S1:EP13 From Weeping to Warrior Igniting Freedom with Roshawn Nicole ft Larkita Demps

S1:EP13 From Weeping to Warrior: Igniting Freedom with Roshawn Nicole welcomes Larkita Demps.  Larkita Demps, a mental health professional, holds a Master’s in Clinical Mental Health Counseling from Seattle University and a BSW from Methodist University. Born in Tacoma, WA, she has dedicated her career to supporting children, young adults, and families through various agencies, driven by her passion for mental wellness and service.

Episode Transcript

Speaker 1 (00:00):
Bray No Shameshames dot finding me.

Speaker 2 (00:08):
With my hands and good time, any any stuff? What's good?

Speaker 1 (00:25):
Warrior fam Welcome to the show from Weeping to Warrior
Igniting Freedom with Roshannicole, where we talk talk about all things.

Speaker 2 (00:33):
Mental health, awareness and bonus and.

Speaker 1 (00:36):
I interview amazing guests from all over the world sharing
their incredible stories of how they overcame obstacles and trials
and what they are currently doing to maintain their mental
health and their physical health. If you would like to
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at Roshannicole Wellness dot com so you can share your
Weeping to Warriors story. All right, friends, well, welcome or
welcome back to we are at episode What number are
we at? Number thirteen? All right, lucky number thirteen. This
is episode thirteen. If you've missed from one to episode twelve,
I got you covered, So go back to my YouTube

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channel check out these amazing episodes of amazing guests sharing
their story of how they overcame obstacles. Let me just
kind of give you a little recap here so you
know what you've been missing, or if you want to
go and rewatch or maybe send it to a friend
or a loved one who you feel need some inspiration
or encouragement. So we have been talking about overcoming grief

(01:37):
losing a child and a mother. We also talked about
overcoming past traumas. This one is episode three and this
one is called from Brokenness to Beauty queen and author.

Speaker 2 (01:51):
Go check that one out.

Speaker 1 (01:53):
We've also talked about from Heartbreak to Strength, so overcoming
grief as well. Another episode is talking about victory through music.
That's episode five and that's Tom Taylor. We have Jamelle Williams,
a triumph over addiction and award winning singer, so go
check out his story. We have an author here from Seattle,

(02:16):
Washington and this is episode seven and she went from single.

Speaker 2 (02:20):
Mother to author, children's book author and poet. Episode eight.
This is a real good one.

Speaker 1 (02:26):
This is also talking about overcoming depression and addiction through
functional medicine.

Speaker 2 (02:32):
That's go check that one out.

Speaker 1 (02:35):
We also, we have so many more episodes, so I
want you to go and check those out and leave comments,
share them and share the love. So all right, so
this episode is a very special episode. We're actually not
gonna this is not it's gonna be kind of an
interview style, but it's more of gonna be educational and informative.

(02:56):
And I have one of my very special friends that
I love dearly and grew up with her from probably
I don't even know, I need to ask her. We
were probably like two, three or four. Grew up with
her really close friend. Her sister is a close friend
of my sister. Her parents we're a good friend of
my parents, and so I'm just so proud of her.

Speaker 2 (03:16):
And her story.

Speaker 1 (03:17):
But today we have a licensed therapist and she's gonna
come on and we're gonna talk about some strategies. We're
gonna talk we're gonna dive deep into mental health and
we're gonna talk about how to come back that some
strategy she's gonna teach us today.

Speaker 2 (03:33):
So I'm super excited. So so stay tuned, and I
in just.

Speaker 1 (03:38):
A minute before we bring her on, because I'm gonna
read her bio. So before we bring out miss Larkita
dimp let me read her bio. We have Larkita Dimps
is a mental health professional who holds a master's in

(03:58):
Clinical mental health counseling from Seattle University and a BSW,
which is a bachelor's in Social work from Methodist University.
She's born in Tacoma, Washington, that bre we reside now.
She has dedicated her career to supporting children, young adults,
and families through various agencies. Driven by her passion for

(04:21):
mental wellness and service. She is the CEO and owner
of Renewed Counseling and Coaching. Let's welcome this Warrior Queen
from Tacoma, Washington to the show.

Speaker 2 (04:43):
Hello, Yes, hello, Larkita Dimpse.

Speaker 1 (04:52):
But I know Larkita, as I told her, I said, girl,
you know I'm gonna call you Keda on the show.

Speaker 2 (04:57):
We grew up together. I've been knowing you since how Kita, Like?
How old were we?

Speaker 1 (05:01):
Two?

Speaker 2 (05:01):
Three? Earth?

Speaker 1 (05:03):
Like?

Speaker 3 (05:04):
Our moms were pregnant at the same time.

Speaker 2 (05:06):
Yeah, so yes, yes, we're not gonna tell our age though, so,
but you.

Speaker 3 (05:10):
Know we'll leave it at birth.

Speaker 2 (05:13):
Well, leave it at birth. So for a long time.

Speaker 1 (05:15):
We've been known each other for a long time, right, Yes,
So I'm I'm just so proud of Keita and today
she's gonna come on today. She she does have an
incredible story. She is definitely the true epiton me of
a warrior queen. But today she's gonna talk about just
her journey of being a mental health therapist, and we
have some questions. I have some questions for her that

(05:36):
I think the public would love to hear. And so first,
before we get started, before we jump in, Keita, just
tell the audience that I know I read your bio,
just a.

Speaker 2 (05:46):
Little bit about who you are.

Speaker 3 (05:47):
Yeah, like Roshawan said, well, I'll probably call you Sean, right, Okaykita.
I want to raised in to Cama, Washington, and then
when I was about fifteen years old, we moved and
relocated to North Carolina, and so that's where I graduated.
I'm from college there with my undergrad and school social

(06:10):
work more specifically social work school social work. I did
that for a little bit and then I relocated back
to the area to the Pacific Northwest. And coming right
out of college, it was hard to get a job.
So I was working at the church daycare at the
time children there, Greta christ Simple, and then I ended
up doing insurance for State Farm for about ten years.

(06:34):
It was a long time. Yeah, it was a long time,
and it was at that job that I realized corporate
America is not for me. Like I had a gift
with working with people that was not being used, but
it just took me so long to kind of figure
out what that would look like. Fear held me back
for a long time. Okay, And so I was finally

(06:56):
have the opportunity to go back to school, and so
I was I can get my master's in social work
because that is where I was comfortable at that's my
undergrad and God said, Nope, You're gonna do clinical mental health.
And so I ended up going back to Seattle University
after your gap, right, wow, after twelve years to go
back to school and talk about again something that was scary, careful,

(07:20):
but I knew how to do it. I had a
passionate ab helping people, and I wanted to do it
more so on a clinical level and mental health. I
was more curious about mental health. I didn't know a
lot about it, like beings into the field myself. I
had never been to therapy at that point. And so yeah,
it just worked out for me to be able to
start the program and get my master's in clinical mental health.

(07:44):
And I feel like I am where God wants me
to be and that it's a gift and I enjoyed
doing this work and so yeah, I really enjoy it.

