June 26, 2024 • 19 mins
In this episode, Jordyn Jones spills the tea on modern dating, weighing in on whether dating apps or meeting in person is the way to go! She shares her insights with online dating dangers like catfishing and why she prefers the magic of face-to-face connections. Jordyn also dishes out juicy tips for keeping long-distance love alive, from communication hacks to surprise visits. Need to ask someone out? She's got you covered with fun and creative ideas! Plus, learn how to be the ultimate wingman and help your friends glow up and find their perfect match. Tune in for a fun and flirty chat you won't want to miss!
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Speaker 1 (00:01):
Straw media. Okay, and how'd you ask her to be
your girlfriend? That's yeah, that's what they all say.
Speaker 2 (00:15):
You just sort of have that kind of wish and
did it.
Speaker 1 (00:17):
I'm just kidding. I'm just kidding.
Speaker 2 (00:18):
I love love. Okay.
Speaker 1 (00:29):
Hey guys, it's Jordan Jones. Welcome back to the Jordan
Jones Podcast. Today, Macha is not here. She's at home
looking out the window. I have a couple of things
to do today, so she has to be.
Speaker 2 (00:41):
Alone for a little bit.
Speaker 1 (00:42):
But I'm excited for today's episode. But before I get
into that, I wanted to tell you guys about my
new hair. You might have noticed I just got eighteen
or twenty inch blonde hair extensions. As you can see
if you're watching from YouTube, A lot of people have
been asking me exactly which extend I got because there's
so many that you can do.
Speaker 2 (01:01):
There's the sew in, there's tapin, just.
Speaker 1 (01:05):
Clip bonds k tips, which is like keratin bonds. So
there's at least like ten different types of extensions and mine.
I was there from ten am to five thirty on Friday.
Speaker 2 (01:17):
This is the final result.
Speaker 1 (01:19):
I love. It is definitely worth the hours in the
hair salon. I love being in the hair salon, though
I love my hairdresser. She's amazing. These are called Great
Lengths Caratin Bonds. I need to learn a little bit
more about them technically before I speak on it, but
I know that they're responsibly sourced by a church in India.
(01:40):
So they come here and they're all braided and taken
care of nicely, and they're already you know, bleached and everything.
The main difference between these extensions and other extensions is
that these will actually like shrink like natural hair when
they get wet, and then they like expand when they're dry,
so it's literally like real, real hair. Everything that she
(02:01):
was telling me about the certain brand that she uses,
because I was going back and forth between Tapins and
Great Lengths. She was just very passionate about this because
her whole salon everything is reused plastics. She's all about
health and wellness, being responsible and thoughtful with this planet
and everything.
Speaker 2 (02:21):
So I was totally sold on these. So these were
like the best thing I could get.
Speaker 1 (02:25):
And yeah, it did take a long time and they're
very expensive, but it is definitely worth it.
Speaker 2 (02:30):
I obviously had to get my hair dyed.
Speaker 1 (02:32):
A little bit too, because my hair was getting a
little dingy as I like to say it, but.
Speaker 2 (02:38):
I love it.
Speaker 1 (02:39):
And they do stay in for they say from three
to six months, but my hair juster recommended two and
a half months just because they can start to pull
and like you know, your hair obviously grows, so where
the extension is, if it continues to grow, it.
Speaker 2 (02:53):
Can just like get knotted more and everything like that.
Speaker 1 (02:56):
So she just recommended two and a half months. So
around middle of August, middle to end of August, I'll
be getting them out and I can get them all
redback re put back in my hair. That's something that's
kind of weird with these extensions. Once the two and
a half months is done, you have to take everything
out and then you have to get new hair. I
(03:16):
think at least you have to take everything out and
put it all back in, and it's the same long process.
But other types of hairs you can kind of just
redo it pretty easily or like quickly.
Speaker 2 (03:29):
So yeah, it's definitely a long process.
Speaker 1 (03:31):
And most men are like, oh my god, you spent
more than an hour on the salon. I haven't spent
an hour in the salon since I was before getting
my hair cut.
Speaker 2 (03:41):
But yeah, I love it.
Speaker 1 (03:42):
I seriously don't know if I will ever stop getting them.
It just makes every day better. I curled my hair
last night and I didn't have to do anything today
and it's so nice.
Speaker 2 (03:52):
I love it.
Speaker 1 (03:53):
All right, All right, enough about my hair. Let's get
into the episode. This one's all about dating questions, something
we've never really spoke about. Like, I haven't really gotten
these kinds of questions before, but I feel like we're
getting a more older, mature audience, and these questions are
a little bit more mature than some of the other
questions we talk about. So is it better to go
(04:16):
on dating apps or meet people in real life? For
me personally, I would always say meeting in real life,
But I know that is super hard for people to.
Speaker 2 (04:26):
Do, especially nowadays.
