October 7, 2025 • 10 mins
Joe and. his fiance have a couple that they have been on the fence about inviting to their wedding... but should the rescind the offer? Or should they let it ride?
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Speaker 1 (00:00):
We're live on ninety three three FLZ. It's The Joe Show,
and we're currently in the stages of not only planning it,
but putting together the guest list, and you know, then
we got to send out to save the dates and
all that stuff. We're a bit of ways away from that.
As we're talking about who should be invited and who
shouldn't be invited. There is a couple that are pretty
(00:23):
close to my fiance and I and what type of
couple are they? Well, this is the type of couple
that they are. They stay together, they break up, they
stay together, they break up, they stay together, they break up,
they stay together, they break up. They've been together for
longer than a listen and I have been together. They've
been together for like eight years. But they stay together,
(00:46):
they break up, the stay together, they break up.
Speaker 2 (00:47):
Clearly not engaged either.
Speaker 1 (00:49):
No, they've been doing this recently. I'd say that this
has been happening for the last three months. They've probably
broken up like times. And the thing is is that
even though we haven't sent out to save the dates,
they're one of those couples that we've spent a lot
of time with each other and we've talked about the wedding.
(01:11):
We've gone. Oh, like they even know. We kind of
kept this a super secret with a lot of people.
They even know where we're getting married, so they know
that We've had conversations with them about, you know, picking
up food and stuff like that. Alissa has shared intimate
details about certain things that I'm not even allowed to
(01:31):
know just yet with this woman. And well, here's the thing.
As we're putting together the list. You know, people cost money, Okay,
and I get the whole. You can invite someone and
then if you choose to, like they can't come, you
can use that invitation for someone else. But we're trying
to make this as small as possible. It's literally like
(01:51):
every single night we look at and we're like, Okay,
well maybe this person doesn't have to come. I want
to know because I told her yesterday, I said, I
think this person should just be off. I think that
they're uninvited. I think that we give her because we're
not even giving plus ones no one. If you you
gotta be not I don't care if you're married. We
(02:12):
both need to have a relationship with you. And I'm
talking about a close relationship. If you're gonna be invited.
I've said this before. I think that they're gonna be
people that don't get invited, that they're probably going to
not be too happy about it. And I think this
person's gonna have to be a part of it. I
think that they're significant now there's probably gonna be pissed
too if they're still together. To me, it's just they
break up so much lately. I don't I don't want
(02:33):
to give this invitation to where next thing, you know,
we're having this person go who. I don't think it's
like a five rule plan, like if you're not gonna
be friends with them, and there's a rule if you're
not gonna be friends with them in five years after
your wedding, they should not go to your wedding. So
you need to really look at it and go, will
I be friends with you in five years? If the
answer is no, they shouldn't come to your wedding. I
(02:54):
had so many people bring that up to me. I
think that this person will be in my life if
they're still together, but I don't think that they'll even
make it to the wedding.
Speaker 2 (03:04):
But have you thought about, Joe, the repercussions if you
don't invite this couple You've.
Speaker 1 (03:09):
Known me some high school. Of course I'm freaking out
about it.
Speaker 3 (03:13):
Well, then you've got it. Then you can't send the offer.
If this is somebody that you're close in the high school,
it doesn't matter. If they're going back and forth, back
and forth, back and forth. You still have to deal
with somebody thick and thin, like for me for example. Yeah,
I get why. I don't get I don't get a
plus one to this wedding.
Speaker 2 (03:28):
Well, but I know, I.
Speaker 1 (03:31):
Think I think you're on you're on the hey, you know,
like this weekend. This weekend, Redina plays her cards right,
she could get breaking news.
Speaker 2 (03:42):
You might get an invite.
Speaker 1 (03:43):
I'm not saying that she's got one now, but she's
got some time.
Speaker 2 (03:46):
But I don't think you can.
Speaker 3 (03:48):
I think it's a douche move to uninvite them, even
though you haven't officially sent out the arry.
Speaker 1 (03:54):
It's your wedding. There's no douche move at all. You
want them there, you don't if you don't want them,
there's your special day.
Speaker 2 (04:01):
You get what you want. But they're they're friends of yours.
