September 12, 2025 • 50 mins
Welcome to the crazy world of dating! In this laugh-out-loud episode, Laura dives into her latest dating app disasters — from cringy openers to unmatched awkwardness. Erik shares a hilarious (and slightly mortifying) story about an accidental wardrobe malfunction at the grocery store. Meanwhile, 25-year-old Producer Bryan steps in with some actually solid dating advice — yes, we asked, and yes, he’s qualified (sort of). It’s chaotic, relatable, and just the right amount of embarrassing. You don’t want to miss this one!
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Speaker 1 (00:10):
I think so well, I think I did love so anyway,
Hi guys, welcome to Laura Kane After Dark.
Speaker 2 (00:15):
Appreciate you tuning in. I'm Laura Kane. Does here be
Air Grimmer?
Speaker 1 (00:20):
Oh?
Speaker 3 (00:20):
I was gonna say, I'm Brad Pitt.
Speaker 1 (00:22):
Oh well, I'm glad I clariflactfied that, because I'm sure
people were thinking of that.
Speaker 3 (00:29):
Sure they were.
Speaker 4 (00:30):
I mean, I know.
Speaker 1 (00:33):
And how lucky Michael Caine. Michael Caine who.
Speaker 4 (00:38):
Just came out of retirement at the right page of
ninety two? What he's acting again? Oh my god, forget
what movie?
Speaker 2 (00:46):
Good for him?
Speaker 3 (00:46):
Good for him?
Speaker 1 (00:48):
Who just died at nineties?
Speaker 5 (00:50):
No?
Speaker 1 (00:51):
Who did I find out was alive?
Speaker 2 (00:53):
I looked this up.
Speaker 1 (00:54):
I'm like, is so and so still alive? And this
person is like ninety three? Darn it, I'll remember who
it is? A celebrity. We just my mom and I
googled it this morning. Okay, So we're going to talk
about three things this podcast. We're gonna talk about my
somewhat a little bit of i'll call it a brisk
(01:17):
walk through my hinge profile and my hinge prospects. And
we're going to play a little bit of a game
called Hinge Cringe about some of the things that the
guys put on their profile that I don't I don't
think that. I really don't think they should have put
it on their It's not it's not anappropriate it's just
(01:39):
like for.
Speaker 2 (01:40):
Me, I don't know. Anyway, we'll play those for you.
Speaker 1 (01:46):
Eric has some kind of like accidental exposure or was
it accidental or on purpose?
Speaker 3 (01:52):
Oh no, it was accidental.
Speaker 1 (01:55):
Okay. And then we got a request a DM for
one of our podcast listeners, for Brian. Oh, they would
like him to do not one, but a few segments
about dating and dating.
Speaker 4 (02:10):
Tips stay single. There you go.
Speaker 2 (02:13):
I'm like, why did he ever give dating advice?
Speaker 1 (02:15):
But hell so he's gonna do a little a little
bit for this personal and I'll I think her name
was Shannon, So Shannon, I made your well, we're gonna
make your dream come true.
Speaker 3 (02:28):
Shannon. He's very wise.
Speaker 1 (02:29):
He is a very wise man. But we'll see what
his dating tips have. We'll see, we'll see what's up
with those. But we need to talk about La joya
cosmetic surgery center, because they are life changers, they are
life savers.
Speaker 3 (02:44):
They are what they did for Jenny.
Speaker 1 (02:45):
Look what they did for my sister. They completely she
had implants, they were in too long, they were leaking,
they had scar tissue, and they managed to get him
all out of the way and give her an option
she wasn't even aware of, and that was using her
own tissue to form breasts. And Jenny, I'm sorry, but
(03:07):
I showed the guys your pictures of postop and what
they look like and rave rave reviews. Yea, they look
so so good and they're all still stitched up, but
they That's how good doctor Swiston is. That's how good
the doctors at La Joia Cosmetic Surgery Center are. They're
board certified. They have so many reviews, like thousands upon
(03:31):
thousands of five star reviews, and that's like that is
a testament to them.
Speaker 2 (03:37):
That is not a joke.
Speaker 1 (03:38):
I mean, that is like people walk away from La
Joya Cosmetic Surgery Center feeling like they are part of
their family, Like we've been part of their family for
years now, a long time. And then I had a
surgery doctor Swiston as well, who's extremely thorough, and I
mean we went in. Oh, my mom and my sister
(03:59):
are coming down today for her final. I don't know
if he's removing any stitches. I think that they disintegrated
this point. I'm going to see the two redheads.
Speaker 3 (04:11):
I'm going to get to see your mama. I'm going
to get to see mom, your.
Speaker 1 (04:15):
Mom, mother from another mother, father, your mother from another father. Yeah, whatever,
I don't know.
Speaker 3 (04:22):
Oh, I can't.
Speaker 1 (04:22):
Y my mom has red hair, my sister has red hair.
And Eric is he literally could be our brother.
Speaker 4 (04:29):
Yeah, I am a brother.
Speaker 3 (04:31):
And as Jenny, my carpet matches the drapes.
Speaker 1 (04:36):
I can't believe she said that. I can't actually actually can't.
I actually can't, Jenny. I'm sorry I had to out
you on that one. I totally had to out you
on that one.
Speaker 2 (04:45):
But okay, so.
Speaker 1 (04:48):
Just google Roya Cosmetic Surgery.
Speaker 3 (04:51):
Center LJCSC dot com.
Speaker 1 (04:54):
And maybe you're like, what's three sixty light bol I
keep hearing about this and I've been wanting to get
some ipo done. Oh my gosh, you need to see
the before and afters of this three sixty LiPo or
the BBL the butt lift, using your own fat to
make your little your cupcakes a little more cupcakey.
Speaker 3 (05:15):
A little more frosting for the cupcakes.
Speaker 1 (05:17):
I wanted some of Jenny's tissue to make my cupcakes
more cupcake. But you can't use somebody else's tissue. But
La Joya Cosmetic Surgery Center is in our backyard. We're
so lucky. They have so many awards. San Diego Magazine
just named them the best cosmetic surgery center in San
Diego and they're up for a BBB Torch Award for Ethics.
(05:41):
I mean, this the best of the best in our backyard.
So thank you La Joia Cosmetic Surgery Center. So all right,
let's I'm gonna go to my hinge. I'm going to
see there's some dudes I've been talking to you and as.
Speaker 3 (05:54):
You're looking for I walked in and Laura says to me,
we need to talk about something and I was like what.
I was like, what did I do now? And you
made a comment about my shoes.
Speaker 4 (06:08):
Oh they're bad.
Speaker 2 (06:11):
They thank you for reminding me about this.
Speaker 3 (06:15):
They're pumas they are.
Speaker 4 (06:17):
I just think for a celebrity stylist you should have.
Speaker 1 (06:20):
Absolutely, they're so comfortable, awful looking things I've ever seen.
And I don't mean to hurt your feelings. I don't
think I am hurting.
Speaker 3 (06:29):
Feeling you're not because you have a sweatshirt that has
a built in brawlt on the front of it.
Speaker 4 (06:38):
As a neutral. Uh, you know, as someone in the
middle who doesn't have an incredible sense it was totally fine, acceptable.
Those are bad. These are and let me break down wide.
The front is weird, the side is bizarre, the souls
are strange, and the color is terrible.
Speaker 1 (06:54):
So those your Adidas, your little flick of Adida right there.
Speaker 3 (07:00):
I say they were, I mean Adidas.
Speaker 4 (07:01):
Sorry, it doesn't even match the rest of your outfit.
Speaker 1 (07:05):
No, it's just a pop and it's got and it's
it's got pat leather.
Speaker 4 (07:08):
It's awful, terrible And the sides are so bad.
Speaker 2 (07:12):
That are so huge.
Speaker 1 (07:15):
They make your feet look like you're wearing skis.
Speaker 4 (07:19):
Yeah, Eric, they look like the Sea World logo.
Speaker 1 (07:22):
Now, I want you to be completely honest, promise, because
you just our listeners deserve this.
Speaker 2 (07:28):
Yes, I know where you got them.
Speaker 3 (07:31):
Where do you think I got them?
Speaker 1 (07:32):
Fashion Valley at the outlet center? No I didn't lost
America's No you didn't. Did you get them at at
an outlet center?
Speaker 4 (07:42):
No? Fashion Valley?
Speaker 3 (07:44):
No?
Speaker 4 (07:45):
Really, maybe don't, please don't tell me you ordered.
Speaker 3 (07:47):
Them all you tc No I didn't.
Speaker 1 (07:50):
Did you get them from like offer up or something?
Speaker 3 (07:53):
No?
Speaker 1 (07:54):
Did you get them as a gift?
Speaker 3 (07:55):
No?
Speaker 2 (07:57):
Okay, did you get them at the Adidas store?
Speaker 3 (08:00):
No?
Speaker 4 (08:01):
Where'd you get from?
Speaker 6 (08:02):
Oh?
Speaker 2 (08:03):
Big five or Dicks or something?
Speaker 4 (08:06):
Those are designer. Those are not sports.
Speaker 1 (08:09):
These are designer.
Speaker 4 (08:10):
Yeah, they don't make normal shoes in that color or ugliness.
Ross No what, No, those were expensive shoes?
Speaker 1 (08:17):
Well sometimes they Ross gets expensive shoes that are not
Nobody would buy like that. I'm the Max, Yes, no way.
Speaker 4 (08:29):
How much were they?
Speaker 1 (08:30):
Okay, wall, I'm gonna get this litte no.
Speaker 4 (08:35):
More or less less?
Speaker 3 (08:38):
Oh my god?
Speaker 1 (08:39):
Twenty ninety nine?
Speaker 4 (08:42):
Uh no, okay, wait, so you saw these under forty
dollars shoes?
Speaker 7 (08:48):
Shoes?
Speaker 4 (08:48):
They were the disc that you know, at one point
we're at least one hundred and twenty dollars, and you went,
I'm going to get.
Speaker 1 (08:53):
Those And they ended up a TJ Max because nobody
bought them.
Speaker 3 (08:56):
They were two twenty five and I got them for
twenty four ninety nine.
Speaker 4 (09:02):
So a two hundred dollars discount. I wonder why I won.
And they were some context clear.
Speaker 3 (09:08):
They're so comfortable, they're like bedroom slippers when.
Speaker 4 (09:11):
You spawn you should just wear slippers.
Speaker 1 (09:13):
Then on the shelf, did you go, wow, I'm going
to try those on right now.
Speaker 3 (09:22):
Yes. The first thing I did was I looked for
them in another color.
Speaker 2 (09:28):
Oh, because you don't have too much.
Speaker 4 (09:31):
I look, I'm gonna say something. I mean this in
the nicest way possible, not as an insult. But they're
a little gay, okay, even well even for you.
Speaker 1 (09:38):
I mean the color okay, So anyway you you looked
at it for a different color, but then you were like,
I'm fine with this.
Speaker 3 (09:44):
I tried them on in them all.
Speaker 4 (09:46):
Oh, I hope you didn't make that noise on the team.
Speaker 3 (09:49):
You probably did.
Speaker 1 (09:50):
So these are light because they looked like they weigh
like eight ten pounds.
Speaker 3 (09:54):
No, they weigh like maybe.
Speaker 4 (09:56):
It's more of an emotional weight you have to carry.
Speaker 1 (09:59):
Oh, emotional, but you know, whispering behind your back.
Speaker 3 (10:04):
Most of my shoes are very bright. I love like
a bread.
Speaker 4 (10:09):
And we have called out your shoes many times. These
are these might be worse than the red football shoes.
Speaker 3 (10:15):
Oh, by the way, I is he loves those, she
sleeps in them.
Speaker 4 (10:20):
That's not a selling point.
Speaker 2 (10:21):
That isn't that that makes a big ass shoes?
Speaker 1 (10:23):
Yeah, I think these are worse than the red football shoes.
Speaker 4 (10:27):
I think the red ones are a little bit worse
because the red ones are bigger, well a little sleeker.
Speaker 1 (10:32):
The only reason that they will be worse is because
he warm with the red pants.
Speaker 4 (10:36):
Remember red on red matches. These there's no matching here
with this.
Speaker 2 (10:42):
Color.
Speaker 4 (10:43):
The sides are ugly. The top is fine. They were
a little sleep on top. Besides the leather.
Speaker 3 (10:48):
The sides are ugly. That's the best arch.
Speaker 4 (10:50):
The giant arch on them. Yeah, they're so high.
Speaker 3 (10:53):
Do you like no?
Speaker 2 (10:56):
Okay, well we're in easy territory right.
Speaker 4 (10:58):
Wait, the red shoes you wear are just like hard
body easy exactly.
Speaker 3 (11:02):
Yeah, but they're not easy, So I do not support that.
Speaker 1 (11:06):
Of course you don't support him, But do you like
his shoe style?
Speaker 3 (11:11):
I don't pay attention to him. Do you like Kanye?
Speaker 4 (11:15):
I thought you vote for Trump?
Speaker 3 (11:17):
Oh my god, No, I did not.
Speaker 4 (11:20):
I love that joke it gets at the time.
Speaker 3 (11:22):
Did not, absolutely not.
Speaker 4 (11:25):
That's what you told me though.
Speaker 3 (11:27):
Never the election you said, oh god, I want no
I didn't.
Speaker 1 (11:31):
My guy, My guy, I know, he was like, oh
my god.
Speaker 2 (11:34):
Freaking out.
Speaker 5 (11:35):
He was.
Speaker 3 (11:36):
They are both vile.
Speaker 1 (11:37):
He was so happy.
Speaker 4 (11:39):
Oh my god, there's a funny always sudden Philadelphia joke,
or it's a whole episode where they keep talking about
how they were supporting their guy and it was very cooly.
Trump is like, our guy got screwed over though, and
they're like, you mean Trump, right, He's like what, No,
I wouldn't vote for that fact, Like, do you mean that?
He's like Kanye, we vote for Kanye West.
Speaker 3 (11:57):
I'd vote for him before I vote for.
Speaker 1 (12:01):
Taco No, let's get both of them out of our mouths.
Speaker 3 (12:04):
Taco tits, that's what I call them.
