May 15, 2024 • 19 mins
Jordyn delves into the world of relationships and dating advice, offering invaluable insights and practical tips for navigating matters of the heart. From overcoming a crush without resorting to social media stalking to bouncing back after a tough breakup, With her signature blend of authenticity and relatability, Jordyn draws from her own experiences to deliver advice that's both heartfelt and refreshingly realistic. Whether you're seeking guidance on love, dating, or simply finding your own path, this episode is a must-listen for anyone navigating the complexities of modern relationships. Don't miss out – hit play now!
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Straw media, trying to see howI look today through the reflection. Hi,
guys, welcome back to the JordanJones Podcast. I am really excited
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for today's episode to get back intothe advice era of this show. We
just had Mother's Day. I'm currentlyin Michigan with my mom. I surprised
her. I hope the surprise wentwell. You guys can always stay up
today on my life through Snapchat.I post twenty four to seven and Macha
(00:43):
is currently with my boyfriend. Imiss her, but you guys get to
see the Macha cam here. Solots going on this week. I just
went to my best friend Lily's graduation. It's crazy how I knew her from.
I don't even know if she wasin middle school yet. She what
was that like upper elementary? Idon't know. In Michigan, we had
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like early L and upper L andI've known her since I was like probably
seven, so I mean, obviouslyshe wasn't in middle school yet, but
then we became best friends when shelived in California. You guys know Lily,
y'all love Lily. Yeah, it'scrazy to see her graduating with athletic
training. So yeah, I justflew to Vegas for like five hours,
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and then surprise my mom in Michigan. So very exciting week. But I'm
excited to sit down and talk toyou guys. So let's just get right
into it and hang out. Sothis first question is how to get over
your crush. I'm assuming that inthis situation, it's someone that you've basically
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had like a conversation with, orlike you just know that they're not interested,
so you have to now just getover them. And maybe nothing really
happened, like you guys didn't kissor anything. So with my understanding of
the situation, I just feel likenumber one not stalking them on social media.
I think nowadays a lot of peoplereally do that, and they have
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separate accounts and they are just crazychecking even people's like TikTok reposts and Twitter
likes and the person posting stories andposts and what they're commenting on and who
they're following. It's kind of likethis unhealthy obsession of stalking nowadays, and
I feel like people really do thatwith their crushes because there's just so much
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anxiety with like a crush, whatifs and what if he's doing this?
What if he's talking to this person. What if she's I don't know,
talking to all these other guys.So there's just a lot of anxiety with
that. So I think that's wherethe stalking comes from. But I think
that that's number one. Trying tonot look and not obsess over what they're
doing and where they're at and whothey're with. But if you're not doing
that, I would also say justtrying to fill your time doing something else.
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I feel like we spend a lotof time alone and like thinking,
and you're just like thinking about themor fantasizing things and wanting things to be
a certain way. But if you'redoing something else, your mind can't even
like it doesn't have that space tothink about this guy or this girl.
So I think doing something or goingon a walk, well, when I
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go on walks, I do tendto think deeply. That's my thinking time.
But if I do play music onmy walks, it helps me to
not think and just kind of likeenjoy the walk and the surroundings and you
know, life. So trying todo something that keeps your mind kind of
focused on different things is always good. But that's just good in general.
I would say the last thing issay, if they're in your like friend
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group, just give yourself a littlespace from that group for a little bit
so you can have time to getover it. If that's like hard for
you to do, then just keepyour healthy distance and balance with time with
that person or that friend group,because you don't want to get stuck in
a toxic cycle by yourself. You'rein one day, you're having so much
fun with him, and then youknow he's ghosting you and you're not seeing
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him. It's just a bad cycleto get into. So having time for
yourself will help you so much duringthat. But I would say the stalking
thing is like number one because that'swhat everyone does nowadays, and people will
do this with x's, with theirsituationship with someone that they just have a
crush on. No matter what thescenario, people are just stalking, So
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try to not stalk. Okay,next question, when do you know to
get back in the game after along relationship that ended bad? Wow?
I honestly don't know if I've evergotten a question like this Wow, huh,
especially if it ended badly. Iwould say, if something ended really
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badly for you and you haven't gottenattention, you haven't been treated right.
