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Speaker 1 (00:00):
Let me share with you guys what coach k said
last night. I think it's important for everybody to be
thinking about this. Last night as a consultant, I'm giving
this message to everybody, and I was thinking about the
entire time what should I share. So I gave one
hundred and fifty pictures over the years of what we've done,
and I found one of Tom's favorite pictures. I'm telling
(00:22):
history stuff that we done. We're laughing, we're going through.
It's a great story. But one of the things was
that all of us in life. Yesterday we're having breakfast,
the conversation Adam, I don't know if you remember that conversation.
I do remember that coming to a conversation, sir. The
incredible conversation we had is how do you measure a man? Like?
What is a man? If I ask you, what is
a man? Not the chromosome man, not the funny stuff
(00:43):
that we're talking about. No, I'm not talking about that game.
I'm talking about what how do you measure a man?
Wouldn't you look at a man and say, man, that's
a man's man. What does a man's man need to
do to be a man? There's levels in life there's
levels and wealth, there's levels in sports, there's levels and greatness,
there's levels of being a man. And unfortunately a lot
(01:04):
of times, especially nowadays, you know, we are living in
an era where the same way women are kind of
going through the era of what. I don't need a man.
I don't need this. J Loo just said something last night.
She said, after being married five times or whatever, I've decided,
I'm choosing me. I'm choosing me. You're choosing you. What
are you choosing? Bro? How would do you? This is it?
(01:27):
After four divorces and six different engagements, fifty six year
old singer Jennifer Lopez says she's done with marriage and
she's choosing herself right, and also, my god, she's so amazing.
Good for you for choosing you, Good for you for
doing this. There's nothing more unattractive than a single woman
in her fifties that's wealthy. No one's interested. Nobody is
(01:50):
maybe a twenty two year old that wants to come
marry and get half your well five years later, but
people are not interested. But this is like this new era.
I don't need a man. I can do my own thing.
And for men, guess what men are going through. Screw you,
you want to do this, I don't want any responsibilities.
Don't give me any responsibilities. I'm gonna choose me too.
So who wins? You know, who wins? The enemy wins?
(02:11):
Who's the enemy? The enemy is another country. The enemy
is another denomination. The enemy is another philosophy, ideology that
doesn't match with the Western ideology that became the greatest
country in the world. It doesn't match with freedom of speech,
it doesn't match with freedom of assembly, it doesn't match
with freedom of religion. It just doesn't. Some men are
sitting there going on a strike. Screw you, I'm choosing
(02:32):
me too, now what and so neither one of them
are right. So the whole idea of men, we measure
men based on more responsibilities they carry, what they do
for their family, what they do for their kids, what
they do for their communities, what they do for their state,
for their country, for their church. That's a man's men.
(02:52):
There's the layers to it, right. So last night I
talked about the six levels we all go through. Number
one is we're laws. Number two, somebody finds us and
believes in us and says, hey, I believe in you.
I think he can do X y Z. Maybe you
find God, maybe you find church, maybe you find a
good influence in your life. Number three, you finally commit
I'm going to choose to change my life. Number four
(03:13):
lifestyle changes. You're living a better lifestyle, You're living in
a better place, you have some money in the bank,
You're feeling confident and feeling good about yourself. And in
phase number five, if you can skip it, good for you.
Phase number five is when you get bored, when you
get entitled, when he get ungrateful, when you forget about
all the people that helped you, like no one helped me.
I get all this for myself, and I finally, hopefully
you go to phase number six, which is choosing legacy,
choosing history, choosing to do something big with your life.
(03:36):
And Coach K is speaking on stage. I'm listening to
this man walking up, you know, him and I are
talking and I'm you know, you know, if you ever
see me taking pictures with guy, I'm touching his shoulders.
I'm like, holy moly, Coach K, you got some traps.
He's like, who the hell is this guy like putting
his arms all around me all this sudden I'll post
the story on Instagram. Afterwards he's on stage. He says,
when he was when he was a young man ten
(03:58):
years old or something, playing basketball, his mom tells him
a story and it's the story of bus. He says
the mom. I want to go play. Leave me alone.
He says, no, Michael specifically said Michael, not Mike. Michael.
Stay here. I have to tell you the story. What's
that in life? You better get on the right bus,
he says, Mom, which bus are you talking about? I
gotta go play basketball because coach k ended up playing
(04:20):
at one point for Bobby Bowden. Who know not Bobby Night?
