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All I Could See Was Her Brain Blown Away By My Gun | Reddit Cheating Stories

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Speaker 1 (00:04):
I just found out my soul of almost five years
was cheating on me the whole relationship. I never ever
would have suspected it. He was very abusive and is
a textbook narcissist, but he had this huge issue with cheating.
For example, he would have a dream that I cheated
on him and wouldn't speak to me for days. Cheating
was the one thing I thought he would never do.

(00:27):
He berated me multiple times a week for a whole
year because I slept with someone before we were even
seeing each other, hadn't even held hands with him, but
I was abused and degraded over that one night's stand
for a year. I have never been anything but loyal
to him, even cut off all my platonic male friends
because he was so controlling. Has a brilliant liar. I

(00:49):
only found out because I found a journal type thing
of his by complete accident, where he mentioned cheating on me.
I confronted him, and he lied and lied and lied,
came up with every ridiculous excuse under the sun. I
left him regardless. Afterwards, I found out that he was
cheating on me with p ostitutes on a regular basis,

(01:11):
and we had a very active s time life because
he would basically force me into it on a daily basis.
He also cheated on me several times with a man
who is HIV positive. I've been tested and clean, thankfully.
What makes this so much worse for me is that
while he was cheating, it was when my four year
old was diagnosed with aggressive brain cancer and given a

(01:34):
very low chance of survival. I was seven months pregnant
at the time. All of a sudden, I was spending
weeks and weeks in hospital by her side while she
was on death's door having the strongest possible chemo pumped
into her tiny little body, horribly sick and in agony,
while he was at home smoking ntch and ducking p

(01:54):
ostitutes and other men. I just can't ducking believe any
one could do that. And then I would come home
and he would be so loving in between the abuse,
no empathy or remorse at all. Now that he's caught
and I have proof he admitted it all and is
now love being me with apologies and all your other
typical narc asset I'm ignoring him completely, which I can

(02:17):
imagine is driving him insane. I will never take him back,
but now I'm a single mum. I'm twenty four, I
have two kids under five. My daughter is still on
cancer treatment. Picking up the piece's hurts like hell. But
you'd have to put a gun to my head to
get me to take him back, and I'd choose the bullet.
He's a monster. Thanks for reading. I'm glad I found

(02:40):
this sub redditor's reactions story two after Redditor one, I
strongly suggest that you get counseling if anyone needs it
you do. If you can't afford it, go to your
local country mental health unit. They should be able to
see you for free or at greatly reduced price. Op answer.

(03:01):
I've been in therapy for a decade now. Daddy issues lowell,
but I'm going to really ramp up my sessions now.
Redditor two, I feel so sorry up, but you are
strong and determined. I can feel it through this text.
You will survive and prosper. Redditor three, I was also
with someone like this to find out a long term

(03:22):
so who efforts you into an overactive s time life,
who has been angry with you for being the victim
of an assault and cry and a stairwell just based
on the knowledge that a drunken female friend wanted to kiss.
You could also have been cheating the entire relationship with
anyone they could, and hiring escorts, et cetera is such
a slap in the face. Manipulators are the worst pieces

(03:45):
of crap that make you forget your worth meanwhile being
crappy and doing whatever they want. If anything, time heals
all wounds. You have your children who you love and
who love you, and you can do this every day.
Remind yourself of the things that are good. Seek therapy
too low to help process all this stuff because you

(04:06):
can't bottle forever without feeling some kind of crazy lurch
for control. You're already so strong for having been through
all that at twenty four, And think in five years
time when this will have all been something that you
have overcome, and in ten years when you probably won't
even think about You're so strong. FC k Man Incredible

(04:27):
mom and person Story two. My twenty nine f boyfriend
thirty two meters went to a strip club on a
guy's trip and bought a lap dance. Hi. Al So,
my boyfriend and I have been together for three years.
He admitted to me today that he and two of
his other friends went to a strip club two years ago,
one year into our relationship, he paid for a stripper

(04:50):
to give him a lap dance, and so did one
of his friends. They are all in long term relationships.
I'm so disgusted right now and feel so badchry trade
like these last few years, he's just been happy to
lie to my face. It's funny because a couple months
ago I remember telling him that if he went to
a strip club it would be a deal breaker for