Speaker 1 (07:55):
And now she is the CEO and owner of renew
Counseling and Coaching, and we're gonna have her talk more
about that too. So I'm so proud of her and
just seeing all the work that she's doing and seeing.

Speaker 2 (08:05):
Keita just post.

Speaker 1 (08:06):
You know, she's talking to the public, she's talking going
into schools, talking to teens, and I'm just like, because
we need more of that.

Speaker 2 (08:14):
And I'm just like yes.

Speaker 1 (08:15):
So when I see people doing this work, I'm just like, yes, yes,
because we need more of that, just normalizing therapy and
going to counseling and using those tools and those skills.
And so that's what we're going to talk about today, Rakeda,
And I'm so excited to dig in. And so my
first question for you, my friend, is like, what which
you kind of shared a little bit and I don't
know if you want to go in more details as

(08:35):
far as like what inspired you to become, you know,
a mental health therapist.

Speaker 2 (08:38):
I don't know if you want to dive deeper into that. Yeah, okay, So.

Speaker 3 (08:43):
I dealt with postpartum depression myself after having my son Austin.
At that point, no one had talked to me about
postpartum depression. I thought I was losing my mind. I
was like very unfamiliar with like asking for help, seeking
help in my culture. And when I say my culture,

(09:05):
I mean like the black culture as well as Christian background.
For sure. No conversations right around help. We're told is
that you go to the altar, you pray about it.
You don't claim it, right like right off all these things.

Speaker 2 (09:21):
You're not praying hard enough. You know, you need to
fast more.

Speaker 3 (09:25):
Your faith isn't strong enough, and that leaves like a
lot of guilt, like, Yeah, I'm doing something wrong, and
it's not that that's not true, that's not true. I
am experiencing something that us as human beings, right got
da He knows and he knew what the challenges we
would face. And so someone ended up talking to me

(09:48):
about and educating me around what was going on with me.
Right post friend impression, got on medication, and then when
I ended up going back to school for clinical mental
health again it was not a lot of people who
looked like me talk like me, did research and found
there's only like two percent, maybe three percent of black people,

(10:11):
black females in mental health. Really wow, oh this is needed.
I wow, this not just for myself but for my community,
right wow, people out here that there is a lot
of stigma around asking for help. There's a lot of
barriers to care, right, the cost, the shame, the guilt

(10:36):
of those things. I even think about Sean. When I
first told my dad I was going back to school,
which he promoted like education for sure, But when I
was like, yeah, I'm going back to be a therapist,
he was like, we don't do that. He was like,
you tell people, your business people tell right, Yep. He
was like, yep, I don't know about this therapist thing, right,

(10:57):
He's just it was just foreign to our family and
our community. But then when I saw about man all
the trauma he's actually endured, like we need to talk
about you need to talk about Yes, from this, yeah,
my clients a lot that you know, trauma can be

(11:17):
passed down through families, so can heal it?

Speaker 2 (11:20):
Yeah? Yeah?

Speaker 3 (11:22):
Right? And so I mean there's a lot of different
pieces to answer your question. That really led me into
wanting to focus on mental health. Right, my own background,
my own story of how it made me start thinking
about every time I heard somebody have a baby, I'd
be reaching out. I'm here if you need me.

Speaker 2 (11:41):
Right, like yep, yeah.

Speaker 3 (11:43):
Piece of showing up for people really is what put
my heart in this place of becoming a mental health therapist.

Speaker 2 (11:51):
Yeah. Beautiful, beautiful.

Speaker 1 (11:53):
So you wanted to take your own experience and you know,
go and get educated on that so you can help others.

Speaker 2 (12:00):
Is beautiful? Love it? Keita?

Speaker 1 (12:02):
Yes, So I know counselors and therapists special wise, they
have their own special Like I I went to go
see a therapist when I was going through my trauma,
an E. M. D R specialist, which was amazing. I mean,
and what we're gonna have her come on and talk
a little bit more about that in future episodes, you know,
if you're going through trauma. But I would love for

(12:22):
you to share, like what is your you know, your specialty, Yeah,
because it says that you you specialize in trauma therapy.
So tell us a little bit about There's it's called lifespan,
which I'm I'm familiar with that as well. I did
a little bit of that when I was in treatment
for two months and very very powerful friends, like very powerful.

(12:44):
This is another way of like, you know, going into
your trauma. And Peter will talk all more about that.
But I just want to encourage those who are listening
or watching today if you're looking for, you know, something
for your trauma, past traumas, or something that you might
be experiencing. L I uh o l I right, l
I our life fan therapy or ether dr yep. Well

(13:06):
it's just so powerful, sol Keita, if you could just
share more about that, love to hear about that.

Speaker 3 (13:11):
Yeah. So I'll answer the question first about trauma therapy
my specialty. So when I went back to school, I
wanted to do play therapy.

Speaker 2 (13:19):
I was like, okay, this is what kind of therapy,
play therapy. We play therapy. Yeah, yeah, okay, I'm going.

Speaker 3 (13:25):
To do play therapy. I'm like a background working with
children in the schools, little ones and daycares. So I
was like, oh, this would be perfect, which I thought, right,
But then a traumatic event happened to someone really close
to meet, a racial trauma happens to them, and I
realize again there's a need for therapists in this specific

(13:49):
area of racial trauma, of really being able to not
just do like talk therapy, which is great, and talk
therapy works, right, but there's this deeper need for someone
who can really understand and comprehend the cultural aspects of
what individuals go through when it comes to racial trauma.

(14:10):
And so that's where trauma came from where I was like, oh, yeah,
I really want to learn more about this. So within that,
since graduating, I've worked with families who I did my
internship at. It called Buying Maple Place, and they work
with families who are facing homelessness and a lot of

(14:30):
those situations and scenarios, there were families who were victims
of domestic violence, and so I worked with domestic violence families.
My youngest client that I saw there was four years old.
Was four years old. So at that time I was
seeing kiddos as young as four and then on up
through adults, men and women, because I tell people men

(14:55):
are not excluded from dv's situations. Right, more recent I
am going through training to work with the perpetrators of
domestic violence. Yeah, when my supervisor mentioned it, I was like,
I know about that right right, Very quickly, I was like,

(15:16):
you know what these individuals are hurting? Yep, there's something
that needs to take place within these individuals as well
the current training that I'm going through to be certified
to do that work as well. You mentioned l I,
So l I. Yeah. When I first was introduced to

(15:39):
l I.

Speaker 2 (15:40):
I was like, right, right, yeah, same here, right, same
herein yeah.

