October 3, 2023 • 65 mins
The Unspoken Podcast Episode 25 "Are you mentally prepared for bad times?" featuring LUMPY PILLOWS
Hosts: Dan and Dawna Wilson
Website: theoriginalunspokenpodcast.com
Sponsor: My Pillow use promo code UNSPOKEN
Featured Whiskey: Uncle Nearest 1884 Small Batch
Featured Cigars: Rojas Breakfast Tacos Maduro Petit & CAO Brazilia Robusto
Segements: Wiffle Ball Politicians, Mental Preparedness For Bad Times
Hosts: Dan and Dawna Wilson
Website: theoriginalunspokenpodcast.com
Sponsor: My Pillow use promo code UNSPOKEN
Featured Whiskey: Uncle Nearest 1884 Small Batch
Featured Cigars: Rojas Breakfast Tacos Maduro Petit & CAO Brazilia Robusto
Segements: Wiffle Ball Politicians, Mental Preparedness For Bad Times
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Welcome to episode twenty five of theoriginal Unspoken Podcast with host Dan and Donna
Wilson. We're coming to you livefrom the New Green Dragon Tavern, and
the Unspoken Podcast is a production ofretro Crush Media. Just wanted to put
that out there, retro crush Media. I like the ring of that.
Yeah, that's a nice name.Well, you are giving us this outstanding
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introduction. I'm going to clip acigar, all right, and as is
our tradition, I'm going to clipthis little guy right here. Look at
him right there. Isn't he cute? He is cute and little and he
looks Octoberish festive. It's a rohahbreakfast to go, that's what they call
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it. I say roha, andhe still says roha. Whatever. Okay,
you're the linguist. This is.It's tapered on both ends, so
you gotta light it with the meta. It gets a little confusing. It's
okay, did I get that oneright? I don't know. We practiced
it. I don't know if itwas quite right. Here's clipping it.
Well, you go ahead, keepon with your introduction. Well, I
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thought was my introduction. You usedup my entire introduction, not clipping the
cigar now, okay, oh,you gotta light this one the match.
Okay. By the way, Irecall from our last conversation that you told
me that I am no longer touse the word et cetera. And what's
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the other one? I just wantto remember? So what else et cetera?
So there is another one. Itwas so memorable. It was a
big word, acquiesce. Acquiesce.You are no longer allowed to use the
word acquiesce. So you're gonna haveto pull out the synonyms on that one.
Okay, I will do my best. You have a buzz counter,
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Yeah, I got the buzzer here. Okay. I have two different liquors,
and I'm going to give you theopportunity to choose. We have Diplomatico
rum that's good, smooth and vanilla, or we have the Uncle Nerus eighteen
eighty four small batch whiskey. Thankyou. Cigar that I'm going to be
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cutting and lighting is a c AoBrazilia. It's a little robusto maduro rapper.
I'm gonna use an actual lighter forthis one. So what do we
have coming up here on today's episode? We're gonna be talking about whiffleball politicians
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and more on the series of goodtimes and bad times, being prepared for
bad times, being on the offensive, and specifically mentally prepared. When do
I get to explain whiffleball politicians?Go ahead, I am, after all,
getting ready to light this cigar.We were chit chatting about what politicians
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do, and I think there wasa time, there was a time in
our society when you could say politicianswho are working for the people played hardball,
and then you go from hardball tosoftball, not trying to be insulting
to those who play police off ball. When we were thinking about what direction
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are we going with this segment,what are what are we trying to say?
And I said, you know,what it really has come to is
politicians that are politicking and not workingfor the people not really held to any
standard to answer questions or a reviewof what they've accomplished in the terms that
they serve in their career time.And so we've downgraded it to whiffleball.
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Looks like two fingers will do forthis episode. Try to lit my Ciao,
Brazili, cheers, Yeah, whippleball politicians. We were at our
local County town hall the other dayfor the sheriff, and the sheriff was
given a rundown on multiple topics,everything from the active shooter response to sex
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add books in the library, crimestats except ooh ooh, almost said it
and a sentence, and crime stats, crime stats and crime stats, thank
you, coach. The one thatI took exception to, however, was
a statement made by the sheriff wherehe said, and he looked at everyone
with all sincerity, and he says, I can be bold because you are
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behind me. And he didn't sayit just once, but he said it
twice. But doesn't that that's afeel good statement. That seems like a
powerful thing to say a way toencourage your constituents, or to encourage the
people in the room, make themfeel like they're they're an active part of
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his work and what's going on,and the community's rallying around him. So
what's the problem. I think wehave to be very careful with what we
say, especially as leaders. Wearen't being leaders to have a feel good
moment for the constituents. We arein times that are very sober times.
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And I think everything that you saydoes matter, specifically that term or that
phrase, I can be bold becauseyou are behind me. Look, the
sitting sheriff should be able to bebold regardless of whether or not anyone is
behind him or not. In therole of the sheriff, you have to
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be that strong bulkhead between tyranny andthe people. I don't want to share
if that is strong only because Wishihashiconstituents are behind him. Now, I
would think there probably was nobody elsein that room that even questioned that statement.
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I think they they think our sheriff'sa nice guy. I've enjoyed watching
him do what he does, thethings he engages in, he's involved in
the community, and a statement likethat was I really don't think there was
anybody in the room that questioned it. Why is it important? Why is
it important to actually be listening andsaying okay, way to say that sounds
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good on the surface, But whenyou when you caught onto that right away,
you dissected that statement like, waita second, Well, I look
at the totality of everything. Wenow live in times where everything that our
polished politicians do have great consequence effectsfor us down the line, whether they
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be good or bad. When wewere kids, politicians were doing whatever politicians
do, and we were kind oflulled into thinking because they said good things
that somehow that meant that things wereon the up and up, and they
were looking out for us to representus the best way that they're supposed to.
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But we've learned that it's kind oflike the memes you and I talk
about all the time LinkedIn. Idon't even like going on LinkedIn anymore,
because all it is is a neverending leadership meme generating factory. We don't
live in times where we need peopleto tell us feel good things. We
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need people that we can look upto and say, I have confidence in
this individual because he is publicly announcingto the people regardless of whether or not
you behind me, I will standand be bold because my code, my
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creed, says that I will dothe right thing no matter what. I
am not a barometer as to whatthe people around me are or are not
supporting. I'm doing this out ofmy convictions. I'm doing this because the
vulnerable that's children and people with specialneeds, and vulnerable adults and the elderly
things that they can't do. Irepresent them right. And so therefore I
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would say if you're sheriff, youshould be saying, I hope you are
bold behind me, but regardless,I will still do the right thing even
if I am the last man standing. Well, I'm certain that nobody in
that room heard what he was actuallysaying and had any idea in their mind
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to take him to ask on that. It's a sign of weakness, quite
honestly, when you get to thepoint where you are looking at somebody that
is a wishy washing on numerous topics, and in this case, there were
some I don't know, what wouldyou call it grandstanding doing some things that
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are kind of on the minds ofeveryone today that those controversial things that that
are meme creators. Again, Idon't know. Well, a lot of
the memes when you reference LinkedIn there, you can call them video video productions,
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and a lot of this circulates inthe in the so called business realm
because it's motivational. And then youstart to question, Okay, they're they're
showing this video of this guy wherea big boulder fell in the middle of
a highway and everybody else just drovearound it. So you're watching twenty cars
just drive around and it's this precariousnarrow highway and this boulders blocking it.
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And then finally this guy comes alongand he's the one who decides I'm going
to stop and I'm actually going toclean this up and move this and he's
going to do it all on itsown, all on his own. And
then at what point along the waydoes anybody stop and go, Okay,
wait, who was the the cinematographerin this equation that was filming this,
that had the setup and then andthen filmed the guy moving this boulder bit
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by bit and breaking it down andgetting and then sweeping the highway that didn't
jump into help him to go.When are we going to be smart enough
to realize this is all a setupfor views like that regular mill production here,
like majority of what you're seeing,my friends, is it's a stage
and you are the audience, andyou were being played. It is intentional
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emotional manipulation. And that is alarge majority of what's being put out there.
Let's talk about about the things thatwere not committed to. So you
can talk a lot about nothing andmake it seem like what you're saying has
some kind of substance, but atthe end of the day, every one
of US is tired of politicians thatwill not take a stand, that will
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not go on the record with anykind of position. And that's what this
town hall really reminded me of wastalking a lot about controversial subjects that gets
everybody riled up, including a survey, a survey of opinions, multiple choice,
what do you think is the mostimportant thing going on right now in
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our community? Those things are lowhanging fruit. Everybody knows that sheriff's in
the West Coast will not enforce SecondAmendment gun confiscation. That's every sheriff in
the West. So if you haveyour local sheriff saying that he is not
going to participate in anything that isantisecond Amendment, that's a great thing.
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Well, I think the here,as you said, talking about controversial issues
where they actually aren't controversial, thatthey aren't going to make waves. It's
not going to make that sheriff enemies. They're popular issues, but they're they're
not really controversial to anybody in thatIt's really easy to say that when you
know the majority of your constituency isseventy eighty five percent pro Second Amendment,
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right, And it's the same thingwith the masks. Well, I'm not
going to force anybody to wear amask. Well, what does that actually
mean? And what kind of weightdoes that really carry when you look at
the totality of it? Not much. So. Yeah, I think it
was an interesting town hall to saythe least. But I want people out
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there listening to pay attention specifically towhat the politicians are saying. If they're
saying feel good things like I'm bringingeverybody in into being part of this partnership,
well that's probably bs. Just learnto question what's being said, learn
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to put that through the filter ofwhat work is truly being done here?
What is this person taking a standfor that is putting them at any kind
of risk? Absolutely, because andwe've discussed this before, but remind us
again, because what is the jobof what is the sheriff there to do.
The job of the sheriff is specifically, as the chief elected law enforcement
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official. His or her job isto secure the people in that county against
federal tyranny, as well as performedthe typical patrol functions and law enforcement functions.
