March 13, 2024 • 22 mins
Get ready for an unforgettable episode of the Jordyn Jones Podcast! Join Jordyn as she celebrates her 24th birthday by sharing 24 invaluable life lessons she's learned along the way. Jordyn reflects on the importance of family, true friendships, self-respect, and much more. Tune in to gain insights, inspiration, and motivation from Jordyn's personal experiences and reflections. Don't miss out on this insightful and heartfelt episode!
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Straw Hut Media. Oh machacamah,yeah, Yes, what's up, guys,
It's the Jordan Jones Podcast. HappyWednesday. Today's my birthday, March
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thirteenth, Yo, yo, Iam pre recording this episode, but for
you guys, it is my birthday. I'm twenty four years old today.
I actually think that that age soundsold to me. There's no more excuses.
Twenty three is still like you're alittle young. Oh you didn't do
this. She's kind of young,Oh you made that mistake. But now
there's no more excuses. I havealways been the type of person to almost
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like use your age as an excuse, is what I'm saying. Whatever,
And like I said, no merxcuses, twenty four is a big girl,
grown age. It's not even agirl anymore. I'm like, literally a
woman. This is the woman age. I was trying to buy a purse
and my assistant was like, no, that's two twenty one vibes. You're
like a woman now, Like,I don't think you should buy that purse.
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She's like, do you want tobe twelve forever? And I'm like
yes, I feel like I'm gonnabe dressing differently and acting differently the year
of really really becoming a woman.Becoming a woman here, love it.
And in this episode today, I'mgonna be sharing with you guys twenty four
things I've learned for my twenty fourthbirthday. I've seen this turnt on TikTok.
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Yeah, I think it's really good. I'm still obviously learning and trying
to put these into motion. Someof them, you know what I mean,
really live by them. But thisis also just my advice to you
guys, whether you're twenty four orsixteen. Maybe if I would have heard
some of this when I was sixteen, I wouldn't have been all crazy.
So let's get right into my listtoday. We're on my phone. The
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iPad is gone. First one,family is irreplaceable. Cherish every moment with
them. I've literally talked about thisa million times. I've lost my dad
and it really makes you realize howimportant and how much family time really means
to me, especially I'm really closewith my family. Every time I'm like
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in Michigan and I'm in my roomfor twenty minutes, I'll like be down
on myself because I'll never get thesetwenty minutes back, Like, why am
I not hanging out with my mom. Why am I leaving the house to
go to Starbucks for get launch?Why am I not really enjoying and spending
time with them? Because you know, my Michigan family lives in Michigan,
and I don't really see them alot. I work, they work,
Everyone's schedules get busy. But whenyou see them, I just want you
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to cherish your moments with them.She has now found the window and it
is so precious she's looking out thewindow. We'll also insert our machakam in
this episode at some points so youguys will be able to see her,
because I know you guys love themachakam. But yeah, that's definitely number
one. And I really do dothis, but I'm still always trying to
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do it more and better and reallycherish every moment. Next one, true
friends are rare, hold on tothem tightly. You know. I've moved
a lot, and I have alsochanged careers. And I used to be
in dance, so all my friendswere dance friends, and I saw them
at the dance studios every day.And then I started singing and I wasn't
at the dance studio, so Icouldn't seem like my dance friends a lot.
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And then I made singer friends andI started hanging out with like older
people and like my team because Iwould see them every day. My friends
were like my manager and stylists.They have really been with me from the
beginning. And then I have mylongtime friends like Stevie and Lily. Lily
lives in Vegas, but every timeI see her, we didn't miss anything.
We didn't miss a beat, andStevie's like my older sister, not
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even like a friend. At thispoint in LA, I catch myself hanging
out with temporary people and people whowant something from you or like you know,
using you, and like I havealso a lot of like my boyfriend's
friends now I don't even know likePilate's friends. I have a lot of
different groups, and I definitely knowwho my true friends are and I will
literally do anything for them. AndI think that it's very important to always
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have your little rock solid group,whether you have a couple that you're in
or like one strong group. Ijust think that it's very very important and
hard to come by these days,so cherish and hold on to your true
friends dearly. But Macha's like mybest friend. She's so much more fun
to hang out with, you knowwhat I mean. My mom, she's
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like, I don't want to leavethe house. I have six dogs and
six cats. It's like all youever need. I never thought like that
until I had a cat. She'sthe best, She's my best friend.
