Gay Porn's Christian Wilde and Asher Day Get Real

Another Fleshbot LIVE is now available, and boy-oh-boy was it a doozy. Our host and Fleshbot X Cybersocket Director Alexander knows his way around a microphone (and then some) and is joined by sexy porn star guests Christian Wilde and Asher Day, and what we wouldn't give to see these two play out the perfect stepdaddy-stepson dynamic duo. What was that? You can over at Adult Time in their new scene Freshman F*ck? F*ck yes. Alexander steers the conversation to the edge and back as the guys share all varieties of juicy secrets and hot goss with us. And of course, Christian and Asher answer questions coming in piping hot from their adoring fans.

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Um, okay, today, wegot your daddy, We got your
twink who incidentally starred together an OatsieFreshman fuck for Adult Time, which the
review just went live on our sitetoday. We're gonna get a little wild
today. Get it okay, whatever? Please welcome. Christian Wilde was a

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longtime veteran who has seen the industrychained significantly since he started fifteen years ago
as a pan sexual performer. Hehas done and seen it all. Mm,
we're gonna talk all about that.Oh look at a little baby,
just a little baby. Then,and our other guest, although asher Day
is a relative newbie to the scene, He's already filmed with Say Uncle,

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Noir, Mail Kinkman, and manymany more. He's also the writer of
our new flesh spot, twink Tales, which is a new bi monthly column
coinciding with our sites Twink Month,and you're gonna want to read his column.
It's a literally it's like a sexin the city. It's like today
on the beach, and it's sohot and sexy you need like four boxes
of clinics just to read through it. So please welcome Asher Day and Christian

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Wild talk from him. Okay,I want to talk early beginnings, before
even porn was a thing, Likewhat kind of kid were you? So,
like, what kind of kid wereyou two years ago? Because you're
a kid two years ago? Iwas five years old. No, Like,
were you like this rambunctious kid?Were you quiet? I mean I

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didn't, like, I didn't playsports, and like stayed in like at
home. I lived an hour awayfrom my high school, so I didn't
really like get our away. Yeah, I lived like forty five minutes away
from my high school. Yeah,so I was like in a different valley
than all my friends, and solike I kind of just stayed home and
played in the forest. I guessin the forest. I lived in Idaho
during high school. So yeah,was that fun for you? No?

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No, no, it was prettyBut you know, I was the only
gay kid in my high school,so well that you know that I was
out, you know, and thefirst one to come out, the only
one. I didn't come out tillcollege. So all trow high school we
had that one gay kid that weall were like ah, but secretly we're
like yeah, yeah, yeah,so me yeah, okay, all right,
now you sir, where did yougrow up? I grew up in

(03:52):
the Bay Area. Okay, it'spretty affluent, pretty cultural, pretty open
um. Yeah, very much so, very diverse, lots of different experiences
growing up. Now, were youlike this quiet, stern kid? I
just think of you like I wasan rotc. I tended to be very
parents liked me. I knew howto put on charm when I needed to,

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and I knew how to like makemyself seem like not in the way
and not a not a burden,not a hindrance. Yeah, so like
the girls would love to take youto their parents, but also like be
doing everybody naughty. Wise, Ilove that economy, it's like, you

(04:34):
know, the nice guy that youcan bring home, that's responsible whatever,
But that's like crazy in the sheath, it was totally Yeah, it was
a planned kind of you know,it was a manipulation of a deep psychological
kind because I knew that I wantedto do naughty things. And if I
was looked at as like a good, respectable, polite, kind young man,

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then they wouldn't suspect anything from me. All about it? If I
say the best people in bed areMormons because they have like all of this
energy, and then they're playing againstthat type. I mean, it's like
whoa, yeah, very pent up? Yeah yeah, yeah yeah. So
when did that sexual revolution kind ofstart? Like how young were you?
How how did it manifest itself?Very young? Like I discovered masturbation through

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humping, and like I didn't usemy hand for the first while, or
I would use like those giant neckvibrators, the handheld ones that you would
like rub along your back. Iwould just right up against my dick,
against my stomach, and I wasorgasming but not coming yet. Oh how
young were you ten? Oh?My god? Probably yeah, yeah,

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And then I actually started the firsttime ejaculated. I thought I broke my
dick. I was in the grocerystore bathroom. That's insane. So I
was raised by a single mom.We never talked about sex. So the
first time I came, I thoughtI was dying. I thought like,
oh my god, it's supposed tobe read for blood. My ex actually
went to his mom with it inhis hand and said, look, this

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came out of me, and shewas like, oh my god. Oh.
I was terrified. I thought Iwas gonna have to tell my father
that I broke my penis and somethingis wrong because stuff is coming out now,
because I had already been a orgasmwithout any sort of ejaculate, and
it was Yeah, it was terrifying. No, what do you attribute that
like energy to at such a youngage. Was it your environment? Was

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it just just I can remember asa teenager, as a young teenager,
especially twelve thirteen, like I lostmy virginity at twelve. I was horny
all the time. I mean,just what's not insane? It had happened,
but it was maddening, like tothe levels of how horny I would
get. I could walk around andit was like I can't even think straight.

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I'm just I feel crazy and tonot have like the language. Yeah,
nobody talked to me about it.Nobody told me anything about it,
nobody told me what to expect.I couldn't talk about sex either, and
nobody ever approached me. It waskind of this weird off. It was
a taboo subject to approach or youmade fun of it. It was like

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a lot of jokes of in highschool or middle school about sex, but
never any kind of serious like whatdo you actually do? You know?
Yeah, yeah, yeah crazy?And you when did your kind of sexual
I mean, I've been getting introuble for playing with other boys penises my
whole entire life since six years old. You were like that kid's like,
oh god, he wants a sleepoveragain. Like I remember, like my

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mom catching me outside our window becauseI had my hands down my brother or
not my brother, my friend's pants. No, no, this is doctor
Phil. Everybody my friend's pants.I remember getting in trouble for that.
In trouble for I was playing withthe boys penis when he was playing video
games at daycare and he had hair, and I just that boggled my mind,
and so I brought it up duringdinner one night on accident, and

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I got in trouble for that.I've always been playing with boys penises haven't
stopped. No, I have not, No, But like I didn't lose
my virginity until I was like eighteen, but like I've been sucking dick since
I was twelve. So that's crazy. Like for somebody that came out so
late and didn't have like any ofphysical that's just crazy. And it's never
had any sort of physical interactions withguys. No. No, in high

(08:20):
school, I dated girls because Istill wasn't even out to myself, So
I mean that was that, butlike gay stuff not until a college and
the first time I had analsex itwas so horrifying. I didn't try it
again for another six months because nobodytaught me how to do anything, and
it was such a horrific experience,Like I never wanted to do it ever.
Can you talk about that? Yeah, So I believe it or not.

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I'm a top And the person Iwas with is did you just play
that? How dare you sorry?So? The bottom I was with is
a very he's he's a power verse. He's still my best friend. But
we were together the time and itwas the first time, and I was
like, I can't tell him,like, this is my first time.
And I didn't know anything about likelube. I didn't know anything about like

(09:01):
slowly whatever. So I was justlike boom, He like I guess blacked
out. In his instinct was totront and punch me, so he punched
me and then I blacked out andthen like I kind of came out of
him, but not so it bentit. I mean, it was just
horrific. He's like what the fuck? And I was like, oh no.
They started to cry and then Iwas like I was like, hmmm,
So six months until I even broachedagain. Because I didn't know.

