I Was Held Hostage And Beaten By My Cheating Girlfriend. Here Is My Story

I Was Held Hostage And Beaten By My Cheating Girlfriend. Here Is My Story

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Speaker 1 (00:00):
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Speaker 2 (00:46):
Girlfriend of nine months has been cheating? Help me outredd
it Hey read it today. I discovered my girlfriend of
nine months has been cheating on me for my convenience.
The post below is written as a message I will
be I'm sending one of my gf's friends that I
actually trust as we're close. She hates when people cheat
and has a good moral compass on her. It's slightly

(01:08):
edited to censor private info for Reddit and will be
fixed before I send it off to her. It's late
now after typing this and thinking, and I feel trapped
and lost on what to do, so any help is appreciated.
My plan right now is to post this to see
what everyone thinks, and I'll likely send the message off tomorrow,
as I don't want the GF to potentially intercept it

(01:29):
before I wake up. Some context details before we begin.
We've dated for about nine months now. She lives with
me at my mom's house and I work from home.
Here we go. I know you're probably asleep right now,
but I need help and I need you to keep
a secret. GF was sleeping when I saw you texted
about bedtime being rips. Around twelve, I went on her

(01:51):
phone to text you back a picture of her sleeping
to be funny, and I found esset of her cheating
on me. I don't know what to do. She's already
lied to me so much. I just can't stand by this.
She ducking lied to me about the guy she went
out with tonight while I was working childhood friend that
was a ducking date. She doesn't mention anything to me

(02:12):
all day, calls you and asks us if she can
go out with a childhood friend aka random ass guy
she's never mentioned before that I've never met, which immediately
sent off red flags as she's never done that before.
When I told her that I didn't want to be
one of those no guy friend's manipulative boyfriends, but I
don't know the guy, so I was a little tripped out.
She reassured me that she didn't mind me being jealous

(02:34):
and thought it was protective and cute. I was still anxious, however,
because of past events I will elaborate on soon, so
I asked if I could kiss her at the front
door instead of her leaving through the basement door. She
then blew up and told me I was being just
like her abusive X because he was manipulative and wouldn't
let her see her friends. Little did I know until

(02:54):
checking her phone to answer you, she texted this ducker.
She was at her parents' house and they didn't want
her leaving, so she had to rush out, calling him
handsome and baby an Esseid. I'm so ducking hurt about this.
I literally had a mental breakdown and cut myself earlier
because I felt I didn't deserve her and I was
a piece of asid for not trusting her when she
was gone, I even showed her my cuts when she

(03:17):
got back, because I knew I couldn't hide them from her.
It broke my ducking heart to see she sent this
guy high handsome. I had an amazing time an hour
after that after promising to never lie to me again.
Then I looked at more guys on Snap. There were
so many guys she was saying, s TI moole asset too,
and sending nudes to that were taken in my ducking

(03:38):
room bathroom. That's when I realized I need help, as
she clearly doesn't ducking care about me. I'm not getting
used and manipulated anymore, and I'm sure is es it
not gonna let her hurt me or drive me to
harm myself again. I caught her messaging guys like this before.
One time when she suspiciously left her phone at home,
never told me what girl friend she was going with,

(04:00):
and wouldn't let me kiss her at the front door.
I peek out the window and saw her with her
mail cousin. When she was gone, I searched her left
behind phone to see why she lied, and discovered that
the man she told me and you was her cousin
was her ex. I saw this guy many times, and
she took advantage of it, so I would feel comfortable
driving her to his house and letting her sleep there.

(04:22):
She dated this guy for years and broke up with
him when he went to basic training, to which he
came back from about a month into our relationship. I
also discovered many other guys she sent as timole as
at too, and a text for a tender verification code
when she returned with a large bruise on her chest
from him punching her too big to be a hickey,
which tells me he was actually abusive. I waited a

(04:45):
few days to figure things out to confront her. When
I did, I had gone in with the intention to
break up, but she shocked me by saying she was
as time trafficked by her abusive family to her ex,
and he made her go on Tinder while they were together.
We didn't break up because of the s time trafficking thing,
even though the tender part never made sense and felt

(05:06):
like an excuse. I obviously couldn't blame her or try
to disprove that either, cause I felt that would be
an incredibly ducked up thing to accuse someone of lying
about This was in late February early March, and it
especially hurt because when I first asked her out, we
both told each other we never had a boyfriend girlfriend before.
On top of that, she was the first girl I've

(05:27):
had s time with and she told me the same.
Yet the s that I've heard and seen about her
ex's nudes and her phone does not line up with that. Today, however,
was I opening going on a ducking date with someone
after everything I did for her? Let's look into that briefly.
Let her live with me after the third night of
knowing her, after she opened up about her abusive family.

