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Happy June tenth weekend. Happy Junetenth weekend, twenty twenty four to each
and every one of you, andhappy Father's Day weekend to all of the
fathers out there. I know thereare some people that are posting and saying
maybe to this father, maybe tothat father. I'm gonna go into that
until a minute as to what wethink of all these different fathers, but
(00:23):
I would want to say Happy Father'sDay to all of you father's out there.
I always explain why in just aminute. Summertime, twenty twenty four,
we're back. I'm your host DShields. Thank you for listening to
What D Says the podcast, andI want to make sure that you begin
to follow on YouTube because this summerwe're coming to YouTube as well. What
D Says the podcast. You canfollow me all across social media including YouTube.
(00:46):
I am D Shields. I amdee s hi e L d S.
And I will put that over onX the link so that you can
know how to connect to what DSays the podcast as well through that handle.
Thank you so much for all whoare tuned in listen up Father's Day.
I really hate that it becomes thistopic that everyone wants to let out
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all of these emotions that they failedto let out in therapy the twelve months
prior. Everything that you didn't getout of your system through a trendy post,
you decide to lay it all outagain. And so that makes people
when they come and see my post, which is what I said today,
When they come and see my poston today's topic and they think, oh,
(01:30):
you're just not talking about the gooddads, I am saying thank you
to every father out there, onesyou call good and ones you call bad.
We're gonna go into some detail asto why I said a topic today
two things for Father's Day. Thisis two hot topics that I'm going to
cover. Ladies, sometimes God beathim out of your life for the betterment
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of your child, that deadbeat youconstantly talk about. And men, no
woman has to stay loyal to struggleenvironments that you offer as a father to
her and her child. And weneed to go deeper into that in just
a moment. But first, asa pack why is they happy? Father?
Say to all the fathers, Yes, women bring life right. We
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carry through with pregnancies nine months,we carry this child. We bring this
child to life, all with thecreation of what it was created to be.
The father still plays a role,whether he shows up and leaves,
or whether he's there and then hetakes off midway through the raising of the
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child, or if he didn't showup at all, or if you became
a parent by way of an assaultof any type. The father had a
purpose and you got to see thatpurpose within your child. So I don't
go down the I'm gonna tell youmy own story again, you know,
for those of you who fail tounpack it in my books, I'm gonna
(03:07):
tell you again so you don't haveto go down the road a passion that
man, because what you have infront of you is a child listening to
every word and questioning their self worthover what your thoughts are on fathers and
the one that walked away or didn'tdo enough, or isn't doing enough,
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or has you in the struggle whateverit is that you're saying, and you're
putting it on the father, andthat child feels that the father is a
part of them. Right in thecases of assault and rape. I still
want to encourage you to know thatfinding the purpose with you and that human
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being that you are raising. Ifwe can focus on that and take yourself
to therapy and make sure that you'reconstantly dealing with how this came about,
any kind of way that you coulddo to not take that child's head that
they are a mistake, because onceyou put out there that they are a
mistake, they go out into societythinking they're a mistake, being a mistake,
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and creating mistakes that sometimes are damagingin more ways than one. Okay,
So for those fathers that showed upand they didn't do enough, showed
up and they left and showed upand you know they're to five years old
and took off and cheated with yoursister, cheated with your auntie, cheated
with the neighbor, left you,or you were in a three way situation
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where you were the mistress and hepromised he'd leave his wife and he never
did, and your six kids downthe line. For all of those fathers
out there, we still are gonnasay thank you because we appreciate the child.
I believe the children and all thefeud, I'm never gonna take that
away. Children are the future.They are what's coming next. So I'm
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never ungrateful for I'm ungrateful or I'munhappy sometimes with environments that impact children,
that create beings that could be betterif you would clean up the environment.
