August 4, 2023 • 31 mins
Take responsibility, take charge, give back, and make the best of these quick few trips around the sun, that's what Julia Barbaro believes and helps others within her marriage and family coaching. Add in there homeschooling her kids and being the best wife to her husband and partner Gino, plus a book about exploding cannolis, and you've got a great podcast!
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I am so happy and honored thatyou are all here today to spend this
next little bit of time meeting anamazing woman. We've been chatting before we
started a hit record. Found outwe have a lot of things in common,
and you'll find out what some ofthose are in the show. But
anyways, welcome very much to theshow, Julia, Barbara Barbara, Sure,
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that's perfect, okay, all right, well, welcome, welcome to
the Women Entrepreneurs Show. We areexcited to have you here today. Oh,
thank you so much for inviting me. This is super exciting. This
is one of my favorite topics.It is talking to women about life,
about raising a family, entrepreneurship,everything, So thank you exactly. Absolutely.
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I'm gonna put my glasses on herefor a minute so I can read
your your official bio. You area homeschooling mom of six children, a
wife, a certified life and marriagecoach, and an author. Julia is
an integral part of the behind thescenes operations of her husband her husband Gino's
business ventures, including Jake and Ginoand the Rand Family of companies. Julia
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was inspired to become a certified lifeand marriage coach after witnessing the power of
coaching. She felt compelled to giveback and motivate others to seek to set
goals, seek out their sole purpose, and ask what's next in their life.
Julia's passion is to empower couples tostrengthen their mind, love it,
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their communication, love that overcome obstaclesand seek clarity. Together. She helps
them create a life plan for themselves, as well as encouraging parents to guide
their children to adulthood. Julia isthe author of the Connoli's Exploded and a
Gelatto Blast, which we'll talk abouttoday, children's books about decision making and
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different paths that we can take inlife. Julia and her family live in
Saint Augustine, Florida, where theyenjoy the old city and the simple beach
life. So officially, welcome againto the program. Thanks again, absolutely
so. There's a lot in therethat we can unpack and talk about.
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Being a homeschooling mom, as Iknow, because that's what I did for
sixteen years in and of itself,is a career. It's an entrepreneurial endeavor.
And then you decided to become acoach. So I might just ask,
I'd like to always find out alittle bit about my guest background,
not necessarily the professional background that wejust read, but really a little bit
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about what led you to take thispath in life, whether it was the
homeschool and your children, but thento go into the marriage and family coaching.
So what kind of brought you fromwhere you were at the Yeah,
it's it's a long journey. Itwas a you know, we've been married,
my husband and I've been married twentyfive it'll be twenty five years this
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this summer, and yeah, thankyou. It's super long journey. And
I think back to it and it'salmost like this strange dream I had.
It's like, does that really happen? You know, because yeah, you
know, you get married and youthink, you know, life is going
to be simple and everything's going tobe great, and you come across all
these challenges and all of this likehow do I handle this? And we
we've gone through, just like everyoneelse out there, really difficult times,
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really beautiful times. You know,you got you got it all figured out.
You know, you just a coupleof children. You're like, oh,
okay, I got this, andthen God sends you this, you
know, this one child that justreally you know, really just challenges you.
You know, you're like, allright, I gotta figure this all
out again. Thank you? Yes, And I love that. When I
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look back, I'm like, thankyou. I needed that. I needed
that that challenge, and you know, just doing it being the homeschool the
homeschool mom, being the wife.I just always stay at home. I
always helped my husband in his businesses. He had a restaurant for you know,
fifteen twenty years, and I helpedhim as much as I could,
and I did as much as Icould in the outside world, but my
my I just stayed home. AndI was like, what what purpose do
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I have in the world at onepoint, because I'm like, you know,
marriage sometimes is kind of you know, I hate to say this,
but boring, Like I'm trying tofigure out where I fit in and all
these struggles. I'm like, well, you know, what value do I
have in the world? And Ireally questioned a lot of times, just
like that loneliness of being mother andjust having kids just need you all the
time, and having your husband comehome and just need some help, and
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it's like what am I? Howam I giving back to the world.
And it literally took like twenty plusyears to be like, Okay, look
at all the experience I have,all of that, like hard work,
all that difficult times, all ofI have no idea what I'm doing times
or you know, how am Igoing to get out of this time and
say, okay, no, whatwhat can I do for other people?
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It's just a little background. Iwas painfully shy. I would never in
my life give a talk to anyone, be on a podcast, and never
in my life. I mean,that was a fear like I can't even
describe. And I talk to morepeople and they're like, yeah, no,
I'm afraid of that too. I'mlike, all right, but I
thought, oh my gosh, I'mjust sitting behind the scenes because I'm so
afraid to be out in the spotlight. Like I'm like, people are missing
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out on their feeling the same waythat I was. You know, I'm
not sure what path they should takeor how to handle, you know,
a young child and homeschooling. Wetalked about that earlier, and I'm like,
I'm kind of I need to stepit up, but I need to
get over some of these fears becauseI want to help women. I want
to help families to figure it out. You know, I don't have it
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figured out, just a little headsup. I really don't, but I'm
figuring it out and I have thetools now. I went to coaching because
my husband was a coach, alife coach, and I saw the impact
he had and someone said, Julia, do you do that. I'm like,
oh no, definitely not. SoI went on. I secretly,
you know, looked into it andI'm like, I could do that.
Let me get a certification. Andmy kids were at the good, the
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perfect age where I could literally walkout and so is my dream to walk
out of the house and say,kids, I'll be right back, just
that that feeling of everything's okay,I can leave them for a minute.
And so I had to kind ofwait for that. It was almost like
that phase in life, Okay,I could move on. So I kind
of like that, what's next forme? I had that moment. I'm
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like, all right, what isnext for me? Now? I have
to give back a little bit.I have to you know, make an
impact instead of just staying at homeand yes, giving making impact to my
children, but now I have todo something else. And that's why I
became a life coach, because Ifigured I have experience. I've gone through
a lot. Why not. Yeah, that's beautiful. That's beautiful. And
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to be able to help, youknow, it's we learn every every quote
unquote mistake is simply a learning learningstepping stones. So if we can use
our learning moments to help others,that's a beautiful thing. That's a beautiful
thing. Now I have to askyou, just because I come from that
homeschool background, why did you decideto homeschool? What was the drive behind
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that? Interesting? I mean Iwas one hundred percent against it. I
just thought, weird people do that, and I'm not going to be one
of them. I'm just going toput it out there. But my sisters
started doing it. I'm like,what are you doing? You know your
kids are going to be weird.And because we didn't, this was you
know, our old oldest is twentythree, so it was quite a while
ago. She's like, just comemeet everybody. And so I went and
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I met these families and I'm like, what is happening? Like there's this
connection with each other. The youngerkids are playing with the older kids,
and there's no you know, wetalked about it earlier, there's no sitting
at a desk and doing work withthe same age kids. It was just
it was the way of life forthem. It was a family life where
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their whole life revolved around teaching.But not just at the table with books.
