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Hey everyone, and thank you forcoming back. It is December twenty fourth,
Wow, and we are already atthe end of twenty twenty three.
Yesterday it was November first. That'sliterally how twenty twenty three has been feeling
all year long. Merry Christmas toall, happy holidays. However you celebrate,
however you believe. If you donot celebrate, whatever you do during
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this guaranteed time off by most companies, I hope that you're having the best
of times. Now we're gonna betalking about the quid pro quo type relationships,
leaving that concept away. I don'tknow who taught this in in such
a way that today's dating they seemto think that I did this, so
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you do this, And that hasbeen on a constant and if you walk
into the dating world only thinking aboutwho you are connecting with with that mindset,
it's probably going to crash. Theconnection is going to crash at some
point. It may have some longevity, but at some point is going to
crash. You may not tell theworld that there was a crashing that took
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place. You may present it tothe world a different way, but there's
going to be a mental crash thattakes place because you went in saying I
did this, you give me that, you give me this, I give
you that, and you went inwith that attitude because that's how dating was
taught to you. So we're goingto try to leave that in twenty twenty
three, leave quid pro quote intwenty twenty three. So that's what we're
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going to talk about. There's aviral video we're going to discuss up next.
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c O Little thing that happened.So I am D SHL CEO's how you
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will find me on TikTok. Thankyou for coming buying where and come right
back and get right into that viralvideo. We're gonna talk about it.
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go off, it's because I saAura love Ann or you know, mant
and I feel this tract. Someoneis coming on me. Yeah, hurts
so much better. I'm me alittle feel. Thank you guys for stopping
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back by. So I'm in themiddle of doing what everyone else is doing,
preparing for things that you're doing forthe holidays. Listen, here is
where I stand on this viral video. So there's a viral video where a
girl is recording a guy that shehad went out with. So according to
the caption, it says that theyhave been going out for two to three
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days and they were shopping and shehad filled up the car. They looked
like they were at Walmart. Theyhad filled up the car. She had
went through the children's department and boughtclothes for her children. Not sure how
many, but there was just alot of clothes in there, and then
she went and got groceries, soit was filled with groceries as well.
They get to the checkout and thatis when she began to film because when
she was told the total, shesays that the guy that she was with
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did not pay. Now, y'allbeen dating for two of the three days.
So I'm gonna make the assumption thatyou did, like most women do,
and in all cases, by themajority, some kind of intimacy took
place after your swipe left or righton tender, because it's just that simple
for some of y'all. So youslept. It's probably a new app out
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where OnlyFans or I don't know whereveryou connected at half of you. They
say the old holes are on Facebook, so maybe you connected with an old
hole and she kind of has thatold whole mentality because she was mad because
he was not paying for what wasin the basket. She walked around.
If there was an understanding, ifhe said, come on, girl,
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going just whatever you get, whateveryou lay, you're like, if he
did that and told you it giddyget it and did just pulled the whole
ti and told her she could haveeverything and then didn't pay, then that's
one thing. But from what Ican see, the brother is still being
a gentleman. He's putting all thethings in the bags in the basket,
he's pushing the basket, he's holdingthe bags, he's doing the things.
That's a gentleman. But he isnot paying for something for some person that
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he just swiped left or right.I don't know how tender works. He
is not paying for that person hejust meant to three days ago. He's
not buying her children by her multiplebaby daddies. I don't know. I
could talk. I have multiple soI could talk, But I'm not sure
if he decided that he would wantto be a temporary Uncle Willie and pay
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for all of her things just becausewhatever took place, And it's in my
mind that there's some kind of youknow, I gave this to you give
me this going on, which isbrings me back to why we need to
leave that concept alone. That quipro quote. We need to leave that
out of relationships because whatever you did, if you laid low and spread wide,
as I say on the show,if that's what you did, you
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assumed that that you know, becauseI got that billion data, but I
don't give out the billion data.And even in my current relationship iration the
billion dollar guys, I'm not goingto give that out all the time.
