Will Compton Gives Parenting Advice For Your First Child, Delivery Room Do's & Don'ts | For The Dads - Bussin' With The Boys

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Speaker 1 (00:00):
Welcome to for the Dads. This is episode four. Whatever
you're doing right now, look, we have people calling in
from the chair at three am trying to get their
little one down. Maybe you're on a road trip. Maybe
you're in the delivery room right now. I know our
boy's going to be in the delivery room here really
soon actually this week as you listen to this, he's
probably sitting in the delivering room. But whatever you're doing,

(00:22):
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Dad's Pot on all social channels. Fire me up, Shuram.

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We have a bunch of shit out there, a lot
of stuff that you can subscribe to help support up.
I was in the coffee shop the other day and
Dad was like, oh, hey, I loved your I loved
your clip on Instagram and I'm like, yeah, yeah, that's
a thank you for tuning in to the show. He's like, oh,
it's a show. How do I get on the show
and he's got his phone out and I'm helping him
navigate to YouTube just to subscribe to a channel. And
he was so fired up and got my piss hot.

(01:04):
But I'm wondering these dads, these guys, you have to know,
they want to know how to support this channel. That
is what you do. There's the might there's a little
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on Apple podcast if that's where you're consuming us. If
you're on YouTube right now watching the boys spin it,
just make sure please subscribe to the channel. Leave comments.
The engagement has been off the charts. But we're fired up. Sure,

(01:29):
I know you're nervous. Bro. It is the week. This
is the week, this is the weas game day. JP
knows what I'm talking about.

Speaker 2 (01:35):
And I wish we had the rights to scrill us
so bad. I've been playing Scrilla a lot in the car.

Speaker 1 (01:40):
Now do we get dinged when that comes on? When
I dropped that, when I dropped the b Oh for sure?
Oh it does? So I can't yeah yeah yeah.

Speaker 2 (01:49):
But if you're a listener, you pause this, play Scrilla
for like that first five seconds.

Speaker 1 (01:54):
Come back? Yeah, how you feeling man, dude. Okay, before
we get in all that, just letting people know again
there's a we're at the farmer's market. Dad loved the
hat repping the girl Dad stuff we got for the
Dad's Hats BWTB dot com. That's where you can buy
or merch. And again, the biggest thing, especially this week
is that we have launched this channel before the Dad's

(02:15):
Pod channel on YouTube on all the platforms. We want
to get better at social media. We were having a meeting,
a meeting of the minds myself, you and Chef Jack
on how we can engage more because there's there's there's
so many call ins, like shout out to you guys
who are using the hotline six oh one the Dad's
and calling in. We have five hundred plus voicemails over

(02:37):
the last few weeks. We're finding a way to kind
of uh segment through those, kind of compartmentalize those when
you do call in, it would be very helpful. And again,
if you're tuning into the show for the for the
first time, we talk Dad losses, we talk moments. We
would crack a cold one too.

Speaker 3 (02:53):
Uh.

Speaker 1 (02:54):
We have a call in segment. We have Dad hacks.
What you need in the survival kit, a lesson or
a quote or topic of the that's kind of been
marinating on our minds and hearts to just be better fathers.
But we kind of hit those segments in our show.
And if you're calling in you want to leave a voicemail.
What helps our boys Chef Jack a lot to one
of our producer who breaks all this stuff down in
the back end, if you can just say, you know,

(03:16):
at the top when you introduce yourself, this is a
dad loss of mind this week, or this is something
I could crack a cold one too this week, or
this is a quote topic or lesson that I've really
enjoyed that I think the boys the dads might like.
Or if you want to just vent about your wife
beat you down verbally a little bit, and you know
that beat down is needed, but you need a place
to go in a safe space to talk about it.
That's six o one the dad. So please do that

(03:36):
for a boy, Chef Jack behind the camera and sure
them obviously sum will be on somewhat of a paternity leave,
but you'll still be in it with the boys. Because
we're a small business, we can't necessarily fully let you
just be off work at all times, but you're excited.

Speaker 2 (03:51):
I'm excited. I'm excited. And also to that point, motherfucked
has not gone to the wayside. We're more so and
reducing dad losses and motherfucked is really when you're getting motherfuckers.

Speaker 1 (04:04):
Yeah, because it's it's it would be hard every week
to come up with a motherfucked moment because number one,
we don't want to just talk about how we're just
getting yelled at by our wives and painting the wives
in a tough picture. But honestly, it's like there's not
those don't happen all the time to where there's a
story to share at all times. And if you look
at if you looked at getting motherfucked like that kind

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of that kind of goes underneath the umbrella of like
a dad loss, like, hey, I took a dad L
this week with my love with my wife, or I
took a dad L with my daughter or my son,
or I took a dad al because I'm holding myself
accountable and this is a dad L or was a
bad moment for myself. So I feel like dad loss
is as much easier to kind of break down within
the scope of talking about our failures as fathers.

Speaker 2 (04:46):
It is, it is it opens it up for us
to find more stories. That was a pre production decision.
That was not a decision from our wives saying, hey,
what the fuck?

Speaker 1 (04:56):
No, not at all, not at all, not at all.
But it's like, you know, it's I don't want to
say here and make up any you know what I mean.
So it's like, hey, I feel like dad losses would
give us a lot more to work with in a
failure segment. Yeah.

Speaker 2 (05:07):
And then also on a more serious note, one of
the problem, like best problems to have, is the problem
that we're having that we're talking about in that social
media meeting is just how much people are reaching out
to us on socials and on the voicemail, which is unreal.
Just the amount of times that we get on our pages.

(05:28):
When we get on the four of the Dad's phone
and see how much you guys have blown us up.
You said it was how many voicemails plus five hundred.

Speaker 1 (05:35):
Five hundred plus. I mean that the first week we
kind of ran it, it was around like getting close
to three hundred when you had to take them off right,
or one to eighty or something like that two hundred Yeah,
it's been nuts man and and two.

Speaker 2 (05:47):
On the more serious note, we when we do receive
a call that we wouldn't be able to play on
the show. A dad's going through it, parents are going
through it. It's some kind of situation that, like Will
and I always say, we are not atts. And so
for those situations that need an expert, uh, there's the
National Parent and Youth Hotline. They have professional counselors that

(06:10):
are ready to talk to somebody.

Speaker 1 (06:11):
Twenty four to seven. It's completely free.

Speaker 2 (06:15):
That number is eight five five four to two seven
two seven three six. If you really want to get
that kind of stuff off your chest, if you need
somebody to talk to, that is a professional reach out
to them. We called the number ourselves just to vet them.

Speaker 1 (06:31):
They're awesome. They're awesome. That's a crack of cold one too,
right there, SUREM, because I know you took the liberty
of kind of vetting that.

Speaker 2 (06:38):
Yeah, dude, I mean, dads need to get stuff off
their chests and if they need that emotional support.

Speaker 1 (06:43):
Yeah, they come here for the locker room talk. Yeah yeah, yeah, yeah,
the locker room banterro. I was just trying to figure
this shit out. Yeah together, ye rolling, it's together. By
the way, I was thinking of uh, I was thinking
of maybe a couple some squad names out there of
the listeners or the listeners and like all of us. Okay,

(07:04):
there's a couple that's kind of you know, you got
a Papa Team six. Hey, how about just going off
the brotherhood the fatherhood and you just get like, you know,
you know the hats how it says the lou and
it's upside down. Yeah, or we just get like fatherhood
and it's upside down and that's how you know you're

(07:25):
like part of the fatherhood. Okay, I like that one
a lot. Papa Team six is strong, Papa Team six
to where you can just refer to yourself like, oh,
that's a Papa Seal. That's a Papa Seal. That's somebody
who sent Seeman Team six down there and got the
job done. Now he's a Papa Seal and his heart's

(07:47):
black as hell. Yeah. Yeah, you can tell he's been
through some some military tours. And what I mean by
military tours is he's been on some road trips, he's
been on some vacations without any childcare. You can see
it in his eyes. So just a couple of thoughts.
Those are a couple of thoughts.

Speaker 2 (08:04):
I love both of those. I love the Fatherhood hat
upside Down. The our merch team was on the phone
with me last week and they were pitching some upside
down stuff too, Like they're one to go heavy into it, so.

Speaker 1 (08:17):
I think it's badass. Maybe we let the listeners aside.
Maybe we let some comments decide. Oh yeah, if you
have an opinion on whether we should call this this audience,
this group of dads, this community, the fatherhood, or Papa
Team six with it, I kind of like bye, Papa
Team slide before coming into this. I loved, I love

(08:38):
the Fatherhood. Hey he's part of the fatherhood. M m,
maybe there's like a hierarchy we can you're you're a
real sick.

Speaker 2 (08:47):
Yeah, yeah, he's part of the father But I don't
know if Papa Team six.

Speaker 1 (08:51):
Yeah, yeah, Papa Team six, because there's some play on
stuff there with Papa Team six. Again it's like, hey,
that's a Papa Seal. How do you know he's a
Papa Seal because he sent in seeming a Team six.

Speaker 2 (09:00):
You gotta you gotta check his stats man, Yeah, yeah, yeah,
if he's going around telling people he's popping Team six.
He's probably not popping Team six. Yeah, those are the
guys that stick out there at the bar.

Speaker 1 (09:11):
Let us know in the comments. Comments, by the way,
have been have been off the charts. I know, SUREM
you're telling me about some some dms and messages that
you got, but just looking at you know, whether it's
on YouTube, the support has been unreal. Thank you, guys, sincerely.
I'm looking at one right now from Eli Eli Weinstein?

(09:32):
Did I say that right? You think Eli Weinstein as
a dad and therapist who works with so many men
and couples. This podcast is so needed. Over this is
from no nickname. Over an hour is ideal. Charles a
real real one. Gotta get her on a few pods
call an episode would be sick. Been listening to Busting
for years, but man, this podcast is something different. Love

(09:53):
this show, Green Bay Bucks. This show is so important
to me. Already as a father and soon to be
dad of two, I've learned, experience, I've learned, experienced, felt
and looked forward to so much due to this podcast
is so inspiring. It makes you a better father. Great job, guys.
Can't wait for episode four. People love the long episodes. Damn,
we're gonna try to keep this one under an hour. Damn, dude,

(10:15):
there's no way there an hour way.

Speaker 2 (10:20):
I told Will, I'm just gonna be I'm gonna put
it out there for the listeners. I am really I
was very nervous in episode one. I could tell listening
to myself, I soundbody nervous. Episodes two and three, I
was like, Okay, that sounds how like if I'm having
lunch with Will, or like I'm talking to a friend.

Speaker 1 (10:39):
That's how I talk.

Speaker 2 (10:40):
Yeah, going into this episode, dude, I got shaky hands,
like my chest seals like real heavy and stuff because
I know we're probably gonna talk about scarlet.

Speaker 1 (10:51):
And all that stuff.

Speaker 2 (10:51):
So I'm just gonna get that out of the way.
I am extremely nervous, and now that I've said it,
I'm already feeling better. Good, feel better. I'm in a
safe space.

Speaker 1 (11:01):
Dude. It feels like a big It's a big episode
in a big moment because this week, Bro, you become
a dad. Oh damn, you get welcomed in fully into
the fatherhood or a team six and.

Speaker 2 (11:18):
It's no more was it called when you wear military
stuff you're not in the military.

Speaker 1 (11:22):
Stolen ballad.

Speaker 2 (11:22):
Yeah, it's felt like stolen baalord this entire time. But
y'all are like, oh no, you know, wear the hats
blah blah blah because.

Speaker 1 (11:29):
Everybody's welcome you. There's so there's like younger guys, there's
like younger guys. It's like, hey, I don't have a
uc comments like hey, I don't have a kid, but
this pod juices me up for one fatherhood yea, yeah dude.

Speaker 2 (11:40):
And speaking of I don't want to lease track of
some of those comments because I pulled some comments.

Speaker 1 (11:46):
Yeah yeah, talk about because you you had a couple
of cool dms that you yes share.

Speaker 2 (11:50):
Austin Cook wrote in he's actually a doctor, a pediatric resident,
but he did put a disclaimer this is not medical advice,
so I can't hold him to it. But he was
giving me tips for the game in Waco, said Jill
doesn't have to pump hi dump. Gave me a link
Jill can have Herbrusky.