Speaker 1 (04:04):
They he has better friends. If he only gets a
certain amount, you should invite the closest of the closest.
Let's do this eight hundred and four ninety three ninety
three two things. One should this person go? And then
the main one I want to know about is why
did you want to invite them? Why did they not
get an invitation to your wedding? Because I really would,
I would, I would love to hear more about that.
(04:27):
And it's almost like kind of like I'm watching game
tape from other people's weddings being strategic with how this
is going to happen. I never thought someone just said, damn,
Jed's Girlfriend's not getting an invitation. I've only been around
Jed's girlfriend twice, so I guess spend more time time,
I spend more time.
Speaker 4 (04:46):
I understand. I'm not sulty about that. I said, Ashley's
not getting plus Jed loves that, but she's not getting
a plus one. There's coworkers hours who are in very
very very serious relationships who will not be getting a
plus one. There are friends that will not be Oh
my god, there's a friend of Alyssa' who's not getting a
(05:08):
plus one that I already know she's There's gonna be
a lot of drama attached to it.
Speaker 1 (05:11):
But that's a Lista's friend and I'm gonna lie. You know,
this is gonna do what she does.
Speaker 2 (05:14):
Not my problem.
Speaker 1 (05:17):
We will be But Megan, I talk to me about
this whole wedding invitation.
Speaker 5 (05:26):
So my wedding is in February, and I told this
friend they weren't invited because I didn't tell them why.
I told them, Oh, we just didn't have enough invites.
But they're not invited because they caused me stressed. But
we've been friends for a really long time. Yeah, so
I think you're totally in the.
Speaker 1 (05:45):
Right with this one, you think.
Speaker 5 (05:47):
And I technically didn't invite them because I don't know
their boyfriend and I don't like their boyfriend from what
they tell me.
Speaker 1 (05:56):
A lot of problems attached to that though.
Speaker 5 (05:59):
I don't really know the guy that well. But I
think they're a really annoying couple where they just like
love everything about each other, and I think it's really annoying.
Speaker 1 (06:08):
Yeah, but like like drama with that though, You're okay
with the drama that's gonna come with that?
Speaker 2 (06:12):
Yeah, the fall, that's the biggest thing.
Speaker 5 (06:16):
Yeah, I'm okay with the drama that's gonna come with it,
because I mean, I really don't care if this person
is in my life, but I don't think they'll do
anything about it. They don't care.
Speaker 1 (06:25):
Okay, all right, well thank you. And you also said
have you been talking to my fiance? Because that's like
literally what she says. So this is good. This is good.
Speaker 5 (06:35):
No, I don't know Lisa at all.
Speaker 1 (06:36):
I promise Megan, you're the best. Now Michelle's calling me
a douche. Good stuff, Michelle.
Speaker 5 (06:43):
I love you.
Speaker 6 (06:45):
You know I love you, But I have to tell
you this, especially since he's a close friend and Alyssa
has given so much information about the wedding that makes
them think that they're going to be included, and for
you to rescind the offer, I just think that's awful.
Speaker 1 (06:59):
Yeah, well, so one more time. I just want to
make this clear. Maybe I didn't make this clear. It's
the the girl is like, ah, the woman is close
with Alissa. I don't want to say too much because
I want them to hear this and go, oh my god,
it's about us. But they'll know because they've broken up
like thirty five times. The guy is like, he's not
(07:22):
He's just there. He's always been there. But he's just there,
you know what I mean. But I get I get
what you're saying. I totally get what you're saying. And Michelle,
I love when you call him, So call him more. Okay,
you too, you did this? Who did you want to
invite Luisa.
Speaker 7 (07:44):
My cousin.
Speaker 1 (07:45):
Oof, that's gonna be a lot of drama. I can't
invite cousins, you know.
Speaker 7 (07:51):
When they bring the drama, then it's you know, it's
we did everybody in favor by uninviting him.
Speaker 8 (07:58):
He asked me at about the money and how much
it was to travel to the wedding, and then asked
me if I could cover his travel to come to
my wedding.
Speaker 7 (08:11):
So I said, how about we just agree that you're
not gonna come? And I invited him uninvited him?
