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Speaker 1 (00:00):
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Speaker 2 (00:07):
Bethany is on the phone today for a first day
follow up and she's getting ghosted by a guy named Jeremy.
So in a second we'll call him and see if
he'll tell us why he's ghostinger and maybe get her
another date. But first, Bethany, how long has it been
since you heard from Jeremy?
Speaker 3 (00:20):
Uh, it's been a few weeks. I haven't heard anything
from him, And it's weird because I thought the.
Speaker 4 (00:26):
Deal went really well.
Speaker 5 (00:28):
What y'all do.
Speaker 3 (00:29):
We went and got dinner, sort of like.
Speaker 4 (00:32):
A happy hour type thing. We got like a couple
of different plates and stuff. We shared both of them,
and I really liked him, Like we have a lot
in common. Both just recently moved here. We're both originally
from small towns, and we're both really like.
Speaker 6 (00:50):
Career motivated and excited about our jobs and things like that.
Speaker 4 (00:54):
So I don't know, I thought it was a really
good match.
Speaker 5 (00:56):
Did you feel like he liked you?
Speaker 3 (00:58):
I thought he did.
Speaker 7 (01:01):
I know.
Speaker 8 (01:01):
It's a weird question because when you get so caught
up in liking somebody, you're not really paying attention to
if like, wait a minute, yea's true.
Speaker 3 (01:08):
Yeah, I thought he liked me, but I haven't heard
from him, so I'm not sure.
Speaker 8 (01:12):
Okay, well I made that a very terrible narrative. I'm
not saying that he doesn't like him. Maybe something happened.
Did you guys kiss it all?
Speaker 5 (01:19):
Did you hug? How did the day end?
Speaker 3 (01:22):
We didn't kiss at all. It's like hugged in sac
to night, but the.
Speaker 6 (01:28):
Vibe was really positive, like we had a really good time.
We were talking a lot, to the point where I
thought we were going to have a second date. So yeah,
I don't I don't really know what happened.
Speaker 2 (01:41):
Is there anything you can think of that might be
a reason that he's ghosting you?
Speaker 4 (01:45):
I don't know.
Speaker 3 (01:45):
The only thing I can think of is that, like,
I feel like I definitely.
Speaker 4 (01:49):
Ate more food than him. We shared some points, and
I feel like now I'm kind of worried that I
just like ate a lot more of the food.
Speaker 9 (01:57):
Is that actually a thing?
Speaker 5 (01:59):
What do you mean?
Speaker 9 (02:00):
Like, do you guys actually like not like that? I
don't know what happened.
Speaker 8 (02:04):
It's definitely a thing where girls fell self conscious about it,
and I know they didn't feel self conscious about.
Speaker 2 (02:09):
Yeah, I hear them feel self conscious, but I didn't
know if to, Like, I don't know if I know
any guys that would want to go somebody after they
went on a date with him and they ate a bunch,
Like I find I actually think it's cool because it's like, oh,
you're relaxed enough to just.
Speaker 9 (02:21):
Eat a bunch.
Speaker 2 (02:21):
Yeah, you know, I would get annoyed, like if it's
go to a really nice steakhouse or something and then
somebody's self conscious about eating a lot, so then they
order a salad because it sounds like fifty bucks anyway,
So it's like, just go ahead and spend the money
on a steak and enjoy yourself.
Speaker 8 (02:34):
Yeah, So hopefully that's not it, because that would be ridiculous.
Speaker 4 (02:39):
Yeah.
Speaker 3 (02:39):
So like you just like walked me to my car
and we said good night and we hugged.
Speaker 7 (02:45):
It's sort of I don't know. There was an implication
that he was going to call a text or something,
and I didn't hear anything.
Speaker 5 (02:52):
Did you reach out to him?
Speaker 4 (02:54):
I did reach out to him.
Speaker 7 (02:55):
I texted him once and I didn't get a response.
I didn't want to text him too much because I
didn't want.
Speaker 4 (03:02):
To, like, yeah, I don't want him or anything. And
I really I just thought you was gonna text me
or call me, so all right.
Speaker 9 (03:11):
And you literally have no idea why he's.
Speaker 3 (03:13):
Ghosting Yeah, I mean, it's just like, I guess.
Speaker 4 (03:16):
The only thing I can think it was the food thing.
I don't know. Maybe I was eating too loud or
I was like being too messy.
