Will Compton Recaps Eventful Halloween Weekend & The Importance of Family Core Values | For The Dads - Bussin' With The Boys

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I'm rocking with my co host Fat.

Speaker 1 (00:36):
Stafford Sherman Young, who is a father of hol.

Speaker 2 (00:40):
Month old four month old as of yesterday, four.

Speaker 1 (00:43):
Month old as of yesterday, Scar Scars, Scarlett Scar. I'm
a father of two, a three year old Rue and
an eleven month old whose birthdays in a few days.
One year old Scottie, scott Zilla, Joe Lee. Happy early birthday,
Early birthday, Scotty. So we have a lot on the
show to cover. We just got done with Halloween, Shure
them had a solo had a solo trip on Saturday,

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solo mission on Saturday.

Speaker 2 (01:10):
Jill ended up coming. I'll give the details. You'll give
the details.

Speaker 1 (01:13):
You also took Scarlett to daycare for the very first time,
so first time daycare stories coming on.

Speaker 2 (01:17):
Jill came to that I did have a solo mission
on Saturday.

Speaker 1 (01:20):
Okay, we'll get all those details right. Charlo and Rue
had a trip to London. I might jump into a
little bit. We had our boo at the zoo, which
we cannot wait to talk about how awesome that was
for all the PT sixers showing up. What else do
we have? We have values homework at the end of
the episode for our quote topic lesson a couple of
weeks ago, we challenged the PT sixers are throwing some comments.

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know throughout life. Yes, some of their favorite values that
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be big, really big, all right, especially if it has
any If there's any correlation to the PT sixers that
showed up to Boo with the Zoo.

Speaker 2 (03:15):
Dude, the Boo at the Zoo could not have gone
any better, any better. And I'm driving over and I
just a little bit of anxiety. Yeah, like anxiety. I'm like,
you know, Will, what are your expectations here? You're doing
a meetup. You're not doing like a meet and greet.
It's not like a.

Speaker 1 (03:33):
Signing photographs something that was very pre planned and and
advertised all over the place. What are you expecting coming
to this Boo with the Zoo while you get the families?
I'm driving over it. I my expectations that I put
in my head is we might have two families that
show up. I know, and I know one of them
and it was Alan the barber. Yeah, it was my

(03:53):
guy Allan over at Culture Cuts. He already texted, Hey,
we're coming. I'm like, hell you, I'm fired up. And
that kind of gave me. It's like, no, no matter what,
we'll have one. The boys at the shop are going, yep,
we'll just have a good time if nobody shows up.
But then show up, and there were quite a those
are quite quite a bit.

Speaker 2 (04:11):
Of people quite a bit of people. Derek, thank you
so much. Yeah, I was really really pleasantly surprised. I
told myself that, like the number, and I'm talking in
total busting with the boys, everybody, if we need everybody.
If we had fifty people there there, I was going
to be blown away.

Speaker 1 (04:31):
How many fifty?

Speaker 3 (04:33):
Yeah?

Speaker 2 (04:33):
Yeah, And I count the group picture, which was like
minus the lul Wan family, there were.

Speaker 1 (04:39):
A few there like I saw, I saw, I think
I saw comments or two of like we just missed
it because we were there early.

Speaker 2 (04:45):
There were two different couples that got there just a
little too early or not too early, but they got
there a little early the group photos. So those two couples,
the Luwan family, and then there were like four or
five busting with the boys guys that were in the
group photo either. If you count the group photo, it
was like forty six forty seven, so we went above

(05:07):
fifty blown away. I was blown away.

Speaker 1 (05:10):
I don't anytime we kind of talked about it or
spoke about it, I just I was always like expectations
low low boys, ain't nobody show and it's kind of
raining outside, it's cloud, it's a little kit it was.

Speaker 2 (05:20):
It was an ugly night, ugly night that turned into
a beautiful night.

Speaker 1 (05:24):
PT sixers showed up, Bro.

Speaker 2 (05:27):
Huge special shout out to And I can't remember everyone's names.
I wish i'd have my notesap out and just had
typed in names of families. But met Steve and his wife,
met Alec and his wife. And what I was blown
away in that conversation were the MT sixers. Yeah, that

(05:49):
were sick of where's Jilly Bean? Yeah, we're starting.

Speaker 1 (05:52):
We loved Jill.

Speaker 2 (05:54):
We loved Jill. We want to meet Jill. Where's Jill?

Speaker 1 (05:57):
Jill and I are just alike?

Speaker 2 (06:01):
Yeah, dude, I love that. And they were sickos for
the show. Yeah, thank you so much for what you
are doing. Buddy came about I forget his name, but.

Speaker 1 (06:13):
Dressed as Willie one shelf Joe Siah, Joe Siah.

Speaker 2 (06:18):
Get themedia.

Speaker 3 (06:20):
It's comedian Discovery on social media.

Speaker 1 (06:23):
Yes, go follow comedian Discovery on social media.

Speaker 2 (06:26):
Yes, we need to pull up his official tag because
it's like Nashville Comedian Discovery. He's in our comments all
the time.

Speaker 1 (06:35):
Oh, he's a pos, He's a Tier one. He had
the four the deads At, he had a Papa Team
six shared on he had a shelf around his waist
with a form energy on it, a liquid IV packet.

Speaker 2 (06:45):
Like, and as I'm walking up to the zoo, he's
already in the will called I thought it was you.
He has Comedian Discovery and then Comedian Discovery Live.

Speaker 1 (06:55):
That seemed both to be We got a photo too, chefs.
I'll send that to you so that way you can
put it up on the episode.

Speaker 2 (07:01):
Yeah, they do have a good pick together, but it
just blown away. Dude, and the little ones. There were
two little ones that were born on July fourth, the
day after Scarlet. I got to talk to those dats.
That was incredible of like, bro, we're every step of
the way together, Like every single thing that you're talking
about each week is exactly what I'm going through. And

(07:23):
it makes the show so much fun because it's like,
oh my gosh, yes, yeah, Sherman, tell them what you're
going through, because that's me trying to tell people what
I'm going Yeah.

Speaker 1 (07:33):
It was it was all time and kind of a
balance too, because I could feel the like Rue wanting
to go into the zoo. Yeah, I feel the family
dynamic of like are we gonna get going into the
zoo because I'm talking to everybody. Part of me is
wanting to bring everybody in and give like a thank
you speech, and then I'm nervous because it's like the

(07:54):
whole public speaking thing. Yeah, so I'm all right, let
me just try to talk to as many people as
I can. Maybe that'll be good enough. Then as I'm
talking to as many people as I can, my wife like, Hey,
are we gonna go? Rus really wanting to go into.

Speaker 2 (08:05):
The zoo and their kids like dad did, come on,
we gotta go in y o our et siko friends
like I see their kids are pulling their hands like
YO were going or what? Yeah, Like if we're gonna shoot,
we gotta shake them. Essentially, yes, and so it was
all time.

Speaker 1 (08:21):
Thank you guys so much who ever showed up, everybody
who showed up to Boot the Zoo. We will do
more meetups in the future. That was our very first
one trying to embrace Pootober. The turnout was incredible and
exceeded expectations and all the support from the boys uh
here at the shop go was was awesome. But great
time Boo with the Zoo, Great time booth the zoo.
We had to we almost made it to the trigger

(08:43):
treating part, and but that was one where I saw
the trigger treating and I was like, if we enter
into this, it's gonna it's gonna get bad very quickly,
because you're starting to push around bedtime, dinner time. Kids
hadn't really eaten Papa bet sixer right here, didn't pack
a bob, So.

Speaker 2 (09:01):
I wasn't like, been there, yeah, been there, yeah.

Speaker 1 (09:05):
So you know, I didn't know, like because it's like,
all right, we were gonna start five fifteen, five thirty
five to forty five, so I will probably go around
an hour and then we'll be on our way home.
We'll get home by seven. Not realizing that booth the
Zoo was like thirty five minutes away from my house.
So getting over there, I'm like, sweetheart, we have to leave,
like we're supposed to be taking the photo, Like I'm
already behind five thirty, Like this is this is the

(09:27):
event that we put on. We've got to get going.
Ruse pissed off because she wore this fairy costume. This
dress was like massive, and she's got this crown kind
of like not like a heavy crown, but not the
plastic crown. So it was a little bit more dense.
So I'm trying to get her in the car seat.
And as I get around the door to lift her

(09:47):
up put her in. I pick her up, her head
hits the ceiling in the car bro so the crown
just like goes down on her head.

Speaker 2 (09:54):
She's crying and Mom's not out there yet.

Speaker 1 (09:56):
I'm like, sweetheart, we just got to get She's like,
it hurts, it hurts something.

Speaker 2 (10:01):
Do you want to take it off? Do you want
to take off the ground?

Speaker 4 (10:02):
No?

Speaker 1 (10:02):
I want to leave it. Okay, then we gotta figure
out what's what's step two here? We gotta get you
in the car seat. It's too tight, sweetheart. You're wearing
this dress. It's gonna be tight. This is what you
you wanted this dress.

Speaker 2 (10:14):
Charles like, what happened? What happened? I'll be stung her.

Speaker 1 (10:16):
I don't know.

Speaker 2 (10:16):
It's crazy.

Speaker 1 (10:18):
Don't take her danger.

Speaker 2 (10:21):
Hey cause she got the stuff, the fluff coming up
on the shoulders.

Speaker 1 (10:24):
You're trying to strap her in the car seat, the
costumes like my chim, I shouldn't you know how We're
just everything's.

Speaker 2 (10:30):
Got to be off of her face.

Speaker 1 (10:31):
She's like her daddy, Yeah, yeah, yeah, everything's got to
be off of her face, and it's this massive costume.
I'm trying to get the bottom part of the buckle
like I'm like squeezing to get strapped down. I'll loosen
it up here in a second, Just give me a second.
And it was a whole shebang, it Sweeter. We have
to we have to go, We have to leave.

Speaker 2 (10:47):
I wish that we had a camera on that. And
the young household we were in the exact same shambles. Shambles.
Jill gets the Academy Award like Legacy Academy Award for
having the best attitude once we got there, but I
too showed up. Hey are we ready? Well, when when
do we need to get Well, we need to get
there kind of early. Why aren't you texting me and

(11:07):
tell me that we need to get there kind of early?
You're just telling me right now, honey. I understand that
my communication could have been better, But you need to
get in the shower.

Speaker 1 (11:14):
You need to get your She was probably get stuff
to the other shere and probably slowly walks over to her. Hey,
that was on me. She was probably just sitting there
in her mind like I know what it was, Like,
what else do you have to say. He's like, sorry, I'm.

Speaker 2 (11:33):
On all fours. I'm already bowing. I'm already bowing, just
saying we got a hurry and this is my fault
and I'm so sorry and I love you.

Speaker 1 (11:40):
Just wasting more time with your apologies.

Speaker 2 (11:42):
Oh yeah, but we we Hey, we got there, We
got there.

Speaker 1 (11:46):
How how long did you guys make it? Dude?

Speaker 2 (11:49):
We bet we made it quite a long time. Because
we were trying to keep Scarlet on a later sleep
schedule going into daylight savings, so we're part we're moving
her bedtime closer and closer to eight pm Central so
that when the time flip happened, she's back to seven o'clock.

Speaker 1 (12:07):
And heady play all the young dads out there, all
the young dads out there.

