July 18, 2024 • 15 mins
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Speaker 1 (00:02):
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Speaker 2 (00:15):
Thanks mate, Wow, I wasn't expecting that.
Speaker 3 (00:18):
Actually, what were you expecting? Man?
Speaker 4 (00:20):
Well, no, I just because usually Kezy facts around a bit.
Oh yeah, and see as can you try talking to it?
Speaker 3 (00:30):
Three one two three?
Speaker 2 (00:32):
What's going on with it? And then it was like
we were just into it.
Speaker 3 (00:36):
There was only one Ethan geffoy I was.
Speaker 2 (00:38):
I wasn't mentally prepared.
Speaker 5 (00:41):
Keyzy, well, just for the listeners benefit.
Speaker 6 (00:44):
We're in the ACC studio right now, which is a
shambles every time.
Speaker 3 (00:47):
You use it.
Speaker 6 (00:48):
Yeah, it just glitches out and things don't work properly
in the headphones at the moment.
Speaker 3 (00:53):
Yeah.
Speaker 6 (00:54):
So I just did a whole podcast for like fifty minutes,
wiggling the little thing that to make them work.
Speaker 4 (00:59):
Wiggily, nothing like that. That just does my head and
that sort of shit.
Speaker 5 (01:03):
Yeah, man, And I can barely see you, Jason.
Speaker 4 (01:05):
Yeah, I can't see you at all, and I can
barely hear myself. But hey, well, soldier on with soldier.
Speaker 3 (01:12):
On, Ah, fuck, good stuff. How's your shooting last night?
Speaker 2 (01:18):
I'll tell you all about it in the show.
Speaker 3 (01:21):
It was what were you shooting?
Speaker 2 (01:23):
It's keasy, it's.
Speaker 3 (01:25):
Good question, geezy.
Speaker 4 (01:28):
Let me just put it this way. It's just getting
to the point where I'm going, Okay, I need to
totally reevaluate my life because this is ridiculous what's going
on at the moment, right, just ridiculous event after event
(01:51):
that's just turning into a farce. On the good side,
it's material. On the bad side, it's really fucking me
off now, right.
Speaker 5 (02:00):
So like their batch situation for example, Yes.
Speaker 2 (02:03):
Like the canceled flight situation for example.
Speaker 3 (02:08):
A couple of feely minor inconveniences.
Speaker 2 (02:10):
Oh no, the batch was not minor. That was a
fucking pain in.
Speaker 7 (02:14):
The ass, not TOAKYSI and in pugs. And they didn't
mind it as much, not as much as you.
Speaker 4 (02:20):
Yeah, that that's because they didn't know what they were
missing out on.
Speaker 3 (02:26):
Well they did.
Speaker 5 (02:27):
We were hosting, though, there's extra stress though, more.
Speaker 3 (02:29):
Streus to you. If you feel like you fucked it up.
Speaker 7 (02:31):
Yeah, well I didn't though I know, but I guess
you're conscious of the fact that no one believes that.
Speaker 4 (02:37):
You know, but I'm also conscious of the fact of,
you know, not bleazing on about it either. But but
it is funny. What happened last night was funny. It
was so stupid that it was just like, oh, for
fuck's sake. And then I reached the point last night
when I was just sitting on the couch at one
thirty in the morning, going the fuck is going on?
Speaker 2 (02:58):
This is just ridiculous?
Speaker 7 (02:59):
Yeah, stupid ship, Can you give up acting? The acting
was fine, Yeah, I know, but it's not about the acting.
Speaker 5 (03:08):
It sounds like the shagging around involved is like.
Speaker 2 (03:13):
But even that is part and parcel of acting.
Speaker 3 (03:17):
But it is. But it doesn't mean you like it.
Speaker 2 (03:19):
No.
Speaker 4 (03:20):
But you know, like we were talking about back in
the day, you just take it all on the chin
and ship. As you get older and you're grumpy here
and stuff, you don't take it so well.
Speaker 3 (03:30):
Yeah, but you also.
Speaker 4 (03:32):
Don't want to be a prima donna either. You just
got to suck it up and go.
Speaker 3 (03:36):
But then anyone knows you're in a horror of a
mood on seat.
Speaker 2 (03:38):
It was funny.