Speaker 1 (12:09):
So thank you.

Speaker 2 (12:10):
Austin Cook for reaching out. We had another guy reach out, Dexter.
Dexter lives in Scotland, he's visiting the United States and
he hit me up and he said, while I'm in
Orlando on vacation, I want to get some of the
merch sent to my hotel. I'm gonna be here for
two weeks. Can I get it within a two week window? Dexter,

(12:31):
I will get back to you. I'm gonna reach out
to our merch team. But what a legend dude across
the Seas left? Yeah, Dexter shout out.

Speaker 1 (12:41):
And then, what's up, chef? What's chef coming from the
top rope?

Speaker 4 (12:51):
On?

Speaker 2 (12:51):
Chef's coming from the top rope and said, why don't
we just cover shipping for him?

Speaker 1 (12:56):
Dude's coming in from a chef, you're covering it. I'm
just with you.

Speaker 2 (13:02):
Dude's coming in from Ireland. He's hungry for his bust
with the boys, or is for the dad's merch? Yes,
I love that idea, Chef. Yeah, because ever Seas would
be nuts.

Speaker 1 (13:17):
We gotta get him hooked up. We'll get him. Okay,
I'll write that down. Yeah, let's get him hooked up, Dexter.

Speaker 2 (13:22):
You're getting hooked up, sir. And then, and have.

Speaker 1 (13:24):
We found our two from last week? I know we
found Steven, Stephen and Thomas. Yeah, yes, so so so
last week what happened was when you call in and
get featured on the show, we'll be sending you some
free merchandise, some free merch from the store. Well, last week,
what happened was when we dropped. When we dropped all

(13:48):
of the voicemails on the dropbox, it doesn't give the
call in number and everything else, so we can't reach
out to said who the caller was. Last week, those
callers were Steven and Thomas. I did a video on
social media at Underscore. Will Compton on all social media
platforms did a video calling for Hey, we need to
look for these guys. We found Steven, we still need

(14:08):
to find Thomas. Thomas. If you're watching, Yeah, leave a
comment dm at for the dad spot. We're vetting those
because we need to find Thomas so we can get them.

Speaker 2 (14:18):
So we have to find Thomas, and this could be
the first official member of Papa Team six. The person
that finds Thomas, or the Fatherhood or the Fatherhood. If
you find Thomas, I think.

Speaker 1 (14:31):
That's they're nighted. They're in Yeah.

Speaker 2 (14:33):
But yes, Thomas, if you're listening to this, please text
the for the dad's phone or call back in prove
that's yourself. We got this awesome call in from Steven.
I found him in the comments of the YouTube.

Speaker 1 (14:47):
He said, oh.

Speaker 2 (14:48):
Man, that was my call in. Can't believe y'all featured me.
You know, Steven sixty four thirty seven.

Speaker 1 (14:53):
Hit him up.

Speaker 2 (14:54):
I said, bro, you got a call back in. We
need your addy. We gotta send you free merch. And
this was the call that we got back.

Speaker 5 (15:02):
Hey boys, it's Steven down here from Georgia. I was
featured in the latest pod, which I'm so pumped about
and my kids think it's hilarious.

Speaker 1 (15:09):
By the way, right right, I.

Speaker 2 (15:15):
Know what he says, don't want to dogs his phone
number because I was.

Speaker 1 (15:19):
Taking myself or are you about to play somewhere addresses?

Speaker 2 (15:23):
Don't want to dogs his address or his phone numbers?

Speaker 1 (15:26):
Papa seel no, dude.

Speaker 2 (15:27):
I just loved that he was in the car. You
can hear the car noise. You can hear the kids
in the back. I don't know what they screamed. They
were probably like, Papa team sick.

Speaker 1 (15:35):
You're getting hype.

Speaker 2 (15:37):
You gotta love it, dude, So shout out Steven. We
got his address. I got an address over to the
merch team. He will be receiving his free for the Dad's.

Speaker 1 (15:46):
Merch love it. Did you have a d M that
you wanted to share? That you said kind of made
you a little emotional.

Speaker 2 (15:51):
Oh yeah, wait for what are the odds? Or we
can kick it off with what are the odds? It
doesn't matter.

Speaker 1 (15:58):
We can hold it.

Speaker 4 (15:59):
We can hold it, should we jumping into our first segment,
Dad losses, Yes, talk about some dad l's that we've taken,
which you know again stolen valor.

Speaker 1 (16:10):
I'm sure there's a loss in there, like as you know. Look,
you're you're you're in a warriorrself. Yeah, you have a
pregnant wife, been going through a lot. It has to
carry has to carry it all. There's only so much
that a man feels like they can do without just
fully just supporting their wife. Hey, what do you need?
What do you need? How can I help? Let me
get your feet? You're a big foot rub guy, big.

Speaker 2 (16:31):
Foot rub guy. Her feet are swelling like crazy. But
she's had the best attitude ever. I'm not just saying
that to like get on her good graces, like you
brought it up last episode.

Speaker 1 (16:41):
She's a nurse.

Speaker 2 (16:42):
She's on her feet all the time at work. Her
mom just got in town. They're doing a ton of
shopping together and running around. She comes back and it's
like at her ankles, you can just see where the
socks ended, and I mean her legs are so swollen.
So guys with pregnant moms out there, rub those calves,
rub those feet, take care of your girl. As far

(17:07):
as like dad losses right now, yeah, I have one
that I am pre saying that this is a dad
loss because it hasn't happened yet, but I'm already feeling
the effects of it. This is what I'm the most
worried about. This is what I'm the most stressed about,
because I'm getting in the comments. Oh, Sherman's a goner.
He sleeps in last time you'll ever sleep in, Sherman.

(17:29):
Get ready to not sleep Sherman. Oh Sherman's never gonna
get asleep anymore. And I'm just reading these comments, I'm like,
no more, pubg I'm like, fuck, they're right, because I'm
just I'm I'm a you know, a three legged dog.
When I don't get my my sleep, I'm playing handicapped,
and I'm just I'm worried about how am I gonna

(17:49):
perform when I'm low on sleep and I got the
double shot espresso you know, shout out, no free shout out,
and espresso uh already prepped in the kitchen, a lot
of caffeine ready. I slept like all weekend, like trying
to get on a good sleep track. Got twelve hours

(18:12):
two nights ago, twelve hours, went to bed so early,
so many unread text messages because everybody's like, get your
fucking sleep, dude. You're never gonna sleep again.

Speaker 1 (18:28):
So you can sleep twelve hours?

Speaker 2 (18:30):
Oh yeah, oh yeah, it's a problem, dude, this is
an issue. This is a dad loss for sure.

Speaker 1 (18:38):
You ever get like checked so for like sleep apnea, No,
that could be a move for you. Oh, like I
have sleep apnea. Yeah, maybe you have sleep apnea. Is
that the where you're like, oh yeah, the mask you
can snore light, You can be somebody's on their back
and their chin sinks back and your mouth's just open
and you just kind of breathe, breathe poorly. When you're sleeping.

(19:00):
You strike me as a mouth breather, so you're getting
more into your chest and into your into your lungs.
That's why, like I can be a mouth breatherer. That's
why I'll take my mouth shut at night, so I
can you know nasal breathe. Well, you knit deeper into
your diaphragm, yes, dude.

Speaker 2 (19:13):
And actually, when I think about it, because I bought
that thing that you bought, the intake uh and tape,
and I was doing it.

Speaker 1 (19:22):
What happened, I don't know. I just like stopped there.
I wasn't doing it as much. I need to get
back on it, maybe, yeah, but yeah, because yeah, you're
going into You're going into You're going into the trenches.
You're going into the depths of hell. One of our
call ins this week is somebody who's in the trenches. Yeah,
was sleeping and getting the kid down and everything else.

(19:42):
That's what you're worried about your So what is your loss?
You're just you're prefacing.

Speaker 2 (19:47):
I'm just prefacing that future loss, dude. Of like, I
feel like I'm gonna slip up. I feel like I'm not.
Like it's kind of like we're in the fox al together. Yeah,
we're in noam. Yeah, you did a great job being
on patrol. You're like Sherman, I'm gonna you get your z's.
I'm watching and you're you do a great job. You

(20:09):
stay up now it's hey, I'm about to pass out, Sherman,
you're on patrol. I'm gonna be sitting there like, fuck, dude,
I can't fall asleep. I can't fall asleep. All this
safe sleep stuff with scarlet.

Speaker 1 (20:21):
Why would you think to yourself, I can't fall asleep.
I can't fall asleep because I'd be tired. But if
you're watching my back, what would make you not fall asleep?
Like in your brain you're like, I can't fall asleep.
I can't fall asleep and love my boy? What are
you thinking about? Fucking love my boy? Why do you
love your boy because he's got my back and you
can't let him down.

Speaker 2 (20:41):
I can't let him down. Do you think that's gonna
get me through?

Speaker 1 (20:43):
It's a sacrifice mentality. You're going to slip up like
those things might happen. But you've fallen asleep when you
know you're carrying, you're holding your little girl, and you
know you just have to self talk. You look, Losers react,
Winners anticipate. You have to anticipate that these bad nights
are going to happen, and you have to have you

(21:04):
have to have like some rolodecks going on in your head,
whether it's quotes, whether it's little reminders of self talk
that you're gonna have to lean on when these moments
a right, because you're gonna be upset. There'll be times
where I'll be holding Rue and she's not going down,
and it's three in the morning, and I'm, you know,
upset that it's my turn and I gotta get out
of bed to go to go put Rue back down,
and she's not wanting to go to bed. And there'll

(21:24):
be times when I'm just like, you just have to
move to sleep, And in those moments, you just you
have to catch yourself and remind yourself that I don't know,
nobody's coming to save you, and only you're gonna get
your You're only you're gonna get yourself out of this mess.
And you might be staying up for another hour or so,

(21:45):
and that sucks, but you just gotta know and you
have to embrace that suck, because look, when we're old,
we're about to die, and shit, we're gonna wish we
were in those trenches again. Because they're gonna get older,
they're gonna be teaching us stuff when they're adults. And
you're gonna you're just gonna sit back and think time
has flown by and it's felt like a blink of

(22:07):
an eye, and you'll wish you're just back in those
trenches trying to put them down to sleep because you
just miss you miss those moments because they're fleeting. But
those are the things you gotta lean on when you're
just at war. You're gonna crush it. It's not about
being perfect. It's just about showing up. It's about taking
those l's on the chin and know that you're in
the middle of taking an l. Maybe you're able to

(22:28):
muster up a little laugh, a little laughter. Maybe you
just throw in the old podcast before the dads, that's
what I'm saying, and reflect back on this podcast. Maybe
you just drop me a little voice message at nighttime, like, hey, sucker,
if you're sleeping right now, you feel pretty good that
your kids are sleeping through the night. But I want
you to know I'm in hell. Well, I'm and I

(22:49):
hope you're I hope your sound is on, so this
might have a chance of waking your punk ass up.
I just want you to know I hope magging it up.
I'm gonna call you get I gotta I Okay.

Speaker 2 (23:02):
In defense of myself, I'm not so worried about the trenches.
It's about like the the next day. That's what I'm
worried about, like performing, like being at my best offen
because I know I'm not going to sleep, but I
just know myself on like light sleep and I'm like, dude,

(23:22):
I gotta get like good at that.

Speaker 1 (23:24):
And that was my New Year's resolution. Yeah.

Speaker 2 (23:28):
Last year was like owning the mornings, like owning that
routine and just like I don't know, I want to
be able to like rock it in the mornings, make
Jill's mornings easy, get the formula going, get the you know,
doing the dishes, and shit, I just know myself on.

Speaker 1 (23:44):
Write it down, bro, Yeah, write these upcoming potential losses down.
And when it's when it's happening, you just got to
have you know, if it's if it's uh, waking up
before Jill, if it's having this stuff ready before Jill
gets out of bed, whatever it is, it's just how
can you remind yourself that this is the standard I
wrote out? How can I stick to this and just

(24:07):
nobody's coming coming to save me? Yeah, that's just the mentality.
You have to anticipate all of it, and when it's coming,
you can't react and be shocked because when you're reacting,
then you're in your feelings. You're in your emotions and
lean on your boy. No, dude, I'll check you. Yeah,
I need to lean on my boy. Uh.

