Episode 204: More signs & stories from Sandra's listeners!

Fellow listeners share some amazing experiences, including one moms important words on self-compassion through grief.

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Speaker 3 (00:39):
Hi. I'm Sandra Champlain. For over twenty five years, I've
been on a journey to prove the existence of life
after death. On each episode, we'll discuss the reasons we
now know that our loved ones have survived physical debt
and so will we. Welcome to Shades of the Afterlife

(01:00):
on our time together today, I want to feature your
stories now. You may not have written to me, but
other listeners have, and many have posted within our Facebook group. Sandra,
You say I didn't know we had a Facebook group,
Oh well we do. Go to we Don't Die dot
com and on the top of the page it says

(01:22):
their Facebook group. Please join there's a lot of like
minded people, and I'm sure they'd love to hear your
story as much as you love to hear theirs. So
today we're going to be featuring some fellow listeners stories
and then also in our last segment, you're going to
hear from one of our community members named Kathy, who

(01:44):
gave the address on our free Sunday gathering. If you're
new to Shades of the Afterlife, every Sunday for the
past four years, we have a free, non denominational service
of sorts. It's fun, We've got music videos, we share
some inspiration, and there's a medium demonstration included. Did I

(02:06):
say it's free. Just recently, Mom Kathy told her story
of her son's passing and the signs she's received from him. Also,
she shares some very special words about grief and taking
care of ourselves through the grieving process. She also mentions

(02:27):
my book We Don't Die and refers to chapter ten,
which is all about grief. If you do not yet
have a copy of the book and you want a
PDF version that you can read online, you can have
it again website We Don'tdie dot com. Scroll to the

(02:47):
bottom of the page, just enter your name and your
email address. It says just the few chapters you'll receive,
but it is the entire book. And then just fast
forward to chapter ten. All right, ready for some stories.
Let's meet some of your fellow Shades of the Afterlife
listeners and hear the signs and other incredible stories that

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they've experienced. Leah says, when my father died in his
nursing home, I was cleaning out his room and I
was crying with my daughter. Suddenly there was an energy
that came across the room and up my body, taking
away all of my sadness, and I felt happiness and

(03:30):
felt him right there with us. At the same time,
my daughter said to me, Mom, did you just feel that?
We both started to laugh. We felt like this was
his presence and message to us that everything would be
fine now. The day before, when we were told my
father had died, I brought my mother in to see him,

(03:53):
and she was laying across him and crying, and I
was holding her from behind. As she held him, I
had my eyes closed, and I was shown in my
mind what felt like a movie. I could see my
father as a little boy with blonde hair, running through
a beautiful field and he was running to his father,

(04:13):
who had his arms outstretched reaching towards him. His father
was killed in an accident when he was only six
years old. I've had many experiences and messages from those
I love who have crossed over. Always makes me so
happy to get these messages and I know they are
always with me. Here's a story of healing from LJ.

(04:38):
I've had so many encounters with spirit, beginning at age eleven,
But what thoroughly convinced me and forever transformed my way
of viewing absolutely everything was a spontaneous, complete healing of
a crippling condition I had in two thousand and nine.
I had been having severe pain and struggling to stand

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and to walk for over a year. The pain in
my limbs was so bad I was at the point
of begging for elective amputation just to make it stop.
If I hadn't been a single mom with two kids
who loved me dearly at the time, I may have
ended my life. The pain was that bad. Then one

(05:23):
morning I was awakened by a voice in my room
telling me to get out of bed, to stand up,
and to walk. Oddly enough, my first thought was not
why is there a voice of an unseen entity speaking
to me. Instead, I began a telepathic conversation in which
I argued that I wasn't able to do what I

(05:45):
was being asked. There was a bit of back and forth,
including talk about whether or not I could take a
pain pill or muscle relaxer. First I was told no,
not any of those. Finally I did what the voice said.
I stood up and took a couple of tentative steps,
and I was shocked to find that I was both

(06:08):
steady and pain free. Here's what Jeanne says. My wife
of twenty eight years passed away unexpectedly last year at
the age of fifty one. The grief was intense and overwhelming.
Several weeks into morning, I had to know what her
last moments were like and started reading about near death

(06:31):
experiences and the afterlife. That's when I started listening to
Sandra's podcasts. Knowing that we don't die and she's just fine,
I started talking to her. Oftentimes, when it's quiet or
I'm spiritually focused on her, I can hear faint conversations
and ethereal music that in itself is reassuring, but I'm

(06:54):
also partially deaf. I shouldn't be able to hear anything
at all, but it comes through so softly. The words
are muddled or maybe in another language, probably Latin. It's
akin to listening to music on a speaker set at
its lowest volume. As time moves on, I hope the
volume goes up or the words start to come through sharper.