So sometimes I'll get extremely unhappy withthe environment that a child is in,
but I'm not gonna be unhappy withthe child, even those that are the
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most challenging with the right environment andthe right upbringing better can come from whatever
behavior that they're putting out there.So if you reach out and you get
help, if you can't do iton your own, and you go grab
some mentors in the community, anddon't say there are not any, because
there are, and there are alwaysa social media post or a phone number
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or a community outreach program away.If they're not in your family or nowhere
in your neighborhood, there's somewhere wheresomeone's going to reach out and make help
you make a better life for thatchild. So don't never let people tell
you that there's no other hope andthat's just a bad child. There's more,
And take a look at your environmentto see how much your environment is
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impacting the behavior of the child thatyou're struggling with raising. Right, But
here's about this hot topic that youalways get on around this time of year.
I sometimes don't think that. Peopledon't think about how is he a
dead beat? Or did God beathim out of your life? Because that
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wasn't what's good for that child whohad a future. I'm not saying that.
I don't want to even go downthe road of the good or the
bad, you know, good versusbad, you know, with my children
because I just love that they're mychildren and their mind and they were a
part of who I am, andthey were exposed to who I am,
and we had challenges, but theywere exposed to the positive and everything that
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that stayed with them and they becamethese great adult human beings that they are
today. So there's just no mistakeswith what happened with how my children came
about, right because of the typeof father like my daughter's dad, right,
so her biological used to beat that. You read the book, didn't
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you. If not, you needto DM me. I'll make sure you
get the link to get it.He used to beat me. I left
when she was still in the babycrib. She was still in the baby
crib. I left him when shewas young enough young and remembered like spurts
of sometimes you would drop me offover there, and this and that happened,
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but it didn't impact in a negativeway. By staying right in the
home with someone boxing my eyes.She already had an older sister, her
biological had stepped out, and neverhe gave us some baby wipes and a
squeaky toy and that's the last weheard of him until it was time to
go to court. And he stoodup and made a big old scene in
(07:53):
the Austin, Texas child support courtlike that's not my child, that's a
home. He called me a ohand brother, oh oh court, and
then the judge stood up and toldhim to sit down. The test came
back ninety nine percent. Sit down, be quiet. I had to be
a whole hole before that could happen. But it didn't matter because they didn't
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make or break what my children wouldbecome. Right, so she'd seem that,
you know, And so then hersister comes along. You know,
you don't know how much is impacted, but they're still young. And I'm
like, you know what, I'mout. I'm out, I'm out,
I'm out, I'm out. I'mnot doing this. This is not what
I want for my life, thisis not what I want for my daughters.
I didn't even have my son yet. This is not what I want
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for my daughters. I know thatthat's better for me out there, So
I went to see a counselor,or counselor agree with me. Once they
hit you, it's not gonna stop. So you had to find a way
out. And so I went tothe support group and went to my father,
who didn't know it was happening,and who snatched me out of the
home immediately when he found out itwas happening. And it was just a
sham instant, you know, thesham of a marriage didn't last longer than
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you could blink your eye right,And it was what was best. And
as much as he thinks he controlledthat moment my life, he didn't.
God beat him out of my lifebecause the type of individual that he was,
and that I could see into thefuture that he would becoming, he
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became exactly that. And all ofthat became someone else's toxic problem, and
all of that probably impacted her childrenand the children she had in her own,
but it didn't impact mine. Andit was toxic. It was full
of fights and drugs and guns andviolence and all kind of stuff in and
out of jail. Everything that Godsaid, I'm gonna beat him out of
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your life, because that's not forthe child that you're raising. Do you
get where I'm coming from. Sosometimes the person that you are calling a
dead beating you're so mad that theywalked out. Maybe they heard the call
from God. Get the hell outof that woman's life. You're not it.
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You're not a good fit. Everythingthat you are doing is going to
bring nothing but hell to a life. You know your trash, you know
your behavior is trash. You knowyou need help. You're not getting help.
Get out of her life so thatshe could do better by this child,
right, God, beat the sensento him to get out of your
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life. That's the dead beat thathe is. Beat his a right on
out your life so that a betterlife is ahead for your child. I
can make a lot of decisions whenI'm raising children, but having an ignorant
a person as my person around mychildren, I do not do. I
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do not do. This is justsomething that I'm not going to allow.