Speaker 2 (03:22):
Or all right, Okay, well we'll see if we can
figure it out for you. We'll play a song come Back,
and then call him and see if he'll tell us
why he's ghosting you, and maybe get you another date
if you still want one.
Speaker 9 (03:31):
Okay, some kid, all right, we'll play a song come Back.
Get your first Day follow Up.
Speaker 1 (03:35):
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Speaker 2 (03:43):
Right in the middle of your first Date follow Up
if you're just joining us, Bethany is on the phone
and she's getting ghosted by a guy named Jeremy. So
in a second we're gonna call him and see if
he'll tell us why he's ghostinger, and maybe get her
another date if she still wants one. But before we
do that, Bethany, why don't you catch everybody up on
your situation?
Speaker 3 (03:58):
Yeah, So basically, I went on to date with this
guy a.
Speaker 9 (04:02):
Week or so ago.
Speaker 4 (04:04):
We had a great time, got drinks, dinner.
Speaker 3 (04:08):
I thought it went really well.
Speaker 4 (04:10):
We have a lot in common.
Speaker 3 (04:11):
I was really into him.
Speaker 4 (04:13):
He walked me in my car, we said good night,
and I just like didn't hear from him at all.
Speaker 3 (04:19):
And I texted him and he just didn't respond. So
now I'm just not sure what's going on, and I would.
Speaker 4 (04:26):
Really like to know.
Speaker 5 (04:27):
Okay, make sure it's not because you ate a lot.
Speaker 4 (04:29):
Yeah, yeah, and I would like to know it's not
because I ate a lot.
Speaker 9 (04:33):
All right, We're about to call him right now. Are
you ready?
Speaker 4 (04:36):
Yep?
Speaker 9 (04:36):
Okay, here we go. Hey is this Jeremy? Yeah, Jeremy
was that man? How are you? My name is Jewbel
and host a radio show. It's called The Jewbill Show.
Speaker 5 (04:56):
Hi, Jeremy, I'm Nina also on the show. Hi, I'm Victoria.
Speaker 9 (04:59):
How are you?
Speaker 4 (05:00):
Hi? I'm going fine?
Speaker 9 (05:02):
Sweet? Do you listen to the show ever?
Speaker 10 (05:04):
I mean, I'm familiar.
Speaker 2 (05:06):
Okay, I don't know if you're familiar or not with
a segment we do. It's called the first date follow up.
That's where if you go on a date with somebody
and then you ghost them, that person can ask us
to get you on the phone and ask why you're
ghosting them. And we got an email about you from somebody.
Speaker 9 (05:20):
Oh, okay, can you think of anybody that you're ghosting currently?
Speaker 10 (05:26):
Uh?
Speaker 3 (05:27):
Pray not?
Speaker 5 (05:29):
Have you gone on any dates recently? This is from Bethany?
Speaker 3 (05:33):
I take it.
Speaker 9 (05:35):
Yes.
Speaker 2 (05:36):
Bethany emailed us and then we talked to her about
your day a little bit, and she said, it's been
like a few weeks and you haven't talked to her,
So she's wondering if you would mind telling us why
you're ghosting her.
Speaker 10 (05:46):
Well, I mean I had a great time with her.
We I really liked it because we went out, we
had food, and she's nice to talk to. But I
got really excited, and so I was starting to show
my bro you know, like pictures of the night, and
I was telling her about her, and you know, one
of them, my guy h Rob. Actually he said, wait
(06:08):
a minute, no, I know who this is. I know Bethany.
Actually I went out with her for a while A
few weeks ago. I actually went out with her and
we ended up, we slept together, and every day afterward
(06:28):
she kept just trying to get a hold of me.
It was like this constant hey, what's up, and I couldn't.
I couldn't like get her, I couldn't drop a hint
that she would understand. So I eventually text her on
like I don't know, like a third or fourth day,
just to say that hey, we're not a good match.
And then then she stopped bugging me. So I was like, oh,
I do not want to get into that, you know,
(06:50):
I do. I don't want to wade into any of that.
Speaker 8 (06:52):
Well it sounds like, yeah, I'm not sure what waiting
into that means. But because to me, he finally nipped
it in the butt by telling her what was what.
So really it was his fault that it got weird
if you think about it, So you actually would have
had the power to communicate with her what you wanted
from her, and especially if you were excited.
Speaker 5 (07:13):
Doesn't mean that you guys have have the same situation.
I don't know, I feel a little triggered by that excuse.
