Are We Ruining Sex?

People are so wrapped up in liberal politics and hysteria that they're having a negative impact on their sex lives. 

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Episode Transcript

Speaker 1 (00:00):
And then this have We Ruined Sex? Also from the
Wall Street Journal, they had five writers discussing topics on coupling,
and this was my favorite part. How what you call
it coupling? Do you want to be kill? Call her
whatever you want? You whisper in there, you want to
covode for a coupling? Pardon me wayas if a woman

(00:23):
has a fantasy of being overpowered by a man, is
she a patsy playing out patriarchal scripts? Is she a
victim of what used to be called false consciousness?

Speaker 2 (00:31):
I just lost my direction?

Speaker 1 (00:32):
Yeah, I know. And this Gal, It's actually a terrific
piece she wrote. But these days conversations in and out
of our classrooms seem to be going in the same direction.
The brilliant feminist philosopher Amias for And Vanisen asks quote
whether there is a duty to transfigure as best we
can our desires. She makes a very clever and nuanced

(00:56):
case that there is in a paper for her college
Philosophy of Sex Class Philosophy of Sex. My daughter recently
quoted the feminist scholar Sandra Bartsky, a thorough overhaul of
desire is clearly on the feminist agenda. The fantasy that
we are overwhelmed by rhet Butler should be traded for
one in which we seize state power and re educate him.

(01:20):
Oh that is so good and such a beautiful example
of the idea that radical leftists have that they can
rewrite human nature. This person, who is a brilliant feminist philosopher,
is claiming that you can rewrite the nature of human
sexual arousal according to the correct politics.

Speaker 2 (01:42):
This kind of reminds me and I tried to figure
out if this was trolling or not. But I went
back a little bit on the guy's Twitter feed and
it seemed like this kind of guy. So he's in college,
he's out at a party or something like that, meets
up with a girl. I mean, this is not for
the children to hear. Here s somehow they end up

(02:06):
in a situation where she uh performs oral activities on him.

Speaker 1 (02:12):
Yes, and they had a chat, they discussed something.

Speaker 2 (02:15):
So his thing is the next day he realized that
they hadn't discussed it, he hadn't given consent, and was
he taken advantage of And should he go to authorities?

Speaker 1 (02:26):
Should he go to Yes, Yeah, you should go to
authorities immediately and hand in your man card, or just
to brag to everyone there. Who excuse me, you know
what happened last night? Why are you telling me? I'm
telling everyone right now.

Speaker 2 (02:44):
I realized when I woke up in the morning, we
didn't discuss it any of the parameters. I didn't give
any consent. And should I should I talk to somebody
about this? Was I taking advantage of it? Like?

Speaker 1 (02:54):
Is this?

Speaker 2 (02:54):
Is this really where some people's thinking goes in the
modern world?

Speaker 1 (03:00):
Oh? My god? Yeah, yeah. So she goes on the
image of the feminist re educating rhet Butler after a
couple of Margerita's is obviously bordering on parody, not to
mention the eerie authoritarian undertones of the word re educate,
but the fantasy that we can somehow police our sexuality
for political consistency is more prevalent and even mainstream than

(03:23):
one might think. And we've been talking about how little
sex young people are having or even getting together forming relationships,
and I think this is part of it. Emerging from
this discourse is a glimmering ideal of everyone being nice
and sensible and utterly controlled and perfectly respectable and egalitarian
in the most intimate settings. But it seems to me
that there is something flawed and sanitized about this idea

(03:43):
of absolute consistency of desires that adhere to a checklist.
Our conscious mind dutifully assembles this image, neglects the inconvenient
reality that for many people, sexuality involves contradiction, escape, play, risk, experimentation, theater.
What is appealing about sex is precisely that one doesn't
have to be one's respectable daytime self. The intimate realms

(04:03):
elude and maybe should elude, or attempts to regulate them
with things like political convictions or dislike of the patriarchy.
E wow, and then this is so good, but it
unmasks so much of the crazy political thinking. And this
is the final part that I thought was great when

(04:24):
and pardon me for abusing this woman's name, there is
an alternative feminist tradition that recognized as accepts and accepts
the tangles and complexities of intimate life. How divided and
conflicted we are in terms of power and desire. When
simone do you? Beauvois was asked of her romantic subjugation

(04:44):
or lifelong partner Jean Paul Sautra, who was at odds
with her feminist politics. She said, well, I just don't
give a damn. I'm sorry to disappoint the feminists, but
it's just too bad so many of them live only
theory instead of in real life. I think that's at
the root of it. People who become obsessed with these
liberal arts victim culture educations that looks at life through

(05:08):
the lens of theory. You know, theory can be interesting
and illuminating occasionally to explain life, but the idea that
what your college teacher teaches you is life is silly.
Those of us who've lived a little just silly.

Speaker 2 (05:24):
Wow, what a weird time to be alive.

Speaker 1 (05:26):
Yeah, I know things are getting word. I'm getting word fast.
I'm hoping it passes. But the cultural Marxists have done
so much better a job of indoctrinating young people than
the economic Marxists ever did in our government schools. Right now,
it's frightening.