Wife is Broken I Made Her Go to Jail Because Paternity Test Proved I'm Not Father of My Child

Wife is Broken I Made Her Go to Jail Because Paternity Test Proved I'm Not Father of My Child


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Speaker 1 (00:01):
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Speaker 2 (00:16):
Story posted by postal Bob Max wife cheated life is
now like a reality TV show. Just thought I would
vent Okay, where to start? I, thirty five male, was
cheated on by my wife, thirty eight female. I don't
have a lot of people to talk to in my life.

(00:36):
Separation is nearly impossible. We simply cannot afford two households.
I have taken into account any financial assistance available at
the state and local level is mathematically impossible. And I
have six kids, count them six who are eight and under.
One of them wasn't a year old when she started
all of this. My wife has always been somewhat immature.

(00:58):
She basically has to hear what she has to hear.
She is vulnerable to people pleasing accept me who she
takes things out on. When something needs to change, she explodes.
I've realized I more or less kept her life from
being explosive. And otherwise unstable, like her two sisters, one
a twin, one older. I'm not just ragging on the family.

(01:19):
This is clearly familial. They are very alike. I used
to be pretty proud to be the one guy not
cheated on. And we've been together now almost ten years. Now.
I don't even know what to do. It's clear where
it started to snowball. She returned to work. We could
finally make that work. As she took mornings. This meant

(01:39):
we didn't need daycare. She would do four to eleven thirty,
and I would head in when she got home Starbucks,
of all the stores. I'll come back to this later.
Eventually she just started insulting me to everyone who would listen.
I'm not perfect. We would fight. My wife, however, would
take it to another level. She would scream she hated me.
She would say I don't. She would yell everything under

(02:01):
the sun over the same basic few fights. One stop
spending us into oblivion. I lost my house I had
when we first met, because I had to eventually sell
it to payoff massive debt. She is impulsive with money.
She threw a literal tantrum when I told her on
her second car that we were absolutely to leave the
lot and said I did the same to get one

(02:22):
k off my car. We ended up with her throwing
a fit or prior car sold at the far end
of red on KBB and the new one far read
on KBB and an eight hundred and fifty five dollars
monthly car payment on what I would consider to be
a decent car, top model Masta c X nine, but
not high scale. That is just one of many stupid
actions she took two stop yelling at me. When I

(02:46):
would ask her to treat me better, she would scream
how I was calling her a bad wife and was
a bad man. We are talking hysterical level fits. Because
I would say she needed to change, I would constantly
say listen to me. She would mock me, saying, oh, well,
well listen, it won't fix anything. I had to tell
her change to what what is your definition of fixed?

(03:06):
I had to point out I knew she would fight.
I was okay with it as long as we moved
on and solved things, but her expectation was more or
less becoming fixed was correlated with never having to hear
about anything she does that needs to change. Eventually, she
finally started saying I wish I had cheated on you,
and thank god, I'm not pregnant with another one of
your kids. Thank god. Indeed, she started her period early,

(03:30):
one of the only times she did. She's like clockwork,
and the thank god was because she was cheating at
this point and scouting out men. Nine men she texted, nine,
all quite young, early to mid twenties, no real life career,
just week The one she slept with, Ricardo even offered
to be a bottom for me if she would keep
seeing him. Because my wife realized he was super weak.

(03:53):
She called it off just before I found out, at
least on a physical basis, he got friend zoned. Ah.
It started with one from work. He dropped her, she
broke and wanted more. She then talked to and texted
random men on Snapchat, one of which she met twice
and slept with and gave a beja the first time.
During all this, because she was picking up hours, I

(04:15):
took over my kids nearly entirely. She would go out
three times a week. One day on a date she
picked a fight February eleventh. I still remember it. It
was when I finally told her I either get access
to her phone or I'm filing a divorce because the
way she picked that fight made it abundantly clear she
bailed on that date. Before she bailed, she called me

(04:36):
asking when I would be home. I moved my workout.
I had left a little late. I was actually apologetic.
I said, oh, against skip, I left late. I don't
want to be late. She said no, no go, and
then in guilted me, saying I don't want to have
to hear you complain about it later. I then said
I can make my own decisions. What are you doing?

(04:57):
She then said nothing took it as an accusation. It wasn't.
It was more of a wire you fighting with me statement,
and hung up on me, saying stop embarrassing me in
front of my friend. The friend she was hanging up
when I couldn't hear, so I called her back and said, really,
what is going on? What was that? She then said,
more or less, how dare you embarrass me in front
of my friend? I'm not doing our date? So I

(05:19):
make it to the gym, decide why not go? And
she then tries to guilt me again, saying sure I
should drive to our date drunk and die, at which
point I said we talked at four hundred and forty.
It is now five hundred and fifteen. You already were
drinking before you said this. You're just too bad at
lying to know what you just revealed. I'll ask again,
what is going on? She then disappeared for a full day.

