A Gay and A NonGay

In a time where we're all threatened by a rhetoric of hate from the people in power; A Gay And A NonGay challenges our differences. No matter who you are, or what you're into, gay's and nongay's can & should be friends. 'Highly Recommended' Guardian 'One of the most fundamentally kind and funny podcasts in Britain' RadioTimes 'A hilarious take on love, friendship and sex' TimeOut An independent podcast from James Barr (@imjamesbarr) and Dan Hudson (@DanHudson). Find us on Insta, TikTok, Twitter and Facebook @gaynongay Get bonus content on Patreon, with our super exclusive fan feed

Episodes

Everyone's A Little Self-Obsessed with Eurovision winner JJ

July 30, 2025 • 12 mins

We’re joined by Eurovision royalty on this episode of A Gay And A NonGay — the winner of the 2025 Eurovision Song Contest, JJ! Fresh from Vienna, JJ chats with James and Dan about everything from broken trophies and bubble wrap fails to navigating unrequited love in the queer community. They open up about the struggles of dating when everyone seems a little self-obsessed, the importance of listening to your friends’ red-flag warn...

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Pride, Protest, and Politics with Eva Echo

July 23, 2025 • 31 mins

We have a record-breaker on the podcast this week! It's Eva Echo's third appearance on A Gay And A NonGay, which puts her in a class of her own! Eva is a trans activity, NHS campaigner and is the Director of Innovation at Birmingham Pride. On this episode, James, Dan and Eva talk about pride as a protest amid rising transphobia in UK politics, the recent UK Supreme Court ruling on gender identity and the Download Festival toilet ...

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Staying Sober In The LGBTQ+ Community with Frankie Grande

July 16, 2025 • 29 mins

We have pop royalty on this episode of A Gay And A NonGay as James and Dan are joined by actor, singer and famous brother Frankie Grande! Frankie's new album Hotel Rock Bottom is out now and covers everything from gay joy to his journey to sobriety. In this conversation, James, Dan and Frankie talk about sobriety in the gay community, the evolving nature of Pride and queer representation and the significance of chosen family. Fr...

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Why Do So Many Men Have No Mates? with Max Dickins

July 2, 2025 • 37 mins

On this episode of A Gay And A NonGay, James and Dan are joined by author, comedian and honorary sixth straight guest, Max Dickins! Max opens up about the inspiration behind his brilliant book Billy No-Mates — a deep-dive into male friendship sparked by the realisation he had no one to ask to be his best man. Together, they unpack the complexities of male friendships, masculinity, vulnerability, and why so many straight men are st...

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Fighting HIV Stigma with Richard Angell

June 25, 2025 • 38 mins

We’re joined by Richard Angell, OBE and Chief Executive of the Terrence Higgins Trust, on this week's episode of A Gay And A NonGay! The Terrence Higgins Trust is at the forefront of the fight against HIV, striving for a future where there are no new cases of HIV, where people living with HIV get the support they need and there is good sexual health for all. Richard joins James and Dan to talk about the ongoing fight against HIV...

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Love Yourself Before You Love Another

June 18, 2025 • 24 mins

If you can't love yourself, how can you love anybody else? On this episode of A Gay And A NonGay, James and Dan are diving into the importance of self-love this Pride season. From exploring the transactional nature of relationships to discussing how to set expectations and the realities of compromise - we're coming to the realisation that love can look different, and being true to yourself through all of this self-discovery is of ...

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What Is The Male Equivalent of Brunch? with Elf Lyons

June 11, 2025 • 36 mins

We’re joined by the award winning Elf Lyons on this weeks episode of A Gay And A NonGay! She has literally been listed as one of the 50 Funniest Comedians of the 21st Century by The Telegraph, one of the ’20 Names of Now’ by British Vogue and is a multi-Edinburgh Fringe award winner – so you know we’ve got a good one! James, Dan and Elf talk about tackling trauma through comedy, embracing weirdness, flat earth theories, finding c...

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From Awards Ceremonies to Marathons!

June 4, 2025 • 20 mins

On this week’s episode of A Gay And A NonGay, James and Dan are having a long overdue catch-up to chat about the recent goings on in their lives. From running marathons… to walking through tunnels, and the awkwardness of attending awards ceremonies. James and Dan also reflect on winning the Webby Award for Independent Podcast and give an inside peak into the celebrations! We’ll be back next week with your regularly scheduled prog...

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Gay Bars, Ghosts & Politics with Jeremy Atherton Lin

May 21, 2025 • 33 mins

Gay love stories? We're here for them - especially when they speak to a broader message about the world we live in. Our guest on this episode of A Gay And A NonGay is an expert in this field. Jeremy Atherton Lin is the author of the National Book Critics Circle Award winner Gay Bar: Why We Went Out. His essays have appeared in the Times Literary Supplement and the Yale Review, for which he was a finalist for the National Magazine ...

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We Won A Webby Award!

May 14, 2025 • 16 mins

SEE US LIVE! We're doing a live show at the Kings Head Theatre in London on May 23rd. Visit ⁠⁠⁠wizardradio.lnk.to/tickets⁠⁠⁠ for tickets now. Yes... you read that right! A Gay And A NonGay officially won the Webby for Best Indie Podcast and it's all because of you, our amazing listeners. Please Note - this episode was recorded before the big win, so we still to talk about being nominated. On this episode of A Gay And A NonGay,...