Because if you're giving it out allthe time and you're not getting what it
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is that or your boundaries are whatyou expect, you are going to to
constantly feel a type of way.Oh no, So if that is the
way that you're feeling, you thought, if I give him this, he's
supposed to do this. But evenin my not giving out my billion data
data, I don't have no expectations. I just say, this is just
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this, this is my thought process, and when I'm married, I'll do
X y z z Z. ButI don't have to operate within that capacity
in the current status that I'm in. Right, So, if you said,
well, I slept with him onday one, it's day three by
rap racket up. I'm sorry thatyou thought that, and I'm sorry that
you're being taught that that you're gonnatake what's a billion dollars and expect him
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to spend two hundred dollars because yougave him a billion dollars worth of You're
doing bad math all along, youknow what I mean, Like you wanted
him to give you two hundred dollarsor however much that costs in the basket
for some billion dollar thing that youhave, then if you would guard that
and cherish that in a different typetype of way and not make that about
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what you get. Men, I'mtalking to you women, I'm talking I'm
talking to all of y'all. Ifyou would stop using what you have in
between your legs as your I didthis, now gone and give me all
of this, you know, likeor men a lot of times as you're
in your wallet and you're like,oh, I pay for this and I
pay for that, so you're givingit up. There's literally viral videos of
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men saying that. Right. Soif that is the case, I'm not
sure where that concept came from.You're gonna find yourself in a state of
milissury every three to four days thatyou meet the next guy and you've known
them two days and he won't buythis stuff that you're trying to purchase.
This is why you're meeting men becauseyou want to pay your bills. You
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want to pay the lights, youwant to pay the rent, you want
to pay the mortgage, you wantto buy the children goes. You're not
even dating for purpose that matters.I should say, let me take let
me walk that one back. You'redating for a purpose for you're dating for
the wrong purpose. You're not tryingto find longevity in life. You were
looking for who can get you whatyou want? And if I at least
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give up this, then I'm supposedto get this, and then you ran
in through you ran into a realone, and he was being a whole
gentleman, but he was making surethat you understood that even within that being
a gentleman, I'm still not miyingall this, So do what you do.
And so you had to go runup your excess credit card. I
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don't know how you pay for allthe stuff because you guys walked out the
store, so somehow you ended uphaving to purchase it on your own.
That was probably your mortgage money.And now you're gonna have to go run
the same guy and swipe and flirtin the DMS and all on the Facebook.
Oh you're so cute, You're sofunny, buy my bills, pay
my bills, body stuff. Becauseyou're always have an agenda that has to
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stop. I'm your host DHLS followingme across socials. I want your feedback
and I want to know am Iwrong? Should not continue? Is this
the way that it should be?Is there a different way to do it?
I want to hear back from you. Talk to me. I talk
back. I want you to talkto me on threads. That's a good
place to go underneath the comments.If you see the link to the podcast
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on x If you see the linkand on Facebook, you can follow.
That's it. Let's talk because wehave a special thing coming up on Thursdays
where we're gonna late night talk aboutall the things that you're vinning about on
social media and on these videos.We're gonna talk about those things. I'm
gonna come back with a little fewthoughts since it's you know, Christmas and
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Christmas Eve, I'm gonna have afew thoughts on the TDJ situation. I'll
come back. I just want totell you that, no, no,
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all my friends said you gotta takecare because that man is trouble. Your
best speek were and got it down. I hope. I'm like you had
a two year lass now that you'vegot your started patch of cancer. Nor
because I love your baby, Ican electrical baby. I gotta tell you
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that I've been looking for sorry whenI was down. Now along came you.
Would you marry alone? And Ijust can't quick and I'm gonna love
you. Yes, I I canelectrical baby. I can't electrical baby because
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I love a lot all love mother, because I love your baby. There,
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no, no, no, can'tlet you go because I love you.
Because I love you. It wasa time I didn't have homen but
I love that you. I thoughtit was my chance. When nobody tells
me any good things about your babies, I'm not stay here. Don't Maybe
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I can't let you go. Letyou go that you I because I love
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you. I love because I loveyou. All Right, you guys,
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So I'm back. Thank you somuch for the impatient. I appreciate you.
So let's talk about again gifts.You give something and you expect to
get something. But that's a wholeother topic. Listen, T. D.
Jakes. I will say that theresponsible thing that I did see him
do was he passed baton and wewere just into a lot of shock about
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him passing the baton onto his daughter. But now that this is coming out,
usually when you see things this,in my opinion only, this is
not legal advice. Usually when yousee things, you see that a person
has known for about a year ortwo that this is coming. And this
legal thing is this train is headedand it's going to crash, and there
is nothing that you can do.Every attorney and every dollar that you have
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spent this is this is happening.You're not going to be able to undo
this, right. So because ofthat, this thing is out here,
and I'm pretty sure legally people probablyalready knew that this was coming. Right.
