September 17, 2025 • 8 mins
Are you being reverse catfished? Or maybe you’re getting Shreked, orbiting, or even ghost lit without realizing it. A brand-new list of viral dating terms is blowing up online, and The Jubal Show breaks them down so you’ll know exactly what kind of dating drama you’re dealing with this cuffing season. From hilarious to downright shady, these terms reveal the wild reality of modern relationships. Listen now to find out which ones might be happening to you!
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Speaker 1 (00:00):
Are you being reverse catfished, or maybe somebody is bank
seeing you, or you might be getting shrecked. If you
have no idea what I said, then don't worry about it.
I don't really know what I said either, And I
do know that a new list of dating terms is
out and it's going viral, so we'll go over it
next so you can see if any of this stuff
is happening to you shrecked. You could be getting ghost
(00:21):
lied right now and not even know it's all show,
or someone could be echo dating you. Gross. Oh what
does that mean? Well, I'm about to tell you because
summer is over, and that means that people are frantically
dating so that they don't have to sit through the
cold season and bulk up alone.
Speaker 2 (00:37):
Are we cuffing?
Speaker 1 (00:38):
And that's why a list is going viral of the
new dating terms for the season. Will go over right now,
so you can know exactly what kind of ridiculous behavior
you're dealing with if you're in the wonderful, wild world
of dating. And if you're not in that world, then
you can have something to be grateful about this morning.
What are the new dating terms that are out there?
The first one is Shrek. You haven't heard of what
(01:01):
that is. That's when you date outside of your type
with a Shrek type person, goofy, big hearted, not exactly
a prince or princess.
Speaker 2 (01:10):
Oh well, so you're dating for personality not looks. Yeah,
so they're calling you're dating an ugly person for their personality.
Speaker 1 (01:17):
Yes, she's hoping that they won't leave you, maybe because
they'll have less options. I don't know, but you could
be getting shreked. In other words, somebody thinks that you're
a goofy, big hearted, not exactly prince or princess.
Speaker 2 (01:29):
I guess that's a good thing for some people.
Speaker 1 (01:32):
Yeah, if you're Shrek, yeah, exactly.
Speaker 2 (01:34):
For you, you win.
Speaker 3 (01:35):
But that also means people think that you're like not
as cute.
Speaker 2 (01:38):
Yeah, but who cares. If you're the Shrek and you're
still getting the goods, you're like, Hey, I'm a big,
goofy person and it's awesome.
Speaker 1 (01:47):
We're going over a list of the new dating terms
that are out in case you're in that world. And
if you're not in that world, then you can be like, yay,
I don't have to deal with all of this crazy behavior.
Bank seeing what is that bankxing? Is when someone vanishes
from a seemingly solid relationship.
Speaker 2 (02:04):
So that's not ghosting.
Speaker 1 (02:05):
Banksing different than ghosting, I think so, because you're in
a seemingly solid relationship already. So some people would call
that abandonment, but it bank seeing because just like art,
it disappears.
Speaker 3 (02:19):
Oh, that literally is abandonment. You're abandoning solid relationship. Who's
doing that?
Speaker 2 (02:26):
Do you know how terrible that is? Like? Who are you?
That's just leaving somebody is horrible to do that. Yeah,
but that it has a term means it's happening often enough.
It's crazy out of here.
Speaker 1 (02:39):
Now you have a good name for it. When you
come home and all their stuff's gone all of a sudden,
you're just like, well, they're an artist, don't. This is
all a work of art. It's been a bank set.
It really is ridiculous to do that to people. I've
known people that that's happened to. Seriously, Yeah, a couple,
what Yeah, a few of them were ex girlfriends of mine.
Speaker 2 (02:59):
Oh no, text message no, nothing.
Speaker 1 (03:01):
No. And as much as when those relationships were ending,
I wanted to just bounce, I didn't because that happened
to them already, and I was like, I'm going to
be nice to have a conversation with them, But really
I can see why that guy.
Speaker 2 (03:12):
Did oh no, Like, hey, man, I'm glad that you
weren't banks.