And you know, I see somany of you. I'll go into a
whole nother world if I start talkingabout y'all moving them in. Y'all have
young children, and y'all let thesedudes come in because you need your bills
paid. All of that toxic inand out, in and out, dude,
dud, dude, in out,in and out. That's toxic environments
for your children. You can't talkto me about how'd you get them graduate
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high school? How did you getthem to graduate college? I had to
get them to be the adult saidthey are. How did they become?
You can't ask me all these questions, but you're not going to change what
you were allowing your children to see. When you're raising children, they need
to be in the best environment thatyou can get them in, and you
need to be you know, maybeyou may not have the resources, but
God knows the plan. I didn'thave the resources, but I had the
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heart for my children to have betterAnd so when I got out of the
toxic environment into a better when everythingjust started going in the direction that God
said it would be, and theywere able to be in a better environment
because I was just like, thisis not for me. So you can
look up. You have common sense. You lay though spreaded wide with this
dude. Now you know this ain'tit, and if this is not it,
start making it a point in yourjournal or writing down your goals to
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start making a plan to get upout of there. You want your child
to become what you're sitting across andlistening to this looking across the room at
if that's not good. If it'sa good image and it's something great,
yes, but if it's something negativeand abusive and drugs and alcohol and weed
and beer and parties and games andplaying in your face and women, and
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side check this and side check thatthat's not for your son to see,
is it? You know that's notfor your child. So sometimes God beat
them out of your life for thebetterment of your child. It's important that
y'all really take a listen to whatI'm saying on that and then men,
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I need you to understand this.That was my part too, and I
know that that did not sit welland the kids came across like a negative
as well. But no woman hasto stay loyal to a struggle environment that
you're offering her to help her raiseher children, whether you're the actual biological
father or you're just a dude thatwalked in. If what you're walking,
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I hate that you walked in andstruggle you know, like you've seen her
in the struggle, you've seen herin housing, you've seen her in a
low income status, and then youwalked in and you have nothing to offer
to get her out of that,and now it's just double double struggle.
No woman has to stay loyal tothat. Beat yourself about that situation.
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Go why do you think that's forher? She doesn't have to sit and
stay with your struggle, especially aroundchildren. A lot of times you'll see
older you may see us in thatsituation that's not around children. I still
don't want to see a woman instruggle. I can tell you. I
could show you better than I couldtell you by sharing with you the parts
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of my life that I've experienced.If you will listen to me and just
say you know what I trusted DAshare what she's been through, because she
is saying you don't want any partsof that. So here's the decisions and
the things that she's saying that thisis the way to do this, so
that you can get away from thatbecause you deserve better. No one has
to be loyal to struggle. TheBible did not say to submit to your
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broke a. Y'all are so confused, especially when it comes to Christianity.
The Bible did not say if youmust go by the Bible. The Bible
did not say that she had tosubmit to you. And your behavior is
your demeanor is disgusting and disrespectful.And then you're not bringing anything to the
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table. You're just taking away anddestroying and using and abusing, manipulating,
bringing nothing but chaos and hell,no one has to be loyal to that.
That is all a part of thestruggle. You've been bamboozled and lied
to you if you think a womanowes you anything or that. For the
fathers who are doing amazing in women'sthank you for being there for your children.
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Thank you for being a part oftheir upbringing whatever way that you are
able to. For the fathers thatreach out to me constantly, year after
you're telling it's another year is goingby and I still can't see my child.