(07:18):
But for now, I find peace and comfort when I
hear her gently singing to me. Kenda says, I once
recorded a spirit audio session during which one spirit person says,
there's her guide, General Davis. Another male voice quickly responded, yes,

(07:38):
that's who I was even more interesting, in my opinion,
I could hear them talking as I stood there holding
the recorder. I also receive precognitive messages from spirit from
time to time, messages concerning future happenings. Aaron says, just
a few weeks ago, I was reading on the couch

(08:00):
on an early morning, and out of nowhere, Alexa pipes
up with happy birthday to you. Would you like me
to play a birthday song? It wasn't my birthday, but
it was my deceased brother's birthday, and I had been
thinking about him all morning, And says, I have had
coins feathers, heard music, have seen objects move, seen the

(08:26):
spirit of my aunt in my bedroom, and have had
phone messages from a relative. Also, I've smelled perfume and
pipe tobacco. Kim says I caught my mother in law
say I am here on a recorder. She also says, Sandra,
I'm so thankful to have discovered you through shades of

(08:47):
the afterlife. I am learning so much. Please don't stop sharing. Kim,
I will not rue, says, I have so many experiences.
My most precious one is from my husband when he
left his body in twenty twenty one, and of course
I was devastated. I was desperately trying everything I could

(09:09):
to get a sign from him. I decided to try
EVP Electronic Voice phenomena, and I asked my husband to
say my name, and I got a recording of him
clearly saying my name, and it was in his voice.
I have compared it to other videos where he has
said my name when he was in his physical body,

(09:31):
and he says it exactly the same way. He has
sent tons of other special signs, but that's the one
that amazes me the most. Jennifer says, I've received so
many signs. I felt my mother's touch three times within
five minutes. It felt as though she was tucking my
hair behind my ear, just as she used to do

(09:53):
when I was a child. Last month, I asked for
a blue feather from her. I went out into the
yard a few two weeks later and saw this stuck
down into the ground. She included some pictures of a
big blue feather stuck straight down into her grass. Speaking
of feathers, here's a story from Claudia. It's seven years

(10:16):
now after my son David passed, and although I haven't
had a dream visitation, I have had many signs. One
of my favorites. I was cranky and walking the dog
one day and thinking of David, and I saw a
bunch of feathers. To me, that's not evidence, I said, David,
there are birds outside, and there are going to be

(10:37):
so many feathers. You're going to have to do something
better than that. The next three days in a row,
I found one single feather in the center of my kitchen.
I wonder, how in the world did he do that.
Karen says, my dad died in nineteen ninety one. One day,

(10:58):
about two years ago, I decided to ask my dad
for a sign. I do it every now and then,
and I do get them, but this one was the best.
I asked for a for sure, I know it's you sign.
While I was in the garage. A couple days later,
my husband went to renew our license plate. They told

(11:20):
him my plates were ten years old and needed brand
new plates in Minnesota. You get the plate they hand you.
He came back with our new plates and they had
the last four numbers of our old phone number growing up.
My mom still actually has that number. It's so funny
because I use those four numbers for so many codes.

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I definitely knew it was a sign for my dad.
Good work Dad. Oh, And the other three letters were
the same exact ones from my old plate, making it
easy to remember. Glory says, I know there is an afterlife.
Have experienced many things that convince me, one being the
death of my younger brother, who later came through by

(12:07):
me speaking to him through a great psychic. Howard gave
such detailed evidence that the psychic could not have known
it was really a thrilling experience. Also, Howard has figured
out how to use his energy to manipulate the electricity
in our house, turning lights on and off to let

(12:28):
us know he is present. How cool is that? That
is definitely really cool. Well, it's time for our break
and we'll be back with more stories from your fellow listeners.
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Speaker 3 (13:37):
Welcome back to Shades of the Afterlife. I'm Sandra Champlain
and this episode we are sharing your fellow listeners stories
and experiences about signs and the afterlife. This next story
is by Jackie. She says, my siblings and I suddenly
unexpectedly lost two brothers who passed two years apart. I

(14:02):
found comfort from your podcasts, Sandra and website back then later,
when my father died, I knew he was in a
better place, free from arthritis and pain. When replaying your
podcasts about varied signs that others have received. I told myself, well,
it won't be feathers, since I have so many from

(14:25):
all the wildlife that fly into my yard. The next morning,
I looked into my backyard. There stabbed into our artificial
grass was a long black feather twirling around in place.
When I looked away, the twirling stopped. When I returned

(14:45):
to my gaze, the twirling began again. I smiled and
said out loud, Hi, Dad, I miss you. Jackie's story
reminds me of a video that I had seen on
YouTube not that long ago.