(05:11):
me and I consider this cheating, but he didn't say anything. Then.
After he told me today, I couldn't believe it. I
asked him if he has ever slept or talked to
anyone else during our relationship, and he is denying it.
I'm having a hard time believing him. Oh and I
can't talk to my best friend about it because her

(05:31):
boyfriend was the one there with him, so I don't
even know if she knows, and I want to tell
her so badly. I'm honestly so devastated and heartbroken. We
had a huge fight and thought all day, mostly just
me crying and yelling while he took it. He's currently
sleeping on the couch. I don't know what to do.

(05:52):
We live together and share bills. I'm not even following
my own rules because I let him stay here. Maybe
I'm hosting in the wrong sub but a boundary has
been broken for me. I wanted to come on here
and ask your opinions and hear your experiences. Is this
the start of him trickle truthing? Should I let this go?

(06:13):
Am I overreacting redditor's reactions Story three after Redditor one.
I disagree with a lot of comments here. Up, You're
allowed to have this as a boundary. It's a pretty
common boundary such that it's reasonable to assume your partner
is not getting lap dances unless you guys talk about
it beforehand and deem it okay. Why the f and

(06:35):
our society do we deem it okay to get lap dances?
He didn't know your boundary, but he should have discussed
it with you before doing it. I would be very
upset to all of that said. He told you the truth,
which is good. I don't think this relationship is ruined,
but you have a right to be upset. It sounds
like he understands, which is good. He is listening to

(06:58):
what you are saying and not be defensive. From the
sound of it, to me, it sounds like you have
a good guy who did something stupid and is willing
to learn from his mistakes and be honest about them.
Redditor follow up, He did know the specific boundary for
years and chose to hide it from her. Getting secret
lap dances in a relationship is cheating. She should tell

(07:20):
the other girlfriend's wives for a start, assuming none of
them know. It would have to be because the men
discussed it and agreed to hide it from their partners.
Redditor too. If it was my best friend, I'd be
telling her. Redditor three. It should be an obvious boundary.
Doing something estual with a person other than your so
is not cool. You are not overreacting. If he needed

(07:43):
this to be set out loud, then he is the
one that is confused about the meaning of monogamy. Story three.
Who Wills feels intense hatred for the affair partner advice,
need advice. My husband and I are married for seven years.
One year ago he came and told me he had
an affair with this lady for around two months. I

(08:04):
was baffled, had no idea. We went into therapy and
things are going okay right now. However, the lady he
had an affair with works in the same neighborhood as me.
She knows I am his wife. I feel pure, deep,
intense hatred for this monster. One time she saw me
on the streets, waved at me and gave me a mean,

(08:25):
big smile. I have never been an aggressive person, but
at that moment I wanted to run towards her choke
her until she stops breathing. I fantasize about blowing her
brains out with my gun. I think I would be
truly happy if I got the message she got hit
by a car or anything like that. I really wish

(08:46):
her everything worse and more. Things would have been so
much better if her mother had an abortion. I had
no idea I could feel this amount of hatred. It
also makes me feel kind of like a monster. But
seeing her ugly asses face every week when I go
to work it drives me insane. Redditor's reactions Redditor one over.

(09:07):
Thirty years ago, the girl that I loved was having
s time daily while I was at work with a
guy that I had known since grade school. About a
week after I found out he got killed in a
car rollover. I remember acting a little sad as it
was a tragedy for his family, whom I had known
since I was a wee boy. But in reality, I

(09:27):
figured the unemployed little s at PT had wasn't really
leaving a big void in the world. I still think
fucking that cocksucker Redditor follow up, I'm impressed. I would
have filmed myself doing cartwheels and posted it on his
decking Facebook wall for the friends and famacy or thirty
years ago. I mean, I would have done cartwheels everywhere

(09:51):
and walked around town with a big s at eating grin. Seriously,
I think you won the ego lottery of post infidelity,
King Rat Redditor two. At first, yes, but then the
more I thought about the situation, the more hate I
had for the WP than the AP. I have no
idea what WP told the AP. Maybe the AP knew

