Screen Time Hacks For Kids + Delivery Room Survival

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Speaker 1 (00:00):
Welcome to for the Dads. Thank you for tuning in
on this early Wednesday morning. I hope the trash is
taken out. I hope you made yourself some breakfast, packed
the little kids backpack. This is a show for the dads,
for the dads who are in it, about to be
in it, or maybe you're just somebody tuning in wondering
what dad life dad culture is all about. This is
not a show about giving advice or being experts. We're

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just a couple of dads trying to pioneer and carry
a flag for fatherhood, for dad culture, and just and
speak up for our mental load. We have a lot
of different segments in this show. We talk about our
dad losses, which we get creative and what we call
that segment. I'm not saying it at the top of
the episode because I assume the YouTube algorithm might penalize
us for that. We talk about our dad losses. Well,

(00:43):
we crack a cold one too. We dive into fan
callings this week. We have a lot of great feedback
from episode one. We play a couple fan callings and
talk about those lessons that we are leaning into to
become better versions in our minds. Of what fatherhood is.
But again, and we have a lot of fun. If
you are a current dad, if you're a new dad,

(01:04):
if you're an old dad just trying to figure your
phone out right now, make sure you're subscribed to this channel.
Right now, we are on all Busting with the Boys channels.
In July, we will be launching our for the Dad's
YouTube channel, so be on the lookout for that. We
have a lot of merchandise as you can see, for
the Dad's hats, hoodie shirts, everything in between. That is
at BWTB dot com. Again, Suram, I said that I

(01:27):
said that part. Shream. I fucking said that part. And
I was rolling on this intro. Uh. Sherman was showing
me something on the on the computer and I was
thinking to myself, I literally have already said that let's
dive into it. Let let's let's take out the trash boys.

(01:49):
Come to another episode of four the Dads. This is
episode two. I am Will Compton, my co host and
producer of the show. Sherman Young is with your boy.
You're probably watching on YouTube right now, maybe you're listening,
maybe you're in the middle of the night right now
listening to us in your ear. Maybe you are taking
out the trash reminder. It is trash day. It is Wednesday.

(02:11):
So if you're my part, I know in my neck
of the woods in Nashville, Tennessee, it is trash day.
So I hope you guys are getting the canes out
to the curb. Whether it's Thursday day before, get it
out there, get it early, get it often. Or maybe
you might just be sitting on the couch watching with
your wife because you enjoyed episode one so much that
you're like, hey, now it's time to get the misses involved.
But maybe not, because this is a safe space for

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the father. So if your wife is watching with you,
just let her know, honey, like this is just a
pod for the dads, Like this is for our voices.
This is our safe space where we can vent. We
might bitch a little bit about our wives, and that's
okay because that's no matter what. We're coming home because sweetheart,
we love you. But all to say, a lot of

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great feedback last week, bro, the feedback's crazy, the finback's insane.
I got a few I want to shout out because
I was going through the I was going through the comments.

Speaker 2 (03:01):
I'm glad you did that.

Speaker 1 (03:02):
Yeah, I was going through the comments seeing what people
had said. But shout out again, Jerry Ferris. He was
the one delivering his newborn on the bathroom floor. I
saw comments on the YouTube page, but shout out the boy.
Shout out the dad, Jerry Ferris. A lot of people
enjoying Pizza Friday, the Pizza Friday shout outs getting more.
It's good to grow the community on Pizza Friday. We
need more dads involved in growing the Pizza Friday community.

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Aaron Wood, a twenty five year old girl dad, buddy,
his buddies don't have kids in this show helps him
fill the void. We also had a couple of dads
chime in. Jackson who's twenty five chimed in saying the
same thing, and even Adam, a forty year old girl
dad was saying the same thing. Hey, yeah, maybe his
buddies don't have kids. I don't know. Maybe he's not
surrounded by some friends and he might just need this

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show to vent or feel like he's part of the
he's part of the trenches.

Speaker 2 (03:49):
Well yeah, yeah, he's still in the game.

Speaker 1 (03:52):
Knicks World. His wife is a shout out Knicks World
on YouTube and I saw this one in the comments.
His wife is twenty six weeks pregnant. Listen to the show,
so again, you can be an expecting father like yourself. Sure,
you can be a dad who's currently in it you
got some young ones, or you can be a father
who's got you know, I've seeing some people saying that
their kids are now in their twenties, but they just

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enjoy listening back and hearing all the memories about fatherhood.

Speaker 2 (04:18):
Yeah that not only the comments, but the dms and
the six on one, the dad's hotline. Yeah, man, you
were telling me bonkers, how many what.

Speaker 1 (04:29):
Was that number? Yesterday? It was like seventy four had
left voicemails?

Speaker 2 (04:32):
Yes, uh, and it was even more today. Chef who
helps dial everything in on the back end, as far
as six on one, the dads are DM socials. Chefs
show me the voicemails even today, and I'm seeing those
blue dots next to him, which means they're new voicemails
on the iPhone. You're just actually have the This is

(04:52):
the six on one, the dad's phone, right, that's the phone,
right there is the hotline. This is the hotline six
on one, the Dad's You guys have I'm doing a
great job calling in one of my favorite ones. I
kind of want to play. I wish I had selected
it now that I think about it, had zero questions,
didn't want to say anything except for a happy Father's

(05:14):
Day to the boys. Dude, that's all he wanted to say.

Speaker 1 (05:17):
Yeah, because by the time this one drops, a Father's
Day will have already happened. Yes, I hope dad's I
hope the father's out there got everything they wanted. I
hope they got their their feet rubbed. I hope they
got to sleep in maybe a little bit, maybe take
a nap in the afternoon. I know, if you're listening
to this now, I'm going to say that I successfully
got to take a nap in the afternoon, because that's
one big thing I always enjoy. You have a little

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bit of free time, get on the big love sack,
take a little nap on a Sunday.

Speaker 2 (05:41):
Is that the love sack that's up in your game? Ram, Yeah, yeah,
that thing is. It's gonna cloud.

Speaker 1 (05:46):
It's comfy. You see. We got a couple facelifts. If
I don't know if the cameras are showing it, but
we now have a refrigerator or interns at a great
job grabbing this refrigerator at an antique shop. We got
Shirm's little bean, the photos hanging up on the fridge.
We got Rue. She made that little sheep. Clearly, she
probably didn't make the sheep. She probably had a little help,

(06:08):
but she made the little sheep and the butterfly coloring
that you see, that was that was Taylor.

Speaker 2 (06:14):
Oh really yeah, well well done Taylor.

Speaker 1 (06:17):
Yeah, well done Taylor.

Speaker 2 (06:18):
That's awesome.

Speaker 1 (06:19):
Yeah, but yeah, I look at that. I'm like, God,
we gotta work on color and in between the lines.
I've been trying to work with her. God bless her.
She loves coloring, She loves doing all. She gets very
frustrated if she can't color inside the lines, and she
just wants, like dead that you do it, Mama, you
do it. You know what I mean. Yeah, she's got
to keep practicing. You got to keep trying. But we
got a little facelift with the uh, with the studio

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set up.

Speaker 2 (06:41):
Got a little face lift. I actually might have my
first tip. My mom's an artist. If you go, if
you start with Rue on the edges. This is for
any dads out there. If you start on the edges
and you have them trace inside of that line and
practice tracing. That's a good way to get that hand
a little steady, and it kind of makes it like

(07:03):
nice for them of oh I can do that, because
it's kind of hard when they're scratching and blah blah.
But hey, try and go with the line first and
then fill it in. There's a little game.

Speaker 1 (07:13):
It's a good Yeah, a little game, good little starting point,
good little step one.

Speaker 3 (07:17):
Yeah.

Speaker 1 (07:18):
Yeah, what uh dude, what's been going on? Anything? Any
new updates before we get into you know, getting motherfucker
to crack a cold one getting into our segments. Yeah, dude.

Speaker 2 (07:29):
The so Jill is starting to officially pack the hospital bag,
like the overnight bag. Yeah, And last night I was
watching I was watching TV, and I was eating dinner
and we have these little dinner set things that we
sit and eat because Jill's belly is so big that
it's not comfortable for her to really kind of sit

(07:50):
at the dinner table. She's kinda kind of sit back
while she's eating. And she's on FaceTime with her mom
at Lululemon. She's, you know, Mom's take out some bougie
suffer Jill. And then I hear does Sherman need anything
for the hospital? Does he need any new clothes? And
I'm in the background going, no, I work at Bustin
where you guys give us free clothes, like like twice

(08:13):
a week, three times a week. We need something new.
And Joe goes, yes, you do, you do need new? Yeah? Mom,
he needs sweatpants, he needs blah blah blah. They're just
like buying all this stuff for me. I didn't even
see it, but uh, it's great when the girls just
like take the reins on the shopping stuff because I'm
terrible at it, and whatever they buy me, I smile
and just say thank you and I'll wear it.

Speaker 1 (08:35):
And just packing the overnight bag, oh yeah, all the things,
you know, the little wrinkles that go into that because
you're just thinking, I mean, what all are they going
to have any everything there for us?

Speaker 2 (08:45):
That was my thought. And then I'm seeing this bag
and it looks like we're going to an overnight camp
like I went to camp as a kid. And like packing,
you pack a trunk and a duffel. We need a
true duffel and you gotta have the outfit first.

Speaker 1 (08:58):
Outfit they're gonna wear when they leave the hospital. Oh yeah,
and j Suddy of the outfits. Don't get me started
on the outfit. It's not the hospital one coming out.
I get that. That's a big moment and everything else.
I was with a fellow dad the other weekend and
we were at charl had like a bar three event
over what's that horse track over on the west side.
Ooh uh, Steeplechase. They had an event going on over

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at Steeplechase. And I take the kids over, and I
take the kids over and we're watching her doer thing. Shit.
There was like three four hundred people there, and we're
just wanting to go see mom and stuff like that.
And I'm standing there next to a fellow dad's name.
His name is Tom. We'll say his last name, you know,
got to protect him on the show. Don't know if
his wife's listening right now, of course, of course, so

(09:43):
it could be any Tom. And we're standing there and
you know, we're kind of just venting, getting some dad
stuff off our chest, bitching a little bit, just having
a good time bonding over fatherhood, the sucky parts, like
some of the sucky parts of it. He was bringing
up this detail, and once he brought up he had
to he had to have their daughter in a specific
outfit coming over to the event. I'm like, buddy, don't

(10:04):
you hate when they do stuff like that? Like you're
just thinking, all right, I'm gonna get them dressed, then
you bring them downstairs, and then all of a sudden, Hey,
why didn't you put on the outfit I had laid out?
It's like a lot. It seemed a little complicated. I
don't want to have to tie the little strings on
the back of the neck, like or if it's a
dress and I don't know necessarily how to work it. It
seems like there's a lot of different things going on
with the operation, like what's wrong with your shorts and

(10:26):
a T shirt? And then next thing you know, you're
in a little you're in a little dust up. You're
in a little moment because they want a specific outfit
to go to a certain event. I'm not gonna say
leaving the hospital again aside from yeah, yeah, but in
everyday life, one thing that you're gonna run into is
they're gonna want them in certain outfits and some that
you're gonna come and you're like, how does this thing
function because again, you're gonna have a little girl too,

(10:47):
Like you're more privy to what guys where. It's like, hey,
shorts and a T shirt. It's gonna work just fine.
She's gonna play a lot, Like why does she need
a certain outfit? Because now when she's wearing her dresses,
she has an expectation of wanting to wear a dress,
and it's like, sweetheart, you can't wear a dress every
day of your life. You got gymnastics today, we got
sprints today. Yeah, yeah, you know what I'm saying.

Speaker 2 (11:07):
And especially if she's getting into sports like soccer and
stuff like that, like she'll learn the importance of some
shorts or some T shirts over her dress. Now, I
don't want to put I don't want to get in
trouble with Jill.

Speaker 1 (11:21):
Yeah, Charles, I love you. I love you. I know
she listened to last week, she might listen to this week,
who knows. But it's always the thing. I almost like,
sweetheart will be in the car. I'm like, why do
I got to put her in a certain outfit? Or
I might just say, hey, my bet on the outfit,
you know, kind of massage a little bit. But also
why does she gott to wear that outfit?