Speaker 5 (15:00):
Oh.

Speaker 3 (15:00):
It was a woman who had set up her camera
and she was adorning the grave site around her son's
headstone with flowers and a little fence to make it
look nice. She also had there an ornamental fan, one
of those fans that when the wind hits it, it

(15:21):
twirls and all kinds of beautiful colors show. There was
no wind that day, and every time she spoke to
the sun, the fan began to spin. It was a
rather emotional video, as you could feel the mother's pain
of losing her son, But when she spoke to him,
that fan turned, and even when she asked it to

(15:43):
spin the opposite direction. It stopped and spun the opposite direction.
Gave me goosebumps to watch. Another listener sent me a
video that she was talking to her grandmother who is
in spirit, and she had one of those lamps with
a dimmable light bulb, and she would talk to her grandmother,

(16:04):
asking her to turn on the light, and very slowly
the light turned on, and when she asked her to
turn it off, the light turned off. She went back
and forth several times talking to her granny, and it
made me think, why not get a little child's fan
or something with no wind around, or that dimmable light

(16:26):
and talk to our loved ones and see if they
can practice moving things in time and space. Here's our
next story. Stacy writes, my grandfather came to me in
a dream and told me he had passed over. He said,
don't worry, I am fine. He told me that he
had a secret hiding place and I needed to go

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find it and where it was, and that there would
be something for my uncle. I woke up from that
dream at five am and told my husband about the dream.
Later that morning, I found out that my grandfather had
passed exactly at five am, and yes, I eventually found

(17:13):
that hiding place and in it there was a surprise
for my uncle. That dream changed my life. Julie says,
I've had many signs. After my daughter passed at seventeen
years old by suicide in a single car accident, she
showed me in my mind's eye upon waking up a

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couple days after her death what she experienced in being
bullied by several girls who had been her friends and
a sexual assault by a boy at school. I was
able to confirm all of this after her passing. The
girls went on to bully another boy, and my daughter
told me about it in my mind, so I talked

(17:58):
to him. He confirmed and went to the school and
informed them. He credits this with saving his life and
calls my daughter his guardian angel. She also sends me
huge feathers, plus bluebirds and huge hawks fly right over
my head. Let's talk about quarters. On the first year

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of her passing, I received a letter she wrote freshman
year to her senior self. The teacher sent it since
she knew I would want to read it. Inside there
were five quarters that confirmed to me that the quarters
really are from her last I want to share with
you that a big sign I get are finding heart

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shaped rocks. Ramona says, I know there is an afterlife.
When my mom passed away in twenty seventeen, I wasn't
looking for any spiritual groups, but by coincidence, I found
a lady drawing live on Facebook. As I'm watching her
drawing a female face, I was quite shocked to see

(19:06):
more and more the resemblance of my mom. So I'm thinking, no, no,
that can't be. She's just passed a few months ago.
But the more she came to finishing her drawing, it
was indeed my mother. Even though the drawing wasn't finished yet,
she started to write things down, like details about the
house my mom lived in, that she had four of

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us girls, and that in her garden she grew fruits
and vegetables. She talked about my mom what she'd look like,
as well as Grandpa and the funny Holland shoes he
wore while working in the yard. She even gave birthdays
and other relevant numbers. I sent her a picture of
my mom and she says, Yep, that is the woman

(19:51):
I saw. I should also mention that some mediums have
brought through my sister on Sandra's Sunday gathering. Thank you
world for your support and helping me through this tough time,
Jenny says, on March seventh, twenty twenty three, my twenty
one year old second born son was killed instantly on

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his motorcycle. He and I had taken meditation seminars a
couple of years before his death, and we had talked
many times about the afterlife. When he died, I would
meditate and he would be there with me. My eyes
were closed, yet I could see him and feel him.
It was incredibly peaceful, these images of him moving and

(20:35):
floating in front of me, laying his hands over my
heart as if trying to heal me. He was there
with me every day for a couple of weeks, just
like that. We then started having conversations and would find
ourselves in different places, walking in a field of flowers

(20:55):
or along a beach. He would tell me how happy
he was in that he is not alone, and that
there are many people with him, and that he is
still here with us, and how glad he was that
we were his parents. I started reading books instantly about
the afterlife. I would hear stories of people seeing spirits.