Speaker 4 (03:39):
Actually, Tracy, the actor I was working with, yes, she
was an hysterics because she said, it's great.
Speaker 2 (03:49):
I can just hear you going. You know, you're sitting
there going.
Speaker 5 (03:57):
That is the soundtrack to my life at the mot It's.
Speaker 2 (04:00):
A sound track to my life too. It's just ah,
for fuck's sake.
Speaker 4 (04:05):
But yeah, yeah, well, how about first world problems starting today?
Speaker 5 (04:10):
We stop everything from being a shambles.
Speaker 2 (04:13):
I've been starting now, you know.
Speaker 4 (04:14):
It's it's just this week's been an unfortunate series of events.
Speaker 5 (04:22):
It has, it's been bizarre, but.
Speaker 4 (04:24):
Also this last year and a half's been an absolute
ship show, and so it's all adding.
Speaker 6 (04:29):
Up the last three weeks for me though, And I mean,
for example, Mike, you're getting your sickness back again, which
is a massive ball ache. And then I had a
trip to christ Church which was canceled because my nan
got sick. And then the next week in trip to
christ Church canceled it again because of the funeral. And
then the next weekend your batch canceled that because you
stuffed up the booking.
Speaker 5 (04:48):
And and then.
Speaker 2 (04:50):
Nelson can be very clear, stuff up the book You didn't.
Speaker 6 (04:54):
That's my fury, yes, But like I feel like a
lot of things the last month or so, even for me,
are a bit of a shambles.
Speaker 3 (05:00):
And you forgot to take your hoodie and everything you got.
Speaker 5 (05:04):
The mogis the I think it's yeah, it is, well,
it does it does no, because I'm trying to think.
Speaker 4 (05:14):
And I said, because I had a I went to
counseling today and I said to the woman who they
do my counseling with, I said, the fellows are joking
now that I'm cursed, and I'm beginning to believe I am.
Speaker 2 (05:28):
You know what I mean? She said, you're not cursed.
Speaker 3 (05:32):
Well, to be cursed with things that are minor inconvenience
isn't no.
Speaker 4 (05:36):
But you will put it at all as minor inconveniences.
Speaker 2 (05:39):
But cumulatively, Yeah.
Speaker 7 (05:42):
But you're talking about like workers are pain in the ass.
You had a flight canceled, a batch's double booked those
last night.
Speaker 4 (05:53):
I'm talking about three days in a row, like four
days in a row.
Speaker 7 (05:58):
But I mean, yeah, I don't know, that's not bigger.
You've got more important precid issues in your life than
that ship.
Speaker 2 (06:04):
Absolutely, But those things.
Speaker 3 (06:08):
Seem to be the things that break the camel's back.
Speaker 6 (06:10):
Yeah, yes, ah, how can we how can we minimize Okay,
so when we when we lock on a date for
the batch.
Speaker 2 (06:17):
I'm not even going to go there right now.
Speaker 6 (06:19):
We're going to call your father in law two weeks
out and then a week out.
Speaker 7 (06:23):
Know, CAZy, this isn't for you to organize exactly the
day you mind your business.
Speaker 5 (06:28):
But I just want to help many. I know, I
know you do.
Speaker 3 (06:30):
You're stick in your bea kond No I care about
This is for Jason.
Speaker 5 (06:34):
This is.
Speaker 7 (06:36):
Is only It's only been once and twenty years to
say exactly, I cannot wait keasy for you to have
a kid, because you are going to go through and
you're going to try and solve every single one of
your kids problems, every single every single one, and that
kid is going to be fucking use as a resuld
of that because they need to work everything out for themselves.
Speaker 6 (06:57):
Right.
Speaker 7 (06:58):
That's the hardest thing is you're just going to go
You work out, mate, you working out. It is going
to be the most difficult challenge for you as a
human being, as will be letting them work out for
themselves because you are unable to stay out to people's business.
Speaker 5 (07:09):
Do you know why?
Speaker 3 (07:10):
Do you know?
Speaker 6 (07:11):
Actually my wife refuses to let me fix anything. It's
the most infuriating fucking thing in my entire life is
the fact that anytime I suggest anything that could make
anything slightly better, she goes, well, why don't you do it?