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I grew up in Catholic high school. It's not like I could even like
watch porn to learn or open upbook or go online. It wasn't that
way at all. We're talking aboutlike a well, chat rooms like yeah,
I mean it was like that.I didn't want to ask could you
go and like watch some some pornor nope check it out? Nope,
you didn't want to. The onlyporn I ever owned, just high school
through college was a DVD that somebodyhad left on you know, a playground

(09:48):
somewhere it was called big Tits BigClips. That was my only exposure.
I mean like, if that didn'tscare me, I was like, is
this little shop of horrors or aport like? I don't know. Okay,
So when you were in middle schoolhigh school and you first start discovering
your sexuality, how are you areyou recognizing that you're more attracted to boys
and girls but just not admitting itto yourself because you don't want it to

(10:11):
be true or what's I was alwaysfascinated by looking at at bulges, like
in corduroy shorts, in the nylonshorts. I was just fascinated. I
would go to the JC Penny catalogbecause that was the only like it had
men in underwear. That was theads, and I would just stare and
stare and stare. That's what Iknew, but I didn't. I didn't
put it with affection or emotion.But when I dated girls in high school,
I was physical, like fully physical. It wasn't enjoyable, sure,

(10:37):
you know, but it was noemotional connection. I didn't get hot and
bothered. I was just like,okay, you're just going through the motions,
right, But you didn't know thatit didn't feel the way it was
supposed to feel one hundred percent,and that I was just fascinated by staring
at guys as muscles and bulges,but not in like, oh I want
to do this, Like I hadno clue. Yeah, like I didn't
know that, like guys sucked eachother off, Like it just didn't didn't
ret red. Start. When wasyour first exposure or to homosexuality in college?

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Wow? There was. You know, we had the one gay guy
in high school, but I wouldn'tmade fun of him. I never hang
out with him. Nothing. Um. And then I went to college and
it was acting class and they pardonedme with this out. Brian Feely was
his name, like I remember it, blonde haired, blue eyes, hot
little guy. And we had todo scene study and so we were doing

(11:22):
a scene together and the play wasa provocative piece where we had to like
touch each other, and all ofa sudden, I was like, broom,
and then he was broom. Andthen I literally came without anything,
and I was like what the hell? And he was so sweet, like
you know, he took time.It's like you know, you're excited and
blah blah blah. I was likeoh okay, but I didn't, we
didn't do anything else. It wasn'tuntil much later that I tried sex.

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Anyway, we're not here for me, though, I'm fascinating ready to hear
more now, but it is,it's all fascinating to hear how we started,
Like because now that I've gotten pastlike the Catholic guilt and I've explored
now, I'm just like, youknow, anything goes, you know.
And then when I first started havinggay sex and having gay relationships, it

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was very monogamous. I couldn't separatethe idea of somebody I was into being
physical. And now I get soturned on by it, like it's so
weird, Like it's just it's justweird, interesting how it grows and it
evolves and change, and then onceall that stigma's down, you enjoy it
so much more and it releases allthis pressure. And it's just like,
why did why does our youth haveto deal with these weird ideas of what

(12:24):
gay sexes or any sex by thatmatter. My high school sex education,
because it was a Catholic high school, was this woman with this big hair
and she had blocks and she says, this is the man, this is
the woman. The blocks fit together, the blocks don't fit any other way.
That was our sex ed Like thatwas it? Yeah, so religion
is not good at se No,well unless you're a priest. Remember um

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okay, Asher, and this isfrom our chat room, Asher and Twink
tales you uh kind of kidding Sees. You tell us about some of your
hot public play. Thank you.That's even worse. What's been each of
your hottest public hookups? Oh?I got a few questions about this because
your Twitter you are very into likeI was on the dance floor, I

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was in the parking lot, Idid this, and you are going to
town. Yeah, and that's likea part of your sex like that you
love you love the public. Yeah, because it's like it's like more of
it in the moment thing. It'slike less prepared. I can prepare myself
the night of and then go findit and it's more of a natural than
like, oh I want to havesex with you, let's plan it,
let me go douche, let's meethere and like let's have sex. I

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like them more like because I'm Imean, I'm the whole, I'm clean
down and like if the guy's hard, then that's all that's really needed.
And so I think I like thatmore of the like in the moment kind
of thing. And it's hot todo something that like you're technically not allowed
to do, you know, andlike getting like almost caught or like going
to the bathroom and getting it doneand then leaving because it's like I don't

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want to leave the club. Iwant to dance and I want to like
drink. Yeah, and I justlike like white my mouth and have my
friends smell my breath and then moveon. You know, I guess what
I just did. There's like I'veseen somebody is where people are watching you.
Yeah, you love that. Yeah, I don't mind watching it,
like when when the social situation likecalls for it, kind of like like
circuit parties or warehouse parties or placesthat were like sexist like seen as like

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okay, then yeah, like Ilove having people watch me because I like
I feel like I do a goodjob and I want to show off like
what I can do, and youknow, like watch me. Okay,
now I've seen your Twitter. I'veseen like you've been manhandled where you're just
like I'm gonna either choke or likesomeone's gonna happen. Yeah, Now you
get a pleasure from being quote unquotelike the whole Yeah. Yeah, it's

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just like more of like me providingpleasure to somebody who's like into it.
I like, I like providing pleasure. I like turning on somebody who likes
to be turned on in a certainway. I like fulfilling people's kinks because
turning somebody on and like pleasing themturns me on. Like I feel like
I'm accomplishing when I'm there for andeven if I don't get off, like
I still enjoy at the time thoroughlybecause it's the other person enjoying me.

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You know. Now, you dida scene for Kinkman that got like very
kinky. Is that normally where yougo? Or that was like especial?
No, they paid me. Idon't technically like being tied up because I
like to be able to defend myselfif I need to. But there's like
because that's like with random Mike grinderhookups or something I would have to do
with somebody I trusty, Like,But if I'm on a scene, there's

(15:20):
like other people there and they havepeople there watching, so I have like
my fingers and my legs do gonumb that they'll come in and tie me
really fast, or like they're safewords and things like that. But I
don't necessarily get like tied up likeI mean, I do like being Pete
on. We tried one of thosescenes to be Pete on, but the
top can't can't Pete. He gotPete frightened. I can come in a

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room full of fifty people easy,yeah, like no sweat. I can't
pee in a public restroom with oneof the person saying why is that?
I have no idea, don't know. I promise because that's like a really
intimate thing of yours. I thinkit's a like a self defense thing.
I think it's a my body doesn'tthink that it's safe to relax enough to

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pee interesting because I could be likeattacked or something, or I need to
defend myself really quickly, and youknow, judo chop somebody, and I
don't. I can't even do itwith people I know and love. Now.
I have seen you do a lotof kinky stuff. We've seen you
do a whole lot of kinky stuff. Is that a fair representation of what's

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happening in your personal life? Doyou like that kink or you're just like,
oh, this is a role I'mplaying. I tell you that B
DSM and kink has grown on me, and the way that I enjoy it
has grown throughout the time that I'vepracticed it. When I first began,
I didn't know what in the hellI was stepping into and the depths and

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levels of it, and the amountof trust that goes into it, and
the amount of how much you needto make other people feel safe and secure
and like they're in control as well, even if there's this play like they're
not in control, they need toknow that at any point, you're they're
gonna go hey, hey, hey, and you're gonna listen and not you

