September 28, 2025 • 12 mins
In a world where love can sometimes come with strings attached, it’s crucial to recognize the signs of toxic relationships. Join us in this empowering episode of ‘Victorious Through Christ’ as we explore how to navigate manipulative behaviors, reclaim your worth, and find healing through faith. Remember, you are worthy of genuine love and respect!
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Speaker 1 (00:00):
In the shadow of the night.
Speaker 2 (00:03):
We rise with.
Speaker 1 (00:05):
Pride every few and down we leave behind. The Faith
has our armor. He stands side by side victorious through Christ.
(00:26):
In love we are by.
Speaker 3 (00:30):
Shore.
Speaker 2 (00:30):
It fills our hearts whole lines through way Victorious through Christ,
we rose is above.
Speaker 3 (00:45):
Singing friends is a lot of filling is loved. No
chiese canbine us, No fear can remain prist test it
is new.
Speaker 4 (01:11):
Welcome to Victorias through Christ, where we explore how to
find strength and healing through faith in Jesus. Christ amids
life's challenges. I'm doctor Eric is Seeborn, and today we're
addressing a painful yet important topic, recognizing unhealthy relational dynamics. Specifically,
(01:35):
let someone treat you poorly while professing affection towards you.
You know, we've all encounter relationships where our feelings are
manipulated or dismissed, and it's crucial to understand the behaviors
and red flags that indicates someone may not have our
(01:56):
best interest at heart. Let's discuss understanding manipulative behaviors and
let's break down some common behaviors that can be seen
in unhealthy relationships. One of the common behaviors that can
(02:17):
be seen in unhealthy relationships are mixed signals. People may
express romantic interests through their actions while simultaneously stating they
don't want anyone to think you're together, and this inconsistency
creates confusion and emotional turmoil. I remember there was a
(02:43):
time where I was younger, I was a teenager, and
someone was flirting with me and constantly calling me on
the phone and being extra romantic towards me, expressing interest
in private, but when we were in public, we were
in school, they said to me, don't stand near me
(03:04):
because I don't want anyone to think we're together. It
was very hurtful and confusing at the time, and I
wondered what was their motive, What was their motivation? Why
did they treat me that way? And I found out
(03:25):
that other people had went through similar things in different
ways than I did. They had people express interest in
them privately, but in public they didn't want anyone to
know that they were pursuing them. It's manipulative and it's
(03:55):
diabolical in many ways as well. That is a major
red flag. And I've learned from that experience through prayer
and also just seeking God's wisdom and how to use
that experience in monitoring and discerning how people deal with me. Now,
(04:26):
another red flag is verbal dismissiveness, which I was speaking
of a few seconds ago. Phrases like I feel yucky
being Anadi. They can be incredibly hurtful such comments. They
can expose a lack of empathy and also a lack
(04:50):
of awareness of how their words impact others people. They
will often say things without realizing the impact of how
what they say can influence how a person feels about
themselves or impact the relationship they have that person. It's
(05:12):
ironic how people will say things without thinking but continue
to lean on you and want to exploit you and
use you for their own resourcefulness. In the meantime, it
just takes out the humaneness out of the relationship. It
(05:37):
takes out the godly love that's supposed to be there,
and ironically, a superficial relationship like that. It's often with
people who profess to be believers, but their actions are
not lining up with what they profess to believe in,
(06:01):
And that brings us to our next red flag, one
sided support. I've experienced this many times. You know, people
who show one sided support, They often seek help or
favors while failing to reciprocate and this and balance it
(06:25):
can lead to feelings of exploitation as they take from
you without giving back to you. And this is also
a foundation of the next red flag, secretive behaviors. Pursuing
romantic interest outside of the relationship about keeping you in
(06:49):
the loop can lead to feelings of betrayal. And it's
essential to recognize when someone is stringing you along. And
that leads us to the impact of such behaviors. The
dynamics and relationships like that, they have a great emotional
(07:12):
impact and they can be profound feelings of worthlessness, confusion,
and betrayal. They can arise, they can uproot from those
seeds of deception that our planet within us, leading to
a crisis of self esteem. And here are some scripture
(07:35):
references that may help encourage you. Proverbs chapter four, verse
twenty three. Above all else, guard your heart, for everything
you do flows from it. This verse emphasizes the importance
of protecting our hearts from harmful influences and relationships, which
(07:56):
leads us to seeking God's guidance in times of relational turmoil.
