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July 6, 2025 15 mins
Original Air Date: July 6, 2025

Krista Collopy says the Comfort Zone Camp totally changed her life. Years after she lost her dad to cancer,  Krista went for a free weekend at Comfort Zone Camp, which brings together children who have lost parents. Krista is now the Senior Regional Director of Comfort Zone Camp, which helps people up to the age of 26.
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Speaker 1 (00:00):
Welcome to Sunstein Sessions on iHeartRadio, conversations about issues that matter.
Here's your host, three time Grasie Award winner, Shelley Sunstein.

Speaker 2 (00:10):
I want to introduce you to Kristin Kalipi. She is
a senior regional director for comfort Zone Camp, which I
only recently heard of. And it's a camp that's like
no other. It's a camp that nobody really wants to
go to, but it's a community that nobody wants to

(00:34):
be a part of because it's a community of grieving children.
So they have one thing in common, and they have
something in common that their camp mates can all understand. So,
first of all, thank you for your good work. I mean,
I didn't even know that this existed. Krista, How did

(00:56):
you get involved with this? Where is the camp? Fellas? In?

Speaker 3 (01:00):
Yeah, I went to the camp.

Speaker 4 (01:01):
So my dad died when I was nine years old,
and I became part of the club that no one
wants to be part of, the dead parent club, right.
And I found out about camp and it was a
fun and safe place for greeting kids and I was like, oh, okay,
that's actually where I belong. As the camp got closer,
I was like, wait a second, I'm going to spend
a whole weekend away from all of my friends for

(01:22):
three days and cry about my dad.

Speaker 3 (01:24):
Dad.

Speaker 4 (01:25):
This seems like a terrible idea, and so I did
not want to go to camp.

Speaker 3 (01:29):
I was very resistant, as many of our families are.

Speaker 4 (01:32):
And then when I got into the camp bubble, I
met someone who shared their story and they shared that
their dad died when they were nine from a brain tumor,
which was my same story, And at that moment, I felt, Wow,
I am no longer alone in my loss, and I
have a community of support, and it just became this
welcoming place where I was able to grieve, heal, and

(01:54):
grow and it has made me the person I am today.

Speaker 2 (01:58):
Where is the camp?

Speaker 3 (02:00):
So we are all over the country.

Speaker 4 (02:02):
You were founded in Richmond, Virginia twenty six years ago
and we have camps in thirteen different states. And then
we're also I managed our Northeastern program where we have
camps in New Jersey and New York.

Speaker 3 (02:16):
But we run about thirty camps all over the country.

Speaker 2 (02:19):
Wow, So how did you decide that this is what
she wanted to do for a living. There's a big gap.
How old were you when you went to the camp?
Were you nine?

Speaker 3 (02:29):
So I was. Actually my dad died when I was nine.

Speaker 4 (02:32):
I found about camp when I was sixteen, so there's
seven years in between my dad dying and going to camp.

Speaker 3 (02:37):
So I was like, I'm sixteen, what's grief? I don't
have that.

Speaker 4 (02:40):
And then I went to the camp program and was realized,
oh my gosh, like I've been burying all of my.

Speaker 3 (02:45):
Feelings for so long.

Speaker 4 (02:47):
And when I realized that this was the place that was,
I could really truly feel myself that I was like,
I want to be that person.

Speaker 3 (02:54):
I want to work here.

Speaker 4 (02:56):
And then I just made it my mission and now
every day I get to go to work knowing I'm
helping a little Krista out there that can be able to,
you know, not have to feel like they're the most
awful thing in their life, has to define who they are,
and they can be more resilient and live a beautiful
life just because they've learned that. They can grow a

(03:16):
comfort Zone Camp.

Speaker 2 (03:18):
How do people know how to apply to be a camper?
If parents are listening, Yeah, if.

Speaker 4 (03:28):
You are looking to apply to comfort Zone Camp, you
go to comfort Zone camp dot org and the best
part is it's free.

Speaker 3 (03:34):
There is no cost to go to this camp program.

Speaker 4 (03:37):
It's a free weekend camp, no charge, and you get
to come and you can also be a part of
it as well. Also offer parent and guardian programs and
it's an opportunity for you to get the support that
you need and your child to get the support that
you need, and together as a family, you can become
stronger and learn how to you know, in a healthy way.

Speaker 2 (04:03):
Do you know who started the camp circumstances.