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know, disrespect that boundary and theemotional trauma that I've seen people work through
because of it, the psychological breakthroughsthat I've watched people have, the strength
that it makes you feel like youhave after you've gone through a rough session,
There's all these it's it's a crazyexperience you literally get to physically,

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Like if I walked up and Islapped you across the face right now,
I would go to jail for assaultbecause that's crazy. But in a certain
situation. Consensually, I can slapyou in the face and you can really
enjoy it, and so can I, and the same thing. Like that's
one of the play it is,but it's one of the only times in
life where that's acceptable, where that'slike okay, in any other realm,

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your your professional life, you know, relationships with other people. It don't
fly ever, But all of asudden you can start to practice this,
like we're going to creep down thispath of how far does it go before
it gets too crazy kind of asituation, or how far can we go
before my mind starts to say,Okay, this isn't safe anymore, I

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don't like this, or this istoo much. It's a lot. It's
very in depth and it's very intricate. And the relationships that I've built with
people because of it, the thingsI've learned about myself as a result.
Yeah, it's it's a lot,and I've done it for so long now
that it's in the beginning, Ihad no idea what the hell any of

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it was. I didn't know whatto expect. I was learning, basically
trying to never go too far.You know, I started very lightly.
I've started very soft. I wantedto just take babies steps. I didn't
want to walk into a room andact like I knew what the fuck I
was doing, or like I wassome professional and fake front and go too
far and feel like a complete asshole. You know. I wanted to make

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it known I'm not a professional.I'm brand new with this shit. I'm
learning. Let's communicate, let's figureit out, which I feel like is
a way better route, because ifyou come into it with an ego and
you come into it like you're somebig shot and you're going to submit to
me and you're going to listen toyou're fucked already. Stop it. Do
not go that route at all.That is not the safe way to do

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it. And it's not since here. It's not People smell the inauthenticity a
mile away. I can smell it, you know, Like that's I'm married
to a woman, and our relationshipis very much in our day to day
life. She's more in charge,she makes more of decisions than I do.

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She calls a lot more shots thanI do, and I sit back
and that's completely fine. And thenin the bedroom, I'm more dominant.
But there's certain moments in that dynamicwhere if she you were to try sexually
to be dominant with me, She'sthe one person on the planet that I
would probably feel like I wanted tobe submissive to, but she would have

(20:08):
to own it and be dominant andbe a person that I felt like I
wanted to submit to. And thesecond that I smelled that hint of like
I'm not sure of what I'm doinghere, it'd be like, oh,
no, you're out, You're done, You're you know your chance is over
now, and now it's my time. Grab you by the throat. I'm
gonna put you on your knees.I don't know if I'm terrified or turned

(20:30):
on, like I should be alittle bit of both, a little bit
of both. But we can allagree that the world of kink is very
complex, very It's something I donot understand, but I don't can't shame
anybody, but it's something that Idon't think I'm quite there. Like if
I dated somebody that was very intothe kink world, I'm just not sure.
Ebe Wan did so much work.It's like there's there's levels to it.

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You don't have to go hardcore,balls to the wall right from the
gate. You can experiment. Letme smack you, let me smack you
by a little bit. We've saidit like that, that's cute. But
some people like, I'm so kinky. It's like, well, what what
what's your kink? So they're like, I'm in the jockstraps. I'm like
that one that's not kinky, that'snot But to them, that's a kinky
If I wear a jock strap towork. It's like, I'll give another
chat room question. Christian. Yourtattoo work is incredible. What is your

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first tatum and your most recent andtells a little story behind that? Thank
you, Thank you very much.Joshua Andrew, I, Um, my
first tattoo that I ever got wasthe cross that's right in the middle of
my back. And I'm not religious, but it's like it's it means something

(21:36):
to me. It's a very longstory. And my most recent one was
finishing up this sleeve on the insideof this armpit, which is why I
haven't got any more tattoos since then, because I don't wanna experience. I
hate getting tattooed, I really do. I dislike it a lot. And
the I'll tell you I say so, I'll explain that desire and the pride,

(22:03):
the pride and the desire to lookcool was very much a stronger part
of me when I was a youngman, and so I was willing to
sit there and suffer through pain,and I would kind of forget about how
much getting tattooed sucked after a while, and then I would go back and
I'd sit down and be like,what the fuck am I doing here again?

(22:23):
I hate this, and I wouldinevitably just keep getting more tattooed.
But I haven't forgotten since then,and I'm in my thirties now and I
don't care as much about looking cool, and so I don't know if I'll
ever get tattooed again. Interested Mything about tattoos because like pain for me,
like I have a high pain threshold. I believe it or not,

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I'm like, wow, no,I do. But my thing is like
I don't want to sit there forso long. It's like I got shipped
to do. They say it takeshours, and I get nervous when I
go get my hair cut because Ihate small talk. I hate I'll pay
you one hundred dollars just to nottalk to me. Just cut my fucking
hair tattoos are great because then youcan just slept like headphones on or but
isn't that rude? No? See, I would feel weird doing that,
but then I would feel weird oflike so our four Like I just that

(23:08):
gives me anxiety. What do youtalk to people when you work? Do
you like come assistently talk to somebodywhile you're concentrating on work. I mean,
this is my job, so yeah, but like I don't like to
draw, so they're not talking oneworking on the piece, so like you're
not going to talk to them.But like when you get an uber and
you know that they're a talker,oh god, just get the comfort and

(23:30):
put don't talk to me. Ohmy god, don't talk to me.
So what kind of sex are youhaving in your personal life? It's not
all like at the club. No, it's not all the club. I
was actually just at Joshua Tree thisweekend where we had like this big birthday
party festival thing and there's a lotof content creators there. So I had
a lot of sex there, whichis really fun. But was it fun

(23:51):
for you to just do or youwere there like okay, let's get some
content. No, I mean Igot some content. Yeah, but it's
fun to just do. Like Ihave to like separate my sex between work
sex and like play sex. Ihave to obviously plan out my play sex
like after scenes, so I don'tlike catch anything before scenes and like be
really careful with that. But there'sdefinitely sex that I enjoy and then sex

(24:11):
they just have for work. Likeyou know, we joke about the assumption
that, oh, porn stars arejust fucking everybody and you know, oh,
they probably have STDs. It's like, if you're gonna have sex with
a stranger, have sex with aporn star because they know exactly what they're
up to, know sexually healthy peoplethat you will come across. It's like,
well, I don't want to miss. They have to be tested almost
every month. They have to knowexactly if they have an STD or not.