Speaker 2 (12:11):
Yeah, that's a dad hack. That's you know, that comes
from Jill. That was her game plan. But I couldn't
give you an exact time. It was definitely past seven o'clock.
You made the greatest play of all time. We saw
the comptons leaving and we got to say bye to them,
and I'm like, hey, should we head out too, because
her you know, bedtime fee time, Scarlet needs to go

(12:34):
down pretty soon, and Jill and I end up going, well,
there's probably an exit through the trigger, treating like there's
probably a faster way to the exit. We'll just go
through there. Biggest mistake because you get it's like you
walk through the zoo.

Speaker 1 (12:46):
There were two crossroads. You go right or left coming
out of the jont Yeah, Rue was dead set on
going right. There's a monster down there. I gotta go
see it. Yeah, sweetheart, the entire group is going left
and we have to go left.

Speaker 4 (12:58):
Can I just tell the myspect of it, because I
think I have a good Yeah.

Speaker 1 (13:03):
Chef was sitting there from afar seeing kind of the
this intense negotiation going down, and it had to be
fast because we're already trying to move. It's like, hey,
we got to get going to the zoo.

Speaker 2 (13:13):
Yeah.

Speaker 4 (13:13):
So the way that the Boon Zoo works, it's a
big loop and you split. You can go left or right.
And I'm talking to Will. I forget what we're talking about.
But we get to this cross and we're kind of
deciding where we're going to go. Everyone in the group's
kind of like consensus is we're going left, and Uh,
all of a sudden, I see I see Rue looking
down the right side, locked, I mean staring, and she's locked.

(13:39):
I want to go, and then she's starting to say
like I want to go that way and I can.
I look up and I see Will going no. No.

Speaker 3 (13:44):
When you go left and she goes. You could see
that instantly.

Speaker 2 (13:48):
That was not It was like Ru's dying on the hill.

Speaker 4 (13:52):
It's like when the world leaders in the sixties were
getting together and talking about nuclear disarmament, but neither one
one to back down.

Speaker 2 (13:59):
You can see them.

Speaker 4 (14:01):
For the first time since working here, I saw panic
on my boss's face.

Speaker 3 (14:05):
Pure panic.

Speaker 2 (14:08):
Was goings Cuba. The missiles are coming to our island.

Speaker 4 (14:13):
You need to take years out of Turkey before we
do anything in Cuba.

Speaker 3 (14:17):
That was what was happening.

Speaker 4 (14:18):
And then so I feel like I made a heavy
play to get I was standing right in front of
all of it, like maybe like three ft. I decided
to walk around kind of do like a little let's
let Will Will and Charo, you know, negotiate further. And
then we ended up going into what's it called with
all the reptiles and stuff.

Speaker 2 (14:38):
Oh, I don't know the name of that exhibit, but
it's one of their newer exhibits.

Speaker 3 (14:42):
Reptile, Yeah, the spiders and the fun stuff.

Speaker 4 (14:45):
I went in there with like Jack, Matt and Ge
and then I come back out and I'm like, we're
you know.

Speaker 3 (14:51):
We meet up with everyone else and they're like, oh,
the contents. They might have gotten out a little.

Speaker 2 (14:55):
Yeah, we should have followed suit.

Speaker 1 (14:59):
Well it's not. There's an entire group. We were obviously
in a pack for a minute. It's like, you know,
how is the whole boot, how's the old zoo experience
gonna work out for everybody? At the same time, you
want everybody to stay in the group, have fun. We're laughing,
we're finding different things. Kiddos are being hilarious. But Ru
was lock step on going right. Finally get her to
go left, eventually telling her, Hey, there's gonna be monsters
around here, and I'm like, we're gonna see everything in

(15:20):
this park. We're gonna see everything. You go left, you
go right, doesn't matter, We're gonna see all of it.
We'll go left and we'll get to see the monsters last.
But there's a bunch of other monsters over here that
we gotta go see.

Speaker 2 (15:30):
Monsters, candy friends. Yeah, I'm team roue. Yeah, I'm here
for you. Yeah.

Speaker 1 (15:36):
And then I was like, we were like, oh, look
at that pumpkin up there, and it was just talking pumpkin.
Some some some workers are just switching throughout the day
and they're just sitting there's this pumpkin voice talking to
kids that come up the entire day.

Speaker 2 (15:47):
Yeah.

Speaker 1 (15:47):
So we finally get going left where we're catching up
to the crew, but then there's this pumpkin that talks,
so ru has to talk to the pumpkin, has to
talk to the pumpkin. And I'm like, oh god, we
gotta keep it moving. Is this on your way out?
We stopped and talked to the pumpkin way out. Even
on the way in, we're trying to catch everybody else.

Speaker 2 (16:07):
Yeah, you know.

Speaker 1 (16:08):
My wife's like, hey, you gotta we got to if
we want to get through. And then you're gonna have
to stop talking to so many people. And I'm like, sweetheart,
I'm with you, But what am I supposed to do?
Like they're pt sixers, Like people are being friendly saying
hello to me. I want to just brush them off,
like I want to engage, I want to talk to them.
I'm trying to keep it together. And then we get
to you know, we finally got to where it was

(16:31):
the trick or Treat and then there was the reptile
exhibit to where there was a bathroom in there. Rooue
had to go potty. She wants Dad added to take
her potty. So I walk her, walk her to this
stall and I'm in this small stall bro with this
massive dress on rue trying to figure it out, trying
to pick her up. I'm my sweetheart, you just have
to stand still for a second so I can get
this entire dress up. I'm like picking it all up.

(16:52):
And I'm picking her up. I'm setting her on the toilet.

Speaker 2 (16:55):
It's like, no, you can't. The dress is gonna get
what the just gonna get wet. I was like, I'm trying.
You just gotta stay, but some guy's pooping in the
next Oh boy, we survived. This survived. Came out of
the stall. I was sweating. I'm washing my hands. She

(17:15):
doesn't do anything. Oh my god.

Speaker 1 (17:18):
She's like, I want to wash my hands too. I'm like,
all right, you can wash your hands. I'm like, reach
up there, she said, I I can't reach it. I'm like,
all right, Dad's gonna have to pick you up. I
don't want you to pick me up. I'm like, I
don't know what. You're gonna have to grow along her arms. Rue,
if you want to get up under the water, I'm
gonna have to pick you up. How are you gonna
get up.

Speaker 3 (17:31):
There to help me?

Speaker 1 (17:34):
Yeah? A fellow dad walks outway, Hey, how you doing?

Speaker 2 (17:40):
Just say it makes you appreciate that beginning part of
the PT six meetup, there was a single baby crying.
There wasn't a single kid freaking out. Everybody's like in
the best, dude, those those times are rare. It was
like time just stood still for a second. We all
got to mingle.

Speaker 1 (17:59):
Yeah, and she had said patience.

Speaker 2 (18:01):
Chaos ensued. Yeah, chaos ensued, But that's that's life, that's parenting. Yeah,
was like, are you sure you.

Speaker 1 (18:06):
Don't want we don't want to go through the trigger
treating thing. I was like, I think we need to
get home because Scotty will go sideways at some point. Yeah,
as long as we can get ahead start And also like,
ru's gonna be trigger treating on Friday. Yeah, she's gonna
get her. She doesn't need all the you know, she's
gonna have enough candy. Dad is gonna have enough candy.
I don't need all this candy. So we ended up believing.
But it was a great time.

Speaker 2 (18:27):
It was great and Scarlet to the same point. It
took us forever to get out. We went through the
trigger treating loop. Huge mistake. Scarlet dide sach a good
job and the part she never cried. As soon as
we got to the car, it was complete mounthdown. Yeah,
whole car right home, just screaming and Jill's just sitting
back there holding her hands on driving. She's going. I

(18:48):
know that was not fair. Mom and Dad made you
stay up too late.

Speaker 1 (18:52):
To talking to your little one, like as you're driving home,
shout out Ruge. She did a great job. As Scotty
was screaming as well. Ru's just kind of sitting in
the pocket.

Speaker 2 (19:00):
She was helping.

Speaker 1 (19:01):
Well, she'll like talk to her sometimes, but as far
as just sitting there patiently, like sometimes like when one's
going the other can start finding their lane to start
losing their mind too. Yeah, and was just doing a
she was doing a good job of just like staying
patient with us. Wanted to talk to MoMA. You know,
we're all talking back and forth we're trying to like
coach threw up, Hey, Scotty wants you to do this,
or Scotty would love if you saying to her, and

(19:22):
she'll like lean over and try to do a couple
of things, like it's not working. It's all right, sweet
we're almost home. Yeah, like fifteen minutes, Like yeah, fifteen
minutes actually on the dot. Oh now it's fourteen that's
a long time. I know, sweetheart, you're doing an incredible
job back there. She'll she'll get to that age.

Speaker 2 (19:39):
I feel like four and five is where she's going
to become like an attachment of you guys all met. Yeah,
I'm seeing JJ really special. Shout out to JJ Klomp.

Speaker 1 (19:50):
He shout out JJ Clump.

Speaker 2 (19:52):
He is a son of one of our employees here,
Jeremy Klomp, and some of the PT six Sicks may
have met him at the meetup. I actually got invited
by the Clumps to go trick or treating with them
on Halloween night. Had to blast, But I think the
main takeaway from that night was JJ Clump just being

(20:15):
the ultimate big brother that I've ever seen truly as
a was he five Yeah, just best attitude ever During
the trick or treating. He's wanting to hold Jill's hand
the whole time, or my hand the way he treats
Jill and holds doors open, for the way he treats Scarlet.

(20:35):
He was asking for extra kid. He didn't know that
Scarlet was too young to have candy, but he was saying,
Scarlet's back in the street while we're t treating. So
these parents have no idea who Scarlet is. And JJKBS
trick or treat for Scarlet too. They're like, oh for Scarlet, Yeah,
I need one more candy for Scarlet. They're like, oh

(20:55):
for Scarlett, just like Jail, I got it. For Scarlet,
I got it. It's just like, dude, Halloween was so
it was so special to get to share that night
with the clumps because Scarlet's too young to trick or tree,
although she came along.

Speaker 1 (21:14):
How fun is it though, just as a parent now
watching the little kid's trick or tree.

Speaker 2 (21:18):
Dude, the magic is in the air. Halloween might be.
It was already at the top of my list. I
love Christmas, I love Fourth of July. But y'all know me,
I'll dress up. Oh sure, we need you to dress
up for this video? Oh, twist my arm. I love dress.
Halloween's your favorite holiday? I think it might be now

(21:39):
just seeing all the magic in the air. And maybe
once I have my first Fourth of July with a
bunch of kids, I'm gonna be like, all right, Fourth
of July is back on top for.

Speaker 1 (21:46):
Those I have my first Fourth of July and I'm
giving a kid beer for the.

Speaker 2 (21:50):
First I'm handing a bottle Rocket.

Speaker 3 (21:54):
Don't tell your father.

Speaker 4 (21:56):
We used to blow up Frau for reference for anyone
that's curious. Sherman on like the third day of October
came in and I guess, like a Yellowstone like Dutton
outfit and brought a twenty two gage with unloaded of
course unloaded unload. Yeah, Sherm's all in. He's bought in.
And if you guys watched yesterday's intro busting with the Boys,

(22:19):
if Taylor, I think if there ever was a guy
to do a spook off to take supreme reign of October,
and I don't think you would do it, but I wouldn't.
Gam would be the guy that would be He's the
He's the which Stark was it the.

Speaker 3 (22:33):
King of the North?

Speaker 4 (22:35):
John snow No Rob Yeah, he's sorry, he's not he
doesn't want the throne, but he.

Speaker 3 (22:40):
Could have it.

Speaker 2 (22:41):
Yeah, yoh, Taylor is the king of Spooktober. I want
to be his prince of darkness, if that makes sense.
Like I I kneel, I kneel to Taylor and I
give him my sword. My sword is his.

