Off The Record Ep.3

Episode Transcript

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What's up y'all? Welcome choice theWhat More Can I Say? Podcast?
Off the Record, Episode three.It's the audio only. Of course,
if you're listening, that means youwon't be able to see some of the
crazy faces in here that will bemaking Hey, I'm one of your whole
soga pauls. She is fluffy andfive. Her name is Kiki and that
is the funny man, Zach,Buz, what's up? What's up y'all?

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What's happening? Man? So whatare we talking about? Crazy is
what we're doing. We're talking aboutlike, you know, when you break
up, just say you're in arelationship, it was a long relationship,
you shared friends and all of that. When you break up, how do
you split up the friend group?Ooh, that can get tricky sometimes.

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I know some people who were inrelationships, like in college or whatever,
and they actually share, genuinely sharethe friend group and then they then they
break then they break up, andit's weird, huh when somebody has something
that's interesting because I've exactly no Iknow I have, but I've never been
broken up with. But I've neverI don't believe in my we not all

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friends like I got my friends.He got his friends, you friends,
No, Like I'm cool with hisfriends. You know what I'm saying.
They cool, they come out ofthe house, they cool, cool.
But those are his friends, rightand my friends are my friends. There's
no reason for my friends to haveyour number or be calling you or y'all
need to be communicating without me present, you know what I'm saying. So

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like, I don't even believe inthe whole mixing like that now with with
relationships like that, I feel thatare mixed in college and stuff, you
cause that's where it should start.I just feel like as adults, like
if I'm in a relationship with aman and I'm grown, I don't need
to His friends ain't my friends,you know what I'm saying. But if

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we are talking in college, thenyou always find out who the realists like
because the group gonna go with whoeverwas the the cooler person the real list,
because a lot of times we justtolerating y'all partners, you know what
I'm saying. Like Zach, myhomie, I just tolerate whoever he deal
with because I'm cool with Zach.Get rid of that heifer. No,
that's happy. You know what I'msaying, So it's weird, Like I

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just had a friend and two ofmy closest friends was dating each other and
they broke up. Yes, now, admittedly me and the guy, we
have been closer for a while,you know what I'm saying. We just
worked We've worked together for a longtime. We just we just had had
a closer relationship. But this ismy girl from grade school. She might

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girl like you know what I'm saying. So they had a very messy breakup,
and when we would go, Ihad events where I have to invite
both of them, Like I'm notgonna not invite her because you're coming,
and I'm not gonna not invite himbecause you're coming. Yeah, because y'all
just gotta be a hey. Iwant that when y'all was bumping, and
I don't need to be in themiddle of it when y'all ain't you know
what I'm saying, Like, don'tmake me choose as the one as being

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a friend. I'm not choosing likeit, y'all need to come and support
me and act like adults or yeah, I'm gonna figure out who cooler,
you know, Like i'mna feel I'mgonna figure out who the realists. But
as the friend, I'm like,so you cool with both of them?
Still? Yes, And both ofthem have beened to me about the other,
and I would never go back andtell each part. I don't get
in that. You know what I'msaying. But I'm a listener here and

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I love both of y'all. Andwhen it's my birthday, both of y'all
don't get an invite. And ifyou mad that I invited him to them,
bad, If you mad that Iinvited her, get over it.
I don't give a damn. Itain't about y'all. It's about me,
So come and support and have fun. But yeah, so I'm I'm the
friend that ain't choosing. I'm notmaking like, don't put me in that
spot. No, you got tochoose. No, No, I always

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think that, like if, becausewhat happens with me a lot of times
is like the women that I date, they still want the access. I
got pretty cool friends. They stillwant some of that accents. Yeah,
they want the access. They werelike, okay, I they got cool
with some of his business partners becauseI was getting in the club. But
I you know, I ain't needto be here because if I'm looking you

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know, not for tall women.Nah, you don't do that no more.
You know that. Ain't that mybusiness partners. I don't put them
in a position where they got tolook out for you because they didn't help
looked out for you once. Y'allain't real friends. They only was rocking
with you because he was with me, And like it's it gets triggered because
I wouldn't. I ain't gonna neverbe like man, some of her cool

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homies that I was cool with,Damn Kiki, some of the some of
the cool homies that I was coolwith her girls that I thought was cool.
I'm not gonna be like start invitingthem back out to the club.
Ay, y'all good, y'all wantto come to the club, y'all want
to sit with me? None ofthat stuff. Ain't none of that now.
If you out, I'm not gonnaher friends are out. I'm not
gonna be mean to him and tellthem they can't sit at the table.