My heart breaks for you because Isee you going above and beyond,
and all you want is to beable to just be by your child and
just to see your child, andspends the time and that woman is so
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angry and so hurt about the breakupthat they're using the child to not allow
you to be a part. Myheart hurts for you, and I just
continue to want you to continue tosay it to the atmosphere. This will
change, because I promise you,when that child is old enough, they're
gonna see the guilty party and they'regonna come to you and build a relationship
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and it will be better. Ifit's not now, in the future,
it shall be. Things will bebetter. So don't bring any toxic into
this, you know, don't argueback and forth with a person that you
know they're not gonna bund you know, budge on the way that they're acting
and treating and talking to you.Right, I'm in a relationship where that
happened, where the woman all shedid every time got on the phone and
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right there in front of her childjust go on and just say some horrible
stuff about this band, right,and didn't make it where that child could
see anything other than that. Sothen the child began to speak that way
from you know, your early teenson to speak the same way because that's
all that was being dished out everyphone call. Right. Of course,
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there's hurt in the past, butpeople change. So if you're that woman
and you're holding on to what theybroke your heart because they cheated. That
is not a reason to not letthat man that. If they're willing to
provide and do, that's not areason to not let them be a part
of their child's life. Don't dothat. Don't be that person. You
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have this weekend to be the betterperson. And for the first time,
since I don't know how many hereis, you can let that child supervise
with your visit if that's the onlyway you feel comfortable. See they're biological,
if it's safe to do so.If it's not safe to do so,
you know, we're not talking aboutyour situation. That's a totally different
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thing. You need to go tothe sheriff department and let them walk inside
of there to see your child.It may not be where you can have
your child around that individual because they'retoxic and they're not safe. That was
my situation. No, you willnot come around my child. Every time
I try, you shoot up thecar, or then I try again and
you put your hands on me,you start choking me. Every time I
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tried. When they were younger,you know why you were not allowed to
be a part of their lives becauseyou brought toxic and put me in danger
for their lives in danger. IfI have a car seat in the car
and you shoot up the car thatI'm in, you don't care, right,
Just so I said, sometimes peoplehave so many different parts of the
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story, right, So, HappyFather's Day weekend and Happy Juneteenth. That's
a whole different show. Welcome back. Thank you for tuning in on a
consistent basis for the what it's beenten years now? Oh we're past ten
years. Yeah, we're fourteen yearsof podcasting, still hanging on the spreaker.
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and all the different platforms that openthe door to be able to connect and
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I am D E S H IE L D S. Thank you
for tuning in
Happy June tenth weekend. Happy Junetenth weekend, twenty twenty four to each
and every one of you, andhappy Father's Day weekend to all of the
fathers out there. I know thereare some people that are posting and saying
maybe to this father, maybe tothat father. I'm gonna go into that
until a minute as to what wethink of all these different fathers, but
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I would want to say Happy Father'sDay to all of you father's out there.
I always explain why in just aminute. Summertime, twenty twenty four,
we're back. I'm your host DShields. Thank you for listening to
What D Says the podcast, andI want to make sure that you begin
to follow on YouTube because this summerwe're coming to YouTube as well. What
D Says the podcast. You canfollow me all across social media including YouTube.
(00:46):
I am D Shields. I amdee s hi e L d S.
And I will put that over onX the link so that you can
know how to connect to what DSays the podcast as well through that handle.
Thank you so much for all whoare tuned in listen up Father's Day.
I really hate that it becomes thistopic that everyone wants to let out
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all of these emotions that they failedto let out in therapy the twelve months
prior. Everything that you didn't getout of your system through a trendy post,
you decide to lay it all outagain. And so that makes people
when they come and see my post, which is what I said today,
When they come and see my poston today's topic and they think, oh,
(01:30):
you're just not talking about the gooddads, I am saying thank you
to every father out there, onesyou call good and ones you call bad.
We're gonna go into some detail asto why I said a topic today
two things for Father's Day. Thisis two hot topics that I'm going to
cover. Ladies, sometimes God beathim out of your life for the betterment
(01:55):
of your child, that deadbeat youconstantly talk about. And men, no
woman has to stay loyal to struggleenvironments that you offer as a father to
her and her child. And weneed to go deeper into that in just
a moment. But first, asa pack why is they happy? Father?
Say to all the fathers, Yes, women bring life right. We
(02:23):
carry through with pregnancies nine months,we carry this child. We bring this
child to life, all with thecreation of what it was created to be.
