Tell The Others

So many of us grew up wishing our parents would just admit when they got it wrong.

Heidi wrote a text message for clients in her private practice from that ache, addressing the things that kids long to hear from us.

Parents have sent it to teenagers and to grown kids in their thirties and forties. It's never too late to repair.

Join Heidi to discover how to make this text message your own.

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When a spicy kid talks back, shuts down, or explodes over something small, the school's first move is usually more consequences, more check-ins, more adults in the room.

And most of the time, that's exactly the wrong thing to do.

This episode breaks down why a spicy kid's nervous system reads all of that as a threat, and why standard consequences and check-in cards typically backfire.

Psychotherapist Heidi Rogers walks through what...

Why are we triggered when our kids "copy bad behavior"?

It has a lot to do with the stories we tell ourselves about the way they're acting.

If we shift our perspective just slightly, we can reduce conflict AND build the emotional regulation muscle in our children.

Here's what Heidi covers in this podcast, taken from a live Q&A call in her parenting program:

• Why the stories we tell ourselves can inc...

What if the secret to parenting an ADHD child isn’t trying harder—but trying differently?

It makes sense when you think about it.

ADHD brains are wired differently, and so are their challenges. ADHD coach Sharon Collon shares her journey from chaos to calm and how you can tailor solutions to your family’s unique needs.

After spending over $30,000 in her son's first year post-diagnosis and deve...

Ever feel like your SPICY kid is allergic to the word "no"?

They're actually wired to struggle with three things that make it *look* like they're being difficult 'on purpose' (when it's really just their brain asking for help).

Tune in for a perspective shift to help you parent with less stress and more connection.

Explore why spicy kids struggle with “no” (and how to set boundaries that stick).
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Dental anxiety isn't just about teeth — it's also about feeling powerless.

It's a topic I covered on a recent Prism Perspective call.

Tune in to learn...
 
• How to help your child understand their anxiety

• Simple strategies to make dental visits less traumatic

• Why lying about pain backfires (and what to say instead)

• Ways to empower your child with choice and control

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'Does everyone need therapy?'

It's kind of like asking 'does everyone need deodorant'?

Not strictly.

BUT...

Do you remember your last train ride on a summer day?

Or that Uber trip? Or the customs line at the airport?

Yechh...

The sights, the sounds... the... smells.

Body odor (and lack of deodorant!) in a small space is kind of like our emotional struggles and unresolved traum...

I don't know about you, but I like to imagine parenting as a marathon, not a sprint ‍♀️

But it's hard to think long-term when every day feels like a race to the finish line.

It's like the parenting version Groundhog Day...

…we roll into bed exhausted, disconnected, frustrated, and anxious because we KNOW we're only hours away from doing it all again

So, here's a little secret…

By ma...

If you're battling your teenager over late-night phone sessions, you're not alone!

In this episode, Heidi shares why phone and tech boundaries are especially tricky for strong-willed and neurodivergent kids (you know - the SPICY children who don't respond to 'traditional' parenting techniques ).

Learn how to identify what's really driving their behavior and unpack strategies for compromise that work for everyone.

Here...

When we're trying to improve our emotional wellbeing, we usually focus on the present or the future.

But what if the key to healing and feeling ‘whole’ is actually in our past?

That's where reparenting comes in.

Reparenting is about connecting with and caring for your inner child—the part of you that holds the memories and feelings from your early experiences.

Sound a little ‘woo woo’... or… may...

Parenting a SPICY child is often lonely, exhausting, isolating and overwhelming.

I know because I have a SPICY child myself, and I see ya’ll in private practice every week

We live in a society that says children should all fit into a neat little box of behavior and personality… and if they don’t… well… it must be the parents’ fault!

But most of society has no clue what it’s...

Heidi answers the following question in this episode:

"Hi Heidi, why doesn’t positive parenting work on my spicy 8 year old? My 10 year old is so different and much more dutiful, compliant and easy. My 8 year old is aggressive, violent and hates any talk about feelings. It feels like we are all walking eggshells. My husband yells and isn’t as patient as me, but I lose it too, as nothing seems to work. I could talk about ...

Ever wondered if transformation was possible for you, or if healing yourself was even an option outside of therapy?

I chatted with my colleague and fellow therapist, Tom Ahern this week, all about our journeys in self-healing and managing our mental health.

It was fascinating to dive deep into the topic and explore the idea that therapy isn’t the only route to self-healing (pretty wild - coming from two therapis...

One of the most common things people say to me is, "I know if I could just change my thinking and be more positive, then I’d be happy. I know it's my fault I'm unhappy because of the thoughts I choose".

If it were THAT simple and just 'thinking happy thoughts' was the key to everything, then the world would be a really happy place. But it's not, because it's not that simple.

Taking a 'bottom up approach' is a mu...

I often hear from parents:

"My child’s teacher has recommended my son / daughter have an assessment to understand their behaviors a bit more. I’m not sure how I feel about this. I think a label will hurt them long-term and I don’t want them to be treated differently."

In this clip, I share my thoughts on this and provide some guidance around WHY an assessment may or may not be helpful.

 I hope it helps!

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Join Heidi and Vanessa (a trauma therapist and Licensed Mental Health Social Worker) on their deep dive into all things body image, and how to find freedom in food.

Some of the topics covered:

• What determines health?
• What is body neutrality?
• Easy ways to promote healthy body image to your kids
• How to protect your kids from developing a negative body image
• Labeling foods "good" or "bad"
• Emotional eating, and what to do if you o...

I wanted to share a recent question I received in my parenting group about teenagers and their unique challenges.

It opened a HUGE can of worms as I honed in on the real issue behind this mom’s concerns - a loss of control.

Q: “My 17-year-old is staying in her room and isolating, not talking to us as much as she used to. I’m worried something is going on. Can you help?”

It’s such a classic scenario that c...

One of the common questions I hear in my private practice is ‘Why does my child have anxiety, especially when they have nothing to be stressed about?’

While it’s easy to view their anxiety as ‘attention seeking’ or ‘being dramatic’, the key message they need from us is: you are safe, and I can help you.

With that in mind, we need to reframe the way we view anxiety and understa...

Mental Health Social Worker and nutritionist Vanessa Preston joins me to discuss the ways women are healing their relationship with their bodies and making room in their lives to pursue what's -actually- important to them.

Her online program, the Body And Food Freedom Project, has received rave reviews from my clients, my friends,  and moms in my parenting program, and I'm super keen to share her message because I think...