Next one, self respect is nonnegotiable. Never compromise it for anyone.
This I'm still learning. People sayit's a pissy thing. I'm not trying
to be that person. I'm kindof like a people's person. I do
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not like to upset people. Iam the person to walk on eggshells and
then be the glue to the familyand to watch out for everyone else.
And I know it's a good thing, but in some aspects about the self
respect part, it is hard.Most of the time, I'm such the
person to be like, oh yeah, I'll do that for you, making
everyone else okay, so that I'mnot. And I'm trying to work on
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that because I should be more selfishin that way and have more self respect.
But it's hard for me to dobecause my whole life has kind of
just been like Jordan's the glue,and if I'm not like putting the pieces
back together. Even if I don'tagree with you know, the fight going
on in the family, it's notworth it for me to say my opinion
or to take a side or tojust get out of it because like self
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respect and why am I dealing withthis? But that's just what I do.
And that's one example. Next,relationships should add value to your life,
not the tract from it. Ilove this one. I think it's
very important. I think it goesfor friendships and relationships. You know,
if it's not building you and upliftingyou, it is totally bringing you down
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and it will hurt your mental healthand make you like insecure and basically everything
negative. Again, like with friendships, one of my friends is having like
a huge issue with one of herchildhood best friends right now who's kind of
like bringing her down and kind ofbeing toxic. I know she's been in
your life forever, but like youcannot be talked to you like that.
In my opinion, you should say, like, this friendship has come to
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an end. You know, somepeople you have to cut off no matter
the term of the friendship and therelationship, it comes to a point where
you know it is toxic, andyou have to get out. If it's
not making me happy and I'm notmaking him happy, it's just not progressing
in a good way on the uphill. It's not sustainable. Everything obviously has
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its upside downs, don't get mewrong, friendships, relationships, everything,
But when you know in your heartand you have that little question like should
I still be with them, shouldI still be their friend? The answers
probably know and trust your intuition,trust your gut. I think that one's
important, so I wanted to addthat one. Next one, Happiness comes
from within. Prioritize your mental andemotional wellbeing. We've kind of already talked
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about that, but I think thathappiness is so important, and I think
a lot of people nowadays are nothappy. And you control your life.
It's your life. You have tojust do what you want. You have
to have the heart to say noto certain things. Happiness does come from
within, and it's all about youand yourself and what makes you happy.
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At the end of the day,all you got is you, and you
have to make yourself happy, andyou have to create a life that you
want to have. Next one,right, Macha, embrace vulnerability. It
leads to deeper connections. I lovethis one. And this also makes me
think of when I like met myboyfriend. When we started talking, you
know, you're you're just having somuch fun. You know, you're out
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laid and you're making each other laughconstantly, and you're getting to know the
person. But then like two threefour weeks in, you kind of get
into that family talk and you knowwhat has happened to you in life,
stories about your dads and brothers andeverything. You know, you really start
to open up to the person,and that's when everyone falls in love.
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I remember it was that night.It was like sitting on my bed.
He like is a very private person. When he was just opening up to
me, I literally was, I'mall yours. I just wanted to like
hug him and love him, youknow what I mean. Yeah, Like
we relate to so many things,and I think that that's like really important.
As soon as we were vulnerable andwe both shared our little stories and
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kinks. Well wait, not likethat, but like like cork corks,
kings and corks. That would befunny that we were vulnerable. For sure.
That is not what I meant tosay, and that did not happen
that night. But but yeah,so yeah next one failure is not the
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end. It's a stepping stone togrowth and success. I've literally led to
learn this lesson so many times inlife. There's just been one thing after
another. I feel like with mycareer, you know, singing, dancing,
modeling, a girl group, danceMoms, I got kicked off of
the au DC on I got fifth, so like technically to a lot of
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people and to me at the time, I was like, I failed,
Like I didn't win. My careeris over. I got eliminated my biggest
dream. Right after that show,my Instagram career blew up and I hit
a million followers, I got branddeals on brand News, and I got
so many different opportunities to be onother shows, and everyone would come up
to me saying I was their favorite, I loved you in Asia. Without
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that like first failure in my career, I literally wouldn't be where I was
today. So because I learned thatso early on, I really like take
that with me in every little chapterof my life. So I definitely think
that this is very true. Andwhat a belly rum when I show them
how you like your belly rub ohmy godness, matcha. Oh she's so
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cute. Okay, take risks.They often lead to the most rewarding experiences.