(05:49):
She hasn't held a job and I've paid for most
things while barely getting by and constantly getting bills bailed
out by family. She crashed my car in a BPD rage.
In her worst BP episode, she punched me in the face,
which broke my lip, and bit me on the arm
hard enough to break skin, which lead me to saying
she was just like her abusive ex, which lead to

(06:09):
her trying to call the cops on herself, which lead
to me making sure she didn't get arrested. When the
cops actually came stayed after she lied to me about
her age. When we met, I had just turned twenty
at the start of the summer, and she told me
she was eighteen going on nineteen. She kept this front
up with a lot of people, but I found out
on her birthday when I saw her. ID said she

(06:30):
was turning eighteen that day. When confronted, she said her
abusive family lied about her age to her and she
didn't know she was really eighteen. That, however, is complete bllls.
It is. I've heard three of her friends of the
same age say she's eighteen, her grandma say she's eighteen,
and her girl cousin who would also only know her
real age. I'm done with her now. I can't suffer

(06:52):
like this anymore. I don't want to ruin her friend
life because I still care about her and ultimately want
her to be happy as she struggles with a lot.
But I don't know what to do. She'll swear up
and down she loves me, but I don't know how
she can sit there and lie to my face day
in and day out. I can't handle this alone, and
I can't stay with a lying cheater. I'm about to

(07:13):
be twenty one years old in two days, and I
was just starting to feel like I could live a
life where I don't KLLL myself before the age of thirty.
And it's gotten to the point where her actions actively
harm my mental health. It's almost three thirty am and
I'm still shaking thinking about it, and she's still sound asleep.
Please help somehow, preferably in a way she doesn't know about,

(07:34):
so it doesn't impact your friendship too much. It might
be hard to see her the same, but you're truly
one of the only good people and good influences in
her life, and she's going to need you. So that's everything. Reddit.
I'm going to sleep on it, but please give me
some thoughts on the matter. Redditor's reactions update after Redditor
one pack her asset, wake her up and kick her out.

(07:55):
Wtf bother with her friend? She's for the streets, Brodditor two,
it's a nine month relationship. Why bother sending her friend
an essay? She's not your Spanish pen pal. What help
do you expect from her? Do you want her to
go around slapping the random dcks out of your girlfriend's
mouth In the time you took typing war and piece

(08:15):
you could have quietly packed all your girlfriends s it
up so she can be out of there quicker in
the morning. Reddit or three. She's not yours, she never
will be yours and never has been yours. I don't
see the problem. Let her get what she wants from
you and from anyone else. Keep evidence of her cheating
on you, but at the same time, get what you
want from her, and move on when you're ready to

(08:37):
un done with her. When she questions you, then show
her evidence of why you just thought that's what you
were doing anyway, and you too, were never really exclusive
or together. By showing her the evidence of cheating, if
you take away the idea of being exclusive and together,
she can't hurt you, and you can allow her to
do anything she wants while still maintaining whatever you want
from her. If what you want from her is to

(08:59):
be exclusive and eventually get married, that ship has sailed.
Update finally escaped abusive girlfriend of nine months. Hey read
it if you remember three weeks ago I posted here
about my cheating girlfriend. For reference, I am nearly a
foot taller with a stronger grip, but much skinnier, and
she was bigger, had about thirty pounds on me and
wasn't afraid to hit me. Two days ago, I broke

(09:21):
up with her. Before I continue, I would just like
to personally thank each and every one of you who
left comments and support on my other posts. Reading all
of those comments in the hours leading up to the
breakup helped me summon the strength to do what needed
to be done for my safety, and for that I
will always be grateful to a bunch of strangers on
the internet. Here's the story. So I had the previous

(09:43):
post written in like a diary form to get my
thoughts out and notes, and I forgot to delete it.
At six am. She went on my phone to check Instacart,
saw my notes and woke me up by throwing my
phone at my head. Oh duck, here we go. When
I tried to confront her for cheating, she beat the
est out of me. I left home with the cut
on my neck, a fat lip, a ringing ear, and