Speaker 2 (24:24):
This week, I've had a ton of dudes shout out Ruben,
shout out Dylan, shout out geartt like a ton of
my personal friends reaching out, sending text messages, calling me,
shout out.

Speaker 1 (24:35):
Calling.

Speaker 2 (24:37):
Like, you know, really pouring in and being like, dude,
how are you, how's it going?

Speaker 1 (24:43):
So that does me in ton.

Speaker 2 (24:44):
I love that Jill's mom like showed up early because
it's already got me in, like you got to impress
the mother in law. And I'm in like full dad
mode around the house like there's not a thing out
of order because I'm you know, make sure we're getting
dinner for make sure that yard.

Speaker 1 (24:59):
I did a extra weed eating.

Speaker 2 (25:00):
That didn't even need to be done, but like mother
in law's in town, you gotta weed eat.

Speaker 1 (25:07):
Yeah, man, listen, you just gotta have Jocko willink in
the back of your head when something's going wrong. Good.
When you're feeling sleepy, you only got two hours of sleep. Good,
get my ass out of bed. When the baby's not
going down and you're on duty, good, you might think Jill,
she she took a little walk. Maybe she's going something

(25:29):
to take care of herself. Right, and you think the
kid's gonna go down. Okay, here's a three hour window
that they get to sleep. Maybe I can close my eyes.
They don't go to sleep, you don't get your nap.
You gotta think good. I'm covered in shit. Yes, good?
Shit on me? More good? Bombing on me? I dare you?

(25:51):
Oh you danger dip? Oh you shit again? I fucking
love your enthusiasm. Oh good, I'll change your I'll change
that shit again. Type your dress. Kids overflowd Good. Wife's
yelling at you because there's a rash now in the
baby's ass because you wiped it so hard because you
were pissed off. Good, be softer, put the cream on afterwards.

Speaker 2 (26:13):
Dogs are pissed off because they're getting less attention, so
they're starting to pee on step so you finally pay
attention to them.

Speaker 1 (26:18):
Good. Kid finally goes down, dog wakes up. They're making
a lot of loud noise wakes the baby up. You
go to chase the dog to give it a little
to give it a little discipline. Dog outruns you, runs
outside out the front door. Can't get the dog. You
gotta go chase him on the road. You can't find him.
Good good, You gotta embrace the suck term. It is

(26:39):
gonna happen. I know you got those dogs and the
terms always yelling at me at the front door. Keep
them in, keep them in. I hope those dogs out
run your ass too, And they do, and you're piss off.
I just and think of me. I'm ready, and don't
you dare send the text in you can't show up
before the dads because I'm just gonna say, hey, this

(27:00):
is what we prepared for. No good, good, get your
bunk ass in here.

Speaker 2 (27:04):
I'm gonna be on that bus. Yeah every Monday. Yeah,
I gotta be here for for the dad's.

Speaker 1 (27:12):
Good. Good. Let me get to my dad loss because
we gotta keep this saying under an hour we're dirty. No,
I felt like five minutes. That's perfect because we're in
our my themes are gonna be around you and having
your first kid. My dad loss is essentially it's gonna

(27:33):
stem from this quote. Don't try to fix your partner's
labor pain. Just nod support and seek out what else
you can do. Stay north of the wall, and what
I mean by north of the wall, north of the
curtain unless you want to see the full experience from
the other side. Yeah, however, don't try to fix your
partner's labor pain. I made that mistake. I talked about

(27:54):
it on a show not too maybe our first episode
or second episode. Yeah, yeah, where we had a birth
plan at all, went to ship. Everything on the birthplane
went to ship, and she was She was like, hey,
it's time to go see section I might say, sweetheart,
a sea plasure. It seems like you're kind of giving up.
You're quitting the fucking glare she had in her I
don't give a fuck if you think I'm giving up.

(28:17):
Did she say that? Is something like that? It was blurry,
It got a little spinny, sweetheart, Do you need me
to stay rocky about boel mentality? Right now? I'm thinking
this is what you wanted me for. No, it wasn't.
But my dad loss is just around the just a
lesson of don't try to fix your partner's labor pain. Yeah,

(28:37):
you're gonna be in it. It's gonna be an experience.
Excited to hear about it. But don't tell me too
much if you know what I mean. Let's get into
a crack a Cold one, some positivity. Oh yes, what
do you got? You got? You got cold one right there? Oh?
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(28:59):
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(29:20):
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guys celebrate America hard this weekend. I hope you celebrate
fatherhood this weekend with bud Light. Should fuck beautiful. Oh
all right, you got anything for crack a Cold one?

Speaker 2 (29:43):
I do, and it's along the same lines and I
wrote down crack a Cold one.

Speaker 1 (29:47):
It's game day. It's game day. Okay, yeah, I.

Speaker 2 (29:51):
Know this is this is in the same vein of weapons.

Speaker 1 (29:54):
Just start celebration, bro, You're you're this is a this
is a huge week. I am super We're excited for you. Actually,
my lesson quote topic of the week that we do
at the end of the episode it's I I wrote
a little something that's for you. So I'm excited for you. Bro.

Speaker 2 (30:09):
I'm I'm so just messed up over like all this
in a good way. Yeah, I would say my thing
that is like my true crack of cole One is
just like the thought of Like Jill said that her
moment that she's been looking forward to the most in

(30:31):
our relationship is seeing me holding Scarlet. She didn't have
a dad for majority of her childhood, and dude, I'm
so stoked to like, uh be everything that she thinks

(30:52):
I can be to our daughter. I can't wait to
hold That's why Crackna get.

Speaker 1 (31:04):
A little down. Hey, you cry like a bitch, though
I cry like a bitch. We're all such ugly. Cry
like a bitch. I gotta break it up with your talk.
You cry like a bitch. Stop crying. You're making me cry, Papa, Si, No, no,

(31:27):
don't cry now. Actually yeah we do, We do all
the time. Oh my crack, a cold one is going
to be getting one up on your wife. This isn't
this isn't about fatherhood. I'm gonna set that aside for
a second. But every Sunday, my my my wife, she

(31:50):
as you guys know, she operates, she runs. She owns
the Bar three studios here in Nashville. So if you're
looking for a little sweat, Bar three, so she'll teach,
she'll spot teach throughout the week. But usually she runs
a couple of classes on Sunday, So it's usually you know,
Daddy Daughter Day on Sunday mornings. And you know how
I'm the guy who's forgetful Lilily last week, shit me

(32:12):
with shit me with just having to remind me to
do you know, a lot of different things. It'd be
nice if I can think on my feet and think
ahead a little bit. She's she's not wrong. I get that.
Every week, yeah, yeah, every week. Yeah, But she's been
on a run now to where she's forgotten the car base,
the car seat base a few weekends in a row,

(32:35):
and when I'm going to take the kiddos somewhere and
the car seat base isn't sitting out in the garage
to where I can put it in my truck. And
then we got Scottie. I know people are thinking, oh,
we need a couple of car bases, why don't you
have more than one? We do, the nanny has the
other one, and we just kind of we kind of
mix up what happens. But for those people, shut up.
This is this is this is my moment right now. Well,
she forgot that base, and I just got to send

(32:56):
a text, Hey, sweetheart, you forgot the base again, just
letting you know. And I'm kind of smiling behind my
phone because i know when she reads it, she already said,
looks like I'm the one that has to get reminded
now because there's something that's like and it shouldn't but
it elats my soul when I'm like, you get them
on something that they just beat you to the ground

(33:17):
four at times, and you just you beat yourself down
to the ground because you're like you stupid idiot who
has CT brain and everything else. You can't remember to
do these little things. But it was nice. So my
kraikacle was just getting one up, getting one up on
the old wife.

Speaker 2 (33:33):
That's the best feeling in the entire world. Whenever I
find some of Jill's clothes, I hit her with the
is that where this goes? Because that's why I get
hit with every time he needs a home. Oh yeah,
and that's usually I get a slug in the shoulder
or something. It doesn't go over well, yeah, but I
do have to remind her. I'm like, hey, is that
where that goes?

Speaker 1 (33:53):
Yeah? I don't think so.

Speaker 2 (33:56):
Also, an awesome comment that we got at oh that made.

Speaker 1 (34:01):
Me think not to shift the energy. Okay, losing them,
losing them, losing Sam, keep it under an hour.

Speaker 2 (34:11):
Sam reached out and he said, hey, for the dads
that love the pod and their wives want to listen
to while they're listening, we one episode should do thirty
minutes of just glazing the wives so that the husbands
can be like, honey, this is the show I've been
listening to, you know, that show that I've been telling
you about. For the dads, it's teaching me to be
a great dad. Check this thing out first thirty minutes.

(34:34):
We're just glazing the wives.

Speaker 1 (34:37):
I don't hate that at all. I don't either, because
they deserve most to shine.

Speaker 2 (34:43):
Yeah they do, they do. But I thought that was
a great comment. Yeah, chef said, we should put a
code word in the title to let know this.

Speaker 1 (35:00):
Is one that Hey, if you're if you feel like
your wife might be on the fence for just a
dad community bitching about our own shit. Well, they're thinking
about planing it out the entire week. What are we
eating this week? Here's what here's the shopping list, here's
all the ingredients we gotta get. We gotta make sure
dinner's on the table for everybody. Like sweet, we can't
just you can't just run and gun. No, that answer

(35:21):
is no, you got to be prepared. And uh yeah,
well yeah, the moms do need the moms do need shine.
I would moms do have shine.

Speaker 2 (35:30):
They have shine. They're the superheroes. Will say that we
know that we are inferior.

Speaker 1 (35:35):
Yes, pains me to say, because I just want to
run up my stats, change a couple of diapers. You know,
what was your list that you knocked out Uh, you're
talking about the one that went uh this weekend, oh
this weekend. Yeah, yeah, I was talking about big Dad Day,
Massive Dad Day, changing filters, taking a outdoor furniture to

(35:57):
a drop off, hide and seek with rue. But you
know that's a that's a heavy day right there. For
that's a heavy day. Yeah, I I I love, I
love messing around with that stuff.

Speaker 2 (36:09):
Oh yeah, And I sent this message to somebody. I
can't find it, but I said, if for the Dad's
was a treehouse, there's no sign on the outside of
it that says like no girls.

Speaker 1 (36:19):
Allowed, No dude, we have we have wives and moms
like in the comments, Oh for sure enjoy this so far,
which was I guess surprising because I'm thinking, like, you know,
this would be some some good dad fund, some good
dad banta. Let's hope the wives don't really tune in
a whole lot because this ship you're listening to, you
think you got a hard live buddy bucco. What does

(36:39):
it mean to have your heart turned black? Honey? That's concerning. Yeah, honey,
you don't get it. Oh they're complained about this. Oh man,
I love it though. We by the way, we are
going to have, We'll be having our wives on. We'll
love to get God. That would be hilarious. We'd love
to do collaborative podcast Yeah, because again we love the

(37:02):
band around, locker room talk. Make it about the dads,
grow the community.

Speaker 2 (37:08):
That would be a ton of fun to collab with
some mom podcasts.

Speaker 1 (37:11):
Yeah, that would be hilarious.

Speaker 2 (37:14):
Just see them pick us apart? I would love it.
I would sit there and take notes of.

Speaker 1 (37:18):
Pick us apart. We'd we'd have our own offense. We
would we would bring some stuf to but secretly would
be what'd you say? Was what we do? Yeah? But yeah,
I love that. That was your Cracker col One? Yeah,
that was my Cracker cold one. Okay, cool. We want
to spit into what are the odds? Yes? Uh this

(37:39):
What are the Odds is really badass. Shout out Fandel
sports book.

Speaker 2 (37:42):
Shout out Fandel sportsbook. We have this one came from
Dean Nielsen, So what are the odds?

Speaker 1 (37:50):
From Dean Nielsen.