That's really why that sheriff is anelected official. He's elected specifically to
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answer to the people whereas chief ofpolice and commissioners those are appointed by mayors
and talent city councils. But thesheriff is your elected representative who is tasked
with securing you and government's basic function. The basic function of government is to
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protect your natural rights, life,liberty, and the pursuit of happiness aka
property. And that's really the waywe need to start looking at all of
these sheriffs and taking them to taskif they are not performing these basic necessities
that are called for, especially inthe days that we are living. Now,
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you want to talk about something that'sa little more relaxing. Yes,
I knew my pillow two point zero. I love my pillow two point z.
However, it has come to myattention that I need to retract a
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to pull up that that comment thatI made. Reference will insert that you
may or may not have said somethingabout my pillow two point zero doesn't look
good or might be a little bitlumpy. Well, here's the incriminating clip
from episode twenty four. Sleeping onthis two point zero. My neck pain
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has been largely reduced by over fiftypercent, probably eighty five percent. However,
they are ugly. No offense,Mike, But your pillows aren't they
kind of look glumpy? No,they're not lumpy pillows. That's not what
they call on. Okay, whenyou say lumpy pillows, now you're in
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it. You got that You're inis what you are? Like? No,
he's a lumpy pillows. Kiss myass? Are they call about?
Maybe they didn't get their pillow ontime because of the FedEx or whatever.
Well we'll cover them, even thoughit could be somebody else's fault. Nobody
called because of a lumpy pillow.But good, good one though. Done.
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Yeah, I'm done, but I'msaying, obviously you don't have my
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That's not what they call on.However it feels amazing, so I do
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I know it's a long domain,but it's it's the burden we must bear.
It's memorable. Yeah, today Iwas going through my Instagram account the
dan Underscore, DBI Underscore Wilson,it's my official Instagram page to find a
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message you have been suspended, andyou could get one hundred and eighty days
to appeal the suspension. And Ihad no idea as to why my account
had been suspended. I've never hadone strike, never complaint, but I've
been posting a lot lately about truth. I've been staying with inside the parameters.
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We already know what Instagram is goingto do. We know it's their
platform. So I have not doneanything that, to my ability, the
best of my ability, indicated thatI was going to be violating some kind
of standards. No violence, noquote, hate speech unquote, no calls
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for any kind of illegal activities.So that was a little bit shocking,
and I was a little bit upsetbecause, as you know, I'm not
a real big Instagram poster. Butabout a month ago decided, you know
what, I want to start puttingtogether daily posts and reels in order to
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encourage other people. Yeah, whenwhen you have something to say, a
message, to communicate a mission inyour life, knowing you want to encourage
and teach the next generation, Imean we can reject the avenues of communication
saying I don't in large part likewhat this has done to society. But
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the other angle that you can comefrom is this is a platform where I
can share that message absolutely and there'sa lot there. So you can follow
Dan on Instagram. He hasn't alwayshad that available, it's been more recent,
so I'm gonna let you know,head on over there. He like
he said, his handle is DWno d Underscore d W Underscore Wilson because
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in the real world most of myfriends and acquaintances refer to me as DW.
That's a great one to follow becausehe's more active there now, more
on a daily basis, sometimes sharingthings in the stories in between, and
then working really hard to get amessage out there pretty much every day of
encouragement. Yes, well, thisreally ties into what we were we were
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going to speak about or I wasgoing to speak about today, which is
a continuation of being on the offensefor bad times. And it reminds me
because the world that we live intoday, we are experiencing some pretty bad
and dark times. That is withoutquestion, good times and bad times.
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As we have been talking about,good times are most often followed by bad
times are tough times. It's cyclical, and it should be expected. Most
of the time it's out of ourhands. Every once in a while it's
self inflicted, or maybe all toooften it's self inflicted. But most of
the time it is out of ourhands, and we have to plan for
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bad times. And I've developed whatI believe five areas in our lives where
we can be on the offense,ready for those bad times when they come,
so that we're not caught behind thecurve and go into panic or depression
mode. So the first one isspiritually. We've covered that before. Knowing
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your creator his promises, and keepingyour eyes on eternity. Last episode we
talked about physically eating well, exercising, cardio resistance training. I was going
to say et cetera, but I'mnot. And today we are specifically going
to talk about mentally constantly looking dailyfor items of gratitude and how to develop
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our code and creed. Next time, we're gonna have a special guest,
our friend Darren from Freedom Elements.We're going to talk about being materially ready,
and last but not least, ourlast installment will be talking about how
we can be socially ready for badtimes. When I think of being mentally
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prepared for tough times, that canbe a very in depth conversation. Mental
encompasses so many different aspects of ourlives. I am no doctor, I
am no expert on anything. Soeverything that I'm sharing right now are some
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broad flyover ideas that I have,and I hope that what they do is
you take some of them and maybeinvoke some of those ideas into your own
life. But when I think aboutbeing mentally prepared, I think of really
two things. The first one ismental, and mental, according to Webster's
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Dictionary, means it's relating to thetotal emotional and intellectual response of an individual
to external reality. Mindset defines Webstersdefines mindset as a fixed state of mind.
So if we talk about mentally preparing, we're talking about mental mindset.
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If you fix your mental mindset tonot give up physically or emotionally, and
not to give into these bad times, it's your mental state that can lead
you to physical failure or death.What do I mean by that, however,
your mindset is, if it isnot strong, it can cause you
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to succumb to physical or emotional injuriesthat are otherwise survivable. I'm reminded of
a story that I heard about whenI was going through the police academy about
the will to never give up whenyou are in any kind of life or
death fight, whether it's a gunbattle or hand to hand combat. And
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the story goes that there was acouple of officers that were responding to some
kind of a call and in theprogress of the investigation, there's a shootout.
One of the officers is hit ina non fatal location on their body.
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That means there was no arterial bleeds, there was no massive amounts of
blood loss, there was no vitalorgans hit like your heart that stops the
pumping, nothing to stop your pulmonaryfunctions, et cetera. But this officer
that was hit was so panicked byit and was so convinced that they were
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going to die that in what wouldhave been ordinarily a bad day but a
non life ending gunshot, wound totheir extremity. They died from shock,
died from believing that they were hitand because they were hit with this little
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bullet, that they were going todie, and said officer did, and
it was reinforced to us over andover again in the academy that no matter
what, you never ever ever giveup. You go and go and go,
and keep your mindset that you willsurvive until you either overcome that adversary
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or the adversary finally ends you.The same applies for us in our mental
state. You have to fixate yourmind right now to be prepared for hard
things physically and mentally that are goingto occur, so that when those bad
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times come. It's like running.When you run a marathon, you practice
and you get used to the painof those long distance miles and the pounding
it puts onto your body. Ifyou go out tomorrow to try to run
a marathon, you are not goingto last. But if you continually train
day after day after day after dayafter day, when you get to the
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point where that marathon is there,that day you go to go to the
starting line and you're headed towards thefinish line, and you've prepared, you
are going to overcome all those discomfortsand those many miles for that race.
But how do we prepare our mindsto get this mental mindset of being prepared
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for bad times. One thing thatI have discovered is a art of gratitude.
Everything in our lives should always befocused on, primarily the good things
that we have in our lives andwhy we want to be thankful for them,
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Being thankful for all that you have, so that you're not in a
constant so that you are in aconstant state of gratitude and are aware of
how good you truly have it.I mean, really, compared to kings
and peasants of yesteryear, we livepretty darn good, right, I mean,
in our house we have multiple bathroomswith running water, hot running water.
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We have a thermostat we can turnup the heat, and that applies
for just about everybody that's listening toour voices right now. We live like
kings, But are we really gratefulfor that? When you're in a bad
place, you can dwell on thegood things that you have in your life
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as a way to combat whatever badthings are going on. You and I
recently have been going through some toughtimes, and it's easy to get wrapped
up in we're being wronged. Thisisn't fair. I can't believe this is
what this is costing me. Butthen when we stop to go, I
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have you, I have a lovingwife, a beautiful, loving wife,
I have children that are in goodhealth, I have a roof over my
head, I have a job,I live in a safe area. It
helps change some of that perspective insteadof being focused on the bad, but
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focused on the good. Another thingis you need to have a code.
And what is a code. Well, code is a set of rules or
principles that you live by. Thoseare your own barriers, your own boundaries
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in your life of those things thatyou will do or will not do.
Some examples from my own code relyon things like do not lie, don't
cheat, don't steal, honor myword, speak the truth, don't take
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government handouts, protect the weak andvulnerable, and this one I cannot be
bought for any price. So developyour own code on what things you will
and will not do or succumb to. And also develop your creed, which
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is a fundamental set of beliefs orguiding principles that's your religion. Primarily.
Some people's creed could be the TenCommandments. But develop your code and your
creed. And I think you andI have actually talked about this quite a
bit over the past several months,on code and creed. In the things
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that people will or will not dialoguein. Do hard things every chance that
you get examples of that as weare preparing for this mental mindset toughness.
Get up early, even if you'rea night person. These are hard things.
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Run harder and longer. If youcan only run half a mile,
next time, run six tenths ofa mile. Push yourself harder in the
gym. It's easy when you arelifting to go. I've lifted a lot
and i could do a couple more, but I'm not. I'm just not
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feeling it today. But make yourselfdo those uncomfortable things. Here's one speak
to a crowd of people that one'stough. You know this right, Yeah,
I know that. I mean yougo to a small local networking group
and they have a question of theday. Yeah. Well I wasn't prepared
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for that when I went in there. And I think I'm at the age
now where I've been through business experiences, traveled for work, been on the
radio, presented in different situations.I've been given a community award and presented
in front of a crowd. Iperform in front of people. Yeah,
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and then you never know when it'sgonna strike you that you have to be
mentally prepared for a situation like thatwhen you're being called on to speak,
and sometimes it's an uncomfortable question beingasked, and you've got a couple of
choices. You can deflect, oryou can lean into it and be vulnerable
and be prepared to answer things thatare uncomfortable with people looking at you.
