February 6, 2025 • 45 mins
Today we are joined on the podcast by Parker Smith from leadership group 6. Most of you should know Parker because he has done an incredible job at plugging into the community and the brotherhood. Parker is a testiment to this group because the amount that he puts into this group is massive and the return he gets is just as important. Hear Parker speak on learning how to plug yourself into the group the best way that you can.
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Speaker 1 (00:03):
Hello, and welcome to the We Are The Day Podcast.
I am your host, Jimmy Rex, the founder and CEO
of We Are the They, and this podcast has been
specifically designed for you to get to know on a
deeper level the members of this community. What makes us
so special, why are these relationships so thick? And really
what is going on at these events? What are these
members experiencing, how do they grow? Why are they so
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committed to this cause? And so, as you're listening to
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Speaker 2 (00:31):
And with that, let's get to today's episode.
Speaker 3 (00:33):
All right, welcome back to the We Other Day Podcast.
We are joined today by Parker Smith, member for Leadership
Group six, my first Group six guy to come on
the podcast. Love it pop in the cherry of the
Group six guys, take it.
Speaker 2 (00:46):
I'll take it. I'll take that role.
Speaker 3 (00:48):
If there was anyone that I've met from Group six
who is going to step up and be the first
person to do it, It's going to.
Speaker 2 (00:54):
Be appreciate that.
Speaker 3 (00:54):
I know that for a fact. So Parker's a great guy.
Parkers stud Me and Parker first, Matt around Thanksgiving time
actually played a little football Yeah, Parker set up a
little turkey bawl. It was a good game. We had
a lot of guys turn out, a lot of Group
six guys turn out. Yeah, that was great that after
you guys first lotis right. Yeah, that was like seven
days after something. Yeah, I just got home, so just
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rolling off of all the emotions, still seeing each other.
So that was a good time. But I appreciate Parking
for joining the podcast.
Speaker 2 (01:23):
Today.
Speaker 3 (01:23):
We are going to start off with true Watt fashion.
Let's hear your story how you found out about what
and then why you ended up deciding to join.
Speaker 2 (01:31):
Yeah, sold this a couple of times. Not sure if
it's smoothly solved yet in my discussion points, but I
think the in general. I will get into this as
we talk more. But I've spent a long time battling
demons and trying to, like I say, a lot, let
myself win. And I didn't realize and tell this group
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how little I've let myself win. I've just allowed kind
of mediocrity to be good enough in my life. And
I wish I've always said I wish I learned things
the first time, just in general, and tend to be
the person that has to hit my head against the
wall and realize it hurts over and over and over
and over and over to finally make a change. And
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I hate that about myself, a bit of a character flaw.
But that said, I you know, had some experiences coming
out of a divorce ten years ago that I hate
even talking about it. It's been a decade where I've
let it affect me, and coming into twenty twenty five
was is the ten year anniversary coming up, and I
just I just made a decision early in twenty four
that like twenty five was the year I let that go,
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you know, and almost allow myself kind of wallow in
it again for the balance of twenty four and kind
of like feel the feelings and then just really make it.
I'm not going to let this thing kill me for
another decade. I just can't do it. Yeah, And so
twenty twenty five really was kind of my goal of
figuring stuff out launch point anyway. And so started a
new career in really late twenty three and was knew
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I need some help. Had been doing therapy and doing
some work. You know, big connect I've always been a
big connector a big relationship guy, and so leaning on
some mentors and others that I knew I needed some help,
but also wasn't quite ready to do the work either. Yeah,
of course, And so got to a point financially where
I literally, for the first time had you know, disposable
income more than my month, to the tune of like
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five hundred dollars. Finally, this last summer, and in an
attempt to just reconnect more with some friends, I reconnected
with a guy named Jared Hayes, who, unbeknownst to me,
is in Group five already a member of the tribe.
Didn't know that and just had connected He we get
into it later. But my father passed away when I
was really young, when I was fifteen, and he was
one of three friends that was at the funeral. So
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like we were close close growing up and just kind
of let life happen, you know, been a decade of
being kind of social media connected but not actually connected.
And so I asked him to lunch. I said, Hey,
it's been too long, we need to get together. So
this was mid September, and I was so, you know,
I was talking about coming into integrity and how I'm
really trying to be, you know, be the version of
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myself that I I've always wanted to be and not
let my own just bullshit stand in the way, and
was using words like integrity and vulnerability and you know, authenticity,
using all these words, and he said where are these
coming from? Like where are these words? And I was like,
I'm just really trying to step into my own and
not you know, the whole thing. And I said, I've
been really influenced by this dude. I've been watching. I'm like,
his name's Jimmy, and he's got this cool group called
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the Wa Tribe, the Wa Movement, and I'm just telling you.
Of course he's letting me say all this without actually
taking you there back from just hilarious now that I
looked at it, and I was like, you know, I'm pumped.
I've first ability to have anything extra. Like I've always
invested in everyone else and made sure my kids had
what they need, which of course, as a parent would
need to do, but gone all in on that and
really let myself suffer as this weird form of you know,
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I deserve the suffering or something, and so I never
really really invested in myself, and so I'd made this
decision like as soon as I can I'm joining this
group and I've just been impressed by the power and
been following Jimmy online for years. Anyway, he spoke at
I can't remember what event we were at. It was
the Muscles event. Oh yeah, in the early twenty four
mayish or so.
Speaker 3 (05:11):
Yeah, I forget what got a name for it?
Speaker 2 (05:12):
I know that event.
Speaker 3 (05:13):
Yeah, everyone who's from Utah knows exactly what we're talking
about it either, But as part of.
Speaker 2 (05:19):
New York life, my job, we got a bunch of
tickets and you know, had won access to it or something,
and so my leadership and I had were there and
saw him speak, and at that I guess I rewind
a little bit. A guy in my apartment complex named
Jake excuse me, Jacob Johnson, Jacob Hernani. He goes by now,
but he's a Group four guy, yep. And so I
remember Jacob. We were kind of just apartment friends, frankly,
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and I remember him joining this thing and really not
understanding what it was. And as I got researching it
from him is when I realized, oh, this is Jimmy.
I've been following Jimmy for a long time, so there
he kind of I kind of really got introduced a
group by by Jacob and watching some of his journey,
then had made the decision I want to do it
whatever I can. Then I'm meeting with Jared. So now
we're back to Jared and he started laughing and he's like,
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why don't you join today? Like now? And I was like,
you know, cann, it's November, like that's when I've got
the dollars and I'm gonna make it happen. And he's like, dude,
I'm in group five, like I'm already and not only
made a tribe, like I'm in a group. And I'm like,
oh my gosh, of course you will, wire, you know.
And so he was awesome. He was so generous and
said let's join today. There was a call that day
and he's like, joined today as my guest on the
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tribe call. And that next Thursday there was a business
networking event. So I guess my timeline's off a little
bit because it was I guess it was really early October. Yeah,
and Jared offered to pay for my first month to
get me a offered pay for my first ninety days,
and I told him I would accept a month. Wow
pretty much. Yeah, And I don't accept help well, and
so that was hard for me to do. But joined
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the Tribe call, which was awesome. Joined the Business Network
event on Thursday, I think it was the third of October,
and just was blown away by the energy and it
was like this is these are my people, you know
exactly and made the decision then, so literally I signed
up that night. It was literally like my last like
three hundred dollars I had, literally and to even Jared
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hadn't given it to me yet. Yeah, even just to
do it was a stretch, even for like a few
day period until he was again gracious enough to pay
for my first month. But so mostly because I had
gone all in, mostly because Jared was being so generous,
I just felt like, if I'm going to be in this,
I have to go like all in and actually not
hold myself back like I have in my life at times.
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And so I just made the decision. I'm like, all right.
I heard of a guy named Michael Kanti. Jared told
me about a guy friend of his from group one
old school og guy, awesome guy that he had met
with and found a lot of value from. And he
said he said to me, Jared said, he's probably the
most networked guy in the group because he meets at
least one person a week from the tribe. He reaches
out and connect with someone at least one person a
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week he does. And I was like, that sounds great,
I'm going to do five. Yeah, and so that was
my goal. I was like, I'm going to beat Michael Conti.
That's where that came from. And so I did that
for the next forty days. I think it was like
I had like thirty eight meeting zooms or phone calls
over the next forty days. So it's almost every single
day and a couple times on the weekend. And I
just just I don't know, I wasn't going for the
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first time I've I've been a salesperson my whole life,
and so it's so easy to like just ask for things,
and I just made the commitment. I'm just going to
try to see how I can be valuable for people.
Just show up just you know, be interested in their
life from personal business standpoint, and not talk about me
at all. That was the goal for that first month.
Speaker 3 (08:25):
And that's the sales world part of it, right, Whereas
totally you grow up in sales, you learn the sales
parks process, and you go, how do I provide value
to you?
Speaker 2 (08:34):
Right? And then certainly and I think I've always known that,
but then not done that. Yeah, like provide value for
ten minutes and then get into my ask. That's always
just the accidental default I would do. And so I
just didn't let myself do that. It was awesome, and
three or four times in those meetings people would call
or text me afterwards and say something like I just
talked the entire time. I don't I don't know anything
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about you. I want to meet with you again. I
liked it. I had so much fun. Yeah, but I
don't know a thing about you. And I was like, yes,
I'm doing it. Then, like it's working. I just keep
it about them. And I was awesome and I was
getting so much from that. I couldn't believe it. And again,
at this point hadn't even paid my own tradition yet,
you know, And so I was really feeling like, Okay,
this is what all in feels like. And it was
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a nice reminder of what that is and how often
I've done that in different parts of my life, and
so really felt like, you know, November third or whatever
came around and I paid my three hundred and then
then a little more pain, right, and and I was like,
all right, I need to go even more. I need
to do this even more. And at that point, right
around that time, Jimmy had that's right, go back to
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a point when I joined on the third of October.
Jimmy is awesome and always sends a video message everyone
that joins welcome to some of the tribe. And when
his text came through, I already had this number saved,
which was interesting to me. So I've been in real
estate a long time. I still have a license, don't
do anything with it now, but have been licensed since
like two thousand and six. And so he and I
I don't think i'd ever met him, but he must
have been on the other side of a deal that
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we either did or almost did, because I don't know
how it would I converse. At some point somehow we
crossed baths and so I felt it felt in a
way like coming home, in a really weird way, like
I felt really connected to the people and his message anyway,
and then the fact that he sent this messages I appreciated,
but then had his numbers just felt like, all right,
this it was just a confirmation of this is where
I needed to be, you know exactly, and again hadn't
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really made any business goals. I mean, it was it
was just the connection standpoint, and I didn't realize how
much I had missed that part. I've been very social
and connected always, but had really over the last decade
allowed myself to just kind of become very introspective and
not very outgoing and all of these positive and outgoing
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ways that people used to tell me the most positive
guy I've ever talked to, and I just stopped. I
just stopped being that just kind of got negative and
victimy for a long time. And so it felt really
good to step into that and really lean into that
and then be getting positive feedback from guys like gosh,
I feel so awesome after I leave talking to you
and I'm like, gosh, I'm doing it again. You know.
It felt really felt really good to give something and
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not take again. I'm emotional, but it was. It was good.
