November 21, 2025 • 17 mins
It's Thanksgiving time again. Let's make a smart move to heal a family rift. It's simple. It's quick. And you have control over its methodology.
Let's go do it.
ALSO: CheersI Our media buddy Angie Fenton is cancer free!!! Let's all celebrate Angie's newest chapter on life and send love to all who are wrestling with health challenges.
HAPPY THANKSGIVING TO ALL, AND TO ALL A GOOD HOLIDAY SEASON!
Let's go do it.
ALSO: CheersI Our media buddy Angie Fenton is cancer free!!! Let's all celebrate Angie's newest chapter on life and send love to all who are wrestling with health challenges.
HAPPY THANKSGIVING TO ALL, AND TO ALL A GOOD HOLIDAY SEASON!
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Speaker 1 (00:00):
Emanating from the digital launch pad. Hi at Top four
Street Live. It's the Harry Minor Show.
Speaker 2 (00:10):
It's kind of cool.
Speaker 3 (00:11):
I just got off a family text. Hi, everybody, Happy
Thanksgiving time, Happy holiday season.
Speaker 2 (00:17):
It's here. Deal with it, young calcomed quick.
Speaker 3 (00:22):
The season is here, the joyous holiday season is here.
So whatever terms you want to use, enjoy. My Christmas
tree lights went on this morning. I realized some of
them were burned and they didn't work on the tree.
And then I went downstairs to the storage area and
(00:43):
realized I bought a case of new lights last January
on a sale.
Speaker 4 (00:49):
A case o case, like, how many lights?
Speaker 2 (00:52):
Twelve hundred? Oh my goodness.
Speaker 3 (00:54):
Yeah, so I used another three hundred or maybe four fifty.
They come one hundred and fifty strands. I think I
use four hundred and fifty today that I had to
use to replace prior year lights that no longer work.
That's how that goes. And now I totally forgot. I
took advantage of a good price in January. Well you
(01:15):
little bless some Christmas lights at a great disc. I sure,
do you know there are companies that will do that
for you.
Speaker 4 (01:21):
They will just drive around, come to your house put
up your lights for you do the whole thing.
Speaker 3 (01:26):
How do I feel about my produce? We've had this conversation.
Things that touch me personally I am serious about and
I would like to manage. One of those is how
my Christmas lights look. I'm not having people do.
Speaker 2 (01:39):
Use the multicolored or just the white?
Speaker 3 (01:41):
What's the white? Just the light the heavens. The birth
of our Lord Jesus Christ is celebrated at Christmas time.
Speaker 2 (01:51):
Bringing light to the world.
Speaker 3 (01:53):
And so yeah, there's all kinds of beautiful ways to
express your appreciation for life in whatever capacity you want to.
But that's the way I like it. I like the
bright lights and it just feels good. So anyway, the
trees up, and now my job's over. I've I've stepped away.
Told my wife you're on tag team wrestling boom, So
she'll she'll start she doesn't like early Christmas stuff, so
(02:15):
she'll Daley Deli for a couple of days and then
start hanging some ornaments.
Speaker 2 (02:19):
That's okay, it's all good, baby.
Speaker 3 (02:23):
Hey, occasionally we're going I'm not gonna say we're gonna
do this every day, but let's do it occasionally because
sometimes we have heavy news we have to start with
on here, but let's have a toast today. Just if
you don't have anything to drink, just hold your empty
hand in the air. Start the show with a toast.
It's a celebration of life. Look, Austin, I see your
hand up. Your thumb is up at.
Speaker 5 (02:41):
And got a diet doctor pepper somewhere. I think it's
at the other end of the table. But it's interesting
to get it. Okay, hold on it. I'll wait for you.
We'll wait for it.
Speaker 2 (02:48):
Paul, what are you having that thing? It wasn't that
far of a reach.
Speaker 3 (02:53):
It's just water in there. I have hot chocolate here today.
Everybody in the community, wherever you happen to be, if
you're not driving, just raise your hand metaphorically, just do
it in your mind. Raise a glass of cheer for
Angie Fenton. We love Angie Fenton.