(10:13):
that WP was in a long term, committed relationship, and
maybe they didn't. However, the person that did was the WP.
They knew they came home every night to me, and
they planned their future with me. They deserve all the
hate I had at the time. If it wasn't that
particular AP, it would have probably been someone else. It's

(10:34):
been so long ago, and I've since moved on and
have been married to a wonderful person for years. I
still kind of do hate the ex WP, but I'm
glad I left them behind because I would have never
fully trusted them again. Redditor three. Yes, yes I do.
My wife's affair partner was a friend we both worked with,

(10:56):
someone we hung out with him and his wife, someone
who gave me a great speech about being lucky to
have her, someone who never respected me or my marriage,
let alone his. So yeah, I have some hatred for
him lots. Redditor follow up. Yeah, my wife's ap was
a close friend of mine who praised the strength and

(11:18):
health of our marriage and expressed hope to have the
same thing one day. I've never hated anyone. I do
hate him, Redditor four. Same. My husband had an emotional
affair with a co worker. I was friendly with this
woman and would hang out with her at company events.
I think about her and I just wish she would disappear.

(11:39):
I hate her so much. Redditor follow up same, Here,
did you ever confront her? I want to stay on
the high road, but I'm so tempted to f be
message her OZ. My husband is the ashoal tube of Jesus.
How can one mom do that to another? Redditor? Five?
I do? I hate her. I read all the time

(12:01):
on forums about how forgiveness is really the desired outcome,
or you'll feel like the better person if no duck that.
I absolutely despise her and always will if she was
on fire, I wouldn't be ss on her to put
it out. I oftentimes fantasize about what I can do
to ruin her life, even though she's in a different country.

(12:23):
Her desired career is to be a famous actress, and
currently believes she's a model due to screwing her unemployed
photographer boyfriend and managing to leach approximately one thousand Instagram followers.
If I had the money, I'd pay someone to throw
acid on her face and take away the only value
she seems to have. Given that her personality is severely

(12:45):
elkin as is the development of empathy. Her family, who
lives in Russia, genuinely makes me wish that some wartime
as it would go down. I know nothing about politics,
but I genuinely hope some complete anti communist warhead would
barge into her family's place and just nute them all.
That is how much I hate her. It extends to

(13:05):
her entire family. I made an account just to post
this because a lot of people on redd it seem
to act like their saints who feel more pity than
Anchor Deck that affair partners deserve absolutely no pity. They're
no saints. And you know what, what happened to me
has kailed a peace of me, the part of me
that was undeservedly kind to all. Sometimes when I hear

(13:29):
about all of those news stories about people as ottering
others in crimes of passion, or women having acid thrown
onto their faces or things of that nature, I sympathize
with the assailants. Sometimes it makes me think, you know,
the victims are somehow always glorified to be these innocent
angels who did nothing wrong. And now all I can

(13:50):
see is the affair partner's face when I think of them,
I go, yeah, well, sure they volunteered to help children once,
like four years ago, but they probably ducked other people's
husbands and laughed about it with their mutual friends. You know,
So maybe she got her come up. And does it
make me a monster or a horrible person to people

(14:11):
who don't understand. Maybe, But yes, there's true, severe, endless
burning hatred that I have for the other woman. The
description here is an understatement at best. I genuinely, severely
do not believe she has any redeemable qualities, and gleefully
look forward to the day that she suffers. I would

(14:32):
like her, above all to contract an asymptomatic STD, live
a say life, and obtain neurosyphilis. Additionally, I could not
think of a better candidate for female circumcision, and would
gladly be the one to orchestrate every misfortune in her
entire life if it were possible. I don't think I'm
a monster, but I do think she is, and I

(14:54):
think it's normal to hate other people when they've hurt
you in the deepest ways. Imaginable redditor follow up. I
feel the exact same with my so's female friend, which
I know he is talking to in an estual way,
or at least a way that supposed friends shouldn't talk.
I am honestly done with his blid and Liza being faithful,

(15:15):
so hopefully tomorrow I can talk to him about it,
and hopefully I don't have a panic attack about it. Honestly,
a part of me is scared that I am playing
right into her hands. But when I actually think about it,
she deserves to suffer as much as he does. And
by that I mean I hope that he treats her
like absolute acid in belittling her and cheating on her