Atturney to God provides clarity and healing, And here are
some scriptures that can guide you. Psalm thirty four eighteen.
(08:18):
The Lord is close to the broken hearted and saves
those who are crushed in spirit. This reminds us that
God is with us during our pain and office comfort.
One Peter chapter five, verse seven. Cast all your anxiety
on him because he cares for you. Man can bring
(08:41):
our heart and confusion to God, trusting he will carry
our burdens. James Chapter one, verse five. If any one
of you lacks wisdom, you should ask God, who gives
generously to all without finding fault, will be given to you.
(09:02):
Seeking God's wisdom is important, especially in navigating difficult relationships. Now,
let's talk about taking steps toward healing. Healing from these
experiences involves several steps. The first step is to acknowledge
(09:27):
your feelings. It's okay to feel heard, and recognizing your
emotions is the first step toward healing. The second step
is to set boundaries protect yourself. By establishing clear boundaries,
you don't have to engage with people who treat you poorly.
(09:51):
Step number three seek support. Surround yourself with people who
uplift and encourage you, and this net can provide strength
and perspective. Step number four, Reflect and pray. Spend time
in prayer and reflection, asking God to guide you through
(10:15):
this process and help you recognize your worth in Him.
I want to thank you for joining me today. I'm
victorious through Christ and I want you to remember you
are worthy of love and respect because you were created
in the image of God. And don't let anyone's hurt
(10:35):
for words or actions define your self worth. Your worth
is defined by the Word of God, and God cares
for you deeply, and through him you can find healing
and strength. Remember, the joy of the Lord is your strength.
(11:00):
If you found this episode very helpful to you and
a blessing to you, please share it with someone who
might need it, and don't forget to subscribe for more
insights on living a victorious life through Jesus Christ. Thank
you so much for tuning in. God bless you and
(11:22):
choose to live a victorious life in Jesus Christ on purpose.
God bless you.
Speaker 1 (11:29):
The faith has our armor Me stand side by side
victorious through Christ and love.
Speaker 2 (11:41):
We bye short feels our heart holiday.
Speaker 3 (11:53):
Victorious through Christ, love, game, press a lot of feeling
His Lord, don't change confine us don't fear, can remain
(12:14):
with us on the past, the gas.
Speaker 2 (12:17):
It is love,
In the shadow of the night.
Speaker 2 (00:03):
We rise with.
Speaker 1 (00:05):
Pride every few and down we leave behind. The Faith
has our armor. He stands side by side victorious through Christ.
(00:26):
In love we are by.
Speaker 3 (00:30):
Shore.
Speaker 2 (00:30):
It fills our hearts whole lines through way Victorious through Christ,
we rose is above.
Speaker 3 (00:45):
Singing friends is a lot of filling is loved. No
chiese canbine us, No fear can remain prist test it
is new.
Speaker 4 (01:11):
Welcome to Victorias through Christ, where we explore how to
find strength and healing through faith in Jesus. Christ amids
life's challenges. I'm doctor Eric is Seeborn, and today we're
addressing a painful yet important topic, recognizing unhealthy relational dynamics. Specifically,
(01:35):
let someone treat you poorly while professing affection towards you.