Bobby Knight? Did you know that?
Speaker 2 (04:25):
Yeah?
Speaker 1 (04:25):
I think in the military area. That's right, because he
was in the army. Correct. So what are you talking
about with the bus? He says, If you're going to
get on someone's bus, you better choose the right bus.
And if you're going to be the driver on your bus,
you better choose a lot of people to get on
your bus. If you allow the wrong people to get
on your bus, life will be destroyed. And if you
get on the wrong bus, your life will be destroyed.
(04:46):
So for you watching this right now, before we get
into all these stories. I don't want to say this
that the normally I would say that at the end,
but I just want to open it up with this monologue.
It's amazing what can happen to anyone one of our
lives if you choose to have the right people in
your year, and if you choose to raise your standards.
It's one of the hardest things to do as young men.
Well men nowadays are afraid of responsibilities. No no, no,
(05:08):
no no no no kids no, no. One point five
to nine child bird per woman. No no, no. I don't
want any responsibilities. But that's not what a leader does.
That's not what a man's man's does, That's not what
a man that wants to be. Look back later on
when they come to your funeral, they're looking at you saying,
holy moly, this man changed my life. This is my father.
Men are sitting there, women are sitting at your funeral
is saying, I am so proud to have had a
(05:29):
relationship with this person. And that kind of a person
only happens when you choose to make a decision in
your life, and it's not easy to do. It's very
hard to do. But I just want to open up
with that do whatever you want with the story. Last
night was just a very special night for me. I've
been in this business for twenty five years, in the
financial insurance business. Most of you guys only know me
as a podcast or you don't know what I do
(05:49):
on the business side. I'm meeting with all these CEOs
that are running multi billion dollar insurance companies. All these
different conversations the industry change our lives. But if it's
the right person watching this, if this mess resonated with you,
graduate from loss to found to commit it and then
try to skip the entitled the bore the No one
(06:10):
helped me out. I did it all myself, the lack
of gratitude phase and pursue legacy and history because great
things around the corner. I do believe the future looks bright.
I'm convinced the future looks bright. Every time I say
the future looks bright, it's amazing. Half the people in
the world want to convince me that it doesn't look bright.
But it's unfair. You don't know. You're only saying that's
because you have money. I said that when I was
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broke forty nine thousand dollars in debt and I had
nothing and I said, the future looks bright. I don't
know why I said the future looks bright. It's a mentality.
It's a mindset that every one of us can have.
That's what we believe in. That's what our brand's all about. Yesterday,
a guy comes up to me, one of these insurance executives.
I saw your son selling a shoe that says future
looks bright. I said, yeah, so what are you going
(06:51):
to sell next? I said, what do you mean? What
am I going to say? You're saying it as if
it's bad to sell something, and he kind of got
checked real quick. I'm like, you said, life insurance, bro.
I've been proud to sell life insurance my entire life,
but I respect anybody that sells anything. We're at a podcast,
say they sold us this place, and guess what, they
have so many people working here. It's like over preparation
(07:12):
for us. Typically, I'm like trying to get focused on
what I'm doing. Do you guys need this? Do you
guys need that? Look? Holy shit like unreasonable hospitality. These
guys are on steroids here, but they're selling themselves. I
freaking love it. This is what business and life is
all about. You ought to be proud of it. Whatever
you're doing. If you're gonna be industries, be proud of
what you're doing. Anyways, I don't want to go on
a rant because I want to go into the stories.
(07:34):
But last night was a very very special night for
anybody that was there. Love you guys, what a historic night.
I'm gonna post some of the pictures. We got so
many great stories from last night. Everybody crushed it. And
congratulations to Chris and Vessina Hart.
Speaker 2 (07:50):
I gotta give a shout out to MVP NOWSK you
just one quick by the way, family.
Speaker 1 (07:56):
Amazing night.
Speaker 2 (07:56):
Shout out to PHP, shout out to Integrity, shout out
to Chris Hart who won the MVP. I believe shout
out to Sapula or Argus is earned. Here's my question
for you on these six phases that we all go through. Yes,
we've all been lost, we all found, We get someplace
where we're going, we get committed. Then you get the
lifestyle and lifestyle creep sets in. All right, I get
a nicer car, get a nicer clothes.