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And most of them take Doxi afterthey have any sexual encounters anyways,
which gets rid of the STD.Like that's bananas too, Yeah, just
they take two Doxi after their sexualencounters, or some people take Doxi every
day, take one Doxi every dayas a preventative. I mean you can
take it for your acne and stufflike that so people take it. Here's
the thing though, that's how youcan start like super strains of STD for

(24:56):
sure. And it also is reallybad add for your gut. Yeah,
it is well not to scary body, but monkey pox is back on the
rise, which is very scary,very scary. People that have been what
people that have been vaxed twice.I'm not gonna name any names that we
know. Um have it? Isaw that. Yeah, Like that's that's
scary, very scary. Um,especially after the double vac Like the Dumble

(25:19):
vaccines made me feel like, Okay, at least we've got something. But
now it's like, okay, thatdoesn't mean so there's still fourteen percent chance
that you'll get mony. And thattakes so much I mean, I hate
to put like the damper on it, but it takes so much fun away
from like like the public aspect.I love, you know, being out
there, like you know, andit's just it's so exciting and fun.
And it's not like tawdry or youknow, ceedy. It's just like you

(25:42):
see somebody you're like, that's that'sfun. That takes all the fun of
that because now you have all thislike which so much worry the exam before
we have Okay, so let's talklove and dating with you. So we
know that you are married, Iam Um. You travel and you film
a lot. I yeah, yeah, I do. Well, there's always

(26:03):
content that's coming up, whether you'refilming it and then it's being released.
How were you well, you've beenin the industry for a while a long
time. Did you get married beforeyou got into the industry or during after?
So she kind of knew what shewas getting. Our first day,
our first day, I met mywife in San Francisco and I took her

(26:23):
to the cast Door district and therewas a porn shop on the corner that
had a DVD cover with me onthe cover and in the window. And
I took her there and I said, that's what I do for work.
And she was like cool, that'sunique and awesome and no qualms about it

(26:45):
at all. But do you comehome like tired and you're like, wow,
I don't have enough energy to havesex? I mean, does that
affect oh, one hundred percent?Does yeah? Yeah. It's a bit
like you have to separate your youknow, like, as she was talking
about your your personal life and yourbusiness life, it's very different sex.
But like we have dicks, wedon't function like women where we can just
louve it up and you know,go to work. We have to be

(27:07):
able to like pump out, comeshots and keep it hard. Well I'm
Latino, so we're fine. Butit's like some days if there's no sex
because I got work coming up oryou know, I've got things planned or
tired. Yeah, not necessary.I mean that's I'm always more game for

(27:27):
sex with my wife than I amfor work, but it still can be
like, yes, I'm drained,I don't really feel in the mood forward,
but that can happen even regardless ofwork too. You know, she's
never had any feelings of trepidation thatyou film with guys, you know,
you film with with women with trands, Like, there's never been that kind

(27:48):
of no. No, I've ourcommunication is top tier, and any like
concerns or questions that we've ever thatshe's ever had about me or we've ever
had about each other, it's alwayson the table for discussion, and you
know, very honest, very upfront, very just straight to the point and

(28:11):
authentic and never trying to hide things. And it's worked. We've been married
eleven years almost congratulations, thank you. That's insane, Yeah, especially in
today's day and age, like that'sa long time um asher. You shared
in an article you did for aFlashbox gay you actually had a boyfriend who
didn't really have sex with you.Yeah, not that often. He was

(28:33):
having sex with a home much toother people and not me. I don't
understand. I mean with you knowyou date somebody like you, it's like
why would you even can you sharewith it? Or you don't want to.
I don't care, like I don't. He just he used me for
other things like laundry and cooking andlike the normals or yeah it's consentual,

(28:55):
but he wouldn't have sex with mebecause I wasn't making him happy enough,
or he would like manipulate me andin ways where I felt like I have
to like try harder for doing things. And but he he had like three
other boyfriends at the time, oneat his school and then two across the
state. So like when he wouldgo to school, you would have sex
with that boyfriend, or he wouldfind another guy on grinder and like have
sex with him, but then comehome and like not really be like that

(29:17):
sexual with me, and then whenhe did have sex with me, it
would literally just be penetration, likeor me sucking his dick. It would
never be like, yeah, wewouldn't really kissed, we were, There
wouldn't be four play on his part. There would just be a lot of
just like and I how long didyou put up with us? I was
with him for four and a halfyears? Oh my god? Yeah,
did this happen towards the end orthis was like part relationship? This is

(29:40):
like probably like two and a halfyears. But you were young, so
you probably thought like, maybe thisis our relationship. It was my first
relationship I was. I mean Idepended on him for like part of the
rent, and we had a dogtogether, and we had like my whole
life was centered around him, andlike I didn't really have any friends.
I would go to school and Iwould go to work, and then I
would I'm home and then I'll cookit and clean, I'll go to bed,

(30:02):
and they'll do that all over again, over and over and over.
So what does love and dating looklike for you now now that you've learned
all this, now that you haveyour career. Yeah, I mean I
have a lot of love. Ihave a lot of love for my friends.
I have a lot of love forthe people that I mean and for
myself. I don't really date people. I haven't. I mean, I'm
not in the place in my liferight now where I kind of want to

(30:23):
share that much energy with somebody else. Um, I haven't met anybody who
I'd want to spend that much energyon. I want to find somebody who
I can like be myself with,like to the full extent, and not
feel like I need to like changelike where my life is headed or things
about me to like fit them.I just haven't found that person. And

(30:44):
until I do, then I'm justgonna be happy being by myself. Sucking
dick, that's right. Yeah,Like hey, yeah, hey, And
like I'm not I'm not mad.I'm not mad about it. Like it
is sad sometimes that I don't havelike somebody to cuddle at night, but
you know, I have a lotof friends who give me a lot of
love and I can cuddle them,and some nights are hard, but it's
not like it's gonna last forever andit's just temporary. And that's kind of

(31:08):
like you need to figure out howto be by yourself and alone and be
happy by yourself before you can bean exist ausful relationship because if you depend
on somebody else for your happiness,then it's just doesn't work out. Well,
there's no perfect scenario, right ifyou're single, It's not like there's
everything in the world is perfect.With being single. It's going to be

(31:32):
times where you feel a little bitlonely. There's gonna be times where it's
a little bit difficult. But ifyou're in a relationship, not everything's perfect
about being in a relationship. BeThey're sure you get cuddles and you get
into missing and you get love,but you also get communication breakdowns, and
you get fights, and you getyou know, disagreements and differences of opinion
and all these difficulties that you haveto work through as well. So there's

(31:52):
no there's no like dreamy situation.That's one hundred percent good. Yeah,
And I'd rather feel alone because Iwas by myself then feel alone because I
was with somebody that has to beeven lonelier. Yeah, it's like very
yeah, Yeah, that was deep. That was some good stuff. All
right, let's talk about labels.M we know we you have twink tails.

(32:14):
You've hit the scene to see youwith so many different studio work with
say uncle and warmail everything. Um, it's it's great, but you are
sold as like the twink. Yeahdoes that play like You're like, I'm
so tired of being the twink.I mean I am tired of like sleeping
with my step uncles, you know, like my relatives that aren't technically my

(32:35):
relatives, and um, you know, I'm ready like to like film with
people more my age, but Idon't really mind being called a twink.
Like if that's the role that theywant to put me in, and if
it gets me work, then byall means, like sell me as a
kid, but as long as youcan, yeah, until I can be
a twink, a hunk or whatever, like sell me as a twink,

(32:55):
because I'm almost thirty years old andbeing sold as a twink, so to
see that by all means. ButI heard from another twink in industry and
he's like he even texted me.He's like, can I sleep with some
of your friends that that are young, please? Like there had to be
young people out there, he says, And there's no offense to older porn
stars. But he's like, I'msick and tired of always filming with somebody

(33:17):
that twice my age. He's like, I am sick and tired of it.
Yeah, I mean he just likein real life too, it's like
because I'm as the twink, othertwinks or people my age don't want to
be with me because I think that'sall I'm into or they want to play
a role, and it's like twobottoms don't make a right. I mean,
I mean I even had a poston my Twitter like just because you
see a lot of videos with mewith daddies doesn't necessarily I mean, I'm

(33:38):
in the Daddy's just an opportunist andI'm will take the scenes that are handed
to me. And if I'm marketableas a twink then by all means.
But I mean I can have Ifind sex with other people my age too,
because it's and it's out there.I mean, go to Twitter,
go to grinder, like you justhave to like find those people, like
they're not just going to come toyou. Like if you want to sleep