I think that it is so easyfor you to get caught up in the
wrong things after a relationship ended,because you kind of feel a sense of
safety. Wow, this person's likeseeing me and noticing me and they want
to hang out with me, andthen you're kind of taking that like attention
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that you hadn't had. A lotof people say a relationship would end because
you're missing like ten percent of someone, and because you don't have that ten
percent, you break up with themor you want to go be with someone
new because that person has that tenpercent, but they're missing that ninety I
don't really know where I'm getting withthat, but a lot of people will
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have that. They'll look for thatten percent after a bad breakup or a
breakup in general. I don't drink, so say, if my boyfriend breaks
up with me because he wants togo out and party and drink, there's
this one girl that's doing that.That's how you get kind of like in
the wrong things. You're not seeinglike that full picture really. So I
feel like with like the ending badthing, you'll just want some attention.
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Basically you'll go out and start dating. But after a long bad breakup,
You're not really trying to look forsomething serious, is what I'm saying.
So oh with that, just literallytry to do no boys. Obviously,
this question is how to get backin the game, but before you get
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back in the game, you reallyneed to do a like no boys or
no girls, no flirting. Reallytry to like find yourself after this,
because if this did end badly,you're probably not good mentally or physically.
Because if you're not good here,you're not good there, You're not good
there, you're not good here.So so many different of my friends or
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myself personally, we go for thislike attention thing after a breakup. I
have one friend right now who's kindof doing that, and I'm just like,
pull it together, get yourself grounded. First. You don't really know
what your life is gonna be likedown the road, so you kind of
just go crazy and it's not good. But how to get back into the
game after a long relationship, afteryou've healed, after you've taken time for
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yourself and you really know what youwant. I'm really not good at this
type of advice. That's why I'venever gonna ask it. But I have
a lot of older friends so I'mgonna say what they say. What they
tell me. That is, say, if you're a woman and you want
to constantly like look good so thatyou can find the one. Okay,
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So I have like a couple ofmy friends who are like, always dress
your best. You know, inLa dating is really hard because everyone is
just so I mean, I guessa lot of places in the United States
now everyone is just like so prettyoutfits are always looking good. There's so
much pressure nowadays, especially with TikTokand Instagram. So looking your best helps
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you feel good and attract good energyand people around you. Because when I
when I like feel good, likethe past couple of days, I've been
doing my makeup for me, it'sjust so I look good and I feel
good. I feel like it makesme have a better energy. So if
you're really trying to like put yourselfout there, I would say, put
yourself out there feeling your best,looking your best. And of course in
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a relationship, you get comfortable andyou start to like not have makeup on
every day or not dressing up.But when you're just like trying to find
love, I would say, likethat's like step one for girls and for
guys, it's just like going tothe right places because of like my type
and what I like. I'm notgoing to find them at a club.
I'm not going to find them ata bar late at night or bar hopping
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or I don't know, stuff thatI'm not into. So if I'm into
working out or plates or going onwalks and going to coffee shops, you
just have to go to these typesof places that you like and you can
meet people who like what you like. I would also say social media has
to be a part of this questionbecause putting yourself out there is also online.
Obviously, online dating now is sobig in dating apps or websites,
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and if you want to start puttingyourself out there, you can do this
and just get to talk to somepeople online because going in person and going
on dates could be so stressful foryou right now, So that is also
something to keep in mind. Islike dating apps, and it doesn't mean
that you're going to meet a differentgirl every night. You can just start
talking to people online or through Instagram, dms, and I just feel like
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that will help you get more confidenceand put yourself out there in a way
that you haven't in a long timeif you haven't been flirting or dating.
So I guess I'm gonna leave itat that because I am not super good
at giving advice in this topic.So we'll just get on to the next
question. But I hope you guysgot some sense of ideas from that next
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one. He is really sweet,but he follows a lot of thirst trap
kind of girls. How can Iavoid it hitting my confidence again? For
me? In my opinion, Ithink that if a guy is following,
say I, you're brunette and they'reall blonde girls, they all got a
big button, you have big boobs, this person's clearly looking for something else.
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He's not wanting to settle down.He's not serious, he's not trying
to get married right now, Iwould steer clear of these types of guys.
A guy's like Instagram and a girl'sInstagram can tell you everything about them.
But also with girls, I feellike we do try to like show
off our body more for attention fromguys. But it's a totally messed up
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mindset because we don't even want toattract those types of guys. So with
guys like following all these girls,they're not trying to settle down, they
don't want a relationship. One ofmy boyfriend's friends follows a lot of girls,
and I had told him one time, because he was trying to DM
this girl, you have to unfollowthese girls. He was like trying to
be serious about her, and thegirl had brought up his like Instagram.
