Episode 58 - “Filling the Needs of the Soul “ with Elona Lopari - Untethered and Prosperous

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Well, for me, it's fillingthe needs of my soul. I've already
overcome the money and all of that. That's what I thought it was.
That's like old paradigms I was ableto prove and I'm just like, oh,
that's it, Like this is notit. I keep searching. So
I really think it's like filling theneeds of the soul. That is why
I do so much philanthropy. Andnow that's kind of one of my main

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motivators for growing a business where Ican make an impact, because I think
that's the needs of the soul.You're growing, you're contributing. Tony Robin
speaks about these needs besides all theother needs that we need to fill,
you know, to strive, notto survive. I mean, it depends
where you are right in your life. But I think it's like the needs
of the soul of contribution and fulfillment. And I've seen that every time I

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make someone else, I hope someoneelse is where my you know, internal
happiness comes. Hey, it's wayand you're listening to Untethered and Prosperous,
the podcast where we focus on thetwo biggest things Passionate, purpose driven entrepreneurs
need to untether to become wildly prosperousand successfully happy. And those two huge

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anchors are bad money stories and chronicself sabotage. So what we do is
have real and inspiring conversations with amazingentrepreneurs who have done just that. So
get ready to get untethered and getprosperous. Hey, it's Wayne. Welcome
to another episode of the Untethered andProsperous Podcast, where it's all about helping

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you understand the value of becoming untetheredfrom your bad money stories or your chronic
self sabotage or anything else really thatis keeping you from your prosperous life as
an entrepreneur. Today, I havean amazing guest, a super successful but
very authentic guest on our episode today. Her name is Alana Lapari, and

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she helps mission driven service provider CEOsscale their six and seven figure businesses on
purpose through proven branding, marketing,sales, and team building strategies so that
they can build wealth and have lifestylefor them without sacrificing their mission. It's
very if you've been following our podcast, it's very much in alignment with everything

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that we're talking about. So I'msuper excited about diving deep, and so
without too much of an intro,because we're going to talk about all that,
let's go ahead and dive right in. Alana, Welcome to the show.
Wait. Thank you so much forcreating this amazing platform, and I
have definitely listened to a lot ofyour podcast episodes. I love all the

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amazing content and wisdom that you sharehere and also the quest that you bring
on and I'm super excited to sharemy journey with your audience in the hopes
that we're serving our community and reallyhaving people walk away with some really great
nuggets from our interview today. Thanksfor having me. I am super excited
as well, and thank you somuch for sharing that you actually did listen.

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You'd be surprised how many amazing guestswe have on here, and like
I haven't had a chance now.Granted, we connected really well and so
they was just very organic that wayanyway, but I so appreciate you taking
the time to actually listen, becauseyou know, you probably got to learn
a little bit about what I'm allabout and some of the other amazing guests
that so to ba able to shedsome maybe some different types of insights of

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what's going on. So let's setthe framework really quick, because you know,
this is how we started off togive the audience like an opportunity to
really understand your framework of the worldand how you look at things. Because
becoming untethered and becoming prosperous it's verysubjective because everybody has a different story to
untethered from. Everybody has a differentdefinition of what it means to become prosperous.

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So for you, Alana, Iknow your journey is really interesting.
I can't wait to dive into that, But what is what is your definition
of what it means to become untethered? M So for me, I love
that you you actually asked that question, and I'm so excited to share more
of my journey of how I gothere. But for me, the definite
is becoming untethered. It's really unravelingall the limitations, all the programming that

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alone no longer serves me for thevision that I'm trying to create and for
the life that I'm trying to create, and really every level that we step
into our growth, whether it's lifeor business, it requires for new untethering.
There's always new things that show up. So it's really staying conscious,

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staying you know, very aligned withyour work, your vision, and your
mission, so that the things thatshow up while you're impacting more people,
while you're growing and you're making thatyou know, impacting the world, you
are you becoming aware of those thingsthat show up that could stop you from
the limitless potential that we have.I've had the amazing experience of working with

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so many people over my experience,whether it was professional or personal. Because
my story derives from corporate I worked. I originally I am Albanian, that
is my native origin. You knowstory. I come from Albania. I
came here in the US when Iwas you know, fifteen. I'm one
of the oldest kids, so Ihad a typical immigrant parents' story. My

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parents came here, I grew upso too fast because I had to help
them, didn't speak the language andall of that. So traditionally in our
culture, I was raised as ahigh achiever. I was praised with my
achievements from my father particularly, soI thought that that's kind of the path
that I needed to take. Ineeded to go to college. There was
like one expectation that he made surethat you know, I you know fulfilled.