Speaker 2 (11:39):
Yeah, and what's up with all the buttons on the outfits?
That's what I'm getting introduced right now because I'm just seeing,
like Scarlet's not here yet, obviously, But the closet is
more full than my closet, my like human thirty two
year old. I have a job, I have weekend outfits,
I have jackets and stuff for the winter. My born

(12:00):
child has more clothes inner closet right now, I swear
to God. And that might be because Jill has like
twenty six first cousins and all these aunts and uncles
like and so we're getting.

Speaker 1 (12:11):
All these right, all these different outfits.

Speaker 2 (12:13):
Thank you so much for sending them. But I'm also
looking at the closet. I'm like, holy.

Speaker 1 (12:18):
Shit, Okay, she's only going to be three months old
for thirty days.

Speaker 2 (12:22):
That's the other thing that And now that she's small,
they're like, okay, she's kind of smaller, so she'll actually
fit in premi stuff. So honey, we got to actually
go to Walmart. We got to buy the premie sizes
because she's gonna be a little on the smaller side.
And I'm like, okay, so like us going you know,
eight months in advance to buy the onesies. Maybe wasn't

(12:42):
the smartest decision, but it was so fun to go shopping.
But the question I have for you that might get
you in trouble. And I'm sorry, okay, but I laughed
when I overheard Jill say this. She has a we
have an induction date the second of July. She has
a hair appointment before the endduction date. Did Charles had
a hair appointment before her induction book?

Speaker 1 (13:04):
I don't think so, Okay, I don't think she did.
I mean, buddy, it's a war in there.

Speaker 2 (13:10):
I'm not ready.

Speaker 1 (13:12):
I'm even thinking for Jill for what she's going to
get hair and makeup done. Yeah, that's what I'm saying.

Speaker 2 (13:17):
Like, but she's getting her hair done.

Speaker 1 (13:18):
It's a it's a war in Charle might have. I
have no clue. I don't remember with either of them,
her like having a hair appointment. Maybe she did, you
know what I mean, because then they you know, they
want to look, you know, as they're leaving the hospital
and everything else. Of course, but it's a war in there,
like you know, I hope, I hope the best way
I hope it's in you know, I hear my buddies

(13:39):
being like, hey, we spent about an hour in the hospital.
We were out, and it's like, well, good for you, man.
It was forty plus with Charles like it was a
it was a war.

Speaker 2 (13:48):
But my buddy showed me a video of him and
his wife headed for their first baby girl. They're headed
to the hospital, and so I in that moment, I'm
sure I'm gonna be so crazy nervous. Thereah in a
red light and he had the thought to pull out
his phone and film his wife in the passenger seat
and she has the little mirror down and she's doing

(14:08):
her makeup in the mirror. That made me laugh so hard.

Speaker 1 (14:13):
Yeah, I mean, look, if they're in and out quick, yeah,
you know, maybe that's what Maybe that's all right, Okay,
you just gotta prepare. Bring your own pillow, bring your
comfy of stuff, bring it in, an extra pillow to
put under your knees, because that the couch bit that
they got, or just the couch in general, like that's
a that's a bit of a battle for the dad's
like you're gonna be where you know, you're gonna go
through physically too. Yeah, maybe not like them, but you

(14:35):
on that couch. That's a one on one game right there.

Speaker 2 (14:38):
I've heard that. Uh one of my buddies was saying,
Pokemon like on the original Game Boys? What got him
through on those little soap elements? And I'm thinking to myself.

Speaker 1 (14:48):
I'm just thinking I've been playing Pokemon like.

Speaker 2 (14:51):
Well, I'm thinking to myself, get your ass over here, Jill,
look at catching this buble sore the charmers. I'm so
sorry what you say, nurse? What were you saying? Uh?
But I was I was like, what would her mom
think if she looked over and I have my game
boy with my little Pokemon blues sticking out of the back. Hey, Sherman,

(15:13):
do you mind grabbing these things?

Speaker 3 (15:15):
Yeah?

Speaker 1 (15:15):
Yeah, one second, I'm swimming at the bottom of the
island trying to get all the unlimited rare candy.

Speaker 2 (15:21):
Great pool grateful.

Speaker 1 (15:24):
Oh those were the days, man, they were. Should we
dive into our should we dive into our segments? Yes?
And again before we do. If you're watching on YouTube
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(15:46):
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And yeah, can I do one more housekeeping thing?

Speaker 2 (16:08):
Yes, I'll put two graphics right here. We have an
email for those that are outside of the United States and
can't do six to oh one the Dads over the phone.
We have six to oh one the Dads at gmail
dot com that they can then write in their questions
to you.

Speaker 1 (16:24):
Okay, so if.

Speaker 2 (16:24):
You're outside of the United States and you want to
ask the Boys a question, feel free to do that
in the email. The other one I just went blank,
and it had to do with the YouTube channel that
will launch in July.

Speaker 1 (16:37):
Okay, so be on the lookout in July.

Speaker 2 (16:39):
We've been having a lot of people asking, Hey, I
can't find y'all's channel, though I found your podcast, but
it's on the bus and channel. Right, always be on
the bus and channel.

Speaker 1 (16:48):
Won't always be on the bus and channel. We'll have
our own channel, right, We'll have our own channel. Be
able to break out some clips, do fun stuff like that. Yeah.
Also bwdtv dot com, we got a lot of killer merch.
This hoodie that I'm wearing, these hats that Sherman and
I are wearing a lot of fun dad merch on there.
Bwtv dot com. Go shop shop to you, drop shop

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till you drop.

Speaker 2 (17:10):
First first segment, I had motherfucker pulled up first, but
we can go in any order you want.

Speaker 1 (17:14):
Listen, I'm down for a good motherfucked. It's coming. It's
been coming from my daughter. It's been coming from my daughter.
Ru Yeah, and it's a it's an ego shot. It's
it's her bedtime. She's in the she's three, and she's
gotten in this phase to where sometimes she enjoys bedtime
with dad dad, but recently it's mom or nothing. And

(17:39):
when I say mom or nothing, I'm talking an exorcism
style tantrum to where she's shaking, she's making noises I've
never heard her make before. When she cries. She's yelling
so loud that the next morning she wakes up and
she's got like the little Compton rasp from when she's
like lost her voice because she gets so upset if

(18:00):
Mama doesn't do bedtime. Because my wife and I one
of us take Scotty each night, the other takes Rue,
and then we just switch back and forth. And obviously
Scotty is kind of the easier one. She's sleeping through
the night, She goes down very easy, she knocks out,
she absolutely yugs her eight ounces of milk come on,
and she's out fairly quickly. So you get done her leering.

(18:21):
The other ones in the room with Rue like just
negotiating their ass off the entire time, to the point
where you have to think about waterboarding or if you're
gonna get her down for bed. But Rue has been
It's like she asks. I walk in the room, and
I start to feel uncomfortable because I'm like, man, I
hope she is down for dad to put her to
sleep tonight, you know what I mean? Yeah? And I
walk in and her first question like, hey, you know

(18:43):
who did bedtime last night? And I'm like, Mama did
bedtime last night, So who's doing bedtime tonight. And I'm like,
Dad is doing bedtime tonight, and it's just like her
head goes up, bro, and it's it's like she sees
it's like she sees like a substitute teacher that she hates,
and that substitute teacher takes their job way too seriously.
And it's like the energy just leaves the room.

Speaker 2 (19:04):
And have y'all gotten a reason out of her yet?

Speaker 1 (19:07):
Like she wants Mama, She wants mama. I need mama,
Mama to hug me. And I think it's just because
Mama's in the other room with Scotty and a little
bit of jealousy kind of sparks up. Okay, but it
wears my wife out because she's like, you know, it's
not like she's that much easier with Charro because Charles
gotta put her down. She wants to do a lot
of extra things when Charles's in the room. And because

(19:28):
you read her a bedtime story, like you get her
in her pjs, you read her a bedtime story, you
brush your hair, you brush your teeth, you get her
to the bed, then she usually wants you to do
something extra. Hey, Dad, that lay next to me, read
me another book and then dadda, can you sing to me?
Or Hey, I'm getting thirsty, and then you go down
and get water and you might bring it back up.
Dedad I'm getting hungry. And that's where you draw the line.

(19:48):
You're like, no, like, I know, we know what's happening
right now. We got to slow it down on pumping brakes.
But recently, bro, she's just been going batshit crazy anytime
I try to put her down for bed, and it's
like it's one of those shots to where it sucks
for me because I want to put her down. You've
got to have so much patience. It's like you're sitting
there and as she's screaming, hyperventilating, spazzing on the floor

(20:14):
and you just have to sit there in it because
anything I've tried doing it just works her up even more.
She doesn't want me to touch her, doesn't want me
to do this. Don't look at me, don't I'm not
looking at you. Then you catch yourself raising your voice
and you kind of just stop, and the moment like
freezes and this dog whistle noise is just in your
ear and you're like having a moment to where you're
just sitting there seeing your toddler just scream on the ground,

(20:36):
and you're just thinking, why is this so damn difficult?
But that is my my motherfucked moment is from my
daughter room because I feel like she's basically cussing me
out anytime I try to put her down for bed. Well.

Speaker 2 (20:48):
I got to see Charroo do a little bit negotiating
with her at dad Combine, by the way, Yeah, and
I wanted to pick your brain on that strategy to
you and kind of if it fits with the bedtime
strategy as well of what how are you handling that screaming?
Like what is your tactic? Because what I saw Charro

(21:11):
do in the pool a jack was fake drowning and
the pool Rue was loving that and like save me Jago,
and she grabbed the hand and pull him out, and
they did it eight hundred times. I mean, Ru could
have done that all day. And finally Charles says, hey,
three more times and then we gotta go. And Rue

(21:36):
very quickly was like, no, mom, We're doing this a
million more times. I'm never getting out of the pool.
And Charo just stood there quite literally like George Bush
with the first pitch brick wall. Not afraid of terrorist.
I'm not afraid of terrors and said then how many
more times would you like?

Speaker 3 (21:53):
Ru?

Speaker 2 (21:53):
And I was like, I looked at Charroo because I
was like, I've never really seen a parent do that.
I was like, that's kind of cool. Let's see what
Reus has and really was like.

Speaker 1 (22:04):
Five because they can't count that high. No, you can't
count that. I wanted you give me a number and
we'll hold you to You don't like three? Okay, what
can you go up to?

Speaker 2 (22:14):
What do you want? Yeah, she's a vibe. Chre said
that sounds fair to do. Five. Yeah, where did that
come from? Is that just?

Speaker 1 (22:25):
Yeah? I mean you're you're like you're playing with things
all the time because you're trying to like remain calm
and stay patient because you don't want to argue, especially
in front of other people. Like that's something that like
internally frustrates me. When I hear kind of like, you know,
acting up or starting to throw a little bit of
a fit or complaining a little too loud, It's like
I'll start to get triggered a little bit more than
I should because I'm just like, you know, you want

(22:45):
your kid to just be on good behavior in front
of everybody. Yeah, then you're also reminding yourself they're three,
a lot of sensory, a lot of like all their
senses are flared up right now. Yeah. Oh, but it's
just it's like it's something you just figure out, like
you'll do. But I know a bunch of parents do it.
Like if I'm trying to get Rude to eat or
finish her not even finish her dinner, but get her

(23:06):
to eat a few more bites, and you know she's
just not going to and you're just like you'll throw
out the number three, like, hey, just eat three more
bites and you're done, and you can be done. Yeah,
Or she'll talk about the cookie. Hey, you're not getting
a cookie whatsoever if you don't start eating. But then
when it gets to a point, hey three more bites
and you can get a piece of a cookie. And
she'll be like, how about two more bites? And so

(23:26):
I'll just say, you know what, if you take one
more bite, I'll let you do two more bites. Do
the math. Come on, we're at three. She'll be hellkay,
she'll leat a bite, I'll find two more bites and
two more bites and you got it. But it's it's
it's like you're trying to give them control. It's all
you're really trying to do. Like when you're thinking those

(23:48):
moments and you just know again you're you're you're negotiating
with the terrorists like they have no reason, they have
no their brain capacity isn't there to actually have a conversation.
They just want to be they want to feel independent,
they want to be in control. So if you like
say something they're kind of battling against it, you just
try to throw it to them, all right, like what
are your thoughts? What do you think? And knowing that
they can't count that high or on rus wanting to

(24:08):
scroll my phone and pick a song, and I'm just like, sweetheart,
you can't read, you can't read, You're not gonna pick
the right song.