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He's like, I don't know whyshe cares about that, Like, what's
so bad about that? I'm likeyou, what if you really like this
girl? Just unfollow these people.You don't even know them, you've never
met them, and you know hedidn't and they don't talk anymore. So
if you're a guy out there andyou follow all these girls and you really
like this one girl right now,just unfollow them? Why not? Why
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still follow them? If a girl'sbrought it up, said that it bothers
her and you care about her,just do it. Don't be stubborn.
Okay, don't be stubborn boys,But how can you avoid it hitting your
confidence? I really don't know.I wouldn't get myself involved in that because
I'm not that chill girl. I'mnot gonna be the girl. Oh yeah,
follow all these girls like I don'tmind. Like he's with me,
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I'm not that chill girl. Ifyou want to be with me and it
upsets me, just don't follow themand then there's no issue. If you
don't want to be with like acontrolling girl, then just don't be with
a controlling girl. Then that caresabout you so backwards. But yeah,
that's my thoughts. I wouldn't doit. I wouldn't be with someone who
likes all these random girls like bikinipictures and stuff, because there's a lot
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of other guys out there that won'tdo that. So yeah, next question,
what to do if he doesn't likeyour cat? Wow, if he's
allergic to cats, I just don'tknow if it would work out. Buddy.
I'm so happy with like my situationover here that I don't know what
it would be like if my significantother didn't like cats or was allergic to
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cats. My friend sent this onein because we were on the phone,
and it was just so funny becauseshe also has like two friend chees and
she's like, but what if theydon't like dogs or friend cheese? Next,
Like, that's what she was saying. Yeah, my friend right now
is dating someone who is allergic tocats. But luckily her mom sometimes kind
of watches owns the cat by nowand so like it's not a big deal.
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But she's like, I wouldn't evenbe able to have the cat now
if you know he was over orwhatever, because he's like really allergic to
cats. And I'm like, ohmy god, it could never do that.
It's just so stressful. And Ilove my cat and like she can
sleep in the bed with us,And if you're not cool with that,
I don't really know what I woulddo. That would suck. That would
suck. Next one, there's thisgirl I like, but I don't know
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how to approach her and seem interestingto her. How to approach her,
I mean texting her, ming her, or swepping up on her story is
always a good way to start,unless you want to do like the old
fashioned walking up to her thing andgiving her a nice compliment. That's always
a good one, you know,you walk up to her, leave a
compliment and go, or same thingwith like the Instagram you swipe up you
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say so pretty is always a goodone, or like an eyeball emoji is
a good like starter, you wantto kind of test the waters instead of
just coming out and being like sopretty, send the little eyeballs. You
pop it up in their little timeline, but they don't really know what it
means, but like they kind ofknow it's a good way to test the
waters. And how to approach herand seem seeming interesting is hard to do
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nowadays. Off of like one interactionthat would just have to be, you
know, a first date kind ofthing where you're telling her about your life.
I would say always being vulnerable andup front off the bat is always
interesting because nowadays people will totally hidefeelings in their life and their insecurities and
you know what they've gone through,and then you know a month two later,
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that's when they like open up.I feel like, if you want
to seem interesting, open up alittle bit. Yeah. I think that
that the Instagram thing the eyeballs isa really good idea. Okay, next
on, how do you get aguy to get you flowers? Like?
I want my man to get meflowers? Okay, how to get your
man to get you flowers? Ithink when I started dating my boyfriend,
I expressed how I liked flowers andwhich ones were my favorite, and you
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know, when he got me flowersfor the first time, I was above
and beyond you know, excited andhappy, and I kept them. I
still have the first flowers. Ifa guy sees you be really happy about
something, they would want to continueit, and I just would say when
it happens to be very appreciative ofit. I wouldn't send him little hints
try to make him feel bad aboutit, because that's a way to kind
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of make him be stubborn about it, especially if it's like a younger guy.
