August 4, 2025 • 21 mins
I Found Out My Wife is Cheating On Me with a TEENAGER.. CRUSHED.
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Speaker 1 (00:00):
I male, twenty seven, found out my wife twenty five female,
has been cheating on me online with a young guy
eighteen male, and I also just heard he's had conversations
with our kids as well on voice call, doing impersonations
of Sebastian the Crab from The Little Mermaid and gave
my daughter a nickname. She first started talking to this
guy last year when he was seventeen and my wife
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twenty four. She became withdrawn, would let a lot of
things slide, lose interest in her hobbies, the household, the kids,
her friends, me. She admitted to me in tears that
she had started chatting a guy from uncle one night,
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when bored they had exchanged contact details, she made a
snapchat just for him, and so did he. They began
chatting there regularly. This guy is handsome, he's young, he's
an athlete, and he's fit as can be. He's fine,
he's awesome. He mesmerizes her, makes her laugh all the time.
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She finds herself fallen for him, and she admits her
mistake to me. I am so sad and upset, but
I forgive her. She promises to block him remove her app.
Things are cool for a while, but months later, I
find out she still has Snapchat. She says it's for
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her other friends. I push the issue. Turns out she
still talks to the guy. I am not okay with this.
She says they are just friends. I tell her to
block his butt. She says she does. Around December last year,
I discovered she never did block him, still talks to him.
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I am so ducking mad. I break into her phone
one day, see her Snapchat open and a message from him.
I love you, it says. Scroll up more and see
a picture of my own wife's breast staring me in
the face. She sent him her tits for his birthday.
Once more, she blocks the guy. I think things are fine,
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but I am starting to lose my feelings for my wife.
One time, around Christmas, my oldest daughter tells me excitedly
that she had a phone call with Sebastian the Crab,
like the buddy of Ariel the Little Mermaid from the
Disney movie. I shrug it off. I mean four year
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olds may crap up all the time, right, And she
has a very rich imagination. She constantly insists she's a
real fairy or princess and claims to have magic powers
and whatever. I find out just yesterday that my wife
never stopped talking to the guy until this past February
when he suddenly ghosted her out of nowhere, which makes
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sense because she was very sad and depressed at the time.
She then deleted all her apps and accounts in anger
and now has no way of contacting the guy or
being contacted by him. Not sure if I even believe
that anymore, but sure she was sharing all she did
to me like she wanted it off her chest. I
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just let her talk and talk, and she admits to
it all. Says she really fell in love with him,
mentions how she read a lot on Cora about polyamory.
Cora is her ducking Bible, and that she feels like
she can love multiple people at once, that her love
for me has not diminished by loving another guy I
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call crap. Then she admits she even had voice calls
with the guys at night when I am away I
often work night shift. At times, our oldest daughter would
wake up and he'd talk to her too. He sang
her to sleep a few times, and he pretended to
be Sebastian the Crab, which is what my daughter tried
to tell me. She tried to tell on her mama,
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I think, but I shrugged it off. I am so
insanely angry she would allow herself, as a grown woman,
to fall for some boy on the other side of
the globe. I am feeling betrayed by the fact that
she showed her body to him. What makes me the
most mad, however, is that he talked to my ducking daughter.
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He even saw her picture and a video. He called
her little Dua like the singer Dua Lipa because he
thinks she looks like a toddler version of that singer.
The whole thing is so creepy. The fact that he
was just seventeen when my wife and him met online
is creepy to me. The fact that she allowed him
to talk to our firstborn daughter, It's all messed up.
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I fear she may have wanted to run off with
the guy. She's talked a lot about the place he lives, California,
and I am just weirded out by that. Two I
don't I know what to do. I am heartbroken. My
wife and I have a daughter for another daughter too,
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and she is currently pregnant as well. She blamed some
of her behavior on pregnancy hormones, which is nonsense. She
also tried to subtly push polyamory on me as well.
I am so done with her, but I also love
our daughters and do not want them to grow up
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in a broken home. She's gone back to normal in
some sense. She does her hobbies, she cares for the kids,
and runs the household as before. She is sweet to
me at times. We make love often, but most of
the time. As much as it pains me to say,
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I feel nothing, I am twenty seven years old. I
felt last year that I had it all. I felt
on top of the world. Now I feel like I
already lost it too long. Didn't read My wife has
had an intense online affair for months, and the guy
even talk to my daughter and gave her nicknames and
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did impressions for her. And now I am weirded out.
