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Speaker 1 (00:00):
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Speaker 2 (00:33):
Hey, and welcome to another episode of Wellness and Censored.
My name is Patty g. I'm a psychedtic nurse practitioner,
and I am here today live to talk to you
about just a bunch of different things as we go
into the fall season. September is National Suicide Prevention Month,
and I think timely with all of the events that
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have happened and sharing a little bit more from our
story last week where I and Nick Rosatta was here
and we were talking about some of the transcultural gender
dysphoria type things. Just wanted to take some time today
to find some ways to help folks realize how to
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get help, where to get help, questions that parents might
want to ask themselves or work to define with their children.
And it's just fascinating because so much is happening right
under our nose, and I think in some ways we're
losing the essence of what's our responsibility as parents, and
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many of us take our responsibilities very seriously, and some
of us want to take our responsibilities very seriously. But
the bad news is society and mainstream media tends to
put what our priorities are sometimes as incorrect not doing
the right thing. And it just feels like the roles
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have shift it where society tells us what we should do,
can do, and might do with our children. And I
have to go back to a grassroots effort of thinking
in that, you know, where are the morals, where is
the evidence that speaks to building a good human being
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and a foundation because we raise our kids up to
grow up and be adults, and you know, interestingly enough,
I don't know if you've all heard the news today,
but a step in the right direction being in Florida,
I'm actually excited that the physician as the Attorney General
at the State of Florida, has issued it is the
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parent's choice to decide what and if and how they
choose to vaccinate their kids. And I think it should
be a choice. If you choose to totally okay. If you
choose not to, that should be okay, and it shouldn't
be demoralizing or held into question. For any reason. And
as I look in see some of the radical changes
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that have happened in the country and the world for
the last three, four or five years, we have drifted
and shifted to such a place of tolerance. We talked
about this last week, and when I think about, you know,
suicide is number two in the charts, you know, for
unnecessary type deaths, for death without cause or reason, and
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the rates keep climbing. And when you look at suicide
as a whole, and again because September is a month
that we really try to raise awareness, there is so
much external outside social influence. How can anyone imagine what
it must be like to be a child growing up
in the world today, and what it must be like
as a parent of younger children to make decisions without
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feeling either peer pressure or societal pressure or foundational industrial
whatever it is, school work, governmental pressure. And so I
applaud Larida for allowing that choice to go back to
the parents. And it always kind of is refreshing to
me because I've always said, if you're going to allow
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my body my choice, then we should allow my body
my choice. For parents to make an informed decision. And
if you've been tuning in long enough. You also know,
we really didn't have an informed choice when some of
the more recent vaccines or shots were you know, allocated
and mandated. And I think that stands to question now
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if it was so good, look at all that we've
learned in the last two years, So why not let's
start looking back and questioning things to say, you know what,
maybe we we had a little too much restriction and
a little too much you know, of what we have
to do versus what should we do? You know, and
respective to different religions, you know, if you believe in
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your religion that your body is a temple, if you
believe spiritually that you're going raise children up in a
family foundation, then those beliefs should have some moral strength
and the ability to make informed choices. I just don't
think we always have to go along with the masses
and right. There's always two or more ways to argue something.
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But I wanted to just talk a little bit about
because last week we were focusing on, you know, what
is going on with our children and the trans cultural
the transgender influence, and I wanted to share some resources
that I recently have come across because I just don't
think we're asking enough questions. I mentioned I had child
that's now come to see me for a therapy and
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the parents are looking for answers and help, and so
in doing so, I found that there's a lot of
information out there, and you guys really need to kind
of go google some things. There is so much out
there that kids can put their eyes on that allows
them to explore what they think might be their gender.
And parents are busy, they're working, we're doing a lot
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of things, and now this is at our children's fingertips. However,
there is some good information to speak about how some
of this gender ideoology and gender I can't even give
you a good word for it other than misinformation, misguidance,
or just you know, it's misguided thinking. Is also out
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there to help parents make an informed a choice and
also how to help children to realize that, you know,
let's investigate why we feel the way we do. Last
week I mentioned the one child that I had. She
was eleven years old and through the root of what
the problem is was through sexual misconduct of the father,
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and you know, just a lot of trauma that she
went through. Recently, I just had a twenty one year
old come to see me and present it and looked
like a male. And when I met the person and
wanted to know what was going on with this individual,
introduced myself talked with him, and he was very socially isolated,
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very low mood, very stressed, very unable to have future goals,
future plans, really not even able to work, working a
few hours a week now, but didn't even want to
be in the workplace. And so when you take symptoms
and you want to try to figure solutions, you have
to figure what may have caused some of these symptoms.
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And so talking with this twenty one year old individual,
we go through some basic stuff and I think it's
helpful for you all to understand. You know, somebody presents
with anxiety or depression, sadness, low mood, low motivation, not
able to sleep or sleeping too much, no appetite, and
this is kind of what I found. You know, the
person had shared that they said they had no medical
issues and they said, you know, no allergies, that they're
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not eating. They once a day around two o'clock and
it's usually fast food.
Speaker 3 (08:00):
They go to bed.
Speaker 2 (08:01):
Around nine ten o'clock and they get up and if
they go to work, that day. They go to work
at ten, so by two o'clock, when they're physically active,
they may get something to eat or not the only
time they eat. When I talked about hydration, which is
stuff you guys hear me talk about all the time,
they may have about two bottles worth of water all
day long. That's twenty four hours. And just from the
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basic stuff, they're not getting enough nutrients and they're certainly
not hydrating their body, which is seventy percent water. So
just think about that for a minute. What does that
do to one's mental state? Right? Anxious fatigue, low mood,
low motivation, because your body's fighting to move. It's just
like you're trying to drive a car with like two
gallons of gas left and you've got it, you have
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to go one hundred miles. So then we talked about sleep,
and they're very fatigued. So they have no trouble falling
off of sleep at night. They have trouble waking up
in the morning. And we're not talking anything else here yet, right,
we talk about family dynamics. Someone who moved around frequently,
he was somebody in the military, disciplinarian, father, physically verbally abusive,
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not sexually abusive, a very unemotionally attached mom didn't really
demonstrate any kind of love language. Okay, so now we
have you know, those needs not met from a child
growing up. And then we get into some more of
the detail. Well, what are your hobbies? So I really
don't have any hobbies. What are your future career goals? Well,
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I really don't have any Did you graduate high school?
Speaker 3 (09:29):
Yes?
Speaker 2 (09:29):
Did you have plans for trade or college? What things
do you enjoy doing?
Speaker 3 (09:34):
Nothing?
Speaker 2 (09:35):
So we have a completely black hole of emotions and thoughts. Well,
one of the things that I also asked, but I
wanted to kind of bring it closer to the end.
I had gone in through the medical history, and then
I surgical history, and generally I asked people, is people
often forget but like consoles, wisdom teeth. This is a
twenty one year old now born out of the country
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as father was father mom were living out of the
country at the time. Moved back into the US around
age fifteen and actually got stationed in a local i'll
just say Hawaii, because they traveled to California, and then
from California they came to Florida. So they've been in
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the US for maybe five, six, seven years. And interestingly enough,
when I talked about surgeries, I said, you have anything
you know tonsil's wisdom teeth. They had a double mastectomy,
and hence why because when I was looking on the
medication information, they were receiving testosterone injections every week. So
the person presented in front of me looked like a
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full on mail beard, mustache, quiet, demure. I had to
pull all the information out of to try to get
why are you here? It was almost as if they
were so low functioning, something was not right in their head,
and I'm trying to get to the root of how
I could help them. And so if you take away
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what I knew about, Okay, we've got testosterom, we have
a double massed ectomy, sounds like we've got a gender
transition here.
Speaker 3 (11:05):
They really weren't very.
Speaker 2 (11:06):
Open about talking about it, even in a psychiatry office.
So again, maybe the shame, the guilt, or the lack
of interest to think that maybe what I've done to
my body is making me feel this way. So here's
where it becomes really interesting. I asked when the mass
dectomy was, and it was when they were sixteen, and
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they were in the United States, and again still wondering
because my next question usually is, well, have you ever
had any hospitalizations where you stay overnight? And they said no,
And a double mass dectomy is a pretty big procedure,
and generally still people do say at least overnight. I said, well,
what about your double mass tectomy? I said, you didn't
stay overnight? And this is what happened some almost five
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years ago, I guess now they had the procedure in
California and they were taken to a hotel to recover
in the United States. And yeah, the question about what
year did all of this gender issues? I think we've
been slowly marinated into it, probably over the last eight
to ten years. And again insidious enough because you know,
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we started with all the pride and a pride and
the LGBTQ and all those things. So it's been a
slow marination of assimilation of my new favorite buzzword, tolerance.
