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Speaker 1 (00:02):
You tend to try to do nice things. Is there
finger quotes that I'm using here? Yeah, that always seem
to backfire against you. Why is that?
Speaker 2 (00:12):
I don't know. I don't know if it's because I.
Speaker 3 (00:15):
Don't think them through that's true, or if because I
think they're helpful but they're not. Like I remember, I
remember at Emily's fortieth birthday party, I was wandering around
clearing plates because like it's something inside of me when
I go to people's houses for a party and if
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you know, people are leaving dirty like plates around and
say they're paper plates, and there's trash cans like right there,
I can't help myself, but you pick them up and
throw them away.
Speaker 1 (00:48):
This is a perfect example of something that you think
you're being helpful, right, that is actually rude because if
you if I saw somebody doing that at my party,
you're gonna make me feel bad.
Speaker 3 (00:59):
Well, and so Emily's sister Anne said something to me
of like, you don't have to do that, like you, Joe,
You're here to enjoy, like enjoy yourself. And and then
I of course had to over explain Walt's weird OCD thing.
Speaker 2 (01:13):
Blah blah blah, blah blah. But still she was like adamant.
Speaker 1 (01:15):
Of like they're never gonna have us back, of like
you're a.
Speaker 3 (01:19):
Guest here, enjoy yourself, don't worry about trying to clean.
Speaker 1 (01:23):
Imagine this Thanksgiving. Yeah, you have people over at your house.
Next thing you know, you turn around and your aunt,
your mom, somebody is just doing the dishes at the sink.
Don't you go. I get that's so nice, and I'm
glad that I don't have to do it, but like,
what are you doing? Oh I that's so uncool because
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if you if you say to me, oh can I help?
Can I do the dishes? Okay, we can talk about
that if you just go do it? Oh you do.
First of all, you don't know where anything goes.
Speaker 4 (01:57):
There was a dish drying rack.
Speaker 5 (01:58):
I did this at Thorn and Haley's house when we
all want to there for dinner because I was trying
to no way, yeah, like I didn't even know it
doing dishes because I wanted to help them because Haley
seems super stressed with the dinner and all this stuff,
and so I just started like because they had a
dish rack.
Speaker 1 (02:11):
And why don't you act there? You're not going to say, I.
Speaker 5 (02:14):
Think it's a super nice gesture to like just start
doing it. Like when people do that at my house
and they do do it, they have done it.
Speaker 4 (02:19):
I love it. I think it's like, oh my god,
it's so thoughtful.
Speaker 1 (02:22):
You're just trying to you're super weird. Though, Again, these
are things that we think are polite but are actually rude.
Speaker 3 (02:30):
Yeah, my mom's a dishwasher loader and they know she's
wild might well, but the thing is is my mom.
You know how there's like organized dishwasher loaders and then
there's wild cycle path.
Speaker 1 (02:45):
Oh oh yeah, your mom's a wild cycle. Oh.
Speaker 3 (02:47):
Me and my husband are so like everything has a
place in the dishwasher. My mom's throwing rant like you
could get a pops on the bottom, a cup's on
the bottom, a bowl on the top rack like it's wild,
like a.
Speaker 4 (02:58):
Bowl on top of the cup.
Speaker 1 (03:00):
She's just like.
Speaker 2 (03:02):
Just throw them in there.
Speaker 1 (03:03):
I'd rather you not touch anything if you're doing that.
Speaker 3 (03:06):
And it's very thoughtful, just like Emily said, like they're
trying to be nice. It's like me cleaning up the
plate trying to be nice. Honestly, after she leaves, we
have to reload.
Speaker 1 (03:16):
You're making more work for us. Yeah, well there there's
more stuff like that again, and this all surrounds Thanksgiving.
Speaker 4 (03:25):
I wonder if I do any of these things.
Speaker 1 (03:26):
I guarantee you there there are things. Again. You think
you're being cool and polite and like, oh I can't,
I'm gonna help out and blah blah blah, but you're not.
It's actually considered rude. I'll give you another example. I
have the menu planned out and you bring a dish
that's off menu, rogue dish. That's wildly rude.
Speaker 3 (03:49):
That like another man or something like that that got
Emily do stand up out of her chair and clap
for percent.
Speaker 4 (03:56):
That's so like, it's so rude.