Speaker 1 (22:54):
This is a I see it more as a collective.
That's why you could be a prime you could be
a prime cat in spooped Over.

Speaker 2 (23:01):
That's why I'm his prince of dark Like I'm I'm
a lord. Yeah, I'm a lord. Yeah, but I'm a
house young not taking over spoop Chover, not taking home.
I am joining. I'm a bannerman, thank you. I'm a
bannerman of the Luan house Chef.

Speaker 1 (23:19):
I love how you just brought up the example and
immediately he's like, no, no, besinech you.

Speaker 2 (23:31):
I could never but that. That was my Halloween, and
I would love to hear about yours. And I can
go into mind a bit more. But just seeing the
clumps operate, getting to hang out with the family, getting
a trick or treat. There was one trick or treat
station that had fireball shots for the adults. That was
a blast.

Speaker 3 (23:49):
That's that's like a.

Speaker 1 (23:50):
New thing that I've learned over the past couple of years.
As we went out the last two years we went
like the bell Meat area, there is the Bell Meat Lynx.
And then this year we went to Nicol Lane. Nicole
Lane or Nicol Lane where they block off the road
and so you're parking outside the shree. Yeah, you're parking outside.
It's like this is a full on like a like

(24:11):
an OG spot. Apparently in Nashville. There's this instagram that
posted like all these og spots that you can go
to in Nashville. So we chose Nicole Lane or Nicol Lane,
and uh, basically every house, bro every house embraces Halloween.
So to our kids are out there running around, ripping around.
We're in a family costume. We're inside out. I'm fear

(24:33):
Charles bing Bong. You know. Lola is sadness, Opah is anger.
Rue is discussed, and I'm so proud of her for
painting her face. She was all decked out in green,
wore the wig, didn't want to wear it first, ended
up wearing the wig. Talked her into how cool it looked,
and she's like kind of shy looking in the mirror
kind of like what do I think of this? And
we're all like, how cool she looks. She's get the

(24:54):
scott the smile on her face. Scotty was joy. Even
though she wouldn't wear anything on her head, like she
would let us put the little like little baby wig
on her. She's kept tearing it off. We bet all,
let's get this famy photo. I'd be like holding it on.
She'd just be scott Zilla would just be trying to
rip it down. But also along the street too, it's
like parents are outside, they're enjoying beverages that like everybody knows.

(25:16):
It's like a tribal effort. So the kids are ripping
around having fun. The older kids are running around. There's
even a couple of houses to where there's just a
note on the door, candies tipped over, and it's like
we're out trigger treating right now. Please take two, you know,
be kind all this stuff. You know, the the hoodlums
are just out there ripping. They take ten piece of candy, they.

Speaker 3 (25:34):
Taking it all.

Speaker 1 (25:35):
Rue's a lot more shy this year going up to
the doors and saying trick or treat. So it's like
that process of getting her to embrace her like strong
voice and like, hey, here's where you say trick or treat.
You say trick or treat you pick out a piece
of candy the back take two and we'll be standing
there looking down at the looking down at the box
of candy. I'm like, sweetheart, you got to pick a couple.
Like I know, you see those m and ms, Go

(25:56):
pick out some m and ms. She'll pick up the
m and ms and she'll be like, I be like, sweetheart,
you got to pick another one. There's kids behind you.
You got a big one out, Like, why don't you
go ahead and grab that snickers down there for your dad?
She'll grab the snickers, throw it in. But uh yeah, Halloween,
it's like a It is a hot It is a
holiday that climbs the charts fast when you are a parent.

Speaker 2 (26:16):
Fast, dude.

Speaker 1 (26:17):
You'll get it too again when it comes Christmas time,
especially once she gets like she you know, she's a
few months now, but next year when she's like actually
trying to understand the concept of opening up presence and
this is yours and it's a It's magical.

Speaker 2 (26:32):
Bro, It is truly magical. And I already loved the holidays.
But like Scarlett and her little costume, and we did
a DIY cotton candy and she has no idea what's
going on, but she thought it was hilarious that there
was all this fluff around her and it was tickling her.
She was in the best mood. Yeah, and she was
ripping because we just hot glued or Jill hot glued

(26:54):
the cotton on. There. She was ripping her costume apart
the whole night, but like having fun with it. And
she would just get these handfuls of cotton and be
like ad smiling and laughing, and she'd put the cotton
in her mouth and just lose it and just start going.
It was like this mixture of loving her costume hating
her costume, but it was a blast. Dude.

Speaker 1 (27:17):
Yeah, Halloween, Halloween's a great holiday. How was how was
the explain the solo mission? You were on a solo
mission on Saturday. I know you had first day of daycare. Yes,
so we can talk through the anxieties a parent heads
going and taking your kid to daycare for the first time,
the experience of dropping them off at daycare for the
first time.

Speaker 2 (27:35):
Yeah, it was okay, So solo mission Jill is back
at work. She's a nurse. She's a pediatric nurse. She
works on a step down unit, so when the kids
are getting out surgery, they come down to her unit.
She works six to six and so basically from first
feed to like almost tuck in, Like Jill really walked

(27:58):
in the door once I drew the bath, and it
was the first time that I had Scarlet solo that
I truly felt, like, really said like, there was no
notes like last time, There was no somebody in the comments.

Speaker 1 (28:15):
Well remember last time that was more of a general
These are general notes for anybody who walks in the door.

Speaker 2 (28:20):
True, so true, and there were I love that somebody
was like yo, Jillie bean meal prepped outfits for sure,
zip bags and zip block bags. That comment made me
lose it. That was hilarious. But there was none of that.
It was just like, Dad, what do you got? I
have full trust in you And it was such a

(28:42):
great day. Dude. She's starting to get more active. She
needs a lot of playing. She needs to be moving
from room to room. As she stays in one room,
she starts losing it. Waking your kid up, dude, I
think any parent can agree just the smile you get
when you come and get them out of their crib, dude,

(29:02):
and you're doing the good morning voice. Yeah oh hello,
yeah hello.

Speaker 3 (29:08):
She's sweeker.

Speaker 2 (29:11):
Grinning, She's kicking full like both legs are just kicking
in the air, and dude, it was an incredible day.
The absolute money move that I made because I was like,
I gotta support Will with this Nebraska stuff. I gotta
support Jill with her first day at work because she's

(29:32):
gonna want to come home and be with me. I'm
just kind of like, how do I go about like
bouncing these two things. And I was like, I can
easily take Scarlet to the shop like nobody, nobody would
have an issue with that, and she needs to be entertained,
like she needs to have things going on. I feel
like the guys would be cool with it. I bring

(29:53):
Scarlet up for the blaackout Stream blackout Stream. Matt Malone
and chef and Ryan Nolan, who are three employees here
at the shop, are all sitting in there and when
I walk in with Scarlet there elated, they're all talking
to her playing PT. Sixers are in the chat and
Scarlett had a ball, dude and It was the perfect
way to keep Scarlet awake right before that bedtime tucking.

(30:18):
And Jill was honestly kind of proud of me that
I brought her up to the shop and like was
gouda got out of the house, was comfortable to do it.
I was sending her pigs of like uh, and you
can use that one for the episode.

Speaker 4 (30:32):
I have a video too, I took without you were
somewhere else and me pushing her on the shoulder.

Speaker 1 (30:37):
That's hilarious.

Speaker 3 (30:38):
She was so well behaved she is.

Speaker 4 (30:40):
And there was no sleeping in that stream because it
was five guys screaming at the TV. There's two games,
so Will when I went to commercial break and Will
sat down and started tweeting from his phote, make the
fucking fight to them.

Speaker 2 (30:59):
They they kept on looking over at me, and I
was giving y'all like the thumbs up because I'm like,
the dogs go ballistic at our house all the time.

Speaker 1 (31:07):
She she's just snoozing.

Speaker 2 (31:09):
She's still loud, noisy, like y'all, y'all, do you.

Speaker 1 (31:13):
So I sent your wife a text?

Speaker 2 (31:16):
Oh yeah, he sent my wife a text.

Speaker 1 (31:20):
Do you want to sure him? And just by the way,
for everybody, like you know, I'm trying to figure out
how do I balance supporting my friend in the blackout
and supporting my wife for her first day of work.
So Wednesday, last Wednesday happens, and the boys are like,
Chef was there too, So Chef can chime in, like, hey,
are you gonna stream the games? Are you gonna go

(31:41):
to the game? Are you gonna stream the game? We've
been We've had weddings the last two weekends, so we
were gonna stay home, and I'm like, yeah, yeah, let's
stream the game. We can go and stream the game,
Like who's gonna be your Chef's kind of rattling down, Hey,
so Jared's gonna be out, Derek's gonna be out like
people that could be out. He's like, but I can
run the stream. He was gonna go to the game,
the Dark Mode game for Tennessee. He's like, but I will.
We can go black out here at the shop and

(32:03):
I'll get in the fox on we'll watch it. He's like,
it's truly no big deal, a true dog. And I'm
kind of sitting that. I'm like, I mean, if I
was like, I'm down to just me and you watch
the game together. If you really want to go to Tennessee.
Then bro go to Tennessee, Like, I'll figure out. I mean,
I'll be able to watch.

Speaker 2 (32:17):
The Huskers play.

Speaker 1 (32:18):
Yeah, yeah, she s Sherm's standing there too, and he's like, hey,
we need everybody, we need everything. I was like, oh,
were you in town? Would you be? Would you would
you come? And he's like, I'll be there. I was like,
you're gonna come to the stream. I was like, dude,
let's rip it. We'll rip the stream. So Wednesday, the
expectation of SHRM coming to the stream was there, and
then what was it? Friday when we were kind of

(32:40):
having our for the dad's meeting and talking about weekend
plans and everything else I want to say. STRM started
to say he.

Speaker 2 (32:46):
Might was it?

Speaker 1 (32:46):
You might not make the stream. Sherman realized, Oh, you
weren't gonna beat like I might come in the second half.

Speaker 2 (32:52):
Sherman realized that his wife was working that day. The schedule.

Speaker 1 (32:57):
I might come in the second half. What you you
talk about we need everybody and you're gonna be there
on Saturday, and now you're telling me you're not gonna
be there. Maybe you'll show up for the second half.
When Jill gets home, Oh, have you not talked about
this at all with your wife?

Speaker 2 (33:11):
The planning of it all to that at that point zero,
and I'm sitting there knees buckling because I'm like, damn it,
I said I was gonna go to this thing. Yeah,
but also have not consulted with my wife, not realizing
that she was gonna be working. Yeah, I've put myself
in a blender.

Speaker 1 (33:29):
Shirm's greatness and achilles heel is that Sherman's the people pleaser.
And so even when Scarlet's there and I walk in
and I see Sherm, I thought, I saw, like, I
saw your Chevy sitting out there, and I'm like, I
wonder if Shirm's in the shop. Walk in, He's got
Scarlet in the shop. I'm fired up. I'm like, bro,
let's go. And so I'm thinking, all right, he's probably
My thought in my head was he's gonna have Scarlet here.

(33:51):
Jill might come by and pick up Scarlet. He's gonna
take Scarlett home and then come back to the shop.
So we get close to halftime or something, Sherm's talking
about going to pick up food. But I know in
Sherm's mind and you can can correct me if I'm wrong.
But here's what the game I'm playing in my head is.
There hasn't been a conversation of if he's going to
be here for the second half. I am still assuming
he's going to be here for the second half. In

(34:12):
his mind, he might think like Will still might be
assuming that I'm coming back. Sharam says this thing out
loud outside the stream where it's like I'm gonna go
pick up dinner, get Scarlett home, and kind of leaves
it vague. And so before he leaves, and I just
yell out of the stream room, knowing that he's probably
just in a blender, I'm like, surem, you're coming back
for the second half. Yeah, And he's like.