Then exactly exactly and then doesn't let me do it would.
Speaker 7 (07:27):
Drive me up the wall. Having somebody constantly thinking they
know better.
Speaker 1 (07:32):
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Speaker 6 (07:39):
Well, in these cases, I feel like, yeah, you can
you minimize, yes, minimize potential stress.
Speaker 5 (07:45):
Yeah, that's just how my brain works.
Speaker 3 (07:47):
I know, I know.
Speaker 7 (07:48):
But what I'm saying is, when you have a kid, yeah,
that is not going to give you great returns on
that kid because they will be like and they get
frustrated and they and your instinct is to help. Yeah,
but you can't. You're not allowed to because it just
ends up ruining the kid.
Speaker 6 (08:04):
See that's like the other day, I went for a
walk with my mate Guy and who's got a two
and a half year old daughter, and we went to
the playground and I've not had a lot of time
with a kid of that a little and it was
great fun. And at one point she was trying to
get into the swing thing and then I was like
genuinely the guy. I was like, so in this situation,
do you help her do it? He's like, to be honest, no,
(08:24):
if she's really struggling and getting upset, I will. Otherwise
absolutely not. You just let her figure it out. And
then I was like, okay, cool, against every fiber of
my beer.
Speaker 4 (08:33):
You wait till you wait till you get to the
teenage ys. Do that is next level.
Speaker 5 (08:40):
It's gonna be so good.
Speaker 2 (08:41):
That's where you're going.
Speaker 4 (08:42):
Okay, I don't want you going down these stupid paths,
but at the same time, I went down those stupid paths,
so I can't. I'm not going to sit here and
say you can't do this, but I can give you
some guidelines and then off you go and boy it.
Speaker 2 (08:59):
And but you've also going to realize too.
Speaker 4 (09:01):
I mean, the difference between when we were teenagers and
teenagers today is a fucking planet. It is a completely
different world, social.
Speaker 2 (09:12):
Media and all that shit. It is a nightmare.
Speaker 6 (09:15):
Yeah, although I do think my kids will be different though, Yeah.
Speaker 3 (09:19):
Because it's different. Yeah, with the right advice.
Speaker 4 (09:23):
But absolutely there's got to be an element of you've
got only that is the hardest thing is letting your
kids make mistakes and going Okay, this is a mistake,
but you don't even say that, but I'm going to
let you make it.
Speaker 3 (09:37):
Yeah, totally. Yeah.
Speaker 7 (09:39):
I mean they at a younger age. It's more just
basic than that. Yes, it's just you can yes. Yeah,
it's not so mental and emotion No. No, that's right
and all of it. Because I've got a younger sister.
She's sixteen years younger than me, so it's quite a
big difference. Yes, and so when she was coming up
through her teenage years, I was like twenty nine thirty
(10:02):
and so, but I could come into a position from
rather than parents. Parents, by and large, they'll tell their
kids what to do, yes, because of the experiences that
they've had. But for me, what I learnt through that was, yeah,
you can do that. This is what this is what
I used to do when I was your age, and
(10:23):
this is what I found happened to me as a
result of me doing those things. Yes, and then when
you talk like that, they're more inclined to tell you
the ship that they've been up to as well and
be more open about what.
Speaker 3 (10:32):
They're going through. Yeah you can't do that.
Speaker 7 (10:35):
They're just like, oh fuck, I'll just shut up. But
if you say, yeah, I used to be an absolute
piece of shit and I'm amazed that I'm alive. Yes,
then they go yeah, well actually, yeah.
Speaker 4 (10:44):
Yeah, you can take that approach to and it's a
good approach, you know, even with your kids. And but
you'll you can also get aha yeah and you go okay, yeah,
just saying and you're saying I kind of went. But
you know, we were talking a little while back about
(11:04):
you know, letting people learn their own way, and and
one of this interesting phenomenon like with private schools like
Kings and stuff like that up here in Auckland, where
they would just be managed to the nth degree by
their teachers and shown how to pass their exams and
(11:24):
micro managed, and then they'd get into a university situation
and the fallout and the lack of completion was massive
amongst that kind of group of kids because everything had
been done for them and they had no sense of
doing shit themselves.
