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Speaker 1 (00:00):
It's crazy to think about. But Mother's Day is going
to be here before you know it. It's like two
weeks away something like that. It's on the eleventh, I believe,
and so yeah, it's going to be here pretty quick.
And so heads up, heads up. And apparently there is
some a durama brewing in the sky's world with these
(00:20):
Mother's Day plans. I like the fact I'm shocked that
there's even plans being made well on my husband's on
it this year.
Speaker 2 (00:30):
You're a sweet little cutie over there, Eddie. No, no,
of course that didn't happen. My husband has no.
Speaker 1 (00:38):
Clues, doesn't even know that that's the thing. Another's Day?
Speaker 3 (00:40):
Wait, when is it? Where is it?
Speaker 4 (00:43):
So?
Speaker 2 (00:44):
But what happened this year is I got a text
from my brother.
Speaker 3 (00:48):
Now my brother is on it.
Speaker 2 (00:50):
He is aware of when Mother's Day is, and you know,
he always likes to do something really nice for his wife,
his mother in law, of course, and he reached out
to me and said, hey, do you have any plans
you know, were you planning on getting together with the
family for Mother's Day? And I said, yeah, you know,
(01:10):
I'm I'm down for whatever, you know, And normally when
it comes to Mother's Day, my brother leaves the charge
because you know, as they say, you marry your father,
and my dad was very much like my husband is now,
of like oh great, yeah, go buy yourself something nice,
or oh, we're not just gonna have leftovers at home,
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you know, like like no real thought into holidays or
anything like that. That's just not really their thing or
on their radar. So that's always how my dad was.
So when my dad passed, my brother kind of like, Okay,
I'm I've taken this moment. I've taken I'll take charge
of Mother's Day because clearly all the moms shouldn't be
(01:53):
planning Mother's Day. And so he's been the guy, which
I super appreciate and I think is great. But and
he reached out this year. I'm conflicted. I don't know
what's going on. I don't know if I should bring
it up. And I don't know at the age of
forty seven, like do my.
Speaker 3 (02:12):
Feelings matter on Mother's Day.
Speaker 2 (02:14):
Because I'm a mother or is it still about my mom?
Because if you're not right, But I don't know where
the priority lies. So here's the problem. So fun fact
not so fun if you ask me. But whatever. My
mom moved away from me and my brother she my
(02:37):
dad passed.
Speaker 1 (02:38):
Some would say abandoned, thank.
Speaker 3 (02:39):
You for saying that.
Speaker 2 (02:40):
Someone would say that, of course, I don't say that,
but other but other others.
Speaker 1 (02:47):
Could Some say she took a chance and got the
hell out of here.
Speaker 2 (02:49):
Yeah, okay, I don't know. I don't know anyone who
would put it that way, but that seems mean. So yes,
my mom, you know, lived in San Diego County, me
and my brother here only kids. But then my dad
when he passed away, my mom mourned for a little while,
and then she met her new love pretty quickly. Well
your new dad, okay, Well, and they decided they decided
(03:12):
it would be best for them to settle together up
in Laguna because that's where all his kids and grandkids are.
Speaker 1 (03:19):
And your mom she owns the house, right, but it's
going to him.
Speaker 2 (03:23):
We're not going to say that she owns the house,
and it's owned in the name of the family trust.
Speaker 1 (03:28):
And by the way, it's not like they moved to Florida, Like,
can we calm down, Like you're acting like it's so
far away. I wish my parents lived in Laguna.
Speaker 3 (03:39):
Ever, Yeah, yeah, you know, I don't. I don't.
Speaker 1 (03:42):
She's throwing temper because and screaming.
Speaker 3 (03:45):
Well, I he didn't concern my room. Okay, I'm not
in my room.
Speaker 5 (03:50):
I could broke it home to.
Speaker 2 (03:52):
My mom.
Speaker 4 (03:53):
To when my mom got remarried, I was bratty because
she moved in with my stepdad Ken in Tira Santa, Like,
oh my god, they're in LA.
Speaker 1 (04:02):
I'm never gonna see you again.
Speaker 2 (04:07):
I don't feel like I don't feel like i'm being pretty.
I'm just stating facts. Then they decided, Okay, they decided
that that's where they wanted to live.
Speaker 3 (04:17):
Okay, totally great.
Speaker 2 (04:19):
So I was very shocked when my brother reached out and,
you know, asked, any playans want to get together with
the family.
