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May 28, 2025 11 mins
Nikki and TJ first matched on Hinge last week and immediately hit things off. According to Nikki they were starting to plan for their first date, but randomly TJ stopped messaging her even though it felt like they had a connection. Nikki has no idea what she said that caused things to go wrong, but she asks for our help. 
  
We call TJ trying to figure out if there is anything else between him and Nikki that happened that may have caused things to go wrong and he tells us that he wasn’t a fan of Nikki blowing him off. Find out what’s really going on in this Second Date Update! 
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Speaker 1 (00:00):
It is second date update on intern John in your
Morning Show, because dating in twenty twenty five is, in
a word, booby.

Speaker 2 (00:07):
It is the absolute worst.

Speaker 1 (00:09):
And there's nothing worse then when you feel like you
found somebody, you feel like you have a connection, and
then they stopped talking to you.

Speaker 2 (00:16):
Your force to wonder was it you? Was it something else?
What's going on? Nikked? Good morning?

Speaker 3 (00:22):
Good morning.

Speaker 1 (00:23):
So this is relatively reason. So let's kind of walk
through this. You and TJ have never met in person?

Speaker 2 (00:29):
Correct, yeah, correct?

Speaker 1 (00:32):
Okay, but you guys matched how or became aware of
each other?

Speaker 2 (00:35):
How?

Speaker 3 (00:37):
Oh well, we matched on a hinge Okay, and this
was when oh this was Monday.

Speaker 1 (00:43):
This is like last week, last week? Okay, So match
on hinge started talking right away. Wasn't like a we
match left each other in the match pool. It was
like boom right away exactly.

Speaker 3 (00:56):
Yeah, we were talking a lot. I mean it was
it was real really cool. Just I was really really
excited about this. We were just like really like talking about,
you know, getting to know each other everything, like you
know what you like and everything. And all of a sudden,
no I can't get a hold of him.

Speaker 1 (01:16):
Okay, And so how long did it take you guys
to go from messaging on the app to texting?

Speaker 2 (01:21):
Like how long before we exchange for numbers?

Speaker 3 (01:24):
Oh? Like almost immediately within hours? Yeah?

Speaker 1 (01:29):
And then so from so we match on Monday or
talking on Monday about what day last week does he disappear?

Speaker 3 (01:39):
Let's see, I'm gonna I think it was very next day, yeah.

Speaker 1 (01:45):
Tuesday, Okay, So just so in yours, I guess kind
of wondering then, I mean, I understand the frustration. I
think if you're not doing the dating scene right now,
you maybe wouldn't understand. But it does kind of seem
like somebody will stop to you. It's legit, like what happened.

Speaker 4 (02:02):
Yeah, there's like I mean, I don't consider ghostings you
haven't met each other.

Speaker 1 (02:05):
Yeah, but it's almost like the aliens came down, took
them away, and like it was like, okay, what's happening.
So I guess, then, Nikki, are you just trying to
see what went wrong? Trying to see if he had,
if there was somebody else, or what's your end goal?
Because obviously we're willing to call, but I just want
to know. I mean, it's I guess it's a little

(02:26):
bit too short to have closure, But what are we
looking for?

Speaker 3 (02:29):
Well, yeah, I don't know. I did I say something wrong?

Speaker 1 (02:33):
You know?

Speaker 3 (02:34):
Or yeah, did he actually have somebody else the entire time?
And you know, this is just kind of a fun
little game.

Speaker 2 (02:41):
I don't know.

Speaker 3 (02:42):
Yeah, I'd really like to know what happened here.

Speaker 1 (02:44):
Yeah, because it is like the craziest thing about the apps.
It is potentially possible you match with somebody who is
like on like the five yard line of a relationship
like about to start, and like that's just kind of
not to do anything wrong technically, right, it is kind
of Okay, So let's this.

Speaker 2 (03:00):
We'll call TJ. We'll get him on, try to get
his story.

Speaker 1 (03:02):
Okay, okay, one second's see if we can get this
going here. Hello, all right, calling for TJ. Please, Hey, man,

(03:24):
it's interns John. I got Sauce and Rose here as well.
Can we talk to you on the air real quick
about something? Nothing bad? I seen a couple of minutes
of your.

Speaker 5 (03:30):
Time, nothing badly.

Speaker 2 (03:34):
A couple of seconds.

Speaker 1 (03:36):
Alright, man, I got somebody on the line here, NICKI,
if you want to say hello, Hello.