Speaker 4 (03:16):
What did she do?
Speaker 2 (03:17):
Angie Fenton just texted me a little while ago. I
love her.
Speaker 3 (03:20):
I've worked with her for years and she is busy
at work right now, or else she'd be on the
air with us.
Speaker 5 (03:26):
Shout out to Angie.
Speaker 2 (03:27):
Love her.
Speaker 3 (03:29):
She sent me this and then I asked for permission
to share publicly. And she said, well, let me give
you her reply. Yes, please share. I'm so grateful getting
stronger every day. Okay, here's what she texted me an
hour ago. I just learned I am cancer free.
Speaker 2 (03:49):
Good for her, that's all. Isn't that great?
Speaker 5 (03:51):
Ring the bell?
Speaker 3 (03:53):
She said, one year with no evidence of disease. And
then she's a personal note to me. We're good friends
and I'm just always loved her. Just you know, she's
a superperson. She was brought to this studio to meet
me as a birthday present, and we've been great friends
ever since. It's awesome, she wrote for the Courier Journal,
(04:14):
didn't she at first? She did, That's what she was
doing first. And then she handles her own extole as
the name of the magazine. But it's like it's an
online presence too.
Speaker 2 (04:25):
Anyway. I love that.
Speaker 3 (04:26):
And then so she sent me a nice personal note.
And then here's what she wrote me a few minutes ago.
How am I celebrating by working laugh emoji? I'm overseeing
a photo shoot right now for an ext old client,
or I'd have answered the phone when you call.
Speaker 2 (04:42):
Please share.
Speaker 3 (04:43):
I'm so grateful getting stronger every day, living the hell
out of each precious moment and burning with a fire
to be there for those affected by this disease.
Speaker 4 (04:52):
That is awesome way.
Speaker 3 (04:53):
To go, Angie Fenton. So there you go, there are
that's our toast of the day.
Speaker 4 (04:57):
She has a young daughter, doesn't she, is that right?
Speaker 2 (05:00):
Yeah, Olive? Yeah yeah.
Speaker 3 (05:02):
Angie and oll of have the same birthday, which is
two days before mine. Really, when you have a child
and then the child is born on your birthday, that's
pretty good. I mean, that's pretty awesome. And Olive's gorgeous,
just like her mom. So anyway, just happy for the
whole family. You know, they're just nice people. Jason's a
(05:24):
great guy. They're just great people.
Speaker 2 (05:26):
Fantastic news.
Speaker 3 (05:27):
So there you go. That's a great way to start
off a show. It is just somebody's happy news. So
we'll try to do that when we can when there's
something joyous to share. But like I said, some days
there's heavy stuff I got to roll into and that's that.
But here we are on the cusp of a great
holiday weekend. And instead of me closing a show this way,
because Austin knows I never quite know when the show's
going to end, he just starts playing that music, and
(05:48):
I know, oh, I got to shut up in twenty
four seconds.
Speaker 5 (05:51):
Whatever it is, it's worked out so far.
Speaker 3 (05:54):
Yeah, that's just kind of a how we roll around here.
Austin watches the clock and he knows when there's is
it thirty seconds left? You hit a bed or something?
Speaker 5 (06:02):
Yeah, our exact outro is thirty nine seconds okay.
Speaker 3 (06:06):
But I walk up to that guy saying it's bad,
you know, and that's what that is.
Speaker 2 (06:11):
Okay.
Speaker 5 (06:12):
So anyway, it's from the Sopranos, right, yep, I mean
that's where I heard it.
Speaker 3 (06:16):
I don't know it's from RL Burnside' the guy does
that song It's bad, you know, it's the name of
the song. But I heard it on the Sopranos and
I thought that's an awesome piece of music. And then
switch the intro to this show to that. Here we
are again. We're falling head first into a holiday season.
(06:36):
And sometimes I don't know how it happens, but people
drift apart and they don't talk to their family.
Speaker 2 (06:42):
I do.
Speaker 3 (06:42):
I'm mad at my sister, you know, my aunt, my
step mom said this and I just still am mad
about it.
