March 25, 2025 • 9 mins
We got an email from a P1 who is expecting a baby soon, asking for advice about how to deal with their mother-in-law requesting a specific name be used when the baby comes
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Speaker 1 (00:00):
So when you have a baby, obviously that's very exciting
and there was all kinds of fun stuff that comes
with that. But there are some things that pop up
from time to time that you don't see coming, that
you don't expect that happened, and you're like, oh, I
didn't know that I'd be dealing with that. It's kind
of weird, Like, Okay, that's what happened. I guess with
one p one who wrote us an email here and
(00:22):
had a question about the situation that has popped up
with their baby. It says, hey, their show. First off,
thank you for all the laughs and giving me that
you give me daily. Also, thank you for the p
one podcast. It's wild and I love it. You're what
I'm writing because I feel like you guys may be
able to give me some insight on this. We have
(00:42):
no clue how to handle it. I'm six months pregnant
and it's our first child, and it's also my mother
in law's first grandchild. She's obviously ecstatic to become a grandparent,
but she is sort of on the younger side in
her eyes to be a grandma. Well, we were chatting
the other day and she let my husband and I
know that she would like to be called instead of
(01:04):
the usual grandma or grammy or nana or something like that.
She told us she wanted to be called lovey. She
then explained that that's what Chris Jenner is called on
The Kardashians. We think it's awful. It sounds so stupid,
(01:25):
and we don't want to live with that forever. We
want to know if and how we can tell her
no she should we risks straight at starting a fight,
or just let her be called what she wants. Please
help thanks again, show I hope you can help us.
That's from p one Jess. What do you think about
how lovey love.
Speaker 2 (01:46):
Unfortunately, I've watched the Kardashians. I've heard you've heard this
her absolutely so.
Speaker 3 (01:50):
Chris Kardashian is called love.
Speaker 2 (01:52):
Yeah, and like she signs off all that like so
she'll like write tributes to like if it's one of
her grandchildren child's birthday on Instagram, show write this long
like loving post and then write signed lovey.
Speaker 4 (02:04):
Lovey sounds bordline sexual, like where did he come from?
Speaker 1 (02:10):
Like?
Speaker 5 (02:10):
Did she demand? Do you remember was it an episode?
Like did she demanded? Or did one of the kids
just call her that and then other kids.
Speaker 2 (02:18):
I have no clue who that cow that came about. Yeah,
I missed that episode, but I just know that's the
way that she's referred to herself as in the kid herself.
Speaker 1 (02:25):
It's just pretty wild to make it about you, but
you should be excited that you're having a grand Kyeah,
Like you're making it about you, like what you're going.
Speaker 3 (02:34):
To be called.
Speaker 5 (02:35):
But I've heard this from grandparents both like people before, Like,
this is definitely which I I never get, just like
you're saying, but it's definitely accepted, Scout.
Speaker 4 (02:44):
Did your new dad want to be called a certain
type of name?
Speaker 3 (02:48):
First? Grand Cake?
Speaker 5 (02:49):
He's not my new dad?
Speaker 3 (02:50):
Did you did you want papa? That's what you.
Speaker 5 (02:54):
What?
Speaker 3 (02:55):
On his lap?
Speaker 5 (02:56):
Papa use his first name?
Speaker 4 (02:58):
No one called your daughter was a calm grandpa?
Speaker 1 (03:00):
No?
Speaker 4 (03:01):
Why would whoa?
Speaker 3 (03:03):
Whoa? Why would she? Yeah? Because she calls him, she
calls him Rick.
Speaker 4 (03:08):
She's him like four times, he's Steve coming to my
play tonight.
Speaker 3 (03:18):
Basically, what if he wants to be called love that again?
Speaker 5 (03:23):
That this isn't a new born we're talking about.
Speaker 3 (03:27):
That's kind of weird, So Lovey, how do we handle this?
Speaker 2 (03:32):
Emily We had a little bit of a situation like
this when we were pregnant with our son.
Speaker 6 (03:36):
Reed with who with my mom?
Speaker 3 (03:38):
No, I know, I am stunned.
Speaker 6 (03:41):
My sister and I were pregnant for a few months
at the same time, actually wildly enough.
Speaker 4 (03:46):
But first I was I was, yeahs stole your thunder.
Speaker 3 (03:50):
Huh.
Speaker 2 (03:51):
Well, she was actually trying to get pregnant for a
long time, and then as soon as I got pregnant,
she stopped trying, and then.