Speaker 3 (04:26):
Yes, that sounds great, love it.
Speaker 1 (04:28):
Uh.
Speaker 2 (04:28):
And then he asked, you have any specifications? And I
had two specifications for my mother's stay, because clearly we're
going to go somewhere right, like to a restaurant or something.
So my specifications were a nice view and a nice.
Speaker 1 (04:43):
Cocktail bottomless yeah bottles, mimosa is.
Speaker 2 (04:47):
A nice cocktail. A menu either way, that's all I require.
Just tell me time and place, I'll show up.
Speaker 3 (04:54):
I'll be there.
Speaker 2 (04:56):
So I was a bit surprised when my brother sent
me a location in San Diego. I had assumed that
our new neutral meeting zone was going to be North County,
like Ocean Side or something, because they're in Laguna.
Speaker 3 (05:14):
We're here, that's kind of middle.
Speaker 2 (05:16):
That's where we did Thanksgiving this year, and at a
restaurant in Ocean Side.
Speaker 1 (05:23):
They had to get back to that real family.
Speaker 3 (05:25):
My mom double booked with her new family.
Speaker 1 (05:28):
I don't know if you double book Thanksgiving.
Speaker 3 (05:30):
Blatantly books yeah, and brother Christmas. Yeah, I don't know.
I don't know. My mom's trying to navigate this new world.
Speaker 1 (05:44):
There based on you know, you think you think you'd
make it easier. Poor mother.
Speaker 2 (05:51):
So okay, so when my brother sends me this location
here in San Diego, I'm thrilled, and in my mind,
for some reason, I assume that my brother, because he's
the favorite.
Speaker 3 (06:05):
Had talked to my mom like she was fully in.
Speaker 2 (06:08):
She was going to make a weekend of it and
come here and stay for Mother's Day weekend.
Speaker 1 (06:14):
I don't know.
Speaker 2 (06:15):
She doesn't like driving very much, so you know, she
tested taking the coaster down.
Speaker 3 (06:21):
Yeah, yeah, it's kind of fun, kind of on and
uh so.
Speaker 2 (06:26):
But then so I say to my brother, like, oh,
you know, Mom's down with this, and he goes, oh, no,
I just I'm assuming she's gonna come, And I was like, oh,
and I basically got the vibe without specifically asking that
his wife, who it's Mother's Day in her dream world,
(06:47):
she'd be close to home at this restaurant they booked. Honestly,
in my dream Mother's Day, I as well am staying
close to home at this restaurant we booked. But my
mom counts too, right, because she's a mom and it's
Mother's Day. But who gets the priority? Who gets the
say like, my brother has now booked this restaurant and
(07:07):
we're just that running it by your mom? I guess
not because when he booked it, I even said to
because shocker, my mom and her new husband are on
another trip together right now.
Speaker 1 (07:19):
So sure, but how many?
Speaker 3 (07:22):
I mean, haven't you seen everything?
Speaker 1 (07:25):
Will they're spending all your inheritances while they're on the trip.
Speaker 6 (07:29):
He's convincing here how he should really get the money. Okay, executive,
yeah he should be. Okay, he's going to share, Yeah,
he'll share, take care of the kids.
Speaker 2 (07:40):
I don't like any of what you're saying right now.
But at forty seven years old a mom myself, what
do I do? I feel like I'm in this weird
place of like, well, yeah, I want to do what
I want to do, but I do also want to
see my mom.
Speaker 3 (07:57):
But I kind of get the vibe for my brother.
Speaker 2 (08:00):
Well, she's the one who chose to move away from us,
so if she wants to spend holidays with us.
Speaker 3 (08:06):
I don't know what the right thing to do here is.
Speaker 5 (08:08):
I got a.
Speaker 4 (08:09):
Wild suggestion, what about they just have a conversation about it,
that it's not a.
Speaker 1 (08:14):
Group tex you can't do that.
Speaker 4 (08:15):
We go, hey, what's the deal with mother, Let's see
what we want to do.
Speaker 3 (08:19):
Well, I think it's it's already set. It's like you.
Speaker 1 (08:22):
Could, you could, but you cancel a reservation.
Speaker 3 (08:25):
Well, no, we can.
Speaker 2 (08:26):
But I am under the impression that my sister in law,
who it's her mother's day too, she wants to be
here in San Diego.
Speaker 1 (08:34):
Yeah, I get it. Somebody's gonna not be happy. And
this is the arrangement you have to deal with now.