And these are the types of things that you know,
sexual preference and identity. You know, maybe maybe that's where
I grew up, was what you choose to do outside
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of work and outside of interactions with people socially, is
your private life, your private business. But we've brought it
out as it's okay for everybody to be exposed and
to hey, I'm proud of what I do.
Speaker 3 (12:40):
That's fine and well.
Speaker 2 (12:41):
But when you're proud of what you do and then
you bring it into the schools and you bring it
into our children, and then you share all these things,
it really lends to question, how are we not forming
a lot of questions in our children that maybe shouldn't
even be there, that they shouldn't even be exposed to. Like,
if it's not okay, and we know it's not a
child minor that is sexually abused or sexually exploited by
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an adult, why is it okay to bring in things
that let an adult decide what an adult wants to do.
But when you're talking about someone who's seven, eight, nine, ten, eleven, twelve, sixteen,
seventeen years old, why are we neutralizing this? So again
it leads to the question. And so a lot of
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what we are finding is those that have chosen to
change their gender are experiencing a lot of physical and
emotional symptoms that are making them uncomfortable. And I'm glad
this individual came in for help. That's that's not the issue.
But now how do I best manage them to treat
the individual when I know what some of the triggers are.
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You give a female a bunch of testosterone, there's going
to be things that develop besides a mustache and a beard,
but issues of anger rage. You know, females are not
normally supposed to be at that level of testosterone. Then
you look at what does that do now that people
don't accept the individual? Now there's from what this individual described.
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You know, I just don't feel like I fit in.
So where does the I don't feel like I fit
in start? Does that develop a little mood? Does that
develop underlying anger? And you know, I'd be remiss if
I didn't remind you all about what we've seen in
recent years of some of these folks that have gone
out and hurt the children, and the violence and the killings.
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So we have allowed and we have tolerated people that
truly need to be seen to manage why they feel
the way they do. But this has gone on, I guess,
in many ways under our noses with the children for
at least five, six, seven, eight years. And that's a
concern I wanted to share. I've got this book that
I just recently was able to pick up and it's
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called a Practical Response to Gender Distress Tips and Tools
for Families. You can get it on on Amazon and
if you're driving and you can't pick it up. It's
by a Pamela Garfield Jagger. She's a licensed social worker
with a master's degree. But there's some really fascinating tips
and it's a super easy read. But this is helpful
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for parents perhaps to get a head start on possible
red flags or concerns, to help guide their children to
realize that you're going to have normal emotions as a child,
and you may be more of a tomboy, or you may,
you know, perhaps enjoy things that girls like to do,
and you know, you know, boys can do things that
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girls can do, and girls can do things the boys do,
but it doesn't make them any lesser different than how
they were born. But a lot of it talks about
many of these folks that have any kind of inclination
or reason to change a sex has a lot to
do with if you remember what I told you about
this individual, Mom was not nurturing. Dad was fairly militant
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in his style, a lot of travels, so the person
didn't really establish a lot of good social friendships and
the ones that were established early on. Because they moved
during the middle school and high school years back to
the United States, they had a lot of abandonment issues,
and so some of these mechanisms you'll find or abandonment issues,
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social anxiety. They may have had some type of sexual trauma.
This particular individual also said one of their first relationships,
intimately about a year before they made this gender transition
at the age of fifteen, had some type of sexual
trauma from someone that they were dating. They didn't elaborate.
Some of these folks also have eating disorders. They're generally
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depressed or anxious already, and some of them have OCD
type symptoms where they just kind of overthink and overthink
and maybe overquestion you know, am I a female? Do
I really want to be a female? Do I feel
more like a male? I mean, it's normal for hormonal
changes and fluctuations. And then when you put in the
ingredients of family dynamics that we'll just say are generally dysfunctional,
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but it goes on to give some really good detail
about sexual trauma, family crisis, and how kids learn how
to self protect. You know, there's been a lot of
focus over the last few years about you know, critical
race theory, and she states that children do not want
to be part of an oppressor group. Children want to
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feel protected. There's just so much in here that can
really be of benefit to help guide parents to be
sure that they're paying attention to their kids. It talks about,
you know, look at where we are today with cultural issues, pornography, sexualization.
You know, if you watch and look at the girl's clothing. Again,
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I'm not a prude, but we instill this and we
market this, you know, little teeny teen shops and the
clothes and the promiscuity. Prom gowns used to be gowns.
Now they're prom mini skirts, and you know, it's all
fine and well. But when we expose kids to sexuality,
and we expose kids to things that are consenting or
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an adult makes a conscious choice of kids try to
learn how to make sense of it. She also speaks
about peer groups. Kids really do influence each other and
look at how many gender what's the word with the uh,
the influencers, you know, the young influencers. If they say
it's so, then kids think I must be weird. If
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so and so says it's so there's too much exposure
on there with TikTok and all the things people latch
onto into TikTok, and so I highly recommend this if
you're struggling with a child that you're trying to decide
how do I help them because they're starting to talk
about gender identity, gender identity or things like that, or
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you know, I want to have a jump start. My
child's only fourn It's all new, like I would have
never dreamed I would have needed to read this book
when my kids were younger, But now I'm looking at
it going, Holy cow. You know, I don't know that
a parent can get by without it because this she
talks about and it's a Pamela Garfield Jagger. It's the
practical response to gender distress, Tips and tools for families.
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There's so much our kids are exposed to write under
our nose and had it not been you know, I
know when my my boys, you know, they're now on
their late twenties, but they told me towards I guess
at the end of high school, beginning of college, some
of the things that they started to get exposed to
in middle school. And this was a few years back.
And I'm going I would have never dreamed to even
ask that question. So it happens, and we just don't
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realize why because we're working harder, now, busier now, right
we think things are okay, but there is so much
social influence on these phones that you just really don't know.
So that was one of the things I wanted to share.
And you know, shifting over or why is this so
important now? Like this individual treating this individual, he's not
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open to discussing that perhaps maybe some of his choices.
Is he having regret? Is he not having regrets? But
he doesn't understand why he feels so bad. So we
just scratch the surface with his first.
Speaker 3 (20:17):
Visit this week.
Speaker 2 (20:19):
And it's really tough to manage because whatever I'm medicating,
if I use medication, I'm really trying to counteract the
effects of what he wanted. He created the tech testosterone level,
he created this masculinity level, and so medication is going
to be hard pressed to have to get a counterbalance
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to improve mood and behavior. You know, it makes it
really difficult. So a lot of therapy I highly recommend
that you know, medication is not the solution. Talk therapy,
A therapist that is grounded.
Speaker 3 (20:53):
In, you know, in something that you know.
Speaker 2 (20:55):
Again, if you're a parent, this other younger child that
I'm working with, the school therapyist affirmed and recognized that
the eleven year old was okay to be transgender. And
I just feel that that age is way too young
to make that kind of critical decision. So the parents
really want a guidance, so that book is helpful. There's
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also some really good things. If you go onto YouTube,
there's a whole lot on gender affirmation or transgender affirmation,
but this particular one I found Gabriel Clark. She has
a YouTube video on there that is from Stephanie Wynn,
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some kind of therapist, and if you google how to
Rescue your Child from Gender cult, Gabriel Clark on distance
coaching or desistance to assistance coaching to desist in the behavior.
She talks about gender dysphoria, and she also has a
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lot of discussion about critical race theory and how to
combat against what the school is trying to indoctrinate. So
if you are looking for resources, one of the resources
that she has on there is Affirming Reality Connected, and
you have to put in the call letters https. Colan
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backslash backslash affirm real con a connection. So and I
can put that up on the chat too, if anybody
wants to see it, it might come up a little bit better.
But there's a lot out there, and I want to
encourage you as parents to look for things, to find
resources so you can appropriately and in a well educated fashion,
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based on how you want to raise your children, have
the tools. Because when you want to fight a battle,
you can't go in there wishing to win.
Speaker 3 (22:53):
You need to go in with some facts.
Speaker 2 (22:55):
This particular podcast that they do, it's about an hour
and a half and it's got some really good information
on fighting and doctrination in the schools, identity and mixed
race families, social transition consequences, benefits of wonderment in nature,
identity and privileged realization, challenges of being the opposite sex,
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gender ideology. It's very good. I listened to it. Like
I said, I shared it with this family and they
found it very helpful. There's also ways to take care
of and treat children that have been exposed to trauma,
sexual trauma otherwise and allowing that trauma to address it
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and treat it versus burying it.
Speaker 3 (23:42):
If you bury it.
Speaker 2 (23:43):
You're going to have different types of protective mechanisms that
children will come up with to reidentify. And I really
believe that's where sometimes we come into this gender thinking that, well,
if I transition myself to a man, no man will
ever hurt me again. So some tips on that, and
if you need those resources, like I said, we'll try
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to get those posted up so you guys can see them.
