December 19, 2023 • 9 mins
Jack had to take a quick flight yesterday. He booked the window seat, only to arrive to his aisle to find someone sitting in it. Do you think Jack said anything about it or just sat in the aisle seat?
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Speaker 1 (00:00):
So here's an interesting facet of my personality that I
don't even quite understand myself. I am so conflict avoidant.
I don't know if there's anybody more conflict avoidant than
I am. Like at a ridiculous level I can give
I can give you an example, and this is just
this is embarrassing. Another adult I was with at the
(00:22):
time still knocks me till this day. This happened, I
don't know, several months ago. Glad us the harp. If
you're gonna sue us for carpal tunnel, you might as
well keep playing the harp. I'm at a I'm at
a restaurant, so any of your brass and glass times restaurants.
(00:42):
And I ordered coffee and they brought me to coffee
and it was it was cold, and I say to
my kids are there, And there was another adult there
and I say, uh oh, this coffee is cold. And
the person said, well, tell them it's cold, Well make
another pot, And I didn't. I just want to ahead
and drank the cold coffee. Rather than the major confrontation
(01:05):
of telling the twenty year old server that my coffee
is cold and I don't want to drink it is
that unbelievable.
Speaker 2 (01:11):
I don't even know what that is.
Speaker 3 (01:13):
So, yes, Katie, No, I'm thinking that's kind of a
tricky situation to be in, you know, because it's like
it's somebody who's.
Speaker 4 (01:20):
Dealing with your food. You don't know what kind of
mood they're in.
Speaker 1 (01:22):
Right, there's a little likely there was a little of that.
There's a little I don't want somebody blowing a hawker
in my cheeseburger.
Speaker 2 (01:29):
I mean, there's at it's.
Speaker 1 (01:30):
A little side of secret sauce. But you know, And
I always sit wherever they sit me when I'm with
other people. Sometimes no I want to sit over there
or is over there. I just I just sit wherever
they would sit me, whether I like it or not.
I don't know why. I just I just I'm conflict
avoidant that way.
Speaker 3 (01:44):
And my mother has no problem going I would like
that uh booth over there by the window.
Speaker 4 (01:49):
I turned into a shrimp every time she does that.
Speaker 2 (01:53):
I just it's funny.
Speaker 1 (01:54):
You're either built that way to where you're perfectly fine
with it or you're not. And you can have too
much of both either one of them. You can have
too much. I've been around people that's just constantly, so
demanding with everything all the time that it's just it's
it really is annoying and too much. But then then
I think I'm too far the other direction where I'm
paying for this coffee. I have every right to have
(02:16):
a hot cup of coffee. That's that's what you're charging
me for, and I just I just don't want to
deal with it for whatever reason. Here's what happens last night.
So I get on an airplane. It's a United flight
where you have assigned seats. It's late at night, and
I'm really looking forward to the seat that I had
chosen online. It's a window seat, so I can lean
my head up against the wall and sleep. I can
sleep like a baby on a plane. It's no problem
(02:38):
for me. I'm asleep before before we even start rolling,
and I wake up when we land.
Speaker 4 (02:43):
So I can't stand people like you anyway. I wish
I could do that.
Speaker 1 (02:46):
Oh but I'm coming down the aisle and uh, and
I see, I see, I see the row in the wind.
It's a two seat situation there and there's just two
seats aisle, two seats, and.
Speaker 2 (03:04):
Uh, there's a woman in the windows seat. And I
look at the.
Speaker 1 (03:09):
Thing and I can't tell, so it says AB, I'm
a but is you know? I never know, is it A?
Are we going AB left to right? Or is AB
right to left? And I just like, maybe I'm confused
or whatever. And I sit down and it turns out no, No,
she's she's in the window seat. I'm supposed to be
in that seat. And I actually texted somebody about this.
I said, here's one of those situations where I should
(03:32):
say something and I don't know if I'm going to
and they said, you gotta do it. You got to
practice saying these things. You've got to say something to them.
And this woman was quite large and struggling with her
being in the seat, and also had her.
Speaker 2 (03:55):
Shoes off, oh god, before.
Speaker 1 (03:58):
We even start to fly, and was wearing a COVID
mask and have what I often call the frizzy hair
of the deranged. I just feel like some women particular,
they have frizzy hair. It's a sign that they're deranged.
And I just saw the COVID mask, the frizzy hair,
you got your shoes off and you're having trouble fitting
in the seat.
Speaker 2 (04:18):
I just saw it.
Speaker 1 (04:18):
I don't and so I didn't say anything, And I
didn't get my seat that I paid for, and I
wasn't able to sleep up against the wall.