It was a good month. It was awesome. And so
Jimmy had announced, you know, this next leadership group coming
up with six and and I had that I have
a tech I was just looking at the other day,
I have a text feed with him where I'm like,
there's no possible way I just limped into the tribe. Frankly,
there's no possible way I can make it happen. But like,
I'll make it happen for seven, Like I'll be in
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for seven. That's my new goal, you know. Yeah, And
and he's like, yeah, I pumped battle see and seven whatever,
and and I had done. I think it was another
business networking night near in early November, and he that
day had made an announcement on his social media that
six was going to be the last one for a
while or at least, and that things were changing and
trying to grow the tribe, and and I just I
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it just felt I could not fathom that group happening
without me, and it I just I like just had
a draw. I just needed to make it happen. And
funny side note too, my my ahead of New York
Life in Utah's name is Matt Stewart, also in Group six.
I referred him to what I thought was the tribe.
I was like, dude, I've been in this a month.
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The connections are amazing. It'll probably lead to some business,
but right now, I'm just getting so much value from
the relationships, like you should join. Yeah, And so I
think I'm referring him to the tribe and then he
calls back. He's like, hey, I just had to call Jimmy.
I'm in the group. I'm in leadership group. I'm like,
you asshole, Like you join the thing that I can't afford. Yeah,
after I've referred him, and it was it was hilarious,
and so he and it just it started this this
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step up process of learning again, over and over again,
bashing the head against the wall that I just don't
let myself push anymore. I've just allowed this mediocrity. And
so Matt was like, you should do it, you should
join man, And I was like, oh, there's no way.
It just is literally no, it doesn't exist. And he's again,
he's my boss. Effectively, he knows that it doesn't exist.
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If anyone knows, it's him, and he's encouraging me, and
I'm like, how, like, why have my mindset so limited
that I don't even see this as a possibility. Yeah,
And so I just kind of opened my mind to
the idea of trying to find a way. What big
deal can I chase or what can I pull from
or can I I think grateful that have the title
to my car. It's like my one asset at this
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point in my life, and I was like, can I
go loan against it and maybe use that? And that
felt wrong, as I'm finally able to have the title.
I didn't want to do that, but I was at
least open to the idea of trying to find a
way to do it. And Jimmy just kept reaching out.
It was awesome. My best sales guy ever, frankly, but
in such a meaningful way. He had just be like, Hey,
just keep coming up and if you have any way
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to make that happen, like I think Group six would
be awesome for you. I love your energy. And he
made a really cool comment which I appreciated a bunch.
He said, I keep talking to my friends and guys
in the group and you just keep coming up. It's like,
I don't know what he's like. I talked to Doctor Howland.
He's like and he mentioned that you had text him.
He's like, what are you texting him for? You know?
And I was like, Oh, I just heard his podcast
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on your podcast and thought it was awesome and reached
out to him, thought it was great, no ask just
this was powerful. Thanks for saying this. And he's like,
so it just was really it was cool to hear
that someone has connected as Jimmy kept my name kept
coming up. You know, it wasn't anything fancy or and
you just that every time I had just recently met
with someone or I had reached out to him or
set up a time to chat. And and so he's like,
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based on that alone, I know you'll be awesome for six.
I don't know what you need to work, you think
you need to do, it could benefit from but if
for no other reason, like your ability to connect with
humans will make six better, like you got to be
in it exactly. And I was just like so flattered
by that obviously, but again, just no way to make
it happen. And so it kind of kept coming along,
it kept coming down, and it got down to like
he was like, I got five spots left, this is
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we're cutting it, like this is the day. And he
just kept reaching out three or four times over the
you know, a couple week period and said, you know,
we're leaving on the whatever day it was November twentieth
or something. Yeah, And this was like the sixteenth, and
he was just like, you just keep coming up, man,
Like you got to make it happen. What do you
need to do? And so I jumped on a call
with him and just laid it out very clearly. Was like,
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this is where I'm at financially and I'm trying to
make good financial choice. Is I mean a financial advisor
now I'm trying to give people good advice financially speaking,
This actually isn't a good financial move, Like to take
dollars I've barely earned and put them into something I
don't even know if I could afford every month, And
he said, and we got real clear about it, and
he talked about, you know what he thinks the return
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will be in from business and I've been really trying
to not view it as a business a networking thing
except for the business networking portion. And he was just like, dude,
figure it out. Yeah, like if nothing changes, nothing changes, clearly,
And and that hit me hard. I was like, you're right,
I've been living the same six months for a decade
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on repeat, just on repeat. Yeah, yeah, over and over
and over. Get some success, get complacent, allow mediocrity fail.
Hit my head against the wall try again. I've just
been doing an over and over rome where I said, yeah,
this is I have to I have to do this,
like yeah, as we not from a suicidal standpoint, but
like my life depended on something changing. Yeah, I couldn't
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do it anymore. You know, was so sick of see
if my kids see me fail and they love me,
and that's awesome, but like I want her to be something,
you know exactly and and so yeah, he said that,
like it's time to change. You need to do this.
You have twenty four hours to figure out. I'll call
you back tomorrow. And I was like, shit, it's all right,
I better lock it in and tend to look. Yeah.
So I just, yeah, I kind of robbed Peter to
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pay Paul and figured out a way to put half.
I have an awesome girlfriend who was super freaking awesome.
She ven mued me more than half of what I
needed to get in and just was like we're doing this,
like we need this, you need this. I just couldn't
believe the support I felt, and so yeah, it was
pretty cool. So made it happen. Kind of committed officially
on like the seventeenth or whatever, three or four days
before we left and it was like a Sunday we
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figured it out and then we had an intro call
on Tuesday, and then I was driving down there on Thursday.
So it just came together really quick. But yeah, that's
my journey in. It's beautiful. It's been awesome. Yeah, it's it's.
Speaker 3 (16:58):
Just cool to see because you know, you talked about
Jimmy mentioning how your name kept popping up, and I
think that's a testament to you, right, like I.
Speaker 2 (17:07):
Don't accept confidence. Well, thank you, it is.
Speaker 3 (17:10):
I appreciate that, yes, Like, yes, there's a I always
feel like people get put into the right positions for
the right reasons. Right. If someone pops into your mind,
they're there for a reason, right, that's a prompting for
you to reach out to that person, right, Yep. For Jimmy,
he had that prompting because he kept coming across your name.
But it's because of the work that you put in.
Speaker 2 (17:30):
I love to be.
Speaker 3 (17:31):
Able to get those promptings, right.
Speaker 2 (17:33):
Sure, Yeah, some of these promptings.
Speaker 3 (17:35):
Some of these promptings happen randomly, but at the end
of the day, like the work that you put in
and the connections that you made led to that kind
of going about Jimmy, just seeing your name all the time.
Speaker 2 (17:46):
Yeah, So yeah, I love that. I appreciate that, And
it was a nice reflection of again, as I've mentioned,
I I just often have just I mean just the
fear of failure. Maybe it's a fear of success some
of that too, but I just always do just enough
to like put a check in the box and not
actually let myself excel. And so again I think it
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was because and it just came to exactly how it
needed to come together with seeing Jacob Johnson's growth over
his you know, I was really getting close with him
prior to him joining the group, and I was helping
I thought I was helping him kind of work through
some of these mental blocks he was having, and then
he joined the group and just skyrocketed. These things just
fell away and started and it was awesome to see that.
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So that witnessing that kind of from a far third
party was neat and then connected with Jared and being
recognizing that the connection I was missing in my life
was meaningful mail connection exactly, and actually reaching out to
a meaningful mail in my life and not knowing he
was in and then his willingness to us. It just
it just was a very It was is exactly what
it needed to be. And yeah, and it reaffirmed to
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me that like going all in matters like it, there
would not have been I found out later that Jared
they were at there. I think they were doing Saint
George a couple of weeks before we did our mobs, so.
Speaker 3 (19:04):
Yeah, it would have been timing in two or.
Speaker 2 (19:06):
Three weeks pretty close to that. And so I found
you know, Jared's they're doing work for his own life
and he's at that lutis talking to Jimmy about finding
ways to help me get in and help encouraging him
to encourage me. And just there's all these factors working
in the background that I had no idea of until afterwards.
And and it's just awesome. I've just never felt as
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supported ever.
Speaker 3 (19:29):
Yeah, maybe the community when it rallies around you, it
feels powerful.
Speaker 2 (19:33):
Is it's pretty It's pretty awesome. It's like a headwind
that you don't know is there, or tail end I
should say, pushing out and pulling. Yeah, that that you
don't know is there. Something's happening you're not quite sure why,
Like you're feeling a little momentum and you're not sure
exactly what that is, and then and and again kind
of retrospectively looking backwards over that sixty days, it was
very much as you pointed out, and I appreciate it.
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The inflect you know, these inflection points were kind of
self generated. It It came from a desire to want
to be connected and not ask and just give, and
that turned into yeah, is it is awesome? And again
probably egotistically, like wanting to be the most connected guy
in the group, like that was probably started at like
this dumb way, like I'll beat Michael Gandhi all the
more that he will or something. But I ended up
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being very very positive. And yeah, it's been it's been
a wild ride. We've been about, you know, two months
out from our from our Coab experience, and I'm not
sure I keep I keep. There's no question that things
are better. I mean there's every single part of my
life is better. I've lost some weight, I have great connections,
you know, how business is going better. I think everything
is starting to line up. At the same time, there's
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this knowing something kind of coming into clarity on something
is both helpful and potentially hurtful. In that now you
know better, right, Like, I know so much more of
my bullshit that I do that now when I do it,
I need to. I'm relearning how to give myself grace
on those things and not be hard on myself for
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falling into old habits because now I know better. R exactly.
So there's this kind of double edged sort of getting better.
Is it really is the multiple steps forward and then
one step back and a couple of steps forward, and
you're not You're not. It's not linear, you know, I'd
like it to be. That'd be awesome. Yeah, but yeah,
it's been a it's been a wild ride.
Speaker 3 (21:16):
But when it's all about grace too, write you said it,
like all the growth and all the progress that we
make in this group, in this community, there's going to
have to be step backs. Yeah, And it's going to
have these situations where you fall back a little bit
and you have to give yourself grace in those moments.
Speaker 2 (21:31):
You just have to because neat, I've not done that well. Yeah,
but because I'm so so connected on me, it sounds
like I'm just overly committed to making sure dudes in
our group feel close. Yeah that you know, there's we'll
talk about well, gratitude. It's one of the things we
practiced in this group A lot is daily gratitude, right,
just seeing the beauty in the world, being grateful that
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the monotonous things that often we don't find gratitude for.
And you know we've got we've got accountability part and
other guys in the group that I stay in contect with.
I just made this decision early on. I was like,
I suck at gratitude. I'm not good at it. I
tend to slant negative, depressive, anxious, and so I knew
I needed a lot more than like two or three
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guys sending me the stuff every day, and so I
have I probably have twenty five dudes in between the
tribe and my group that did do this with every day.
Love to add you to it. I mean, it's in
very early on it was my gratitude. I get like
two or three guys sending there's back. And just this
last week it was a I had a weird day.