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I continued meditating and prayed for that to continue happening
with me. One week, I meditated every day for two
hours or more. One evening, as I lay in bed meditating,
I opened my eyes and saw my son's spirit. He
was floating upwards towards the ceiling. I saw a beautiful,

(21:37):
peaceful upper body image looking down at me. Behind him
were all these tiny little heads clumped together in a
cloud formation. It looked like the image of people walking
into New York City from above, so many people hovering
behind him. I closed my eyes tight and opened them again,

(21:58):
thinking it would go away, But it didn't. He was there.
I laid an awe and watched him as he receded
back into all of the other tiny souls, and then
they all went away. Since then, I have had three
dream visits. One of them rocked me to the core
and I couldn't keep from crying the whole next day.

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It was such a real visit, and I felt like
I had lost him all over again. I was grateful,
yet torn apart. In November, I went to a one
week advanced meditation seminar with doctor Joe Dispenza. We meditated
for about thirty five hours that week. One of the
meditations was at four a m. And it was four

(22:43):
and a half hours long. It was in this meditation
that I started to feel this tingling sensation all around
my upper torso and the top of my head. I
was excited because I had been praying that I would
leave my body and get to experience what it's like
to elevate outside of our own physical existence. That didn't happen,

(23:06):
but ever since that meditation, I get that tingling feeling
multiple times throughout the day. I now believe that it's
my son's spirit when he is close. It is absolutely incredible.
We are coming up on the year anniversary and I'm
slowly learning how to have a new different relationship with

(23:28):
my son, a spiritual one versus a human one. I
believe that heaven is all around us. I believe that
trauma can open up gifts that so many other people
wish for. I am learning to be grateful not for
the loss of my son, but for the experiences that
I have had since then. Thank you for your show

(23:49):
and all that you do, Sherry says Sandra. I feel
like I've witnessed the soul leaving the body. My father
passed with a rare form of cancer. Even though my
brother and I were expecting his death, you know, it's
still a shock. During the thirty six hours, my father
was unconscious and gasping for each breath. Honestly, if someone

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had told me I would pray for my father to die,
I would have said they were crazy. I didn't want
to see him suffer every day. Our pastor was there
and said a special prayer. One day. As she said, amen,
I saw changes happening. Very quickly, my brother ran to
get the nurse. She came in and put a stethoscope

(24:32):
to his neck and pronounced him dead. Even though I
was expecting it. I collapsed into the nurse's arms, and
as I looked over her shoulder to my father, I yelled,
weight there is something going on. The only way I
can describe it, for example, is if you've ever seen
a cigarette burning in an ash tray and the sun

(24:54):
hits the smoke. This is what it looked like, smoke
that came out of my father the's mouth and nose.
My brother saw it as well and said, Sherry, that's
the spirit leaving his body. My brother and I have
not talked about this since, but I know I witnessed
something very special. When you hear these stories, doesn't it

(25:16):
help make you feel like these things are possible in
your life. I went on Amazon and bought myself a
children's windspinner toy, and I also think by learning to
quiet the mind and meditate, there's a whole world available
to us. We just need to practice and explore. It's
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Welcome back to Shades of the Afterlife. I'm Sandra's Champlain
and today I'm reading your stories. You kind listeners have
sent some amazing experiences. The next one I'm going to read,
We're going to do a shout out to Oscar who's
a truck driver in Florida and he listens to Shades
of the Afterlife as he drives. He said he's originally

(27:16):
from New York City and moved to Florida in early
twenty twenty. Here are his words. When I left New York,
my mother was diagnosed with early stages of Alzheimer's and dementia.
I had older sisters that would care for her. I
am the only boy and the youngest my mother had.
My two sisters are about ten years older than me.

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In July of twenty twenty one, I received a call
from my sisters saying Mom has taken a turn for
the worst. Without hesitation, I packed the car and made
the twenty two hour road trip along with my wife
and son back up to New York City. We all
were with her for the weekend. She was coherent and
saying some words like she was happy. We were all

(28:00):
there with her. We stayed about two days until it
was time to get back to Florida because of my job.
Soon as we got back to Florida, two days later,
my mother had passed away. I was broken inside. I
was happy to say goodbye, but of course I was distraught.
The next day after she passed, I believe I had

(28:21):
what you call a lucid dream. I was in my room,
laying down where I was not completely awake nor asleep,
and I kid you not, my mother walked into my room,
clapping her hands and calling me Nanny, a childhood nickname
she had for me. She was happy and sort of celebrating.
She came over to me and kissed me on my cheek.