Speaker 1 (12:06):
Okay, so let's talk about your accidental exposing.
Speaker 3 (12:10):
Okay, this was probably what There's been so many that
have been so embarrassed.
Speaker 4 (12:16):
He put on those shoes and it burned his pants off.
Speaker 1 (12:19):
Well, okay, let's set the stage. Why did it happen?
Speaker 2 (12:25):
Where were you?
Speaker 1 (12:26):
What time was it?
Speaker 4 (12:27):
You could just tell the story this at the stage.
Speaker 1 (12:29):
Well, I just want to know when it happened, because
it happened on Sunday.
Speaker 3 (12:35):
Okay, I was at Trader Joe's.
Speaker 4 (12:37):
No, this, kids, this is awesome.
Speaker 1 (12:40):
Here's another The mom is going to come out and say,
this is why you wear underwear. But anyway.
Speaker 3 (12:47):
Well, okay, okay, okay, I had on actually these shoes,
it's getting worse. Jeans, okay, a T shirt?
Speaker 4 (12:59):
Okay? Was today? No?
Speaker 3 (13:01):
No underwear?
Speaker 4 (13:03):
This was today, wasn't. Nope.
Speaker 3 (13:06):
I'm walking through the store. I have my bags with me,
and I'm I picked up a thing of rice or
something and I'm reaching to put it in the bag
and there's a guy walking towards me and he just
smiles and looks me up and down and just smiles.
And I was like, that's weird. And it was that
that kind of elevator. I like, oh, And I didn't
(13:32):
think anything of it. I just kept walking and he
kind of walked past me and looked me up and
down again.
Speaker 1 (13:40):
And I thought, was he like kind of giggling or
was he like just like kind of like kind of
like looking at me up and down, like flirting a
little bit.
Speaker 4 (13:49):
Well, I thought, little take like a tasty kind of look.
Speaker 3 (13:51):
Yeah, Like I look at that snack and I'm like, damn,
I must look good today, Like and ever thought about
the shoes at all. I am now at this point
in the walking through the frozen food area to go
(14:12):
to the register. It happens again.
Speaker 1 (14:16):
With somebody else, a different person. It was it a
dude or a woman.
Speaker 3 (14:19):
It was a dude.
Speaker 1 (14:20):
And was he giving you a flirtatious look or was
he giving you a smug look or a funny look?
Speaker 3 (14:26):
It was actually the same kind.
Speaker 1 (14:28):
Of the same kind of hmm.
Speaker 3 (14:30):
Okay, I'm like, what is going on? And I looked
down at my shoes and realized I never zipped my
jeans up and everything was.
Speaker 2 (14:40):
Just Now when you say everything.
Speaker 4 (14:45):
I think we go to the soul.
Speaker 3 (14:48):
You know, yes, the opening to my jeans was wide open.
Speaker 1 (14:53):
Okay, so the but was it contained within withinside or
was there anything outside?
Speaker 3 (14:59):
It was half and haf see, there's no way.
Speaker 4 (15:01):
How did you wait? How would you get anything out
of your zipper accidentally? How does that happen?
Speaker 3 (15:06):
I don't even know.
Speaker 1 (15:07):
Well, I you zip when he when he put his
pants on and he.
Speaker 4 (15:11):
Got in the car, a little dance and then he.
Speaker 1 (15:13):
Got in the car.
Speaker 2 (15:14):
He got out like he was moving moving around?
Speaker 4 (15:16):
What do you mean half like? Are we are?
Speaker 7 (15:18):
We like?
Speaker 4 (15:19):
There's little just bill weight caught up on the balls
were in. There's no way you shaft was out. There's
no way you were walking with just no singing like
that part of the.
Speaker 3 (15:32):
Was still in my But.
Speaker 1 (15:34):
Then so you had okay, so you had the balls inside,
part of the shaft out, but head inside.
Speaker 3 (15:40):
Part of the head was inside. What a disaster.
Speaker 4 (15:45):
And then somehow you somehow the only person that saw
was a pervert, who was awesome.
Speaker 1 (15:49):
Two perverts, Yeah, two different perverts.
Speaker 2 (15:53):
Why do they.
Speaker 4 (15:53):
Say it's in the mission value? Why I'm not shopping?
Speaker 3 (15:57):
It is?
Speaker 1 (15:57):
He always shops at the I'm not shopping anymore.
Speaker 4 (15:59):
A bunch of perverts there. I get a round of
applause if I dropped my pants or something. That's crazy.
Speaker 1 (16:05):
And then he clogged the Tjack Max bathroom at Sports Arena.
That's a that's his TJ Max.
Speaker 4 (16:12):
So many stories you can't get that.
Speaker 3 (16:13):
Guess where I clogged it?
Speaker 1 (16:15):
Also, you clugged recently.
Speaker 4 (16:19):
A Marshals No on, you like that Marshal's down there on.
Speaker 1 (16:24):
I hardly ever go to a but yes, what was
the what was the holiday we just had? Labor Day?
Speaker 3 (16:30):
Yeah, Labor Day. I went to the Wild Animal parking
clogged the toilet.
Speaker 4 (16:35):
Well, that's okay, that's not that big of a deal.
That's a wild animal park.
Speaker 1 (16:37):
It is kind of a big deal because they have
those industrial like like suction toilets, just like that's one.
Speaker 4 (16:45):
That's a fee of strength.
Speaker 2 (16:46):
That is just your O my god, So you just
you just left.
Speaker 3 (16:50):
I'm sure, Oh sure, okay, can we Okay.
Speaker 2 (16:55):
We're going to get.
Speaker 1 (16:57):
Okay. So, uh, I told you about the guy that
said you only poop once a month. You need to
get that looked at. Okay, So that guy, that guy
texted me back, but it was just kind of, you know, whatever, whatever.
Speaker 3 (17:12):
But did anything go anywhere with that No, in fact,
because he was there.
Speaker 1 (17:17):
There are so many guys that I'm talking to now
that I'm losing track of who's who.
Speaker 3 (17:22):
Oh boy, Well, I'm not like thlirty.
Speaker 2 (17:26):
I kind of want to be a sluck.
Speaker 1 (17:27):
I kind of want to have a little sled knock
yourself out, I know. But okay, so empowerment, Like, a
couple of them are exactly my age, perfect, a couple
of them are forty four.
Speaker 4 (17:39):
But they don't care. Then what's the matter?
Speaker 1 (17:41):
Okay? And then did I tell you about the reality
TV guy? Yeah, okay, he's still in the picture. Now
here's one from Paul. Now. Paul is a tall African
American man and he's he's he's really funny. He sent
me a really funny message and I was telling him
that I was taking care of my sister. He looks
(18:03):
like this. Here he is like on a TV set
and he is he's fifty six feet he is, he's Christian,
lives in LA. Look at that. That's pretty good.
Speaker 3 (18:18):
Okay, okay, it might actually.
Speaker 1 (18:20):
Work fine for me because I don't I don't think
I need somebody around me all the time.
Speaker 4 (18:24):
So you just want like a swing Okay.
Speaker 3 (18:28):
Yeah, I think so for now, just to pull in,
pull into town.
Speaker 1 (18:34):
But look at this guy. We haven't gotten to that
far that far yet.
Speaker 4 (18:40):
Laura would be the person who just drive up to
LA to get.
Speaker 6 (18:42):
Some I probably would.
Speaker 1 (18:49):
Okay, let me see what this guy looks like. Oh see,
I don't like this guy, do I?
Speaker 6 (18:54):
No?
Speaker 1 (18:54):
No? You know what. I started talking to this one
guy and I'm like, wait, I kind of don't think
I drive.
Speaker 3 (19:00):
With this guy.
Speaker 4 (19:00):
What's the youngest guy on there?
Speaker 1 (19:02):
Okay, the youngest guy that I'm talking to. Okay, see
how old this dude is? This guy? Oh okay, what
do you think about him? And he's my age?
Speaker 2 (19:11):
He has salt pepper hair.
Speaker 1 (19:13):
This guy is, oh, will you turn up the roadcaster
because he has a voice thing a hinge cringe.
Speaker 4 (19:21):
Am.
Speaker 1 (19:21):
I let me see if I'm connected.
Speaker 4 (19:24):
You are?
Speaker 1 (19:24):
Okay, here we go, he says. My biggest date fail ready, I'd.
Speaker 8 (19:31):
Say my biggest date feel was a double date at
a drive in movie. We were seeing a scary film
and my friend and I went to the snack bar.
Decided to do a jump scare on our dates on
the way back, so we snuck up to the silver
Honda Civic and jumped in the window and screamed right
at a scary part of the movie, only to realize
(19:53):
that we had actually parked one row up.
Speaker 3 (19:58):
That was going back.
Speaker 4 (20:00):
Okay, that is funny, but how old is he fifty?
If this wasn't when he was like twenty, this is
that's kind of weird.
Speaker 1 (20:08):
And now I know, like his voice, I know, I
don't see he.
Speaker 4 (20:12):
Is he good looking?
Speaker 3 (20:13):
He is good looking.
Speaker 1 (20:15):
He is okay, He's got like kind of long salt
and pepper hair.
Speaker 2 (20:19):
He's got a big dog.
Speaker 1 (20:22):
I can't tell there he looks a little shaggy.
Speaker 4 (20:26):
I don't know.
Speaker 1 (20:26):
I'm trying to look for Okay, so let's see what
this dude, This dude is thirty eight.
Speaker 2 (20:32):
That's the lowest.
Speaker 1 (20:33):
Okay, Well, you know, I don't think that he lives
in North Park. He's sixty three.
Speaker 4 (20:36):
I like that, Okay, I think above twenty one is
like at that point, it's fair.
Speaker 1 (20:40):
He went to San Diego State. Same, we have a
lot of calmon already. He's opened a short term relationship
opened along. Okay, me too, monogamy. There he is sitting
on his bed meditating. I feel sorry for Look he
looks like he's learning looking at porn on his left.
Speaker 3 (20:57):
He kind of does. He looks like he's naked.
Speaker 1 (21:01):
What about this? What about that face?
Speaker 3 (21:03):
No, he's hands, he's got very pretty eyes.
Speaker 1 (21:05):
I know he's pretty ice. He's holding a baby.
Speaker 4 (21:08):
That voice?
Speaker 1 (21:08):
Really no, this was This is a different dude. This
is a different I'm so like. Okay, So a lot
of these profiles, it's hard to write a profile. And
you know what, I gotta give this to guys. Men
don't take as many pictures as women do, so it's
true it's hard for them to find photos that are
good enough to put on a profile. So you would
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have to put maybe a group photo because that's maybe
one of the only photos you have. You have to
you have to circle yourself or something. I don't know.
Speaker 4 (21:38):
I very briefly, very briefly experimented with the dating profile,
not really looking for days, just to gauge the field,
and I was like, dude, I have no good photos
of myself.
Speaker 1 (21:49):
That's why some that's why I give the guys a
pass when they do the bathroom selfie.
Speaker 2 (21:55):
Because well, because they don't.
Speaker 1 (21:57):
They don't have any other choice.
Speaker 2 (21:59):
You know, I have to give him pass for that.
Speaker 1 (22:01):
But I don't give these guys a pass for the
following hinge cringe. They can leave a little something about
themselves and with their voice.
Speaker 4 (22:13):
Which I think is a bad idea.
Speaker 1 (22:16):
You know, did I do it online? I don't know
if I did or not.
Speaker 4 (22:19):
But here's the thing. I think a woman's voice is nice,
but a man's voice in isolation, more often not doesn't
paint a good picture. I don't know.
Speaker 1 (22:28):
Some every once in a while, though, there's that voice email. Wow,
he sounds hot, like Eric for example, when I when
I didn't know his persuasion and I was no se
he didn't block. He's so fast, but he has like
a nice low voice. He sounds extremely handsome. So I
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was like, all about it.
Speaker 3 (22:50):
Like I said to Laura, I said, boy, were you
disappointed when you.
Speaker 1 (22:54):
I was just like, okay, So here are four examples
of what I'm dealing with on my hinge dating site.
Speaker 5 (23:06):
Oh boy, A boundary of mind would absolutely be true as.
Speaker 1 (23:13):
Yeah, you're up, let him tell us truth, Let him
tell us truth.
Speaker 5 (23:17):
A boundary of mine would absolutely be truth and the
entire truth, not just parts of it. And I would
tie it into a vulnerability because I've learned that vulnerability
is something that's extremely important in a relationship. If you
are vulnerable with each other, I do believe that supports the.
Speaker 4 (23:40):
Idea of love. And I'm gonna stick with that story,
thank you.
Speaker 3 (23:45):
And I'm gonna throw up at my mouth.
Speaker 4 (23:46):
Well, you know, everything he is saying is technically correct,
but there are things you don't say because it makes
me sound like a predator or something like that, and.
Speaker 1 (23:53):
It just it sounds kind of rehearsed a little bit,
and it kind of sounded a little like but like
you really wanted to ask somebody with.
Speaker 4 (24:01):
Well, it's a little pretentious, but yeah, you should be
vulnerable with your partner. But telling someone that they need
to be vulnerable, kind of predatory. It feels like trying
to take it. I don't know, maybe I'm being looking
into it hinge cringe.
Speaker 8 (24:12):
Number two, I need to work out every day no
matter what.
Speaker 4 (24:16):
I'm kind of like this guy. Actually, I think that's funny.
Speaker 1 (24:18):
The funniest thing to me is like the long like, yeah,
he has a play again.
Speaker 4 (24:24):
I kind of like that.
Speaker 7 (24:26):
I need to work out every day no matter what, kind.
Speaker 4 (24:29):
Of I kind of appreciate how he cares.
Speaker 3 (24:31):
He's got a sinus problem.
Speaker 4 (24:33):
Oh no, he just doesn't give a crap, which I
kind of like. It's funny.
Speaker 9 (24:36):
All right.
Speaker 3 (24:37):
Three this is ken.
Speaker 7 (24:40):
I look forward to meeting you and trying out new
experiences with special people. I have to go out and laugh,
have a good time, talk about different subjects and our
plans for the future.
Speaker 3 (24:52):
Looking forward to speaking.