It was kind of in my head a bunch and
it was like three or four pm and I was
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just getting through work, trying to get to Doo's done,
and been ignored my phone and not not doing the
gratitude portion well. And it was so awesome that I
have done it consistently enough to these people, even though
I was getting nothing back right for weeks and months
now at that point. And that day specifically, I had
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like twenty two coming to me prior to Usually it's
my sending them that would triggerly, oh yeah, I gotta
get them done for the day or whatever. And I
had like twenty two or twenty three waiting for me
when I was like in the luckiest moment of my day,
right kind of letting my crap get in my head.
And that's twenty two times three, that's sixty, it's seventy
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things to be grateful for that I got a chance
to read through and it was just hit me in
the heart and I was like hell yeah, like read
through every one of those and thought, you know what,
like having a phone to read these things. Grateful Boom
wrote it and I ended up doing like a fifteen
or twenty gratitude list that r and it was just
that's the power of connection is, you know, when I
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don't know if those days that I was sending to
them was useful, probably just annoying because they weren't replying,
but somehow that consistency led to me, it coming to
me when I needed it most. And man, that's the
ability to lean on others when you're weak, when you
have those moments when you suck at giving yourself grace,
tassle and remind you. Like one of the things that
(23:57):
that specific day that three or four of the twenty
something had the word grace in it of them reminding
that they are grateful for that. And I'm like, man,
the day I'm giving myself none of that. Like, these
dudes are just pouring pretty awesome.
Speaker 3 (24:11):
Yeah, that's that's a special part about it, Right, If
you're not feeling up to it, you're gonna have all
these guys who are pouring back into you. And I
think that's kind of a key here, Like this whole
conversation what we're talking about, of you being so connected
with all these people, all it is is you're pouring
back into them, right, and pouring into them as much
as you can.
Speaker 2 (24:29):
Yeah, I hope, I hope it feels as genuine to
them as I feel I'm getting from them when they
do to me. Certainly, I'm sure it is.
Speaker 3 (24:36):
And here's the unique part about this group is anytime
you meet with someone from the group, you know, it's
genuine right, Like there's there's kind of this almost rule,
like this unspoken rule of what where you step into
a room with another man of what and you just
cut the bullshit right now, they won't let you do
it exactly, And I am I'm expert.
Speaker 2 (24:58):
Man, if I'm good at something, it's like my bullshit right,
and it's it's been It's like the double edged sword
again of hate. Someone calls you out on something and
it's like, man, the ego in me just wants to
like punch him in the throat, you know, I just
don't want anything to.
Speaker 1 (25:10):
Do with that.
Speaker 2 (25:10):
Yet the other side is like, you're right, you're freaking
ride dude exactly doing it again, aren't I you know.
Speaker 3 (25:16):
Understand and say yeah, you're right right, and.
Speaker 2 (25:19):
Then move on yeah, and then we're there, you know,
Like I've always said that at this interesting point about
just the tribe in general. Yeah, and even in my
first sixty days, I would introduce myself as oh, just
in the tribe, like not in a leadership group almost again,
kind of victimy and I don't view myself not in
the tribe because I'm in leadership group, Like the tribe
(25:41):
is the tribe. This this, These leadership groups are amazing
for what they are, and it just gives a more
focused introduction to the things we all should be doing
in the tribe anyway. But yeah, I would just to
make that abundantly clear, like there's no greater than less
than like being in the group. Making the decision in
general to be in the tribe is what it's about.
(26:03):
You're making a decision to be a better version of
yourself than you have been. And it openly admitting that
you need help, right, Like that's powerful and so one
of the thing that I've noticed, I just said this
some of the other day and it RUNGTRAI. I wanted
to make sure I mentioned this today was I've always
you know, if I have a superpower, you know, god
given gift, whatever you want to call it, it's my
ability to connect with people quickly. Right. That's why I
(26:24):
think I'm a good salesperson and a good connector is
I get to zero quickly with people. I can just
get there. Right. What's been amazing about the tribe and
what movement in general is I've been able to do
that in my whole life, even when the other person
isn't playing the same game. So if they don't know
(26:44):
that we're about to go there, they don't know we're
going to get that close that fast, they're doing whatever
they're doing, and I've still been able to kind of
do that, right. The super superpower is being a part
of a group. That also is if they're not good
at that, at least they're willing to and some of them,
most of them are also pretty good at that. And
so you get a few of those people in a
(27:04):
room at a round table, in a mini mastermind or
a business networking group, and you start, I start doing
again what I'm good at quickly, and they're equally as
good at it, or at least equally as willing and dude,
like the level that you can get quickly, it's not
just getting to zero, like yeah, it's it's way past that,
like you're And that's when Jimmy says the very first beginning,
(27:26):
whether it's the tribal leadership he talks about, you're going
to find some of your best friends. Yeah, And I
was immediately like, okay, yeah, you're best Like I just
didn't get what he meant, you know, it's like, no,
I in my mind, friendship required time for some reason,
like time is a terrible time as friends is a
terrible indicator of a good friend.
Speaker 3 (27:47):
One hundred percent agree.
Speaker 2 (27:48):
And during COVID, I lost a buddy that i'd been really, really,
really been my best friend since you know, fifth grade,
and we just kind of went different ways and had
hard conversations, and I frank, if I'm actually being accountable,
we restate this. I think he was sick of trying
to help me with my bullshit. Wow, ooh, I hate saying.
(28:08):
That's first time I actually thought about it.
Speaker 3 (28:10):
Yeah, that's tough.
Speaker 2 (28:12):
Yeah, I think that's probably what it was. I think
he just kept trying to help me pull myself out
of this tailspan. And you can't help someone that's not
willing to help themselves. Actually, that's really interestingly.
Speaker 3 (28:22):
I think we all have relationships like that.
Speaker 2 (28:24):
Make sure he knew that. I recognize that. That's really interesting.
But anyway, that went away, and it's haunted me forever.
I thought, Man, I'm never going to have a friend
like that again, and maybe I won't. He's amazing that
said time, just because you've known someone a long time
doesn't really mean anything. It's like they're either helping you
or they're not. And in his case, he was and
I probably wasn't ready to help it. But joining the
(28:47):
WHAT tribe in general has just been it's been very
interesting to see how quickly what I hope and I
believe will be lifelong friendships have solidified themselves so quickly
and are only growing every day. You know, Like you're
a perfect example. Like we played football together once, we
had a business networking once, we're doing this now, this
is our third time meeting. It wouldn't be weird at
(29:10):
all for either one of us to be like, hey,
can I sleep on your couch tonight? Not even at all. No,
that's incredible. Yeah, and that's an incredible thing. I don't
know why motion keeps coming up, but like man John
Getty Group five met him at a Saint George's weekend
that Jared put together right after I joined mid October.
Met him once, literally once in the hot tub, a
(29:32):
couple of nights hung out. That's it. Didn't really have
any deep conversations. Three weekends ago, my daughter had a
gymnastics meet in Las Vegas, and I I couldn't believe
it was happening as it was happening. But I called him.
I was like, hey, man, are you in town this weekend?
He's like yeah, Like hey, can we crash at your
place save some money so I can go see my daughter?
And he was like yeah. Of course. Not only was
(29:54):
he willing to which is powerful, right, but that I
was willing to ask, which was blew me away even
more than him saying yes. Him saying yes is expect
he's a stud. Yeah. My willing willingness to even ask
what I would never so quickly ask was what was
surprising me. And his obvious willingness to assist, like that
(30:16):
is awesome. Like where else literally can you meet some
dude you've never met, but just because you have this
one connection to the same again, desire to be better
and commitment to not yourself but others, well yourself and others.
I should say, that's the only really commonality there was.
(30:37):
And it was a blast. It was awesome my girlfriend
and I had. It was way better than a hotel.
You got a chance to hang out and chat with
him at night. We literally stayed the night and left
like that's it. It wasn't a big weekend. But dude,
it was the power behind that connection is awesome exactly,
And and I don't I hope Jimmy had the foresight
of knowing what this could be, but I don't even
know if he'd like I think he desired it to become,
(31:00):
but I would imagine it's become far more than what
he even imagined it to be.
Speaker 3 (31:04):
I think the beautiful part about having six leadership groups
now is that each group has kind of developed into
its own thing, to where Group one was fifty guys
who took a shot on Jimmy.
Speaker 2 (31:16):
Yeah, they don't didn't have a I don't think he
had a clue what it was. The exactitely didn't have
a clue.
Speaker 3 (31:20):
It was Jimmy didn't have a clue what was going on.
They didn't have a clue what was going on. They
took a shot at Jimmy. Yeah, as with guys from
group six, they've heard guys from groups yeah, weird far
lucky enough to know for sure we had a clue
and Jimmy knows what he's doing now. Yeah, And I
think that's actually the really cool part about like your
guys group and this is kind of something I want
(31:42):
to drive into a little bit more, which is Jimmy
has gone through a lot of good and a lot
of bad with that he talks about it.
Speaker 2 (31:49):
Of course I wasn't privy to that. He jokes all
the time, but he's like, some things did not work,
some things have everything Jimmy does work. So it's weird.
Speaker 3 (31:56):
I love exactly and things change and every everything is
you know, could be changing at any moment. How have
you guys as Group six kind of felt being, you know,
this group coming together knowing that you guys are going
to be the last group for a while. Because I'm
sure that's something that's been in the back of everyone's mind.
Sure where it's like, hey, we're the last group. You know,
(32:16):
we're getting to take advantage of this before it goes away. Yep,
how has that kind of shifted? As I mean, I
don't want you to speak for the entire group, but
at least in your experience.
Speaker 2 (32:25):
Yeah, no, it's been. Yeah, it's been. I'm I'm grateful
that the announcement was made like it was like a
bit of scarcity. I get the sales tactic, but really
like this is it for a bit because it got
me and I think a handful of others that wouldn't
have yet, wouldn't have pulled the trigger out they didn't
feel ready or whatever, And so I think there's, yeah,
we definitely get to be the beneficiary of an effectively
(32:48):
proven model. What is interesting is Jimmy talks about a
lot of the different things he's tried, events or activities
or speakers that haven't landed quite well. Yeah, it has
some funny versions of that that you can tell. But
what is interesting is the kickoff Moab, the Moab weekend
he talks about, hasn't changed even a little changed. The
location is the same that in this case, I think
(33:11):
in our in our group, the Moab Brokes Wing changed
locations physically, Taylor decided to Taylor moved and had some
negotiation with National Forest Service or something his the actual
location changed. So our actual cliff jump itself was like
slightly further away and slightly longer and wider or something.
I don't know what the difference was, but it was
a different location. Outside of that, it's the same exactly.
(33:33):
And when it comes to formative weekends, of course, I've
only had one, so I don't know what the rest stand.
And I'm quite sure they'll all be formative. Yeah, but
there is no question that that's the like, that's the
kickoff for a reason, right, And it is very telling
that Jimmy did not what he thought would be the
right thing at Group one is exactly it and has
not changed at all, which is awesome. I think there's
(33:54):
something very anything and changes and orders and things that
have changed since then might change compared to the rest,
but one is the same, and I think that's awesome
that loutas is it has not the point he wanted
to get across then is as powerful now as it was.
