August 14, 2025 • 15 mins
In a world where many choose to withdraw from relationships based on perceived slights, we are called to something greater. Join me in this episode of ‘Victorious through Christ’ as we explore how to reflect Christ’s grace in our interactions. Discover the transformative power of prioritizing faith over feelings and learn practical steps to foster deeper connections rooted in love and forgiveness. Let’s embark on this journey together!
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Speaker 1 (00:07):
We rise every morning, light.
Speaker 2 (00:09):
Up the dam with faith.
Speaker 1 (00:11):
And purpose, we find our way. Impossible dreams we don't
breaking through. With Christ on our side, there's nothing we
can't do. We're living the dreams. Can't stop our phone
strengthening is love. Let the good vibes grow. We can't
do it all. No fear in our hearts. With Christ
(00:34):
in our lives, we're testing for stars. Impossible challenges we
face with the grand in this funk of life, we're
ready to win.
Speaker 3 (01:03):
Welcome to another episode of Leave Victorious through Christ Podcast.
I'm doctor eric A Seaborn, and I'm so glad you're
joining me today. In this episode, we're diving into a
topic that's both timely and essential for our spiritual growth,
the importance of reflecting Christ's grace in our relationships, especially
(01:28):
when we feel it down by others. Have you ever
noticed how many people today are the quick to withdraw
from relationships and be spiteful when they don't feel that
(01:52):
their efforts are being reciprocated well. Social media has a
lot of post declaring I won't get energy to those
who don't reach out to me. I'm going to treat
them the way they treat me. And it's a sentiment
that resonates with many, But is it truly reflective of
(02:14):
the grace that we're called to exhibit.
Speaker 2 (02:16):
As believers in Jesus Christ.
Speaker 3 (02:19):
Now, let's take a moment to reflect on what Jesus
said in Matthew chapter five, verses forty six through forty seven,
and the Word of God says, for if you love
those who love you, what reward do you have?
Speaker 2 (02:37):
Do you not even? Do not?
Speaker 3 (02:40):
Even the tax collectors do the same. This scripture challenges
us to look beyond mere reciprocity in our relationships and
to look at our heart condition to examine ourselves in
how we respond to people. Now, as followers of Jesus Christ,
(03:04):
we are called to be agents of grace. At the
parable of the prodigal Son in Luke chapter fifteen, verses
eleven through thirty two.
Speaker 2 (03:20):
Well, it beautifully illustrates this.
Speaker 3 (03:24):
In this story, the father welcomes back his wayward son
with open arms despite the son's mistakes, and this act
of unconditional love represents God's grace towards us and rend
me encounter situations where we feel unappreciated or neglected, we
(03:48):
must remember that the father's response was not like that.
He didn't let hurt feelings dictate his actions. Instead, he
demonstrated love and forgiveness and mercy. Can you say that
(04:10):
you honestly did that to the last person that hurt you. Now,
let's talk about the importance of prioritizing faith over feelings.
I want to share a simple analogy that might help.
Speaker 2 (04:30):
Well.
Speaker 3 (04:30):
This analogy might help illustrate this concept. The train analogy.
Imagine a train. The engine represents faith and the cars
represent our feelings. Now just as the train needs it,
So locomotive is what it's really called. The engine to
(04:51):
move forward. We need our faith to guide us in
our relationships, and then the allow our feelings to take
the lead. We risk detailing our relationships, for instance, and
someone doesn't respond to our outreach, our feelings might say
(05:14):
they don't care about me, why should I reach out again?
But if we let our faith drive us, we remember
that we are called to love unconditionally, we are called
to show mercy.
Speaker 2 (05:32):
Just a second.
Speaker 3 (05:33):
Corinthians, Chapter five of your seven tells us for we
walk by faith, not by sight, and this means that
we should choose to act on our faith even when
our feelings or just otherwise. Now, let's consider the impact
(05:55):
of our actions. How we respond to others can either
draw them closer to Jesus Christ or push them away.