I love that one. I feellike that's similar to kind of what
I just said, because like theaudc thing. You know, I didn't
even want to be on that show. Everyone told me it was a reality
show, and my mom and Ijust didn't want to do it. And
they kept on emailing and getting uszoom classes and saying like, oh,
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you know you're gonna win the show. You're gonna have the biggest suite,
like, don't even worry about it. And then we're like, okay,
like get it, macha, youget that button, and yeah, we
honestly took the risk going on thatshow. And yeah, like the last
question, you know, I wouldn'tbe where I was today without that.
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So I have been taking risks sincethirteen. No one says that, you
know, since ninety seven. Allright, Next one, invest in self
care. Physical, mental, andemotional health are more important than you think,
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you know. Spend alone time withyourself and get your laundry put away.
Invest in those like skin care products, those massages, because you know
your back is in so much painand you just need to relax, even
a night in the bath. Youknow, a lot of people nowadays especially
are going to therapy. It's justbecoming so much more talked about. And
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I love that. I am notpersonally in therapy, but I've literally thought
about it the entire year. Ishould probably just do it. It's just
really important because if you feel good, you look good, or if you
look good, feel good, andif everything like comes from the inside out.
Yeah, I just wanted to mentionthat to definitely invest and understand that
self care is important and it shouldnever be like a I don't have time
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or anything like that, because youshould always make time for yourself and your
self care. Set boundaries. Theyare essential for maintaining healthy relationships very important.
A lot of people know this.Basically everyone knows this. It is
very important to set boundaries. Youknow what you are okay with, what
you are not okay with, nonnegotiables that you have, and always like
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speak your truth. I am likestill working on this and doing this like
every day. I am kind oflike I said, like the people please
are kind of type. But Iknow that I should be setting more boundaries
and speaking my mind. So doingthat in twenty twenty four. Next,
practice gratitude daily. It shifts yourperspective and cultivates contentment. I'm such a
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manifestation person and such a affirmations person. We've talked about this so many times
on the podcast, but we won'tget too into that. But definitely just
try to uplift and talk good andspeak good about yourself and the things around
you and life and the world,and take it till you make it.
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Next one, don't be afraid toask for help when you need it.
My dad would always say, whatare they gonna do? Take away your
birthday? And that's always stuck withme. I'm always in the store and
I'm always looking for the salesperson orlike the team member to where is this,
even though like I can just likelook or look it up online nowadays
and see what I all things arein But I always ask for help.
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Literally, and every day of mylife I ask someone for help, whether
it's like their opinion on like thisor that, or I don't know how
to file this document anything. I'malways the person ask for help. So
I definitely do this one. Ido it, I promise. Next one,
learn to forgive holding onto grudges onlyweighs you down. Very very important.
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Everyone knows this. You know.It's so easy to be petty and
to hold grudges and to just cutoff people. And sometimes you do have
to kind of let go and say, you know, you did this,
this and this, and let youknow how it made me feel. You
know, they'll say I'm sorry,and you say, you know, I
forgive you. Sometimes it's got tohappen. This happens years later sometimes where
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the person's like, I'm really sorryfor just basically never speaking to you again.
You know, I just saw thisphoto of you and I wanted to
let you know I'm really sorry fornot speaking to you for so long and
just wanted to make sure like you'regood. And I feel like this happens,
like I said, a lot,and even if it's for them,
sometimes you forgive people for them andthen like you learn to forgive and forget.
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Some people are like, forgive butnever forget. What's the point next.
Pursue your passions relentlessly. They arethe fuel for your soul. Again,
We've talked about this on the podcast, how I want to get back
into dancing and other things like that, So I'll just leave it at that.
But it's very important to keep youhappy doing what makes you happy,
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so definitely, don't, you know, just drop things out of your life.
And it's also good for you tobe dancing or running and working out
and stuff like that. So nextone comparison is the thief of joy.
Focus on your own journey. Thisis very true with social media nowadays.
It's so easy to compare and facetune or look at what your friends are
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doing and wearing and how much they'respending and where they live and what car
they have. And at the endof the day, only your life matters
to you and what you're doing.Don't get too caught up in anything these
days and just do what makes youhappy and wear what you like, post
the picture that you like. Youdon't have to ask all of your friends.
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Just be you. Be yourself andthat's the most important thing that you
can do. Surround yourself with positiveinfluences. They shape your mindset and outlook.
