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Speaker 1 (00:00):
We know that Sky has a new dad, which is
pretty exciting.
Speaker 2 (00:04):
I don't actually have a new dad.
Speaker 1 (00:05):
She very proudy about it, but I mean and eventually,
you know she's going to accept it.
Speaker 3 (00:09):
Take some time.
Speaker 1 (00:10):
My mom got married.
Speaker 2 (00:11):
I'm a forty seven year old woman.
Speaker 1 (00:12):
Oh you do admit it as a marriage now at least?
Speaker 4 (00:14):
Well, so we hung out? When was that last weekend?
I don't know, we hung out recently?
Speaker 1 (00:21):
Even No, I don't care, don't care, they.
Speaker 4 (00:24):
Hung out recently and just never sounds happy about it.
And the amount of time happy, the amount of times
they refer to each other as husband wife, Well they
all is now like, okay, all right, I guess that's
what we're calling it.
Speaker 2 (00:40):
So that's that's right.
Speaker 1 (00:41):
Would you say that, well it.
Speaker 2 (00:42):
Was a commitment ceremony there?
Speaker 1 (00:44):
What is that? What are they committed to each other? Okay,
so what does that mean?
Speaker 4 (00:49):
Well, but that's not actually like legally a wedding. But okay,
I get it in the exchange rings.
Speaker 2 (00:55):
Exchangering what the hell you think it is? I get
in spirit.
Speaker 3 (00:59):
Young lady married.
Speaker 1 (01:00):
So so.
Speaker 4 (01:03):
So now, yes, I will refer to him as my
mom's husband, but I will not refer to him as
my new dad or popular or dad.
Speaker 3 (01:13):
He's the head of the estate now right, Nope, I
thought he was.
Speaker 4 (01:17):
Nose are separate again, not a legal marriage.
Speaker 1 (01:21):
So Sky has this new dad in her life. So
you know that your mom then basically has a whole
new family.
Speaker 2 (01:30):
That is true.
Speaker 1 (01:31):
You know, all of his kids and all that stuff.
They are now part of the family.
Speaker 5 (01:35):
And she loved them so much that she moved up
to be closer to that ditched, she ditched, She ditched
these two down here in San Diego, your brother, that
is true.
Speaker 2 (01:45):
We all lived here in San Diego County.
Speaker 4 (01:47):
And then after they got together, they decided to settle
in Laguna, which is closer to his children for them.
Speaker 2 (01:55):
Okay, yeah, so.
Speaker 4 (01:56):
For the momy, that would be weird to call her mom.
Speaker 1 (02:02):
Well, that's probably what I want.
Speaker 2 (02:03):
I mean, that's weird.
Speaker 6 (02:04):
That's weird.
Speaker 2 (02:05):
Okay, nobody at this age does that.
Speaker 1 (02:07):
Well, now, I don't know if she's gonna be called
mom as Sky's mom got in there with some family
situation that's not hers. Yes, this is crazy.
Speaker 4 (02:18):
So I think a lot of time has been focused
on me adjusting to this situation, and I never really
considered that my.
Speaker 1 (02:26):
Mom, Well, you haven't considered anybody.
Speaker 4 (02:28):
Okay, I don't know that. I mean, okay, I'm not
being bratty. I'm just you know, who saw this coming.
So I guess my mom is adjusting too. And when
we were talking the other weekend, she told me about
something where at first I'm.
Speaker 2 (02:44):
Like, oh, oh no, what what are you doing?
Speaker 6 (02:47):
Mom?
Speaker 2 (02:48):
But I don't know.
Speaker 4 (02:49):
I don't know how I feel with it now after
sitting with it for a little bit.
Speaker 2 (02:53):
So, yes, my mom and.
Speaker 4 (02:55):
Her husband very involved, very social people, all kinds of
social activities all over the place. And so since his
kids are closer, they do see them quite often, like
multiple times a week.
Speaker 6 (03:10):
Wow.
Speaker 4 (03:10):
There are like hangout and they go to the grand
kids soccer games and baseball games.
Speaker 3 (03:17):
They definitely call.
Speaker 4 (03:19):
That would be weird. She's okay, she has a daughter,
I'm her daughter daughter. She has a son and a daughter.