Speaker 6 (03:55):
She got pregnant.
Speaker 3 (03:56):
Oh, I did it on purpose, She probably did.
Speaker 6 (03:59):
It's my mom was trying to come up with what
she was going to be called for the grandkids.
Speaker 3 (04:03):
Is that that's so? Like, isn't shouldn't that be?
Speaker 4 (04:08):
I'm with you, Eddie if I we're not having kids,
But if I had kids, then I would say we were.
We decide what everyone's going to be called, like me
and my wife, like I want to be called you
know what I mean? Like my dad's not gonna tell
you what he wants to be called. Too bad, this
is what he's calling you. Like, that's crazy.
Speaker 3 (04:26):
You can't self moniker yourself.
Speaker 5 (04:31):
That to really, Yeah, she wants to.
Speaker 6 (04:35):
But she was a Mexican grandmother. That's what they're called.
Speaker 3 (04:38):
That's what I say.
Speaker 5 (04:39):
But then but then my daughter couldn't say, well, she
wants to be called And then my daughter, just like
her mom, wouldn't say it appropriately because she was a
baby and started saying and then her name became a
like and that literally is still what we you know,
we would call her when we talk about would be like,
oh remember boo blah blah blah bla.
Speaker 4 (05:00):
Well that's kind of the way, yeah, because you came
mom wanted to be called she didn't want to be.
Speaker 6 (05:05):
Called barbaric, that she wanted to be called grahams.
Speaker 5 (05:16):
With z with.
Speaker 6 (05:19):
She was dead serious.
Speaker 2 (05:21):
That's insane, but not like I don't know if she
doesn't say stuff like that, that's insane.
Speaker 4 (05:25):
My sister and I go huh, and I go no,
that's because Emily never says no to her mother. I'm
stunned by a risk to We always called my mom
my mom's mom. I called her grammy, and so we go, no,
you're gonna called grammy, So that's what my mom.
Speaker 5 (05:41):
Wow.
Speaker 3 (05:42):
But but why did she want that? Why did she
want to be grand she wanted was she not not
ready to be a grandma? So she was want to
be cool.
Speaker 2 (05:48):
I think that like she was ready to be a grandma,
but she wanted to sound like a cool grandma. Yeah
like so so yes, there's a little bit of this
hanging on to you.
Speaker 3 (05:57):
But grahams with this, see like she's selling I want Yeah.
Speaker 6 (06:10):
Yeah, so we put we put an end to that.
Speaker 3 (06:12):
Oh wow, I think so you told her no yeah wow. Yeah.
We didn't say it.
Speaker 6 (06:18):
Is the way obviously that I said it. We said
it in a nice way, like.
Speaker 3 (06:21):
I do You're gonna be Grammy?
Speaker 6 (06:23):
Really like I think it was. I think this is
what it was.
Speaker 2 (06:25):
It was like, oh, we have such fun memories calling
you know your mom, like, so we want to carry
the tradition. And I think she went with it and
probably to realize how stupid Grams is you was just
hearing it now.
Speaker 4 (06:40):
I definitely think though this is something that the other
like if it's your mother in law, then your husband
needs to say it. Yes, I can't know my wife's mom.
I can't say And I was like, hey, you need
to handle this.
Speaker 5 (06:52):
Yes this is on you, Yes, totally totally, but I disagree.
I think let her have it. Like you guys are
like put your foot down, I.
Speaker 3 (07:00):
Let her have it. You're literally going to be saying lovey.
Speaker 5 (07:04):
Yeah you don't think, Well, that's actually what my mom
called my daughter when she was a little lovey, And yeah,
it kind of.
Speaker 1 (07:14):
Her name is part of her name. But I mean,
so you're going to be like, oh, your love's coming today,
that's absolutely I.
Speaker 5 (07:24):
Would just say love he's coming, love, he's on her way.
Speaker 3 (07:27):
Right, that's weird, I think, so. I mean, if that's
I don't think so.
Speaker 5 (07:30):
I mean, but again, I came from a family who
said abbas on her way.
Speaker 3 (07:34):
So, but but we understand that that's a form of.
Speaker 5 (07:40):
So.
Speaker 3 (07:41):
I mean, it's not that odd.
Speaker 5 (07:42):
Yeah, I just think, okay, like, this isn't my hill
to die on. And honestly, at least in my experience,
the kid morphs the name anyway into whatever it becomes.