It's just it's a powerful counterattack, and I think that's
something that we really have to start looking and educating
ourselves as parents what else is out there? Because your
kids are seeing a lot of things you might not
be aware of, and that leads into you know, suicide.
It's very sad and tragic, and you know, we run
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the month to try to raise awareness. I've shared this
number with folks a lot of times, but ninet eighty
is a national number. It's a safe number. No one's
going to come to your house, no one's going to
you know, call you up where people can get emergency counseling,
crisis counseling. It's a national number. And if you know
of someone, a friend, or anybody that you just feel
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is in stress, you don't have to figure out how
to help them yourself. But you can give them the
number and say, hey, you seem really down, I heard
about this number, or maybe it's a good place to
start to find somebody to talk to to get resources.
And that's where I would start. If you don't know
what to say, they will help. They know what to do.
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So the ninety eight eight number is really important. And
you know why I like to share that too, is
because you know, I think I mentioned to you all
several months ago I had a patient that was in
distress and was very accomplished and was in a relationship
of marriage, and there were a lot of issues going
on that they just couldn't handle. And while they kept
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a lot of things kind of you know, under the radar,
even reaching out for help, they refused certain help that
was available to them, and they took it on themselves
and they became overwhelmed. And it's truly tragic when you
try to help someone and you miss the mark, or
you miss a word, or you miss something, and even
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though it may not have been a complete miss, knowing
that someone took their life, we always second guests. We
always think I've done what should I have done? And
so I do want to lift up a patient that passed.
Speaker 3 (26:04):
His name is John.
Speaker 2 (26:06):
He was twenty five years old and just had the
emotions of all the things we go through in life.
Issues in the marriage issues and self worth issues and
self esteem issues with what's the future hold, conflicting issues
of one person in the relationship wanted children finding out
the other person didn't they were married five years, you
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know that emotional conflict, infidelity. We all have life events
and sometimes they just get piled on top of each other,
on top of each other, and it becomes so overwhelming.
In the moment, it may seem like a solution to
not desire to be here anymore. But then sometimes it's
too late. You can't pull back once you've initiated something.
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And so I guess just driving general sensitivity to folks,
always look at someone and try to see if you
notice subtle changes. Are they making statements that make it
sound like they're not going to be here? Are they
giving things away? Are they talking differently than they had
been before. Are they more positive? Are they more negative?
You know, there's really a lot of warning signs. There's
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not a lot of red flags, but there's things that
are maybe signals. And while we can't stop everyone, I
will always encourage you to consider to just try to
reach out to those that are around you, let them
know you love them, let them know you don't judge them.
And just like what we're talking about, you know, there's
no judgment for folks who make choices to change their gender.
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But there's help and you also will find and even
in the book and in the YouTube video of Gabrielle
is what do you do when you make a choice
and you want to turn back? And that's where there's
another struggle. It's completely opposite because now they've made all
these physical, psychological, and chemical changes, and to retransition back
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sometimes equally goes as bad and causes equal or worse
you know, challenges for an individual. So these choices really
need to be considered, not as a minor, and not
without the guidance of good people that can give you
good informed information. When I say good people and good information,
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it's got to come from parents, spiritual guidance, psychiatry, ones
that really understand these types of emotional thoughts. We really
don't want to breed tolerance just because you say you
don't like X, or just because you say well, I
don't think I want to do this anymore again. I
guess my question becomes, if someone said they wanted to
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take their life, would you just say, oh, well, if
you're that's sad, I guess that's good. And that's what
it appears to me to be. Like when a child says,
I just I want to be a boy. Kids are
going to have different feelings and emotions. Hormones play a
role in that influence with whom they're around. They're certainly
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social media and all the things that they're exposed to.
But if you wouldn't agree to someone taking your life,
which none of us should write, then stop and think
maybe you should guide them to someone who can give
them really good advice. And especially for parents of kids
and even kids, if you're listening out there, you know,
let your body grow, let your body mature, let your
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body develop. It may seem like a world away. I
can think back when I was like ten twelve, when
I couldn't wait till I was sixteen, and I got
to be sixteen and I'm like, all right, it's pretty cool.
Then I wanted to be eighteen and twenty one, and
there was really nothing, you know, riveting about becoming that
age other than you got to be able to do
more without having to ask permission. But I will tell
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you the beauty of being able to look back. It
goes so quickly. Even the brain. Anybody here know how
long it takes for the brain fully develop Think about it.
It certainly doesn't fall along with our you know, rules
and regulations, But it's been statistically studied the brain doesn't
fully developed to age twenty five. So even though we're eighteen,
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even though we're twenty one, the brain still is developing.
So when we do things to alter the brain or
the brain chemistry, and you know, the brain is what
controls the chemistry of all the biology and the body,
why would we rush it?
Speaker 3 (30:16):
Why would we alter it?
Speaker 2 (30:17):
Your body is beautiful and your body is uniquely yours.
And what I worry so much is that children are
so influenced. Is it really what they're believing and feeling
or is it that they're influenced, or is it they've
been hurt? And so as parents, our job is to
be the adult, not the friend. And I think again,
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taking us back to some of the social pictures we've
seen of recent tragic events, we see tolerance of parents
accepting and quite honestly, when I see some of these
kids in my office. I mentioned to you guys when
we were talking with Mick last week. I believe he
was nineteen years old, had sexual tendencies that preferred to
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be and play with younger children from the age of
eleven or twelve on up and now had developed into
thoughts and actual actions of watching and looking at you know,
pedophile type things. You know, miners. These are things that
need to be treated and corrected with medication and therapy.
And as we go into adulthood, if we tolerate and
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we look the other way or we say, oh that's
just Johnny or oh that's just Mary, are we not
facilitating or enabling a psychological illness. Maybe through some good
therapy medication we can help. And if it is a
brain issue, right, if you had an appendix that was rupturing,
if you had a gallbladder that needed to be removed,
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you get a broken leg that needed to be set,
you would seek medical treatment. And I think the other
part for you know what we all talk about for
Mental health months, Suicide prevent month, we have to break
the stigma of getting treated for mental health issues. I
think people may still be caught up on the idea
that mental health is it's looked down upon, and you're
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looked upon as weak. It's not a weakness, it's a
deficit or it's a disorganization in the brain. We've had
wonderful patients that have come into us that have been
diagnosed with schizophrenia, bipolar, mood disorders, all those types of things,
and know that we can bring good quality of life
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through therapy, different types of therapy, medication, diet change, nutritional change.
I talk often about TMS transcranial magnetic therapy. Listen, if
you can reset and optimize the brain, you can reset
and optimize a healthier brain, and it's been proven. You know,
people often ask me about that, and we've talked about
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it a few times, but really look into TMS. There's
a lot more information out there now. I believe there's
well over four hundred thousand published articles on it, and
I've not seen one person in it's been about two
and a half years now that I've been actually working
with the TMS therapy that it has not been life changing.
It's really been life changing. And so for those reasons,
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if you're going to optimize yourself. You can't just go
to the gym and fix your body. Sometimes you need
to go to the mental health gym and you can
fix your brain. But there's so much influence out there.
And I think that's the other part that I hear
a lot in younger folks. Sammy has a great question.
Do you feel parents are giving children way too much
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screen time, way too early? I have to tell you
unequivocally yes, just because we can. I have parents put
this phone in front of their kids sometimes when they
bring kids to a session with me, and I forget
the word that the one little girl used, but she
needed the phone to relax, and so her mom would
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just let her scroll on her phone while the mom
was talking to me. We have found far too many
vehicles to take attention away, to PLoP the kids in
front of a screen, to PLoP the kids in front
of electronics. How about we play a game of checkers?
How about does anybody humor me? Does anybody remember how
to play Jack's?
Speaker 3 (34:21):
Yes? How about a jump rope?
Speaker 2 (34:24):
There's games you can play with jump ropes. I know,
you know, some of you folks on there probably laugh.
You think this is really silly. But I'm here to
tell you we need to get back to basics. We
really do, and it starts with you. You are an
informed adult. You made good choices, maybe made some mistakes.
Speaker 3 (34:41):
We all do.
Speaker 2 (34:42):
But you need to be in charge of you, and
you need to be in charge of your children. And
you don't need to let the schools decide. You don't
need to let the government decide. You need to be
in charge of their health and well being, and sometimes
they do need some good mental guidance. I mentioned this
book before, I will share it again because I do
love things are not just because Patty thinks them up.