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Are you going to stand up?You know everybody's sitting down at your turn
to talk? Are you gonna There'slittle things like I can stay in a
physically seated position and cower a littlebit with my body language as I'm answering
this, or I can just say, you know what, I got one
shot at whatever this is. Fillin the blank, and push your seat
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back away from the table a littlebit, stand up and say, you
know, people are going to listena lot more if I use your voice,
the actual physical voice, your resonance, how you use your vocal courts.
So I don't even mean this intheory, I mean it practically and
in real Your voice is an instrument, so even how you use it when
you're talking, If your whole thoughtis inward and how am I going to
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look? How am I going tosound? You are not going to be
able to present a message that peoplecan even see because they're going to pick
up on the body language that's sayingthis is difficult for me, and they're
going to empathize with you instead oflistening to what you have to say.
So using your physical voice as aninstrument, and if that means practicing it.
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You know, Dan's talking about whatdo you need to do to be
prepared? Well, that does comedown like what does that mean In a
practical sense, that might mean whileyou're at home and nobody's around, figure
out how to use your voice asan instrument so that something as small as
don't be boring when you talk.That means you're going to speed up,
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sometimes, slow down, sometimes,get louder at times, softer, quieter
at times, and learn how touse that to your advantage so that when
you're called on to speak in frontof people, you're ready to do that.
Yeah. Yeah, And I thinkthat being mentally tough and invoking the
ability to speak even when you don'twant to is also very important for our
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journey as we are learning these toughmindsets. Yeah, and what is it
that you've said you're only going toperform at your highest level? Of what
you've practiced. Yeah, whatever thatsay, what that phrase is, it's
more or less. You will onlyrise to the amount of your highest training,
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right, So if you if youjust I have this joke that I
say to people, it's doing somethingnew. What did you call it?
Pickle ball? Well, I've neverplayed pickle ball yet. I know it's
taken over the world, but Ihaven't played yet. And in my mind
I'm incredible, Like in my mindI'm an amazing pickleball player. I'm like,
yeah, I could do that.But the reality is getting out on
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a court, I'm only going toperform to my highest level of training,
which today is nothing hasn't happened.So that that that's the reality. If
you just think you're going to stepinto something like making a difference in another
person's life or encouraging a group ofpeople or the next generation or whatever that
is, if you've never practiced doingthat, it's probably just never going to
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happen. Yeah, but it isimportant for mindset. Really, there's not
to me. People that do liketo speak in front of people, but
it's well, they fear it morethan death. Yeah, that's what studies
show. We fear it more thandeath. Discipline your eating habits. That
can be a tough one. Whenyou're used to eating three, four or
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five times a day. What areyou going to do if you get into
a situation where you find yourself maybelost, maybe you're lost out in the
woods, you went for a hike, got off the trail, and you're
trying to survive. You know,mentally when and I know this kind of
crosses between physically and mentally, butit's okay to physically limit the types of
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things that you're eating and not justconstantly eating for pleasure. Well, I
think this is easier for people whoare naturally more curious. Those of us
who are naturally more curious, wedo weird things like I'm not going to
drink water today because I just wantto see what it feels like and see
what's going to happen, like seehow it affects my cognitive function or my
energy. People who are naturally curioussometimes do things like this that might seem
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weird to others, but it hearkensback with what you're saying. And training
for a marathon, Yeah, there'sthe physical aspect of if you've never trained,
you are physically not going to beable to get up tomorrow and do
what is at the twenty six pointtwo whatever the number is for the marathon.
Like you physically will not be ableto do it, but when you're
training, there is probably more ofthe mental prowess that goes into that training
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when you start out and you go, Okay, I'm going to run a
mile, and then you have thischarted out that. However, many months
down the line, now you're doingsix and then you're doing eight. Well,
guess what's happening in that process asor training for those miles. You're
gaining the physical strength and the cardiostrength, but you're also learning what mentally
where you are on mile three,mile four, mile five that and as
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you build it is just as muchknowing how to deal with that from a
mental aspect in that in that gameor in that discipline. Yeah, because
if your mind has never practiced,what do I do when I'm feeling this
on mile twenty four? So theseagain keep mixing between the physical and the
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mental, but they're so so innerrelated that that that it's it's sometimes hard
to pull them apart. And likewhat you're saying, how about this one
fasting for twenty four hours. Youwant to talk about mental toughness. You
will not die by missing eating fortwenty four hours. When I have fasted
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in the past, it's easy tofast while you're sleeping, right, yeah.
Yeah. The people who practice fastingnow it's like, this is not
what we're talking about, because they'relike, I'm twelve hours fasted, Okay,
you went to bed, you sleptfor eight of them, so big
deal. So fasting for twenty fourhours forty eight seventy two. Again,
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you're not going to die. Butit's great for mental toughness because you know
that you can survive and that itwill not kill you, that you can
overcome the constant cravings of having togo into a cupboard and pull something out
to eat it because it is comfortableor routine. Well, the other thing
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is you can you cannot. Thisis not a game of comparisons. It's
not a life of comparisons. Idon't mean to say it's a game.
But when I watch in the past, the survivor the television series, there
would be these they formed team,and there'd be these dudes that are like
massive dudes, just like ripped andshredded. They could tear your head off
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with you know, their bare hands, and I would watch them throughout that
series physically fall crumble and be hadto like call it on the game because
they could not. Their routine waslifting and then having to eat to fuel
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what they have in that physique andto maintain that kind of strength. So
when I say it's not a gameof comparisons, everyone's going to come into
this with a different strength. Soyou might not be able to be that
guy, that muscle head that cando those things physically, but if you're
somebody, you might be that darkhorse or the small but mighty where you
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have the mental toughness to say Ican survive this, And it is interesting
to watch who can survive those typeof circumstances. And what you're really taught
talking about ties into buds basic underwaterdemolition training for seal candidates, And when
you read the books and the accountsof seals, they will often talk about
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those that fail buds are those greatextreme athletes that look like great gods and
they're super strong, but they don'thave the mental toughness to overcome the physical
adversity and the mental adversity that theyare facing. And that's why you'll often
see seals being smaller dudes and notthe big muscle bound But you know,
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it kind of ties into this aswell. Part one of the ways that
you can and try to also getyour mindset to be tougher. Go without
water. You talked about this asecond ago. How long can you go
without water? I'm really thirsty.I just ate a big tub of popcorn
or in the movie, and I'mdying of thirst. Well, can you
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go without drinking water for a dayand survive? Or if you find yourself
in a predicament where you don't havewater, will you die because you've mentally
exhausted yourself? How about this one? Stay cold from time to time.
There's nothing that kills an outdoor experiencelike being wet and cold. And we're
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not talking about hypothermia cold, butwe're talking about you know, temperatures that
are probably above freezing, but youknow they're not real warm. They're not
the set point that you would havein your house when you're abiding in your
abode. So yeah, I would. I would every once in a while
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go out and be cold for anhour or two, just so you know
that you can do it and ultimatelyget comfortable with being uncomfortable. We've talked
about this many, many times.These are all little things that you can
do. Suggestions of what you canpractice to get yourself a bulletproof mind,
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a mind that a mindset that isgeared towards surviving difficult things because your default
isn't I want to go to comfort. I'm a baby that wants my diaper
change. Otherwise I'm not going tobe happy. Remember garbage in and garbage
out. You will become what youdwell upon. Let's say that again.
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You will become what you dwell upon. As iron sharpens iron, so too
does a one man sharpen another.Think about it. If you're just running
around thinking about garbage things, aboutwhat you see in Instagram, why you
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don't like what you look like becauseyou don't look like somebody on Instagram or
Facebook that you think you should looklike. If you're looking at the constant
bad things that happen in the world, or the injustices that you see,
and all you hear is negativity,that is a surefire way to ruin your
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mindset. You become what you dwellupon. I'm reminded of Paul when he
says, whatever is true, whateveris honorable, whatever is just, whatever
is peer, whatever is lovely,whatever is commendable. Think on these things.
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And I struggle with this on aregular basis, because I too often
dwell on negative things rather than thegood things. And for those those of
us who have the spirit, thatis our greatest achievement. To dwell upon
that, that is our greatest comfort. And if you think about everything that
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you have that you've been blessed with, it is going to transform your mindset.
Finally, I encourage you to planin your mind to not give in
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and not to give up. Youhave to tell yourself when you're going through
these bad times that you'll be allright, and believe it. You know.
Several years ago in my own life, I found myself suddenly a single
father with four children that I wassuddenly responsible for, holly responsible for,
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and I was responsible for not onlymaking certain that they had meals, but
that laundry was being done and groceryshopping was being performed, and all the
goods for the house and kids runto and from different functions, and school
was being done. And still runningcompanies and still performing police duties. And
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those were extremely tough times not tomention the legal aspect and the financial aspect
of that brought those tough times tome and I lost many, many friends
where I only had really five peopleI think that I can count on one
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hand that were truly on my side. And I was probably in one of
the greatest tough times of my life. But I was able to overcome that
and eventually get to good times becauseI was fortunate enough to be mentored by
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men who had encouraged me to continuallypractice these little things, these little tokens,
if you will, for preparing yourmindset. And they came from all
walks of life. They came frommen from the Church that were mentoring me
spiritually, to law enforcement friends,to books that I read, and you
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know, I love that book DisciplineEquals Freedom by Jocko. He of course
wrote the Extreme Ownership series, butone of his famous sayings is that discipline
equals freedom. And I think thatoriginally was attributed to Socrates, but it
really is true. If you disciplineyour mind now, if you discipline your
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body now, you will survive almostninety nine percent of the tough times that
you find yourself in. So asI conclude my encouragement to you for being
on the offense for tough times.Do you donna have any final comments to
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add to some of what you alreadysaid when you're making a plan for saying
I want if you say, okay, I've heard what you said, I
want to have a more robust Iwant to have a tougher mindset because realizing
how that can mentally, emotionally,and physically take me down. One of
those things is is things you cancheck off the list? Who are you
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surrounding yourself with? If you findthat there are negative people? Look,
there are times in your life whereyou need to support a person who you've
truly loved who is also going througha difficult time. And you don't say
I'm eradicating you for my life becauseyou're being negative right now, you have
to take that in light of thewhole great point. But if you're finding
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yourself constantly in relationships where the personis putting out negativity, they've always got
some kind of crisis that it isjust ongoing over an extended period of time.