Oh p, your wife lied to your face on four
separate occasions about ceasing contact with this guy, shared explicit photos,
and allowed him to speak to your daughter. Only after
he ghosted did she delete everything and express she still
loves you. Obviously, any semblance of trust between the two
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of you is gone. What happens if she gets bored
and starts chatting with a different guy. The fact that
it appears she feels she has done nothing wrong or
only slightly wrong, because she still loves you lots and
lots is alarming. Do you think you will trust her again?
If not protect you and your daughter and start anew.
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Do you think you will trust her again? If not
protect you and your daughter and start anew. I don't
believe I will ever be able to fully trust her again.
She's hurt me too much with what she did. The
awful thing is that I still love her in so
many ways. I still love her mind, I still love
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her sense of humor, her passion, and her drive. I
think she's an amazing mother, or well, I used to
think so. Right now I am not sure. I just
don't know. But I don't think I can trust her anymore.
And if I had the means and it was as
easy as snapping my fingers, I'd have her leave by tomorrow.
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Thing is, I can't. My parents have busy careers, My
siblings are busy too. No one could help me out
in raising the kids. If my wife was out of
the picture, I want her out. But then, what you
are obviously in an extremely difficult situation, and there is
no easy solution. Getting divorced doesn't mean they won't have
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a mom. You would still be parenting together. She would
still have the responsibility of providing care for her children.
If she refused, you could create a compelling case through
a court order. I would have to imagine your parents,
the grandparents of soon to be three beautiful girls, would
be willing to offer as much help as they could,
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even if it's watching them for a few hours on
the weekends. I don't know your family, but if they'd
turn their back on you when you need them the most,
that would be super shitty. I'd recommend going to a
lawyer for a consultation. Most consultations tend to be free
or a low amount of money, as they want to
earn your business. You may also have divorce support groups
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in your area that you could utilize as a resource.
I grew up with an incredibly dysfunctional home environment. When
my parents finally divorced after fifteen years together, it was
the best that could have happened for my siblings and I.
Good luck to you, and just remember that you deserve
a much better life partner than you currently have. She
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does not spark Joy, throw the whole woman away. This
gives me the idea to start a parody account commenting
this exact thing in really inappropriate situations. This sparks Joy.
She's an idiot. If she thinks that little eighteen year
old is going to be a good companion, he will
get bored of her quickly, lawyer up and get her
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out of your house. You cannot in any way trust
her now. You've given her multiple opportunities and she has
lied and continued her behavior. She has even allowed this
guy to interact with your child. Your wife may have
issues that make her feel low, but she can get
therapy to repeatedly do this. She has shown how little
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she regards you. You need to get legal advice and
she needs to leave. You've done nothing wrong and you
shouldn't have to leave the family home. This is crap o,
p but you deserve way better treatment than you've been given. Update. I,
twenty seven male, have been cheated on by my wife
twenty five female, who then tried to push for an
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open relationship. Now I have confronted her and taken the
kid's passports because I have a major fear from what
she's told me that she may try and kidnap them
to her country of birth. So here's an update. I
have read all the responses to my previous topic, but
did not find time to respond and reply to each
and every one of them individually. The common thought seems
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to be that I need to man up and take
responsibility of my life, and many have advised me to
kick out my wife or seek legal counsel and start
gathering evidence. Financially, speaking as a young father of soon
to be three kids, I cannot just call up a
lawyer like that. We are not Americans, and we are
not in America either, so I do not know which
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laws do and do not apply to our situation. The
guy she had her emotional affair with, however, is in
the States, but they lost contact, and my wife claims
she does not know his last name or exact location,
only his first name. Some have suggested she was the
one being catfished, but she says no, because she actually
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had video calls with the guy and he looked like
the images he had previously sent her. My wife admitted
a lot of things to me in our talk. For example,
she's a singer songwriter, or rather she tries to be one.
She has written a lot of songs, passionate, romantic and sweet,
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loving songs over the last half year. I was touched
by them before thought they were about me. Turns out
they weren't. Turns out they were about that guy. This
devastated me. The whole affair, my wife said, inspired her.