Speaker 2 (34:34):
I said, most likely not. Yeah. It goes and Jill
totally put the ball in my court. Like there was
no part of Jill being like you can't go. She
sends mess.

Speaker 1 (34:48):
Text says something a little different.

Speaker 2 (34:50):
Well, hold on, hold on, hold on, because that text.

Speaker 1 (34:53):
Because they're so you're not coming back.

Speaker 2 (34:55):
I said.

Speaker 1 (34:55):
He's like, Jill's going to be excited to spend time
with me, and so her first day work and again
I'm pressing my man I'm busting his balls. I'm like,
give me Joe's number, I'll shoot her a message.

Speaker 2 (35:05):
Wait wait before, okay, before you read this, because oh
my gosh, my wife had no idea what she did
when she sent that text. Because I read the text later.
Oh really, and I was like, oh no, because of
the result of the game, and she didn't mean anything
by it. It was contemplating if she should follow up

(35:26):
with the follow up text, now go ahead.

Speaker 1 (35:28):
So I text Jill it's about eight thirty and I said, honestly,
it's crazy. You won't let me have one of my
best guys when Nebraska is in an absolute dog fight
all caps. She responded to me about ten minutes later, Haha,
Willie see my most sincere apologies. I'm pulling the wifey card.

(35:50):
Nebraska's in her thoughts and prayers. I mean, how do
you lose a blackout game at home? Don't ask Baylor? Oops,
go big Red.

Speaker 2 (35:59):
So she is taking a shot at Baylor. But in
that text, Nebraska ends up losing, not like oh no,
Red was internally in my eyeballs. But she sent it
before they lost, correct, she said it.

Speaker 1 (36:19):
But maybe I don't know.

Speaker 2 (36:20):
I'm pretty sure she sent it before.

Speaker 1 (36:22):
I remember seeing it, and when I saw I had
to pull the wifey card, I'm like, yeah you did,
because she had to clip my man's balls right here
in front of all them.

Speaker 2 (36:29):
She she took a shot at Baylor, and unbeknownst, took
a shot at Nebraska. She wanted to follow up with
an apology text, she's still she still might because she
knows how much he left.

Speaker 1 (36:41):
I should shoot her a text. Now looking back at
this text, Uh.

Speaker 3 (36:50):
Yeah, FaceTime would work?

Speaker 2 (36:51):
All right?

Speaker 1 (36:55):
Is she work and you think she'll answer?

Speaker 2 (36:57):
Oh, yeah, she'll answer. I hope she answers, and if not,
I can I can face.

Speaker 1 (37:11):
If not, tough look for all of us. She doesn't answer,
I'm just gonna text, all right, bet.

Speaker 2 (37:27):
Oh, Jilly ban please.

Speaker 1 (37:31):
No answer?

Speaker 2 (37:32):
Will?

Speaker 1 (37:32):
Can I all right?

Speaker 3 (37:34):
Bet On?

Speaker 2 (37:37):
Will's playing mind drinks on Jill and me a sorry,
what were you gonna say, chef?

Speaker 4 (37:45):
Yeah, I'll make you quick. Not a football podcast, but
on the stream. I do want to make a confession
because I felt like Matt took a bullet and in
the moment while Tennessee was losing, I was not in
the headspace to go, hey, I probably need to clarify
something you.

Speaker 1 (37:59):
Don't need to say. You don't need to say it.
I already know, but you don't need to say it.

Speaker 3 (38:04):
I pulled the trigger.

Speaker 1 (38:05):
I know he threw under the bus right after.

Speaker 3 (38:07):
The he did.

Speaker 1 (38:08):
Yeah, he said, By the way, I didn't. I wasn't
the one recording. Your chef kind of said, hey, you
should record Will during this fourty one style.

Speaker 4 (38:14):
You're kidding, no, get a very Will. Yeah, He's like, hey,
get your phone on you. I was like, yeah, I
just wanted to.

Speaker 1 (38:22):
Bust his balls like that. Obviously is a moment you
want to go.

Speaker 3 (38:25):
I was feeling bad about it too, motherfucker.

Speaker 1 (38:28):
Yeah no, I yeah, I knew. I knew that part.
But tough loss, tough love. I went home and I
kind of said the whole spiel on bus and like
I stood outside, rain hit my face. I walked inside.
Face was still painted, battered and bruised from that game emotionally,
because I felt like the way we looked in that
first half. I know this is in the football podcast

(38:48):
and I'm not sitting here trying to talk about Nebraska,
but God's kind of calling me to right now. Yeah, yeah,
listen to it. Listen to the that first half. We
looked like a playoff team, y'all. Did I mean the
way we were taking it to USC that offense, I'm thinking,
all right, you got u c l A. We'll whoop
them Penn State, we got them now, and then you

(39:09):
got to finish up with a hard fall game at Iowa.
But at that point we'll be playing to get in
the College for wall playoff because we'll be contending too. Yeah.
But I walk inside after the loss and quietly shut
the door. My wife's laying laying in bed reading the book,
and I quietly shut the door, door locks, and she
looks up at me, and she's like, I'm sorry, baby,

(39:30):
like me too. I go and wash my face off,
go lay down in bed next to her. She's like,
how you feeling? Like, I'm just sad and uh, and
I go, you know, there is one thing that makes
me feel better.

Speaker 2 (39:42):
Though.

Speaker 1 (39:44):
She started giggling. She said, you know it was it
was that time. Yeah, you know, all right, I got you,
I got you. Hey, Maybe in the next couple of days,
for sure, maybe I'll get on that shock wave some
the next couple of days, I will say, six am

(40:04):
this morning.

Speaker 2 (40:09):
Rizzo's listening just gone down and Willie, yeah, probably sitting here.

Speaker 1 (40:13):
Listen, they're in there listening right now, Like, gosh, damn it.
Who knows who listens to this podcast? And you were
talking about the shock wave at six am. Only the
inside pt sikos know what we're talking about, but everybody
kind of knows what we're talking about. Yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah, tough, tough.
You know that was the weekend. Oh we had a
matter of fact, do you have anything else, chef?

Speaker 2 (40:35):
No.

Speaker 4 (40:35):
But by the way, Rizzo commoning was really cool. I've
been trying to play really cool and not talk about
it because it's just at this point it's it's run
its course. But I do feel like that was pretty
cool because he reached out and we talked about it
like this is a niche or podcast, not for long,
but to have someone like that, especially childhood hero of mine,

(40:56):
that was super cool.

Speaker 3 (40:57):
So shout out, riz.

Speaker 1 (40:58):
We'll get him on this show one day.

Speaker 3 (40:59):
Be sick.

Speaker 2 (41:00):
It legitimized what Logan had texted us.

Speaker 1 (41:04):
Yes, thank god, because you kind of don't know.

Speaker 2 (41:06):
There is a part of you that's like, oh, maybe
he just set a one off comment to Logan. Logan
got excited. He texted us, Yeah, maybe fluffed it up
a little bit more. Could still be the case. He
could still be the case. But then you see the comment. Yeah,
and we didn't even tag him in the video.

Speaker 1 (41:23):
Both followed each other.

Speaker 2 (41:25):
That's huge.

Speaker 1 (41:26):
I think we might have tagged him. I posted it
on X.

Speaker 5 (41:29):
We didn't tag him on Instagram, where he commented. We
tagged him on the X of it, but the Instagram
he was untaggable. He just saw it.

Speaker 2 (41:36):
Okay, okay, that is cool. There was one other thing
about Saturday, Black guy. Oh, very fun being with the
boys with the baby, and I want to do more
of that, Like, yeah, just opportunities.

Speaker 1 (41:54):
We just we got to get the crews together, got
get the cruise together. We gotta do it number one.
We also got to do like a game night. Oh
just the parents. We got around here.

Speaker 2 (42:01):
And we got to Jill is working this Saturday and
the Dowas Stars. The Coop and I are big fans
of the dows Stars. They're playing the Preds this Saturday.
Coop invites me to go with him and his girlfriend,
and uh, he's like, you should bring Jill and Scarlet.
Jill can't go because she's working. But since it's a
two thirty tip off. She was like, hey, you should,

(42:25):
uh just take Scarlet. And so I'm taking Scarlet to
that Stars game. It's gonna be fun.

Speaker 1 (42:31):
Yeah, it's gonna be a good time. It'll be a
good time. And all parents out there know, like, if
we're gonna do a game night, we have to intentionally
plan we have because we sound like every friend group
right now that says we gotta get together, we gotta
do something, and it just doesn't happen. You know why,
because life happened. Life happens. Then you're there the next
year or then you're we're sitting here at New Year's

(42:51):
and it's gonna be a New Year's resolution. It's been
one of mine before, like a quarterly game night. But
it has to get like intentionally planned out for and
everybody's got to be just lockstep, arms locked. Hey this childcare,
we're all on deck. Bro.

Speaker 2 (43:09):
Night for the parents, Night for them. Oh we're doing
night for the parents.

Speaker 1 (43:12):
I think so, yes, because your parents need their time,
they need their social time. We need our community outside
of kids. We need to do stuff with kids. Yeah,
like bringing the families together, but also like community for
the parents and socializing, just getting out of the house
feeling young.

Speaker 2 (43:26):
This is a good step forward too with Jill and
I because we've yet to do a babysitter night. We
have not done one. We need to, we need to
make an ash.

Speaker 1 (43:36):
So I was I would say too, like just get
a rep as soon as you can, like start getting
reps before the actual separation anxiety sinks in for the
little one, like when rue forget when it is, but
probably like in the one year old time, or maybe
around two, but the moment they realized you were leaving

(43:56):
and they're very sad, yeah, and like scared or they
don't want to be with the babysitter. You just you
feel so bad as a parent leaving and going to dinner.
And so I would just I would just tell you
or advise or encourage you just to get in some
kind of rhythm or at least have an experience or
two of it before it gets to a point where
separation anxiety kicks in. Yeah, because it's gonna hit you

(44:18):
hard no matter what. But if your first one comes
when they're already very aware and it's a babysitter coming
over for like the first time, or somebody that could
be unfamiliar with or not as familiar with. It just
hits you hard.

Speaker 2 (44:31):
Bro.

Speaker 1 (44:32):
You kind of don't even enjoy the date night because you're,
like you you feel like you got to get home
because your little one feels like they're in prison right now.

Speaker 2 (44:37):
You should have seen me yesterday dropping off Scarlet at
daycare that that separation anxiety hit hard, hard for you.
Oh yeah, it was I fully expect. So Jill ended
up moving a shift around to be able to come

(44:59):
to the very first drop buff as well, which I'm
very thankful for because there were a ton of moving parts.
I'm ready now, like I can do the drop offs
super easy, getting her bottles ready in the morning, having
the bagpack the extra diapers, extra outfits, like you give
it to the daycare so now they have all the

(45:19):
extra stuff. But dude, I was not expecting the emotions
that hit me when I dropped off Scarlet.

Speaker 4 (45:27):
It was like.

Speaker 2 (45:29):
She's never been with without me or Jill before. She's
been with our parents before, which that's a little different.
But I'm just sitting there in that classroom and the
teachers are so sweet, the daycare workers are so sweet.

Speaker 1 (45:45):
There's a completely new environment. Was zero history with anybody
in the building.