Speaker 6 (11:41):
It's like former professional sports people, yes, because they're you know,
they're given their regime basically and how and their diets
and all that stuff. And then as soon as that finishes,
quite often, unless you get help, yes, all of a sudden,
you're just on your own.
Speaker 5 (11:55):
Yeah, which canna be quite.
Speaker 2 (11:56):
Too, and they fall apart or can do.
Speaker 5 (11:58):
So what you want to have a tax situation is
you want to like to.
Speaker 6 (12:03):
I'm just joking, of course, but I only I only
want to help Jase because I.
Speaker 5 (12:08):
Know he's stressed. But you want to help everybody like
I don't want to help you, But I don't think
you need help.
Speaker 7 (12:16):
No, no, I mean, but I mean, every opportunity there
is for you to give advice, you will give it.
You love, you love jumping in that, which is not
a bad thing I feel.
Speaker 3 (12:28):
No, it's not.
Speaker 7 (12:28):
It's not a bad thing at all, not a bad
thing at all. But you jump, You've you've always got
advice to give an every situation. So my point, the
only point I'm making, is that when you have a kid,
and it's going to be very tough for you, very
very tough.
Speaker 2 (12:42):
Yeah, no, I like it.
Speaker 3 (12:45):
I mean, and it's going to be hard enough anyway.
Speaker 7 (12:47):
Yeah, it's going to be really hard when you think
you guys must be jud start having kids, aren't you,
because you guys are both getting on. But it's also
that thing too, because what you do is you take
out you when.
Speaker 4 (12:57):
You know when you're having a herd the time and stuff.
Speaker 2 (13:02):
A lot of the time you don't want advice. Oh no,
it's the least moment. It's the least when you when
the last thing you.
Speaker 4 (13:13):
Is when people fucking go oh, this is what you
should do, and you go just just.
Speaker 7 (13:19):
About and in fact that that's usually uh, that's a
complaint in your relationships, right. Oftentimes you'll find that your
partner wants to vent. But as males, and this is
a broad strokes, fucking blah blah blah, what you want
to problem solve. So when you hear somebody complaining to
(13:39):
you about a problem, you go, oh, well, why don't
you do this? And but the thing is, no, no,
I don't want you to solve it. I just want
to be able to complain about it, whereas my thing
is I don't want to hear any complaining. Let's solve it, right,
which is also.
Speaker 5 (13:53):
No, I've changed. I used to be like that.
Speaker 3 (13:55):
You get beaten up by a day.
Speaker 5 (13:57):
No, I'm happy for them to complain for a while.
Oh for a while, and then yeah, for a wee while.
Speaker 6 (14:03):
How you feeling? Should we try it out a minute? Yeah,
it's for me.
Speaker 3 (14:07):
But I do also say is this are we just
complaining or are we You.
Speaker 4 (14:10):
Know, I don't really complain to my wife, but I
can be in a horror of the mood and she
she'll just leave me alone. Yeah. That's the only time
where it's like, well, and when I'm in a bad mood,
not because necessarily things have gone wrong or anything, and
(14:31):
people go, oh, why don't you go and do this
or why don't you go and do that, And it's like, no,
I just want to be in a fucking bad mood
and just leave me.
Speaker 7 (14:39):
Glasses has learned that from raising four daughters, and that
is when your kids and her emergers, let them work
it out.
Speaker 2 (14:45):
And leave it alone.
Speaker 7 (14:47):
Yeah, you just go quiet. Do you bring her real
dark on the same Yeah, it's a bad trait. I
got that off my mum.
Speaker 6 (14:53):
Yes, my wife had this funny thing last night to
do with that, which is like when my partner gets angry,
she doesn't want to talk to me or be near me,
but she still wants me to be nearby so that
she can show me that she doesn't want to talk
to me or be you like, so if you just
completely shut them off, that will make them even more annoyed,
whereas if you attempt to talk to them, they will
(15:15):
at least be given the chance to be like, no,
I'm angry at you, and that helps.
Speaker 4 (15:19):
So it's annoying, it's fascinating, really fascinating stuff.
Speaker 5 (15:23):
Hey, anyway, listen to the hud Acky Big Show for
to seven.
Speaker 2 (15:26):
Don't.
Speaker 5 (15:26):
We'll solve all your problems.