Speaker 2 (24:16):
I got it.

Speaker 1 (24:16):
It's just the element of like giving them control in
that moment and when they say five, all right, great,
five more times and we'll go okay, We'll say, like, hey,
how many more minutes if she's watching TV? You know,
how many more minutes? You only got you know, one
more minute? Then we're gonna turn the TV off. And
knowing that she's not gonna like that. All right, how
many more minutes? She'd be back three more minutes? Like
all right, dad, else, set a time for three more minutes.

(24:37):
And then when it goes off, she gets up, she
turns off the TV really, or she'll tell me to
turn off. All right, dead a you turn it off,
and then you turn it off. But it's just like
it's like it's just giving them the illusion of control
when they're three years old. I don't know how it's
gonna work when they're four, five sixty seven. If your
parents are watching right now, let me know what I
need to look forward to, and maybe some tactics that

(24:57):
I can add and the survival kid in the book
bag for when those times come. But it's, dude, it's
like you just learn a whole new level of patience
and just being like, all right, what's a tool? What
question can I ask to make them feel like they
have control? Right now? Yeah?

Speaker 2 (25:12):
We we did the old fashioned d Way Lebron meme
of on rue with the syrup.

Speaker 1 (25:21):
Yeah.

Speaker 2 (25:22):
When I said, well, we can give Scotty some syrup
and you said, no, Sky's too young, I said, oh, yeah,
that's right. Syrup's only for big girls. And then Rue
was like, Hey, I am kind of a big girl.
What the fuck do you have anything that makes sense?

Speaker 1 (25:40):
Do you have any recent motherfucked moments? I know the
wife he's getting close, not saying she's agitated and uncomfortable,
which he is.

Speaker 2 (25:46):
I don't have a big one. But yesterday I came
home and she was in full effect of like getting
the hospital and chef, do you mind cutting the air?
It's on issue at all, but it's going to be
on the very back behind the bus and it's going
to be up against the right wall. Yes, sir, we

(26:08):
forgot to cut.

Speaker 1 (26:09):
The air and cut the air. It's alright, it happens.

Speaker 2 (26:11):
We may even leave that in the edit a bus
because we're authentic here.

Speaker 1 (26:15):
Yeah, but.

Speaker 2 (26:17):
Yes, I came home. She's packing the bags for the
hospital stuff. I can tell she's been at it all day.
Her mind kind of runs. So she's a nurse. She's
aware of like things that can go wrong in pregnancy,
and that's one thing that we've been dealing with throughout
this pregnancy is she just kind of knows like if
she burps and feels weird when she burps, her brain

(26:40):
can all of a sudden go oh, that's you know, Carl,
Carl's blah blah blah itis, and that means that, you
know what I'm sayings just spirals into well, oh my gosh.
So she pitdles around the house and does like a
lot of hard work to kind of keep her mind busy.
I could tell she was in that zone. But I

(27:03):
know that one of her lease air things that I
do when I get home is just lay on the
couch while she's peddling. So I was like, at the least,
I will go join her in the nursery lay down
on my back because she doesn't want me folding her
clothes and Scarlet's clothes, all these cute things like she
wants to do that, but I'll go lay on my
back in the nursery while she's doing that. And dude,

(27:25):
I just what's that smell? Why are your shoes on
in here? Like what are you doing? Sherman? Do you
not put your head on that? I could just sell
that I was in the way, so I quickly took
my shoes off, tried to sit there for a while.
I have a really bad I'll pass gas and not
think about it. So I fared in. That was the

(27:46):
last straw. I got kicked out of the nursery. And
I could have done a better job. I could have
come in there and been more helpful. I was exhausted
after work. I was trying to put in like some
effort though of like hey, I will be next to
you and lay with you and talk with you and
make you laugh while you're doing this. But I think
I just went about it all wrong.

Speaker 1 (28:08):
Yeah, nothing gives me more anxiety because I'm the same way.
I kind of like hitting the couch of laying down.
You get home, you just want to you just want
to check out for a second. And uh, anytime, especially
like after the kids go down and I'll go and
I'll be like laying on the couch and then say, Charles,

(28:29):
God done, putting done, Ruth. So she'll come down second.
In this situation, she'll come down. I might have a
show of ours plugged in. Right now, we're watching Stick
on Apple TV. Start that. It seems it's fun. I
like it a lot. It's a good show. It's a
good show. And I'll be down there laying and she'll

(28:49):
start pitling, you know what I mean, Like just start
cleaning a bunch of stuff up that I didn't know
we needed cleaned up. Yeah, And that's what gives me anxiety,
because I feel like she just stomps around a little harder,
like she's almost and this might not even be true.
It might even be in my own head a little harder.
She might release a couple sighs to where she knows
in her mind, I want him to feel that I'm

(29:09):
doing stuff right now and he's just sitting on his ass.
That's the anxiety that I get in my head.

Speaker 2 (29:14):
Yeah, she's just hearing tiktoks and memes playing on your iPhone.

Speaker 1 (29:18):
Yeah, Josh Payton breaking down the boys, maybe hear me
just give a chuckle. Oh, it's clear.

Speaker 2 (29:26):
Apparently they're for the boys over there.

Speaker 1 (29:28):
Yeah, so what are you doing? They're just checking emails.
That's funny. I hear Instagram open right now.

Speaker 2 (29:35):
That Uh yeah, I mean that's that's basically it's not
a crazy motherfuck, But it is like I'm starting to
realize too, with like a baby on the way, I'm
going to have to hit like a three pm or
three point thirty coffee something to where like, yeah, I'm
not coming home, And my brain is instantly like I

(29:57):
just I need to be on the couch for like
thirty to forty five minutes just on my phone, not
even talk, because that's where I go to every single time.
I can tell you it rubs her the wrong way.

Speaker 1 (30:08):
Yeah, you're gonna be you know, just dip. Yeah, that'll
blow up when the little one's here.

Speaker 2 (30:14):
Oh yeah, I already I already know that. It's a hope.

Speaker 1 (30:17):
I hope you do. Try that a couple of times,
just because I want to show for the show. Hey, so,
are you gonna get that? You're just doom scrolling?

Speaker 2 (30:31):
Oh they Oh okay, Ohio statement win the Natty this year. Honey,
that's crazy.

Speaker 1 (30:36):
I don't.

Speaker 2 (30:36):
I don't give a fuck. What are you talking about?
I uh but yeah, that that was my motherfucked me.
If we want to throw it to crack a cold one.

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Speaker 2 (32:49):
Let's crack a cold one? I cracked mid mid adread.
Do you want to take crack a cole on?

Speaker 3 (32:55):
First?

Speaker 1 (32:56):
Sure? Rue had her first ballet camp? Oh yes, so
cracking a call. Went to Rue's first ballet camp. It
was her first camp to where she's been going. She
went for a week long, three hours per day. You
drop her off and this is a solo camp, so
this is the first time we're dropping her off to
go do something without, like without involving us or the

(33:19):
nanny or somebody that she's like comfortable with, right, yeah,
her grandparents, whatever it is. She's on her own. I
feel like it took probably more of a toll on
us than it did Rue. I know when Charle first
brought it up, I was a little hesitant, like, all right,
you know, are we sure we want to do this,
and YadA, YadA, YadA, just because I just I don't know,
I just think of the the innocent, little three year old,
like if I feel like it's all the stuff that

(33:41):
parents go through and maybe not, uh, but you're just
you think about all the situations where they might feel
unsure and nervous or they might get picked on. I
don't know, all of these things are just in my
head and I just think of my sweet little girl. Yeah,
and that makes me sad to think of those situations.
So I felt like it was it took a bigger

(34:01):
toll on us then it did her. But dude, it's
it was awesome. The first day, I know, the drop
off was a struggle. She was very nervous. She was
very sad. Charle was telling me that. She was like,
you know, Mom, I don't want you to go YadA YadA. Yeah,
I'm kind of glad that I wasn't exactly there. I
got to do it at home and telling her like, hey,
go be great, go have fun, like do all this stuff,

(34:23):
make friends. You know you're saying all the things, dude,
and she went dude. And she went into the class.
Charle was leaving Ruthe struggled with that. And then after
the class when they went to pick her up, she
came running outside and it was like, Mom, I wasn't nervous,
I wasn't scared. I did it and all this stuff,

(34:43):
and she was just elated, bro. And just to know
that she had a great first day, like first experience, Yeah,
was just like it warmed the boy's heart.

Speaker 2 (34:51):
Were you were you there on the pickup?

Speaker 1 (34:53):
That was just trying because it was happening when we
were here at the shop. Got it like it was
going from like U nine to noon. So I got
to see her before we left the house, before we
departed from the house, and then I just I didn't
get to see her until I went home and then
I'm asking her all about it, and I'm like, show
me this stuff that you were learning, and she's like
showing me tough pike straddle and butterfly. And then as

(35:16):
she's staying on butterflies, she starts singing Butterfly. She's just
like start singing.

Speaker 2 (35:20):
Because there's a song.

Speaker 1 (35:21):
There's a song to help them remember. Yeah, And it
was cool, dude, But we went the she went the
entire week. She had a little like not recital, but
something that at like fifteen minutes they showed the parents
on the last day, like all the things that they've
been working on, like their jumps and leaves and tippy
toes everywhere and animals that they were kind of mimicking
and doing stuff with their rolls like rolling forward, tucking

(35:43):
their chin. Okay, then they had like a little dance
at the end, and it was awesome, man, it was awesome.
It's like one of those things where and you know,
you'll you'll obviously get there and I'm sure parents are
out there probably remembering their first time like dropping their
kidd off, but you even though it's like an uncomfortable
thing to do, you know, it's like good for them

(36:04):
because you're wanting to build like that independence you're wanting
to You're wanting them to start building social skills, build
some resilience on being uncomfortable, being scared, but then knowing
that they are, that they can do it, and then
they do do it. I'm not nervous, I wasn't scared
and all this stuff, and they start getting more confident
in themselves. But that's the that's my crack. A cold one.

(36:27):
Rue went to her first like summer camp, ballet camp
five days and it was, uh, it was cool.

Speaker 2 (36:34):
Dude, that's sick. I'm in so much trouble with like
moments like that of like I wasn't scared, I wasn't nervous.
Just like hearing that, I'm like, oh dude, yeah, oh
my gosh.

Speaker 1 (36:46):
Because you try to get them as much as you can,
like early talking about emotions, because when they're having their breakdown,
say you know, what are you feeling? What is this?
Why this? You know? And she'd be like, I'm sad,
and you know, kind of try to label all their emotions. Someone.
She was telling mom that I'm nervous, I don't want
you to leave, I'm scared, I'm all this stuff to
where as a parent, like I know, if I'm in

(37:07):
that situation, I'm just kind of thinking, like this is
extremely difficult. I kind of don't want to leave, like
let me just kind of stick around. And then you're like,
maybe I'll leave when she's not looking, and then you
also kind of feel bad or feel guilty that I'm
gonna sneak out and then she's gonna look and see
in the corner and you're not gonna be there, and
then maybe she might get scared even more straight.

Speaker 2 (37:23):
I don't know, but I would feel like a boxing coach,
like in the corner with my boxer, Like but like
you were describing with Rue before she was leaving and
like go be great and stuff like that, like I'm
gonna have to hold back in those moments, yeah, because
I'm just thinking about that, and I'm like, oh my gosh, Yeah,

(37:44):
that's like.

Speaker 1 (37:45):
It's wild when you're just experiencing all like the firsts,
you know what I mean, First time they say a
word or say dad, dad, first time they walk, first
time they tell you I love you, like all of
the first It's just it's always a different moment, moment
that you're excited about and then when you get past it,
you reflect on it makes you sad that they're growing

(38:05):
up and all those things in between.