Well, we've talked about this tooon the podcast. I think that
was like literally episode one or twoabout how your friends really shape your even
like your relationship and ships and whoyour partner surrounds your themselves with Surrounding yourself
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with good people, you're gonna bea good person. Surround yourself with you
know, five smokers, you'll bethe sixth. Surround yourself with five hippies,
you'll be a hippie. Surround yourselfwith all grandmas. You're gonna turn
into a grandma. I'm just kidding, but it is. It is very
true, and this is definitely anknown thing. Next, celebrate your achievements,
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no matter how small. Every stepforward is progress. I love this
one. I'm definitely the type tolike, I did this. I'm gonna
go get a pazuki. I didthis. I deserve this. I am
really big on accomplishments, and evenlike with my friends, I like to
celebrate everyone's accomplishments, especially myself,even like Macha, like when it's her
birthday, she gets special things becauseit's an accomplishment, right, Macha,
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you got older. With my boyfriends, he's like helping me set up my
desk and my Twitch and all mysetup, and he's gonna watch my cat
while I'm gone, and I'm likerewarding him because I'm thankful, thank you,
like for doing all of this forme. I'm just gonna do something
nice for you that you've been wantingto do. The reward thing. It
is also kind of you do toyour children, like you've been good,
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like you got good grades. It'sbeen around forever, and I'm definitely a
believer in achievements to other people arelike, thank you for doing this,
Like I'm gonna send you flowers.The same thing with me, like,
oh, you helped me out,you set me up with your financial advisor,
Like, here's flowers. I don'tknow. I'm like a gifts person.
I'm a gift giver. It's mylove language. I like to show
appreciation to people, and I liketo celebrate my own accomplishments and other people's
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accomplishments. Next one, we're gettingclose, guys. This is number eighteen.
Listen to your intuition. It's oftenyour wisest guide. We kind of
talked about this before. This one'sstrictly about your intuition. Yeah, it
is true. It always ends upbeing right. I guess they wouldn't say
always more times than not. Yourintuition is right. It is your intuition
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for a reason. It's very goodtermination factor in my life. So yeah,
cultivate resilience. Life is full ofchallenges, but you are stronger than
you know. This is definitely reallyimportant and good to mention. Still working
on this in life, but definitelywanted to mention that because you know,
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things can just be thrown at youand everything can be going wrong, but
you got it. Embrace change.It's the only constant in life. Isn't
that crazy to think about everything's alwayschanging? I even think like nine to
ninety nine has something to do withthat. I haven't like read about that
in like eight years because I gotthe tattoo seven years ago. Probably yeah,
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I should probably be like really researchingthat first. But everything can be
a new beginning, and at thetime I feel like change is so scary
and so unknown, but everyone canagree that most of the time it's like
a good thing and something that wasmaybe needed that you never even saw that
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you needed. So yeah, practiceempathy. Understanding others enriches your own life.
I think empathy is less talked aboutthan it should be and less taught.
It doesn't happen as much as itshould. People really need to put
other people's feelings and emotions and mindsometimes into consideration. I just think that
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is something that we all need towork on every single day. That's something
that I'm definitely working on too.But it's definitely more important than we think
it is, and we should domore often. So this is twenty two.
Take time to disconnect and recharge.It's essential for balance, definitely important.
Most of us don't do this anymorebecause our phones are like constantly on,
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They're constantly in our hand. Likewe can't even go to the bathroom
without our phone, I swear nowadays. And if I'm not like on my
phone, I'm like playing Xbox,I'm looking at another screen. I'm looking
at my laptop and posting a podcast. Always like phone, screen, tablet,
xbox, blah blah blah. AndI I feel like it's always important
to just put it away, whetherit's five minutes, five hours, or
five days or a whole week retreat. You know, we should try to
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do small things every day to justdisconnect and recharge. Like I said,
all right, keep learning and growing. Knowledge is power, and curiosity fuels
progress. This is so important.I'm really trying to like get back into
and like reading especially. I havenot read a book up until like six
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months ago. In so long.People are going back to school, and
I don't want to stop learning.I didn't really realize that until like about
a year ago. I still wantto learn so many things, whether it's
like about a passion, history orliterally anything relationships, mind, psychological things,
even about like medicine and things thatare good for you things that are
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bad for you food, I don'teven know. I just want to be
learning something new all the time.And last one is to remember to love
yourself. You are worthy of loveand respect always. That's a good way
to end the podcast today. Thankyou guys so much for all the birthday
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Straw Hut Media. Oh machacamah,yeah, Yes, what's up, guys,
It's the Jordan Jones Podcast. HappyWednesday. Today's my birthday, March
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thirteenth, Yo, yo, Iam pre recording this episode, but for
you guys, it is my birthday. I'm twenty four years old today.