She told me about how hard working the guy is,
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how he is going to a top university, how clever
and bright he is, blah blah blah. She said. She
considers me lazy, not ambitious enough. That I am good
with the kids and all that, a decent provider, but
that I am not really someone she sees as being
capable of greatness. She likes the fact that I look
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good and our kids look good, and that I have
a lot of focus on their well being, but she
needs a life partner, not just a babysitter. This infuriated
me because when I take care of my ducking kids,
I am not just a babysitter. I am their father
and I am caring for them because I love them
and I am responsible for them. She admitted she often
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thinks of going back to her own country and living
with her parents. My in laws are quite well to do,
and my mother in law has a lot of time
on her hands to help out. My wife is not
originally from the same country as me. My wife said
she'd take the kids follow her dreams in the city
she studied in, which she thinks will give her a
better chance at success. She also regrets having married me
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in the first place. She says that she wouldn't have
married me if she knew at the time how lazy
I was. For the record, I am not lazy. I
work night shift three nights a week, also work during
days several other days. On the evenings, I am home.
I managed to cook at least twice a week. I
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do groceries, pick the kids up from school, make them
sleep too regularly. I handle the kids on evenings. I
am free to allow my wife to go to classes
to develop herself. She is pregnant, and I massage her
at times for up to ninety minutes so her back
and legs won't be too painful. I am a ducking
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hero to that woman, and she does not realize it. Instead,
she compares me to say some other guy she's never
even met in person, and somehow I don't quite measure
up because I didn't go to a top school. I
am not rich, I am less ambitious, and this makes
me lazy and useless. So now I am looking at
my options. I am twenty seven years old, I am
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in decent shape, and I am not a bad looking guy.
I am a good father, I am a good provider.
I am a good son and a loyal friend. I've
been a good husband two But apparently I am not
good enough. Well guess what neither is she She's far
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from sufficient, She's far from good enough. But I never
say even one percent of the hateful and negative crap
she tells me. Never. I've told her all this, I
have told her how I feel. I told her that
I do not feel respected, that I feel like crap,
treated like crap, tossed aside like crap, that I will
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not continue to support her and her dreams if this
is what she wants to do. I also told her
that she is not going to take the kids anywhere,
that if she wants to leave, she can leave, but
she will do it by herself. She is not a
citizen yet of my country, and I reminded her of
the fact, whereas our kids are, I have taken hold
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of our kids passports and now hold them with me.
As I write this, I am not letting go of them.
If she wants to leave, she can, but it will
just be her and the unborn baby leaving, and she
won't bring any of mine stuff with her. That laptop
she has been using to chat to the guy, it's
now with me too. I bought her that ducking laptop.
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I am taking it back. I am taking back control
of my life. I am still considering what further steps
I will take, but whatever she has planned, I am
not about to lay down and take it. Since telling
me all this and her hearing my response, all of
us as a family have attended a family event. My
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wife pretended to be fine. She has stopped saying negative
things to me. She's not on her phone anymore. I
distrust her. But even though I have told her where
the door is, she has not left the house either.
I think she is backing down a bit. By now
too long didn't read My wife had an online affair,
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and I confronted her many times. She would not stop. Finally,
after having posted here and having reached my limit, I
confronted her again and she said more hateful things to
me and hinted she may take our two kids and
go back to her home country. I took the kid's
passports to prevent her from essentially kidnapping them against my consent.
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Can your kids have dual citizenship? Just be careful she
doesn't start applying for passports in her national in the
absence of a lawyer. Try Google or Reddit. Your situation
sounds horrible. I couldn't live with her after what she said.
The dual citizenship thing is tricky. It depends on the country,
because in mine, women cannot pass on their citizenship to
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the children. I'm an American living in the Netherlands. When
I have children, they do not automatically have American citizenship.
I have to apply on their behalf for a Social
Security number as well as a passport. I'm not sure
if the other parent needs to give approval for the application,
but I do know that it is illegal for the
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wife to take the children to the United States of
America and establish residency there with them without the father's consent.
Otherwise that is considered kidnapping. Lucky for O P if
she ever tried this, he would know exactly where to
find her, since it seems she depends heavily on her
own father and mother for assistance for the children. Hopefully
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for op his wife decided to give birth in whichever
country they are currently in, then the mother is also
not entitled to take that child. Otherwise it might get
tricky if the baby is born on US soil and
the father isn't signing off on the birth certificate. Many
countries around the world do not recognize United States custody rulings.