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Mel Robbins let them theory. Now, while she's not a
licensed therapist or psychologist or anything like that, she's just
a great speaker who's gotten some good influence and good
information from people that she's interviewed, and she really this
is a great primer for people that take life so
seriously and they just can't seem to get out of
the rut of what do they think?
Speaker 3 (35:23):
What do they think?
Speaker 1 (35:24):
Oh?
Speaker 2 (35:24):
I'm not sure? What should I do? It's let people
think what they want. You take care of you, focus
on you, focus on how to build your best self
and don't worry about what other people think I mean.
And we could probably talk for hours about you know,
what are your influences. You have family mares, you have
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family that just puts their opinions on you. You have friends
that are very outspoken and kind of question what you do,
and you want to keep your peer group. So many things,
so many and another great point, Oh my gosh, aam
I love it? These the kids these days don't know
how to talk with each other. They talk in text.
Honest to god, you know how many times I've had
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people say, well, what do you mean? People want to
put personality into a text. If I say I'm hungry,
or if I say I'm tired, or if I say
why did you do that? Somebody could read that text
and go, why did I do that?
Speaker 3 (36:19):
What is she yelling at me?
Speaker 2 (36:21):
There's no emotion in a text now if you put
an exclamation point in it or you put other words
around it. But we do spend a lot of time,
too much time sending messages now. While it's great because
it is a great connector like hey, are you going
to be home for dinner? It doesn't require somebody stepping
away from work or an important meeting to go yep,
see you at six. But you're absolutely right. We can't
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get people to have face to face interaction, and now
it's encouraged. One of the places that I share some
of my time as a provider. There's no real communication
in the office. There could be fifteen twenty people working
in the office and we only communicates. Do you know
how much gets missed and how many messages does one
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have to send to clarify and re clarify because people
don't understand what they're texting right. You can't get it
all in a sentence or two or three, and then
you end up writing a textbook.
Speaker 3 (37:17):
How many of you do this?
Speaker 2 (37:18):
You write a textbook of information? It's like, what did
I have to do that for if you picked up
the phone or went around the corner and said, hey,
this is what I need. But now everybody wants to
have everything in writing.
Speaker 3 (37:29):
But you're right.
Speaker 2 (37:29):
Texting, sit at the table, turn the TV off, put
the cell phones in another room. Talk with your kids
when you're in the car driving, have them put the
cell phones in their bag, have conversation while you're driving, laugh,
sing a song together. It's so important. You're right, Vincent
says children wouldn't know those games. It would be like
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introducing them to new things, but most would turn away
because it's not electronic. I know, isn't that sad. I
had a patient today, he's eighteen, and he said, I
asked him what he did over the holiday week and
he goes, oh, we went to go see the re
release of Jaws. About fell over because I thought maybe
it was like the newer version of the Jaws movie
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that came out. It was the original. And I was
laughing because I told him. I said, oh, my gosh,
I said, I think I was. I don't know if
I was seven or eight or nine years old when
Jaws came out and I had a big my dad
to go see it. And you know what this eighteen
year old told me. He goes, it was pretty violent
and yeah, I mean, I guess when you look back,
and a little kid, so it's very true.
Speaker 3 (38:33):
And my parents tried to protect me. But we are
repeating some things.
Speaker 2 (38:38):
We're not always repeating good things, and we just need
to stop. We've got to break this cycle of tolerance.
We need to get out there in front of our kids.
And you know what I would say, Vincent, get the jacks,
get the ball, start bouncing it and playing and collecting
the jacks and have the kids come up and go
what are you doing?
Speaker 3 (38:58):
You said, I'm playing jacks? Want to join me?
Speaker 2 (39:00):
I mean, we do have to re introduce some good things.
We're also not stimulating the brain. So think about that
when you wonder why kids aren't thinking, or why kids
are just following along. We're not really doing things to
stimulate the brain. How does one jump in the rope
to do double dutch? It's a hand eye mental coordination.
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I don't even know that kids even do that anymore.
And you know, again, new things are good too, But
at the end of the day, you know, what are
we allowing? What are we allowing to go on? So
you know, I ask you folks to take charts, take
charge of goodness and wholeness and everything that you value.
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If you have a preference in your belief and a faith,
I say, hold on to that, stand strong in it,
and don't settle, and don't let others dictate to you
what you want to instill in your children. And get
in and google around to see some of the things
that are actually under our noses. There was so much
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in there about tolerance and transgender that if kids are
reading this, they're thinking it's the new greatest thing to do, and.
Speaker 3 (40:11):
Hey, how cool.
Speaker 2 (40:13):
I could be bigger and stronger if I did this,
this and this. Get onto YouTube look up for oh gosh,
Gabrielle Clark. She teaches on dessistance coaching and it's the
how to Rescue your child from gender cult And if
you can't find her, Stephanie Wynn Stephanie Wynn w I
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n N. She's got a lot of information on some
of this stuff. The work that she does, she actually
had brought Gabrielle in, So take a look at those things.
I want to remind you guys, that is my QRS
code if you have questions. A lot of folks have
called in and send in some questions. The QRS code
will get you to my books I've got they call
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me Harriet, which is just a big uncovering of what
went on during the pandemic. Probably want to take a
look at because more of what you probably didn't know.
And I tell it all. I tell my story of recovery.
I tell about patients that pass that I tried my
best to give good quality of life their last day
or hour, and I talk about all the resources that
are out there that are exploding now. If you really
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want to get good help, natural healing, holistic healing, if
you need help with ivermectin, hydroxychloroquin, there's states now that
you can get ivermectin without a prescription. And my other
book is on frozen shoulder, which is a very detailed
look when you have trauma in your life, you can
develop a frozen shoulder. You can get it with hormonal imbalance,
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you can get it from having had surgery, you can
get it with autoimmune issues. But since I specialize in
trauma and I've had three, I'm definitely a guru when
it comes to how to heal a frozen shoulder. So
all that and more, you know, again I find here
has been helpful to you. We try to talk about
things that are relevant today you won't find on mainstream media.
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I work typically privately in Florida, and you know, offer
different types of modalities to folks very well versed with
children and adults and with depression OCD, anxiety PTSD especially.
We've got a national group if you want to look
up the Betrayal Project USA dot org. That's Betrayal Project
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USA dot org.
Speaker 3 (42:25):
It is a.
Speaker 2 (42:26):
Wonderful national and actually probably international size group that has
grown into existence from all of the things through the pandemic,
losing loved ones, victims who have survived from desevere and
also people who have any kind of injuries post vaccine
injury or lost a loved one through a vaccine injury.
But I just want you guys to know that there's
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other information out there. And since I'm not anyone big
enough to be on one of the major news networks
or the places that only give you fake news, you'll
get the truth from me. I try to bring on
revocative guests that also are out there work in the
streets like the rest of us, to try to let
people know and uh, you know, oh yeah, and I.
Speaker 3 (43:08):
Love that, Matt.
Speaker 2 (43:09):
I appreciate you being on. It's so true. It is
tell a vision. So whatever you see on TV, they're
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web page. We posted those up there for you too.
But more more good stuff to come. And I hope
you guys have a wonderful week, and I hope you
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all had a wonderful Labor Day. As we go into fall,
we're going to be talking more about wellness and health,
good nutrition, ways to lift from anxiety and depression. As
we go into the darker days, the darker months, the
fall tends to be a time when people start to.
Speaker 3 (44:07):
Get lower mood.
Speaker 2 (44:08):
Could be related to seasonal affect of disorder, or it
could just be low vitamin D.
Speaker 3 (44:14):
But yeah, I agree, Sally.
Speaker 2 (44:17):
If you start with the kids with some of the
old games when they're young, they'll probably more likely to
take to doin them. Children are the future, and we
have the ability to bring such good history and good
I guess before AI, our brains still work. I've had
a couple folks tell me that when AI is wrong,
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if you don't carefully read it, when you tell AI
it's wrong, it will agree with you. And it was
because everybody's using AI now for different college papers.
Speaker 3 (44:46):
And somebody just told me that this morning.
Speaker 2 (44:48):
I said, that's pretty scary that we think it's all accurate,
but it's not. So stay tuned for more good stuff
in the coming weeks, and again, just remember, lift each
other up. Remember is National Suicide Prevention Month. Be a source,
Be a light to people, Be a light to our children.
Let children know it's okay to not always agree with
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their friends, with their peers, to stay strong, educate them,
talk with them. I think we're going to lose the
gift of conversation, so talk with them and make sure
you tune in every Thursday three pm Eastern. I appreciate
you guys so much. We'll talk to you next Thursday,
and have a wonderful weekend.
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Speaker 2 (00:33):
Hey, and welcome to another episode of Wellness and Censored.