(05:42):
She didn't come back until eleven at night. Now it's
possible she was with Tory, a girl from work, bad
mouthing me. I saw the snapchats, and they do confirm
a timeline. But these attacks just went full on for
a long time, and this was the date that made
me say no, give me the phone or we are done. Coincidentally,
I still didn't find out she had a lock apterty

(06:04):
of the pictures which looked like a calculator, and I
didn't notice, and the text had nothing. Snapchat was what
we used for our kids. I thought nothing of it.
The sixteenth I logged into snapchat. That's when I saw Beth,
who she had renamed, and what were clear physical conversations.
At first I thought this was a girl. I confronted her.

(06:25):
She let me believe she slept with a woman. I
told her that if this was what she wanted, because this,
Beth said, bring me next time see above where I
said this. Beth said they would even let me sleep
with her. Understand that while any guy would want that,
I have six kids, I will never harm them, and
to me, that's not what a relationship is. I was
dedicated and if that was her choice, my answer was no.

(06:48):
In hindsight, it made me look like a total fool
and also made her feel horrible about herself, knowing what
type of guy she has really how many men would
reject that scenario. She allowed me to believe this and
that cold from work who was also in snapchat were
the only people she told this guy Cole she loved him.
She showed him when I was angry about headphones a
minor fight right after She told me to get a

(07:10):
towel for her and never am asked to do this,
and she angrily sent a picture of her in it
to him while I was making up for saying don't
touch my headphones in the other room. I feel like
I was kicked like a dog. I watched those six
kids while she went out. That meant food cleaning changing,
and I take them weekends when she works mornings until
one thirty pm. That means breakfasts, lunch changing, bottles on nights.

(07:33):
Every night, after I get home, I let her wind
down and take the kids. This means a bath. I
took over cooking entirely. I take the kids entirely. Just
About all she does is laundry. Yet I was bashed
to everyone. The woman who watches my kids told her
to cheat. My wife asked what she should do. The
girl said, if you're truly happy with Chris, don't. But

(07:54):
if you just want a little fun on the side,
why not. No one backed me up. She had trashed
me enough that they all played into this. She lied
and fought and threw things across the house. As I
found out more, she attacked me. She physically put herself
on top of me, screaming like a lunatic. Anytime I
said I was leaving, and when I would put my

(08:15):
arms up to defend myself, she would say, don't touch me,
don't touch me. In order to get me to remove
my arms. To attack me, she threw a knife. She
threatened to end herself in front of my kids. Several times.
With said knife, she threw cat food at me, which
exploded on the wall. I've been hit on the head
by an Xbox one controller. She threw in a rage
that bounced on the wall and hit me in the

(08:37):
back of the head. She threw a slow cooker at
me on one occasion two. Most of the time it's
after she reveals she has been lying and I say
I'm mad. While I have said some bad things. Most
of the time, I restrained myself. That time, though, when
she threw the slow cooker, saying that I was acting
like I thought she was a horse, said, I don't
think you acted like a whore. I know you acted

(08:57):
like a witch. Yes, me, But she did. The snapchat guy,
she blew him the first day she met him. She
had men so many times. First it was Cole and
Beth Ricardo, and it was three including another random Snapchat guy,
then for a friend of her ex. Then I found
out some girls from work helped her to get a
number from a guy named four, then two online. She

(09:21):
was going to go see when she went down to Vancouver,
who is sick, and my wife bailed on going to
see her mom with cancer to stay one more night
with Ricardo after I found out by the way, she
claims this guy mistreated her, but she has a picture
she downloaded of his sister. The morning she left to
stay at a hotel with him the night she was
supposed to be with her mom, which I didn't find
out until the family blew up when they found out

(09:42):
that she had supposedly seen them. So they were abandoned,
and they were mad at my wife about it, seriously mad.
There are a few advantages to this. All the men
were ugly. My wife knows I'm the best she can
do now, and meanwhile I was bigger than all of
them too, which I have to admit felt pretty good.
And the second advantage she may be crazy, but I

(10:03):
did retaliate. Part of it was because I've been cheated
on before, and I know what happens if they think
you're weak or begging. So some advice for men cheated on,
do not beg them to stay. She called me before
she left that day, crying, saying I didn't understand what
it was like to lose someone I cared about so much.
Since Cole would no longer talk to her, I just
said nothing until finally I said, I don't understand what

(10:26):
it's like to lose someone. Are you listening to yourself?
She took a few more swings and I said, no,
stop right there. You think I'm on the phone right
now waiting for you to get home because I'm hurting
and can't live without you, and am struggling with how
much I want you to stay. Consider this, it is
exactly the opposite. I am not speaking because every fiber
of my being is screaming to leave. And she hung up.