Speaker 2 (06:50):
When did that happen? Know about ten years ago. We'll
get over it.
Speaker 3 (06:54):
Here we are again at a season where I mean,
think about the Grinch show. Everybody's seen that. Your heart
expands a little bit. Just allow the variance in views
in life to exist. Everybody can't be exactly like you.
(07:16):
No matter who you are or what you think or
what you feel. Everybody's different. I mean, life is a
horn of plenty. Think of all the different people you've
met in your life who do different things. Some people
like scuba diving, some people like fishing, some people like parachuting. Wrestling, Yeah, wrestling,
(07:41):
some people like to just stay home and read quietly.
Guess what, We're all human beings and we have different feelings,
different needs. One collective need we have, though, is communication
with other humans. And to just cut yourself off from people,
(08:01):
it's just you're damaging yourself. You think you're making some
kind of a statement, but you're not. You're just creating
scar tissue within you that you don't have to have.
So this year and start thinking about it now it's Friday,
Thanksgiving six days away, or the day before when you arrive,
(08:25):
or whatever it is, start seating the field right now.
Reach out today, reach out to someone today. I don't think,
well I heard him, but I do it today. Just
just send a gentle message looking forward to seeing you,
Even if it's somebody with whom you've had this huge chasm,
(08:47):
this weird departure, and you're thinking nothing will break the ice.
Guess what, you're the icebreaker. Today's the day. Just send
a note. Doesn't have to be long and drawn out.
Just I'm looking forward to talking with you next week.
Just let that sit, let that simmer. See if you
get a response. If you don't in a couple of days,
(09:10):
say hey, i'll be there wednesday.
Speaker 2 (09:13):
Let's talk. That's all you need to do.
Speaker 3 (09:16):
And then whenever it happens, and it's on the other
person obviously to say.
Speaker 2 (09:21):
Well, i'm not talking. I felt mad because you made
fun of my pants.
Speaker 3 (09:24):
Or whatever it is that somebody's still harboring a grudge about.
You can only do so much, but try and don't
give any of that. I'm sorry that we've had this separation,
but you should don't know to stop with the word
but that's where it all goes wrong. You just say
(09:44):
i'm sorry that we're in this place. Let's work on this,
and that's to me, that is the best way to
take the load off your own back. You don't even
know it's there. I think a lot of people carry
baggage with them through life. You don't need You just
(10:04):
have to think your way through it and work toward
releasing it. So instead of waiting until Thanksgiving, I say,
and you know, I'm no trained psychologists psychiatrists. I'm just
a human being who's made a few trips around the
earth and have seen a few things and learned from
other people. Just try that. If nothing else has worked,
(10:27):
and this has gone on for three years, or five
years or seventeen years, it's time to do something different.
So just figure out a way to gently crack the
door open. Hey, I'm looking forward to talking with you
next week. You don't need to say anything else. Let
them stew on that for a while. See if you
(10:49):
get a reply. They may say something harsh coming back.
It's okay. Do not answer in the same tone that
fight fire with fire thing is only applicable in certain
parts of reality, not in this kind of stuff. Just
crack open the door.
Speaker 2 (11:05):
Be positive. Even if you get, you know.
Speaker 3 (11:09):
Just a fire hose of a venom back, use the
same tone the next time you go and you just
be you just be consistently open to trying to mend
the wound.
Speaker 4 (11:24):
Can I say two things please do as you as
you get older, you'll find that that separation, that divide
is it hurts even more as you get older, you'll
find it. You know, I really want this person back
in my life, and I need this person back in
my life. And number two, you know, a few small
words or a disagreement over money. It's not worth it
(11:46):
to lose friendships, to lose family, you know, for years,
sometimes lifetimes. It's just not worth it.
Speaker 2 (11:56):
Yeah.