Speaker 2 (38:07):
Dude, how how was she sleeping that week? Were they
getting her real tired and she was just coming home
and passing.

Speaker 1 (38:13):
She doesn't take naps anymore, and now she's she's out
of the nap game, which is like, you know, you're
trying to implement like quiet time because its not She'll
be on all day. You've been around rude, like she's
a spark plug, all the personality, a lot of independence,
real sassy or build some sass, and she just has
like she has so much fun with absolutely everything. She
wants to be playing all the time. We have an

(38:36):
we have a guest, Hey, how's it going. How are
we doing?

Speaker 2 (38:42):
Oh with neutral?

Speaker 1 (38:43):
Okay, yeah, that would be on the other side, Yes, sir,
sorry for that interruption in our program. We had a
we had a delivery man with a delivery man up front.
Crack a cold one.

Speaker 2 (38:55):
Crack a cold one. There was one more thing I
was gonna say with oh yeah, yeah, we were in
the middle the first it's like, oh, it's their first
you know, I love you and all that, and it
was like her first time going to camp. Do you
think you'll do summer camps, like overnight summer camps with her?

Speaker 1 (39:13):
Probably eventually, Okay, I don't think I did. For a
long time. It'd be like, you know, it was more
just like sport camps and stuff I didn't have. I
didn't do any of like those those summer camps where
you're like staying overnight or traveling out of state. Charo did.
So I feel like she probably will because Charlie experienced
that stuff and she's kind of brought it up before. Okay, Uh,

(39:36):
that'll be a whole different level. That's gonna be tough
on the boy. I feel like, yeah.

Speaker 2 (39:41):
Because I know it'll be tough on me. Yeah, and
I don't even have one.

Speaker 1 (39:44):
Yeah. Yeah, it'll be difficult. It'll be difficult, but it's like,
you know, it's just life, right, Yeah, I gotta learn
at some point. Yeah, gotta get them uncomfortable, Gotta get
us uncomfortables. Gonna happen too, I truly do.

Speaker 2 (40:01):
I like I think about moments of I mean not
to make it about myself, but like TCU Baylor went
to triple overtime one year and I was like bawling
my eyes out at that football game for not out
of sadness, but just out of like the sheer emotion
from it. And then Jill's talking about like with me,
you're gonna be the best at ever, like at her

(40:23):
lit league, you know, games and stuff, and she wants
to play soccer like her dad did. And I started
tearing up right there. I was like, I'm gonna have
to wear sunglasses to these Lily League games. Yeah, just
be the piss off looking dad like far away and
you're like, man, that guy's looks so mean. But really
I'm just over there like fucking love my girl so much. Yeah,
oh my god, just crying the whole time.

Speaker 1 (40:44):
Yeah, yeah, yeah, watching her just hit her a little
performance at the end of her camp. When I was
over there earlier, I just already know. I'm just I'm
already like one of those dads I'm watching every kid go.
I'm like, you know, Woo's kind of got a little
edge on her here, and then you know what it
might be hopping all right, do it like the do
it like the like the horse of the diraft And
they're kind of like they're kind of like moving their arms.

(41:06):
R's not moving her arm. We gotta work on that
when we get home.

Speaker 2 (41:09):
It will work on that.

Speaker 1 (41:10):
Like, let's see her jump over this little pylon, Like
how they're all gonna look jumping over this little matt
and you see them all going, you see? All right?
And the first thing I want to do whenever it
gets done, I want to go right up to the
teacher and like, just give it to me straight that
she got a shot. She got a shot to go pro.

Speaker 2 (41:23):
What's going on here?

Speaker 1 (41:24):
Let's figure it out now when she's three years old
and with ballet, I've heard like Russia's pretty good.

Speaker 2 (41:29):
Like we're gonna be sitting over to Russia. What does
this look like next?

Speaker 1 (41:32):
Do you see when you look at rue out there?
I have my opinion, but I'll hold it until you
go first. But give it to me straight.

Speaker 2 (41:36):
Hey, you go first, coach.

Speaker 1 (41:37):
You see the calves on it, you see the legs
on her.

Speaker 2 (41:41):
This will never be during practice. I just want you
to know I always come. I'll come to you after it.
That's your time. Yeah, I feel like this is our
time now after practice.

Speaker 1 (41:48):
She's got good genetics. What'd you get that her moment?
I did play a few years in the NFL.

Speaker 2 (41:54):
Oh my god, dude, the videos that you are a
post of Reu doing ballet. I love that you can
tell you get juiced about it.

Speaker 1 (42:02):
Yeah, you just you love watching them just develop. Yeah,
you know what I mean, Like that, they're they're their
own little human being, they're their own little person. Yeah,
and they're just like doing it, you know what I'm saying.

Speaker 2 (42:13):
Yes, it's fun, it's fun. My crack a cold one. Uh,
my crack a cold one is kind of quick too.
But it was like a really uh this is like
selfishly about me, but it was a really incredible moment
of we have the dad Combine this week. All the

(42:34):
dads of all the bust and boys, including Will and
Taylor's dads all fly in and we compete on like
multiple uh dad competitions. It's really lighthearted, it's really fun.
But it turns into this like incredibly wholesome day where
it's just a bunch of sons getting to hang out
with their dads and they're getting paid to do it,

(42:55):
which is nuts. My road in production has not been
a bumpy one, but it's just hard to make a
living and be in full time production if you're not
in some of the hotspots of like Atlanta, New York City, LA.
So it's just kind of a road less traveled. And

(43:19):
my dad was very much in the corporate world, and
so it wasn't like I never had my dad's blessing,
but it was always kind of like you could tell
that dad kind of second guest a lot of decisions
that I made.

Speaker 1 (43:34):
Right, You're not going down the road that he went down,
because it seems like in your family some things are
not like generational to a tea, but it's kind of
a structure there. So I'm sure there's that shame or
you know, level of security of like, man, he's never
said and he's never given me a weird vibe, but
it's like, is he kind of disappointed that I'm not like, well.

Speaker 2 (43:55):
I'm sure I'm gonna shift, yeah, And I'm sure on
his end that I didn't go of that path. He
may be thinking like is it because he doesn't like
me that he doesn't want to do this? Like why,
like where where did that come from? But he always
did see me like as a little kid in the
backyard doing I would make little Indiana Jones movies with
like all the neighbor kids, or like all my friends

(44:16):
would come over and we'd do like sketch comedy stuff
and put on YouTube, and so my parents were well
aware that this was something that interested me. But you
and Taylor gave me an opportunity here full time, an
incredible one that brought my wife and I halfway across
the nation. It was just a very big move. It

(44:37):
was a very big opportunity, and it was really kind
of the first time that my dad, like I could
really sense like how proud and excited he was. And
he pulled Will to the side at the Dad Combine
and it was in front of me, and he thanked
Will for giving me this opportunity specifically of the show

(44:58):
and hearing him him saying like, thank you for giving
him a shot, because we've been seeing it since, you know,
he was a little kid, and it just means the
world that somebody else saw it in him. Uh. And
he gave you like a little hug or like a
little dap or something, and then uh, you started waxing
poetic about me, which you did not have to do,
but that feels really good when your boss is saying

(45:20):
that to your dad. And it was honestly like a
top three Dad moment. It was really cool.

Speaker 1 (45:26):
That's awesome. Man. Yeah. I know when he pulled me aside,
it was before everything started and he's like, I just
want to say this before everything gets going, and took
off his hat and everything. He did give me a
yeah conversation about yeah, being proud of you, yeah, and
you being with the boys.

Speaker 2 (45:45):
It was just really cool, really selfish crack of coal one,
but like, man, it was a really good crack of
cold one that was just like, it's.

Speaker 1 (45:51):
About your dad, that's what that's what we're here for.
This is before the Dad's podcast, man, because that day
was really cool. It's like, uh, I posted about it.
But it's essentially we've taken something that we do work
related and came up with this event. And it's not
like a very uber competitive thing. It's kind of just
like a reason for us to have our dads in
and hang out with our dads. I know last year

(46:12):
there wasn't as many of the dads here, and then
you kind of sit back and think about it. You're like,
let's get everybody's dad in the shop. If we can
here on this date, will fly him in And it's
essentially like us kicking in with our dads because we're like,
you know, doing competitions like packing coolers, taking out the trash,
a little trash relay, a fashion show for True Classic,
and you're doing trivia. So you're answering questions about you know,

(46:34):
who was your dad's favorite crush growing up or when
you know, when did he lose his virginity? When is
his birthday, what's his favorite color, what was his first job.
They're answering stuff about you on embarrassing moments. You're kind
of getting to relive, you know, stuff from your dad's past,
stuff from your childhood that they remember that you might
not remember. Yeah, and then you're kind of sitting there
at the end and now that a few of the

(46:56):
dads this is their second year in a row, just
to see kind of a rapport or relationship building and
knowing like the boys in the shop are all super tight.
Now seeing our dads get in the mix and start
to become tighter, just know that this is the date
every year that we're gonna have a dad combine. It's
really cool, man. Jelly Reel said it a long time
when we were just talking about busting with the boys,
you just talked about it being like a diary of

(47:18):
video diary or a video journal that we'll get to
look back on one day and listen to our conversations.
And this is a dark way of thinking about the
dad combine stuff, but thinking so far into the future
that one day when our dads are no longer here,
because that will be a real thing. We will have
these videos in these moments to look back on and

(47:39):
see us interacting with them when we're like thirty five,
versus like home videos of them us being little and
then being a new dad. It's like we have moments
throughout our childhood and our adult life to where we'll
be able to watch that, you know, with sadness and
happiness and everything else. But it's really cool that we'll
have all these things and if busting is no more right, yeah, yeah,
back on all the relationships that we I had all

(48:00):
the funny moments, but the dead combine was a lot
of fun.

Speaker 2 (48:04):
It was a ton of fun.

Speaker 1 (48:05):
Yeah.

Speaker 2 (48:05):
The idea of being a grandfather one day by being
able to like pull up some of those videos of
just like me getting my head buzz for that bet
I lost, or like you know, showing.

Speaker 1 (48:17):
Your grandkids showing their friends about stuff.

Speaker 2 (48:21):
Yeah, but yes, that was our crack of cold one.
And also just a reminder for the six to oz
one of the dad's because we have had a few
that I've listened to where they were like I had
a good crack a cold one, or I had a
really good motherfucked love that if you got a dad

(48:42):
hack or a tool kit. Just another reminder. I know
we've said that before, like tell us your crack of
cold one too. It does not have to be a question.
And one of the ones this week, I believe it
is a crack of cold one and it is stellar
and just.

Speaker 1 (48:57):
Off the whole six one the dads because in O
we're all through this and figuring out too. I'm trying
to think of the people that call in and you know,
they might give it another shot the next week and
they might say the same exact story. If there are
a bunch of voicemails that we hear that you think
could make it on the show, But that's not just
the ones that we selected for this show. You can
keep them in a row. We can probably keep them

(49:18):
in a rollodex. Put the headphones on.

Speaker 2 (49:20):
No, no, you're fine. I was just saying, if like
the viewers could hear Chef, because I would love for
the viewers to hear that. And if they couldn't hear Chef,
that's intern Chef that's been helping us before the dads.
He has been compiling all these voicemails. We are taking
our job very seriously with the voicemails with the DMS.
Chef is a huge part of that and cycles through

(49:44):
all those call logs and listens to them and compiles
them and Sherman, would this be a good one because
we actually surprised Will with the call ins the actual
day of recording. Just know, those voicemails are being listen to.
Chef's taking his job really seriously, so we thank them
for that.

Speaker 1 (50:02):
So keep calling trying to find ways to continue building
this community. Yeah. Absolutely, you can already just tell from
the comments in the first episode and just the dads
who are excited about it and everything else and the
messages that we were getting like it's gonna be it's
gonna be a lot of fun. And if you've made
it this far in the second episode, feel free to
share it. Feel free to share with your boy, to
share your fellow dad group chats. Feel free to share

(50:24):
it pass it around because people might not fully know,
you know what I mean. They might be subscribed to
the bust and YouTube channel yep, and they might have
saw the thumbnail and just think it's like a clip
or something.