Speaker 1 (08:17):
All right, all right, all right, all right, Louisa. Luisa
plates are very expensive, aren't they.
Speaker 2 (08:26):
Aren't? They are? They are?
Speaker 1 (08:27):
So check this out. So while you were talking, I read,
because I can see everyone's calls. I read a call
from Brittany. I see what she's about to say. Well,
I'm gonna pick her up a just a second. I
want to get your opinion before we talk to Brittany.
Brittany says everyone should get a plus one because it's
less drama that doubles the price in the wedding.
Speaker 3 (08:46):
No no, no, no, no no.
Speaker 7 (08:49):
If you have an unlimited budget, then of course everyone
gets absolutely dumb. However, I didn't want a bunch of
strangers at my wedding, and you're always gonna have that
one or two like, oh it's your.
Speaker 5 (09:00):
Mom's aunt's friend's sister that.
Speaker 7 (09:02):
You have to invite. That's a little bit different.
Speaker 1 (09:06):
I'm making mom pay for that. By the way, if
if my mom has any of those people, she get
paid for those plates. You know. That's the thing.
Speaker 7 (09:13):
People, it's expensive. And here's the thing, it's your day.
And I know everybody says this, but you guys can
do whatever the bleep you want. It's your day, and people.
If people can't, you know they're going to get their
panties all in a bunch because they weren't invited to
your wedding. Trust me, they'll get over it. And I
like to like, oh, well, I know them in five year,
(09:34):
ll forget that. You guys do what you want to do,
and if you guys are grown up, people will get
over it. Make yourself.
Speaker 2 (09:42):
Happy you guys, thank you for the call, Louise, so
we appreciate it.
Speaker 7 (09:47):
Of course.
Speaker 1 (09:48):
All the best, all right, Luisi, you're the best. Thank
you so much. Uh all right, so timing purposes, I
want to get to Brittaney, Brittany, I got to talk
to you about doing the whole plus ones thing, So
hold on, one said, And I want to talk to
another Brittany who had to uninvite her dad. Yeah, we've
(10:11):
got a lot we want to talk about with this,
or at least I want to talk about it. I'm
gonna get a little selfish,
We're live on ninety three three FLZ. It's The Joe Show,
and we're currently in the stages of not only planning it,
but putting together the guest list, and you know, then
we got to send out to save the dates and
all that stuff. We're a bit of ways away from that.
As we're talking about who should be invited and who
shouldn't be invited. There is a couple that are pretty
(00:23):
close to my fiance and I and what type of
couple are they? Well, this is the type of couple
that they are. They stay together, they break up, they
stay together, they break up, they stay together, they break up,
they stay together, they break up. They've been together for
longer than a listen and I have been together. They've
been together for like eight years. But they stay together,
(00:46):
they break up, the stay together, they break up.
Speaker 2 (00:47):
Clearly not engaged either.
Speaker 1 (00:49):
No, they've been doing this recently. I'd say that this
has been happening for the last three months. They've probably
broken up like times. And the thing is is that
even though we haven't sent out to save the dates,
they're one of those couples that we've spent a lot
of time with each other and we've talked about the wedding.
(01:11):
We've gone. Oh, like they even know. We kind of
kept this a super secret with a lot of people.
They even know where we're getting married, so they know
that We've had conversations with them about, you know, picking
up food and stuff like that. Alissa has shared intimate
details about certain things that I'm not even allowed to
(01:31):
know just yet with this woman. And well, here's the thing.
As we're putting together the list. You know, people cost money, Okay,
and I get the whole. You can invite someone and
then if you choose to, like they can't come, you
can use that invitation for someone else. But we're trying
to make this as small as possible. It's literally like
(01:51):
every single night we look at and we're like, Okay,
well maybe this person doesn't have to come. I want
to know because I told her yesterday, I said, I
think this person should just be off. I think that
they're uninvited. I think that we give her because we're
not even giving plus ones no one. If you you
gotta be not I don't care if you're married. We
(02:12):
both need to have a relationship with you. And I'm
talking about a close relationship. If you're gonna be invited.