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So I went to college, didthe whole bachelor business management and finance,
and then grew in the corporate ladderand I was pretty successful that way
as well. I got married,I had my kids, I had the
house or two, you know,the white picket fence. But of course
all of that came, you know, to some sort of ending as far

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as of a journey, because Igrew unfulfilled and I realized that I had
a lot of personal things as faras alignment with what I was doing that
was not clicking anymore, and Ineeded to sort of transition or invent myself
into a whole new you know,being or transformation with the work that I'm
doing today. So for me andtethered is you know, overcoming overcoming you

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know, limitations that always are showingup due to our brain that a lot
of times does not help us,you know, in the growth that we're
trying to achieve and in the amazingimpact we want to make, and really
you know, staying conscious so thatwe are constantly working around those and managing
them, I would say, becausethey never really go away. It's about

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just managing them so that it doesn'tstop us from the service of the impact
that we want to make moving forward. Yeah, and I love your that
definition with the extra caveat at theend that it's just it's a lifelong journey.
It's not something that you just doonce, which I think a lot
of people approach personal develop personal growththey have one huge break and they think

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they're done for the rest of theirlife, not realizing that the amazing part
of being human is that we're wehave limitless growth, limitless possibilities, limitless
ability to evolve on so many differentlevels. And I love that story that
you shared. That is so notuncommon. It's like, you know,
so many people they they they stepinto that space, which is a perfect

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segue into the next question about prosperity. Is you know they they think that,
you know, kind of like I'mthe oldest in my family as well,
and so there was this expectation thatwe needed to kind of set the
standard of what it means to livethe American dream, right have Like you're
saying the fence, the white picketfence, and the you know, the

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the husband and the two and ahalf kids and the dog, and you
know, nine to five jobs successful, you know, blah blah, blah
blah blah, whatever that definition is. And I think the reality is so
many people, especially these days,I'm finding even my own business, I
see. I'm sure you see itwith your clients as well. So many
people are showing up saying I createda dream that's not mine, and they

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almost feel bad or guilty to kindof complain or just question like their success,
right, And I'm sure it soundslike you went through that same thing
too. I definitely did. AsI was about to make the pivot to
entrepreneurship, I remember everyone around meit's like, what do you mean You

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have a quite high, you know, six figure salary with what you do.
We like what you do. You'repretty successful. Are you sure you
want to just throw all of thataway and just go into this unknown territory
of entrepreneurship? Which was so funnybecause when you get a job, traditionally,
it's like everyone roots for you.When you start something new, it's

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like risk, It's like, areyou sure you want to do that?
Right? So I had a lotof that, so of course did not
help when you're trying to you know, I'm tether into a new journey because
how all have your insecurities and yourlife. I don't know what I'm supposed
to be doing and all of that, but one main thing, and I
love that you said that way becausemy platform is called the Life School.

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It came to me one of thevisions, and I feel like it was
really because at the end of theday, you know, as human beings,
life is the best school. Youknow, we go to traditional schooling
and we learned what we learn andwe're programmed to become super high engaged employees
and productive employees, but not we'renot really learning all the skills of the

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new world, I say, orthe way that we are all raised,
or un consciousness as human beings,of emotional intelligence, of overcoming you know,
our brain, like understanding our howour mind works, understanding how everything
is connected between beliefs and actions andall of that. So, you know,
I feel like with my platform isreally about life is really the main

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school that we go to and weget tested every day. We are faith
gets tested, our courage gets tested, we have challenges, we have stories,
things that come across, but allof that is just there to really
help us grow and learn. Soit's an ever changing, always evolving journey
which is why I call everything ajourney, even business growth, even you

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know, anything to do, it'sa journey. And I'll share with you
maybe at the end of the podcast, like one of my latest revelations that
I've had, because I'm also veryspiritual, so I do a lot of
inner work. And as the moresuccessful you become or the more you realize
or more alignment, I should saysuccessfully aligned. I think that's we need
to be wording we describe things.The more you align with your vision,

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and the bigger your vision is,the more you have to do a lot,
you know, more inner work becauseobviously you know you're going to have
a lot of that stuff showing up, and you have a lot of things
happening right around you. You havea lot more people. Now I have
a team to impact, I haveclient instant impact. So it's like it
becomes your responsibility to do this work, the inner work, which shows up

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into you know, manifesting the dayto day actions and the decisions that we
make day to day to move ourbusinesses and lives forward. Yeah, and
that I think that's a requisite,especially in entrepreneurship. You know that,
I feel like that what you're sayingis very much on point. I mean,
the distinction between entrepreneurship and being abusiness owner is very is very different.

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You know, there are people whocould just buy businesses owner and just
kind of go from there, right. I think the entrepreneur, the true
entrepreneur, recognizes down the road thatin order for my business to grow or
my purpose to grow, my careerto grow, I need to grow.
And those that struggle often one ofthe missing components is what you said right

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there, is they're not doing thework to optimize the human being behind it
all, which is you. AndI love that you're saying that. Whole
life so there's so much symbiotic typeof dynamic or what's the word is that
when two people walk the same pathwhatever that word is, um synergy,

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Yeah, like a synergy or alignment, you know, in terms of our
life path. Because years ago Ihad a whole separate organization called the Life
Oasis, which the main focus wasto have a university or school, because
school that we know of today theacademics, and it doesn't really teach us
about life. It just teaches usstuff like content, right, and maybe

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some discipline here and there. Whatit means to learn and and sometimes it
doesn't even do that at very well. And I think you're right there.
There needs to be And that wasmy vision as well, to create a
school for life like school outside ofthings. You know, Um that didn't
work. It worked for a littlebit and then until it stopped working.