Speaker 2 (50:33):
And that was that was looking at the analytics. Jeremy
had pulled it up for me. That was two of
the main ways that people were actually seeing the episode
where people were sharing the dads were sharing it, and
then the dads were also looking up for the dads
on YouTube, which that's usually a really small percentage, but
there was a high percentage of our views just from

(50:56):
for the dads, which to me that feels like a
word of mouth things, so that it's really cool that
the dads are doing that. Our next segment, What are
the Odds, shout out FanDuel's sportsbook What are the Odds?
Just a reminder for you guys. This is where we
tell a story of like crazy timing, wild odds, or
just kind of those small little moments in life where

(51:17):
it's like, man, what are the odds of that? That's
so funny? What are the Odds? This week was also
at Dad Combine. This features my Dad and also features
Mitchell Carsley's dad. Mister Carsley was introducing himself to my dad,
and I guess he had overheard Papa Scherm and Bill

(51:39):
Compton talking a little bit about guns, and so he
holstered that about forty five minutes later.

Speaker 1 (51:45):
Such a dad combo.

Speaker 2 (51:46):
Oh yeah, dude. And by the way, I wish so
badly we had had a camera on Bill and Papa
shrm talking about their nozzler and then your dad's thirty
odd six and just going through Oh.

Speaker 1 (51:59):
Dude, yeah, getting I can't remember right now. I can't
remember right office that Bill super nice to meet you.
I'm I'm I'm Sherman, Sherman's father.

Speaker 2 (52:07):
They're both cueballs, both cue balls.

Speaker 1 (52:09):
My dad, Oh you get the you get your hair
cut at the same spot. I do, you know, just
having a wholesome father exchange.

Speaker 2 (52:15):
It was incredible. But yes, mister Carsley, just like perfection,
just comes up to my dad and is like, Sherman,
nice to meet you. I heard you do a little
bit of hunting. My Dad's like, I do, I do
a little bit of hunting. How about yourself. I heard
the very first part of the conversation, which shout out

(52:36):
to Mitch's daddy actually shot a black bear while he
was whitetail hunting. He was up in a tree stand
hunting some white tail, and there's an overlap in Pennsylvania
on a black bear and white tail. He had a
black bear come right behind his stand, just right up
by the tree, and he did one of these and
knocked it with one shot, which so shout out mister Carsley.

(52:58):
But he saw on that story well to a bunch
of Texans hearing that were like, you shot a bear,
Like that's not we don't have those opportunities in Texas, right.
I look over forty five minutes later, mister Carsley has
his sunglasses up here, he has his readers on the
bridge of his nose. My dad has his readers on
the bridge of his nose. And my dad's doing this

(53:21):
to mister Carsley, and just you see that. Blah blah blah.
They have the hear game cameras. They're showing game camera
pictures soon.

Speaker 1 (53:28):
Echah.

Speaker 2 (53:28):
They incredible, dude, I mean, you're just like you love
to look.

Speaker 1 (53:33):
This one's going to be a big one. Hey come
fall time. This one is growing right here.

Speaker 2 (53:37):
This non point we haven't so he came by one time. Yeah,
we haven't seen him since.

Speaker 1 (53:42):
I haven't seen him since, and we haven't seen him either.

Speaker 2 (53:44):
He's out there, he's out there, and we're waiting for
the rut because he fucking loves the dose. But if
they ain't rutting, he ain't come to the feeder.

Speaker 1 (53:51):
Yeah, he's on them doors like wide on rice. Now,
I'm telling you.

Speaker 2 (53:54):
But he won't your face till the rut.

Speaker 1 (53:56):
Look at this, you know what. We didn't get him
in this camera, but look at this rub on this
tree and.

Speaker 2 (54:00):
Wait, hold on, hold on, hold on, wait one second.
And they go through like thirty pictures but I can't.
They finally get the one picture where it's the you
know that back from behind like straight on that they
want to show you. Go see how outside the years
he is. Yeah, I mean, come on, I.

Speaker 1 (54:18):
Remember that picture I was telling I was telling you
about earlier. I couldn't find it. My buddy sent it
to me. Check that out.

Speaker 2 (54:24):
We finally got it. Yeah, if that's a twelve I
was talking with the drop time, that's that twil But dude,
it's just uh, it was phenomenal.

Speaker 1 (54:32):
Accidentally open up another app damn it? How do we
get out of it.

Speaker 2 (54:38):
I love seeing dad's photo Shout out Jill's stepdad Cody,
because he shows me a lot of game camera player
usure Sue. I love seeing his camera roll. There is
nothing better than a dad's camera roll.

Speaker 1 (54:52):
Dude.

Speaker 2 (54:52):
You'll just see, like when it's all the little images
and they're like scrolling, you see some of the stuff
that you takes pictures of or screenshot to be in
the mind of a dad.

Speaker 1 (55:02):
To be in the mind of a dad, my dad
would just pull out the phone and just start taking
pictures of just be standing like right below them or
something doing something. I'm like, Dad, what are you doing?
Like she's playing on the ground, You're getting photos of
her back. I'll just be staying just like taking pictures
of it. Dad, Do you want a better shot?

Speaker 2 (55:22):
If you come over here, you can see your face.
Why do I need to see your face? I know
what that looks like. Yeah, but yeah that's our What
are the odds? And then as far as like Survival
Kid and Dad Hacks, I feel like laying you drive
on those. As far as you having.

Speaker 1 (55:40):
Kids Survival Kit and Dad Hack Survival Kid, I'll say
I think they both go hand in hand. For the
Dad hack and Survival Kid survival kit. My survival Kid
recommendation will be having sticker books. You'll be traveling with
a backpack around when you guys go out, maybe you're
traveling to a different state. May you're flying on the plane,

(56:01):
maybe you're in the car for a long time. Sticker
book's a big one. We have animal sticker books, we
have space sticker books, we have ocean sticker books. To
where it's like the glossy kind of carboard. You open
it up, the pages are thick and you have like
the stickers, like the glossy stickers that you can put on,
you can remove, you can play some around. Rue was
having you do it when we were at uh, what
was that place? Is the egg spot? Like egg?

Speaker 2 (56:22):
Another broken egg?

Speaker 1 (56:23):
Broken egg? Yeah? Yeah, yeah, another broken egg in Nashurville
shut out another broken egg? No free shutouts great breakfast. Yeah.
But you bring out the sticker book. When she's busier
board or trying to do stuff, or we're trying to
get being a conversation, you'll pull out the sticker book.
Haveter started doing it? She has you coming over? Where
should I put this sticker sticker book?

Speaker 2 (56:39):
Fun too? I can shout it out as well. I
actually had a fun time with.

Speaker 1 (56:42):
Yeah, sticker book is a that's a survival kid. That's
a little product recommendation because going into the dad hack
and this will be shouts to my wife. So this
is kind of be like a parahac dad Hack, mom
hack whatever. TV coupons because one thing that you battle
with when they have exposure, which they're gonna have to
the first screen right or they are starting to watch TV.

(57:04):
I know Rue had watched Miss Missus Rachel when she
was really little, and now she's in the phase to
where it's like a trash truck Little Bear, which was
a favorite of mind growing up at Bear. Yeah, Rue
loves Little Bear right now, so she wants to watch TV.
Like anytime I come home, something goes off in the

(57:24):
brain to where it's like, all right, we're getting close
to TV time because she won't She doesn't watch any
TV when the nannies in and we don't do iPads,
we don't do screens when we're traveling or anything like,
we'll listen to music. She might like listen to headphones
or her uncle Brad got her this thing. I forget
what it's called, but it like plays stories in the headphones.
They could be like stories about Frozen or Mawana.

Speaker 2 (57:43):
That's awesome.

Speaker 1 (57:44):
Yeah, it's just like they'll listen to stories. But if
they want like activities to do, we'll get out the
sticker book. We'll get out different drawing things where she
can draw and hit a button and it'll delete it.
Because we don't do it. We try not to do
a whole lot of screen time. But she gets to
watch TV. If you let them watch TV for two
long you know, they're sensory, like, you know, their emotions
get bigger. It's hard to put them down for bedtime. Yeah,

(58:05):
it really worked up because they're just watching on the screen.
It's a big time where their brain's developing. They're trying
to regulate their emotions. They watch if they have too
much screen time, like you know, there's so much researching
like data on and everything else. But we do our
best not to put a whole lot of screens in
front of her. So, my wife, she was watching Little
Bear and she likes to watch a Little Bear, And
then it got to where she was getting pretty pissed

(58:27):
off or agitated when we tell her, hey, you know,
it's time to turn the TV off time to start
winding down times, start getting ready for bed, or hey,
if it's Saturday morning or Sunday morning, we might not
we might do like Saturday morning cartoons or Sunday morning cartoons,
if we like make pancakes, or make like a breakfast,
like a family breakfast. And then it got to where,
you know, she'd start to get really fussier mad when

(58:47):
she had to turn off the when she had to
turn off the TV or pause it, or she wouldn't
eat her dinner. You had to like turn off all
the screens. And so my wife she made these u
this is the this is the parent hack. This is
the the dad hack. And she to my wife for this.
She made up these TV coupons, or she like cut
out construction paper, a little construction paper background, printed out

(59:08):
something on the computer, cut it out to where she
like taped them on each other to where they have
these fun little pictures. But each coupon represents thirty minutes
of TV time. To where she'll go up to your
walk up to her room. She'll take out a coupon
and put it in the can't use the coupon anymore.
And she only has like an allotted amount throughout the week,
but she'll have windows of thirty minutes to watch TV
if she wants to watch TV. Yeah, and that's the

(59:31):
hack because it helps it. We turn it into like
making it a currency. So she now has the choice.
She now has the ability to kind of think about
when she wants to use them. It gives her a
little bit of control. We were talking about giving them
control earlier. It gives them a little bit of responsibility
for you start showing them the costs, like, hey, once
you run out, these are gone for the week. You
might be able to use two in a day. Maybe

(59:52):
it's just one in a day, but you get to
kind of pick and choose when you use your coupons
because once they're gone, they're gone. You don't get any
more TV. So again, so point where she wants to
use like a second coupon in a day, and you're
kind of like trying to talk her out of it.
You're like, hey, if you use this coupon now, you
will be out for the weekend. Weekends are big, you
have a lot of downtime you could be watching TV. Yeah,
Saturday morning cartoons might not be Saturday Morning cartoons, So

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it kind of gives them the freedom to start thinking
about like what their choices are, and it gives them
predictability to where, hey, they know they have coupons upstairs.
So if she comes down and she's like, Dad, I
want to watch a Little Bear and I'm like, well,
you did you use your coupons, She's like, I already
went upstairs and flipped it over to the other side.
So TV coupons highly recommend. That's the way we've kind

(01:00:35):
of tried to battle the screen time the screen time game,
because it's like once kids start looking at the screen
and seeing that all this, you know, all these different
things that they can watch on TV, especially now like
they don't have to watch commercials. If they get an
ad that comes across I want, you know, more Little Bear,
and it's like, dude, you got thirty seconds of this
ad that just popped on, Like you're gonna have to
you have no clue. We had to go We had

(01:00:56):
to fucking look at a TV guide. Yeah, try to
predict when our show was gonna be on and watch
oh yeah, with all the commercials now they can get
it instantly on demand, and so to kind of structure
that versus her being like I want to watch TV.
We're watching TV. Like, hey, bro, you've been watching TV
for like forty five minutes, it's time to turn off
the TV. And then they get all pissed off. It's like, bro,
I've kind of let you watch TV for a while,

(01:01:17):
Like how do you not get that this is a
it gets time to stop watching. So TV coupons is
how we've started to play that game. Because again, it's tough.
It's hard, especially when you're you know you can do
so I feel like it's more of a challenge for parents.
Like when you go out to a restaurant, you might
see a family sitting there and their kids got to
you know, you see them, you have they have a
screen or an iPad in front of them, they have

(01:01:38):
headphones on and then the parents are either in dinner
or they might be on their phones or whatever. It is.
Like charl and I were we've always said like we
don't you know, when people may comme up, we don't
want to be that family or we don't want to
do this and that. Like it's challenging because it gets
really hard when you travel or you're on the road
or you're out eating at a restaurant. You want them
to calm down, but it's I don't know, it's like

(01:01:59):
trying to get them like, hey, it's all good to
be bored. Do you want your sticker book? Do you
want to you know you want to pull out a book,
or do they have something to color with at the restaurant,
or let's just listen to this song or listen to
this podcast or listen to this book on audio for
traveling in the car. So the screen time will be
a battle that you'll come across in the future, and
there's no right or wrong way. That's just kind of

(01:02:19):
been our preference on how we're going to approach minimizing
as much as we can, because I know there are
some families that don't do any screen time. You're kind
of like, man, I wish we challenge ourselves to do
no screen time. Are there some families you see that
do do the screen time? You're thinking in those moments
of stress or annoyance, you're just like, man, I wish
I could just put something in front of him so
they just calm down right now. So there's no right

(01:02:40):
or wrong way. Not trying to say you're a bad
parent if you do a bunch of screen time. That
is just how we approach dealing with screen time with rue.