Speaker 5 (04:25):
Yes, should I have confronted her? Yes, get up? You
know you should have done. You should have just had
a coughing fit. She would have moved probably a lot
faster than she has. No, while according to the description.
Speaker 2 (04:37):
Of her, she did not smell good either.
Speaker 3 (04:39):
What is it with traveling that makes people think they
can take their shoes off in public?
Speaker 4 (04:44):
You don't see that anywhere.
Speaker 3 (04:45):
You don't see it like the movie theater, you don't
see it in other places where you're sitting for an
extended period of time. But for whatever reason airports and planes,
people kicked their shoes off and think it's totally acceptable.
Speaker 4 (04:58):
And I have show idea why.
Speaker 2 (05:00):
I don't understand why either.
Speaker 1 (05:02):
I mean, she was besocked, which is better than barefooted,
but still I don't need your You've been white so
a late night flight, yet you're walking around all day
long socks out of your shoes. It's just and she's
wearing some sort of slip on sketcher shoe, and I
I thought I wanted to say, how uncomfortable are those shoes?
They look like they're pretty comfy. I mean, is it
really that big a deal?
Speaker 2 (05:23):
They got to get your sweaty, gnarly smelly.
Speaker 1 (05:26):
Feet out of your slip on sketchers and put them
on top.
Speaker 2 (05:31):
Really, and you're sitting in my seat.
Speaker 4 (05:34):
I can't believe that you did not say I know,
I'm embarrassed. I'm semi disappointed a little bit.
Speaker 1 (05:39):
Well, yeah, I wouldn't tell my kids this. They would
never look at me the same way. They would never
look at me the same way if they knew their
dad would not say to that person, that's my seat. Actually,
if my kids were with me and knew that, I
would have said that because I wouldn't want to set
that example.
Speaker 2 (05:53):
Isn't that interesting.
Speaker 1 (05:54):
There's no way I would let that happen and have
my kids see that, because I would not want to
set that example. But by myself, I was like, Eh,
I don't want to I don't want to confront her.
She's got the frizzy hair of the crazy god. And
you still had to sit next to that. Yeah, I
was gonna have to sit next to her either way.
So it's either sitting next to her. And she just
seemed like she might be a handful with her not
(06:15):
angry or sitting next to her somewhat angry that I
made her move.
Speaker 4 (06:19):
Oh boy, Oh the slip on shoes.
Speaker 3 (06:21):
Don't have to bend over to put those things on,
that's the idea.
Speaker 4 (06:26):
Don't got to tie those bad boys.
Speaker 1 (06:28):
Right right, and even those too constrictive for her sweaty,
gnarly feet, they were just too much.
Speaker 2 (06:35):
I don't know, Michael, what would you have done when
you said anything or not?
Speaker 4 (06:37):
I think it would have said something.
Speaker 2 (06:38):
He would have really.
Speaker 3 (06:40):
See, Michael, I take you that you would kind of yah.
Speaker 2 (06:43):
Even Michelangelo is less passive than me.
Speaker 4 (06:46):
The most pure, sweet person on this show. Whatever.
Speaker 1 (06:50):
Then when she complained I shrink like a flower, Hanson,
would you have said something or not?
Speaker 3 (06:54):
Hanson would have grabbed her by her COVID mask and
thrown her into the aisles.
Speaker 2 (06:58):
Hanson said he would have litter her up, which I
guarantee you.
Speaker 1 (07:03):
Joe would have said something too, and would not believe
that that any adult man would not say anything.
Speaker 2 (07:09):
He'd be horrified by the fact that I didn't say anything.
Speaker 4 (07:11):
Well, and also.
Speaker 3 (07:12):
We're in this day and age where how do you
know she wasn't going to blow up? And the next thing,
you know, you're on a viral video of her.
Speaker 2 (07:18):
That was part of it, because you know, if she.
Speaker 3 (07:20):
Says something, then the next thing, again you're out of
luck because you're a white male. You're getting kicked off
the plane for something.
Speaker 2 (07:27):
This is something.
Speaker 1 (07:28):
One of the reasons I'm bringing it up on the air,
it's something I really got to work on.
Speaker 5 (07:31):
Uh.
Speaker 1 (07:33):
One of the reasons, and this is one of the
main reasons that I don't like to get into confrontations
is because I have an on off switch, and if
if the switch gets flipped on it, I mean, it's
just like, I mean, I'm either to stand still or
I'm going one hundred miles an hour. I don't have
I don't have any there's no gas pedal you get
(07:53):
like rate. And so that's one of the reasons I
don't like to get into it because I know if
it goes like this far, then it's a nuts though
it's not so me and that's you know another problem.