Sorry about my puppy, he's justyou know, Enigma, You know
now, I see why I namedhim Enigma, right, So, so
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because of that, he probably knewit was coming. So he's not gonna
get my usual lecture when it comesto pastors about when you have things going
on, you remember how I didback in the day where I need to
buy them and all that drama andnot stepping down. So stepping down and
moving out the way is really thebest things to do in order to honor
that that you follow, which isthe Trinity Gospel that he preaches. And
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I've studied ministry, so when youlook at the things that are required in
the Book of Timothy regarding the leaderof the church, in the Trinity Gospel
belief, and in that he nondenominational way of teaching, because that is
what he follows. It's just likeany job. Like if that there's a
requirement and you have to do thingsthis way, and then you start doing
things differently, you're probably gonna haveto step down as a CEO, and
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this is just twenty twenty three seemsto be the year of CEOs having to
step down from major corporations. Thatis no difference with what we see happening
with TJ. So I will,you know, give him and his team
that he is not trying. Ihope that he will not continue to try
to be in high leadership why thisis going. As far as the accusations,
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you know, I'm gonna say whatI've heard several of the bloggers say,
that is the reason why you cannotconform to the things of this world.
Again, I'm teaching you about whatI learned with growing up and being
taught and then going to school forhow the teachings go of the Trinity Gospel,
that you cannot be involved in secularthings. You can the one saying
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no, don't do that. Youcan do it, but when you do
it, it's gonna crash and oftenhave backlash. And this is the reason
why it's taught to not get yourselfso caught up right. So you if
you're in the video and you atDiddy's house, and we understand that the
things that are coming out as faras what's in all those different silently secretly
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recorded videos so that you, youknow, you can't deny it. So
since that is you at this point, you're now gonna have to say,
you know what, I'm gonna stepback because I'm not who I say.
I believe this. You know,it was a long time ago that I
let go of a lot of thepastors that are out there and they're the
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way that they were. I didn'tagree with their personal way of being,
but they're great speakers. So Icontinue to hold on to Bishop Jakeson's just
being a great motivational speaker. Sometimespeople are really great speakers and they missed
their calling because they think that,oh, because I'm a great speecher and
I you know, I studied theGospel. I was raised in the Gospel.
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I was supposed to preach. You'renot always supposed to nahalla and preach
right like doctor Martin Luther King.I'll take it there. Doctor King was
a great speaker, That's just whathe was. He came from a family
of reverence, but he's just agreat speaker. And it is his own
niece who said herself when we wereat University of Marriarden Baylor, someone could
find that clip somewhere where his niecewas speaking and she said, you know,
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Daddy and uncle Martin, they actuallymade that up. They were sitting
at the table and they used tocrack a lot of jokes a Sunday after
dinner, and they were sitting atthe table and they were like ah and
ah, and they thought it wasa funny and they were like, we're
gonna go to church and we're gonnatry this next week. And it was
a hit, right, you know, as it can be howling across all
you know platforms these days. Soit really worked. It it went on
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for decades. So sometimes a greatspeaker just knows how to introduce something and
they know how to deliver. Andso TDJ s knows how to deliver a
message. But as you can seehim doing business, commerce, e commerce
and all these different things that he'sdoing right now, he's just a great
speaker. He can speak the gospelor he can speak about business. He's
just good at what he does.He right, he knows how to deliver.
So maybe the gospel is not forhim because within the Trinity Gospel and
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the Book of Timothy, and I'llleave you to go read it. You
know whether you're reading KJV or howeveryou want an NIH. However you want
to read it, go read theWord. And if you read in the
Book of Timothy, it will tellyou how a pastor is supposed to be.
And unfortunately, with the things thatwe are seeing, he's not following
within those guidelines. So he doeshave to step down as CEO of the
Gospel of Jesus Christ. So thoseare my thoughts on that. Thank you
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so much for coming back. MarryChristmas, Happy Holidays, however you celebrate
whatever it is you're doing. Ihope you have a really great Christmas Eve.
I hope you enjoy the Christmas paradesand all those great things on TV.
I hope you go see the Christmaslights. I hope you're in the
spirit of the holidays the way thatwe do things in America, if anything
right, because sometimes that is aboutthe most beautiful season that we bring in.
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You know, the earth is ghettothat is existing right now in America.
Alright, you guys, I'm yourhost, Djals. Thank you so
much for coming by. I appreciateyou. Make sure you come back.
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