That I think that's that's a cool a cool mirror, and.
Speaker 3 (34:12):
It's a testament to how much work Jimmy put in
before even starting the where it's like first loutist that
he ever set up.
Speaker 2 (34:19):
It is the exact same everything because it works. What
is done on what night is the same, what's done
on what day is the same, The hike is the same,
the jump is the same, experience is the same. It's amazing, Yes,
And so there is power in knowing. And that's another
thing too. I think when you meet someone in the tribe,
there's power in knowing that they're in the tribe. They've
made that commitment to make themselves better. Same thing, intermediate
guy from the group, You know, they've experienced at least
(34:41):
that we're all different. Four still going five, still going five.
It is about two almost. They're there right now as
we speak.
Speaker 3 (34:48):
There there.
Speaker 2 (34:49):
They've been one ahead of us. Now they're two ahead
of us. And so there's three groups going now and
again the same. Knowing that there's at least that that
is the same again, it's very very connecting. So yeah,
back to your question, Yes, we benefit from that, and
that's powerful. At the same time, I think that there's
a bit of, at least in my opinion, I take
it a bit of like a huge, huge honor to
(35:11):
be the last last one for a while. Yeah, maybe ever,
because I feel like we like the pressure to succeed
and become our best, which is a pressure for all
of us anyways for trying to be better exactly, but
I almost feel the need to like make sure that
I come out of this thing better than I've ever
(35:31):
been as an example and a testament to what this is,
to help grow the tribe itself. Yeah, and it's a
weird feeling to have like this ownership of like the
he talks about the container, right, the tribe and these
groups being a container for men to do what they're
(35:51):
going to do. And he doesn't do anything fancy except
for provide the container. That's his that's his superpower, right,
bringing people together and giving them an opportunity to find themselves.
Else I have this internal pressure for some reason. I
think it's powerful, so I don't think it's negative at all,
but to continue the pace, like I know the pace
is not sustainable. But then again, I looked at my
(36:14):
last three weeks on the calendar on the way here.
Every single day, including this morning on the way here,
I've met with, had a phone call, or zoomed with
someone from the tribe or my group every day. So
I've kept up that five days a week thing. And
in my case, in my business, it's without having to
talk business. It's just a relationship business. And so the
more I have these conversations it is beginning to lead
(36:36):
to business. That's great, but it is not the driver.
It's because I feel better when I do, and then
I'm operating at a higher frequency and the rest of
my day works. So I'm pumped about keeping that up,
like I'll keep that I'll run that pace until I
can't anymore. And I really do feel a bit pressure
in a good way to make sure that we show
(36:57):
up well as leaders in this group. If the tribe
is going to double, which is one of Jimmy's goals
this over the next year, to take it up to
a thousand people nationwide, I really feel like we need
to be we all of us, especially even you, any
of us that have been kind of from the beginning
right before this really blew up, and again the beginning
(37:17):
is relative, but before he really put an effort into
growing the tribe, I feel like we need to make
sure that we're showing up the best we can to
actually help help grow this thing. It makes it very
It's a communal growth, right, it's Jimmy leading the charge,
but it's all of us, and so I feel that pressure.
I'm sure if anyone else does in the group. But
now the six has been interesting. It's a very it's
(37:38):
a kind of an eclectic group. You know, We've got
you know, a couple of dudes in their fifties, We've
got guys in their early twenties, like twenty yeah, yeah.
Speaker 3 (37:49):
And.
Speaker 2 (37:51):
I'm just floored by that the breadth I'm I've kind
of you know, I've had a lot of life in
my forties. I feel like I'm like an eighty year
old and a forty year old's body, But I still
feel like I'm this funny spot where like I thought
that I only have so much time to like make
something of myself, Like I'm running out of time, right, Yeah,
And then I see guys in their fifties who have
(38:14):
made a lot of from themselves, Like we have some
high powerful dudes, yeah, especially these couple guys that I'm
speaking of. We've got three or three or four that
are in their fifties, and every one of those guys
I would look up to do look up to, and
would immediately be like, don't have something to work on?
Got it figured out? Yeah? And they do in all
the ways that like seemingly matter, right, financial and otherwise. Families,
(38:35):
great families, great dudes. Yet even they are looking at
themselves in the mirror being like, but I can be better,
And I am amazed by that. That's been awesome, Like, Okay,
if these guys twelve thirteen years ahead of me age
wise are willing to still do the work every day
and actually commit themselves to be better, like I actually
have plenty of time too. Yeah. Yeah, And on the
(38:56):
other side of that coin, dudes that are twenty twenty
one years old, twenty two years old. I am floored
by the young guys in our group. I cannot I
just again banging ahead against the wall. Third time that's
come up, because I make decisions that way. I just
wasted my twenties being an idiot, you know, thirties two frankly,
just not making not understanding the power of being better
(39:19):
and actually trying to grow myself. And these the fact
that these young guys in the group understand that enough
and are willing to invest real dollars into making themselves
better as young as they are, I'm like just so
excited for them. Yeah, I'm like, you guys don't even
know he's a cheat code. Oh you're around twenty years Like,
I feel like I have time for the first time.
(39:40):
This group, this tribe has helped me learn that. Like,
I'm not out of time so likely another Yeah, you know,
I've made call adult decisions twenty years effectively, right, eighteen
twenty years old, twenty twenty two years I've made adult
decisions for twenty years, I have twice that again to
still run this life out. Yeah, of course, like I'm
(40:02):
going to live till I maybe at least that's twice
the amount of time I have to kind of right
the wrong, make up lost time, correct the ship right exactly.
And so I just cannot believe these dudes that have
four times that amount. I mean, I'm pumped. I can't
tell who I'm more excited for. Kind of the older
guys like me and above me that are are figuring
some stuff out and get a chance to still use
(40:22):
the time we have. Or these dudes that are just
they don't even know what they don't know, and they're
willing already to go in on themselves. It's so cool.
Speaker 3 (40:28):
It's an incredible dynamic because you have these young guys.
I classify myself in the young group, sure, sure, because
everyone always tells me that it's a cheat code to life, right,
being in it at this age, it is a cheat
code to life. And then you have everyone who's in
the older side of things, yep, where they're getting all
of these connections to the younger guys feeling that life
(40:49):
and feeling that love and fueling it too to help them.
Speaker 2 (40:54):
Along the world. Yeah, I feel along the way my
role for the younger guys you included in anyone in
their twenties, frankly, is a lot of these older guys
have much more wisdom and much more business advice than
savvy that I have. But I have a lot of
how not to do things.
Speaker 3 (41:07):
Yeah, of course, right, And I'm real good at that. Man.
Speaker 2 (41:09):
If I'm good at something, it's how not to do things.
And it's been very again self deprecative my whole life.
I always been self deprecating to myself and been like, oh,
you all you have is bad experiences. You don't have
anything to give. Yeah, And it's been amazing. The exact
opposite of that is true. It's been so helpful and
so powerful to some of the young guys, at least
it's being told to me that, you know, I just
(41:31):
get a chance to be like, hey, I don't know
how to do it, but I know how not to.
Like this is a decision I made. If you're wavering
on that path, like, let me just share with you
where that outcome comes, because divorce is no fun and
I'd like you not to go through that, you know,
And so I hope that. I hope that's equally as valuable.
I think it probably is. It is, but dude, our group, yes, really,
I love the breadth of it. I love that it's
(41:51):
not a bunch of twenty year olds that are still
learning things and it's not a bunch of old I
think it's a very cool it's a very cool group. Yeah,
we've got a really, really neat group.
Speaker 3 (42:00):
So that's beautiful. I can't wait to talk to more
group six guys.
Speaker 2 (42:03):
Yeah, I'll get him all. I think if I can
be the impetus to help get some more dudes in here,
you're gonna be our catalyst here, get some guys in here,
for sure. Parker, thank you so much for doing this. Yeah,
so much for coming on the podcast.
Speaker 3 (42:15):
I love it.
Speaker 2 (42:16):
It's this has been great.
Speaker 3 (42:17):
Hearing your story and hearing kind of what you've been
through and how you have poured back into this community
is super powerful, and I think it's something that a
lot of people can really take away from is it
doesn't matter leadership, group or tribe. What you get out
of this group is what you put into it.
Speaker 2 (42:35):
Yep.
Speaker 3 (42:35):
That's something that everybody says, but it's not something to.
Speaker 2 (42:38):
Say, right Everyone says it. Yes, that's the thing. Jimmy
says it on the intro video to every single guy.
I'm sure. I'm sure he says that. Yes.
Speaker 3 (42:45):
So it's about what you put into it you're going
to get out of it.
Speaker 2 (42:48):
Yep.
Speaker 3 (42:48):
Not a lot of people do that, and I think
that it's a testament to the leadership group guys too,
where you can put into the tribe just as much
as you can with your group and get even more
out of it, like you've done well.
Speaker 2 (42:59):
Thanks man, thank yeah, thank you. I appreciate that. I
thank you. I always say, oh, thank you, I have
done a good job with that. That is correct. I
appreciate that.
Speaker 3 (43:09):
Yeah. All right, let's get out of here. Let's give love.
Give love to someone in the group.
Speaker 2 (43:13):
Man, there's a lot you mentioned that there's so much
love to give to my group specifically, but I think that,
uh yeah, one one a buddy, Brian Smith, who was
going to join us and ended up not being able
to make it today. Brian's an awesome dude. I love him.
He's a perfect example of I see a lot of
(43:33):
similarities in him as I do myself, and it's interesting.
I can't see I I'm blind to my own stuff sometimes,
yet I can see it in others. And he's He's
a dude that anyone you meet would introduce, meet him
and be pumped. No, I'm impressed by him, proud to
be associated with him, and he, like me, doesn't see
(43:55):
that in himself. And so the love that is deserved
today for sure is to him. Yeah, love that.
Speaker 3 (44:01):
I'm gonna give love to my boy, Jose Jose Renoza
Group one. It's one of the guys who got me
into this group. I've just been thinking a lot about him.
Need to reach out, so he's on my mind. I'll
love Jose love all right, Thank you Parker for coming
on the podcast. If anyone wants to reach out to you,
if they want to follow social media or anything like that,
where can they reach out?
Speaker 1 (44:19):
Yeah?
Speaker 2 (44:19):
Yeah, the Parker Smith on Instagram. I think that I
is a one, the Parker Smith. But yeah, love to
My information is in the group shoot me, yeah, text
any one that wants to meet anytime. I'll make it work. Coffee, dit, cook, whatever,
whatever your drink is. Yeah, I'd love to connect absolutely.
Speaker 3 (44:38):
Yeah, everyone listening to this podcast, go to the app
and say Parker's number one. Shot him a text message.
Please do because he will respond to every single one
of you.
Speaker 2 (44:44):
I will. That is true. Thanks brother, all right, love it.
Speaker 3 (44:47):
Thanks Barker yep, thank you for listening to another episode
of the We Are the Day podcast. If you want
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you can go on Instagram at mister Jimmy Rex or
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Speaker 2 (00:31):
And with that, let's get to today's episode.
Speaker 3 (00:33):
All right, welcome back to the We Other Day Podcast.