It was teaching in the kitchen.It was it was teaching when you
had a baby, like how youknow what I mean? It was.
I always tell my kids, youare you have like a masters in homech
like you can take care of anything. But there was. It was a
lifestyle that I fell in love with. And yeah, we got we got
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some I mean we A lot ofpeople were against it. I mean until
recently. Yeah, a lot ofpeople are against it. So it does.
It does give you some confidence aftersome years. But sure, sure,
And you know it's it's funny.I used to tell all the home
the new homeschooling parents or moms,especially because it tends to lean a little
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bit more on their shoulders, thatyou know, you taught them how to
tie your shoe, how to buttonyour shirt? They can you got this,
You got it. I love it. You taught them how to speak
English, that's right, It's justteaching them at home is just an extension
of that exactly. And I lovethat that is a wonderful message or a
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wonderful story. You know, it'shomeschooling is a beautiful thing and realizing that
there's so much more to it thanjust the just the background or the outside
that you hear, but actually goingin and getting to know the parents and
really seeing it and then the experience. I tell people, I would not
trade any of those years for anything, being able to spend all that time
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with the kids. So let's kindof shift from that back into your world
of being an entrepreneur and building yourcoaching business. There are a lot of
women that, obviously being the WomenEntrepreneur Show, listen to this and a
lot of women that we interact withand one of the things that they don't
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always they get stuck right or theyfeel that like there's there's some reason why
I'm not reaching reaching the success levelthat I'd like. And one of the
things that I know you speak tois your thoughts and your actions. And
as my other podcast, as manyknow, is Brainley, he speaks and
I talk a lot about the neuralsciencebehind that concept, but help our listeners
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to understand how their thoughts, whatthey're thinking, leads to their actions.
And what level of success, howit affects every aspect of the life,
not just their business, but alsotheir home life. Yeah. One of
the interesting I guess challenges I give. We have a through my husband's company,
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we have a women's group, andI talked to them every week,
and once in a while, youhave a new person come on and we're
talking about their husbands, and Isaid, what is the first thought that
you have when your husband comes throughthe door? I said, I challenge
you to think about that. Isaid, get a journal out and literally
write it down. I don't wantto hear what you say to them.
I want to hear your first thought. And it's so interesting because I come
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back the next week they're like,oh my gosh, I didn't even I
didn't even know I was thinking somethingnegative. Because what happens is we think
something negative, like oh my gosh, I can't believe he's late, or
I can't believe he's not even lookingover at me, the littlest of things.
But what happens is we're irritated bythat thought, and then the words
that come out of our mouth areusually not so nice, or the tone
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is not so nice, and it'sjust a little something to get us to
realize that our thoughts are so incrediblypowerful to how we react. Even the
kids. The kids walk through thedoor, what is your first thought?
Is it like, oh my gosh, look they didn't take their shoes off
already. And then it's like,oh my gosh, let me get a
hold of that for a second.What do I want it to be?
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And so now that my husband comesin, or the kids, and even
if it's something silly that they didn'tdo or did like, oh my god,
look I'm so thankful to see them, or something positive or just something
real. And I don't mean pretendand be faked not but just notice something
beautiful and good about the person walkingthrough the door. And I promise you
your actions will be so good it'sgonna change the littlest of things. And
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so even when we talk about womenand working or women and motherhood, sometimes
we wake up and we're like,oh my gosh, this is it's gonna
be a terrible day. You know, I didn't get much sleep. Yes,
you're going to have a terrible day, you know. Und you know,
maybe you're you're trying to work.You know, I'm not really fit
for this I mean, I've I'vedone it. I've When I first got
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into this, I'm like, youknow what, I'm not educated enough for
this. I'm not going to succeedin it. And I sat there thinking,
this is I'm paving my path forfor for my success. If I'm
going to say I'm not educated enough, how am I going to get educated?
So my new question was how amI going to get educated? And
so every time we have this negativethought, we have to replace it with
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something to do an action. Okay, if I'm not a good enough mother,
what does that mean? Good enough? First of all? But who
do I know that I could talkto that's a really good role model?
Or if you know I'm really I'mreally struggling in my marriage? Okay,
who do I know? Or whatcan I do differently? And that's the
thing we get hooked up on andhanged up on, just the negativity in
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our minds, and it definitely playsout. It plays that role in how
we live our day, maybe allof our relationships as mother, as wife,
is you know, entrepreneur, itdoes. And I don't mean,
like I said earlier, to befake, because that's really not what it
is. It's not like, oh, if i'm I think you have a
good day, it's going to bea good day. No, it's everything
that comes in front of you.Every little challenge that comes. Are we
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like, oh see, I knewthis was going to happen, you know
how about this is an awesome opportunityfor me. I need to I need
I need this little challenge today.What can I learn from it? Yes,
thank you, And I love thatattitude, and yes, it's not
realistic all the time, and yeswe have hard times and bad days,
and you know what I mean.I mean like, I'm very real thank
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you. You know what I mean. Yeah, for the most part,
if we just get a little awarenessof what we're thinking throughout the day,
we'll figure out why we do certainthings. Yeah, exactly. You know,
I tell I tell pupile all thetime. Your brain listens to everything
that you're thinking in your mind.So you have to be careful what you're
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telling it, what message you're sending, because if you, as you said,
start off that day with, oh, you know, I'm tired,
I don't feel good, the brainis going to focus on the fact that
you're tired and you don't feel good. It's going to focus on the things
that you tell it to focus on. So if you're focusing, if you
train yourself to think about I'm standingall right, you know, didn't sleep,
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might not have been that great,but you know what, the sun
is up another opportunity to do somethingwonderful. So yeah, it's it's that's
a very very important thing. Iconcur completely and even go a little further,
real real quick, is what arewe listening to? What are we
actually letting ourselves listen to, becauseyou know we, like I said,
I run a women's group and Ithat's one thing I do not put up
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with is bashing people, bashing husbands, never ever, because you can explain
your situation, all that stuff.But one we allow people to get into
our heads. Again, it's thesame it's the same concept and we don't
even realize it. So pay attentionto who you're surrounding yourself with. Yeah,
totally, totally, And this isthat's a very good looking at that
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relationship with your significant other. Ithink is really important for women entrepreneurs because
sometimes you're working sixty eight hours orI mean, there are times when you
are in the midst of building yourbusiness that you're in the trenches and you're
doing so much that it takes alot of time, and that can strain
a relationship, It really really can. What piece of advice do you have
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on that? What do you tellyou're you know, the women that you're
coaching, Because at the end ofthe day, the most solid relationship that
we want is obviously the one withour spouse, right the one that the
one that we're laying in bed with, the one that we are planning our
life with. We want that becausethat's going to be that. We want
that to be the one constant andthe one is able in our life.