My name is Patty g. I'm a psychedtic nurse practitioner,
and I am here today live to talk to you
about just a bunch of different things as we go
into the fall season. September is National Suicide Prevention Month,
and I think timely with all of the events that
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have happened and sharing a little bit more from our
story last week where I and Nick Rosatta was here
and we were talking about some of the transcultural gender
dysphoria type things. Just wanted to take some time today
to find some ways to help folks realize how to
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get help, where to get help, questions that parents might
want to ask themselves or work to define with their children.
And it's just fascinating because so much is happening right
under our nose, and I think in some ways we're
losing the essence of what's our responsibility as parents, and
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many of us take our responsibilities very seriously, and some
of us want to take our responsibilities very seriously. But
the bad news is society and mainstream media tends to
put what our priorities are sometimes as incorrect not doing
the right thing. And it just feels like the roles
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have shift it where society tells us what we should do,
can do, and might do with our children. And I
have to go back to a grassroots effort of thinking
in that, you know, where are the morals, where is
the evidence that speaks to building a good human being
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and a foundation because we raise our kids up to
grow up and be adults, and you know, interestingly enough,
I don't know if you've all heard the news today,
but a step in the right direction being in Florida,
I'm actually excited that the physician as the Attorney General
at the State of Florida, has issued it is the
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parent's choice to decide what and if and how they
choose to vaccinate their kids. And I think it should
be a choice. If you choose to totally okay. If you
choose not to, that should be okay, and it shouldn't
be demoralizing or held into question. For any reason. And
as I look in see some of the radical changes
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that have happened in the country and the world for
the last three, four or five years, we have drifted
and shifted to such a place of tolerance. We talked
about this last week, and when I think about, you know,
suicide is number two in the charts, you know, for
unnecessary type deaths, for death without cause or reason, and
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the rates keep climbing. And when you look at suicide
as a whole, and again because September is a month
that we really try to raise awareness, there is so
much external outside social influence. How can anyone imagine what
it must be like to be a child growing up
in the world today, and what it must be like
as a parent of younger children to make decisions without
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feeling either peer pressure or societal pressure or foundational industrial
whatever it is, school work, governmental pressure. And so I
applaud Larida for allowing that choice to go back to
the parents. And it always kind of is refreshing to
me because I've always said, if you're going to allow
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my body my choice, then we should allow my body
my choice. For parents to make an informed decision. And
if you've been tuning in long enough. You also know,
we really didn't have an informed choice when some of
the more recent vaccines or shots were you know, allocated
and mandated. And I think that stands to question now
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if it was so good, look at all that we've
learned in the last two years, So why not let's
start looking back and questioning things to say, you know what,
maybe we we had a little too much restriction and
a little too much you know, of what we have
to do versus what should we do? You know, and
respective to different religions, you know, if you believe in
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your religion that your body is a temple, if you
believe spiritually that you're going raise children up in a
family foundation, then those beliefs should have some moral strength
and the ability to make informed choices. I just don't
think we always have to go along with the masses
and right. There's always two or more ways to argue something.
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But I wanted to just talk a little bit about
because last week we were focusing on, you know, what
is going on with our children and the trans cultural
the transgender influence, and I wanted to share some resources
that I recently have come across because I just don't
think we're asking enough questions. I mentioned I had child
that's now come to see me for a therapy and
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the parents are looking for answers and help, and so
in doing so, I found that there's a lot of
information out there, and you guys really need to kind
of go google some things. There is so much out
there that kids can put their eyes on that allows
them to explore what they think might be their gender.
And parents are busy, they're working, we're doing a lot
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of things, and now this is at our children's fingertips. However,
there is some good information to speak about how some
of this gender ideoology and gender I can't even give
you a good word for it other than misinformation, misguidance,
or just you know, it's misguided thinking. Is also out
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there to help parents make an informed a choice and
also how to help children to realize that, you know,
let's investigate why we feel the way we do. Last
week I mentioned the one child that I had. She
was eleven years old and through the root of what
the problem is was through sexual misconduct of the father,
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and you know, just a lot of trauma that she
went through. Recently, I just had a twenty one year
old come to see me and present it and looked
like a male. And when I met the person and
wanted to know what was going on with this individual,
introduced myself talked with him, and he was very socially isolated,
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very low mood, very stressed, very unable to have future goals,
future plans, really not even able to work, working a
few hours a week now, but didn't even want to
be in the workplace. And so when you take symptoms
and you want to try to figure solutions, you have
to figure what may have caused some of these symptoms.
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And so talking with this twenty one year old individual,
we go through some basic stuff and I think it's
helpful for you all to understand. You know, somebody presents
with anxiety or depression, sadness, low mood, low motivation, not
able to sleep or sleeping too much, no appetite, and
this is kind of what I found. You know, the
person had shared that they said they had no medical
issues and they said, you know, no allergies, that they're
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not eating. They once a day around two o'clock and
it's usually fast food.
Speaker 3 (08:00):
They go to bed.
Speaker 2 (08:01):
Around nine ten o'clock and they get up and if
they go to work, that day. They go to work
at ten, so by two o'clock, when they're physically active,
they may get something to eat or not the only
time they eat. When I talked about hydration, which is
stuff you guys hear me talk about all the time,
they may have about two bottles worth of water all
day long. That's twenty four hours. And just from the
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basic stuff, they're not getting enough nutrients and they're certainly
not hydrating their body, which is seventy percent water. So
just think about that for a minute. What does that
do to one's mental state? Right? Anxious fatigue, low mood,
low motivation, because your body's fighting to move. It's just
like you're trying to drive a car with like two
gallons of gas left and you've got it, you have
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to go one hundred miles. So then we talked about sleep,
and they're very fatigued. So they have no trouble falling
off of sleep at night. They have trouble waking up
in the morning. And we're not talking anything else here yet, right,
we talk about family dynamics. Someone who moved around frequently,
he was somebody in the military, disciplinarian, father, physically verbally abusive,
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not sexually abusive, a very unemotionally attached mom didn't really
demonstrate any kind of love language. Okay, so now we
have you know, those needs not met from a child
growing up. And then we get into some more of
the detail. Well, what are your hobbies? So I really
don't have any hobbies. What are your future career goals? Well,
(09:26):
I really don't have any Did you graduate high school?
Speaker 3 (09:29):
Yes?
Speaker 2 (09:29):
Did you have plans for trade or college? What things
do you enjoy doing?
Speaker 3 (09:34):
Nothing?
Speaker 2 (09:35):
So we have a completely black hole of emotions and thoughts. Well,
one of the things that I also asked, but I
wanted to kind of bring it closer to the end.
I had gone in through the medical history, and then
I surgical history, and generally I asked people, is people
often forget but like consoles, wisdom teeth. This is a
twenty one year old now born out of the country
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as father was father mom were living out of the
country at the time. Moved back into the US around
age fifteen and actually got stationed in a local i'll
just say Hawaii, because they traveled to California, and then
from California they came to Florida. So they've been in
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the US for maybe five, six, seven years. And interestingly enough,
when I talked about surgeries, I said, you have anything
you know tonsil's wisdom teeth. They had a double mastectomy,
and hence why because when I was looking on the
medication information, they were receiving testosterone injections every week. So
the person presented in front of me looked like a
(10:38):
full on mail beard, mustache, quiet, demure. I had to
pull all the information out of to try to get
why are you here? It was almost as if they
were so low functioning, something was not right in their head,
and I'm trying to get to the root of how
I could help them. And so if you take away
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what I knew about, Okay, we've got testosterom, we have
a double massed ectomy, sounds like we've got a gender
transition here.
Speaker 3 (11:05):
They really weren't very.
Speaker 2 (11:06):
Open about talking about it, even in a psychiatry office.
So again, maybe the shame, the guilt, or the lack
of interest to think that maybe what I've done to
my body is making me feel this way. So here's
where it becomes really interesting. I asked when the mass
dectomy was, and it was when they were sixteen, and
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they were in the United States, and again still wondering
because my next question usually is, well, have you ever
had any hospitalizations where you stay overnight? And they said no,
And a double mass dectomy is a pretty big procedure,
and generally still people do say at least overnight. I said, well,
what about your double mass tectomy? I said, you didn't
stay overnight? And this is what happened some almost five
(11:48):
years ago, I guess now they had the procedure in
California and they were taken to a hotel to recover
in the United States. And yeah, the question about what
year did all of this gender issues? I think we've
been slowly marinated into it, probably over the last eight
to ten years. And again insidious enough because you know,
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we started with all the pride and a pride and
the LGBTQ and all those things. So it's been a
slow marination of assimilation of my new favorite buzzword, tolerance.
And these are the types of things that you know,
sexual preference and identity. You know, maybe maybe that's where
I grew up, was what you choose to do outside
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of work and outside of interactions with people socially, is
your private life, your private business. But we've brought it
out as it's okay for everybody to be exposed and
to hey, I'm proud of what I do.