Speaker 3 (15:50):
In mind you, I'm still fairly new at it, right there.
There's four levels of training and I've completed too before.
Good just kind of explain what l I is. It's
lifespan integration, And I tell people I start off with this.
Have you ever done a connect the dots? Like you
get this paper and there's dots all over the place

(16:11):
and you're looking at it and you can't make sense
of it, right, because its dots on a page, Right,
That's how our life experiences are sometimes, right, They're just
like experiences that are just floating out here in our brains.
What life integration does it helps to connect those dots, right,
to help make sense of what has happened to us
in the past, but also bring us to the present

(16:34):
to know that we are no longer living that that
is a part of us where it's not who we are, right,
it's not we are, And so what that looks like
is as a therapist, we have the clients write out
a timeline, or we do it together with life events.
I'll give an example of myself because I've done l
I too. There was an experience that happened when I

(16:56):
was sixteen years old, right, and so from sixteen than
we did eighteen, and we did twenty right all the
way up until however old I am, we said, we're
not disposing, right, And so what the therapist does is
they read that timeline and the brain and the body

(17:17):
works together. Right. The brain is so powerful, oh yeah,
so powerful and servious system. We do not talk about
it enough. So I was able to through that session
have sixteen year old Kita kind of coming to the
present with my present self and walk around my current

(17:40):
home and remind her that she's safe now. Right, things
that happened to you at sixteen, it had caused you
to let things trigger you when you were twenty, it
may have caused you to respond in a certain way
when you have But here we are now in the present,
and you have to skill. You have these things that

(18:01):
you're able to put in place to protect yourself. Right.
So l I is it is so powerful even after
the sessions like when you go home and you sleep,
your brain is still rewiring and doing that word to
remind you that that you're safe. And the thing I
like about l I is that it's gentle, right, it's

(18:22):
like super focused on the traumatic event, but it is
in taking me through that timeline of reminding you that
you reminding your nervous system that we're good now, we're safe. Yeah,
because our subconscious mind too, is so powerful because we
could be reacting to you know, so our traumas in
our past, right, like and that's what I don't know

(18:44):
if you read the book, like the body keeps score,
you know, with just like our bodies keep score of
our trauma. And so I when I experienced l I first,
I thought, like you said, I was like when it
was explained to me, I'm like, this is weird.

Speaker 2 (18:55):
Now, I'm I'm like, know, what is that gonna work?
You know this? You know you're just kind of yeah,
like huh.

Speaker 1 (19:03):
But like when I my first experience, when I did that,
you know, I closed my eyes and we went through
like that timeline, and like there was something that came
up that I totally forgot about, Like that came up
and I was like triggered and I mean just crying
and and it was a release cry though, but like
so just what you're saying, Arkita, like it's powerful, it's amazing,

(19:24):
And I don't know if you want to speak to
those who are listening or who are watching, like the
what is it?

Speaker 2 (19:30):
Like the powerfulness of it, you know of l I
like letting them know like this is this really does work?

Speaker 3 (19:37):
So yeah, yeah, And what I'll say a lot of
times was working with people with maybe like childhood trauma.
A lot of them come and they say, I can't
remember my childhood right, And of course, like you, you
block it out because you your body is wanting to
protect you from that arm. But what l I does,
it brings it back up again in a way that

(19:57):
you're able to release. Like you said you you were
able to release it, and it is I mean again,
I wouldn't it was first introduced to me. I'm just
like sitting reading the timeline over and over. But our
brain and our nerving system, the way that I was
able to work on an ohone like in that way

(20:18):
so so very powerful and so healing. It is so
really said. There's so many different types of therapy it's
beautiful too, and it works. You know, I've had come
to me and said, hey, I've done l I, but
it really doesn't worked for me in a way that
I wish it would have. And I think that's the
beauty about therapy is that there's so many approaches and

(20:41):
so many different ways of doing it. Yeah, and so
it is very powerful. It's very powerful.

Speaker 1 (20:49):
And that is actually what I wanted to talk about
because it was one of my questions because I had
a conversation with someone not too long ago, and so
we were talking about going to Kulseleen talk count therapy
and they're and they were going to just like talk
therapy and they're like, you know what, I've been going
to talk therapy for like three years and it's great.

Speaker 2 (21:08):
Because I'm just releasing.

Speaker 1 (21:09):
I'm just like you know, like they say, I'm just
like empty and just you know, sharing everything, my emotions,
sharing what's going on. And they're, you know, they're helping
me to regulate my emotions and all that. They're like,
it's great, but you know, it's just not working. So
they were saying, like, I think I'm just gonna stop going.
And so I always share with people and you could probably,
I'm sure you could speak to this, Markita.

Speaker 2 (21:28):
In regards to those who are saying, like, you know,
talk therapy is great, but you know counts, they just
kind of.

Speaker 1 (21:34):
Just ex out all types of you know, modalities, and
I'm always sharing like there's so many different modalities and
people are not aware of that, like l I or
LIFESPAN or E M, d R or different types of
and so I tell them, don't give up. You just
have to find the right you know, first of all,
the right therapist, you know, who you can connect with.
And then you know also the modality of like what

(21:55):
do you need because l I is more for like
those intentsive trump you, I'll let you speak them that.

Speaker 2 (21:59):
I'm y'all talk about that. So yeah, if you can
speak to that. To those who are just saying, like
I'm going to counsel you, it's not working for me,
you know, what would you say about things?

Speaker 3 (22:10):
I always suggest for people to do consultations, right if
you are searching for a therapist, find out if they do.
I offer like a fifteen minute free of charge consultation
to see who a good fit. Right, And I tell
clients when they reach out, I say, I ask them
if they know anything about modalities and different therapeutic approaches.

(22:30):
If they don't, that's okay, we can explore that together.
If they do, try to find out what works for you, right,
what hasn't worked for you. I think it's so important
if therapy is an investment into self right. And so
I even tell clients after the first meeting, if I'm
not a good fit, let me know that. I I
don't want to stay here and waste your time like

(22:52):
it is okay. I want you to show up and
get what you need. And so I've had a few
clients and I know probably early on in my career
I was just like, oh man, I couldn't help them
or I felt bad. But after I'm like, no, girl,
it's about people healing. And so I just would encourage
people to.

Speaker 2 (23:11):
Speak up, speak.

Speaker 3 (23:13):
I also encourage my clients will have check ins after
you know, three months, six months, what's working, what's not working.
I know a lot of people do CBT cognitive behavioral therapy,
and a lot of people are totally against it. And
like you said, okay, try something else. There's hurt therapy,

(23:33):
there's maybe group therapy. Maybe the group would would help, right,
like so many different types of therapies. So yeah, not
give up, don't give up. It's more than just talk
therapy out there. But yeah, shop around. And I don't
want to say shop around because I know therapy can
be expensive, but yeah, shop down. As far as like

(23:54):
doing consultations with therapists, yeah, fifteen minute engagement with to
find out what modalities they offer, just they're a good fit.
I've had, you know, a therapist or two that I
had consultations with and I was like, oh, yeah, now
this is not the fit.

Speaker 2 (24:11):
Yep, mm hmm, yep.

Speaker 1 (24:13):
Yeah, and you gotta find you gotta find that personality too.
Because my counselor that I had was.

Speaker 2 (24:19):
Like this raehan blah blah blah blah. I needed that.

Speaker 1 (24:21):
I need somebody to kick me, like no for real
and you know, so and I was like, I love
her because she just tells me she's she's real and
I need that, you know, And that helped me. I
needed that personality where some people are like I can't
take that.

Speaker 2 (24:31):
That's just too much. You know, I'm gonna run. So yeah,
finding that personality, so.