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So so I'm glad you're doing that. Well we can reunite the start because
it is only I mean, witheverything that we do. It's so it's
so true because we need we needskills. I feel like I've come down
to everything that I've done to skillsand experience right, just just like anything,
we need the right skills, theright experience so that we can build
the right habits and have you know, the right results. So I've learned

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that just by studying people at thispoint and work with so many people that
you know, we everything is learnabout. We can reprogram ourselves, we
can relearn things, we can relearnhow to be you know, fulfilled in
our At the end of the day, I think we want fulfillment, you
know, because I've realized, Imean all the monetary all the you know,
financial things that we thought, youknow, maybe we'll give us happiness.

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It really comes down to relationships andhave a fill you are with the
impact you're making and helping other peopleachieve what they want. Right, So,
I think we're all looking for fulfillment, but we want it in all
the areas obviously, which is aone in our business, one in our
relationships, and our health and ourspiritual health, mental health, physical health,
right, all these different components.That may's life pretty much hollistic.

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Everyone uses the word holistic, butthe whole so that we can gain those
skills, practice them, and thenthe more we learn, the more we
share with other people. It's likeit's the gift that keeps on giving.
So I always say the more peopleare evolved, the more people self developed,
the better the world will be.Because there's nothing ever negative that comes

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out of someone that's constantly like workingon their vision, growing themselves. They
just want to be a good humanbeing, and they have much more faith,
and they have much more gratitude forlife. They always want to help
other people. So anyway, Ithink eventually that's kind of the will you
know, the peace in the world. It's like that's the piece I wish
the world that everyone's self grows anddevelops enough so that we raise our consciousness

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and really see one another as humanbeings, and we collaborate more than compete
in the old days, and youknow, work on abundance more than the
lack which I've seen growing up somuch. And I know you cover so
much on money or is here andkind of the things that impacted me.
But I've seen so much lack moneylack in my family that for the longest

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time, I'm like, in away, I turned it around and I
said, well, I need tobe financial free because if money is such
a big you know, it's sucha big thing in life, and it
gives you choices. And I alwayssaw my parents struggle and have so many
fights in the home because of that. I said, okay, so that
I need to make sure I workreally hard. I think that's where the

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drive take, Like I need towork really hard to make sure that I
never lack money and I have,you know, the right choices in my
life so that you know, Ican I can never struggle for that because
I saw so much struggle and lackof that as well. So anyway,
a lot of different topics topics inone, but it's all like life experience

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gain throughout the journey really so yeah, and that's a popular story that in
order for us to untether ourselves fromthe lack of money or from those challenges
our money, is that we haveto work really hard. And it's interesting
that you say that because that wassomething that I grew up with as well.
And the biggest things that you knowon our camp in terms of our

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clients is untethering them from that beliefsystem that we have to work so hard,
because you know what happens is ifyou have a good work ethic and
you and you and you do knowhow to work hard, there's still limitations
at a hard you can work,and when there's a direct correlation with how
successful you can be based on howhard you or this is why, this
is why people burn out. AndI think it sounds like you know in

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our previous conversation that you experience alittle bit of that when you were in
the corporate world, right you said, Okay, great, I'm seeing a
ceiling here. And it's interesting whenyou were talking about you know, when
your family and your friends are said, are you going to throw that all
away? And I think there's acouple of things. It sounds like there
was a couple of things going on, and I still love that despite all
that, you still move forward becauseI think so many people are and me

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in the past as well, areeasily swayed by the impact about the loads
that love and care for us,and they're really you know, I'm not
vilified that they're just doing the bestthey can. But it's almost like we
trigger them because they were doing somethingthat they kind of want to do but
are afraid to do. And thenthey justified by saying, are you going
to throw it all away? Butwhen you when you were saying that,

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this is what I kind of heard, which is in my distorted thinking or
a distorted listening process, is thatyeah, you may be throwing this current
career away, but by staying there, you're almost throwing away your dreams or
throwing away your purpose or your desiresor what you really want beyond what you

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have now. Yeah, and that'sexactly what happened. And again, I
see everything as a journey. Eventhen I saw and I'm like, I
have experience, I have skills.I always feel like whatever we have gained,
no one can take that away fromyou. Like it doesn't matter what
path you take or you know,however you kind of choose to go about.
But yeah, a lot of thatcame about, and you know,