We are joined today by Parker Smith, member for Leadership
Group six, my first Group six guy to come on
the podcast. Love it pop in the cherry of the
Group six guys, take it.
Speaker 2 (00:46):
I'll take it. I'll take that role.
Speaker 3 (00:48):
If there was anyone that I've met from Group six
who is going to step up and be the first
person to do it, It's going to.
Speaker 2 (00:54):
Be appreciate that.
Speaker 3 (00:54):
I know that for a fact. So Parker's a great guy.
Parkers stud Me and Parker first, Matt around Thanksgiving time
actually played a little football Yeah, Parker set up a
little turkey bawl. It was a good game. We had
a lot of guys turn out, a lot of Group
six guys turn out. Yeah, that was great that after
you guys first lotis right. Yeah, that was like seven
days after something. Yeah, I just got home, so just
(01:16):
rolling off of all the emotions, still seeing each other.
So that was a good time. But I appreciate Parking
for joining the podcast.
Speaker 2 (01:23):
Today.
Speaker 3 (01:23):
We are going to start off with true Watt fashion.
Let's hear your story how you found out about what
and then why you ended up deciding to join.
Speaker 2 (01:31):
Yeah, sold this a couple of times. Not sure if
it's smoothly solved yet in my discussion points, but I
think the in general. I will get into this as
we talk more. But I've spent a long time battling
demons and trying to, like I say, a lot, let
myself win. And I didn't realize and tell this group
(01:54):
how little I've let myself win. I've just allowed kind
of mediocrity to be good enough in my life. And
I wish I've always said I wish I learned things
the first time, just in general, and tend to be
the person that has to hit my head against the
wall and realize it hurts over and over and over
and over and over to finally make a change. And
(02:16):
I hate that about myself, a bit of a character flaw.
But that said, I you know, had some experiences coming
out of a divorce ten years ago that I hate
even talking about it. It's been a decade where I've
let it affect me, and coming into twenty twenty five
was is the ten year anniversary coming up, and I
just I just made a decision early in twenty four
that like twenty five was the year I let that go,
(02:39):
you know, and almost allow myself kind of wallow in
it again for the balance of twenty four and kind
of like feel the feelings and then just really make it.
I'm not going to let this thing kill me for
another decade. I just can't do it. Yeah, And so
twenty twenty five really was kind of my goal of
figuring stuff out launch point anyway. And so started a
new career in really late twenty three and was knew
(03:01):
I need some help. Had been doing therapy and doing
some work. You know, big connect I've always been a
big connector a big relationship guy, and so leaning on
some mentors and others that I knew I needed some help,
but also wasn't quite ready to do the work either. Yeah,
of course, And so got to a point financially where
I literally, for the first time had you know, disposable
income more than my month, to the tune of like
(03:22):
five hundred dollars. Finally, this last summer, and in an
attempt to just reconnect more with some friends, I reconnected
with a guy named Jared Hayes, who, unbeknownst to me,
is in Group five already a member of the tribe.
Didn't know that and just had connected He we get
into it later. But my father passed away when I
was really young, when I was fifteen, and he was
one of three friends that was at the funeral. So
(03:44):
like we were close close growing up and just kind
of let life happen, you know, been a decade of
being kind of social media connected but not actually connected.
And so I asked him to lunch. I said, Hey,
it's been too long, we need to get together. So
this was mid September, and I was so, you know,
I was talking about coming into integrity and how I'm
really trying to be, you know, be the version of
(04:04):
myself that I I've always wanted to be and not
let my own just bullshit stand in the way, and
was using words like integrity and vulnerability and you know, authenticity,
using all these words, and he said where are these
coming from? Like where are these words? And I was like,
I'm just really trying to step into my own and
not you know, the whole thing. And I said, I've
been really influenced by this dude. I've been watching. I'm like,
his name's Jimmy, and he's got this cool group called
(04:26):
the Wa Tribe, the Wa Movement, and I'm just telling you.
Of course he's letting me say all this without actually
taking you there back from just hilarious now that I
looked at it, and I was like, you know, I'm pumped.
I've first ability to have anything extra. Like I've always
invested in everyone else and made sure my kids had
what they need, which of course, as a parent would
need to do, but gone all in on that and
really let myself suffer as this weird form of you know,
(04:50):
I deserve the suffering or something, and so I never
really really invested in myself, and so I'd made this
decision like as soon as I can I'm joining this
group and I've just been impressed by the power and
been following Jimmy online for years. Anyway, he spoke at
I can't remember what event we were at. It was
the Muscles event. Oh yeah, in the early twenty four
mayish or so.
Speaker 3 (05:11):
Yeah, I forget what got a name for it?
Speaker 2 (05:12):
I know that event.
Speaker 3 (05:13):
Yeah, everyone who's from Utah knows exactly what we're talking
about it either, But as part of.
Speaker 2 (05:19):
New York life, my job, we got a bunch of
tickets and you know, had won access to it or something,
and so my leadership and I had were there and
saw him speak, and at that I guess I rewind
a little bit. A guy in my apartment complex named
Jake excuse me, Jacob Johnson, Jacob Hernani. He goes by now,
but he's a Group four guy, yep. And so I
remember Jacob. We were kind of just apartment friends, frankly,
(05:41):
and I remember him joining this thing and really not
understanding what it was. And as I got researching it
from him is when I realized, oh, this is Jimmy.
I've been following Jimmy for a long time, so there
he kind of I kind of really got introduced a
group by by Jacob and watching some of his journey,
then had made the decision I want to do it
whatever I can. Then I'm meeting with Jared. So now
we're back to Jared and he started laughing and he's like,
(06:03):
why don't you join today? Like now? And I was like,
you know, cann, it's November, like that's when I've got
the dollars and I'm gonna make it happen. And he's like, dude,
I'm in group five, like I'm already and not only
made a tribe, like I'm in a group. And I'm like,
oh my gosh, of course you will, wire, you know.
And so he was awesome. He was so generous and
said let's join today. There was a call that day
and he's like, joined today as my guest on the
(06:23):
tribe call. And that next Thursday there was a business
networking event. So I guess my timeline's off a little
bit because it was I guess it was really early October. Yeah,
and Jared offered to pay for my first month to
get me a offered pay for my first ninety days,
and I told him I would accept a month. Wow
pretty much. Yeah, And I don't accept help well, and
so that was hard for me to do. But joined
(06:43):
the Tribe call, which was awesome. Joined the Business Network
event on Thursday, I think it was the third of October,
and just was blown away by the energy and it
was like this is these are my people, you know
exactly and made the decision then, so literally I signed
up that night. It was literally like my last like
three hundred dollars I had, literally and to even Jared
(07:04):
hadn't given it to me yet. Yeah, even just to
do it was a stretch, even for like a few
day period until he was again gracious enough to pay
for my first month. But so mostly because I had
gone all in, mostly because Jared was being so generous,
I just felt like, if I'm going to be in this,
I have to go like all in and actually not
hold myself back like I have in my life at times.
(07:26):
And so I just made the decision. I'm like, all right.
I heard of a guy named Michael Kanti. Jared told
me about a guy friend of his from group one
old school og guy, awesome guy that he had met
with and found a lot of value from. And he
said he said to me, Jared said, he's probably the
most networked guy in the group because he meets at
least one person a week from the tribe. He reaches
out and connect with someone at least one person a
(07:47):
week he does. And I was like, that sounds great,
I'm going to do five. Yeah, and so that was
my goal. I was like, I'm going to beat Michael Conti.
That's where that came from. And so I did that
for the next forty days. I think it was like
I had like thirty eight meeting zooms or phone calls
over the next forty days. So it's almost every single
day and a couple times on the weekend. And I
just just I don't know, I wasn't going for the
(08:08):
first time I've I've been a salesperson my whole life,
and so it's so easy to like just ask for things,
and I just made the commitment. I'm just going to
try to see how I can be valuable for people.
Just show up just you know, be interested in their
life from personal business standpoint, and not talk about me
at all. That was the goal for that first month.
Speaker 3 (08:25):
And that's the sales world part of it, right, Whereas
totally you grow up in sales, you learn the sales
parks process, and you go, how do I provide value
to you?
Speaker 2 (08:34):
Right? And then certainly and I think I've always known that,
but then not done that. Yeah, like provide value for
ten minutes and then get into my ask. That's always
just the accidental default I would do. And so I
just didn't let myself do that. It was awesome, and
three or four times in those meetings people would call
or text me afterwards and say something like I just
talked the entire time. I don't I don't know anything
(08:55):
about you. I want to meet with you again. I
liked it. I had so much fun. Yeah, but I
don't know a thing about you. And I was like, yes,
I'm doing it. Then, like it's working. I just keep
it about them. And I was awesome and I was
getting so much from that. I couldn't believe it. And again,
at this point hadn't even paid my own tradition yet,
you know, And so I was really feeling like, Okay,
this is what all in feels like. And it was
(09:16):
a nice reminder of what that is and how often
I've done that in different parts of my life, and
so really felt like, you know, November third or whatever
came around and I paid my three hundred and then
then a little more pain, right, and and I was like,
all right, I need to go even more. I need
to do this even more. And at that point, right
around that time, Jimmy had that's right, go back to
(09:36):
a point when I joined on the third of October.
Jimmy is awesome and always sends a video message everyone
that joins welcome to some of the tribe. And when
his text came through, I already had this number saved,
which was interesting to me. So I've been in real
estate a long time. I still have a license, don't
do anything with it now, but have been licensed since
like two thousand and six. And so he and I
I don't think i'd ever met him, but he must
have been on the other side of a deal that
(09:57):
we either did or almost did, because I don't know
how it would I converse. At some point somehow we
crossed baths and so I felt it felt in a
way like coming home, in a really weird way, like
I felt really connected to the people and his message anyway,
and then the fact that he sent this messages I appreciated,
but then had his numbers just felt like, all right,
this it was just a confirmation of this is where
I needed to be, you know exactly, and again hadn't
(10:20):
really made any business goals. I mean, it was it
was just the connection standpoint, and I didn't realize how
much I had missed that part. I've been very social
and connected always, but had really over the last decade
allowed myself to just kind of become very introspective and
not very outgoing and all of these positive and outgoing
(10:43):
ways that people used to tell me the most positive
guy I've ever talked to, and I just stopped. I
just stopped being that just kind of got negative and
victimy for a long time. And so it felt really
good to step into that and really lean into that
and then be getting positive feedback from guys like gosh,
I feel so awesome after I leave talking to you
and I'm like, gosh, I'm doing it again. You know.
It felt really felt really good to give something and
(11:05):
not take again. I'm emotional, but it was. It was good.
It was a good month. It was awesome. And so
Jimmy had announced, you know, this next leadership group coming
up with six and and I had that I have
a tech I was just looking at the other day,
I have a text feed with him where I'm like,
there's no possible way I just limped into the tribe. Frankly,
there's no possible way I can make it happen. But like,
I'll make it happen for seven, Like I'll be in
(11:27):
for seven. That's my new goal, you know. Yeah, And
and he's like, yeah, I pumped battle see and seven whatever,
and and I had done. I think it was another
business networking night near in early November, and he that
day had made an announcement on his social media that
six was going to be the last one for a
while or at least, and that things were changing and
trying to grow the tribe, and and I just I
(11:47):
it just felt I could not fathom that group happening
without me, and it I just I like just had
a draw. I just needed to make it happen. And
funny side note too, my my ahead of New York
Life in Utah's name is Matt Stewart, also in Group six.