So what advice do you give womenwhen they just get busy, going,
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going, going in their own lifeand they tend to to kind of not
be listening. And when I saylistening, I mean listening by watching and
reading body language and really really feelingwhat their spouse is. What do you
what a piece of advice do youhave for them to to be able to
still enrich and care for that relationshipand manage their business at the same time.
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Well, I think you just putit. I think you just said
it is watching paying attention to ourspouse like we sometimes we literally forget about
the Sometimes I'm like, oh mygosh, my poor husband is looking like
this for days and days I didn'teven notice. It's that awareness and to
say, seriously to ourselves, whatis important? Is my marriage important?
Because a lot of times like,oh yeah, yes, it's the number
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one thing, is it. Iwant you to prove it to yourself that
it is, because we do alot of times just we have our lists
who is important, and we godown the list and we just put the
check marks so yeah, no,I texted them yesterday or whatever. How
important is your marriage? I wanteveryone to just sit there and write on
a paper how important your marriage is? And are you showing like are you
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actually proving it? And what areyou doing to prove it? Because sometimes
we actually have to like give usour example, give myself an example that
I am putting my husband first.It's a hard thing to do, and
a lot of times we don't doit where we just say yes, yes,
we're doing it, but show ourselvesand show our spouse that they're important.
You know a lot of times wedo get well, he's working,
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so he's going to watch the kids, and now it's my turn, and
we kind of get we get alittle bitter, and maybe over the years
that bitterness has grown into something alittle bit, you know, more than
we realize, and to sit backand say, Okay, where is my
relationship right now? Am I holdingon to grudge? Am I holding onto
that bitterness? And do I wantto let it go? And do I
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want to have that conversation? Becausesometimes it's that conversation that we've been holding
off of because we're afraid to haveit, and so we just put it
off, put it off, andall of a sudden, it's years and
years and years we didn't even realize. They were like, what the heck?
Why are we so distant? Whathappened to our marriage? It's just
that little bit of putting off.Open up to your husband the last thing.
I mean, they just they adoreyou, and my gosh, if
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you can just say listen, youknow, I've noticed that we've maybe been
a little distant. I noticed youjust seem upset. I really I want
to go there. I want tofix that. What can we both do
to just take that one little steptoward each other, just little by little,
you know, don't expect you know, everything's perfect, and one conversation,
little by little be patient with yourself, be patient with them, and
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that's it just since to you know, to be real. But at the
same time open up a little bit. Yeah, I love that, you
know. I think what I havelearned my husband and I it was just
just last week was thirty seven years. Thirty eight years since the day.
That's amazing. So we've been marriedfor almost thirty seven years. And that
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I think it's sometimes as women entrepreneurs, we empower ourselves because that's the business
and we're focused on that business,and that almost takes something away from our
spouses because at the end of theday, the man wants to feel needed,
if he really does, that's justthat's just part of their makeup.
They want to know you need them. And so if you're a little too
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independent, then that sometimes it makesthem feel like they're not needed. And
then and then that starts that thatdrift. So with you, I agree
and I you know, and soit's very very cautious. A lot of
times people are funny about this,but they need to know that they're the
man in the house. They needto know that they're the head of the
house. And a lot of times, like you said, and I've seen
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it um and I've almost crossed theline a couple of times in a sense
where like I don't need you feel, you know what I mean, because
and I step back and I'm like, yeah, no, you know,
I if I had to just youknow, dissolve every thing that I'm doing
to stay home and watch my kidsagain, And sometimes I actually think about
that, I'm like, do Ineed another year? Should I take another
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year and just be present in myfamily? Because that's another balance. I
mean, you know, we havethe children, we raise our children,
and so a lot of times peoplelike it's not fair, but we have
the children, we raise them.We have the most amazing role in my
opinion. It's just it's so amazingand incredible that sometimes we forget what it
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is and it's just my kids areyou know, we're guiding them into adulthood.
And sometimes we kind of take theball, we take their eye off
them for a little too long,and sometimes I'm like, all right,
I have to bring myself back infor a second. And so it's kind
of balanced. It's kind of likea balance and I don't really like to
use that word, but just tofocus every day on where you are how
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much how much energy and effort areyou putting into your family, into your
marriage, into your house, intoyour business and figure every day I feel
like it's different. Yeah, right, Yes, some days one is going
to demand more absolutely other, andsometimes it's it's the flip exactly. Just
to be aware of it and it'sokay, it's all right. I think
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that's what it comes down to.There's not a manual for your life.
There's an a manual for you asan entrepreneur and mother, and you're kind
of making it as you go andseeing what works at the time. Because
our children grow up, we change, and so what's going to work for
you now It's going to be differentthan next year or even next week,
and so just where are you rightnow? I think that's very helpful for
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me. Yeah, being present ishuge and it gets really into the adjusting
the brain chemistry when you're talking aboutthat, that's where mindfulness comes into place
so importantly, is just taking thosefew moments every day to appreciate the now,
to let go of any you know, things from the past that may
still be stressing you or worry aboutthe future. For things happening happened yet,
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but really being in that present andthat's so so valuable when when you're
with your kids and with your spousetoo, to be there. And I
especially emphasize it with your kids becauseI'm feeling it now with my kids in
their thirties. I mean, mybaby last year turned thirty. All three
of my boys are in their thirties, and it's like, oh, I
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really really do miss the days withthem, you know, So take advantage
of every moment to be present andappreciate it. And there's a flex.