Speaker 4 (24:54):
This is a guy in his fifties new experiences. I'm sorry.
Speaker 3 (24:59):
This is a that has that has a blow up
sex to his closet.
Speaker 4 (25:03):
Well, like, look at how that has just been out
of the game for.
Speaker 1 (25:06):
Like so out of he has no game. Like so
we can talk about subjects like what guy.
Speaker 4 (25:13):
That likes to have fun and do and laugh he's
probably forward to meeting you and sorry. Also he introduced himself.
He said, Hi, I'm Ken.
Speaker 1 (25:21):
Okay, well it's on your profile, but anyway, exactly why.
Speaker 7 (25:24):
Ken, I look forward to meeting you and trying out
new experiences with special people to go out and laugh,
I have a good time, talk about different subjects and
our plans for the future.
Speaker 4 (25:37):
Sorry, I like to have bad times.
Speaker 3 (25:39):
And that was creepy looking forward to see. Yeah, I
know he probably owned that house with like the sex dungeon.
Speaker 1 (25:49):
I know.
Speaker 4 (25:50):
I don't think he's I actually think he's probably a
really milk toast guy with no real world like no
eblenty years.
Speaker 1 (25:56):
I agree with you there that he probably is so
far out of.
Speaker 2 (25:59):
The game that he has no game.
Speaker 4 (26:01):
Because like his like word choice is like the most
generic thing I've ever heard of new experiences with special
people like okay, is he didn't like she was bored?
Speaker 1 (26:11):
Hinge cringe.
Speaker 9 (26:11):
Number four best travel story is the current one driving
south on US one and in the converted ambulance Spirit
that I made into a camper.
Speaker 1 (26:24):
Okay, you know, on public transit, and he was in
an ambulance that he converted into a camper.
Speaker 4 (26:32):
I think that's awesome, but this is really nimpicky. But
I hate little siloquisms that start like this where he says.
Speaker 9 (26:39):
Best travel story is the current.
Speaker 4 (26:41):
One, where it's like almost it's not even play on words,
but it's just what he said. Best travel story is
the current one, which is like it's not even play
on words, but it's just kind of quippi but not good.
Speaker 1 (26:52):
So he is like literally in something that we would
be traveling.
Speaker 9 (26:56):
Listen, Yeah, best travel story is the current one driving
south on US one and the converted ambulance here that
I made into a camper.
Speaker 1 (27:08):
Company where I keep all of my victims o his
van life.
Speaker 4 (27:13):
That's cool. My bigger problem is like he's got like
that nerdy little like my best camp travel experience is
my current one. Like it's almost like a like it's
like equipped that.
Speaker 2 (27:22):
I am my best of me I've ever been.
Speaker 3 (27:25):
He's like, miss Kane, does this tow lette smell like chloroform?
Speaker 4 (27:30):
That's not He's not creepy. You give this guy break.
The ambulance to camper is cool. I don't know, it isn't.
Speaker 3 (27:36):
He just sounds it's got all that he probably kept
all the equipment in it for what he cuts up
bodies and stuff.
Speaker 4 (27:42):
The metal table coming from talks.
Speaker 3 (27:47):
Where you could literally he could just keep you alive.
He saws your arm off.
Speaker 1 (27:51):
I don't know, because he has tons of like fentylstime.
Speaker 4 (27:56):
You guys talk like, oh, that's the voice of someone
who eats people. Like what, There's nothing wrong with that guy. Besides,
he just sounds.
Speaker 3 (28:02):
He's probably got a tattoo on his arm that says
like Hannibal the cannibal or something.
Speaker 1 (28:05):
Oh my god, Oh my god, I have to tell
you this tattoo story. What I showed you the picture. Oh,
my sister and I. She was recovering in a hotel
room in UTC area. So on Sunday, we just wanted
to chill and watch TV. Well, something was going on
with the TV and it wasn't working. It kept going out,
(28:27):
so we needed a guy to come.
Speaker 2 (28:28):
Up to look at the TV.
Speaker 1 (28:30):
So I see this guy has this tattoo of this
rosary kind of around his arm, and I was like.
Speaker 2 (28:35):
Hey, that's a cool tattoo. I really like rosaries. I
love religious art.
Speaker 1 (28:39):
It's cool. But like here it said like money rules.
So he goes, Oh, I got all these when I
was younger, like I kind of regret some of them. Now,
like this angel, there's an angel on his like biceps
rubs out.
Speaker 2 (28:55):
Oh no, wait.
Speaker 1 (28:56):
Till I show you this, and it's holding a machine.
Guy and it's an angel holding a machine gun. Okay,
I don't think I can show this. No, so I'm
gonna show this to you.
Speaker 4 (29:08):
Hold on, let me. It's positive.
Speaker 2 (29:12):
You are gonna die this poor guy. I'm like, why
have you not gotten this fits yet? Be in so
many years?
Speaker 6 (29:19):
Okay, okay, take a gander at that little girl angel girl?
Speaker 4 (29:30):
Are you sure it's a girl girl? No, I see that.
I can also see that as like a sideways No, boy,
it's bad. That's such a big camel toe, I know.
Speaker 1 (29:40):
Poor guy.
Speaker 2 (29:41):
And look what does that look like?
Speaker 4 (29:43):
The machine gun's fine, AK forty seven, that's what AK
foy seven looks like. No, the bigger problem is the
genitals on the area.
Speaker 1 (29:52):
It's sore on his arm. I know, just put like
a little leaf, put some flower. Oh my god, I
was laughing so hard. Okay, So, speaking of dating a camera,
let me read you something that we got. We got
a DM from a listener fan of Brian's.
Speaker 4 (30:11):
Well, she just said she wants some advice dating advice.
Speaker 1 (30:13):
Well, obviously no, I've sent you a couple of dms
where people are really sad that you're leaving, that they
like you a lot.
Speaker 4 (30:20):
Thank you to all my fans. Okay, I don't know you,
we'll never meet, but I appreciate you all the same.
Speaker 1 (30:28):
Here it is, ask Brian if he could do a
couple of segments before he leaves where he can give
dating advice or tidbits on dating men, et cetera. Please
with like a little Well, she has a little like
a halo on, so, uh, I don't really recall you
(30:51):
giving dating advice.
Speaker 2 (30:52):
Maybe you've sprinkled it in here and there.
Speaker 4 (30:54):
I think so.
Speaker 1 (30:55):
So do you have maybe like one or two like
little tidbits for her just to satiate her hunger for
your knowledge.
Speaker 4 (31:04):
I have some I guess maybe observations about the current
state of dating, but I will say it it probably
is going to vary based on the age bracket you're
dating in the old specifically, if you're looking for a man,
it does get harder the older you get. You start
dealing with people who you know have gone through multiple divorces.
(31:26):
They've got baggage things like that, and typically especially for men,
if you have failed to lock down a long term
partner in your later years. There's usually a reason why.
Can be true for women, but it's usually especially true
for men.
Speaker 1 (31:39):
When I see that on my dating on hinge, like
never married, no kids, and it's like, fifty that's a
red flag, right, isn't it.
Speaker 4 (31:49):
In your thirties that's still pretty normal nowadays, But fifties
unless you're like, you know, well Eric's never been married.
Speaker 1 (31:54):
But you know, I mean it sounds kind of glorious,
like I wouldn't have to deal with an ex wife
or any like Braddy Ki.
Speaker 3 (32:00):
Yeah.
Speaker 4 (32:01):
I mean maybe if it's just like you've been like
they've been in a series of like you know, non
like they were in like you know, a bunch of
like long term dating relationships, you know, but they just
never got red kids, maybe that's not a big deal.
But yeah, if like someone's someone's got like three ex
wives or something or two ex wives, I'd be.
Speaker 1 (32:16):
Like, hmmm, why so what are you saying?
Speaker 4 (32:19):
Just you have to be more picky, get to be
you get to be more careful, more diligent. That's that's
specifically if you're an older women or older man. I
would also say a complaint I hear a lot is
that women aren't getting approached by men as much anymore.
And I think there's probably a couple of reasons for that,
(32:41):
which probably aren't that important. But I also think that
women forget that you can actually be pretty damn successful
if you approach men yourself. Most men, at least you know,
not the ones who are like you know, the sex
magnets who are get women throw themselves at. Most men
will spawn pretty darn positively to a woman demonstrating initiative.
(33:05):
That's pretty cool for a guy, because it doesn't happen
very often. In fact, I have been in a relationship that
didn't last long because I thought it was so because
I and the only reason I said yes, it's because
she showed a ton of initiative, basically asked me, and
I was like, that's so cool. Sure it didn't last
meal long, but you know, if the chemistry's there, just
(33:25):
go ask somebody out. It's not that big a deal.
I think it's cool. I think also some of the
men that are a little too timid to ask women
that are actually probably some of the more tame men
that you might be interested in.
Speaker 1 (33:37):
Is it because they're afraid of I mean it's rejection, right,
I mean it's the fear of rejection.
Speaker 4 (33:42):
It's in combination of rejection. I also think I think
men are really afraid of coming across as aggressive.
Speaker 1 (33:52):
It's hard to be a man right now, huh, because
of all the things.
Speaker 4 (33:55):
I wouldn't say it's hard to be a man. I
think that's kind of like a that's what you hear
weak men complain about. I don't think it is hard
to be a man, but it has changed. And I
mean even in like at least my experience, even in
like you know, situations with you know, a long term partner,
I'm still like like mindful that I'm not coming across
as like a dick or aggressive or you know, forceful,
(34:18):
because it can as a guy, I can put you
on weird situations and you do that.
Speaker 2 (34:21):
So, Okay, what your gen what gen z?
Speaker 1 (34:24):
Technically you're gen z? Okay, do gen z? Daters go Dutch?
Dutch meaning split the check? Do you pay? Are you
expected to pay?
Speaker 2 (34:40):
I don't know what do you think about that?
Speaker 4 (34:42):
So there's a This is why dating right now too
is really rough. There's a huge schism in gen Zers
and maybe even millennials. Young men are becoming much more traditional.
Young women are still trending fairly you know, aggressive liberal.
So I think you're going to see not actually not
(35:02):
too traditional. Some men are going to be pay the
check type. A lot of men nowadays are going to
be split the bill because they don't want to be
taking advantage of quote end quote by women. There's a
lot of distrust and dislike for women right now in
the gen z not like a ton of ton But why.
Speaker 2 (35:18):
Because of the independence factor or that.
Speaker 4 (35:21):
No, it's because I think in like the dating marketplace,
women basically essentially hold all the cards. Like if you're
like an attractive young woman, you got to a bar
and you can get you know, you can find somebody
to spend the night with fairly consistently. If you're a guy,
it is much more of a rat race to find, like,
you know, the the hot chick and get a chance
with her. I think a lot of men are becoming
(35:41):
indignant at that. I think they have like perception of
what it is. It's really not as bad as they
think it is. But I think there's becoming dignantic because
they don't want have to try as hard as they
feel like.
Speaker 1 (35:51):
They have to on a first date, Do you pay
me personally?
Speaker 4 (35:55):
Yeah, I probably would, unless I'm going like a ton
of dates, or unless maybe first day. Also I'm not
going anywhere crazy expensive though, like, yeah, this is kind.
Speaker 1 (36:04):
Of a wast well second date, you really hit it
off with this girl, and so second date you're like,
you're not supposed some more nice than.
Speaker 2 (36:09):
Like little Italy.
Speaker 1 (36:11):
Then what if you asked, do you pay or do
you do you for first to have that conversation where
you it depends.
Speaker 4 (36:18):
Okay, if you like approach someone in person, ask them out,
then yeah you pay. If it's not a dating app, yeah,
I would say I'd say you probably should split that
because like you're both there are the intention of dating.
Like that's a that's like a mutual plan. I feel
like obviously if the guy wants to pay, that's probably
gonna be pretty normal. Yeah. But if, like if as
a guy, if you wanted to split it, I feel
like that would be pretty acceptable in that situation.
Speaker 1 (36:40):
I know, I know this is not the right thing
to say, but I don't think I would go on
a date again with a guy if he said here's
your half of the bill, like.
Speaker 4 (36:52):
Okay, and I funderstand that, but like also think about
it that I don't want to say that's exploitative because
but like that is kind of like a it's a
it's a very traditional it's also like kind of the
dick position in it, where it's like that's kind of
the lame thing to do well if it's hold on,
if it's like expensive or something, right, I don't really
have a problem with it. But if you're like, you
(37:12):
need to take me somewhere nice, oh, and you're like
I'm not swiming the bill with you, then I'd be like,
all right, so you like I don't want to be
your I don't want to be like your paper.
Speaker 2 (37:19):
Yeah yeah yeah.
Speaker 4 (37:20):
But if it's just like you went not for coffee
and he's like, you know, he won't cover your five
dollars coffee, it's just like a gesture. I would do it.
Speaker 1 (37:29):
I think next podcast you should do one segment on
like men truths, like single straight men truths.
Speaker 4 (37:40):
I don't know, it's such a weird.
Speaker 1 (37:42):
That she wanted she wanted I don't know she wanted
to know about like ro men think, how men think,
how about that.
Speaker 4 (37:48):
Well, it's complex and it's very simple. Well, let's say,
for my for my first segment, my tidbit is be cautious.
And I would say, if you want to have more success,
be a little bit more aggressive. I think women should
be a little bit well they don't not should or
shouldn't anything, But if you want to see a little
(38:08):
bit more success, I'd say, show a little bit more initiative.
Aggresses a bad word, be a little bit more forward. Afraid, Yeah,
I mean honestly, like, even if like a guy rejects you,
he's gonna be so flattered that.
Speaker 2 (38:20):
Yeah, but you're gonna feel like shit not compare.
Speaker 4 (38:24):
Yeah, but it's so much worse for men because like,
if you get rejected as a guy, like halftime, it's like,
h no, like that is like a much more likely scenario. Now.
Most times they'll be like, no, I'm sorry, but like, also,
oh my god.
Speaker 1 (38:36):
You have hurt my feelings. Oh my god, about my
feelings if I got rejected.