I've said this before. I think that they're gonna be
people that don't get invited, that they're probably going to
not be too happy about it. And I think this
person's gonna have to be a part of it. I
think that they're significant now there's probably gonna be pissed
too if they're still together. To me, it's just they
break up so much lately. I don't I don't want
(02:33):
to give this invitation to where next thing, you know,
we're having this person go who. I don't think it's
like a five rule plan, like if you're not gonna
be friends with them, and there's a rule if you're
not gonna be friends with them in five years after
your wedding, they should not go to your wedding. So
you need to really look at it and go, will
I be friends with you in five years? If the
answer is no, they shouldn't come to your wedding. I
(02:54):
had so many people bring that up to me. I
think that this person will be in my life if
they're still together, but I don't think that they'll even
make it to the wedding.
Speaker 2 (03:04):
But have you thought about, Joe, the repercussions if you
don't invite this couple You've.
Speaker 1 (03:09):
Known me some high school. Of course I'm freaking out
about it.
Speaker 3 (03:13):
Well, then you've got it. Then you can't send the offer.
If this is somebody that you're close in the high school,
it doesn't matter. If they're going back and forth, back
and forth, back and forth. You still have to deal
with somebody thick and thin, like for me for example. Yeah,
I get why. I don't get I don't get a
plus one to this wedding.
Speaker 2 (03:28):
Well, but I know, I.
Speaker 1 (03:31):
Think I think you're on you're on the hey, you know,
like this weekend. This weekend, Redina plays her cards right,
she could get breaking news.
Speaker 2 (03:42):
You might get an invite.
Speaker 1 (03:43):
I'm not saying that she's got one now, but she's
got some time.
Speaker 2 (03:46):
But I don't think you can.
Speaker 3 (03:48):
I think it's a douche move to uninvite them, even
though you haven't officially sent out the arry.
Speaker 1 (03:54):
It's your wedding. There's no douche move at all. You
want them there, you don't if you don't want them,
there's your special day.
Speaker 2 (04:01):
You get what you want. But they're they're friends of yours.
Speaker 1 (04:04):
They he has better friends. If he only gets a
certain amount, you should invite the closest of the closest.
Let's do this eight hundred and four ninety three ninety
three two things. One should this person go? And then
the main one I want to know about is why
did you want to invite them? Why did they not
get an invitation to your wedding? Because I really would,
I would, I would love to hear more about that.
(04:27):
And it's almost like kind of like I'm watching game
tape from other people's weddings being strategic with how this
is going to happen. I never thought someone just said, damn,
Jed's Girlfriend's not getting an invitation. I've only been around
Jed's girlfriend twice, so I guess spend more time time,
I spend more time.
Speaker 4 (04:46):
I understand. I'm not sulty about that. I said, Ashley's
not getting plus Jed loves that, but she's not getting
a plus one. There's coworkers hours who are in very
very very serious relationships who will not be getting a
plus one. There are friends that will not be Oh
my god, there's a friend of Alyssa' who's not getting a
(05:08):
plus one that I already know she's There's gonna be
a lot of drama attached to it.
Speaker 1 (05:11):
But that's a Lista's friend and I'm gonna lie. You know,
this is gonna do what she does.
Speaker 2 (05:14):
Not my problem.
Speaker 1 (05:17):
We will be But Megan, I talk to me about
this whole wedding invitation.
Speaker 5 (05:26):
So my wedding is in February, and I told this
friend they weren't invited because I didn't tell them why.
I told them, Oh, we just didn't have enough invites.
But they're not invited because they caused me stressed. But
we've been friends for a really long time. Yeah, so
I think you're totally in the.
Speaker 1 (05:45):
Right with this one, you think.
Speaker 5 (05:47):
And I technically didn't invite them because I don't know
their boyfriend and I don't like their boyfriend from what
they tell me.
Speaker 1 (05:56):
A lot of problems attached to that though.
Speaker 5 (05:59):
I don't really know the guy that well. But I
think they're a really annoying couple where they just like
love everything about each other, and I think it's really annoying.
Speaker 1 (06:08):
Yeah, but like like drama with that though, You're okay
with the drama that's gonna come with that?
