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Speaker 1 (00:00):
Therapy Thursday, where we tackle all your troubles, as we
like to say, and we're so lucky we have our
licensed therapist friend Sarah Dash with us. Sarah, hi Ellen,
you know everything about everything. I don't know about that.
Speaker 2 (00:14):
But I'm very happy to be here and hopefully in
part something that will be useful.
Speaker 1 (00:19):
All right, Well, we got this letter to you, actually, Sarah.
My name is Matt. I'm forty years old. My wife
and i've been married for two years. Since we started dating,
I've always pushed her to pursue a career where she
could be really happy and make more money. She's always
worked retail, She's always complained. We laughed about her selling
pictures online on one of those websites as a way
(00:41):
for us to make money. Well, it turns out she
started doing that, okay, posting photos of her legs. It
all seems innocent, and she just presented me with a
substantial amount of money. I like the extra income, but
I'm also afraid and can't stand the amount of tension
that she's receiving. Well, I regret this. Should we stop?
Speaker 2 (01:04):
My question would be what exactly is bothering him? And
I'm wondering if it's about the attention or despite what
he said, the financial independence that gives gifts her.
Speaker 1 (01:18):
Ah, I didn't think about that. Yeah. So sometimes if
a partner in a relationship gets that independent financial status,
then they may feel like I can do whatever I want.
Speaker 2 (01:34):
Yeah, it's a It can be relative to the feeling
of power in a relationship. I'm not saying money is
always power, but it can be, and it frequently is.
Speaker 1 (01:46):
I feel like in this case it is because she
did this in a very short amount of time, so
imagine the possibilities, and he pushed her to do it. Yeah,
so gone are the complaints and hello money. But did
he ruin a one's innocent relationship? This could lead? I mean,
is this a gateway for other photos?
Speaker 2 (02:07):
It's a good question, and he would only he knows that,
and only he knows what his boundaries are. I mean this,
Now you're moving into a conversation about boundaries. Okay, what
he's comfortable with, what she's comfortable with, Where they you know,
where they can meet. My senses, though, his initial discomfort
(02:30):
is about a possible shifting of the power dynamic in
the relationship.
Speaker 1 (02:34):
Yeah, he's definitely thinking about it, because he wrote you
a letter.
Speaker 3 (02:36):
Yeah, But can we also go back to one other
thing that I do think men don't discuss enough is
your confidence level. If you are a confident person, confident
in the strength of your relationship, confident in your partner.
I don't know, it wouldn't bother me because I know
what I'm bringing to the table. If she wants to
show her legs other guys and make some money for it,
that's not rattling my cage.
Speaker 1 (02:56):
Okay, okay, But what if she wants to go further
to bring her.
Speaker 3 (03:00):
She hasn't and isn't, and you have to trust you
have That's my point. You have to trust yourself and
her and the relationship.
Speaker 2 (03:05):
And this is where discussion comes in. Open communication.
Speaker 1 (03:09):
Yes, open communication. Okay. So then to kind of keep
it in its boundary like you were saying, Sarah, all right,
therapy Thursday. Is it a gateway? Bryan says no. I
say yes, Darlene, I do not like it. Two against one. Okay, again,
it's eight hundred ninety two nine kosg. Maybe you're in
(03:31):
this position. You know he's getting substantial money. He told
us five figures from her legs. Her legs. We played
UK Bingo when we went on our Qunard voyage. What's
the diff there, Well, they do, there are different goals,
I should say, okay, and so you sometimes get to
fill the whole card and whatever. But every time they
would call eleven, she would say legs eleven, legs, legs eleven,
(03:58):
Dancing Queens seventeen. No, so yeah, so legsy lovin. I mean,
I look, she's not showing her face. That's what I
like about it. So could be, you know, anonymous.
Speaker 3 (04:10):
Here's my problem.
Speaker 1 (04:11):
I don't want other people giving my husband attention. That's
my job. So you're for the you're for you don't
want the attention. So that's what Sarah said. Is it
about the attention or is it about the financial.
Speaker 3 (04:22):
Why don't you want your husband having attention? If it's
millions of dollars, okay, I'll make an exception.
Speaker 1 (04:26):
Okay, that's where it leads once he starts really getting
into it. Wow, Denise Richards, I mean she said something
four million in a year. Yeah, yanikes, I mean yeah,
or to my dog. The feel good continues next on
The L and K Morning Show, Coast one oh three
point five
Therapy Thursday, where we tackle all your troubles, as we
like to say, and we're so lucky we have our
licensed therapist friend Sarah Dash with us. Sarah, hi Ellen,
you know everything about everything. I don't know about that.