(10:06):
almost getting knocked out from getting punched in the face
so hard I fell back, dizzy, almost to the ground.
Later that day, external events would have me and her
moving out of my mom's house to my dad's across town.
For the past three weeks, she would hold the notes
thing over my head and constantly use it against me
to beerate me, saying I was just like her abusive X,

(10:26):
I was manipulative and I never trust her. Ghee, I
ducking wonder why. About four days ago, we were on
a double date with my best friend and one of
her best friends who we set up together, when my
ex had a mental breakdown in public at the arcade
we were at. She was threatening to beat me, break
up with me, scream that I'm a ped defile, threatens

(10:47):
to call the police on herself for being an abuser,
and told me I'm a worthless piece of sid who's
never done anything for her. You want to know what
set her off? She saw an autistic kid when a
bunch of tickets on a claw game and she wasn't
winning anything, even though I kept saying stop playing claw games.
They are rigged. Eventually, in her struggles, our friends come

(11:08):
help me get her out of there, but not before
she had gotten nine hundred eleven dialed and hung up.
We get all of us into our friend's car, and
as we're driving back to my house to get her
aback to take her to the ducking hospital, we see
a cruiser fly by the other way. Yikes. We make
it back into town and when we're at my house
getting her stuff, I get a call from no caller

(11:28):
id Hi X's name. It's the police, So we meet
up with the cops at a gas station near the highway,
explain the situation, and get out of there. I later
find out from my friend driving that he tried to
wave the cop down so they'd pull him aside so
he could tell them I was trapped, but they never
spoke to him after we go to the hospital a

(11:49):
couple hours later. We leave around two am with some
coping booklets and when to expect a phone call for
a diagnosis appointment, So basically went home with nothing. This
this was last Friday. Saturday rolls around and she is
still very much the same. By the end of the day,
she has blown up and berated her two best friends

(12:09):
over absolutely nothing and wanted them to apologize for it. So,
since she is incapable of accepting accountability, she makes me
write her apologies. This essa goes into Sunday morning, when
she starts having another breakdown because her friends are still
reasonably mad that she insulted them over nothing. She ends
up locking herself in the bathroom and won't let me

(12:30):
come in until she goes, you're gonna hate me. I
come in and she has cut along her thigh with
her razor. This pulls her out of her breakdown and
I bandage her up and she's fine for a few hours,
which lets me start my shift on my computer I
work from home. She's fine for hours until her friend
responds to her apology, saying that she can contradict everything
that was said, but will still come to talk. When

(12:52):
her friend says I'm never talking to X again until
I get an apology, she exploded at me, what the
duck do I have to apologize for? I didn't do
anything wrong? Yes, TF you did? But okay. She once
again locks herself in the bathroom, but not before getting
aggressive and throwing st at me, like a folder, her wallet,
and even a duck and bowl. Her friend shows up

(13:14):
to talk, and I'm here juggling the breakdown, the argument
with her friend, and my ducking job that requires nearly
live updates. X's texts me that she's going to cut
herself again, so naturally, I try to get into the
bathroom to stop her, only she's pushing on the door
with both arms. I give it a bit of shoulder
and she slips on the floor and bangs her knee.

(13:36):
She then starts blaming me even more, saying I hurt her,
so I have to go talk to her friend for her.
I go outside and get her friend's side, and after
all that, basically her friend is just ready to expose
her to me. She just asks me a few probing
questions to see if I was brainwashed or just trapped.
She reveals through an old selfie that two months in
the relationship they had been at her abusive ex's house

(13:59):
and they were still day. This was just what I needed.
I finally had a woman on the inside to help
me get out. When I go back upstairs to work
and talk, Psycho starts freaking out again cause her friend
is naturally mad at her still, so she starts punching
and kicking my laptop, keeps ripping the HDMI cord out
of my second monitor, and even whips me in the

(14:20):
head with it. She also slaps and punches me on
the arms, chest, and face. I start begging her friend
over text to accept the apology, so she stops attacking
me and lets me work. Her friend says, do you
realize how ducked it is that you're asking me this?
And I respond, bro, I know, please just help me

(14:40):
do it for me. From there, I start deleting messages
so I can show Psycho the screen of her friend
accepting her apology. She invites her friend over to smoke,
to which she replies I will and in another text,
but only for your safety. So I tell her I'm
breaking up with her tonight, and she says, thank Christ.
The friend comes over and we're sitting in the shed