Speaker 1 (03:16):
You get it, man, I'm going to have a conversation
because I don't want to do. We're going over a
list of new dating terms that are out there, so
if you're dating, you can be prepared, and if you're
not dating, you'll be like, thank goodness, I'm not dating.
Reverse catfishing Okay. That's when people post their least flattering
photos on purpose to attract partners who aren't shallow.
Speaker 2 (03:37):
Oh I did a little of that on purpose. Yeah,
did you No? But a friend of mine told me
to do that. He was like, listen, you got to
pick the ugliest pictures that you have. That way, when
they see you, they're going to be pleasantly surprised and
even more sprung because if they like you like that.
It's this whole concept too, Like you meet somebody when
you don't have makeup on in the grocery store, right
then they get surprised because.
Speaker 1 (03:57):
Where it goes the other way. You show up and
they're like, oh, I thought you'd look frumpier into the frump.
Speaker 2 (04:04):
Okay, well that's remember.
Speaker 3 (04:08):
But now you don't pick your worst absolutely ugliest pictures,
just pick like your like mid pictures, like not your
greatest pictures. They get to fit weight flows. Why did
you do a Victoria, Well, honestly, I was just curious
see what other guys i'd get picked with. But I
was like, I don't think I want that there mine,
let's go back.
Speaker 2 (04:22):
So it didn't help. Now I didn't think it would.
Speaker 1 (04:25):
We're going over a list of the new dating terms
that are out there that you need to know about.
NATO dating. Excuse me, NATO dating. It's an acronym for
not attached to an outcome oh yikes, an approach to
dating that helps open up the possibilities of any and
all connections instead of being fixated on a specific endgame.
(04:46):
So you're just dating with no promises of anything else happening.
Speaker 2 (04:50):
While in theory, I think this NATO dating sounds wonderful,
it's like the same thing as people are like, let's
just go with the flow. That's because people are keeping
their options open while they're dating you, which means do
they really like you? Know, like, you're not going to
get anything out of it. They're doing everything. But isn't
that just dating?
Speaker 1 (05:05):
Yeah?
Speaker 3 (05:05):
Like that is no.
Speaker 1 (05:06):
Some people go into dating with like a specific goal
in mind, like if I'm going to take this person,
I'm going to marry them.
Speaker 2 (05:11):
Oh geez, I guess it depends on what phase of
life that you're in, you know what I mean. Like,
if you just want to play, then you're playing. If
you want to be intentional, Like I'm an intentional dater
right now, I'm not saying I'm going to marry the
person that I date, but hopefully.
Speaker 3 (05:23):
So you're you're looking for a guy to marry.
Speaker 1 (05:25):
Yeah, I'm just trying to get pregnant by the third date.
Speaker 2 (05:28):
Listen, I'm not going to be upset. What do we
call that?
Speaker 1 (05:34):
That's actually a good term. Part that probably is what
it's called. We're going over a list of the new
dating terms that are out there. Orbiting instead of ghosting,
people just disappear but still watch all of your stories
in your TikTok posts. It's basically digital lurking as a
form of keeping the option open. Yep.
Speaker 3 (05:52):
I feel like all of these terms are just they
could be the terms we already have, Like why do
we need new terms. We already have things for like
this is just go No. Orbiting is not ghosting. You're
still there, but you're not there. This is proving the
point that the world does evolve around me. Like, you're
still here, you're still orbiting, You're still looking. When you
go look at your story, you're gonna see the same
faces the people that aren't. If he ghosts you, he
(06:14):
still just ghosted you.
Speaker 2 (06:15):
Well, who said he ghosted you?
Speaker 3 (06:17):
At the front of the orbiting that's what they're.
Speaker 1 (06:19):
Still around, and you can still kind of see that
they're around. They're just orbiting. They're not really ghosting. They're
just eating their options open in a different way. I
hate another data term that is out. There's bread crumb boosting.
It's not just bread crumbing anymore.
Speaker 3 (06:34):
Now.
Speaker 1 (06:34):
People leave little flirty likes on your stories or old
posts to boost their own ego, not to actually date you.