Speaker 1 (04:28):
But if you have a friend group, everyone says that
you meet people in the friend group, you know what
I mean, friends have like brothers or sisters. It kind
of is just all connected with your one friend group
that you've met. I don't know about me and dating apps.
I've never done them.
Speaker 2 (04:44):
I've never been on them. There's one dating app that's
like exclusive.
Speaker 1 (04:48):
I don't know if it's just in La or just
for celebrities or something. But I was like sixteen or
seventeen and my friend Stevie told me about it, so
I tried to like apply for for it to be
on it, and I immediately got denied because you had
to be eighteen and you can never redo it.
Speaker 2 (05:06):
If I were to do.
Speaker 1 (05:06):
A dating app, it'd probably be that one, and I
can't ever get on that one. And I'm definitely not
interested in being on a dating app, and I hope
I never ever have to be. But there's that one
dating app that sure I like tried to get on
when I was under eighteen and single, but now I
am no longer single, and I have never.
Speaker 2 (05:26):
Done the dating apps thing. I've always just met people.
Speaker 1 (05:29):
But Instagram and all these social media apps nowadays are
basically dating apps, and I do hear my single friends
talking about that where it's basically a dating app. You're
meeting people, you see them on a story or whatever,
and you slide up in their dms. It's the same
thing when I'm picturing like an Instagram meetup versus a
in person, like oh I like your style, blah blah blah.
Speaker 2 (05:52):
Like the olden days.
Speaker 1 (05:53):
That is something that I would say is more long lasting.
Speaker 2 (05:57):
But then you see all these commercials about like.
Speaker 1 (05:59):
Match dot com one hundred million successful marriages and relationships
go you guys.
Speaker 2 (06:05):
I just don't know if that would be for me ever.
Speaker 1 (06:08):
And I know again, like my friends have really bad
experiences on these dating apps, but I'm sure it happens,
not even on these dating apps through Instagram nowadays with catfishing,
even just like dangerous people, it's kind.
Speaker 2 (06:21):
Of like scary. I prefer meeting in person so I
can get their vibe.
Speaker 1 (06:25):
I can take time to meet them and hang out school, work,
coffee shop, whatever, or even maybe Instagram, but Instagram turning
into a lot of FaceTime calls then meeting up. I
just I don't think it should be a swipe up,
hang out kind of thing from a dating app. You
(06:45):
really gotta proceed with caution with those. But that's just me.
Next question, how to make long distance relationships work?
Speaker 2 (06:54):
I think number one would.
Speaker 1 (06:55):
Be time making time for them.
Speaker 2 (06:58):
For your day to day.
Speaker 1 (07:00):
If you really want to be in a relationship and
your long distance, it has to be something that you
think of and something that plays into your day to day.
I think that if you're not I would say that
it's inconsiderate and you shouldn't be.
Speaker 2 (07:12):
In a relationship.
Speaker 1 (07:13):
Of course, other people's relationships are different than like how
I view relationships. But I just see like tiktoks about
how I.
Speaker 2 (07:20):
Think this is the cutest thing ever.
Speaker 1 (07:22):
By the way they'll set up their like iPads and
they'll cook a meal on the phone together, and then
they'll eat it and they'll be on the phone and
it's like a date. And I think that that is
something so cool and fun. I always see like the
girls helping out the guys with the cooking, even though
I feel like the men are like usually like the
steak person, and then these girls are like.
Speaker 2 (07:42):
Okay, honey.
Speaker 1 (07:43):
So you see it for three to four minutes.
Speaker 2 (07:46):
Such a cool way to keep the.
Speaker 1 (07:48):
Spark going long distance, but obviously just phone calls and
check ins. I do think that like texting twenty four
to seven is probably not a good thing, because it's
nice when you're a long distance to be able to
call someone and tell them about your entire day or
just really have stuff to talk about to again keep
the spark going. If it's kind of just the same
(08:09):
thing every single day, it will probably get boring. But
that is also with every relationship, you gotta have something different,
You gotta have some pizazz in your day to day conversation.
But another thing I would say is if it's like
a money thing, I think that saving up money is
definitely important trying to be more considered about Say if
(08:30):
your plane tickets like two hundred and fifty dollars to
go see them, and then like not getting this extra
thing at the store, don't go shopping that month as much,
save up money to go see your person.
Speaker 2 (08:41):
Because I feel like if I were.
Speaker 1 (08:43):
In a long distance relationship and it was a money
thing where they couldn't come see me all the time,
but I see them out with their friends every single weekend,
that would just make me feel like, oh wow, they
clearly don't want to see me because they're doing this
every single weekend. It's not just you know, have fun
with your friends, do it whatever you want. But if
it was me and I saw that all the time
(09:03):
and it was a money thing, that would probably kill
a long distance relationship. And then something else, say if
it was like just fun, little whether it's cheap or expensive,
little surprises to them is very important. Even like when
I've been in Michigan and my brother has sent I
mean my brother.