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It felt as if she was really there. I literally
felt her lips on my cheek. I could then remember
sitting up and tears began to run down my face.
It was an experience I've never had in my life.
I felt overwhelmed with joy, as if my mother was
telling me she's no longer in pain. Connie says, My

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mother in law died in November of two thousand and seven.
I had an experience in early two thousand and nine
with her. I was washing dishes at my kitchen sink,
just meditating on nothing in particular. Suddenly I saw her
in my mind's eye. She was smiling and said, I've
got a secret. I thought, what do you mean. You

(29:29):
can't do that to me, tell me the secret. Two
weeks later, my son, who lived in California at the time,
called to tell me they were expecting a baby. I
believe my mother in law knew about Madison before they
knew our Next story is from Kaylee. She says, so,
I just listened to one of your past podcasts about

(29:51):
signs from loved ones who have passed. I've gotten so
many signs from my brother, from waking up to a
phone call from his old cell number that had been
disconnected and a voicemail of all static and faint music
in the background. I will meditate and ask him for signs.
Sometimes he will leave me a white feather in one

(30:12):
of the spots I frequent over several times a day,
like on top of my jewelry box or on my
bathroom sync. He's manipulated my phone to show me things
he wants me to see several times. Actually, as he
had a degree in cybersecurity, so it comes as no
surprise to me that he was always doing things on

(30:33):
my phone and showing me things I needed to see
when my grief was just too blinding. He has shocked
me into oblivion many times. When I would ask for
a sign, things would happen, like lights going on and off,
words coming out of my child's mouth, TV channels being
changed by themselves with the remote, or something would just

(30:56):
shock me, and I'd hear his voice almost like he
was yelling at me, saying I'm here. It is me.
I could write a book about all the ways my
brother has shown me that he is still very much
alive and well. I was a non believer in life
after death before his loss, and I was a huge
skeptic even when I began receiving these signs. He and

(31:19):
I used to talk about it frequently in joke, if
we're going to go to the Flying Spaghetti Monster when
we die, or if we're just poof gone. For a
long time, I tried to disprove that these signs were
from him, but every time I found no logical explanation.

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For ninety nine percent of them. Our next story comes
from Julie. I'm finding that my husband is communicating with
me from the other side when I need it the most,
and it brings me great comfort. Also, my intuition is expanding.
I've had some remarkable experiences in this life life. Back

(32:00):
in two thousand and one, my fourteen year old niece
Tiffany passed away from a beasting. In early two thousand
and three, she came to me in the middle of
the night and began communicating telepathically. She looked about thirty
years old, and I vividly saw her in the upper
right corner of my mind's eye. I wrote down everything

(32:22):
she said, then sealed the paper in an envelope and
put it away for safe keeping. I didn't tell a
soul until her grieving mother, Kathy, called me and said
she was desperately seeking communication with her daughter. She just
needed to know that she was all right. Cathy had
gone to mediums and psychics, but none were able to

(32:44):
connect with Tiffany. She was heartbroken. I hesitantly told my
sister in law that Tiffany had come to me one night.
She asked me what she said, so I got the
envelope opened up the paper and read what I had
written down. None of it made sense to me, but
to her mom, everything made perfect sense, and she was

(33:08):
assured her daughter was alive and well. On the other side,
the things she said brought real comfort to her mother's
grieving heart. Incidentally, Tiffany had had a vision from a
girl named Isabella who told her that she was coming
soon to get her. This was about two weeks before
she died. Tiffany was furious because she thought her sister

(33:30):
Jenny was playing a mean prank on her. Thank you
for taking the time to read this. This shining Light
Mom says, I lost my only beautiful son, Alexander, to
fentanyl poisoning in July twenty twenty. He had just turned
twenty one. My life has been transformed in many ways,
particularly spiritually, since his death. The intense grief is something

(33:55):
that I continue to navigate and explore creative ways to
heal from. I I know for certain that he lives
on because I too, have had some extraordinary communications from him,
and I believe that he continues to send me signs
and messages through my iPhone in the form of photos
and songs. About ten days after Alexander died. I was

(34:18):
walking on trails in a beautiful nature reserve in southern California,
through a wild landscape of tall trees, both alive and dead.
The trail led me to a peaceful valley with the
lake fields of lush grass, marshes, water reeds, and cows grazing.
I was singing a song that I had made up