(15:00):
smoking and me and her are just sharing looks back
and forth like WTF we're going to do. Psycho asks
me to go upstairs to get her second phone so
she can text her grandparents to ask for money. So
I use that in the bathroom as an excuse to
pump myself up and text my best friend, who helped
with the hospital, that I need this text to hold
me accountable I'm breaking up with her. After getting hyped

(15:24):
in the mirror, I leave the bathroom and sit next
to my dad to tell him what I need to do,
and he's ready to help in whatever way. Our plan
is then to have her friend drive us to the
grandparents to get money, and I'll just break up with
her there and my dad will be one minute behind
us leaving, so he can just grab me right away.
He decides no stall for time, I can do more,

(15:44):
and manages to pack everything of hers but four bags.
We stall install, and while we are, my dad takes
her stuff to her grandparents, let them know the situation
that it was toxic and I need it out, and
then hit his car across the street to sit and
look out for us. The time finally comes, and when
we pull in the driveway, I just asked to speak
to her outside and we both get out, so I

(16:06):
tell her we're done. I'm breaking up with you. You've
hurt me far too much. The hysterics begin and she
says a whole lot of nothing, the typical why are
you doing this? I can change, blah blah blah, Just
shut up and get the duck out of my life.
The friend gets her grandparents to come outside and hold
her back so me and my dad can leave, and
we do immediately. The manipulation starts on my phone. Friend

(16:30):
is saying we're still together. My grandparents are saying we're
still together, just nonsense. I ignore and go on with
my night. I actually had my dad just drive me
to my friend's house so I could see the boys,
tell them the good news and clear my mind. Everyone,
and I mean everyone in my life was in ducking
bliss hearing the news. I finally dumped her, feeling better

(16:52):
by the minute. Here's where we are now. For the
past two days, she's been spamming NonStop off many numbers,
including some of her friends, who she keeps manipulating until
I completely just blocked everything once and for all last night.
This is the manipulation since we've broken up. Said she
got pills and a therapist the night we broke up,
even though she stopped texting me at one fifteen and

(17:13):
got picked up at five fourteen. Expects me to believe
that she got all that help and is a new
person mentally in four ducking hours. She also said she
made a police report in that time for the s
time trafficking with her family and her ex, and that
her family took her second phone. She forgot to turn
off her location on the second phone, and I could
see she had it with her at her friend's house.

(17:35):
Said that she had taken three pregnancy tests that all
came back positive, and she has a blood work appointment
today after calling yesterday. Those literally take weeks to get
in our health care system. I know, cause we had
to get an abortion before. DM my mom on Facebook
today telling her she's going to be a grandma. My
mom called me at work, saying she reached out and

(17:56):
it was the first time I spoke to my mom
since I left. I want to talk to her under
those circumstances, but had to let her know she's crazy.
Mom said she was literally on her period the first
week of May, so it's impossible that she could be
ovulating right now. And of course, despite my constant demanding
and her saying she would, I haven't seen a single

(18:16):
piece of proof of any of that. The proof that
she sent me was an old pill bottle her friend
confirmed was from high school, and a screenshot of an
email for a blood collection appointment that she could have
gotten for any number of reasons. My life feels so
much happier now, even as each minute passes. I'm no
longer being constantly controlled and manipulated into doing what someone

(18:38):
else wants. I'm just free to live, and it seems
I'm actually enjoying life now, which seemed impossible with the
level of depression I had before the relationship. I guess
the entire experience was for learning keep a close eye
on red flags. Conquered my self esteem issues. I can
be happy alone. Redditor's reactions Redditor one, congratulations, Redditor two, God,

(19:01):
what a monster of a woman. I pray for any
other men she manages to lure in. Good Lord. Also,
you seem to realize this, but she's totally not pregnant.
It's the last ditch effort to get you to stay.
Good ducking riddance. If she keeps contacting you, I would
look into a restraining order. She's obviously psychotic, so who

(19:22):
knows what she might try and do at this point.
Redditor three, my blood pressure went up just reading your
account of all that crazy. Do not engage with her
at all. If she claims she's pregnant, don't do a
damn thing until you've seen paternity test results directly from
the provider that look real to a lawyer. Realistically, she's
probably not pregnant. This is just a manipulation tactic because

(19:45):
some women think men won't leave them if they're pregnant.
The statistics are pretty high for women getting dumped while pregnant,
so the reality is backwards from her assumptions. Give yourself
a good few months of not dating at all. You're
probably going to have some PTSD. That's okay, You've been
through a lot, work through it so it doesn't stick
with you, and so you can be more confident with

(20:06):
breaking up with someone much quicker.

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