Speaker 3 (11:56):
It starts off as a smallish thing, and then it
grows in your mind. Yeah, yeah, it grows, and then
you think, well, just you know, oh my god, I
got to go to Aunt Tessie's house and you know
who's going to be there. Oh why why fill yourself
with all those spiders and snakes. You don't have to
do that. You just have to go on to the
(12:18):
right attitude. And when you see that person, just when
the moment is right, just go over and say hello,
it's great to see you. They may turn around and
walk away, but you did what you're supposed to do,
and don't try to correct somebody about it. I wish
you never would have said that about my pants or
whatever that was. None of that is helpful. Move forward.
(12:44):
Think of a marathon runner. Do they ever turn around
and run back because that fourteenth mile out of twenty
six felt so good? No, you're going forward. You're looking
forward to the fifteenth mile and the sixteenth and the seventeenth,
and that's how I goes And that's all that's there is,
forward progress. Living in the rear view mirror is just
(13:07):
poisonous to your brain and you can't do anything about it.
We're here where we are. So that's my holiday message.
I mean, I just made it up on the spot,
but anyway, but that's the way I feel about it.
I just think it makes me sad when I hear
people say that they don't have a connection with somebody
or another, and well, have you tried to open the door?
(13:30):
Well they know they can come back if they want
or whatever. It's like, Well, that's not enough. You have
to make a gesture, So just do your best. I
guarantee you if you send that text or leave a
voicemail or whatever it happens to be, you'll feel better
because you've started a process, because before this conversation started
(13:56):
fifteen minutes ago, you didn't have the thought in your mind.
But now it's in there and you're not going to
shake it out of there. Even if you just go
off to listen to country music station or whatever it is,
it's still in there. We already tainted you. It's like tag.
You're in, so you're on now. So get this thing done.
Get it today, don't wait till tomorrow.
Speaker 2 (14:16):
Oh I need to think about what I want. No,
you don't need to think about it.
Speaker 3 (14:19):
I'm looking forward to seeing you next week. That's all
I have to say. No Shakespearean pros that you're going
to construct, that's going to change the basic message. I'm
looking forward to spending time with you. Whatever it happens
to be. Just send it today, see what happens. You'd
(14:41):
be surprised. I've had this message on the air a
few times over the years. People will contact me and
say I did that, and thank you.
Speaker 2 (14:51):
It worked.
Speaker 3 (14:52):
My sister and I are talking again. It's like that's
pretty good. If so, if you men one fence here,
the community at large is better for it.
Speaker 4 (15:05):
Yeah. No, not only are you mending fences, but you're
helping yourself. I mean the saying take the high road.
It feels a lot better taking the high road than
it does the low road, a lot better.
Speaker 3 (15:17):
Yeah, nothing good is gonna come from just reflecting on
something from your childhood. We're here now, it's November twenty first,
twenty twenty five. We'll never have this day again. Use
it wisely. It's the only capital that we're sure runs
(15:40):
out in the end, and that's time. So none of
us know how many more minutes or hours or days
or months or decades we have. Use them to their
absolute best.
Speaker 4 (15:52):
Are you still mad at me for yes, beating you
trash basketball?
Speaker 2 (15:56):
Don't look at me. I don't like you.
Speaker 3 (15:58):
I guess I started this message because we heard that
good news about Angie. Yeah, Angie Fenton just you know,
we didn't know what was going to happen with her,
and now she's cancer free, and I'm like, you know,
that's good. And she's been a bold little soldier the
whole way all the way through, just kind of quietly
keeping us updated on what's happening. And then now here
(16:18):
that she's cancer free for a year, that's like, that's
big stuff. So feed off of that joy, right, there
and see if that doesn't bring you a higher standard
of living emotionally from the time we move on. And
now I'm going to step aside here and we have
to get a few messages on the air because Paul
needs a paycheck and so does Austin. And then we'll
(16:40):
come back and oh, we're going to talk to Bill
Drimer at thirty five. He's getting ready to retire, not yet,
it's still another week or so, but he's the helicopter
pilot for WLK. Why he's going to join us at
three thirty five Today we have UK basketball. A little
after four point thirty, Matt Jones and his team pop
on there, the KSR team. But now that we're going
(17:00):
to step aside, I'm going to tell you that our
opening segments of service of a horse soldier Bourbon that
helped with my paycheck. And then we're going to step
aside here for a moment or two. And while we
do that, send that text or two or three or
two different people. I'm saying, just one text per person.