She just left us here in San Diego. So so
they're spending a lot of time together, a lot more
time than you know they're spending down here. Which I get,
they're they're closer, that's just what they do. But what
(03:43):
I didn't realize is my mom is now part of
a whole new family dynamic. I think most people kind
of when you grow up, you just think, oh, all
families are the same, until you start to venture out
in the world and you go, oh, other families are
really different and they do things different than we do.
(04:03):
So my mom is experiencing some of that, and I
guess there was something that she couldn't bite her tongue
about anymore, because my mom like me, so I thought.
But as we know, sometimes as we age, we change
a little bit a lot more passive, a people pleaser,
(04:25):
likes to make sure everybody's happy, all of those things.
But there was something that was a little much for her.
So it turns out that the dynamic with her new
husband and his adult children, because of course they're like.
Speaker 2 (04:41):
My age, right, they have a I guess a.
Speaker 4 (04:46):
Teasing type of relationship is a good way to put
it where And I think we all have seen families
like this or where oh totally, where they will pulpe
fun at things where other people on the outside go, oh,
my god, that's messed up, like why would you why
would you say that?
Speaker 1 (05:04):
Why? But if that's how they are with each other, yeah,
and it clearly doesn't bother them.
Speaker 4 (05:08):
That much and have always been that way for you know,
for decades and decades, like yeah, where you'll point out
somebody's gut or that somebody you know has a big
old ZiT on their face, or things that a normal
person in society would just kind of pretend like they don't.
Speaker 3 (05:25):
I FaceTime my dad.
Speaker 5 (05:26):
The first thing I talked about is how giant's foreheaded,
and then my mom my dad will go tell about
a big forehead cat, and my mom does he doesn't
have a big forehead.
Speaker 4 (05:37):
So it seems like they have one of those type
of relationships. And my family couldn't be more the opposite,
where we're very passive, we don't say things. You know,
if you're gonna say anything, it's gonna be something kind
and positive to pump somebody up and make them feel
good about themselves. And this is more of a teasing environment. Well,
(05:59):
I guess my mom decided she didn't care for that,
and and all is fine with the siblings saying whatever
they want to each other. But what is not fine
is insulting the man she loves right in front of her.
Speaker 1 (06:19):
You cannot be serious.
Speaker 4 (06:21):
So I guess one of the sons took a shot at.
Speaker 1 (06:26):
His dad, his dad.
Speaker 2 (06:29):
Way, way, way, his entire life.
Speaker 3 (06:33):
How long has your mom being the picture?
Speaker 4 (06:35):
I want to say, we're on three years now that
they've been together, you know, Mary married since December. So
I guess one of them takes a shot at dad
and his weight or his stomach or something like that,
and my mom says, excuse me, that's my husband you're
(06:59):
talking about right in front of me.
Speaker 1 (07:02):
Oh boy, that's one of the more insane things I've
ever Oh my god, that's a good way of getting
yourself right out of the family. That changes everything it does.
That's not smart, it's crazy. No joking tone, Oh god,
no joking tone. Don't talk about my husband that way. Yeah,
I mean.
Speaker 2 (07:21):
It may have been a bit friendly.
Speaker 3 (07:23):
Shouldn't do that?
Speaker 4 (07:24):
Yeah, yeah, like it may have been a bit friendlier
than I did it, But in no way was it
like the joking vibut did you know what I mean?
Speaker 1 (07:34):
So thor imagine if way back in the day, when
you first start seeing your wife, she heard the dynamic
between your and your dad and he gave a shot
at you, and she said, don't talk about my man
that way or whatever, how would that go over?
Speaker 3 (07:49):
It would be ugly.
Speaker 1 (07:50):
It would be horrific.
Speaker 5 (07:51):
I would be like, it would be really awkward for
both of both of us, for everybody. And then I'd
pull her aside and go, hey, what are you doing? Eh,
like that's don't talk to my dad like that.
Speaker 1 (07:59):
Well, yeah, and this is our relationship. We're telling you
not to have a relationship with my dad.