(33:59):
with a certain kind of person,then those are the people you need to
go after, and odds are you'llfind somebody that's the only people you talk
to. Like when does daddy startso we're gonna get to that because we're
gonna go to your label of likedaddy but real fast. I wanted to
ask also the pressure of okay,you know, getting older in the industry
any after has to deal with thismainstream Hollywood whatever. It's like, okay

(34:22):
because the twin, because people arelooking it's like, oh I see a
wrinkle. You know, we sawwhat happened to Johnny Rapid where people started
talking about his age a lot.Yeah, And it's like, I mean
he was sold as a twink forhow many years? And in my mind
I love him to death. Hehas a twink energy. To me,
he's still like a twink. He'slike oh shucks, you know. Yeah.
But to have people like constantly commenton your looks and if they see
a wrinkle, if you gain afew pounds, like if this twink is

(34:44):
like oh he's getting older, yeah, was that he's just not not a
twink. I feel like as atwink, you have to prepare to evolve,
like you you age at a twink. Twink is an age and it's
not necessarily like a group of likegaze you know, like you once you
turn thirty year not going to startlooking like a twink. It's gonna be
like a sad twink, you know. And like it's like you like you

(35:04):
do start to age and you startto get skinny, so you have to
go to the gym and you haveto gain weight. You have to either
be like get muscle or get fatand get a dad bought or like you
know, you have to. It'sfunny because some people don't want their twinks
to work out and get muscles becausethen it means like they're not pubescent,
which is so yeah, but thenthey also don't want an old twink.
Yeah, so like yeah, makeup your mind. People, you just
have to gain muscle when you getto a certain age of like oh,

(35:28):
people don't want to sleep with anymorebecause they don't think that I'm necessarily a
twink anymore. And all these likeweird fantasies like okay, so like daddy,
you know you haven't have on yourTwitter like I'm the daddy of your
fantasies. It's like, okay,but are you really a daddy? Like
you're not old enough for daddy.When did you shift into daddy? Is
um uh? Daddy is a partof my wife calls me daddy, and

(35:52):
I mean it's sexy. It it'sthe best that I like. I master's
weird and all this BDSM stuff thatI do. There's like master, there's
sir sir. Yeah, I wouldn'tdo that, And so there you're kind
of limited in all these like choicesof words of what you can be called.
I like daddy, you know,because it's it's playful at the same

(36:15):
time, it's not very stern andserious like I do enjoy sir when it's
necessary or when it's appropriate. Butif you're walking through the house and I
give you something and you go thankyou Daddy, like I love that,
not like thank you sir, thenyou're more like, whoa, that's a
little You're a little heavy handed therewith your obedience, you know. But

(36:37):
let's talk about like in the industry, because once you're in that daddy column,
then it's like, Okay, here'sthe roles you're gonna play, such
as like the your role that wereviewed on Flashbot today, I was like,
oopsie, which you had a lotof fun in that scene, by
the way, like a lot ofthe close ups on your face you're like,
ah, like what's fun. Butit's like okay, is that the
role you're gonna be playing. Iwas like the dominant sir, or you're

(36:57):
gonna be fucking all of the twinks. I'm totally okay with fucking all of
the twins, one hundred percent.But daddy is more of a persona than
it is like an age to me. And I think I've been I've been
able to be a sixty five yearold man's daddy when I was twenty four,
wow, you know. And I'veescorted since I was eighteen, and

(37:20):
so I've had plenty of opportunity formen, submissive men, particularly like the
ones that just want to be awhole, which I've come to know very
very intimately. And there's something aboutyour energy and if you are dominant and
then you are confident, but youare also caring and you're also kind,

(37:44):
and you're also somebody that can tellsomebody you've done a good job. I'm
proud of you, you know,I love what you've done. You're you're
doing really good with which all theseare all very like dad like qualities.
And let's be on not my dad. My dad was casper Like most of
us, it's gone have daddy issues, right, how many people, do

(38:05):
you know grown up adults that arejust children that got older, that have
daddy issues, and we still needthose feelings of comfort. We still need
those feelings of somebody to tell uslike, hey, I've got you,
and I'm here to protect you andkeep you safe and secure, and but
also like fuck you really good atthe same time and pent spankings. I'm

(38:28):
not so sure I think about mydaddy issues in the bedroom though, you
know, I don't know, maybethat has Like I'm still kind of how
it relates to my wife, AndI was dynamic too, because she has
a ton of daddy issues from whenshe was a young child. And so
now what I've kind of tried todo is take on the role of somebody
who can rewire those types of feelingsand thoughts as a result of that damage,

(38:52):
and be a male figure in herlife who I think she's I still
need somebody like a mother to tocare for me and to like pet my
head and tell me everything's going tobe okay. When I'm feeling scared and
anxious, it's okay for me tofeel that as a grown man, that's
so sweet and so sweet. AndI feel the same about when it's a

(39:14):
reverse. This relationship is a giventake. And so when she needs somebody
to comfort her and tell her,hey, I'm proud of you. You're
doing a good job. Everything's goingto be all right. You're you're safe,
and you're you're fine just the waythat you are. You don't need
to change or be somebody different.Everything is great. Then it's a good,
healthy dynamic. You know, I'mthe daddy and I'm the one that's

(39:37):
I love being that too. Itake that very seriously. So the daddy
thing is very It means something tome because when I meet somebody who's like
six months in the industry and they'retwenty two, I'm not somebody who's going
to treat them like shit like alot of people's experiences. I'm not going
to be somebody who you know,takes advantage of them because of their inexperience.

(40:00):
So I'm gonna be somebody who's encouragingand somebody who's a guiding kind of
somebody who gives good advice. AndHey, if you ever need any help,
you can reach out to me.If you have questions about stuff,
ask me. I've been doing thisfor fucking fifteen years. Talk to me
if you want, you know,and I want to be that same sort
of energy that people can rely onand be kind of You've just got like

(40:22):
a thousand times sexier. Like Ihave this idea of like, you know,
Christian mild like and now you're justlike, oh, you could take
care of me too. We haveanother question with the chat room Christian.
How many siblings do you have?Just one? But we don't talk.
Oh okay, yeah, moving on. When did you first realize that you
were bigger than the other guys,especially being horny? Were you just like

(40:45):
twelve year old with this huge likehard on. No, I didn't know
that I had a big dig untilI was like eighteen. I didn't say
I didn't think that it was big. I thought I'm really tall, so
it's kind of proportionate to my body. And that's the myth. I'm telling
you that myth is not correct.Am I rock that tall? Skinny?