Don't start hammering people the same person with nine texts.
(17:24):
One will do. Send one, sit on it until tomorrow
and see if you get a reply, and if there's
a bunch of people, send them all right now, Happy Thanksgiving,
Emanating from the digital launch pad. Hi at Top four
Street Live. It's the Harry Minor Show.
Speaker 2 (00:10):
It's kind of cool.
Speaker 3 (00:11):
I just got off a family text. Hi, everybody, Happy
Thanksgiving time, Happy holiday season.
Speaker 2 (00:17):
It's here. Deal with it, young calcomed quick.
Speaker 3 (00:22):
The season is here, the joyous holiday season is here.
So whatever terms you want to use, enjoy. My Christmas
tree lights went on this morning. I realized some of
them were burned and they didn't work on the tree.
And then I went downstairs to the storage area and
(00:43):
realized I bought a case of new lights last January
on a sale.
Speaker 4 (00:49):
A case o case, like, how many lights?
Speaker 2 (00:52):
Twelve hundred? Oh my goodness.
Speaker 3 (00:54):
Yeah, so I used another three hundred or maybe four fifty.
They come one hundred and fifty strands. I think I
use four hundred and fifty today that I had to
use to replace prior year lights that no longer work.
That's how that goes. And now I totally forgot. I
took advantage of a good price in January. Well you
(01:15):
little bless some Christmas lights at a great disc. I sure,
do you know there are companies that will do that
for you.
Speaker 4 (01:21):
They will just drive around, come to your house put
up your lights for you do the whole thing.
Speaker 3 (01:26):
How do I feel about my produce? We've had this conversation.
Things that touch me personally I am serious about and
I would like to manage. One of those is how
my Christmas lights look. I'm not having people do.
Speaker 2 (01:39):
Use the multicolored or just the white?
Speaker 3 (01:41):
What's the white? Just the light the heavens. The birth
of our Lord Jesus Christ is celebrated at Christmas time.
Speaker 2 (01:51):
Bringing light to the world.
Speaker 3 (01:53):
And so yeah, there's all kinds of beautiful ways to
express your appreciation for life in whatever capacity you want to.
But that's the way I like it. I like the
bright lights and it just feels good. So anyway, the
trees up, and now my job's over. I've I've stepped away.
Told my wife you're on tag team wrestling boom, So
she'll she'll start she doesn't like early Christmas stuff, so
(02:15):
she'll Daley Deli for a couple of days and then
start hanging some ornaments.
Speaker 2 (02:19):
That's okay, it's all good, baby.
Speaker 3 (02:23):
Hey, occasionally we're going I'm not gonna say we're gonna
do this every day, but let's do it occasionally because
sometimes we have heavy news we have to start with
on here, but let's have a toast today. Just if
you don't have anything to drink, just hold your empty
hand in the air. Start the show with a toast.
It's a celebration of life. Look, Austin, I see your
hand up. Your thumb is up at.
Speaker 5 (02:41):
And got a diet doctor pepper somewhere. I think it's
at the other end of the table. But it's interesting
to get it. Okay, hold on it. I'll wait for you.
We'll wait for it.
Speaker 2 (02:48):
Paul, what are you having that thing? It wasn't that
far of a reach.
Speaker 3 (02:53):
It's just water in there. I have hot chocolate here today.
Everybody in the community, wherever you happen to be, if
you're not driving, just raise your hand metaphorically, just do
it in your mind. Raise a glass of cheer for
Angie Fenton. We love Angie Fenton.
Speaker 4 (03:16):
What did she do?
Speaker 2 (03:17):
Angie Fenton just texted me a little while ago. I
love her.
Speaker 3 (03:20):
I've worked with her for years and she is busy
at work right now, or else she'd be on the
air with us.
Speaker 5 (03:26):
Shout out to Angie.
Speaker 2 (03:27):
Love her.