Speaker 3 (24:37):
I do during consultations. I share with my clients that
I do understand like for those who maybe are new
to therapy, they just really don't have an idea of
what works and what doesn't work. Again, after we're moving along,
a client comes to mind where I was like, okay,
so your homeworker affirmations are to you know, create these

(24:59):
affirmations and they were like, uh uh, affirmations do nothing
for me. And I was like, thank you for sharing that.
Like sharing that, so we explore other things that would
possibly work for them. So, yeah, do not be afraid
to speak up and the prop around as it contains
to like doing consultations with different therapists.

Speaker 1 (25:19):
Yeah, yes, yes, yes, yeah so Keita, So are there
any other types of myths, you know and misconceptions that
people have about trauma and the healing process? And then
you kind of spoke a little bit about that, but
any do you want to add more to that? Yeah?

Speaker 3 (25:34):
Well, like I talk trauma for day long, but I
think when people hear trauma, they think of like this
really big experience that has happened to someone, And yes,
that is true. Trauma can be you know, you know,
abuse or like a real big event that has happened.

(25:55):
But also there are different forms of trauma. Like I
mentioned racial trauma. I see individuals and we work through
different parts of racial trauma, religious trauma.

Speaker 4 (26:06):
Right.

Speaker 3 (26:06):
That it's a big one that I see why often
in my space acute trauma. Right, it doesn't have to
be this repeated. And so then it's been a car accident, right,
that left you with some feelings around not being able
to cope. I tell people any experience that you're finding
really hard to cope and to kind of find a balance,

(26:29):
and life can be traumatic. It can be traumatic. So
it doesn't have to be a big experience or a
big event that has happened to you in life. Right.
Another thing that comes to mind when we're talking about myths,
and this actually came up in a conversation around Greek

(26:49):
where people say, oh, time heals all right. It's just like, well, okay,
we appreciate time, but time to do the killing, right
is seeing it's the capropy y, Yeah, it's the work.
I know mental health and therapy in our society right now,
there's more conversations than I've ever heard. I love it, Like, yes,

(27:11):
keep this buzz going, but therapy work. When you come
into therapy, it is work. Right, So again, time doesn't
heal all wounds.

Speaker 2 (27:22):
Right, Yeah, it's what you do with that time.

Speaker 3 (27:25):
Right, with that time. Yeah. Again, Another thing I tell
clients is when they come to me, I'm like, yeah,
we can be here three four years from now, I said,
but I don't want to be working on the same
exact thing, right. I will give you that gentle push
because I love to see healing happening at different paces

(27:45):
for different people. And that's okay, yep, yep, Okay again,
we're going to utilize this time, right, there's just time
passing isn't what heals the wounds. It is the work
that you put into it during our time to get there.

Speaker 2 (28:00):
I love it, Yes, absolutely, I know. I hear that
all the time. Time here. I'm like, no, its what
you're doing with that time, Like you said, it's a
it's a process. Yep, yes, beautiful.

Speaker 1 (28:10):
Yes, So, Kita, what are some you know, practical everyday
tips that you would recommend for you know, caring for
our mental health, Some practical tips that those who are
watching our listening could take and apply, you know, today,
or and use it as a daily practice.

Speaker 3 (28:30):
Yeah, you're hearing me mention the nervous system so much
because yep. I feel like it is the biggest communicator
with us and we don't listen to it enough. Right,
We do not listen to our bodies. And our body
is constantly speaking to us. Whether that is through I
don't know pain, whether that is through like tightness in

(28:51):
the shoulders. I tell people I tend to like do
my shoulders like this by the end of the day
because I carry the weight of like my clients stories. Yes,
remember just to relax. So, yes, And if you're watching this,
unclutch your jaws right, stretch your shoulders, yeah, yeah, slow down. Yes,

(29:12):
that's somatic. Some people say body work. I just call
it somatic practices of where we are listening to our bodies.
I know, kind of cliche the therapists, you know, saying
is and how does that make you feel? Right? Right?

Speaker 2 (29:27):
Right? Yeah?

Speaker 3 (29:28):
But I like to ask people where do you feel
that in your body?

Speaker 2 (29:31):
Yes?

Speaker 3 (29:32):
Where do you feel that in your body? Is your
stomach getting tight when you're talking about the relationship, right,
is your heart racing when we're bringing up a scenario
or situation, Where are you feeling it in your body?
Because your body is constantly speaking to you. That's the
first tip is listen to your body. Right. I also

(29:55):
tell people a lot of mindfulness, which is being present. Yeah,
being present, which, again in our society when things are
so fast, everything is go, go, go, the latest, this
the latest, that we're moving so big through life. But
just really slowing down and being present with yourself. Yeah,

(30:17):
And I know that can be so hard to do
because we were so many hats, right yeah, these we're daughters,
we're wives, mothers, all these different things, right, went to
yourself to really get in tune with what it is
that you need, what you need, right?

Speaker 2 (30:34):
I love that. I love that. Yeah, like asking yourself,
what do I need right now? You know what do
I need?

Speaker 3 (30:39):
Yeah?

Speaker 2 (30:39):
I love that.

Speaker 3 (30:41):
Not what happened yesterday, not the mistakes that I made yesterday,
not what's going to happen tomorrow, but what do I
need right now in this present moment? Right. Yeah. I
also tell people a lot of times we are so
attached to our phones and we're constantly looking at the
battery life looking for chulture, right, But we don't treat

(31:01):
our bodies that way. We wait until we are depleted, yes,
connect and to recharge. So again it goes back to
just slowing down, and paying attention to this daily renewal,
this daily renewal, right, and every day it's going to
look different. That's help. Again. I get some of my

(31:25):
finance people are people who are like in corporate and
they do a lot of planning, do a lot of budgeting.
I said, well, what about budgeting your time? How much
time are you giving to this person right? Time are
you given to this scenario? How much time to these
anxious thoughts that you're having, how much time to fear right?
Really incorporating you into daily budget?

Speaker 2 (31:49):
Yep.

Speaker 3 (31:50):
Absolutely another thing here in the Pacific Northwest, and this
is really anywhere.

Speaker 2 (31:56):
Because nature is nature my favorite, that's my favorite.

Speaker 3 (32:01):
I'm like, well, am I late to this whole nature things?

Speaker 1 (32:05):
It's so funny, ke it because we were born and
raised here, born here in Washington State.

Speaker 2 (32:09):
We have the mountains, we have the trees, the greenery.

Speaker 1 (32:12):
And until I started going to through therapy is when
I really start to appreciate it and I start to
realize when I just go outside in my backyard and breathe,
I'm like that totally changed my mood. Like, girl, yes,
it's powerful nature.

Speaker 3 (32:24):
It's so powerful and people even don't have the energy
to put on your hiking boots and go out on
the trail and for that simply taking off your shoes
and putting your to the ground. Yes, yes, yes, it
is so powerful and browning. It helps grounding. Yeah, the

(32:45):
nature is a really big one.

Speaker 2 (32:49):
Laughter.

Speaker 3 (32:49):
I love telling people put on a funny movie, put
on something that brings you joy. I send people with
these pockets of peace and these moments of just laughter.
When the rest of the world around you is chaotic,
it's okay just to zone in on something that really
just brings you just enerjoy. I love laughing. I love

(33:13):
being and having a good time. Yeah with you girls,
if that's what your boys, or just by yourself at
the house right your favorite comedy or something. There's so
much power and laughter.