I tell people it's not a worklife balance, it as a work life
flex because sometimes, you know,I love that you got a flex and
and love it. You know,I love it. Don't don't don't don't
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resist it, just work with it. Go with it. Yeah, absolutely
absolutely ride that wave. Now.I one of the things that that we're
we're gonna I'm gonna put this upon on the ticker here in a minute.
But you and your husband did havetwo books, and I was watching
the little YouTube videos on them,and I really encourage everyone to take a
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look at them. Tell me alittle bit more about the books I mentioned
it than the in the what isit? The Cannoli exploded and the gelato.
Yeah, it's a lot of blasts. So yeah, they have to
be Italian foods, you know whatI mean, It has to be Italian
Italian. Okay, So the websiteis Julia and Gino dot com. But
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tell us about the tell us aboutthe books, because I think it's a
very interesting concept. Yeah. So, like I said, my husband teaches
people how to buy apartment buildings andhow to manage them, how to finance
them, and it's it's unbelievable.He's created this beautiful community of people and
a lot of families have been joiningbecause of our podcast, the Julia and
Gino Show, through the Jak andGino page and through that, we have
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a lot of children coming in andwe have children, you know, we
know a lot of children. AndI'll just how we teach, especially in
the homeschool world, of responsibility,how important it is for us as parents
to teach our children responsibility but alsolet them learn it and teach them how
to figure it out on their ownbecause a lot of times, you know,
they have the helicopter parent trying tofigure everything out for them and taking
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care of it. And so wethought, well, let's make a children's
book on responsibility and in the firstone with the Canolis exploded, the bakery
explodes, and these three characters wehave responsible Rhino, Pitty party Pig,
and creative Caterpillar. All three ofthem choose a different path to take.
Right something bad happens, what doyou do? And it's so interesting because
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a lot of times you see youchildren, something bad happens and they don't
know how to handle it. Andso this is just a little story on
watching the three character and the littlejourney on what they do. You know,
Pitty party Pig obviously, you know, feel sorry for himself or too
long, and it makes really poorchoices, which a lot of us do.
And I really love pity party Pigbecause you know, I feel sorry
for him. He's always making baddecisions. Responsible Rhino goes out and he
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and he takes care of what hethinks he has to do. Caterpillar wants
to be a little more creative,kind of like that entrepreneur type. But
it just shows the kids that there'snot just one path to take, there's
other opportun you know, there's opportunityin every path you take, and there's
learning lessons in each one. Soit just opens them up to that and
it's a fun it's a super funbook. It's very funny. The kids
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get a lot of laughs from it. And then it goes into the second
book, which another bad thing happensand they have to, you know,
realize that who they surround themselves withand who their mentors are really makes a
difference in their lives. And soagain it's just as fun little characters trying
to get through their little their littlelife and their little challenges in life and
how they make decisions and opens upconversation, which I think we lack as
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parents. Sometimes we just say,here's what you're gonna do. Yeah,
it's like, here, what wouldyou do in this situation? What character
do you really resemble or do youwant or you know, and so it
just it starts at conversation. Ilove that. I love that because those
are definitely are not skills that evenwhether you're homeschooling or not, they're not
necessarily skills that are in set curriculumthat you're going to see. And the
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public schools keep getting tighter and tighterand what they're teaching, so a lot
of the more out of the boxthinking sadly is going the wayside. Well
we are, we are scooting towardsthe top of the time. But I
want to come back to just thatthought of what the title of this this
episode was of taking real, takingreal responsibility and take charge of your life.
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What does that really mean? Whatmessage do you want that to convey
to the listeners today? Yeah,I would love for everyone just to sit
back and think about what they learnedin this show, because the responsibility is
such a strong word, and alot of times we put blame on everyone
everything, every situation in her life. That's why I didn't do this,
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That's why I made this decision.And to realize that, you know,
it goes back to me. Youknow, when I make a choice,
I want I am responsible for thatdecision. And yes, every choice or
decision we make does affect everyone inour life, whether we know it or
not. I think that's really importantto know. And even if we don't
make a decision, a lot oftimes we're like, no, I'm not
going to decide on this because I'mnot sure what to do. Well,
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that is your choice, that isyour decision, and I think that's important.
So maybe a good one, youknow, but responsibility is something that
is incredible when we take it,when we stop blaming everything and everyone around
us, take that responsibility and itkind of empowers you to actually do something
good. Just to take a littletiny step, not like a go sprint,
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I mean, really just take onestep in that responsibility path, like
like they're talking about in the Kid'sbook, Because little tiny responsibility, little
decision making over and over. Imean, it really does lead you on
the path that you're trying to you'retrying to be on, but a lot
of times things discourage you, andit's easy to blame everyone else. But
I just challenge everyone to just whatcan you be responsible today and right now?
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Yeah? Because you you can.When you take charge. Then you
can change your circumstances by the stepsthat you take and the things that you
do. I love that. AllRight, as we wrap this up,
I want everyone to know how theycan get in touch with you, and
so I'm running for those of youwho are just listening on iTunes or iHeart
or whatever. You can reach heron Instagram as Julia underscore barbaro is it
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pronounce that? For me? It'sbarbaro? But it's okay. So it's
it's b A R B A R. Oh. There you go. And
you can also Jake and Gino Julia. They have a wonderful podcast, the
Julia and Gino Podcast. You canfind them on Twitter as Jake and Gino.
So lots of different ways that theycan stay in contact with you.
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Thank you so much for being onthe show today. Oh thank you
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would love to just thank thank Juliaagain for being on the program. I
deeply appreciate and I'm honored with yourpresence, and i want everyone out there
to take a nice deep breath,go out and simply enjoy every moment.
I am so happy and honored thatyou are all here today to spend this
next little bit of time meeting anamazing woman. We've been chatting before we
started a hit record. Found outwe have a lot of things in common,
and you'll find out what some ofthose are in the show. But
anyways, welcome very much to theshow, Julia, Barbara Barbara, Sure,
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that's perfect, okay, all right, well, welcome, welcome to
the Women Entrepreneurs Show. We areexcited to have you here today. Oh,
thank you so much for inviting me. This is super exciting. This
is one of my favorite topics.It is talking to women about life,
about raising a family, entrepreneurship,everything, So thank you exactly. Absolutely.