Speaker 3 (03:29):
She sent me this and then I asked for permission
to share publicly. And she said, well, let me give
you her reply. Yes, please share. I'm so grateful getting
stronger every day. Okay, here's what she texted me an
hour ago. I just learned I am cancer free.
Speaker 2 (03:49):
Good for her, that's all. Isn't that great?
Speaker 5 (03:51):
Ring the bell?
Speaker 3 (03:53):
She said, one year with no evidence of disease. And
then she's a personal note to me. We're good friends
and I'm just always loved her. Just you know, she's
a superperson. She was brought to this studio to meet
me as a birthday present, and we've been great friends
ever since. It's awesome, she wrote for the Courier Journal,
(04:14):
didn't she at first? She did, That's what she was
doing first. And then she handles her own extole as
the name of the magazine. But it's like it's an
online presence too.
Speaker 2 (04:25):
Anyway. I love that.
Speaker 3 (04:26):
And then so she sent me a nice personal note.
And then here's what she wrote me a few minutes ago.
How am I celebrating by working laugh emoji? I'm overseeing
a photo shoot right now for an ext old client,
or I'd have answered the phone when you call.
Speaker 2 (04:42):
Please share.
Speaker 3 (04:43):
I'm so grateful getting stronger every day, living the hell
out of each precious moment and burning with a fire
to be there for those affected by this disease.
Speaker 4 (04:52):
That is awesome way.
Speaker 3 (04:53):
To go, Angie Fenton. So there you go, there are
that's our toast of the day.
Speaker 4 (04:57):
She has a young daughter, doesn't she, is that right?
Speaker 2 (05:00):
Yeah, Olive? Yeah yeah.
Speaker 3 (05:02):
Angie and oll of have the same birthday, which is
two days before mine. Really, when you have a child
and then the child is born on your birthday, that's
pretty good. I mean, that's pretty awesome. And Olive's gorgeous,
just like her mom. So anyway, just happy for the
whole family. You know, they're just nice people. Jason's a
(05:24):
great guy. They're just great people.
Speaker 2 (05:26):
Fantastic news.
Speaker 3 (05:27):
So there you go. That's a great way to start
off a show. It is just somebody's happy news. So
we'll try to do that when we can when there's
something joyous to share. But like I said, some days
there's heavy stuff I got to roll into and that's that.
But here we are on the cusp of a great
holiday weekend. And instead of me closing a show this way,
because Austin knows I never quite know when the show's
going to end, he just starts playing that music, and
(05:48):
I know, oh, I got to shut up in twenty
four seconds.
Speaker 5 (05:51):
Whatever it is, it's worked out so far.
Speaker 3 (05:54):
Yeah, that's just kind of a how we roll around here.
Austin watches the clock and he knows when there's is
it thirty seconds left? You hit a bed or something?
Speaker 5 (06:02):
Yeah, our exact outro is thirty nine seconds okay.
Speaker 3 (06:06):
But I walk up to that guy saying it's bad,
you know, and that's what that is.
Speaker 2 (06:11):
Okay.
Speaker 5 (06:12):
So anyway, it's from the Sopranos, right, yep, I mean
that's where I heard it.
Speaker 3 (06:16):
I don't know it's from RL Burnside' the guy does
that song It's bad, you know, it's the name of
the song. But I heard it on the Sopranos and
I thought that's an awesome piece of music. And then
switch the intro to this show to that. Here we
are again. We're falling head first into a holiday season.
(06:36):
And sometimes I don't know how it happens, but people
drift apart and they don't talk to their family.
Speaker 2 (06:42):
I do.
Speaker 3 (06:42):
I'm mad at my sister, you know, my aunt, my
step mom said this and I just still am mad
about it.
Speaker 2 (06:50):
When did that happen? Know about ten years ago. We'll
get over it.
Speaker 3 (06:54):
Here we are again at a season where I mean,
think about the Grinch show. Everybody's seen that. Your heart
expands a little bit. Just allow the variance in views
in life to exist. Everybody can't be exactly like you.