Speaker 2 (01:02:46):
I love that philosophy. And that's actually one thing I've
heard been hearing a lot about like entering into your
fatherhood is I have a buddy that they were like,
we did no screen time, and then now that we're
like trying to watch movies with him, like he will
not sit down. He's like this is what are we doing?

Speaker 1 (01:03:03):
Yeah?

Speaker 2 (01:03:03):
Like why are we watching this? And they're almost like, well, damn,
I wish we had kind of introduced movies and TV
because like he's constantly just like why can't we just
go like kick the ball?

Speaker 1 (01:03:13):
Right? Yeah? Yeah? And it's like, Buddy, I don't want
to go outside around it's a lot outside, like it's
just chilling here.

Speaker 2 (01:03:19):
Or it's you know late at night, like we're kind
of winding.

Speaker 1 (01:03:22):
Yeah, Sun's going down, Sun's going to sleep. For you
to go to sleep.

Speaker 2 (01:03:25):
Yes.

Speaker 1 (01:03:25):
And it kind of came too from you know, you
do pizza Friday and movie night. We'd be watching movies
and then she wants to watch Frozen over and over,
so it's like, hey, do you want to watch if
we have TV on it, it's like you watch a
couple of things a little bit because Little Bear will
be like, say twenty one minutes long, and they have
little segments of like seven minutes on one episode, seven
minutes on another inside of like one episode. Yeah, yeah,
you're trying to watch something short, but I want to

(01:03:47):
watch Frozen. It's like, bro, you can't watch a movie.
You can't watch an hour and a half of a movie.

Speaker 2 (01:03:51):
That's more. That's more than Yeah. Yeah, yeah, you're gonna
need three coupons yeah to watch Frozen. Yeah yeah, So
does Pizza Friday not count? Pizza Friday doesn't.

Speaker 1 (01:04:00):
We won't. We don't count it just because that's like
our it's like our time of like showing up as
a fan to kind of do like a family, our
weekly tradition per week. But she'll get like, I think
it's any it it's around like eight nine, ten, I
don't know. We give her in a lot of the
amount of coupons to where she can't double down on
every day. She can double down on a couple of days,

(01:04:21):
but all the rest of the day she has like
one coupon that she can use. And you try and
talk to her like, hey, you want to save these
for the end of the week. You want to say
it for the end of the week. She can't go
over to in a day, so we're like, you like,
build parameters, kind of make it like a currency so
they can start figuring out.

Speaker 2 (01:04:35):
She's in charge of the flipping sibilities. Yeah, yeah, which
I feel like y'all are almost kind of setting an
opportunity there. I like for her to, oh yeah, hey,
flip it back over.

Speaker 1 (01:04:47):
How'd she get it? Seems like she already used up
her coupons? Why does she have one in there? I
know I'm ready for that time. I'm ready for that
moment right now. She's innocent enough to where she like
she like gets the game. It's like her getting out
of bed. She doesn't really get out of bed until
we come up in room. I know some people hear
stories like we got to like tie the door shut
so they don't come out of the room down early
in the morning. Wi them into our bed. Yeah yeah,
uh so we haven't gotten there yet, but it's gonna

(01:05:08):
be like that first time she realizes she can get
out of bed and walk down to our room, and
then she's like, oh man, I can just leave room
in the if I wake up in the middle line,
just go down to mom and Dad's bed.

Speaker 2 (01:05:17):
He yo, waffle, Yeah, where's with me?

Speaker 1 (01:05:21):
But when my wife made it, I was like, are
you sure you want to let her do the flipping
because I can see where she just might be like,
all right, I only have one left, Like, let me
not flip it and see if my parents don't uh huh,
they don't catch me. But that's the that's the parent hack,
that's the survival kit stick her books, Dad Hack, I
love the coupons.

Speaker 2 (01:05:38):
A bonus dad Hack to that is I had an
English teacher in high school that all of the media
that he would introduce to his firstborn son was all
the media that he grew up on. So like his
son's favorite movie at the age of six was like
Superman two from like nineteen sixty yeah, and his son
hadn't seen anything like outside to that and more modern

(01:06:01):
and stuff. So he's seeing the terrible effects of like
nineteen sixty one Hollywood, these practical effects, and he's thinking,
how's this dude flying? He how's Superman up in the
clouds right now?

Speaker 1 (01:06:13):
This is crazy and it's too You come across things
where when you have like show recommendations for toddlers, because again,
we'll get a lot of our stuff, whether it be
the algorithm on Instagram or something coming across our face
to where there's things that get your senses going so much,
to where there's a lot of movement in the show,
or a lot of lights, a lot of seeing, a

(01:06:33):
lot of camera angles changing a lot to where it's like,
you know, their brain development that's happening, and it's like
counter productive for them, Like it's not healthy for them.
Oh okay, And you'll see that shows that we grew
up on are slow enough, like Little Bear being an example,
that are slow enough to where it's kind of like
one shot and it's just them like interacting. It's wild.
You'll come across all this stuff, yeah, towards like this

(01:06:53):
stuff we grew up on. It will be like, oh,
those are better things for their brain to consume because
all of the new rage stuff, there's a lot of
bound there's a lot of animation, a lot of lights,
a lot of flickering, a lot of you know, scenes
going from one to another really quick. Yes, which apparently,
I guess messes up the brain. I have no clue.

Speaker 2 (01:07:10):
Now that makes sense.

Speaker 1 (01:07:11):
Scientist.

Speaker 2 (01:07:12):
I've seen enough Bluey to know that, like Blue is
like super fast paced, and just watching it, I remember
like two of the little kid dogs are like yelling
at the dad like they're upset that the dad's like
telling them it's time to go nine to night. I'm
just making up an example, but they're like talking back
to dad, and I'm like, well, shit, if I had
a little kid, I.

Speaker 1 (01:07:32):
Don't want them like knowing that this is an option.

Speaker 2 (01:07:35):
Yeah, like what in the world. Like I think back
to like Winnie the Pooh and like e or being
grumpy and you're like, oh, well, don't be or because
like Rabbit and Pooh are all like E or like
cheer up, buddy.

Speaker 1 (01:07:48):
Yeah. The last list I saw Blue on was like
a moderate. It was like a moderate because when rou
was on, it was like miss Rachel Blue. You're kind
of learning about these shows and everything else because I
think Blue is a I think Blue He's awesome, Okay,
but yeah, it's interesting like learning about all of that stuff.
Like when you have a kid and you're trying to like,

(01:08:08):
you know, you want everybody's trying to do the best
that they can, and so you're trying to figure out, like,
you know, what would be good for them to watch?
What's unhealthy for them to watch? Like, oh, their brains developing?
What does that even mean? Yeah?

Speaker 2 (01:08:19):
What can they even pick up from that? I'm such
a sinophile lover of movies that, like, I to myself,
I'm like, man, there's so many things I'm gonna want
my kid to watch that I'm like, I'm gonna have
to wait until they're you know, seventeen, eighteen nineteen or whatever.

Speaker 1 (01:08:34):
Like, but you want to know a little the show is.
We would watch Chaos Theory by Jurassic Park. Oh yes,
and it essentially shows the dinosaurs. It shows all the stuff.
It shows moments right up to where before the human
basically gets killed or a dinosaur gets killed, Like it
might be a velociraptor, you know, dropping the nail on

(01:08:56):
a guy's head, but they'll show the voss raptor and
the nail will be up and then like as it's
gonna go down and kill the guy and you hear
the on the background, it'll just shift to a different
scene and you'll hear it, but you just won't see it. Yeah,
Rue and I were watching that at a pretty young
age and My wife was like, are you sure she
should be watching this? You know she's gonna you.

Speaker 2 (01:09:15):
Can double down as a dad.

Speaker 1 (01:09:16):
I'm thinking, this is your show. I love Jurassic part.

Speaker 2 (01:09:19):
I like, we gotta be good kid.

Speaker 1 (01:09:21):
Yeah, oh this is on Disney. This will be a
good show.

Speaker 2 (01:09:24):
Yeah.

Speaker 1 (01:09:25):
It's like the t Rex bus out there, you know,
busts through the gates and like yells, and I'm like
looking at roosaction and when she's just kind of like
looking at it and not getting too scared, I'm like,
all right, you know, yeah, maybe she can handle it,
so we it'd be something we would watch with mom
not around it first. And then she saw it, she's
like she's roupy. I don't know if I like, we're
watching this, sweetheart. I mean, she's been watching it. She
doesn't get too scared, like she's my dad, dad, Dad.

(01:09:45):
That keeps her safe. She's gonna come across.

Speaker 2 (01:09:48):
It at some point then, I think, like also, like
I watched the movie The Patriot at like nine, I think,
so I'm like, oh my gosh, if I was watching
The Patriot at nine, I go back and watch that
now and I'm like, oh my god.

Speaker 1 (01:10:01):
Yeah, yeah, And like I can't wait till we get
her into like maybe Star Wars or something, because again
we're watching like and again like Blue, but what like
Miss Rachel will be on TV or Blue or the
really kid shows. You're kind of sitting there. It's like
you want to watch it with him, but you got
no skin in the game. Like Jurassic Park, Chaosterio, all
that stuff. I can I can sit there and watch
it with it. Oh yeah, you see that.

Speaker 2 (01:10:23):
The only thing I was gonna say is we have
run long, So I was gonna kick it to the voicemail.

Speaker 4 (01:10:31):
What's up, guys, big fan of the pod.

Speaker 1 (01:10:34):
My name is Alex Caputo. I'm from New Jersey.

Speaker 4 (01:10:37):
I am not currently a dad, but I am actually
going through the IVF process and I saw the pod
about Will Compton and his wife and it inspired me
to get inspired and call and call in to see
if you guys had some advice for me. A big
fan of the boys, big fan of you guys. I
would just love to be featured, just to kind of

(01:10:58):
chat with the boys and see what kind of inspiration
I can get from the dads and from you Sherham
as well. So again, like I said, shout out, no
free shout out, big fan of the boys, big fan
of the bus. Love what you guys are doing again.

Speaker 1 (01:11:17):
My name is Alex Caputo.

Speaker 4 (01:11:18):
I'm from Jersey, good old Jersey Italian boy here hopefully
to become a dad in about a year if this
IVF process goes well.

Speaker 3 (01:11:26):
Love you boys much love.

Speaker 1 (01:11:29):
Alex man shout out to you. Appreciate you calling in
love that you listen to the IVF podcast with my
wife and I. If you guys haven't seen that podcast,
it's on our bus and channel. My wife and I
did it for like a Mother's Day special where we
sat down and broke down a lot of the IVF
process and kind of the ups and downs of that
process because it is a it's an interesting one. It's

(01:11:51):
not an easy one on both the mom and the dad,
the wife and the husband, just because you don't know
what to prepare for. Your wife goes through a lot
of stuff physically. There's a lot of hormonal changes, a
lot of injections and hard things that they have to
do so that way their body's ready to conceive a child,
because pregnancy is a very hard thing to make happen.