These are people that it's going tobe okay to step away from.
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So you got to figure out howto do that. Turn conversations on them
and start asking questions rather than justlistening. Do something bold and saying,
what do you think are some ofthe things even though this has been done
to you, What are some ofthe things that maybe you could have done
differently? Start asking them tough questions, push back a little bit, and
then maybe time to create some spaceand whatever. That relationship is also for
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reflecting on your own life. Whereare you? How are you in a
different place now than you were tenyears ago? Dan and I were talking
today about some of the behaviors andthings even on social media. I had
been a health coach and so therewere sometimes I was pushing the boundary of
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things that I thought maybe were lightheartedor fun or funny and was putting out
on my social account. And Iwas telling him today, you know,
my relationship with you has helped megrow into a person that I would just
make choices so much differently in howI'm communicating and what I'm putting out the
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message of my life that I'm puttingout to people now, and that has
been in huge part. I mean, yes, personal growth, but who
you have helped me to become.That is the testament too, when you
surround yourself by somebody that I lookat you and I see the greatness in
you. I want to be betterbecause of those people that I'm around and
those most fundamental relationships in my life. I can actually make check marks in
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where I am now and how Iam different than I was even five years
ago, certainly ten years ago.So if you as a person aren't able
to do that, and you say, I know, I'm pretty much living
the same life. I'm comfy,cozy. I'm even more comfortable because I'm
a little more financially solid, andyou don't see that growth in your life,
It's time to change something up becauseyou need. You need to not
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be forty nine or fifty years oldand hanging around the same people with the
same problems, complaining about the samethings that you were when you were twenty
something or thirty something. It isdetrimental to your life and you will not
live out your life's ultimate mission orpurpose if you're being anchored down by that
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in your life. The other thingyou mentioned, Okay, I'm on tough
times. I need to focus onthe good things. You rattled off a
bunch of good things, But actuallyone side to it that I was bringing
is not everybody has an amazing activespouse or a warm, comfortable home that
where they aren't worried about paying therent or the mortgage and those things.
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There were times in my life notthat long ago, where I didn't have
a lot of those big things thatbrought me comfort when I was having a
bad day, and so I thought, you know what, I can have
a pity party, or I cango I can pick one thing. And
I said today that thing is I'vegot a car that runs and it's got
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gas in it, so I canget where I need to go today and
I don't have a need to complain. That is a gift in my life.
And so sometimes those things that youneed to pinpoint to focus on because
a lot of stuff's going awry inher life. It might be small,
but that's going to be critical andfundamental in that moment to get you back
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into where you mentally need to be. Thank you for bringing that up,
because you are exactly right in whatyou just said. I'd like to add
a post scrip because I neglected thisand this is huge. Your mindset also
can be tied to those people thatyou have to be strong for. And
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when you think of mental mindset.I have to be strong mentally because there
are others that are depending on me, Some of them are vulnerable. I
have a special needs daughter and Ithink of her often as I am pushing
for making certain to survive difficult times. I still have children that are home.
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I have children that are grown butstill need a dad around to bounce
things off and to guide them.I have a beautiful wife. So don't
forget friends or family that you mustbe strong for and remember that they too
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can be part of your strategy ofbeing mentally prepared for tough time. That
is a strategy, but often wordto focused on self that bad stuff happens.
Go have the pity party, seriouslyhave it. Go to bed a
little early that night, and bemiserable for a little bit until you fall
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asleep. But know that what youpractice is exactly what Dan just said.
That helps me get out of thatover focus on self. To say I've
got I've got kids, I've gotpeople around me who you can either look
at that as a strain and anotherburden, or to say this is ridiculous,
I'm overly focusing on myself. Thisisn't all about me, and I'm
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of no use to any of theseother people if I'm going to sit here
into a puddle and a quagmire ofwhatever all my problems are. And it's
amazing actually the healing that comes throughthat when you make that one small change.
Remember to have a code. Developyour code, write it down,
and memorize your code. It couldbe as simple as five things. It
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can be as robust as a dozenthings. But right now, if you
do not have a code in yourlife, I challenge you, after you
listen to this broadcast, to getout of pen and paper and write those
buy bullet point by number, whatyour code is, what those boundaries are,
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what you will and will not succumbto, what you will and will
not do, and start becoming familiarwith those in your very life. As
we are wrapping up, remember politiciansneed to be held accountable to say things
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that are substantive and actually matter thataren't just word salad that are I don't
know linked in feel good meme leadership, posting sound bites as my gorgeous wife
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is putting her finger down her throat. But hold your local officials accountable and
challenge them when they are saying somethingthat is flippant listen to what they're actually
saying, and then go wait asecond. Yeah, So do all these
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things and remember, set your mindon good things. Prepare yourself for those
bad times which will come to allof us. None of us can escape
those bad times. Be prepared,be ahead of the curve, and as
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always, do the right thing.Please go to the Unspoken Podcast for more
details, or if you have questionsfor me or Donna on how you can
be better prepared for tough times,drop us an email at what is It
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you can message us through any ofthose means. We'll get it now.
We have been chastised a few timesbecause we have smoked these sticks, which,
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by the way, I understand thatsome of you are not amused and
don't think it's appropriate that we shouldbe focused on cigars and whiskey during our
podcasts. Well you know what,I hear you, But who cares you?
Who are not recording this to winfavors by whether or not you think
we should or shouldn't be doing something. But the second thing that I get
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complaints about is we too often donot at the completion of our broadcast share
with them how we rated these cigarsthat we're smoking. So you are smoking
the Roja Roja taco breakfast taco.It's a figure odo. Man, I
should have been a Spanish major.Tell me, guitar girl, what you
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think of that cigar. It's soappropriate that you asked me this question because
I didn't know if I was interruptingthe clothes out of this episode by saying,
I have smoked this down to aboutas low a nub as you can
go on a cigar without burning yourfingers. I'm going to take a picture
of it right now. Yeah,it has been Sometimes you get halfway through.
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I can even say an expensive cigar, you get halfway through it and
it starts to have a bite toit, a bitterness. This has been
a smooth smoke all the way through. So this is one I'd even recommend
to if you're a beginner smoker.You're like, well, Dan and Donn
are doing this. I'm kind ofcurious about it. What smoke can I
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pull out of a cabinet If I'min a shop, I don't know what
to ask for. I would recommendthis because it is a relatively quick smoke.
I mean, you're not going tobe sitting there for three hours making
yourself sick. It all the waydown all the way down to the nub,
which now I've smoked enough now tosay that that actually doesn't happen as
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often as you might think, becausethere's for one reason or another they get
better towards the middle they do,and it price price point doesn't matter.
It can happen in all range ofcigars. So this has been great.
I recommend it. This Cao CharlesAdam Ocean. That's the acronym CAO Brazilia
cigar in the Robusto Maduro. Ittoo has been a fabulous, smooth,
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consistent cigar, little hints of aleathern coffee. I'm about two thirds of
the way done. It still hasa perfect ash. I've knocked off some
of the ash so that I don'tspill it all over my notes. I've
been spoke smoking these actually for aboutfifteen years, so I just recently purchased.
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I don't know ten or twenty ofthem highly recommend these. We are
getting closer. I'm getting closer onfinalizing my unspoken podcast cigar. Would you
drop me a line if you're interestedin the cigar that we are going to
offer, let me know, becausewe're looking at quantities as we are finalizing
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all the licensing that you know goesalong with tobacco because the Feds and the
state regulate this, so it's along process. And then lastly, we
did not drink any of this diplomaticorum. Oh we never did. Never
did, because oh, I thoughtyou started with that as you went with
the Uncle Nearest. So in conclusion, Uncle Nearest eighteen eighty four small batch
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whiskey, it is a ninety threeproof I will be buying this again.
You and I first became, Iguess acquainted with Uncle Nearest at a Northern
Quest casino cigar function. Legends ofFire was that there at Northern Quest their
cigar lounge in the casino there,which is a beautiful lounge. They'll do
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events from time to time, andthat was when we first learned about Uncle
Nearest and were able to try itthen. So it's one that we've kept
in stock here in the new GreenDragon we have at our disposal, but
that was a good choice for thisepisode. Uncle Nearest, as it was
explained to us at the event,was the African American distiller who trained Jack
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Daniels, specifically the Jack Daniels youknow old number seven sour mash whiskey.
This is not a sour mash whiskey. This is made by Eddie Butter Butler.
We will be buying more of this. This is a great whiskey to
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sit around and drink with a largeice cube. It will be a party
favorite. And look how beautiful thatbobble is. Yeah, I mean,
in conclusion of this episode, youcan take since we've now wrapped us up
appropriately with our review of the cigarand whiskey, that it it's great to
celebrate the conclusion of this episode andhead into your your local store and get
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the Uncle Nearest eight. Yeah.It's a cream colored label. So for
those of you who are maybe likeme, we have a little fear of
going in because you're looking around likea newbie, or you don't know what
you're looking for. Whiskey section creamcolored label kind of a squarish bottle.
You got this gorgeous. We're goingto post a picture of it on the
Instagram. Now, remember we didnot descend from fearful men, but men
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who were mentally tough. Why werethey mentally tough because they focused on the
things that mattered. They prepared themselves. They also had a belief in an
almighty God who they had trusted.Now, go do the right thing.