Speaker 4 (08:03):
I'm actually the exact same way.
Speaker 3 (08:05):
So I totally it's just you gotta be real careful
because don't push me to that.
Speaker 1 (08:09):
Limit, right Well, I know that about myself, So I think, hmm,
do I want to risk that this is going to
get me into embarrass myself zone, or do I just
sit here in my eyes seat and I'm perfectly fine.
Speaker 2 (08:20):
I kept trying to justify it to myself. You know,
it's a.
Speaker 1 (08:22):
Christmas season, and she's an older woman, and I'm just Nah,
it was cowardice. That was pure cowardice.
Speaker 4 (08:27):
Is why I didn't the karma gods will do something
good for you.
Speaker 1 (08:30):
Later, I was trying to think if it had been
a different I feel like if it had been like
a forty year old business dude in a suit on
a return business trip, I would have said, I think
that's my seat, But for some reason with her, I
don't know.
Speaker 3 (08:43):
Well, it's also sounding like if you told her to
get out of your seat, it was going to take
forty five minutes for.
Speaker 1 (08:47):
A swap to have you exactly exactly got to get
the shoes on them. Imagine that's not an easy job, right,
I maybe I have a woman problem.
Speaker 2 (08:57):
I don't know.
Speaker 1 (08:57):
I've probably spent too much time here on the couch
the radio psychiatrist couch already with this, But if you
have any suggestions on this are the same way text
Line four one KFTC Hanson, will a litter up?
Speaker 2 (09:11):
Get the hell out of my seat? Can you not.
Speaker 4 (09:14):
Read a B?
Speaker 1 (09:15):
You're an egg?
Speaker 2 (09:16):
Good lord? But your shoes on? But your shoes on?
Did you ever consider just asking a flight attendant? Hey,
that woman's in my seat. That seems that.
Speaker 1 (09:25):
Seems almost worse to me than keeping my mouth shut.
I have to like tell the teacher, ses, Yeah, I
gotta tell the teacher to take care of it for me.
I'd I'd rather keep my mouth shut than be that guy.
I need to have this twenty five year attendant handle
my adult conversations. Yeah, that's embarrassing just to say out loud.
Speaker 3 (09:45):
Yeah, and you have to sit next to or two
after you tattle on her, you know what I mean?
Speaker 2 (09:48):
That's just new right, That's not a good look.
So here's an interesting facet of my personality that I
don't even quite understand myself. I am so conflict avoidant.
I don't know if there's anybody more conflict avoidant than
I am. Like at a ridiculous level I can give
I can give you an example, and this is just
this is embarrassing. Another adult I was with at the
(00:22):
time still knocks me till this day. This happened, I
don't know, several months ago. Glad us the harp. If
you're gonna sue us for carpal tunnel, you might as
well keep playing the harp. I'm at a I'm at
a restaurant, so any of your brass and glass times restaurants.
(00:42):
And I ordered coffee and they brought me to coffee
and it was it was cold, and I say to
my kids are there, And there was another adult there
and I say, uh oh, this coffee is cold. And
the person said, well, tell them it's cold, Well make
another pot, And I didn't. I just want to ahead
and drank the cold coffee. Rather than the major confrontation
(01:05):
of telling the twenty year old server that my coffee
is cold and I don't want to drink it is
that unbelievable.
Speaker 2 (01:11):
I don't even know what that is.
Speaker 3 (01:13):
So, yes, Katie, No, I'm thinking that's kind of a
tricky situation to be in, you know, because it's like
it's somebody who's.
Speaker 4 (01:20):
Dealing with your food. You don't know what kind of
mood they're in.
Speaker 1 (01:22):
Right, there's a little likely there was a little of that.
There's a little I don't want somebody blowing a hawker
in my cheeseburger.
Speaker 2 (01:29):
I mean, there's at it's.
Speaker 1 (01:30):
A little side of secret sauce. But you know, And
I always sit wherever they sit me when I'm with
other people. Sometimes no I want to sit over there
or is over there. I just I just sit wherever
they would sit me, whether I like it or not.
I don't know why. I just I just I'm conflict
avoidant that way.
Speaker 3 (01:44):
And my mother has no problem going I would like
that uh booth over there by the window.
Speaker 4 (01:49):
I turned into a shrimp every time she does that.
Speaker 2 (01:53):
I just it's funny.