The father still plays a role,whether he shows up and leaves,
or whether he's there and then hetakes off midway through the raising of the
(02:45):
child, or if he didn't showup at all, or if you became
a parent by way of an assaultof any type. The father had a
purpose and you got to see thatpurpose within your child. So I don't
go down the I'm gonna tell youmy own story again, you know,
for those of you who fail tounpack it in my books, I'm gonna
(03:07):
tell you again so you don't haveto go down the road a passion that
man, because what you have infront of you is a child listening to
every word and questioning their self worthover what your thoughts are on fathers and
the one that walked away or didn'tdo enough, or isn't doing enough,
(03:28):
or has you in the struggle whateverit is that you're saying, and you're
putting it on the father, andthat child feels that the father is a
part of them. Right in thecases of assault and rape. I still
want to encourage you to know thatfinding the purpose with you and that human
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being that you are raising. Ifwe can focus on that and take yourself
to therapy and make sure that you'reconstantly dealing with how this came about,
any kind of way that you coulddo to not take that child's head that
they are a mistake, because onceyou put out there that they are a
mistake, they go out into societythinking they're a mistake, being a mistake,
(04:13):
and creating mistakes that sometimes are damagingin more ways than one. Okay,
So for those fathers that showed upand they didn't do enough, showed
up and they left and showed upand you know they're to five years old
and took off and cheated with yoursister, cheated with your auntie, cheated
with the neighbor, left you,or you were in a three way situation
(04:36):
where you were the mistress and hepromised he'd leave his wife and he never
did, and your six kids downthe line. For all of those fathers
out there, we still are gonnasay thank you because we appreciate the child.
I believe the children and all thefeud, I'm never gonna take that
away. Children are the future.They are what's coming next. So I'm
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never ungrateful for I'm ungrateful or I'munhappy sometimes with environments that impact children,
that create beings that could be betterif you would clean up the environment.
So sometimes I'll get extremely unhappy withthe environment that a child is in,
but I'm not gonna be unhappy withthe child, even those that are the
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most challenging with the right environment andthe right upbringing better can come from whatever
behavior that they're putting out there.So if you reach out and you get
help, if you can't do iton your own, and you go grab
some mentors in the community, anddon't say there are not any, because
there are, and there are alwaysa social media post or a phone number
(05:41):
or a community outreach program away.If they're not in your family or nowhere
in your neighborhood, there's somewhere wheresomeone's going to reach out and make help
you make a better life for thatchild. So don't never let people tell
you that there's no other hope andthat's just a bad child. There's more,
And take a look at your environmentto see how much your environment is
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impacting the behavior of the child thatyou're struggling with raising. Right, But
here's about this hot topic that youalways get on around this time of year.
I sometimes don't think that. Peopledon't think about how is he a
dead beat? Or did God beathim out of your life? Because that
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wasn't what's good for that child whohad a future. I'm not saying that.
I don't want to even go downthe road of the good or the
bad, you know, good versusbad, you know, with my children
because I just love that they're mychildren and their mind and they were a
part of who I am, andthey were exposed to who I am,
and we had challenges, but theywere exposed to the positive and everything that
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that stayed with them and they becamethese great adult human beings that they are
today. So there's just no mistakeswith what happened with how my children came
about, right because of the typeof father like my daughter's dad, right,
so her biological used to beat that. You read the book, didn't
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you. If not, you needto DM me. I'll make sure you
get the link to get it.He used to beat me. I left
when she was still in the babycrib. She was still in the baby
crib. I left him when shewas young enough young and remembered like spurts
of sometimes you would drop me offover there, and this and that happened,
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but it didn't impact in a negativeway. By staying right in the
home with someone boxing my eyes.She already had an older sister, her
biological had stepped out, and neverhe gave us some baby wipes and a
squeaky toy and that's the last weheard of him until it was time to
go to court. And he stoodup and made a big old scene in
(07:53):
the Austin, Texas child support courtlike that's not my child, that's a
home. He called me a ohand brother, oh oh court, and
then the judge stood up and toldhim to sit down. The test came
back ninety nine percent. Sit down, be quiet. I had to be
a whole hole before that could happen. But it didn't matter because they didn't
(08:13):
make or break what my children wouldbecome. Right, so she'd seem that,
you know, And so then hersister comes along. You know,
you don't know how much is impacted, but they're still young. And I'm
like, you know what, I'mout. I'm out, I'm out,
I'm out, I'm out. I'mnot doing this. This is not what
I want for my life, thisis not what I want for my daughters.