Speaker 2 (37:53):
His son Robbie, was given a less than one percent
chance to survive and spent seven days in the neek
you when his wife's placenta ruptured. He provided some pictures
of his kid on the bed fighting for his life.
He said, my wife went from role playing on how

(38:16):
we're going to explain to our three year old daughter
that brother went to heaven to now having a miracle boy.
We're celebrating his first birthday on six thirteen, so that's
in the past now, right, Yeah, June thirteenth, So Robbie
had his first first birthday. He's a thousand percent of

(38:37):
getting in the credits. It's him at a baseball game.
He said, this story is meant to remind the dads,
no matter how hard things get, to remind yourself how
lucky we are to have our kids and to be dads.

Speaker 1 (38:49):
Not a day goes.

Speaker 2 (38:50):
By where I don't think about what my little dude
battled through and him now he'll have the best pregame
speech that you can ever have, which I just love
that idea of you know, being told less than one
percent chance and just beating the odds. So the what
are the odds? This week goes to Robbie Nielsen that

(39:13):
just celebrated his first birthday.

Speaker 1 (39:15):
Shout out Robbie, dude, do I could not imagine less
than one being told there's essentially a less than a
one percent chance and your kids fighting the nick you
and you're trying to think of stories to tell the

(39:36):
other one.

Speaker 2 (39:37):
Oh yeah, I read that first thing. When I woke
up e DM me this morning. I had tears of
eyes before I even got out of bed, and I
knew that we had this episode and you were probably
gonna cook up something that would make me cry. I
would probably say some shit that would make me cry.
So I was just like, oh God, this is just
gonna be ugly.

Speaker 1 (39:55):
I'll tell you what Dad's emotions are on the fence.
I feel like at all times, especially when stories like that,
like it's hard to watch movies now involving like very
sensitive moments and I'm not thinking about my daughters, you
know what I mean? Oh yeah, it's ah we're sensitive, man.

(40:15):
Oh yeah. I just can't.

Speaker 2 (40:17):
I literally cannot wait for the day because Robbie looks
like he'd be a little mic linebacker, just ready to
get in the egg gap. Oh dude, and his halftime
speech when they're down three tuddies.

Speaker 1 (40:27):
I didn't the egg gap, but life, they gave me
less than one percent.

Speaker 2 (40:32):
One percent, dude, that room's gonna be silent. They're gonna
talk about the day Robbie dropped that halftime speech, and
they came back out and beat that ass, came back
down three touchdowns.

Speaker 1 (40:45):
It's just electric. Dude, who sent that again? That was
Dean Nielsen shut out, Dean man. That's uh. I'm fired
up that you celebrated the first birthday. And I can't
imagine the fear that you and your wife had, yeah,
a year ago. Truly could not imagine. It's crazy. There

(41:06):
was even something like rue was in the nicke you
for seven days. I think, Oh, I didn't know that. Yeah,
when she when she got delivered, she had uh it
was essentially she had swallowed like I forget what the
word the term that they used, but like her own shit.
Essentially it's like melconium or oh yeah, and that's like
kind of that's common, right, yeah, yeah, yeah, it's not.

(41:28):
It's not like an uncommon thing. But you sit there
and like you you cut the cord and everything else,
and you wouldn't hold her. But they got to take
her back pretty quickly, pretty swiftly to like, you know,
get her going to help her lungs and everything else.
But just in the spot to where you were at
the hospital for a week and it's only like visiting time.
This was like during COVID too, so you can only
like it can only be you and one other person

(41:49):
just going back and visiting her and spending time with
her to like breastfeed and try to hold her and
do skin on skin and then like going going home
and basically just sleeping her knowing that your baby's not
home yet. Like that was. That was tough at times
for myself in CHARROI, but I could not imagine and
being in that situation right there. I know there's just
so many that you hear about that. Just give your

(42:11):
self perspective on shit can just be. Stuff can be
way worse. Situations can be way worse. Circumstances could be
way worse.

Speaker 2 (42:18):
Yeah, dude, counting your blessings in general. And as you
were talking, I was like, since we're throwing out merch
like popsicles, Dean needs some merch. I'll get his address.

Speaker 1 (42:30):
We gotta we gotta keep it rolling because we gotta
keep this under an hour. What are we at Chef two?
We're moving and grooving.

Speaker 2 (42:41):
We are kind of moving and grooving. We're gonna lose
subscribers though, if we go under an hour, they said
the unsubscribed.

Speaker 1 (42:49):
They might, but I feel like the Hey the Fatherhood
or pop A Team six being a part of that crew,
I think that's kind of hard to unsubscribe from. That's true.
They're just trying to scare that we do one thing,
that one thing that we do need because you know,
boys will be boys with their phones and not spreading

(43:10):
the good word. But we need you guys to hit
your dad group chats, help get this brand, Help get
these episodes out to your friends, anybody that you think
would enjoy this, because that's kind of how you help.
That's how we all help grow a brand organically. So
that's a big call to action that we need from
the boys from the from the Boys in the Fatherhood
or from the Papa Seles and Papa Team six. Again,

(43:32):
we'll leave that name up, that name up for debate
with our audience, see how they feel. But help spread
the word. Let's spread the good word about the this
new show. Survival kit. You may rip this one off, Yeah,
my survival kit again. Theming around yourself and that if
you're a new dad first week, maybe something your wife
might not be privy to. Maybe you're in trimester one,

(43:54):
try mester two and you're just starting to kind of
dive into the tricks of the trade. But if you
bring this to your wife, she'll be thinking, Oh, he's
on his toes, he's diving in he's thinking about stuff
like this. So my survival kid is apps to track feedings.
I know my wife and I we use the OVA
parenting app. There's also pump Blog, there's also milk Maid.

(44:16):
And again that might be like a small simple thing
like yeah, of course you need to like track your feedings.
But I'm telling you, it's such a world that you
don't know what's what what to think about. Oh, we're
putting this in the backpack, Oh we need this for
going to the hospital. She's putting stuff in the backpack
or by so hey can you go grab that? And
you're just thinking, how did we get to this point

(44:36):
to where it looks like we're traveling for a vaca,
a three day vacation going into the hospital. But the
smallest things matter. The smallest things matter. And gentlemen, if
you're thinking on your toes, and it hasn't been brought
to light yet, but just something like of a you
bringing something to the table that's like, hey, if we
thought about an app, she might look at you a
little crazy, but it's a thought that counts, Like she'll
probably think, of course, I've I have an app on

(44:59):
my phone that's been trying X, Y and Z the
whole time, just telling you, but doing a little research
on my own. But mine's gonna be apps to track
your feedings, because that was big time at first I
was doing it. I had a whole structure on whiteboard.
You know I'm a big whiteboard Yeah, yeah, yeah. And
I spent an hour trying to put this whiteboard together

(45:21):
and I went to show Chorro and she came out
to the garage to see it, and I was like,
you know, the ounces, the what else is it? The
ounces if you're still breastfeeding left boob, right boob, the
minutes in each one to where if you're breastfeeding, it's
kind of hard to track how much that they're actually getting.

(45:41):
And I put this whole thing together on a whiteboard
and she was just like, yeah, I mean, they give
us we have an app that we can do this on.
I just took the air right out of my balloon.
Gonna give me a little pat like I love that
you're thinking about this stuff.

Speaker 2 (45:55):
She definitely appreciated it though, and that you have the
physical manifest state of the white board. Yeah, she saw
the work that you put into and you might think
it's dumb and not needed. Maybe your wife is just
doing it and you're not necessarily thinking about her. She
might ask you what times you feed her, how long
was it or how much.

Speaker 1 (46:12):
Did she have And you might be coming off a
long nap and forgetting, forgetting some of that because there's
so much information that goes. I mean, you're this this
thing's eating now several times throughout the day and you
might not remember. But just plugging it in on the app,
I'm telling you it helps you. It helps you track everything,
remember everything, because you'll be surprised how easily that you

(46:34):
can forget. And after a long night and she's like, hey,
you know, how much did you feed her? How much
was this? And you're kind of like, I think it
was between two and three? What was it? Two? Was
it three? I don't know. I thought she did this
it was around this time. I can't remember which time.
I'm telling you. The apps, the apps that can definitely help.

Speaker 2 (46:49):
I have I have a question because we're going to
try and breastfeed if like, do you have to wake up.

Speaker 1 (46:55):
Jill as you can't breastfeed? Sure? Well, but like could
she stay asleep? We're gonna try to breastfeed. Can she
stay asleep? I know that's some weird Yeah. I think
they call it like dream feeding, so you can't do that. Yeah.
So Charle was big on not wanting the baby in

(47:15):
the room. So I want to say, what's the little
thing of basting that Yeah, yeah, bascinet that would sit
by the bed. I want to say Rue was in
the room for maybe two nights tops. But Charle was
really big on separating the our room being our room,
and then Rue just getting her as acclimated, doesn't matter
how early it is, like to her room and knowing
that these are her surroundings when she goes to bed

(47:36):
every night. Yeah, so Charle was big on not having
the baby in the room. I know a lot of
people will sleep they'll sleep with the baby so that
way they can just roll over, slip the nip in.
They'll be in the baths and that next right next
to the bed, so they can get out feed them.
Maybe they leave the room, maybe not. Maybe they have
a little chair or a little room set up for feedings,
like in a baby's room. So everybody's different. There's no

(47:57):
right or wrong way. But the way we did it
is Charlie would just we would be on this schedule
because I want to say, they you know, they feed
and they sleep for you're hoping that stretches for three
hours at a time before they wake up and want
to feed again. And she would just go upstairs. She
would just go upstairs the Rue's room and feed because
we had the little monitor. You know, you swallow their

(48:18):
little ass up, tuck them in tight so their arms
can't get out, but you can't get on the swaddle game.
Watch some videos. Yeah, they'll teach you the hospital, but
watch videos because again you'll forget. And we just watch
them monitors. So whenever we hear, charl would go up
to feeder and Charlie would also pump, so we also
had bottles. I forget how early we started doing the
the pumping. Maybe early, I don't know, I can't remember.

(48:41):
So that way, if I was on watch, if I
was on the night's watch then and these were my hours,
say eleven pm, two am, is what I'm trying to
hit with Rue. Yeah, I would just out here, wake up,
I'd go get the I'd go warm up some milk,
and then I would go up there and feeder. But
we would do all the feedings like in her room. Okay,
that's answer your question. Yes, say she was in a

(49:02):
basinet next to you. Yeah, she's breastfeeding and it's all
her doing it. There's no pumping or anything involved. Yes,
she'd be able to take the baby baby feeds. I'm
sure they both fall asleep their dream feeding is what
they call it. And I just sit there.

Speaker 2 (49:14):
I make sure you know she's not rolling over blah
blah blah like okay, I and.

Speaker 1 (49:21):
Oh buddy, I'm you're sitting there. I gotta stay up
right now. I'm just gonna be like I'm gonna be
so nervous. See, I asked to go to sleep, Like, hey, sooner,
can I just fall back to sleep? What do you
need from me right now? It seems like it seems
like there's a one man job.

Speaker 2 (49:35):
Yeah, because you're the one feeding her, I'm not really
feeding I. That's interesting with the bassinet too, because she
was talking about we're gonna have it in the room,
but I don't know for how long.

Speaker 1 (49:47):
Dude, it's it's it's your own parade. I'll ask her
that I feel like an asshole given like unsolicited advice
because it's not like my unsolicited anything, because all we've
done is like how how we go about it, and
it's like people do a lot of differferent things. So,
got a buddy of mine is kids still sleep So
I think he's eight years old. I'm just kidding. It's

(50:11):
we're joking here, joking. We can't tell movie quotes on
the show.

Speaker 2 (50:17):
Oh my god, for my he's a grown man.

Speaker 1 (50:22):
He's still sleep with the twenty one years old?

Speaker 2 (50:26):
No, no, you're fine right now. For my survival kid,
I have the douna because it's my first baby. God,
I blank so hard. It's like my first baby equipment
that I've dealt with, and I went into it thinking

(50:46):
this doing the thing is gonna be a whole ordeal
to put it into my car and a.

Speaker 1 (50:51):
You're talking about the little car seat, yes, the little
like the actual the base the base Yeah, yep, so easy.
You have a duna. I know, I think you have.

Speaker 2 (51:04):
A nuna related not related, two separate things. We have
both a duna and a nuna. The Nuna and correct
me if I'm wrong. Dad's at home supports a like
wider range of weight for the carrier. The Duna is

(51:24):
more of like your newborn. It's kind of lighter, it's
kind of smaller. It's it's for a newborn baby. And
so I was putting the Duna base into the car.
It was the easiest thing in the entire world. It
was incredible.