I referred him to what I thought was the tribe.
I was like, dude, I've been in this a month.
(12:08):
The connections are amazing. It'll probably lead to some business,
but right now, I'm just getting so much value from
the relationships, like you should join. Yeah, And so I
think I'm referring him to the tribe and then he
calls back. He's like, hey, I just had to call Jimmy.
I'm in the group. I'm in leadership group. I'm like,
you asshole, Like you join the thing that I can't afford. Yeah,
after I've referred him, and it was it was hilarious,
and so he and it just it started this this
(12:31):
step up process of learning again, over and over again,
bashing the head against the wall that I just don't
let myself push anymore. I've just allowed this mediocrity. And
so Matt was like, you should do it, you should
join man, And I was like, oh, there's no way.
It just is literally no, it doesn't exist. And he's again,
he's my boss. Effectively, he knows that it doesn't exist.
(12:52):
If anyone knows, it's him, and he's encouraging me, and
I'm like, how, like, why have my mindset so limited
that I don't even see this as a possibility. Yeah,
And so I just kind of opened my mind to
the idea of trying to find a way. What big
deal can I chase or what can I pull from
or can I I think grateful that have the title
to my car. It's like my one asset at this
(13:13):
point in my life, and I was like, can I
go loan against it and maybe use that? And that
felt wrong, as I'm finally able to have the title.
I didn't want to do that, but I was at
least open to the idea of trying to find a
way to do it. And Jimmy just kept reaching out.
It was awesome. My best sales guy ever, frankly, but
in such a meaningful way. He had just be like, Hey,
just keep coming up and if you have any way
(13:34):
to make that happen, like I think Group six would
be awesome for you. I love your energy. And he
made a really cool comment which I appreciated a bunch.
He said, I keep talking to my friends and guys
in the group and you just keep coming up. It's like,
I don't know what he's like. I talked to Doctor Howland.
He's like and he mentioned that you had text him.
He's like, what are you texting him for? You know?
And I was like, Oh, I just heard his podcast
(13:54):
on your podcast and thought it was awesome and reached
out to him, thought it was great, no ask just
this was powerful. Thanks for saying this. And he's like,
so it just was really it was cool to hear
that someone has connected as Jimmy kept my name kept
coming up. You know, it wasn't anything fancy or and
you just that every time I had just recently met
with someone or I had reached out to him or
set up a time to chat. And and so he's like,
(14:14):
based on that alone, I know you'll be awesome for six.
I don't know what you need to work, you think
you need to do, it could benefit from but if
for no other reason, like your ability to connect with
humans will make six better, like you got to be
in it exactly. And I was just like so flattered
by that obviously, but again, just no way to make
it happen. And so it kind of kept coming along,
it kept coming down, and it got down to like
he was like, I got five spots left, this is
(14:36):
we're cutting it, like this is the day. And he
just kept reaching out three or four times over the
you know, a couple week period and said, you know,
we're leaving on the whatever day it was November twentieth
or something. Yeah, And this was like the sixteenth, and
he was just like, you just keep coming up, man,
Like you got to make it happen. What do you
need to do? And so I jumped on a call
with him and just laid it out very clearly. Was like,
(14:56):
this is where I'm at financially and I'm trying to
make good financial choice. Is I mean a financial advisor
now I'm trying to give people good advice financially speaking,
This actually isn't a good financial move, Like to take
dollars I've barely earned and put them into something I
don't even know if I could afford every month, And
he said, and we got real clear about it, and
he talked about, you know what he thinks the return
(15:18):
will be in from business and I've been really trying
to not view it as a business a networking thing
except for the business networking portion. And he was just like, dude,
figure it out. Yeah, like if nothing changes, nothing changes, clearly,
And and that hit me hard. I was like, you're right,
I've been living the same six months for a decade
(15:40):
on repeat, just on repeat. Yeah, yeah, over and over
and over. Get some success, get complacent, allow mediocrity fail.
Hit my head against the wall try again. I've just
been doing an over and over rome where I said, yeah,
this is I have to I have to do this,
like yeah, as we not from a suicidal standpoint, but
like my life depended on something changing. Yeah, I couldn't
(16:02):
do it anymore. You know, was so sick of see
if my kids see me fail and they love me,
and that's awesome, but like I want her to be something,
you know exactly and and so yeah, he said that,
like it's time to change. You need to do this.
You have twenty four hours to figure out. I'll call
you back tomorrow. And I was like, shit, it's all right,
I better lock it in and tend to look. Yeah.
So I just, yeah, I kind of robbed Peter to
(16:23):
pay Paul and figured out a way to put half.
I have an awesome girlfriend who was super freaking awesome.
She ven mued me more than half of what I
needed to get in and just was like we're doing this,
like we need this, you need this. I just couldn't
believe the support I felt, and so yeah, it was
pretty cool. So made it happen. Kind of committed officially
on like the seventeenth or whatever, three or four days
before we left and it was like a Sunday we
(16:46):
figured it out and then we had an intro call
on Tuesday, and then I was driving down there on Thursday.
So it just came together really quick. But yeah, that's
my journey in. It's beautiful. It's been awesome. Yeah, it's it's.
Speaker 3 (16:58):
Just cool to see because you know, you talked about
Jimmy mentioning how your name kept popping up, and I
think that's a testament to you, right, like I.
Speaker 2 (17:07):
Don't accept confidence. Well, thank you, it is.
Speaker 3 (17:10):
I appreciate that, yes, Like, yes, there's a I always
feel like people get put into the right positions for
the right reasons. Right. If someone pops into your mind,
they're there for a reason, right, that's a prompting for
you to reach out to that person, right, Yep. For Jimmy,
he had that prompting because he kept coming across your name.
But it's because of the work that you put in.
Speaker 2 (17:30):
I love to be.
Speaker 3 (17:31):
Able to get those promptings, right.
Speaker 2 (17:33):
Sure, Yeah, some of these promptings.
Speaker 3 (17:35):
Some of these promptings happen randomly, but at the end
of the day, like the work that you put in
and the connections that you made led to that kind
of going about Jimmy, just seeing your name all the time.
Speaker 2 (17:46):
Yeah, So yeah, I love that. I appreciate that, And
it was a nice reflection of again, as I've mentioned,
I I just often have just I mean just the
fear of failure. Maybe it's a fear of success some
of that too, but I just always do just enough
to like put a check in the box and not
actually let myself excel. And so again I think it
(18:08):
was because and it just came to exactly how it
needed to come together with seeing Jacob Johnson's growth over
his you know, I was really getting close with him
prior to him joining the group, and I was helping
I thought I was helping him kind of work through
some of these mental blocks he was having, and then
he joined the group and just skyrocketed. These things just
fell away and started and it was awesome to see that.
(18:29):
So that witnessing that kind of from a far third
party was neat and then connected with Jared and being
recognizing that the connection I was missing in my life
was meaningful mail connection exactly, and actually reaching out to
a meaningful mail in my life and not knowing he
was in and then his willingness to us. It just
it just was a very It was is exactly what
it needed to be. And yeah, and it reaffirmed to
(18:52):
me that like going all in matters like it, there
would not have been I found out later that Jared
they were at there. I think they were doing Saint
George a couple of weeks before we did our mobs, so.
Speaker 3 (19:04):
Yeah, it would have been timing in two or.
Speaker 2 (19:06):
Three weeks pretty close to that. And so I found
you know, Jared's they're doing work for his own life
and he's at that lutis talking to Jimmy about finding
ways to help me get in and help encouraging him
to encourage me. And just there's all these factors working
in the background that I had no idea of until afterwards.
And and it's just awesome. I've just never felt as
(19:27):
supported ever.
Speaker 3 (19:29):
Yeah, maybe the community when it rallies around you, it
feels powerful.
Speaker 2 (19:33):
Is it's pretty It's pretty awesome. It's like a headwind
that you don't know is there, or tail end I
should say, pushing out and pulling. Yeah, that that you
don't know is there. Something's happening you're not quite sure why,
Like you're feeling a little momentum and you're not sure
exactly what that is, and then and and again kind
of retrospectively looking backwards over that sixty days, it was
very much as you pointed out, and I appreciate it.
(19:55):
The inflect you know, these inflection points were kind of
self generated. It It came from a desire to want
to be connected and not ask and just give, and
that turned into yeah, is it is awesome? And again
probably egotistically, like wanting to be the most connected guy
in the group, like that was probably started at like
this dumb way, like I'll beat Michael Gandhi all the
more that he will or something. But I ended up
(20:17):
being very very positive. And yeah, it's been it's been
a wild ride. We've been about, you know, two months
out from our from our Coab experience, and I'm not
sure I keep I keep. There's no question that things
are better. I mean there's every single part of my
life is better. I've lost some weight, I have great connections,
you know, how business is going better. I think everything
is starting to line up. At the same time, there's
(20:39):
this knowing something kind of coming into clarity on something
is both helpful and potentially hurtful. In that now you
know better, right, Like, I know so much more of
my bullshit that I do that now when I do it,
I need to. I'm relearning how to give myself grace
on those things and not be hard on myself for
(20:59):
falling into old habits because now I know better. R exactly.
So there's this kind of double edged sort of getting better.
Is it really is the multiple steps forward and then
one step back and a couple of steps forward, and
you're not You're not. It's not linear, you know, I'd
like it to be. That'd be awesome. Yeah, but yeah,
it's been a it's been a wild ride.
Speaker 3 (21:16):
But when it's all about grace too, write you said it,
like all the growth and all the progress that we
make in this group, in this community, there's going to
have to be step backs. Yeah, And it's going to
have these situations where you fall back a little bit
and you have to give yourself grace in those moments.
Speaker 2 (21:31):
You just have to because neat, I've not done that well. Yeah,
but because I'm so so connected on me, it sounds
like I'm just overly committed to making sure dudes in
our group feel close. Yeah that you know, there's we'll
talk about well, gratitude. It's one of the things we
practiced in this group A lot is daily gratitude, right,
just seeing the beauty in the world, being grateful that
(21:52):
the monotonous things that often we don't find gratitude for.
And you know we've got we've got accountability part and
other guys in the group that I stay in contect with.
I just made this decision early on. I was like,
I suck at gratitude. I'm not good at it. I
tend to slant negative, depressive, anxious, and so I knew
I needed a lot more than like two or three
(22:14):
guys sending me the stuff every day, and so I
have I probably have twenty five dudes in between the
tribe and my group that did do this with every day.
Love to add you to it. I mean, it's in
very early on it was my gratitude. I get like
two or three guys sending there's back. And just this
last week it was a I had a weird day.
It was kind of in my head a bunch and
it was like three or four pm and I was
(22:34):
just getting through work, trying to get to Doo's done,
and been ignored my phone and not not doing the
gratitude portion well. And it was so awesome that I
have done it consistently enough to these people, even though
I was getting nothing back right for weeks and months
now at that point. And that day specifically, I had
(22:55):
like twenty two coming to me prior to Usually it's
my sending them that would triggerly, oh yeah, I gotta
get them done for the day or whatever. And I
had like twenty two or twenty three waiting for me
when I was like in the luckiest moment of my day,
right kind of letting my crap get in my head.