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If she's from one of them, then all she has
to do is take the kids back home for one
vacation and never come back. The only way to enforce
custody in these cases is if the children remain on
United States soil. Second story, my dad had an affair
with his best friend's wife. So my dad had an
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affair with his best friend's wife, let's call her Jane.
She claimed she was pretty much in love with my father,
and of course her husband didn't know. I found out
because once I got a Facebook Messenger message from a
fake account telling me that my father was banging his
best friend's wife life. I actually didn't care. My parents
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are divorced since two thousand and five. The problem was
that someone unknown was sending my mother text messages telling
her to leave my father alone, and many offensive things.
We let it slide for a while, but then those
anonymous text messages became a daily thing. We confronted my
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dad and he confessed that he was sleeping with Jane,
but he said she was not the one sending the messages.
He said he was sure because Jane's husband was also
getting those messages. My dad was practically blinded by her manipulations,
and my mom and I had a really strong hunch
that it was her. My dad got so mad after
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we suggested it that he stopped speaking to me and
my mom for a while. I also got mad, but
much more offended because he would not believe me. I mean,
I had no reason to lie to him. Still, I
let all that slide, but then I got another anonymous
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message offending me, telling me I was just like my
mother and that's why my boyfriend had dumped me, and
that we would be alone for the rest of our
lives and things like that. Then I got really mad.
I went to the cyber police is a thing where
I am from, and they tracked the source of the
anonymous messages. It turns out that it was her and
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she was also sending her husband messages because she was
so desperate for the truth to come out so she
could be with my father. Although I think that just
confronting her husband would have been better, what she really
wanted was to distance my father from me and my mom.
She was messing with my family, so I decided to
mess with hers and sent the proof to her husband
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and her sons that she was behind the anonymous messages
and that she was in fact sleeping with my dad.
I also owed my dad the proof and exposed her
on Facebook. She was a saleswoman, so it did affect her.
Her sons and her husband were so mad at her.
She had to move out of her house and my
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dad broke up with her as well. She was left alone,
but I feel like that's what she deserved karma. She
can be a very mean lady, careful, she bites. Thanks
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I male, twenty seven, found out my wife twenty five female,
has been cheating on me online with a young guy
eighteen male, and I also just heard he's had conversations
with our kids as well on voice call, doing impersonations
of Sebastian the Crab from The Little Mermaid and gave
my daughter a nickname. She first started talking to this
guy last year when he was seventeen and my wife
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twenty four. She became withdrawn, would let a lot of
things slide, lose interest in her hobbies, the household, the kids,
her friends, me. She admitted to me in tears that
she had started chatting a guy from uncle one night,
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when bored they had exchanged contact details, she made a
snapchat just for him, and so did he. They began
chatting there regularly. This guy is handsome, he's young, he's
an athlete, and he's fit as can be. He's fine,
he's awesome. He mesmerizes her, makes her laugh all the time.
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She finds herself fallen for him, and she admits her
mistake to me. I am so sad and upset, but
I forgive her. She promises to block him remove her app.
Things are cool for a while, but months later, I
find out she still has Snapchat. She says it's for
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her other friends. I push the issue. Turns out she
still talks to the guy. I am not okay with this.
She says they are just friends. I tell her to
block his butt. She says she does. Around December last year,
I discovered she never did block him, still talks to him.
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I am so ducking mad. I break into her phone
one day, see her Snapchat open and a message from him.
I love you, it says. Scroll up more and see
a picture of my own wife's breast staring me in
the face. She sent him her tits for his birthday.
Once more, she blocks the guy. I think things are fine,
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but I am starting to lose my feelings for my wife.
One time, around Christmas, my oldest daughter tells me excitedly
that she had a phone call with Sebastian the Crab,
like the buddy of Ariel the Little Mermaid from the
Disney movie. I shrug it off. I mean four year
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olds may crap up all the time, right, And she
has a very rich imagination. She constantly insists she's a
real fairy or princess and claims to have magic powers
and whatever. I find out just yesterday that my wife
never stopped talking to the guy until this past February
when he suddenly ghosted her out of nowhere, which makes
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sense because she was very sad and depressed at the time.