Speaker 1 (51:38):
Base are crazy. You just connect those little metal things. Yes,
in the seat. That makes sense now I know the command.
Then you just put the car seat on top, clicks in. Yes. Fascinating.
Oh dude.

Speaker 2 (51:48):
I looked like an absolute hero when I put that
into my car. Jill was like, oh, do you get
it already? I said, yeah, where's your base. I'll put
it in your car too, just acted like it was
this whole thing. I was putting it in there, came
back in, Hey, yours is yours?

Speaker 1 (52:02):
Ready to get locked and loaded? Yeah, that's a good one.
So that's my that's my survival kid, Duna Nuna whatever,
get on it. Dad hacks my dad hack for you.
Learn a lullaby. Learn a lullaby. I think this is well. Look,
when you're in the trenches, you need to have some

(52:23):
go to tunes that daddy is singing, that mama is singing,
that the baby is going to recognize, because they want
to feel safe. They feel safe they're in your arms.
They're going to know they're in your arms, and they're
gonna hear your voice. They're going to know your voice,
and you're just gonna want to sing some tunes just
to pass some time. My go to lullabies were Sweet
Nothing by Taylor Swift. I spy with my little tired

(52:48):
I know he is. I kind of forgot a little
bit last d Sweet Nothing. I would humme it. I'm
more of a hum I love that one I will
sing is uh this African lullaby? Imbo wimbo. What do

(53:09):
you remember watching the movie Mighty Joe Young?

Speaker 2 (53:13):
Yes, the gorilla that escapes the zoo or they're like
trying to get them to the pertures.

Speaker 1 (53:17):
Are trying to kill these gorillas? Yes, Mighty Joe Young,
King Kong looking motherfuckers. Yeah, dude, there's a salala by
in there that has always stuck with me since watching
that movie. No way, and it's uh inmba.

Speaker 6 (53:30):
Wimbo wa hoopio walk coty No No Tom o imba
wimboo wa hoopioo wakcty.

Speaker 1 (53:45):
No no toim and I'll just run that on repeat,
humming singing it. It's my go to bro. You know it? Yo? Yeah,
I I love it I and I'm so happy about
it because RU will Now I'll sing this to Scotti. No, yes, Bro, Hey, Hey,
do you want to sing inbo winbow to Scotti? Or

(54:06):
when I put Scotty down and she wants dadd had
to come up, say Mama did bedtime? I want Dadda
to come up and give me hug and a kiss
and three squeezes like one two three, I love you.
I want dad to come up, and then she'd negotiate
that I want you to sing inmbo wimbo and I
would like lay down next to her bed like as
they got with it and as they got older, he
be like im and I would I sung that song
to her from from birth, bro, every time I sat

(54:30):
down with her fetter bottles singer to sleep. Yeah, Ever
it is inba Wimbow's to go to What is it about?
I don't know that's the best part. I don't know.
I've just always loved that song. It's like in the
movie Sad. It's sad story, like poachers come they kill
Mighty Joe Young's mom Gorilla like as they're poaching her

(54:51):
and the gal I forget, is it Charlie's Charlie's what
Oh Charlie Star, Yeah, charlist. She's one of her earlier
one of her earlier films, and she's the daughter in
this scene and her mom, like her crew, they helped
protect gorillas against poachers and keep gorilla safe in their
habitat and everything else. And I want to say, her

(55:13):
mom gets shot and they're sitting there. It's Mighty Joe Young, Baby,
Mighty Joe Young, Mighty Joeyen's mom just got just got
killed by the poachers. Yeah, and it's Mighty Joe Young.
Charlie Charlie Surelese. Anyway, her sitting there as a daughter
with Mighty Joe Young and her mom's and they're holding
them both and she's just telling them, hey, hey, you're
gonna be safe, get back to you know, you're gonna

(55:35):
get back to camp, and just keeping them making her
feel safe as possible, knowing that she's probably about to
die because she got shot or something happened, and she's
just singing her this lullaby Imbo Winbow. The character grows
up taking care of mighty Joe Young sings this song
to Mighty Joe Young like trying to make sure to
keep him safe, calm him down anytime he's acting up
because they try to put him a zoo, put him

(55:55):
in containment. She knows no, he needs to be running
out in Africa. Yeah, bro, And I've just I love
that movie, had the little VHS cassette tape everything. I
love that movie. I've always loved that song and that
was like one of my initial thoughts when singing real lullaby,
So get to noa lullaby. There's a lot of a
lot of good stuff out there.

Speaker 2 (56:14):
I just love that in general because I've always said that,
like those African choirs or like even the child choirs
and stuff, there's nothing happier than some of those African languages,
like when they're just singing in Unison. Dude, when the
World Cup was in South Africa and all those South
African World Cup songs were bangers.

Speaker 1 (56:35):
Yeah, a wuka, Hey, it's time for Twinkle Twinkle, little Star.
You'll sing all the classics that you know you remember
Hollelujah from Shrek. Oh yeah, I would do stuff like
that and I would try and uh and dad's mom's dads.

(56:55):
They might they might be on this wave too, but
you sing them so much that you start trying to
figure out your own lyrics for the song that's tailored
towards them. It was like once there was this little
girl and her little name was Serulian, and she was
so good. She always smiled. We all try to sing

(57:16):
her this like when she was like acting out. Yeah yeah,
she was just like stare at me. Her eyes were
like the ocean blue, her dad's her wait her name
was after the ocean blue. Her eyes the same, her
daddy's too. And she was so good, she always smiled.

(57:37):
Then I would like make something up until I got
it into hallelujah. You all have fun, dudes. Bro, he's
rocking it. He's rocking. Don't let me get hot right now.
He's rocking it with the lullaball because the blue oceans,
the color blue. Yes, get me start acting up. Her
eyes are blue, her daddy's too. O My eyes are blue.
That's why I wrote it like that. That's why I

(57:57):
wrote it like I don't know if you felt that
bar for it, I put it in there. It's deeper.
It's deeper than you, your server. You look at me
like you don't get it. Like, dude, I love that.
I love that.

Speaker 2 (58:13):
My dad hack is it's so dumb because I was
just trying to think of something funny, but it it
does work. And this is for the cats out there
that aren't fully dead's. This is just for if you're
living with your significant other. Okay, you time out that
yard work to where you still have the grass a
little bit on you. It's on your shoes, it's on

(58:35):
your socks, it's on your shirt. You're sweaty, dude, and
you time out that you're finishing the yard work right when.

Speaker 1 (58:41):
She's pulling up. There's just I'm just telling you. It
works with my girl.

Speaker 2 (58:46):
I don't know if it works for every girl, but
there's something about them coming home seeing you covered in
sweat and you got the grass all over you. They
see how beautiful the yard work or yardwork looks.

Speaker 1 (58:57):
Take off the shades, put them on your head.

Speaker 2 (58:58):
Oh yeah, dude, and just give just give him a
little show, just a little taste, and Venmo, here's another
dad hack. Venmo for some uh what was it? The
manny petty shoot her a venmo and just say Manny
petty unsolicited while you're doing the yard. That's some game, churm.

(59:20):
You hit her some game. You hit her with the
Manni petty venmo. She comes back from the many petty
because she was already out shopping. You're covered in sweat
and grass it and you don't think you're not taking
a shower with it.

Speaker 1 (59:35):
Just put you on game.

Speaker 2 (59:36):
I know that that's that's so shallow compared to afterr lallaby.
But I don't have a kid yet. Yeah, so that's
just like that's some game. Name spots here for.

Speaker 1 (59:44):
Yeah, come on, so with the spots here for I'm
gonna take a quick leak do it, drain the main vein,
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Speaker 2 (01:00:52):
As we get back into it, Chef pulled up that
wallaby and we were I googled that uh lallaby for
a mighty Joe Young. It's called the wind song. Do
you want to hear the translation to that song?

Speaker 1 (01:01:10):
Yeah?

Speaker 2 (01:01:11):
Sing a song and for a moment you will be
visited by the wind. Sing a song and for a moment,
dreams sweetly of the Wind sleep now until the night
is dawn, the wind and the night song they are there. However,
the song My Child Will go On Forever, that is
the wind song, and Chef played it for me.

Speaker 1 (01:01:34):
It's it hits. Yeah, yeah, there's more lyrics. I just
don't like. I can't. I couldn't remember. In Mighty Joe Young,
it mainly hit those first couple of lines and then
I would just repeat it.

Speaker 2 (01:01:46):
Oh yeah, oh yeah. He played it and also shout
out no free shout out Bill Paxson. Dude, what yeah
the actor, Yes, yeah, what a legend. Ri Ip is
in the chap for Bill Paxson.

Speaker 1 (01:01:57):
He is awesome. Yeah, yeah, if we want to be,
if we want to be, yeah, or do we want
to get to some call ins? Yes? We got to
keep this one under an hour. We got to keep
it under an How where we at chef? Yea, where
are we at chef hour and one minute? Okay, we
gotta figure out a way to get this under an hour. Yeah,

(01:02:20):
we'll get there.

Speaker 2 (01:02:20):
I'll just be what we do every week that we
just get under an hour. To keep this one under
an hour, and we're actually doing really well. We're at
hour forty five. I know we said we're going to
try and get under an hour guys, but now we're
just we're under two hours, so we're actually doing well.
First caller, Uh, this is a do we want to

(01:02:40):
do the P word?

Speaker 1 (01:02:42):
One? First? Uh? This comes from Caleb. Caleb, this is
a dad win, all right, Caleb excited to hear about
this dad win.

Speaker 3 (01:02:55):
This is Caleb, the biggest fan from from Busing. This
is a message coming from the trenches. Doctor. Our baby's
about to be two. She's a girl. Doctor says, we've
got to get rid of the P word. That's the
pacifier we know in our house, can't say it right now.

(01:03:16):
We're on day seven and no pacifier, and for seven
days bedtime has been hearts black, Hearts of stone. Got
a fight to get her down today. Just got back
from a road trip. It's currently seven pm, right at
her normal bedtime. We do bedtime routine, set the expectations

(01:03:40):
like laid out on the show. Put her in the cribs,
no P word, she's out. No fussing, no holding, no negotiating.
Thank you for your advice, Just letting you know that
right now, the battle of the past car has been

(01:04:02):
one by the Dad, Let's go for the Dad. Love
you boys.

Speaker 1 (01:04:08):
Let's go Caleb. Hey, that's big time. That's big time.
Bus from the show worked. He say things had turned
black and turned to study turned black, laid the expectations
like you heard on the show. No p words dropped,
she slept. The passive fire is hard. Bro Rue was

(01:04:33):
massive in the Passivefire game. Yeah, dude, and we essentially
like there's a few ways to go about it. You
go cold turkey, you can go clean. It sounds like
our boy Caleb did had to fight that battle for
seven days. They'll be like, you know, you can get
some advice on the internet that might give you like
different time frames, whether it's like say six months, a year,
a year and a half or whatever. Yeah, you can

(01:04:55):
pull holes to where the air kind of you know,
it's out. They don't enjoy it as much. Roue didn't
give a ship. We have the whole poke stuff. We
try the whole poke stuff. It's always passing. And Tiger
we have this little uh webbing ub which, by the way,
webb and we got some webbing webbing ubs are we
got that's game right there? Is that what Tiger is.
Tiger was a webbing nub lost his passy off the end,

(01:05:17):
got fought through, you know, fought through some battles of
his own. But Tiger's been like her, you know her
like pacifier as like a stuff. Yes, she's Tiger. Yeah,
Tiger's like her. Her. Tiger's are main ud. Yeah, Tiger's
here main a little bit. I was like slow to
say that because kids showing, the parents showed. Yeah.

Speaker 2 (01:05:40):
I asked her if Tiger had a voice, and she
was talking for Tiger.