(01:12:12):
You realize, like you think in high school you can
you knock somebody up, and it's as simple as that.
And then when you get married and you go through
some rough times, you go through some turbulence with your
wife on trying to get pregnant, and then you kind
of see why people are a little bit reserved when hey,
you asked the question, or you go somewhere you're asking
your friends that are newly married or something like hey,

(01:12:32):
when you guys thinking about kids, just because you have
no idea what those two could potentially be going through,
Like maybe they're having trouble getting pregnant, maybe they're in
the middle of an IVF process, and their fingers are
crossed that this works out because it's their last effort
to try and make something happen because doing it the
natural way didn't work, going through a couple other steps

(01:12:54):
they might have tried might not have worked, and they're
in this final step of being like, hey, maybe this
IVF process of work because it's not the cheapest thing
in the world. And you know, I do know of
some stories and situations with friends of mine to where
my wife and I, you look at our situation, even
though it's very hard to go through the IVF process

(01:13:15):
like you look back and you have perspective, and we
were all so lucky because it happened in the first round.
I have friends of mine, close friends of mine that
have went through multiple rounds of IVF to where they've
had the the embryos that are frozen and those not
might not work out every time they try to implant implant,
and then they might run out of those embryos to
where they have to do the IVF cycle again, or

(01:13:37):
they might not get they might not get a lot
of eggs in their first IVF process to where they
might only have one or two and neither of those
workouts to where they have to go through the IVF
process again. So if I had any advice, dude number one,
I wish you guys all the luck and health in
the world that this first one goes the way that
you guys wanted to, because even then, it's a very

(01:13:58):
hard process, and I just always anchored my emotion to
think that something could probably go wrong based on friends
that I've had that have had these processes in those
IVF those IVF journeys don't work out the first or
even second time, or even the third time. There's one
buddy of mine that's went through about four or five
cycles before they had their first one, and that is

(01:14:20):
very hard in trying on the marriage. It's very hard
in trying on the couple. And it's one of those
things to where you know, you look for ways to
be strong for your wife. Your wife's probably looking for
ways to be strong for you and herself. And sometimes
it's not about being strong, it's just about reconnecting and
finding your way back to each other through communication, empathy,

(01:14:41):
because there's just going to be a lot of stress
that that involves stress in IVF, along with all the
stress going on in your worlds individually at work, with
your friends, your parents, whatever it may.

Speaker 2 (01:14:55):
Be, scheduling all those appointments around work if they're both working, Yeah.

Speaker 1 (01:15:00):
Wondering if should I is there somebody to talk to
or should I bring it up? I know we kind
of don't want to talk about it too much because
our fingers are crossed. We want to get a little
bit farther down the road before we start to talk
about it. Hey, this worked out. You get a few
you get a weekend or a trimester or two in
you might could you know there could be a miscarriage
and then it's yeah, there's it's a lot, man. So

(01:15:22):
my advice would just be again, it's all about staying
connected and then when you start to feel like in
any part of the process you lose connection, it's just
about circling back and reconnecting with your wife. And again,
it's a it's a trying time. So uh, I wish
you guys luck and health and all of it. Good
luck because again, when it does happen, it is uh,

(01:15:45):
you know, it's always a miracle when there's when there's
a kid involved, and it works out for the couple
and it works out for for everything involved. But Alex
appreciate you calling in, bro. I know that was a
very long winded response because there's really no right.

Speaker 2 (01:15:58):
Yes, that's a that's a whole hard one, dude. Yeah,
it's a hard one. There's the only thing we did
to prep Will this week with the call ins is
that we chef and I told them there was an
IVF call. Yeah, because that that is kind of a
that's a hard question to answer, dude.

Speaker 1 (01:16:13):
Yeah, because there's you know, at the end of the day,
it's going to be trying. Yeah, it's gonna be very hard.
And even if it works and everything's going smooth. There's
just gonna be those moments you have with your wife
And again, listen to that episode with my wife and
I we talk about a lot of those low moments
and stuff that would go through my head that you
feel so much guilt and shame, like I don't even

(01:16:35):
want to bring this up because it doesn't seem like
it compares at all to what she's going through. Then
you start projecting back and forth on each other. Then
you you know, you realize, like you you're not even
talking about the right thing anymore. Yeah, so, yeah, there's
really not There's really not a right way to go
about it. It's one of those things. It's like you
just prepare for the worst and when that stuff starts

(01:16:56):
to kick in, it's just reminding yourself, how do I
find a way to to reconnect because she might be
having a hard time right now. If you the man,
if I'm having a hard time right now, how do
I communicate that in the way that has, you know,
empathy and understands the weight of the current situation going
on while just having the big picture in mind. Yeah,
that would be what I'd say, bro.

Speaker 2 (01:17:16):
I think that's a great answer. I cannot I appreciate
Alex tossing my name in there to any advice. I
can't speak on it from a personal situation other than
have had a friend that has faced the same thing.
He opened up to me about it, and we just

(01:17:37):
had like one of the more incredible moments of our
friendship of just kind of and it was during the
time of Jill's pregnancy, so probably a hard conversation for
him to have, but just in that moment being able
to like hug him and we both are teary eyed
and I'm just like, you are going to be the
best at ever and I want it so bad for you,

(01:18:00):
and just him being able to open up about that.
So if anything, I think you had said the same
thing for Alex to just be able to communicate with
somebody through that time and then Dad's out there that
maybe you have friends that are facing that. I think
just when that conversation is presented to you, just being

(01:18:20):
super open to be able to hear your buddy out,
hear the fellow future dad out, potential future dad out,
and just be.

Speaker 1 (01:18:28):
There for him. Because one thing, and that's a great
point too, because one thing that was surprising for me
when we were going through that process. You don't know
how much you can necessarily talk about or how much
you should talk about it, yeah, you know, respect to
how your wife feels, yes, or if it feels like
a bad or wrong thing to talk about. And what
would surprise me is people that I would bring it

(01:18:49):
up to dads they talked about, oh, we did IVF
as well. That's sick to where then you realize that, Okay,
you can't start to talk about it a little bit more.
You have a friend that you can lean on, because
again you have no clue how the journey's going to be,
because it can be heavy. As a buddy of mine,
they went through one IVF process or their first IVF process,

(01:19:12):
and they were pregnant, and I want to say they
had a miscarriage around like week eighteen or nineteen, which
was it's devastating. Yeah, you think everything's going smooth because.

Speaker 2 (01:19:21):
They tell you once you get past week eight you're
guting right, right.

Speaker 1 (01:19:25):
You hear all these different milestones, you feel a little
bit more comfortable to talk about it, the sex of
the child and everything else, and so you know when
the second round's coming in. They're currently pregnant, they're not right.
At the eighteen week mark, you just know everybody's like
fingers are crossed and you just you kind of put
your arm around them and you're just you're hoping for
the best, man, because you have no clue how all
of it can go, what people are feeling. But yeah, man,

(01:19:49):
definitely having somebody to lean on for sure.

Speaker 2 (01:19:52):
Absolutely the last thing on Alex, and we'll get to
the next call. Alex was our very first voice.

Speaker 3 (01:19:58):
Man. Hey, fellas, this is Colin. Colin from North Carolina.
It's about one ten East coast time. I'm whispering because
sometimes the fellas need to hear about a win. Today

(01:20:20):
this evening is the biggest W that I have had
in fatherhood in a very long time. Mom's first night
out after second baby. We got a two and a
half year old all boy Savage and a two month

(01:20:44):
year old all boy Hellion who just is hungry NonStop.
Mom decides she's going out. I got this. I think
that the boys took one look at mom leaving and
they saw it in my eyes. After work, you know what,

(01:21:06):
dad needs a W. We got to get a W
in the column for Dad. They rallied and was left
with a very strict milk schedule. I read it slightly
slightly at my own liberty. The toddler ate his first

(01:21:28):
full meal in weeks. We played baseball outside, the baby
slept everything. So as hard as these nights are because
we're in the trenches, all the other knights have sucked.
But guess what, sometimes you get these giant ws and

(01:21:52):
they're incredible. Keep doing what you're doing, Fellas. We love it,
absolutely love it, extremely motivating. Appreciate you.

Speaker 2 (01:21:59):
Love you guys, calling from North Carolina, Colin.

Speaker 1 (01:22:05):
I love the energy. I love the juice. You can
hear it in your voice. Did he say it was
one in the morning.

Speaker 2 (01:22:13):
One in the morning that he called in, whispering.

Speaker 1 (01:22:16):
Whispering, keeping the light. I thought, I was like, okay,
this is kind of he's low energy right now, like
is this a bad vibe? But hearing that W because
he's right man. The wife goes out for the first
time and you're ready to put on that as on
your chest and you're ready to take down everything in
the house. We're gonna eat a good meal. Hearing that

(01:22:37):
his kid ate for the first time in weeks, that
is a massive W. And you also learn. It's like
sometimes the kid whatever, whatever's going on in their brain,
it just it might run smoother if it's just you
and the kid. Because if you have both parents, you
got you know they're working you. They're working you the
entire time. And when you're solo and your kid eats

(01:22:58):
that meal all the way through and you're just thinking,
you're thinking to yourself, she's gonna come home and ask me,
how did how did everything go? Yeah, and you're gonna
have that slow pan to where you just look and
you're like, I crushed it. I crushed it. Buddy ate
his full meal, baby drink all of his bottles, slept

(01:23:22):
through the night. I don't know if he's sleeping through
the night yet. What he say two months old?

Speaker 2 (01:23:25):
Yeah, two months old, but he said but he said.

Speaker 1 (01:23:27):
Sleeping sleeping, So he's getting. What he's trying to tell
you is baby sleeping four hours at a time. Yeah,
I'm guessing three four hours at a time. Smooth sleeping
to where you fall asleep for a little bit, you
might wake up. You have your own little routine going on.
But that is a massive w for the dads.

Speaker 2 (01:23:46):
Because I'm guessing at one am that would be he
probably puts it down at six or six thirty, it
woke up around twelve or twelve thirty ish possibly, and.

Speaker 1 (01:23:57):
Say and then he fed, maybe he maybe the the
two month old had a bottle at seven, and you're thinking,
all right, I'm gonna be ready to go around eleven
and they might still be sleeping. Then stretch it out
to one o'clock.

Speaker 2 (01:24:07):
Yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah.

Speaker 1 (01:24:08):
Those are the small winds that you relish in because
it is you know you're in it when it's you
got the when you got the young one sleeping, schedules
off and that first time mom goes out on her own,
you want them to go out, But the moment they
walk out the door and it closes and the gates
are locked, you need your heart to turn black because
you don't know what you're about to be in for.

(01:24:29):
And when it goes smooth and when you crush it,
and there's something about when you're just on your own
and you're by yourself and you know nobody's coming to
save you that you just find a new gear, a
new level, and you get through the end of the
night or into bedtime and you think to yourself, yeah,
I can handle my shit. Oh, shut out Colin the
call in.

Speaker 2 (01:24:49):
Bro and an added bonus to con and Alex uh
chef is going to reach out to them via six
on one the dads. He's gonna get their home address
and they're gonna get some free merch for being featured
on the show. For the dads, Let's go boys. If
your call gets featured on the show. Guys, you're gonna
get some lids, maybe a shirt. We haven't fully decided yet,

(01:25:11):
but you will get some free merch. Okay. We have
the topic quote or lesson of the week from Will Compton.

Speaker 1 (01:25:19):
From will come, do you have one?

Speaker 3 (01:25:21):
I do not?

Speaker 2 (01:25:23):
Do you?

Speaker 1 (01:25:24):
I mean last week it was kind of hard to
follow up. I feel like I have one. I got
a uh and.

Speaker 2 (01:25:33):
Just really quick, do you want me to have some
topic quotes?