(41:07):
Yeah? I'm like, it's notalways true. It's not always true,
but I say more than more oftenthan not, yea, more often than
not. It's I see a tallwhite guy and he doesn't have a lot
of muscle mass or whatever horse thickthey don't have to do shit. They're
just here's my dick, and hOkay, I'm gonna talk. I'm gonna
talk about your experience as you beinga veteran. Now you left the business,

(41:30):
um, and then you came backto it. Can you talk a
little about the journey? I knowyou you you got sick for a little
bit, you moved to Germany.Um, what brought you back to the
What made you leave and then whatmade you come back. My wife is
from Germany, and so it waseasy for us to transition over there,
and I thought that that would bewhere we lived out our lives. That's

(41:51):
like moving to another country. Isthat's a big move. It's an adventure.
I'm into adventures. I like,like, fuck it, let's see
what happens. My adventure is orderingsomething else that a pull, like not
my regular thing. That's my inventure. The inventure is later in the bathroom.
Oh, that's a private inventure.Indiana Jones and like. And then
I got sick, I full sortof colitis, and I got it really

(42:13):
really bad, and I wasn't gettinghealthy and I wanted to come back to
California, and yeah, I Ibasically I started working on an ambulance when
I was living in California still asan EMT, and I was gonna leave
the porn industry and go into likethe medical profession. And I came back

(42:35):
and I was like, Fuck thatshit. That's it's it's not as good,
it's not as it doesn't give asmany benefits. It's a great job
and it's a lot of fun,but it just tears your soul up.
Yeah. Plus, how many peoplelike called the ambulance for you and we're
not even sick, Like, yeahthey I know some people that would have
if they could have. Yeah.Now you've seen the industry change where we've

(42:59):
had the horizon of fan sites onlyfans just perfesse. What's your take on
platforms like that? Are you?Are you for it? Yeah? It's
always been like when I started,you were reliant one hundred percent on studios,
and if you wanted to make aliving, you had to get studio
work. You had to get consistentbookings, which is really really hard.

(43:21):
I've seen tons and tons and tonsof six month careers, three month careers.
Somebody comes on the scene, they'rereal, real hot, Yep,
everybody loves them. Yep, they'rethe new big name. All the studios
filmed with them, and then theydisappeared and you never really see anything from
them again. And so I thinkI just got really lucky and I showed

(43:44):
up and did a good job andmade like the videographers and director's day go
easily, and so they wanted tocontinue to have me back. And it
wasn't an asshole, and I waspretty relatively easy to work with and came
when I needed to and Edna bonerproblems and that was enough to just keep
me around for as long as Ihave been. But that changed once only

(44:06):
fans emerged and all of a sudden, guys that have never done a studio
scene in their life are making moremoney than a studio every month on only
fans, and they're all by themselves. And I think that that's phenomenal because
if there's more access and ability,I mean, we were just talking about
that a creator and I a coupleof days ago. How now you meet

(44:28):
people and it's like, oh,the bartender hasn't only fans, and the
go Go dancer hasn't only fans,and you know, the chef in the
back hasn't only fans, And there'severybody hasn't only fans now, and it's
kind of normalized sex work in thisway that makes it really nice to be
like, yeah, I haven't onlyfans and people are like, oh cool,
it's not like, oh I dopornography and they're like what, one

(44:51):
hundred percent Before COVID, there wasa stigma. I don't know if you
felt this, but like in theWest Hollywood communities like oh watch them,
probably haven't only fans. Those samepe pole had to get an early fans
during COVID, and now they're thrivingon it and love it and it's removed
that stigma. But you know,it really did save people from being homeless
during COVID. What I think it'sdone for the studios is said, hey,
your audience wants to see diversity inbody types. Your audience wants to

(45:15):
see diversity in racial representation, andI think fan sites have four studios to
do that. We see the studiosare now like okay, okay, okay,
because these people have dune well.And I think it also forces them
to maybe treat the models a littlebit better because now they have like so
many different avenues to make money thatmaybe they do want to like treat them

(45:35):
like nicely and more like like thereare actually the stars of the video,
because the video wouldn't be made withoutthe porn stars, you know, like
they have to they have to treatthem all nice. My thing, my
biggest complaint about the studios. Youknow, we work with them. I
talk with the studio heads all thetime. We just hung out at x
BIS in Miami. I still saythere's not enough support given to you guys,
such as a newbie to the business. Here's how you write your bio.

(45:59):
Here's how you book yourself for prideappearances. Here's how you book yourself
for SNA gay sex shows. Here'show you run your Instagram. Here's how
you get people like here's nobody ofyour taxes. Yeah, thank Here's how
you look out for yourself financially soyou get sensorships. Here's how you make
smart decisions. Here's how you don'tblow all your fucking money that you're making
right now. Literally yeah yeah,yeah. I think that it is the

(46:25):
most awesome thing in my career thatI've experienced. That I walk on sets
now and I think, if anythingisn't going to my liking, I leave
ye nobody's holding me here. Iam not dependent on this money. I
don't need the studios at all.I'm doing it for marketing. It's a
great way to get my name andmy face out there. But do I

(46:50):
need to be here? Absolutely not. You treat me anything short of like
what I deem respectable and acceptable,I'm out. I've heard of models showing
up on set and they don't startshooting until eight hours after their call time,
and I'm like, I'd be goneafter two, especially for a bottom
that hasn't eaten, that's waited toeat. Don't even get me started.
But just like out of time andrespect or your model, it shows up

(47:12):
and all of a sudden, thewhole situation has changed, just like now
we want you to do this andthat. You're like, well, that's
not what I agree to. Rightany other job you would be like,
that's not my job duty, that'snot what I sign up for. Okay,
we get another question from the chatroom Christian Alexander, and ask her
what three goals do you guys wantto achieve this year? That's a good
question. Who's legendary, legendary question, legendary, Ask your three goals you

(47:32):
want to achieve this year. Threegoals. Um, I want to start
an LLC for all from all mymoney situations. I want everything's an expense,
haircut, teeth, whitening, JimUber's two and from sets and appearances,
everything closed, everything. Yeah.Everything I want to I mean,
with the LLC, get a creditcard that's based just for work stuff.

(47:54):
Um. I also want to justhammer down the fan sites. I want
to create um for my fans siteand really like specify like what kind of
content I'm going to be putting outand maybe clean it up a little bit
because I don't put a lot ofeffort into my fan sites right now.
It's more just the studio and thenmoney. I know, girl, I'm

(48:15):
just really bad to like at stayingconsistent, and that's one of the things
that I want to get better on, is like staying like posting consistently.
It's the hustle. You can't justget a camera and have sex and flash
your body parts. You have toknow the social media, you have to
know the business. You have tohave the LLC. You have to be
editing yourself. The editing to yourself. I don't know how you guys do
it. I have zero patients forship like that. I don't. Yeah,
there's a lot of people that Iknow that don't edit their stuff at

(48:37):
all. They just take the videoand post it. Because a lot of
fans like seeing the raw, gritty, gritty, the the unprofessionals, not
studio like porn. Because I caneven tell myself and I'm scrolling to the
sites and I see a studio pornscene, I I don't. I don't
watch it. I just get that. I like. I like the the
at home, the amateur kind oflike at my phone at the moment,

(49:00):
like I just want to take thisbecause it's so hot, and I like
want to watch this, fuck notthe I set my cameras up in the
corner and have these three different scenesand I have a close up and then
I edit all together. So Ilike both. Although when I watched the
like people in the room, I'mlooking at to see what books they're reading,
I see what's on their nights day, and I see you know,
like I'm all into that. Yeah, But I do like your Twitter stuff

(49:22):
with the like the bathroom that's sohot because it's so gritty and visceral,
like I feel like I'm there.Yeah, And I love that. Okay,
so that's two. What's your third? Um? I want to create
more like more branding for myself,like clothing and T shirts and things like
that. Because I'm an artist,so I like drawing and I like designing
things, and so I want tocreate just some just some little little things

(49:46):
for myself that I can start sellingat like next year's ex Biz or like
drag Con and things like that.Yeah, and I think fans love that,
you know, they really love that, And that's really changed in the
industry. It's not just a fleshnow. It's like, yeah, I
want to teach her I what you'resaying. I mean, you're branding yourself
with twink tales. You know,you share parts of your life with an