Speaker 2 (09:22):
Michigan. Brother just goes hand in hand.
Speaker 1 (09:26):
Not my brother and my boyfriend's like sent us flowers
like for my mom's birthday, and just like stuff like that,
that kind of thoughtfulness like sending stuff or even if
it was like a cute text or like a picture
being like I miss you, little thoughtful things like sending
them Hi, I miss you.
Speaker 2 (09:44):
This is me. That kind of stuff is so cute.
But okay, that like brother thing just really stressed me out.
Speaker 1 (09:49):
So the next question, Okay, how the bleep do I
actually ask someone out? See, guys, I'm not really the
person for this, even though you know what, I do
give pretty good advice on what girls would like.
Speaker 2 (10:10):
So I'll just I'll just get right into it.
Speaker 1 (10:12):
We'll do like three different levels basic, safe, not too
like crazy or romantic. Would be if you know her
favorite place, say her favorite place is the cheesecake factory,
Say she loves the cheesecake factory. You take her it's
the cheesecake factory and you, guys are just like eating
dessert and you're like, you know what would make this
(10:33):
night even better?
Speaker 2 (10:36):
If you would be my girlfriend?
Speaker 1 (10:38):
But you know what, she would be very happy. That
is a very easy way to go about it. It's
a little bit cringe when I say it out loud,
but cringe. Sometimes people would prefer over too romantic.
Speaker 2 (10:52):
They would think that that's a little too cringe.
Speaker 1 (10:54):
Okay, that's probably the baseline, the lowest you should expect girls. Okay,
your standards need to be high for these men these days,
they just don't like to put in that much effort.
So that's the bare minimum. Okay, number two, we're gonna
go a step higher.
Speaker 2 (11:11):
So that was a bare minimum. Now we're gonna go standard.
Speaker 1 (11:13):
We're gonna add flowers into this one. Okay, because flowers
should be a standard.
Speaker 2 (11:18):
A lot of people say.
Speaker 1 (11:18):
Flowers are a bare minimum. I don't really think that
they're the bare minimum. I think that they're a step
higher than bare minimum.
Speaker 2 (11:25):
Okay, you're going.
Speaker 1 (11:26):
To surprise her somewhere and you're going to bring her
flowers and ask her to be your girlfriend. I think
that this is the best way to do it for
me personally. This is as good as it can get
before like a proposal, because if you go too crazy
with the asking, how are you going to propose? So
the next level would definitely be to me a little
(11:47):
bit more like a cringe, or unless it's like an engagement,
because this is like the whole nine yards. You know,
you got the setup, went into her house, into her room,
put pictures of you guys, and you have balloons and.
Speaker 2 (12:01):
A rose path.
Speaker 1 (12:03):
See this is what I'm talking about, where it's like
borderline engagement. I would walk in and I'd kind of
question it for a second. I'd be like, oh, wait,
we're not even dating. So flowers on the bed, flower
petals on the ground, balloons in the sky, pictures everywhere,
and you're probably just like standing there in a tux. Well,
you'd be in my girlfriend.
Speaker 2 (12:23):
I think that that is the.
Speaker 1 (12:24):
Third most elaborate way to ask a girl to be
your girlfriend, in the Jordan Jones way. How can I
help my friend find a partner? Okay, this is a
good one. With my friends or like a new friend
i'll meet, They'll be like, does.
Speaker 2 (12:40):
Your boyfriend have any cute friends? They're all old.
Speaker 1 (12:43):
All my friends are older, and my boyfriend's a little
younger than me and his friends. He has some that
are like ten years older than him and some that
are like three years younger than him. What you old
the young ones, you want the whole ones. So I'm
really no help in this situation because I think I
like know a lot of guys, but I don't. And
they're also all my boyfriend's friends because they all used
(13:04):
to be like my friends and then we're in the
same friend group. Now all the guys are kind of
our friends, but mainly his friends because I don't really
hang out with them that much anymore.
Speaker 2 (13:12):
Yeah, I'm just really no help with my friends on this.
Speaker 1 (13:15):
But if I were to give other people advice, I
would say help the glow up because helping a friend
get her confidence and do like all the things that
are like helping her in herself and heal and jim
and taking hot pictures of her dressing her that kind
(13:35):
of thing will lead to getting guys attentions.
Speaker 2 (13:38):
I feel like that.
Speaker 1 (13:39):
Would be my best advice because I'm not like the
going out type.
Speaker 2 (13:43):
I'm not like a connector. I you know, I just don't.
Speaker 1 (13:45):
See people on Instagram where I'm like, Hey, DMN, that guy.
I don't know if that like kind of thing happens,
but I feel like doing your own girl's thing and
getting people's confidence up, getting people out there in like
a cute way, posting on Instagram. Like my friend Lauren
the other night it was like nine pm I was
about to go to an event.