Speaker 3 (15:28):
Sorted out enough problems of her own
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Speaker 2 (00:15):
Thanks mate, Wow, I wasn't expecting that.
Speaker 3 (00:18):
Actually, what were you expecting? Man?
Speaker 4 (00:20):
Well, no, I just because usually Kezy facts around a bit.
Oh yeah, and see as can you try talking to it?
Speaker 3 (00:30):
Three one two three?
Speaker 2 (00:32):
What's going on with it? And then it was like
we were just into it.
Speaker 3 (00:36):
There was only one Ethan geffoy I was.
Speaker 2 (00:38):
I wasn't mentally prepared.
Speaker 5 (00:41):
Keyzy, well, just for the listeners benefit.
Speaker 6 (00:44):
We're in the ACC studio right now, which is a
shambles every time.
Speaker 3 (00:47):
You use it.
Speaker 6 (00:48):
Yeah, it just glitches out and things don't work properly
in the headphones at the moment.
Speaker 3 (00:53):
Yeah.
Speaker 6 (00:54):
So I just did a whole podcast for like fifty minutes,
wiggling the little thing that to make them work.
Speaker 4 (00:59):
Wiggily, nothing like that. That just does my head and
that sort of shit.
Speaker 5 (01:03):
Yeah, man, And I can barely see you, Jason.
Speaker 4 (01:05):
Yeah, I can't see you at all, and I can
barely hear myself. But hey, well, soldier on with soldier.
Speaker 3 (01:12):
On, Ah, fuck, good stuff. How's your shooting last night?
Speaker 2 (01:18):
I'll tell you all about it in the show.
Speaker 3 (01:21):
It was what were you shooting?
Speaker 2 (01:23):
It's keasy, it's.
Speaker 3 (01:25):
Good question, geezy.
Speaker 4 (01:28):
Let me just put it this way. It's just getting
to the point where I'm going, Okay, I need to
totally reevaluate my life because this is ridiculous what's going
on at the moment, right, just ridiculous event after event
(01:51):
that's just turning into a farce. On the good side,
it's material. On the bad side, it's really fucking me
off now, right.
Speaker 5 (02:00):
So like their batch situation for example, Yes.
Speaker 2 (02:03):
Like the canceled flight situation for example.
Speaker 3 (02:08):
A couple of feely minor inconveniences.
Speaker 2 (02:10):
Oh no, the batch was not minor. That was a
fucking pain in.
Speaker 7 (02:14):
The ass, not TOAKYSI and in pugs. And they didn't
mind it as much, not as much as you.
Speaker 4 (02:20):
Yeah, that that's because they didn't know what they were
missing out on.
Speaker 3 (02:26):
Well they did.
Speaker 5 (02:27):
We were hosting, though, there's extra stress though, more.
Speaker 3 (02:29):
Streus to you. If you feel like you fucked it up.
Speaker 7 (02:31):
Yeah, well I didn't though I know, but I guess
you're conscious of the fact that no one believes that.
Speaker 4 (02:37):
You know, but I'm also conscious of the fact of,
you know, not bleazing on about it either. But but
it is funny. What happened last night was funny. It
was so stupid that it was just like, oh, for
fuck's sake. And then I reached the point last night
when I was just sitting on the couch at one
thirty in the morning, going the fuck is going on?
Speaker 2 (02:58):
This is just ridiculous?
Speaker 7 (02:59):
Yeah, stupid ship, Can you give up acting? The acting
was fine, Yeah, I know, but it's not about the acting.
Speaker 5 (03:08):
It sounds like the shagging around involved is like.
Speaker 2 (03:13):
But even that is part and parcel of acting.
Speaker 3 (03:17):
But it is. But it doesn't mean you like it.
Speaker 2 (03:19):
No.
Speaker 4 (03:20):
But you know, like we were talking about back in
the day, you just take it all on the chin
and ship. As you get older and you're grumpy here
and stuff, you don't take it so well.
Speaker 3 (03:30):
Yeah, but you also.
Speaker 4 (03:32):
Don't want to be a prima donna either. You just
got to suck it up and go.
Speaker 3 (03:36):
But then anyone knows you're in a horror of a
mood on seat.
Speaker 2 (03:38):
It was funny.