Speaker 3 (12:40):
That's fine and well.
Speaker 2 (12:41):
But when you're proud of what you do and then
you bring it into the schools and you bring it
into our children, and then you share all these things,
it really lends to question, how are we not forming
a lot of questions in our children that maybe shouldn't
even be there, that they shouldn't even be exposed to. Like,
if it's not okay, and we know it's not a
child minor that is sexually abused or sexually exploited by
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an adult, why is it okay to bring in things
that let an adult decide what an adult wants to do.
But when you're talking about someone who's seven, eight, nine, ten, eleven, twelve, sixteen,
seventeen years old, why are we neutralizing this? So again
it leads to the question. And so a lot of
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what we are finding is those that have chosen to
change their gender are experiencing a lot of physical and
emotional symptoms that are making them uncomfortable. And I'm glad
this individual came in for help. That's that's not the issue.
But now how do I best manage them to treat
the individual when I know what some of the triggers are.
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You give a female a bunch of testosterone, there's going
to be things that develop besides a mustache and a beard,
but issues of anger rage. You know, females are not
normally supposed to be at that level of testosterone. Then
you look at what does that do now that people
don't accept the individual? Now there's from what this individual described.
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You know, I just don't feel like I fit in.
So where does the I don't feel like I fit
in start? Does that develop a little mood? Does that
develop underlying anger? And you know, I'd be remiss if
I didn't remind you all about what we've seen in
recent years of some of these folks that have gone
out and hurt the children, and the violence and the killings.
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So we have allowed and we have tolerated people that
truly need to be seen to manage why they feel
the way they do. But this has gone on, I guess,
in many ways under our noses with the children for
at least five, six, seven, eight years. And that's a
concern I wanted to share. I've got this book that
I just recently was able to pick up and it's
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called a Practical Response to Gender Distress Tips and Tools
for Families. You can get it on on Amazon and
if you're driving and you can't pick it up. It's
by a Pamela Garfield Jagger. She's a licensed social worker
with a master's degree. But there's some really fascinating tips
and it's a super easy read. But this is helpful
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for parents perhaps to get a head start on possible
red flags or concerns, to help guide their children to
realize that you're going to have normal emotions as a child,
and you may be more of a tomboy, or you may,
you know, perhaps enjoy things that girls like to do,
and you know, you know, boys can do things that
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girls can do, and girls can do things the boys do,
but it doesn't make them any lesser different than how
they were born. But a lot of it talks about
many of these folks that have any kind of inclination
or reason to change a sex has a lot to
do with if you remember what I told you about
this individual, Mom was not nurturing. Dad was fairly militant
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in his style, a lot of travels, so the person
didn't really establish a lot of good social friendships and
the ones that were established early on. Because they moved
during the middle school and high school years back to
the United States, they had a lot of abandonment issues,
and so some of these mechanisms you'll find or abandonment issues,
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social anxiety. They may have had some type of sexual trauma.
This particular individual also said one of their first relationships,
intimately about a year before they made this gender transition
at the age of fifteen, had some type of sexual
trauma from someone that they were dating. They didn't elaborate.
Some of these folks also have eating disorders. They're generally
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depressed or anxious already, and some of them have OCD
type symptoms where they just kind of overthink and overthink
and maybe overquestion you know, am I a female? Do
I really want to be a female? Do I feel
more like a male? I mean, it's normal for hormonal
changes and fluctuations. And then when you put in the
ingredients of family dynamics that we'll just say are generally dysfunctional,
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but it goes on to give some really good detail
about sexual trauma, family crisis, and how kids learn how
to self protect. You know, there's been a lot of
focus over the last few years about you know, critical
race theory, and she states that children do not want
to be part of an oppressor group. Children want to
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feel protected. There's just so much in here that can
really be of benefit to help guide parents to be
sure that they're paying attention to their kids. It talks about,
you know, look at where we are today with cultural issues, pornography, sexualization.
You know, if you watch and look at the girl's clothing. Again,
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I'm not a prude, but we instill this and we
market this, you know, little teeny teen shops and the
clothes and the promiscuity. Prom gowns used to be gowns.
Now they're prom mini skirts, and you know, it's all
fine and well. But when we expose kids to sexuality,
and we expose kids to things that are consenting or
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an adult makes a conscious choice of kids try to
learn how to make sense of it. She also speaks
about peer groups. Kids really do influence each other and
look at how many gender what's the word with the uh,
the influencers, you know, the young influencers. If they say
it's so, then kids think I must be weird. If
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so and so says it's so there's too much exposure
on there with TikTok and all the things people latch
onto into TikTok, and so I highly recommend this if
you're struggling with a child that you're trying to decide
how do I help them because they're starting to talk
about gender identity, gender identity or things like that, or
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you know, I want to have a jump start. My
child's only fourn It's all new, like I would have
never dreamed I would have needed to read this book
when my kids were younger, But now I'm looking at
it going, Holy cow. You know, I don't know that
a parent can get by without it because this she
talks about and it's a Pamela Garfield Jagger. It's the
practical response to gender distress, Tips and tools for families.
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There's so much our kids are exposed to write under
our nose and had it not been you know, I
know when my my boys, you know, they're now on
their late twenties, but they told me towards I guess
at the end of high school, beginning of college, some
of the things that they started to get exposed to
in middle school. And this was a few years back.
And I'm going I would have never dreamed to even
ask that question. So it happens, and we just don't
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realize why because we're working harder, now, busier now, right
we think things are okay, but there is so much
social influence on these phones that you just really don't know.
So that was one of the things I wanted to share.
And you know, shifting over or why is this so
important now? Like this individual treating this individual, he's not
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open to discussing that perhaps maybe some of his choices.
Is he having regret? Is he not having regrets? But
he doesn't understand why he feels so bad. So we
just scratch the surface with his first.
Speaker 3 (20:17):
Visit this week.
Speaker 2 (20:19):
And it's really tough to manage because whatever I'm medicating,
if I use medication, I'm really trying to counteract the
effects of what he wanted. He created the tech testosterone level,
he created this masculinity level, and so medication is going
to be hard pressed to have to get a counterbalance
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to improve mood and behavior. You know, it makes it
really difficult. So a lot of therapy I highly recommend
that you know, medication is not the solution. Talk therapy,
A therapist that is grounded.
Speaker 3 (20:53):
In, you know, in something that you know.
Speaker 2 (20:55):
Again, if you're a parent, this other younger child that
I'm working with, the school therapyist affirmed and recognized that
the eleven year old was okay to be transgender. And
I just feel that that age is way too young
to make that kind of critical decision. So the parents
really want a guidance, so that book is helpful. There's
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also some really good things. If you go onto YouTube,
there's a whole lot on gender affirmation or transgender affirmation,
but this particular one I found Gabriel Clark. She has
a YouTube video on there that is from Stephanie Wynn,
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some kind of therapist, and if you google how to
Rescue your Child from Gender cult, Gabriel Clark on distance
coaching or desistance to assistance coaching to desist in the behavior.
She talks about gender dysphoria, and she also has a
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lot of discussion about critical race theory and how to
combat against what the school is trying to indoctrinate. So
if you are looking for resources, one of the resources
that she has on there is Affirming Reality Connected, and
you have to put in the call letters https. Colan
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backslash backslash affirm real con a connection. So and I
can put that up on the chat too, if anybody
wants to see it, it might come up a little bit better.
But there's a lot out there, and I want to
encourage you as parents to look for things, to find
resources so you can appropriately and in a well educated fashion,
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based on how you want to raise your children, have
the tools. Because when you want to fight a battle,
you can't go in there wishing to win.
Speaker 3 (22:53):
You need to go in with some facts.
Speaker 2 (22:55):
This particular podcast that they do, it's about an hour
and a half and it's got some really good information
on fighting and doctrination in the schools, identity and mixed
race families, social transition consequences, benefits of wonderment in nature,
identity and privileged realization, challenges of being the opposite sex,
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gender ideology. It's very good. I listened to it. Like
I said, I shared it with this family and they
found it very helpful. There's also ways to take care
of and treat children that have been exposed to trauma,
sexual trauma otherwise and allowing that trauma to address it
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and treat it versus burying it.
Speaker 3 (23:42):
If you bury it.
Speaker 2 (23:43):
You're going to have different types of protective mechanisms that
children will come up with to reidentify. And I really
believe that's where sometimes we come into this gender thinking that, well,
if I transition myself to a man, no man will
ever hurt me again. So some tips on that, and
if you need those resources, like I said, we'll try
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to get those posted up so you guys can see them.