You know, we've all encounter relationships where our feelings are
manipulated or dismissed, and it's crucial to understand the behaviors
and red flags that indicates someone may not have our
(01:56):
best interest at heart. Let's discuss understanding manipulative behaviors and
let's break down some common behaviors that can be seen
in unhealthy relationships. One of the common behaviors that can
(02:17):
be seen in unhealthy relationships are mixed signals. People may
express romantic interests through their actions while simultaneously stating they
don't want anyone to think you're together, and this inconsistency
creates confusion and emotional turmoil. I remember there was a
(02:43):
time where I was younger, I was a teenager, and
someone was flirting with me and constantly calling me on
the phone and being extra romantic towards me, expressing interest
in private, but when we were in public, we were
in school, they said to me, don't stand near me
(03:04):
because I don't want anyone to think we're together. It
was very hurtful and confusing at the time, and I
wondered what was their motive, What was their motivation? Why
did they treat me that way? And I found out
(03:25):
that other people had went through similar things in different
ways than I did. They had people express interest in
them privately, but in public they didn't want anyone to
know that they were pursuing them. It's manipulative and it's
(03:55):
diabolical in many ways as well. That is a major
red flag. And I've learned from that experience through prayer
and also just seeking God's wisdom and how to use
that experience in monitoring and discerning how people deal with me. Now,
(04:26):
another red flag is verbal dismissiveness, which I was speaking
of a few seconds ago. Phrases like I feel yucky
being Anadi. They can be incredibly hurtful such comments. They
can expose a lack of empathy and also a lack
(04:50):
of awareness of how their words impact others people. They
will often say things without realizing the impact of how
what they say can influence how a person feels about
themselves or impact the relationship they have that person. It's
(05:12):
ironic how people will say things without thinking but continue
to lean on you and want to exploit you and
use you for their own resourcefulness. In the meantime, it
just takes out the humaneness out of the relationship. It
(05:37):
takes out the godly love that's supposed to be there,
and ironically, a superficial relationship like that. It's often with
people who profess to be believers, but their actions are
not lining up with what they profess to believe in,
(06:01):
And that brings us to our next red flag, one
sided support. I've experienced this many times. You know, people
who show one sided support, They often seek help or
favors while failing to reciprocate and this and balance it
(06:25):
can lead to feelings of exploitation as they take from
you without giving back to you. And this is also
a foundation of the next red flag, secretive behaviors. Pursuing
romantic interest outside of the relationship about keeping you in
(06:49):
the loop can lead to feelings of betrayal. And it's
essential to recognize when someone is stringing you along. And
that leads us to the impact of such behaviors. The
dynamics and relationships like that, they have a great emotional
(07:12):
impact and they can be profound feelings of worthlessness, confusion,
and betrayal. They can arise, they can uproot from those
seeds of deception that our planet within us, leading to
a crisis of self esteem. And here are some scripture
(07:35):
references that may help encourage you. Proverbs chapter four, verse
twenty three. Above all else, guard your heart, for everything
you do flows from it. This verse emphasizes the importance
of protecting our hearts from harmful influences and relationships, which
(07:56):
leads us to seeking God's guidance in times of relational turmoil.
Atturney to God provides clarity and healing, And here are
some scriptures that can guide you. Psalm thirty four eighteen.
(08:18):
The Lord is close to the broken hearted and saves
those who are crushed in spirit. This reminds us that
God is with us during our pain and office comfort.
One Peter chapter five, verse seven. Cast all your anxiety
on him because he cares for you. Man can bring
(08:41):
our heart and confusion to God, trusting he will carry
our burdens. James Chapter one, verse five. If any one
of you lacks wisdom, you should ask God, who gives
generously to all without finding fault, will be given to you.
(09:02):
Seeking God's wisdom is important, especially in navigating difficult relationships. Now,
let's talk about taking steps toward healing. Healing from these
experiences involves several steps. The first step is to acknowledge
(09:27):
your feelings. It's okay to feel heard, and recognizing your
emotions is the first step toward healing. The second step
is to set boundaries protect yourself. By establishing clear boundaries,
you don't have to engage with people who treat you poorly.
(09:51):
Step number three seek support. Surround yourself with people who
uplift and encourage you, and this net can provide strength
and perspective. Step number four, Reflect and pray. Spend time
in prayer and reflection, asking God to guide you through
(10:15):
this process and help you recognize your worth in Him.
I want to thank you for joining me today. I'm
victorious through Christ and I want you to remember you
are worthy of love and respect because you were created
in the image of God. And don't let anyone's hurt
(10:35):
for words or actions define your self worth. Your worth
is defined by the Word of God, and God cares
for you deeply, and through him you can find healing
and strength. Remember, the joy of the Lord is your strength.
(11:00):
If you found this episode very helpful to you and
a blessing to you, please share it with someone who
might need it, and don't forget to subscribe for more
insights on living a victorious life through Jesus Christ. Thank
you so much for tuning in. God bless you and
(11:22):
choose to live a victorious life in Jesus Christ on purpose.
God bless you.
Speaker 1 (11:29):
The faith has our armor Me stand side by side
victorious through Christ and love.
Speaker 2 (11:41):
We bye short feels our heart holiday.
Speaker 3 (11:53):
Victorious through Christ, love, game, press a lot of feeling
His Lord, don't change confine us don't fear, can remain
(12:14):
with us on the past, the gas.
Speaker 2 (12:17):
It is love,
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