Speaker 5 (03:59):
We actually had my sisters, when you're a different family
member like on the other side, brought like their own
version of like a mini turkey at Thanksgiving.
Speaker 2 (04:09):
Like their own turkey.
Speaker 5 (04:10):
My mom spent all this money on a giant, really
nice turkey. My dad cooked it all day, and they
brought their own like with rogue. Didn't tell anybody.
Speaker 1 (04:17):
Yeah, this happened before, where somebody showed up at our
family Thanksgiving one time with sausages. It's hot. Now, where
does that fit? On the Thanksgiving table. Yeah, but they
wanted to bring some sausages. Okay, that's great. Didn't didn't
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think you know that was that was that great? But okay,
I guess we're having sausages now, are you guys?
Speaker 2 (04:43):
Okay with it?
Speaker 3 (04:43):
If like say, they're like a vegan or something and
they bring a dish for themselves.
Speaker 1 (04:48):
Usually in that case, you let the host know. They'll
say something, or you'll say something, or I know you're
vegan and you know it's fine, that's totally fine. But
if you go rogue and you don't let anybody know
you're going rogue, and you're just like, I'm bringing this
wild dish, okay what or you you decide I'm going
to bring an appetizer. Well, we're not having appetizers, so
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what now? What?
Speaker 4 (05:09):
Now?
Speaker 1 (05:10):
What do I do? I would let you know again,
that's fine, fine, that's fine.
Speaker 5 (05:14):
If you give a head I was thinking about bringing
this appetizers out, Sure, that's.
Speaker 1 (05:17):
Great, sounds great. Or I can let you know, oh
you know what, actually this year, I'm not going to
do any appetizers. We're just gonna go straight to the
main dinner. Then let you know, I.
Speaker 4 (05:26):
Find I find that weird.
Speaker 2 (05:28):
Oh no, Appy, this is weird.
Speaker 4 (05:30):
Appy.
Speaker 5 (05:30):
We're not gonna like warm up, have a glass of
wine and a little chet chat.
Speaker 4 (05:34):
And warm up to the meal.
Speaker 1 (05:35):
Get the hell out of my house. Fun good. Don't
you don't want that. I don't want you there nor. Well,
they put out a whole list of polite Thanksgiving things
that you may be thinking like, oh, this is great,
I'm gonna really do. This is going to help out,
Like helping yourself to the kitchen sink. That may actually
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be considered rude.
Speaker 3 (05:57):
Yeah, showing up early or staying late, even if you're
to help, exactly, it's always under the eyes of like,
oh I showed up early to help, or everybody's already
gone and you're like, okay, I'm here to help.
Speaker 1 (06:09):
No, you nobody wants that. Yes, you are told we
to shop up early to Thanksgiving, and I'm still trying
to get everything together and I got stuff going on,
and now I got to like feel like I have
to entertain you. You've just ruined my.
Speaker 5 (06:22):
Life and I panicked because I wanted everything to be
a certain way before you got there.
Speaker 4 (06:25):
That drives me nuts.
Speaker 1 (06:27):
Yeah, that's bad. The late thing. Come on, you've worn out,
You're welcome, get the hell out.
Speaker 2 (06:32):
I guess time.
Speaker 5 (06:33):
I stay later sometimes, but that's only because there's a
vibe going like, hey, you don't need to say like
we're having fun and you you could tell.
Speaker 1 (06:39):
This somebody's having a little too much fun.
Speaker 4 (06:41):
Excuse you.
Speaker 5 (06:41):
I'm just saying, hey, we're having a good time.
Speaker 3 (06:45):
Another thing that's polite, well you think is polite, but
other people actually consider rude is trying to suggest changing
the place settings.
Speaker 2 (06:54):
You know, lots of people will put out where people sit.
Speaker 1 (06:57):
My mom took this very seriously.
Speaker 3 (06:59):
And if you come in last minute and it's like,
did you know this person's arguing with this person?
Speaker 2 (07:03):
You should probably move them.
Speaker 1 (07:05):
And let you know what. My mom took this very seriously.
She would put out the little lame tags and I
would go, what and I'd switch things around. Well, first
of all, I don't want to sit there. I don't
want to sit next to that person is no fun.