So whatever ends up happening ends up happening.
Speaker 3 (07:56):
What would you want to be called?
Speaker 5 (07:57):
Sky Graham's No, I don't know, honestly, I have I
haven't thought about it. I think I'm I'm personally okay
with Grandma. I don't got well, you're.
Speaker 1 (08:07):
Basically I don't know, man, Like if it was something
not as weird, it wouldn't bother me as much like
a form of grandma or something like that. Okay, like
(08:27):
love love. He has nothing to do with being a grandma.
Speaker 5 (08:30):
Yeah, how's mema because I've heard mema.
Speaker 3 (08:32):
I have heard that too, but I don't get it.
What does mema means?
Speaker 6 (08:35):
I don't know. But that's what my cousins call their grandmama.
Speaker 5 (08:39):
I've heard before. Yes, So are we okay with Gigi
or is that too far with.
Speaker 4 (08:44):
Just grandma and grandpa?
Speaker 3 (08:45):
I don't know. I don't understand that.
Speaker 4 (08:47):
Grandma, Judy like it.
Speaker 3 (08:49):
It's what you are. It was fine. I understand.
Speaker 1 (08:53):
Like you're the one that had a kid early, okay,
so you had to expect that this was going to
happen at some point. Your kids are gonna have kids,
so I know you're not ready, I know, but guess what,
you gotta accept it at some point, and so it
is what it is. Do what's best for the kid.
You're gonna confuse this kid like he's going to be
(09:15):
around other kids and go, oh, yeah, my love you.
Speaker 3 (09:18):
I'm going.
Speaker 5 (09:20):
Huh, I think kids, guy, Well, it depends what age
you're talking about, but I think once you're like six,
you would say, oh, my grandma, knowing not everybody calls
their grandma lovey, that's what you call your grandma.
Speaker 4 (09:32):
I don't know, because at six you you probably assume
everyone calls you great.
Speaker 5 (09:36):
You're not going to change until the first time.
Speaker 3 (09:39):
But the first time you get brutally made fun of.
Speaker 5 (09:42):
You, I don't think it's that big a deal.
Speaker 4 (09:46):
Oh it's awful, which is worse than love your Grahams,
rather love you.
Speaker 3 (09:54):
That's the weird
So when you have a baby, obviously that's very exciting
and there was all kinds of fun stuff that comes
with that. But there are some things that pop up
from time to time that you don't see coming, that
you don't expect that happened, and you're like, oh, I
didn't know that I'd be dealing with that. It's kind
of weird, Like, Okay, that's what happened. I guess with
one p one who wrote us an email here and
(00:22):
had a question about the situation that has popped up
with their baby. It says, hey, their show. First off,
thank you for all the laughs and giving me that
you give me daily. Also, thank you for the p
one podcast. It's wild and I love it. You're what
I'm writing because I feel like you guys may be
able to give me some insight on this. We have
(00:42):
no clue how to handle it. I'm six months pregnant
and it's our first child, and it's also my mother
in law's first grandchild. She's obviously ecstatic to become a grandparent,
but she is sort of on the younger side in
her eyes to be a grandma. Well, we were chatting
the other day and she let my husband and I
know that she would like to be called instead of
(01:04):
the usual grandma or grammy or nana or something like that.
She told us she wanted to be called lovey. She
then explained that that's what Chris Jenner is called on
The Kardashians. We think it's awful. It sounds so stupid,
(01:25):
and we don't want to live with that forever. We
want to know if and how we can tell her
no she should we risks straight at starting a fight,
or just let her be called what she wants. Please
help thanks again, show I hope you can help us.
That's from p one Jess. What do you think about
how lovey love.
Speaker 2 (01:46):
Unfortunately, I've watched the Kardashians. I've heard you've heard this
her absolutely so.
Speaker 3 (01:50):
Chris Kardashian is called love.
Speaker 2 (01:52):
Yeah, and like she signs off all that like so
she'll like write tributes to like if it's one of
her grandchildren child's birthday on Instagram, show write this long
like loving post and then write signed lovey.
Speaker 4 (02:04):
Lovey sounds bordline sexual, like where did he come from?
Speaker 1 (02:10):
Like?
Speaker 5 (02:10):
Did she demand? Do you remember was it an episode?
Like did she demanded? Or did one of the kids
just call her that and then other kids.