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Welcome to episode twenty five of theoriginal Unspoken Podcast with host Dan and Donna
Wilson. We're coming to you livefrom the New Green Dragon Tavern, and
the Unspoken Podcast is a production ofretro Crush Media. Just wanted to put
that out there, retro crush Media. I like the ring of that.
Yeah, that's a nice name.Well, you are giving us this outstanding
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introduction. I'm going to clip acigar, all right, and as is
our tradition, I'm going to clipthis little guy right here. Look at
him right there. Isn't he cute? He is cute and little and he
looks Octoberish festive. It's a rohahbreakfast to go, that's what they call
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it. I say roha, andhe still says roha. Whatever. Okay,
you're the linguist. This is.It's tapered on both ends, so
you gotta light it with the meta. It gets a little confusing. It's
okay, did I get that oneright? I don't know. We practiced
it. I don't know if itwas quite right. Here's clipping it.
Well, you go ahead, keepon with your introduction. Well, I
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thought was my introduction. You usedup my entire introduction, not clipping the
cigar now, okay, oh,you gotta light this one the match.
Okay. By the way, Irecall from our last conversation that you told
me that I am no longer touse the word et cetera. And what's
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the other one? I just wantto remember? So what else et cetera?
So there is another one. Itwas so memorable. It was a
big word, acquiesce. Acquiesce.You are no longer allowed to use the
word acquiesce. So you're gonna haveto pull out the synonyms on that one.
Okay, I will do my best. You have a buzz counter,
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Yeah, I got the buzzer here. Okay. I have two different liquors,
and I'm going to give you theopportunity to choose. We have Diplomatico
rum that's good, smooth and vanilla, or we have the Uncle Nerus eighteen
eighty four small batch whiskey. Thankyou. Cigar that I'm going to be
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cutting and lighting is a c AoBrazilia. It's a little robusto maduro rapper.
I'm gonna use an actual lighter forthis one. So what do we
have coming up here on today's episode? We're gonna be talking about whiffleball politicians
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and more on the series of goodtimes and bad times, being prepared for
bad times, being on the offensive, and specifically mentally prepared. When do
I get to explain whiffleball politicians?Go ahead, I am, after all,
getting ready to light this cigar.We were chit chatting about what politicians
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do, and I think there wasa time, there was a time in
our society when you could say politicianswho are working for the people played hardball,
and then you go from hardball tosoftball, not trying to be insulting
to those who play police off ball. When we were thinking about what direction
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are we going with this segment,what are what are we trying to say?
And I said, you know,what it really has come to is
politicians that are politicking and not workingfor the people not really held to any
standard to answer questions or a reviewof what they've accomplished in the terms that
they serve in their career time.And so we've downgraded it to whiffleball.
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Looks like two fingers will do forthis episode. Try to lit my Ciao,
Brazili, cheers, Yeah, whippleball politicians. We were at our
local County town hall the other dayfor the sheriff, and the sheriff was
given a rundown on multiple topics,everything from the active shooter response to sex
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add books in the library, crimestats except ooh ooh, almost said it
and a sentence, and crime stats, crime stats and crime stats, thank
you, coach. The one thatI took exception to, however, was
a statement made by the sheriff wherehe said, and he looked at everyone
with all sincerity, and he says, I can be bold because you are
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behind me. And he didn't sayit just once, but he said it
twice. But doesn't that that's afeel good statement. That seems like a
powerful thing to say a way toencourage your constituents, or to encourage the
people in the room, make themfeel like they're they're an active part of
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his work and what's going on,and the community's rallying around him. So
what's the problem. I think wehave to be very careful with what we
say, especially as leaders. Wearen't being leaders to have a feel good
moment for the constituents. We arein times that are very sober times.
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And I think everything that you saydoes matter, specifically that term or that
phrase, I can be bold becauseyou are behind me. Look, the
sitting sheriff should be able to bebold regardless of whether or not anyone is
behind him or not. In therole of the sheriff, you have to
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be that strong bulkhead between tyranny andthe people. I don't want to share
if that is strong only because Wishihashiconstituents are behind him. Now, I
would think there probably was nobody elsein that room that even questioned that statement.
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I think they they think our sheriff'sa nice guy. I've enjoyed watching
him do what he does, thethings he engages in, he's involved in
the community, and a statement likethat was I really don't think there was
anybody in the room that questioned it. Why is it important? Why is
it important to actually be listening andsaying okay, way to say that sounds
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good on the surface, But whenyou when you caught onto that right away,
you dissected that statement like, waita second, Well, I look
at the totality of everything. Wenow live in times where everything that our
polished politicians do have great consequence effectsfor us down the line, whether they
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be good or bad. When wewere kids, politicians were doing whatever politicians
do, and we were kind oflulled into thinking because they said good things
that somehow that meant that things wereon the up and up, and they
were looking out for us to representus the best way that they're supposed to.
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But we've learned that it's kind oflike the memes you and I talk
about all the time LinkedIn. Idon't even like going on LinkedIn anymore,
because all it is is a neverending leadership meme generating factory. We don't
live in times where we need peopleto tell us feel good things. We
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need people that we can look upto and say, I have confidence in
this individual because he is publicly announcingto the people regardless of whether or not
you behind me, I will standand be bold because my code, my
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creed, says that I will dothe right thing no matter what. I
am not a barometer as to whatthe people around me are or are not
supporting. I'm doing this out ofmy convictions. I'm doing this because the
vulnerable that's children and people with specialneeds, and vulnerable adults and the elderly
things that they can't do. Irepresent them right. And so therefore I
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would say if you're sheriff, youshould be saying, I hope you are
bold behind me, but regardless,I will still do the right thing even
if I am the last man standing. Well, I'm certain that nobody in
that room heard what he was actuallysaying and had any idea in their mind
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to take him to ask on that. It's a sign of weakness, quite
honestly, when you get to thepoint where you are looking at somebody that
is a wishy washing on numerous topics, and in this case, there were
some I don't know, what wouldyou call it grandstanding doing some things that
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are kind of on the minds ofeveryone today that those controversial things that that
are meme creators. Again, Idon't know. Well, a lot of
the memes when you reference LinkedIn there, you can call them video video productions,
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and a lot of this circulates inthe in the so called business realm
because it's motivational. And then youstart to question, Okay, they're they're
showing this video of this guy wherea big boulder fell in the middle of
a highway and everybody else just drovearound it. So you're watching twenty cars
just drive around and it's this precariousnarrow highway and this boulders blocking it.
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And then finally this guy comes alongand he's the one who decides I'm going
to stop and I'm actually going toclean this up and move this and he's
going to do it all on itsown, all on his own. And
then at what point along the waydoes anybody stop and go, Okay,
wait, who was the the cinematographerin this equation that was filming this,
that had the setup and then andthen filmed the guy moving this boulder bit
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by bit and breaking it down andgetting and then sweeping the highway that didn't
jump into help him to go.When are we going to be smart enough
to realize this is all a setupfor views like that regular mill production here,
like majority of what you're seeing,my friends, is it's a stage
and you are the audience, andyou were being played. It is intentional
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emotional manipulation. And that is alarge majority of what's being put out there.
Let's talk about about the things thatwere not committed to. So you
can talk a lot about nothing andmake it seem like what you're saying has
some kind of substance, but atthe end of the day, every one
of US is tired of politicians thatwill not take a stand, that will
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not go on the record with anykind of position. And that's what this
town hall really reminded me of wastalking a lot about controversial subjects that gets
everybody riled up, including a survey, a survey of opinions, multiple choice,
what do you think is the mostimportant thing going on right now in
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our community? Those things are lowhanging fruit. Everybody knows that sheriff's in
the West Coast will not enforce SecondAmendment gun confiscation. That's every sheriff in
the West. So if you haveyour local sheriff saying that he is not
going to participate in anything that isantisecond Amendment, that's a great thing.
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Well, I think the here,as you said, talking about controversial issues
where they actually aren't controversial, thatthey aren't going to make waves. It's
not going to make that sheriff enemies. They're popular issues, but they're they're
not really controversial to anybody in thatIt's really easy to say that when you
know the majority of your constituency isseventy eighty five percent pro Second Amendment,
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right, And it's the same thingwith the masks. Well, I'm not
going to force anybody to wear amask. Well, what does that actually
mean? And what kind of weightdoes that really carry when you look at
the totality of it? Not much. So. Yeah, I think it
was an interesting town hall to saythe least. But I want people out
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there listening to pay attention specifically towhat the politicians are saying. If they're
saying feel good things like I'm bringingeverybody in into being part of this partnership,
well that's probably bs. Just learnto question what's being said, learn
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to put that through the filter ofwhat work is truly being done here?
What is this person taking a standfor that is putting them at any kind
of risk? Absolutely, because andwe've discussed this before, but remind us
again, because what is the jobof what is the sheriff there to do.
The job of the sheriff is specifically, as the chief elected law enforcement
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official. His or her job isto secure the people in that county against
federal tyranny, as well as performedthe typical patrol functions and law enforcement functions.
That's really why that sheriff is anelected official. He's elected specifically to
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answer to the people whereas chief ofpolice and commissioners those are appointed by mayors
and talent city councils. But thesheriff is your elected representative who is tasked
with securing you and government's basic function. The basic function of government is to
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protect your natural rights, life,liberty, and the pursuit of happiness aka
property. And that's really the waywe need to start looking at all of
these sheriffs and taking them to taskif they are not performing these basic necessities
that are called for, especially inthe days that we are living. Now,
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you want to talk about something that'sa little more relaxing. Yes,
I knew my pillow two point zero. I love my pillow two point z.
However, it has come to myattention that I need to retract a
statement that I made last episode,and maybe after this recording you may have
(15:05):
to pull up that that comment thatI made. Reference will insert that you
may or may not have said somethingabout my pillow two point zero doesn't look
good or might be a little bitlumpy. Well, here's the incriminating clip
from episode twenty four. Sleeping onthis two point zero. My neck pain
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has been largely reduced by over fiftypercent, probably eighty five percent. However,
they are ugly. No offense,Mike, But your pillows aren't they
kind of look glumpy? No,they're not lumpy pillows. That's not what
they call on. Okay, whenyou say lumpy pillows, now you're in
(15:50):
it. You got that You're inis what you are? Like? No,
he's a lumpy pillows. Kiss myass? Are they call about?