Speaker 1 (01:05:45):
Oh, yeah, she's got a whold Tiger loves to play
hide and seek. I gotta find Yes, that's right, Tiger
loves to play hide and seek. Oh my god. But
getting rid of the pass he was a tough hurdle
for us. We essentially we positioned it as when she
turned three, we're gonna go take her passes to the

(01:06:06):
passy ferry. So we take her somewhere. You take them
to a store, Yeah, and you exchange passes and then
you'll get a you'll get a little like a toy
or a game in return. But you donate them and
give them to the passy ferry. Passive ferry takes him.
This is like the circle of life. This is the natural.
This is what we do with passes. I love this. Yeah,
so we took her to the passy Ferry, like a

(01:06:26):
took her to a store that does this, and we
got a little we got a little board game, little
board game in return, and the board game is sick.

Speaker 3 (01:06:35):
What is it?

Speaker 1 (01:06:36):
I got to look at it. Wait, was this? This
is a physical store that you broughsical store? Yeah, where
they do passy ferry or they you donate them, you
donate the passes, they do whatever with them. Oh that's sick.
And yeah, you you hype it up like this moment,
she's gotta let go of pass now. Bedtime was tough
at first. I will say I got lucky personally. My

(01:07:00):
wife was battling this or my wife this is the
superhero of the story. I was we were traveling somewhere
for busting, so we got timed up to watch. Charo
had to do the bad time. I want to say.
Bedtimes were hard the first couple of days. And she's like,
real convenient that you wanted to I think I remember this.

(01:07:20):
This was since I've been here at the office. Yeah. Yeah,
So Charo had to kind of handle the first couple
of bed times but when I got back and I
was doing bedtime, like she would still just a weird moment,
so where she kind of starts having a tantrument. She
wants passy, sweetheart, we took pass you to the passy ferry. Yeah, yeah, yeah,
I want Scotty's passing. Those passes are for Scotti. Uh huh.
And you got to kind of keep her away, kind

(01:07:41):
of shift her brain, say, oh, look at that truck,
or hey, look at your stuff animal. He needs some help,
just fell over. Yeah, look at Tigy. Oh what's that Tigy.
I know she gave her passes the passy ferry, but
she probably doesn't want to hear that right now. Oh
you want to give her a hug? I don't know.
I'll ask her if you let me. Hey, Ty, he
would like to give you out because he sees that

(01:08:02):
you're having a hard time right now. It seems like
he really wants to give you a hug. Would you
want to give him hug? Yeah? And she like hugged
Tigy And then you'll create a conversation with her and
Tigy to kind of get their brain shifted somewhere else.
Let me look up this board game, kids, board game,
troll and Unicorns.

Speaker 2 (01:08:25):
I just love the thought of Chara like fighting the
pacifier thing. And if I think it was the A
and M trip, uh was when you're doing the pacifier, Well, we.

Speaker 1 (01:08:37):
Were trying to. You were trying, you were trying to
do the cold Turkey, and we just we couldn't. I
don't know, we weren't badass enough to just do it
because you just you feel for him. You're so emotionally
wrapped up in their in their story too. You feel
for him, and when they're just losing your mind, you're
just like, all right, take the bass. Jesus Christ, it's
not gone. I had in my back pocket, take the bat.

(01:08:58):
I don't want any problems. You can put the gun down,
give mein. Yeah, Terr's the win. So then we had
to we had to reorganize because I think we're gonna
do it like around two and a half years, which
would have made sense for the Texas A and M game.
So then we shifted. We're like, all right, three, when
she has her third birthday party, we're gonna talk to

(01:09:20):
her about it for like a month at a time. Hey,
whenever you turn three, you get to go take your
passes to the PASSI faerure like that's what you do
at three years old, and had to get her like
get her on board. That is right. So that's how
we kind of shifted it because she was again she
still had her pass. He found the game. Oh here
we go this. I would save this for another Crack
of Cold one or dad Hack Survival Kit, because this

(01:09:43):
is a good one. Share and Sparkle Unicorns. It's a
peaceable it's a peaceable Kingdom cooperative board game, and it
is a fun game. Bro, it's a fun game. I'll
have I'll have crack a cold one for this game
because I have a I have a couple of fun
stories that pertain to this. But Share and Sparkle Unicorns.

(01:10:03):
This is again a cooperative multiplayer game to where if
we all played US three me Sherman Chef, we would
be battling the troll. We can't let troll get all
the stones and you roll dice. You you draw these
stones out of a bag, out of a little baggy
and if you know you get you start filling up
your colors. If you have say, say you have two

(01:10:26):
green slots and you draw green, you put the green
on your green slot. If you already have two green
and you draw a third green one, you have to
give that one to the troll, and if the troll
fills up his back first, troll wins. You're trying to
get all of you and your teammates to fill up
your your own little board. If I if my board
is filled up anytime I draw, I'm not trying to

(01:10:49):
give them to my teammates. But there are some red
there are some red stones. If you get a red stone,
that means that's a troll card. You gotta flip over
the troll card and you probably have to give one
back to the bag, which kind of hurts. It's the
whole chemistry, got to take the year out of you.
But it's a fun game. Sure looks fun. Share and
sparkle unicorns. I might bringing in. We could just do
it as a for a team builder with Bustle with

(01:11:09):
the boys. It's a great game, all right, Next call in,
I gotta keep this one under an hour. Yeah, let's
stick to under an hour.

Speaker 2 (01:11:18):
This one comes from Oh, I'm excited for this one.
This one comes from matt Uh his daughter face a
little bit of trash.

Speaker 1 (01:11:27):
Talk at school. Fa trash talk, A little bit of
trash talk towards his daughter. Again, this is not a
show about giving expert advice. I'll handle this as the
call comes in, but who knows if I'll handle it
the right way. I think you'll like this one, Hey Will.

(01:11:50):
My name is Matt.

Speaker 5 (01:11:51):
I'm actually from Lincoln, Nebraska, CoA skirts also a girl dad.
How do something maybe you can bring up in a conversation.

Speaker 1 (01:12:00):
On the show. I have a daughter.

Speaker 5 (01:12:04):
Who's just going into first grade, and she came home
today and was very upset because some boys at her
school had told her that because she's a girl, she
can't wear football jerseys and soccer jerseys because those are.

Speaker 1 (01:12:24):
Only for boys.

Speaker 5 (01:12:26):
And she put them all on a pile and wanted
to get rid of them. And so maybe that's something
that the boys could talk about. And being a dad
who's into sports and coaches and kind of how our
daughters have to deal with that uphill battle, move and
throw forward.

Speaker 1 (01:12:42):
So love the show, Keep up the great work.

Speaker 5 (01:12:46):
Hope to hear from me soon.

Speaker 1 (01:12:49):
Oh, Matt, thank you for calling in. Bro shout out
the skurts. I'm pissed off that one gets me. Heated
that one gets me heated buddy out of one and
a hey, who are these little boys? Point them out
to me? Probably it's Billy and Ryan. Hey, Billy, Ryan,

(01:13:11):
one of your folks show up. When did they get here?
Point them out if they're in the crowd right now.
But that's my dad right there. I know that wouldn't
be the way to go about it, but I would
be internally fuming about that because that would piss me off.
I'm just trying to imagine if rue Love's wearing jerseys.
She knows dad watches ball on the weekend. She's into
cheering for the Huskers. She's in the cheering for whichever

(01:13:32):
team mom and dad are cheering for, and she wants
to get jerseys, and she thinks they're cool. And she
goes to school and she gets told like, oh, only
boys wear jerseys. I'm thinking, fuck that, dude, Fuck that.
I how old? How old is she going into first grade?
Going into first grade? So this wouldn't be one where
she probably has a young where she could just play
a clip for these boys. You know what we should do?

Speaker 2 (01:13:53):
I have an idea, but you go ahead. I hope
it's the same idea we should get since.

Speaker 1 (01:13:58):
They're Husker fans. Yes, get a will Compton jersey made Yes,
and I go and give her this jersey at the school,
one hundred percent.

Speaker 2 (01:14:08):
And I didn't want to put any pressure on him,
but Dylan Raila as well. That would be yes, insane
if you and Dylan rolled into her school and said.

Speaker 1 (01:14:18):
Coach rule, coach rule, would do it?

Speaker 2 (01:14:21):
Dude, he's got girls, Yeah, he got girl Yes, rules
there tomorrow?

Speaker 1 (01:14:27):
Should I get you? Want me to get this guy's
information over to you, because if he's in Lincoln, then
next time we go to Lincoln. I was trying to
get out to a couple of training camp days in August.
They're probably not in school right now. We'll have to
figure that out. Those kids just made the biggest mistake,
the biggest mistake of their lives. I'm gonna take those

(01:14:48):
kids on a walk. I'm gonna take those first graders
on a walk, just selfie video. Hey, come and step
into the pantry, boys, Billy and Ryan, I'll just fucking
around that way.

Speaker 2 (01:14:58):
Jerseys are different only for girls, yeah, or they're only
for boys only for boys?

Speaker 1 (01:15:04):
That yeah, that that that gets the piss hot. But
get that piss hot.

Speaker 2 (01:15:08):
That would be the most incredible moment for that girl.

Speaker 1 (01:15:11):
That would be so sick. Yeah, Matt, you just tell
your daughter that show her just this video. I wish
we knew her name. I know, I wish we knew
her name so we could talk to her.

Speaker 6 (01:15:24):
I know.

Speaker 1 (01:15:25):
Matter of fact, I want to send him, Matt, let's
get his information so that way I can send him.
I'll send him a video. Yeah, I'll send him a
video that he can show his daughter because that sucks, dude.

Speaker 2 (01:15:36):
Oh yeah, the fact that she had it all laid
out all of her jerseys and said I don't want
to wear these anymore.

Speaker 1 (01:15:41):
And for any first grade boys out there watching this
podcast right now, like they're just telling YouTube, make sure
you're subscribed first. But we need to encourage and embrace
and support anytime somebody's trying to uplift the sport of football,
any sport. You need to make all the girls, all
the women, think it's the coolest thing on earth, because

(01:16:02):
that's what we have to do. Bro. I hate that
a little girls getting told, hey, only boys were jerseys,
Like that's bullshit. I would love to meet these boys
in the a gup, but they're boys, so I can't
say that these are first graders in eighteen years, I'd
love to be but my first grade self. Them kids
will be eating through it too. Hey, hey, just kids,

(01:16:22):
just joshing, just josh. Maybe the parents are friends of
the show. This is only the beginning of this story.
That's what gets me stepped. Yeah, bros, gonna cut up
Jay Terry right now. Our the equipment guy at Nebraska,
I say, ours the equipment guy at Nebraska, and be like, hey,
we need to get a jersey made for this first grader,
and we gotta figure something out because that would be
sick electric. Yeah, that would be really cool. Rules all right.

Speaker 2 (01:16:45):
He doesn't even know what's going on, he's already on it.

Speaker 1 (01:16:47):
And just to know, if I did come across these boys,
I would handle it. I wouldn't be fucking around like
I am on this show right now, Like it would
be a you just want to talk to him about it.
I encourage him, talk about how you know they should
go about it. A Husker is a Husker last time
I checked. And it's just a football fans a football fan, man.
Come on. Yeah. A lot of thoughts run through my head. Yeah, yeah,

(01:17:12):
a lot of thoughts. But I think that would be sick.
That would be cool. Thank you, Matt. Shout out madh Skers,
go big red.

Speaker 2 (01:17:19):
Shout out mad Ghostkers. Check your phone because we've probably
already texted you by this time. Yeah, all right, last
call is from j D.

Speaker 1 (01:17:33):
German, will Buddies.

Speaker 7 (01:17:35):
I don't know if you can hear this in the background.
That's my seven day old.

Speaker 1 (01:17:43):
Boy, seventh day Old Boys fan of the show, Willie.

Speaker 7 (01:17:49):
I got a question for you, man, how do you
get through these first couple of weeks? Been home for
about a week now, well, have been home for a
week with the nights are absolutely brutal, Sleep is nonexistent.
Any advice would be appreciated for doing the shifts. My

(01:18:11):
wife and I were doing everything, man, but I can't
even think right now. I'm half asleep, Sherman. You'll get
to this soon, combats to you and Jilly Bean. But yeah, man,
frustration sets in in the middle of the night, knowing
you're doing everything you can for the little one and
he still isn't sleeping. Love your thoughts, How you get

(01:18:33):
through these restless nights? How you continue to convince yourself
that the end is near and anything in between? Again? JD.
Out of Chicago.