Speaker 2 (03:42):
Nailed it, and so TJ. NICKI reached out to us.

Speaker 1 (03:45):
She told us, you guys a match on Hinge last Monday,
had a chemistry, had a vibe, we're feeling things, had
even exchanged phone numbers then, but by Tuesday you were
out of the picture, had kind of checked out, and
she hasn't heard from you since. And I know this
is awkward because it's not like either of you were
really I guess invested in. Uh I'm gonna call a relationship.

(04:07):
But where is trying to see where your head's at?
Did she say something?

Speaker 2 (04:12):
Was there? Is there something else going on? But why
the no talking?

Speaker 5 (04:17):
I mean, listen, my time is important. And I spent
the weeks preparing for the date, you know, leading up
to it. I was pretty excited.

Speaker 2 (04:25):
Wait, I'm sorry for what date?

Speaker 5 (04:29):
Well, it was supposed to be for Saturday. We were
planning some link up, but right before, like a couple
hours before, she hit me with an excuse saying she
was going to go hang out with her sister.

Speaker 1 (04:38):
And wait wait wait wait wait wait, I mean, okay,
so you guys, you guys had a date on the
docket like planned.

Speaker 5 (04:46):
It was planned because me, we had the conversation that's
signed and fields, you know.

Speaker 1 (04:50):
Okay, and so what day, did you guys solidifire going
on a date.

Speaker 2 (04:57):
That was like that?

Speaker 5 (04:59):
Monday?

Speaker 1 (04:59):
That's im okay, So Monday and then Saturday rolls around
and she hits you up a couple hours before saying
she has to cancel.

Speaker 5 (05:07):
It's like that.

Speaker 1 (05:08):
Okay, Nikki, that's a pretty to leave out.

Speaker 3 (05:14):
Yeah, okay, well I guess if you want to call
it that. I mean, yeah, Monday, we did talk about
going out.

Speaker 1 (05:25):
Okay, we did, so then you you, I want to say,
blew him off, but like to tell him a couple
of hours beforehand that you you decided to do something else.

Speaker 4 (05:36):
Yeah.

Speaker 3 (05:36):
I had hadn't heard from him in you know, several days,
and I was just like, eh, I just I don't
know if I want to really go through with this. Actually,
you know, that's what I was thinking.

Speaker 1 (05:47):
If you're thinking that, though, then can you be upset
if you didn't even know you wanted to do the date?

Speaker 4 (05:52):
Yeah?

Speaker 3 (05:56):
I just I don't know. I just felt like there
wasn't I mean, there was great communication at the very beginning.

Speaker 2 (06:01):
But then the yinning sounds like three hours prior. Okay,
how put you guys on hold? Are your team? Nikki?
Your team? TJ?

Speaker 1 (06:09):
Eight seven, seven, nine ninety five for six State one
to call nine ninety three three eight to tax. It's
second date update on intern John in Your Morning Show.
Second date update on intern John in Your Morning Show.
We has talked to Nikki and TJ. They matched on
hinge last Monday, made plans to go out the following weekend,
which she kind of left out conveniently. Today, he said

(06:31):
that she basically texted him a couple hours before saying, Hey,
I'm gonna hangle my sister. Can we were scheduled, to
which he's like, Nah, your thoughts eight seven seven, nine
ninety five for six State one to call nine nine
three three to tacks if I may real quickly, Yeah,
I would say ninety eight percent of the time I
side with the ladies on things because you do dumb things. However,
in this case, to my ladies on the dating apps,

(06:54):
we can't have in our bios. Best way to ask
me out, just ask yeah, best way do this make
dinner plans? We can't be we can't be dogging dudes
for not making plans. Yeah, and then when a guy
makes plans you decide to cancel it two hours before. Yeah,
this has happened to me before and my apartments Like,
this is why dudes don't make plans, because it's like,

(07:17):
why would I do that and then waste the whole week?

Speaker 2 (07:19):
And then you just found out you want to hang with.

Speaker 4 (07:22):
Your sister, I know, and I'm like, what does your
sister not live here? So say then that wouldn't be
a last minute thing, I would assume, so we can't complain.

Speaker 1 (07:29):
About dudes not doing plans. And then when a guy
just playing you dropped the ball, Yeah I saw your thoughts.
You're on the apps or you had down the apps obviously.

