March 20, 2023 • 56 mins
What We Talkin Bout - Season 1, Episode 4 "Hannah K Beauty". Hosted by @CakelifeGougz & @Wa_La_Magic_Mo. What We Talkin Bout is aired live from Paradise Studios NY via the Strong Island Entertainment Network. www.strongisland.com
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Handak is really helping me keep myhair, helping and strong. I have
the Essentials Kit, which includes theNourishing Scalp Oil, the scalp Massager,
and the Satin bonnet. The NurishingScalp Oil is formulated to deliver maximum nourishment
to your hair. It contains avocadocastor and Johobeo oil. The scalp massager
increases blood circulation and promotes hair growth. And I never go to bed without
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my satin bonnet. So if youlive with dry it's you scalp like I
do, you should really check outHandaka. The products are pretty awesome.
Hello, hello, Hello, weback again. What we're talking about?
What were we talking about? Yeah? Man, this Handeca on my bed
is what we're chalking about. Yeahyeah, So we got a special guest
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in the house tonight. Tonight.Um, you know, I think,
uh, what was the last episodewas it? It was episode two when
we had handac oh Hunter, right, I believe it was up so too.
Right. So today we have theofficial unveiling of one of her products,
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one of her main products. Actually, um it was it was this
guy who's been rubbing on his facesince we got here. You gotta hey,
hey man, you gotta get yousome handecade. Man. Yeah,
I got my beard glistening. Idon't know if you could see this out
in TV land with you on yourcomputer. What I'm saying you better get
your pixels right. You know whatI'm saying. Listening and hit boy.
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So anything about it, Like Isaid, talk about it. We have,
um, you know the product.Um, you know the special set
up. You know, we havethe the entire set up today. So
um where they could get that from. Well, she's gonna come on and
she's gonna break. I don't wantto. I don't want to get your
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handicade. Don hit him with theleast it's handcade beauty dot com. Okay,
understand, we know. Yeah.Yeah, we had to talk behind
to zoom up on that a littlebit later. Yeah yeah, and and
um, other words, what's goingon with you brother? Other words?
You know, man, Man,I started a new job. Man,
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I'm got a job. I hadto you know what I had to.
I had to get a job.I had to get a job so I
could push this. I ain't goingback single man. Okay, you know
what I'm saying. Yeah, letmake financial sense. Talk about the single,
well, you know the single.I dropped it in January. Um,
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you know I got it. Youknow what's the stream? Twenty thousand
streams? Yeah, I was aboutto say, you know, because everybody,
you know, first thing they lookat now is like, how many
streams you got? Yeah? Nah? But I I really, I really
would like to be at a millionat this point. So you know,
I'm to me, it's not it'snot doing what it's supposed to be doing.
So I gotta push a little bitharder. You know, it's kind
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of my fault. I took abreak, right right right? You know,
um, you did. You didtake a break. You know a
lot of you guys that I knowyou guys took a break. You know
what, I'm doing a daddy I'mdoing a daddy thing. You know what
I'm saying. I got to spendtime with the kids. You know what
I'm saying with your kids? Youknow, the kids need you. You
know, you gotta spend time withyour kids. Definitely, definitely, But
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um, you know, back tothe Mixica, back back to the mix
again. So, um, youknow, I got some topics that have
been kind of on my mind.You know, you know, a couple,
Um, you know some of somesome me and my girl and some
of my friends and some you know, family members that I know, we
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was having a conversation about, youknow, about some of the topics that
guy. You know, guys arereally kind of on this like women got
to fall in line movement, andyou know, I just kind of want
to know where you guys, youknow what you guys think about that?
You know what you think about that, you know, because it's a it's
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a touchy topic right now. It'sit's kind of touchy as far as women
falling in love, right So,Um, one of the words that was
used was I'm trying submission. Submission. Yeah, I think that was where
I took right so to submit.Guys say, all right, I need
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you to be more submissive? Whatdoes that really mean? What women want
to they want to know what doesthat really mean when you say I need
you to be more submissive? Youknow, everybody out there that's in the
chat, you know, y'all typeyou know you're getting the chat, let
us know. Um, but youknow, like that's it, that's important,
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Like that's it. That seems tobe very important right now. So,
um, what you think about thattea. Yeah, give me some
Yeah, give me some feedback onthat I'm saying, be most submissive.
I'm saying I don't really, Idon't really look at I don't really look
at my women. Is that that'ssubmissive? Okay? Now my girl is
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definitely not submissive right at all?Well? I all right, I okay,
I hear what you're saying. Butyou know what I'm saying, like
you know, ken they you knowyou know, I think that you know.
And I don't want to say thatto get you slapped up or nothing
like that. You know what I'msaying with you to get punched in the
head like that door a lock aright, we got door lock. So
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I don't want you to get punchedin the head. But um, like,
I think you know your girl maybe submissive in some aspects. Well
you know what I'm saying. Notyou know, I'm not submissive to nothing
stupid. But if you say something, I'm sure that if our life was
a was a real you would probablybe able to pick and point out certain
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times to where you right right,Because I think that if you're in a
relationship, I think that if you'rein a relationship, you it's gonna be
times when you're gonna be you,You're gonna have to be submissive, you
know, as a woman. Oryou know what that's changed that word,
right, Let's use a different word. Let's say you're gonna have to compromise,
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right, You're gonna have to compromisea little more than just um.
Let's use that word yeah, musclingyour way right, instead of just saying,
all right, cool, it's myway of the highway. It's my
way on the highway. You gottaget out, you know, because I
get that get thrown around or youknow I'm saying, do that that come
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with age? That comes with ageand maturity? Yeah? Absolutely? You
know. You know, as Igot older, I didn't really pay attention
to too much um shenanigans when itcame to, you know, dealing with
with with man. I believe,I believe to um being younger and make
a difference soon to striving full too, you know what I'm saying, as
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as uh as individuals and as acouple. You know what I mean,
right, makes a big difference.Yeah. Now, you gotta you gotta
be able to get along, Yougotta be able to communicate. If you
can't communicate with your with your girl, or your or your or your your
husband or your man or you knowwhat I'm saying, or your wife,
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then that's it gonna be spicy.You know, y'all probably ain't gonna be
together long or y'all gonna have awild ass relationship. You know what I'm
saying. That should gonna be different. You know I've seen something. You
know what I'm saying. If youknow me, then you know that I've
seen something. You know what I'msaying. I see some some stuff in
the Bronx and the lower east Side, you know what I'm saying. Like,
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But at the end of the day, I think you know, good
communication is uh. I think thatyou know that that always leaves space on
the table to say, give youthe option to say, all right,
cool, I'm I'm okay with that, you know. And also directions.
See a lot of times we don'tum talk about the direction of things.
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So for example, a guy couldsay, all right, I want you
to be submissive, but submission somebeing submissive or being in submission, it's
kind of sounds like you're putting somebodyin the part of me. Be you
putting somebody in the headlock and youtell them, don't move, make me
a sandwich. You know what I'msaying, like, Yo, bend over
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like you know what I'm saying,like like like it's it's that you get
a little like you know what I'msaying. Like, So that's that's how
women are taking that word you're saying, some submit submit. That sounds a
little like put these handcuffs on andgo sit in the corner, and when
I'm ready for sexual intercourse, comeon out, you know, because that's
how the sound you know, theSoundBite or that one's gonna be crazy tawanding
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like that's all you said. Yeah, school, you think man, I'm
saying, listen, man, asfar as as far as submission goes,
you know what I'm saying, LikeI'm I'm in the belief of if you
got a certain type of paper.You know what I'm saying, women is
submitting to a certain type of paper. You know what I'm saying. Let's
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let's be honest. I have tosay this time. So all right,
cool, all right, cool?Um, Yeah, so I kind of
agree with that a little bit.I think you know I'm saying, Yo,
listen, the views out there theyI'm saying, listen, if you
ever touched any kind of money,you have some kind of money, I'm
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saying, you understand what's going onhere. You know what I mean.
It is what it is. Itis what it is. You know what
I'm saying. Money rules the world. And that's what a lot of females
believe. You're right, right likethat. You know that's accurate. Yeah,
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that's accurate. Yeah, money kindof make them everything. For for
for women that that that that wantto be taken care of, money is
you know what I'm saying. Butfor women that don't necessarily want to be
cradled, if they don't want tobe cradled by the money and they want
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to be able to do things thatthey own recognizance, then they thinking,
oh, I need to get myown money. So even money, even
though money still does rule right now, Um, the breakdown on how the
money, uh, you know,from the point of view from how you
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know an independent woman is going toutilize that money versus a woman who who
is married with four or five kidsand her husband makes you know, six
seven hundred thousand a year and she'sbringing in maybe like seventy eighty thousand a
year from a small you know,part time job that she does, or
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even a small business that she mayhave started. It's like this, right,
when given, when given the opportunitythat has never been presented to you,
you don't really know how. Youcan't say how you're gonna react to
that opportunity until you face with theopportunity, you know what I'm saying.
So it's like we just here hypotheticallychoking. Yeah, you know what I
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mean. Like, so now ifset female, you put set amount of
money in front of her, whatever, we don't know what, we don't
know what's gonna happen. That's justthat's an equation. That's a hypothetical,
right a wrong, right, right, right right. We could we could
do that. We could do thatold night, you know what I mean.
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And then I'm saying we could getpeople on here that could give you
stories, candid stories about you know, the articulation of yeah, moving and
shaking with that paper. Yeah yeah, Okay, this guy over here,
take that fucking bucket hat. Whatwe're talking about? I see your face?
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Oh no, stop touching my micman, get out of here.
See I put in the full day'swork. You can't tell me nothing.
What happens when you graduate from screets, when you get it, when you
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get a job, you'd be like, yeah, I got a job.
Yeah, I'm happy for my brother. You know what I'm saying. I'm
definitely happily for you, my brother. You feel me. But um,
yeah, so we're gonna we're gonnaget right back to you. We won't
come back with handy Kay, she'sgonna chop it up with us. Yeah,
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cake Life, Shake Life came.Were back at it again. Y'all
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know that this we can't lose.You already know what it is. Cake
Life, googles my Man Wildlive MagicMo. And we got a special special
guest in the building, Miss HannahKay. Hello, Hello, Hello,
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how are you doing, Miss HannahKay? I'm good, Thank you,
thank you for having me. Yes, he's not nervous to the right.