I didn't even have my son yet. This is not what I want
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for my daughters. I know thatthat's better for me out there, So
I went to see a counselor,or counselor agree with me. Once they
hit you, it's not gonna stop. So you had to find a way
out. And so I went tothe support group and went to my father,
who didn't know it was happening,and who snatched me out of the
home immediately when he found out itwas happening. And it was just a
sham instant, you know, thesham of a marriage didn't last longer than
(08:58):
you could blink your eye right,And it was what was best. And
as much as he thinks he controlledthat moment my life, he didn't.
God beat him out of my lifebecause the type of individual that he was,
and that I could see into thefuture that he would becoming, he
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became exactly that. And all ofthat became someone else's toxic problem, and
all of that probably impacted her childrenand the children she had in her own,
but it didn't impact mine. Andit was toxic. It was full
of fights and drugs and guns andviolence and all kind of stuff in and
out of jail. Everything that Godsaid, I'm gonna beat him out of
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your life, because that's not forthe child that you're raising. Do you
get where I'm coming from. Sosometimes the person that you are calling a
dead beating you're so mad that theywalked out. Maybe they heard the call
from God. Get the hell outof that woman's life. You're not it.
(10:03):
You're not a good fit. Everythingthat you are doing is going to
bring nothing but hell to a life. You know your trash, you know
your behavior is trash. You knowyou need help. You're not getting help.
Get out of her life so thatshe could do better by this child,
right, God, beat the sensento him to get out of your
(10:24):
life. That's the dead beat thathe is. Beat his a right on
out your life so that a betterlife is ahead for your child. I
can make a lot of decisions whenI'm raising children, but having an ignorant
a person as my person around mychildren, I do not do. I
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do not do. This is justsomething that I'm not going to allow.
And you know, I see somany of you. I'll go into a
whole nother world if I start talkingabout y'all moving them in. Y'all have
young children, and y'all let thesedudes come in because you need your bills
paid. All of that toxic inand out, in and out, dude,
dud, dude, in out,in and out. That's toxic environments
for your children. You can't talkto me about how'd you get them graduate
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high school? How did you getthem to graduate college? I had to
get them to be the adult saidthey are. How did they become?
You can't ask me all these questions, but you're not going to change what
you were allowing your children to see. When you're raising children, they need
to be in the best environment thatyou can get them in, and you
need to be you know, maybeyou may not have the resources, but
God knows the plan. I didn'thave the resources, but I had the
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heart for my children to have betterAnd so when I got out of the
toxic environment into a better when everythingjust started going in the direction that God
said it would be, and theywere able to be in a better environment
because I was just like, thisis not for me. So you can
look up. You have common sense. You lay though spreaded wide with this
dude. Now you know this ain'tit, and if this is not it,
start making it a point in yourjournal or writing down your goals to
(11:58):
start making a plan to get upout of there. You want your child
to become what you're sitting across andlistening to this looking across the room at
if that's not good. If it'sa good image and it's something great,
yes, but if it's something negativeand abusive and drugs and alcohol and weed
and beer and parties and games andplaying in your face and women, and
(12:22):
side check this and side check thatthat's not for your son to see,
is it? You know that's notfor your child. So sometimes God beat
them out of your life for thebetterment of your child. It's important that
y'all really take a listen to whatI'm saying on that and then men,
(12:46):
I need you to understand this.That was my part too, and I
know that that did not sit welland the kids came across like a negative
as well. But no woman hasto stay loyal to a struggle environment that
you're offering her to help her raiseher children, whether you're the actual biological
father or you're just a dude thatwalked in. If what you're walking,
(13:09):
I hate that you walked in andstruggle you know, like you've seen her
in the struggle, you've seen herin housing, you've seen her in a
low income status, and then youwalked in and you have nothing to offer
to get her out of that,and now it's just double double struggle.
No woman has to stay loyal tothat. Beat yourself about that situation.