Speaker 1 (01:18:43):
Thanks boys, JD, thanks for calling in brother. He's essentially
he's asking how you deal with these early weeks not
getting any sleep. You can tell my man's he's on
his last limp. He's battling, he's burning thin right now.
He is in the foxhole in the trenches. You know.
When he got off the pontel, he's like pleasus, he goes,

(01:19:06):
I don't know if you can hear this right now,
and I guarantee you is just look we were talking
about it earlier in the episode. Yeah, with just embracing
the suck. Losers react to, Winners anticipate. If you fail
to prepare, you prepare to fail. The whole layout that

(01:19:28):
Charro and I would have because we both have our
off days right where we're operating on e somebody's you know,
usually her, she's operating in a way less capacity because postpartum,
that stuff is real. They're going through a lot of shit,
So it's hard to it's hard to bitch about your
own stuff because there's really no there's no place for it.
And I would have everything just planned out. So for example,

(01:19:52):
the baby's going stretching every three hours is around the
goal of what you're trying to accomplish. When you get
to nighttime, it's all right, who's on the eight pm shift,
who's on eleven pm, who's on two am, who's on
five am, who's on eight am? Right, that's kind of
how we would cycle everything through. Usually we're both up

(01:20:12):
on the eight pm mark. But let's just say, for example,
Charle's running on e and she needs to get some
much needed rest and she's somebody who would pump, so
I would have the bottles ready to go. Yeah, I
would handle the first half, so I would handle eight pm,
I would handle eleven PM, and I would handle two am.
Once I go down for two am, Charo knows Charle

(01:20:33):
now would know that she is active, whether whether or
not she wants to be active. That is how we
structured our nights. Or Charo would do the first the
first part, and I would do the back half. And
that's two to what sorry, every three hours, so two
am five am, oh okay, So if you're on the
morning shift, it would be five am and eight am.
Charl would more often than not take on the five

(01:20:56):
am and the eight am because that's when I would
get going to whether it's gonna work out in the morn,
get going with the day, for busting with the boys. Yeah,
but that's how we structured everything else. So and you
just gotta know that some nights are just not going
to go your way, and you just gotta fucking accept it.
Because my whole goal, my priorities in my head is
parents that would always say like, oh wait, till you

(01:21:16):
have a kid, your whole life's gonna change. You're not
gonna get any sleep. You're not gonna get this, You're
not gonna get that, You're gonna be a whole different
human being. Oh watch y'at, watch out. It's gonna suck
to be around Will because he's gonna be tired. And
this boulder would build on my shoulder that I just
wanted to prove that kind of shit wrong. So it'd
almost be the intention would be in my mind that
all right, there's gonna be nights you are not gonna
operate off a lot of sleep. And then whenever you

(01:21:36):
go into the building, you wanna kind of have high
spirits for the boy's enthusiasm. But everybody was great around me.
They would know that, you know, Will just had a kid.
If Will needs to go he's gotta go, like guys
would try to make me do you know, as less
as possible, and just you guys are supportive as hell
during all that. But I just those voices would be
in my head to where I knew like I wanted
to be on when I'm just anticipating being on and

(01:21:56):
not be somebody who would be reactive have the loser mentality.
So I would just I would structure it. My advice
would be to plan, uh, plan out what your nights
look like. If you're gonna be on the night shift
all night long, then just know that you're going to
battle that pissed off mood and you're not gonna let that.

(01:22:18):
You're not gonna let that shit happen. Two things you
can always control, always, no matter what, no matter how
tired you are, no matter how beat down you are,
no matter what it is, you can always control your
attitude and effort. And if you're having a bad fucking
night again, it's like having quotes, having things to lean
on that's kind of helping you get through it. Because
there's gonna be nights where you fall short and you
feel like less of a dad or you feel like, man,
I didn't really handle that the right way, and that's

(01:22:40):
just gonna fucking happen, and you gotta have grace with yourself.
You gotta know that it's gonna be okay. But I'm
telling you, anticipate the struggle, anticipate the bullshit, anticipate the suck,
all of it, and just figure out a way to
embrace it. That's really the only way. It's all. It's
all mentality, it's all knowing that, okay, it's not gonna
be perfectly eight eleven to two, all of that stuff.

(01:23:01):
And as you get into it, they're gonna need a
little bit less. Like you start winning off the night feedings.
They're gonna be sleeping and stretching that three hours to
four hours and you're gonna catch a little bit of
a winn and you're gonna feel good about it. That
would be That would be my advice. It's not going anywhere.
It's gonna it's gonna keep fucking happening, and it's all

(01:23:21):
about embracing the suck and just know that you're gonna
be in it. You know your boys are in it
with you, not physically but emotionally. This podcast The Fatherhood, Yeah,
Pop a team six who owes his name j D.
J D from Shytown. J D from Shytown. We're with you,
j D. Drop comments in the comment check section. We're

(01:23:41):
with you, JD. You just gotta keep battling, dude, keep
showing up, laugh at yourself. No, it's gonna be fucking hard. Yeah,
you're gonna think about leaving your kids and your family,
but you won't. But you won't. And just know that
you are gonna wish that you had those moments back.
As hard as it feels like they are right now,
as long as those nights seem right now, just know

(01:24:02):
that you are gonna want those back because they're gonna
start moving, They're gonna start crawling, they're gonna start hitting milestones.
You're gonna, man, remember when they just had the smallest fingers,
the smallest little hands. They're just staring at you while
they're feeding. They're not feeding, but they're still just kind
of looking at you. They're throwing their head around. They
don't want the bottle. It's gonna piss you off, but
do your best to cherish every fucking moment. Dude.

Speaker 2 (01:24:23):
Yeah, I love that answer, But by the time he
hears this answer, I'll probably be in the trenches as well.

Speaker 1 (01:24:30):
Yeah, and look I was in the trenches too, and
there'd be a lot of times where I'm like, you know,
bitching about it mentally. If it's just me maybe talking
to the kid, I'll just start, you know, you just
start riffing and improving with the kid about just how
hard it is, how hard their life is making, how
hard they're making my life. The next day if they
don't go down to sleep. You know, if I get
too mad, I can start making a lot of noise

(01:24:51):
to where Mom feels like she has to come up
and intervene. You understand that, right, that's gonna piss everybody off. Hey,
when are you getting go? I was doing the math.

Speaker 2 (01:24:59):
I was like in his will sleeping with that schedule.
If you have the eight eleven and two.

Speaker 1 (01:25:05):
Shift, I'll fall asleep. So I would let's say all
was watching Tulsa King. I remember Tulsa King being a show.
I was kind of watching knowing that I'm bunkering up
for the night on the couch because I would just
tell sar, Hey, I want you to get some sleep.
Troub back. You can sleep in the bed and just
get up whenever she goes. I'm like, yeah, I know,
but if you hear the monitor and you wake up
at all, Like, guys, just don't want to interrupt your sleep.
You sleep in the bed, I'll sleep on the couch

(01:25:27):
out in the living room, and then I'll just go
up and handle it whenever I need to handle it. Yeah,
so I would like binge a show, and then if
say I wanted to fall asleep or sleep until at
eleven PM, I would just have an alarm on my
phone and it would just go off at eleven unless
the monitor woke me up beforehand. Then I would go
up and feed or go down and sleep from let's
just say eleven thirty eleven forty five until the next round. God,

(01:25:51):
so I'll sleep, you know, get an hour and a half,
two hours in sleeping until two am. Get up, go
feed or know that. Okay, now after this one, say
it's two thirty and I'm crawling in bed, I now
get to sleep until six thirty.

Speaker 2 (01:26:03):
I very obviously have not read the twelve by twelve
book yet, because I was in that I was like, Oh,
you're up for that three hour window, but really.

Speaker 1 (01:26:12):
Don't have to. You're only up if you're into the
show and you're just kind of staying up and you
just know it's gonna be a fucking tough night. You're
doing it to yourself. Yeah, Yeah, that's why. I You know,
if we were on Goon and I would goon, the
monitor would be sitting there, the monitor would be sitting
there while I'm playing the video game, and then you're
just going through the night. That makes all the sense
in the world. Now, get two am feeding. You not

(01:26:33):
got that two am feeding. You crawl in the bed
and get whatever sleep you can until the next till
the next whatever we had, or say we had a
meeting at like a thirty in the morning, I would
sleep until like seven thirty, wake up at seven seven thirty.

Speaker 2 (01:26:46):
I think, I'm I'm probably gonna do the eight pm
eleven to two shift.

Speaker 1 (01:26:52):
I would like to do that.

Speaker 2 (01:26:54):
And then I feel like it makes it easier for
her in the morning Slash. I live so close to
the office that I really can kind of yeah, sleep
until that. Yeah, and if you hit a one in
the daytime, it's on me. Like they're gonna just be
combined to those walls of the house.

Speaker 1 (01:27:10):
Yeah, and you're gonna be out at work, right you're
gonna be out tasting the fresh air everything else. Obviously
she can get her in the stroller, walk with her,
get out and about. I would definitely recommend that. But
those moments where it's like if you when you do
get to the bottle, they take a few hours and
go do whatever they want. You handle the bottle, you
handle the stuff at home, because more of a like

(01:27:31):
when I would get home around you know, three thirty
or four. Every day you just be on. So you
got eight pm, five pm, two pm, and again, all
they do is like eat shit and sleep, feed them,
burp them. They might shit themselves. They sleep a lot hopefully, yeah, hopefully,

(01:27:52):
but you know, there's not a whole lot that they
do for the first few months other than other than
that Jill had and we were religious with twelve hours
in twelve weeks. That method, Yeah, we need to get that.
It's a good method. Man. It's not too aggressive, like
there's some it's like, let's say, it's like taking care
of babies or the ones where you like let them
cry or you're you're you're doing all those things. I

(01:28:14):
like this one because it's a it's an entire philosophy
on on the kid, the child entering your guys' lives
versus you adapting everything in your life around the child.
Obviously you're doing that like when you become a parent.
But charl would be big on going out and still
doing farmers' markets on Saturdays, or still taking them around friends,

(01:28:35):
and if they kind of miss a little bit of
their nap window or they're up a little bit longer,
it's like the baby is in is in our world.
They're acclimating. They're acclimating to us, versus us sacrificing everything
to kind of be on a very strict structure with them.

Speaker 2 (01:28:48):
That makes all the sense in the world. I know
Jill has some sort of sleep plan, whether it's from
a book or like some kind of something that she
looked into, but I need to have that conversation with
her obviously, I mean we're like two days out, but yeah,
figure out what that plan is. And then the other
thing that I was going to bring up.

Speaker 1 (01:29:09):
You could simply chat GPT the twelve hours and twelve
weeks and kind of see the methods and then as
they put it, log it all out for you just
ask why in certain areas, so then you can figure
out a little bit about the why behind it.

Speaker 2 (01:29:22):
One quick question, because I could probably hate you with
like a million of these. If you smell that they've
like shit themselves while they're asleep, do you just let
that pony ride until they wake up or like what?

Speaker 1 (01:29:36):
It's a great question. Depends depends depends how long they've
been sleeping, if you hear them kind of if you
if you hear them kind of shit like and it's
say they might have thirty or forty five minutes left, Yeah,
let them sleep until you wake them up. If they're

(01:29:56):
still sleeping, if it's early, I probably I usually we
would change them or I would change them, Yeah, because
sometimes I'm like, I just got her down, she just shit, Like,
let me let this ride for a minute. Those she
would happen. Let me see if they wake up, because
they'll get uncomfortable.

Speaker 2 (01:30:13):
Yeah, I'm sure that they would probably inevitably wake them
up with you know, having a shit in their diaper.
But the way, like how fast you change diapers, I'm
sure that I'll probably get to that speed as well.
And then at that point I can see why you're like,
just change it, yeah, just because.

Speaker 1 (01:30:30):
You'll have to take them out of the swaddle. You
gotta like unbutton their onesie or whatever with their onesie,
get to the diaper, like you're gonna wake them up. Yeah,
there's not really a method where they're kind of stay asleep.
Maybe you're lucky, maybe your kids just just knocked out
while you're changing them. But it all depends and all
know what to do in the moment.