Speaker 2 (33:26):
Love it, love it. I was I was sitting here
taking notes, okay, So yeah, yep, yep.

Speaker 1 (33:31):
So I can review this with the honest making sure
that they're taking notes too, because you know, Markita's talking
about some good nuggets that you can apply, and so
I'm just gonna review those for the audience listening and watching.
So the practical everyday tips that keep Markita recommend is
listen to your body so your body is always talking
to you. You know where you feel, what are you

(33:51):
feeling in the moment in your body? Being present is
the second one, and practicing mindfulness. The next one is
to connect and recharge, So connecting and recharging, putting yourself
on the calendar, right recharging, what are some ways that
you could recharge. The next one is grounding yourself, which

(34:13):
I love that too, and that's just going outside, you know, barefoot.
And another thing I want to add you know that
I'm learning about in my certification program is doing that
during sunrise and sunset.

Speaker 2 (34:25):
That'll help your circadian rhythm with your sleep wake cycle.

Speaker 1 (34:28):
So if you do that, in addition, there's there's an
additional thing that can help you with your your circadian rhythm,
your sleep wake cycle if you're having issues with sleeping.

Speaker 2 (34:36):
And waking up. So at that one in and then.

Speaker 1 (34:39):
Laughter laughter, Rakita said, So these are great, so great
practical tools that we can use.

Speaker 2 (34:46):
Love them. I love it.

Speaker 3 (34:48):
One more is limiting social media right yeah, much assuming
of social media in the news. I mean, there's so
much happening in the world right now and have access
to it just swiping up our thumb and you'll look
to be connected for hours and hours, and again, the

(35:08):
brain and the nervous system is an alert and you're
not even noticing the effect that it has on your body,
but really dispecting from some of that. Social media in
news really kind of helps with with your mental health too.

Speaker 2 (35:24):
Yeah, for sure. So what would you say?

Speaker 1 (35:27):
What would you recommend for someone who's doing that? Would
you say, like to completely cut it off for a
certain amount of time or like eliminated on a daily basis?
Like what would you say to like a client or
someone who's asking because it could be hard. I mean,
it's kind of they say, it's as you would probably
speak to that. It's like an addiction. So like, how
would you walk someone through that?

Speaker 3 (35:48):
Yeah? Well yeah, and then here's another thing. I want
people to stay informed, right, Yes, a lot of happening
in the world will stay informed. I think it would
take like asking yourself, like how much is too much? Okay?
Some people who are like, Okay, I'm on in front
hour and that's good enough for me. I'm caught up
for the day. Some people like, hey, I just need
to check in quick ten minutes to see what's happening,

(36:10):
and that's good enough for me. But for those who
are just like, oh my gosh, like I feel like
it's hard to put it down. I don't know about androids,
but I know iPhones have a way where you can
set up in your settings right, manage how much time
you're on an app, to check in the seat, how
much time you spend on an app, Utilize those tools,

(36:31):
utilize the right, and then get outside. Put your phone
down and get outside. I tell my kids all the time,
get off that game, go get some fresh air. But
say me, put it down, step away, and find something
else that really your nervous system, the ner system, and
that God appreciates where it doesn't. When you sit it down,

(36:53):
you're not feeling so anxious, right, and you're driven something
that brings joy, whether that is sitting in the family
room and connecting with family. I work with a lot
of young people around social anxiety, but I also have
adults where the pandemic really did a number on us
when it comes from isolation and we not how to engage.

(37:17):
And that's another thing. Community. There's so much healing in community.
And yeah, so yeah, finding different things to do and
then just monitoring how much is too much for you
based on the individual person.

Speaker 2 (37:30):
Okay, love it, love it.

Speaker 3 (37:32):
Yep.

Speaker 2 (37:32):
Great advice, Great advice.

Speaker 1 (37:35):
So Larkita, So how do you, you know, approach clients
who may feel stuck, they're maybe they're feeling stuck or
maybe you know, in their old patterns or you know,
past pain.

Speaker 2 (37:48):
How how do you support them through that journey?

Speaker 3 (37:51):
Yeah, first and foremost, I normalize it, right, Okay, yep,
this is a normal human experience that we do. You
get stuck, You get stuck in life because life is hard, hard, hard,
but so normalizing it but also providing a safe space
for them. And I know sometimes I can sound super cliche,

(38:13):
but I'll give you an example. Was working with the
family who had was going through a domestic violence situation.
Seeing the families was mom and her children. They came
in for session. Mom sat down and she just like
fell in the chair like she was just depleted, like
you can it's tired.

Speaker 2 (38:33):
She needed that moment just to be.

Speaker 3 (38:37):
So I met them that family where they were right. Yeah,
today you sit over in that corner and you just
be while I do the play therapy on the ground
with the kiddos.

Speaker 2 (38:47):
Right.

Speaker 3 (38:48):
So, meeting meeting clients where they are normalizing their comments,
providing a safety space for them to start unraveling up.
What are the patterns that's causing you to be stuck?

Speaker 2 (39:02):
Right?

Speaker 3 (39:03):
I always tell people sometimes you come into therapy and
you're like this ball of yarn that is just like
life experiences are all wind up and tied up, and
it takes time to undo those knots. Right, So we
have more patterns. What's been going on in life that's
causing you to feel stuck? Where is it that you
desire to be?

Speaker 2 (39:22):
Mm hmm.

Speaker 3 (39:23):
I think that that piece provides hope. Right, Okay, oh
for sure, see it right now. But where is it
that you desire to be?

Speaker 4 (39:31):
Yes?

Speaker 3 (39:31):
Sometimes that's hard to see when you're in the midst
Oh for sure, not entangled up. But sometimes it's a
really good reflective piece to say, Okay, there is hope,
like I have some there is light at the end
of the tunnel.

Speaker 4 (39:45):
Yes.

Speaker 3 (39:46):
I just always revert back to mindfulness of being present.
How can we what can we do today to make
sure that you show up tomorrow? Yes, about what tomorrow
is going to bring. We're just trying to get you
to tomorrow.

Speaker 1 (40:00):
Absolutely, absolutely, Yeah, And sometimes that could feel overwhelming too,
like when you're thinking of all the things you know
to get to where you want to be. But just
like you said, just those small baby steps of like Okay,
what are we going to do tomorrow? How are we
going to show up tomorrow? You know?

Speaker 2 (40:15):
Yeah, So I love that.

Speaker 1 (40:16):
I love that, and just providing, like you said, that
safe space for them so then they can be vulnerable
and you know, transparent to share.

Speaker 2 (40:25):
So I think that's yeah, love it, love it.

Speaker 3 (40:28):
Yes. And in case Sean, if I can add, is
of course with the client's permission, it is helping them
just change their perspective.

Speaker 2 (40:37):
Yes, Rat like a.