Speaker 2 (06:42):
How does that boost their ego?
Speaker 1 (06:44):
I have no idea. Maybe because they stop talking to
you and they're like, I'm gonna like that because like, oh,
you know, they used to like me so much. They
probably still do because I just you know, ghost them
or whatever. They're probably still like thinking about me now
and stuff. So I'm gonna like it because I know
that they'll be thinking about me.
Speaker 2 (06:57):
Yeah, okay, okay, okay, yeah d And you're like, okay,
let's just see if they respond in a flirty way,
because then you're like, I still got it. So is
that the same thing?
Speaker 3 (07:05):
Is it like a little bit like manipulative?
Speaker 2 (07:07):
No, that's called flirting, But if you want to call
it red crumbing with the whatever.
Speaker 1 (07:11):
Or it is just to know that they're thinking about
you now because they saw the like they can't get
over it. It's not that they can't get over you.
You keep poking them. Yeah. Ghost Lighting is another new
dating term. It's a combo of ghosting and gas lighting,
when someone disappears and then reappears later pretending like nothing happened,
or worse, acting like you were the one who stopped
(07:31):
talking to them. That's real, what are we talking about?
I didn't go anywhere. You stop talking to me now.
I'm pretty sure I sent you seventeen messages you didn't reply. Nope,
huh uh didn't happen. That's ghost lighting.
Speaker 2 (07:45):
Oh man, this one would send me.
Speaker 1 (07:47):
Yeah. And then there's echo dating, when somebody mirrors your hobbies,
your slang or your music taste, just to seem compatible.
It feels cute at first, but then it starts to
feel like you're dating your own reflection. That's echy dating.
Speaker 2 (07:59):
Well. It feels a little crazy actually, But.
Speaker 1 (08:01):
I mean if you really there are all the people
that do change totally. You know, the person that they're dating.
Speaker 2 (08:05):
I know suck.
Speaker 1 (08:06):
I used to know this girl and she was dating
a guy who was like in a band, like a
goth type band. She was all goth, and then the
next day she dated was like a tennis player type dude.
And she went from like dark clothes, dark makeup around
her eyes, being like life sucks, yeah, bouncing around and
like Polo's being like I'm going to the tennis club.
(08:27):
You know, who are you?
Speaker 3 (08:29):
Oh no,
Are you being reverse catfished, or maybe somebody is bank
seeing you, or you might be getting shrecked. If you
have no idea what I said, then don't worry about it.
I don't really know what I said either, And I
do know that a new list of dating terms is
out and it's going viral, so we'll go over it
next so you can see if any of this stuff
is happening to you shrecked. You could be getting ghost
(00:21):
lied right now and not even know it's all show,
or someone could be echo dating you. Gross. Oh what
does that mean? Well, I'm about to tell you because
summer is over, and that means that people are frantically
dating so that they don't have to sit through the
cold season and bulk up alone.
Speaker 2 (00:37):
Are we cuffing?
Speaker 1 (00:38):
And that's why a list is going viral of the
new dating terms for the season. Will go over right now,
so you can know exactly what kind of ridiculous behavior
you're dealing with if you're in the wonderful, wild world
of dating. And if you're not in that world, then
you can have something to be grateful about this morning.
What are the new dating terms that are out there?
The first one is Shrek. You haven't heard of what
(01:01):
that is. That's when you date outside of your type
with a Shrek type person, goofy, big hearted, not exactly
a prince or princess.
Speaker 2 (01:10):
Oh well, so you're dating for personality not looks. Yeah,
so they're calling you're dating an ugly person for their personality.
Speaker 1 (01:17):
Yes, she's hoping that they won't leave you, maybe because
they'll have less options. I don't know, but you could
be getting shreked. In other words, somebody thinks that you're
a goofy, big hearted, not exactly prince or princess.
Speaker 2 (01:29):
I guess that's a good thing for some people.
Speaker 1 (01:32):
Yeah, if you're Shrek, yeah, exactly.
Speaker 2 (01:34):
For you, you win.
Speaker 3 (01:35):
But that also means people think that you're like not
as cute.