Speaker 2 (14:04):
I was like, will you take pictures of me?
Speaker 1 (14:06):
When you have that friend that will go out to
the street with you even though she was in bed
and take pictures. All that kind of stuff is very helpful.
Speaker 2 (14:13):
You all attract like better.
Speaker 1 (14:15):
Men like that than your friend's going out to the
club or something.
Speaker 2 (14:18):
Maybe a dating app.
Speaker 1 (14:20):
Yeah, let's say, just help the glow up, support your girl,
let her get her feels back, and all of that.
Speaker 2 (14:26):
I'm not a good wingman.
Speaker 1 (14:27):
But I have successfully created a marriage technically with the
help of my mother. I was a wingman one time
in my life and it was twenty nineteen New Year's Eve.
Speaker 2 (14:38):
I invited with my friends to this New Year's e party.
Speaker 1 (14:40):
As I just said, don't go to parties or clubs.
Speaker 2 (14:43):
But it was at an apartment. There's like ten people there.
Speaker 1 (14:45):
So I invited her and basically my mom was like,
the guy there and her would be perfect.
Speaker 2 (14:53):
I don't know how she did that.
Speaker 1 (14:54):
So they were there all night. They had their first
kiss that night, twenty nineteen and they just got married
like two weeks ago. So that is my one successful
wingman experience, I think, because like I am trying to
set a lot of people up, but it just doesn't
work out.
Speaker 2 (15:10):
Oh, I will.
Speaker 1 (15:11):
Actually mention this at my hair appointment. Random situation. I
feel bad talking about other people's experiences, but I won't
say names. I met my hair appointment and the assistant
to my hairdressers so cute, and I've been talking to
her all day. You know, she's like young and she's fun.
She's like the cutest blush on. I was like, I
(15:33):
love your blush to'll be like bonded. Basically, I had
a friend come. He showed up to my hair appointment
because he lives like two seconds away and he was
going to Airwon, which was next door to my hair salon.
So he shows up and he leaves. He's like, Oh,
I'm gonna go hang out with the other guy's name.
We'll see you later, blah blah blah, We'll see you
this weekend. So they come back to the hair salon
(15:55):
because they ended up wanting Airwon again. And then they come.
They both come into the salon and I'm sensing a
really weird vibe between the friend and the assistant.
Speaker 2 (16:05):
Okay, friend and hair assistant.
Speaker 1 (16:07):
They're there for like twenty minutes, just talking and I'm
really not paying too much attention. I think I was
on my phone at this point because like they were
just going at it, like I'm not even a part
of this conversation, cracking jokes and everything.
Speaker 2 (16:17):
They leave.
Speaker 1 (16:18):
I was about to text the other friend being like,
did you sense anything between them?
Speaker 2 (16:23):
What's going on here?
Speaker 1 (16:24):
And that exact second, the actual friend texted me and
was like, Hey, this is so weird, but I think
me and your hair assistant matched on Hinge a couple
months ago. She seemed like so familiar and I was like, oh,
her name is blah blah blah, and he was like, yeah,
that's why I remembered. It was so unique.
Speaker 2 (16:45):
He goes, set me up. Okay, I got it.
Speaker 1 (16:48):
I wanted to like feel her out because I didn't
really know which one she was kind of I knew
there was something, I just didn't know what. So I
was like, Hey, one of the boys wants your number,
and then she goes I think bashed on me, like
I saw that guy, and I was like, okay, perfect, Yeah,
that's exactly what he just said. Oh he's so nice,
he's so fun, like he's adventurous, like he's always down
(17:09):
to do stuff.
Speaker 2 (17:11):
I love that.
Speaker 1 (17:11):
I was like, for instance, like this one time at midnight,
like me, my boyfriend and him went to this donut
shop and like no one else was down to go,
and she goes, Oh my gosh, what's the place called?
Speaker 2 (17:21):
And I was like, perfect introduction.
Speaker 1 (17:23):
So I text him, Hey, I don't know what that
donut place shop is called.
Speaker 2 (17:28):
You gotta go take her? And he was like, got it.
Speaker 1 (17:30):
So that was our conversation starter, and he ended up
taking her to this nice steakhouse in Malibu for our
first date.
Speaker 2 (17:36):
The next night. You're welcome, Okay. So that is my.
Speaker 1 (17:40):
Story, And honestly, guys, we should just end that.
Speaker 2 (17:51):
We should just end that episode off on that.
Speaker 1 (17:54):
Yeah, I am maybe a good wing woman, or I
should just like try more. Sometimes I'm not observant like that,
and I don't care things, but sometimes I do. The
second that those guys walked in, she got all like
nervous and blushy, and I'm like, Okay, something's up here,
something's up here, because like you know, girl's got a blush. Huh. Well,
I hope you guys like that episode.
Speaker 2 (18:13):
If you guys want.