And it's essential to ask ourselves. Are we reflecting Jesus
Christ's love and our responses?
Speaker 2 (06:14):
And it how we active people?
Speaker 3 (06:20):
Colausius chapter three thirteen reminds us bear with each other
and forgive one another. If any of you has a
grievance against someone, forgive as the Lord forgive you.
Speaker 2 (06:38):
Now that's acripture.
Speaker 3 (06:40):
It cause us to actively choose forgiveness, even when it
feels difficult.
Speaker 2 (06:48):
It's not easy. Sometimes it really isn't what we're called
to do it. So how can we.
Speaker 3 (06:58):
Practically exhibit the grace of God and our relationships. I'm
gonna give you a few actionable tips. Let's call them
that actionable tips. The first one is initiate conversations. Don't
wait for others to reach out. Take the first step
(07:19):
in reconciling. You don't recall to a ministry of reconciliation
right a simple message or a phone call can make
a significant difference. Second, practice empathy. Try to understand where
(07:41):
others are coming from. Maybe they are going through their
own struggles that you are un array of. Thirdly, choose forgiveness,
let go of grudges, and focus on reconciliation. Remember, forgiveness
is a choice, not a feeling. As we wrap up
(08:10):
today's episode, I want to encourage you to reflect on
your relationships. How can you embody Christ's love and his
grace and his mercy. It's not always easy, but it's
a journey of taking Remember I Pphesians four thirty two,
(08:30):
which says, be kind and compassionate to one another, forgiving
each other, just as in Christ, God forgave you. Let
this be our guiding principle as we navigate our interactions
with other people, especially our friends and family. Don't let
(08:52):
your feeling strive how you treat them. Your witness as
a believer in Jesus Christ speaks volumes, and it could
heal others rather than destroy the relationship. Recall to exhibit
(09:12):
the love, mercy and grace of Jesus Christ to draw
others towards him, to mend relationships, not to destroy them.
And if your intent is to destroy the relationship, you
have to examine your own motives where you billion it
(09:35):
to be in a relationship with the other person for
who they are and to love them for who they are,
or were you really in it for yourself? It's a
thought provoking question. So just take the time to examine yourself,
to examine your motives, and step away from the situation
(09:57):
and prayer and ask God what is he wanted you
to do and to direct you by His Holy Spirit
to reconcile with the person.
Speaker 2 (10:09):
And some people may say, well, it's not always meant
to reconcile with people, but you know what, think about it.
You messed up God, and God reconciled with you, and yes,
but it's not meant for us.
Speaker 3 (10:30):
To just discard their relationship just as if it were.
Speaker 2 (10:39):
A piece of.
Speaker 3 (10:40):
Trash, and that's not right. He wouldn't wanna be treated
that way. Just say, for instance, if you are going
through something and you had to distance yourself for a while, because.
Speaker 2 (10:55):
Just like Jesus did.
Speaker 3 (10:56):
Jesus spend a lot of time with himself, just him
and God. He spent a lot of time in only career,
and sometimes we happy to do that. And a lot
of people, if they don't know all the details of
what you're doing and what's going on, they will assume that.
Speaker 2 (11:23):
Pay we're not there for them, or if there's something.
Speaker 3 (11:29):
Else going on, And sometimes sometimes it really can be
something else going on, but it's not up to us
to judge. Only God can separate the reed from the tears.
Only God can do that. Only God can see the
inner motives of a person's heart.
Speaker 2 (11:47):
And if they mean you know good, he will let
you know. He will let you know. He will let
you know when to distance yourself.
Speaker 3 (11:55):
He will let you know how to reconcile without damaging
your relationship with Him, the Most High God first, because
our relationship with God is priority over.
Speaker 2 (12:09):
Any other earth free relationship.
Speaker 3 (12:11):
And when we have that relationship with Him in order
and the sincerity, uh other relationships would be blessed too.