Speaker 2 (45:49):
Anyone in the building. And there's these like five little
precious baby girls in this So the class is five
girls and two boys, and all the they have all
the girls like in this little with each other, and
they're all four to like seven months old. And I'm
looking at the little group, I'm like, those are gonna
be her friends. Like look how excited they are sitting

(46:10):
in their little thing, Like that's the rug rats, right,
those are the rug Rats. Like She's gonna be one
of the girls. And then I look up and there's
a little apple with scarlet y and that has like
a little hanger under it, and I'm like, I'm like,
she's going to school. She's going to school.

Speaker 1 (46:25):
Four months old.

Speaker 2 (46:26):
I'm like, she's she's gonna be great, she's gonna do
a good job. And now the teachers holding teachers holding there,
and I'm just I'm restraining so much. I'm over here
because i want to like go up and give her
one more kiss. But then I'm like, I'm gonna kiss
my baby while somebody else is like holding her. Is
that weird? I don't want to, But now I like,

(46:50):
really I won her back, like give her back to
me so I can kiss her. Dude.

Speaker 1 (46:54):
That's so funny, dude, because I'll think about it, even
with her nanny, and still it comes to my mind
when I'm even like hugs and kisses and three squeezes.
She might be holding Scotty and I'm giving her hug
kissing three squeezes, and while Audrey's holding in her give
her a hug, kissing three squeezes. And part of Me's like,
do I tell Audrey I love her.

Speaker 4 (47:12):
Too?

Speaker 2 (47:14):
Hey, do you want to hug too?

Speaker 1 (47:15):
I just.

Speaker 2 (47:18):
I'm like, this lady doesn't know me. She's gonna think
I'm a freak. And then they put scarlet down on
the little pillow, like the little U shaped pillow, and
we're like walking out of the classroom and it's very obvious.
Now it's like, okay, now, y'all go check out because
we got to do some paperwork and get the app downloaded,
get our fingerprints scanned, all that fun stuff. And they

(47:42):
have one of those like real long horizontal windows to
like look into the classroom. And as we're walking out, dude,
I stopped and I stood there for five minutes. While
Jill was talking to the people. I was just watching
there every with scarlet as they're like laying her down
on the pillow. She's smiling, she's loving it. She's like

(48:02):
taking in the new environment and kind of looking around,
has a smile the entire time. Yeah, it starts hitting
the eyes. So I'm like, I gotta go back to
the to the front desk. I got and I'm standing
there at the front desk, and the entire time, I'm like,
I gotta go back. I gotta go back and look
at her in the classroom. I looked at her again,
and then do when I walked out that building, I

(48:23):
lost it. I was not I thought Jill was gonna
be losing it. It was gonna be crying. She didn't cry once.
It was me. The whole time she drove back from
the daycare, I just sat in the passenger seat, not
like sobbing, but just like so quiet. And she was like,
what's hitting you right now? Like why are you? And

(48:44):
I was like, life is just gonna be a bunch
of those It's just gonna be a bunch of moments
of like her getting older and older and older and
doing all these steps, and I'm just gonna be like
imagining her under this little billy lights in the hospital
room and like holding her hand and she's always going
to be that small to me, and it just, dude,

(49:07):
it chattered me. I was like, oh my gosh, I
know she's only four months old, but like it felt
like she was going off to college in a way,
like and I know that's so different those these things.

Speaker 1 (49:19):
I truly, I really enjoy hearing about you embracing the
moment because it's funny to think about knowing she's four
months picking her up and like, hey, did you learn
anything to day and.

Speaker 3 (49:31):
She knows it.

Speaker 2 (49:32):
She knows nothing of her environment other than these people
are nice and give me a baba too. They let
me not to these guys are sick. You know, she
knows dad is struggling right now. Oh struggling. Oh dude.
But I mean, daycare is what it is, and people

(49:53):
you know, aren't like against it or like maybe they
just don't do daycare, maybe they do a different style
of daycare with people coming to their house, but just
like that true daycare of like dropping off your kid.
It is like, I'm excited to see how that helps
develop Scarlet. Because when we were dropping by for the

(50:17):
very first time, for like the pre drop off, This
little one year old. As soon as the classroom door,
the daycare door, you know, opened up, this one year
old just crawls up to us and is just talking
and she's not making any sense, but she's just so
excited to see a new face is and we're like, yeah,

(50:39):
I was like, that's gonna be scarlet, Like she's gonna
be okay with like hanging out with new people and
excited to talk to people, and I don't know, it
just got me excited for her development. It got me
excited for her growing up. But it also made me
really sad. It made me really really sad in a
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back to the episode.

Speaker 1 (53:09):
I ever told you my daycare story.

Speaker 2 (53:12):
I've heard I've heard you. Yeah, I've heard Tail you
sent via text message what had happened, but I've never
heard you verbally tell it.

Speaker 1 (53:23):
We might have to save it for next week because
it's a wild one. Because it's a very wild it's
a very wild story. It's the reason we have you know,
we had to big thing happened. Yeah, we had to
transition very quickly in the middle of like you know,
work schedules and everything else to where we ended up
going the nandy route. But I'll talk to my wife

(53:43):
see if I can tell the story. Yeah, because it
is a crazy story. It is one of those types
of stories. And for listeners at home, I know you've
touched on this, but Charloe like is full time working
as well. You both of you guys are very very busy,
so childcare is a necessity. Absolutely, Yeah, But it is

(54:03):
a We joke around on this pod a lot. We
get serious on this pod, but I do not say
this lightly. This story is insane.

Speaker 2 (54:12):
It's insane, and I think that that's also what was
hitting me in the moment, was like having to release
like the fear that I had of like somebody else
caring for my child. And it really was almost like
I was having to purge myself of worrying fear in
that the.

Speaker 1 (54:31):
Fear is justified. I mean, again, you're giving your entire
world to people that they're not your parents, they're not
your family, you have zero relationship with them. You're just
trusting you know, the building, the reviews, stuff you've heard.

Speaker 2 (54:48):
I'm on a first name basis with this Miss Christie, yeah, yeah,
Miss Angela. Yeah, and they seemed like sweethearts. I trust them,
but I'm also like, oh my god, oh my god.

Speaker 1 (54:59):
Yeah yeah, but I'll see if I can. I can
tell the story next week or something. Ye, yeah, because
it's a wild story and I don't want to say
anything that I'm not supposed to say, or maybe I
don't be some things being shared.

Speaker 2 (55:11):
Yeah.

Speaker 5 (55:11):
Yeah, it's cool to hear you say that, Schrum, because
we had this old coach back in the day that
would talk about the transfer of moments like every day
in high school soccer, like each Friday, you get to
play a game in front of people. And as you
get older, the moments are far and few between and
they're no longer about you and your day, but they
become about your kids and become about that. So for
hearing you say, like, my life is just going to
be a bunch of little scar scar moments of her

(55:33):
growing up and stuff, is the first time I've heard
somebody talk about that transition of moments, like it's no
longer about what sherm gets to do Friday, it's like
the daughter she's at daycare for the first time.

Speaker 2 (55:42):
Like, that's a cool thing to hear you say, dude,
thank you. It was. It was a cool moment. It
needed to happen. It was a good thing. It's also
helping in jill and ize development. It is a great
precursor to the babysitter stuff and the like yeah, you know,
just being able to like let go get trust others.

Speaker 1 (56:03):
Yeah, and also just feeling, like Derek was saying, just
feeling the depth of the moment, Like as funny as
it is, like she's four months all that stuff, but
just being able to truly be where your feet are
is a you know, is like a skill, and you
doing that and feeling the way of the moment and
kind of foreseeing everything else in the future and knowing
that this is, this moment is as special as any

(56:26):
other moment that will come, even when she's talking or
does understand stuff. Yeah, so it is. It's it's It
was cool to see it on your face. Almost came
out of your eyes. I was waiting, I was waiting
for I'm always waiting for some tears going.

Speaker 2 (56:38):
I'm getting a bit better at holding back the tears.

Speaker 1 (56:40):
Are you You just said you were You just said
Jill didn't cry, hold on tear, and you hold holding
back the tears on the show. This is twenty four
hours ago when you just dropped Scarlet off.

Speaker 2 (56:54):
I have no tears to get because guys, I was
parked once once wet to the house. I needed to
get back here because we had interviews and stuff up. Yeah,
I'm about to walk in looking like a psychopath. I
need to get it together. And I'm driving to the
shop and I have a Spotify playlist and the Lahla
by that I seeing the Scarlett is adel VISs. I'm

(57:16):
seeing it to her all the time when I'm putting
her down and Spotify is just going off random songs.
And right before I pull out the shop, adel Vice
starts playing like what are we doing? I walk in
very first seeing Chef says it you good? Yeah, I'm great.

(57:37):
I'm really good. Are you sure?

Speaker 1 (57:40):
Yeah? I'm good?

Speaker 2 (57:42):
And then like ten minutes later, I fessed up and
said that I was crying from daycare and Chef was like, yeah,
I could tell, Like damn it.

Speaker 1 (57:51):
You gotta love chef. Chef is, do we have outside
of the core value stuff that will be going over
that people uh sent to us? Do we have other
comments that we'll be reading? We do?

Speaker 2 (58:03):
What piles?

Speaker 1 (58:03):
Do you do you have any piles?

Speaker 2 (58:05):
I do have a pile. And right before we go
into that, uh, let's hit him with a nice little
crack of cold one from our friends at Liquid IV.

Speaker 1 (58:15):
Let's hit him with a crack of cold one. I
have water, I got some mixing. I got some mixing
right here. Oh yeah, absolutely, buddy, you already got me one.
Thank you.

Speaker 2 (58:23):
That was actually our boy Derek uh dee Deek, who
was absolutely killing it.

Speaker 6 (58:30):
Uh.

Speaker 2 (58:31):
Not to revisit stuff that we've already talked about, but
it's got to be the trigger treating for me. Uh
this past week, my cracker cold one was just getting
to watch the little kids absolutely slay it. It was
just a blast to get to see all the like laughs,
all the magic at Halloween Night, all the costumes. By

(58:52):
the way, dude, a costume that we very much missed
out on was seventh themed costumes. I saw Helena and
Mark costume and was like, oh my god, did I
strike out this year?

Speaker 3 (59:08):
You just gave me the opportunity to say it.

Speaker 4 (59:10):
The costume that I saw online that I thought was
the coolest thing ever was a couple's costume. The guy
was dressed as Randy Johnson in a diamondback uniform and
the girl was dressed as a bird.

Speaker 1 (59:21):
No, that's all.

Speaker 3 (59:22):
Yeah, a little fucked up, but I mean, I mean.

Speaker 1 (59:26):
That moment is one of the craziest moments in sports issues.

Speaker 3 (59:30):
Doesn't make sense.

Speaker 1 (59:31):
Randy Johnson is just throwing a heater and the bird
perfectly flying in at the right moment, just getting disintegrated.
He's and piece of that bird in their family.

Speaker 2 (59:38):
Control deleted the bird.

Speaker 1 (59:40):
Control deleted the bird.

Speaker 2 (59:41):
There was no carcass, there was just feathers.