Speaker 1 (08:17):
To me, the biggest challenges Some people get nicer cars,
but better yeah, go ahead.
Speaker 3 (08:24):
Driver's license than they better friends.
Speaker 2 (08:26):
But to me, phase five is where reality sits is
and where it's like, all right, I've made some money,
I've done some things.
Speaker 1 (08:33):
And it's natural.
Speaker 2 (08:34):
Maybe a week or two a month, all right, Yeah,
how do you avoid going into you know, I'm the
man kind of vibe now and get back.
Speaker 1 (08:41):
You know, to work. You know who's the first people
you don't want to be around when you're going through
that phase of boredom, ungrateful, entitled, arrogant rebellion, like everything's
about you? You know who the people you hate the
most in those seasons? You know who the people you
hate the most? Tell me the people that will tell
you the truth. Oh, the people that will check you
the truth, tell you can not stand the high standard people.
(09:02):
All you want to do is be surrounded by people
that want to flatter you. And flattery is one of
the worst drugs in the world. It's deception, it's manipulation,
it's gamification. It's finding a way to divide between you
and high standards. Whether it's your wife who doesn't want
you to work too hard, whether it's your girlfriend, whether
it's your brother, whether it's your sibling, whether it's your
best friend that still wants you to party. He doesn't
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want you to go and become a family man because
he's going to lose you at the nightclubs. I'll never
forget a friend of mine, Devin. I absolutely love Devin too.
Today I think about that guy. I can tell you
his phone number. I can tell you his birthday. The
only guy that when I was in the army, the
only guy when I came back, I stayed with him
for eighteen days. I lived at his place for eighteen days. Baharians, Devin.
Whoever sends you this video, I love you. I work
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with this scuty Burger King thirty years ago. Thirty years ago, yeah, thirty, No,
maybe thirty one years ago. I worked with my burger
kim Me, Devin and Cogin. And Devin was the drive
through guy, legendary drive through guy. He was a good
drive through me. He was fast. What do you mean
the drive through guy? You you are coming by to
Burger King, but if you work at Burger King, you're
drive through. That's a promotion. Wow, Eddie and that was
(10:07):
who was our manager. Never gave me to drive through job,
I said, Eddie. He says, you're just a chef. I would,
but flip. I would do whopper. No one in that
was me, right, So let me be a cashier. He says,
you talk to people too much. Stay back. I was
the biggest chef they had and an intention to call
myself chef. Yes, I was a chef. Chef David a
Burger king right every one day calls me. Wes to
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party a lot together. He calls me, He says, hey, Pat.
I said, what's up. He says, hey, man, you ain't
coming to the clubs anymore. I says, yeah, Bro, I'm done.
He says, what are you doing right now? I said,
I'm studying stocks Saturday night. He said, I'm sorry, what
are you doing? I said, I'm studying stocks, trying to
see what to do, and I'm trying to get my
securities all this other stuff. He says, Pat, we're going
to the club. Ton I come with us. I says,
I have no interest. He says, Pat, let's go to
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the club. We're gonna have a good time. I said, Devin,
I'm not coming to the club. We had gone to
a party with one of my friends armand bless a
Sore and another guy named Mesro Up. He'll remember this
mess up Arman and Devine should remember this. We're at
a club. We went to see a girl. She was there.
We said, Hi, some stupid things happened there. Again, this
is not the club, that's the party in Burbank up
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in Angelino. I don't know if some of the people
from their notes close to the what is the spot
at top of Burbank Tom that place that was a
make out place? What was it? I was? I told
Devin get a ticket. Something happened that night. I said,
(11:32):
I'm done. I have no desire to be here. I
moved on. Devine calls me and says, I missed the
old Pat. I will never forget that phone call when
it is Pat. I missed old Pat, the fact they
used to party. Yes, And for a split second I
was like, damn that hurt. And then I was shell shocked.
And if he remembers this, he's probably gonna text me.
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If he remembers this, I said, I don't miss the
old path. That's what matters. I am done period until
you're not too. This doesn't mean we can't reminisce, this
mean you can't laugh, This doesn't mean we can't sit
there and talk about the stories. But I didn't miss
the old pan I'd seen my dad that almost died.
Life was changing quickly, chaos everywhere. I have not a
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single penny to my name, and you want me to
go and party, to do what with people that just
want to do ecstasy? Roll drink water? At two o'clock,
we go to Naked, then we go to this other club.