And that's twenty two times three, that's sixty, it's seventy
(23:15):
things to be grateful for that I got a chance
to read through and it was just hit me in
the heart and I was like hell yeah, like read
through every one of those and thought, you know what,
like having a phone to read these things. Grateful Boom
wrote it and I ended up doing like a fifteen
or twenty gratitude list that r and it was just
that's the power of connection is, you know, when I
(23:36):
don't know if those days that I was sending to
them was useful, probably just annoying because they weren't replying,
but somehow that consistency led to me, it coming to
me when I needed it most. And man, that's the
ability to lean on others when you're weak, when you
have those moments when you suck at giving yourself grace,
tassle and remind you. Like one of the things that
(23:57):
that specific day that three or four of the twenty
something had the word grace in it of them reminding
that they are grateful for that. And I'm like, man,
the day I'm giving myself none of that. Like, these
dudes are just pouring pretty awesome.
Speaker 3 (24:11):
Yeah, that's that's a special part about it, Right, If
you're not feeling up to it, you're gonna have all
these guys who are pouring back into you. And I
think that's kind of a key here, Like this whole
conversation what we're talking about, of you being so connected
with all these people, all it is is you're pouring
back into them, right, and pouring into them as much
as you can.
Speaker 2 (24:29):
Yeah, I hope, I hope it feels as genuine to
them as I feel I'm getting from them when they
do to me. Certainly, I'm sure it is.
Speaker 3 (24:36):
And here's the unique part about this group is anytime
you meet with someone from the group, you know, it's
genuine right, Like there's there's kind of this almost rule,
like this unspoken rule of what where you step into
a room with another man of what and you just
cut the bullshit right now, they won't let you do
it exactly, And I am I'm expert.
Speaker 2 (24:58):
Man, if I'm good at something, it's like my bullshit right,
and it's it's been It's like the double edged sword
again of hate. Someone calls you out on something and
it's like, man, the ego in me just wants to
like punch him in the throat, you know, I just
don't want anything to.
Speaker 1 (25:10):
Do with that.
Speaker 2 (25:10):
Yet the other side is like, you're right, you're freaking
ride dude exactly doing it again, aren't I you know.
Speaker 3 (25:16):
Understand and say yeah, you're right right, and.
Speaker 2 (25:19):
Then move on yeah, and then we're there, you know,
Like I've always said that at this interesting point about
just the tribe in general. Yeah, and even in my
first sixty days, I would introduce myself as oh, just
in the tribe, like not in a leadership group almost again,
kind of victimy and I don't view myself not in
the tribe because I'm in leadership group, Like the tribe
(25:41):
is the tribe. This this, These leadership groups are amazing
for what they are, and it just gives a more
focused introduction to the things we all should be doing
in the tribe anyway. But yeah, I would just to
make that abundantly clear, like there's no greater than less
than like being in the group. Making the decision in
general to be in the tribe is what it's about.
(26:03):
You're making a decision to be a better version of
yourself than you have been. And it openly admitting that
you need help, right, Like that's powerful and so one
of the thing that I've noticed, I just said this
some of the other day and it RUNGTRAI. I wanted
to make sure I mentioned this today was I've always
you know, if I have a superpower, you know, god
given gift, whatever you want to call it, it's my
ability to connect with people quickly. Right. That's why I
(26:24):
think I'm a good salesperson and a good connector is
I get to zero quickly with people. I can just
get there. Right. What's been amazing about the tribe and
what movement in general is I've been able to do
that in my whole life, even when the other person
isn't playing the same game. So if they don't know
(26:44):
that we're about to go there, they don't know we're
going to get that close that fast, they're doing whatever
they're doing, and I've still been able to kind of
do that, right. The super superpower is being a part
of a group. That also is if they're not good
at that, at least they're willing to and some of them,
most of them are also pretty good at that. And
so you get a few of those people in a
(27:04):
room at a round table, in a mini mastermind or
a business networking group, and you start, I start doing
again what I'm good at quickly, and they're equally as
good at it, or at least equally as willing and dude,
like the level that you can get quickly, it's not
just getting to zero, like yeah, it's it's way past that,
like you're And that's when Jimmy says the very first beginning,
(27:26):
whether it's the tribal leadership he talks about, you're going
to find some of your best friends. Yeah, And I
was immediately like, okay, yeah, you're best Like I just
didn't get what he meant, you know, it's like, no,
I in my mind, friendship required time for some reason,
like time is a terrible time as friends is a
terrible indicator of a good friend.
Speaker 3 (27:47):
One hundred percent agree.
Speaker 2 (27:48):
And during COVID, I lost a buddy that i'd been really, really,
really been my best friend since you know, fifth grade,
and we just kind of went different ways and had
hard conversations, and I frank, if I'm actually being accountable,
we restate this. I think he was sick of trying
to help me with my bullshit. Wow, ooh, I hate saying.
(28:08):
That's first time I actually thought about it.
Speaker 3 (28:10):
Yeah, that's tough.
Speaker 2 (28:12):
Yeah, I think that's probably what it was. I think
he just kept trying to help me pull myself out
of this tailspan. And you can't help someone that's not
willing to help themselves. Actually, that's really interestingly.
Speaker 3 (28:22):
I think we all have relationships like that.
Speaker 2 (28:24):
Make sure he knew that. I recognize that. That's really interesting.
But anyway, that went away, and it's haunted me forever.
I thought, Man, I'm never going to have a friend
like that again, and maybe I won't. He's amazing that
said time, just because you've known someone a long time
doesn't really mean anything. It's like they're either helping you
or they're not. And in his case, he was and
I probably wasn't ready to help it. But joining the
(28:47):
WHAT tribe in general has just been it's been very
interesting to see how quickly what I hope and I
believe will be lifelong friendships have solidified themselves so quickly
and are only growing every day. You know, Like you're
a perfect example. Like we played football together once, we
had a business networking once, we're doing this now, this
is our third time meeting. It wouldn't be weird at
(29:10):
all for either one of us to be like, hey,
can I sleep on your couch tonight? Not even at all. No,
that's incredible. Yeah, and that's an incredible thing. I don't
know why motion keeps coming up, but like man John
Getty Group five met him at a Saint George's weekend
that Jared put together right after I joined mid October.
Met him once, literally once in the hot tub, a
(29:32):
couple of nights hung out. That's it. Didn't really have
any deep conversations. Three weekends ago, my daughter had a
gymnastics meet in Las Vegas, and I I couldn't believe
it was happening as it was happening. But I called him.
I was like, hey, man, are you in town this weekend?
He's like yeah, Like hey, can we crash at your
place save some money so I can go see my daughter?
And he was like yeah. Of course. Not only was
(29:54):
he willing to which is powerful, right, but that I
was willing to ask, which was blew me away even
more than him saying yes. Him saying yes is expect
he's a stud. Yeah. My willing willingness to even ask
what I would never so quickly ask was what was
surprising me. And his obvious willingness to assist, like that
(30:16):
is awesome. Like where else literally can you meet some
dude you've never met, but just because you have this
one connection to the same again, desire to be better
and commitment to not yourself but others, well yourself and others.
I should say, that's the only really commonality there was.
(30:37):
And it was a blast. It was awesome my girlfriend
and I had. It was way better than a hotel.
You got a chance to hang out and chat with
him at night. We literally stayed the night and left
like that's it. It wasn't a big weekend. But dude,
it was the power behind that connection is awesome exactly,
And and I don't I hope Jimmy had the foresight
of knowing what this could be, but I don't even
know if he'd like I think he desired it to become,
(31:00):
but I would imagine it's become far more than what
he even imagined it to be.
Speaker 3 (31:04):
I think the beautiful part about having six leadership groups
now is that each group has kind of developed into
its own thing, to where Group one was fifty guys
who took a shot on Jimmy.
Speaker 2 (31:16):
Yeah, they don't didn't have a I don't think he
had a clue what it was. The exactitely didn't have
a clue.
Speaker 3 (31:20):
It was Jimmy didn't have a clue what was going on.
They didn't have a clue what was going on. They
took a shot at Jimmy. Yeah, as with guys from
group six, they've heard guys from groups yeah, weird far
lucky enough to know for sure we had a clue
and Jimmy knows what he's doing now. Yeah, And I
think that's actually the really cool part about like your
guys group and this is kind of something I want
(31:42):
to drive into a little bit more, which is Jimmy
has gone through a lot of good and a lot
of bad with that he talks about it.
Speaker 2 (31:49):
Of course I wasn't privy to that. He jokes all
the time, but he's like, some things did not work,
some things have everything Jimmy does work. So it's weird.
Speaker 3 (31:56):
I love exactly and things change and every everything is
you know, could be changing at any moment. How have
you guys as Group six kind of felt being, you know,
this group coming together knowing that you guys are going
to be the last group for a while. Because I'm
sure that's something that's been in the back of everyone's mind.
Sure where it's like, hey, we're the last group. You know,
(32:16):
we're getting to take advantage of this before it goes away. Yep,
how has that kind of shifted? As I mean, I
don't want you to speak for the entire group, but
at least in your experience.
Speaker 2 (32:25):
Yeah, no, it's been. Yeah, it's been. I'm I'm grateful
that the announcement was made like it was like a
bit of scarcity. I get the sales tactic, but really
like this is it for a bit because it got
me and I think a handful of others that wouldn't
have yet, wouldn't have pulled the trigger out they didn't
feel ready or whatever, And so I think there's, yeah,
we definitely get to be the beneficiary of an effectively
(32:48):
proven model. What is interesting is Jimmy talks about a
lot of the different things he's tried, events or activities
or speakers that haven't landed quite well. Yeah, it has
some funny versions of that that you can tell. But
what is interesting is the kickoff Moab, the Moab weekend
he talks about, hasn't changed even a little changed. The
location is the same that in this case, I think
(33:11):
in our in our group, the Moab Brokes Wing changed
locations physically, Taylor decided to Taylor moved and had some
negotiation with National Forest Service or something his the actual
location changed. So our actual cliff jump itself was like
slightly further away and slightly longer and wider or something.
I don't know what the difference was, but it was
a different location. Outside of that, it's the same exactly.
(33:33):
And when it comes to formative weekends, of course, I've
only had one, so I don't know what the rest stand.
And I'm quite sure they'll all be formative. Yeah, but
there is no question that that's the like, that's the
kickoff for a reason, right, And it is very telling
that Jimmy did not what he thought would be the
right thing at Group one is exactly it and has
not changed at all, which is awesome. I think there's
(33:54):
something very anything and changes and orders and things that
have changed since then might change compared to the rest,
but one is the same, and I think that's awesome
that loutas is it has not the point he wanted
to get across then is as powerful now as it was.
That I think that's that's a cool a cool mirror, and.
Speaker 3 (34:12):
It's a testament to how much work Jimmy put in
before even starting the where it's like first loutist that
he ever set up.