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I always knew it was because theywanted to keep me safe. It came
from my my, you know,my closest my mom, you know,
my husband. Sometimes even though youknow, many ways it did encourage me
to take this path because it wasan entreprene I would hope so right,
so you know, but it reallyis it comes because of they just wanted
to keep me safe because you havewhat you know, traditionally they thought is

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the right thing. But it's it'sall right. And I'm I was very
curious as a child, so Ithink it really helps me with the work
that I do today. Is farlike my character. I'm like, well,
even if it doesn't work out,like I just still want to see
it for myself, Like I don'twant to take other people's words for things,
and I just want to experience itbecause I love life experience. At

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the end of the day, Istill get, you know, a lot
of wisdom out of failures or thingsthat don't work out. And I don't
even see anything as a failure anyway. It's all the lessons that we learned.
We can't grow without failure, right. I mean, you and I
both know this, that failing weI don't know about you, but I
kind of look forward to failure becauseit's an opportunity for me to grow and

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learn. Again, it's when wedon't fail fast, let me get good
at failing, because that's how you, right, exactly, fail fast,
get good at failing. Otherwise you'regonna you're not gonna get good at growing,
right because every time you fail,you have to get up. And
when you get up, you growjust that one inch taller, all right,
you or one inch bigger, right, And and if you don't fail

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enough, and this is what happened. You know, we've all seen the
pretty amazing perfect people growing up.Right, They've never get and they never
failed. They never They're like perfectat everything, and then that one time
that they failed, like their wholeworld crashes down. It's like, oh
my god, I'm not perfect.Oh yeah, And I feel like with
kids, we need to teach thisas well, because I feel like,

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you know, they grow up intothis, they can't handle the pressure sometimes
or like the resilience that they needto build their life. Not everything will
go the way that you know,you wanted to go, but you grew
through that experience, right, Soyeah, fail forward. The more the
more lessons, the more wisdom,the more I have to share, the
more I can you know, create, the more I can impact people.
So to me, it's like,bring it on. I'll go through it

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first and then share it. Ilove it. And you know, and
this is what I say to mystudents and clients all the time. You
know, we learn we learn nothingfrom our successes, but we learn everything
from our failures. Success is simplya demonstration or proof that we learned from
a previous failure. You know,success is really the catapult the momentum that

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you build by failing, like right, failing forward right, Yeah, that's
really fail forward right on the outside. So yeah, success is really that
big win is really there because youalready tested like fifty ways to kind of
that work and you just never giveup. Yea, and that and that's

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why they use that at um.You know who is it Edison that you
know who was made you know thelight bulb right in terms of he like
nine hundred ninety nine times and andthen it was on the thousandth time or
something like that. And I musthave completely messed up that quote, but
whatever, you know what I mean. Yeah, you're just reminding me another
one. I just read recently thatyour average billionaire goes bankrupt three point five

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times in their lifetime. Right,Oh my gosh. Okay, so I
haven't gone bankrupt yet, so I'mstill I'm behind. I'm behind if you
want to call it on you.But it's all going to be a big
less I've got. I know,you know what, I've gone metaphorically bankrupt
in a variety of different ways,so maybe that counts. It doesn't have
to be an actual bankruptcy. Itcould be a metaphorical right right right,

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exactly metaphorically bankrupt, go metaphorically bankrupt. So so let's talk about that piece
right there. You know, itsounds like you've really stepped into more of
what you define as a process life. So let's let's hear that. What
is your definition of what it meansto be prosperous? And I heard a
little bit of it. You saidthat it's not just your business, it's

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also your life. It's everything aroundyou that contributes to that definition of what
it means to be prosperous. Becauseso many people just say oh, money,
it's prosperity. It's like it's alittle bit more than that. Right,
it sounds like, well, forme, it's filling the needs of
my soul. I've already overcome themoney and all of that. That's what
I thought it. Well, that'slike old paradigms I was able to prove

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and I'm just like, oh,that's it, Like this is not it.
I keep searching. So I reallythink it's like filling the needs of
a soul. That's why I doso much philanthropy, and now that's kind
of one of my main motivators forgrowing a business where I can make an
impact, because I think that's theneeds of the soul you're growing, you're
contributing. Tony Robin speaks about theseneeds besides all the other needs that we

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need to fill, you know,to strive, not to survive. I
mean, it depends where you arewriting your life. But I think it's
like the needs of the soul ofcontribution and fulfillment. And I've seen that
every time I make someone else,I hope someone else is where my you
know, internal happiness comes, whetherit's for salvised business, whatever it is.
So it's really that impact that Ifigured out that it's like the main

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you know, the main contributor tomy soul's fulfillment. And I only want
to do the soul work. Ionly want to do work that really fills
my soul nowadays. Yes, Ilove that you know the needs of the
soul. I think you're the firstone I've ever heard to say in that
way. And I think as asas an even more poetic way to talk
about living on purpose, right becauseyou know, if you're everything that you're