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But I'm also not going to invitethem to the table. And if they
her friends, they shouldn't be atyour table. No way. Yeah,
I don't let Yeah, I don't. They don't do I don't think.
I don't think they do. Idon't think no, no, no,
they'll do it. They'll come andspeak and say what's up? Like I
just leave when you your friends,your friends and your friends like, I'm
not mad at your friends, butI'm not following them on Instagram. I'm

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not doing nothing. I'm just hey, we had your friends, go with
you, my friends, come withme. Don't try to use I've had
people because of the they got coolwith the Team Hennessy stuff and go out
of town and hit hit my hitmy friends with Team Hennessy and be like
hit him and be like, yo, is it cool? You get me
into the cub like my boy hitme? Like, hey man, right,

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ain't no way? What should Ido? I was like, hey
man, do what you do,whatever you feel, do whatever you feel.
Let me tell you something. Thedudes that's doing you need to keep
an eye on. Oh yeah,okay, No, I wouldn't say that,
yes you do, because what whatwhat? Hey? Hey, I'm
your friend, so you shouldn't youhitting me. It's even irritating me because
you should have just knew what todo in that situation anyway, and then

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hit me on the late light Bro, you know so and so tried to
pull up on me. I toldher ass now because I know y'all are
fucking with each other no more,and leave it at that. But if
you come calling me to me,yeah, she's standing right here. What
else what you want me to say? And then I say, because I'm
gonna keep a player right in onthe phone. Do whatever you feel and
you give her a section what youwant, Bro, that's real, like

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you put I think it's levels.I'm not gonna get her a sex Let
me talk to Okay, So here'sno no, I'm gonna tell you.
Let me explain. Okay. Oneof my best no, okay, go
ahead, Sorry, my best friend. He's on and off with this girl
all the time. They've been onand off since I've known him. He's

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one of my best friends in theworld. He knows it. Would never
do anything behind his back. That'scrazy, all right. Well, his
they broke up, but then theyget back together, they break up,
they get back together every time theybreak up. I never talked to her,
you know what I'm saying. Theonly time I talk to her is
when they are together and he's withher. You know what I'm saying,

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that's the only time. Now.What I'm trying to say is I have
known her long enough. I've knownher over fifteen years. If she was
in Chicago, okay, and sheand she hit me and was like,
Zach, I'm at the wit,can you get me in? I would
do it get yourself. But itwouldn't it wouldn't be don't I wouldn't go

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out my way to do it.Like what I'm saying is like, but
you see, you know what I'msaying, My boys ex my boys even
if they on and off again,any of that stuff. I would tell
my boy to my homies. ButI understand that, but I don't I
look at it because I already knowhe would tell me. Yeah, let
her in tell me what you knowwhat I'm saying. He wanted to see

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what she's doing. You know whatI'm saying, Like I wouldn't go Like
I guess what I'm saying. Wewere all I guess. The difference is
we were all one big friend groupin college. We all hung out together.
Like I know these people personally asbut when they when they're their thing,
they they think when they not Idon't talk to her or anything like
that. But I'm saying there,if she was there, she would be

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there because I used talk to herfriend. So if they were group opposed
to like adults, that's college friendgroups. But if you know me and
my girl not together, you knowthat we're not together right now, you
finish bring her in the clubs,you can find another man. No,
what I'm trying to say is,what I'm trying to say is if I
if your girls shouldn't even have mynumber, thank you in the first place.

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So what I'm saying is if shecan call me and contact me about
getting in somewhere, then I musthave a relationship with that person. But
I'm not gonna have the number ofmy friend's girl anyway, Like why would
that number even be? Why wouldI have her number? But something happened
to me recently, and I'll giveyou an example, and I felt a

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way and it was like it waslike I was like, Yo, don't
put me in my you know,I had a situation. Don't put me
in my girl in y'all situation.I'm sitting we switcherling, and I let
it slide. Who said that?One of my friends said that said we

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said me and my girls are switching. We Switzerland. Don't put us in
y'all situation, I said, andI I didn't want to ruin the night,
but I had to go back andexplain. I said, hey,
bro, that made me feel feela way. I felt bad. Why
I'm just saying, I don't wantto be in y'all mess. I don't
want to. You know, wedon't want to be in between us.
So I said, I understand that. But when you say you switzerling to

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me, that means that you're neutral. And I was like, I was
like, you wouldn't know her ifit wasn't for me. Now I know
y'all built a relationship. I knowy'all built a relationship. That's cool.
I'm not saying hater, but hey, man, if if you my dog,
you ain't Switzerland, you're supposed tobe on my side. Because I
was like, if somebody asked meabout if somebody, if it came between

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you and your situation, I'm withyou. I with you all day,
foe, and I don't care whatgoing on. Hey, I don't got
done. I ain't against her.I don't hate her, but I can't
and I think a real person willunderstand me. Saying, Hey, I
can't fuck with you because you ain'tfucking with my boy no more. I'm
sorry, I'm sorry. I justcan't. I can't be around I can't,

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I can't. I just not gonnado that. I'm not gonna be
around you and fuck with you.But honestly, in his situation, it
sounds like he said we Switzerland.So when he said we, I hear
that differently. I heard that asme. And when he say we,
he probably saying me and my lady. Yeah, correct, Okay, So
he's saying me and my lady areout of it. And the only reason
I think he said we is becauseshe and I don't know the situation.