(10:49):
She had been up to this point saying she would
leave me for coal. Truthfully, I wasn't sure what I
wanted to do then, but I wanted to buy time,
so that was my first action. She didn't buy it
and stayed the hotel night with Ricardo. Figured out later
instead of seeing her mom. She still didn't buy it
at first. Somehow my wife forgot how we started, forgot

(11:09):
who I was when we met. We dated because I
was cheated on the woman back then thought I was bluffing.
I was not. I left her. So with my wife
in the now, I then found two women. I am built,
I am very fit, and not to brag, I'm not huge,
but I am well endowed. I make good money, and

(11:30):
man do I conquer what I go for and also
I provide. I take care of people. I fight for people.
I'm basically husband material. My wife made a bad choice
to call me on this. One of the two women
was an Asian woman named Delilah. Another was a girl
who messaged me on Okay Cupid. I didn't know her name,
but wow, this girl was attractive and she knew game,

(11:53):
She knew how to flirt. She was saying she liked
fit men and had an obsession with that body type.
She wanted to date and said everything she would do
for me if I would forget about my wife. We
are talking nine out of ten women. My wife lost it.
But do you know what happened after she would go
in bursts of losing it to begging me to stay,

(12:14):
she stopped the threats to leave. I had no real
intention of doing anything with these women. I solely did
this so she would see me from a position of
strength and that she was not going to be making
calls for me or attacking me where I could and
would do better. She tried lying more and thought I
was not serious again, so I found more women. One

(12:35):
who I kid you not said she inherited a three
bedroom house and would be a mom to my kids
and share it with me. And I showed my wife
the text proving it so she would not think I
was just trash talking one who ironically was named Sally.
My wife had made a burner phone with the name
of Sally for these affairs, Karma A. She used to
have a Sally key chain. My daughter asked her why

(12:57):
Sally was gone. My wife said, to ask your dad
about Sally. Of all the things and possibilities, Karma, I
put the hammer down. I said she was going to
respect me. She thought I was weak. I was not
that I was undecided on what to do with her,
mainly due to finances and the kids, and for the
time being, we are just living together until I figure

(13:19):
it out. I told her, if she continued to treat
me like crap, I would have women on the side,
like the ones I had already shown her. I'm so
angry with all of this. It's just nonsense. So for
the now I'm stuck with tax credits finishing her school
should be manageable. Then I'm ending this update before I start.

(13:46):
As I said before, this is mostly venting. Let's start
with item one. My wife slept with at least two men,
not one, and not just Ricardo from above. Anyone could
have guessed this. I wasn't stuck on thinking she slept
with one man. I knew the one she didn't meet though,
do to seeing the convos, so I knew this guy

(14:06):
was one of the maybe guys. What shows how full
circle I've come on this in terms of just being
done dealing with this is I don't care that she
did at this point, I'm leaving anyway, since an annulment
is almost assuredly possible. I'll explain why as I go along.
I took a day off work the fourteenth of January
because the woman who watches my kids bailed on us.

(14:27):
My wife called me freaking out, saying she would lose
her job. I stayed home. She headed out. Well, Google
Maps is my friend. I had checked it, but for
some reason this didn't show up. She went straight to
Kirkland until three p forty. She works an Effort, not Kirkland.
She had told her friend as well as me that
she was working. She also had asked for a few

(14:48):
days if I would take the day off or have
Amber watched the kids. I was still deciding if I
wanted to pay Amber to watch the kids. This was
the first day she watched them. The first day, guys,
and she cheats at literally the first chance. Now that
on its own would normally be upsetting, but I've already
known she cheated, so it's just more nonsense. But you

(15:09):
all are about to get mad at me because this
one just isn't okay. The fourteenth was our second child's birthday.
She planned it head for an affair on Caden's birthday.
While I was sending her videos of all the kids.
As I watched them, she was having physical with this guy,
this one I trapped her. She had no out. There
was more reasons to this. She had in her notes