Speaker 4 (03:39):
Actually, Tracy, the actor I was working with, yes, she
was an hysterics because she said, it's great.
Speaker 2 (03:49):
I can just hear you going. You know, you're sitting
there going.
Speaker 5 (03:57):
That is the soundtrack to my life at the mot It's.
Speaker 2 (04:00):
A sound track to my life too. It's just ah,
for fuck's sake.
Speaker 4 (04:05):
But yeah, yeah, well, how about first world problems starting today?
Speaker 5 (04:10):
We stop everything from being a shambles.
Speaker 2 (04:13):
I've been starting now, you know.
Speaker 4 (04:14):
It's it's just this week's been an unfortunate series of events.
Speaker 5 (04:22):
It has, it's been bizarre, but.
Speaker 4 (04:24):
Also this last year and a half's been an absolute
ship show, and so it's all adding.
Speaker 6 (04:29):
Up the last three weeks for me though, And I mean,
for example, Mike, you're getting your sickness back again, which
is a massive ball ache. And then I had a
trip to christ Church which was canceled because my nan
got sick. And then the next week in trip to
christ Church canceled it again because of the funeral. And
then the next weekend your batch canceled that because you
stuffed up the booking.
Speaker 5 (04:48):
And and then.
Speaker 2 (04:50):
Nelson can be very clear, stuff up the book You didn't.
Speaker 6 (04:54):
That's my fury, yes, But like I feel like a
lot of things the last month or so, even for me,
are a bit of a shambles.
Speaker 3 (05:00):
And you forgot to take your hoodie and everything you got.
Speaker 5 (05:04):
The mogis the I think it's yeah, it is, well,
it does it does no, because I'm trying to think.
Speaker 4 (05:14):
And I said, because I had a I went to
counseling today and I said to the woman who they
do my counseling with, I said, the fellows are joking
now that I'm cursed, and I'm beginning to believe I am.
Speaker 2 (05:28):
You know what I mean? She said, you're not cursed.
Speaker 3 (05:32):
Well, to be cursed with things that are minor inconvenience
isn't no.
Speaker 4 (05:36):
But you will put it at all as minor inconveniences.
Speaker 2 (05:39):
But cumulatively, Yeah.
Speaker 7 (05:42):
But you're talking about like workers are pain in the ass.
You had a flight canceled, a batch's double booked those
last night.
Speaker 4 (05:53):
I'm talking about three days in a row, like four
days in a row.
Speaker 7 (05:58):
But I mean, yeah, I don't know, that's not bigger.
You've got more important precid issues in your life than
that ship.
Speaker 2 (06:04):
Absolutely, But those things.
Speaker 3 (06:08):
Seem to be the things that break the camel's back.
Speaker 6 (06:10):
Yeah, yes, ah, how can we how can we minimize Okay,
so when we when we lock on a date for
the batch.
Speaker 2 (06:17):
I'm not even going to go there right now.
Speaker 6 (06:19):
We're going to call your father in law two weeks
out and then a week out.
Speaker 7 (06:23):
Know, CAZy, this isn't for you to organize exactly the
day you mind your business.
Speaker 5 (06:28):
But I just want to help many. I know, I
know you do.
Speaker 3 (06:30):
You're stick in your bea kond No I care about
This is for Jason.
Speaker 5 (06:34):
This is.
Speaker 7 (06:36):
Is only It's only been once and twenty years to
say exactly, I cannot wait keasy for you to have
a kid, because you are going to go through and
you're going to try and solve every single one of
your kids problems, every single every single one, and that
kid is going to be fucking use as a resuld
of that because they need to work everything out for themselves.
Speaker 6 (06:57):
Right.
Speaker 7 (06:58):
That's the hardest thing is you're just going to go
You work out, mate, you working out. It is going
to be the most difficult challenge for you as a
human being, as will be letting them work out for
themselves because you are unable to stay out to people's business.
Speaker 5 (07:09):
Do you know why?
Speaker 3 (07:10):
Do you know?
Speaker 6 (07:11):
Actually my wife refuses to let me fix anything. It's
the most infuriating fucking thing in my entire life is
the fact that anytime I suggest anything that could make
anything slightly better, she goes, well, why don't you do it?
Then exactly exactly and then doesn't let me do it would.