(34:38):
for Alexander as part of my mourning ritual, and connecting
with this powerful sense that Alexander was everywhere without and within.
Suddenly my cell phone began to play music all by itself,
something that had never happened before nor since. The song

(34:59):
was a band that Alexander listened to when he was younger,
titled it Ends Tonight by All American Rejects. I had
never played this music and didn't know that Alexander had
downloaded it into my iTunes account years ago. The song
was powerful and the lyrics were so incredibly relevant to

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the circumstances of his death. A disturbed mind, a falling star,
falling alone, isolated, and the repeated chorus when darkness turns
to light, it ends tonight, it ends Tonight. I was
alarmed and felt that the song was dark and angry,
but on reflection, the lyrics gave me some insight into

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what may have been going on within his mind and emotions.
I felt that he was in trauma, and through the song,
he was communicating to me in a way that he
was not able to voice when he was alive. He
had always been secretive, guarded, and hard to converse with
about his feelings and what was going on in his life.

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He lived in a skin that always gave the impression
that everything was fine. It was a deceptive mask. A
few days after the song, I sat down with my husband, stepson,
and his girlfriend to watch a movie on Netflix. We
wanted to find a comedy to lift our spirits. There
were two colored windows that always appear on the screen

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for our Netflix account, one with my husband's name and
the other with zand for Alexander. The two windows appeared,
but suddenly the color and letters of the zand window disappeared.
A white border then appeared around the window with an
X across it. I was alarmed, but I felt Alexander's presence.

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This mysterious deactivation of our son's account was not initiated
by either of us, and we could think of no
rational explanation. One more story. About two weeks after Alexander died,
I was sitting with my husband in our backyard at dusk.
We heard an owl hooting far away to the right

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side of our house, and soon afterwards we heard the
hoot much closer on the left side of the house.
Seconds later, the hoot sounded directly above us. We looked
up and saw a huge owl perched on the very
tip of a dead bamboo shoot, about twenty feet high,
completely exposed with the darkening sky surrounding it. It was

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a great horned owl, which I had never seen in
our neighborhood, and have never seen any owl perching in
such a clearly visible and exposed position. My husband ran
into the house to fetch his binoculars. I moved closer
to the owl and sat on a low wall. I
spontaneously began to talk to the owl lovingly, and we

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had a conversation of sorts. I spoke, the owl hooted.
I spoke, the owl hooted again, and this exchange went
on for a minute or so. My husband returned to
get a closer look, but the owl spread its beautiful
large wings with white feathers on the underside and flew off,
soaring up into the night sky. This was such a profound, magical,

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and mysterious visitation. I listened and watched for the owl
for many nights, hoping for a return visit, but we
never saw or heard it again. It turns out great
horned owls have long been associated with the ability to
connect with the heavens. When you see one, it means
trusting that you are connected to the source, even if

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you don't have physical proof. Well, my friend, it is
time for our next break, and we'll be back with
another incredible story and some very profound words of wisdom.
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to Shades of the Afterlife. I'm Sandra Champlain. Every Sunday,
I offer a free inspirational service online. We call it
the Sunday Gathering, with a medium demonstration included. Recently, one
of our community members, Kathy, gave the address. Here are

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her words, as she not only has some incredible signs
from her son, but she has some important words about
self healing.

Speaker 7 (41:24):
I'd love to share with all of you my own
personal story, and then I want to focus a little
bit on self compassion and how important it is in
the grieving process. Our beautiful son, Sean was only twenty
two years old when he passed a fentanyl poisoning, and
as you can imagine, that took us to our knees,
literally physically and literally. So every night after he passed,

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I would have nightmares of being murdered, just.

Speaker 8 (41:50):
In one way or another. And that went on for
about a month.

Speaker 7 (41:53):
And then two days after his memorial, I thought, oh
my god, I can't go to bed one more night
and be murdered. So I begged my son, Sean, please
come just come tonight, just one night of reprieve. And
early that morning, I woke up and I saw a
vision and it was like a tall being, like eight
foot tall, and it almost looks like the Oscar statue.

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And it showed up in my dear friend Joanne's house
and it said telepathically to me, Sean's not.

Speaker 8 (42:22):
Coming to you. He's coming to Joanne.

Speaker 7 (42:24):
So I woke up and I thought, what the heck,
and then I kind of blew it off like we do, right.
So two days later, Joanne came down and took me
out to dinner just to get me out of the house.
So we went out to the restaurant and I actually
told her about my vision, and then that was that
until I was driving home. And when I was driving home.
I was listening to a podcast about a woman who

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had gotten a text message from her son three days
after he passed. And I don't know what overcame me,
but I turned off the radio and I screamed at
my Shawnee like I'd never even screamed at him when
he was here. And I screamed at the top of
my lungs. Butterflies and dragonflies are not cutting it. I
want an email or a text message if I'm going

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to go forward. And I know that sounds so bratty,
but it just.