(15:31):
jan fourteenth to get planned b at the store. She
claimed she never did it first, and then she said
she took it for Ricardo, but their sleep wasn't until
February first, and the nail in the coffin. She started
her period extremely early January nineteenth, and had messaged a
friend asking how long it takes to take effect the sixteenth.
I had brought this up to her before when she

(15:52):
denied it, and she said she was just looking into it,
then admitted she took it for Ricardo, who she said
was the only guy. The timeframe just didn't add up.
She first admitted to seeing him, but not the sleep.
I said, she was there four hours don't lie, and
then went over rapid fire the dates and planed me.
She finally broke down, crying in the typical cheaters fake

(16:14):
remorse when they know you are serious on leaving kicked in.
She rapidly said, you can have sleep with Lily, a
girl from work who was cheated on and has a
free pass. You can have a threesome with me, please.
I didn't tell you because I knew you would leave.
Just do whatever you want. Just don't leave. I told
her I didn't want the random sleep, and it's honest,
I don't. It isn't who I am. So then we

(16:37):
get to the less upsetting update of more I found
out and this one is just so absurd. It's on
the funny end of the spectrum. All through January, she
messaged yet another guy online. This guy was saying he
loved her, was calling her his angel. She was swooning,
blah blah, don't care. She had said she lost money
in her purse months ago. No, this guy online kept

(16:59):
on asking her to look up gift cards and send
them to him. My wife is so unbelievably stupid. She
sent money to a guy who spoke bad English online
and cat fished her tons of gift cards, hundreds of dollars.
Jesus Christ and I saved the best for last, or
should I say worst for those of you who don't
believe in God or karma. I had seen a guy

(17:21):
message my wife out of nowhere, asking how she was,
and he hadn't seen her in a long time. February sixteenth,
Okay for you all to know, February sixteenth was exactly
when I found out she had been having affairs. I
just didn't know the extent. He sent his message the
same time of day we were fighting that morning. He
messaged her exactly the same time. One of the odds,

(17:43):
this guy has been gone for like ten years, and
this is the day he messaged her out of the blue,
the same day and at the same time we were
fighting because I found out. So let's put that in
a two hour time frame, since we fought for a
few hours before she went to work and he messaged
her at the same time. Three thy six hundred fifty days.
A two hour subset of those days is one in
twelve on top of that one in twelve in three thousand,

(18:05):
six hundred and fifty, which is one in forty three
thy eight hundred if you want the precise odds of
him deciding to contact her in that window as opposed
to any other time over ten years. But humans are
much more complex, and I would argue each moment is
way even heavier. I didn't message this guy back until
this July fourth weekend. I just wanted to see when
he last saw her. Are you all ready for this one? He,

(18:29):
on his own, without much prodding, said he hated how
our X treated her, the sex he referred to by name,
which helped me find the time frame. I knew of
him he was my wife's last ex before me, and
that he was glad he slept with my wife while
she was with Christian. Due to that, so my wife
has cheated on even more men than she told me.
She lies on everything. This is item one that gives

(18:50):
me the ability to get an annulment. I saved this
convo in the church. If a partner lies about their
personhood in a way that would make you deceived about
who they were enough to change your mind about marriage
at his grounds for fraud, meaning the marriage cannot be
valid and can be annulled. Now I had already found
out she lied about one ex Alex, but he was

(19:10):
her first boyfriend. She could argue it wasn't a pattern
of behavior. She was hiding and she was young and
stupid and didn't think about it, that it was a mistake.
She just didn't want to confront again years later. But
this man was both just before me and was yet
another incident of relationship infidelity. This means she wanted to
hide her keywords pattern of behavior. I now nearly certainly

(19:31):
have grounds for a moment which makes me happy, But
that is not where this ends. That is not what
I was asking you all were ready for. He asked
where she went after the last time they slept, because
he never heard from her again. So I kind of
wanted to know the timeframe, since Christian was in summer
and my wife and I started in fall. At this point,
I was not even thinking about the obvious. It didn't

(19:54):
cross my mind. I asked him when he thinks they
slept last, because I, pretending to be her, wouldn't know
where I went if I didn't know what it was.
He said, I don't know. I think Coates just became
a thing. I still wasn't thinking about the obvious. I said, oh,
like fall, so I was thinking there was overlap when
my wife and I started having physical but I refused

(20:15):
to call it dating at the time because I knew
she was too desperate offering me three some with her twin.
I made it official November nineteenth, after a few months
of her trying to convince me to date her and
that she would be mine and trustworthy. It was like
qualifier dating. She told me we were exclusive. So when
this guy said this, I was thinking, nice, Rebecca, I
knew you weren't exclusive. Then I asked it. I said, well,