She then deleted all her apps and accounts in anger
and now has no way of contacting the guy or
being contacted by him. Not sure if I even believe
that anymore, but sure she was sharing all she did
to me like she wanted it off her chest. I
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just let her talk and talk, and she admits to
it all. Says she really fell in love with him,
mentions how she read a lot on Cora about polyamory.
Cora is her ducking Bible, and that she feels like
she can love multiple people at once, that her love
for me has not diminished by loving another guy I
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call crap. Then she admits she even had voice calls
with the guys at night when I am away I
often work night shift. At times, our oldest daughter would
wake up and he'd talk to her too. He sang
her to sleep a few times, and he pretended to
be Sebastian the Crab, which is what my daughter tried
to tell me. She tried to tell on her mama,
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I think, but I shrugged it off. I am so
insanely angry she would allow herself, as a grown woman,
to fall for some boy on the other side of
the globe. I am feeling betrayed by the fact that
she showed her body to him. What makes me the
most mad, however, is that he talked to my ducking daughter.
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He even saw her picture and a video. He called
her little Dua like the singer Dua Lipa because he
thinks she looks like a toddler version of that singer.
The whole thing is so creepy. The fact that he
was just seventeen when my wife and him met online
is creepy to me. The fact that she allowed him
to talk to our firstborn daughter, It's all messed up.
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I fear she may have wanted to run off with
the guy. She's talked a lot about the place he lives, California,
and I am just weirded out by that. Two I
don't I know what to do. I am heartbroken. My
wife and I have a daughter for another daughter too,
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and she is currently pregnant as well. She blamed some
of her behavior on pregnancy hormones, which is nonsense. She
also tried to subtly push polyamory on me as well.
I am so done with her, but I also love
our daughters and do not want them to grow up
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in a broken home. She's gone back to normal in
some sense. She does her hobbies, she cares for the kids,
and runs the household as before. She is sweet to
me at times. We make love often, but most of
the time. As much as it pains me to say,
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I feel nothing, I am twenty seven years old. I
felt last year that I had it all. I felt
on top of the world. Now I feel like I
already lost it too long. Didn't read My wife has
had an intense online affair for months, and the guy
even talk to my daughter and gave her nicknames and
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did impressions for her. And now I am weirded out.
Oh p, your wife lied to your face on four
separate occasions about ceasing contact with this guy, shared explicit photos,
and allowed him to speak to your daughter. Only after
he ghosted did she delete everything and express she still
loves you. Obviously, any semblance of trust between the two
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of you is gone. What happens if she gets bored
and starts chatting with a different guy. The fact that
it appears she feels she has done nothing wrong or
only slightly wrong, because she still loves you lots and
lots is alarming. Do you think you will trust her again?
If not protect you and your daughter and start anew.
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Do you think you will trust her again? If not
protect you and your daughter and start anew. I don't
believe I will ever be able to fully trust her again.
She's hurt me too much with what she did. The
awful thing is that I still love her in so
many ways. I still love her mind, I still love
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her sense of humor, her passion, and her drive. I
think she's an amazing mother, or well, I used to
think so. Right now I am not sure. I just
don't know. But I don't think I can trust her anymore.
And if I had the means and it was as
easy as snapping my fingers, I'd have her leave by tomorrow.
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Thing is, I can't. My parents have busy careers, My
siblings are busy too. No one could help me out
in raising the kids. If my wife was out of
the picture, I want her out. But then, what you
are obviously in an extremely difficult situation, and there is
no easy solution. Getting divorced doesn't mean they won't have
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a mom. You would still be parenting together. She would
still have the responsibility of providing care for her children.
If she refused, you could create a compelling case through
a court order. I would have to imagine your parents,
the grandparents of soon to be three beautiful girls, would
be willing to offer as much help as they could,
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even if it's watching them for a few hours on
the weekends. I don't know your family, but if they'd
turn their back on you when you need them the most,
that would be super shitty. I'd recommend going to a
lawyer for a consultation. Most consultations tend to be free
or a low amount of money, as they want to
earn your business. You may also have divorce support groups
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in your area that you could utilize as a resource.
I grew up with an incredibly dysfunctional home environment. When
my parents finally divorced after fifteen years together, it was
the best that could have happened for my siblings and I.