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But I'm just the way it sounded. It sounds like she don't want to
be in the middle of it.Does that make sense? Like his girl
don't want to be in the middleof it, and I just has a
better relationship with you. So hehas to speak. He's speaking for the
group. He ain't speaking for him. He's saying we ain't saying that.
That makes sense. That's what thatsounded like to me. He's like,

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we ain't got nothing to do withthat. That makes it seem like I'm
taking up for my lady right now. She don't want to be in the
middle of y'all. Yeah, thingand thing, that's what that sounds like.
I don't think that's to me,that didn't sound like. But initially
when I heard it, I wasI felt a way because I was just
like yo, bro, like becauselike I said, like, like,
hey, I love Tim. Ilove Tim. That's I met him a

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bunch of time. Nice guy.He ain't Dad Kiki, no more your
ghost to me. And that's justthe fact that that it's it's nothing against
him, there's nothing against him.And if I saw him, I wouldn't
be like, I wouldn't ignore him, but I would just it's just how
I move, bro. And that'sthat's why I said, like, when
you know I've dated, I've datedwomen that we are. We have had

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intertwine friends, crazy intertwine friends.Once it was a rap. It's a
rap, like my like dude,like my my baby mama sorrow. Trinity's
mama sorrow was my dog, youhear me, like, such a nice
person, such a great that's justmy dog coole as hell. But when

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it was over, it was overwith. I reach out to her when
I was in Ohio, like,hey, like you know that type of
stuff. What I like, Ilike, I said, I tend to
find is that which I get.I get it, but it ain't right.
It's like I introduce you to thesepower players that you would have never

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had access to, or you wouldhave had access to for you could have
had access to them for another reasonor whatever that is. But now you
still trying to use my hookups thatI got. You try to use my
hookups to keep your life straight andeat no like when my life when when
you you not with me no more? You got to go make your own.

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You got to make your own wookcups. Since the hookups die,
the hookups die, ain't no way, ain't no way. Talking about can
you get I wish, I wishsomebody ex? Would you talk about Zach?
Can you get me some tickets towhat? Or like, okay,
so what about one of your exesfamily members one of my ex's family members.
Yeah, so like you and yourex we was together and then when
do you cut off the family?That's that's that's tough. You know what

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I'm saying. It depends I guessit depends on the relationship. You know
what I'm saying, like, whatwhat were we You know what I'm saying,
if we were just dating, ifwe were married, I think that
makes a big difference, just justa relationship with you know what I'm saying,
Like I still have a very goodrelationship with my ex wife's dad.
Okay, you know what I'm saying, Like, that's that's your grandfather.

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But we we share we share acommon interest, right, my son.
So you know what I'm I'm saying, like that's his grandfather, that's and
that's never gonna change. That's alwayshis grandfather. But if there was no
just like there was no Noah,you dated you? Oh I'm gone,
what fuck I'm talking you for?Oh my god? Okay, all right,

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to make mister Weston get off mylife. I want to make sure
I'm not going he may call.I mean, I'm not saying on his
phone, but I'm saying like itwouldn't be the same, Like we literally
have a common interest. So yes, you know what I'm saying. But
it's it's hard, you know whatI'm saying, Like it ain't Actually it's
not hard. We cool, butI understand how that could get how that
could get tricky. If we ain'tgot no common interest, I don't have

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to talk to you. I don'thave to see you. You shouldn't have.
I guess what I'm trying to sayis the people who can contact me
can contact me. If that makessense. I don't know. I don't
exchange numbers with my friends women,right. That's why I brought it to
family, because I was like,maybe family would be a little different.
We just not feinna. I'm justnot finna have your IM not gonna be

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walking around with tone woman number inno way, shape or form. If
I got something to ask her,And guess what I'm gonna do, ask
him, and he gonna ask her, Like I'm gonna ask through him.
I'm not gonna hit up. Butwhy would I have I never should have
my friend woman number. And it'snot a it's not a thing communicating in

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that way like I just had evenI had even what does this go to
friendships too? Because I had afriendship like like my homie, like man,
cool cool cool. We fell outand that and that that was it.
And then they went and tried toask one of my hookups for something
to help him. It was like, yeah, I know, bro,

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like you know me and tone youknow, we ain't cool no more,
man, but hey, I reallyneed your help on some business stuff.
And I'm like, now. Myboy called me instantly like I ain't really
let him have it, but Ijust was like, you know, bro,
I'm busy right now. I can'tdo it. He was like,
he was like, dudesus crazy.Yeah, it be acity. It's always

