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Speaker 1 (00:00):
First Date follow Up powered by the Advocates Injury Attorneys
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Speaker 2 (00:07):
Matthew is on the phone today for a first aid
follow up and he's getting ghosted by a woman named Selena.
So in a few minutes we're gonna call her and
see if she tell us why she's ghosting him and
maybe get him another day. But first, Matthew, how long
has it been since you heard from Selena?
Speaker 3 (00:19):
About a week?
Speaker 4 (00:21):
Okay? Have you been hitting her up to try to
get a hold of her.
Speaker 3 (00:26):
I'm to ask her what day was agoing about ego?
She's so busy.
Speaker 5 (00:31):
I kind of checked it after that one more time
for she had some availability coming up, should responded.
Speaker 3 (00:37):
And I'm not gonna like keep paying on.
Speaker 2 (00:39):
Yeah, it can get creepy real quick with that.
Speaker 3 (00:44):
I'm not trying to do that.
Speaker 1 (00:45):
Crush your soul the more times you don't get Yeah, okay, well,
how is the date though? Must have been great if
you want to get a hold of her.
Speaker 3 (00:53):
Yeah, I mean I.
Speaker 5 (00:54):
Thought it went great. We might at work, I work
in the IKE department, or I did as an ad executive.
I helped probably some computer issues at work. We had
some chemistry. I felt like pretty obvious right from the
get go.
Speaker 3 (01:10):
We worked up in there to ask her out. She
said like she was into it.
Speaker 5 (01:14):
She told me she liked lemons on Martiniz, So I
know it's a perfect spot. It's a really cool spots.
I got old Hollywood by which I always always liked
a lot. We had some drinks. I did not have
a lemon drop. I had them dry martini, but but
she had some some kind of bed well and everything
(01:36):
we talked about dreams features, stuff like that, kind of
in a lighthearted way. I mean it felt really good
and I was I was really sory. We had a
pretty intensive makeout session in the dark corner we were
I mean it felt like you know, kids in school.
I mean a lot of that kind of giggly energy
and set. We have the date split up. That was
(02:00):
pretty much it.
Speaker 3 (02:01):
I thought it looked really good. I a little bit
to get hold of her.
Speaker 5 (02:06):
I would like to understand, you know, I've got to
kind of honestly how it cars on.
Speaker 3 (02:09):
It for a while.
Speaker 5 (02:09):
So I was pretty broke up that she, you know,
doesn't seem to be willing to respond at least.
Speaker 2 (02:16):
Anything happened on the date that you think could be
a resource. She's not calling you back.
Speaker 5 (02:21):
I mean, the only thing I can think of is
I actually did just get let go from the job
that we worked together. So she said at the end
of the state, you know, see it work, and I
had to be like, I don't even want to be
the salar. So I told her that I actually, you know,
wasn't working there anymore, which I kind of thought would
actually be a good thing because it removes the possibility of, like,
you know, the office politics and that sort of thing,
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takes the pressure off of that. That's only the only
thing I could think of that might have gone wrong
with it, unless I was just totally misread, you know,
the signals, and I guess, which is always a possibility.
But that's one thing I can think of, is it
I got let go?
Speaker 1 (02:59):
Does she feel kind of a shallow person that would
be like I am not dating her guy who's unemployed.
Speaker 3 (03:04):
I mean, maybe I didn't get that buy from her
at all.
Speaker 5 (03:07):
I mean, she seemed pretty down to earth and like,
you know, I mean that strikes me as just being
kind of sort of sighted tom So she didn't starting
that way at all.
Speaker 3 (03:16):
But I mean, I guess it's a possibility.
Speaker 2 (03:17):
Yeah, Okay, did you guys kiss and stuff at the
end they made out in the dark, We were making.
Speaker 5 (03:22):
Out, but you were making out, you know, we made
out the bar at the very ample. I said that, no,
but yeah, maybe that was a little warning sign or
some sort.
Speaker 6 (03:31):
But did you guys talk like good bye?
Speaker 5 (03:34):
We definitely talked about seeing other older in the day. Yeah,
I mean that was on the table for sure.
Speaker 2 (03:39):
Okay, well, we'll see if we can figure it out
for you. Then we'll play a song, come back and
call her in social tal so why she's ghosting you,
and maybe get you another date. Okay, okay, so good,
all right, cool, we'll play a song, come back, and
get your first a follow up next if you're just
joining us for today's first day follow up. Matthew is
on the phone and he's getting ghosted by Selena. So
in a few minutes we're gonna call her and see
if she'll tell us she's ghosting him and maybe get
(04:01):
him another date. But before you do that, Matthew, why
don't you refresh our memory on your date with Selena?