Speaker 1 (01:54):
You're either built that way to where you're perfectly fine
with it or you're not. And you can have too
much of both either one of them. You can have
too much. I've been around people that's just constantly, so
demanding with everything all the time that it's just it's
it really is annoying and too much. But then then
I think I'm too far the other direction where I'm
paying for this coffee. I have every right to have
(02:16):
a hot cup of coffee. That's that's what you're charging
me for, and I just I just don't want to
deal with it for whatever reason. Here's what happens last night.
So I get on an airplane. It's a United flight
where you have assigned seats. It's late at night, and
I'm really looking forward to the seat that I had
chosen online. It's a window seat, so I can lean
my head up against the wall and sleep. I can
sleep like a baby on a plane. It's no problem
(02:38):
for me. I'm asleep before before we even start rolling,
and I wake up when we land.
Speaker 4 (02:43):
So I can't stand people like you anyway. I wish
I could do that.
Speaker 1 (02:46):
Oh but I'm coming down the aisle and uh, and
I see, I see, I see the row in the wind.
It's a two seat situation there and there's just two
seats aisle, two seats, and.
Speaker 2 (03:04):
Uh, there's a woman in the windows seat. And I
look at the.
Speaker 1 (03:09):
Thing and I can't tell, so it says AB, I'm
a but is you know? I never know, is it A?
Are we going AB left to right? Or is AB
right to left? And I just like, maybe I'm confused
or whatever. And I sit down and it turns out no, No,
she's she's in the window seat. I'm supposed to be
in that seat. And I actually texted somebody about this.
I said, here's one of those situations where I should
(03:32):
say something and I don't know if I'm going to
and they said, you gotta do it. You got to
practice saying these things. You've got to say something to them.
And this woman was quite large and struggling with her
being in the seat, and also had her.
Speaker 2 (03:55):
Shoes off, oh god, before.
Speaker 1 (03:58):
We even start to fly, and was wearing a COVID
mask and have what I often call the frizzy hair
of the deranged. I just feel like some women particular,
they have frizzy hair. It's a sign that they're deranged.
And I just saw the COVID mask, the frizzy hair,
you got your shoes off and you're having trouble fitting
in the seat.
Speaker 2 (04:18):
I just saw it.
Speaker 1 (04:18):
I don't and so I didn't say anything, And I
didn't get my seat that I paid for, and I
wasn't able to sleep up against the wall.
Speaker 5 (04:25):
Yes, should I have confronted her? Yes, get up? You
know you should have done. You should have just had
a coughing fit. She would have moved probably a lot
faster than she has. No, while according to the description.
Speaker 2 (04:37):
Of her, she did not smell good either.
Speaker 3 (04:39):
What is it with traveling that makes people think they
can take their shoes off in public?
Speaker 4 (04:44):
You don't see that anywhere.
Speaker 3 (04:45):
You don't see it like the movie theater, you don't
see it in other places where you're sitting for an
extended period of time. But for whatever reason airports and planes,
people kicked their shoes off and think it's totally acceptable.
Speaker 4 (04:58):
And I have show idea why.
Speaker 2 (05:00):
I don't understand why either.
Speaker 1 (05:02):
I mean, she was besocked, which is better than barefooted,
but still I don't need your You've been white so
a late night flight, yet you're walking around all day
long socks out of your shoes. It's just and she's
wearing some sort of slip on sketcher shoe, and I
I thought I wanted to say, how uncomfortable are those shoes?
They look like they're pretty comfy. I mean, is it
really that big a deal?
Speaker 2 (05:23):
They got to get your sweaty, gnarly smelly.
Speaker 1 (05:26):
Feet out of your slip on sketchers and put them
on top.
Speaker 2 (05:31):
Really, and you're sitting in my seat.
Speaker 4 (05:34):
I can't believe that you did not say I know,
I'm embarrassed. I'm semi disappointed a little bit.
Speaker 1 (05:39):
Well, yeah, I wouldn't tell my kids this. They would
never look at me the same way. They would never
look at me the same way if they knew their
dad would not say to that person, that's my seat. Actually,
if my kids were with me and knew that, I
would have said that because I wouldn't want to set
that example.
Speaker 2 (05:53):
Isn't that interesting.
Speaker 1 (05:54):
There's no way I would let that happen and have
my kids see that, because I would not want to
set that example. But by myself, I was like, Eh,
I don't want to I don't want to confront her.
She's got the frizzy hair of the crazy god. And
you still had to sit next to that. Yeah, I
was gonna have to sit next to her either way.
So it's either sitting next to her. And she just
seemed like she might be a handful with her not
(06:15):
angry or sitting next to her somewhat angry that I
made her move.
Speaker 4 (06:19):
Oh boy, Oh the slip on shoes.