Speaker 3 (40:38):
Lot of situations and scenarios we have no control over.
Clients do this exercise where they draw two circles, one
small one and then one big one. Right outside of circle,
we're writing all the things that are out of our control, right,
the way that people view us, the way that people
their behaviors, their attitudes come right. And then then on

(40:59):
the end side the smaller circle, we're writing things that
are in our control. And that's our bulls eye. That's
where we want to focus at things that we can control,
because there's a lot of things in this world that
are out of our control, but our mind takes us
there and we want to operate in that space. That's
when we get stuck sometimes because we want change there,

(41:23):
but we don't have any control over that. So we
want to focus on that smaller inner circle my color
bull's eye. That is where your bugus needs to remain
on what do I have control over? Let me change
my perspective right, instead of focusing on outer piece of
having no control over other people scenarios, I'm really focusing

(41:43):
on what I can work on.

Speaker 2 (41:47):
Change much shames, not finding with my hands and tide.

Speaker 1 (42:03):
Under me. But still feel this is some great nuggets.
All right, Yes we get some free therapy today.

Speaker 2 (42:29):
All right, I love it, love it.

Speaker 1 (42:31):
I could talk this all day and like you said,
you could talk this trauma all day up. So, Marquita,
So what what advice would you give, you know, to
someone who who is considering therapy who feels nervous. I've
heard that from people, you know, they're they're nervous about it,
who's never had it, or they're unsure about like the process.

Speaker 2 (42:49):
Like, what advice would you give to someone?

Speaker 3 (42:52):
Yeah, I'm gonna echo consultations, right yep. Or I think
finding the right therapyist is key. It is key to
a successful healing journey. And I will also say that
there are a lot of resources out there for for therapy. Right,

(43:14):
do your research, do your research and finding out what
again may or may not work for you. I know
there's a huge stigma around therapy. Again, I dealt with
it myself within my own family, coming a therapist, going
to therapy. I'm really just trying to figure out, Okay,
what what? What is this whole therapy thing like that

(43:35):
everybody keeps talking about. Right, Also giving yourself grace, knowing
that healing is a process.

Speaker 2 (43:43):
Yes, it's a.

Speaker 3 (43:44):
Post it is not a one and done. Like I said,
I there's some clients that I've that has been with
me for years and so it is a process. And
to just show yourself some grace and have the conversation
with people talk to me, I'm thinking about doing therapy.

(44:05):
Have you been to therapy before? Like really just normalizing
starting the conversation and the top around and not being
okay right, not being okay. I need I need assistance,
I need help because I think there's this there's a
shame that is really still attached to mental health.

Speaker 2 (44:25):
Oh yeah, yeah, well, yes, yes, I mean we've gotten
a little better, but we have a.

Speaker 1 (44:31):
Long way to go.

Speaker 2 (44:33):
Yeah, a long long way Togo.

Speaker 3 (44:35):
Even the systems not to get you know, too political
with politics and the systems of like the barriers of
getting into therapy, and it's hard to get into therapy sometimes.
You know, I do see quite a few sliding scale
clients because again I'm like I got into this to

(44:56):
help people, and yeah, we just going to really unjust
system that isn't promoting mental health and making it accessible
to all people. Right, people, you're coughing, you have a fever,
your arm is broke. You're gonna go to the doctors, right,

(45:17):
no question asked, no questions asked. You're going to seek
out advice. Do the same thing for your mental do
the yeah.

Speaker 2 (45:27):
Yes, yes, yep.

Speaker 1 (45:29):
If you know you're struggling with depression or anxiety, it's
an invisible they call it what invisible illness, so you
can't see it, like you just said, like a broken
arm or a broken leg. And then also on top
of that, people are so good at masking and hiding it,
so there's another thing as well. So yeah, yes, yeah,
with the masking part, there's a lot of people who

(45:51):
have functional depression.

Speaker 3 (45:53):
Yes, exactly, Yep, you're still getting up, you're going to work,
you're providing for your family, you're doing all the things.
Then you're suffering and isolation and your suffer alone. And
I think this is a beautiful platform, Sean, because it
is helping these conversations. Excuse me, conversations start right in

(46:13):
normalizing that. And what really blows my mind is that
we all have mental health. I don't care your gender,
I don't care your color, religion. As human beings, every
person experiences mental.

Speaker 2 (46:31):
Health absolutely absolutely, and do.

Speaker 3 (46:35):
Not talk about it enough. Yet there are not enough
resources out there, a society to heal and to go
through the healing. Yes, yes, every single human on this
planets has mental health.

Speaker 1 (46:53):
Yes, And Keita, I wanted I want to share a
little story in regards to that, because a couple of
years ago someone told me, oh, I can't relate to
your story. I've never experienced anxiety depression. I never experienced
any of that before. And they're like in their fifties
and stuff, and I was I looked at them like
you're lying, Like you are lying if you mean to

(47:15):
tell me you never experienced some I mean, and I
understand there's clinical depression, correct, right, like you know, clinical depression,
but also there's times where I'm sure you might have
experienced some type of depression or low you.

Speaker 2 (47:27):
Know, or mood swings or anxiety something you can't tell me.
You were just perfect. So my reaction was really okay,
and I just kind of walked away.

Speaker 3 (47:34):
But yeah, listen, if I tell people, if you are
living and breathing, you have experienced a sad day, you
have experienced the feeling of hopelessness, you have experienced, you know,
being fearful of something and making a different level. Right,
there's clinical and there's different. There's people who come to
me and maybe we just need to connect for a month, right,

(47:56):
They're just going through a hard life transition and needs
somebody to walk alongside of them. And then again, oh
and on's not better or easier or harder, but living
and breathing, Yeah, yeah, you are into mental health. I
even tell this story of my kids. So there's Austin

(48:18):
and Carson and came to me the other day and
he was like, Mom, I think Austin's depressed, And I'm like,
what going on, buddy. He's like, he's just going in
his room, closing the door, and he doesn't come out,
and I said, well, maybe we can have a conversation
with him, and so Austin and mind you, Austin's thirteen now,
and okay, and so I said, okay, you can talk

(48:40):
to your brother, tell them you know your concerns. And Austin,
I'm worried about you. I think you're depressed. And Austin's like, broh,
I'm just a teenager, Like this is what they probably
we foretelling the story, but he's like, that's what we do.
We go in our rooms and close the door. It's
been but it really touched my heart. Recognize that is

(49:04):
so sweet signs like what depression could look like, even
for a thirteen year old. Yes, I remember growing up
hearing you don't have any problems. You're you're a kid,
you have nothing to worry about, you don't have any bills,
no responsibilities. And he was like, no, that's not how
it works.

Speaker 1 (49:23):
Wow, that is so sweet that he was able to
I love that that he was able to recognize that, Keita,
because we didn't have that growing up, you know. I mean,
so just like see having those conversations with your children
and just you know, in general, and for children.

Speaker 2 (49:38):
To say I think something is a right, you know,
and even though he said, I'm just.

Speaker 1 (49:42):
A teenager, but for him, like you said, to recognize
those signs like oh maybe my brother needs you know
a little a little support, and I just I love that.

Speaker 2 (49:50):
That is beautiful.

Speaker 3 (49:51):
Oh my god, at all ages, right, yeah, living free
than human beings we have in dealth, doesn't matter what
what age. Tho important to know the signs too, to
look out for your people as well.