I'm out. I was done and life change. So for
you when you're going through that phase. The hardest thing
about going through the ungrateful board entitled face is having
people around you that tell you what you want to
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hear versus what you need to hear. The people that
are around you that tell you what you need to
here are the most annoying people in the world. Are
the most annoying people in the world. There's scripture tells
us Tom, you can I'm on a paraphrase this that
a a kiss from an enemy versus the truth from
a friend. It's you can find this rap there is
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there's right, faith are the wounds of a friend, But
the kisses of an enemy are deceitful.
Speaker 3 (13:01):
And the wounds of a friend are sharp words of truths.
Speaker 1 (13:04):
Yes, so guess what you want. That that's tough that
is so hard and unfortunately, I've been that guy for
a lot of people and most of the time they
don't like it. But it's not changing because we got
a big vision of what we want to do, very simple.
Speaker 3 (13:20):
This is why so many athletes get those posseus, which
is old friends and everybody in their new contract and
it all ends in tears because they get wiped out.
They're buying stuff, no one's there to help them build structure.
And if they get a good coach, they talk about
Dean Smith, they talk about coach Druzhevsky. How many players
have talked about the influence of.
Speaker 1 (13:40):
That change changed in a big way. Okay, so are
you gonna say I was just gonna say, like just
really fast.
Speaker 4 (13:47):
When I was sitting there yesterday with Adam and I'm
looking at this list because everything in my head, I'm like,
how does this apply to me? And then when I
saw loss, they go, huh lost la, friends passed away,
COVID life was going down. I found you. I found
you on I saw the picture of you, and I
saw David. I go who my cousin's Mike's name is
David click boom found and then came here lifestyle change,
(14:10):
gave myself to christ stop drinking. I'm and by I
wasn't nervous because I was like, am I bored and entire?
I know I'm on the boarding title, but now it's
the legacy. You can graduate that. But that was your
you can graduate that. We never even hit it. That's
what I'm saying. In my mind, I'm like, wait, meaning
I was bored of Hawaii, like I wanted to recreate myself.
But I'm like, I wasn't entitled anything. So when I
saw it, I was like, holy crap. That's for everybody
(14:32):
has to go through it.
Speaker 1 (14:33):
Yeah.
Speaker 3 (14:34):
No, I mean, listen, what I'm saying, your commitment stage
is my aspiring things.
Speaker 1 (14:37):
My oldest son was on the other side. And and uh, Tico,
wherever you are, I think your somewhere here with loves
both ties. He's in the back. He's trying to get
a job over here. He kind of likes these guys
go back. You go back there. Yesterday they're coming back
and it's twelve o'clock and you know they left a
little bit at eleven o'clock. You guys are leaving. What
did Tico tell you? And we're in the car when
you put up that picture with him and the bow
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tie watches. So I'm putting up the bow tie and
He's like sick, And I told him, I'm doing this
high good. Tell me this is a story only him
and Dylano. I said, Tico, I'm doing a bow tie tie.
Look how sick it is? Who ridiculous? I said, is
it is? Your voice changed? And he goes like this,
it is not tight. I said, you sure, it's not tight?
Speaker 4 (15:17):
And what We're in the car going back knee Jenn
and Rob and then I'm like, man, I got I
gotta get to the room. I gotta prep for the
podcast and pack because we're leaving. And then Tico goes
just like this. He goes, I'm going to get back
to the room. I'm going to take off this bow
tie and I'm gonna set it on fire. Dude, I
asked the light he does, look at that to make
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you look good, Tico.
Speaker 1 (15:44):
Man, By the way, I will tell you I'm proud
of that guy. Man, Well, listen, proud of that guy.
He's a he's an inch away from being Tom Site
at thirteen years old. He's going place and smarter than Tom. Yeah. Well,
he's got a bit that's a was just taller than me.
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Let me share with you guys what coach k said
last night. I think it's important for everybody to be
thinking about this. Last night as a consultant, I'm giving
this message to everybody, and I was thinking about the
entire time what should I share. So I gave one
hundred and fifty pictures over the years of what we've done,
and I found one of Tom's favorite pictures. I'm telling
(00:22):
history stuff that we done. We're laughing, we're going through.
It's a great story. But one of the things was
that all of us in life. Yesterday we're having breakfast,
the conversation Adam, I don't know if you remember that conversation.