Speaker 8 (43:13):
Flew out of my mouth.

Speaker 7 (43:16):
And with the dragonflies and the butterflies, ever since he'd passed,
I would literally be being die bombed by dragonflies and
butterflies would swirl around, And in fact, yesterday was his
three year anniversary. And the other day I was on
the phone with a dear friend crying about Sean. And
as I'm talking this, dragonflies around.

Speaker 8 (43:35):
My car on the freeway. So it still is happening.

Speaker 7 (43:39):
So anyway, that's what I said, and then I forgot
about it, and I went into my house and I
got a phone call from my dear friend Joanne. She says,
kat I never checked my emails on the weekend, but
something just nudged me to check my emails, and she said,
do you know who Clyde Butterfield is? And I said, no,
I don't know who Clyde Butterfield is. And she showed

(44:01):
me this. This is the email she got and it
says from Clyde Butterfield to Joanne and all it says
in one word, Sean in bold letters, and at the
bottom you can't see, but it said sent from my iPhone.

Speaker 8 (44:16):
So now I was blown away.

Speaker 7 (44:17):
I knew my son was trying to connect me, but
I had no idea how, and so I talked to
his siblings and all of his friends. Because Sean's very
funny and would have these different characters. Nobody knew who
Clyde Butterfield was. So I went to bed that night
and I knew that he was trying to connect with me,
but I didn't know how. The next morning, I woke

(44:39):
up and I was still in a daze, and so
my husband took her youngest son out surfing for the
day and I allowed myself just to stay in bed
and cry all day till finally something told me I
need to get up and get.

Speaker 8 (44:51):
Something to eat.

Speaker 7 (44:51):
I went down and I was in the kitchen when
this voice said to me, you need to go out
and look through Sean's things. Now, I know this might
sound strange to you, but I I've had these connections
my whole life, and I am bold enough to sometimes.

Speaker 3 (45:05):
Argue with the voices too.

Speaker 7 (45:06):
I was actually arguing to see, I don't want to
go through his things.

Speaker 8 (45:09):
I've already been through so much pain.

Speaker 7 (45:11):
But the spirit went out, and so I went in
the garage and it literally was directing me to look
at which pile flip papers over, and I'm following the directions,
and I found this beautiful letter from Sean.

Speaker 8 (45:22):
It was a Mother's Day letter.

Speaker 7 (45:23):
And I hear the voice and it says, that's not it.
Look down on the right and flip one page over.
I look down on the right, I flip a page
over and look what I found.

Speaker 8 (45:35):
I was blown away.

Speaker 7 (45:36):
I don't remember Sean making this. Maybe he made this
when he.

Speaker 8 (45:40):
Was a child. I have no idea. I don't remember this.

Speaker 7 (45:43):
And there's a mom and Sean and he actually even
wrote butterfly and dragonfly and pointed the arrows to it.

Speaker 3 (45:50):
Kathy shows a picture of a drawing her son maid
only of a butterfly and a dragonfly.

Speaker 7 (45:56):
Well, the minute I saw this picture, I heard my
son's voice in my head and he said, see, Mom,
the butterflies in the dragonflies count too. So at this moment,
I saw just how much compassion my son was showing
me and the beautiful people in spirit were showing me,

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and I knew that I needed to show myself that
same amount of compassion to be able to get through this.
I had talked to my dad and his wife the
next day. Clyde Butterfield was my dad's wife's brother in
law who had passed five years before Sean passed. His
wife had shut down his email right after he passed,
and he had no iPhone. It's just such beautiful evidence

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that in the spirit world there's so many people who
are helping.

Speaker 8 (46:44):
It just blows my mind.

Speaker 7 (46:46):
And I also have to give credit to my son
for the humor of just putting Sean.

Speaker 8 (46:50):
In bold riding like I'm here.

Speaker 7 (46:53):
I'm just so grateful to all the beautiful souls in spirit,
the people in spirit that I've met who've shown so
much love. There's so much love for all of us.
They're just right there rooting us on it's amazing. So
I want to talk a little bit about how we
can give compassion to ourselves when we're going through something
like this. Sandraw wrote a great book, We Don't Die,

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and there's a chapter that talks about how grief actually
physically affects you. It's not just emotional. We're literally physically suffering.
This isn't just something that's in our head, and we
need to give self compassion during such a traumatic time.