Speaker 4 (38:39):
Yeah, but if like, if I reject somebody, I would
feel so bad. They'd be like, oh, that's so sweet,
that's so nice. If you bound like I'm sorry, I'm
not interested, but for women like and I've heard I
hear the first hand story. Sometimes I go like, wow,
you're kind of addict to that. Dude, he was just
trying to ask you out, like it wasn't that big
of a deal. He'd be nice.
Speaker 3 (38:56):
Do you have any like people talking a SoundBite?
Speaker 1 (39:00):
No?
Speaker 3 (39:01):
Do you have any like music?
Speaker 1 (39:03):
Do I like the restaurant in the background? Okay, here,
let me get let me pull something up.
Speaker 3 (39:08):
So I'm gonna do We're gonna be on it.
Speaker 4 (39:10):
This is just this is what's playing the club.
Speaker 1 (39:14):
Yeah, we're some cool place where we're eating. Right, is
this expensive place? This is a club, but it's like
it's a viby.
Speaker 4 (39:22):
This is the this is like a rave. Yeah. Yeah.
Speaker 3 (39:25):
So we're like, you know.
Speaker 1 (39:26):
Okay, so are we Are we done with our snacks?
Are we like dancing?
Speaker 3 (39:30):
Are we just we're done? We're talking?
Speaker 2 (39:32):
Do we have our drinks?
Speaker 4 (39:33):
Like my coke? You guys are staying up against the
wall and the club, and.
Speaker 1 (39:38):
So I'm like, this is our first day. Okay, So
so I want you to you want me to start?
So have you ever come here before? Because it's kind
of a cool. I like the vibe in here.
Speaker 2 (39:54):
It's it's it's it's a cool place.
Speaker 4 (39:56):
You picked way too much.
Speaker 3 (39:58):
Yeah, you know, it was really great meeting you, but yeah,
I think this is gonna be our last date.
Speaker 1 (40:10):
What do you wait? What are you saying to me?
Uh wait?
Speaker 3 (40:14):
What feeling?
Speaker 1 (40:17):
You're not feeling the spark?
Speaker 3 (40:19):
No, I'm sorry.
Speaker 2 (40:22):
Okay, Well I wish he's the best.
Speaker 3 (40:27):
Yeah, you too, and thanks for.
Speaker 1 (40:31):
Dude.
Speaker 2 (40:31):
That was like a sword in my all.
Speaker 4 (40:35):
Right, then that's a you problem because that was the
that was pretty closely how you can.
Speaker 1 (40:39):
I think anybody that would get that speech would feel
kind of shitty.
Speaker 4 (40:43):
But remember on day when you're talking to a complete stranger, right,
you say, hey, like you know, it's nice.
Speaker 1 (40:48):
Let me do that. Listen. Okay, now we're you're driving.
You actually picked me up because I let you. I
don't know what Okay, this is this is third date.
Speaker 4 (40:58):
Okay, on third date, though, you should be back. You
to be past the Yeah we're not really vibe in stage.
Speaker 1 (41:02):
Well, but this is how this is how well he's
a little bit he was too, and he's been too
scared to tell me.
Speaker 4 (41:12):
No, no, it's a two way street.
Speaker 1 (41:14):
No. No, I'm thinking that things are just going great
and you are clueless.
Speaker 2 (41:18):
I know.
Speaker 4 (41:19):
I am all right.
Speaker 1 (41:20):
Okay, so we are.
Speaker 3 (41:25):
We're in your car and I pulled up to your house.
Speaker 1 (41:27):
Your house, okay, well, thank you again. I had such
a great time.
Speaker 3 (41:34):
Yeah, it was nice.
Speaker 1 (41:35):
Do you do you want to come in at all
and like have a like a nightcap or whatever.
Speaker 3 (41:42):
No, I think I'm going to head home.
Speaker 2 (41:44):
Oh well, do you have to work tomorrow?
Speaker 9 (41:46):
No?
Speaker 1 (41:47):
Oh, okay, I'm just not are you okay?
Speaker 3 (41:52):
Just not really feeling it?
Speaker 1 (41:54):
I'm sorry, Wait, you're not really feeling what like?
Speaker 3 (41:59):
I just don't feel like there's a connection between you
and I. Oh, I'm sorry.
Speaker 1 (42:07):
I just thought, don't be sorry. That's fine.
Speaker 3 (42:10):
I feel a little more than I do.
Speaker 1 (42:14):
And no is it?
Speaker 6 (42:17):
Is it me?
Speaker 4 (42:17):
Isla? I need you handled it so well? You just
say okay. I mean, I'm glad to have met you.
Sorry we couldn't work out, and then you leave. You
don't need to.
Speaker 2 (42:29):
Don't Well, here's here's why.
Speaker 4 (42:31):
I ask him, what's wrong with me? What did I
do wrong? I guarantee you will never find a date
like that.
Speaker 1 (42:36):
I want information.
Speaker 4 (42:39):
No future, use you don't get any Sorry, don't ask,
don't be cleaning, don't be insecure. All right, another piece
of ice. Do not act insecure. You can be insecure.
Do not act insecure because what you just did.
Speaker 2 (42:55):
Well, I'm not crying, and I said, okay.
Speaker 4 (42:58):
But you want to know, well, what's what's wrong? What
I do something?
Speaker 7 (43:01):
No?
Speaker 2 (43:03):
So what what was the issue?
Speaker 3 (43:06):
Nothing? There was no issue.
Speaker 4 (43:07):
He already told you that though he told you that,
I just don't feel the connection. Wasn't there? That's all
you need to know.
Speaker 3 (43:12):
Just don't feel a connection.
Speaker 1 (43:14):
But I thought like you revived me like big time
on the dance.
Speaker 4 (43:19):
This is this is so bad. Stop hijacking my dating
advice segment with your insecurities. This is terrible. You're making
this awful.
Speaker 2 (43:26):
Okay, I wanted to see what Eric broke up with me.
Speaker 4 (43:29):
It doesn't matter. He didn't break up with you. You're
on the third date. There's no connection, and you got
all clingy about it. I did Jesus, I.
Speaker 1 (43:36):
Hopped on top of him and guess attached myself to him.
Speaker 4 (43:40):
If that was me, you'd be blocked right after that.
Speaker 1 (43:44):
Sorry on everything like social media?
Speaker 4 (43:46):
Or did you text me and be like are you
sure there's nothing I could do?
Speaker 1 (43:49):
You know?
Speaker 4 (43:49):
What's what happened? Let me fix this.
Speaker 1 (43:51):
I would so do a drive by see if you're home.
Speaker 4 (43:56):
You'll take care of that. Bang bang bang no stockhold,
Like my god, let me wrap up this advice before you. Guys,
women always be cautious, uh in this dating climate, be
a little bit more adventurous, a little bit more bold.
I think you'll get good results. Don't be insecure. Well,
don't project insecurity, it's fine, but project confidence even if
(44:18):
you don't feel confident, it's fine. Just remember, you as
an individual have value regardless of what your potential romantic
partners think. So rejection of you is not rejection of
your worth.
Speaker 2 (44:28):
I like that.
Speaker 3 (44:29):
I do too. I needed to hear that, Jesus, So
I'm gonna call him Mahatma Jones.
Speaker 4 (44:37):
But yeah, and just remember you get rejected just like
all right, you don't ever see that person again, Like
that's not you know, as far as you're concerned, they
don't exist anymore. So it's really not that big a deal.
It still can to be scary, but trust is a
woman that's much easier than this is a guy. I
believe that. So Okay, that's my two cents for this week.
Speaker 1 (44:53):
Well that was I was outstanding, and I really like
what you said at the end because now I feel better.
It wasn't a reflection of me, although it was obviously.
Speaker 4 (45:04):
I'm talking about I'm talking about like you know, just
like hey, sorry, I'm like not interested?
Speaker 3 (45:07):
But what if? What of you?
Speaker 4 (45:12):
Is how you handled it?
Speaker 3 (45:15):
Okay?
Speaker 4 (45:15):
Reflection?
Speaker 3 (45:16):
Here? Wait, let's do this.
Speaker 1 (45:19):
Oh my god, I know Brian will get up and
he's going to walk out the door.
Speaker 3 (45:24):
So we scenario is the same? Scenario is the same
I pull up to your house and you say, can.
Speaker 4 (45:30):
We change the scenario?
Speaker 2 (45:31):
No, this is a therapy.
Speaker 1 (45:33):
See what he's doing?
Speaker 4 (45:34):
All right?
Speaker 3 (45:34):
All right, because here's here's the opposite.
Speaker 6 (45:37):
Okay.
Speaker 1 (45:38):
So I had a really good time and thank you
for that. That was a cool place you took me
to and I'm really enjoying getting to know you.
Speaker 3 (45:46):
Yeah yeah, I was too.
Speaker 1 (45:49):
So you want to do something in the future, like
like are you being serious?
Speaker 3 (45:58):
Yeah?
Speaker 1 (46:00):
How come?
Speaker 3 (46:01):
Just not feeling it?
Speaker 4 (46:03):
Okay? You messed up by saying it? Did? You messed
up by saying how come? Because up in those two words,
he had already communicated that he was a dick. All right,
you shouldn't need to know how come this guy's opinion
should not marry you because he's clearly a dick. You
would just say okay, and you get the car and
you and you're done.
Speaker 1 (46:22):
Okay.
Speaker 4 (46:22):
You should not be seeking validation from people who do
not value you.
Speaker 1 (46:25):
I'm just a curious person, that's all.
Speaker 2 (46:27):
But yes, I know you're right.
Speaker 4 (46:29):
You're right. It's not curiosity.
Speaker 1 (46:31):
It is totally let me.
Speaker 4 (46:33):
Okay, you know what I'm gonna be you, I'm gonna be.
Speaker 6 (46:37):
Eric.
Speaker 4 (46:37):
We're in the car and I okay, we just we
pulled in my house and the day I said, Hey,
a lot of fun. Would you be you want to
do something again? Next week?
Speaker 3 (46:45):
Probably not, I've got I've got a lot going on
next week.
Speaker 4 (46:48):
Okay, maybe a little week after you'd be free.
Speaker 3 (46:50):
I think I'm going out of town.
Speaker 4 (46:52):
Okay, So do you want to call me or is
that you think? Maybe?
Speaker 3 (46:55):
Just I think we're probably better off as friends.
Speaker 4 (46:58):
Okay. Is just to be clear, is there anything I
said that bothered you or anything I did?
Speaker 3 (47:04):
Jeff just never taken me this long to hit it before.
Speaker 4 (47:07):
Okay, Well nice me and you.
Speaker 1 (47:11):
Excuse me, but you just did the same thing that
I did.
Speaker 4 (47:14):
Difference was wasn't insecurity when you said it was definitely
different because he said, I'm not feeling You're like, what,
how come why not? Why won't you Damien? I said, okay,
you know that's.
Speaker 1 (47:26):
Fine, just something that it is curiousity to make sure
I didn't effect the.
Speaker 2 (47:30):
Way I said it.
Speaker 1 (47:31):
Okay, okay, okay.
Speaker 4 (47:32):
And then he said, nope, you're just a bit and
I said and he said, I don't want you won't
let me hit. I said, okay, I'm out of here.
See you have proven to me, Okay, I don't value
your opinion on this matter.
Speaker 2 (47:45):
Okay, all right, I get it.
Speaker 1 (47:46):
I get it now, I get it. It's clear.
Speaker 5 (47:49):
I know.
Speaker 2 (47:50):
Well that saw how that works.
Speaker 4 (47:52):
Now.
Speaker 3 (47:52):
Now, if a guy says that to you, if he
actually had the nerve to say that to you, you
could say, well you have tiny balls.
Speaker 4 (47:58):
Well I just well, all right, I'll give you one
more piece of advice, because this is important. I think
often this is a lot of the times. The case
is that women are very quick to cut off men
at small insults or slights or things like that. And
that's fine, I would say, though, however, because there there
is a limited pool of people in the world, is
that you should understand the difference between someone saying something
(48:21):
that defends you because they don't value you and just
because they're maybe it's a little stupid and just said
something they shouldn't have. There is a difference. One of
those things you should walk away from. The other one
you can't show a little grace to. It probably won't
be a bigger deal.
Speaker 3 (48:33):
So okay, I think we're you draw The line in
any relationship is when somebody is just mean.
Speaker 4 (48:40):
To you, it's disrespect. Someone can say something mean and
still respect you. They just you know, maybe a little
slip up. But if someone says something mean because they
don't respect you, then yeah, that's that's paker.
Speaker 1 (48:50):
Yeah, oh for sure, for sure, I will not be interesting.
Speaker 4 (48:53):
Women be careful that too, because men are very attuned
to indicate a disrespect. That will like not necessarily they'll
get mean or anything, but that will really hurt their.
Speaker 1 (49:04):
Feelings if they're disrespected.
Speaker 4 (49:06):
Yeah, if you like slowly disrespected, not even like not
even like in the way like you know, men demand respect,
but like can you make them feel bad about themselves
for something that like they are proud of everything like that,
then yeah, they'll that will be Yeah, that could be
a deal break.
Speaker 2 (49:18):
Okay, okay, wow, great segment.
Speaker 1 (49:22):
I hope that you Okay, And we're gonna have another
one next week about like just general's.
Speaker 4 (49:27):
True about okay, actually, well we'll touch on that one.
Speaker 1 (49:30):
We'll tell you well, we'll figure it out anyway. Thank
you guys so much for listening and watching. We love
you so much, thank you.
Speaker 2 (49:36):
Thank you. We just passed our six year mark.
Speaker 3 (49:39):
I know, I can't believe it.
Speaker 2 (49:41):
All right, we're looking.
Speaker 1 (49:43):
For our producer because our sweet sweet Brian is leaving
us in November.
Speaker 2 (49:47):
He's moving across.
Speaker 4 (49:48):
Like I think my last episode will be our Halloween episode.
Speaker 1 (49:52):
Oh well, that'll be appropriate and sad but fun and awful.
Speaker 3 (49:58):
And I'm wearing all black.
Speaker 1 (50:00):
Oh I know we should wear all I'm gonna wear
a veil black bride or something.
Speaker 2 (50:06):
Yes, yes, all black.