Speaker 2 (00:14):
But I'm very happy to be here and hopefully in
part something that will be useful.
Speaker 1 (00:19):
All right, Well, we got this letter to you, actually, Sarah.
My name is Matt. I'm forty years old. My wife
and i've been married for two years. Since we started dating,
I've always pushed her to pursue a career where she
could be really happy and make more money. She's always
worked retail, She's always complained. We laughed about her selling
pictures online on one of those websites as a way
(00:41):
for us to make money. Well, it turns out she
started doing that, okay, posting photos of her legs. It
all seems innocent, and she just presented me with a
substantial amount of money. I like the extra income, but
I'm also afraid and can't stand the amount of tension
that she's receiving. Well, I regret this. Should we stop?
Speaker 2 (01:04):
My question would be what exactly is bothering him? And
I'm wondering if it's about the attention or despite what
he said, the financial independence that gives gifts her.
Speaker 1 (01:18):
Ah, I didn't think about that. Yeah. So sometimes if
a partner in a relationship gets that independent financial status,
then they may feel like I can do whatever I want.
Speaker 2 (01:34):
Yeah, it's a It can be relative to the feeling
of power in a relationship. I'm not saying money is
always power, but it can be, and it frequently is.
Speaker 1 (01:46):
I feel like in this case it is because she
did this in a very short amount of time, so
imagine the possibilities, and he pushed her to do it. Yeah,
so gone are the complaints and hello money. But did
he ruin a one's innocent relationship? This could lead? I mean,
is this a gateway for other photos?
Speaker 2 (02:07):
It's a good question, and he would only he knows that,
and only he knows what his boundaries are. I mean this,
Now you're moving into a conversation about boundaries. Okay, what
he's comfortable with, what she's comfortable with, Where they you know,
where they can meet. My senses, though, his initial discomfort
(02:30):
is about a possible shifting of the power dynamic in
the relationship.
Speaker 1 (02:34):
Yeah, he's definitely thinking about it, because he wrote you
a letter.
Speaker 3 (02:36):
Yeah, But can we also go back to one other
thing that I do think men don't discuss enough is
your confidence level. If you are a confident person, confident
in the strength of your relationship, confident in your partner.
I don't know, it wouldn't bother me because I know
what I'm bringing to the table. If she wants to
show her legs other guys and make some money for it,
that's not rattling my cage.
Speaker 1 (02:56):
Okay, okay, But what if she wants to go further
to bring her.
Speaker 3 (03:00):
She hasn't and isn't, and you have to trust you
have That's my point. You have to trust yourself and
her and the relationship.
Speaker 2 (03:05):
And this is where discussion comes in. Open communication.
Speaker 1 (03:09):
Yes, open communication. Okay. So then to kind of keep
it in its boundary like you were saying, Sarah, all right,
therapy Thursday. Is it a gateway? Bryan says no. I
say yes, Darlene, I do not like it. Two against one. Okay, again,
it's eight hundred ninety two nine kosg. Maybe you're in
(03:31):
this position. You know he's getting substantial money. He told
us five figures from her legs. Her legs. We played
UK Bingo when we went on our Qunard voyage. What's
the diff there, Well, they do, there are different goals,
I should say, okay, and so you sometimes get to
fill the whole card and whatever. But every time they
would call eleven, she would say legs eleven, legs, legs eleven,
(03:58):
Dancing Queens seventeen. No, so yeah, so legsy lovin. I mean,
I look, she's not showing her face. That's what I
like about it. So could be, you know, anonymous.
Speaker 3 (04:10):
Here's my problem.
Speaker 1 (04:11):
I don't want other people giving my husband attention. That's
my job. So you're for the you're for you don't
want the attention. So that's what Sarah said. Is it
about the attention or is it about the financial.
Speaker 3 (04:22):
Why don't you want your husband having attention? If it's
millions of dollars, okay, I'll make an exception.
Speaker 1 (04:26):
Okay, that's where it leads once he starts really getting
into it. Wow, Denise Richards, I mean she said something
four million in a year. Yeah, yanikes, I mean yeah,
or to my dog. The feel good continues next on
The L and K Morning Show, Coast one oh three
point five
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