(07:16):
No matter who you are or what you think or
what you feel. Everybody's different. I mean, life is a
horn of plenty. Think of all the different people you've
met in your life who do different things. Some people
like scuba diving, some people like fishing, some people like parachuting. Wrestling, Yeah, wrestling,
(07:41):
some people like to just stay home and read quietly.
Guess what, We're all human beings and we have different feelings,
different needs. One collective need we have, though, is communication
with other humans. And to just cut yourself off from people,
(08:01):
it's just you're damaging yourself. You think you're making some
kind of a statement, but you're not. You're just creating
scar tissue within you that you don't have to have.
So this year and start thinking about it now it's Friday,
Thanksgiving six days away, or the day before when you arrive,
(08:25):
or whatever it is, start seating the field right now.
Reach out today, reach out to someone today. I don't think,
well I heard him, but I do it today. Just
just send a gentle message looking forward to seeing you,
Even if it's somebody with whom you've had this huge chasm,
(08:47):
this weird departure, and you're thinking nothing will break the ice.
Guess what, you're the icebreaker. Today's the day. Just send
a note. Doesn't have to be long and drawn out.
Just I'm looking forward to talking with you next week.
Just let that sit, let that simmer. See if you
get a response. If you don't in a couple of days,
(09:10):
say hey, i'll be there wednesday.
Speaker 2 (09:13):
Let's talk. That's all you need to do.
Speaker 3 (09:16):
And then whenever it happens, and it's on the other
person obviously to say.
Speaker 2 (09:21):
Well, i'm not talking. I felt mad because you made
fun of my pants.
Speaker 3 (09:24):
Or whatever it is that somebody's still harboring a grudge about.
You can only do so much, but try and don't
give any of that. I'm sorry that we've had this separation,
but you should don't know to stop with the word
but that's where it all goes wrong. You just say
(09:44):
i'm sorry that we're in this place. Let's work on this,
and that's to me, that is the best way to
take the load off your own back. You don't even
know it's there. I think a lot of people carry
baggage with them through life. You don't need You just
(10:04):
have to think your way through it and work toward
releasing it. So instead of waiting until Thanksgiving, I say,
and you know, I'm no trained psychologists psychiatrists. I'm just
a human being who's made a few trips around the
earth and have seen a few things and learned from
other people. Just try that. If nothing else has worked,
(10:27):
and this has gone on for three years, or five
years or seventeen years, it's time to do something different.
So just figure out a way to gently crack the
door open. Hey, I'm looking forward to talking with you
next week. You don't need to say anything else. Let
them stew on that for a while. See if you
(10:49):
get a reply. They may say something harsh coming back.
It's okay. Do not answer in the same tone that
fight fire with fire thing is only applicable in certain
parts of reality, not in this kind of stuff. Just
crack open the door.
Speaker 2 (11:05):
Be positive. Even if you get, you know.
Speaker 3 (11:09):
Just a fire hose of a venom back, use the
same tone the next time you go and you just
be you just be consistently open to trying to mend
the wound.
Speaker 4 (11:24):
Can I say two things please do as you as
you get older, you'll find that that separation, that divide
is it hurts even more as you get older, you'll
find it. You know, I really want this person back
in my life, and I need this person back in
my life. And number two, you know, a few small
words or a disagreement over money. It's not worth it
(11:46):
to lose friendships, to lose family, you know, for years,
sometimes lifetimes. It's just not worth it.
Speaker 2 (11:56):
Yeah.
Speaker 3 (11:56):
It starts off as a smallish thing, and then it
grows in your mind. Yeah, yeah, it grows, and then
you think, well, just you know, oh my god, I
got to go to Aunt Tessie's house and you know
who's going to be there. Oh why why fill yourself
with all those spiders and snakes. You don't have to
do that. You just have to go on to the
(12:18):
right attitude. And when you see that person, just when
the moment is right, just go over and say hello,
it's great to see you. They may turn around and
walk away, but you did what you're supposed to do,
and don't try to correct somebody about it. I wish
you never would have said that about my pants or
whatever that was. None of that is helpful. Move forward.