Speaker 3 (06:21):
Don't have to bend over to put those things on,
that's the idea.
Speaker 4 (06:26):
Don't got to tie those bad boys.
Speaker 1 (06:28):
Right right, and even those too constrictive for her sweaty,
gnarly feet, they were just too much.
Speaker 2 (06:35):
I don't know, Michael, what would you have done when
you said anything or not?
Speaker 4 (06:37):
I think it would have said something.
Speaker 2 (06:38):
He would have really.
Speaker 3 (06:40):
See, Michael, I take you that you would kind of yah.
Speaker 2 (06:43):
Even Michelangelo is less passive than me.
Speaker 4 (06:46):
The most pure, sweet person on this show. Whatever.
Speaker 1 (06:50):
Then when she complained I shrink like a flower, Hanson,
would you have said something or not?
Speaker 3 (06:54):
Hanson would have grabbed her by her COVID mask and
thrown her into the aisles.
Speaker 2 (06:58):
Hanson said he would have litter her up, which I
guarantee you.
Speaker 1 (07:03):
Joe would have said something too, and would not believe
that that any adult man would not say anything.
Speaker 2 (07:09):
He'd be horrified by the fact that I didn't say anything.
Speaker 4 (07:11):
Well, and also.
Speaker 3 (07:12):
We're in this day and age where how do you
know she wasn't going to blow up? And the next thing,
you know, you're on a viral video of her.
Speaker 2 (07:18):
That was part of it, because you know, if she.
Speaker 3 (07:20):
Says something, then the next thing, again you're out of
luck because you're a white male. You're getting kicked off
the plane for something.
Speaker 2 (07:27):
This is something.
Speaker 1 (07:28):
One of the reasons I'm bringing it up on the air,
it's something I really got to work on.
Speaker 5 (07:31):
Uh.
Speaker 1 (07:33):
One of the reasons, and this is one of the
main reasons that I don't like to get into confrontations
is because I have an on off switch, and if
if the switch gets flipped on it, I mean, it's
just like, I mean, I'm either to stand still or
I'm going one hundred miles an hour. I don't have
I don't have any there's no gas pedal you get
(07:53):
like rate. And so that's one of the reasons I
don't like to get into it because I know if
it goes like this far, then it's a nuts though
it's not so me and that's you know another problem.
Speaker 4 (08:03):
I'm actually the exact same way.
Speaker 3 (08:05):
So I totally it's just you gotta be real careful
because don't push me to that.
Speaker 1 (08:09):
Limit, right Well, I know that about myself, So I think, hmm,
do I want to risk that this is going to
get me into embarrass myself zone, or do I just
sit here in my eyes seat and I'm perfectly fine.
Speaker 2 (08:20):
I kept trying to justify it to myself. You know,
it's a.
Speaker 1 (08:22):
Christmas season, and she's an older woman, and I'm just Nah,
it was cowardice. That was pure cowardice.
Speaker 4 (08:27):
Is why I didn't the karma gods will do something
good for you.
Speaker 1 (08:30):
Later, I was trying to think if it had been
a different I feel like if it had been like
a forty year old business dude in a suit on
a return business trip, I would have said, I think
that's my seat, But for some reason with her, I
don't know.
Speaker 3 (08:43):
Well, it's also sounding like if you told her to
get out of your seat, it was going to take
forty five minutes for.
Speaker 1 (08:47):
A swap to have you exactly exactly got to get
the shoes on them. Imagine that's not an easy job, right,
I maybe I have a woman problem.
Speaker 2 (08:57):
I don't know.
Speaker 1 (08:57):
I've probably spent too much time here on the couch
the radio psychiatrist couch already with this, But if you
have any suggestions on this are the same way text
Line four one KFTC Hanson, will a litter up?
Speaker 2 (09:11):
Get the hell out of my seat? Can you not.
Speaker 4 (09:14):
Read a B?
Speaker 1 (09:15):
You're an egg?
Speaker 2 (09:16):
Good lord? But your shoes on? But your shoes on?
Did you ever consider just asking a flight attendant? Hey,
that woman's in my seat. That seems that.
Speaker 1 (09:25):
Seems almost worse to me than keeping my mouth shut.
I have to like tell the teacher, ses, Yeah, I
gotta tell the teacher to take care of it for me.
I'd I'd rather keep my mouth shut than be that guy.
I need to have this twenty five year attendant handle
my adult conversations. Yeah, that's embarrassing just to say out loud.
Speaker 3 (09:45):
Yeah, and you have to sit next to or two
after you tattle on her, you know what I mean?
Speaker 2 (09:48):
That's just new right, That's not a good look.
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