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doing every single day feed your soul, you can't help but thrive and fly.
You know, you're lifted every singleday. And it's interesting because right
now you're at a point where you'reyou've transitioned kind of you know we were
talking about this, is that youtransition out of what it means to just
survive in the world, you know. And it's interesting because when you your

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family immigrated here, it was justabout what we do, what we need
to do to survive. Let's justsurvive. And I think so many people
are stuck in that, and evensome people that I've met. You know,
there are six seven, eight figuresand they're still in constant survival mode,
which is strange, and I thinkthat's what it has to do with,
you know, when there's a selfsabotage pattern or bad money story running

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right. Yeah, so your businessright now high semi figures. You've obviously
proven to your friends and family thathey, it was a good idea from
your step away from that corporate world. The best revenge. Not that we
have to take revenge on our lovedones, but you know, it's just
kind of to show them, hey, there was the fears were unfounded,

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right, So in spite of solet's talk a little bit about that.
Okay, where what did you haveto untether from primarily when it's like bad
money stories or chronic self sabotage patternsor family loved ones and they're still worries
to create what you have today.And let's talk a little bit about what
you are doing today to create thishigh level of a thriving and prosperous lifestyle.

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Yeah, and it's all become It'sso true what you said with you
know, it's not really the successexternally that we experience that changes the way
we of being the way we arebecause we can pretty much take those old
thoughts and patterns with us to eightfigures, nine figures and million figures.
Right, So at one point,you know, it does become about strategy,

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right, So we want to somepeople figure that out, but they're
not happy. So we know somany millionaires, billionaires that you know,
are not meeting the needs of theirsouls, and of course I'm not happy
because of that. So I thinkit's a transformation you go through, which
is I'm so addicted to, youknow, always uncovering. I'm always surrounding
myself with you know, mentors,people that are pretty much holding up mirrors

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for my blind spots of what's comingbecause I don't see the things that might
be holding me back and blocking me. But more than that, that's more
like you know, a lifestyle.It's it's really every day kind of you
know, noticing my thoughts, beingconscious of how I'm thinking, and I
can I tend to I can getyou know, to back to lack and

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oh my god, this is somuch work or oh my gosh, like
what do I have to do toget to the next level? Work harder,
hustle hard like I could get intothat if I'm not conscious. That's
why my my mindfulness techniques and mypractice, my habits, my daily habits.
It's what keeps me centered and sayingat all times. I'm always creating

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time to kind of, you know, um, stay quiet with myself and
listen to my new intuition. AndI'm always investing into energy, into visions,
how to you know, and tethermy subconscious and all of that.
So I'm always gathering tools. Ifeel like, the more you know,
I grow through the journey, I'malways gathering tools to kind of help myself
through all those limitations that constantly willcome up, so that I am aware

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at least, right that's the firststep. Awareness. I can't promise every
day you know, I'm successful withit, but at least I have that
awareness. And for those times thatI don't catch it, I try to
stay very present and curious with myself, well what's blocking me? He or
why is this? You know,the thing that I don't want to do?
And usually procrastination it's always a goodindicator, I realized, So like

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anything I'm procrastinating, it's like,okay, let's just like let's just like
meditate a little bit over here,see what's going on. So you know,
a lot of like different practices likethat that just becomes second nature.
That's why I speak so much abouthabits. It's like they become, you
know, habitual. If I don'tdo that, I know that, you
know, I'm not like balance orcenter, So which is you go to

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what's familiar, and then your familiarchanges as you go, as you grow,
and then you make new patterns andnew routines and that becomes you're familiar
and then that doesn't serve you again. You got to go and grow.
So untethering never stops, you know, for those that are driven, you
know, And I love that whatyou said there, it's it's a high

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level of self awareness. And Ithink what's so amazing if you're listening to
this, I hope you caught thatgemstone there, which is what Alana was
just saying, is that you know, there are days when you're saying you
you wake up and you're very human, You're like, you know, I
don't want to do this, andI you know, this is like blah
blah blah, and there's that negativespin, and I think that is absolutely

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normal. I think this is weirdexpectation that if you invest a lot into
deep personal work and working through yourdemons, and your baggage and everything like
that, that all of a sudden, you're gonna wake up one day and
you're never gonna have negative thoughts everagain, which is which is ludicrous.
Oh my gosh, wait, youjust reminded me one of my mentors.