I actually think that that age soundsold to me. There's no more excuses.
Twenty three is still like you're alittle young. Oh you didn't do
this. She's kind of young,Oh you made that mistake. But now
there's no more excuses. I havealways been the type of person to almost
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like use your age as an excuse, is what I'm saying. Whatever,
And like I said, no merxcuses, twenty four is a big girl,
grown age. It's not even agirl anymore. I'm like, literally a
woman. This is the woman age. I was trying to buy a purse
and my assistant was like, no, that's two twenty one vibes. You're
like a woman now, Like,I don't think you should buy that purse.
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She's like, do you want tobe twelve forever? And I'm like
yes, I feel like I'm gonnabe dressing differently and acting differently the year
of really really becoming a woman.Becoming a woman here, love it.
And in this episode today, I'mgonna be sharing with you guys twenty four
things I've learned for my twenty fourthbirthday. I've seen this turnt on TikTok.
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Yeah, I think it's really good. I'm still obviously learning and trying
to put these into motion. Someof them, you know what I mean,
really live by them. But thisis also just my advice to you
guys, whether you're twenty four orsixteen. Maybe if I would have heard
some of this when I was sixteen, I wouldn't have been all crazy.
So let's get right into my listtoday. We're on my phone. The
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iPad is gone. First one,family is irreplaceable. Cherish every moment with
them. I've literally talked about thisa million times. I've lost my dad
and it really makes you realize howimportant and how much family time really means
to me, especially I'm really closewith my family. Every time I'm like
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in Michigan and I'm in my roomfor twenty minutes, I'll like be down
on myself because I'll never get thesetwenty minutes back, Like, why am
I not hanging out with my mom. Why am I leaving the house to
go to Starbucks for get launch?Why am I not really enjoying and spending
time with them? Because you know, my Michigan family lives in Michigan,
and I don't really see them alot. I work, they work,
Everyone's schedules get busy. But whenyou see them, I just want you
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to cherish your moments with them.She has now found the window and it
is so precious she's looking out thewindow. We'll also insert our machakam in
this episode at some points so youguys will be able to see her,
because I know you guys love themachakam. But yeah, that's definitely number
one. And I really do dothis, but I'm still always trying to
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do it more and better and reallycherish every moment. Next one, true
friends are rare, hold on tothem tightly. You know. I've moved
a lot, and I have alsochanged careers. And I used to be
in dance, so all my friendswere dance friends, and I saw them
at the dance studios every day.And then I started singing and I wasn't
at the dance studio, so Icouldn't seem like my dance friends a lot.
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And then I made singer friends andI started hanging out with like older
people and like my team because Iwould see them every day. My friends
were like my manager and stylists.They have really been with me from the
beginning. And then I have mylongtime friends like Stevie and Lily. Lily
lives in Vegas, but every timeI see her, we didn't miss anything.
We didn't miss a beat, andStevie's like my older sister, not
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even like a friend. At thispoint in LA, I catch myself hanging
out with temporary people and people whowant something from you or like you know,
using you, and like I havealso a lot of like my boyfriend's
friends now I don't even know likePilate's friends. I have a lot of
different groups, and I definitely knowwho my true friends are and I will
literally do anything for them. AndI think that it's very important to always
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have your little rock solid group,whether you have a couple that you're in
or like one strong group. Ijust think that it's very very important and
hard to come by these days,so cherish and hold on to your true
friends dearly. But Macha's like mybest friend. She's so much more fun
to hang out with, you knowwhat I mean. My mom, she's
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like, I don't want to leavethe house. I have six dogs and
six cats. It's like all youever need. I never thought like that
until I had a cat. She'sthe best, She's my best friend.
Next one, self respect is nonnegotiable. Never compromise it for anyone.
This I'm still learning. People sayit's a pissy thing. I'm not trying
to be that person. I'm kindof like a people's person. I do
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not like to upset people. Iam the person to walk on eggshells and
then be the glue to the familyand to watch out for everyone else.
And I know it's a good thing, but in some aspects about the self
respect part, it is hard.Most of the time, I'm such the
person to be like, oh yeah, I'll do that for you, making
everyone else okay, so that I'mnot. And I'm trying to work on
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that because I should be more selfishin that way and have more self respect.