But just know that when you listen to his voice,
he will guide you as to what to say, what
to do.
Speaker 2 (12:31):
You may not.
Speaker 3 (12:33):
Want you to be around that person is my or
he may say, hey, they need some space to do
what they need to do, and He's given them grace
to handle their situation, just like he's given you grace
to handle yours. And as we conclude this episode, Agith,
(12:58):
I want to encourage you to be prayer for.
Speaker 2 (13:03):
About your motives.
Speaker 3 (13:05):
And how you handle relationships because in the end, we're
not going to answer for what someone else did and
how they treated us.
Speaker 2 (13:15):
They are going to answer for that.
Speaker 3 (13:17):
We are going to be held accountable for how we
responded to them. So it's important to examine yourselves to
work out our own salvation before we're trying to judge
how someone is treating us and what they're doing, because
we we're not gonna answer for them. We're going to
(13:41):
answer for how we treated them and how we reacted
to them, and how we respond to them. I want
to thank you for joining me today in Victorious to Christ.
Speaker 2 (13:55):
I know it's been a while. As you may know,
I I'm dealing with.
Speaker 3 (14:06):
There be some passion and my father's I mentioned in
previous episodes, So I need your prayers as well, and I.
Speaker 2 (14:17):
Love to just I appreciate your support and really do.
Speaker 3 (14:21):
And I hope this episode, as well as the others,
encourages you to reflect on your relationship with Jesus Christ
and our interpersonal relationships. And I also pray that it
helps you realize how you can embody the grace of
God and your daily life and your activities. And I
(14:45):
love to hear your thoughts and your experiences, So feel
free to reach out to me on social media and
Victorious through christ our Facebook page, and don't forget to
tune in for our next episode. They can be random sometimes,
(15:10):
so just be on the lookout for new episodes and
if you have a suggestion or repress for a topic,
just let you know. I love you in the name
of Jesus, and choose to walk in the grace of
God and humility, demonstrating the ministry of reconciliation with fathers.
Speaker 2 (15:31):
God bless you, and walk victoriously in Christ. Shot and
just come. We don't back down, laughter in love.
Speaker 1 (15:41):
We were the crowd together shine we stand doever trial
United had hand
We rise every morning, light.
Speaker 2 (00:09):
Up the dam with faith.
Speaker 1 (00:11):
And purpose, we find our way. Impossible dreams we don't
breaking through. With Christ on our side, there's nothing we
can't do. We're living the dreams. Can't stop our phone
strengthening is love. Let the good vibes grow. We can't
do it all. No fear in our hearts. With Christ
(00:34):
in our lives, we're testing for stars. Impossible challenges we
face with the grand in this funk of life, we're
ready to win.
Speaker 3 (01:03):
Welcome to another episode of Leave Victorious through Christ Podcast.
I'm doctor eric A Seaborn, and I'm so glad you're
joining me today. In this episode, we're diving into a
topic that's both timely and essential for our spiritual growth,
the importance of reflecting Christ's grace in our relationships, especially
(01:28):
when we feel it down by others. Have you ever
noticed how many people today are the quick to withdraw
from relationships and be spiteful when they don't feel that
(01:52):
their efforts are being reciprocated well. Social media has a
lot of post declaring I won't get energy to those
who don't reach out to me. I'm going to treat
them the way they treat me. And it's a sentiment
that resonates with many, But is it truly reflective of
(02:14):
the grace that we're called to exhibit.
Speaker 2 (02:16):
As believers in Jesus Christ.
Speaker 3 (02:19):
Now, let's take a moment to reflect on what Jesus
said in Matthew chapter five, verses forty six through forty seven,
and the Word of God says, for if you love
those who love you, what reward do you have?
Speaker 2 (02:37):
Do you not even? Do not?
Speaker 3 (02:40):
Even the tax collectors do the same. This scripture challenges
us to look beyond mere reciprocity in our relationships and
to look at our heart condition to examine ourselves in
how we respond to people. Now, as followers of Jesus Christ,
(03:04):
we are called to be agents of grace. At the
parable of the prodigal Son in Luke chapter fifteen, verses
eleven through thirty two.