If I was to send my boyfrienda guy getting a girl flowers or
like those huge bouquets, I don'thint it at all. He just knows
it makes me happy, and heknows which ones I like, and I
am so thankful when he gets themthat he kind of likes that routine with
me. I get flowers at leastonce a month. He always picks me
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up from the airport with flowers him. Ja. Yeah, it's just something
that I really love. So heknows that and he wants to make me
happy. So maybe just like expressinghow much you love flowers, but not
degrading like, oh, you neverdo this, I have to ask for
this, that kind of thing.It's not gonna be like a backwards reward
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kind of thing. I wouldn't sayget mad at him for it, and
then he does it because I don'tlike that feeling of like, oh,
he only did it because I gotmad, or he only did it because
I just sent him that thing.And guys work that same way. They
don't want to be hinted at.They don't want to like you never get
me flowers, like he's not gonnagive you flowers because he said that,
So I would just say expressing howmuch you love them and stuff like that.
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Last one, your boyfriend doesn't postyou, but will post games or
gym things. Okay, this obviouslycan go bold ways. One way is
the Instagram theory, you know he'strying to hide you, and the other
one is he actually wants to beprivate with his relationship because men and friends
and the internet is really mean andjust like can ruin things for you.
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You have to kind of hear whathe has to say. This is definitely
a person to person thing. Ifhe's like, oh my god, I
just posted you last week stuff likethat, I feel like you're in the
clear. If it's just like Ijust did this or I don't know,
I posted you for Valentine's day orwhatever, Like, he's not trying to
keep you a secret. Secret inprivate is different. I think private is
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the way to go nowadays. Andsecret is if you are just nowhere to
be found on that man's Instagram,and he will make every excuse in the
book about why he's not posting you, that is so not okay, that
is not good. But if you'rejust like somewhere to be found on the
Instagram, he's not trying to hideyou. He just wants to be about
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his relationship and not let people ruinit. If your boyfriend does not repost
a story every once in a whilewith you, it's not good. It's
not normal, especially if like you'reposting him all the time, like on
your feed and everything and tiktoks.It's not good. It's not fair,
especially if that's something that you doand want to do and like share him.
Yeah, I mean I sometimes willpost like my boyfriend, but it's
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not all the time, and Idefinitely want to keep it more private.
But it's not a secret. Peopleknow I'm in a relationship. People know
a little bit about us, butthat's it. I don't want to post
him every day. I want topost him on my feed or make all
these TikTok trends with him because oflike clout and fame. It's just like
real. I like to keep ita little bit private nowadays. You know
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with this, you just have tohear what he has to say about it.
It's person to person. Don't letit take a huge toll on you.
I feel like this definitely comes withmaturity. If I was younger,
I would be throwing a fit aboutbeing private because it was just not something
that I wanted to do. Butnow I do and I get it.
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Straw media, trying to see howI look today through the reflection. Hi,
guys, welcome back to the JordanJones Podcast. I am really excited
(00:22):
for today's episode to get back intothe advice era of this show. We
just had Mother's Day. I'm currentlyin Michigan with my mom. I surprised
her. I hope the surprise wentwell. You guys can always stay up
today on my life through Snapchat.I post twenty four to seven and Macha
(00:43):
is currently with my boyfriend. Imiss her, but you guys get to
see the Macha cam here. Solots going on this week. I just
went to my best friend Lily's graduation. It's crazy how I knew her from.
I don't even know if she wasin middle school yet. She what
was that like upper elementary? Idon't know. In Michigan, we had
(01:03):
like early L and upper L andI've known her since I was like probably
seven, so I mean, obviouslyshe wasn't in middle school yet, but
then we became best friends when shelived in California. You guys know Lily,
y'all love Lily. Yeah, it'scrazy to see her graduating with athletic
training. So yeah, I justflew to Vegas for like five hours,
(01:25):
and then surprise my mom in Michigan. So very exciting week. But I'm
excited to sit down and talk toyou guys. So let's just get right
into it and hang out. Sothis first question is how to get over
your crush. I'm assuming that inthis situation, it's someone that you've basically
(01:45):
had like a conversation with, orlike you just know that they're not interested,
so you have to now just getover them. And maybe nothing really
happened, like you guys didn't kissor anything. So with my understanding of
the situation, I just feel likenumber one not stalking them on social media.
I think nowadays a lot of peoplereally do that, and they have
(02:07):
separate accounts and they are just crazychecking even people's like TikTok reposts and Twitter
likes and the person posting stories andposts and what they're commenting on and who
they're following. It's kind of likethis unhealthy obsession of stalking nowadays, and
I feel like people really do thatwith their crushes because there's just so much
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anxiety with like a crush, whatifs and what if he's doing this?