Speaker 2 (34:19):
It is the exact same everything because it works. What
is done on what night is the same, what's done
on what day is the same, The hike is the same,
the jump is the same, experience is the same. It's amazing, Yes,
And so there is power in knowing. And that's another
thing too. I think when you meet someone in the tribe,
there's power in knowing that they're in the tribe. They've
made that commitment to make themselves better. Same thing, intermediate
guy from the group, You know, they've experienced at least
(34:41):
that we're all different. Four still going five, still going five.
It is about two almost. They're there right now as
we speak.
Speaker 3 (34:48):
There there.
Speaker 2 (34:49):
They've been one ahead of us. Now they're two ahead
of us. And so there's three groups going now and
again the same. Knowing that there's at least that that
is the same again, it's very very connecting. So yeah,
back to your question, Yes, we benefit from that, and
that's powerful. At the same time, I think that there's
a bit of, at least in my opinion, I take
it a bit of like a huge, huge honor to
(35:11):
be the last last one for a while. Yeah, maybe ever,
because I feel like we like the pressure to succeed
and become our best, which is a pressure for all
of us anyways for trying to be better exactly, but
I almost feel the need to like make sure that
I come out of this thing better than I've ever
(35:31):
been as an example and a testament to what this is,
to help grow the tribe itself. Yeah, and it's a
weird feeling to have like this ownership of like the
he talks about the container, right, the tribe and these
groups being a container for men to do what they're
(35:51):
going to do. And he doesn't do anything fancy except
for provide the container. That's his that's his superpower, right,
bringing people together and giving them an opportunity to find themselves.
Else I have this internal pressure for some reason. I
think it's powerful, so I don't think it's negative at all,
but to continue the pace, like I know the pace
is not sustainable. But then again, I looked at my
(36:14):
last three weeks on the calendar on the way here.
Every single day, including this morning on the way here,
I've met with, had a phone call, or zoomed with
someone from the tribe or my group every day. So
I've kept up that five days a week thing. And
in my case, in my business, it's without having to
talk business. It's just a relationship business. And so the
more I have these conversations it is beginning to lead
(36:36):
to business. That's great, but it is not the driver.
It's because I feel better when I do, and then
I'm operating at a higher frequency and the rest of
my day works. So I'm pumped about keeping that up,
like I'll keep that I'll run that pace until I
can't anymore. And I really do feel a bit pressure
in a good way to make sure that we show
(36:57):
up well as leaders in this group. If the tribe
is going to double, which is one of Jimmy's goals
this over the next year, to take it up to
a thousand people nationwide, I really feel like we need
to be we all of us, especially even you, any
of us that have been kind of from the beginning
right before this really blew up, and again the beginning
(37:17):
is relative, but before he really put an effort into
growing the tribe, I feel like we need to make
sure that we're showing up the best we can to
actually help help grow this thing. It makes it very
It's a communal growth, right, it's Jimmy leading the charge,
but it's all of us, and so I feel that pressure.
I'm sure if anyone else does in the group. But
now the six has been interesting. It's a very it's
(37:38):
a kind of an eclectic group. You know, We've got
you know, a couple of dudes in their fifties, We've
got guys in their early twenties, like twenty yeah, yeah.
Speaker 3 (37:49):
And.
Speaker 2 (37:51):
I'm just floored by that the breadth I'm I've kind
of you know, I've had a lot of life in
my forties. I feel like I'm like an eighty year
old and a forty year old's body, But I still
feel like I'm this funny spot where like I thought
that I only have so much time to like make
something of myself, Like I'm running out of time, right, Yeah,
And then I see guys in their fifties who have
(38:14):
made a lot of from themselves, Like we have some
high powerful dudes, yeah, especially these couple guys that I'm
speaking of. We've got three or three or four that
are in their fifties, and every one of those guys
I would look up to do look up to, and
would immediately be like, don't have something to work on?
Got it figured out? Yeah? And they do in all
the ways that like seemingly matter, right, financial and otherwise. Families,
(38:35):
great families, great dudes. Yet even they are looking at
themselves in the mirror being like, but I can be better,
And I am amazed by that. That's been awesome, Like, Okay,
if these guys twelve thirteen years ahead of me age
wise are willing to still do the work every day
and actually commit themselves to be better, like I actually
have plenty of time too. Yeah. Yeah, And on the
(38:56):
other side of that coin, dudes that are twenty twenty
one years old, twenty two years old. I am floored
by the young guys in our group. I cannot I
just again banging ahead against the wall. Third time that's
come up, because I make decisions that way. I just
wasted my twenties being an idiot, you know, thirties two frankly,
just not making not understanding the power of being better
(39:19):
and actually trying to grow myself. And these the fact
that these young guys in the group understand that enough
and are willing to invest real dollars into making themselves
better as young as they are, I'm like just so
excited for them. Yeah, I'm like, you guys don't even
know he's a cheat code. Oh you're around twenty years Like,
I feel like I have time for the first time.
(39:40):
This group, this tribe has helped me learn that. Like,
I'm not out of time so likely another Yeah, you know,
I've made call adult decisions twenty years effectively, right, eighteen
twenty years old, twenty twenty two years I've made adult
decisions for twenty years, I have twice that again to
still run this life out. Yeah, of course, like I'm
(40:02):
going to live till I maybe at least that's twice
the amount of time I have to kind of right
the wrong, make up lost time, correct the ship right exactly.
And so I just cannot believe these dudes that have
four times that amount. I mean, I'm pumped. I can't
tell who I'm more excited for. Kind of the older
guys like me and above me that are are figuring
some stuff out and get a chance to still use
(40:22):
the time we have. Or these dudes that are just
they don't even know what they don't know, and they're
willing already to go in on themselves. It's so cool.
Speaker 3 (40:28):
It's an incredible dynamic because you have these young guys.
I classify myself in the young group, sure, sure, because
everyone always tells me that it's a cheat code to life, right,
being in it at this age, it is a cheat
code to life. And then you have everyone who's in
the older side of things, yep, where they're getting all
of these connections to the younger guys feeling that life
(40:49):
and feeling that love and fueling it too to help them.
Speaker 2 (40:54):
Along the world. Yeah, I feel along the way my
role for the younger guys you included in anyone in
their twenties, frankly, is a lot of these older guys
have much more wisdom and much more business advice than
savvy that I have. But I have a lot of
how not to do things.
Speaker 3 (41:07):
Yeah, of course, right, And I'm real good at that. Man.
Speaker 2 (41:09):
If I'm good at something, it's how not to do things.
And it's been very again self deprecative my whole life.
I always been self deprecating to myself and been like, oh,
you all you have is bad experiences. You don't have
anything to give. Yeah, And it's been amazing. The exact
opposite of that is true. It's been so helpful and
so powerful to some of the young guys, at least
it's being told to me that, you know, I just
(41:31):
get a chance to be like, hey, I don't know
how to do it, but I know how not to.
Like this is a decision I made. If you're wavering
on that path, like, let me just share with you
where that outcome comes, because divorce is no fun and
I'd like you not to go through that, you know,
And so I hope that. I hope that's equally as valuable.
I think it probably is. It is, but dude, our group, yes, really,
I love the breadth of it. I love that it's
(41:51):
not a bunch of twenty year olds that are still
learning things and it's not a bunch of old I
think it's a very cool it's a very cool group. Yeah,
we've got a really, really neat group.
Speaker 3 (42:00):
So that's beautiful. I can't wait to talk to more
group six guys.
Speaker 2 (42:03):
Yeah, I'll get him all. I think if I can
be the impetus to help get some more dudes in here,
you're gonna be our catalyst here, get some guys in here,
for sure. Parker, thank you so much for doing this. Yeah,
so much for coming on the podcast.
Speaker 3 (42:15):
I love it.
Speaker 2 (42:16):
It's this has been great.
Speaker 3 (42:17):
Hearing your story and hearing kind of what you've been
through and how you have poured back into this community
is super powerful, and I think it's something that a
lot of people can really take away from is it
doesn't matter leadership, group or tribe. What you get out
of this group is what you put into it.
Speaker 2 (42:35):
Yep.
Speaker 3 (42:35):
That's something that everybody says, but it's not something to.
Speaker 2 (42:38):
Say, right Everyone says it. Yes, that's the thing. Jimmy
says it on the intro video to every single guy.
I'm sure. I'm sure he says that. Yes.
Speaker 3 (42:45):
So it's about what you put into it you're going
to get out of it.
Speaker 2 (42:48):
Yep.
Speaker 3 (42:48):
Not a lot of people do that, and I think
that it's a testament to the leadership group guys too,
where you can put into the tribe just as much
as you can with your group and get even more
out of it, like you've done well.
Speaker 2 (42:59):
Thanks man, thank yeah, thank you. I appreciate that. I
thank you. I always say, oh, thank you, I have
done a good job with that. That is correct. I
appreciate that.
Speaker 3 (43:09):
Yeah. All right, let's get out of here. Let's give love.
Give love to someone in the group.
Speaker 2 (43:13):
Man, there's a lot you mentioned that there's so much
love to give to my group specifically, but I think that,
uh yeah, one one a buddy, Brian Smith, who was
going to join us and ended up not being able
to make it today. Brian's an awesome dude. I love him.
He's a perfect example of I see a lot of
(43:33):
similarities in him as I do myself, and it's interesting.
I can't see I I'm blind to my own stuff sometimes,
yet I can see it in others. And he's He's
a dude that anyone you meet would introduce, meet him
and be pumped. No, I'm impressed by him, proud to
be associated with him, and he, like me, doesn't see
(43:55):
that in himself. And so the love that is deserved
today for sure is to him. Yeah, love that.
Speaker 3 (44:01):
I'm gonna give love to my boy, Jose Jose Renoza
Group one. It's one of the guys who got me
into this group. I've just been thinking a lot about him.
Need to reach out, so he's on my mind. I'll
love Jose love all right, Thank you Parker for coming
on the podcast. If anyone wants to reach out to you,
if they want to follow social media or anything like that,
where can they reach out?
Speaker 1 (44:19):
Yeah?
Speaker 2 (44:19):
Yeah, the Parker Smith on Instagram. I think that I
is a one, the Parker Smith. But yeah, love to
My information is in the group shoot me, yeah, text
any one that wants to meet anytime. I'll make it work. Coffee, dit, cook, whatever,
whatever your drink is. Yeah, I'd love to connect absolutely.
Speaker 3 (44:38):
Yeah, everyone listening to this podcast, go to the app
and say Parker's number one. Shot him a text message.
Please do because he will respond to every single one
of you.
Speaker 2 (44:44):
I will. That is true. Thanks brother, all right, love it.
Speaker 3 (44:47):
Thanks Barker yep, thank you for listening to another episode
of the We Are the Day podcast. If you want
to join this incredible community, this incredible brotherhood of men,
you can go on Instagram at mister Jimmy Rex or
at watmovement dot com. Click the link of the bio
you can join the tribe. The tribe is open right now.
Directly through there, you could also go to join Watt
(45:09):
dot com that is j O I N w A
T T dot com. You could also go to WATFID
dot com w A T T v I D dot
com to go watch the We Are the They documentary
as well. If you have any other questions, feel free
and to reach out to Jimmy directly or hit us
up on Instagram. Thank you again for listening to the podcast.
And it is that time once again for me to
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