(50:07):
audience in a whole different way.Okay, Christian three three goals for this
year? Thank you, Legendary.That's a good question. It's a great
question. I'm gonna add that toevery show now, thank you. Three
goals. Uh. One, Iactually would like to start a podcast.
Um. I might know a podcaststudio and a network to put it on.
I don't know. Podcast would becool. Another one, I want

(50:28):
to film a five part series whereI go to five different cities and I
review the food and the booty inthose cities. Please let me be your
sidekick like Andy Richter for that.I would love that. How fun would
some small town in Ohio to likeChicago. Yes, it's going to be
in La Chicago, Atlanta, Miami, New York. Love it, Love

(50:51):
it. Now back to the podcast. What would the podcast be about?
Um, I am going to geta small sauna that goes at my house
and I was inspired by the difficultyof eating consistently hotter hot wing sauce by
the Hot Ones interview and how difficultit is to continually answer questions as your

(51:15):
mouth is burning. So I wantto set the sauna to like really difficulty
hot and we're sitting there together suffering, but we're gonna do like a small
I'm gonna have content creators come outdo a sauna podcast, but you're gonna
like start to really suffer after twentyor so minutes, and then we're going
to contry to get some good conversationand then afterwards will like clear it out

(51:38):
and air it out and then fuckingthe sauna and then part of the not
safer work stuff goes on the onlyfans and the website and then the safer
work stuff can go on YouTube.I'm all for that Instagram hopefully. It
sounds fun, it sounds like itwould be a good time. I've had
some people say they'd do it,okay. Third goal, be more grateful.

(52:02):
I would have to say, youknow, I met you. I
think it was at the Gay theEnds was the first time I met you,
and I've run into you and wechat. I think you're one of
the nicest, most grateful people inthe industry. I appreciate that. So
I don't know how you'd be moregrateful. I'm very cruel to myself in
my mind sometimes grateful to yourself.Yeah, well, grateful for it.
Like I think, it's a perspective. It's a it's an attitude and a

(52:24):
perspective. When if you can wakeup in the morning and start looking at
the things that are good and thethings that you're happy about and things that
are going well, then it justkind of kicks. It's a practice,
you know, it's a practice oflike this, this is what makes me
feel better, This is what makesme feel less nihilistic, and like,

(52:45):
you know, life is not wedon't have enough Alexander, we don't have
enough time. Well talk about notenough time. I we got so many
of your questions here, we literallydidn't even get to like this little section.
One topic we do have to Scott'sYeah, because it's a very hot
topic and you've kind of circumvented andhave maintained your popularity. And we're talking

(53:07):
about filming with girls. Yes,So I was at x BIZ. I
was with Reese ride Out, whowe know is a veteran in the industry
like yourself, sweetheart, he isnow filming with women, and he was
going up to some of the womenand some of the women was like,
no, you've filmed with guys.Would never do that. Students were like,
no, can't do it, can'tdo it. It's like, are

(53:27):
we at that day and age?But I also come from and I'm very
open and honest about this what Ijerk off to. I don't need to
see my daddy crush filming with women. It's not what I'm into, and
so maybe my attraction for watching somethinglike that is just not there. Yes,
but you have maintained your fandom,You've maintained your level of work filming

(53:49):
with everybody. How have you donethat. How have your fans not been
like, oh god, he's witha girl. I don't know anymore.
I feel like there's enough people outthere that don't care. They just want
to watch the stuff that they wantto watch, and they want to see
the stuff that they find hot andthat turns them on. Like, my
favorite adult content creators probably do waymore of the things that I watched them

(54:12):
do, But I don't watch thosethings. I just watched these things that
they do that I enjoy. It'snot like I don't How weird is it
that you would get upset about somebodywho you enjoy doing something else that you
don't like watching watching them? Doyou know what I mean? I think
originally, I think because I rememberwhen men dot Com did their first bi
scene. It was a rod inSylvia, Sage, wasn't it and they

(54:35):
had to take the video down becausethere was so much hate towards it.
People were not ready for that.I think that generation came from, you
know, gay for Pay. They'retrying to market off of our community rather
than a large percentage of the countryare by and they're coming out as by
On some level, I'm not sayingthat I want to watch bisex all day,
but there's a level of us allthat's a little bisexual, whether it's

(54:58):
emotional, whether it's physical or something. And so I think the younger generation's
like, okay, I understand that, But at that time, I think
it was this kind of hurt,like you're in our turf and you're taking
money from us, but you reallywant to go fuck the girl. We
get it. What's also been veryweird is throughout my growth, like early
years, they wanted me to playup in the studios scenes. They want

(55:19):
me to play up the straight guyside of the hot straight guys, all
of our fantasy. It's it's sucha fantasy for men, and yet I'm
getting screamed at and threatened like Iam murdering children the way that some guys
come after me for just having sexwith men. You know, they're like,
you're not even gay? How dareyou? How could you do this?

(55:42):
And it's like this is it's uh, it's so contradictory. I think
people are taking out their own defensivenessin themselves. Maybe um I always do
questions like, you know, ifyou are predominantly straight, how can you
get hard for a guy? Becauseit's a totally different thing. I mean,

(56:02):
most gay guys can't even get hardfor their scene partners. When we're
on scene, they have to usetiger bags for viagra and they can't get
it up and you have to taketime for them to get it hard,
and it's like it's not even becauseit's like, oh, how can you
get hard for a girl? It'slike how can you get hard? In
general? Like I'm sitting there andI'm like, I feel like I'm hot,
but it like it takes them asecond to get hard, because i

(56:24):
mean, porn is not super sexy. It's like it's like scheduled. It's
it's there's some guy always eating popcornin the bag. Yeah, there's a
female director or like a DP orwhatever, and it's like it's so unsexy,
which makes it in the room withyou undred percent. You know,
we go visit sets all the time, and then it can be hot and

(56:44):
they're not running the air conditioner becausethe air conditioner is noisy, and then
like you're doing sex and you're allhot, and then there's a plane that
goes by they get the pause forand then the nick goes down and it's
like you can't even get hard forthe person that's like hot in front of
you because it's like such a weirdsituation and that that that's not like really
a question because like once you getyour dick hard, you could stick it

(57:04):
in anything. Like So now moreand more studios are pushing towards by trans
sex. Is that something that youwould be able to film? I mean
I don't really even talk, solike I could maybe like have a trans
female fuck me, like I Imean, because like I mean, I
let people fuck me that I'm notattracted to for work, Like if I
get paid for the scene, Iget paid for. I mean, that's

(57:27):
part of the business. It's likewe all have co workers that were like
they came to work today, butthe only difference is I only have to
work with them one day and youhave to work with them every day.
So like that's nice. And Imean, and I and I would I
would film with a transmail. Ithink I'm a tap a transmail because I
think they're attractive, even though theyhave vaginas or pussies, Like I'd fuck
them because I like the package.I like because there are really cute transpoys.