I'm good. I don't want youto be. I'm good. I'm good
as you're not nervous, you knowwhat I'm say, because it ain't no
reason to really be nervous, Like, thank you for taking the time to
come out. Oh okay, allright. You know they always telling me,
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everybody always telling me, say youain't speaking in the mic mo.
You know, Like I said,I do speak a little law merchant on
it. Um. But uh yeah, we we're happy to have you here.
I'm happy to be here. UM. We definitely want to know a
little bit more about you're How howcan I say? Should I say haircare
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line or should I say like ohso, um, should you know?
How should I say it? Ihave licensed in cosmetology, right, so
okay, I'm a licensed cosmetologist whoum. As a second career, I
got into healthcare. Um, butit's still in my heart, like my
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passion hair haircare. Um. SoI have always had a lot of hair
um, and when I got older, I just decided one day to kind
of like cut it off. Yeah, just shave it off off. Um,
just shaved it off. But youknow it was I went from relaxed
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head and natural hair just like instantly, you know, and my scalp started
itching. Um. And my motheris very much into like natural stuff.
So I just kind of came upthis was years ago, just kind of
came up with oil just to kindof help relieve the itch and everything.
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And fast forward a couple of yearslater, I'm in healthcare and I would
always get comments on my hair andpeople would say, like, you cut
it off, but it kind ofgrows back so fast and it looks shiny
and it you know, like whatare you doing? I'm like, you
know, I didn't really do toomuch. Like I would just kind of
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make oil and put it in myhair, and it wasn't all the time.
It would just be when I wouldneed it and stuff. And I
just you know, talking to peoplegiving me the idea, like you should
make that, People asking me,oh, well, can you make me
some? And you know, Ideveloped a formula trial and error and I
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would give it out as samples andjust wait for feedback and work on,
you know, improving it based onthe feedback that I got. And like
a lot of people during the pandemic, we had a lot of time on
our hands. And even though Iwas in healthcare, the department I was
in was kind of slow. SoI just said, you know what,
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what better time than now to fastforward to create a business. And that's
where I got hand of k Ilove it people. I've gotten amazing feedback.
I'll see your bid looking like somethingum, And that's kind of how
I started. I'm still starting.I still feel like I'm in the baby
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stages, the beginning stages. Youknow, there's a lot that I don't
know that I'm learning on the way. Um, but I know where I
want to be right and I knowthat I just as long as I stay
focused and keep going, I'll getto where I want to be, regardless
of what I don't know. Now, So where do you want to be
right in stores? I want tobe Okay, yeah, y, that's
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definitely a big name. Or we'redefinitely gonna need hand We want to see
handyke up. You know what I'msaying. We're gonna yeah, where can
they Where can they get handycake?Now? So you can order on my
website. I have a website.Um it's Hannah ka Beauty dot com.
Um, that's h A and andA h K Beauty b e A U
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t y dot com. Okay,yeah, all right, So, um,
I got I got a couple ofquestions. I got some questions for
you. Here we go. Whatinspired you? This is a this is
always a big question for me.What inspired you to really want to due,
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you know, take on you know, the beauty business. Besides you
just you know, just going toschool for it and whatnot. Um,
I made you say, all right, I want to I'm gonna start this
business. And you know what I'msaying, like what what? Well?
To be honest, I what inspiredme was other people, other people,
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like I said, saying that theyliked it, appreciate it, it could
use it, that they saw animprovement. Um. People believing that it
was something that I could do.It was. It wasn't something that I
was thinking of doing honestly, youknow, but having people kind of seeing
something that I maybe didn't necessarily seeingmyself at the time, telling me go
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for it, like no, youcould do this, you should do this,
Like why you know, basically likewhy wouldn't you do it? And
I, you know, just thinkingabout it, like they're right, You're
like, why wouldn't I? Youknow, I have a little bit of
knowledge. Um at that time Ihad the time to invest, you know,
UM, so why not? Whatwhat what is it? Um?
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Like what does it take like toreally like like, what what does it
take to start up? Research?Research? It takes research research. I
knew absolutely nothing. So we're likesome of the first things that you had
to well, I had a product, you know, not a service,
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right, so I had to differentiatebetween the two. And then that depends
on how you market. You know, I'm a I have a product,
not a service. So um,I had to look at it as you
know, a consumers standpoint, right, because yes, I'm I'm I've created
a product that I want to putout there, but I'm also a person
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who buys things. Um. SoI had to look at it from a
person who's buying something. What doI want? What do I want to
buy? What? What is itthat's gonna make me want this? You
know what I mean? And Ihad to figure out how am I gonna
make you know, put this outthere that it's it's useful that a person
can use this, and we wantto use this. Um. So I
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took research right, um in thebeginning. Any and you have to figure
out everything takes time. It takesdedication, um, it takes focus.
You know a lot of people haveideas, but it takes a lot to
actually sit down for hours at atime and write those ideas on paper,
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Ye cross them out, scribbling mountand you know, you you it's research.
You try to find people who aredoing the same things you're doing.
Try to get as much information asyou can look you know, social media,
the internet, networking. You know, the Internet is a wonderful tool.
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It can be crazy, but itcan be a wonderful tool. You
can find anything you want to findout on the Internet. It may take
time, but you can do it. It leads you somewhere, you know
what I mean. And in trialand error, but it's research. Like
I really had to do the research. Ask something there, right, So
what'sh your talkingt market there? Likelike who you know what I'm saying?
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You say saphora, right? Butwhat you know what I'm saying? Like
of course people who are focused onthere, you know, physical health and
well being, right, because thatcan be men and old woman, um.
But my target audience is an individualwho was possibly having scout condition issues
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right like dry scalp itchy scalp um. I've gotten feedback from people who have
had eggs and mall or service arisesum and told me like always helped me,
you know, So that's I wantto help people like that. Like
for me, that's why I didit, right, Like I was having
my scalt was like itching because Ihad not been used to not having a
perm. My hair's growing out curlyright like, it's a different texture,
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no permit, but anybody can blackhair can use it as well. But
it was I had an issue andI needed something to help calm my scalp
and and so I want, youknow, people who feel like they're having
issues. I'm not a doctor,right like, so I'm not saying that
this is a cure, but thisis something that has helped me. I'm
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just saying, you've seen it work, right, and it works for you.
It works for me, and thiswork for people out you know,
I've got feedback, right right,So yeah, that's that's dope. What
you How does it feel on yourpart of me? How does it feel
in your skin to when you puta little the clean man, it's clean,
It's it's not really it's not reallytoo heavy, it's not really too
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oily, you know what I mean. Well, I'm saying if you put
a lot in your hand any right, if you only put a drop or
two, what I'm saying, it'sreally light. You know, I'm talking
like I ain't used it. Ididn't use it before. I'm saying,
you know, the waves ain't allspinning there a little, they're gone right
now. Time had cut down timeand tell you drop you drop a couple
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of drops on that. I'm tellingyou now, it's cleaning. It ain't
gonna be spicy. It's gonna benice and you know what, she ain't
gonna be glistening and all like gonnabe looking nice in the sun. So
I know you viewed it. Youhave a bed. Um, I'm gonna
ask you a question. You everget ingrown hands? And if you have,
have you felt like using it hashelped? All right? So I'm
gonna tell y'all the fact how itfeels on my skin and why I like
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it? Right? So, umuh when I put it on my skin
right, um, and it's ascalp o you guys, I'm not saying
it's for skin, but no,I'm gonna tells. I'm gonna tell you
listen because I kind of know whatyou know oils, and you know I
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know what essential oils do for thebody. I kind of know what they
do. So um, when Iread the back of it and I see
the oils that are in it,you know the contents. The first thing
I see when I see teacher oil, I think, um uh, it
was a disinfecting anti fungal um.What are some of the other properties oils?
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Okay, all right, okay,so yeah we got you got different
oils in the in the you know, you have different oils in it.
But what I feel when I whenI put it on my skin, because
I've Ve been on my face,I put it on my face, it
feels like it's exfoliating my skin throughoutthe you know, for the first thirty
minutes. You know what I'm saying. Feel like it's because the teacher oil
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is kind of like bright, butit's not too much. Because I have
actually put chechiol on my skin beforewithout it's burnt, and it's burned my
skin. You know what I'm saying, I had like burn you know what
I'm saying, like to mess upto you know, to give you a
little diskiloration marks. If that's partof the research I put into and creating
my phone. Yeah so you youyou whatever you did too, I guess
to counteract you know, the cheecheeoil from really burning up your skin,
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and you know that that feels good. I like the you know, the
uh. I like how it makesyou know, my skin feel and it
definitely um when I have like ingrownheads, or or I get like a
dry spot, or even if I'mgetting like uh, you know, I'm
gonna tell you when I get whenI get out the shower, put a
little couple of drips and the babyailing and the lotion. I mixed it
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all in all over me. Youknow, man, I'm a little kind
of Harry. Knock it off man. Pause, Paul, I said,
pause, I said, pause,knocking off this guy? All right,
man, I said, Paul,you know, we got somebody at the
door. Many see they got Yeah, we got somebody at the door.
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Man, we got at the door. It's cold outside, coming and interrupting
the show and all that. Yougotta make sense. Yeah, yeah,
but um, you know, Idefinitely like the oiler most and I got
out the shower on sex. Howdid we go from putting oil on your
face and you getting off the shower? How did we do that? I'm
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just saying, because you know,it's a scalp boy, and you know,
but I want to let people knowI do rub the oil all over.
You know what I'm saying. Itdefinitely works to me, you know
what I'm saying. It's going on, man, what's going on? He
feeling the day you came to stopby the show. Yeah, it's my
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guy right here, it's my guyguy. Limo talk. You know what
I'm saying. Shout out the Limotalk, shout out the Limo talk them
out we go. Yeah yeah yeah, yeah yeah yeah yeah yeah. So
um, you know, um,definitely going get you a bottle of the
Handca scalp oil. It's definitely um, it's definitely uh. It feels good
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on your skin. It's really light. Like you said earlier, you can
you can actually feel the effects ofit. Um yeah, and you can
you notice the next two it's myreal bottle right here. Yeah, yeah,
brought here with me a little bit. Yeah yeah, because you know
it's it's a little expensive. Iain't gonna live blog boo boo. That's
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enough man, Just stuff strong man, you know what. Yeah, I
ain't gonna lie that. What islike sixty five dollars a bottle for this?