Speaker 1 (18:15):
To, you have to subscribe to the YouTube Jolley, you
have to follow us on Apple and Spotify. And how
about you comming down below how you met your significant
other if you have one, And I'll see you guys
next Wednesday with a new episode.
Speaker 2 (18:28):
Bye.
Speaker 3 (18:31):
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Straw media. Okay, and how'd you ask her to be
your girlfriend? That's yeah, that's what they all say.
Speaker 2 (00:15):
You just sort of have that kind of wish and
did it.
Speaker 1 (00:17):
I'm just kidding. I'm just kidding.
Speaker 2 (00:18):
I love love. Okay.
Speaker 1 (00:29):
Hey guys, it's Jordan Jones. Welcome back to the Jordan
Jones Podcast. Today, Macha is not here. She's at home
looking out the window. I have a couple of things
to do today, so she has to be.
Speaker 2 (00:41):
Alone for a little bit.
Speaker 1 (00:42):
But I'm excited for today's episode. But before I get
into that, I wanted to tell you guys about my
new hair. You might have noticed I just got eighteen
or twenty inch blonde hair extensions. As you can see
if you're watching from YouTube, A lot of people have
been asking me exactly which extend I got because there's
so many that you can do.
Speaker 2 (01:01):
There's the sew in, there's tapin, just.
Speaker 1 (01:05):
Clip bonds k tips, which is like keratin bonds. So
there's at least like ten different types of extensions and mine.
I was there from ten am to five thirty on Friday.
Speaker 2 (01:17):
This is the final result.
Speaker 1 (01:19):
I love. It is definitely worth the hours in the
hair salon. I love being in the hair salon, though
I love my hairdresser. She's amazing. These are called Great
Lengths Caratin Bonds. I need to learn a little bit
more about them technically before I speak on it, but
I know that they're responsibly sourced by a church in India.
(01:40):
So they come here and they're all braided and taken
care of nicely, and they're already you know, bleached and everything.
The main difference between these extensions and other extensions is
that these will actually like shrink like natural hair when
they get wet, and then they like expand when they're dry,
so it's literally like real, real hair. Everything that she
(02:01):
was telling me about the certain brand that she uses,
because I was going back and forth between Tapins and
Great Lengths. She was just very passionate about this because
her whole salon everything is reused plastics. She's all about
health and wellness, being responsible and thoughtful with this planet
and everything.
Speaker 2 (02:21):
So I was totally sold on these. So these were
like the best thing I could get.
Speaker 1 (02:25):
And yeah, it did take a long time and they're
very expensive, but it is definitely worth it.
Speaker 2 (02:30):
I obviously had to get my hair dyed.
Speaker 1 (02:32):
A little bit too, because my hair was getting a
little dingy as I like to say it, but.
Speaker 2 (02:38):
I love it.
Speaker 1 (02:39):
And they do stay in for they say from three
to six months, but my hair juster recommended two and
a half months just because they can start to pull
and like you know, your hair obviously grows, so where
the extension is, if it continues to grow, it.
Speaker 2 (02:53):
Can just like get knotted more and everything like that.
Speaker 1 (02:56):
So she just recommended two and a half months. So
around middle of August, middle to end of August, I'll
be getting them out and I can get them all
redback re put back in my hair. That's something that's
kind of weird with these extensions. Once the two and
a half months is done, you have to take everything
out and then you have to get new hair. I
(03:16):
think at least you have to take everything out and
put it all back in, and it's the same long process.
But other types of hairs you can kind of just
redo it pretty easily or like quickly.
Speaker 2 (03:29):
So yeah, it's definitely a long process.
Speaker 1 (03:31):
And most men are like, oh my god, you spent
more than an hour on the salon. I haven't spent
an hour in the salon since I was before getting
my hair cut.
Speaker 2 (03:41):
But yeah, I love it.
Speaker 1 (03:42):
I seriously don't know if I will ever stop getting them.
It just makes every day better. I curled my hair
last night and I didn't have to do anything today
and it's so nice.
Speaker 2 (03:52):
I love it.
Speaker 1 (03:53):
All right, All right, enough about my hair. Let's get
into the episode. This one's all about dating questions, something
we've never really spoke about. Like, I haven't really gotten
these kinds of questions before, but I feel like we're
getting a more older, mature audience, and these questions are
a little bit more mature than some of the other
questions we talk about. So is it better to go
(04:16):
on dating apps or meet people in real life? For
me personally, I would always say meeting in real life,
But I know that is super hard for people to.
Speaker 2 (04:26):
Do, especially nowadays.
Speaker 1 (04:28):
But if you have a friend group, everyone says that
you meet people in the friend group, you know what
I mean, friends have like brothers or sisters. It kind
of is just all connected with your one friend group
that you've met. I don't know about me and dating apps.
I've never done them.