Maybe they didn't get their pillow ontime because of the FedEx or whatever.
Well we'll cover them, even thoughit could be somebody else's fault. Nobody
called because of a lumpy pillow.But good, good one though. Done.
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Yeah, I'm done, but I'msaying, obviously you don't have my
pillow too. You don't, doyou? If you have been paying attention
as of late to the lake depositionthat the My Pillow founder Michael Lindell was
participating in, apparently he does nottake kindly to people calling his pillow lumpy.
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Now, I meant no disrespect whatsoever. I meant to say, it's
a tremendous pillow. It may look. No, they're not lumpy pillows.
That's not what they call on.However it feels amazing, so I do
and all in all fairness, wantto retract my my careless comments. I've
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been put in the penalty box,but I vow going forward to never say
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You could outfit. You could bedone with your Christmas shopping all at once.
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I mean, just completely. Don'tadoc adcar ad car, send it
to them or bring the stuff toyou in a big box. Just get
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just want to go on the recordof saying how much I like this batch.
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It. It is extremely smooth,has a little bit of vanilla taste
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Listeners at our email addresses. Listenersat the Original Unspoken Podcast dot Com.
I know it's a long domain,but it's it's the burden we must bear.
It's memorable. Yeah, today Iwas going through my Instagram account the
dan Underscore, DBI Underscore Wilson,it's my official Instagram page to find a
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message you have been suspended, andyou could get one hundred and eighty days
to appeal the suspension. And Ihad no idea as to why my account
had been suspended. I've never hadone strike, never complaint, but I've
been posting a lot lately about truth. I've been staying with inside the parameters.
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We already know what Instagram is goingto do. We know it's their
platform. So I have not doneanything that, to my ability, the
best of my ability, indicated thatI was going to be violating some kind
of standards. No violence, noquote, hate speech unquote, no calls
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for any kind of illegal activities.So that was a little bit shocking,
and I was a little bit upsetbecause, as you know, I'm not
a real big Instagram poster. Butabout a month ago decided, you know
what, I want to start puttingtogether daily posts and reels in order to
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encourage other people. Yeah, whenwhen you have something to say, a
message, to communicate a mission inyour life, knowing you want to encourage
and teach the next generation, Imean we can reject the avenues of communication
saying I don't in large part likewhat this has done to society. But
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the other angle that you can comefrom is this is a platform where I
can share that message absolutely and there'sa lot there. So you can follow
Dan on Instagram. He hasn't alwayshad that available, it's been more recent,
so I'm gonna let you know,head on over there. He like
he said, his handle is DWno d Underscore d W Underscore Wilson because
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in the real world most of myfriends and acquaintances refer to me as DW.
That's a great one to follow becausehe's more active there now, more
on a daily basis, sometimes sharingthings in the stories in between, and
then working really hard to get amessage out there pretty much every day of
encouragement. Yes, well, thisreally ties into what we were we were
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going to speak about or I wasgoing to speak about today, which is
a continuation of being on the offensefor bad times. And it reminds me
because the world that we live intoday, we are experiencing some pretty bad
and dark times. That is withoutquestion, good times and bad times.
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As we have been talking about,good times are most often followed by bad
times are tough times. It's cyclical, and it should be expected. Most
of the time it's out of ourhands. Every once in a while it's
self inflicted, or maybe all toooften it's self inflicted. But most of
the time it is out of ourhands, and we have to plan for
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bad times. And I've developed whatI believe five areas in our lives where
we can be on the offense,ready for those bad times when they come,
so that we're not caught behind thecurve and go into panic or depression
mode. So the first one isspiritually. We've covered that before. Knowing
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your creator his promises, and keepingyour eyes on eternity. Last episode we
talked about physically eating well, exercising, cardio resistance training. I was going
to say et cetera, but I'mnot. And today we are specifically going
to talk about mentally constantly looking dailyfor items of gratitude and how to develop
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our code and creed. Next time, we're gonna have a special guest,
our friend Darren from Freedom Elements.We're going to talk about being materially ready,
and last but not least, ourlast installment will be talking about how
we can be socially ready for badtimes. When I think of being mentally
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prepared for tough times, that canbe a very in depth conversation. Mental
encompasses so many different aspects of ourlives. I am no doctor, I
am no expert on anything. Soeverything that I'm sharing right now are some
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broad flyover ideas that I have,and I hope that what they do is
you take some of them and maybeinvoke some of those ideas into your own
life. But when I think aboutbeing mentally prepared, I think of really
two things. The first one ismental, and mental, according to Webster's
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Dictionary, means it's relating to thetotal emotional and intellectual response of an individual
to external reality. Mindset defines Webstersdefines mindset as a fixed state of mind.
So if we talk about mentally preparing, we're talking about mental mindset.
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If you fix your mental mindset tonot give up physically or emotionally, and
not to give into these bad times, it's your mental state that can lead
you to physical failure or death.What do I mean by that, however,
your mindset is, if it isnot strong, it can cause you
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to succumb to physical or emotional injuriesthat are otherwise survivable. I'm reminded of
a story that I heard about whenI was going through the police academy about
the will to never give up whenyou are in any kind of life or
death fight, whether it's a gunbattle or hand to hand combat. And
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the story goes that there was acouple of officers that were responding to some
kind of a call and in theprogress of the investigation, there's a shootout.
One of the officers is hit ina non fatal location on their body.
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That means there was no arterial bleeds, there was no massive amounts of
blood loss, there was no vitalorgans hit like your heart that stops the
pumping, nothing to stop your pulmonaryfunctions, et cetera. But this officer
that was hit was so panicked byit and was so convinced that they were
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going to die that in what wouldhave been ordinarily a bad day but a
non life ending gunshot, wound totheir extremity. They died from shock,
died from believing that they were hitand because they were hit with this little
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bullet, that they were going todie, and said officer did, and
it was reinforced to us over andover again in the academy that no matter
what, you never ever ever giveup. You go and go and go,
and keep your mindset that you willsurvive until you either overcome that adversary
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or the adversary finally ends you.The same applies for us in our mental
state. You have to fixate yourmind right now to be prepared for hard
things physically and mentally that are goingto occur, so that when those bad
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times come. It's like running.When you run a marathon, you practice
and you get used to the painof those long distance miles and the pounding
it puts onto your body. Ifyou go out tomorrow to try to run
a marathon, you are not goingto last. But if you continually train
day after day after day after dayafter day, when you get to the
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point where that marathon is there,that day you go to go to the
starting line and you're headed towards thefinish line, and you've prepared, you
are going to overcome all those discomfortsand those many miles for that race.
But how do we prepare our mindsto get this mental mindset of being prepared
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for bad times. One thing thatI have discovered is a art of gratitude.
Everything in our lives should always befocused on, primarily the good things
that we have in our lives andwhy we want to be thankful for them,
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Being thankful for all that you have, so that you're not in a
constant so that you are in aconstant state of gratitude and are aware of
how good you truly have it.I mean, really, compared to kings
and peasants of yesteryear, we livepretty darn good, right, I mean,
in our house we have multiple bathroomswith running water, hot running water.
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We have a thermostat we can turnup the heat, and that applies
for just about everybody that's listening toour voices right now. We live like
kings, But are we really gratefulfor that? When you're in a bad
place, you can dwell on thegood things that you have in your life
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as a way to combat whatever badthings are going on. You and I
recently have been going through some toughtimes, and it's easy to get wrapped
up in we're being wronged. Thisisn't fair. I can't believe this is
what this is costing me. Butthen when we stop to go, I
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have you, I have a lovingwife, a beautiful, loving wife,
I have children that are in goodhealth, I have a roof over my
head, I have a job,I live in a safe area. It
helps change some of that perspective insteadof being focused on the bad, but
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focused on the good. Another thingis you need to have a code.
And what is a code. Well, code is a set of rules or
principles that you live by. Thoseare your own barriers, your own boundaries
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in your life of those things thatyou will do or will not do.
Some examples from my own code relyon things like do not lie, don't
cheat, don't steal, honor myword, speak the truth, don't take
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government handouts, protect the weak andvulnerable, and this one I cannot be
bought for any price. So developyour own code on what things you will
and will not do or succumb to. And also develop your creed, which
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is a fundamental set of beliefs orguiding principles that's your religion. Primarily.
Some people's creed could be the TenCommandments. But develop your code and your
creed. And I think you andI have actually talked about this quite a
bit over the past several months,on code and creed. In the things
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that people will or will not dialoguein. Do hard things every chance that
you get examples of that as weare preparing for this mental mindset toughness.
Get up early, even if you'rea night person. These are hard things.
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Run harder and longer. If youcan only run half a mile,
next time, run six tenths ofa mile. Push yourself harder in the
gym. It's easy when you arelifting to go. I've lifted a lot
and i could do a couple more, but I'm not. I'm just not
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feeling it today. But make yourselfdo those uncomfortable things. Here's one speak
to a crowd of people that one'stough. You know this right, Yeah,
I know that. I mean yougo to a small local networking group
and they have a question of theday. Yeah. Well I wasn't prepared
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for that when I went in there. And I think I'm at the age
now where I've been through business experiences, traveled for work, been on the
radio, presented in different situations.I've been given a community award and presented
in front of a crowd. Iperform in front of people. Yeah,
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and then you never know when it'sgonna strike you that you have to be
mentally prepared for a situation like thatwhen you're being called on to speak,
and sometimes it's an uncomfortable question beingasked, and you've got a couple of
choices. You can deflect, oryou can lean into it and be vulnerable
and be prepared to answer things thatare uncomfortable with people looking at you.