Now we're working currently three okay,cause I remember that thing was I
think it was high in the startin on the Police Street for a little
minute. What's the sea right here? Backscratcher. So it's uum Scout Massages.
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So you get a complimentary scout mascage. When you back scratching, you
have a you know, yeah,you know, I get my my hand
the cake oil and then you know, I put it in my back and
then I get my back scratching andI rub it. This guy, I'm
saying, she was getting out thefiguring man like ready for me. You
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know this, it's no good cue. I'm trying to get as me.
You know what I'm saying. Imix it with the chanelle and all that.
I mix it with the chanelle.Feel me a little bit of the
you know, Christian, you know, the savage and the Chanelle, a
little bit of the hand the cake. Rub that on, boo, you
get the shine you get there,you know. But the handicade a little
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strong, so you know that teachyour old will. Definitely if you got
any other smells on, you wantto put that on first. You want
to put the handcade on first.I know that. But it's strong,
it smells good. You know whatI'm saying. You want to put this
on first. You want to letthat site minutes. You know what I'm
saying. That is advertising the promo. That thing sit for a little minutes,
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say that fifteen minutes. Then sprayingon your cologne that teach your old
is strong and you got you gottalet it quiet down a little bit.
Yes, it is loud. It'sloud. It's loud on the the you
know what, it's strong, itfeel good. You won't like it,
you know what I'm saying. Justdon't get in your eyes. You're gonna
burn. Don't get in your eye. Yeah, yo, hear how you
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coming out the coming out the cribsmelling like pledge man swalling right now,
want to die down, die down? It is good though, I'm telling
you, man like yeah that limitthat t tree oil strong. Yeah it's
good. It's good. It's good. Yeah, no, we we definitely
now now. Um, you know, I had a little question. I
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had a little couple you know,because I was talking about some stuff earlier,
right, I was talking about somethings earlier, and um, maybe
I can ask you this question.What what you think about that word?
Um? Of of? What's thatword again? Tc? This submission?
Submission right? Because I was aboutto say another one right right? So
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how you feel about it? Howare you still about that word? Miss
Hannekenn You know what, wait beforeI get into this topic whatever anyway,
like I just my show right right, So, um, what do you
think about that word? Right?So? Um, this is my topic.
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I kind of a couple of people. Um. I was very interested
in what people had to say behindit. And it wasn't right or wrong
answer. It was more so Iwanted to hear the answers because I wanted
to hear the words people use right, right, right, right? So
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um, I asked a couple ofmen and females, right and um.
Initially the first couple of guys Iasked just went straight into control, like
that's a guy wanted to control.Put on these put on these damn covers,
don't move and cook my dinner,but don't leave the house at at
all. Well that's what they answered. They said, Oh, it's a
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form of control and lead you sayhello please, because it's not Oh no,
you got you got sixty, yougot one hundred and twenty seconds,
(33:13):
you got two minutes. So theseare my boys, Him, Anthony,
Hannah, Hi, how are youHannah. It's a good guy show on
nine o'clock Sunday nights, but thisshow is much better. What's up?
What's up? Cake? What's up? While everything all right? What's the
subject the subject to day submission.Talk it to the mic. Don't you
(33:36):
gotta talk to the mine with thisguy? He got jokes, you know.
No, no, no, no, no no, listen my show,
Honna. You can talk anything,curse, you can talk anything you
want. These guys are a littlebit more classy, much more, much
more classy than what you guys do. What are you laughing? You know,
because I don't know what. Idon't know if you got a joke,
(33:58):
so, but you know, butI know you. You know you're
serious guys, A serious guy righthere? Yeah, no, a Yankee
hat. So why don't we allget together and we'll go to a Yankee
gamer or in that game we hangout Hannah. What do you do for
a living? By the way,I'm a healthcare are you? Is that
all the stuff that your song?Right? Theneur Oh yeah, all right,
(34:21):
you might want to come on Limotalk. Oh look it's your name?
What guys? I you know I'vebeen doing this for twelve years.
I'm one of the originals on LongIsland. No, no, no crap,
all right, I built a podcaststudio at the Comedy club. Come
(34:44):
over here now, took this placeover. Bobby Bobby doesn't know what to
do with it. Here's what Iwill tell you to do. You send
me some of that stuff and it'scome out well, be friends. Send
it to me, bring it inif you want on a Sunday night,
and I'll do the same thing thatthey're doing. Definitely, even leave it
here, put it in the back, and then I'll do it on a
Sunday night because I know we'll makefun of it, but we'll have fun.
(35:05):
And I guarantee if somebody will buysomething, I probably if nobody buys
anything, I'll buy. Yes,do you want me off? Walk up
with you? Do you want meoff? He want me to spot back?
I want to go back to theshow about get back to the show
because we got a topic that wegotta get into, all right, and
we need um misshanded cage and I'llsell your stuff. Don't worry, all
(35:30):
right, I'm leaving undivided attention.All right, my friend appreciate you than
you to man. All right,Yeah, that's living. I'm just gonna
say, Limo talk. Tune in, Limo talk, that's Limo talk y'all.
Tune in time? What time withtime? If I beat the traffic
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and until the Bobby wants to kick. Yeah, and that's all night Sununday,
Sunday, nine pm. I don'tknow be knowing my own remember,
thank you you got the handecane on. You know what I'm saying. You
know, I put you see meand we got to go to the beach
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today. I need I need togo to the beach in the summer.
Better be ready Sunday Nights Long IslandTV. All right, you are okay,
all right? Back to handek man, back to handked. We need
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that we need that answer for that, alright. So initially, like I
said, the first few guys thatI asked said um, control um.
When I asked a few women,women associated submission with um like catering to
right and man. So it mademe wonder, you know, like,
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is there a disconnect between what malesthink a woman some mission of you know,
being submissive should be versus like whatthe women's idea of that? And
basically all comes down to, likewhat you guys were saying earlier, communication
right, right, um, Becausethe word like submissive or to submit is
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basically like um, giving up powerto someone else or something else. Right.
So, so when the when themen say control is kind of like
that's a scar, that's a scaryword and some like around some women,
right, because some women look atit as control like stuff like those first
initial men told me. But thenyou have women who look at it as
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you know, catering to wanting toplease their partner. You know, however,
whatever their partner likes, like,but wanting to please them. It's
not necessarily situations. Most of thosesituations are financial like like, um no,
the women I asked a financially stableon their own, you know.
Um it was more so having apartner that they love, that they respect
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that them well, so they wantto please them, right. They want
to make sure they're not hungry.They want to make sure, you know,
they have their favorite TV show onewhen they come home, if you
know they were a good partner forthem. It's not taking away their voice,
it's not taking away their power,it's not being controlled, but it's
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having this mutual understanding that you know, you make me feel this way,
and I feel good making you feelthis way. I want to make you
feel this way. Right, Sothat was some of the most of the
female's idea of submission, you know, But when you look at the word
what it means. It does meanbasically kind of like giving away your power
or having your power taken away,you know, in different situations. So
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I think the biggest thing is tofind out like what the man means,
you know, like if you're ina relationship, what you mean by saying
submissive versus what the woman means bysaid like, oh, okay, I'm
willing to be submissive, right,So what does they have to come to
understanding that what does this mean forme? And what does this mean for
you? And can that work?And I'm so so I'm saying what if
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you I'm saying, what if it'sone thing now? When then a month
from now with something else and amonth from now, you know what I'm
saying, things grow all they don't, right, I mean that's between you
know, that's that's the constant communication, right, and the constant you know,
open communication within that particular relationship thatthey have to work on. Um,
you know, one of the otherthings that kind of piggyback off of
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being submissive, right because actually oneit was one person only who happened to
be a female who when she heardyou know, I want my partner to
be submissive she initially thought badroom,right, okay, but she was the
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only one neither, you know,not any she was the only person who
said that, you know, so, Like that's what I'm saying, Like
people and their vocabulary, like peopleuse words or have an idea of what
words mean or what they mean tothem. That's kind of like I'm seeing
that really, Like I'm like,submissive really don't go together in relationships in
my in my world, you knowwhat I mean. Like, I think
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it's more so like compromise, right, Like because when you because being submissive
conducts sometimes have people put a negativeconnotation to it, because you're taking away
someone's power, right or you're givingaway someone's power, and you don't want
to feel like you have no controlover yourself. Yeah yeah, I feel
right. So, but in certaincircumstances you kind of have to. If
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you don't know something about something andyour partner knows and that you you trust
in this person and the decision they'regonna make is gonna benefit you guys as
a whole, you gotta let themdo them if you especially if you don't
know, right, Like you're kindof like, well, you know what
I am in the way my powerin this because I don't really know what
I'm doing. I don't want tomess it up, so I'm gonna let
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you. That's part of leading.That's where piggyback off of like quote unquote,
the male is supposed to lead,But what does that mean to?
Right? Can't can't like in ain a situation like that, can't anybody
lead? Right? If you're buildingtogether as a unit and I happen to
be a female who maybe I'm teachingyou about haircare, right, and I'm
like, this is the business that'sgonna make us millionaires and I know more
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about it than you do. Whywould I not tell? Why would you
want me? Why would Why wouldn'tyou want me to take the lead and
go for it? Right? Like? Why would you want to hold me
back from something that I feel like, Yo, this is gonna make us
get to where we want to beas those roles should be interchangeable, for
um can a healthy relationship? Butthat all depends on the person's concept of
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what leading. Can't can I ad? I can I add to that?