(15:35):
and breaking her boundaries and trust completely. I know it's
not good to want people to suffer, or at least
wish it, but by the Gods, do I want them
to to not ever be happy together at all, and
for him to completely regret everything he has ever done
to me. And I hope that he ends up being
jealous when he sees what he left behind for a
shining new toy. Edit. When I wrote this, I was

(15:57):
tipsy and slightly drunk. We talked yesterday and both decided
that it's best to go our own ways, and he
did admit that what he was doing to me was
not right at all, and that he honestly hates himself
for it. He struggles with extremely low self esteem, depression,
and self hate. I struggle with low self esteem, depression

(16:18):
and both social anxiety, plus I guess you could consider
a generalized anxiety. Also. Redditor six absolutely hey hate the
ap married for eighteen years with five kids, and my
wus wasn't the only married man she flirted with and
then slept with. Yes, just as mad and hurt by

(16:38):
my husband. But deep down I want her life blown
to pieces. Feels like she's doing just fine while I
fall apart. But I agree with the post around happiness
is best revenge. I know deep down she is pathetic.
Her blogs, her Instagram's Twitter, so much attention. Twenty four
to seven is the idiot that fell for her her

(17:02):
ridiculous running essay. I'm currently jaded and get mad every
time I see a runner, but I know it's misplaced.
Just sucks to know how she was actively seeking multiple
married men out Who knows how many marriages she has ruined.
Wanda blasted everywhere, redded her seven absolutely after the first

(17:23):
time dealing with him and learning more about him. He's
an absolute manipulative monster. I'm barely four days out from
d DA two. I just want to ruin his life.
The complete disrespect in their exchange, the obvious toying with
her emotions. I'm devastated to think that she made this
choice and can't see the complete disregard for her value.

(17:46):
I'm probably going to catch a lot of flack for
that last comment. My wife is a mental condition that
has clearly gone untreated. I knew early on of the
depression and distress, but it disappeared after we were married.
In our kids, but something boiled up and she made
the choice to run instead of talking to me or
seeking help. Both of them have violated me and my kids.

(18:07):
Nothing I have said is an excuse. I loathed that
man and would like to nothing more than for him
to disappear from the face of the earth. Redditor follow up,
I'm sorry she doesn't treat her mental illness for what
it's worth. I sabotaged my marriage this summer. My husband
didn't know what to do, so he just left like
I told him too. It was the worst decision of

(18:30):
my life. I hacked his Facebook and seen a message
from a girl. It broke my heart. I couldn't believe
he would do that to me. That sounds crazy, right,
Well I was crazy. I didn't see it. It came
on so fast. I was convinced this was what I wanted.

(18:51):
It wasn't until I was coming out of the manic
phase that I realized I'd messed up. How long has
it been? Redditor ate hate? Yeah, more sadness though for
both of them. They are broken and pathetic weaklings. They
quit their marriages and hurt others rather than do the
really difficult thing fix themselves. They need therapy, They need

(19:15):
a reality check against their entitlement. They need more than
we do. My wife's ap, no doubt, wishes he could
fight me. Good luck with that. He's already lost custody
of his kids. Temporarily assault me, and I'm bigger, stronger,
and have a lot more reason to fight him, and
he'll never see his kids again, might even go to jail.

(19:38):
He knows that and me, My kids are way more
important to me than some delusional fight with this dude
that might result in me getting assault charges leveled against me.
My ex would absolutely use it against me too. I
see them together and I think how sad they are.
No smiles, are going to hide the pain they know

(19:58):
they caused. I don't hate hate them. I don't pity
them either. They are adults and knew fully what they
were doing. They're just broken people. Reddit or nine. Hate
will only hold you back. Glad counseling help. But you
need to forgive this woman. If you don't truly forgive her,
you will always be hating and miss out in the

(20:20):
joy in life. Yes, I do understand how hard it
is to forgive someone who hurt you so much, but
it's the best way to experience grace and happiness in life.
I hope this helps reddit or follow up. I wish
someone would have told me this many years ago. It
would have helped a lot.