Speaker 5 (04:06):
Well, yeah, so I thought it went really well. We
had some chemistry from when we worked together. The date
was great, good drinks, good vibe.
Speaker 3 (04:16):
We made out.
Speaker 5 (04:17):
It seemed like it was some definite intensity. I thought
things were going great. We started talking about next time,
next meetings, next dates, and the one thing I could
think of that went wrong is at the end, I
had to tell her that I was no longer with
the company that we worked at together, and that that's
win my guests as to why she's decided ghost, that's
(04:39):
just a guest though.
Speaker 2 (04:40):
All Right, are you ready for us to call her?
Speaker 3 (04:43):
Sure, I'd love to. I'd love to have another shot.
Speaker 2 (04:45):
All right, here we go. Man, Hello him askeweaing to Selena. Please.
Speaker 6 (05:02):
This is Selena.
Speaker 2 (05:03):
Hey, Selena, how are you? My name is Jewbel. I'm
calling from a radio show. It's called The Jewbel Show.
Speaker 4 (05:07):
Yeah, hi, Selena, the whole show's here. I'm Nina, Hi,
and I'm Victoria.
Speaker 6 (05:10):
Oh my god, Hi, Hi, Hi.
Speaker 2 (05:13):
You listen to the show.
Speaker 7 (05:15):
I do.
Speaker 6 (05:16):
I'm a fan. This is exciting.
Speaker 2 (05:17):
Oh sweet, thank you. Well, do you have any idea
why we're calling you?
Speaker 6 (05:22):
I'm a little bit scared.
Speaker 8 (05:23):
Yeah, this is the first date follow up.
Speaker 2 (05:27):
So you went on a date with somebody recently and
have been ghosting them, and they emailed us. Do you
know who would email us about you?
Speaker 6 (05:33):
I have a pretty good idea.
Speaker 2 (05:35):
Yeah, you want to take a shot at it?
Speaker 6 (05:37):
Is it Matthew?
Speaker 2 (05:39):
Yes, it is Matthew. You are correct? Oh no, Matthew
emailed us, told us he really liked you told us
about your date. But he says, you've been ghosting for
over a week now.
Speaker 4 (05:49):
What happened?
Speaker 6 (05:51):
Yeah, Oh man, I feel bad I'm ghosting Matthew because
he told me that he wants to live in.
Speaker 4 (05:58):
A treehouse when.
Speaker 6 (06:05):
Ye like for his real house, I think, And like
he he told me we worked. I don't know if
he told you, but we worked at the same company
and he told me that like towards the end of
the day, I said, like, oh see you at work,
and he told me that he had lost his job there,
which was fine, like that that's a that's yeah. I
felt really bad for him that that happened. But he
(06:27):
just had like he said, he has no plan, and
he was like, you know, I'm sure everything's everything's going
to be fine, and I living in a treehouse sounds perfect,
and like he he did that he wanted to live
in like one of the fans. He want like the
glamping kind of situation treehouses, But at the same time,
I feel like, I mean, I definitely am not interested
(06:48):
in living in a treehouse, and I'm looking for like
a serious partner. And like, at first I thought he
was joking, because you know, I mean, that's like a
funny thing to say, but then he like actually went
into this whole thing about his friend and how his
friend lives in a treehouse and how his friend like
it's saved him so much money and he has like
no more like drama, and you know, he's like a
(07:08):
volunteer at different schools and he's playing music and like
that's all well and good for like a you know,
like a burning man type.
Speaker 2 (07:16):
Like to me, I'm kind of interested, but I don't
think that feels stressful.
Speaker 4 (07:22):
And when it comes to like a relationship though.
Speaker 6 (07:25):
Yeah, I'm like, what where am I going to like
plug in my blow dart? You know what I mean?
Speaker 4 (07:30):
Do they have like fancy treehouses?
Speaker 1 (07:32):
I mean it does sound kind of cool at least
like anyone that you could can you live in them?
Speaker 2 (07:36):
You run power to a treehouse for sure.
Speaker 6 (07:38):
Really you could look in a treehouse, but like you
can't have like kids, you know what I mean. I'm
like long term, I'm like, this is going nowhere, so
like you.