So let me say saying right whenall right? So right? So this
is this is the thing on thatright with guys, how we feel about
like how we feel about like whatyou wanna do, Like we'll support you,
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dude, whatever you gotta do.But as long as that don't come
into you know, like affecting youknow, the you know, what happens
in the house, like you knowthat you cleaning the house. We're not
really we're not really understanding what you'retrying to say. Yo, te yo,
don't play with me, bright becausemy persneft like you, and let
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me let me say something because thisis this is right right, So most
women right, don't speak for mostwomen? Okay, cool, okay,
cool, yeah, all right,all right, I'm gonna say what I
think then, right in my opinion, right, I think that, um,
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the problem is that women have toum you know still say Okay,
I need a man, right andnot a fact. Okay, so we
know so now okay, hold on, now, hold on, I'll let
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you talk, right, I'll letyou talk. What you mean. You
don't need a statish, that's asinine. We need each other because if you
didn't hold on, I agree,I totally agree. Hold on. I
know you, I know you isknock it off. Man. What I'm
trying to say is that we gottahave an understanding, right and usually if
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if the man is um the breadwinner, if the man is the red winner
and he's bringing in the higher amountof money, knock it off. Man.
I don't need to be Devil's advocate. I'm just because I want to
know. That was I was.I really wanted to know, because that's
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really your pride thing. Like atthe end of the day, I did
with that too. You know whatI'm saying. It's like if my lady
is making more money than me,I'm saying I'm not talking about that.
Don't just say just say what itis if she's might more money. No,
I'm not talking. I'm not talkingpeople come home with the money and
just put the check on the table. And the other part, I don't
(44:37):
even know what to do with itsbudget and we're saying the bills. Actual
audience, audience, y'all see whathappens when you don't listen to the person
when they're trying to when you don'tlet you get to the point. That's
why I communicate this, like Isaid, right, Like I said,
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my brother and sister, right,if a man needs a woman and a
woman needs a men, then thatmeans to have somebody has a compromise,
right, and then today's society,right, men are still making more money
than women. Right, If awoman makes fifty thousand dollars in the same
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industry, a man makes one hundredthousand or one hundred and twenty thousand.
Right now, we could we couldkeep going on and knowing about that,
but it's gonna keep showing us thesame stats. Right. So what I'm
saying is this, if the numbersstill outweigh the fact that excuse me,
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that women don't make as much asmen, but women still want to be
able to have good relationships and haverelationships with men that make more money than
them, because that's mostly what womenwant, you know, they want somebody
that's going to uh you know,for the most part, be able to
handle the bills, him to beable to help them. You know,
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if they got a goal in lifeand they want to do something that they're
actually able to help them and stillpay the bills, you know what I'm
saying, and then live a harmoniouslife even if the wife has to work.
I think that's a tax bracket thatnone of us is in. So
it doesn't matter if we in it. It doesn't matter if we're in it.
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This is the ideology and the howthe thought process. So even if
we're not in that thought in thatin that tax bracket, people think like
that. So they being they're gettingrelationships, and people make forty thousand dollars
right, So now realistically and realisticallyyeah, but but realistically, within the
people that we dealing with in atax bracket that were dealing with, right,
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majority of the women currently are makingmore money than the men. Okay,
and yeah, but but but Ifeel like, like I said,
money finding being able to pay billsor pay all the bills does not equate
someone to be a good leader.That's not what I said. And that
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doesn't that necessarily like equate to aharmonious like you know, because if you
make it more money and I don'tmake as much money, but you treating
me like crap, right, Likeit doesn't really matter. I don't necessarily
feel like, right, but Ishould deal with that, right, But
like that's not even that's not beinga good leader either, you know what
(47:28):
I'm saying. When women don't wantto be quote unquote submissive kater to or
you know, feel lesser than orhave less power in a relationship to somebody
who going to treat them like crapjust because they have more money. Right
of course, of course, Ithink part of being a good leader,
whether you're a male or woman,is making the best decisions that are going
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to benefit you as a unit.And a lot of times that can just
be who maybe is the most intellectual, right, or it depends on what
that what that you didn't need?You know what I mean? Because like
one person may have the money,but they don't have the ability to direct
with the money goals, or theydon't really want to handle that. You
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know. It's just like here,I work, I'll do this, do
this, come home, and youtake care of everything. Who's really the
leader in that situation? Right?Like now the pardoners cat, now the
house and the home. I getit. I totally understand. I understand
your point of view, right,But still at the end of the day,
(48:30):
it's even even what you said,right, where um, most of
the people that we deal with,right or the people that we may know,
or some of the people you mayknow or I may know, or
team may know, certain people ain'tin certain tax practice. We know,
we know, you know, weknow some people from the hood. You
know what I'm saying, whatnot.So what I'm trying to say is that
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even though they from the hood,you know, because we're all from the
hood, at the end of theday, you know, the hood.
You know what we mean when wesay that, Um, even though we
all from the hood and all that, at the end of the day,
it's like suburbs. I can neverget winded. But anyway, um,
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you know, like um, youknow, like the mentality is not going
to change. And even though withyou know, the point I even wanted
to touch on was like, um, men still make more money when they
get jobs after a certain age,they still make more money than the women.
It doesn't no matter what part ofyou know, any neighborhood. So
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even though you say that, andI could use somebody, right, So
all right, but you equate infinance to what then what I'm saying is
right because you you made a point. You said that most men. I
can't say most you said in thehood, most women on get more money
than the men right now, rightcertain a certain brackets, certain tax brackets,
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right, but we know what thatmeans. That's in the hood.
Don't beat around the bush. Youknow, you know what you're talking about.
So what I'm trying to say,Yeah, I had to being bound
real fast. So what I'm tryingto say is right, that's still you
still inaccurate. That's still an accuratestatement when you look at the look.
But what I'm asking you saying,what I'm saying is an accent. What
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I'm saying is men still make moremoney than women. At the end of
the day, all the women wantthe same type of dude. They wanted
to do that got some money thatthey don't gotta really, they don't gotta
be like, oh I gotta helphim, I gotta do that. I
just wanted to be taking on thetrip one time. H Well, I
gotta take this thing out to eaton his birthday. Why I bought him
a place. You understand, I'veseen friends, I've seen motherfuckers go through
(50:55):
that, and you know it's alittle wicked. So you know, but
then when they you know, youknow, now at this point in their
lives, because you know, thiswas fifteen years ago, now at this
point in their lives, they holdthe cards, but not even know.
It's not even that they choosing better. They hold the cards because they have
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you know, reliable um uh havealiable income or they have made or accumulated.
We're not gonna say nobody or no, no, no, I'm saying.
You're saying the males, the males, the males. Some of the
guys that I know have um accumulatedcertain amounts of money and have leveled up
to certain places in life where nowthey don't have to um, they don't
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gotta you know, live with theycheck that's on a section. They for
three four years just because you knowwhat I'm saying, just because they know
what does that have to do withbeing meeting or No, I'm not talking
about you, So I'm I'm chatting. But what I'm saying not talking about
(52:00):
leader. I mean a great leaderat the end of the day, comes
to somebody who can communicate with thepeople that they're trying to, you know,
give them, give direction to that'sa great leader. Somebody dot com?
Yeah heard the kuty dot com.Anyway, I said, I want
to know what you want to knowwhat a what a good male leader is?
Right? Cool? I just said, nah, I mean, we
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don't even have enough time for youto tell them. I lines, I
read it. I'm reading through thelines. Right. So anyway, like
I said, we got like threeminutes left, right, so I gotta
get this out real fast, right. Um, at the end of the
day, this is a man's world, right, this is a man if
women want to you know what I'msaying, Like, like, y'all gotta
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you know, really, color women, if y'all really want to get along
and have better relationship, right toit, y'all want to get along with
y'all man a little more. Y'allgotta be a little more cooperative, That's
all I want to tell them.Tell about that because I got a lot
of beautiful Black women men that Iknow that are very intellectual, that the
leaders that are entrepreneurs. No,No, they they're real serious women.
(53:07):
They're really important to their families,into their their towns and their villages.
And you know, I respect themto you know, to the fullest.
And they have helped their communities byinstilling information into the youth and things of
that nature. So I have noI have nothing against black women. I
think they're the strongest women on theplanet. But um, you know,
(53:30):
when it comes to us getting along, you know, as black men and
black women, we still got alot of bumps in the role because I
think communication but also but also it'sa power struggle. It's a power struggle
because we don't know the meaning ofthe words that we use to communicate.
Absolutely, I think that's yeah,yeah, you did touch on that.
If we learn, if we learnto use the words that mean exactly what
(53:54):
it is we're trying to say,as opposed to just don't. Yeah you
can't use submit, submit, puton these, put this, put on
this. No, that's partly likelike they put it on. But look,
that goes into like I said,with being an entrepreneur. You know,
I had to do the research forme. I had to read,
(54:15):
I had to write, you know, and that gives you knowledge on so
many things. So that's important andI think more of us need to,
you know, really spend time readingand writing. Education, education, learn
how to communicate, learning to explation. Yeah, I take like look up
or use it the saurus, usea dictionary. Yeah ready, Yeah,
black people, start teaching your kidsagain, you know, like like my
(54:37):
mother's like she said, give methis book. I'd be like, what
is this She's like, this isa thing, saurius. You should read
it like I'm not. And thenshe comes with the dictionary like here,
read the dictionary too. Like I'mlike, lady, yeah, that's already
know what it is. Cake knifethe movement, ww dot cake counting down
about a minute less. No,relax yourself, you know what. Yeah,
(55:01):
yeah, we're about to get outof here. We appreciate you.
We definitely had a great guest tonight. We had a great time. Yeah.
I had a good time tonight.We have to learn some new things
about you. Yeah, I'm gladyou like try to learn some new things
about while how he used my oil. He just took your whole line up,
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right, It took your whole Hetook your whole line up and ran
with it like it was his.I'm saying, though we don't do that.
It's a good oil. You knowwhat I'm saying. I just I
like it. I'm hearious I putit. I got hair all over,
so I put it all over.But I appreciate you put everywhere because you
know, like I said, it'steacher or you know what I'm saying that
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think I think like uh like that. It could be like bank. Yeah,
y'all go get that handecade, burnyou up. You know what I'm
saying sot where you need to beh yeah yeah, go get you a
bottle a handecae. Never sto andopen up more die like, have more
conversations. Have to have the hardconversations, ask questions. That's what we're
(56:05):
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What were we talking about? Yeah? Man, this Handeca on my bed
is what we're chalking about. Yeahyeah, So we got a special guest
(00:47):
in the house tonight. Tonight.Um, you know, I think,
uh, what was the last episodewas it? It was episode two when
we had handac oh Hunter, right, I believe it was up so too.