(57:51):
There's really cute transpoys that I wouldsleep with. And there's this discussion
that if you say, oh,I won't film trans and I'm transphobed,
but it has nothing to do withit. I'm also part of the tribe
that I'm like, say what youwant on Grinder. If you're into this,
then you're into that. If you'renot, then you're not. When
you go to a restaurant and youorder a hamburger, I always order the
tomato an onion off. I don'tcare what if there's a tomato or an

(58:12):
onion. I'm not eating that hammurger. You know, that's just my preference.
Grinder is a menu of what youwant. But it's like you can't
say that. It's like, okay, so one might have this whole long
conversation just because I no, we'rehere to have sex. We've gone really
far in the opposite direction of likesocial, yeah, social, well specifically
there. I think Grinder is likemainly four sacks, like even if it

(58:36):
used to be even sorry, evenif it's a social like a like a
social media thing, Grinder's four sex. There's a menu you put pictures,
you'd put what position you are withyour topper bottom, and just because,
like you're saying, I don't wantto have sex with like somebody over six.
He doesn't mean your ages. Itjust means like maybe that night you
only want to have sex with somebodywho's twenty to thirty years old, and

(58:59):
you don't make my Yeah. Seethat's it. You can't. No matter
what wokenness you have is not gonnalike like okay to death. You're sweet,
you're kind, you're amazing. Youdon't make my dig move. What
am I supposed to do about that? I'm a curvy girl. That is
not what I'm into. So bearsare like, oh, yeah, we're
gonna get I'm like, no,just because no, no, no,
no, no, anyway, that'sa whole other cover you guys, You

(59:19):
guys have to come back because wehave so many questions. But I do
want to end the show. Wegot from another person in the chat room,
there's another great question, Christian Asrotionalxander. Who inspires you in your life?
Oh? Rahim Shabbaz, So thatmotherfucker. Great product, great network
which he built out of being agood person, a good friend to people,

(59:42):
mentoring people, sharing about their success. He's become a rival to studios
now studio is like studio name byRahim. His product was so good and
he built it himself. Yeah,it's impressive and I'm inspired, very inspired.
I will shout Raheem's praises to anybodythat will listen, because I'm just

(01:00:04):
so. I know, I knowhow difficult that journey has been. And
I mean I can't know personally forhim specifically, but just to get to
that level, I have a verygood inkling that it's taken an immense,
immense, immense amount of work anddedication and things that are inspiring. I

(01:00:27):
love Rahimshibaz, and he's become successfulon his own, so much so that
the studios can't ignore what he's doing. Now he's getting his own awards.
It's like what studio with Nope,just me and I know the difficulty behind
the scenes where he's had a lotof people fight against him saying you're not
a porn star. Well sorry.His content is very popular and he's changed

(01:00:49):
the norms of the type of personwe want to see on camera, the
situations we want to see on camera. And I'm one that I love watching
gang bangs. I love it.He has always seems so respectful and like
full of like loving energy, ifthat makes sense. And the way that
they're shot, yeah, the waythe cameraman that he hires, that the
talent that he like, there's somuch that goes into it that makes it
such a beautiful production. And it'sI just drool. It's stunning. It's

(01:01:15):
I want to be one of thebottoms. Hit me up. But he
hasn't messages me. Tas Oh,I'll text him. Yes, they can
happen, like we're gonna do withtwing tails, and I want to see
that. I would love hen,but two of you should be on like
anyway, Okay, who is somebodythat inspires you? Um? So I
my friend Calvin Banks. He's veryinspiring to me. He started at a

(01:01:37):
young age, but like even now, like he has his finances together,
He does his taxes on time.He like it's very financially responsible. He
just finished he like just finished allhis classes with a four point Oh.
He goes to school, He hashis own like he has his own dog,
his own place in Phoenix. Likehe's very respectable even though like he's
younger than I am. And likethat's very inspiring to me because like I

(01:02:00):
want to be at that place whereI don't really have to work every day.
I don't work every day now,Like I work maybe like once a
month, and I like do mystuff and I pay my bills. But
like he, I mean, hedoes what he wants, he saves his
money. He's just like just avery responsible person. And that's kind of
who I inspire to be, likein the porn industry. Yeah, this

(01:02:20):
has been such a great conversation.No, I mean, like I said,
we have question after question who inspiresyou, Alexander? So many different
people, um, like in theadult industry, just in life again,
so many people. I mean,I could go with the cliche answer,
but it is true. It's mymom has been through so much adversity,
raised me in a generation where singlemoms just didn't do that. Work three

(01:02:45):
jobs to make sure that I wentto a good school, got my acting
lessons, dance lessons. But sheinstilled humor in every single thing that we
did. Yeah. Yeah, butlike we had a game where we would
roll coins to go to I'll Tacoto get the tacos for the week because
they were like twenty five cents atthat time. But it was a fun
game and I'll remember was laughter,laughter, laughter and humor isn't everything that

(01:03:08):
I do. No matter what,you know, you always have to find
the humor because it'll keep you going, it'll keep you through rough time.
So it's a cliche answer, butit's absolutely true. The adversity that she
had to deal with as a womanin the business world, um, everything,
and that she has overcome. She'ssurvived cancer. Um, she's very
ill right now. Um. Butevery day she she wakes up and she

(01:03:29):
she does the damn thing because that'sjust what we're here to do. We're
here to live the day to ourfullest thoughts and love to your mom.
Thank you, thank you, thankyou all for all of the questions.
I'm in the chat room. Wedo have to wrap up. I think
we need a two point zero.But you guys need to watch there.
They're scene oops. Oops. See. I always wonder, like, when

(01:03:51):
two people have filmed the scene,what kind of energy is going to come
in? Number One, people don'trealize how many months to almost a year
ahead of time you could film this. And he's like, oh my film
that scene. Okay, yeah itwas a while ago. It was a
decent chime. Yeah, it wasfun and it's super hot. Yeah,
Yeah, it was really fun.Yeah, and he's very respectable, like
ever since that scene, like hewaited to eat until I ate, because

(01:04:14):
normally at the bottom you don't eatduring lunch. Everybody takes a lunch break
and I'm like sitting there twiddling mythumbs like having a snack. I'm like,
okay, can we just like fuckingget this over with? And that
really that really got my goat,By the way, that was kind of
I was irritated. Yeah, Iwas like, why the fuck is everybody
eating? Like you're not doing anything. You're literally not doing anything. I'm
eating all dude. Yeah, butno, it was adult time. Yeah,
I'm very respectful. It was cute. Same all right, where do

(01:04:39):
you want fans to find and followyou? Um, I'm on Twitter x
excess to Asher Day, I'm onInstagram n O M A k A.
I'm everybody asked me. If everybodyasked me, what's up with that Instagram
name? Um, it's just thefirst two letters of my first metal and
last name and I and I justhaven't switched it to like talking about branding
this year. Maybe that's just likeeverybody says, what the fuck? I

(01:05:03):
just like I don't see like Iam a porn star, but I'm not
Asher day right, I'm like,I'm I'm myself. I'm Nolan, Like
that's my That's who I am,and porn is just a part of what
I am and what I do.Like I my Instagram is for me,
and it's to market not just whoI am porn wise, but who I
am as a model and who Iam as an artist. And that's how

(01:05:23):
I kind of want to keep it. Um, I might change it,
you know, but you can findme. It's not that hard. It's
linked on my Twitter. It's alittle hard to be honest. I'm like,
I don't want to twitter Twitter,Twitter, but yeah, bring a
box of Kleenex though, Yeah thatpinned tweet. But like if I just
need real something real fast with thatpin tweet. Okay, Christian, where
do you want people to find them? Follow you? I want you to

(01:05:45):
subscribe to my website, Christianwild dotcom. I do not trust only fans,
even though I have one, SoI started my own website that updates
regularly every week, and so pleasecheck out christianwild dot com. And I
am on Instagram and Twitter at dottywild x. Yes, we had a

(01:06:05):
very interesting conversation about only fans atx best, but that's a whole other
show, all right. Thank youeverybody, Thank you Tony for running the
show. Thank you for everybody inthe chat room that has been our live
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