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I'm gonna put my glasses on herefor a minute so I can read
your your official bio. You area homeschooling mom of six children, a
wife, a certified life and marriagecoach, and an author. Julia is
an integral part of the behind thescenes operations of her husband her husband Gino's
business ventures, including Jake and Ginoand the Rand Family of companies. Julia
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was inspired to become a certified lifeand marriage coach after witnessing the power of
coaching. She felt compelled to giveback and motivate others to seek to set
goals, seek out their sole purpose, and ask what's next in their life.
Julia's passion is to empower couples tostrengthen their mind, love it,
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their communication, love that overcome obstaclesand seek clarity. Together. She helps
them create a life plan for themselves, as well as encouraging parents to guide
their children to adulthood. Julia isthe author of the Connoli's Exploded and a
Gelatto Blast, which we'll talk abouttoday, children's books about decision making and
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different paths that we can take inlife. Julia and her family live in
Saint Augustine, Florida, where theyenjoy the old city and the simple beach
life. So officially, welcome againto the program. Thanks again, absolutely
so. There's a lot in therethat we can unpack and talk about.
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Being a homeschooling mom, as Iknow, because that's what I did for
sixteen years in and of itself,is a career. It's an entrepreneurial endeavor.
And then you decided to become acoach. So I might just ask,
I'd like to always find out alittle bit about my guest background,
not necessarily the professional background that wejust read, but really a little bit
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about what led you to take thispath in life, whether it was the
homeschool and your children, but thento go into the marriage and family coaching.
So what kind of brought you fromwhere you were at the Yeah,
it's it's a long journey. Itwas a you know, we've been married,
my husband and I've been married twentyfive it'll be twenty five years this
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this summer, and yeah, thankyou. It's super long journey. And
I think back to it and it'salmost like this strange dream I had.
It's like, does that really happen? You know, because yeah, you
know, you get married and youthink, you know, life is going
to be simple and everything's going tobe great, and you come across all
these challenges and all of this likehow do I handle this? And we
we've gone through, just like everyoneelse out there, really difficult times,
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really beautiful times. You know,you got you got it all figured out.
You know, you just a coupleof children. You're like, oh,
okay, I got this, andthen God sends you this, you
know, this one child that justreally you know, really just challenges you.
You know, you're like, allright, I gotta figure this all
out again. Thank you? Yes, And I love that. When I
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look back, I'm like, thankyou. I needed that. I needed
that that challenge, and you know, just doing it being the homeschool the
homeschool mom, being the wife.I just always stay at home. I
always helped my husband in his businesses. He had a restaurant for you know,
fifteen twenty years, and I helpedhim as much as I could,
and I did as much as Icould in the outside world, but my
my I just stayed home. AndI was like, what what purpose do
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I have in the world at onepoint, because I'm like, you know,
marriage sometimes is kind of you know, I hate to say this,
but boring, Like I'm trying tofigure out where I fit in and all
these struggles. I'm like, well, you know, what value do I
have in the world? And Ireally questioned a lot of times, just
like that loneliness of being mother andjust having kids just need you all the
time, and having your husband comehome and just need some help, and
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it's like what am I? Howam I giving back to the world.
And it literally took like twenty plusyears to be like, Okay, look
at all the experience I have,all of that, like hard work,
all that difficult times, all ofI have no idea what I'm doing times
or you know, how am Igoing to get out of this time and
say, okay, no, whatwhat can I do for other people?
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It's just a little background. Iwas painfully shy. I would never in
my life give a talk to anyone, be on a podcast, and never
in my life. I mean,that was a fear like I can't even
describe. And I talk to morepeople and they're like, yeah, no,
I'm afraid of that too. I'mlike, all right, but I
thought, oh my gosh, I'mjust sitting behind the scenes because I'm so
afraid to be out in the spotlight. Like I'm like, people are missing
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out on their feeling the same waythat I was. You know, I'm
not sure what path they should takeor how to handle, you know,
a young child and homeschooling. Wetalked about that earlier, and I'm like,
I'm kind of I need to stepit up, but I need to
get over some of these fears becauseI want to help women. I want
to help families to figure it out. You know, I don't have it
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figured out, just a little headsup. I really don't, but I'm
figuring it out and I have thetools now. I went to coaching because
my husband was a coach, alife coach, and I saw the impact
he had and someone said, Julia, do you do that. I'm like,
oh no, definitely not. SoI went on. I secretly,
you know, looked into it andI'm like, I could do that.
Let me get a certification. Andmy kids were at the good, the
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perfect age where I could literally walkout and so is my dream to walk
out of the house and say,kids, I'll be right back, just
that that feeling of everything's okay,I can leave them for a minute.
And so I had to kind ofwait for that. It was almost like
that phase in life, Okay,I could move on. So I kind
of like that, what's next forme? I had that moment. I'm
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like, all right, what isnext for me? Now? I have
to give back a little bit.I have to you know, make an
impact instead of just staying at homeand yes, giving making impact to my
children, but now I have todo something else. And that's why I
became a life coach, because Ifigured I have experience. I've gone through
a lot. Why not. Yeah, that's beautiful. That's beautiful. And
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to be able to help, youknow, it's we learn every every quote
unquote mistake is simply a learning learningstepping stones. So if we can use
our learning moments to help others,that's a beautiful thing. That's a beautiful
thing. Now I have to askyou, just because I come from that
homeschool background, why did you decideto homeschool? What was the drive behind
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that? Interesting? I mean Iwas one hundred percent against it. I
just thought, weird people do that, and I'm not going to be one
of them. I'm just going toput it out there. But my sisters
started doing it. I'm like,what are you doing? You know your
kids are going to be weird.And because we didn't, this was you
know, our old oldest is twentythree, so it was quite a while
ago. She's like, just comemeet everybody. And so I went and
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I met these families and I'm like, what is happening? Like there's this
connection with each other. The youngerkids are playing with the older kids,
and there's no you know, wetalked about it earlier, there's no sitting
at a desk and doing work withthe same age kids. It was just
it was the way of life forthem. It was a family life where
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their whole life revolved around teaching.But not just at the table with books.
It was teaching in the kitchen.It was it was teaching when you
had a baby, like how youknow what I mean? It was.
I always tell my kids, youare you have like a masters in homech
like you can take care of anything. But there was. It was a
lifestyle that I fell in love with. And yeah, we got we got
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some I mean we A lot ofpeople were against it. I mean until
recently. Yeah, a lot ofpeople are against it. So it does.