Speaker 7 (07:27):
Drive me up the wall. Having somebody constantly thinking they
know better.
Speaker 1 (07:32):
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Speaker 6 (07:39):
Well, in these cases, I feel like, yeah, you can
you minimize, yes, minimize potential stress.
Speaker 5 (07:45):
Yeah, that's just how my brain works.
Speaker 3 (07:47):
I know, I know.
Speaker 7 (07:48):
But what I'm saying is, when you have a kid, yeah,
that is not going to give you great returns on
that kid because they will be like and they get
frustrated and they and your instinct is to help. Yeah,
but you can't. You're not allowed to because it just
ends up ruining the kid.
Speaker 6 (08:04):
See that's like the other day, I went for a
walk with my mate Guy and who's got a two
and a half year old daughter, and we went to
the playground and I've not had a lot of time
with a kid of that a little and it was
great fun. And at one point she was trying to
get into the swing thing and then I was like
genuinely the guy. I was like, so in this situation,
do you help her do it? He's like, to be honest, no,
(08:24):
if she's really struggling and getting upset, I will. Otherwise
absolutely not. You just let her figure it out. And
then I was like, okay, cool, against every fiber of
my beer.
Speaker 4 (08:33):
You wait till you wait till you get to the
teenage ys. Do that is next level.
Speaker 5 (08:40):
It's gonna be so good.
Speaker 2 (08:41):
That's where you're going.
Speaker 4 (08:42):
Okay, I don't want you going down these stupid paths,
but at the same time, I went down those stupid paths,
so I can't. I'm not going to sit here and
say you can't do this, but I can give you
some guidelines and then off you go and boy it.
Speaker 2 (08:59):
And but you've also going to realize too.
Speaker 4 (09:01):
I mean, the difference between when we were teenagers and
teenagers today is a fucking planet. It is a completely
different world, social.
Speaker 2 (09:12):
Media and all that shit. It is a nightmare.
Speaker 6 (09:15):
Yeah, although I do think my kids will be different though, Yeah.
Speaker 3 (09:19):
Because it's different. Yeah, with the right advice.
Speaker 4 (09:23):
But absolutely there's got to be an element of you've
got only that is the hardest thing is letting your
kids make mistakes and going Okay, this is a mistake,
but you don't even say that, but I'm going to
let you make it.
Speaker 3 (09:37):
Yeah, totally. Yeah.
Speaker 7 (09:39):
I mean they at a younger age. It's more just
basic than that. Yes, it's just you can yes. Yeah,
it's not so mental and emotion No. No, that's right
and all of it. Because I've got a younger sister.
She's sixteen years younger than me, so it's quite a
big difference. Yes, and so when she was coming up
through her teenage years, I was like twenty nine thirty
(10:02):
and so, but I could come into a position from
rather than parents. Parents, by and large, they'll tell their
kids what to do, yes, because of the experiences that
they've had. But for me, what I learnt through that was, yeah,
you can do that. This is what this is what
I used to do when I was your age, and
(10:23):
this is what I found happened to me as a
result of me doing those things. Yes, and then when
you talk like that, they're more inclined to tell you
the ship that they've been up to as well and
be more open about what.
Speaker 3 (10:32):
They're going through. Yeah you can't do that.
Speaker 7 (10:35):
They're just like, oh fuck, I'll just shut up. But
if you say, yeah, I used to be an absolute
piece of shit and I'm amazed that I'm alive. Yes,
then they go yeah, well actually, yeah.
Speaker 4 (10:44):
Yeah, you can take that approach to and it's a
good approach, you know, even with your kids. And but
you'll you can also get aha yeah and you go okay, yeah,
just saying and you're saying I kind of went. But
you know, we were talking a little while back about
(11:04):
you know, letting people learn their own way, and and
one of this interesting phenomenon like with private schools like
Kings and stuff like that up here in Auckland, where
they would just be managed to the nth degree by
their teachers and shown how to pass their exams and
(11:24):
micro managed, and then they'd get into a university situation
and the fallout and the lack of completion was massive
amongst that kind of group of kids because everything had
been done for them and they had no sense of
doing shit themselves.