I do remember that coming to a conversation, sir. The
incredible conversation we had is how do you measure a man? Like?
What is a man? If I ask you, what is
a man? Not the chromosome man, not the funny stuff
(00:43):
that we're talking about. No, I'm not talking about that game.
I'm talking about what how do you measure a man?
Wouldn't you look at a man and say, man, that's
a man's man. What does a man's man need to
do to be a man? There's levels in life there's
levels and wealth, there's levels in sports, there's levels and greatness,
there's levels of being a man. And unfortunately a lot
(01:04):
of times, especially nowadays, you know, we are living in
an era where the same way women are kind of
going through the era of what. I don't need a man.
I don't need this. J Loo just said something last night.
She said, after being married five times or whatever, I've decided,
I'm choosing me. I'm choosing me. You're choosing you. What
are you choosing? Bro? How would do you? This is it?
(01:27):
After four divorces and six different engagements, fifty six year
old singer Jennifer Lopez says she's done with marriage and
she's choosing herself right, and also, my god, she's so amazing.
Good for you for choosing you, Good for you for
doing this. There's nothing more unattractive than a single woman
in her fifties that's wealthy. No one's interested. Nobody is
(01:50):
maybe a twenty two year old that wants to come
marry and get half your well five years later, but
people are not interested. But this is like this new era.
I don't need a man. I can do my own thing.
And for men, guess what men are going through. Screw you,
you want to do this, I don't want any responsibilities.
Don't give me any responsibilities. I'm gonna choose me too.
So who wins? You know, who wins? The enemy wins?
(02:11):
Who's the enemy? The enemy is another country. The enemy
is another denomination. The enemy is another philosophy, ideology that
doesn't match with the Western ideology that became the greatest
country in the world. It doesn't match with freedom of speech,
it doesn't match with freedom of assembly, it doesn't match
with freedom of religion. It just doesn't. Some men are
sitting there going on a strike. Screw you, I'm choosing
(02:32):
me too, now what and so neither one of them
are right. So the whole idea of men, we measure
men based on more responsibilities they carry, what they do
for their family, what they do for their kids, what
they do for their communities, what they do for their state,
for their country, for their church. That's a man's men.
(02:52):
There's the layers to it, right. So last night I
talked about the six levels we all go through. Number
one is we're laws. Number two, somebody finds us and
believes in us and says, hey, I believe in you.
I think he can do X y Z. Maybe you
find God, maybe you find church, maybe you find a
good influence in your life. Number three, you finally commit
I'm going to choose to change my life. Number four
(03:13):
lifestyle changes. You're living a better lifestyle, You're living in
a better place, you have some money in the bank,
You're feeling confident and feeling good about yourself. And in
phase number five, if you can skip it, good for you.
Phase number five is when you get bored, when you
get entitled, when he get ungrateful, when you forget about
all the people that helped you, like no one helped me.
I get all this for myself, and I finally, hopefully
you go to phase number six, which is choosing legacy,
choosing history, choosing to do something big with your life.
(03:36):
And Coach K is speaking on stage. I'm listening to
this man walking up, you know, him and I are
talking and I'm you know, you know, if you ever
see me taking pictures with guy, I'm touching his shoulders.
I'm like, holy moly, Coach K, you got some traps.
He's like, who the hell is this guy like putting
his arms all around me all this sudden I'll post
the story on Instagram. Afterwards he's on stage. He says,
when he was when he was a young man ten
(03:58):
years old or something, playing basketball, his mom tells him
a story and it's the story of bus. He says
the mom. I want to go play. Leave me alone.
He says, no, Michael specifically said Michael, not Mike. Michael.
Stay here. I have to tell you the story. What's
that in life? You better get on the right bus,
he says, Mom, which bus are you talking about? I
gotta go play basketball because coach k ended up playing
(04:20):
at one point for Bobby Bowden. Who know not Bobby Night?
Bobby Knight? Did you know that?
Speaker 2 (04:25):
Yeah?
Speaker 1 (04:25):
I think in the military area. That's right, because he
was in the army. Correct. So what are you talking
about with the bus? He says, If you're going to
get on someone's bus, you better choose the right bus.
And if you're going to be the driver on your bus,
you better choose a lot of people to get on
your bus. If you allow the wrong people to get
on your bus, life will be destroyed. And if you
get on the wrong bus, your life will be destroyed.