Speaker 5 (08:03):
Now, if it was my son, yeah, and this is
a new woman, I would be even I'd be even
more like, whoa, whoa, whoa, what are you thinking? If
you have a problem with the way my kids talk
to me, talk to me, yeah, behind closed doors. First,
let me explain our dynamic, and then I'll say something.
Speaker 3 (08:21):
But think about that.
Speaker 5 (08:22):
Imagine if sky you said something to your mom and
new dad said that said like a thing back to you, like, hey,
you don't talk to her like that? About how crazy
that would be you'd be You'd be like, what the hell? Yeah,
that's one of the craziest things.
Speaker 4 (08:37):
I agree for her, Well, I guess that did happen
where my mom went to him behind closed doors and
it was like it but it hurts my feelings, like
it makes me feel like I need to protect you
or say something like I don't live in a family
where we insult each other.
Speaker 2 (08:54):
And I guess he.
Speaker 1 (08:55):
Chosen to be in this family, and I guess they do.
Speaker 4 (08:58):
He did talk to his kids and but they're but
they're so like this is just normal for them, Like
they don't look at it as I'm insulting them. It's
just like, oh, we're just silking arrest, Okay.
Speaker 5 (09:13):
And even if he did tell them, it's still like,
your mom's a very sweet person, she's still not her place.
Speaker 1 (09:19):
It's insane, it's not her pa.
Speaker 4 (09:21):
Well, so as soon as she told me that was
my I'm like, oh my god, mom, like you can't
do that, Like you're new to this family, Like you can't.
Speaker 5 (09:29):
And they're not they're not your kids, even if it's
twenty years from now, they're not your kids.
Speaker 1 (09:34):
But do that.
Speaker 4 (09:35):
I honestly have taken the turn on it. Oh no,
she's seventy five years old. She loves this man. She
wants to feel comfortable around his family. The clock is
a ticket sold.
Speaker 3 (09:49):
Clock is ticket for what they're gonna have.
Speaker 2 (09:50):
Kids, life, life.
Speaker 4 (09:53):
That's why they moved in together and moved to Laguna
because they know, like if they're lucky, they got what
like ten fifteen years acts together, and so she wants
to be happy and she wants to enjoy the family,
and that's how she feels. And so honestly, I think
it was good.
Speaker 2 (10:10):
Good for her. She took the right step bringing it
to him first.
Speaker 1 (10:14):
And if you've just created now a whole world of product, appy,
this is the worst thing.
Speaker 4 (10:22):
Or maybe they'll respect it and be like this woman
loves my dad so much.
Speaker 1 (10:27):
I love.
Speaker 4 (10:31):
I know he tried to go to them and tell
them like, this isn't how it works.
Speaker 6 (10:36):
It's tricky with with with a new a new person,
like a new dad or new mom. Like if when
my mom married my stepdad, Ken, if he would have
said something to me and my sister like yeah, And
why I think my family works so well with with
Ken and my stepdad is because he is so respectful
of like my dynamic.
Speaker 1 (10:57):
There's an.
Speaker 6 (11:00):
It all the time.
Speaker 1 (11:01):
So it wasn't like he was with you when you
were a baby.
Speaker 3 (11:04):
No, I was fifteen.
Speaker 1 (11:05):
Yeah, I mean you came later in the picture. You
were even way further in life. Yeah, Like I can't
even imagine your mom loves him so much.
Speaker 5 (11:14):
I get all that, but she's not the matriarch of
the family, like she's not.
Speaker 3 (11:19):
Doing something like that.
Speaker 5 (11:20):
She's trying to in their eyes, she could be trying
to be It's way worse now. In my eyes, I
can't imagine someone doing like my wife has a divorced parents,
and I can't imagine that happening.
Speaker 1 (11:34):
Yeah, I was.
Speaker 2 (11:34):
Shocked when she told.
Speaker 3 (11:35):
Me, you guys don't speak up.
Speaker 2 (11:37):
No, we don't. We just sit in the corner and go, oh,
that's not very nice.
Speaker 1 (11:41):
I want to.
Speaker 4 (11:43):
So, yeah, I don't know how their dynamic is moving forward.
But like I said, I had your guys thoughts at first,
but I've taken the turn and I'm kind of like, no,
good for
Speaker 1 (11:53):
You, No no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no no,
it's not good