Speaker 1 (50:08):
Anyway, look for the job posting on indeed one of
these days when it pops up. Okay.
Speaker 2 (50:15):
I love you and love your podcast.
Speaker 3 (50:19):
Love you and love your podcast.
Speaker 1 (50:20):
I love you, my sweet babies.
Speaker 2 (50:22):
Bye guys,
I think so well, I think I did love so anyway,
Hi guys, welcome to Laura Kane After Dark.
Speaker 2 (00:15):
Appreciate you tuning in. I'm Laura Kane. Does here be
Air Grimmer?
Speaker 1 (00:20):
Oh?
Speaker 3 (00:20):
I was gonna say, I'm Brad Pitt.
Speaker 1 (00:22):
Oh well, I'm glad I clariflactfied that, because I'm sure
people were thinking of that.
Speaker 3 (00:29):
Sure they were.
Speaker 4 (00:30):
I mean, I know.
Speaker 1 (00:33):
And how lucky Michael Caine. Michael Caine who.
Speaker 4 (00:38):
Just came out of retirement at the right page of
ninety two? What he's acting again? Oh my god, forget
what movie?
Speaker 2 (00:46):
Good for him?
Speaker 3 (00:46):
Good for him?
Speaker 1 (00:48):
Who just died at nineties?
Speaker 5 (00:50):
No?
Speaker 1 (00:51):
Who did I find out was alive?
Speaker 2 (00:53):
I looked this up.
Speaker 1 (00:54):
I'm like, is so and so still alive? And this
person is like ninety three? Darn it, I'll remember who
it is? A celebrity. We just my mom and I
googled it this morning. Okay, So we're going to talk
about three things this podcast. We're gonna talk about my
somewhat a little bit of i'll call it a brisk
(01:17):
walk through my hinge profile and my hinge prospects. And
we're going to play a little bit of a game
called Hinge Cringe about some of the things that the
guys put on their profile that I don't I don't
think that. I really don't think they should have put
it on their It's not it's not anappropriate it's just
(01:39):
like for.
Speaker 2 (01:40):
Me, I don't know. Anyway, we'll play those for you.
Speaker 1 (01:46):
Eric has some kind of like accidental exposure or was
it accidental or on purpose?
Speaker 3 (01:52):
Oh no, it was accidental.
Speaker 1 (01:55):
Okay. And then we got a request a DM for
one of our podcast listeners, for Brian. Oh, they would
like him to do not one, but a few segments
about dating and dating.
Speaker 4 (02:10):
Tips stay single. There you go.
Speaker 2 (02:13):
I'm like, why did he ever give dating advice?
Speaker 1 (02:15):
But hell so he's gonna do a little a little
bit for this personal and I'll I think her name
was Shannon, So Shannon, I made your well, we're gonna
make your dream come true.
Speaker 3 (02:28):
Shannon. He's very wise.
Speaker 1 (02:29):
He is a very wise man. But we'll see what
his dating tips have. We'll see, we'll see what's up
with those. But we need to talk about La joya
cosmetic surgery center, because they are life changers, they are
life savers.
Speaker 3 (02:44):
They are what they did for Jenny.
Speaker 1 (02:45):
Look what they did for my sister. They completely she
had implants, they were in too long, they were leaking,
they had scar tissue, and they managed to get him
all out of the way and give her an option
she wasn't even aware of, and that was using her
own tissue to form breasts. And Jenny, I'm sorry, but
(03:07):
I showed the guys your pictures of postop and what
they look like and rave rave reviews. Yea, they look
so so good and they're all still stitched up, but
they That's how good doctor Swiston is. That's how good
the doctors at La Joia Cosmetic Surgery Center are. They're
board certified. They have so many reviews, like thousands upon
(03:31):
thousands of five star reviews, and that's like that is
a testament to them.
Speaker 2 (03:37):
That is not a joke.
Speaker 1 (03:38):
I mean, that is like people walk away from La
Joya Cosmetic Surgery Center feeling like they are part of
their family, Like we've been part of their family for
years now, a long time. And then I had a
surgery doctor Swiston as well, who's extremely thorough, and I
mean we went in. Oh, my mom and my sister
(03:59):
are coming down today for her final. I don't know
if he's removing any stitches. I think that they disintegrated
this point. I'm going to see the two redheads.
Speaker 3 (04:11):
I'm going to get to see your mama. I'm going
to get to see mom, your.
Speaker 1 (04:15):
Mom, mother from another mother, father, your mother from another father. Yeah, whatever,
I don't know.
Speaker 3 (04:22):
Oh, I can't.
Speaker 1 (04:22):
Y my mom has red hair, my sister has red hair.
And Eric is he literally could be our brother.
Speaker 4 (04:29):
Yeah, I am a brother.
Speaker 3 (04:31):
And as Jenny, my carpet matches the drapes.
Speaker 1 (04:36):
I can't believe she said that. I can't actually actually can't.
I actually can't, Jenny. I'm sorry I had to out
you on that one. I totally had to out you
on that one.
Speaker 2 (04:45):
But okay, so.
Speaker 1 (04:48):
Just google Roya Cosmetic Surgery.
Speaker 3 (04:51):
Center LJCSC dot com.
Speaker 1 (04:54):
And maybe you're like, what's three sixty light bol I
keep hearing about this and I've been wanting to get
some ipo done. Oh my gosh, you need to see
the before and afters of this three sixty LiPo or
the BBL the butt lift, using your own fat to
make your little your cupcakes a little more cupcakey.
Speaker 3 (05:15):
A little more frosting for the cupcakes.
Speaker 1 (05:17):
I wanted some of Jenny's tissue to make my cupcakes
more cupcake. But you can't use somebody else's tissue. But
La Joya Cosmetic Surgery Center is in our backyard. We're
so lucky. They have so many awards. San Diego Magazine
just named them the best cosmetic surgery center in San
Diego and they're up for a BBB Torch Award for Ethics.
(05:41):
I mean, this the best of the best in our backyard.
So thank you La Joia Cosmetic Surgery Center. So all right,
let's I'm gonna go to my hinge. I'm going to
see there's some dudes I've been talking to you and as.
Speaker 3 (05:54):
You're looking for I walked in and Laura says to me,
we need to talk about something and I was like what.
I was like, what did I do now? And you
made a comment about my shoes.
Speaker 4 (06:08):
Oh they're bad.
Speaker 2 (06:11):
They thank you for reminding me about this.
Speaker 3 (06:15):
They're pumas they are.
Speaker 4 (06:17):
I just think for a celebrity stylist you should have.
Speaker 1 (06:20):
Absolutely, they're so comfortable, awful looking things I've ever seen.
And I don't mean to hurt your feelings. I don't
think I am hurting.
Speaker 3 (06:29):
Feeling you're not because you have a sweatshirt that has
a built in brawlt on the front of it.
Speaker 4 (06:38):
As a neutral. Uh, you know, as someone in the
middle who doesn't have an incredible sense it was totally fine, acceptable.
Those are bad. These are and let me break down wide.
The front is weird, the side is bizarre, the souls
are strange, and the color is terrible.
Speaker 1 (06:54):
So those your Adidas, your little flick of Adida right there.
Speaker 3 (07:00):
I say they were, I mean Adidas.
Speaker 4 (07:01):
Sorry, it doesn't even match the rest of your outfit.
Speaker 1 (07:05):
No, it's just a pop and it's got and it's
it's got pat leather.
Speaker 4 (07:08):
It's awful, terrible And the sides are so bad.
Speaker 2 (07:12):
That are so huge.
Speaker 1 (07:15):
They make your feet look like you're wearing skis.
Speaker 4 (07:19):
Yeah, Eric, they look like the Sea World logo.
Speaker 1 (07:22):
Now, I want you to be completely honest, promise, because
you just our listeners deserve this.
Speaker 2 (07:28):
Yes, I know where you got them.
Speaker 3 (07:31):
Where do you think I got them?
Speaker 1 (07:32):
Fashion Valley at the outlet center? No I didn't lost
America's No you didn't. Did you get them at at
an outlet center?
Speaker 4 (07:42):
No? Fashion Valley?
Speaker 3 (07:44):
No?
Speaker 4 (07:45):
Really, maybe don't, please don't tell me you ordered.
Speaker 3 (07:47):
Them all you tc No I didn't.
Speaker 1 (07:50):
Did you get them from like offer up or something?
Speaker 3 (07:53):
No?
Speaker 1 (07:54):
Did you get them as a gift?
Speaker 3 (07:55):
No?
Speaker 2 (07:57):
Okay, did you get them at the Adidas store?
Speaker 3 (08:00):
No?
Speaker 4 (08:01):
Where'd you get from?
Speaker 6 (08:02):
Oh?
Speaker 2 (08:03):
Big five or Dicks or something?
Speaker 4 (08:06):
Those are designer. Those are not sports.
Speaker 1 (08:09):
These are designer.
Speaker 4 (08:10):
Yeah, they don't make normal shoes in that color or ugliness.
Ross No what, No, those were expensive shoes?
Speaker 1 (08:17):
Well sometimes they Ross gets expensive shoes that are not
Nobody would buy like that. I'm the Max, Yes, no way.
Speaker 4 (08:29):
How much were they?
Speaker 1 (08:30):
Okay, wall, I'm gonna get this litte no.
Speaker 4 (08:35):
More or less less?
Speaker 3 (08:38):
Oh my god?
Speaker 1 (08:39):
Twenty ninety nine?
Speaker 4 (08:42):
Uh no, okay, wait, so you saw these under forty
dollars shoes?
Speaker 7 (08:48):
Shoes?
Speaker 4 (08:48):
They were the disc that you know, at one point
we're at least one hundred and twenty dollars, and you went,
I'm going to get.
Speaker 1 (08:53):
Those And they ended up a TJ Max because nobody
bought them.
Speaker 3 (08:56):
They were two twenty five and I got them for
twenty four ninety nine.
Speaker 4 (09:02):
So a two hundred dollars discount. I wonder why I won.
And they were some context clear.
Speaker 3 (09:08):
They're so comfortable, they're like bedroom slippers when.
Speaker 4 (09:11):
You spawn you should just wear slippers.
Speaker 1 (09:13):
Then on the shelf, did you go, wow, I'm going
to try those on right now.
Speaker 3 (09:22):
Yes. The first thing I did was I looked for
them in another color.
Speaker 2 (09:28):
Oh, because you don't have too much.
Speaker 4 (09:31):
I look, I'm gonna say something. I mean this in
the nicest way possible, not as an insult. But they're
a little gay, okay, even well even for you.
Speaker 1 (09:38):
I mean the color okay, So anyway you you looked
at it for a different color, but then you were like,
I'm fine with this.
Speaker 3 (09:44):
I tried them on in them all.
Speaker 4 (09:46):
Oh, I hope you didn't make that noise on the team.
Speaker 3 (09:49):
You probably did.
Speaker 1 (09:50):
So these are light because they looked like they weigh
like eight ten pounds.
Speaker 3 (09:54):
No, they weigh like maybe.
Speaker 4 (09:56):
It's more of an emotional weight you have to carry.
Speaker 1 (09:59):
Oh, emotional, but you know, whispering behind your back.
Speaker 3 (10:04):
Most of my shoes are very bright. I love like
a bread.
Speaker 4 (10:09):
And we have called out your shoes many times. These
are these might be worse than the red football shoes.
Speaker 3 (10:15):
Oh, by the way, I is he loves those, she
sleeps in them.
Speaker 4 (10:20):
That's not a selling point.
Speaker 2 (10:21):
That isn't that that makes a big ass shoes?
Speaker 1 (10:23):
Yeah, I think these are worse than the red football shoes.
Speaker 4 (10:27):
I think the red ones are a little bit worse
because the red ones are bigger, well a little sleeker.
Speaker 1 (10:32):
The only reason that they will be worse is because
he warm with the red pants.
Speaker 4 (10:36):
Remember red on red matches. These there's no matching here
with this.
Speaker 2 (10:42):
Color.
Speaker 4 (10:43):
The sides are ugly. The top is fine. They were
a little sleep on top. Besides the leather.
Speaker 3 (10:48):
The sides are ugly. That's the best arch.
Speaker 4 (10:50):
The giant arch on them. Yeah, they're so high.
Speaker 3 (10:53):
Do you like no?
Speaker 2 (10:56):
Okay, well we're in easy territory right.
Speaker 4 (10:58):
Wait, the red shoes you wear are just like hard
body easy exactly.
Speaker 3 (11:02):
Yeah, but they're not easy, So I do not support that.
Speaker 1 (11:06):
Of course you don't support him, But do you like
his shoe style?
Speaker 3 (11:11):
I don't pay attention to him. Do you like Kanye?
Speaker 4 (11:15):
I thought you vote for Trump?
Speaker 3 (11:17):
Oh my god, No, I did not.
Speaker 4 (11:20):
I love that joke it gets at the time.
Speaker 3 (11:22):
Did not, absolutely not.
Speaker 4 (11:25):
That's what you told me though.
Speaker 3 (11:27):
Never the election you said, oh god, I want no
I didn't.
Speaker 1 (11:31):
My guy, My guy, I know, he was like, oh
my god.
Speaker 2 (11:34):
Freaking out.
Speaker 5 (11:35):
He was.
Speaker 3 (11:36):
They are both vile.
Speaker 1 (11:37):
He was so happy.
Speaker 4 (11:39):
Oh my god, there's a funny always sudden Philadelphia joke,
or it's a whole episode where they keep talking about
how they were supporting their guy and it was very cooly.
Trump is like, our guy got screwed over though, and
they're like, you mean Trump, right, He's like what, No,
I wouldn't vote for that fact, Like, do you mean that?
He's like Kanye, we vote for Kanye West.
Speaker 3 (11:57):
I'd vote for him before I vote for.
Speaker 1 (12:01):
Taco No, let's get both of them out of our mouths.
Speaker 3 (12:04):
Taco tits, that's what I call them.
Speaker 1 (12:06):
Okay, so let's talk about your accidental exposing.
Speaker 3 (12:10):
Okay, this was probably what There's been so many that
have been so embarrassed.
Speaker 4 (12:16):
He put on those shoes and it burned his pants off.