It's just it's a powerful counterattack, and I think that's
something that we really have to start looking and educating
ourselves as parents what else is out there? Because your
kids are seeing a lot of things you might not
be aware of, and that leads into you know, suicide.
It's very sad and tragic, and you know, we run
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the month to try to raise awareness. I've shared this
number with folks a lot of times, but ninet eighty
is a national number. It's a safe number. No one's
going to come to your house, no one's going to
you know, call you up where people can get emergency counseling,
crisis counseling. It's a national number. And if you know
of someone, a friend, or anybody that you just feel
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is in stress, you don't have to figure out how
to help them yourself. But you can give them the
number and say, hey, you seem really down, I heard
about this number, or maybe it's a good place to
start to find somebody to talk to to get resources.
And that's where I would start. If you don't know
what to say, they will help. They know what to do.
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So the ninety eight eight number is really important. And
you know why I like to share that too, is
because you know, I think I mentioned to you all
several months ago I had a patient that was in
distress and was very accomplished and was in a relationship
of marriage, and there were a lot of issues going
on that they just couldn't handle. And while they kept
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a lot of things kind of you know, under the radar,
even reaching out for help, they refused certain help that
was available to them, and they took it on themselves
and they became overwhelmed. And it's truly tragic when you
try to help someone and you miss the mark, or
you miss a word, or you miss something, and even
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though it may not have been a complete miss, knowing
that someone took their life, we always second guests. We
always think I've done what should I have done? And
so I do want to lift up a patient that passed.
Speaker 3 (26:04):
His name is John.
Speaker 2 (26:06):
He was twenty five years old and just had the
emotions of all the things we go through in life.
Issues in the marriage issues and self worth issues and
self esteem issues with what's the future hold, conflicting issues
of one person in the relationship wanted children finding out
the other person didn't they were married five years, you
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know that emotional conflict, infidelity. We all have life events
and sometimes they just get piled on top of each other,
on top of each other, and it becomes so overwhelming.
In the moment, it may seem like a solution to
not desire to be here anymore. But then sometimes it's
too late. You can't pull back once you've initiated something.
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And so I guess just driving general sensitivity to folks,
always look at someone and try to see if you
notice subtle changes. Are they making statements that make it
sound like they're not going to be here? Are they
giving things away? Are they talking differently than they had
been before. Are they more positive? Are they more negative?
You know, there's really a lot of warning signs. There's
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not a lot of red flags, but there's things that
are maybe signals. And while we can't stop everyone, I
will always encourage you to consider to just try to
reach out to those that are around you, let them
know you love them, let them know you don't judge them.
And just like what we're talking about, you know, there's
no judgment for folks who make choices to change their gender.
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But there's help and you also will find and even
in the book and in the YouTube video of Gabrielle
is what do you do when you make a choice
and you want to turn back? And that's where there's
another struggle. It's completely opposite because now they've made all
these physical, psychological, and chemical changes, and to retransition back
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sometimes equally goes as bad and causes equal or worse
you know, challenges for an individual. So these choices really
need to be considered, not as a minor, and not
without the guidance of good people that can give you
good informed information. When I say good people and good information,
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it's got to come from parents, spiritual guidance, psychiatry, ones
that really understand these types of emotional thoughts. We really
don't want to breed tolerance just because you say you
don't like X, or just because you say well, I
don't think I want to do this anymore again. I
guess my question becomes, if someone said they wanted to
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take their life, would you just say, oh, well, if
you're that's sad, I guess that's good. And that's what
it appears to me to be. Like when a child says,
I just I want to be a boy. Kids are
going to have different feelings and emotions. Hormones play a
role in that influence with whom they're around. They're certainly
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social media and all the things that they're exposed to.
But if you wouldn't agree to someone taking your life,
which none of us should write, then stop and think
maybe you should guide them to someone who can give
them really good advice. And especially for parents of kids
and even kids, if you're listening out there, you know,
let your body grow, let your body mature, let your
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body develop. It may seem like a world away. I
can think back when I was like ten twelve, when
I couldn't wait till I was sixteen, and I got
to be sixteen and I'm like, all right, it's pretty cool.
Then I wanted to be eighteen and twenty one, and
there was really nothing, you know, riveting about becoming that
age other than you got to be able to do
more without having to ask permission. But I will tell
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you the beauty of being able to look back. It
goes so quickly. Even the brain. Anybody here know how
long it takes for the brain fully develop Think about it.
It certainly doesn't fall along with our you know, rules
and regulations, But it's been statistically studied the brain doesn't
fully developed to age twenty five. So even though we're eighteen,
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even though we're twenty one, the brain still is developing.
So when we do things to alter the brain or
the brain chemistry, and you know, the brain is what
controls the chemistry of all the biology and the body,
why would we rush it?
Speaker 3 (30:16):
Why would we alter it?
Speaker 2 (30:17):
Your body is beautiful and your body is uniquely yours.
And what I worry so much is that children are
so influenced. Is it really what they're believing and feeling
or is it that they're influenced, or is it they've
been hurt? And so as parents, our job is to
be the adult, not the friend. And I think again,
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taking us back to some of the social pictures we've
seen of recent tragic events, we see tolerance of parents
accepting and quite honestly, when I see some of these
kids in my office. I mentioned to you guys when
we were talking with Mick last week. I believe he
was nineteen years old, had sexual tendencies that preferred to
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be and play with younger children from the age of
eleven or twelve on up and now had developed into
thoughts and actual actions of watching and looking at you know,
pedophile type things. You know, miners. These are things that
need to be treated and corrected with medication and therapy.
And as we go into adulthood, if we tolerate and
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we look the other way or we say, oh that's
just Johnny or oh that's just Mary, are we not
facilitating or enabling a psychological illness. Maybe through some good
therapy medication we can help. And if it is a
brain issue, right, if you had an appendix that was rupturing,
if you had a gallbladder that needed to be removed,
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you get a broken leg that needed to be set,
you would seek medical treatment. And I think the other
part for you know what we all talk about for
Mental health months, Suicide prevent month, we have to break
the stigma of getting treated for mental health issues. I
think people may still be caught up on the idea
that mental health is it's looked down upon, and you're
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looked upon as weak. It's not a weakness, it's a
deficit or it's a disorganization in the brain. We've had
wonderful patients that have come into us that have been
diagnosed with schizophrenia, bipolar, mood disorders, all those types of things,
and know that we can bring good quality of life
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through therapy, different types of therapy, medication, diet change, nutritional change.
I talk often about TMS transcranial magnetic therapy. Listen, if
you can reset and optimize the brain, you can reset
and optimize a healthier brain, and it's been proven. You know,
people often ask me about that, and we've talked about
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it a few times, but really look into TMS. There's
a lot more information out there now. I believe there's
well over four hundred thousand published articles on it, and
I've not seen one person in it's been about two
and a half years now that I've been actually working
with the TMS therapy that it has not been life changing.
It's really been life changing. And so for those reasons,
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if you're going to optimize yourself. You can't just go
to the gym and fix your body. Sometimes you need
to go to the mental health gym and you can
fix your brain. But there's so much influence out there.
And I think that's the other part that I hear
a lot in younger folks. Sammy has a great question.
Do you feel parents are giving children way too much
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screen time, way too early? I have to tell you
unequivocally yes, just because we can. I have parents put
this phone in front of their kids sometimes when they
bring kids to a session with me, and I forget
the word that the one little girl used, but she
needed the phone to relax, and so her mom would
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just let her scroll on her phone while the mom
was talking to me. We have found far too many
vehicles to take attention away, to PLoP the kids in
front of a screen, to PLoP the kids in front
of electronics. How about we play a game of checkers?
How about does anybody humor me? Does anybody remember how
to play Jack's?
Speaker 3 (34:21):
Yes? How about a jump rope?
Speaker 2 (34:24):
There's games you can play with jump ropes. I know,
you know, some of you folks on there probably laugh.
You think this is really silly. But I'm here to
tell you we need to get back to basics. We
really do, and it starts with you. You are an
informed adult. You made good choices, maybe made some mistakes.
Speaker 3 (34:41):
We all do.
Speaker 2 (34:42):
But you need to be in charge of you, and
you need to be in charge of your children. And
you don't need to let the schools decide. You don't
need to let the government decide. You need to be
in charge of their health and well being, and sometimes
they do need some good mental guidance. I mentioned this
book before, I will share it again because I do
love things are not just because Patty thinks them up.
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Mel Robbins let them theory. Now, while she's not a
licensed therapist or psychologist or anything like that, she's just
a great speaker who's gotten some good influence and good
information from people that she's interviewed, and she really this
is a great primer for people that take life so
seriously and they just can't seem to get out of
the rut of what do they think?
Speaker 3 (35:23):
What do they think?
Speaker 1 (35:24):
Oh?