And so if your mom wants to come down, great,
Yeah that's awesome. If she doesn't that's okay too. She
can spend Mother's Day with her new fan. Guys, well,
you know, spend Mother's the way you want to spend.
Speaker 4 (08:54):
That's okay.
Speaker 3 (08:54):
So I'm not required to drive up.
Speaker 5 (08:57):
I personally don't think so.
Speaker 4 (08:59):
I think to one kind of like like two of
you were down here, she chose to move away, like
I think she.
Speaker 5 (09:05):
Should come with. You were okay with compromising even though
ocean side.
Speaker 3 (09:08):
Oh yeah, but I get that. I guess didn't end up.
Speaker 1 (09:11):
I don't care why you have to go away. That's
good though.
Speaker 6 (09:13):
It's like I if I lived in the same area
as my sister, I wouldn't celebrate with my sister like Mother's.
Speaker 1 (09:20):
Day like your brother, like you do you go with
your brother.
Speaker 6 (09:23):
I'd be like if I didn't want to go to
where my it's like forty minutes where my sister lives,
I'd be like, I call my sister and go, hey,
we're just doing with my wife.
Speaker 1 (09:31):
If I had a kid, I don't know.
Speaker 6 (09:33):
I never understood that aspect of it, Like don't you
want to be with your just your immediate family and celebrate.
Speaker 1 (09:40):
Mother's Day is a little bit different. Mother's Day can
spend with you know, family and whatever. I guess we
never did that. We go about just about. My mom never.
Speaker 2 (09:50):
Celebrated anyhow, We never did we never, we never did that.
Speaker 1 (09:54):
I don't know. My families would get together and every
we would celebrate all the moms ants and yeah, so
you know, if she wants to do that, fine, but
it's again, these are decisions that you're gonna have to
make now.
Speaker 3 (10:10):
And it's okay, I know, but it's just weird, like
a being. I guess this. There's no time.
Speaker 2 (10:17):
I don't think that I've been in southern California that
I haven't celebrated a Mother's Day with my mom because
I'm in the same area as my bride.
Speaker 1 (10:25):
You're not anymore, are you going to be? Okay?
Speaker 5 (10:28):
Well, you haven't even had a conversation with her yet.
Speaker 1 (10:30):
Yeah, how do you know what if she does want
to come down here, she's fine with it.
Speaker 5 (10:34):
We'll ask her.
Speaker 1 (10:35):
Okay, I have no idea. You have to have a conversation.
Speaker 3 (10:39):
That's that's a risky.
Speaker 1 (10:41):
I'm not spending Mother's Day with my mom this year. No,
she's decided she's gonna do like a random trip up
north to go to my uncle's barbecue. That he's throwing.
You know, that's Mother's Day, right, And she goes, oh
it is and go yeah, I go, hey, go ahead.
If you want to go do that, that's that's your decision.
(11:03):
I don't vote for it. Have a great time, but
I'm going to stay down here and celebrate my wife,
who's a mother as well. So I don't know what
to tell you. I don't care. I mean, people are
going to do as you get older, it's really more
difficult to kind of keep everybody you know connected and
do whatever. If you're going to do whatever you're gonna do,
that's your decision, and you have your own family now.
(11:25):
So that's the way it works out.
Speaker 5 (11:27):
Its guy wants to celebrate with her mom.
Speaker 2 (11:29):
I do, and I but I also don't want to
feel like a jerk for doing what I want to do.
Speaker 5 (11:35):
She moved away, You're not a jerk. You should call it.
Do you want to come stay with us at the
standing eighty?
Speaker 1 (11:39):
You for the guy has rippling guilt over everything, and
so you say that, but that doesn't register for Skuy.
You know, she feels like she's doing something wrong.
Speaker 2 (11:49):
Like even if my mom is super sweet, and it's
like no, no, we actually have other plants. Still all
like all harbor guilt on the day of like I
really should be with my mom and such a joke.
Speaker 1 (11:58):
I mean, she doesn't want to, I know I So
what are you gonna do?
Speaker 3 (12:01):
Okay, Okay, well you make me feel a little bit better.
I'll broach the topic. We'll see.
Speaker 2 (12:06):
But it sounds like I'm gonna stay in San Diego.
Speaker 1 (12:09):
I can't believe that.
Speaker 2 (12:10):
Okay, shut up, stupid