Speaker 4 (07:38):
I honestly was confused at first after we got TJ
on the phone because I'm like, wait, what I thought
they only talked for a day, which the whole thing
was really just I don't know, odd, But yeah, I
don't disagree. I'm on his side if and honestly, I
always do the thing. If I don't hear from someone
on the day of the date, then I'm assuming we're
not going. But this is like opposite because you reached
out and then she's like two hours before, no, we're

(08:00):
not doing we're not going in that time window too, man,
two hours before like Crazy's not especially on a weekend.

Speaker 1 (08:07):
Well, that's inconvenience for all parties involved, Like the restaurant
if you're going out, Yeah, you had scheduled a ride.

Speaker 4 (08:12):
Like that's a especially if it's a restaurant where if
you have to cancel the reservation you lose money. So yeah,
I don't I don't think that's cool at all.

Speaker 1 (08:19):
There's a bazillion calls coming real quick and Perry Hall
tea a good morning, good morning your thoughts girl.

Speaker 6 (08:27):
I just think she totally flaked on him, and then
she's upset that he didn't call. Yeah, and they had
I guess, a great day of conversation. They made a date,
and she wanted I don't know. It just seemed like
she wanted way too much too soon. I think I
think he like missed an issue in a relationship, like

(08:47):
if she needs bad level of attention when they don't
even know each other, you imagine.

Speaker 2 (08:51):
I don't disagree. Yeah, I think you're spot on, Tia.
Thank you for listening, have a great day.

Speaker 6 (08:56):
Thanks you too.

Speaker 1 (08:57):
I would also add too, Then you can't be the
person who complains about dating sucks if you are actively
contributing to why dating sucks.

Speaker 4 (09:07):
It's not intentionally, but also I'm not and I'm not
like shaming here or anything. I just I guess I
just can't run my head around the fact that she
literally canceled when she left out and she had this really,
really good conversation she's saying, which is a dating app,
it's gonna like, you know, you will have good conversations
and then sometimes doesn't pan out. But he still made
the date, he still wanted to go on the date,

(09:27):
and then you canceled. Yeah, and then you're calling us
to figure it out. That's where I'm like, I'm confused, Yeah,
because you probably know that that's not nice.

Speaker 2 (09:37):
No, for sure. Let me go in for Washington Niche
good morning, Hi, good morning. What do you want to say, girl?

Speaker 5 (09:45):
I feel like she I mean, she she wasted you guys.

Speaker 2 (09:48):
It's time to so of.

Speaker 5 (09:49):
Course she wasted his.

Speaker 6 (09:51):
Yeah, I just don't understand why she called you guys
and left out the hugest part, like she pretty much said.

Speaker 4 (09:58):
Oh.

Speaker 5 (09:59):
By the next day, I was over it because I
didn't hear from him anymore.

Speaker 6 (10:03):
So why did you call the show pretty much whining
about why this guy didn't And then you're like oh.

Speaker 5 (10:11):
You guys are like, oh, well you left that part
out and she's like, yeah, so yeah I didn't.

Speaker 1 (10:17):
I guess I was like, well, I would say I
would argue that if she canceled the day, then it's
almost like it's on her then to Lea wants to
see it.

Speaker 5 (10:28):
Yeah, based on what she just did right there, I wouldn't.

Speaker 4 (10:33):
I wouldn't either.

Speaker 5 (10:35):
You wasted my time and then you just put you
just put yourself on the air.

Speaker 2 (10:40):
Now everybody knows watch out for this girl.

Speaker 5 (10:43):
So you just you just made it bad for yourself.

Speaker 6 (10:46):
Literally, you guys like every morning, I love your show, Sauce,
You're amazing.

Speaker 4 (10:51):
Hey, John, if you ever looking to go out on
the day, you can all laugh me. That's it.

Speaker 2 (10:57):
Listen.

Speaker 1 (10:57):
I feel like you would tell me something about myself
and I never recover from it. Emotional, probably accurate.

Speaker 6 (11:03):
I feel like you would be perfectly okay because you
broke with Sauce and you guys are best friend.

Speaker 5 (11:07):
Yeah. I think that's fair.

Speaker 2 (11:10):
That's fair. You conditioned him, My god, it's fair. Can
I get you eight one and my man shirts for
calling in old on? What's that we're losing? One second?

Speaker 1 (11:24):
I don't want to lose you if you want to
a second date. DMS ro up and at YMS Radio
in your morning Show's true and I heard radio
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