(28:56):
I've told me life is fifty tofifty. No matter what you go through,
we're all going through a human experience. We're gonna have the positive you
know, the things we want tocreate and empower ourselves, the positive emotions
and the negative emotions, and we'realways going to have them both. So
as long as we are physically presenthere in the earth as human beings,

(29:18):
we're gonna have both experiences. SoI think a lot of times the stay
present with the negative feelings as wellis where the courage comes into, because
we tend to want to shove themaway, push them away, have this
toxic positivity a lot of times becausewe hear like so much of a positivity
like oh positive. Yeah, I'mlike sounding really negative right now, and

(29:38):
I allow myself to just like vent, you know, in a safe container,
because I'm human, like I don'twant to hold on to all of
that. And then I'm kind oflike you know, shoving it in or
doing other things which are not healthyfor you. Right, So it's just
a lot we revolved to feel.Yeah, to feel all the feelings honestly,
and you know the ones that arenot serving you, just stay aware,

(30:03):
to meditate on them, get curiousabout them, and then slowly try
to untether yourself, help yourself throughone little you know. Um Untethering reminds
me like in my country, wehad like the buildings and then I don't
know what you call it in English, but like it just slipped my mind.
But it's like the small little thingsyou untether, like slowly but slow,

(30:23):
like when you're building out stuff.Yeah, such a process, and
some days are better than others.But I think it's really allowing ourselves to
be human and have all the feelings. And honestly, I've timed myself and
I got a feeling only last liketwo seconds, but it feels like a
whole day. I can seconds ilpyou all right, Well, yeah,

(30:49):
but it's intense. It becomes veryreal. I mean, time, you
know, as we define it tobe, is very much a man made
construct. And so those two secondI love that you mentioned that because before
we knew what time was all about. Every moment was infinite, and so
even though it's like two seconds orthree seconds, it's you're right, it
still feels a really long time becauseespecially if it taps into that inner child

(31:12):
that has no concept of time,and every moment is experienced just like so
profoundly and infinitely that time doesn't evenmatter anymore. And so it's a really
interesting thing. I'm glad you broughtthat up because I think so many people
they lose sight of the reality ofit, the concept as the scriptures would

(31:33):
say, and this two shall passright and not realizing that it will pass.
And you know what the reality is. I think what you're sharing was
so beautiful. Is that and fromyour mentor as well, is that that's
nature? You know? With Canyou imagine in being like daytime all the
time? I mean some places inthe world are like that, but and
you see the difference in the typesof people that live there. But there

(31:55):
without day, there's no night withoutnight, there's no day out black,
there's no white without yin, there'sno yang. And so when we're positive
all the time, Yeah, you'reright, it creates this toxic imbalance.
When we're not willing to embrace thefact that within ourselves there's nuclear forces that
strong and weak states. It's justconstant, and it's as long as we're
alive, we're going to experience it, right. Yeah, it's the question.

(32:17):
There's seasons to everything. There's seasonsto every exactly right, like the
seasons and business isn't in life andand and actually I've come to predict them.
Every time there's like a rainbow,it's like, Okay, something's going
to come that I need to growfrom. So it's just like kind of
like understanding that it's all cycles.It's all cycles. It's a process.

(32:38):
That's why are you talking about metaphoricalrainbow? Like everybody has their own rainbow,
it might rainbow too. Yeah,rainbow for me is like everything is
working out the way I want it, and everything's going well, and family
is healthy and relationships are good,business is growing, right, So it
depends where my priorities are because obviouslywith different seasons we shift our different priorities

(33:01):
and different focuses. So anyway,that's that's the perspective of rainbow for me.
And I'm like, okay, winter'scoming, something's gonna come, and
the change of seasons in perspective,it's so amazing too, because it's like,
just like you said, you know, now I've come to like like
the challenge too, because it's likewhoa, Like I'm gonna overcome that as

(33:23):
well. You know, it justbecomes like one of those things that you
just look forward to in a wayand to kind of appreciate the rainbows even
more because it's like I'm grateful thatI'm going through that because a lot of
times people we lose perspective the natureof human beings, Like as soon as

(33:43):
we get something, we're like alreadyon the next thing, which is like
such a thing to look out for. Because sometimes I catch myself with that
as well. I'm like, okay, I've been there, dumb then,
especially high achievers, you know,we have this problem that we're just like
moving on to the next thing.And I'm like, in my way,
I'm like, hold on the universe, Like you didn't even appreciate what I
gave you. You're ready on tolike to the next thing. So yeah,

(34:05):
it's like look at the rainbow.Look at the rainbow. Look at
rainbow, right, I Mean it'slike hearing it's like here in California,
because I know your East coast itdoesn't rain as much as it does on
the East Coast, but I meanit depends on where you're in East coast.
Actually no, yeah, it rainsa lot over there, right,
so yeah, yeah, so inCalifornia. It never rains in southern California,

(34:27):
as you know, but like thatsong, but no, it rains
here. And I know and I'mexcited when it rains because one, it's
cleansing. It gives me excuse toreally kind of step into a nostalgic place
and just kind of admire nature atits work. And then when the stun
starts to come out, just likewhen you said a rainbow commit indication winter
is coming, it could also bean indication that the rains are leaving and

(34:49):
the sun is coming, right,So it's it's so cool. I love
that metaphor and I'm going to makesure we emphasize that in the show notes
for the people to remember that everybodyhas their metaphorical rainbow, and if you
can calibrate on that, it's agreat way to have the universe give you
feedback that hey, this two shallpass and you are about to step into