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the audacity because you you introduce peopleto each other and they start thinking that
they don't need you or like andit's like yeah, like that people people
get wild, you know what I'msaying, Like that's the reason. Yeah,
yeah, that's crazy. So that'sone that I've noticed especially. I
mean, I know if y'all knowthis is with our jobs. There's two
things about our jobs. Is thatwhen people start hanging around us and I'm

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going to say the one thing thatprobably is going to you, you both
then ran into they think anybody coulddo it because the way we make it
looks it's so easy. Your jobso easy, man. I wish man,
I wish I had a job.I could just sit out at the
talk yep. They think that theythink that this is the easiest job in

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the world not although this ain't this, ain't picking up boxes at ups.
Why you tied? You have noidea? Asked you why you tired?
The stress? So they hang aroundyou and then they start. I see
how you move, and they seehow you move, they see the connections
they see They're like, I coulddo that, that's easy. But they
don't understand. They ain't see therole that you took to get all of

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those connections. And it just youmake everything look so easy. They see
the finished products, so to speak. They have no idea. You look
like you will you live in that? Oh yeah, I mean people think
it's always. It's always. That'swhy I'm like, anytime I get to
tell my story somewhere, I loveto share it because people think, like,
how she get that and why sheget that? And she don't what

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she don't deserve and she y'all couldn'tlast five minutes. And the ship I
had to do to get here,okay, and the ship I had to
learn and go and figure out,Like I didn't wake up like this.
I fucking built this, Like Iwork my ass off to get the same
thing for y'all. Like people justthink, you know, oh, you
just woke up on the radio likeare you kidding me? No? And

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so it it's crazy to ever assumethat about somebody's career. And I I
just pray for the people who thinklike that because they go to bed at
night really upset that it's them,that it's not them, you know what
I'm saying, Like people are losingsleep over your life right now. Tone
like they going to bed like punchingtheir like what the wow? How?
And they have no idea, noidea. And I say stuff all the

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time like when people get to talking, I'll let you. I'll let you
have it every once in a while. But again and I just like you
said, you have no idea thatthe building blocks of it like it just
it looks easy because we've been doingit for so long, the way we
move within these spaces and how to. But I always tell people like I
like, yo, bro, likeyou were you were having fun and you

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was out here having sex with allthe chicks downtown and you was partying,
staying up and doing bro. Iwas I was in the studio. Yeah.
Or you had a decent salary whenyou first came out of college.
You got a job with a goodsalary and benefits and able to start a
family and take care of a familyand build up a nice, beautiful life.
It. I got ten plus yearsto get the money, and I

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still ain't got no money. Theybroke it. Spent the first eight years
of my career without health insurance,thank you, because I couldn't afford to
take that money out of my check. I needed that to make the budgets.
I'm praying I don't get sick.I'm hooping like like, man,
I hope I don't break nothing,because if I break, maybe I think

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I broke my ankle. Man,I just paid that medical bill. I
wasn't giving them money that. Iwas like, yo, I'm not gonna
give you nothing like so it's athey don't understand those different things. But
I think that I think that's probablymy my biggest thing is when people try
to use hookups. Like I said, I've dated some powerful ass women,
some powerful women, and they introduceme to some real bosses, some real

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bosses. I would not reach outto them people after it was over.
I wu was not going to reachout and be like, hey, you
know, me and me and Rocketno more. But you remember you had
said about that restaurant kind of thing. We get. I'm not doing that,
And I don't think people realize howstupid they look when they do that.
The peril like that's my home meLike, you you talking to me
and you think you're gonna get somethingfrom me, child, I don't I

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fool what You're gonna be half ofthem? Yeah, I only talking to
you because I think a lot ofpeople don't understand. Like and the people,
especially the people that you introduce themto, they're only giving you this
conversation on the strip. For me, yes, that's it. Other than
that, you're just another person.The audacity. Audacity be the name of

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this episode, The audaccity Off therecord, Episode three, final Thoughtsfore we
get out, we're gonna we're gonnado another conversation where we expound on how
we got to where we're at.Because people for yeah, people, people
I'm sure would love to hear thejourneys. Yeah, I know you guys,
journeys. You no, don't knowthat journey. You just made my

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name. He told it to me. What time you did? He probably
was lying, Okay, see ifyou match up, see if you're the
one he tell this year match upaway man, my journey, I got
a journey, drugs, prostituting itself, the women all over, sex with

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the elderly, slept his way tothe top bas let. The old lady
that has some power, that yougot. That work, she say,
made me feel young again. Crazy. Oh my god, I gotta go,
We gotta go. She has avery important last last that's it,

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and she all you got to justtake your friend and tell you a little
behind Marie Beauty my way. Shoutout all that to do it for this
version of Off the recommend Thank y'allfor listening. Let's go Peace,