Speaker 2 (35:24):
I'm not sure? What should I do? It's let people
think what they want. You take care of you, focus
on you, focus on how to build your best self
and don't worry about what other people think I mean.
And we could probably talk for hours about you know,
what are your influences. You have family mares, you have
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family that just puts their opinions on you. You have friends
that are very outspoken and kind of question what you do,
and you want to keep your peer group. So many things,
so many and another great point, Oh my gosh, aam
I love it? These the kids these days don't know
how to talk with each other. They talk in text.
Honest to god, you know how many times I've had
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people say, well, what do you mean? People want to
put personality into a text. If I say I'm hungry,
or if I say I'm tired, or if I say
why did you do that? Somebody could read that text
and go, why did I do that?
Speaker 3 (36:19):
What is she yelling at me?
Speaker 2 (36:21):
There's no emotion in a text now if you put
an exclamation point in it or you put other words
around it. But we do spend a lot of time,
too much time sending messages now. While it's great because
it is a great connector like hey, are you going
to be home for dinner? It doesn't require somebody stepping
away from work or an important meeting to go yep,
see you at six. But you're absolutely right. We can't
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get people to have face to face interaction, and now
it's encouraged. One of the places that I share some
of my time as a provider. There's no real communication
in the office. There could be fifteen twenty people working
in the office and we only communicates. Do you know
how much gets missed and how many messages does one
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have to send to clarify and re clarify because people
don't understand what they're texting right. You can't get it
all in a sentence or two or three, and then
you end up writing a textbook.
Speaker 3 (37:17):
How many of you do this?
Speaker 2 (37:18):
You write a textbook of information? It's like, what did
I have to do that for if you picked up
the phone or went around the corner and said, hey,
this is what I need. But now everybody wants to
have everything in writing.
Speaker 3 (37:29):
But you're right.
Speaker 2 (37:29):
Texting, sit at the table, turn the TV off, put
the cell phones in another room. Talk with your kids
when you're in the car driving, have them put the
cell phones in their bag, have conversation while you're driving, laugh,
sing a song together. It's so important. You're right, Vincent
says children wouldn't know those games. It would be like
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introducing them to new things, but most would turn away
because it's not electronic. I know, isn't that sad. I
had a patient today, he's eighteen, and he said, I
asked him what he did over the holiday week and
he goes, oh, we went to go see the re
release of Jaws. About fell over because I thought maybe
it was like the newer version of the Jaws movie
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that came out. It was the original. And I was
laughing because I told him. I said, oh, my gosh,
I said, I think I was. I don't know if
I was seven or eight or nine years old when
Jaws came out and I had a big my dad
to go see it. And you know what this eighteen
year old told me. He goes, it was pretty violent
and yeah, I mean, I guess when you look back,
and a little kid, so it's very true.
Speaker 3 (38:33):
And my parents tried to protect me. But we are
repeating some things.
Speaker 2 (38:38):
We're not always repeating good things, and we just need
to stop. We've got to break this cycle of tolerance.
We need to get out there in front of our kids.
And you know what I would say, Vincent, get the jacks,
get the ball, start bouncing it and playing and collecting
the jacks and have the kids come up and go
what are you doing?
Speaker 3 (38:58):
You said, I'm playing jacks? Want to join me?
Speaker 2 (39:00):
I mean, we do have to re introduce some good things.
We're also not stimulating the brain. So think about that
when you wonder why kids aren't thinking, or why kids
are just following along. We're not really doing things to
stimulate the brain. How does one jump in the rope
to do double dutch? It's a hand eye mental coordination.
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I don't even know that kids even do that anymore.
And you know, again, new things are good too, But
at the end of the day, you know, what are
we allowing? What are we allowing to go on? So
you know, I ask you folks to take charts, take
charge of goodness and wholeness and everything that you value.
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If you have a preference in your belief and a faith,
I say, hold on to that, stand strong in it,
and don't settle, and don't let others dictate to you
what you want to instill in your children. And get
in and google around to see some of the things
that are actually under our noses. There was so much
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in there about tolerance and transgender that if kids are
reading this, they're thinking it's the new greatest thing to do, and.
Speaker 3 (40:11):
Hey, how cool.
Speaker 2 (40:13):
I could be bigger and stronger if I did this,
this and this. Get onto YouTube look up for oh gosh,
Gabrielle Clark. She teaches on dessistance coaching and it's the
how to Rescue your child from gender cult And if
you can't find her, Stephanie Wynn Stephanie Wynn w I
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n N. She's got a lot of information on some
of this stuff. The work that she does, she actually
had brought Gabrielle in, So take a look at those things.
I want to remind you guys, that is my QRS
code if you have questions. A lot of folks have
called in and send in some questions. The QRS code
will get you to my books I've got they call
(40:56):
me Harriet, which is just a big uncovering of what
went on during the pandemic. Probably want to take a
look at because more of what you probably didn't know.
And I tell it all. I tell my story of recovery.
I tell about patients that pass that I tried my
best to give good quality of life their last day
or hour, and I talk about all the resources that
are out there that are exploding now. If you really
(41:18):
want to get good help, natural healing, holistic healing, if
you need help with ivermectin, hydroxychloroquin, there's states now that
you can get ivermectin without a prescription. And my other
book is on frozen shoulder, which is a very detailed
look when you have trauma in your life, you can
develop a frozen shoulder. You can get it with hormonal imbalance,
(41:40):
you can get it from having had surgery, you can
get it with autoimmune issues. But since I specialize in
trauma and I've had three, I'm definitely a guru when
it comes to how to heal a frozen shoulder. So
all that and more, you know, again I find here
has been helpful to you. We try to talk about
things that are relevant today you won't find on mainstream media.
(42:02):
I work typically privately in Florida, and you know, offer
different types of modalities to folks very well versed with
children and adults and with depression OCD, anxiety PTSD especially.
We've got a national group if you want to look
up the Betrayal Project USA dot org. That's Betrayal Project
(42:25):
USA dot org.
Speaker 3 (42:25):
It is a.
Speaker 2 (42:26):
Wonderful national and actually probably international size group that has
grown into existence from all of the things through the pandemic,
losing loved ones, victims who have survived from desevere and
also people who have any kind of injuries post vaccine
injury or lost a loved one through a vaccine injury.
But I just want you guys to know that there's
(42:48):
other information out there. And since I'm not anyone big
enough to be on one of the major news networks
or the places that only give you fake news, you'll
get the truth from me. I try to bring on
revocative guests that also are out there work in the
streets like the rest of us, to try to let
people know and uh, you know, oh yeah, and I.
Speaker 3 (43:08):
Love that, Matt.
Speaker 2 (43:09):
I appreciate you being on. It's so true. It is
tell a vision. So whatever you see on TV, they're
trying to give you their vision. So turn off the TV,
tune into us every week at three pm Eastern, and
we're going to bring you something lively, current, up to date.
If you have questions, you don't have to just wait
for the show. You can always text them to nine
(43:31):
oh four, three, seven, seven, one one nine six. That
is our office line, and we accept text and phone
calls and you can get onto our app and our
web page. We posted those up there for you too.
But more more good stuff to come. And I hope
you guys have a wonderful week, and I hope you
(43:52):
all had a wonderful Labor Day. As we go into fall,
we're going to be talking more about wellness and health,
good nutrition, ways to lift from anxiety and depression. As
we go into the darker days, the darker months, the
fall tends to be a time when people start to.
Speaker 3 (44:07):
Get lower mood.
Speaker 2 (44:08):
Could be related to seasonal affect of disorder, or it
could just be low vitamin D.
Speaker 3 (44:14):
But yeah, I agree, Sally.
Speaker 2 (44:17):
If you start with the kids with some of the
old games when they're young, they'll probably more likely to
take to doin them. Children are the future, and we
have the ability to bring such good history and good
I guess before AI, our brains still work. I've had
a couple folks tell me that when AI is wrong,
(44:37):
if you don't carefully read it, when you tell AI
it's wrong, it will agree with you. And it was
because everybody's using AI now for different college papers.
Speaker 3 (44:46):
And somebody just told me that this morning.
Speaker 2 (44:48):
I said, that's pretty scary that we think it's all accurate,
but it's not. So stay tuned for more good stuff
in the coming weeks, and again, just remember, lift each
other up. Remember is National Suicide Prevention Month. Be a source,
Be a light to people, Be a light to our children.
Let children know it's okay to not always agree with
(45:10):
their friends, with their peers, to stay strong, educate them,
talk with them. I think we're going to lose the
gift of conversation, so talk with them and make sure
you tune in every Thursday three pm Eastern. I appreciate
you guys so much. We'll talk to you next Thursday,
and have a wonderful weekend.
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