(35:09):
something cool. And different a newseason if you will, right like you're
saying, yeah, and you canget to reinvent yourself. You've become even
stronger and you just like test yourlimits at all times. So it's all
good stopped for sure, all goodstuff. So let's talk about one more
question I have for you. IsI know you are doing fantastically well in

(35:31):
your business, helping, you're changinglives, you're creating, you're living on
purpose, and yet based on whatI'm hearing from you, there's probably more
to come. So my question iswhat is the next big leap? What
is the next big thing for you? And more importantly, what is the
next big untethering that needs to happen, whether it be a bad money story,

(35:51):
yourself sabotage, pat or anything atall that is literally keeping you from
that next big leap. And likeif we untether you from that today,
that you would have all that today. Yeah, that's a great question,
and that's exactly what I'm working through. Is I'm growing to over seven figures,
trying to get into the next spaceand make that bigger impact. There.

(36:12):
A lot of success fears are comingup, a lot of you know
success you know when you're successful,slowly the people that are in your life,
are they there for the right reasons? You start questioning things, relationships,
things that maybe served you at acertain point in your path. You
start questioning things around you, andyou know, you just kind of like

(36:36):
try to understand whether you have theright things around you and the right people
around you for the right reasons.And being an overachiever ad to work a
lot around you know, I amworth All My achievements don't make me who
I am. It's because the personthat I am, and I have to
detach a lot of that because,like I said, I grew up with

(36:58):
a lot of every time I achievethat was praised. I'm like, okay,
So in order to me to beworth something, I always have to
make money, do things men doingyou know. Wow. Yeah, you
know, always help people and kindof financial thing was always a thing for
me. That's like my way ofhelping other people, you know, financially,
and make an impact with that wayas well. So I'm tell a
lot of that, a lot ofthat, and with this level right now,

(37:21):
a lot of that's coming up still, you know, getting a lot
of different things in my life andthe relationships mostly and it's like, and
I'm testing sometimes, you know,to protect myself. So I think that's
that's another thing that we do,testing all the relationships and see, okay,
are you here for the right reason? Are you here? Yeah?
And how is that showing up?I mean, give me some examples how

(37:45):
that's actually showing up, that's bringingyour attention to Oh I need That's something
I need to be working on becauseI think a lot of people they can
articulate, they get to a pointwhere they can articulate what some of their
untetherings. I need to have anor blocks, right. And and then
when I asked a question sometimes likewell, how does what does that look
like? Because I'm just curious,right, And it's hard. It's hard

(38:07):
to it's hard to go there sometimes. So for you, what does that
look like when when you are beingwhen it brings it to your attention?
Like, oh, yeah, that'ssomething I got to work on. Personal
relationships are sure you know my partner, that's always like a thing even though
there's so much trust moving together tomany many years, right, But I've
always tested always so because we dothat because you know, we want to

(38:29):
make sure that it's a committed thingand all of that, and we have
the security in the relationship and acertaining that we need. So I would
say personal relationships for sure that Iam reevaluating based on parent circumstances and just
like staying more lethargic, like diligent, more intuitive. I've grown my intuitive

(38:49):
skills as well in the journey,which I love, which helped me so
much with you know, my decisionmaking, so like intuitively feeling out the
energy and all. I think it'sbecause I'm also so much more aware now,
So it's like feeling out or peoplethat come into my life, whether
it's clients or like team members oryou know, any other collaborations, whatever

(39:10):
kind of surrounds me kind of kindof like intuitively feeling more things rather than
just like you know, jumping intothings. I'm more like to lay back
and kind of just analyzing and likeseeing, you know, where things are
fitting. Because I'm also a visionary. I'm a big picture person. So
for me, it's like, Okay, where does this fit with what I'm

(39:31):
trying to do and where I'm tryingto grow. So I'm constantly evaluating that.
But yeah, a lot of timesI do fear the loneliness, And
I'm like, oh my god,Like you know, the one percent and
two percent, it's like, there'snot even that many people. Of one
percent of seven seven points, I'mout billion is still a lot of people.

(39:51):
So it's not as lonely as youwould think as lonely. Can you
look at it that way for sure? But yeah, I just have So
this is kind of what I'm working. Yeah, and you know what that's
it's it's again, it's it's notan uncommon one too, because you know,
and and we end up doing alot to make sure that we're not

(40:14):
alone up there. And and itfor me, I know, and a
few of my clients that I havegone through that crossing that threshold from seven
to eight, there's that that lonelinesspiece that actually sabotages that crossover that threshold.
So you just play just a littlebit smaller so that you can keep
relevant so to the people that arecurrently around, right, And I think

(40:37):
what's interesting is we often find thatthere's a whole host of people waiting on
the other side, waiting for youto cross that threshold and then to to
welcome you with open arm, soto speak. So it's a it's a
really interesting and of course all that'sdriven by story and everything like that.
So yeah, I love that youshared that because it's not it's not an