Speaker 6 (11:41):
It's like former professional sports people, yes, because they're you know,
they're given their regime basically and how and their diets
and all that stuff. And then as soon as that finishes,
quite often, unless you get help, yes, all of a sudden,
you're just on your own.
Speaker 5 (11:55):
Yeah, which canna be quite.
Speaker 2 (11:56):
Too, and they fall apart or can do.
Speaker 5 (11:58):
So what you want to have a tax situation is
you want to like to.
Speaker 6 (12:03):
I'm just joking, of course, but I only I only
want to help Jase because I.
Speaker 5 (12:08):
Know he's stressed. But you want to help everybody like
I don't want to help you, But I don't think
you need help.
Speaker 7 (12:16):
No, no, I mean, but I mean, every opportunity there
is for you to give advice, you will give it.
You love, you love jumping in that, which is not
a bad thing I feel.
Speaker 3 (12:28):
No, it's not.
Speaker 7 (12:28):
It's not a bad thing at all, not a bad
thing at all. But you jump, You've you've always got
advice to give an every situation. So my point, the
only point I'm making, is that when you have a kid,
and it's going to be very tough for you, very
very tough.
Speaker 2 (12:42):
Yeah, no, I like it.
Speaker 3 (12:45):
I mean, and it's going to be hard enough anyway.
Speaker 7 (12:47):
Yeah, it's going to be really hard when you think
you guys must be jud start having kids, aren't you,
because you guys are both getting on. But it's also
that thing too, because what you do is you take
out you when.
Speaker 4 (12:57):
You know when you're having a herd the time and stuff.
Speaker 2 (13:02):
A lot of the time you don't want advice. Oh no,
it's the least moment. It's the least when you when
the last thing you.
Speaker 4 (13:13):
Is when people fucking go oh, this is what you
should do, and you go just just.
Speaker 7 (13:19):
About and in fact that that's usually uh, that's a
complaint in your relationships, right. Oftentimes you'll find that your
partner wants to vent. But as males, and this is
a broad strokes, fucking blah blah blah, what you want
to problem solve. So when you hear somebody complaining to
(13:39):
you about a problem, you go, oh, well, why don't
you do this? And but the thing is, no, no,
I don't want you to solve it. I just want
to be able to complain about it, whereas my thing
is I don't want to hear any complaining. Let's solve it, right,
which is also.
Speaker 5 (13:53):
No, I've changed. I used to be like that.
Speaker 3 (13:55):
You get beaten up by a day.
Speaker 5 (13:57):
No, I'm happy for them to complain for a while.
Oh for a while, and then yeah, for a wee while.
Speaker 6 (14:03):
How you feeling? Should we try it out a minute? Yeah,
it's for me.
Speaker 3 (14:07):
But I do also say is this are we just
complaining or are we You.
Speaker 4 (14:10):
Know, I don't really complain to my wife, but I
can be in a horror of the mood and she
she'll just leave me alone. Yeah. That's the only time
where it's like, well, and when I'm in a bad mood,
not because necessarily things have gone wrong or anything, and
(14:31):
people go, oh, why don't you go and do this
or why don't you go and do that, And it's like, no,
I just want to be in a fucking bad mood
and just leave me.
Speaker 7 (14:39):
Glasses has learned that from raising four daughters, and that
is when your kids and her emergers, let them work
it out.
Speaker 2 (14:45):
And leave it alone.
Speaker 7 (14:47):
Yeah, you just go quiet. Do you bring her real
dark on the same Yeah, it's a bad trait. I
got that off my mum.
Speaker 6 (14:53):
Yes, my wife had this funny thing last night to
do with that, which is like when my partner gets angry,
she doesn't want to talk to me or be near me,
but she still wants me to be nearby so that
she can show me that she doesn't want to talk
to me or be you like, so if you just
completely shut them off, that will make them even more annoyed,
whereas if you attempt to talk to them, they will
(15:15):
at least be given the chance to be like, no,
I'm angry at you, and that helps.
Speaker 4 (15:19):
So it's annoying, it's fascinating, really fascinating stuff.
Speaker 5 (15:23):
Hey, anyway, listen to the hud Acky Big Show for
to seven.
Speaker 2 (15:26):
Don't.
Speaker 5 (15:26):
We'll solve all your problems.
Speaker 3 (15:28):
Sorted out enough problems of her own
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