Speaker 2 (04:44):
I've never been on them. There's one dating app that's
like exclusive.
Speaker 1 (04:48):
I don't know if it's just in La or just
for celebrities or something. But I was like sixteen or
seventeen and my friend Stevie told me about it, so
I tried to like apply for for it to be
on it, and I immediately got denied because you had
to be eighteen and you can never redo it.
Speaker 2 (05:06):
If I were to do.
Speaker 1 (05:06):
A dating app, it'd probably be that one, and I
can't ever get on that one. And I'm definitely not
interested in being on a dating app, and I hope
I never ever have to be. But there's that one
dating app that sure I like tried to get on
when I was under eighteen and single, but now I
am no longer single, and I have never.
Speaker 2 (05:26):
Done the dating apps thing. I've always just met people.
Speaker 1 (05:29):
But Instagram and all these social media apps nowadays are
basically dating apps, and I do hear my single friends
talking about that where it's basically a dating app. You're
meeting people, you see them on a story or whatever,
and you slide up in their dms. It's the same
thing when I'm picturing like an Instagram meetup versus a
in person, like oh I like your style, blah blah blah.
Speaker 2 (05:52):
Like the olden days.
Speaker 1 (05:53):
That is something that I would say is more long lasting.
Speaker 2 (05:57):
But then you see all these commercials about like.
Speaker 1 (05:59):
Match dot com one hundred million successful marriages and relationships
go you guys.
Speaker 2 (06:05):
I just don't know if that would be for me ever.
Speaker 1 (06:08):
And I know again, like my friends have really bad
experiences on these dating apps, but I'm sure it happens,
not even on these dating apps through Instagram nowadays with catfishing,
even just like dangerous people, it's kind.
Speaker 2 (06:21):
Of like scary. I prefer meeting in person so I
can get their vibe.
Speaker 1 (06:25):
I can take time to meet them and hang out school, work,
coffee shop, whatever, or even maybe Instagram, but Instagram turning
into a lot of FaceTime calls then meeting up. I
just I don't think it should be a swipe up,
hang out kind of thing from a dating app. You
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really gotta proceed with caution with those. But that's just me.
Next question, how to make long distance relationships work?
Speaker 2 (06:54):
I think number one would.
Speaker 1 (06:55):
Be time making time for them.
Speaker 2 (06:58):
For your day to day.
Speaker 1 (07:00):
If you really want to be in a relationship and
your long distance, it has to be something that you
think of and something that plays into your day to day.
I think that if you're not I would say that
it's inconsiderate and you shouldn't be.
Speaker 2 (07:12):
In a relationship.
Speaker 1 (07:13):
Of course, other people's relationships are different than like how
I view relationships. But I just see like tiktoks about
how I.
Speaker 2 (07:20):
Think this is the cutest thing ever.
Speaker 1 (07:22):
By the way they'll set up their like iPads and
they'll cook a meal on the phone together, and then
they'll eat it and they'll be on the phone and
it's like a date. And I think that that is
something so cool and fun. I always see like the
girls helping out the guys with the cooking, even though
I feel like the men are like usually like the
steak person, and then these girls are like.
Speaker 2 (07:42):
Okay, honey.
Speaker 1 (07:43):
So you see it for three to four minutes.
Speaker 2 (07:46):
Such a cool way to keep the.
Speaker 1 (07:48):
Spark going long distance, but obviously just phone calls and
check ins. I do think that like texting twenty four
to seven is probably not a good thing, because it's
nice when you're a long distance to be able to
call someone and tell them about your entire day or
just really have stuff to talk about to again keep
the spark going. If it's kind of just the same
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thing every single day, it will probably get boring. But
that is also with every relationship, you gotta have something different,
You gotta have some pizazz in your day to day conversation.
But another thing I would say is if it's like
a money thing, I think that saving up money is
definitely important trying to be more considered about Say if
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your plane tickets like two hundred and fifty dollars to
go see them, and then like not getting this extra
thing at the store, don't go shopping that month as much,
save up money to go see your person.
Speaker 2 (08:41):
Because I feel like if I were.
Speaker 1 (08:43):
In a long distance relationship and it was a money
thing where they couldn't come see me all the time,
but I see them out with their friends every single weekend,
that would just make me feel like, oh wow, they
clearly don't want to see me because they're doing this
every single weekend. It's not just you know, have fun
with your friends, do it whatever you want. But if
it was me and I saw that all the time
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and it was a money thing, that would probably kill
a long distance relationship. And then something else, say if
it was like just fun, little whether it's cheap or expensive,
little surprises to them is very important. Even like when
I've been in Michigan and my brother has sent I
mean my brother.
Speaker 2 (09:22):
Michigan. Brother just goes hand in hand.
Speaker 1 (09:26):
Not my brother and my boyfriend's like sent us flowers
like for my mom's birthday, and just like stuff like that,
that kind of thoughtfulness like sending stuff or even if
it was like a cute text or like a picture
being like I miss you, little thoughtful things like sending
them Hi, I miss you.