Speaker 2 (07:47):
You know, yeah, you probably can. I'm pretty sure there
are treehouses that have showers and stuff. Actually there are.
Speaker 1 (07:52):
I think you could build like technically a real house
in the tree.
Speaker 2 (07:57):
Well I don't know how big of a house he's
trying to build in the tree, right, but you know
that's good.
Speaker 4 (08:01):
But that's a good point though, if you're starting to
really fast forward kids. Can you imagine your kids running
around in a treehouse?
Speaker 6 (08:06):
Amazing?
Speaker 1 (08:10):
I have to build some kind of like what do
you call it, hammock net underneath of it.
Speaker 2 (08:16):
Okay, Well, thank you for being honest with us. I
appreciate that.
Speaker 6 (08:19):
Yeah.
Speaker 2 (08:20):
And I don't know if you remember or not, Selena,
but during these first day follow ups, the person that
emailed us is on the phone. So Matthew has been
listening this whole time and is on the phone and
wants to talk to you.
Speaker 7 (08:31):
Yeah, oh yeah, he told me were cool and the
sacting if I remember.
Speaker 3 (08:43):
You saying that you always were on the spend the
night and one, so it would be like yeah, right,
I like that.
Speaker 6 (08:52):
Yeah, like for for vacation. I'm like, I'm I don't
want to live in a treehouse. Matthew, Like, I want
to like adventure in a treehouse, and then I will
like to go back to reality, like go back to
my life. You know.
Speaker 5 (09:03):
I'm not like urge you to live in a treehouse
or planning to one that I want. It was just
sort of a there's something we could do. I don't know,
it was just something to talk.
Speaker 4 (09:15):
It's kind of a good sign though, Matthew. She really
like fast forward to see the future with you.
Speaker 6 (09:19):
Yeah, And I guess I just mean like so, I
mean it's like beyond the I'm just like you have
no plan, Like I'm just like living in a treehouse
with no plan. It's just like to me, I was like, oh,
big red flag.
Speaker 3 (09:29):
Well so that I don't have a plan.
Speaker 5 (09:31):
I just have as a means to take some time
and figure out what I'm going to do next. I
don't really actually have to work. I just do it
because I like it. So if I'm not feeling it,
I don't. But there's the same thing as I'm not
having a plan.
Speaker 6 (09:47):
Are you like some what do you mean, like, are
you like a secret billionaire or something like you don't
have to work.
Speaker 3 (09:52):
I mean, I'm not a billionaire, but I have some money.
I'm independently wealthy able to.
Speaker 2 (09:58):
Say, oh, so, would probably be a very nice treehouse day.
Speaker 5 (10:04):
Yeah, I gotta say, for me, a tree hout not
like what Grandpa made in the backyard when you were
a kid. I'm talking about like a house in a
tree not okay, with plumbing and showers and you know,
you could plug in your phone charger for sure.
Speaker 3 (10:22):
But I mean if you don't want that, that's that's fine.
I don't know.
Speaker 5 (10:25):
Exactly what the next maybe year has more in terms
of plans, but I mean all I know is I
definitely would like to have the opportunity to more.
Speaker 2 (10:32):
Time explain Selena, would you like to go out with
Matthew again? We'll pay for it.
Speaker 6 (10:37):
I mean, so you would be willing to like live
in a house house.
Speaker 3 (10:45):
Yeah, I mean we could. I would be willing to
live in a house with not a tree in sight.
Speaker 2 (10:51):
And you got enough money to cut him down. It
sounds like yeah, true.
Speaker 1 (10:56):
I mean, it sounds like you guys really like each other.
There's a lot of negotiating happening here.
Speaker 5 (11:00):
Yeah, I mean, if that's a sticking point. That could be,
that could be, that's that's negotiable.
Speaker 8 (11:06):
What do you think, Sae more shot he's rich, Nina, Yeah,
I would.
Speaker 6 (11:16):
Be willing to give it another shot. I think I
had a different understanding.
Speaker 7 (11:20):
What you.
Speaker 2 (11:22):
Okay? Congratulations made you got another date?
Speaker 3 (11:27):
Agree?
Speaker 5 (11:30):
Hey Selene, I'm so glad that you're wanting to get
another shot. You can appreciate why I wouldn't like lead
with money just off the top.
Speaker 3 (11:37):
But yeah, or three houses was just for fun. So
I'm going to ran another shot. Thank you.
Speaker 4 (11:44):
Money got her back in, though
Speaker 6 (11:50):
You will first date, follow up