Speaker 2 (03:20):
Well, it beautifully illustrates this.
Speaker 3 (03:24):
In this story, the father welcomes back his wayward son
with open arms despite the son's mistakes, and this act
of unconditional love represents God's grace towards us and rend
me encounter situations where we feel unappreciated or neglected, we
(03:48):
must remember that the father's response was not like that.
He didn't let hurt feelings dictate his actions. Instead, he
demonstrated love and forgiveness and mercy. Can you say that
(04:10):
you honestly did that to the last person that hurt you. Now,
let's talk about the importance of prioritizing faith over feelings.
I want to share a simple analogy that might help.
Speaker 2 (04:30):
Well.
Speaker 3 (04:30):
This analogy might help illustrate this concept. The train analogy.
Imagine a train. The engine represents faith and the cars
represent our feelings. Now just as the train needs it,
So locomotive is what it's really called. The engine to
(04:51):
move forward. We need our faith to guide us in
our relationships, and then the allow our feelings to take
the lead. We risk detailing our relationships, for instance, and
someone doesn't respond to our outreach, our feelings might say
(05:14):
they don't care about me, why should I reach out again?
But if we let our faith drive us, we remember
that we are called to love unconditionally, we are called
to show mercy.
Speaker 2 (05:32):
Just a second.
Speaker 3 (05:33):
Corinthians, Chapter five of your seven tells us for we
walk by faith, not by sight, and this means that
we should choose to act on our faith even when
our feelings or just otherwise. Now, let's consider the impact
(05:55):
of our actions. How we respond to others can either
draw them closer to Jesus Christ or push them away.
And it's essential to ask ourselves. Are we reflecting Jesus
Christ's love and our responses?
Speaker 2 (06:14):
And it how we active people?
Speaker 3 (06:20):
Colausius chapter three thirteen reminds us bear with each other
and forgive one another. If any of you has a
grievance against someone, forgive as the Lord forgive you.
Speaker 2 (06:38):
Now that's acripture.
Speaker 3 (06:40):
It cause us to actively choose forgiveness, even when it
feels difficult.
Speaker 2 (06:48):
It's not easy. Sometimes it really isn't what we're called
to do it. So how can we.
Speaker 3 (06:58):
Practically exhibit the grace of God and our relationships. I'm
gonna give you a few actionable tips. Let's call them
that actionable tips. The first one is initiate conversations. Don't
wait for others to reach out. Take the first step
(07:19):
in reconciling. You don't recall to a ministry of reconciliation
right a simple message or a phone call can make
a significant difference. Second, practice empathy. Try to understand where
(07:41):
others are coming from. Maybe they are going through their
own struggles that you are un array of. Thirdly, choose forgiveness,
let go of grudges, and focus on reconciliation. Remember, forgiveness
is a choice, not a feeling. As we wrap up
(08:10):
today's episode, I want to encourage you to reflect on
your relationships. How can you embody Christ's love and his
grace and his mercy. It's not always easy, but it's
a journey of taking Remember I Pphesians four thirty two,
(08:30):
which says, be kind and compassionate to one another, forgiving
each other, just as in Christ, God forgave you. Let
this be our guiding principle as we navigate our interactions
with other people, especially our friends and family. Don't let
(08:52):
your feeling strive how you treat them. Your witness as
a believer in Jesus Christ speaks volumes, and it could
heal others rather than destroy the relationship. Recall to exhibit
(09:12):
the love, mercy and grace of Jesus Christ to draw
others towards him, to mend relationships, not to destroy them.
And if your intent is to destroy the relationship, you
have to examine your own motives where you billion it
(09:35):
to be in a relationship with the other person for
who they are and to love them for who they are,
or were you really in it for yourself? It's a
thought provoking question. So just take the time to examine yourself,
to examine your motives, and step away from the situation
(09:57):
and prayer and ask God what is he wanted you
to do and to direct you by His Holy Spirit
to reconcile with the person.