Speaker 2 (02:18):
I have no clue who that cow that came about. Yeah,
I missed that episode, but I just know that's the
way that she's referred to herself as in the kid herself.
Speaker 1 (02:25):
It's just pretty wild to make it about you, but
you should be excited that you're having a grand Kyeah,
Like you're making it about you, like what you're going.
Speaker 3 (02:34):
To be called.
Speaker 5 (02:35):
But I've heard this from grandparents both like people before, Like,
this is definitely which I I never get, just like
you're saying, but it's definitely accepted, Scout.
Speaker 4 (02:44):
Did your new dad want to be called a certain
type of name?
Speaker 3 (02:48):
First? Grand Cake?
Speaker 5 (02:49):
He's not my new dad?
Speaker 3 (02:50):
Did you did you want papa? That's what you.
Speaker 5 (02:54):
What?
Speaker 3 (02:55):
On his lap?
Speaker 5 (02:56):
Papa use his first name?
Speaker 4 (02:58):
No one called your daughter was a calm grandpa?
Speaker 1 (03:00):
No?
Speaker 4 (03:01):
Why would whoa?
Speaker 3 (03:03):
Whoa? Why would she? Yeah? Because she calls him, she
calls him Rick.
Speaker 4 (03:08):
She's him like four times, he's Steve coming to my
play tonight.
Speaker 3 (03:18):
Basically, what if he wants to be called love that again?
Speaker 5 (03:23):
That this isn't a new born we're talking about.
Speaker 3 (03:27):
That's kind of weird, So Lovey, how do we handle this?
Speaker 2 (03:32):
Emily We had a little bit of a situation like
this when we were pregnant with our son.
Speaker 6 (03:36):
Reed with who with my mom?
Speaker 3 (03:38):
No, I know, I am stunned.
Speaker 6 (03:41):
My sister and I were pregnant for a few months
at the same time, actually wildly enough.
Speaker 4 (03:46):
But first I was I was, yeahs stole your thunder.
Speaker 3 (03:50):
Huh.
Speaker 2 (03:51):
Well, she was actually trying to get pregnant for a
long time, and then as soon as I got pregnant,
she stopped trying, and then.
Speaker 6 (03:55):
She got pregnant.
Speaker 3 (03:56):
Oh, I did it on purpose, She probably did.
Speaker 6 (03:59):
It's my mom was trying to come up with what
she was going to be called for the grandkids.
Speaker 3 (04:03):
Is that that's so? Like, isn't shouldn't that be?
Speaker 4 (04:08):
I'm with you, Eddie if I we're not having kids,
But if I had kids, then I would say we were.
We decide what everyone's going to be called, like me
and my wife, like I want to be called you
know what I mean? Like my dad's not gonna tell
you what he wants to be called. Too bad, this
is what he's calling you. Like, that's crazy.
Speaker 3 (04:26):
You can't self moniker yourself.
Speaker 5 (04:31):
That to really, Yeah, she wants to.
Speaker 6 (04:35):
But she was a Mexican grandmother. That's what they're called.
Speaker 3 (04:38):
That's what I say.
Speaker 5 (04:39):
But then but then my daughter couldn't say, well, she
wants to be called And then my daughter, just like
her mom, wouldn't say it appropriately because she was a
baby and started saying and then her name became a
like and that literally is still what we you know,
we would call her when we talk about would be like,
oh remember boo blah blah blah bla.
Speaker 4 (05:00):
Well that's kind of the way, yeah, because you came
mom wanted to be called she didn't want to be.
Speaker 6 (05:05):
Called barbaric, that she wanted to be called grahams.
Speaker 5 (05:16):
With z with.
Speaker 6 (05:19):
She was dead serious.
Speaker 2 (05:21):
That's insane, but not like I don't know if she
doesn't say stuff like that, that's insane.
Speaker 4 (05:25):
My sister and I go huh, and I go no,
that's because Emily never says no to her mother. I'm
stunned by a risk to We always called my mom
my mom's mom. I called her grammy, and so we go, no,
you're gonna called grammy, So that's what my mom.
Speaker 5 (05:41):
Wow.
Speaker 3 (05:42):
But but why did she want that? Why did she
want to be grand she wanted was she not not
ready to be a grandma? So she was want to
be cool.
Speaker 2 (05:48):
I think that like she was ready to be a grandma,
but she wanted to sound like a cool grandma. Yeah
like so so yes, there's a little bit of this
hanging on to you.