Speaker 1 (50:03):
Yes, yes, do you want to go over briefly, like
what are some common signs of someone who is suffering
with you know, depression, our anxiety? You know, because like
we've been talking about there, you know yourself was able
to recognize.

Speaker 2 (50:17):
It, but sometimes people are not able to recognize.

Speaker 1 (50:20):
So I think it's it's vital for us to talk
about those those common signs that someone might could miss.

Speaker 3 (50:26):
So yeah, yeah, what comes to mind when when people
talk about that is like the strong person syndrome, right,
Like you're always says say, check on your strong friends, right,
because those are the people who have learned to mask
so well. And what I tell people to is really
listen to people, not just this how are you doing? Oh,

(50:48):
I'm good, I'm good too, okay, right, Like, really ask
some questions of like, yes, how are you doing? But
what was I'll use this for an example too with
my kiddos checking in at the end of the day.
I don't just say like, how a school because you're
gonna get oh, what's fine?

Speaker 1 (51:03):
Well?

Speaker 3 (51:03):
What did you enjoy about school? Right? Who did you
stay with that lunch?

Speaker 2 (51:07):
Right?

Speaker 3 (51:08):
Like, ask some meaningful questions, some deeper, meaningful questions to people,
not as a way to be nosy or all over
in their business, but really just checking in on people
because there's a lot of us, and I include myself
because I suffered in silence with depressions for long time,
who feel like we have to put on this mask
because we're going to be judged because we haven't been

(51:29):
taught that it's okay to not be okay, right, and
that the shame and guilt that comes along with it. Right,
So really ask those meaningful questions to your strong friends
and strong family members. Also be in tune with changes,
right they notice okay also used to come home, used
to hear us going in closing the door. I would say,

(51:52):
especially with your teenagers, and I know a lot a
lot of changes happened during this time, but be and
to know who their friends are. No, again, teenagers are
probably gonna brush you off, but is there an argument
that's causing them to feel some type way about themselves
self esteem? Is your child eating less? Is there eating disorder?

(52:13):
Maybe that is causing you know, some changes within your family.
So I would say pay pocision, also give yourself some
grace because again, there are some people who are just
really really good at masking and no matter no matter
how much you check in, you just wouldn't know. You
just wouldn't know. Stay consistent. I would just say, they
confessed with with your people and connecting with them.

Speaker 1 (52:36):
Yeah, so checking in on those on checking in on
your loved ones, like you said, those those people who
are strong, who oh I got it together, you know,
or who you know who you're thinking, oh, they're they're good,
they don't need help. Those are the ones typically because
everybody's thinking that that needs that that support. And so
that leads me, you know to the next question too,
is you know, as a therapist, you're seeing so many

(52:59):
individuals per day and I always think this, you know,
I always you know, the counselors that I've seen throughout
the years, I would sit down and I talk to
them and I would ask them to I'd be like,
how do you do this? Like how do you talk
to your client client after client of a client and
then just listening to trauma, you know, like how do
you do how do you take care of yourself? How
does the therapist take care of yourself? And what keeps

(53:23):
you grounded and you know, maintaining your mental health?

Speaker 3 (53:26):
So love here first and foremost. This therapist has a therapist, right,
So love it men therapy, and it's okay for your
therapist to have a therapist because it is. It is
a really taxing and emotionally hard job, right, It really
is to carry a lot for people while life is

(53:48):
still liking for me, right, So therapy for me for
sure is very helpful. Also engaging in new things, like
I said, hiking, enjoying nature, getting outing with my girls,
and the laughter, the.

Speaker 1 (54:10):
Will.

Speaker 3 (54:10):
I will be honest, when I first got into this field,
it was really hard to leave work at work, and
some days, some days it still is hard to leave
work at work because yeah, it's just the nature of
the job. It's hard, but I realized that was an
even more reason why I had to pour into myself right,

(54:31):
the more right I had to be intentional about caring
for myself and self care. I know people like self care,
self care. I wish it was a trip to Hawaii
or out on the beach somewhere, but sometimes it is
waking up twenty minutes before the house wakes up, having
my quiet time, doing my devotional of course, prayer and
connecting with God, right spirituality, all things that really just

(54:56):
keeps me balanced and keep me keeps me level in
this work. But yes, yeah, being very intentional with with
self care.

Speaker 1 (55:06):
Yes, putting yourself on the calendar, putting it in pen
not in pencil.

Speaker 2 (55:11):
Can't you raise yourself? Yeah, put it in pin put
in permanent marker. So love it. Yes, you got to
take care of yourself. Love it, Love it well.

Speaker 1 (55:21):
Arkita, We're gonna close out, but a few more questions
for you. You know, like I said, we could talk
about this all day, but we don't have that time.
But I would love for you to talk about, you know,
your renew counseling and coaching and talk about that because
I know you practice here in Washington State. But like

(55:42):
what type of clients are you willing to accept and
you know, yeah, your work and how others.

Speaker 2 (55:48):
Can you know reach you if they want to reach.

Speaker 3 (55:51):
Out to you. Yeah, So currently I'm only taking clients virtually,
so I do see clients virtually. I see ages twelve
and older. I do sometimes have younger kittles that come,
but I let parents know if they're able to connect virtually,

(56:12):
then I will see them. But I normally start at
twelve and older. And so yeah, I believe my information
will be available but new coaching and renew counseling and
coaching services. So I have my website that has the
contact information. Again, work with trauma, but also specialize in depression, anxiety,

(56:33):
life transition, and again, so many things go under that
umbrella of trauma work. So yeah, I also do a
lot of community work that it pertains to youth here
in Washington State. So working with a few different organizations
making sure that our youth are getting the care that
they need for love it, well, yeah, love it and

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Larkita is your information, So your website are you also
available social media to yes, give us that information as well.
So fit on Facebook and on Instagram is just renewed
counseling and coaching. And then I'm also on psychology today.
And then there is a website called Therapy for Black

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Girls based out of Atlanta, but it's nationwide and so
my information is on there as well. And then there's
another platform called Christian Counselors. You can find my information
on there. And then the last one I'll shout out
is Open Path with which is an organization that helps
individuals be able to afford counseling. So even if it's

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not yourself, you can get connected with the therapist that
offer sessions starting at forty dollars. The resource for individuals
who are finding it hard to pay out of pocket
or you know, situations with their insurance. You can find
me out.

Speaker 1 (58:01):
Platforms awesome and you're making it available for everybody.

Speaker 2 (58:04):
Love that, love it awesome. Okay, Markita, So is there
what's next for you?

Speaker 1 (58:11):
Do you have any engagement, any speaking engagements, anything, and
that's coming up for you?

Speaker 3 (58:17):
Yeah. So currently working again here in the state of Washington.
I'm working with a group of young people who last
year we were awarded a grant and they created this
mental health project called care Code, and so we are
selling merch with a QR code that people can scan
and it takes you directly to a page where they
created resources for young people. And so this year we

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are doing it again, but we are doing like youth
and family mental health workshops and a summit for people
to be able to get information for their youth in
for their families as a whole, you know, going back
to school, so that later later on in the fall.
So yeah, the follows, Okay, the fall of this. You're

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twenty twenty five, perfect awesome, and that's local here in.

