BONUS - What NOT to do when getting ghosted

In this bonus clip, discover impractical advice on how to process your emotions, avoid self-blame, and engage in activities that promote healing. Whether you're currently dealing with ghosting or want to be prepared for future dating challenges, The Jubal Show offers you comedy.

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Episode Transcript

Speaker 1 (00:00):
I recently got ghosted by a guy who I didn't
even like, and I emailed him this ghosting Exit.

Speaker 2 (00:04):
Survey to fill out.

Speaker 1 (00:06):
So the first question is, please provide a one two
sentence example of why you did it. You were intimidated
by my beauty, you hate yourself, you're broken, I'm too
good for you. Like whatever comes to mind. May circle
if I am more cute, hot, sexy, or pretty, and
just know, just as a rule, you have to circle
all four. Please provide the names, emails, and phone numbers
of at least two of your exes and your birth mother.
And that's just like so I can start a group chat.

Speaker 3 (00:27):
And last, you please select.

Speaker 1 (00:28):
One form of compensation for me, so you could opt
for something simple like sending me your passwords for various
streaming services and your social Security number. And last, but
certainly not least, making me your muse and dedicating your
life to winning me back. So that can be anything
from like using my voicemails in a rap song, cutting
your ear off and sending it to me publicly referring
to me as the one that got away.

Speaker 4 (00:47):
I don't know, is that the right way I'm getting ghosted?
I don't know, it's you will show. But one relationship
expert has released a list of the top things you
should and shouldn't do if you get ghosted. So over
those right now so you can know how you should
act if you get ghosted, or how you shouldn't act. Okay,
we'll start with the things you shouldn't do. This is
according to a popular relationship expert who released this list

(01:09):
that's going viral of the things you shouldn't and shouldn't,
should and shouldn't do if you get ghosted. Top things
you shouldn't do. Don't double text, they say, if they
want to talk, they would have responded to the first one.

Speaker 2 (01:21):
What they just didn't see the first one.

Speaker 4 (01:23):
That's why you always do the double text. Well maybe
they just didn't see that one. Let me try five
more times. I forgot to end that one with the question.

Speaker 2 (01:30):
That's what it was? You tell yourself.

Speaker 3 (01:32):
It doesn't warrant a response, so you need to be
like that, I hope you're doing great, it's how are
you doing it?

Speaker 4 (01:38):
You stare at imperman and you're like, yeah, you know,
I wouldn't respond to that either.

Speaker 2 (01:42):
Let me try one more time.

Speaker 4 (01:44):
Here's another thing that you shouldn't do if you get ghosted,
It says, don't don't cyberstalk. Then no deep diving into
their aunt's Facebook in twenty twelve. You don't need all
that intel.

Speaker 3 (01:56):
You try to do, because then it helps you feel
better about the fact that you're getting ghosted by psycho.

Speaker 4 (02:04):
You got to find something on their social media like,
oh it's them.

Speaker 1 (02:07):
Yeah, that one time they went to that one place,
that one time a long time ago.

Speaker 2 (02:14):
A stupid idiot. I don't want to date them anyway.

Speaker 4 (02:16):
I did another thing it says not to do if
you get ghosted, don't think maybe their phone broke, But.

Speaker 2 (02:23):
What if it did, right, it's gotta be it. The
phone must be broken for weeks now.

Speaker 3 (02:27):
Because because if it did, does it also say don't
call their job and have their friend ask for them
for you?

Speaker 2 (02:34):
Nina, Yes, I think that one's so obvious. It's not
on the list.

Speaker 3 (02:41):
Yes, it didn't feel right. First. People were trying to
tell me that he was in the mob and that
he had to disappear because he was in hiding, and
I'm like, that doesn't make sense. He was super hot,
we had the hottest date. We for sure we're going
to go out again. For sure it was a double date.
Then I get all this mob theory stuff and I'm like,
this isn't right. So I tell my friend. He's like,
I got you. So we called him at where and
you know where? He was at work? Totally fine, not

(03:02):
dead or in hiding. And you don't want to date
him anymore because he wasn't a mobster. Yeah he's a mobster.

Speaker 2 (03:10):
Now you're boring. What are the top.

Speaker 4 (03:16):
Things they say you should do if you get ghosted?
They say the thing one thing you should do if
you get ghosted is send one classic goodbye text?

Speaker 2 (03:27):
Oh why why? They I guess I don't know.

Speaker 4 (03:33):
Why.

Speaker 2 (03:33):
You know what that is? Though that's not a classic
goodbye text.

Speaker 4 (03:36):
You send that text because you hope they'll go.

Speaker 2 (03:40):
Oh wait, no, I'm sorry. I can't believe I made
such a mistake. No, no, finally, text you back. That's
a waste of time. No needed.

Speaker 4 (03:52):
Send a text something like, hey, seems like you've moved on.
Wishing you well.

Speaker 3 (03:56):
No, don't you dare You don't wish them well? So
why are you lying?

Speaker 2 (04:04):
I'm dad? That's the text that you said, see Thanksgiving.

Speaker 4 (04:11):
It also says to romanticize your single life. If you
get ghosted, pull yourself there and convince yourself it's great.

Speaker 2 (04:22):
I eat alone every night, you guys, I can eat
what I want. Though, Yeah, what else nobody's ordered for me?

Speaker 3 (04:29):
You probably have peace and you're not fighting with somebody
right now or worried if somebody's cheating on you.

Speaker 2 (04:34):
Enjoy that moment.

Speaker 4 (04:37):
It also says another thing that you should do if
you get ghosted, cry it out. If you need to, oh, cry, journal,
punch a pillow, scream, seeing adele, anything is valid.

Speaker 2 (04:52):
I mean, after how long, after one day?

Speaker 4 (04:55):
You shouldn't If you get ghosted, you really probably shouldn't
need to cry and journal it out and sing adult.

Speaker 2 (05:00):
Maybe you felt really connected to that person at that point,
you know it's about them.

Speaker 3 (05:04):
If somebody can't be adult enough to communicate with you
after one or two dates and just let you know
what's up, then why are you crying over somebody that's
emotionally stunted.

Speaker 2 (05:11):
That's true, although I have a question, what do you
owe somebody after one date? Not that nothing? Yeah, no,
but even to tell you don't even know what to
text them back?

Speaker 4 (05:18):
Then?

Speaker 3 (05:19):
Right? No?

Speaker 2 (05:20):
Not really, I'm saying the person who's ghosting? Do they
really owe you anything?

Speaker 3 (05:23):
No?

Speaker 2 (05:23):
No, I don't think so. Not after one date. Okay,
I don't think they do either.

Speaker 3 (05:26):
It's rude, but it's like they don't owe you anything now,
it says.

Speaker 4 (05:30):
Another thing that you should do is block or mute
them on social media, and then occasionally unblock and unmute
them so you can see what they're I'll.

Speaker 2 (05:37):
Create another account before you do that. I don't know
if that's been a bad but hopefully that helped