Speaker 1 (59:43):
Yeah, my crack of cole One's going to go to
And this was honestly a very subtle surprise, and I
think I'll be able to try and use a couple
broken things as we do the core values thing. Because
Charle and I went to this positive discipline kind of
class workshop, seminar or whatever it is for a couple
hours on Saturday morning and it was cool out. Your

(01:00:06):
boy was locked in, engaged the entire two hours and trying.
I went to do at the school that Rugoes Too
offered it, and so there were several parents and you're
kind of sitting in a circle, kind of sitting in
a circle. They have a couple speakers, a couple like
people who are leading the entire thing talking about positive
discipline and going over goals and challenges and what positive

(01:00:28):
discipline looks like, like being kind and firm. Kind is
a nice, firm, isn't mean? Like all these different scenarios
to where I'm up there. They're given roles. So I'm
up there as the kid like hearing parents say, like
you know, they had scripts to read on what parents
would say, and then I would react to where how
it would make me feel for what they're saying. So
we did all these different like skits and learned a

(01:00:50):
lot of cool things. So my correct could one goes
to my wife getting me out and going to this
positive discipline workshop because it was Saturday, huskers were about
to play that night. Wasn't like fully aware what we're
going to be doing, and it turned out to be
really cool. Yeah, there's apparently a positive discipline app. I'll
say that for my survival kit. I haven't put it

(01:01:11):
on my phone yet, but apparently there's this positive Discipline
app that you can download and it's got like, you know,
some teachings or learns that they give you kind of daily.
But I would encourage, Yeah, I would encourage parents if
there's like a positive discipline workshop or just like parent
workshops for you and your wife to go to. Highly encourage,
highly recommend. It was kind of one of those things
like looking back on it, I thought is really cool

(01:01:32):
because it's like we're all very intentional for how we
want to be better in our career with ourself, whether
it's diet and working out structure for our own self,
our own individual sanity for our career. We have ambitions
in our career to where hey, this is what our
vision is what does our process look like? What are
things and places that I'm going to to learn and
get better at my craft? For work? You have the

(01:01:55):
same thing with parenting your relationships. You want to tap
in and figure out, you know, if you feel like
you're in a rupt relationship wise or in a marriage
relationship wise, and people who are very intentional about whether
it's getting it back on track doing some like continued
education or learning on having a better marriage, or just
like checking in. Yeah, couples go and do that. And
I as I'm leaving and thinking about it, I'm thinking,

(01:02:17):
this is no different. It's like we should be doing
something like this a few different times a year at
least on us challenging ourselves to learn something new, and
then as we're driving home kind of challenging ourselves like,
here's what I'm thinking that my blind spots where here's
one area where I want to get better in based
on what I learned from the positive discipline workshop that
we just did. Is there anything that you were hearing

(01:02:40):
that I wasn't. I haven't said out loud yet because
I would love to hear if you have any feedback
from myself and we're doing that kind of vice versa.
So I just thought it was very cool in general,
and now we've already identified a couple of things. I
know me for myself. It's like the way I talk
to Rue when she has a dress on it. She
looks super pretty, and all I do, kind of as
a dadd is give her praise because I don't know
necessarily know what else to kind of give her other bag,

(01:03:02):
Oh my gosh, you look so beautiful, And I'm just
telling her all these praise things versus like I could
be asking her questions on why did you pick out
that dress? Or I love those colors? What made you
like you know the color blue? In this one, I
let them kind of tap around and think about it
as to where you're not fully giving them their identity.
And they're just coming to dad because ru Love's walking downstairs.

(01:03:23):
She loves seeing the look on Dad's face. And I'm
calling her pretty and beautiful all the time, And how
can I because I want to say, I even brought
papers over from the notes. I took your boy over
here taking notes. Look at that, but changing my like
praise to encouragement, Yeah, to get them opening their minds
and thinking to where they're not seeing they're tying their

(01:03:43):
identity off of what Dad has telling me. Anytime I
think I look pretty, I want to go get Dad
as words of affirmation. Yeah, so really cool. That's where
my Craik of cole One goes to, We'll be able
to dive into it more because there's like stuff that
I'm leaving. I'm like, oh, we're doing a core values
You're doing it more like a core values thing for
quote lessoner topic. And I would just love to share

(01:04:05):
some of the things I was learning in this class
that helped give me a lot of like correlation and
breaking things down to just kind of keep things simple
because you think about values and the core values and
all that, and it's like, how can we cover all
this other than reading what people's values are being like yeah,
I love that, I love that value. Here's what mine
would be, and then kind of just stopping there. But
it'll be fun, it'll be fun to jump.

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Speaker 1 (01:05:01):
And just for clarity, you have comments or values.

Speaker 2 (01:05:05):
I have comments.

Speaker 1 (01:05:07):
It's only value. Only have comments on value. So let
do what we want to do.

Speaker 4 (01:05:12):
The hotline we got thirty five minutes, so I think
we have time for one hotline and then we'll go
into the values and now winter our show.

Speaker 1 (01:05:20):
Okay, sounds good, let's park And the only reason we're
on a time crunch is we have an awesome guest
coming into the shop that we're going to be doing
an interview on busting with the boys. So that's the
reason we're kind of in a structured like a time zone.

Speaker 6 (01:05:36):
Really see really one shelf shift cooking it up.

Speaker 2 (01:05:42):
Sure we got met fast stafford.

Speaker 6 (01:05:45):
I got a little dad hacked for you guys that
I actually picked up from my mom when I was
a kid.

Speaker 2 (01:05:52):
I'm hacked.

Speaker 6 (01:05:54):
So where you get a you have a bunch of kids,
or even just one kid. You're trying to save a
little money, your son, your daughter, two, three, four years old,
you're going out to eat. You don't want to spend
that extra money. Ten dollars for a buffet, fifteen dollars
for this buffet, No, sir, let him know how old

(01:06:15):
your kid is. Yep, he's three and under. How old
is he actually four or five?

Speaker 3 (01:06:24):
But he looks three.

Speaker 1 (01:06:25):
They can't tell. They don't check IDs.

Speaker 6 (01:06:26):
They don't have IDs yet.

Speaker 1 (01:06:28):
Let him know.

Speaker 6 (01:06:30):
We used to go to see these pizza Chinese buffets
all the time.

Speaker 2 (01:06:33):
As a kid.

Speaker 6 (01:06:35):
I was about three years old till till I was six.

Speaker 3 (01:06:39):
So they save a few hundred a year that way,
maybe even thousand.

Speaker 2 (01:06:45):
You have just a little dad hack out there.

Speaker 6 (01:06:47):
Might not be the most ethical one, but it'll keep
your pockets a little fatter.

Speaker 3 (01:06:52):
It's six out fellas.

Speaker 1 (01:06:54):
Yeah, that's a great dad act. That's all time. That
might be number one right now.

Speaker 2 (01:06:59):
They don't check. Yeah, they don't have IDs.

Speaker 3 (01:07:03):
Bro.

Speaker 2 (01:07:04):
That made me laugh to where I had tears in
the side of my eyes. That was really funny.

Speaker 1 (01:07:08):
Dude, he's three, he's got a mustache.

Speaker 4 (01:07:13):
Imagine CCS gets a child bouncer sitting at the front.

Speaker 2 (01:07:18):
Yeah, I love this, doesn't got it. I have a
great video that I'll send you. You have to remind
me of a guy doing the outside of a Toys
r us. It's one of the funniest videos I've ever
seen of a kid bouncer.

Speaker 1 (01:07:31):
But yeah, dude, and shout out CCS. Shout out CC's Pizza.

Speaker 2 (01:07:36):
Man, Oh my god, I wish I could go back
to lill League days and see a young Willie c
just tearing apart of meats Budy, I bet you were
a demon demon the Creative Pizzas.

Speaker 1 (01:07:51):
Oh that's a mac and cheese pizza. Let me get that.

Speaker 2 (01:07:54):
And I know you're just fist full of pizza with
one end and you're in the arcades.

Speaker 1 (01:08:02):
At our CC's had the little hockey game, you know how,
it's kind of like, what what's the what's the game?

Speaker 2 (01:08:08):
Yeah, like foosball.

Speaker 1 (01:08:09):
We're moving or you're kind of moving the hockey players around.

Speaker 2 (01:08:13):
That that is a good game. Shout out that caller
to you.

Speaker 1 (01:08:17):
I think what is it the cinnamon rolls at CC's Pizza.
Come on, man, Oh.

Speaker 2 (01:08:23):
Yeah, we might Hey, that might be our next Pizza
six meet up, just saying.

Speaker 4 (01:08:28):
Say, pizza is still alive. Oh, it's got Yeah, it's
gott revamped. Oh really we're talking about CC's pizza. We're
talking about all you can staple. What's the price of
it now?

Speaker 2 (01:08:40):
Probably sad?

Speaker 1 (01:08:41):
Yeah, I know back in my day, I want to
say maybe six bucks, seven bucks. That's crazy. All you
can eat pizza moment.

Speaker 2 (01:08:51):
Can order.

Speaker 1 (01:08:52):
I mean, that's not that. Ain't the experience?

Speaker 3 (01:08:55):
Yeah, it doesn't look like they do all you can
eat anymore.

Speaker 1 (01:08:59):
Okay, we'll we'll figure Yeah, we'll get into we'll do
some detective.

Speaker 7 (01:09:04):
Work with with our fast ones. Will wow, how much
for adults? Ain't bad in this economy?

Speaker 2 (01:09:14):
PT six meet up? Yeah, future PT six meet up,
ccsp that we will shut it down. We will shut it.

Speaker 1 (01:09:22):
We will shut it down. We welcome all.

Speaker 2 (01:09:24):
We have our fast ones. I was thinking for the
fast ones, we can read names and then just kind
of find in the comment like what that value is like.

Speaker 1 (01:09:38):
N M.

Speaker 2 (01:09:38):
Cola fifty six hundred says dreaming big, working hard, and
staying humble g L three as nine and just.

Speaker 1 (01:09:46):
For just for context, two people that are tapped in
a couple of weeks ago, we talked about what is
a core value you would love to instill on your
kid for the rest of time? Yes, and not to
get overwhelmed. I know there's a bunch out there that
everybody wants to do, but just to give us some
some thought topics, some stuff to give the audience.

Speaker 2 (01:10:06):
Absolutely from you guys. Absolutely. Do you want me to
go into mine and then we can go boom boom
boom on the fast ones.

Speaker 1 (01:10:14):
Sure?

Speaker 2 (01:10:15):
Yeah so, I said. Nm Cola fifty six hundred on
YouTube said dreaming big, working hard, and staying humble are
the values they would want.

Speaker 1 (01:10:24):
I got one here from Uncle Tony two on Instagram.
Be the hardest worker in the room. With whatever it
is you're doing. It's very difficult to outperform hard work.
Am into that, amen?

Speaker 2 (01:10:36):
Amen. Gl three as nine to one on YouTube said
determination with a flex emoji.

Speaker 1 (01:10:46):
Got one here from a Drew oh ninety on Instagram.
Above all else, be kind.

Speaker 2 (01:10:52):
Peyton Headwald three two zero six on YouTube said gratitude.

Speaker 1 (01:10:58):
Gratitude, and then I'm going to write the down as well.

Speaker 2 (01:11:00):
Oh I like that.

Speaker 1 (01:11:01):
Gratitude, hard work, kind, humble.

Speaker 2 (01:11:07):
The Turning Company on Instagram said resilience.

Speaker 1 (01:11:12):
Resilience. That's yes, that's my favorite resilience. Oh, I got
one here from from Weber Leaf of value strength emotionally, physically,
in brain power and brain power or whatever. I guess,
just value themselves.

Speaker 2 (01:11:31):
That's a pt sixer right there. That's not an empty
six The Big Veldt on Instagram said curiosity tempered with
kindness curiosity.

Speaker 1 (01:11:45):
Oh, we.

Speaker 2 (01:11:47):
Just value yours to themselves.

Speaker 1 (01:11:49):
I guess, just value themselves respect or respect for themselves
others in the journey for life.

Speaker 2 (01:11:54):
Ooh respect and who did that?