It does give you some confidence aftersome years. But sure, sure,
And you know it's it's funny.I used to tell all the home
the new homeschooling parents or moms,especially because it tends to lean a little
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bit more on their shoulders, thatyou know, you taught them how to
tie your shoe, how to buttonyour shirt? They can you got this,
You got it. I love it. You taught them how to speak
English, that's right, It's justteaching them at home is just an extension
of that exactly. And I lovethat that is a wonderful message or a
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wonderful story. You know, it'shomeschooling is a beautiful thing and realizing that
there's so much more to it thanjust the just the background or the outside
that you hear, but actually goingin and getting to know the parents and
really seeing it and then the experience. I tell people, I would not
trade any of those years for anything, being able to spend all that time
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with the kids. So let's kindof shift from that back into your world
of being an entrepreneur and building yourcoaching business. There are a lot of
women that, obviously being the WomenEntrepreneur Show, listen to this and a
lot of women that we interact withand one of the things that they don't
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always they get stuck right or theyfeel that like there's there's some reason why
I'm not reaching reaching the success levelthat I'd like. And one of the
things that I know you speak tois your thoughts and your actions. And
as my other podcast, as manyknow, is Brainley, he speaks and
I talk a lot about the neuralsciencebehind that concept, but help our listeners
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to understand how their thoughts, whatthey're thinking, leads to their actions.
And what level of success, howit affects every aspect of the life,
not just their business, but alsotheir home life. Yeah. One of
the interesting I guess challenges I give. We have a through my husband's company,
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we have a women's group, andI talked to them every week,
and once in a while, youhave a new person come on and we're
talking about their husbands, and Isaid, what is the first thought that
you have when your husband comes throughthe door? I said, I challenge
you to think about that. Isaid, get a journal out and literally
write it down. I don't wantto hear what you say to them.
I want to hear your first thought. And it's so interesting because I come
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back the next week they're like,oh my gosh, I didn't even I
didn't even know I was thinking somethingnegative. Because what happens is we think
something negative, like oh my gosh, I can't believe he's late, or
I can't believe he's not even lookingover at me, the littlest of things.
But what happens is we're irritated bythat thought, and then the words
that come out of our mouth areusually not so nice, or the tone
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is not so nice, and it'sjust a little something to get us to
realize that our thoughts are so incrediblypowerful to how we react. Even the
kids. The kids walk through thedoor, what is your first thought?
Is it like, oh my gosh, look they didn't take their shoes off
already. And then it's like,oh my gosh, let me get a
hold of that for a second.What do I want it to be?
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And so now that my husband comesin, or the kids, and even
if it's something silly that they didn'tdo or did like, oh my god,
look I'm so thankful to see them, or something positive or just something
real. And I don't mean pretendand be faked not but just notice something
beautiful and good about the person walkingthrough the door. And I promise you
your actions will be so good it'sgonna change the littlest of things. And
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so even when we talk about womenand working or women and motherhood, sometimes
we wake up and we're like,oh my gosh, this is it's gonna
be a terrible day. You know, I didn't get much sleep. Yes,
you're going to have a terrible day, you know. Und you know,
maybe you're you're trying to work.You know, I'm not really fit
for this I mean, I've I'vedone it. I've When I first got
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into this, I'm like, youknow what, I'm not educated enough for
this. I'm not going to succeedin it. And I sat there thinking,
this is I'm paving my path forfor for my success. If I'm
going to say I'm not educated enough, how am I going to get educated?
So my new question was how amI going to get educated? And
so every time we have this negativethought, we have to replace it with
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something to do an action. Okay, if I'm not a good enough mother,
what does that mean? Good enough? First of all? But who
do I know that I could talkto that's a really good role model?
Or if you know I'm really I'mreally struggling in my marriage? Okay,
who do I know? Or whatcan I do differently? And that's the
thing we get hooked up on andhanged up on, just the negativity in
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our minds, and it definitely playsout. It plays that role in how
we live our day, maybe allof our relationships as mother, as wife,
is you know, entrepreneur, itdoes. And I don't mean,
like I said earlier, to befake, because that's really not what it
is. It's not like, oh, if i'm I think you have a
good day, it's going to bea good day. No, it's everything
that comes in front of you.Every little challenge that comes. Are we
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like, oh see, I knewthis was going to happen, you know
how about this is an awesome opportunityfor me. I need to I need
I need this little challenge today.What can I learn from it? Yes,
thank you, And I love thatattitude, and yes, it's not
realistic all the time, and yeswe have hard times and bad days,
and you know what I mean.I mean like, I'm very real thank
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you. You know what I mean. Yeah, for the most part,
if we just get a little awarenessof what we're thinking throughout the day,
we'll figure out why we do certainthings. Yeah, exactly. You know,
I tell I tell pupile all thetime. Your brain listens to everything
that you're thinking in your mind.So you have to be careful what you're
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telling it, what message you're sending, because if you, as you said,
start off that day with, oh, you know, I'm tired,
I don't feel good, the brainis going to focus on the fact that
you're tired and you don't feel good. It's going to focus on the things
that you tell it to focus on. So if you're focusing, if you
train yourself to think about I'm standingall right, you know, didn't sleep,
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might not have been that great,but you know what, the sun
is up another opportunity to do somethingwonderful. So yeah, it's it's that's
a very very important thing. Iconcur completely and even go a little further,
real real quick, is what arewe listening to? What are we
actually letting ourselves listen to, becauseyou know we, like I said,
I run a women's group and Ithat's one thing I do not put up
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with is bashing people, bashing husbands, never ever, because you can explain
your situation, all that stuff.But one we allow people to get into
our heads. Again, it's thesame it's the same concept and we don't
even realize it. So pay attentionto who you're surrounding yourself with. Yeah,
totally, totally, And this isthat's a very good looking at that
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relationship with your significant other. Ithink is really important for women entrepreneurs because
sometimes you're working sixty eight hours orI mean, there are times when you
are in the midst of building yourbusiness that you're in the trenches and you're
doing so much that it takes alot of time, and that can strain
a relationship, It really really can. What piece of advice do you have
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on that? What do you tellyou're you know, the women that you're
coaching, Because at the end ofthe day, the most solid relationship that
we want is obviously the one withour spouse, right the one that the
one that we're laying in bed with, the one that we are planning our
life with. We want that becausethat's going to be that. We want
that to be the one constant andthe one is able in our life.