Right. So today we have theofficial unveiling of one of her products,
(01:10):
one of her main products. Actually, um it was it was this
guy who's been rubbing on his facesince we got here. You gotta hey,
hey man, you gotta get yousome handecade. Man. Yeah,
I got my beard glistening. Idon't know if you could see this out
in TV land with you on yourcomputer. What I'm saying you better get
your pixels right. You know whatI'm saying. Listening and hit boy.
(01:34):
So anything about it, Like Isaid, talk about it. We have,
um, you know the product.Um, you know the special set
up. You know, we havethe the entire set up today. So
um where they could get that from. Well, she's gonna come on and
she's gonna break. I don't wantto. I don't want to get your
(01:56):
handicade. Don hit him with theleast it's handcade beauty dot com. Okay,
understand, we know. Yeah.Yeah, we had to talk behind
to zoom up on that a littlebit later. Yeah yeah, and and
um, other words, what's goingon with you brother? Other words?
You know, man, Man,I started a new job. Man,
(02:17):
I'm got a job. I hadto you know what I had to.
I had to get a job.I had to get a job so I
could push this. I ain't goingback single man. Okay, you know
what I'm saying. Yeah, letmake financial sense. Talk about the single,
well, you know the single.I dropped it in January. Um,
(02:38):
you know I got it. Youknow what's the stream? Twenty thousand
streams? Yeah, I was aboutto say, you know, because everybody,
you know, first thing they lookat now is like, how many
streams you got? Yeah? Nah? But I I really, I really
would like to be at a millionat this point. So you know,
I'm to me, it's not it'snot doing what it's supposed to be doing.
So I gotta push a little bitharder. You know, it's kind
(03:00):
of my fault. I took abreak, right right right? You know,
um, you did. You didtake a break. You know a
lot of you guys that I knowyou guys took a break. You know
what, I'm doing a daddy I'mdoing a daddy thing. You know what
I'm saying. I got to spendtime with the kids. You know what
I'm saying with your kids? Youknow, the kids need you. You
know, you gotta spend time withyour kids. Definitely, definitely, But
(03:22):
um, you know, back tothe Mixica, back back to the mix
again. So, um, youknow, I got some topics that have
been kind of on my mind.You know, you know, a couple,
Um, you know some of somesome me and my girl and some
of my friends and some you know, family members that I know, we
(03:46):
was having a conversation about, youknow, about some of the topics that
guy. You know, guys arereally kind of on this like women got
to fall in line movement, andyou know, I just kind of want
to know where you guys, youknow what you guys think about that?
You know what you think about that, you know, because it's a it's
(04:09):
a touchy topic right now. It'sit's kind of touchy as far as women
falling in love, right So,Um, one of the words that was
used was I'm trying submission. Submission. Yeah, I think that was where
I took right so to submit.Guys say, all right, I need
(04:31):
you to be more submissive? Whatdoes that really mean? What women want
to they want to know what doesthat really mean when you say I need
you to be more submissive? Youknow, everybody out there that's in the
chat, you know, y'all typeyou know you're getting the chat, let
us know. Um, but youknow, like that's it, that's important,
(04:54):
Like that's it. That seems tobe very important right now. So,
um, what you think about thattea. Yeah, give me some
Yeah, give me some feedback onthat I'm saying, be most submissive.
I'm saying I don't really, Idon't really look at I don't really look
at my women. Is that that'ssubmissive? Okay? Now my girl is
(05:15):
definitely not submissive right at all?Well? I all right, I okay,
I hear what you're saying. Butyou know what I'm saying, like
you know, ken they you knowyou know, I think that you know.
And I don't want to say thatto get you slapped up or nothing
like that. You know what I'msaying with you to get punched in the
head like that door a lock aright, we got door lock. So
(05:39):
I don't want you to get punchedin the head. But um, like,
I think you know your girl maybe submissive in some aspects. Well
you know what I'm saying. Notyou know, I'm not submissive to nothing
stupid. But if you say something, I'm sure that if our life was
a was a real you would probablybe able to pick and point out certain
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times to where you right right,Because I think that if you're in a
relationship, I think that if you'rein a relationship, you it's gonna be
times when you're gonna be you,You're gonna have to be submissive, you
know, as a woman. Oryou know what that's changed that word,
right, Let's use a different word. Let's say you're gonna have to compromise,
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right, You're gonna have to compromisea little more than just um.
Let's use that word yeah, musclingyour way right, instead of just saying,
all right, cool, it's myway of the highway. It's my
way on the highway. You gottaget out, you know, because I
get that get thrown around or youknow I'm saying, do that that come
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with age? That comes with ageand maturity? Yeah? Absolutely? You
know. You know, as Igot older, I didn't really pay attention
to too much um shenanigans when itcame to, you know, dealing with
with with man. I believe,I believe to um being younger and make
a difference soon to striving full too, you know what I'm saying, as
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as uh as individuals and as acouple. You know what I mean,
right, makes a big difference.Yeah. Now, you gotta you gotta
be able to get along, Yougotta be able to communicate. If you
can't communicate with your with your girl, or your or your or your your
husband or your man or you knowwhat I'm saying, or your wife,
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then that's it gonna be spicy.You know, y'all probably ain't gonna be
together long or y'all gonna have awild ass relationship. You know what I'm
saying. That should gonna be different. You know I've seen something. You
know what I'm saying. If youknow me, then you know that I've
seen something. You know what I'msaying. I see some some stuff in
the Bronx and the lower east Side, you know what I'm saying. Like,
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But at the end of the day, I think you know, good
communication is uh. I think thatyou know that that always leaves space on
the table to say, give youthe option to say, all right,
cool, I'm I'm okay with that, you know. And also directions.
See a lot of times we don'tum talk about the direction of things.
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So for example, a guy couldsay, all right, I want you
to be submissive, but submission somebeing submissive or being in submission, it's
kind of sounds like you're putting somebodyin the part of me. Be you
putting somebody in the headlock and youtell them, don't move, make me
a sandwich. You know what I'msaying, like, Yo, bend over
(08:39):
like you know what I'm saying,like like like it's it's that you get
a little like you know what I'msaying. Like, So that's that's how
women are taking that word you're saying, some submit submit. That sounds a
little like put these handcuffs on andgo sit in the corner, and when
I'm ready for sexual intercourse, comeon out, you know, because that's
how the sound you know, theSoundBite or that one's gonna be crazy tawanding
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like that's all you said. Yeah, school, you think man, I'm
saying, listen, man, asfar as as far as submission goes,
you know what I'm saying, LikeI'm I'm in the belief of if you
got a certain type of paper.You know what I'm saying, women is
submitting to a certain type of paper. You know what I'm saying. Let's
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let's be honest. I have tosay this time. So all right,
cool, all right, cool?Um, Yeah, so I kind of
agree with that a little bit.I think you know I'm saying, Yo,
listen, the views out there theyI'm saying, listen, if you
ever touched any kind of money,you have some kind of money, I'm
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saying, you understand what's going onhere. You know what I mean.
It is what it is. Itis what it is. You know what
I'm saying. Money rules the world. And that's what a lot of females
believe. You're right, right likethat. You know that's accurate. Yeah,
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that's accurate. Yeah, money kindof make them everything. For for
for women that that that that wantto be taken care of, money is
you know what I'm saying. Butfor women that don't necessarily want to be
cradled, if they don't want tobe cradled by the money and they want
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to be able to do things thatthey own recognizance, then they thinking,
oh, I need to get myown money. So even money, even
though money still does rule right now, Um, the breakdown on how the
money, uh, you know,from the point of view from how you
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know an independent woman is going toutilize that money versus a woman who who
is married with four or five kidsand her husband makes you know, six
seven hundred thousand a year and she'sbringing in maybe like seventy eighty thousand a
year from a small you know,part time job that she does, or
(11:16):
even a small business that she mayhave started. It's like this, right,
when given, when given the opportunitythat has never been presented to you,
you don't really know how. Youcan't say how you're gonna react to
that opportunity until you face with theopportunity, you know what I'm saying.
So it's like we just here hypotheticallychoking. Yeah, you know what I
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mean. Like, so now ifset female, you put set amount of
money in front of her, whatever, we don't know what, we don't
know what's gonna happen. That's justthat's an equation. That's a hypothetical,
right a wrong, right, right, right right. We could we could
do that. We could do thatold night, you know what I mean.
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And then I'm saying we could getpeople on here that could give you
stories, candid stories about you know, the articulation of yeah, moving and
shaking with that paper. Yeah yeah, Okay, this guy over here,
take that fucking bucket hat. Whatwe're talking about? I see your face?
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Oh no, stop touching my micman, get out of here.
See I put in the full day'swork. You can't tell me nothing.
What happens when you graduate from screets, when you get it, when you
(12:43):
get a job, you'd be like, yeah, I got a job.
Yeah, I'm happy for my brother. You know what I'm saying. I'm
definitely happily for you, my brother. You feel me. But um,
yeah, so we're gonna we're gonnaget right back to you. We won't
come back with handy Kay, she'sgonna chop it up with us. Yeah,
(14:00):
cake Life, Shake Life came.Were back at it again. Y'all
(14:24):
know that this we can't lose.You already know what it is. Cake
Life, googles my Man Wildlive MagicMo. And we got a special special
guest in the building, Miss HannahKay. Hello, Hello, Hello,
(14:48):
how are you doing, Miss HannahKay? I'm good, Thank you,
thank you for having me. Yes, he's not nervous to the right.
I'm good. I don't want youto be. I'm good. I'm good
as you're not nervous, you knowwhat I'm say, because it ain't no
reason to really be nervous, Like, thank you for taking the time to
come out. Oh okay, allright. You know they always telling me,
(15:11):
everybody always telling me, say youain't speaking in the mic mo.
You know, Like I said,I do speak a little law merchant on
it. Um. But uh yeah, we we're happy to have you here.
I'm happy to be here. UM. We definitely want to know a
little bit more about you're How howcan I say? Should I say haircare
(15:33):
line or should I say like ohso, um, should you know?