Speaker 10 (07:17):
I'm sorry, I guess I just I didn't I don't
want to even get involved with any of that, Like
I'm not gonna I don't want it to get to
the point where I've got to send out a text
of like, hey, don't do this anymore.
Speaker 8 (07:32):
That's just I know, Well, why are you dating? Like
are you dating to be casual or are you dating
to meet someone? So why are you anticipating telling somebody
I don't want to hear from you.
Speaker 10 (07:41):
I mean, like, I just I want to meet people
and hang out, and I didn't want to keep it
kind of casual, which is nice, but I just I'm
not going to be with someone who's gonna be.
Speaker 5 (07:56):
Who wants to talk to you. Are you kidding me?
I'm sorry.
Speaker 9 (08:00):
Well, Jeremy, thanks for being honest with us.
Speaker 2 (08:04):
We'll also let you know that Beth and he is
actually on the phone and wants to talk to you,
and she's been listening.
Speaker 3 (08:11):
Hi. Uh Okay, I gotta say, I'm like a little.
Speaker 4 (08:16):
Bit shocked to buy what I'm hearing right now, Like
I do, I know, I know exactly what you're talking about.
I remember Rom obviously. Okay, So he's he was really
nice at first. We had a really good date. We
talked about going on.
Speaker 11 (08:32):
A second date, and that's like kind of the reason
I slipped with him and he slept together and then
he just completely goes to me again, just.
Speaker 3 (08:43):
Keep having me me And yeah, I texted him a
few times.
Speaker 11 (08:48):
We had just slept together, but I wasn't I didn't
text him like crazy. I literally texted him a couple
of times, and then he messaged back saying.
Speaker 4 (08:57):
He didn't want to see me anymore. I yeah, I
mean I was bummy.
Speaker 10 (09:06):
I trust I trust Rob's judgment and if if it
was too much for him, then it's it's gonna be
too much for me, you.
Speaker 3 (09:12):
Know, I got I gotta was not too much.
Speaker 11 (09:16):
I literally texted him like a few times because we
had like maybe a passion. But I feel like if
we put someone trust Robb's judgment on this one.
Speaker 8 (09:26):
Jeremy, how many friends do you have? Like how many
is in your inner circle? And can we have all
of their names so Bethany knows not to date any
single one of them because you guys have interested in
bro rules.
Speaker 9 (09:37):
Oh just I think you know we're tight.
Speaker 10 (09:39):
We like to make sure that we're all on the
same page about this kind of stuff.
Speaker 5 (09:42):
Your friends are all on the same page about, like
how you date.
Speaker 10 (09:46):
Yeah, I mean, aren't yours.
Speaker 8 (09:49):
Yeah, they don't tell me who to see and not. Well,
yes they do. Yeah, but different, Jeremy.
Speaker 5 (09:56):
But different. Okay, I think worked out a really nice
sort of system.
Speaker 8 (10:01):
You know.
Speaker 10 (10:01):
I talk about my date now, well my friend knows, Hey,
don't don't do that, and I'm like, okay, well, ty Rob,
I go in.
Speaker 9 (10:08):
I talked about what kind of girls to see.
Speaker 3 (10:11):
I trust Rob.
Speaker 10 (10:12):
If he says, hey, that's not that's not a good one,
then like that's not a good one, you know. Yeah,
I mean, look with us, it's it's dogs before broads,
you know what.
Speaker 9 (10:22):
Yeah, stops before broads before listen.
Speaker 8 (10:33):
Jeremy, I respect your friends circle, but Bethany, it's time
to get out.
Speaker 9 (10:38):
It's time to go.
Speaker 5 (10:40):
Yeah.
Speaker 4 (10:40):
I am not about this.
Speaker 5 (10:43):
At all.
Speaker 4 (10:44):
I do not like that mentality from a grown man.
So I'm good.
Speaker 2 (10:50):
I still have an Actually, Jeremy, would you like to
go on another date with Bethany?
Speaker 9 (10:53):
Will pay for it? Dogs before?
Speaker 4 (10:55):
No, No, I.
Speaker 3 (10:56):
Got to listen to the dods.
Speaker 5 (10:58):
All right, you guys, if you guys bark when you
see each other, what was that dog?
Speaker 2 (11:04):
It was a bulldog, Bethany. I'm assuming you're cool. You
don't want another date.
Speaker 3 (11:10):
Yeah, I would like to never see either of them again.
Speaker 8 (11:12):
To be honest, there's rough in these streets.
Speaker 1 (11:17):
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