What if he's talking to this person. What if she's I don't know,
talking to all these other guys.So there's just a lot of anxiety with
that. So I think that's wherethe stalking comes from. But I think
that that's number one. Trying tonot look and not obsess over what they're
doing and where they're at and whothey're with. But if you're not doing
that, I would also say justtrying to fill your time doing something else.
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I feel like we spend a lotof time alone and like thinking,
and you're just like thinking about themor fantasizing things and wanting things to be
a certain way. But if you'redoing something else, your mind can't even
like it doesn't have that space tothink about this guy or this girl.
So I think doing something or goingon a walk, well, when I
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go on walks, I do tendto think deeply. That's my thinking time.
But if I do play music onmy walks, it helps me to
not think and just kind of likeenjoy the walk and the surroundings and you
know, life. So trying todo something that keeps your mind kind of
focused on different things is always good. But that's just good in general.
I would say the last thing issay, if they're in your like friend
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group, just give yourself a littlespace from that group for a little bit
so you can have time to getover it. If that's like hard for
you to do, then just keepyour healthy distance and balance with time with
that person or that friend group,because you don't want to get stuck in
a toxic cycle by yourself. You'rein one day, you're having so much
fun with him, and then youknow he's ghosting you and you're not seeing
(03:59):
him. It's just a bad cycleto get into. So having time for
yourself will help you so much duringthat. But I would say the stalking
thing is like number one because that'swhat everyone does nowadays, and people will
do this with x's, with theirsituationship with someone that they just have a
crush on. No matter what thescenario, people are just stalking, So
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try to not stalk. Okay,next question, when do you know to
get back in the game after along relationship that ended bad? Wow?
I honestly don't know if I've evergotten a question like this Wow, huh,
especially if it ended badly. Iwould say, if something ended really
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badly for you and you haven't gottenattention, you haven't been treated right.
I think that it is so easyfor you to get caught up in the
wrong things after a relationship ended,because you kind of feel a sense of
safety. Wow, this person's likeseeing me and noticing me and they want
to hang out with me, andthen you're kind of taking that like attention
(05:05):
that you hadn't had. A lotof people say a relationship would end because
you're missing like ten percent of someone, and because you don't have that ten
percent, you break up with themor you want to go be with someone
new because that person has that tenpercent, but they're missing that ninety I
don't really know where I'm getting withthat, but a lot of people will
(05:26):
have that. They'll look for thatten percent after a bad breakup or a
breakup in general. I don't drink, so say, if my boyfriend breaks
up with me because he wants togo out and party and drink, there's
this one girl that's doing that.That's how you get kind of like in
the wrong things. You're not seeinglike that full picture really. So I
feel like with like the ending badthing, you'll just want some attention.
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Basically you'll go out and start dating. But after a long bad breakup,
You're not really trying to look forsomething serious, is what I'm saying.
So oh with that, just literallytry to do no boys. Obviously,
this question is how to get backin the game, but before you get
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back in the game, you reallyneed to do a like no boys or
no girls, no flirting. Reallytry to like find yourself after this,
because if this did end badly,you're probably not good mentally or physically.
Because if you're not good here,you're not good there, You're not good
there, you're not good here.So so many different of my friends or
(06:30):
myself personally, we go for thislike attention thing after a breakup. I
have one friend right now who's kindof doing that, and I'm just like,
pull it together, get yourself grounded. First. You don't really know
what your life is gonna be likedown the road, so you kind of
just go crazy and it's not good. But how to get back into the
game after a long relationship, afteryou've healed, after you've taken time for
(06:55):
yourself and you really know what youwant. I'm really not good at this
type of advice. That's why I'venever gonna ask it. But I have
a lot of older friends so I'mgonna say what they say. What they
tell me. That is, say, if you're a woman and you want
to constantly like look good so thatyou can find the one. Okay,
(07:15):
So I have like a couple ofmy friends who are like, always dress
your best. You know, inLa dating is really hard because everyone is
just so I mean, I guessa lot of places in the United States
now everyone is just like so prettyoutfits are always looking good. There's so
much pressure nowadays, especially with TikTokand Instagram. So looking your best helps
(07:39):
you feel good and attract good energyand people around you. Because when I
when I like feel good, likethe past couple of days, I've been
doing my makeup for me, it'sjust so I look good and I feel
good. I feel like it makesme have a better energy. So if
you're really trying to like put yourselfout there, I would say, put
yourself out there feeling your best,looking your best. And of course in
(08:03):
a relationship, you get comfortable andyou start to like not have makeup on
every day or not dressing up.But when you're just like trying to find
love, I would say, likethat's like step one for girls and for
guys, it's just like going tothe right places because of like my type
and what I like. I'm notgoing to find them at a club.