How should I say it? Ihave licensed in cosmetology, right, so
okay, I'm a licensed cosmetologist whoum. As a second career, I
got into healthcare. Um, butit's still in my heart, like my
(15:56):
passion hair haircare. Um. SoI have always had a lot of hair
um, and when I got older, I just decided one day to kind
of like cut it off. Yeah, just shave it off off. Um,
just shaved it off. But youknow it was I went from relaxed
(16:18):
head and natural hair just like instantly, you know, and my scalp started
itching. Um. And my motheris very much into like natural stuff.
So I just kind of came upthis was years ago, just kind of
came up with oil just to kindof help relieve the itch and everything.
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And fast forward a couple of yearslater, I'm in healthcare and I would
always get comments on my hair andpeople would say, like, you cut
it off, but it kind ofgrows back so fast and it looks shiny
and it you know, like whatare you doing? I'm like, you
know, I didn't really do toomuch. Like I would just kind of
(17:06):
make oil and put it in myhair, and it wasn't all the time.
It would just be when I wouldneed it and stuff. And I
just you know, talking to peoplegiving me the idea, like you should
make that, People asking me,oh, well, can you make me
some? And you know, Ideveloped a formula trial and error and I
(17:26):
would give it out as samples andjust wait for feedback and work on,
you know, improving it based onthe feedback that I got. And like
a lot of people during the pandemic, we had a lot of time on
our hands. And even though Iwas in healthcare, the department I was
in was kind of slow. SoI just said, you know what,
(17:48):
what better time than now to fastforward to create a business. And that's
where I got hand of k Ilove it people. I've gotten amazing feedback.
I'll see your bid looking like somethingum, And that's kind of how
I started. I'm still starting.I still feel like I'm in the baby
(18:11):
stages, the beginning stages. Youknow, there's a lot that I don't
know that I'm learning on the way. Um, but I know where I
want to be right and I knowthat I just as long as I stay
focused and keep going, I'll getto where I want to be, regardless
of what I don't know. Now, So where do you want to be
right in stores? I want tobe Okay, yeah, y, that's
(18:40):
definitely a big name. Or we'redefinitely gonna need hand We want to see
handyke up. You know what I'msaying. We're gonna yeah, where can
they Where can they get handycake?Now? So you can order on my
website. I have a website.Um it's Hannah ka Beauty dot com.
Um, that's h A and andA h K Beauty b e A U
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t y dot com. Okay,yeah, all right, So, um,
I got I got a couple ofquestions. I got some questions for
you. Here we go. Whatinspired you? This is a this is
always a big question for me.What inspired you to really want to due,
(19:30):
you know, take on you know, the beauty business. Besides you
just you know, just going toschool for it and whatnot. Um,
I made you say, all right, I want to I'm gonna start this
business. And you know what I'msaying, like what what? Well?
To be honest, I what inspiredme was other people, other people,
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like I said, saying that theyliked it, appreciate it, it could
use it, that they saw animprovement. Um. People believing that it
was something that I could do.It was. It wasn't something that I
was thinking of doing honestly, youknow, but having people kind of seeing
something that I maybe didn't necessarily seeingmyself at the time, telling me go
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for it, like no, youcould do this, you should do this,
Like why you know, basically likewhy wouldn't you do it? And
I, you know, just thinkingabout it, like they're right, You're
like, why wouldn't I? Youknow, I have a little bit of
knowledge. Um at that time Ihad the time to invest, you know,
UM, so why not? Whatwhat what is it? Um?
(20:37):
Like what does it take like toreally like like, what what does it
take to start up? Research?Research? It takes research research. I
knew absolutely nothing. So we're likesome of the first things that you had
to well, I had a product, you know, not a service,
(21:00):
right, so I had to differentiatebetween the two. And then that depends
on how you market. You know, I'm a I have a product,
not a service. So um,I had to look at it as you
know, a consumers standpoint, right, because yes, I'm I'm I've created
a product that I want to putout there, but I'm also a person
(21:21):
who buys things. Um. SoI had to look at it from a
person who's buying something. What doI want? What do I want to
buy? What? What is itthat's gonna make me want this? You
know what I mean? And Ihad to figure out how am I gonna
make you know, put this outthere that it's it's useful that a person
can use this, and we wantto use this. Um. So I
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took research right, um in thebeginning. Any and you have to figure
out everything takes time. It takesdedication, um, it takes focus.
You know a lot of people haveideas, but it takes a lot to
actually sit down for hours at atime and write those ideas on paper,
(22:03):
Ye cross them out, scribbling mountand you know, you you it's research.
You try to find people who aredoing the same things you're doing.
Try to get as much information asyou can look you know, social media,
the internet, networking. You know, the Internet is a wonderful tool.
(22:25):
It can be crazy, but itcan be a wonderful tool. You
can find anything you want to findout on the Internet. It may take
time, but you can do it. It leads you somewhere, you know
what I mean. And in trialand error, but it's research. Like
I really had to do the research. Ask something there, right, So
what'sh your talkingt market there? Likelike who you know what I'm saying?
(22:48):
You say saphora, right? Butwhat you know what I'm saying? Like
of course people who are focused onthere, you know, physical health and
well being, right, because thatcan be men and old woman, um.
But my target audience is an individualwho was possibly having scout condition issues
(23:14):
right like dry scalp itchy scalp um. I've gotten feedback from people who have
had eggs and mall or service arisesum and told me like always helped me,
you know, So that's I wantto help people like that. Like
for me, that's why I didit, right, Like I was having
my scalt was like itching because Ihad not been used to not having a
perm. My hair's growing out curlyright like, it's a different texture,
(23:37):
no permit, but anybody can blackhair can use it as well. But
it was I had an issue andI needed something to help calm my scalp
and and so I want, youknow, people who feel like they're having
issues. I'm not a doctor,right like, so I'm not saying that
this is a cure, but thisis something that has helped me. I'm
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just saying, you've seen it work, right, and it works for you.
It works for me, and thiswork for people out you know,
I've got feedback, right right,So yeah, that's that's dope. What
you How does it feel on yourpart of me? How does it feel
in your skin to when you puta little the clean man, it's clean,
It's it's not really it's not reallytoo heavy, it's not really too
(24:22):
oily, you know what I mean. Well, I'm saying if you put
a lot in your hand any right, if you only put a drop or
two, what I'm saying, it'sreally light. You know, I'm talking
like I ain't used it. Ididn't use it before. I'm saying,
you know, the waves ain't allspinning there a little, they're gone right
now. Time had cut down timeand tell you drop you drop a couple
(24:45):
of drops on that. I'm tellingyou now, it's cleaning. It ain't
gonna be spicy. It's gonna benice and you know what, she ain't
gonna be glistening and all like gonnabe looking nice in the sun. So
I know you viewed it. Youhave a bed. Um, I'm gonna
ask you a question. You everget ingrown hands? And if you have,
have you felt like using it hashelped? All right? So I'm
gonna tell y'all the fact how itfeels on my skin and why I like
(25:08):
it? Right? So, umuh when I put it on my skin
right, um, and it's ascalp o you guys, I'm not saying
it's for skin, but no,I'm gonna tells. I'm gonna tell you
listen because I kind of know whatyou know oils, and you know I
(25:30):
know what essential oils do for thebody. I kind of know what they
do. So um, when Iread the back of it and I see
the oils that are in it,you know the contents. The first thing
I see when I see teacher oil, I think, um uh, it
was a disinfecting anti fungal um.What are some of the other properties oils?
(25:57):
Okay, all right, okay,so yeah we got you got different
oils in the in the you know, you have different oils in it.
But what I feel when I whenI put it on my skin, because
I've Ve been on my face,I put it on my face, it
feels like it's exfoliating my skin throughoutthe you know, for the first thirty
minutes. You know what I'm saying. Feel like it's because the teacher oil
(26:19):
is kind of like bright, butit's not too much. Because I have
actually put chechiol on my skin beforewithout it's burnt, and it's burned my
skin. You know what I'm saying, I had like burn you know what
I'm saying, like to mess upto you know, to give you a
little diskiloration marks. If that's partof the research I put into and creating
my phone. Yeah so you youyou whatever you did too, I guess
to counteract you know, the cheecheeoil from really burning up your skin,
(26:44):
and you know that that feels good. I like the you know, the
uh. I like how it makesyou know, my skin feel and it
definitely um when I have like ingrownheads, or or I get like a
dry spot, or even if I'mgetting like uh, you know, I'm
gonna tell you when I get whenI get out the shower, put a
little couple of drips and the babyailing and the lotion. I mixed it
(27:07):
all in all over me. Youknow, man, I'm a little kind
of Harry. Knock it off man. Pause, Paul, I said,
pause, I said, pause,knocking off this guy? All right,
man, I said, Paul,you know, we got somebody at the
door. Many see they got Yeah, we got somebody at the door.
(27:29):
Man, we got at the door. It's cold outside, coming and interrupting
the show and all that. Yougotta make sense. Yeah, yeah,
but um, you know, Idefinitely like the oiler most and I got
out the shower on sex. Howdid we go from putting oil on your
face and you getting off the shower? How did we do that? I'm
(27:52):
just saying, because you know,it's a scalp boy, and you know,
but I want to let people knowI do rub the oil all over.
You know what I'm saying. Itdefinitely works to me, you know
what I'm saying. It's going on, man, what's going on? He
feeling the day you came to stopby the show. Yeah, it's my
(28:14):
guy right here, it's my guyguy. Limo talk. You know what
I'm saying. Shout out the Limotalk, shout out the Limo talk them
out we go. Yeah yeah yeah, yeah yeah yeah yeah yeah. So
um, you know, um,definitely going get you a bottle of the
Handca scalp oil. It's definitely um, it's definitely uh. It feels good
(28:37):
on your skin. It's really light. Like you said earlier, you can
you can actually feel the effects ofit. Um yeah, and you can
you notice the next two it's myreal bottle right here. Yeah, yeah,
brought here with me a little bit. Yeah yeah, because you know
it's it's a little expensive. Iain't gonna live blog boo boo. That's
(29:00):
enough man, Just stuff strong man, you know what. Yeah, I
ain't gonna lie that. What islike sixty five dollars a bottle for this?
Now we're working currently three okay,cause I remember that thing was I
think it was high in the startin on the Police Street for a little
minute. What's the sea right here? Backscratcher. So it's uum Scout Massages.