But it's hard for me to dobecause my whole life has kind of
just been like Jordan's the glue,and if I'm not like putting the pieces
back together. Even if I don'tagree with you know, the fight going
on in the family, it's notworth it for me to say my opinion
or to take a side or tojust get out of it because like self
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respect and why am I dealing withthis? But that's just what I do.
And that's one example. Next,relationships should add value to your life,
not the tract from it. Ilove this one. I think it's
very important. I think it goesfor friendships and relationships. You know,
if it's not building you and upliftingyou, it is totally bringing you down
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and it will hurt your mental healthand make you like insecure and basically everything
negative. Again, like with friendships, one of my friends is having like
a huge issue with one of herchildhood best friends right now who's kind of
like bringing her down and kind ofbeing toxic. I know she's been in
your life forever, but like youcannot be talked to you like that.
In my opinion, you should say, like, this friendship has come to
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an end. You know, somepeople you have to cut off no matter
the term of the friendship and therelationship, it comes to a point where
you know it is toxic, andyou have to get out. If it's
not making me happy and I'm notmaking him happy, it's just not progressing
in a good way on the uphill. It's not sustainable. Everything obviously has
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its upside downs, don't get mewrong, friendships, relationships, everything,
But when you know in your heartand you have that little question like should
I still be with them, shouldI still be their friend? The answers
probably know and trust your intuition,trust your gut. I think that one's
important, so I wanted to addthat one. Next one, Happiness comes
from within. Prioritize your mental andemotional wellbeing. We've kind of already talked
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about that, but I think thathappiness is so important, and I think
a lot of people nowadays are nothappy. And you control your life.
It's your life. You have tojust do what you want. You have
to have the heart to say noto certain things. Happiness does come from
within, and it's all about youand yourself and what makes you happy.
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At the end of the day,all you got is you, and you
have to make yourself happy, andyou have to create a life that you
want to have. Next one,right, Macha, embrace vulnerability. It
leads to deeper connections. I lovethis one. And this also makes me
think of when I like met myboyfriend. When we started talking, you
know, you're you're just having somuch fun. You know, you're out
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laid and you're making each other laughconstantly, and you're getting to know the
person. But then like two threefour weeks in, you kind of get
into that family talk and you knowwhat has happened to you in life,
stories about your dads and brothers andeverything. You know, you really start
to open up to the person,and that's when everyone falls in love.
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I remember it was that night.It was like sitting on my bed.
He like is a very private person. When he was just opening up to
me, I literally was, I'mall yours. I just wanted to like
hug him and love him, youknow what I mean. Yeah, Like
we relate to so many things,and I think that that's like really important.
As soon as we were vulnerable andwe both shared our little stories and
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kinks. Well wait, not likethat, but like like cork corks,
kings and corks. That would befunny that we were vulnerable. For sure.
That is not what I meant tosay, and that did not happen
that night. But but yeah,so yeah next one failure is not the
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end. It's a stepping stone togrowth and success. I've literally led to
learn this lesson so many times inlife. There's just been one thing after
another. I feel like with mycareer, you know, singing, dancing,
modeling, a girl group, danceMoms, I got kicked off of
the au DC on I got fifth, so like technically to a lot of
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people and to me at the time, I was like, I failed,
Like I didn't win. My careeris over. I got eliminated my biggest
dream. Right after that show,my Instagram career blew up and I hit
a million followers, I got branddeals on brand News, and I got
so many different opportunities to be onother shows, and everyone would come up
to me saying I was their favorite, I loved you in Asia. Without
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that like first failure in my career, I literally wouldn't be where I was
today. So because I learned thatso early on, I really like take
that with me in every little chapterof my life. So I definitely think
that this is very true. Andwhat a belly rum when I show them
how you like your belly rub ohmy godness, matcha. Oh she's so
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cute. Okay, take risks.They often lead to the most rewarding experiences.
I love that one. I feellike that's similar to kind of what
I just said, because like theaudc thing. You know, I didn't
even want to be on that show. Everyone told me it was a reality
show, and my mom and Ijust didn't want to do it. And
they kept on emailing and getting uszoom classes and saying like, oh,
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you know you're gonna win the show. You're gonna have the biggest suite,
like, don't even worry about it. And then we're like, okay,
like get it, macha, youget that button, and yeah, we
honestly took the risk going on thatshow. And yeah, like the last
question, you know, I wouldn'tbe where I was today without that.