Speaker 2 (01:30:50):
Absolutely, And also a huge shout out to everybody that
was like Sherman, anything with buttons on it is a
no go. Yeah, we have been purchasing a lot. There's
like these new ones where it's all magnets.

Speaker 1 (01:31:02):
N Yeah, dude, magnets are good. It's just like it.

Speaker 2 (01:31:08):
Literally just comes off with like a good tug on it,
but they can't get it off.

Speaker 1 (01:31:12):
Yeah, dude, I don't even use like we have pajamas
where it's like all the buttons go like underneath like
the end seam of their of their leg up under
their crotch all the way to the other end seam. Yeah,
I don't even use those anymore. For me, it's just
all the zipper from the toe up to the up
to the up to the neck.

Speaker 2 (01:31:28):
That's what everybody's been saying, Like zippers snaps and Max.

Speaker 1 (01:31:32):
They'll be wiggling, they'll be moving. He just fly. Then
you be holding them on there something, just letting them
know that, like, yeah, I can hold you down. If
I want to hold you down, you're probably Scotty's moving now.
She's trying to crawl and army crawl and stuff. Yeah,
so she'll like get that strong that strong bridge in
her back and just like you know, trying to wiggle

(01:31:54):
and hold her little less down. No, yeah, that's daddy,
that's daddy right there. You're about to get so many
texts for gooning. Yeah, for playing video games. I'm gonna
starty hitting you up so much. But it's like, you know,
you got your little methods that you'll go by. At nighttime,
maybe you feel awake. You feel like, even though you
might have low energy, you have just some jolt at

(01:32:14):
nighttime where it's like, all right, I don't want to
go to sleep, like I wanna, I'm wanna watch this show.
I would recommend you sleeping you know where you can.

Speaker 2 (01:32:20):
But yeah, i'd And that's to bring in full circle,
that's one of the reasons why I am worried about
the lack of sleep is because.

Speaker 1 (01:32:28):
I know I am good at I can stay up.

Speaker 2 (01:32:33):
Yeah once I get once my brain turns to that mindset,
and then it's like, well, when am I gonna go
to sleep?

Speaker 1 (01:32:39):
Yeah? Because then you get that.

Speaker 2 (01:32:40):
Kind of like you're tired, but your heart's racing, your
head's racing.

Speaker 1 (01:32:44):
But and what happens is you'll have this snowball effect
of when you're not getting the sleep when you know
you should be like the one where the quote the
journal entry last week from Daily Dad, just go to bed,
oh yeah, yeah yeah. And when you don't do that,
the first thing you'll start sacrificing is your own like
your own health. Like you'll stop doing the exercises that
you have long like that you wanted to do for yourself.

(01:33:05):
You'll stop. You'll eat whatever because you're just on the
go and you've just chalked it up as like I'm
a beating down man. If anything's gonna make me feel good,
I want it to be this food. So you start
letting yourself go health wise, which in the long run,
it just starts. You'll start getting upset with yourself. You
don't know where it's coming from. You start projecting. So
it's important to get to sleep when you can, so

(01:33:27):
you can keep yourself true to whatever your principles want
to be with health and exercise and everything, because that'll
be like the first thing to go. You'll start you'll
start feeling so sorry for yourself and you'll just eat whatever.
I'm bad at that. Dude, stress See the boys and
Dad's out there put on way to their own. Yeah,
I stress eat one. Yeah I feel Yeah, I feel
like it's just stress eating. You just start stressing yourself out,

(01:33:49):
and that'll be the first thing that goes, and you
don't want that because there'll be some long term it'll
just snowball.

Speaker 2 (01:33:54):
Yeah, dude, And I'm already I'm I'm on. We talked
a little bit about this with Jill's just station Will Diabete. Yeah,
that it got me on a healthier train. So like
I'm going in a good trajectory with like a lot
of proteins, a lot of veggies. Yeah, I don't want
to get off that because I'm moving, I'm feeling better.

Speaker 1 (01:34:14):
Yeah. Well I'll try and stick to a buddy. Yeah,
your accountabil buddy. Please. All right, we got to keep
this under an hour.

Speaker 2 (01:34:20):
We do add quick reminder eight five five four two
seven two seven three six. That's a national parent and
youth hotline. If you have a major issue that you
need to call in, get off your chest, make sure
you call those guys.

Speaker 1 (01:34:34):
And if you're wanting to leave a voicemail for the
dads for this show six to oh one, The Dad's
six oh one the Dads six o one the Dads.
Give us the topic that you're covering or the segment
that you're covering, and share your story. But shout out
you guys, Yeah, shout out. And before we get onto
the lesson, I do want to say we were we're

(01:34:55):
going to try and ramp up the sharing of stories
on Instagram, engaging more on social media, whether it be
on X, whether it be on TikTok or Instagram. We've
been seeing a lot of dads, you know, sticking to
the weekly traditions of whether it be Pizza Friday. We
didn't have mine on Friday, and I put out a
little tweet like I want to live through the other
dads out there that are celebrating Pizza Friday getting a

(01:35:17):
lot of photos. But we need to start doing that
through or for the Dad's brand for sure. For sure,
I mean pizza Friday's Pizza Friday. Like, if you celebrate,
you celebrate Pizza Friday. But for the dads and the
families out there that are doing their weekly traditions, whether
you're teaching your son or daughter to take out the
trash to the curb. I know, Rufe. She actually asked

(01:35:39):
me the other day like that, I want to take
the trash out with you. I was like, sweetheart, Wednesday,
Big Day. Wednesday, Big Day will get you up, We'll
get you dressed ready to go, and you can take
the trash out to the curb with dad. Dad, I'll
do a little selfie video. So that way, we just
get people on board with sending in videos that we
can share on our stories, that we can share on
our platforms. And then again, if you're celebrating Pizza Friday,
we will be sharing that stuff as well. So just

(01:36:01):
make sure to tag at for the dad's Yes. Can
I give a good example of that really quick?

Speaker 2 (01:36:07):
Colton on Twitter uh tagged for the dads and then
he tacked a little video of him negotiat this is
his words, negotiating with the terrorists. He gave his daughter
she looks like tewish a little cheese wheel and said,
you can have the cheese wheel if you have two
more bites of chicken. You can see it in this
girl's face as soon as he hands that cheese wheel.

(01:36:29):
There is no more chicken going down. You are so
dumb that you just gave me this, I replied back.
I said, hey, you know, even if it didn't, no
more chicken was consumed, I still feel like everyone won
in this situation. He said, Not only was there no
more chicken consumed, she somehow swindled M and M and
the process.

Speaker 1 (01:36:47):
So shout out.

Speaker 2 (01:36:51):
Colden for trying. Yeah, and shout out for sending that
to the boys.

Speaker 1 (01:36:56):
Yeah to see it. Should we get into the lesson? Yeah,
the lesson theme? This week I wrote a little something
for you. Sure, okay? You being a dad this week? Yes?
So this is around, you know, I guess a letter
to dads and potential dads that are having their first kid.

(01:37:22):
Are you ready to go? I'm ready to go. You're
about to be drafted into the toughest league there is fatherhood.
Are you No bye weeks, no offseason, just back to
back blowouts mentally, emotionally and literally. You're gonna get pissed on,
spit up on and hit with the tantrum combo that
tells you you are not built for the a gap.

(01:37:45):
Don't overthink it, love hard, and remember the goal is
in perfection its presence. Be the dad who gives a shit,
be the dad who takes the l and keeps showing up.
They're not looking for a superhero. They just want dad
in the flesh, in the moment, loving them even when
you think they hate you. The days will feel long,

(01:38:05):
but they're fleeting. And I was saying it a couple
weeks ago that kids don't really remember much from their
first four years of life, no vivid memories, no long
term recall. And at first that can sound sad. Maybe
you'll think, oh, I can miss this or that because
they won't remember. And when you, when you sit with
it and think about it, it almost feels like those

(01:38:27):
years are for us, the parents, to soak it in,
to be needed in the most raw, primal way a
human can be needed. So don't get caught up trying
to be the perfect dad, because there's no game plan,
no film study, no depth chart to compare yourself. To
just be in it. Fully, put the phone down, rock
them a little longer, let them fall asleep on your chest,

(01:38:49):
Stare at their little hands and feet, Cherish the little
noises they make when sleeping or looking around at the world,
laugh when it's chaos, and love the hell out of
every minute you get. You won't remember everything, they won't
remember everything, but you'll feel it, and they'll feel it
even if they can't recall it. Welcome to the fatherhood,
brother Like that I did almost I almost started to

(01:39:15):
fall off the tracks there for a second.

Speaker 2 (01:39:17):
I'm glad that I cried earlier. Yeah, I got it out. Yeah,
I'm I'm really really excited. I feel like this entire
opportunity of just this show like is incredible, but like
what comes along with it is also like the such
a high calling as well. I'm like very overwhelmed in

(01:39:39):
this part of life. And I'm like so thankful to
everybody here at Bustin', including you and Taylor. I'm thankful
for everybody in my life that has like come around
me and supported me. Rather that's even people in the
DMS or like friends that have called me.

Speaker 7 (01:40:01):
It.

Speaker 1 (01:40:02):
It's like very like undeserved.

Speaker 2 (01:40:09):
Feeling of like there's so many dads out there, and
like there's just a lot of dads. But like I
get I'm getting to do this show that's a ton
of fun, and now I'm getting the opportunity to be
a dad. And I don't know what I'm trying to
say other than like I'm just incredibly thankful.

Speaker 1 (01:40:31):
And I cannot wait.

Speaker 2 (01:40:32):
I'm like terribly excited. And like I said, my krack
of cole One is just that I want to I
want to hold Scarlet and I want her to look
just like her mom, and I want to like teach
her all these fun things.

Speaker 1 (01:40:46):
Like I just can't wait. Dude, buddy, It's gonna be awesome.
And all the dads, the support, they everybody puts their
arms around you because it is the best thing in
the world. It is the best thing in the world.
It's fucking hard, yeah, dude, but it is the best

(01:41:07):
thing in the world.

Speaker 2 (01:41:08):
Dude, And just shout out you of not like this
is so sick, Like this show is so sick. It's
so much fun and the reaction to everybody, but like,
just shout out you for like being a really good dad.

(01:41:29):
It's not common. You know, there's a lot of dads
out there, like I said, but there might not be
like a whole lot of great ones. They're like really
elite ones, and you kind of having this like not
a higher calling to everybody.

Speaker 1 (01:41:46):
But just like an expectation for yourself. It's just really
cool that like.

Speaker 2 (01:41:52):
You're like making being a dad like cool and like
being able to talk about the hard stef cool and
giving this safe space. Like just a lot of the
conversations that we've had has made me so confident that
I'll be able to be a good father.

Speaker 1 (01:42:14):
And I thank you for that. I'm done, but thank you.
We gotta we gotta stop crying on every episode. I'm sorry,
but you're the man. I love you, brother, You're a
rush man. We gotta got to stand her an hour.
We gotta stand her out. Hey, thank you guys for

(01:42:37):
tuning in. Please make sure to subscribe to our new channel.
Share this episode, Share our channel with everybody, share the
brand with everybody. We look forward to hearing that if
we should go with the Fatherhood or Papa Team six,
shout out to you, bro, You're gonna be a new dad.
You're gonna be welcomed into the Fatherhood or Papa Team
six and take out your trash new YouTube channel on

(01:43:00):
what did I did I say? Something wrong. Yeah. For
the dad spot Yeah yeah, make sure you subscribe. New
YouTube channel. We are on a new YouTube channel. We're
on all different channels for the dads on Spotify, Apple,
new YouTube channel. Again, spread the good word all the
dad groups and even moms wives. You guys out there
listening or watching right now or soon to be dads,

(01:43:22):
or maybe you're not even a dad yet and you're
into this stuff and you feel like a buddy of
yours or your husband or your spouse, whoever would be
into it, please share. Encourage you to share, just as
you can tell. We loved it. We love this shit, dude.

Speaker 2 (01:43:34):
Yeah, it's sick. Yeah, and we need to start that
Facebook group. I've been getting a couple d I got
two dm have a Facebook of a Facebook group. I
was like, we actually been talking about that. Chef was
bringing up and Will was bringing it up.

Speaker 1 (01:43:46):
Yeah. Yeah, love you guys,

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