(29:22):
So you get a complimentary scout mascage. When you back scratching, you
have a you know, yeah,you know, I get my my hand
the cake oil and then you know, I put it in my back and
then I get my back scratching andI rub it. This guy, I'm
saying, she was getting out thefiguring man like ready for me. You
(29:45):
know this, it's no good cue. I'm trying to get as me.
You know what I'm saying. Imix it with the chanelle and all that.
I mix it with the chanelle.Feel me a little bit of the
you know, Christian, you know, the savage and the Chanelle, a
little bit of the hand the cake. Rub that on, boo, you
get the shine you get there,you know. But the handicade a little
(30:06):
strong, so you know that teachyour old will. Definitely if you got
any other smells on, you wantto put that on first. You want
to put the handcade on first.I know that. But it's strong,
it smells good. You know whatI'm saying. You want to put this
on first. You want to letthat site minutes. You know what I'm
saying. That is advertising the promo. That thing sit for a little minutes,
(30:30):
say that fifteen minutes. Then sprayingon your cologne that teach your old
is strong and you got you gottalet it quiet down a little bit.
Yes, it is loud. It'sloud. It's loud on the the you
know what, it's strong, itfeel good. You won't like it,
you know what I'm saying. Justdon't get in your eyes. You're gonna
burn. Don't get in your eye. Yeah, yo, hear how you
(30:51):
coming out the coming out the cribsmelling like pledge man swalling right now,
want to die down, die down? It is good though, I'm telling
you, man like yeah that limitthat t tree oil strong. Yeah it's
good. It's good. It's good. Yeah, no, we we definitely
now now. Um, you know, I had a little question. I
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had a little couple you know,because I was talking about some stuff earlier,
right, I was talking about somethings earlier, and um, maybe
I can ask you this question.What what you think about that word?
Um? Of of? What's thatword again? Tc? This submission?
Submission right? Because I was aboutto say another one right right? So
(31:38):
how you feel about it? Howare you still about that word? Miss
Hannekenn You know what, wait beforeI get into this topic whatever anyway,
like I just my show right right, So, um, what do you
think about that word? Right?So? Um, this is my topic.
(32:06):
I kind of a couple of people. Um. I was very interested
in what people had to say behindit. And it wasn't right or wrong
answer. It was more so Iwanted to hear the answers because I wanted
to hear the words people use right, right, right, right? So
(32:27):
um, I asked a couple ofmen and females, right and um.
Initially the first couple of guys Iasked just went straight into control, like
that's a guy wanted to control.Put on these put on these damn covers,
don't move and cook my dinner,but don't leave the house at at
all. Well that's what they answered. They said, Oh, it's a
(32:52):
form of control and lead you sayhello please, because it's not Oh no,
you got you got sixty, yougot one hundred and twenty seconds,
(33:13):
you got two minutes. So theseare my boys, Him, Anthony,
Hannah, Hi, how are youHannah. It's a good guy show on
nine o'clock Sunday nights, but thisshow is much better. What's up?
What's up? Cake? What's up? While everything all right? What's the
subject the subject to day submission.Talk it to the mic. Don't you
(33:36):
gotta talk to the mine with thisguy? He got jokes, you know.
No, no, no, no, no no, listen my show,
Honna. You can talk anything,curse, you can talk anything you
want. These guys are a littlebit more classy, much more, much
more classy than what you guys do. What are you laughing? You know,
because I don't know what. Idon't know if you got a joke,
(33:58):
so, but you know, butI know you. You know you're
serious guys, A serious guy righthere? Yeah, no, a Yankee
hat. So why don't we allget together and we'll go to a Yankee
gamer or in that game we hangout Hannah. What do you do for
a living? By the way,I'm a healthcare are you? Is that
all the stuff that your song?Right? Theneur Oh yeah, all right,
(34:21):
you might want to come on Limotalk. Oh look it's your name?
What guys? I you know I'vebeen doing this for twelve years.
I'm one of the originals on LongIsland. No, no, no crap,
all right, I built a podcaststudio at the Comedy club. Come
(34:44):
over here now, took this placeover. Bobby Bobby doesn't know what to
do with it. Here's what Iwill tell you to do. You send
me some of that stuff and it'scome out well, be friends. Send
it to me, bring it inif you want on a Sunday night,
and I'll do the same thing thatthey're doing. Definitely, even leave it
here, put it in the back, and then I'll do it on a
Sunday night because I know we'll makefun of it, but we'll have fun.
(35:05):
And I guarantee if somebody will buysomething, I probably if nobody buys
anything, I'll buy. Yes,do you want me off? Walk up
with you? Do you want meoff? He want me to spot back?
I want to go back to theshow about get back to the show
because we got a topic that wegotta get into, all right, and
we need um misshanded cage and I'llsell your stuff. Don't worry, all
(35:30):
right, I'm leaving undivided attention.All right, my friend appreciate you than
you to man. All right,Yeah, that's living. I'm just gonna
say, Limo talk. Tune in, Limo talk, that's Limo talk y'all.
Tune in time? What time withtime? If I beat the traffic
(35:50):
and until the Bobby wants to kick. Yeah, and that's all night Sununday,
Sunday, nine pm. I don'tknow be knowing my own remember,
thank you you got the handecane on. You know what I'm saying. You
know, I put you see meand we got to go to the beach
(36:12):
today. I need I need togo to the beach in the summer.
Better be ready Sunday Nights Long IslandTV. All right, you are okay,
all right? Back to handek man, back to handked. We need
(36:32):
that we need that answer for that, alright. So initially, like I
said, the first few guys thatI asked said um, control um.
When I asked a few women,women associated submission with um like catering to
right and man. So it mademe wonder, you know, like,
(36:53):
is there a disconnect between what malesthink a woman some mission of you know,
being submissive should be versus like whatthe women's idea of that? And
basically all comes down to, likewhat you guys were saying earlier, communication
right, right, um, Becausethe word like submissive or to submit is
(37:15):
basically like um, giving up powerto someone else or something else. Right.
So, so when the when themen say control is kind of like
that's a scar, that's a scaryword and some like around some women,
right, because some women look atit as control like stuff like those first
initial men told me. But thenyou have women who look at it as
(37:36):
you know, catering to wanting toplease their partner. You know, however,
whatever their partner likes, like,but wanting to please them. It's
not necessarily situations. Most of thosesituations are financial like like, um no,
the women I asked a financially stableon their own, you know.
Um it was more so having apartner that they love, that they respect
(37:59):
that them well, so they wantto please them, right. They want
to make sure they're not hungry.They want to make sure, you know,
they have their favorite TV show onewhen they come home, if you
know they were a good partner forthem. It's not taking away their voice,
it's not taking away their power,it's not being controlled, but it's
(38:20):
having this mutual understanding that you know, you make me feel this way,
and I feel good making you feelthis way. I want to make you
feel this way. Right, Sothat was some of the most of the
female's idea of submission, you know, But when you look at the word
what it means. It does meanbasically kind of like giving away your power
or having your power taken away,you know, in different situations. So
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I think the biggest thing is tofind out like what the man means,
you know, like if you're ina relationship, what you mean by saying
submissive versus what the woman means bysaid like, oh, okay, I'm
willing to be submissive, right,So what does they have to come to
understanding that what does this mean forme? And what does this mean for
you? And can that work?And I'm so so I'm saying what if
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you I'm saying, what if it'sone thing now? When then a month
from now with something else and amonth from now, you know what I'm
saying, things grow all they don't, right, I mean that's between you
know, that's that's the constant communication, right, and the constant you know,
open communication within that particular relationship thatthey have to work on. Um,
you know, one of the otherthings that kind of piggyback off of
(39:37):
being submissive, right because actually oneit was one person only who happened to
be a female who when she heardyou know, I want my partner to
be submissive she initially thought badroom,right, okay, but she was the
(39:57):
only one neither, you know,not any she was the only person who
said that, you know, so, Like that's what I'm saying, Like
people and their vocabulary, like peopleuse words or have an idea of what
words mean or what they mean tothem. That's kind of like I'm seeing
that really, Like I'm like,submissive really don't go together in relationships in
my in my world, you knowwhat I mean. Like, I think
(40:21):
it's more so like compromise, right, Like because when you because being submissive
conducts sometimes have people put a negativeconnotation to it, because you're taking away
someone's power, right or you're givingaway someone's power, and you don't want
to feel like you have no controlover yourself. Yeah yeah, I feel
right. So, but in certaincircumstances you kind of have to. If
(40:44):
you don't know something about something andyour partner knows and that you you trust
in this person and the decision they'regonna make is gonna benefit you guys as
a whole, you gotta let themdo them if you especially if you don't
know, right, Like you're kindof like, well, you know what
I am in the way my powerin this because I don't really know what
I'm doing. I don't want tomess it up, so I'm gonna let
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you. That's part of leading.That's where piggyback off of like quote unquote,
the male is supposed to lead,But what does that mean to?
Right? Can't can't like in ain a situation like that, can't anybody
lead? Right? If you're buildingtogether as a unit and I happen to
be a female who maybe I'm teachingyou about haircare, right, and I'm
like, this is the business that'sgonna make us millionaires and I know more
(41:29):
about it than you do. Whywould I not tell? Why would you
want me? Why would Why wouldn'tyou want me to take the lead and
go for it? Right? Like? Why would you want to hold me
back from something that I feel like, Yo, this is gonna make us
get to where we want to beas those roles should be interchangeable, for
um can a healthy relationship? Butthat all depends on the person's concept of
(41:52):
what leading. Can't can I ad? I can I add to that?
So let me say saying right whenall right? So right? So this
is this is the thing on thatright with guys, how we feel about
like how we feel about like whatyou wanna do, Like we'll support you,
(42:14):
dude, whatever you gotta do.But as long as that don't come
into you know, like affecting youknow, the you know, what happens
in the house, like you knowthat you cleaning the house. We're not
really we're not really understanding what you'retrying to say. Yo, te yo,
don't play with me, bright becausemy persneft like you, and let
(42:44):
me let me say something because thisis this is right right, So most
women right, don't speak for mostwomen? Okay, cool, okay,
cool, yeah, all right,all right, I'm gonna say what I
think then, right in my opinion, right, I think that, um,
(43:09):
the problem is that women have toum you know still say Okay,
I need a man, right andnot a fact. Okay, so we
know so now okay, hold on, now, hold on, I'll let
(43:30):
you talk, right, I'll letyou talk. What you mean. You
don't need a statish, that's asinine. We need each other because if you
didn't hold on, I agree,I totally agree. Hold on. I
know you, I know you isknock it off. Man. What I'm
trying to say is that we gottahave an understanding, right and usually if
(43:53):
if the man is um the breadwinner, if the man is the red winner
and he's bringing in the higher amountof money, knock it off. Man.