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Letters To My Younger Queer Self with Daniel Harding

May 7, 2025 • 21 mins

If you could tell your younger self anything... what would you say? That's the question that journalist Daniel Harding is answering with his new book Letters To My Younger Queer Self, which includes letters written by the likes of comedian Suzi Ruffell, Nadia Whittome MP, Olympic gymnast Andrew Stamp, TV personality Ella Morgan and more as they reflect on their growth of self-acceptance and the human spirit. On this episode of A ...

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Gay Love IRL vs Incest On The White Lotus

April 30, 2025 • 22 mins

Does gay love always need to be shown as a weird power play in the media? Well, when major TV shows like The White Lotus portray a major gay romance as... keeping it in the family... these are the questions we're left asking! On this week's episode of A Gay And A NonGay, James & Dan talk about the scene that has been on everyone's lips and reflect on their feelings. Later in the episode, we hear about Dan's story of his late moth...

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If I Wasn't Gay... Who Would Appreciate This Bum?

April 16, 2025 • 25 mins

On this week's episode of A Gay And A NonGay, we're talking about all things marriage! But, not how you would think... James & Dan are talking about how marriage impacts your physical appearance, and the differences in that between gay and straight men. This leads onto a bigger conversation around the societal perceptions of sexuality based on your look. Along the way, they explore the implications of male loneliness, the importa...

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Is Laughter A Privilege?

April 9, 2025 • 19 mins

Can comedy ever be homophobic? Well, of course it can, but on this week's episode of A Gay And A NonGay we're talking about the complexities of making jokes that involve sensitive topics like transphobia. James and Dan discuss whether the power of laughter can sometimes be a privilege and the impact that their identity has on their comedic approaches. Plus, stay until the end to get a teaser of next weeks episode! Follow A Ga...

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Resisting Moving Backwards with Divina de Campo

March 29, 2025 • 36 mins

BFI Flare, London's LGBTQIA+ Film Festival, runs from 19th to 30th March. For more details, visit: https://whatson.bfi.org.uk/flare/ Thank you to our sponsors... Secure your privacy with Surfshark! Go to surfshark.com/agaang for 4 extra months of Surfshark. Follow A Gay & A NonGay TikTok: @gaynongay Instagram: @gaynongay YouTube: @gaynongay Facebook: @gaynongay Website: gaynongay.com Email Us: us@gaynongay.com Learn more about y...

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I Identify As Love with Toby Marlow and Lucy Moss

March 26, 2025 • 28 mins

We're joined by the creators of two of the theatre world's most successful new musicals of recent years! Toby Marlow and Lucy Moss are the creative minds behind the hit musicals Six and Why Am I So Single. On this episode of A Gay And A NonGay, James and Dan chat to Toby and Lucy about their journey from university theatre productions to global success - including their motivations and creative processes. They chat about the unexpe...

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It's Not That We Don't Like You... Criticism Is Important!

March 19, 2025 • 27 mins

Do you know what a 'war pig' is? Dan's friend Olga thinks that James might! On this week's episode of A Gay And A NonGay, we're talking all about cultural references and critiques, including the importance of criticism. From debating whether we should be offended by the 'war pigs' term, to seeing how the community critiques art (look to Lady Gaga's new album) and the subjectivity of reviews and journalism... should you support art ...

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Open Relationships, Egg Shortages and Adventures Abroad

March 12, 2025 • 19 mins

It's another week of A Gay And A NonGay and we're got a bunch of catching up to do! James has just returned from Australia, whilst Dan has returned from New York... we find out all about what they have been getting up to and their views on the political climate under President Trump. What is the potential impacts on the cuts to DEI initiatives and the rights of the LGBTQ+ community? We also tackle a listener's question about the pr...

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Let's Talk About Alice with Caroline Litman

March 5, 2025 • 39 mins

Trigger Warning: This episode contains multiple mentions of suicide and suicidal thoughts as well as themes that some listeners may find triggering. In many ways, Caroline Litman was the type of supportive Mum that any trans child could dream to have. She was supportive of her daughter, Alice, who was on the waiting list for gender affirming care. Alice was on the waiting list for a gender identity clinic appointment for 1,023 day...

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Sex Positivity... Or Has It All Gone Too Far?

February 26, 2025 • 24 mins

She's the name on everybody's lips... but what does the rise of Bonnie Blue tell us about societal double standards? In a society that is increasingly sex positive, it seems that opinions differ amongst the A Gay And A NonGay community. Dan (representing the NonGays) feels like maybe this has all gone too far... whilst James (representing the Gays) believes that the outrage exposes some hypocrisy in society. Through-out the debate,...

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Episodes

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Staying Sober In The LGBTQ+ Community with Frankie Grande

Why Do So Many Men Have No Mates? with Max Dickins

Fighting HIV Stigma with Richard Angell

Love Yourself Before You Love Another

What Is The Male Equivalent of Brunch? with Elf Lyons

From Awards Ceremonies to Marathons!

Gay Bars, Ghosts & Politics with Jeremy Atherton Lin

We Won A Webby Award!

Letters To My Younger Queer Self with Daniel Harding

Gay Love IRL vs Incest On The White Lotus

If I Wasn't Gay... Who Would Appreciate This Bum?

Is Laughter A Privilege?

Resisting Moving Backwards with Divina de Campo

I Identify As Love with Toby Marlow and Lucy Moss

It's Not That We Don't Like You... Criticism Is Important!

Open Relationships, Egg Shortages and Adventures Abroad

Let's Talk About Alice with Caroline Litman

Sex Positivity... Or Has It All Gone Too Far?

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