(13:30):
Go why do you think that's forher? She doesn't have to sit and
stay with your struggle, especially aroundchildren. A lot of times you'll see
older you may see us in thatsituation that's not around children. I still
don't want to see a woman instruggle. I can tell you. I
could show you better than I couldtell you by sharing with you the parts
(13:54):
of my life that I've experienced.If you will listen to me and just
say you know what I trusted DAshare what she's been through, because she
is saying you don't want any partsof that. So here's the decisions and
the things that she's saying that thisis the way to do this, so
that you can get away from thatbecause you deserve better. No one has
to be loyal to struggle. TheBible did not say to submit to your
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broke a. Y'all are so confused, especially when it comes to Christianity.
The Bible did not say if youmust go by the Bible. The Bible
did not say that she had tosubmit to you. And your behavior is
your demeanor is disgusting and disrespectful.And then you're not bringing anything to the
(14:37):
table. You're just taking away anddestroying and using and abusing, manipulating,
bringing nothing but chaos and hell,no one has to be loyal to that.
That is all a part of thestruggle. You've been bamboozled and lied
to you if you think a womanowes you anything or that. For the
fathers who are doing amazing in women'sthank you for being there for your children.
(15:05):
Thank you for being a part oftheir upbringing whatever way that you are
able to. For the fathers thatreach out to me constantly, year after
you're telling it's another year is goingby and I still can't see my child.
My heart breaks for you because Isee you going above and beyond,
and all you want is to beable to just be by your child and
just to see your child, andspends the time and that woman is so
(15:26):
angry and so hurt about the breakupthat they're using the child to not allow
you to be a part. Myheart hurts for you, and I just
continue to want you to continue tosay it to the atmosphere. This will
change, because I promise you,when that child is old enough, they're
gonna see the guilty party and they'regonna come to you and build a relationship
(15:46):
and it will be better. Ifit's not now, in the future,
it shall be. Things will bebetter. So don't bring any toxic into
this, you know, don't argueback and forth with a person that you
know they're not gonna bund you know, budge on the way that they're acting
and treating and talking to you.Right, I'm in a relationship where that
happened, where the woman all shedid every time got on the phone and
(16:10):
right there in front of her childjust go on and just say some horrible
stuff about this band, right,and didn't make it where that child could
see anything other than that. Sothen the child began to speak that way
from you know, your early teenson to speak the same way because that's
all that was being dished out everyphone call. Right. Of course,
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there's hurt in the past, butpeople change. So if you're that woman
and you're holding on to what theybroke your heart because they cheated. That
is not a reason to not letthat man that. If they're willing to
provide and do, that's not areason to not let them be a part
of their child's life. Don't dothat. Don't be that person. You
(16:53):
have this weekend to be the betterperson. And for the first time,
since I don't know how many hereis, you can let that child supervise
with your visit if that's the onlyway you feel comfortable. See they're biological,
if it's safe to do so.If it's not safe to do so,
you know, we're not talking aboutyour situation. That's a totally different
(17:14):
thing. You need to go tothe sheriff department and let them walk inside
of there to see your child.It may not be where you can have
your child around that individual because they'retoxic and they're not safe. That was
my situation. No, you willnot come around my child. Every time
I try, you shoot up thecar, or then I try again and
you put your hands on me,you start choking me. Every time I
(17:34):
tried. When they were younger,you know why you were not allowed to
be a part of their lives becauseyou brought toxic and put me in danger
for their lives in danger. IfI have a car seat in the car
and you shoot up the car thatI'm in, you don't care, right,
Just so I said, sometimes peoplehave so many different parts of the
(17:56):
story, right, So, HappyFather's Day weekend and Happy Juneteenth. That's
a whole different show. Welcome back. Thank you for tuning in on a
consistent basis for the what it's beenten years now? Oh we're past ten
years. Yeah, we're fourteen yearsof podcasting, still hanging on the spreaker.
(18:19):
Speaker was where I came after Ileft blog talk radio, and I
like this, this this environment becauseit hosts to all of just dozens of
other platforms, you know. Soshout out to iHeart and Apple and Google
and all the different platforms that openthe door to be able to connect and
(18:41):
do this on I'm your host,D Shields. Find me on socials.
I am D Shields. We cancontinue the topic if you choose to just
DM me, or you can gounderneath one of the links to do so.
I am D E S H IE L D S. Thank you
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