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Are you going to stand up?You know everybody's sitting down at your turn
to talk? Are you gonna There'slittle things like I can stay in a
physically seated position and cower a littlebit with my body language as I'm answering
this, or I can just say, you know what, I got one
shot at whatever this is. Fillin the blank, and push your seat
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back away from the table a littlebit, stand up and say, you
know, people are going to listena lot more if I use your voice,
the actual physical voice, your resonance, how you use your vocal courts.
So I don't even mean this intheory, I mean it practically and
in real Your voice is an instrument, so even how you use it when
you're talking, If your whole thoughtis inward and how am I going to
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look? How am I going tosound? You are not going to be
able to present a message that peoplecan even see because they're going to pick
up on the body language that's sayingthis is difficult for me, and they're
going to empathize with you instead oflistening to what you have to say.
So using your physical voice as aninstrument, and if that means practicing it.
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You know, Dan's talking about whatdo you need to do to be
prepared? Well, that does comedown like what does that mean In a
practical sense, that might mean whileyou're at home and nobody's around, figure
out how to use your voice asan instrument so that something as small as
don't be boring when you talk.That means you're going to speed up,
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sometimes, slow down, sometimes,get louder at times, softer, quieter
at times, and learn how touse that to your advantage so that when
you're called on to speak in frontof people, you're ready to do that.
Yeah. Yeah, And I thinkthat being mentally tough and invoking the
ability to speak even when you don'twant to is also very important for our
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journey as we are learning these toughmindsets. Yeah, and what is it
that you've said you're only going toperform at your highest level? Of what
you've practiced. Yeah, whatever thatsay, what that phrase is, it's
more or less. You will onlyrise to the amount of your highest training,
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right, So if you if youjust I have this joke that I
say to people, it's doing somethingnew. What did you call it?
Pickle ball? Well, I've neverplayed pickle ball yet. I know it's
taken over the world, but Ihaven't played yet. And in my mind
I'm incredible, Like in my mindI'm an amazing pickleball player. I'm like,
yeah, I could do that.But the reality is getting out on
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a court, I'm only going toperform to my highest level of training,
which today is nothing hasn't happened.So that that that's the reality. If
you just think you're going to stepinto something like making a difference in another
person's life or encouraging a group ofpeople or the next generation or whatever that
is, if you've never practiced doingthat, it's probably just never going to
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happen. Yeah, but it isimportant for mindset. Really, there's not
to me. People that do liketo speak in front of people, but
it's well, they fear it morethan death. Yeah, that's what studies
show. We fear it more thandeath. Discipline your eating habits. That
can be a tough one. Whenyou're used to eating three, four or
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five times a day. What areyou going to do if you get into
a situation where you find yourself maybelost, maybe you're lost out in the
woods, you went for a hike, got off the trail, and you're
trying to survive. You know,mentally when and I know this kind of
crosses between physically and mentally, butit's okay to physically limit the types of
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things that you're eating and not justconstantly eating for pleasure. Well, I
think this is easier for people whoare naturally more curious. Those of us
who are naturally more curious, wedo weird things like I'm not going to
drink water today because I just wantto see what it feels like and see
what's going to happen, like seehow it affects my cognitive function or my
energy. People who are naturally curioussometimes do things like this that might seem
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weird to others, but it hearkensback with what you're saying. And training
for a marathon, Yeah, there'sthe physical aspect of if you've never trained,
you are physically not going to beable to get up tomorrow and do
what is at the twenty six pointtwo whatever the number is for the marathon.
Like you physically will not be ableto do it, but when you're
training, there is probably more ofthe mental prowess that goes into that training
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when you start out and you go, Okay, I'm going to run a
mile, and then you have thischarted out that. However, many months
down the line, now you're doingsix and then you're doing eight. Well,
guess what's happening in that process asor training for those miles. You're
gaining the physical strength and the cardiostrength, but you're also learning what mentally
where you are on mile three,mile four, mile five that and as
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you build it is just as muchknowing how to deal with that from a
mental aspect in that in that gameor in that discipline. Yeah, because
if your mind has never practiced,what do I do when I'm feeling this
on mile twenty four? So theseagain keep mixing between the physical and the
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mental, but they're so so innerrelated that that that it's it's sometimes hard
to pull them apart. And likewhat you're saying, how about this one
fasting for twenty four hours. Youwant to talk about mental toughness. You
will not die by missing eating fortwenty four hours. When I have fasted
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in the past, it's easy tofast while you're sleeping, right, yeah.
Yeah. The people who practice fastingnow it's like, this is not
what we're talking about, because they'relike, I'm twelve hours fasted, Okay,
you went to bed, you sleptfor eight of them, so big
deal. So fasting for twenty fourhours forty eight seventy two. Again,
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you're not going to die. Butit's great for mental toughness because you know
that you can survive and that itwill not kill you, that you can
overcome the constant cravings of having togo into a cupboard and pull something out
to eat it because it is comfortableor routine. Well, the other thing
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is you can you cannot. Thisis not a game of comparisons. It's
not a life of comparisons. Idon't mean to say it's a game.
But when I watch in the past, the survivor the television series, there
would be these they formed team,and there'd be these dudes that are like
massive dudes, just like ripped andshredded. They could tear your head off
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with you know, their bare hands, and I would watch them throughout that
series physically fall crumble and be hadto like call it on the game because
they could not. Their routine waslifting and then having to eat to fuel
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what they have in that physique andto maintain that kind of strength. So
when I say it's not a gameof comparisons, everyone's going to come into
this with a different strength. Soyou might not be able to be that
guy, that muscle head that cando those things physically, but if you're
somebody, you might be that darkhorse or the small but mighty where you
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have the mental toughness to say Ican survive this, And it is interesting
to watch who can survive those typeof circumstances. And what you're really taught
talking about ties into buds basic underwaterdemolition training for seal candidates, And when
you read the books and the accountsof seals, they will often talk about
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those that fail buds are those greatextreme athletes that look like great gods and
they're super strong, but they don'thave the mental toughness to overcome the physical
adversity and the mental adversity that theyare facing. And that's why you'll often
see seals being smaller dudes and notthe big muscle bound But you know,
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it kind of ties into this aswell. Part one of the ways that
you can and try to also getyour mindset to be tougher. Go without
water. You talked about this asecond ago. How long can you go
without water? I'm really thirsty.I just ate a big tub of popcorn
or in the movie, and I'mdying of thirst. Well, can you
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go without drinking water for a dayand survive? Or if you find yourself
in a predicament where you don't havewater, will you die because you've mentally
exhausted yourself? How about this one? Stay cold from time to time.
There's nothing that kills an outdoor experiencelike being wet and cold. And we're
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not talking about hypothermia cold, butwe're talking about you know, temperatures that
are probably above freezing, but youknow they're not real warm. They're not
the set point that you would havein your house when you're abiding in your
abode. So yeah, I would. I would every once in a while
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go out and be cold for anhour or two, just so you know
that you can do it and ultimatelyget comfortable with being uncomfortable. We've talked
about this many, many times.These are all little things that you can
do. Suggestions of what you canpractice to get yourself a bulletproof mind,
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a mind that a mindset that isgeared towards surviving difficult things because your default
isn't I want to go to comfort. I'm a baby that wants my diaper
change. Otherwise I'm not going tobe happy. Remember garbage in and garbage
out. You will become what youdwell upon. Let's say that again.
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You will become what you dwell upon. As iron sharpens iron, so too
does a one man sharpen another.Think about it. If you're just running
around thinking about garbage things, aboutwhat you see in Instagram, why you
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don't like what you look like becauseyou don't look like somebody on Instagram or
Facebook that you think you should looklike. If you're looking at the constant
bad things that happen in the world, or the injustices that you see,
and all you hear is negativity,that is a surefire way to ruin your
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mindset. You become what you dwellupon. I'm reminded of Paul when he
says, whatever is true, whateveris honorable, whatever is just, whatever
is peer, whatever is lovely,whatever is commendable. Think on these things.
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And I struggle with this on aregular basis, because I too often
dwell on negative things rather than thegood things. And for those those of
us who have the spirit, thatis our greatest achievement. To dwell upon
that, that is our greatest comfort. And if you think about everything that
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you have that you've been blessed with, it is going to transform your mindset.
Finally, I encourage you to planin your mind to not give in
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and not to give up. Youhave to tell yourself when you're going through
these bad times that you'll be allright, and believe it. You know.
Several years ago in my own life, I found myself suddenly a single
father with four children that I wassuddenly responsible for, holly responsible for,
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and I was responsible for not onlymaking certain that they had meals, but
that laundry was being done and groceryshopping was being performed, and all the
goods for the house and kids runto and from different functions, and school
was being done. And still runningcompanies and still performing police duties. And
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those were extremely tough times not tomention the legal aspect and the financial aspect
of that brought those tough times tome and I lost many, many friends
where I only had really five peopleI think that I can count on one
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hand that were truly on my side. And I was probably in one of
the greatest tough times of my life. But I was able to overcome that
and eventually get to good times becauseI was fortunate enough to be mentored by
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men who had encouraged me to continuallypractice these little things, these little tokens,
if you will, for preparing yourmindset. And they came from all
walks of life. They came frommen from the Church that were mentoring me
spiritually, to law enforcement friends,to books that I read, and you
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know, I love that book DisciplineEquals Freedom by Jocko. He of course
wrote the Extreme Ownership series, butone of his famous sayings is that discipline
equals freedom. And I think thatoriginally was attributed to Socrates, but it
really is true. If you disciplineyour mind now, if you discipline your
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body now, you will survive almostninety nine percent of the tough times that
you find yourself in. So asI conclude my encouragement to you for being
on the offense for tough times.Do you donna have any final comments to
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add to some of what you alreadysaid when you're making a plan for saying
I want if you say, okay, I've heard what you said, I
want to have a more robust Iwant to have a tougher mindset because realizing
how that can mentally, emotionally,and physically take me down. One of
those things is is things you cancheck off the list? Who are you
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surrounding yourself with? If you findthat there are negative people? Look,
there are times in your life whereyou need to support a person who you've
truly loved who is also going througha difficult time. And you don't say
I'm eradicating you for my life becauseyou're being negative right now, you have
to take that in light of thewhole great point. But if you're finding
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yourself constantly in relationships where the personis putting out negativity, they've always got
some kind of crisis that it isjust ongoing over an extended period of time.