Speaker 2 (01:38):
Yeah, but who cares. If you're the Shrek and you're
still getting the goods, you're like, Hey, I'm a big,
goofy person and it's awesome.
Speaker 1 (01:47):
We're going over a list of the new dating terms
that are out in case you're in that world. And
if you're not in that world, then you can be like, yay,
I don't have to deal with all of this crazy behavior.
Bank seeing what is that bankxing? Is when someone vanishes
from a seemingly solid relationship.
Speaker 2 (02:04):
So that's not ghosting.
Speaker 1 (02:05):
Banksing different than ghosting, I think so, because you're in
a seemingly solid relationship already. So some people would call
that abandonment, but it bank seeing because just like art,
it disappears.
Speaker 3 (02:19):
Oh, that literally is abandonment. You're abandoning solid relationship. Who's
doing that?
Speaker 2 (02:26):
Do you know how terrible that is? Like? Who are you?
That's just leaving somebody is horrible to do that. Yeah,
but that it has a term means it's happening often enough.
It's crazy out of here.
Speaker 1 (02:39):
Now you have a good name for it. When you
come home and all their stuff's gone all of a sudden,
you're just like, well, they're an artist, don't. This is
all a work of art. It's been a bank set.
It really is ridiculous to do that to people. I've
known people that that's happened to. Seriously, Yeah, a couple,
what Yeah, a few of them were ex girlfriends of mine.
Speaker 2 (02:59):
Oh no, text message no, nothing.
Speaker 1 (03:01):
No. And as much as when those relationships were ending,
I wanted to just bounce, I didn't because that happened
to them already, and I was like, I'm going to
be nice to have a conversation with them, But really
I can see why that guy.
Speaker 2 (03:12):
Did oh no, Like, hey, man, I'm glad that you
weren't banks.
Speaker 1 (03:16):
You get it, man, I'm going to have a conversation
because I don't want to do. We're going over a
list of new dating terms that are out there, so
if you're dating, you can be prepared, and if you're
not dating, you'll be like, thank goodness, I'm not dating.
Reverse catfishing Okay. That's when people post their least flattering
photos on purpose to attract partners who aren't shallow.
Speaker 2 (03:37):
Oh I did a little of that on purpose. Yeah,
did you No? But a friend of mine told me
to do that. He was like, listen, you got to
pick the ugliest pictures that you have. That way, when
they see you, they're going to be pleasantly surprised and
even more sprung because if they like you like that.
It's this whole concept too, Like you meet somebody when
you don't have makeup on in the grocery store, right
then they get surprised because.
Speaker 1 (03:57):
Where it goes the other way. You show up and
they're like, oh, I thought you'd look frumpier into the frump.
Speaker 2 (04:04):
Okay, well that's remember.
Speaker 3 (04:08):
But now you don't pick your worst absolutely ugliest pictures,
just pick like your like mid pictures, like not your
greatest pictures. They get to fit weight flows. Why did
you do a Victoria, Well, honestly, I was just curious
see what other guys i'd get picked with. But I
was like, I don't think I want that there mine,
let's go back.
Speaker 2 (04:22):
So it didn't help. Now I didn't think it would.
Speaker 1 (04:25):
We're going over a list of the new dating terms
that are out there that you need to know about.
NATO dating. Excuse me, NATO dating. It's an acronym for
not attached to an outcome oh yikes, an approach to
dating that helps open up the possibilities of any and
all connections instead of being fixated on a specific endgame.
(04:46):
So you're just dating with no promises of anything else happening.
Speaker 2 (04:50):
While in theory, I think this NATO dating sounds wonderful,
it's like the same thing as people are like, let's
just go with the flow. That's because people are keeping
their options open while they're dating you, which means do
they really like you? Know, like, you're not going to
get anything out of it. They're doing everything. But isn't
that just dating?
Speaker 1 (05:05):
Yeah?
Speaker 3 (05:05):
Like that is no.
Speaker 1 (05:06):
Some people go into dating with like a specific goal
in mind, like if I'm going to take this person,
I'm going to marry them.