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So I have been taking risks sincethirteen. No one says that, you
know, since ninety seven. Allright, Next one, invest in self
care. Physical, mental, andemotional health are more important than you think,
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you know. Spend alone time withyourself and get your laundry put away.
Invest in those like skin care products, those massages, because you know
your back is in so much painand you just need to relax, even
a night in the bath. Youknow, a lot of people nowadays especially
are going to therapy. It's justbecoming so much more talked about. And
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I love that. I am notpersonally in therapy, but I've literally thought
about it the entire year. Ishould probably just do it. It's just
really important because if you feel good, you look good, or if you
look good, feel good, andif everything like comes from the inside out.
Yeah, I just wanted to mentionthat to definitely invest and understand that
self care is important and it shouldnever be like a I don't have time
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or anything like that, because youshould always make time for yourself and your
self care. Set boundaries. Theyare essential for maintaining healthy relationships very important.
A lot of people know this.Basically everyone knows this. It is
very important to set boundaries. Youknow what you are okay with, what
you are not okay with, nonnegotiables that you have, and always like
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speak your truth. I am likestill working on this and doing this like
every day. I am kind oflike I said, like the people please
are kind of type. But Iknow that I should be setting more boundaries
and speaking my mind. So doingthat in twenty twenty four. Next,
practice gratitude daily. It shifts yourperspective and cultivates contentment. I'm such a
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manifestation person and such a affirmations person. We've talked about this so many times
on the podcast, but we won'tget too into that. But definitely just
try to uplift and talk good andspeak good about yourself and the things around
you and life and the world,and take it till you make it.
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Next one, don't be afraid toask for help when you need it.
My dad would always say, whatare they gonna do? Take away your
birthday? And that's always stuck withme. I'm always in the store and
I'm always looking for the salesperson orlike the team member to where is this,
even though like I can just likelook or look it up online nowadays
and see what I all things arein But I always ask for help.
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Literally, and every day of mylife I ask someone for help, whether
it's like their opinion on like thisor that, or I don't know how
to file this document anything. I'malways the person ask for help. So
I definitely do this one. Ido it, I promise. Next one,
learn to forgive holding onto grudges onlyweighs you down. Very very important.
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Everyone knows this. You know.It's so easy to be petty and
to hold grudges and to just cutoff people. And sometimes you do have
to kind of let go and say, you know, you did this,
this and this, and let youknow how it made me feel. You
know, they'll say I'm sorry,and you say, you know, I
forgive you. Sometimes it's got tohappen. This happens years later sometimes where
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the person's like, I'm really sorryfor just basically never speaking to you again.
You know, I just saw thisphoto of you and I wanted to
let you know I'm really sorry fornot speaking to you for so long and
just wanted to make sure like you'regood. And I feel like this happens,
like I said, a lot,and even if it's for them,
sometimes you forgive people for them andthen like you learn to forgive and forget.
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Some people are like, forgive butnever forget. What's the point next.
Pursue your passions relentlessly. They arethe fuel for your soul. Again,
We've talked about this on the podcast, how I want to get back
into dancing and other things like that, So I'll just leave it at that.
But it's very important to keep youhappy doing what makes you happy,
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so definitely, don't, you know, just drop things out of your life.
And it's also good for you tobe dancing or running and working out
and stuff like that. So nextone comparison is the thief of joy.
Focus on your own journey. Thisis very true with social media nowadays.
It's so easy to compare and facetune or look at what your friends are
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doing and wearing and how much they'respending and where they live and what car
they have. And at the endof the day, only your life matters
to you and what you're doing.Don't get too caught up in anything these
days and just do what makes youhappy and wear what you like, post
the picture that you like. Youdon't have to ask all of your friends.
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Just be you. Be yourself andthat's the most important thing that you
can do. Surround yourself with positiveinfluences. They shape your mindset and outlook.