Speaker 2 (10:09):
And some people may say, well, it's not always meant
to reconcile with people, but you know what, think about it.
You messed up God, and God reconciled with you, and yes,
but it's not meant for us.
Speaker 3 (10:30):
To just discard their relationship just as if it were.
Speaker 2 (10:39):
A piece of.
Speaker 3 (10:40):
Trash, and that's not right. He wouldn't wanna be treated
that way. Just say, for instance, if you are going
through something and you had to distance yourself for a while, because.
Speaker 2 (10:55):
Just like Jesus did.
Speaker 3 (10:56):
Jesus spend a lot of time with himself, just him
and God. He spent a lot of time in only career,
and sometimes we happy to do that. And a lot
of people, if they don't know all the details of
what you're doing and what's going on, they will assume that.
Speaker 2 (11:23):
Pay we're not there for them, or if there's something.
Speaker 3 (11:29):
Else going on, And sometimes sometimes it really can be
something else going on, but it's not up to us
to judge. Only God can separate the reed from the tears.
Only God can do that. Only God can see the
inner motives of a person's heart.
Speaker 2 (11:47):
And if they mean you know good, he will let
you know. He will let you know. He will let
you know when to distance yourself.
Speaker 3 (11:55):
He will let you know how to reconcile without damaging
your relationship with Him, the Most High God first, because
our relationship with God is priority over.
Speaker 2 (12:09):
Any other earth free relationship.
Speaker 3 (12:11):
And when we have that relationship with Him in order
and the sincerity, uh other relationships would be blessed too.
But just know that when you listen to his voice,
he will guide you as to what to say, what
to do.
Speaker 2 (12:31):
You may not.
Speaker 3 (12:33):
Want you to be around that person is my or
he may say, hey, they need some space to do
what they need to do, and He's given them grace
to handle their situation, just like he's given you grace
to handle yours. And as we conclude this episode, Agith,
(12:58):
I want to encourage you to be prayer for.
Speaker 2 (13:03):
About your motives.
Speaker 3 (13:05):
And how you handle relationships because in the end, we're
not going to answer for what someone else did and
how they treated us.
Speaker 2 (13:15):
They are going to answer for that.
Speaker 3 (13:17):
We are going to be held accountable for how we
responded to them. So it's important to examine yourselves to
work out our own salvation before we're trying to judge
how someone is treating us and what they're doing, because
we we're not gonna answer for them. We're going to
(13:41):
answer for how we treated them and how we reacted
to them, and how we respond to them. I want
to thank you for joining me today in Victorious to Christ.
Speaker 2 (13:55):
I know it's been a while. As you may know,
I I'm dealing with.
Speaker 3 (14:06):
There be some passion and my father's I mentioned in
previous episodes, So I need your prayers as well, and I.
Speaker 2 (14:17):
Love to just I appreciate your support and really do.
Speaker 3 (14:21):
And I hope this episode, as well as the others,
encourages you to reflect on your relationship with Jesus Christ
and our interpersonal relationships. And I also pray that it
helps you realize how you can embody the grace of
God and your daily life and your activities. And I
(14:45):
love to hear your thoughts and your experiences, So feel
free to reach out to me on social media and
Victorious through christ our Facebook page, and don't forget to
tune in for our next episode. They can be random sometimes,
(15:10):
so just be on the lookout for new episodes and
if you have a suggestion or repress for a topic,
just let you know. I love you in the name
of Jesus, and choose to walk in the grace of
God and humility, demonstrating the ministry of reconciliation with fathers.
Speaker 2 (15:31):
God bless you, and walk victoriously in Christ. Shot and
just come. We don't back down, laughter in love.
Speaker 1 (15:41):
We were the crowd together shine we stand doever trial
United had hand
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