Speaker 1 (01:11:57):
That one came from Roddy thirty one on Instagram.

Speaker 2 (01:12:00):
Aj Jacobson eighteen on Instagram said courage and authenticity. I
freaking I love those. Yes, courage and authenticity, especially the authenticity.
Great job, ajam My.

Speaker 1 (01:12:13):
Here for one from erect d erect d erect d
on Instagram sick work ethic, talent and likability only get
you so far. Those who put their head down and
grind will always rise to the top. Both my parents
had excellent work ethic and were amazing examples to me.
My wife's work ethic is impeccable. I hope I am
upholding my part. Oh shut out Eric, especially giving credit

(01:12:36):
everywhere else.

Speaker 2 (01:12:37):
Steven Barrera forty nine on Instagram said accountability own everything
you do or don't do.

Speaker 1 (01:12:44):
Accountability. Every day I asked my girls, what are you?
This is the this is values homework from hollow hollow
point hollow point forty five on YouTube.

Speaker 2 (01:12:59):
Here's the values homework.

Speaker 1 (01:13:01):
He even timestamped it the two hour ten mark from
a couple episodes ago.

Speaker 2 (01:13:04):
Every day I asked my girls, what are you? Smart? Strong, beautiful?

Speaker 1 (01:13:09):
Flex muscles, point to the head, hand on cheeks to
teach them when they're toddlers. What do you do? They respond?
They respond, pay attention, work hard, do the right thing.
We've recently added, how do we eat good, eat effort, attitude, toughness.
That is fire one hollow point.

Speaker 2 (01:13:28):
Yeah, keep that one.

Speaker 1 (01:13:29):
That's a that's a dad hack for everybody too. What
are you strong? Smart, beautiful? What do you do? Pay attention,
work hard, do the right thing? How do we eat? Effort, attitude, toughness? Dude?

Speaker 2 (01:13:40):
Those girls are so lucky they got they got some
parents like that.

Speaker 5 (01:13:44):
I love that He comments on almost everything we post, too,
especially so big siko hollow point.

Speaker 2 (01:13:50):
Thank you for being a siko dude, it sounds like
you're incredible dad as well. H grees on Instagram set persistence.
If I had to pick one, I want her to
be a dog fight for whatever she wants, needs and
finds a way to make it happen.

Speaker 1 (01:14:05):
So we have Mets Camfield here. Value the process more
than the results. If you work hard and treat people well,
that's a great process and should be all you need
to focus on. You can only control your controllables and
you can't control the results. But having a sound process
such as treating people well and working hard will put
you in a great position to be successful. So I'm
going to write down process over results what I'm going

(01:14:29):
to try and do here if I can regurgitate or
broken Lee put together some of the things I was
learning in this positive discipline class. So one thing we
went over at the very start was like everybody like
the class had to answer like what are challenges that
you're currently going through as a parent? And so you
have people like sure, if I were to ask you,
what is a challenge right now as a parent that

(01:14:49):
your kiddo is giving you a challenge with? You have
a four month old, so that's kind of hard. But
if there was one like, let's brainstorm challenges that are
out there for me. I stood up there like if
you could, if you can break it down and not
give us a few sentences, but if it was a
headline in a newspaper, what would it be?

Speaker 2 (01:15:07):
And I was, like.

Speaker 1 (01:15:10):
I said, whining the epidemic that's taking us all down
as parents and using it. So whining and using your
strong voice was one for Reu. Okay, so like we
had whining, you had, we had like breakdowns at the
grocery store. Breakdown like breakdowns, tantrums.

Speaker 2 (01:15:32):
Give me some more sure mine is during feeds, just
not wanting to feed, like fighting the feed back.

Speaker 1 (01:15:39):
I guess. So we can say generally if we're if
we're grouping it together with like toddlers or older kids, like.

Speaker 2 (01:15:46):
Yeah, dinner time, oh, dinner time. Yeah yeah, yeah, I
like that bedtime. I would say, is has it hasn't
been a full challenge, but there are It's difficult.

Speaker 1 (01:15:58):
And that one is one that will very much spike
up when they you know, when they're like getting more
aware and they're becoming toddlers and everything else. Yeah, not
getting what they want. Yes, dude, moms are speaking up
and it was like, uh a, mom was just saying
the challenge that she was having, which I think all
parents go through. But it's like mom is the comfort zone.

(01:16:20):
So they cling to mom a lot. Oh dude, during
times where they're breaking down and everything else. It's like
Mom is the one that gets drained because Mom is
like seen as a safe space. Dude.

Speaker 2 (01:16:31):
I'm going through that big right now, we're Scarlet. When
Scarlet's in a temper tantrum type thing, she does not
want Dad. She wants chili band. Yeah.

Speaker 1 (01:16:41):
Yeah, bro, it's uh we yeah, we battle. We battle
that too. It's like Rue, I'll be in the bedroom, like, say,
we just got done eating dinner. I came across this,
like this water flosser hire just shoots through your uho,
shoots through your teeth. Yeah, I love it. So when
I get done eating dinner, we had some beef last night,
so I had some some be stuck in the molars
back there, so I'm going in and using the flosster.

Speaker 2 (01:17:02):
Yeap.

Speaker 1 (01:17:03):
She was around seven o'clock. We're about to start prepping
for bedtime. Rue walks her little ass in to the
bathroom and she's like, uh, Dad, there are you doing
bedtime tonight. And I was like, you know, as I'm going,
I know she asks us every night because she wants mom,
and do you want that to do bedtime tonight?

Speaker 4 (01:17:20):
No?

Speaker 1 (01:17:21):
Why don't you want that to do bedtime? I want
mom to do bedtime? All right, go tell mom. But
as a small example, it was mom's turn to do bedtime. Yeah,
but just as a small example of like this clinging
to mom as just always Mom is what they want
at all, Like I'll go up to wake her up
in the morning. They're like, where's Mama? I want to
see mom, And I'll beg moms at work right now.

(01:17:41):
It's you know, dad has getting out of bed and
getting you go in this morning? Did you sleep well?

Speaker 2 (01:17:45):
I want mama.

Speaker 1 (01:17:46):
I don't want to get out of bed. And it's
just it's just a fight all the time, not like
a fight all the time, but just a lot of whining,
a lot of things that's like I want mom in
this situation. I see on mom too. It's draining because
Mom's always got to be got. The one that's like
that's like their self soon is going to mom.

Speaker 2 (01:18:01):
Yeah. Okay, So.

Speaker 1 (01:18:06):
What I gathered from this is first we talked about
what challenges we went across, and then it was all
about all right, now that we have our challenges lists
that they're writing on the board, doing some white board
work and some notework. Then it was they were going
around the classroom and saying, what are goals that you
have for your kid? Like, imagine talking to your kid
in thirty years they're thirty five years old, what goals

(01:18:27):
or what would you want them to represent? What characteristics?
So essentially the values and the goals that we've been
sitting here talking about. So people are going around the
room and my one was resilience because I love resilience
above most. I love a lot of core values, but
resilience always stands out to me because life is always
going to be unfair to you, and it's always about you,

(01:18:48):
know how you respond to when life hits you in
the mouth. So if I could teach anything to my daughters,
it would be mine was resilience that I gave.

Speaker 2 (01:18:56):
And so we just use our.

Speaker 1 (01:18:57):
List from breaking it down into one word by everybody
that chimed in, we have on our list kind, gratitude,
hard work, humble, dream big, resilience, curiosity, respect, courage, authenticity, accountability, eat, effort, attitude, toughness,
process over results.

Speaker 2 (01:19:16):
So we have our listening.

Speaker 1 (01:19:17):
Here where we have our challenges list things you're kind
of going through as a parent, and I would encourage
you and your wife to kind of talk about what
challenges you might be going through to where it's like
things that you can tap into, because this is going
to be a full circle reminder on how you can
go about handling like those next situations together as a
team lock an arm. But we have the challenges whining,

(01:19:38):
breakdowns and tantrums, dinner time, not getting what they want, bedtime,
and clinging to mom. So as there's a quote that
I said a while back that a gentleman gave me
somebody that was associated with the school, and I was
kind of meeting him for the first time at the
park when us going around and playing with the kids,
and he gave me those quotes where it's like, it's
those moments where whether you're trying to get their shoes on,

(01:19:59):
they're pissed about what clothes they want to wear, shoes, YadA, YadA, YadA,
talking to them in the next thirty seconds the way
you want to see them thirty years down the road
instead of the short term animal brain. We all get resistant,
we all get upset about things. It's like when I'm
sitting there trying to put rou in the car seat
and everything else, a moment is happening, and it's it's

(01:20:21):
how you grab to the goals and the values that
we have, connecting with the goals versus correcting the challenges.
So connection over correction. So in those thirty in that
thirty second spanner, it could be a few minutes long
as you're sitting there with your child, breaking it down
and trying to mold them into these human beings they want,

(01:20:41):
we want them to be based on all these values.
It's how can you connect with them away in those
thirty seconds or in those tough moments that isn't going
to correct the next thirty seconds, but mold them into
what you want them to be in the next thirty years.
So I thought that was like a good full circle thing.
And the way I broke it down on my mind
before the dads is that space right here is good. Yeah, whining,

(01:21:05):
good breakdowns, tantrums, good dinner time. They don't want to
eat their food, they're negotiating with you. They want a cookie,
They're not gonna eat, You're gonna have to sit there
at dinner table with them for a while, and they're
giving you a hard time good not getting what they want.
You're going to the grocery store, they want a toy.
You're trying to teach them the value of a dollar.
Just teach them anytime you walk in somewhere you're not

(01:21:26):
going to pick out something, and they're giving you a
lot of trouble about that in front of everybody. You
feel embarrassed. Good, are you going to snap and try
and correct the behavior for just thirty seconds and just
be very like disconnected, or are you going to connect
with them about, Hey, I know you really want this,
and right now we're not buying anything, so you know

(01:21:47):
then like me, I would think, I know you really
want this right now and we're not here to buy anything.
So help that really needs your help picking out X,
Y and Z. Can you help me go find that,
try and redirect their brain a little bit, and then
I'll follow up in the car. Hey, the reason why
we don't things at the grocery store is YadA, YadA, YadA, YadA.
Whatever value you're wanting to instill and connect with them
when their brain is ready to go because they're also

(01:22:09):
teaching you. Like the brain like with the hand, when
everything gets when everything gets heightened, your brain is like this,
like the emotional part of the brain is firing. Nobody's learning,
nobody's connecting, nobody wants to hear what you have to
say or talk. It's just about how do you not
match that energy as a parent, keep poised and keep
controlled here and get them to where it Now they're
in a calm state and you can talk to them

(01:22:31):
about what happened and what a moment and an opportunity.
We now have to teach them a good value or
start instilling those values and start molding them into the
adults we hope that they become one day. So I
thought it was very good and just to go out
this giving you a hard time of bedtime, good clinging
to mom, you see your daughter, your son cleaning to mom.
And moments where it's like it kind of pisses me

(01:22:52):
off right now as a dad that it's almost like
you're taking it as a sign of disrespect to where
at times I've been more of like state and officers
like fine, go to mom, or I just act mad
in front of herr to let her know she hurt
my feelings, which is what am I trying to accomplish
right there as a grown ass adult when my kid
is losing her mind or she's wanting mom and just
not me in that moment. Yeah, yeah, I'm not doing

(01:23:14):
anything conducive to either of us. I'm just I'm being
as petty as she is, so I'm like removing myself.
I'm removing myself from it versus just staying in the pocket,
staying present, letting her know. Heysweetart. I know you really
want mom right now. Whenever the time calls for you
to want to hug from dad, I would really love
to read your story. If you want dad at a
Regia story, I will come back upstairs and Regio story.