Speaker 2 (09:44):
This is me. That kind of stuff is so cute.
But okay, that like brother thing just really stressed me out.
Speaker 1 (09:49):
So the next question, Okay, how the bleep do I
actually ask someone out? See, guys, I'm not really the
person for this, even though you know what, I do
give pretty good advice on what girls would like.
Speaker 2 (10:10):
So I'll just I'll just get right into it.
Speaker 1 (10:12):
We'll do like three different levels basic, safe, not too
like crazy or romantic. Would be if you know her
favorite place, say her favorite place is the cheesecake factory,
Say she loves the cheesecake factory. You take her it's
the cheesecake factory and you, guys are just like eating
dessert and you're like, you know what would make this
(10:33):
night even better?
Speaker 2 (10:36):
If you would be my girlfriend?
Speaker 1 (10:38):
But you know what, she would be very happy. That
is a very easy way to go about it. It's
a little bit cringe when I say it out loud,
but cringe. Sometimes people would prefer over too romantic.
Speaker 2 (10:52):
They would think that that's a little too cringe.
Speaker 1 (10:54):
Okay, that's probably the baseline, the lowest you should expect girls. Okay,
your standards need to be high for these men these days,
they just don't like to put in that much effort.
So that's the bare minimum. Okay, number two, we're gonna
go a step higher.
Speaker 2 (11:11):
So that was a bare minimum. Now we're gonna go standard.
Speaker 1 (11:13):
We're gonna add flowers into this one. Okay, because flowers
should be a standard.
Speaker 2 (11:18):
A lot of people say.
Speaker 1 (11:18):
Flowers are a bare minimum. I don't really think that
they're the bare minimum. I think that they're a step
higher than bare minimum.
Speaker 2 (11:25):
Okay, you're going.
Speaker 1 (11:26):
To surprise her somewhere and you're going to bring her
flowers and ask her to be your girlfriend. I think
that this is the best way to do it for
me personally. This is as good as it can get
before like a proposal, because if you go too crazy
with the asking, how are you going to propose? So
the next level would definitely be to me a little
(11:47):
bit more like a cringe, or unless it's like an engagement,
because this is like the whole nine yards. You know,
you got the setup, went into her house, into her room,
put pictures of you guys, and you have balloons and.
Speaker 2 (12:01):
A rose path.
Speaker 1 (12:03):
See this is what I'm talking about, where it's like
borderline engagement. I would walk in and I'd kind of
question it for a second. I'd be like, oh, wait,
we're not even dating. So flowers on the bed, flower
petals on the ground, balloons in the sky, pictures everywhere,
and you're probably just like standing there in a tux. Well,
you'd be in my girlfriend.
Speaker 2 (12:23):
I think that that is the.
Speaker 1 (12:24):
Third most elaborate way to ask a girl to be
your girlfriend, in the Jordan Jones way. How can I
help my friend find a partner? Okay, this is a
good one. With my friends or like a new friend
i'll meet, They'll be like, does.
Speaker 2 (12:40):
Your boyfriend have any cute friends? They're all old.
Speaker 1 (12:43):
All my friends are older, and my boyfriend's a little
younger than me and his friends. He has some that
are like ten years older than him and some that
are like three years younger than him. What you old
the young ones, you want the whole ones. So I'm
really no help in this situation because I think I
like know a lot of guys, but I don't. And
they're also all my boyfriend's friends because they all used
(13:04):
to be like my friends and then we're in the
same friend group. Now all the guys are kind of
our friends, but mainly his friends because I don't really
hang out with them that much anymore.
Speaker 2 (13:12):
Yeah, I'm just really no help with my friends on this.
Speaker 1 (13:15):
But if I were to give other people advice, I
would say help the glow up because helping a friend
get her confidence and do like all the things that
are like helping her in herself and heal and jim
and taking hot pictures of her dressing her that kind
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of thing will lead to getting guys attentions.
Speaker 2 (13:38):
I feel like that.
Speaker 1 (13:39):
Would be my best advice because I'm not like the
going out type.
Speaker 2 (13:43):
I'm not like a connector. I you know, I just don't.
Speaker 1 (13:45):
See people on Instagram where I'm like, Hey, DMN, that guy.
I don't know if that like kind of thing happens,
but I feel like doing your own girl's thing and
getting people's confidence up, getting people out there in like
a cute way, posting on Instagram. Like my friend Lauren
the other night it was like nine pm I was
about to go to an event.
Speaker 2 (14:04):
I was like, will you take pictures of me?
Speaker 1 (14:06):
When you have that friend that will go out to
the street with you even though she was in bed
and take pictures. All that kind of stuff is very helpful.
Speaker 2 (14:13):
You all attract like better.
