversations about sex and what they
like and why, I think that's important because I feel

(01:43:42):
and unfortunately I know that there are men who are
married and they go outside of the relationship to have
the kind of sex they want because they don't do
that at home.

Speaker 4 (01:43:57):
Right, But they probably also don't discuss that with the
white That is the problem.

Speaker 10 (01:44:02):
This is the thing too. It's like well, how do
you know? But the thing is too for me. I
always would say this. This is always be my question
with someone who doesn't satisfy you this way or have
this conversation with that.

Speaker 2 (01:44:19):
Like communicated expectations.

Speaker 5 (01:44:23):
Please, yeah, because you know what, and yo, you know
what it sounds. It sounds fucked up in my opinion.
My opinion is that they're married.

Speaker 9 (01:44:32):
You know what I'm saying, and he's you know what
I'm saying, like and whatever the case may be, if
he gets caught you know what I'm saying, if he
gets caught cheating and he has to go to force
court whatever and all that ship she automatically wins.

Speaker 5 (01:44:45):
That's one second.

Speaker 2 (01:44:49):
State.

Speaker 10 (01:44:49):
By the way, Yeah, there's no states are different, by
the way, all states are different. They do.

Speaker 5 (01:44:57):
But but like, yo, you know what I mean.

Speaker 4 (01:44:59):
Not I told you my dud ran away with the Godmother.
I had no recourse and I did not win anything.

Speaker 5 (01:45:07):
How would a man take a woman saying he doesn't satisfying.

Speaker 10 (01:45:12):
He would the man answer that answer.

Speaker 1 (01:45:18):
You exactly?

Speaker 10 (01:45:20):
And your issue You first react like.

Speaker 4 (01:45:25):
Okay, but that communicating.

Speaker 2 (01:45:31):
Is so I'm just don't don't take that seriously. I'm
just goofing.

Speaker 10 (01:45:40):
Ship had an edible or something, and.

Speaker 12 (01:45:48):
So so the thing is like.

Speaker 4 (01:45:52):
So with like with the marriage and things like that. Yeah. See,
that's why women are scared to communicate because there you
want them to be honest, but then when you're honest
with them, they can't handle the truth.

Speaker 2 (01:46:03):
I'm just playing though that, but it's the truth.

Speaker 4 (01:46:05):
Cornel, Like, that's exactly it.

Speaker 10 (01:46:07):
Guy.

Speaker 4 (01:46:09):
Guys say they want a woman who is loyal, a
woman who is honest, a woman that don't cheat. You
give them all of those things, and it's still not enough,
and you still cheat, and you still do all these
bad things. And you get exactly what you ask for
and you still don't want it. You still don't appreciate it.

Speaker 2 (01:46:27):
You know, if I got exactly what I asked for,
I'd be great. I'd be extremely grateful.

Speaker 4 (01:46:33):
You know what it because I'm calling bullshit on that.

Speaker 6 (01:46:38):
You crazy, No, I'm calling bullshit on that.

Speaker 2 (01:46:41):
If I got exactly what it was I was looking for,
I'd be fucking extremely grateful. All right, Okay, now I
got quite old. So somebody nobody want to say, sh
leave me fucking hanging out there?

Speaker 1 (01:47:02):
What?

Speaker 10 (01:47:03):
Sorry, everybody?

Speaker 2 (01:47:06):
When I say everybody's quiet, like, all right, let's see
what I'm Let's put the fucking spotlight on his ass
now anyway.

Speaker 10 (01:47:14):
Yes, oh wow, look at the time.

Speaker 1 (01:47:18):
Friend.

Speaker 9 (01:47:20):
Yeah, well, oh my goodness, my god. Hey, as you know,
today is side chick Day and side Nigga Day. I
hope you guys out there, you know, having your fun,
you know. Please don't bring no over very diseases back
home to your thank you. Tomorrow's Tomorrow is Valentine's Day and.

Speaker 10 (01:47:41):
No tomorrow it is side Peace day.

Speaker 6 (01:47:46):
Wait wait, wait, hold on, hold on, hold on Thursday.

Speaker 9 (01:47:50):
Right, No, it'sday boy, all right, Tomorrow tomorrow's side.

Speaker 6 (01:47:57):
I'm sorry, you know what tomorrow?

Speaker 9 (01:48:00):
Yeah, tomorrow side dude, side check they you know, you know,
have fun, you know, like going down to the loop.

Speaker 6 (01:48:08):
You know what I'm saying, treat your side, you know
what I'm saying. Yeah, you know what I'm saying. Just
wrap it up. Please don't bring home no gift that
keeps on givings. You know what I'm saying. They called
her piece for a reason. It came from her from him,
It came from him with him peace, remember that him peace.

Speaker 1 (01:48:27):
Just wrap it up.

Speaker 4 (01:48:28):
Oh my gosh.

Speaker 10 (01:48:35):
Yeah, anyway, chocolate on Saturday because it'll be half off.

Speaker 9 (01:48:44):
Yes, yes, shout out on my left with some tolerant
people that's gonna be in the trunk with Friday and
blowing their guts out on Saturday.

Speaker 2 (01:48:55):
Shout out with with that. With that being said, thank
you for everybody who tuned, who joined in and chimed
in the chat room.

Speaker 1 (01:49:02):
Yeah, thank you, thanks.

Speaker 2 (01:49:06):
Yeah, today was I mean this, this is this is
definitely going up all over the place. I gotta cut
it up. And what the fuck my cameras acted up.
My cameras like shut the funk up with.

Speaker 6 (01:49:23):
Yo.

Speaker 2 (01:49:23):
So anyway, that being said, man, thanks everybody in the
chat room. Man, love you guys. Lady G T G
love AK. Signed Phoenix, I'm big hold of young and
always remember that at some point. This night, good night, everybody,
Sweet dreams, very happy tomorrow to you. Good good night everybody.

Speaker 6 (01:49:54):
Good night pe