(04:46):
So for you watching this right now, before we get
into all these stories. I don't want to say this
that the normally I would say that at the end,
but I just want to open it up with this monologue.
It's amazing what can happen to anyone one of our
lives if you choose to have the right people in
your year, and if you choose to raise your standards.
It's one of the hardest things to do as young men.
Well men nowadays are afraid of responsibilities. No no, no,
(05:08):
no no no no kids no, no. One point five
to nine child bird per woman. No no, no. I don't
want any responsibilities. But that's not what a leader does.
That's not what a man's man's does, That's not what
a man that wants to be. Look back later on
when they come to your funeral, they're looking at you saying,
holy moly, this man changed my life. This is my father.
Men are sitting there, women are sitting at your funeral
is saying, I am so proud to have had a
(05:29):
relationship with this person. And that kind of a person
only happens when you choose to make a decision in
your life, and it's not easy to do. It's very
hard to do. But I just want to open up
with that do whatever you want with the story. Last
night was just a very special night for me. I've
been in this business for twenty five years, in the
financial insurance business. Most of you guys only know me
as a podcast or you don't know what I do
(05:49):
on the business side. I'm meeting with all these CEOs
that are running multi billion dollar insurance companies. All these
different conversations the industry change our lives. But if it's
the right person watching this, if this mess resonated with you,
graduate from loss to found to commit it and then
try to skip the entitled the bore the No one
(06:10):
helped me out. I did it all myself, the lack
of gratitude phase and pursue legacy and history because great
things around the corner. I do believe the future looks bright.
I'm convinced the future looks bright. Every time I say
the future looks bright, it's amazing. Half the people in
the world want to convince me that it doesn't look bright.
But it's unfair. You don't know. You're only saying that's
because you have money. I said that when I was
(06:30):
broke forty nine thousand dollars in debt and I had
nothing and I said, the future looks bright. I don't
know why I said the future looks bright. It's a mentality.
It's a mindset that every one of us can have.
That's what we believe in. That's what our brand's all about. Yesterday,
a guy comes up to me, one of these insurance executives.
I saw your son selling a shoe that says future
looks bright. I said, yeah, so what are you going
(06:51):
to sell next? I said, what do you mean? What
am I going to say? You're saying it as if
it's bad to sell something, and he kind of got
checked real quick. I'm like, you said, life insurance, bro.
I've been proud to sell life insurance my entire life,
but I respect anybody that sells anything. We're at a podcast,
say they sold us this place, and guess what, they
have so many people working here. It's like over preparation
(07:12):
for us. Typically, I'm like trying to get focused on
what I'm doing. Do you guys need this? Do you
guys need that? Look? Holy shit like unreasonable hospitality. These
guys are on steroids here, but they're selling themselves. I
freaking love it. This is what business and life is
all about. You ought to be proud of it. Whatever
you're doing. If you're gonna be industries, be proud of
what you're doing. Anyways, I don't want to go on
a rant because I want to go into the stories.
(07:34):
But last night was a very very special night for
anybody that was there. Love you guys, what a historic night.
I'm gonna post some of the pictures. We got so
many great stories from last night. Everybody crushed it. And
congratulations to Chris and Vessina Hart.
Speaker 2 (07:50):
I gotta give a shout out to MVP NOWSK you
just one quick by the way, family.
Speaker 1 (07:56):
Amazing night.
Speaker 2 (07:56):
Shout out to PHP, shout out to Integrity, shout out
to Chris Hart who won the MVP. I believe shout
out to Sapula or Argus is earned. Here's my question
for you on these six phases that we all go through. Yes,
we've all been lost, we all found, We get someplace
where we're going, we get committed. Then you get the
lifestyle and lifestyle creep sets in. All right, I get
a nicer car, get a nicer clothes.
Speaker 1 (08:17):
To me, the biggest challenges Some people get nicer cars,
but better yeah, go ahead.
Speaker 3 (08:24):
Driver's license than they better friends.
Speaker 2 (08:26):
But to me, phase five is where reality sits is
and where it's like, all right, I've made some money,
I've done some things.
Speaker 1 (08:33):
And it's natural.
Speaker 2 (08:34):
Maybe a week or two a month, all right, Yeah,
how do you avoid going into you know, I'm the
man kind of vibe now and get back.