Speaker 1 (01:25:37):
If one whether you're getting ready to be a father
or something you come across. It's kind of like, you know,
touch the old boys soul a little bit okay cool?
And it could be something small again topic quote or
lesson like it could be a quote like I don't
have one. I'm not necessarily prepared. I was thinking about
it and if I had any type of lesson in

(01:25:58):
it I hate coming off like any of it is
is advice, because you're going to get a lot of
unsolicited advice. And I want to say the lesson is
around that parent guilt or that dad guilt that you
might have when you have a newborn or you have
a toddler, you have a kid, and there are a
lot of things that come your way. I know one

(01:26:20):
thing that I've really learned over the past year that
I try to put into practice is the power of no,
because there's going to be and a lot of guys,
you know, a lot of people don't necessarily have the
option of opting out of something with work or opting
out of an opportunity that they have to go and chase,
because they have to do what they have to do
to make sure they take care of everything at home

(01:26:41):
and be that steady rock at home. And I think
for me, it was like there's always some like as
you're going through this journey of everything and all the
opportunities and things that we get to do that busting
gets to do, you can say yes to a lot
of things because we kind of create our own It's
like we get to kind of build out what our
future and everything looks like, so there's always opportunities coming

(01:27:04):
our way, and we can say yes to everything, and
you get spread so thin that you start to have
the guilt when you're traveling or you're doing things that
kind of pulls you away from the family. And I
know that ways on people, and they're you know, guys
kind of put you know the proverbial'll put their arm
around you, or they try and tell you things that like, hey,
you know that your kids won't remember, or you have

(01:27:24):
all of those little things that they're probably just trying
to help you justify whatever your decision is. It's like,
you know, before they turn whenever their memory starts, let's
just say it's five years old. It's like, hey, they
won't remember if you didn't make it to this dance
recital or you don't make it to I'm not gonna say,
like their first birthday or like a birthday party, or
there's something going on where the birthday party might be happening,
but you might have a massive opportunity that you're kind

(01:27:47):
of torn between the two. And I've kind of like
resisted when I hear people say like, hey, they won't
remember X, Y and Z, because the way I've like
flipped it in my mind and the way I thought
about it. And it's funny because I was talking through
this with somebody whenever I was when I was on
some vitamins and minerals, and so you know, you're thinking

(01:28:07):
of the entire universe at that point. And what I
kind of thought to myself or started to tell myself,
is if they don't remember up until again, let's call
it five years old. Yeah, and when they grow up,
they're not going to remember all of these years, these
early years, because you know, how much do we even remember.
We don't remember a whole lot, not only flashes or

(01:28:28):
things or moments, or it could be bad moments that
you might remember. But I've just kind of thought to
myself that the way I flip in my head that
if they're not going to remember, we do remember, Like
our kids are here. These first years of their life
are for us to enjoy, Like it's for us to
kind of look at the family we've gotten to create

(01:28:52):
and enjoy these moments of time. Even though they might
not remember it, we get to remember it, and they're here,
they're on this earth right now for us to spend
as much time with them as we can or to
enjoy them as much as possible. And that's the approach
I've always I've tried exercising and tried to be intentional
with when I look at whether it's work opportunities or

(01:29:13):
new opportunities, is is this going to take away from
the family time? And if so, like how much of it?
How many bedtimes am I willing to miss? How many
mornings am I willing to miss? And when you have
that boundary for yourself, it helps kind of separate you
to where you have you learn that power of no
of if it doesn't fit in this schedule, I'm going
to say no to it because you want to prioritize

(01:29:34):
and be intentional with wanting to be around because again,
they might not remember, but you do remember, and they're
here now, especially in them young years man when they
probably won't have a whole lot of memory of it,
but things that we can capture on video, they're here
for us to enjoy. So that would kind of be
I guess, my lesson or things that I've kind of
thought about when thinking about them being really young and

(01:29:56):
being in a position to where again, we can say
yes to a lot of things and we have the
opportunity and we're awarded a lot of a lot of
new things to do and be on the road a
lot or travel a lot, and you make as much
money as possible and do all of these things. So
it's something that I've tried, like sitting with myself and
having certain boundaries to where if it doesn't fit in

(01:30:17):
these priorities and in this timeframe, then I will say
no to it with the idea of I need to
enjoy them as much as possible right now, because there's
going to come a moment to where they're not crawling anymore,
they're not stationary anymore. Yeah, you know, I wasn't gonna
say not walking. They'll always be walking, but the last
time that you'll be picking them up before it they

(01:30:37):
don't want you to pick them up anymore, or you
hold their hand, or all these little things that will
be in the past. Yeah, And just to add on
to it, it's like, if they don't remember up until five,
when they're in between five and ten, their foundation to
be five and ten is still going to be built
on what they were from one to five. You know

(01:30:58):
what I'm saying. Maybe that doesn't make sense, No, it does.
But how you show up now is still going to
be the pattern or.

Speaker 2 (01:31:05):
The It's not like the all of a sudden you
just become the person that you are at six years old,
and it's just right right right, I know exactly what
you mean.

Speaker 1 (01:31:14):
So that would be.

Speaker 2 (01:31:17):
Yeah, I love that lasson. I just with Rue like
and Scotty as well. I put together a clip today
of Will that like featured a ton of Will's Instagram posts,
and in those posts, it was like crazy just seeing
like ruin the photograph because I'm like really looking at

(01:31:38):
the footage and making sure it all looks good, and
I'm like, man, she's grown fast. Seeing Scotty at the
dad combine her hair from when we shot that trailer
to now, yeah, is so much longer, and that felt
like last week. So it's like and those aren't even
my kids. And then also the fact of that was

(01:31:59):
another thought that went through my head while I was
putting that video together, is I was like, man, Will
is doing a killer job on the social media stuff,
just from a selfish standpoint of you being able to
go back and see all those pictures and like.

Speaker 1 (01:32:14):
Dude, we you don't know how many times, like when
Mom's out of town and she's like she really struggles
if I'm home along with the kids and I have
them for like a weekend or having like four or
five days whatever it is, Yeah, and she starts to
be upset that mom's at home. It's like I can
just pull up Instagram. I'll pull up like Charles, like
you want to see videos of my mind. We can
just go into our reels and kind of like watch

(01:32:35):
old videos and that calm her down and she can
see like old memories. But dude, I sometimes it takes
a while, but I feel like it is. It's like
one of those things that when those moments are happening,
it's like, man, I'm glad I like made a video
or I made a post about X, Y and Z
because you can like scroll back and see a lot
of old memories.

Speaker 2 (01:32:53):
Yes, dude, and at the exact same thing you're saying
about the dad combine and just busting in general what
jelly Roll said, Like you're just making a photo photo
video journal. Yeah, which is so cool, dude, like having
a Facebook being like our generation.

Speaker 1 (01:33:11):
How old are you? I am thirty five?

Speaker 2 (01:33:13):
Thirty five, okay, so I'm three years younger than you.
Having Facebook when we did, Yeah, you were probably like
a sophomore in high school or something. Yeah, yeah, I
was in seventh grade, I believe, And so like having
that is so freaking fun, dude. And again, the thought
of being a grandfather and being able to pull up
your Facebook and be like look at this, dudeeah like

(01:33:33):
scroll thousand. Yes. A quick lesson for this would be
for future dads or guys that are thinking about being
a dad. This was a quote from Jill's stepdad that
I thought was really great, and he was talking about
like my professional career more so than fatherhood. But I

(01:33:54):
think it's a very applicable to future dads that are like,
am I ready for this? Can I do this? Will
I be a good dad? One, the fact that you're
asking yourself that question is a good start. It means
you can, So I would say the fact that you're
asking that that's a good sign. Second thing i'd say
is everything in your life to this point has been

(01:34:17):
getting you ready for something, whatever that next step is,
and being able to eternalize all the what is it
called When you have done something, you're gaining uh, perspective, perspective,
You're gaining what does the wisdom. What does it intern

(01:34:39):
get whenever they work experience experience, You're getting experience. Well done,
intern chef. You're gaining experience for all these things throughout
your life. So everything that you have gone through throughout
your life, all the happy stuff, all the hard stuff,
all the challenging stuff as making you the person, the

(01:34:59):
man that you are today. And you can learn from
everything that you've gone through, whether it's a mistake, whether
it's good things that will help prepare you for what
is to come. And with fatherhood to apply that. I
know nothing about fatherhood, but as I'm getting closer and
closer to July second, the induction date, there are moments

(01:35:23):
where it's like lightning has struck my brain and I
remember something that my dad always did, or I remember
something that really upset me as a kid, specifically with
ru in the pool, when Chara was like sitting there
and having that conversation with her and like realizing like, yeah,

(01:35:44):
I probably would have wanted to like talk something out
instead of you know, having somebody yell at me or
argue with me at that moment. So life is ever changing.
There's always going to be things coming at you that
you feel like you won't be ready for it, but
just be able to use your past as a stepping

(01:36:05):
stool into whatever you're going into. I guess would be
my lesson of the week.

Speaker 1 (01:36:10):
Yeah, because you know, there's a lot of fears and
doubt and things on thinking if you can do it
or not? Right yes, and whether or not none of
us know how. Nobody knows how to be you know,
a perfect like a perfect dad. That's that's an impossible
expectation to have. And people might feel that way because
maybe they had a lot of bad experiences in their

(01:36:31):
childhood or in their life to where they might have
had doubt. But I would say a way to use
that is you know what, you don't want it to
look like, you know what I mean. You know that
you don't want to be this person, or maybe one
of your parents were this way or your dad was
this way, and you feel like it might be generational
and it's an opportunity for you. I know people get
motivated by breaking generational curses. But you know, even if

(01:36:54):
you don't have all of the best experiences, are the
best memories that you're thinking, like how I'm going to
do this? Like maybe you have you had a rough
one and you know what you don't want it to
look like? And that right there is a great starting
point on how you don't you know what you don't
want it to look like. I love that though. That
was good man. Yeah, yeah, good show.

Speaker 2 (01:37:15):
Great show.

Speaker 1 (01:37:15):
Yeah. And if they say this one went a little long,
very long, chef, Chef will have some editing to do.

Speaker 2 (01:37:22):
Yeah, yeah, yeah.

Speaker 1 (01:37:24):
Yeah, yeah, we've got to get those numbers down. You
know how I feel when we go a little too long,
even on bus and I cut some of this out.

Speaker 2 (01:37:32):
What should we aim for?

Speaker 1 (01:37:34):
No clue? You know? I like to be under the
hour mark, you know, I like to be under the
hour mark. That might be impossible, and maybe the you know,
maybe people be like, no, this is you guys, are
this is completely fine? Like I know when I get
on and I see it an episode and I know
it's like under an hour, like our last one was
what was our last one? Fifty minutes? You see fifty? Okay,

(01:37:54):
oh it's under an hour? Yeah, should be easy. I
can do that. So that's all. That's all I would
That's why.

Speaker 2 (01:38:00):
That's that's my only note too. But I was so
lost in the sauce of conversation that also is like, hey,
maybe a good thing. But at the same time, I'm like, oh, man,
on the top of our sheet, ETA expected runtime forty
five minutes.

Speaker 1 (01:38:14):
Yeah, so yeah, yeah, got a couple of talkers up here.

Speaker 2 (01:38:17):
Yeah, we got some talkers. We got something we'll we'll
we'll bring it in.

Speaker 1 (01:38:21):
Yeah.

Speaker 2 (01:38:21):
Maybe you take motherfucked, I'll take crack a cold one.
You'd like, we'll each one do one of the segments. Yeah, yeah,
that might be what we need to do.

Speaker 1 (01:38:31):
Pre production meeting could be good for us, a pre.

Speaker 2 (01:38:33):
Productive which we didn't didn't do and that's okay, that's okay.
It's a very busy week. But we'll get a dial.

Speaker 1 (01:38:41):
Yeah, get a dial. Shout out to dads Man, thank
you guys for joining us, Like subscribe again, leave comments.
We love the comments. We'll be engaging with you guys,
whether it's on social, here, on YouTube, whatever the case is.
Thank you, guys. We appreciate the support. We need to
sign off right now. I got just got big hugs,
tidy kisses.

Speaker 2 (01:38:59):
I think that's great. That's a blanket sign off that
I think for busting because y'all do it on the
locker room too. I think that's a good one.

Speaker 1 (01:39:05):
Yeah. Yeah, take your trash out. See you guys next week.
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