(40:57):
easy thing to share, and Ithink a lot of people will resonate with
that piece, especially those that arein a similar position high six figures,
high seven figures, and they're ata point where they find themselves unconsciously holding
back without even awareness to you wereable to consciously articulate, which is there's
that loneliness and it does show up. And I think in any journey,

(41:19):
every time there's a growth, you'regoing to feel a little bit lonely.
Nobody came into this world together withsomebody else, hand in hand through the
mother's womb. Everybody came into thisworld alone. That I actually do think
that, and I like that youactually think of it that way. I'm
like, we all loners in thejourney. Of course, we can let
memories, people, relationships, allof that experiences, but at the end

(41:39):
of the day, I think ourvisions come to us. And that's kind
of what I wanted to share withyou as well, my latest, you
know, vision realization that we allcome to life. I think our journeys
preset, you know, we fromwe couldn't believe in you know, whatever
religious practice we we choose that everyhis choice. But I feel like our

(42:00):
journey is pretseet. So now lifejust becomes about kind of just raising our
awareness, raising our awareness and tetheringourselves, you know, trying to reach
you know, the limitless potential becausethat journey is so wide open for us.
So everything that happens to us,we're all as human beings trying to
connect the dots and piece things lives, circumstances, you know, things that

(42:22):
happen to us, so that wecan constantly arravel, ravel and kind of
get to that ultimate vision or tothe ultimate thing that it's already like laid
out for us. That's why Idon't believe in competition. I don't believe
it, you know anything, youknow, black, none of that anymore.
I'm like, whoa, there's like, there's so much out there now.

(42:42):
I just have to grow and transformmyself into overcoming those hoops, as
you said, with every new leveland stage and awareness, so that I
could, you know, kind ofstay on that path of my journey.
And it's so unique and authentic tome based on even my gifts, the
things that I do naturally, thethings that I'm interested in, talents,
things that I've been handed because that'sanother thing that I have learned among my

(43:07):
journey. I've discovered so many thingsabout me that I didn't know I was
good at just by putting myself throughexperiences. So right now it's become my
mission of like uncovering how many morethings are inside of me and how many
more I need to showcase and youknow, make that bigger impact out there

(43:27):
in the world, and trying toalways stay very focused and very aligned with
that journey. I think that's whatit means to me to be purposeful into
your own journey and to take dayby day, you know, as that
those golden blocks that you're just constantlypiecing together to get to that ultimate vision
where we obviously physically leave the planet. I believe that there's you know,

(43:51):
life after that's spiritually and all ofthat self. Yeah, yeah, I
call it. You know, theimpact that you lead behind is an essence
of you, the energetic imprints thatyou've created through living a purposeful life,
you know, and it's such abeautiful revelation that you share and I'm grateful
that you remember to share that,and so I kind of actually want to

(44:12):
end with that revelation because it's socool, you know, but because you
know, we run out of time. We actually went over time, so
as expected as I knew you andI were just going to go. So
you know, someone's going to belistening to this Alana and they're going like,
Wow, she sounds amazing. Itotally resonate with a lot of what
she's saying, and I want toexperience more of what she's all about.

(44:35):
I want to learn more. Iwant to be part of her world.
What is the best way for peopleto engage and connect with you so that
they can experience more of you?Yeah, no, absolutely, I would
invite your audience on a journey withme in my community. I have a
thriving Facebook community it's called Badass MissionDriven Entrepreneurs, and also my podcast The

(44:57):
Life School Master Class Show, whichI can find anywhere. So those are
the best places to you know,get to know me a little bit better.
Awesome, and we're going to makesure that all those links are below
in the description of this episode,so make sure you click through and jump
in the Facebook group too. It'sfree, right or is it? Is
it free to jump into that?Yeah? Perfect? And then to be

(45:20):
part of a community that are badassand purpose driven and why not right,
And that way you can experience hermore. And then if you want to
go even deeper, I'll make sureyour link, your website link should be
down there, your podcasting, soall these different ways that you can learn
more about Alana. So, Alana, thank you so much for sharing your
wisdom, your revelation, the beauty, the metaphors. It's so good.

(45:45):
I knew this conversation was going tobe amazing, and I do appreciate your
vulnerability authenticity around it all that despiteyour current level of success, you are
still undeniably human in your continue journeyand it's I'm so looking forward to what
unfolds for you next. So thankyou so much for sharing. Thank you

(46:07):
so much for having part of yourcommunity. And I always say, if
we served one person today, thenit was all worth it. So thanks
so much for having me. Itwas absolutely we need is one right,
All we need is one? Allright? Thank you? Check out Alana
at all the links below, andthen we'll just connect with you to the
next episode. And that's it forthis episode. Thank you for listening,

(46:34):
because you listening is what inspires ourguests and me to continue doing what we
can to help untether and elevate morehuman beings to new heights of prosperous success.
Now, if what you heard todayinspired you to want to finally untether
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