Speaker 2 (06:12):
Yeah, the fall, that's the biggest thing.
Speaker 5 (06:16):
Yeah, I'm okay with the drama that's gonna come with it,
because I mean, I really don't care if this person
is in my life, but I don't think they'll do
anything about it. They don't care.
Speaker 1 (06:25):
Okay, all right, well thank you. And you also said
have you been talking to my fiance? Because that's like
literally what she says. So this is good. This is good.
Speaker 5 (06:35):
No, I don't know Lisa at all.
Speaker 1 (06:36):
I promise Megan, you're the best. Now Michelle's calling me
a douche. Good stuff, Michelle.
Speaker 5 (06:43):
I love you.
Speaker 6 (06:45):
You know I love you, But I have to tell
you this, especially since he's a close friend and Alyssa
has given so much information about the wedding that makes
them think that they're going to be included, and for
you to rescind the offer, I just think that's awful.
Speaker 1 (06:59):
Yeah, well, so one more time. I just want to
make this clear. Maybe I didn't make this clear. It's
the the girl is like, ah, the woman is close
with Alissa. I don't want to say too much because
I want them to hear this and go, oh my god,
it's about us. But they'll know because they've broken up
like thirty five times. The guy is like, he's not
(07:22):
He's just there. He's always been there. But he's just there,
you know what I mean. But I get I get
what you're saying. I totally get what you're saying. And Michelle,
I love when you call him, So call him more. Okay,
you too, you did this? Who did you want to
invite Luisa.
Speaker 7 (07:44):
My cousin.
Speaker 1 (07:45):
Oof, that's gonna be a lot of drama. I can't
invite cousins, you know.
Speaker 7 (07:51):
When they bring the drama, then it's you know, it's
we did everybody in favor by uninviting him.
Speaker 8 (07:58):
He asked me at about the money and how much
it was to travel to the wedding, and then asked
me if I could cover his travel to come to
my wedding.
Speaker 7 (08:11):
So I said, how about we just agree that you're
not gonna come? And I invited him uninvited him?
Speaker 1 (08:17):
All right, all right, all right, all right, Louisa. Luisa
plates are very expensive, aren't they.
Speaker 2 (08:26):
Aren't? They are? They are?
Speaker 1 (08:27):
So check this out. So while you were talking, I read,
because I can see everyone's calls. I read a call
from Brittany. I see what she's about to say. Well,
I'm gonna pick her up a just a second. I
want to get your opinion before we talk to Brittany.
Brittany says everyone should get a plus one because it's
less drama that doubles the price in the wedding.
Speaker 3 (08:46):
No no, no, no, no no.
Speaker 7 (08:49):
If you have an unlimited budget, then of course everyone
gets absolutely dumb. However, I didn't want a bunch of
strangers at my wedding, and you're always gonna have that
one or two like, oh it's your.
Speaker 5 (09:00):
Mom's aunt's friend's sister that.
Speaker 7 (09:02):
You have to invite. That's a little bit different.
Speaker 1 (09:06):
I'm making mom pay for that. By the way, if
if my mom has any of those people, she get
paid for those plates. You know. That's the thing.
Speaker 7 (09:13):
People, it's expensive. And here's the thing, it's your day.
And I know everybody says this, but you guys can
do whatever the bleep you want. It's your day, and people.
If people can't, you know they're going to get their
panties all in a bunch because they weren't invited to
your wedding. Trust me, they'll get over it. And I
like to like, oh, well, I know them in five year,
(09:34):
ll forget that. You guys do what you want to do,
and if you guys are grown up, people will get
over it. Make yourself.
Speaker 2 (09:42):
Happy you guys, thank you for the call, Louise, so
we appreciate it.
Speaker 7 (09:47):
Of course.
Speaker 1 (09:48):
All the best, all right, Luisi, you're the best. Thank
you so much. Uh all right, so timing purposes, I
want to get to Brittaney, Brittany, I got to talk
to you about doing the whole plus ones thing, So
hold on, one said, And I want to talk to
another Brittany who had to uninvite her dad. Yeah, we've
(10:11):
got a lot we want to talk about with this,
or at least I want to talk about it. I'm
gonna get a little selfish,
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