These are people that it's going tobe okay to step away from.
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So you got to figure out howto do that. Turn conversations on them
and start asking questions rather than justlistening. Do something bold and saying,
what do you think are some ofthe things even though this has been done
to you, What are some ofthe things that maybe you could have done
differently? Start asking them tough questions, push back a little bit, and
then maybe time to create some spaceand whatever. That relationship is also for
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reflecting on your own life. Whereare you? How are you in a
different place now than you were tenyears ago? Dan and I were talking
today about some of the behaviors andthings even on social media. I had
been a health coach and so therewere sometimes I was pushing the boundary of
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things that I thought maybe were lightheartedor fun or funny and was putting out
on my social account. And Iwas telling him today, you know,
my relationship with you has helped megrow into a person that I would just
make choices so much differently in howI'm communicating and what I'm putting out the
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message of my life that I'm puttingout to people now, and that has
been in huge part. I mean, yes, personal growth, but who
you have helped me to become.That is the testament too, when you
surround yourself by somebody that I lookat you and I see the greatness in
you. I want to be betterbecause of those people that I'm around and
those most fundamental relationships in my life. I can actually make check marks in
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where I am now and how Iam different than I was even five years
ago, certainly ten years ago.So if you as a person aren't able
to do that, and you say, I know, I'm pretty much living
the same life. I'm comfy,cozy. I'm even more comfortable because I'm
a little more financially solid, andyou don't see that growth in your life,
It's time to change something up becauseyou need. You need to not
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be forty nine or fifty years oldand hanging around the same people with the
same problems, complaining about the samethings that you were when you were twenty
something or thirty something. It isdetrimental to your life and you will not
live out your life's ultimate mission orpurpose if you're being anchored down by that
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in your life. The other thingyou mentioned, Okay, I'm on tough
times. I need to focus onthe good things. You rattled off a
bunch of good things, But actuallyone side to it that I was bringing
is not everybody has an amazing activespouse or a warm, comfortable home that
where they aren't worried about paying therent or the mortgage and those things.
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There were times in my life notthat long ago, where I didn't have
a lot of those big things thatbrought me comfort when I was having a
bad day, and so I thought, you know what, I can have
a pity party, or I cango I can pick one thing. And
I said today that thing is I'vegot a car that runs and it's got
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gas in it, so I canget where I need to go today and
I don't have a need to complain. That is a gift in my life.
And so sometimes those things that youneed to pinpoint to focus on because
a lot of stuff's going awry inher life. It might be small,
but that's going to be critical andfundamental in that moment to get you back
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into where you mentally need to be. Thank you for bringing that up,
because you are exactly right in whatyou just said. I'd like to add
a post scrip because I neglected thisand this is huge. Your mindset also
can be tied to those people thatyou have to be strong for. And
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when you think of mental mindset.I have to be strong mentally because there
are others that are depending on me, Some of them are vulnerable. I
have a special needs daughter and Ithink of her often as I am pushing
for making certain to survive difficult times. I still have children that are home.
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I have children that are grown butstill need a dad around to bounce
things off and to guide them.I have a beautiful wife. So don't
forget friends or family that you mustbe strong for and remember that they too
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can be part of your strategy ofbeing mentally prepared for tough time. That
is a strategy, but often wordto focused on self that bad stuff happens.
Go have the pity party, seriouslyhave it. Go to bed a
little early that night, and bemiserable for a little bit until you fall
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asleep. But know that what youpractice is exactly what Dan just said.
That helps me get out of thatover focus on self. To say I've
got I've got kids, I've gotpeople around me who you can either look
at that as a strain and anotherburden, or to say this is ridiculous,
I'm overly focusing on myself. Thisisn't all about me, and I'm
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of no use to any of theseother people if I'm going to sit here
into a puddle and a quagmire ofwhatever all my problems are. And it's
amazing actually the healing that comes throughthat when you make that one small change.
Remember to have a code. Developyour code, write it down,
and memorize your code. It couldbe as simple as five things. It
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can be as robust as a dozenthings. But right now, if you
do not have a code in yourlife, I challenge you, after you
listen to this broadcast, to getout of pen and paper and write those
buy bullet point by number, whatyour code is, what those boundaries are,
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what you will and will not succumbto, what you will and will
not do, and start becoming familiarwith those in your very life. As
we are wrapping up, remember politiciansneed to be held accountable to say things
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that are substantive and actually matter thataren't just word salad that are I don't
know linked in feel good meme leadership, posting sound bites as my gorgeous wife
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is putting her finger down her throat. But hold your local officials accountable and
challenge them when they are saying somethingthat is flippant listen to what they're actually
saying, and then go wait asecond. Yeah, So do all these
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things and remember, set your mindon good things. Prepare yourself for those
bad times which will come to allof us. None of us can escape
those bad times. Be prepared,be ahead of the curve, and as
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always, do the right thing.Please go to the Unspoken Podcast for more
details, or if you have questionsfor me or Donna on how you can
be better prepared for tough times,drop us an email at what is It
listeners listeners at the original Unspoken podcastdot com, and it is on our
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Instagram. So if you have ahard time like me, remembering long you
are l names will make it easyfor you. Yeah, if you follow
any of them, the Facebook page, the website, the Instagram, you'll
you can message us through any ofthose means. We'll get it now.
We have been chastised a few timesbecause we have smoked these sticks, which,
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by the way, I understand thatsome of you are not amused and
don't think it's appropriate that we shouldbe focused on cigars and whiskey during our
podcasts. Well you know what,I hear you, But who cares you?
Who are not recording this to winfavors by whether or not you think
we should or shouldn't be doing something. But the second thing that I get
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complaints about is we too often donot at the completion of our broadcast share
with them how we rated these cigarsthat we're smoking. So you are smoking
the Roja Roja taco breakfast taco.It's a figure odo. Man, I
should have been a Spanish major.Tell me, guitar girl, what you
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think of that cigar. It's soappropriate that you asked me this question because
I didn't know if I was interruptingthe clothes out of this episode by saying,
I have smoked this down to aboutas low a nub as you can
go on a cigar without burning yourfingers. I'm going to take a picture
of it right now. Yeah,it has been Sometimes you get halfway through.
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I can even say an expensive cigar, you get halfway through it and
it starts to have a bite toit, a bitterness. This has been
a smooth smoke all the way through. So this is one I'd even recommend
to if you're a beginner smoker.You're like, well, Dan and Donn
are doing this. I'm kind ofcurious about it. What smoke can I
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pull out of a cabinet If I'min a shop, I don't know what
to ask for. I would recommendthis because it is a relatively quick smoke.
I mean, you're not going tobe sitting there for three hours making
yourself sick. It all the waydown all the way down to the nub,
which now I've smoked enough now tosay that that actually doesn't happen as
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often as you might think, becausethere's for one reason or another they get
better towards the middle they do,and it price price point doesn't matter.
It can happen in all range ofcigars. So this has been great.
I recommend it. This Cao CharlesAdam Ocean. That's the acronym CAO Brazilia
cigar in the Robusto Maduro. Ittoo has been a fabulous, smooth,
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consistent cigar, little hints of aleathern coffee. I'm about two thirds of
the way done. It still hasa perfect ash. I've knocked off some
of the ash so that I don'tspill it all over my notes. I've
been spoke smoking these actually for aboutfifteen years, so I just recently purchased.
(01:01:21):
I don't know ten or twenty ofthem highly recommend these. We are
getting closer. I'm getting closer onfinalizing my unspoken podcast cigar. Would you
drop me a line if you're interestedin the cigar that we are going to
offer, let me know, becausewe're looking at quantities as we are finalizing
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all the licensing that you know goesalong with tobacco because the Feds and the
state regulate this, so it's along process. And then lastly, we
did not drink any of this diplomaticorum. Oh we never did. Never
did, because oh, I thoughtyou started with that as you went with
the Uncle Nearest. So in conclusion, Uncle Nearest eighteen eighty four small batch
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whiskey, it is a ninety threeproof I will be buying this again.
You and I first became, Iguess acquainted with Uncle Nearest at a Northern
Quest casino cigar function. Legends ofFire was that there at Northern Quest their
cigar lounge in the casino there,which is a beautiful lounge. They'll do
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events from time to time, andthat was when we first learned about Uncle
Nearest and were able to try itthen. So it's one that we've kept
in stock here in the new GreenDragon we have at our disposal, but
that was a good choice for thisepisode. Uncle Nearest, as it was
explained to us at the event,was the African American distiller who trained Jack
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Daniels, specifically the Jack Daniels youknow old number seven sour mash whiskey.
This is not a sour mash whiskey. This is made by Eddie Butter Butler.
We will be buying more of this. This is a great whiskey to
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sit around and drink with a largeice cube. It will be a party
favorite. And look how beautiful thatbobble is. Yeah, I mean,
in conclusion of this episode, youcan take since we've now wrapped us up
appropriately with our review of the cigarand whiskey, that it it's great to
celebrate the conclusion of this episode andhead into your your local store and get
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the Uncle Nearest eight. Yeah.It's a cream colored label. So for
those of you who are maybe likeme, we have a little fear of
going in because you're looking around likea newbie, or you don't know what
you're looking for. Whiskey section creamcolored label kind of a squarish bottle.
You got this gorgeous. We're goingto post a picture of it on the
Instagram. Now, remember we didnot descend from fearful men, but men
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who were mentally tough. Why werethey mentally tough because they focused on the
things that mattered. They prepared themselves. They also had a belief in an
almighty God who they had trusted.Now, go do the right thing.
Thank you for listening to this episodeof the Original Unspoken Podcast, recorded live
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