I don't need to be Devil's advocate. I'm just because I want to
know. That was I was.I really wanted to know, because that's
(44:14):
really your pride thing. Like atthe end of the day, I did
with that too. You know whatI'm saying. It's like if my lady
is making more money than me,I'm saying I'm not talking about that.
Don't just say just say what itis if she's might more money. No,
I'm not talking. I'm not talkingpeople come home with the money and
just put the check on the table. And the other part, I don't
(44:37):
even know what to do with itsbudget and we're saying the bills. Actual
audience, audience, y'all see whathappens when you don't listen to the person
when they're trying to when you don'tlet you get to the point. That's
why I communicate this, like Isaid, right, Like I said,
(44:57):
my brother and sister, right,if a man needs a woman and a
woman needs a men, then thatmeans to have somebody has a compromise,
right, and then today's society,right, men are still making more money
than women. Right, If awoman makes fifty thousand dollars in the same
(45:19):
industry, a man makes one hundredthousand or one hundred and twenty thousand.
Right now, we could we couldkeep going on and knowing about that,
but it's gonna keep showing us thesame stats. Right. So what I'm
saying is this, if the numbersstill outweigh the fact that excuse me,
(45:39):
that women don't make as much asmen, but women still want to be
able to have good relationships and haverelationships with men that make more money than
them, because that's mostly what womenwant, you know, they want somebody
that's going to uh you know,for the most part, be able to
handle the bills, him to beable to help them. You know,
(46:01):
if they got a goal in lifeand they want to do something that they're
actually able to help them and stillpay the bills, you know what I'm
saying, and then live a harmoniouslife even if the wife has to work.
I think that's a tax bracket thatnone of us is in. So
it doesn't matter if we in it. It doesn't matter if we're in it.
(46:21):
This is the ideology and the howthe thought process. So even if
we're not in that thought in thatin that tax bracket, people think like
that. So they being they're gettingrelationships, and people make forty thousand dollars
right, So now realistically and realisticallyyeah, but but realistically, within the
people that we dealing with in atax bracket that were dealing with, right,
(46:45):
majority of the women currently are makingmore money than the men. Okay,
and yeah, but but but Ifeel like, like I said,
money finding being able to pay billsor pay all the bills does not equate
someone to be a good leader.That's not what I said. And that
(47:07):
doesn't that necessarily like equate to aharmonious like you know, because if you
make it more money and I don'tmake as much money, but you treating
me like crap, right, Likeit doesn't really matter. I don't necessarily
feel like, right, but Ishould deal with that, right, But
like that's not even that's not beinga good leader either, you know what
(47:28):
I'm saying. When women don't wantto be quote unquote submissive kater to or
you know, feel lesser than orhave less power in a relationship to somebody
who going to treat them like crapjust because they have more money. Right
of course, of course, Ithink part of being a good leader,
whether you're a male or woman,is making the best decisions that are going
(47:49):
to benefit you as a unit.And a lot of times that can just
be who maybe is the most intellectual, right, or it depends on what
that what that you didn't need?You know what I mean? Because like
one person may have the money,but they don't have the ability to direct
with the money goals, or theydon't really want to handle that. You
(48:09):
know. It's just like here,I work, I'll do this, do
this, come home, and youtake care of everything. Who's really the
leader in that situation? Right?Like now the pardoners cat, now the
house and the home. I getit. I totally understand. I understand
your point of view, right,But still at the end of the day,
(48:30):
it's even even what you said,right, where um, most of
the people that we deal with,right or the people that we may know,
or some of the people you mayknow or I may know, or
team may know, certain people ain'tin certain tax practice. We know,
we know, you know, weknow some people from the hood. You
know what I'm saying, whatnot.So what I'm trying to say is that
(48:53):
even though they from the hood,you know, because we're all from the
hood, at the end of theday, you know, the hood.
You know what we mean when wesay that, Um, even though we
all from the hood and all that, at the end of the day,
it's like suburbs. I can neverget winded. But anyway, um,
(49:20):
you know, like um, youknow, like the mentality is not going
to change. And even though withyou know, the point I even wanted
to touch on was like, um, men still make more money when they
get jobs after a certain age,they still make more money than the women.
It doesn't no matter what part ofyou know, any neighborhood. So
(49:43):
even though you say that, andI could use somebody, right, So
all right, but you equate infinance to what then what I'm saying is
right because you you made a point. You said that most men. I
can't say most you said in thehood, most women on get more money
than the men right now, rightcertain a certain brackets, certain tax brackets,
(50:07):
right, but we know what thatmeans. That's in the hood.
Don't beat around the bush. Youknow, you know what you're talking about.
So what I'm trying to say,Yeah, I had to being bound
real fast. So what I'm tryingto say is right, that's still you
still inaccurate. That's still an accuratestatement when you look at the look.
But what I'm asking you saying,what I'm saying is an accent. What
(50:28):
I'm saying is men still make moremoney than women. At the end of
the day, all the women wantthe same type of dude. They wanted
to do that got some money thatthey don't gotta really, they don't gotta
be like, oh I gotta helphim, I gotta do that. I
just wanted to be taking on thetrip one time. H Well, I
gotta take this thing out to eaton his birthday. Why I bought him
a place. You understand, I'veseen friends, I've seen motherfuckers go through
(50:55):
that, and you know it's alittle wicked. So you know, but
then when they you know, youknow, now at this point in their
lives, because you know, thiswas fifteen years ago, now at this
point in their lives, they holdthe cards, but not even know.
It's not even that they choosing better. They hold the cards because they have
(51:16):
you know, reliable um uh havealiable income or they have made or accumulated.
We're not gonna say nobody or no, no, no, I'm saying.
You're saying the males, the males, the males. Some of the
guys that I know have um accumulatedcertain amounts of money and have leveled up
to certain places in life where nowthey don't have to um, they don't
(51:39):
gotta you know, live with theycheck that's on a section. They for
three four years just because you knowwhat I'm saying, just because they know
what does that have to do withbeing meeting or No, I'm not talking
about you, So I'm I'm chatting. But what I'm saying not talking about
(52:00):
leader. I mean a great leaderat the end of the day, comes
to somebody who can communicate with thepeople that they're trying to, you know,
give them, give direction to that'sa great leader. Somebody dot com?
Yeah heard the kuty dot com.Anyway, I said, I want
to know what you want to knowwhat a what a good male leader is?
Right? Cool? I just said, nah, I mean, we
(52:20):
don't even have enough time for youto tell them. I lines, I
read it. I'm reading through thelines. Right. So anyway, like
I said, we got like threeminutes left, right, so I gotta
get this out real fast, right. Um, at the end of the
day, this is a man's world, right, this is a man if
women want to you know what I'msaying, Like, like, y'all gotta
(52:42):
you know, really, color women, if y'all really want to get along
and have better relationship, right toit, y'all want to get along with
y'all man a little more. Y'allgotta be a little more cooperative, That's
all I want to tell them.Tell about that because I got a lot
of beautiful Black women men that Iknow that are very intellectual, that the
leaders that are entrepreneurs. No,No, they they're real serious women.
(53:07):
They're really important to their families,into their their towns and their villages.
And you know, I respect themto you know, to the fullest.
And they have helped their communities byinstilling information into the youth and things of
that nature. So I have noI have nothing against black women. I
think they're the strongest women on theplanet. But um, you know,
(53:30):
when it comes to us getting along, you know, as black men and
black women, we still got alot of bumps in the role because I
think communication but also but also it'sa power struggle. It's a power struggle
because we don't know the meaning ofthe words that we use to communicate.
Absolutely, I think that's yeah,yeah, you did touch on that.
If we learn, if we learnto use the words that mean exactly what
(53:54):
it is we're trying to say,as opposed to just don't. Yeah you
can't use submit, submit, puton these, put this, put on
this. No, that's partly likelike they put it on. But look,
that goes into like I said,with being an entrepreneur. You know,
I had to do the research forme. I had to read,
(54:15):
I had to write, you know, and that gives you knowledge on so
many things. So that's important andI think more of us need to,
you know, really spend time readingand writing. Education, education, learn
how to communicate, learning to explation. Yeah, I take like look up
or use it the saurus, usea dictionary. Yeah ready, Yeah,
black people, start teaching your kidsagain, you know, like like my
(54:37):
mother's like she said, give methis book. I'd be like, what
is this She's like, this isa thing, saurius. You should read
it like I'm not. And thenshe comes with the dictionary like here,
read the dictionary too. Like I'mlike, lady, yeah, that's already
know what it is. Cake knifethe movement, ww dot cake counting down
about a minute less. No,relax yourself, you know what. Yeah,
(55:01):
yeah, we're about to get outof here. We appreciate you.
We definitely had a great guest tonight. We had a great time. Yeah.
I had a good time tonight.We have to learn some new things
about you. Yeah, I'm gladyou like try to learn some new things
about while how he used my oil. He just took your whole line up,
(55:22):
right, It took your whole Hetook your whole line up and ran
with it like it was his.I'm saying, though we don't do that.
It's a good oil. You knowwhat I'm saying. I just I
like it. I'm hearious I putit. I got hair all over,
so I put it all over.But I appreciate you put everywhere because you
know, like I said, it'steacher or you know what I'm saying that
(55:43):
think I think like uh like that. It could be like bank. Yeah,
y'all go get that handecade, burnyou up. You know what I'm
saying sot where you need to beh yeah yeah, go get you a
bottle a handecae. Never sto andopen up more die like, have more
conversations. Have to have the hardconversations, ask questions. That's what we're
(56:05):
doing over here at what come on, man, we're talking about but we're
talking about brushing his head and allthat many Hey, tune in next week,
man, love y'all, we're gonnahave somebody in somebody special Handacae beauty
dot com. They're gonna have ustasting some of the products. Shout out
to all entrepreneurs out there. Untilnext time, We love y'all.
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