(01:23:35):
I know you don't want me to right now, and
that's okay, but just I'm going to be right outside,
so you just let that Dad know that usually comes
full circle to you at some point they might use
mom up and then they I'm going to get the
second parent dad in right now, But you just start
bridging that gap of those moments of frustration instead of
leaning into the correction of every challenge that parents go through.

Speaker 2 (01:23:54):
All of this stuff right here.

Speaker 1 (01:23:56):
It's good in your brain and you we have to think,
how can we connect with our kids to find these
moments of opportunity to teach them what we want them
to be in the future.

Speaker 2 (01:24:06):
Yes, and having the values. I love this strategy from
the standpoint of having those values that right call them
if you want to show them again, will of let's say,
with dinner time and she's not eating. Not only the
not eating part, I'm sure is frustrating, but if you're
wanting them to have curiosity and trying new foods, like

(01:24:29):
what is the end goal? And being able to identify
a value that you want them to exhibit, it's not
only how can I get them to eat? But how
can I have them be more you know, have a
more curious palette. And I know that that's like a
weird example.

Speaker 1 (01:24:45):
But also like it's like, you know, the whole thing
of positive discipline, and it's like, you know, it's like
one of those things like when you were in the
army back in the day, there were hard skills and
soft skills. Back in the day, the hard skills is
what men wanted to do. It was you know, the gun,
it was the flying the helicopters. It was the shit
that sounded manly. Now that we know, over time, with

(01:25:06):
a lot of data and everything else, we've realized that
the soft skills are where the success comes from for people.
When those hard skills are done and gone and you
can't do them anymore, do you have those soft skills developed,
Whether it's with people, whether it's with communicating, whether it's
understanding what empathy looks like, the whole just being kind thing,
being kind and firm. But so I say that to say, like,

(01:25:28):
I don't know how positive discipline comes off the lips
to some parents, because there's a lot of old school
parents that might hear positive discipline. What a weird way
to just be like, you know, to not try and
discipline your kids. You want to be in a really
kind Hey, here's a ribbon way. It's not that at all.
It's like when you're learning to be kind and firm
in a dinner example, it's like, hey, I can sit

(01:25:48):
here and talk kindly to my child and be very
firm about what the boundary is, sweetheart. There is no
piece of a cookie if you don't eat your dinner.
And how the can be nutritious to your body like
you're trying to teach them, like why it's important to
eat your food, Why we sit down as a family
and we eat dinner together. Why there's no options of

(01:26:10):
a buffet that you get to choose from, or you
get to eat pasta or chicken nuggets every night. You're
going to eat what is being served. There's going to
be values that you learn in that. And if you
want to give us a very hard time about it,
instead of lashing back at them or being very corrective
in the state just because you're frustrated, you're trying to
teach them what those lessons are and teach them that, hey,

(01:26:32):
your opportunity to eat is now, and if you do
want this dangly carrot at the end of the tunnel,
like that doesn't happen unless you're part of the clean
play club, or unless you do eat. If they give
you a very hard time and they don't want to eat,
they're not going to starve. Going in the nighttime. That
was one that my wife and I were going back
and forth, and I was like, I was kind of
glad to hear the lady talk about your kid's not
gonna starve, because char would think like she needs to

(01:26:54):
get something in her stomach at some point, because what
we'll do is she'll manipulate. She'll choose, all right, I'll
go to bed and not eat dinner. Should go up
to bed, and then all of a sudden, after a
Harri's brushed on her teeth brush, it's I'm hungry. I
want to snack. So then you feel like you've got
to give them something because they didn't eat dinner. Where
it's now we understand that there's even an extra layer
of the boundary there to like, hey, sweetheart, you missed

(01:27:14):
out on your opportunity. There are natural consequences in life.
There are a logical consequences in life, and you kind
of gave them a logical consequence. We explained what had
to be done or what you needed to do. You
failed to do. So, you say, in any way you
want to you failed to do so tomorrow we'll have
another opportunity to eat in the morning for breakfast. You
have the other opportunity. That's why we pack your lunch

(01:27:35):
to go to school. We know you eat your lunch
when it's time that you get that thirty twenty thirty
minute window at school. And then it's the same thing
for dinner, but it's a way to be the whole
positive discipline, learning how to be kind and firm. Those
words that come off your lips as a man doesn't
feel tough, it doesn't feel masculine. This make you feel
like a man. It's like, oh, this is a way

(01:27:55):
to coddle this next generation. So where I'm sitting there,
open minded, learning as much as our pos possibly can,
taking notes and everything, and I'm walking away like, man,
that is some really good shit to understand, because even psychologically,
they're teaching you to use the as soon as not
if then if you eat your food, then you'll get

(01:28:16):
your cookie. Hey, as soon as you eat your food,
you will get your cookie. And getting away from adding
and and not butt like saying all the things and
then saying, but you didn't do X, Y and Z
therefore blah blah blah blah blah. Because even psychologically, as humans,
if you read any negotiation book, they teach a skill,
a soft skill of using and and not butt. Because

(01:28:37):
most adults, when you hear, whether it's an apology or
a conversation, you hear everything up to the butt, but
then when the butt comes everything before the butt you
forget about whatever the compliment was because now you're focused
on the negative outcome. Yep versus Hey, this happened, and
here's what we do. They kind of like weirdly like
we rewires your brain. So I'm walking away from this

(01:28:58):
workshop being like, Yo, this shit is all I'm all
about it, So I hope you guys got something out
of that. I love sitting there for two hours kind
of breaking all this stuff down, figuring like, Hey, how
can I come into for the dads and give whatever
I can what I learned again. I would highly encourage
any couple, any parent out there, to go to a
positive discipline course or any type of workshop in the

(01:29:19):
world of parenting because I was fired up trying. I
kind of walked away, kind of fired up together a
couple of fist pounds on things that we feel like
we do well, Hey, here are things that we can
get better at. I'm immediately my brain immediately went to
my dad was like, you know, people like I hate
to say I'm proud of you because they have, you know,
their own background or own upbringing. Something like I'm proud

(01:29:39):
of you like kind of triggers them and like I know,
I say it to my kid, and I kind of
hate that I say to my kid, you do no.
This was another, this is another bringing it up, and
so that got into the conversation of praise versus encouragement.
And I'm sitting there, I'm like, you know, they're sitting
there wearing dresses. Dad's not a big dress guy. There's
kind of this battle back and forth at home that

(01:30:00):
Dad doesn't want her to wear dresses. She loves to
wear dresses, so he kind of doesn't know what to
say or how to handle it. So it kind of
opened up that conversation on praise and encouragement to where
I'm sitting there. I'm like, I do this all the
time because I almost don't know. I know Ruth feels pretty.
I'm glad she feels pretty. She loves she's a lady.
When she sees the look on dad has face of

(01:30:20):
being beautiful and oh my gosh, you're so beautiful. But
I'm sitting there and I'm like, I know that in
the long run, that's not I'm not wanting her Just
to know that you show up and somebody tells you
that you're beautiful, that's what makes you feel beautiful is
an external being or another person or something else telling
you that you're beautiful. So I'm like getting equipped with
some of these tools of like, you know, oh my gosh,

(01:30:41):
look at that dress? Does that how does the dress
make you feel? Or like why did you pick out
those colors? Of just asking her questions to encourage her
to speak on what makes her feel so good in
the outfit that she's wearing. Long rant, long spill.

Speaker 2 (01:30:56):
No, that's a great it's a great rant. And if anything,
it's just an example of communication. The communication with your child,
the communication with your partner. Got to have an open
line of communication in order to succeed as a team.
And I love this strategy from the standpoint of all

(01:31:17):
it is doing is opening that line of communications that
what do we want, what values do we want our
child to have? How are we going to go about
having them exhibit those values? How are we going to
go about fixing these things? What are some things that
I don't do very well? What are some things that

(01:31:38):
I have been doing well? You have to be communicating
at all times because when you are in the trenches,
you get stuck in the same routine, same routine. If
I check these things off if they eat shit, piss
and go to bed. I did it, you know, and
hey it may have been hell and I had a

(01:31:58):
terrible day, but we're going to wake up and we're
just going to do it again. Whatever, And you get
stuck in those cycles. I love that it's getting broken
up by annow you know, analysis of how did I
do today? What could I get better? Yeah?

Speaker 1 (01:32:12):
Yeah, to go off the communication and having that open
mind in like welcoming blind spots that you could have there.
You know, they're definitely parents. I can I can be
one of those at times to where there might be
a judgment that I'm feeling, to where it's like all parent,
how I want a parent versus actually sitting with myself.

(01:32:33):
Is anything they're saying of substance to where I can
check myself or look into a different formula or a concept.
But yeah, that's the thing. The biggest takeaway is in
those moments of challenge, how do you keep yourself from
correcting the next thirty seconds and connecting to a value
you want to instill over the next thirty years. That

(01:32:54):
was the biggest takeaway from this workshop for myself, and yeah,
of everybody, hope everybody enjoyed.

Speaker 2 (01:33:00):
The episode Good sewed great, so, good sowed good? So
and so yours was resilience correct?

Speaker 1 (01:33:06):
Mine was resilience? Okay? Cool?

Speaker 2 (01:33:07):
What was yours? Confidence? But like with coupled with humility
and strength coupled with kindness.

Speaker 1 (01:33:15):
I love that and I'm totally sorry for not having
that and like writing it down on the list or
just checking in on my boy of like hey, what
was your value?

Speaker 2 (01:33:22):
No, You're fine.

Speaker 1 (01:33:24):
I kind of just it kind of got away from
me and it kind of just got going. I'm sitting here,
I'm like, this is all very broken. I'm also very
excited to talk about it. I didn't prep for how
to talk about it.

Speaker 2 (01:33:32):
Okay, I thought you I thought you one nailed it.
I thought too, this developed into something totally like the
higher tiered than what we were even going to do.
And I learned something today, Like I truly was sitting
here just listening to you talking was like this is
we would.

Speaker 1 (01:33:49):
Have been in there doing the skits together. Man, it
was cool. It was cool. We will have to find
We'll have to find something where it's like hey, another
PT six meetups, we're going here to learn it.

Speaker 2 (01:34:00):
This workshop you guys, and maybe you can test me
on or not test me, but you can run me
through some of those here on the pod too.

Speaker 1 (01:34:10):
Yeah, we all will have to get out try and
figure out some some of the scripts.

Speaker 2 (01:34:14):
Yeah, sounds like we should host one that was that
was really well done.

Speaker 1 (01:34:16):
Well, yeah that could Yeah, that could be fun. That
could be fun, Professor Compton. That's the thing too, it's
like I'm going through that and we say it all
the time. We never want to come off as like experts.
It's more like I'm taking in all this information. I'm
very excited to share with everybody. I you know, you
hope you do a great job at the same time
not coming off as like this is the authority. Yeah,

(01:34:39):
but yeah, that'd be a lot of fun. Make sure
you take out your trash, big hugs, tiny kisses, and
uh yeah.

Speaker 2 (01:34:46):
Quick episode. We brought it up at the top, but
we aren't getting away from reading comments, we aren't getting
away from reading emails. This was just it was going
to be a quick sode because of the schedule, and
we can't wait to read y'all's comments and emails and
call ins, et cetera.

Speaker 1 (01:35:03):
And we read a bunch and we right, We yeah,
we still ride and we still run. But yeah, make
sure you take out your trash. We love you, we
appreciate you. Papa team sticks out. See you next week.

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