I'm not going to find them ata bar late at night or bar hopping
(08:24):
or I don't know, stuff thatI'm not into. So if I'm into
working out or plates or going onwalks and going to coffee shops, you
just have to go to these typesof places that you like and you can
meet people who like what you like. I would also say social media has
to be a part of this questionbecause putting yourself out there is also online.
Obviously, online dating now is sobig in dating apps or websites,
(08:48):
and if you want to start puttingyourself out there, you can do this
and just get to talk to somepeople online because going in person and going
on dates could be so stressful foryou right now, So that is also
something to keep in mind. Islike dating apps, and it doesn't mean
that you're going to meet a differentgirl every night. You can just start
talking to people online or through Instagram, dms, and I just feel like
(09:11):
that will help you get more confidenceand put yourself out there in a way
that you haven't in a long timeif you haven't been flirting or dating.
So I guess I'm gonna leave itat that because I am not super good
at giving advice in this topic.So we'll just get on to the next
question. But I hope you guysgot some sense of ideas from that next
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one. He is really sweet,but he follows a lot of thirst trap
kind of girls. How can Iavoid it hitting my confidence again? For
me? In my opinion, Ithink that if a guy is following,
say I, you're brunette and they'reall blonde girls, they all got a
big button, you have big boobs, this person's clearly looking for something else.
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He's not wanting to settle down.He's not serious, he's not trying
to get married right now, Iwould steer clear of these types of guys.
A guy's like Instagram and a girl'sInstagram can tell you everything about them.
But also with girls, I feellike we do try to like show
off our body more for attention fromguys. But it's a totally messed up
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mindset because we don't even want toattract those types of guys. So with
guys like following all these girls,they're not trying to settle down, they
don't want a relationship. One ofmy boyfriend's friends follows a lot of girls,
and I had told him one time, because he was trying to DM
this girl, you have to unfollowthese girls. He was like trying to
be serious about her, and thegirl had brought up his like Instagram.
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He's like, I don't know whyshe cares about that, Like, what's
so bad about that? I'm likeyou, what if you really like this
girl? Just unfollow these people.You don't even know them, you've never
met them, and you know hedidn't and they don't talk anymore. So
if you're a guy out there andyou follow all these girls and you really
like this one girl right now,just unfollow them? Why not? Why
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still follow them? If a girl'sbrought it up, said that it bothers
her and you care about her,just do it. Don't be stubborn.
Okay, don't be stubborn boys,But how can you avoid it hitting your
confidence? I really don't know.I wouldn't get myself involved in that because
I'm not that chill girl. I'mnot gonna be the girl. Oh yeah,
follow all these girls like I don'tmind. Like he's with me,
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I'm not that chill girl. Ifyou want to be with me and it
upsets me, just don't follow themand then there's no issue. If you
don't want to be with like acontrolling girl, then just don't be with
a controlling girl. Then that caresabout you so backwards. But yeah,
that's my thoughts. I wouldn't doit. I wouldn't be with someone who
likes all these random girls like bikinipictures and stuff, because there's a lot
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of other guys out there that won'tdo that. So yeah, next question,
what to do if he doesn't likeyour cat? Wow, if he's
allergic to cats, I just don'tknow if it would work out. Buddy.
I'm so happy with like my situationover here that I don't know what
it would be like if my significantother didn't like cats or was allergic to
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cats. My friend sent this onein because we were on the phone,
and it was just so funny becauseshe also has like two friend chees and
she's like, but what if theydon't like dogs or friend cheese? Next,
Like, that's what she was saying. Yeah, my friend right now
is dating someone who is allergic tocats. But luckily her mom sometimes kind
of watches owns the cat by nowand so like it's not a big deal.
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But she's like, I wouldn't evenbe able to have the cat now
if you know he was over orwhatever, because he's like really allergic to
cats. And I'm like, ohmy god, it could never do that.