Speaker 3 (05:57):
But grahams with this, see like she's selling I want Yeah.
Speaker 6 (06:10):
Yeah, so we put we put an end to that.
Speaker 3 (06:12):
Oh wow, I think so you told her no yeah wow. Yeah.
We didn't say it.
Speaker 6 (06:18):
Is the way obviously that I said it. We said
it in a nice way, like.
Speaker 3 (06:21):
I do You're gonna be Grammy?
Speaker 6 (06:23):
Really like I think it was. I think this is
what it was.
Speaker 2 (06:25):
It was like, oh, we have such fun memories calling
you know your mom, like, so we want to carry
the tradition. And I think she went with it and
probably to realize how stupid Grams is you was just
hearing it now.
Speaker 4 (06:40):
I definitely think though this is something that the other
like if it's your mother in law, then your husband
needs to say it. Yes, I can't know my wife's mom.
I can't say And I was like, hey, you need
to handle this.
Speaker 5 (06:52):
Yes this is on you, Yes, totally totally, but I disagree.
I think let her have it. Like you guys are
like put your foot down, I.
Speaker 3 (07:00):
Let her have it. You're literally going to be saying lovey.
Speaker 5 (07:04):
Yeah you don't think, Well, that's actually what my mom
called my daughter when she was a little lovey, And yeah,
it kind of.
Speaker 1 (07:14):
Her name is part of her name. But I mean,
so you're going to be like, oh, your love's coming today,
that's absolutely I.
Speaker 5 (07:24):
Would just say love he's coming, love, he's on her way.
Speaker 3 (07:27):
Right, that's weird, I think, so. I mean, if that's
I don't think so.
Speaker 5 (07:30):
I mean, but again, I came from a family who
said abbas on her way.
Speaker 3 (07:34):
So, but but we understand that that's a form of.
Speaker 5 (07:40):
So.
Speaker 3 (07:41):
I mean, it's not that odd.
Speaker 5 (07:42):
Yeah, I just think, okay, like, this isn't my hill
to die on. And honestly, at least in my experience,
the kid morphs the name anyway into whatever it becomes.
So whatever ends up happening ends up happening.
Speaker 3 (07:56):
What would you want to be called?
Speaker 5 (07:57):
Sky Graham's No, I don't know, honestly, I have I
haven't thought about it. I think I'm I'm personally okay
with Grandma. I don't got well, you're.
Speaker 1 (08:07):
Basically I don't know, man, Like if it was something
not as weird, it wouldn't bother me as much like
a form of grandma or something like that. Okay, like
(08:27):
love love. He has nothing to do with being a grandma.
Speaker 5 (08:30):
Yeah, how's mema because I've heard mema.
Speaker 3 (08:32):
I have heard that too, but I don't get it.
What does mema means?
Speaker 6 (08:35):
I don't know. But that's what my cousins call their grandmama.
Speaker 5 (08:39):
I've heard before. Yes, So are we okay with Gigi
or is that too far with.
Speaker 4 (08:44):
Just grandma and grandpa?
Speaker 3 (08:45):
I don't know. I don't understand that.
Speaker 4 (08:47):
Grandma, Judy like it.
Speaker 3 (08:49):
It's what you are. It was fine. I understand.
Speaker 1 (08:53):
Like you're the one that had a kid early, okay,
so you had to expect that this was going to
happen at some point. Your kids are gonna have kids,
so I know you're not ready, I know, but guess what,
you gotta accept it at some point, and so it
is what it is. Do what's best for the kid.
You're gonna confuse this kid like he's going to be
(09:15):
around other kids and go, oh, yeah, my love you.
Speaker 3 (09:18):
I'm going.
Speaker 5 (09:20):
Huh, I think kids, guy, Well, it depends what age
you're talking about, but I think once you're like six,
you would say, oh, my grandma, knowing not everybody calls
their grandma lovey, that's what you call your grandma.
Speaker 4 (09:32):
I don't know, because at six you you probably assume
everyone calls you great.
Speaker 5 (09:36):
You're not going to change until the first time.
Speaker 3 (09:39):
But the first time you get brutally made fun of.
Speaker 5 (09:42):
You, I don't think it's that big a deal.
Speaker 4 (09:46):
Oh it's awful, which is worse than love your Grahams,
rather love you.
Speaker 3 (09:54):
That's the weird
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