(20:39):
it wasn't as late as November, was it. He said yes,
So this was when I started to panic before I
could even ask my next question. He then, on his own, said,
so I might have a daughter, then a My first born, Zoe,
was born two weeks early. Her due date was my birthday,
August second, twenty twelve, and said ended up being my
mother's birthday, July eighteen, twenty twelve. Her conception dated November ninth,

(21:03):
roughly given my wife's cycles. She got pregnant early when
we were together, and I asked this guy, what makes
you think that you might be the dad? He said, well,
ex friend mutual of my wife's and his said you
were pregnant about a month after we slept. It is possible.
I know the exact day everyone found out about my
wife's pregnancy. I am good with dates. It was December eleventh.

(21:26):
As I said, November ninth was the rough conception. He
said he heard a month after they slept that he
heard she was pregnant and thought the baby could be
his at the time, which men never admit to. However,
their mutual friend told him that he probably wasn't, so
he dropped it. So my first born, Zoe might not
be mine. This is the worst possible scenario I could

(21:46):
have imagined if she is not. In point one, my
first born changed my life. I say this a lot.
Zoe and I have an extremely strong bond. She is
so much like me. I have bonds with all my kids,
of course, but Zoe was the first time I felt
true love. I had been hurt very badly in life.
Even then. She talked extremely early because she bonded to me,

(22:08):
and she found I reacted when she did. I have
posted her talking so young, and it was solely due
to our relationship and bonding. This girl was my world
when I had no world. When my dad had just died.
She got me through it. You all have no idea
how much I love my kids, and she was the
start of that. She has five siblings who then have
to be around another dad, or that Zoe has to

(22:30):
be separated from while with this dad. So aside, note,
if Zoe is not mine, there is not even a
remote chance I can't get in annumen. The odds become
one hundred percent. Hiding of different fathers to children is
precisely verbatim listed as a parameter for annulment grounds. Fraud
is generalized and is not defined, so the tribunal has
to kind of decide if it is enough of a

(22:51):
misrepresentation to have affected your decision to get married prior
in fidelity, and they might not think it actually affected
your decision children. Misrep presentation is actually listed as an item.
It is a one hundred percent get out of marriage
free card. So while this is insanely upsetting, it might
be a blessing. I got a paternity test for Zoe

(23:12):
and just sent it in yesterday, July sixth, with expedited results.
And I will do this for the rest of my kids,
but at least on annulment issues. They have to have
been before we got married on the concealment end, which
is three of them. I've realized this is not the
only reason for such a test. Also, I was already
planning on doing this, but it kept getting put off.
It may well be my annulment ticket. I have also

(23:34):
since realized daycare is almost certainly being expanded to some degree,
whether through expanded childcare credits or attack subsidy through Biden.
I have my route out. So some of this is
bad and some of this is good. I processed a
lot more. I will say all of this has changed
me rapidly in some good ways. It's still unreal. I

(23:55):
will do another post when Zoe's test results come back.
I will do another update when I do the other kids.

Speaker 1 (24:03):
Edit.

Speaker 2 (24:04):
What I'm doing isn't weakness, it's strength. If you had
to watch out for the kids and knew what would
happen in the courts, she would do the same. Basically
I filed. She gets the kids, she will have her
mid life crises, men get around my kids, increase chances
of mystery to my daughters, which statistics show this triples
it on the minimum the cost of separate living, and

(24:24):
she makes squad is also so low that my kids
would live impoverished and I would live out of a
shared department. It's math. If I deal with what I
can now and she finishes school, I can make my
life better long term. Short term stupid decisions of divorce
and leave now have long term effects. As for the women,
I could easily have them again kids. I was not

(24:46):
kidding on my physique, dude or career, etc. I'm not
a simp. I'm doing what I must for a few reasons,
among them my kids, and no, we don't have the money.
If I lose the kids, I live with a hoarding,
abusive mom as my min only option, and there is
a good chance I will just the fight. I pay
her costs, then the kids I lose, she takes it

(25:08):
out on them. I have seen how this turns. I've
seen the folks who failed in court lose their kids.
Being fit as I am, I've already put her in
her in her place. It is insecurity. She cried her
eyes out regarding each girl. Now I just waited out
things I left out, and it is next to impossible
to get this on tape. She threw a box of toys.

(25:29):
It exploded and hit one of my kids. She has
become violent to the kids already when unstable. I'm telling
you I know the best solution here. If she is
unstable from this. I have ways of affecting that I've
dealt with abusers. I know how to end things more
peaceful with them.

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