Speaker 4 (04:06):
My amazing boss, Lynn Hughes. She experienced the death of
both of her parents by the time she was thirteen.
Her mother died suddenly when she was nine from a
brick from a blood clot and then her father died
right before she turned thirteen from a heart attack. And
so she just felt like her life's mission was to
do something from that, and so she went to summer

(04:27):
camp and had this amazing experience and she met her
husband there moved on to his life in Richmond, Virginia,
and they just kept saying, how can we get back
to camp?

Speaker 3 (04:35):
How can we get back to camp?

Speaker 4 (04:36):
And then they were like, let's put those two loves
together of camp and helping grieving kids, and that's how
they founded Comfort Zone Camp and so we actually got
brought up to the Northeast the day once a nine
to eleven happened. We decided to run many nine to
eleven programs to help support families in that way. And
then since we've expanded out to many different.

Speaker 2 (04:59):
States, how do families learn about this camp? How do
they know that it even exists? What's out there to
publicize this, to promote Comfort Zone Camp?

Speaker 3 (05:14):
Well, I always say, we don't have Geico's marketing budget.

Speaker 4 (05:17):
So this is why this is so important, and we
need folks to go out and spread the word and
share our mission, talk about it on social media, share
with their friends and their colleagues. We go to schools,
and school counselors often know about us, but we've been
around for twenty six years, Shelley, and we still need
help getting the word out. If you didn't know, maybe
your neighbor didn't know. And the hardest part is is

(05:38):
that grief is universal. No matter what your income is,
no matter what your background is, everyone is going to
experience grief at some point, and so that's why this
resource is so critically important.

Speaker 2 (05:51):
You were mentioned of nine to eleven means a lot
to me. I don't know if our mutual friend Megan
told you, but I am have been an advocate for
the nine to eleven community really since nine to eleven.
And there was a time that I had two families
come in who both lost a father to a nine

(06:14):
to eleven illness. We've actually lost more people to nine
to eleven illnesses than we lost on nine to eleven.
And there were these two teenagers who never before met
and Krista, they immediately bonded because they immediately knew that
this person sitting across from me knows what I went through.

(06:38):
This is one of the few people who can understand
what it was like to lose someone to a nine
to eleven illness because a lot of times with the
first responders, you were just the families were just so
incredibly grateful and appreciative that they survived nine to eleven,

(06:58):
and at that time, no one will few had the
wherewithal to be to realize that all those toxins are
going to make you sick in the future. So what
I'm saying is there's still a need, even in the
nine to eleven community, for your camp.

Speaker 4 (07:22):
That's exactly what our program is like, Shelly, is that
these kids feel so isolated and alone outside in the
real world, and then they get to come to comfort
Zone Camp and they get to realize, wow, wait, I
feel the same way as you.

Speaker 3 (07:35):
I'm not isolating these feelings. So we're just so.

Speaker 4 (07:39):
Happy to be able to offer this resource to kids
from seven years old all the way up to twenty
five years old and parents and guardians.

Speaker 2 (07:47):
And that was my next question with the age, and
again I want to give out that website. It's comfort
zonecamp dot org. If you need this camp. It's a weekend,
it's free, it's all over the country. Spread the word.
It's comfort Zone camp dot org. Tell us a little

(08:10):
bit more about your own experience. There were seven years
that lapsed from the time you lost your father till
you went to this weekend camp. What happened during that
weekend because it changed your life.

Speaker 3 (08:27):
It did Jelly and Well, each child gets to go.

Speaker 4 (08:30):
When they come to comfort Zone Camp, they get matched
one to one with a volunteer based on personality interests.
We're very volunteer driven, and so my volunteer was this
girl and she just loved basketball, which is which is
what I was into, and we were able to bond
on that.

Speaker 3 (08:48):
However, I was.

Speaker 4 (08:49):
An only child, jelly, so I was also the caregiver
of my mom because my mom had multiple sclerosis.

Speaker 3 (08:55):
And if I thought.

Speaker 4 (08:56):
Anyone in my family was going to die, I've always
thought my mom so because she was always sick growing up.
So having my dad die was very world shattering to me.
And so I get to camp and I find out
I have this big buddy, and I was like, Oh,
this person's going to like wash me all weekend. Also,
I'm sixteen, I'm too cool for school. There's all these
seven year olds running around playing all these silly icebreaker games,

(09:18):
acting like a chicken and a goose, and I was like,
I don't know if I don't know if.

Speaker 3 (09:22):
I'm into this.

Speaker 4 (09:23):
And then we sit down and this girl who's nineteen,
she stands up and she says, when she was nine
years old, her dad died from a brain tumor. And
in that moment, my world just shook and I said, Okay,
a bigger power has put me here on purpose. And
I went back into my circle where we have each

(09:45):
group is we break down the age groups of the
seven to seventeen into small age based support groups.