Speaker 2 (05:11):
Oh geez, I guess it depends on what phase of
life that you're in, you know what I mean. Like,
if you just want to play, then you're playing. If
you want to be intentional, Like I'm an intentional dater
right now, I'm not saying I'm going to marry the
person that I date, but hopefully.
Speaker 3 (05:23):
So you're you're looking for a guy to marry.
Speaker 1 (05:25):
Yeah, I'm just trying to get pregnant by the third date.
Speaker 2 (05:28):
Listen, I'm not going to be upset. What do we
call that?
Speaker 1 (05:34):
That's actually a good term. Part that probably is what
it's called. We're going over a list of the new
dating terms that are out there. Orbiting instead of ghosting,
people just disappear but still watch all of your stories
in your TikTok posts. It's basically digital lurking as a
form of keeping the option open. Yep.
Speaker 3 (05:52):
I feel like all of these terms are just they
could be the terms we already have, Like why do
we need new terms. We already have things for like
this is just go No. Orbiting is not ghosting. You're
still there, but you're not there. This is proving the
point that the world does evolve around me. Like, you're
still here, you're still orbiting, You're still looking. When you
go look at your story, you're gonna see the same
faces the people that aren't. If he ghosts you, he
(06:14):
still just ghosted you.
Speaker 2 (06:15):
Well, who said he ghosted you?
Speaker 3 (06:17):
At the front of the orbiting that's what they're.
Speaker 1 (06:19):
Still around, and you can still kind of see that
they're around. They're just orbiting. They're not really ghosting. They're
just eating their options open in a different way. I
hate another data term that is out. There's bread crumb boosting.
It's not just bread crumbing anymore.
Speaker 3 (06:34):
Now.
Speaker 1 (06:34):
People leave little flirty likes on your stories or old
posts to boost their own ego, not to actually date you.
Speaker 2 (06:42):
How does that boost their ego?
Speaker 1 (06:44):
I have no idea. Maybe because they stop talking to
you and they're like, I'm gonna like that because like, oh,
you know, they used to like me so much. They
probably still do because I just you know, ghost them
or whatever. They're probably still like thinking about me now
and stuff. So I'm gonna like it because I know
that they'll be thinking about me.
Speaker 2 (06:57):
Yeah, okay, okay, okay, yeah d And you're like, okay,
let's just see if they respond in a flirty way,
because then you're like, I still got it. So is
that the same thing?
Speaker 3 (07:05):
Is it like a little bit like manipulative?
Speaker 2 (07:07):
No, that's called flirting, But if you want to call
it red crumbing with the whatever.
Speaker 1 (07:11):
Or it is just to know that they're thinking about
you now because they saw the like they can't get
over it. It's not that they can't get over you.
You keep poking them. Yeah. Ghost Lighting is another new
dating term. It's a combo of ghosting and gas lighting,
when someone disappears and then reappears later pretending like nothing happened,
or worse, acting like you were the one who stopped
(07:31):
talking to them. That's real, what are we talking about?
I didn't go anywhere. You stop talking to me now.
I'm pretty sure I sent you seventeen messages you didn't reply. Nope,
huh uh didn't happen. That's ghost lighting.
Speaker 2 (07:45):
Oh man, this one would send me.
Speaker 1 (07:47):
Yeah. And then there's echo dating, when somebody mirrors your hobbies,
your slang or your music taste, just to seem compatible.
It feels cute at first, but then it starts to
feel like you're dating your own reflection. That's echy dating.
Speaker 2 (07:59):
Well. It feels a little crazy actually, But.
Speaker 1 (08:01):
I mean if you really there are all the people
that do change totally. You know, the person that they're dating.
Speaker 2 (08:05):
I know suck.
Speaker 1 (08:06):
I used to know this girl and she was dating
a guy who was like in a band, like a
goth type band. She was all goth, and then the
next day she dated was like a tennis player type dude.
And she went from like dark clothes, dark makeup around
her eyes, being like life sucks, yeah, bouncing around and
like Polo's being like I'm going to the tennis club.
(08:27):
You know, who are you?
Speaker 3 (08:29):
Oh no,
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