Speaker 1 (08:41):
You know, to work. You know who's the first people
you don't want to be around when you're going through
that phase of boredom, ungrateful, entitled, arrogant rebellion, like everything's
about you? You know who the people you hate the
most in those seasons? You know who the people you
hate the most? Tell me the people that will tell
you the truth. Oh, the people that will check you
the truth, tell you can not stand the high standard people.
(09:02):
All you want to do is be surrounded by people
that want to flatter you. And flattery is one of
the worst drugs in the world. It's deception, it's manipulation,
it's gamification. It's finding a way to divide between you
and high standards. Whether it's your wife who doesn't want
you to work too hard, whether it's your girlfriend, whether
it's your brother, whether it's your sibling, whether it's your
best friend that still wants you to party. He doesn't
(09:22):
want you to go and become a family man because
he's going to lose you at the nightclubs. I'll never
forget a friend of mine, Devin. I absolutely love Devin too.
Today I think about that guy. I can tell you
his phone number. I can tell you his birthday. The
only guy that when I was in the army, the
only guy when I came back, I stayed with him
for eighteen days. I lived at his place for eighteen days. Baharians, Devin.
Whoever sends you this video, I love you. I work
(09:45):
with this scuty Burger King thirty years ago. Thirty years ago, yeah, thirty, No,
maybe thirty one years ago. I worked with my burger
kim Me, Devin and Cogin. And Devin was the drive
through guy, legendary drive through guy. He was a good
drive through me. He was fast. What do you mean
the drive through guy? You you are coming by to
Burger King, but if you work at Burger King, you're
drive through. That's a promotion. Wow, Eddie and that was
(10:07):
who was our manager. Never gave me to drive through job,
I said, Eddie. He says, you're just a chef. I would,
but flip. I would do whopper. No one in that
was me, right, So let me be a cashier. He says,
you talk to people too much. Stay back. I was
the biggest chef they had and an intention to call
myself chef. Yes, I was a chef. Chef David a
Burger king right every one day calls me. Wes to
(10:28):
party a lot together. He calls me, He says, hey, Pat.
I said, what's up. He says, hey, man, you ain't
coming to the clubs anymore. I says, yeah, Bro, I'm done.
He says, what are you doing right now? I said,
I'm studying stocks Saturday night. He said, I'm sorry, what
are you doing? I said, I'm studying stocks, trying to
see what to do, and I'm trying to get my
securities all this other stuff. He says, Pat, we're going
to the club. Ton I come with us. I says,
I have no interest. He says, Pat, let's go to
(10:50):
the club. We're gonna have a good time. I said, Devin,
I'm not coming to the club. We had gone to
a party with one of my friends armand bless a
Sore and another guy named Mesro Up. He'll remember this
mess up Arman and Devine should remember this. We're at
a club. We went to see a girl. She was there.
We said, Hi, some stupid things happened there. Again, this
is not the club, that's the party in Burbank up
(11:11):
in Angelino. I don't know if some of the people
from their notes close to the what is the spot
at top of Burbank Tom that place that was a
make out place? What was it? I was? I told
Devin get a ticket. Something happened that night. I said,
(11:32):
I'm done. I have no desire to be here. I
moved on. Devine calls me and says, I missed the
old Pat. I will never forget that phone call when
it is Pat. I missed old Pat, the fact they
used to party. Yes, And for a split second I
was like, damn that hurt. And then I was shell shocked.
And if he remembers this, he's probably gonna text me.
(11:52):
If he remembers this, I said, I don't miss the
old path. That's what matters. I am done period until
you're not too. This doesn't mean we can't reminisce, this
mean you can't laugh, This doesn't mean we can't sit
there and talk about the stories. But I didn't miss
the old pan I'd seen my dad that almost died.
Life was changing quickly, chaos everywhere. I have not a
(12:15):
single penny to my name, and you want me to
go and party, to do what with people that just
want to do ecstasy? Roll drink water? At two o'clock,
we go to Naked, then we go to this other club.
I'm out. I was done and life change. So for
you when you're going through that phase. The hardest thing
about going through the ungrateful board entitled face is having
people around you that tell you what you want to
(12:35):
hear versus what you need to hear. The people that
are around you that tell you what you need to
here are the most annoying people in the world. Are
the most annoying people in the world. There's scripture tells
us Tom, you can I'm on a paraphrase this that
a a kiss from an enemy versus the truth from
a friend. It's you can find this rap there is
(12:56):
there's right, faith are the wounds of a friend, But
the kisses of an enemy are deceitful.