It's just so stressful. And Ilove my cat and like she can
sleep in the bed with us,And if you're not cool with that,
I don't really know what I woulddo. That would suck. That would
suck. Next one, there's thisgirl I like, but I don't know
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how to approach her and seem interestingto her. How to approach her,
I mean texting her, ming her, or swepping up on her story is
always a good way to start,unless you want to do like the old
fashioned walking up to her thing andgiving her a nice compliment. That's always
a good one, you know,you walk up to her, leave a
compliment and go, or same thingwith like the Instagram you swipe up you
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say so pretty is always a goodone, or like an eyeball emoji is
a good like starter, you wantto kind of test the waters instead of
just coming out and being like sopretty, send the little eyeballs. You
pop it up in their little timeline, but they don't really know what it
means, but like they kind ofknow it's a good way to test the
waters. And how to approach herand seem seeming interesting is hard to do
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nowadays. Off of like one interactionthat would just have to be, you
know, a first date kind ofthing where you're telling her about your life.
I would say always being vulnerable andup front off the bat is always
interesting because nowadays people will totally hidefeelings in their life and their insecurities and
you know what they've gone through,and then you know a month two later,
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that's when they like open up.I feel like, if you want
to seem interesting, open up alittle bit. Yeah. I think that
that the Instagram thing the eyeballs isa really good idea. Okay, next
on, how do you get aguy to get you flowers? Like?
I want my man to get meflowers? Okay, how to get your
man to get you flowers? Ithink when I started dating my boyfriend,
I expressed how I liked flowers andwhich ones were my favorite, and you
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know, when he got me flowersfor the first time, I was above
and beyond you know, excited andhappy, and I kept them. I
still have the first flowers. Ifa guy sees you be really happy about
something, they would want to continueit, and I just would say when
it happens to be very appreciative ofit. I wouldn't send him little hints
try to make him feel bad aboutit, because that's a way to kind
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of make him be stubborn about it, especially if it's like a younger guy.
If I was to send my boyfrienda guy getting a girl flowers or
like those huge bouquets, I don'thint it at all. He just knows
it makes me happy, and heknows which ones I like, and I
am so thankful when he gets themthat he kind of likes that routine with
me. I get flowers at leastonce a month. He always picks me
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up from the airport with flowers him. Ja. Yeah, it's just something
that I really love. So heknows that and he wants to make me
happy. So maybe just like expressinghow much you love flowers, but not
degrading like, oh, you neverdo this, I have to ask for
this, that kind of thing.It's not gonna be like a backwards reward
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kind of thing. I wouldn't sayget mad at him for it, and
then he does it because I don'tlike that feeling of like, oh,
he only did it because I gotmad, or he only did it because
I just sent him that thing.And guys work that same way. They
don't want to be hinted at.They don't want to like you never get
me flowers, like he's not gonnagive you flowers because he said that,
So I would just say expressing howmuch you love them and stuff like that.
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Last one, your boyfriend doesn't postyou, but will post games or
gym things. Okay, this obviouslycan go bold ways. One way is
the Instagram theory, you know he'strying to hide you, and the other
one is he actually wants to beprivate with his relationship because men and friends
and the internet is really mean andjust like can ruin things for you.
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You have to kind of hear whathe has to say. This is definitely
a person to person thing. Ifhe's like, oh my god, I
just posted you last week stuff likethat, I feel like you're in the
clear. If it's just like Ijust did this or I don't know,
I posted you for Valentine's day orwhatever, Like, he's not trying to
keep you a secret. Secret inprivate is different. I think private is
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the way to go nowadays. Andsecret is if you are just nowhere to
be found on that man's Instagram,and he will make every excuse in the
book about why he's not posting you, that is so not okay, that
is not good. But if you'rejust like somewhere to be found on the
Instagram, he's not trying to hideyou. He just wants to be about
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his relationship and not let people ruinit. If your boyfriend does not repost
a story every once in a whilewith you, it's not good. It's
not normal, especially if like you'reposting him all the time, like on
your feed and everything and tiktoks.It's not good. It's not fair,
especially if that's something that you doand want to do and like share him.
Yeah, I mean I sometimes willpost like my boyfriend, but it's
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not all the time, and Idefinitely want to keep it more private.
But it's not a secret. Peopleknow I'm in a relationship. People know
a little bit about us, butthat's it. I don't want to post
him every day. I want topost him on my feed or make all
these TikTok trends with him because oflike clout and fame. It's just like
real. I like to keep ita little bit private nowadays. You know
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with this, you just have tohear what he has to say about it.
It's person to person. Don't letit take a huge toll on you.
I feel like this definitely comes withmaturity. If I was younger,
I would be throwing a fit aboutbeing private because it was just not something
that I wanted to do. Butnow I do and I get it.
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