Good luck to you, and just remember that you deserve
a much better life partner than you currently have. She
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does not spark Joy, throw the whole woman away. This
gives me the idea to start a parody account commenting
this exact thing in really inappropriate situations. This sparks Joy.
She's an idiot. If she thinks that little eighteen year
old is going to be a good companion, he will
get bored of her quickly, lawyer up and get her
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out of your house. You cannot in any way trust
her now. You've given her multiple opportunities and she has
lied and continued her behavior. She has even allowed this
guy to interact with your child. Your wife may have
issues that make her feel low, but she can get
therapy to repeatedly do this. She has shown how little
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she regards you. You need to get legal advice and
she needs to leave. You've done nothing wrong and you
shouldn't have to leave the family home. This is crap o,
p but you deserve way better treatment than you've been given. Update. I,
twenty seven male, have been cheated on by my wife
twenty five female, who then tried to push for an
(10:13):
open relationship. Now I have confronted her and taken the
kid's passports because I have a major fear from what
she's told me that she may try and kidnap them
to her country of birth. So here's an update. I
have read all the responses to my previous topic, but
did not find time to respond and reply to each
and every one of them individually. The common thought seems
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to be that I need to man up and take
responsibility of my life, and many have advised me to
kick out my wife or seek legal counsel and start
gathering evidence. Financially, speaking as a young father of soon
to be three kids, I cannot just call up a
lawyer like that. We are not Americans, and we are
not in America either, so I do not know which
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laws do and do not apply to our situation. The
guy she had her emotional affair with, however, is in
the States, but they lost contact, and my wife claims
she does not know his last name or exact location,
only his first name. Some have suggested she was the
one being catfished, but she says no, because she actually
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had video calls with the guy and he looked like
the images he had previously sent her. My wife admitted
a lot of things to me in our talk. For example,
she's a singer songwriter, or rather she tries to be one.
She has written a lot of songs, passionate, romantic and sweet,
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loving songs over the last half year. I was touched
by them before thought they were about me. Turns out
they weren't. Turns out they were about that guy. This
devastated me. The whole affair, my wife said, inspired her.
She told me about how hard working the guy is,
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how he is going to a top university, how clever
and bright he is, blah blah blah. She said. She
considers me lazy, not ambitious enough. That I am good
with the kids and all that, a decent provider, but
that I am not really someone she sees as being
capable of greatness. She likes the fact that I look
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good and our kids look good, and that I have
a lot of focus on their well being, but she
needs a life partner, not just a babysitter. This infuriated
me because when I take care of my ducking kids,
I am not just a babysitter. I am their father
and I am caring for them because I love them
and I am responsible for them. She admitted she often
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thinks of going back to her own country and living
with her parents. My in laws are quite well to do,
and my mother in law has a lot of time
on her hands to help out. My wife is not
originally from the same country as me. My wife said
she'd take the kids follow her dreams in the city
she studied in, which she thinks will give her a
better chance at success. She also regrets having married me
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in the first place. She says that she wouldn't have
married me if she knew at the time how lazy
I was. For the record, I am not lazy. I
work night shift three nights a week, also work during
days several other days. On the evenings, I am home.
I managed to cook at least twice a week. I
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do groceries, pick the kids up from school, make them
sleep too regularly. I handle the kids on evenings. I
am free to allow my wife to go to classes
to develop herself. She is pregnant, and I massage her
at times for up to ninety minutes so her back
and legs won't be too painful. I am a ducking
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hero to that woman, and she does not realize it. Instead,
she compares me to say some other guy she's never
even met in person, and somehow I don't quite measure
up because I didn't go to a top school. I
am not rich, I am less ambitious, and this makes
me lazy and useless. So now I am looking at
my options. I am twenty seven years old, I am
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in decent shape, and I am not a bad looking guy.
I am a good father, I am a good provider.
I am a good son and a loyal friend. I've
been a good husband two But apparently I am not
good enough. Well guess what neither is she She's far
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from sufficient, She's far from good enough. But I never
say even one percent of the hateful and negative crap
she tells me. Never. I've told her all this, I
have told her how I feel. I told her that
I do not feel respected, that I feel like crap,
treated like crap, tossed aside like crap, that I will
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not continue to support her and her dreams if this
is what she wants to do. I also told her
that she is not going to take the kids anywhere,
that if she wants to leave, she can leave, but
she will do it by herself. She is not a
citizen yet of my country, and I reminded her of
the fact, whereas our kids are, I have taken hold
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of our kids passports and now hold them with me.