(12:44):
Think of a marathon runner. Do they ever turn around
and run back because that fourteenth mile out of twenty
six felt so good? No, you're going forward. You're looking
forward to the fifteenth mile and the sixteenth and the seventeenth,
and that's how I goes And that's all that's there is,
forward progress. Living in the rear view mirror is just
(13:07):
poisonous to your brain and you can't do anything about it.
We're here where we are. So that's my holiday message.
I mean, I just made it up on the spot,
but anyway, but that's the way I feel about it.
I just think it makes me sad when I hear
people say that they don't have a connection with somebody
or another, and well, have you tried to open the door?
(13:30):
Well they know they can come back if they want
or whatever. It's like, Well, that's not enough. You have
to make a gesture, So just do your best. I
guarantee you if you send that text or leave a
voicemail or whatever it happens to be, you'll feel better
because you've started a process, because before this conversation started
(13:56):
fifteen minutes ago, you didn't have the thought in your mind.
But now it's in there and you're not going to
shake it out of there. Even if you just go
off to listen to country music station or whatever it is,
it's still in there. We already tainted you. It's like tag.
You're in, so you're on now. So get this thing done.
Get it today, don't wait till tomorrow.
Speaker 2 (14:16):
Oh I need to think about what I want. No,
you don't need to think about it.
Speaker 3 (14:19):
I'm looking forward to seeing you next week. That's all
I have to say. No Shakespearean pros that you're going
to construct, that's going to change the basic message. I'm
looking forward to spending time with you. Whatever it happens
to be. Just send it today, see what happens. You'd
(14:41):
be surprised. I've had this message on the air a
few times over the years. People will contact me and
say I did that, and thank you.
Speaker 2 (14:51):
It worked.
Speaker 3 (14:52):
My sister and I are talking again. It's like that's
pretty good. If so, if you men one fence here,
the community at large is better for it.
Speaker 4 (15:05):
Yeah. No, not only are you mending fences, but you're
helping yourself. I mean the saying take the high road.
It feels a lot better taking the high road than
it does the low road, a lot better.
Speaker 3 (15:17):
Yeah, nothing good is gonna come from just reflecting on
something from your childhood. We're here now, it's November twenty first,
twenty twenty five. We'll never have this day again. Use
it wisely. It's the only capital that we're sure runs
(15:40):
out in the end, and that's time. So none of
us know how many more minutes or hours or days
or months or decades we have. Use them to their
absolute best.
Speaker 4 (15:52):
Are you still mad at me for yes, beating you
trash basketball?
Speaker 2 (15:56):
Don't look at me. I don't like you.
Speaker 3 (15:58):
I guess I started this message because we heard that
good news about Angie. Yeah, Angie Fenton just you know,
we didn't know what was going to happen with her,
and now she's cancer free, and I'm like, you know,
that's good. And she's been a bold little soldier the
whole way all the way through, just kind of quietly
keeping us updated on what's happening. And then now here
(16:18):
that she's cancer free for a year, that's like, that's
big stuff. So feed off of that joy, right, there
and see if that doesn't bring you a higher standard
of living emotionally from the time we move on. And
now I'm going to step aside here and we have
to get a few messages on the air because Paul
needs a paycheck and so does Austin. And then we'll
(16:40):
come back and oh, we're going to talk to Bill
Drimer at thirty five. He's getting ready to retire, not yet,
it's still another week or so, but he's the helicopter
pilot for WLK. Why he's going to join us at
three thirty five Today we have UK basketball. A little
after four point thirty, Matt Jones and his team pop
on there, the KSR team. But now that we're going
(17:00):
to step aside, I'm going to tell you that our
opening segments of service of a horse soldier Bourbon that
helped with my paycheck. And then we're going to step
aside here for a moment or two. And while we
do that, send that text or two or three or
two different people. I'm saying, just one text per person.
Don't start hammering people the same person with nine texts.
(17:24):
One will do. Send one, sit on it until tomorrow
and see if you get a reply, and if there's
a bunch of people, send them all right now, Happy Thanksgiving,
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