Speaker 1 (59:06):
Seattle, Okay, Seattle, perfect awesome, beautiful, awesome, awesome.

Speaker 2 (59:12):
Well, any shout out, any shout outs you want to give, I.

Speaker 3 (59:17):
Want to give a shout out to you, roach O,
thank you, Peta. Yeah, I'm just I mean, you open
up telling me how proud you are of me. But
I am extremely of you and so honored to be
able to walk alongside of you, to see you grow,
to see you just blossom into all of what you're

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doing through your music, your podcast, mental health and wellness.
You're needed, you are needed, and so yeah, my shout
out those girl, Thank you, girl, shout out to.

Speaker 1 (59:48):
You for all for all the work that you're doing
as well. I appreciate it, but I appreciate you and
audience we need to have. We're gonna have our Kia
back on probably next season because she is a warrior
queen and she definitely has a story to tell, so
we're gonna we're definitely gonna have her back on.

Speaker 2 (01:00:06):
Today.

Speaker 1 (01:00:06):
We just had her come on to the therapist and
give us some good nuggets today, some gold nuggets that
we can use. And I'm just I'm super proud of you, Keeta,
and just keep on doing what you're doing. And girl,
we stay connected and I know we'll be working together,
you know. Yeah, So I appreciate you and I just
love all the things that you're doing.

Speaker 2 (01:00:25):
So we have like three minutes left, so I want
to play this little quick little game.

Speaker 1 (01:00:30):
I know we ran we ran over today, but today
was an episode episode that was needed for the community
to hear just all of the amazing advice that you
gave us today.

Speaker 2 (01:00:40):
So yes, very very needed.

Speaker 1 (01:00:42):
But we're gonna play. We're gonna transition, you know, just
breathe and breathe out, okay, but just to get to
know just a little bit more about you, and this
is would you rather or this or that. It's called
either one. So I'll give you two choices and and
you'll tell me your choice and why. So when I

(01:01:04):
was doing this, kid, I'm like, should I write for
my girl?

Speaker 4 (01:01:06):
Like?

Speaker 3 (01:01:06):
What should I?

Speaker 1 (01:01:08):
I was like, I don't know, you know, because some
of the answers, I was like, oh, I think I
know you know. But okay, So this one is would
you rather? Would you rather watch Netflix or YouTube?

Speaker 2 (01:01:22):
Yep?

Speaker 3 (01:01:22):
Okay, I'm a YouTube patra. Yeah, I love I'm into
vlogs right now, trying to get into fitness, getting back
to the gym. So I'm learning through the University of YouTube,
is what.

Speaker 2 (01:01:33):
I call it? Yes, love it? Love it? Yes, Because
you do have a uh fitness and health Instagram.

Speaker 3 (01:01:42):
I saw that.

Speaker 2 (01:01:43):
Yes, yes, love it, love it? Okay, all right, this one,
would you rather? Which one do you prefer? Journaling or reading?

Speaker 3 (01:01:53):
I would say journaling. Okay, I would say journaling. Yeah.
I feel like I'm trying to get better at reading,
but my mind tends to wonder. So I feel like
with journaling, it's okay for my mind to wonder, right,
so I can write us all wondering things down. So yeah, journaling,
love it journaling?

Speaker 2 (01:02:10):
Love it? Okay. The next one, which what what are you?

Speaker 3 (01:02:15):
So?

Speaker 2 (01:02:15):
Would you prefer quality time or words of affirmation?

Speaker 3 (01:02:21):
Oh mm.

Speaker 2 (01:02:26):
Okay both.

Speaker 3 (01:02:29):
I would say words of affirmation. Okay, I think I
think that kind of sticks to my heart a little
bit more right, the words of affirmation yea, yeah, okay,
words of.

Speaker 1 (01:02:39):
Affirmation okay, kind of some love language there. So all right,
I think I know the answer to this one, but
we'll see. So would you rather host dinner? So if
people come over or be a guest at dinner? I
think if they'll be.

Speaker 3 (01:02:56):
I'm gonna show up for dinner.

Speaker 2 (01:02:59):
Oh I know the answer to this. Yep, yeah, okay,
be against That's what I thought. Okay, yeah, be a
guest at dinner? Okay, love it.

Speaker 1 (01:03:13):
Well, Larkita, I did a good job calling you Larkita.
I think I called you Larkida a couple of times.
But yes, So I just want to say thank you
for coming on the show today.

Speaker 2 (01:03:24):
Girl.

Speaker 1 (01:03:24):
We're gonna have you on again, you know, as like
I said, sharing your story, but also even just more
information because like we said, it's needed and we need
to spread more awareness.

Speaker 2 (01:03:35):
So yes, but thank you for all the work that
you're doing, my friend.

Speaker 1 (01:03:38):
I appreciate you. Love you, love you, thank you, and
thanks for coming on. So and we will we will
chat and we'll have you.

Speaker 3 (01:03:47):
We'll figure out a time for you to come back.
So good, Thank you so.

Speaker 2 (01:03:50):
Much, thank you.

Speaker 1 (01:03:52):
All right, friends, well, I'm so glad that you made
it to the end. If you have, thank you, I
appreciate it. And I hope that you found this ep
so educational, insightful, encouraging and inspiring. If you know someone
who would benefit from this information, please share it with them.
Please get the word out. That is what Larkita's job is,

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is just to let others know that there is hope
and healian. That is what I'm doing as well, So
please spread this awareness and this message. So I want
to give a thank you to the producer of the show,
and that's doctor Teresa Jordan. I appreciate you as special
thank you to Larkita Demps. Go check her out, all
of her information, go follow her, hit her up if

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you would like to get some support. She is available
for speaking as well and also for, like she said,
her free consultation, So please hit her up. And I
also want to encourage you if you're looking for any
mental health merch.

Speaker 2 (01:04:49):
She also has merch. I also have merch on my website.

Speaker 1 (01:04:54):
I have a Warrior Stronger collection and I also have
I Am Free collection Go am I website, and that's
Roshan Nicole merch.

Speaker 2 (01:05:03):
I also have mental health music.

Speaker 1 (01:05:04):
If you need some inspiration to just cheer you up
or to brighten your day or some encouragement my story,
I share it through my music as well, so you
can find that on all streaming platforms or wherever you
get your music. Also, you can go to my YouTube
channel at Roshan Nicole as well and check that out.
So I just want to give you some love to
need you some love and some encouragement on today. I

(01:05:26):
appreciate you for listening or for watching, stay tuned, come
back next week, and I just want to encourage you
on today to stay lit, keep shining, and keep igniting freedom.

Speaker 2 (01:05:37):
We'll see you next week.

Speaker 4 (01:05:41):
Yes, thank you for tuning in too. From Weeping to
Warriors Igniting Freedom with Roshan Nicole. To be a guest
on the show, please contact us at info at Roshan Nicole.

Speaker 3 (01:05:59):
Well.

Speaker 4 (01:06:00):
We would love to connect with you, so please take
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Speaker 2 (01:06:15):
Shame Chang