As I write this, I am not letting go of them.
If she wants to leave, she can, but it will
just be her and the unborn baby leaving, and she
won't bring any of mine stuff with her. That laptop
she has been using to chat to the guy, it's
now with me too. I bought her that ducking laptop.
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I am taking it back. I am taking back control
of my life. I am still considering what further steps
I will take, but whatever she has planned, I am
not about to lay down and take it. Since telling
me all this and her hearing my response, all of
us as a family have attended a family event. My
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wife pretended to be fine. She has stopped saying negative
things to me. She's not on her phone anymore. I
distrust her. But even though I have told her where
the door is, she has not left the house either.
I think she is backing down a bit. By now
too long didn't read My wife had an online affair,
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and I confronted her many times. She would not stop. Finally,
after having posted here and having reached my limit, I
confronted her again and she said more hateful things to
me and hinted she may take our two kids and
go back to her home country. I took the kid's
passports to prevent her from essentially kidnapping them against my consent.
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Can your kids have dual citizenship? Just be careful she
doesn't start applying for passports in her national in the
absence of a lawyer. Try Google or Reddit. Your situation
sounds horrible. I couldn't live with her after what she said.
The dual citizenship thing is tricky. It depends on the country,
because in mine, women cannot pass on their citizenship to
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the children. I'm an American living in the Netherlands. When
I have children, they do not automatically have American citizenship.
I have to apply on their behalf for a Social
Security number as well as a passport. I'm not sure
if the other parent needs to give approval for the application,
but I do know that it is illegal for the
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wife to take the children to the United States of
America and establish residency there with them without the father's consent.
Otherwise that is considered kidnapping. Lucky for O P if
she ever tried this, he would know exactly where to
find her, since it seems she depends heavily on her
own father and mother for assistance for the children. Hopefully
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for op his wife decided to give birth in whichever
country they are currently in, then the mother is also
not entitled to take that child. Otherwise it might get
tricky if the baby is born on US soil and
the father isn't signing off on the birth certificate. Many
countries around the world do not recognize United States custody rulings.
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If she's from one of them, then all she has
to do is take the kids back home for one
vacation and never come back. The only way to enforce
custody in these cases is if the children remain on
United States soil. Second story, my dad had an affair
with his best friend's wife. So my dad had an
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affair with his best friend's wife, let's call her Jane.
She claimed she was pretty much in love with my father,
and of course her husband didn't know. I found out
because once I got a Facebook Messenger message from a
fake account telling me that my father was banging his
best friend's wife life. I actually didn't care. My parents
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are divorced since two thousand and five. The problem was
that someone unknown was sending my mother text messages telling
her to leave my father alone, and many offensive things.
We let it slide for a while, but then those
anonymous text messages became a daily thing. We confronted my
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dad and he confessed that he was sleeping with Jane,
but he said she was not the one sending the messages.
He said he was sure because Jane's husband was also
getting those messages. My dad was practically blinded by her manipulations,
and my mom and I had a really strong hunch
that it was her. My dad got so mad after
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we suggested it that he stopped speaking to me and
my mom for a while. I also got mad, but
much more offended because he would not believe me. I mean,
I had no reason to lie to him. Still, I
let all that slide, but then I got another anonymous
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message offending me, telling me I was just like my
mother and that's why my boyfriend had dumped me, and
that we would be alone for the rest of our
lives and things like that. Then I got really mad.
I went to the cyber police is a thing where
I am from, and they tracked the source of the
anonymous messages. It turns out that it was her and
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she was also sending her husband messages because she was
so desperate for the truth to come out so she
could be with my father. Although I think that just
confronting her husband would have been better, what she really
wanted was to distance my father from me and my mom.
She was messing with my family, so I decided to
mess with hers and sent the proof to her husband
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and her sons that she was behind the anonymous messages
and that she was in fact sleeping with my dad.
I also owed my dad the proof and exposed her
on Facebook. She was a saleswoman, so it did affect her.
Her sons and her husband were so mad at her.
She had to move out of her house and my
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dad broke up with her as well. She was left alone,
but I feel like that's what she deserved karma. She
can be a very mean lady, careful, she bites. Thanks
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