Speaker 1 (12:19):
Well, okay, let's set the stage. Why did it happen?
Speaker 2 (12:25):
Where were you?
Speaker 1 (12:26):
What time was it?
Speaker 4 (12:27):
You could just tell the story this at the stage.
Speaker 1 (12:29):
Well, I just want to know when it happened, because
it happened on Sunday.
Speaker 3 (12:35):
Okay, I was at Trader Joe's.
Speaker 4 (12:37):
No, this, kids, this is awesome.
Speaker 1 (12:40):
Here's another The mom is going to come out and say,
this is why you wear underwear. But anyway.
Speaker 3 (12:47):
Well, okay, okay, okay, I had on actually these shoes,
it's getting worse. Jeans, okay, a T shirt?
Speaker 4 (12:59):
Okay? Was today? No?
Speaker 3 (13:01):
No underwear?
Speaker 4 (13:03):
This was today, wasn't. Nope.
Speaker 3 (13:06):
I'm walking through the store. I have my bags with me,
and I'm I picked up a thing of rice or
something and I'm reaching to put it in the bag
and there's a guy walking towards me and he just
smiles and looks me up and down and just smiles.
And I was like, that's weird. And it was that
that kind of elevator. I like, oh, And I didn't
(13:32):
think anything of it. I just kept walking and he
kind of walked past me and looked me up and
down again.
Speaker 1 (13:40):
And I thought, was he like kind of giggling or
was he like just like kind of like kind of
like looking at me up and down, like flirting a
little bit.
Speaker 4 (13:49):
Well, I thought, little take like a tasty kind of look.
Speaker 3 (13:51):
Yeah, Like I look at that snack and I'm like, damn,
I must look good today, Like and ever thought about
the shoes at all. I am now at this point
in the walking through the frozen food area to go
(14:12):
to the register. It happens again.
Speaker 1 (14:16):
With somebody else, a different person. It was it a
dude or a woman.
Speaker 3 (14:19):
It was a dude.
Speaker 1 (14:20):
And was he giving you a flirtatious look or was
he giving you a smug look or a funny look?
Speaker 3 (14:26):
It was actually the same kind.
Speaker 1 (14:28):
Of the same kind of hmm.
Speaker 3 (14:30):
Okay, I'm like, what is going on? And I looked
down at my shoes and realized I never zipped my
jeans up and everything was.
Speaker 2 (14:40):
Just Now when you say everything.
Speaker 4 (14:45):
I think we go to the soul.
Speaker 3 (14:48):
You know, yes, the opening to my jeans was wide open.
Speaker 1 (14:53):
Okay, so the but was it contained within withinside or
was there anything outside?
Speaker 3 (14:59):
It was half and haf see, there's no way.
Speaker 4 (15:01):
How did you wait? How would you get anything out
of your zipper accidentally? How does that happen?
Speaker 3 (15:06):
I don't even know.
Speaker 1 (15:07):
Well, I you zip when he when he put his
pants on and he.
Speaker 4 (15:11):
Got in the car, a little dance and then he.
Speaker 1 (15:13):
Got in the car.
Speaker 2 (15:14):
He got out like he was moving moving around?
Speaker 4 (15:16):
What do you mean half like? Are we are?
Speaker 7 (15:18):
We like?
Speaker 4 (15:19):
There's little just bill weight caught up on the balls
were in. There's no way you shaft was out. There's
no way you were walking with just no singing like
that part of the.
Speaker 3 (15:32):
Was still in my But.
Speaker 1 (15:34):
Then so you had okay, so you had the balls inside,
part of the shaft out, but head inside.
Speaker 3 (15:40):
Part of the head was inside. What a disaster.
Speaker 4 (15:45):
And then somehow you somehow the only person that saw
was a pervert, who was awesome.
Speaker 1 (15:49):
Two perverts, Yeah, two different perverts.
Speaker 2 (15:53):
Why do they.
Speaker 4 (15:53):
Say it's in the mission value? Why I'm not shopping?
Speaker 3 (15:57):
It is?
Speaker 1 (15:57):
He always shops at the I'm not shopping anymore.
Speaker 4 (15:59):
A bunch of perverts there. I get a round of
applause if I dropped my pants or something. That's crazy.
Speaker 1 (16:05):
And then he clogged the Tjack Max bathroom at Sports Arena.
That's a that's his TJ Max.
Speaker 4 (16:12):
So many stories you can't get that.
Speaker 3 (16:13):
Guess where I clogged it?
Speaker 1 (16:15):
Also, you clugged recently.
Speaker 4 (16:19):
A Marshals No on, you like that Marshal's down there on.
Speaker 1 (16:24):
I hardly ever go to a but yes, what was
the what was the holiday we just had? Labor Day?
Speaker 3 (16:30):
Yeah, Labor Day. I went to the Wild Animal parking
clogged the toilet.
Speaker 4 (16:35):
Well, that's okay, that's not that big of a deal.
That's a wild animal park.
Speaker 1 (16:37):
It is kind of a big deal because they have
those industrial like like suction toilets, just like that's one.
Speaker 4 (16:45):
That's a fee of strength.
Speaker 2 (16:46):
That is just your O my god, So you just
you just left.
Speaker 3 (16:50):
I'm sure, Oh sure, okay, can we Okay.
Speaker 2 (16:55):
We're going to get.
Speaker 1 (16:57):
Okay. So, uh, I told you about the guy that
said you only poop once a month. You need to
get that looked at. Okay, So that guy, that guy
texted me back, but it was just kind of, you know, whatever, whatever.
Speaker 3 (17:12):
But did anything go anywhere with that No, in fact,
because he was there.
Speaker 1 (17:17):
There are so many guys that I'm talking to now
that I'm losing track of who's who.
Speaker 3 (17:22):
Oh boy, Well, I'm not like thlirty.
Speaker 2 (17:26):
I kind of want to be a sluck.
Speaker 1 (17:27):
I kind of want to have a little sled knock
yourself out, I know. But okay, so empowerment, Like, a
couple of them are exactly my age, perfect, a couple
of them are forty four.
Speaker 4 (17:39):
But they don't care. Then what's the matter?
Speaker 1 (17:41):
Okay? And then did I tell you about the reality
TV guy? Yeah, okay, he's still in the picture. Now
here's one from Paul. Now. Paul is a tall African
American man and he's he's he's really funny. He sent
me a really funny message and I was telling him
that I was taking care of my sister. He looks
(18:03):
like this. Here he is like on a TV set
and he is he's fifty six feet he is, he's Christian,
lives in LA. Look at that. That's pretty good.
Speaker 3 (18:18):
Okay, okay, it might actually.
Speaker 1 (18:20):
Work fine for me because I don't I don't think
I need somebody around me all the time.
Speaker 4 (18:24):
So you just want like a swing Okay.
Speaker 3 (18:28):
Yeah, I think so for now, just to pull in,
pull into town.
Speaker 1 (18:34):
But look at this guy. We haven't gotten to that
far that far yet.
Speaker 4 (18:40):
Laura would be the person who just drive up to
LA to get.
Speaker 6 (18:42):
Some I probably would.
Speaker 1 (18:49):
Okay, let me see what this guy looks like. Oh see,
I don't like this guy, do I?
Speaker 6 (18:54):
No?
Speaker 1 (18:54):
No? You know what. I started talking to this one
guy and I'm like, wait, I kind of don't think
I drive.
Speaker 3 (19:00):
With this guy.
Speaker 4 (19:00):
What's the youngest guy on there?
Speaker 1 (19:02):
Okay, the youngest guy that I'm talking to. Okay, see
how old this dude is? This guy? Oh okay, what
do you think about him? And he's my age?
Speaker 2 (19:11):
He has salt pepper hair.
Speaker 1 (19:13):
This guy is, oh, will you turn up the roadcaster
because he has a voice thing a hinge cringe.
Speaker 4 (19:21):
Am.
Speaker 1 (19:21):
I let me see if I'm connected.
Speaker 4 (19:24):
You are?
Speaker 1 (19:24):
Okay, here we go, he says. My biggest date fail ready, I'd.
Speaker 8 (19:31):
Say my biggest date feel was a double date at
a drive in movie. We were seeing a scary film
and my friend and I went to the snack bar.
Decided to do a jump scare on our dates on
the way back, so we snuck up to the silver
Honda Civic and jumped in the window and screamed right
at a scary part of the movie, only to realize
(19:53):
that we had actually parked one row up.
Speaker 3 (19:58):
That was going back.
Speaker 4 (20:00):
Okay, that is funny, but how old is he fifty?
If this wasn't when he was like twenty, this is
that's kind of weird.
Speaker 1 (20:08):
And now I know, like his voice, I know, I
don't see he.
Speaker 4 (20:12):
Is he good looking?
Speaker 3 (20:13):
He is good looking.
Speaker 1 (20:15):
He is okay, He's got like kind of long salt
and pepper hair.
Speaker 2 (20:19):
He's got a big dog.
Speaker 1 (20:22):
I can't tell there he looks a little shaggy.
Speaker 4 (20:26):
I don't know.
Speaker 1 (20:26):
I'm trying to look for Okay, so let's see what
this dude, This dude is thirty eight.
Speaker 2 (20:32):
That's the lowest.
Speaker 1 (20:33):
Okay, Well, you know, I don't think that he lives
in North Park. He's sixty three.
Speaker 4 (20:36):
I like that, Okay, I think above twenty one is
like at that point, it's fair.
Speaker 1 (20:40):
He went to San Diego State. Same, we have a
lot of calmon already. He's opened a short term relationship
opened along. Okay, me too, monogamy. There he is sitting
on his bed meditating. I feel sorry for Look he
looks like he's learning looking at porn on his left.
Speaker 3 (20:57):
He kind of does. He looks like he's naked.
Speaker 1 (21:01):
What about this? What about that face?
Speaker 3 (21:03):
No, he's hands, he's got very pretty eyes.
Speaker 1 (21:05):
I know he's pretty ice. He's holding a baby.
Speaker 4 (21:08):
That voice?
Speaker 1 (21:08):
Really no, this was This is a different dude. This
is a different I'm so like. Okay, So a lot
of these profiles, it's hard to write a profile. And
you know what, I gotta give this to guys. Men
don't take as many pictures as women do, so it's
true it's hard for them to find photos that are
good enough to put on a profile. So you would
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have to put maybe a group photo because that's maybe
one of the only photos you have. You have to
you have to circle yourself or something. I don't know.
Speaker 4 (21:38):
I very briefly, very briefly experimented with the dating profile,
not really looking for days, just to gauge the field,
and I was like, dude, I have no good photos
of myself.
Speaker 1 (21:49):
That's why some that's why I give the guys a
pass when they do the bathroom selfie.
Speaker 2 (21:55):
Because well, because they don't.
Speaker 1 (21:57):
They don't have any other choice.
Speaker 2 (21:59):
You know, I have to give him pass for that.
Speaker 1 (22:01):
But I don't give these guys a pass for the
following hinge cringe. They can leave a little something about
themselves and with their voice.
Speaker 4 (22:13):
Which I think is a bad idea.
Speaker 1 (22:16):
You know, did I do it online? I don't know
if I did or not.
Speaker 4 (22:19):
But here's the thing. I think a woman's voice is nice,
but a man's voice in isolation, more often not doesn't
paint a good picture. I don't know.
Speaker 1 (22:28):
Some every once in a while, though, there's that voice email. Wow,
he sounds hot, like Eric for example, when I when
I didn't know his persuasion and I was no se
he didn't block. He's so fast, but he has like
a nice low voice. He sounds extremely handsome. So I
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was like, all about it.
Speaker 3 (22:50):
Like I said to Laura, I said, boy, were you
disappointed when you.
Speaker 1 (22:54):
I was just like, okay, So here are four examples
of what I'm dealing with on my hinge dating site.
Speaker 5 (23:06):
Oh boy, A boundary of mind would absolutely be true as.
Speaker 1 (23:13):
Yeah, you're up, let him tell us truth, Let him
tell us truth.
Speaker 5 (23:17):
A boundary of mine would absolutely be truth and the
entire truth, not just parts of it. And I would
tie it into a vulnerability because I've learned that vulnerability
is something that's extremely important in a relationship. If you
are vulnerable with each other, I do believe that supports the.
Speaker 4 (23:40):
Idea of love. And I'm gonna stick with that story,
thank you.
Speaker 3 (23:45):
And I'm gonna throw up at my mouth.
Speaker 4 (23:46):
Well, you know, everything he is saying is technically correct,
but there are things you don't say because it makes
me sound like a predator or something like that, and.
Speaker 1 (23:53):
It just it sounds kind of rehearsed a little bit,
and it kind of sounded a little like but like
you really wanted to ask somebody with.
Speaker 4 (24:01):
Well, it's a little pretentious, but yeah, you should be
vulnerable with your partner. But telling someone that they need
to be vulnerable, kind of predatory. It feels like trying
to take it. I don't know, maybe I'm being looking
into it hinge cringe.
Speaker 8 (24:12):
Number two, I need to work out every day no
matter what.
Speaker 4 (24:16):
I'm kind of like this guy. Actually, I think that's funny.
Speaker 1 (24:18):
The funniest thing to me is like the long like, yeah,
he has a play again.
Speaker 4 (24:24):
I kind of like that.
Speaker 7 (24:26):
I need to work out every day no matter what, kind.
Speaker 4 (24:29):
Of I kind of appreciate how he cares.
Speaker 3 (24:31):
He's got a sinus problem.
Speaker 4 (24:33):
Oh no, he just doesn't give a crap, which I
kind of like. It's funny.
Speaker 9 (24:36):
All right.
Speaker 3 (24:37):
Three this is ken.
Speaker 7 (24:40):
I look forward to meeting you and trying out new
experiences with special people. I have to go out and laugh,
have a good time, talk about different subjects and our
plans for the future.
Speaker 3 (24:52):
Looking forward to speaking.
Speaker 4 (24:54):
This is a guy in his fifties new experiences. I'm sorry.
Speaker 3 (24:59):
This is a that has that has a blow up
sex to his closet.
Speaker 4 (25:03):
Well, like, look at how that has just been out
of the game for.