Speaker 8 (47:32):
So what did this look like for me?

Speaker 7 (47:35):
Sometimes it look like getting massages, going to the beach
and talking to God all the time, getting extra sleep,
allowing myself to sleep in, eating healthy foods, researching voraciously
about the afterlife, getting support from a grief therapist, and.

Speaker 5 (47:52):
Guess what other times it includes going to in and
out burgers a lot and eating cheese fries and burgers, milkshakes,
allowing myself days in bed just to cry, not forcing
myself to go out and be with other people when
I didn't want it, and trying not to beat.

Speaker 8 (48:10):
Myself up for all of it.

Speaker 7 (48:12):
Sometimes it's just like the song says, we need to
just kind of let it be. We need to not
try to do anything, just let things go, just observe life,
rest and receive all that spirit can give us.

Speaker 3 (48:25):
Guess what life is messy?

Speaker 7 (48:28):
Grief is messy, and that's okay. I found for me
that it's a process of two steps forward, one step back.
At times, I will just have this completely higher perspective.
It's phenomenal and I understand how everything is and why
it's meant to be, and I'm absolutely filled with love,
and literally two minutes later, it could be like a

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brick just hits me in the back of my head
and I'm taken down to my knees in absolute despair.

Speaker 8 (48:56):
That's part of it. But now I try to just practice.

Speaker 7 (48:59):
Some self compact and I just let it force through
my body. I turn not to fight the pain as much.
I started to understand.

Speaker 8 (49:07):
That life includes both joy and sorrow, and again that
has to be okay.

Speaker 7 (49:13):
Self compassion and grief can also include letting go of
the shoulds. We should be stronger, we should be harder,
we should work longer, we should do a certain thing,
say a certain thing, look a certain way. My God,
are we.

Speaker 8 (49:27):
Hard on ourselves?

Speaker 7 (49:29):
Instead?

Speaker 8 (49:31):
I propose that.

Speaker 7 (49:31):
We just need to meet ourselves exactly where we are
at any given moment. And that could change moment to
moment and not think of some idea where we think
we're supposed to be or where we should be. There
are no shortcuts in all of this. I'm learning and
I need to just rest into what is instead of
what I think it should be. In the book Radical Acceptance,

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the author states, in contrast to orthodox notions of climbing
up a ladder seeking perfection, psychologist Carl Jung describes the
spiritual path as an unfolding into wholeness.

Speaker 8 (50:08):
Rather than trying to vanquish.

Speaker 7 (50:10):
Waves of emotion and rid ourselves of an inherently and
pure self, we turn around and we embrace this life
in all of its realness, broken, messy, mysterious, and vibrantly alive.
By cultivating an unconditional and accepting presence, we're no longer
battling against ourselves, keeping our wild and imperfect self in

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a cage of judgment and mistrust. Instead, we're discovering the
freedom of becoming authentic and fully alive. The definition of
compassion actually means to be with, to suffer with. So
how many times have we abandoned our own selves instead
of having our own backs? I say that self compassion

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is the ability to be able to allow ourselves the
experience of life in all of its fullness, to be
present for it all, and not just hide from the
pain and only seek the pleasure. So when you're ready,
find a way to have compassion for yourself today, give
yourself a break. In fact, stand up and offer applause

(51:15):
for yourself. Give yourself a pat on the back for
the ability to still be standing, for the efforts you
have made just to get out of bed on those
dark early days of grief, when you didn't know if
you were going to be able to literally live one
minute more, for your wonderful body, which helps you to
see today, to hear today, to feel today, and to

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think today. You are, every single one of you out there,
a superstar just for making it this far. I want
to end with a quote from one of my own
personal heroes, Helen Keller. One of the things that she
said was that the struggle of life is one of
our greatest blessings. It makes us patient, sensitive, and godlike.

Speaker 8 (51:58):
It teaches us that I'll although the world is full
of suffering, it's.

Speaker 7 (52:02):
Also full of the overcoming of it. So go out
there today, show some compassion for yourself as you walk
through your life with all the beautiful messiness of it all.

Speaker 3 (52:14):
Thank you and thank you to Kathy that gives you
a little taste of the address on our Sunday gathering.
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have a medium demonstration within every single one. Also, if
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Our time today has come to an end. Please know
that love is all around you. I'm Sandra Champlain. Thank

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you so much for listening to Shades of the app
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Podcast Network.

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