Speaker 1 (14:15):
Men like that than your friend's going out to the
club or something.
Speaker 2 (14:18):
Maybe a dating app.
Speaker 1 (14:20):
Yeah, let's say, just help the glow up, support your girl,
let her get her feels back, and all of that.
Speaker 2 (14:26):
I'm not a good wingman.
Speaker 1 (14:27):
But I have successfully created a marriage technically with the
help of my mother. I was a wingman one time
in my life and it was twenty nineteen New Year's Eve.
Speaker 2 (14:38):
I invited with my friends to this New Year's e party.
Speaker 1 (14:40):
As I just said, don't go to parties or clubs.
Speaker 2 (14:43):
But it was at an apartment. There's like ten people there.
Speaker 1 (14:45):
So I invited her and basically my mom was like,
the guy there and her would be perfect.
Speaker 2 (14:53):
I don't know how she did that.
Speaker 1 (14:54):
So they were there all night. They had their first
kiss that night, twenty nineteen and they just got married
like two weeks ago. So that is my one successful
wingman experience, I think, because like I am trying to
set a lot of people up, but it just doesn't
work out.
Speaker 2 (15:10):
Oh, I will.
Speaker 1 (15:11):
Actually mention this at my hair appointment. Random situation. I
feel bad talking about other people's experiences, but I won't
say names. I met my hair appointment and the assistant
to my hairdressers so cute, and I've been talking to
her all day. You know, she's like young and she's fun.
She's like the cutest blush on. I was like, I
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love your blush to'll be like bonded. Basically, I had
a friend come. He showed up to my hair appointment
because he lives like two seconds away and he was
going to Airwon, which was next door to my hair salon.
So he shows up and he leaves. He's like, Oh,
I'm gonna go hang out with the other guy's name.
We'll see you later, blah blah blah, We'll see you
this weekend. So they come back to the hair salon
(15:55):
because they ended up wanting Airwon again. And then they come.
They both come into the salon and I'm sensing a
really weird vibe between the friend and the assistant.
Speaker 2 (16:05):
Okay, friend and hair assistant.
Speaker 1 (16:07):
They're there for like twenty minutes, just talking and I'm
really not paying too much attention. I think I was
on my phone at this point because like they were
just going at it, like I'm not even a part
of this conversation, cracking jokes and everything.
Speaker 2 (16:17):
They leave.
Speaker 1 (16:18):
I was about to text the other friend being like,
did you sense anything between them?
Speaker 2 (16:23):
What's going on here?
Speaker 1 (16:24):
And that exact second, the actual friend texted me and
was like, Hey, this is so weird, but I think
me and your hair assistant matched on Hinge a couple
months ago. She seemed like so familiar and I was like, oh,
her name is blah blah blah, and he was like, yeah,
that's why I remembered. It was so unique.
Speaker 2 (16:45):
He goes, set me up. Okay, I got it.
Speaker 1 (16:48):
I wanted to like feel her out because I didn't
really know which one she was kind of I knew
there was something, I just didn't know what. So I
was like, Hey, one of the boys wants your number,
and then she goes I think bashed on me, like
I saw that guy, and I was like, okay, perfect, Yeah,
that's exactly what he just said. Oh he's so nice,
he's so fun, like he's adventurous, like he's always down
(17:09):
to do stuff.
Speaker 2 (17:11):
I love that.
Speaker 1 (17:11):
I was like, for instance, like this one time at midnight,
like me, my boyfriend and him went to this donut
shop and like no one else was down to go,
and she goes, Oh my gosh, what's the place called?
Speaker 2 (17:21):
And I was like, perfect introduction.
Speaker 1 (17:23):
So I text him, Hey, I don't know what that
donut place shop is called.
Speaker 2 (17:28):
You gotta go take her? And he was like, got it.
Speaker 1 (17:30):
So that was our conversation starter, and he ended up
taking her to this nice steakhouse in Malibu for our
first date.
Speaker 2 (17:36):
The next night. You're welcome, Okay. So that is my.
Speaker 1 (17:40):
Story, And honestly, guys, we should just end that.
Speaker 2 (17:51):
We should just end that episode off on that.
Speaker 1 (17:54):
Yeah, I am maybe a good wing woman, or I
should just like try more. Sometimes I'm not observant like that,
and I don't care things, but sometimes I do. The
second that those guys walked in, she got all like
nervous and blushy, and I'm like, Okay, something's up here,
something's up here, because like you know, girl's got a blush. Huh. Well,
I hope you guys like that episode.
Speaker 2 (18:13):
If you guys want.
Speaker 1 (18:15):
To, you have to subscribe to the YouTube Jolley, you
have to follow us on Apple and Spotify. And how
about you comming down below how you met your significant
other if you have one, And I'll see you guys
next Wednesday with a new episode.
Speaker 2 (18:28):
Bye.
Speaker 3 (18:31):
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