Speaker 1 (25:06):
Like so out of he has no game. Like so
we can talk about subjects like what guy.
Speaker 4 (25:13):
That likes to have fun and do and laugh he's
probably forward to meeting you and sorry. Also he introduced himself.
He said, Hi, I'm Ken.
Speaker 1 (25:21):
Okay, well it's on your profile, but anyway, exactly why.
Speaker 7 (25:24):
Ken, I look forward to meeting you and trying out
new experiences with special people to go out and laugh,
I have a good time, talk about different subjects and
our plans for the future.
Speaker 4 (25:37):
Sorry, I like to have bad times.
Speaker 3 (25:39):
And that was creepy looking forward to see. Yeah, I
know he probably owned that house with like the sex dungeon.
Speaker 1 (25:49):
I know.
Speaker 4 (25:50):
I don't think he's I actually think he's probably a
really milk toast guy with no real world like no
eblenty years.
Speaker 1 (25:56):
I agree with you there that he probably is so
far out of.
Speaker 2 (25:59):
The game that he has no game.
Speaker 4 (26:01):
Because like his like word choice is like the most
generic thing I've ever heard of new experiences with special
people like okay, is he didn't like she was bored?
Speaker 1 (26:11):
Hinge cringe.
Speaker 9 (26:11):
Number four best travel story is the current one driving
south on US one and in the converted ambulance Spirit
that I made into a camper.
Speaker 1 (26:24):
Okay, you know, on public transit, and he was in
an ambulance that he converted into a camper.
Speaker 4 (26:32):
I think that's awesome, but this is really nimpicky. But
I hate little siloquisms that start like this where he says.
Speaker 9 (26:39):
Best travel story is the current.
Speaker 4 (26:41):
One, where it's like almost it's not even play on words,
but it's just what he said. Best travel story is
the current one, which is like it's not even play
on words, but it's just kind of quippi but not good.
Speaker 1 (26:52):
So he is like literally in something that we would
be traveling.
Speaker 9 (26:56):
Listen, Yeah, best travel story is the current one driving
south on US one and the converted ambulance here that
I made into a camper.
Speaker 1 (27:08):
Company where I keep all of my victims o his
van life.
Speaker 4 (27:13):
That's cool. My bigger problem is like he's got like
that nerdy little like my best camp travel experience is
my current one. Like it's almost like a like it's
like equipped that.
Speaker 2 (27:22):
I am my best of me I've ever been.
Speaker 3 (27:25):
He's like, miss Kane, does this tow lette smell like chloroform?
Speaker 4 (27:30):
That's not He's not creepy. You give this guy break.
The ambulance to camper is cool. I don't know, it isn't.
Speaker 3 (27:36):
He just sounds it's got all that he probably kept
all the equipment in it for what he cuts up
bodies and stuff.
Speaker 4 (27:42):
The metal table coming from talks.
Speaker 3 (27:47):
Where you could literally he could just keep you alive.
He saws your arm off.
Speaker 1 (27:51):
I don't know, because he has tons of like fentylstime.
Speaker 4 (27:56):
You guys talk like, oh, that's the voice of someone
who eats people. Like what, There's nothing wrong with that guy. Besides,
he just sounds.
Speaker 3 (28:02):
He's probably got a tattoo on his arm that says
like Hannibal the cannibal or something.
Speaker 1 (28:05):
Oh my god, Oh my god, I have to tell
you this tattoo story. What I showed you the picture. Oh,
my sister and I. She was recovering in a hotel
room in UTC area. So on Sunday, we just wanted
to chill and watch TV. Well, something was going on
with the TV and it wasn't working. It kept going out,
(28:27):
so we needed a guy to come.
Speaker 2 (28:28):
Up to look at the TV.
Speaker 1 (28:30):
So I see this guy has this tattoo of this
rosary kind of around his arm, and I was like.
Speaker 2 (28:35):
Hey, that's a cool tattoo. I really like rosaries. I
love religious art.
Speaker 1 (28:39):
It's cool. But like here it said like money rules.
So he goes, Oh, I got all these when I
was younger, like I kind of regret some of them. Now,
like this angel, there's an angel on his like biceps
rubs out.
Speaker 2 (28:55):
Oh no, wait.
Speaker 1 (28:56):
Till I show you this, and it's holding a machine.
Guy and it's an angel holding a machine gun. Okay,
I don't think I can show this. No, so I'm
gonna show this to you.
Speaker 4 (29:08):
Hold on, let me. It's positive.
Speaker 2 (29:12):
You are gonna die this poor guy. I'm like, why
have you not gotten this fits yet? Be in so
many years?
Speaker 6 (29:19):
Okay, okay, take a gander at that little girl angel girl?
Speaker 4 (29:30):
Are you sure it's a girl girl? No, I see that.
I can also see that as like a sideways No, boy,
it's bad. That's such a big camel toe, I know.
Speaker 1 (29:40):
Poor guy.
Speaker 2 (29:41):
And look what does that look like?
Speaker 4 (29:43):
The machine gun's fine, AK forty seven, that's what AK
foy seven looks like. No, the bigger problem is the
genitals on the area.
Speaker 1 (29:52):
It's sore on his arm. I know, just put like
a little leaf, put some flower. Oh my god, I
was laughing so hard. Okay, So, speaking of dating a camera,
let me read you something that we got. We got
a DM from a listener fan of Brian's.
Speaker 4 (30:11):
Well, she just said she wants some advice dating advice.
Speaker 1 (30:13):
Well, obviously no, I've sent you a couple of dms
where people are really sad that you're leaving, that they
like you a lot.
Speaker 4 (30:20):
Thank you to all my fans. Okay, I don't know you,
we'll never meet, but I appreciate you all the same.
Speaker 1 (30:28):
Here it is, ask Brian if he could do a
couple of segments before he leaves where he can give
dating advice or tidbits on dating men, et cetera. Please
with like a little Well, she has a little like
a halo on, so, uh, I don't really recall you
(30:51):
giving dating advice.
Speaker 2 (30:52):
Maybe you've sprinkled it in here and there.
Speaker 4 (30:54):
I think so.
Speaker 1 (30:55):
So do you have maybe like one or two like
little tidbits for her just to satiate her hunger for
your knowledge.
Speaker 4 (31:04):
I have some I guess maybe observations about the current
state of dating, but I will say it it probably
is going to vary based on the age bracket you're
dating in the old specifically, if you're looking for a man,
it does get harder the older you get. You start
dealing with people who you know have gone through multiple divorces.
(31:26):
They've got baggage things like that, and typically especially for men,
if you have failed to lock down a long term
partner in your later years. There's usually a reason why.
Can be true for women, but it's usually especially true
for men.
Speaker 1 (31:39):
When I see that on my dating on hinge, like
never married, no kids, and it's like, fifty that's a
red flag, right, isn't it.
Speaker 4 (31:49):
In your thirties that's still pretty normal nowadays, But fifties
unless you're like, you know, well Eric's never been married.
Speaker 1 (31:54):
But you know, I mean it sounds kind of glorious,
like I wouldn't have to deal with an ex wife
or any like Braddy Ki.
Speaker 3 (32:00):
Yeah.
Speaker 4 (32:01):
I mean maybe if it's just like you've been like
they've been in a series of like you know, non
like they were in like you know, a bunch of
like long term dating relationships, you know, but they just
never got red kids, maybe that's not a big deal.
But yeah, if like someone's someone's got like three ex
wives or something or two ex wives, I'd be.
Speaker 1 (32:16):
Like, hmmm, why so what are you saying?
Speaker 4 (32:19):
Just you have to be more picky, get to be
you get to be more careful, more diligent. That's that's
specifically if you're an older women or older man. I
would also say a complaint I hear a lot is
that women aren't getting approached by men as much anymore.
And I think there's probably a couple of reasons for that,
(32:41):
which probably aren't that important. But I also think that
women forget that you can actually be pretty damn successful
if you approach men yourself. Most men, at least you know,
not the ones who are like you know, the sex
magnets who are get women throw themselves at. Most men
will spawn pretty darn positively to a woman demonstrating initiative.
(33:05):
That's pretty cool for a guy, because it doesn't happen
very often. In fact, I have been in a relationship that
didn't last long because I thought it was so because
I and the only reason I said yes, it's because
she showed a ton of initiative, basically asked me, and
I was like, that's so cool. Sure it didn't last
meal long, but you know, if the chemistry's there, just
(33:25):
go ask somebody out. It's not that big a deal.
I think it's cool. I think also some of the
men that are a little too timid to ask women
that are actually probably some of the more tame men
that you might be interested in.
Speaker 1 (33:37):
Is it because they're afraid of I mean it's rejection, right,
I mean it's the fear of rejection.
Speaker 4 (33:42):
It's in combination of rejection. I also think I think
men are really afraid of coming across as aggressive.
Speaker 1 (33:52):
It's hard to be a man right now, huh, because
of all the things.
Speaker 4 (33:55):
I wouldn't say it's hard to be a man. I
think that's kind of like a that's what you hear
weak men complain about. I don't think it is hard
to be a man, but it has changed. And I
mean even in like at least my experience, even in
like you know, situations with you know, a long term partner,
I'm still like like mindful that I'm not coming across
as like a dick or aggressive or you know, forceful,
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because it can as a guy, I can put you
on weird situations and you do that.
Speaker 2 (34:21):
So, Okay, what your gen what gen z?
Speaker 1 (34:24):
Technically you're gen z? Okay, do gen z? Daters go Dutch?
Dutch meaning split the check? Do you pay? Are you
expected to pay?
Speaker 2 (34:40):
I don't know what do you think about that?
Speaker 4 (34:42):
So there's a This is why dating right now too
is really rough. There's a huge schism in gen Zers
and maybe even millennials. Young men are becoming much more traditional.
Young women are still trending fairly you know, aggressive liberal.
So I think you're going to see not actually not
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too traditional. Some men are going to be pay the
check type. A lot of men nowadays are going to
be split the bill because they don't want to be
taking advantage of quote end quote by women. There's a
lot of distrust and dislike for women right now in
the gen z not like a ton of ton But why.
Speaker 2 (35:18):
Because of the independence factor or that.
Speaker 4 (35:21):
No, it's because I think in like the dating marketplace,
women basically essentially hold all the cards. Like if you're
like an attractive young woman, you got to a bar
and you can get you know, you can find somebody
to spend the night with fairly consistently. If you're a guy,
it is much more of a rat race to find, like,
you know, the the hot chick and get a chance
with her. I think a lot of men are becoming
(35:41):
indignant at that. I think they have like perception of
what it is. It's really not as bad as they
think it is. But I think there's becoming dignantic because
they don't want have to try as hard as they
feel like.
Speaker 1 (35:51):
They have to on a first date, Do you pay
me personally?
Speaker 4 (35:55):
Yeah, I probably would, unless I'm going like a ton
of dates, or unless maybe first day. Also I'm not
going anywhere crazy expensive though, like, yeah, this is kind.
Speaker 1 (36:04):
Of a wast well second date, you really hit it
off with this girl, and so second date you're like,
you're not supposed some more nice than.
Speaker 2 (36:09):
Like little Italy.
Speaker 1 (36:11):
Then what if you asked, do you pay or do
you do you for first to have that conversation where
you it depends.
Speaker 4 (36:18):
Okay, if you like approach someone in person, ask them out,
then yeah you pay. If it's not a dating app, yeah,
I would say I'd say you probably should split that
because like you're both there are the intention of dating.
Like that's a that's like a mutual plan. I feel
like obviously if the guy wants to pay, that's probably
gonna be pretty normal. Yeah. But if, like if as
a guy, if you wanted to split it, I feel
like that would be pretty acceptable in that situation.
Speaker 1 (36:40):
I know, I know this is not the right thing
to say, but I don't think I would go on
a date again with a guy if he said here's
your half of the bill, like.
Speaker 4 (36:52):
Okay, and I funderstand that, but like also think about
it that I don't want to say that's exploitative because
but like that is kind of like a it's a
it's a very traditional it's also like kind of the
dick position in it, where it's like that's kind of
the lame thing to do well if it's hold on,
if it's like expensive or something, right, I don't really
have a problem with it. But if you're like, you
(37:12):
need to take me somewhere nice, oh, and you're like
I'm not swiming the bill with you, then I'd be like,
all right, so you like I don't want to be
your I don't want to be like your paper.
Speaker 2 (37:19):
Yeah yeah yeah.
Speaker 4 (37:20):
But if it's just like you went not for coffee
and he's like, you know, he won't cover your five
dollars coffee, it's just like a gesture. I would do it.
Speaker 1 (37:29):
I think next podcast you should do one segment on
like men truths, like single straight men truths.
Speaker 4 (37:40):
I don't know, it's such a weird.
Speaker 1 (37:42):
That she wanted she wanted I don't know she wanted
to know about like ro men think, how men think,
how about that.
Speaker 4 (37:48):
Well, it's complex and it's very simple. Well, let's say,
for my for my first segment, my tidbit is be cautious.
And I would say, if you want to have more success,
be a little bit more aggressive. I think women should
be a little bit well they don't not should or
shouldn't anything, But if you want to see a little
(38:08):
bit more success, I'd say, show a little bit more initiative.
Aggresses a bad word, be a little bit more forward. Afraid, Yeah,
I mean honestly, like, even if like a guy rejects you,
he's gonna be so flattered that.
Speaker 2 (38:20):
Yeah, but you're gonna feel like shit not compare.
Speaker 4 (38:24):
Yeah, but it's so much worse for men because like,
if you get rejected as a guy, like halftime, it's like,
h no, like that is like a much more likely scenario. Now.
Most times they'll be like, no, I'm sorry, but like, also,
oh my god.
Speaker 1 (38:36):
You have hurt my feelings. Oh my god, about my
feelings if I got rejected.
Speaker 4 (38:39):
Yeah, but if like, if I reject somebody, I would
feel so bad. They'd be like, oh, that's so sweet,
that's so nice. If you bound like I'm sorry, I'm
not interested, but for women like and I've heard I
hear the first hand story. Sometimes I go like, wow,
you're kind of addict to that. Dude, he was just
trying to ask you out, like it wasn't that big
of a deal. He'd be nice.