Speaker 3 (13:01):
And the wounds of a friend are sharp words of truths.
Speaker 1 (13:04):
Yes, so guess what you want. That that's tough that
is so hard and unfortunately, I've been that guy for
a lot of people and most of the time they
don't like it. But it's not changing because we got
a big vision of what we want to do, very simple.
Speaker 3 (13:20):
This is why so many athletes get those posseus, which
is old friends and everybody in their new contract and
it all ends in tears because they get wiped out.
They're buying stuff, no one's there to help them build structure.
And if they get a good coach, they talk about
Dean Smith, they talk about coach Druzhevsky. How many players
have talked about the influence of.
Speaker 1 (13:40):
That change changed in a big way. Okay, so are
you gonna say I was just gonna say, like just
really fast.
Speaker 4 (13:47):
When I was sitting there yesterday with Adam and I'm
looking at this list because everything in my head, I'm like,
how does this apply to me? And then when I
saw loss, they go, huh lost la, friends passed away,
COVID life was going down. I found you. I found
you on I saw the picture of you, and I
saw David. I go who my cousin's Mike's name is
David click boom found and then came here lifestyle change,
(14:10):
gave myself to christ stop drinking. I'm and by I
wasn't nervous because I was like, am I bored and entire?
I know I'm on the boarding title, but now it's
the legacy. You can graduate that. But that was your
you can graduate that. We never even hit it. That's
what I'm saying. In my mind, I'm like, wait, meaning
I was bored of Hawaii, like I wanted to recreate myself.
But I'm like, I wasn't entitled anything. So when I
saw it, I was like, holy crap. That's for everybody
(14:32):
has to go through it.
Speaker 1 (14:33):
Yeah.
Speaker 3 (14:34):
No, I mean, listen, what I'm saying, your commitment stage
is my aspiring things.
Speaker 1 (14:37):
My oldest son was on the other side. And and uh, Tico,
wherever you are, I think your somewhere here with loves
both ties. He's in the back. He's trying to get
a job over here. He kind of likes these guys
go back. You go back there. Yesterday they're coming back
and it's twelve o'clock and you know they left a
little bit at eleven o'clock. You guys are leaving. What
did Tico tell you? And we're in the car when
you put up that picture with him and the bow
(14:59):
tie watches. So I'm putting up the bow tie and
He's like sick, And I told him, I'm doing this
high good. Tell me this is a story only him
and Dylano. I said, Tico, I'm doing a bow tie tie.
Look how sick it is? Who ridiculous? I said, is
it is? Your voice changed? And he goes like this,
it is not tight. I said, you sure, it's not tight?
Speaker 4 (15:17):
And what We're in the car going back knee Jenn
and Rob and then I'm like, man, I got I
gotta get to the room. I gotta prep for the
podcast and pack because we're leaving. And then Tico goes
just like this. He goes, I'm going to get back
to the room. I'm going to take off this bow
tie and I'm gonna set it on fire. Dude, I
asked the light he does, look at that to make
(15:42):
you look good, Tico.
Speaker 1 (15:44):
Man, By the way, I will tell you I'm proud
of that guy. Man, Well, listen, proud of that guy.
He's a he's an inch away from being Tom Site
at thirteen years old. He's going place and smarter than Tom. Yeah. Well,
he's got a bit that's a was just taller than me.
Every your folks, there's threats when you're in business, when
you're building your business, whatever you're doing. This year, we
(16:06):
are releasing our annual Top twenty threat report, coming up
at a free webinar on August nineteen, six pm with
a white paper that will be given to everybody. These
are threats that we personally go through ourselves. We now
have grown our business the last couple of years from
twenty employees thirty employees to nine hundred and sixty four
full time employees. This is not ICs, this is not
(16:26):
independent contractors. I'm talking. That's on the victainments side, and
then on the PHV side, we're dealing with complete different threats.
So we're simply taking all of those threats and we're
sharing it with you to be ready with it. Some
of it is evergreen threats, some of it is emerging green,
some of it is black Swan threats, but it's things
that you need to know about. So if you haven't
yet registered for this, I think I'm saying this for
(16:48):
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