So what advice do you give womenwhen they just get busy, going,
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going, going in their own lifeand they tend to to kind of not
be listening. And when I saylistening, I mean listening by watching and
reading body language and really really feelingwhat their spouse is. What do you
what a piece of advice do youhave for them to to be able to
still enrich and care for that relationshipand manage their business at the same time.
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Well, I think you just putit. I think you just said
it is watching paying attention to ourspouse like we sometimes we literally forget about
the Sometimes I'm like, oh mygosh, my poor husband is looking like
this for days and days I didn'teven notice. It's that awareness and to
say, seriously to ourselves, whatis important? Is my marriage important?
Because a lot of times like,oh yeah, yes, it's the number
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one thing, is it. Iwant you to prove it to yourself that
it is, because we do alot of times just we have our lists
who is important, and we godown the list and we just put the
check marks so yeah, no,I texted them yesterday or whatever. How
important is your marriage? I wanteveryone to just sit there and write on
a paper how important your marriage is? And are you showing like are you
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actually proving it? And what areyou doing to prove it? Because sometimes
we actually have to like give usour example, give myself an example that
I am putting my husband first.It's a hard thing to do, and
a lot of times we don't doit where we just say yes, yes,
we're doing it, but show ourselvesand show our spouse that they're important.
You know a lot of times wedo get well, he's working,
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so he's going to watch the kids, and now it's my turn, and
we kind of get we get alittle bitter, and maybe over the years
that bitterness has grown into something alittle bit, you know, more than
we realize, and to sit backand say, Okay, where is my
relationship right now? Am I holdingon to grudge? Am I holding onto
that bitterness? And do I wantto let it go? And do I
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want to have that conversation? Becausesometimes it's that conversation that we've been holding
off of because we're afraid to haveit, and so we just put it
off, put it off, andall of a sudden, it's years and
years and years we didn't even realize. They were like, what the heck?
Why are we so distant? Whathappened to our marriage? It's just
that little bit of putting off.Open up to your husband the last thing.
I mean, they just they adoreyou, and my gosh, if
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you can just say listen, youknow, I've noticed that we've maybe been
a little distant. I noticed youjust seem upset. I really I want
to go there. I want tofix that. What can we both do
to just take that one little steptoward each other, just little by little,
you know, don't expect you know, everything's perfect, and one conversation,
little by little be patient with yourself, be patient with them, and
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that's it just since to you know, to be real. But at the
same time open up a little bit. Yeah, I love that, you
know. I think what I havelearned my husband and I it was just
just last week was thirty seven years. Thirty eight years since the day.
That's amazing. So we've been marriedfor almost thirty seven years. And that
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I think it's sometimes as women entrepreneurs, we empower ourselves because that's the business
and we're focused on that business,and that almost takes something away from our
spouses because at the end of theday, the man wants to feel needed,
if he really does, that's justthat's just part of their makeup.
They want to know you need them. And so if you're a little too
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independent, then that sometimes it makesthem feel like they're not needed. And
then and then that starts that thatdrift. So with you, I agree
and I you know, and soit's very very cautious. A lot of
times people are funny about this,but they need to know that they're the
man in the house. They needto know that they're the head of the
house. And a lot of times, like you said, and I've seen
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it um and I've almost crossed theline a couple of times in a sense
where like I don't need you feel, you know what I mean, because
and I step back and I'm like, yeah, no, you know,
I if I had to just youknow, dissolve every thing that I'm doing
to stay home and watch my kidsagain, And sometimes I actually think about
that, I'm like, do Ineed another year? Should I take another
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year and just be present in myfamily? Because that's another balance. I
mean, you know, we havethe children, we raise our children,
and so a lot of times peoplelike it's not fair, but we have
the children, we raise them.We have the most amazing role in my
opinion. It's just it's so amazingand incredible that sometimes we forget what it
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is and it's just my kids areyou know, we're guiding them into adulthood.
And sometimes we kind of take theball, we take their eye off
them for a little too long,and sometimes I'm like, all right,
I have to bring myself back infor a second. And so it's kind
of balanced. It's kind of likea balance and I don't really like to
use that word, but just tofocus every day on where you are how
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much how much energy and effort areyou putting into your family, into your
marriage, into your house, intoyour business and figure every day I feel
like it's different. Yeah, right, Yes, some days one is going
to demand more absolutely other, andsometimes it's it's the flip exactly. Just
to be aware of it and it'sokay, it's all right. I think
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that's what it comes down to.There's not a manual for your life.
There's an a manual for you asan entrepreneur and mother, and you're kind
of making it as you go andseeing what works at the time. Because
our children grow up, we change, and so what's going to work for
you now It's going to be differentthan next year or even next week,
and so just where are you rightnow? I think that's very helpful for
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me. Yeah, being present ishuge and it gets really into the adjusting
the brain chemistry when you're talking aboutthat, that's where mindfulness comes into place
so importantly, is just taking thosefew moments every day to appreciate the now,
to let go of any you know, things from the past that may
still be stressing you or worry aboutthe future. For things happening happened yet,
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but really being in that present andthat's so so valuable when when you're
with your kids and with your spousetoo, to be there. And I
especially emphasize it with your kids becauseI'm feeling it now with my kids in
their thirties. I mean, mybaby last year turned thirty. All three
of my boys are in their thirties, and it's like, oh, I
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really really do miss the days withthem, you know, So take advantage
of every moment to be present andappreciate it. And there's a flex.
I tell people it's not a worklife balance, it as a work life
flex because sometimes, you know,I love that you got a flex and
and love it. You know,I love it. Don't don't don't don't
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resist it, just work with it. Go with it. Yeah, absolutely
absolutely ride that wave. Now.I one of the things that that we're
we're gonna I'm gonna put this upon on the ticker here in a minute.
But you and your husband did havetwo books, and I was watching
the little YouTube videos on them,and I really encourage everyone to take a
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look at them. Tell me alittle bit more about the books I mentioned
it than the in the what isit? The Cannoli exploded and the gelato.