Speaker 3 (38:56):
Do you have any like people talking a SoundBite?
Speaker 1 (39:00):
No?
Speaker 3 (39:01):
Do you have any like music?
Speaker 1 (39:03):
Do I like the restaurant in the background? Okay, here,
let me get let me pull something up.
Speaker 3 (39:08):
So I'm gonna do We're gonna be on it.
Speaker 4 (39:10):
This is just this is what's playing the club.
Speaker 1 (39:14):
Yeah, we're some cool place where we're eating. Right, is
this expensive place? This is a club, but it's like
it's a viby.
Speaker 4 (39:22):
This is the this is like a rave. Yeah. Yeah.
Speaker 3 (39:25):
So we're like, you know.
Speaker 1 (39:26):
Okay, so are we Are we done with our snacks?
Are we like dancing?
Speaker 3 (39:30):
Are we just we're done? We're talking?
Speaker 2 (39:32):
Do we have our drinks?
Speaker 4 (39:33):
Like my coke? You guys are staying up against the
wall and the club, and.
Speaker 1 (39:38):
So I'm like, this is our first day. Okay, So
so I want you to you want me to start?
So have you ever come here before? Because it's kind
of a cool. I like the vibe in here.
Speaker 2 (39:54):
It's it's it's it's a cool place.
Speaker 4 (39:56):
You picked way too much.
Speaker 3 (39:58):
Yeah, you know, it was really great meeting you, but yeah,
I think this is gonna be our last date.
Speaker 1 (40:10):
What do you wait? What are you saying to me?
Uh wait?
Speaker 3 (40:14):
What feeling?
Speaker 1 (40:17):
You're not feeling the spark?
Speaker 3 (40:19):
No, I'm sorry.
Speaker 2 (40:22):
Okay, Well I wish he's the best.
Speaker 3 (40:27):
Yeah, you too, and thanks for.
Speaker 1 (40:31):
Dude.
Speaker 2 (40:31):
That was like a sword in my all.
Speaker 4 (40:35):
Right, then that's a you problem because that was the
that was pretty closely how you can.
Speaker 1 (40:39):
I think anybody that would get that speech would feel
kind of shitty.
Speaker 4 (40:43):
But remember on day when you're talking to a complete stranger, right,
you say, hey, like you know, it's nice.
Speaker 1 (40:48):
Let me do that. Listen. Okay, now we're you're driving.
You actually picked me up because I let you. I
don't know what Okay, this is this is third date.
Speaker 4 (40:58):
Okay, on third date, though, you should be back. You
to be past the Yeah we're not really vibe in stage.
Speaker 1 (41:02):
Well, but this is how this is how well he's
a little bit he was too, and he's been too
scared to tell me.
Speaker 4 (41:12):
No, no, it's a two way street.
Speaker 1 (41:14):
No. No, I'm thinking that things are just going great
and you are clueless.
Speaker 2 (41:18):
I know.
Speaker 4 (41:19):
I am all right.
Speaker 1 (41:20):
Okay, so we are.
Speaker 3 (41:25):
We're in your car and I pulled up to your house.
Speaker 1 (41:27):
Your house, okay, well, thank you again. I had such
a great time.
Speaker 3 (41:34):
Yeah, it was nice.
Speaker 1 (41:35):
Do you do you want to come in at all
and like have a like a nightcap or whatever.
Speaker 3 (41:42):
No, I think I'm going to head home.
Speaker 2 (41:44):
Oh well, do you have to work tomorrow?
Speaker 9 (41:46):
No?
Speaker 1 (41:47):
Oh, okay, I'm just not are you okay?
Speaker 3 (41:52):
Just not really feeling it?
Speaker 1 (41:54):
I'm sorry, Wait, you're not really feeling what like?
Speaker 3 (41:59):
I just don't feel like there's a connection between you
and I. Oh, I'm sorry.
Speaker 1 (42:07):
I just thought, don't be sorry. That's fine.
Speaker 3 (42:10):
I feel a little more than I do.
Speaker 1 (42:14):
And no is it?
Speaker 6 (42:17):
Is it me?
Speaker 4 (42:17):
Isla? I need you handled it so well? You just
say okay. I mean, I'm glad to have met you.
Sorry we couldn't work out, and then you leave. You
don't need to.
Speaker 2 (42:29):
Don't Well, here's here's why.
Speaker 4 (42:31):
I ask him, what's wrong with me? What did I
do wrong? I guarantee you will never find a date
like that.
Speaker 1 (42:36):
I want information.
Speaker 4 (42:39):
No future, use you don't get any Sorry, don't ask,
don't be cleaning, don't be insecure. All right, another piece
of ice. Do not act insecure. You can be insecure.
Do not act insecure because what you just did.
Speaker 2 (42:55):
Well, I'm not crying, and I said, okay.
Speaker 4 (42:58):
But you want to know, well, what's what's wrong? What
I do something?
Speaker 7 (43:01):
No?
Speaker 2 (43:03):
So what what was the issue?
Speaker 3 (43:06):
Nothing? There was no issue.
Speaker 4 (43:07):
He already told you that though he told you that,
I just don't feel the connection. Wasn't there? That's all
you need to know.
Speaker 3 (43:12):
Just don't feel a connection.
Speaker 1 (43:14):
But I thought like you revived me like big time
on the dance.
Speaker 4 (43:19):
This is this is so bad. Stop hijacking my dating
advice segment with your insecurities. This is terrible. You're making
this awful.
Speaker 2 (43:26):
Okay, I wanted to see what Eric broke up with me.
Speaker 4 (43:29):
It doesn't matter. He didn't break up with you. You're
on the third date. There's no connection, and you got
all clingy about it. I did Jesus, I.
Speaker 1 (43:36):
Hopped on top of him and guess attached myself to him.
Speaker 4 (43:40):
If that was me, you'd be blocked right after that.
Speaker 1 (43:44):
Sorry on everything like social media?
Speaker 4 (43:46):
Or did you text me and be like are you
sure there's nothing I could do?
Speaker 1 (43:49):
You know?
Speaker 4 (43:49):
What's what happened? Let me fix this.
Speaker 1 (43:51):
I would so do a drive by see if you're home.
Speaker 4 (43:56):
You'll take care of that. Bang bang bang no stockhold,
Like my god, let me wrap up this advice before you. Guys,
women always be cautious, uh in this dating climate, be
a little bit more adventurous, a little bit more bold.
I think you'll get good results. Don't be insecure. Well,
don't project insecurity, it's fine, but project confidence even if
(44:18):
you don't feel confident, it's fine. Just remember, you as
an individual have value regardless of what your potential romantic
partners think. So rejection of you is not rejection of
your worth.
Speaker 2 (44:28):
I like that.
Speaker 3 (44:29):
I do too. I needed to hear that, Jesus, So
I'm gonna call him Mahatma Jones.
Speaker 4 (44:37):
But yeah, and just remember you get rejected just like
all right, you don't ever see that person again, Like
that's not you know, as far as you're concerned, they
don't exist anymore. So it's really not that big a deal.
It still can to be scary, but trust is a
woman that's much easier than this is a guy. I
believe that. So Okay, that's my two cents for this week.
Speaker 1 (44:53):
Well that was I was outstanding, and I really like
what you said at the end because now I feel better.
It wasn't a reflection of me, although it was obviously.
Speaker 4 (45:04):
I'm talking about I'm talking about like you know, just
like hey, sorry, I'm like not interested?
Speaker 3 (45:07):
But what if? What of you?
Speaker 4 (45:12):
Is how you handled it?
Speaker 3 (45:15):
Okay?
Speaker 4 (45:15):
Reflection?
Speaker 3 (45:16):
Here? Wait, let's do this.
Speaker 1 (45:19):
Oh my god, I know Brian will get up and
he's going to walk out the door.
Speaker 3 (45:24):
So we scenario is the same? Scenario is the same
I pull up to your house and you say, can.
Speaker 4 (45:30):
We change the scenario?
Speaker 2 (45:31):
No, this is a therapy.
Speaker 1 (45:33):
See what he's doing?
Speaker 4 (45:34):
All right?
Speaker 3 (45:34):
All right, because here's here's the opposite.
Speaker 6 (45:37):
Okay.
Speaker 1 (45:38):
So I had a really good time and thank you
for that. That was a cool place you took me
to and I'm really enjoying getting to know you.
Speaker 3 (45:46):
Yeah yeah, I was too.
Speaker 1 (45:49):
So you want to do something in the future, like
like are you being serious?
Speaker 3 (45:58):
Yeah?
Speaker 1 (46:00):
How come?
Speaker 3 (46:01):
Just not feeling it?
Speaker 4 (46:03):
Okay? You messed up by saying it? Did? You messed
up by saying how come? Because up in those two words,
he had already communicated that he was a dick. All right,
you shouldn't need to know how come this guy's opinion
should not marry you because he's clearly a dick. You
would just say okay, and you get the car and
you and you're done.
Speaker 1 (46:22):
Okay.
Speaker 4 (46:22):
You should not be seeking validation from people who do
not value you.
Speaker 1 (46:25):
I'm just a curious person, that's all.
Speaker 2 (46:27):
But yes, I know you're right.
Speaker 4 (46:29):
You're right. It's not curiosity.
Speaker 1 (46:31):
It is totally let me.
Speaker 4 (46:33):
Okay, you know what I'm gonna be you, I'm gonna be.
Speaker 6 (46:37):
Eric.
Speaker 4 (46:37):
We're in the car and I okay, we just we
pulled in my house and the day I said, Hey,
a lot of fun. Would you be you want to
do something again? Next week?
Speaker 3 (46:45):
Probably not, I've got I've got a lot going on
next week.
Speaker 4 (46:48):
Okay, maybe a little week after you'd be free.
Speaker 3 (46:50):
I think I'm going out of town.
Speaker 4 (46:52):
Okay, So do you want to call me or is
that you think? Maybe?
Speaker 3 (46:55):
Just I think we're probably better off as friends.
Speaker 4 (46:58):
Okay. Is just to be clear, is there anything I
said that bothered you or anything I did?
Speaker 3 (47:04):
Jeff just never taken me this long to hit it before.
Speaker 4 (47:07):
Okay, Well nice me and you.
Speaker 1 (47:11):
Excuse me, but you just did the same thing that
I did.
Speaker 4 (47:14):
Difference was wasn't insecurity when you said it was definitely
different because he said, I'm not feeling You're like, what,
how come why not? Why won't you Damien? I said, okay,
you know that's.
Speaker 1 (47:26):
Fine, just something that it is curiousity to make sure
I didn't effect the.
Speaker 2 (47:30):
Way I said it.
Speaker 1 (47:31):
Okay, okay, okay.
Speaker 4 (47:32):
And then he said, nope, you're just a bit and
I said and he said, I don't want you won't
let me hit. I said, okay, I'm out of here.
See you have proven to me, Okay, I don't value
your opinion on this matter.
Speaker 2 (47:45):
Okay, all right, I get it.
Speaker 1 (47:46):
I get it now, I get it. It's clear.
Speaker 5 (47:49):
I know.
Speaker 2 (47:50):
Well that saw how that works.
Speaker 4 (47:52):
Now.
Speaker 3 (47:52):
Now, if a guy says that to you, if he
actually had the nerve to say that to you, you
could say, well you have tiny balls.
Speaker 4 (47:58):
Well I just well, all right, I'll give you one
more piece of advice, because this is important. I think
often this is a lot of the times. The case
is that women are very quick to cut off men
at small insults or slights or things like that. And
that's fine, I would say, though, however, because there there
is a limited pool of people in the world, is
that you should understand the difference between someone saying something
(48:21):
that defends you because they don't value you and just
because they're maybe it's a little stupid and just said
something they shouldn't have. There is a difference. One of
those things you should walk away from. The other one
you can't show a little grace to. It probably won't
be a bigger deal.
Speaker 3 (48:33):
So okay, I think we're you draw The line in
any relationship is when somebody is just mean.
Speaker 4 (48:40):
To you, it's disrespect. Someone can say something mean and
still respect you. They just you know, maybe a little
slip up. But if someone says something mean because they
don't respect you, then yeah, that's that's paker.
Speaker 1 (48:50):
Yeah, oh for sure, for sure, I will not be interesting.
Speaker 4 (48:53):
Women be careful that too, because men are very attuned
to indicate a disrespect. That will like not necessarily they'll
get mean or anything, but that will really hurt their.
Speaker 1 (49:04):
Feelings if they're disrespected.
Speaker 4 (49:06):
Yeah, if you like slowly disrespected, not even like not
even like in the way like you know, men demand respect,
but like can you make them feel bad about themselves
for something that like they are proud of everything like that,
then yeah, they'll that will be Yeah, that could be
a deal break.
Speaker 2 (49:18):
Okay, okay, wow, great segment.
Speaker 1 (49:22):
I hope that you Okay, And we're gonna have another
one next week about like just general's.
Speaker 4 (49:27):
True about okay, actually, well we'll touch on that one.
Speaker 1 (49:30):
We'll tell you well, we'll figure it out anyway. Thank
you guys so much for listening and watching. We love
you so much, thank you.
Speaker 2 (49:36):
Thank you. We just passed our six year mark.
Speaker 3 (49:39):
I know, I can't believe it.
Speaker 2 (49:41):
All right, we're looking.
Speaker 1 (49:43):
For our producer because our sweet sweet Brian is leaving
us in November.
Speaker 2 (49:47):
He's moving across.
Speaker 4 (49:48):
Like I think my last episode will be our Halloween episode.
Speaker 1 (49:52):
Oh well, that'll be appropriate and sad but fun and awful.
Speaker 3 (49:58):
And I'm wearing all black.
Speaker 1 (50:00):
Oh I know we should wear all I'm gonna wear
a veil black bride or something.
Speaker 2 (50:06):
Yes, yes, all black.
Speaker 1 (50:08):
Anyway, look for the job posting on indeed one of
these days when it pops up. Okay.
Speaker 2 (50:15):
I love you and love your podcast.
Speaker 3 (50:19):
Love you and love your podcast.
Speaker 1 (50:20):
I love you, my sweet babies.
Speaker 2 (50:22):
Bye guys,
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