Speaker 3 (09:50):
So I was with a bunch of sixteen and seventeen.

Speaker 4 (09:52):
Year olds who I got to connect with, and I
got to go in and then share my own story.
So we're all about empowering kids to talk about their story,
because the more that you're able to talk about it,
the better you're able to manage it. So I can
talk about my dad Tom and what an amazing person
he was, and I can do that because of what

(10:13):
I learned at comfort Zone Camp, and then throughout the weekend,
we were able to connect and share and learn healthy
coping skills. And so when it came to be high
school graduation and I was really nervous about graduating without
my dad, I learned that I could put his picture
underneath my cap that when the tenth the anniversary came
around and I started forgetting what my dad looked like

(10:35):
or what his voice sounded like, I was able to
be able to make a memory box of him and
actually ask my friends to get letters and send me
their memory so I didn't have to lose those memories
and I can actually tangibly have them for a really
long time. And all of these things are things that
I learned at comfort Zone Camp, and the camber connections

(10:55):
that I was able to make have lasted just lifetimes
for me of of being able to have a community
of support, because Shelley, wish I could tell you that
grief as an expiration date and that you know, you
go home to comfort Zone Camp and you're fixed, But
unfortunately it's a lifelong journey, and we're here to help
kids be able to learn the ways to manage in

(11:17):
a healthy way. Because I'm not sure if you know
the stats, Shelley, but if kids don't receive any type
of grief support, they're five times more likely to die
by suicide, They're ten times more likely to develop a
substency puse problem, and they're twenty times more likely to
develop behavioral disorders.

Speaker 3 (11:34):
And so we are.

Speaker 4 (11:35):
Really doing important work to help kids realize that this
loss does not have to define them.

Speaker 2 (11:42):
After the camp, Christa, did you go for counseling?

Speaker 4 (11:47):
So, actually, Shelley, before once my dad died, my mom
put me write in counseling and it was a group
that was very small, and it was they had people
that had a death.

Speaker 3 (11:59):
But all so that we're divorced, and so all.

Speaker 4 (12:01):
I remember is that there was this little boy that
was next to me, and when he would talk, he
would said, I'm so sad I don't get to see
my dad on the weekends anymore. And it was just
and so I became, as a little kid, just a
caregiver for that little kid, you know, putting my grief aside.
And so what was so helpful to me is being
able to come here. And it's not a therapeutic program.

(12:24):
It's more of a support group model. So we're really
here and it's helpful because it's different than therapy, and
it's almost what folks have said is that it's almost
like three six months of therapy all happening in one weekend.
Is just that's the impact of the program. It truly
does just make a difference in such a short amount of.

Speaker 5 (12:46):
Time after that, because I mean, that's a weird therapy
group to put together, because those are two entirely different losses.

Speaker 2 (12:57):
Yeah, did you change your course with therapy or was
there enough that happened that weekend where you just said
I'm good?

Speaker 4 (13:07):
Yeah, I think you know, I think I've ebbed and
flowed with therapy throughout my life and I've had, you know,
to need different therapists, but I think it's just this
different place of comfort Zone and most what we find
is most families that they say my children are so
resistant to therapy, they actually find comfort Zone Camp is

(13:29):
such a helpful place because it's so different than therapy.

Speaker 3 (13:33):
We're not forcing anyone to talk.

Speaker 4 (13:35):
We have a phrase called challenge by Choice where kids
can share whatever aspect they want to or we've had
kids not even talk the entire weekend and we just
trust that they are listening and they will get what
they need out of the camp weekend. And we've seen
some truly amazing things from just people being able to
sit and be present in the moment and they it's

(13:58):
their choice on how much they want to participate.

Speaker 2 (14:02):
We only have a bat a minute left. What if
we not talked about Krista that you want our audience
to know.

Speaker 4 (14:07):
I just want them to know that they can get
involved with us, and they want to become a volunteer.
We have volunteer opportunities from those that are fifteen and up.
We also have fundraising events Shelley. Again, these camps are free,
but it does cost Comfort Zone Camp eight hundred dollars
to send one child to camp, so we have various
fundraising events. We're doing a grief relief virtual five k

(14:29):
right now. You can run walk wherever you are, and
we have galas. It's an amazing mission and it's a
community where you can truly feel connected and supported. Also, Shelley,
check out our social media. Our Instagram and TikTok reels
are on fire, so that's a great time as well.

Speaker 2 (14:48):
And again for more information or if you know someone
who could benefit, comfort zonecamp dot org.

Speaker 1 (14:57):
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