I want to be on that side of and then
I and then I'd see a situation like that where
I'd be like, oh, where are you seeing those two
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next to each other? They're always going to bicker. Switch
that up and so I'd go and I switching around,
and then my mom would be so confused.
Speaker 4 (07:33):
Down she didn't know.
Speaker 1 (07:35):
I had no clue into it.
Speaker 5 (07:39):
To buddy, I love doing I do that too, but
my sister sort of sees me do it.
Speaker 4 (07:44):
I go, why the hell did you put me here?
Speaker 1 (07:45):
Yeah?
Speaker 4 (07:45):
I would be over here. I'm going over here. Oh
my gosh, Oh my god.
Speaker 2 (07:49):
I think she puts some thought into that.
Speaker 4 (07:50):
I don't know.
Speaker 3 (07:53):
Another quote polite thing that people consider rude is going
into the kitchen and providing your expert teas on how.
Speaker 1 (08:01):
Something, holy crap, could you imagine?
Speaker 4 (08:05):
I would lose it.
Speaker 5 (08:07):
I'll never forget this is this this is an episode
of The Golden Bachelor what or was it the Golden Bachelorette.
Remember there was one of the one of the older
gentlemen was outside on the court. It was cooking all
the stuff he's cooking for all the all the older dudes,
right on the grilled burgers. And one of the other
guys who's like a caterer, comes over and tells me, hey,
you're doing this wrong, do this, do that?
Speaker 4 (08:27):
And that hit me wrong? When yeah, that's rude. Much business.
Speaker 3 (08:32):
Another thing that is rude is when you say you're
bringing a dish, but then you basically show up with
the ingredients for that dish and you need to put
it together and assemble it in the host's kitchen.
Speaker 1 (08:44):
Guy, you had the green bean castle rolled this morning
for the first time in Sky's Wheel of Food. That's
something that you tend to make at the house, which
isn't cool because my oven space is limited. Like I
got the turkey going, I got the stuff going, I
got rolls in there, I got stuff, So you come
with it. I expected the green bee castle to be
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made and then and you're going to take up my
kitchen space too by mixing it all together. And I'm
running around, hair's on fire. It's a lot.
Speaker 5 (09:13):
Yeah, my mom like instilled this in me, like from
a young age, how rude it is to stumble something
at somebody's house and the other things she said that's rude.
Speaker 4 (09:20):
Is not rude, but it's not. It's frowned upon.
Speaker 5 (09:22):
Is to bring flowers to somebody that have to be
put in a vase and stuff, that's rude. The right
thing to do is to bring them already in a
vase with water or in.
Speaker 1 (09:31):
A vase so that fancy.
Speaker 5 (09:32):
Then the hostess, the person cooking and doing everything has
to shuffle around and find a vase in the garage.
Speaker 1 (09:37):
You know, you know what you just do? Don't bring flowers.
Speaker 4 (09:41):
Actually you can do that, stupid.
Speaker 2 (09:42):
Hey, Okay.
Speaker 3 (09:44):
Another thing you think is polite but it's actually rude
at Thanksgiving is showing up and then you have a
great suggestion for what the music should be or what
should be on the television, like, I mean, the host
or hostess has already well.
Speaker 1 (09:59):
You want to watch the Macy Sky Dapay, get out
of here. You're in the wrong house.
Speaker 2 (10:04):
Okay.
Speaker 3 (10:05):
And finally they say, unless you are specifically instructed to
do this, it is rude to show up to Thanksgiving
with large leftover containers, assuming.
Speaker 2 (10:20):
That you're going to get to take some stuff to go.
Speaker 1 (10:23):
That is tough.
Speaker 4 (10:24):
Now, my mom will.
Speaker 3 (10:25):
Tell us, She'll be like, bring containers, blah blah blah
blah blah. But if she didn't say that, there's no
way I would show up with yours.
Speaker 4 (10:33):
Yeah, I really, yeah, I'm.
Speaker 2 (10:35):
Not going to assume that. I guess you're taking your parents.
Speaker 5 (10:38):
I'm not going to somebody else's house but family like that.
You know, Yeah, that's rudships rude.
Speaker 2 (10:45):
Yeah, I'm not going to do it.
Speaker 5 (10:48):
Shoddy's house for dinner, my god.
Speaker 1 (10:51):
I actually I don't know if I have any leftovers.
I was going to eat them now okay,