Well, we've talked about this tooon the podcast. I think that
was like literally episode one or twoabout how your friends really shape your even
like your relationship and ships and whoyour partner surrounds your themselves with Surrounding yourself
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with good people, you're gonna bea good person. Surround yourself with you
know, five smokers, you'll bethe sixth. Surround yourself with five hippies,
you'll be a hippie. Surround yourselfwith all grandmas. You're gonna turn
into a grandma. I'm just kidding, but it is. It is very
true, and this is definitely anknown thing. Next, celebrate your achievements,
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no matter how small. Every stepforward is progress. I love this
one. I'm definitely the type tolike, I did this. I'm gonna
go get a pazuki. I didthis. I deserve this. I am
really big on accomplishments, and evenlike with my friends, I like to
celebrate everyone's accomplishments, especially myself,even like Macha, like when it's her
birthday, she gets special things becauseit's an accomplishment, right, Macha,
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you got older. With my boyfriends, he's like helping me set up my
desk and my Twitch and all mysetup, and he's gonna watch my cat
while I'm gone, and I'm likerewarding him because I'm thankful, thank you,
like for doing all of this forme. I'm just gonna do something
nice for you that you've been wantingto do. The reward thing. It
is also kind of you do toyour children, like you've been good,
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like you got good grades. It'sbeen around forever, and I'm definitely a
believer in achievements to other people arelike, thank you for doing this,
Like I'm gonna send you flowers.The same thing with me, like,
oh, you helped me out,you set me up with your financial advisor,
Like, here's flowers. I don'tknow. I'm like a gifts person.
I'm a gift giver. It's mylove language. I like to show
appreciation to people, and I liketo celebrate my own accomplishments and other people's
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accomplishments. Next one, we're gettingclose, guys. This is number eighteen.
Listen to your intuition. It's oftenyour wisest guide. We kind of
talked about this before. This one'sstrictly about your intuition. Yeah, it
is true. It always ends upbeing right. I guess they wouldn't say
always more times than not. Yourintuition is right. It is your intuition
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for a reason. It's very goodtermination factor in my life. So yeah,
cultivate resilience. Life is full ofchallenges, but you are stronger than
you know. This is definitely reallyimportant and good to mention. Still working
on this in life, but definitelywanted to mention that because you know,
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things can just be thrown at youand everything can be going wrong, but
you got it. Embrace change.It's the only constant in life. Isn't
that crazy to think about everything's alwayschanging? I even think like nine to
ninety nine has something to do withthat. I haven't like read about that
in like eight years because I gotthe tattoo seven years ago. Probably yeah,
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I should probably be like really researchingthat first. But everything can be
a new beginning, and at thetime I feel like change is so scary
and so unknown, but everyone canagree that most of the time it's like
a good thing and something that wasmaybe needed that you never even saw that
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you needed. So yeah, practiceempathy. Understanding others enriches your own life.
I think empathy is less talked aboutthan it should be and less taught.
It doesn't happen as much as itshould. People really need to put
other people's feelings and emotions and mindsometimes into consideration. I just think that
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is something that we all need towork on every single day. That's something
that I'm definitely working on too.But it's definitely more important than we think
it is, and we should domore often. So this is twenty two.
Take time to disconnect and recharge.It's essential for balance, definitely important.
Most of us don't do this anymorebecause our phones are like constantly on,
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They're constantly in our hand. Likewe can't even go to the bathroom
without our phone, I swear nowadays. And if I'm not like on my
phone, I'm like playing Xbox,I'm looking at another screen. I'm looking
at my laptop and posting a podcast. Always like phone, screen, tablet,
xbox, blah blah blah. AndI I feel like it's always important
to just put it away, whetherit's five minutes, five hours, or
five days or a whole week retreat. You know, we should try to
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do small things every day to justdisconnect and recharge. Like I said,
all right, keep learning and growing. Knowledge is power, and curiosity fuels
progress. This is so important.I'm really trying to like get back into
and like reading especially. I havenot read a book up until like six
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months ago. In so long.People are going back to school, and
I don't want to stop learning.I didn't really realize that until like about
a year ago. I still wantto learn so many things, whether it's
like about a passion, history orliterally anything relationships, mind, psychological things,
even about like medicine and things thatare good for you things that are
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bad for you food, I don'teven know. I just want to be
learning something new all the time.And last one is to remember to love
yourself. You are worthy of loveand respect always. That's a good way
to end the podcast today. Thankyou guys so much for all the birthday
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wishes first of all and supporting thepodcast. Yeah, let me know down
in the comments on YouTube some thingsthat you've learned in your life or that
you're working on, and also followus on Spotify podcasts and Apple podcasts.
I'll see you guys next Wednesday witha new episode, and I will be
twenty four officially that time. Bye. You've been listening to the Jordan Jowes
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podcast. Jordan's passion is to inspire, relate, and give you that much
needed one hour escape from life's everydaystruggles. Your family and we're so glad
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