Yeah, it's a lot of blasts. So yeah, they have to
be Italian foods, you know whatI mean, It has to be Italian
Italian. Okay, So the websiteis Julia and Gino dot com. But
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tell us about the tell us aboutthe books, because I think it's a
very interesting concept. Yeah. So, like I said, my husband teaches
people how to buy apartment buildings andhow to manage them, how to finance
them, and it's it's unbelievable.He's created this beautiful community of people and
a lot of families have been joiningbecause of our podcast, the Julia and
Gino Show, through the Jak andGino page and through that, we have
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a lot of children coming in andwe have children, you know, we
know a lot of children. AndI'll just how we teach, especially in
the homeschool world, of responsibility,how important it is for us as parents
to teach our children responsibility but alsolet them learn it and teach them how
to figure it out on their ownbecause a lot of times, you know,
they have the helicopter parent trying tofigure everything out for them and taking
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care of it. And so wethought, well, let's make a children's
book on responsibility and in the firstone with the Canolis exploded, the bakery
explodes, and these three characters wehave responsible Rhino, Pitty party Pig,
and creative Caterpillar. All three ofthem choose a different path to take.
Right something bad happens, what doyou do? And it's so interesting because
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a lot of times you see youchildren, something bad happens and they don't
know how to handle it. Andso this is just a little story on
watching the three character and the littlejourney on what they do. You know,
Pitty party Pig obviously, you know, feel sorry for himself or too
long, and it makes really poorchoices, which a lot of us do.
And I really love pity party Pigbecause you know, I feel sorry
for him. He's always making baddecisions. Responsible Rhino goes out and he
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and he takes care of what hethinks he has to do. Caterpillar wants
to be a little more creative,kind of like that entrepreneur type. But
it just shows the kids that there'snot just one path to take, there's
other opportun you know, there's opportunityin every path you take, and there's
learning lessons in each one. Soit just opens them up to that and
it's a fun it's a super funbook. It's very funny. The kids
(25:22):
get a lot of laughs from it. And then it goes into the second
book, which another bad thing happensand they have to, you know,
realize that who they surround themselves withand who their mentors are really makes a
difference in their lives. And soagain it's just as fun little characters trying
to get through their little their littlelife and their little challenges in life and
how they make decisions and opens upconversation, which I think we lack as
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parents. Sometimes we just say,here's what you're gonna do. Yeah,
it's like, here, what wouldyou do in this situation? What character
do you really resemble or do youwant or you know, and so it
just it starts at conversation. Ilove that. I love that because those
are definitely are not skills that evenwhether you're homeschooling or not, they're not
necessarily skills that are in set curriculumthat you're going to see. And the
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public schools keep getting tighter and tighterand what they're teaching, so a lot
of the more out of the boxthinking sadly is going the wayside. Well
we are, we are scooting towardsthe top of the time. But I
want to come back to just thatthought of what the title of this this
episode was of taking real, takingreal responsibility and take charge of your life.
(26:32):
What does that really mean? Whatmessage do you want that to convey
to the listeners today? Yeah,I would love for everyone just to sit
back and think about what they learnedin this show, because the responsibility is
such a strong word, and alot of times we put blame on everyone
everything, every situation in her life. That's why I didn't do this,
(26:52):
That's why I made this decision.And to realize that, you know,
it goes back to me. Youknow, when I make a choice,
I want I am responsible for thatdecision. And yes, every choice or
decision we make does affect everyone inour life, whether we know it or
not. I think that's really importantto know. And even if we don't
make a decision, a lot oftimes we're like, no, I'm not
going to decide on this because I'mnot sure what to do. Well,
(27:15):
that is your choice, that isyour decision, and I think that's important.
So maybe a good one, youknow, but responsibility is something that
is incredible when we take it,when we stop blaming everything and everyone around
us, take that responsibility and itkind of empowers you to actually do something
good. Just to take a littletiny step, not like a go sprint,
(27:37):
I mean, really just take onestep in that responsibility path, like
like they're talking about in the Kid'sbook, Because little tiny responsibility, little
decision making over and over. Imean, it really does lead you on
the path that you're trying to you'retrying to be on, but a lot
of times things discourage you, andit's easy to blame everyone else. But
I just challenge everyone to just whatcan you be responsible today and right now?
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Yeah? Because you you can.When you take charge. Then you
can change your circumstances by the stepsthat you take and the things that you
do. I love that. AllRight, as we wrap this up,
I want everyone to know how theycan get in touch with you, and
so I'm running for those of youwho are just listening on iTunes or iHeart
or whatever. You can reach heron Instagram as Julia underscore barbaro is it
(28:27):
pronounce that? For me? It'sbarbaro? But it's okay. So it's
it's b A R B A R. Oh. There you go. And
you can also Jake and Gino Julia. They have a wonderful podcast, the
Julia and Gino Podcast. You canfind them on Twitter as Jake and Gino.
So lots of different ways that theycan stay in contact with you.
(28:49):
And of course I will pop uphere again the the website Julia and Gino
dot com, So stay connect it. I encourage everyone to stay connected with
Julia. She's just been you havebeen a wonderful guest on the Women Entrepreneurs.
Thank you so much for being onthe show today. Oh thank you
for having me. Absolutely my pleasure, my sincere pleasure. As we pardon
(29:15):
me as I wrap this up,I want to remind everyone to join our
community. Go to Women Entrepreneurs Extraordinarydot com and check us out. Join
us, join our different membership levelsthat we have. We have a lot
of different things there that you canexplore. You can just simply become one
of our members on the site andcross link. You get a full page
and you can cross link or themembership or your site to your own business
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site or whatever that whatever that lookslike or whatever you want that to be.
You can also send us in anemail if you'd like. If you
have a thought or a topic thatyou want to see covered on the Women
Entrepreneurs Show. Maybe you have aparticular business challenge and you'd like for me
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Send us a email at info atWomen Entrepreneurs Extraordinaire. Remember it's all plural
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women entrepreneurs with an s extraordinary dotcom. And we are so so so
happy and excited to be sharing witheveryone our collaborative book, which is Women
Excelling Everywhere. And what we're doingis we're bringing together amazing women to join
us in this collaborative book and totell their story. It's really all about
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what sparked your passion and your success. So it's what is your story in
your life. It can be astruggle that you've that you've been through,
that you've overcome. It can besomething you're still a journey that you're still
on. We just want to hearyour story, So shoot us an email
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(30:47):
dot com and mentioned the book inthe subject line and we will get back
with you. So until as I. As I close this up, I
would love to just thank thank Juliaagain for being on the program. I
deeply appreciate and I'm honored with yourpresence, and i want everyone out there
to take a nice deep breath,go out and simply enjoy every moment.
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